RE : swimming. You should wet your hair before you go swimming so your hair soaks up clean water before exposing it to chlorine water. Same goes for your skin
@@emily3820 it's your imagination then if you think your hair feels better because that makes no sense. Wetting hair with "better" water and then submerging in pool water? It's not going to make a difference because it makes no sense. All you're doing, is wasting time
@@0h0h0h0 Lol same. That's what I did. Yea you have to give yourself time to adjust to having no hair. It can definitely dry your scalp out like crazy at first but that's cause not only are we not used to having no hair there and use the same amount of products we would normally use, but we also need time for our scalp to adjust to not being covered as well.
I've tried a zillion things. The single things that really worked in my case: A nutritious diet, proper sleeping timings, moving your body at least for 25 mins, eating right, using good shampoo as well as oil. I use just liitllleextra cocoonniion hair oil shampoo combo for this reason plus it does the work. The hairfall got under control with it.
Pleasant smell and thick hair oil from littlllextra coocoonnioon. Noticed positive results following a month of using for one month. Hairfall has stopped and my hair has thickened.
For years I have been trying to find out why my hair always seems to be at war with me!! My hair is always better on vacation and now I know why!! We have extremely hard water and it is the cause of all the hair and scalp troubles I’ve been having for years!! I can’t wait to try a new shower filter and hard water fighting shampoo!!! Thanks Mell for your amazing brain and Amanda for your editing skills!!!
@@rumiorange I did get a better shower head however I have discovered I also have a fragrance allergy. Also a chelating shampoo does wonders if you don’t want/ have the ability to change your shower head. Things are getting better but I’m still learning what works.
LOL @ 4:19 - Mell's Canadian is showing when she says, "if you live in THESE states....." and then lists US cities. 😄 Oh, but it only makes me love her more. 💖 Great info! 👏👏
Me: Calls the water supply... Them: How can we help? Me: Change the water for my address only, custom pipes, no lead of copper and perfect the PH balance for my curls or I'm sueing ya'll
This is EXTREMELY accurate! My hair comes out GORGEOUS when I visit our condo in North Carolina- but here in Connecticut (well water) my hair is AWFUL and dull and frizzy and lacks volume. Same routine, same products... different WATER. It's massive!
are you using a gel/mousse or custard whatever but a product that provides hold aka gives a little but of a crunchy feeling to the hair? How are you defining your curls? Are you drying your hair before going into humidity? are you sealing your hair from humidity? so many things to consider that make a difference!
First, may I applaud you on how thorough and educational your video is. Secondly, I appreciate the topic. I don’t see a lot of this content offered but you gave us a solution. Thanks.
ouffff i hear ya! Okay well in the meantime DEFINIETELY check out this video to save your life: th-cam.com/video/QrUGImvW6s0/w-d-xo.html and next week i'll have even more tips to follow! stay tuned xoxo
Damn!!! This is hands down the best video on hard water vs. soft water. So thoroughly researched and the delivery is clear, educational, and had me cracking up left and right. You rock Mell!!
Your content Mell has been so very helpful, as my hair changed to curly in my 30s and I'm still trying to figure that situation out! Having worked in plumbing I'm pleased to see you address hard vs soft water. One thing I want to throw out there is that people with soft water can also end up with white scale on shower heads, and glass doors and such. I live in an area with some of the softest water in the country - TDS is so low that newfangled water heaters that charge minerals in water won't even work here, and I have to add minerals to stabilize pH for my fish. We get white scale from the additives the water treatment plant uses to increase pH. Which brings up another point: Tap water in soft water areas is high too! The water treatment folks add something to raise the pH to avoid pipe breakdown. So it's likely safest for anyone who isn't on well water to presume their water has a high pH. Since you're the most scientiffy haircare person, if you haven't done so already, I suggest following up with further info for people who have water softening systems. There is more than one type, and one actually adds more to the water (it just bonds with the minerals to keep them from sticking to you and other stuff). While I'm being water-nerdy: People who are immunocompromised or who use a specific shower infrequently need to use some caution about adding a filter to their showerhead. I got this info third hand (a plumber I trust got it from a water expert), but I've been told the #1 source of listeria in the US (and presumably Canada) is shower heads without chlorinated water. It's a good idea to think twice about whether 100% elimination of chlorine in home water is something everyone really wants to do. That's a good reason for overall home softening, but make sure you go to a real plumbing supply store that sells multiple brands and technologies or they'll dazzle you with techy words and not provide adequate pros and cons.
Quick note here from a media professional - You are the best youtube I've ever seen...just came across your channel and legit - I'm really impressed with your personality, wit, and knowledge. Keep it up girl...you'd be great for a major lifestyle network,
This has explained so much for me, I live north of Tampa on the coast where we have extremely hard water. Now I know why my routine isn't working how it should! Thank you!! ...now to convince my parents to get a water purifying system..
@@ManesByMell Yes of course!! I convinced my mom with your video and now it's about getting my dad on board by telling him how the appliances will benefit and they'll save money. Half way there!
Ugh, I WISH we could get a water softening system, our water is really hard. We have a well, but we are also renting. I don't have curls myself but I'm trying to help my two girls with their curly hair and I'm so glad I found this video. I feel like I've been trying to do so many of the right things for their hair, and things have definitely been getting better since I found your videos, but this hard water thing explains SO much. Their hair tends to be frizzy and very undefined, even with using better products. I will have to look into some of these shampoos and try rinsing their hair with distilled water.
My hair is also very frizzy and undefined. It doesn’t matter if I use a leave in or not, whether I use a hard hold gel or mousse, or even if I use stylers that are supposed to help with frizziness and definition. My hair is always frizzy, tangly, and lacks definition.
@@xkenny-personalitydatabase5604 I don't remember what the package said for the one we got but it was reccomend by his hair stylist and has worked wonders. His flakes are almost gone 🤷🏻♀️ Ive never had issues with hard water(that I know of) so Im not fully sure
I noticed my hair and skin were so bad after moving to where i live now. I don't remember where I saw it recommended, but i got a filteres showerhead. Changed my life. I can tell when I forget to change the filter out because my skin and hair dry out so bad. When I remember to change it though my skin and hair feel amazing and are so easy to keep clean and balanced.
I purchased a filtered shower head. My hair was getting stringy looking (it is thick which was weird for it to look stringy) my scalp was getting greasy faster and flaky. Today I used my new shower head to wash my hair and the curls look so much better after 1 wash using it. My daughters hair was looking stringy too and she used the new shower head yesterday and her hair looks nicer!
Here’s a twist for you and something I’ve been trying to figure out for a long time: I live in a city but we have hard water. My house has a water softener, but my moms house (where I grew up in the same town) doesn’t. I started having hair problems when I moved into my house. Greasy build up and it was like my conditioner wouldn’t ever wash out. I turned my water softener to the lowest setting and still have issues using conditioner AT ALL. It’s like it will not rinse out and when I go to heat style my hair, it is greasy and stringy. I use Aveda Blue Malva shampoo and I always double wash but I have dark Demi colored hair. I stopped using conditioner and my hair wouldn’t be greasy after. Even if I used a pea sized amount of conditioner, my hair would be greasy after. I read that really soft water doesn’t have enough minerals to pull the conditioner back out. But I’ve turned my softener down all the way and still have issues. I’m really not sure what to do! I didn’t start having these problems until I moved into my house 3 years ago. The only products I use on my hair are the aveda shampoo and it’s a 10 lite for heat protection. Any advice anyone could give me would be great!!!
I just have to say that water quality is everything, when I lived in Valencia, Spain (known for the worst water in Spain) the water was so hard it would create a wax film over your hair and make it shed. I almost went bald living there, it would eat up my curls, and I went from waist length hair to a choppy bob. I used the best and most expensive products I could find, even invested in kerastase hair masks, once a week-nothing. My hair wouldn’t grow... my skin was a mess. Never again. When I left there my hair finally started growing. Hard water is the worst!
OMG I’m from a town near Valencia where the water is really bad, I moved to Barcelona and I can tell you that it is 100 times worst than in Valencia. I have never had good water in my life hahaahha 😢😢
This is exactly what happened to my hair I got a shower filter & I did the Malibu hard water treatment and shampoo along with a protein treatment after & a good moisturizing routine & my hair already feels soo much better !! Thanks for all this help
@@sereneserenity1945it seems you either love or hate the Malibu scalp treatments. The instructions are not what you’d expect, so that might be why some people are unhappy with their results.
Hard water is a disaster for dry skin, finding a good shampoo is really a problem. Thank you for this video! Water quality became so bad in my region for the last few years, so I became allergic to lots of skin products. And if you have a hard water and naturally dry skin, you should stay calm or your skin will be even worse.
Love the thumbnail!! Missed you mell! sending lots of love!! have a great day! Also do you have any tips about shrinkage when wearing a bonnet? Also please do a Q and A!!!
Hey Mady thank you!! Wishing you a fabulous day as well! A trick to prevent shrinkage is banding the hair, so essentially separating it into multiple polytails (i would use a silk scrunchy) and keep adding elastics down the hair strand :) or, a headscarf style to sleep wont condense and scrunch the curls as much :) hope that helps!! xoxo
Thanks so much for this eye-opening video. I moved from Wisconsin to Florida and have tried everything to help my baby fine, thin, mostly 3A hair deal with the hard water here, with no results. It was a frizz bomb as soon as I walked outdoors. Thanks to this video, I tried pouring distilled water over my hair as a final rinse and my hair looks just as shiny, soft and normal as it used to look back in Wisconsin, though it is now more wavy than curly. I can't afford a whole house softener, so I'm buying a spray bottle to use distilled water. A tip for those who decide to get whole house water softening, be sure to start taking a trace mineral supplement, since our food is very short on minerals now, and most of us get the minerals we need from our drinking water. Great video.
I'd also like to request a video on how to deal with having several different types of hair on your head. The back of my hair is 3c, the top is 3a and the part in front of my ears is 2b. Is it possible to make it all look the same?
Changing to a filtering showerhead was a game changer for me, there wasn't even that much mineral buildup before but now there's None and my curls are Living!
I don't know this channel, I dunno if you're a really big youtuber or not this is probably the only video of yours I'm gonnna watch as im not your demographic but this was a really well presented video and you're very charismatic. edits were on point too. Take a like.
I washed my hair two or three times at my bf's place with two different shampoos and my (pin straight, dark ,partially unbleached, good quality) hair always looks like garbage, and he has 2b 2c voluminous short untreated hair and it's still always dry af and he has a front piece that always fall straight-ish and the top is only frizz. I've been thinking for a while that it might be because of his water
What a thorough discussion on this topic... and I've been watching several, lol. Thank you! I was just about to order Malibu C Hard Water Wellness Shampoo, but you convinced me to try Un-do-goo instead :)
Mell, you are amazing. I did not know if I had a hard water issue with my hair, as we have well water but use a water softener. However, I knew we are not always completely diligent about adding salt to the softener on time. I used the ION chelating shampoo, lathered and rinsed about 4-5 times to make sure I got every strand cleaned super well. Then I added my Olaplex conditioner and OMG. My hair feels so good. It feels so healthy today, I didn't even realize that hard water was contributing to my problem. My products went through my hair so much easier, I could actually comb my hair with my Denman brush without it getting caught. This was such a Godsend. Thank you for educating me on this!! I have learned so much about my curly hair. Every time someone asks me about my hair now or how I take care of it, I just tell them I learned everything I know from Mell. Thanks to you and Amanda for teaching me so much! I love you both
@Riya Sunny I never noticed any extra greasiness really. I just noticed when the softener would run out of salt because i could smell the difference in the water and my hair would feel unmanageable. I actually recently installed this shower filter thing that is AMAZING. it filters the water and my hair has felt soooo good ever since. The company is called Hydroviv.
@Riya Sunny I have both a softener and the shower filter. I have not noticed any greasiness at all, but I also didn't feel like my hair was greasy from the water softener. So I don't know, but if you are looking to remove the minerals from your hard water, I think that shower head filter will help.
That is a real problem, I moved from North of Mexico to North of Germany and experienced every single issue you mentioned in the video, it took me a while to realize this was all caused by hard water....
I'm half way the video and I had to: girl you are awesome! Love the light way you give information, you give it all but it feels easy. Good work and thank you!
Thank you a gazillion times. My hair was no longer curly. It was so annoying since I finally embraced it about ten years ago. Then...after watching this vid on hard water a light bulb went on for me at three in the morning. Of course, wouldn't want to just sleep all ight. Anyway I realized I was using purple shampoo and it was probably coating my hair too heavily. Wham bam..after clarifying three times my hair has moved back home. Oh!!! And that also explained why I couldn't use curlsmith shampoo. I have beautiful tasting rocky mountain water. It doesn't get much heavier. Thanks a ton, Hon.
Thank you Mell, sooo helpful! A Tipp for regular swimmers, when I go swimming and I don't have a chelating shampoo I use an apple cider vinegar rince on my hair and skin. I find when I do this I don't get that chlorine smell and my hair is light n soft.☺️
Water filters will filter out some minerals, but they DO NOT soften your water; you need an actual water softener for that. I got a water softner that you attach to the shower called "Waterstick". It's the only true shower water softner that I found. It's pricey, but I've had it for 2 months and I've found it to be well worth it as it took my SUPER hard water down to no hardness and made washing my hair so much better! I got a shower softener because I live in apartments, but if I had a house I would have invested in a house softener so that my clothes and dishes could get the same benefits.
Once again, Mell has shown up to SAVE US!!!!! I've sent sooo many people to her channel because of her informative videos and fun style! Thanks again Mel, hi to Amanda!
I'm in San Antonio, and even with a water softener I get gunky buildup from calcium. Once a month I put about (or aboot as you Canadians say) half a teaspoon of baking soda in my shampoo. It makes my hair sooooo soft and cleans all the gunk out.
My hard water has sulfur in it, or so I was told, and has severely darkened my red hair. On top of that, we live on top of a gravel deposit, and since we only have well water, it is so bad ahhhh. Literally our shower is sorta a dark orange where the water continues to hit it. I am so thankful to have stumbled upon a video about waters, since I have a hard time finding videos about it.
I had a set back from using hard water my hair broke like chips finally after realizing it I use a filter now my hair is back to its healthy state curls popping not tangled on it's own easy to handle again not much frizz I felt like my hair was reborn 👏🏼👏🏼
Absolutely love Mell’s channel! Have been watching her videos for so long now! I just started my own hair channel because of her! Thank you for inspiring me Mell 💕
This video was just what I needed. I have been watching your videos trying to figure out what was going on with my daughter's hair. She has very dense and long low porosity 3a/3b curly hair that was dry and matted. I was shocked that I was able to brush through her tangles after using the Un Goo shampoo, and her hair accepted moisture from her hair mask. Thank you! And she can finally clean her scalp on her own with the scalp brush.
So glad I found you! I struggle with my hair for a very long time and always treated it wrong. My mother has straight hair and didn't knew any better. Always wanted to grow my hair out again. Made a very big mistake during my teenage years (perm ... cough), but I always have to chop it off, when it's just about shoulder length. It's very fine and as I found out not long ago - natural curly. In my childhood I lived in a place with very soft water and now I live, were the water is very hard. 🙆🏻♀️
Haters are gonna hate! Why did those 4 people didn't like your video? it is so informative!! ugh! Thank you for all the information provided. I have hard water and for almost a year I used rain water but then I got tired of washing my hair picking the water from a bucket. Now I'm thinking of buying a shower filter. Do you know of any that you can reccommend?
I’m so happy for texture Tuesday and to learn more about how to takes care of my curls !!!! You are my favorite because you always back things up with evidence and science !!!
Manes by Mell literally every time you respond to me, I squeal!!! I’m like my favorite celebrity answered me !!!! You deserve the world ! I recommend you to literally everyone and I show people before and after pictures of my curls. B.M (Before Mell) ..... A.M ( After Mell) ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is the video I’ve been waiting for! I have hard water and been wondering what to do about it. I’ve been eyeing shower head filters but wasn’t sure which one or if that would make a positive difference. Thank you for this! ❤️
Who else is addicted to MELL’S videos? 🙋🏻♀️ I’ve been binging on them for days 🙄 I’ve laughed 😂, I’ve cried 😭, I’ve gone to Walmart and bought a bunch of Cantu products to feed my addiction. I need to build a new room on my house for all of my hair products 😬. I hope my husband doesn’t find my guilty secret out 🤫
A small town where I live close by, the water is so hard just using the sink for one day will leave so muchhh white residue I was in shock. If i lived there I'd be using chelating shampoos every wash LOL
I’m glad to see you back! I completely understand why you took Tuesday off. So excited for this video because I live in southeast Georgia and have hard water with my house having 3 water softener filters attached. So many curlies don’t do videos about hard water.
Can you please do a video on what you need for a curly hair routine? Not like specific products but like the general things you would do in a week plus how many times you diffuse,etc.
Hey Mel, so my curls look great until I sleep on them. I use the same bonnet as you and I use your bonnet method, but I still wake up with crazy, misshapen, bed head. When I wake up I find that my curls are way less defined and my hair is in a weird shape, do you know how I can fix this?
I kept running into the same problem. Neither pineapple nor the bonnet method worked for my long hair. I attributed it to the fact that I have more of a wave than a curl, and because my hair is quite heavy it easily loses its shape overnight. The only thing that really works for me is refreshing with a little water and I just make sure to sleep on a silk pillowcase and gather my hair in a loose bun or pony, accepting the fact that it'll be a limp, clumpy mess in the morning lol It takes a little trial and error to figure out what works for each of us in the end.
Hey Georgia! I'll link Mell's refresh video for you: th-cam.com/video/WljidC54MbY/w-d-xo.html At 8:45 she says that sometimes she smoothes out frizz with a little bit of product (I use a very light leave in conditioner to avoid weighing my hair down) diluted with wet hands. I used this technique and it worked for me! It smooths out my frizz, and I'll even go in with a little bit of gel afterwards to make sure they stay defined. Hope this helps! 😊
The only thing that works on me is grabbing my hair upwards as if I was scrunching, then put a scrunchie over it. If it falls don’t be scared to wrap the scrunchie around it a second time.
Maybe, after it's fully dry, you can plop with a silk scarf. I have long to hips 3a curls and I just flip my hair from one side to another to make it somehow decent but it's nowhere as defined as the day before, so I just give up.
Thank you so much! I'd already watched this video, just as informative. But when my scalp was itchy, routines that had worked before did not, and the top of my head was heavy. It was a livesaver. My curls are back again, happy and defined. 😊🙏🏽
For us wavies who don't want clumps, but want soft, voluminous waves, do you have any product recomentations? I love it when my 2b hair naturally looks like I did a blow out and loose flat iron waves. That is my hair goal. 😊
I watched this the day that you put it up and im so SO glad that you made this video!! I've been losing a ton of hair for the last month and a half, I was clairifying every single week but still have greasy looking hair with a ton of build up and it was just breaking like crazy. I came to the conclusion that it is our water and it has been happening slowly over a period of time. Without your video, I would have never known that I needed a chelating shampoo to remove the mineral build up. So a huge thank you to YOU MELL!! ❤❤ You saved my hairs!!
I absolutely loved this video, I used to lived in a house with very very hard water now that I moved the water is less hard but still high on iron and to top it all I live in canada, so winter and hard water ooohh boy
Mell, I have to say, I just found your channel like 2 weeks ago, and I cant stop watching it You 2 seesters are amazing, and the fact that you explain us all this science based is another level, really Thank you so much, and please, do continue! All the best from Portugal!
Great video! I live in a super hard water area (you can see the mineral deposits at the bottom of a glass of water) and we installed a shower head that removes limescale. It really has helped my hair a lot and saved the shower as well!
OK, so what exactly do you recommend for very soft water? I live in Greenville SC and here is what they say: Greenville Water is considered very soft with total hardness averaging less than 1 grain/gallon. Sooooo, do I need to do a clarify 1x per month? My hair is pretty dry, I just started going curly in April so I am just starting to really pay attention to ingredients, etc with hair products. Also, my hair is dyed....just another wrench to throw in there! Allergic to coconut and glycerin has a VERY bad effect on my hair.....By-the-way, I LOVE your channel!!
YOU ARE SO GOoD AT THIS! SUCH A FUN TEACHER, SO INFORMATIVE, MY LORD! YOU HAVE MADE ME SMILE+I HAVE LEARNED SO MUCH! THANK YOU SO MUCH! BEST WISHES TO YOU WITH ALL YOU DO! KEEP IT UP!
My curls have never looked better and that is all thanks to you!!! Thank you! I’m so glad I found you a couple months ago. I’ve learned so much!!! 😎❤️🙌🏻☺️
I moved to Lincolnshire UK the water there is horrible left a residue on everything 😢 My hair was wrecked ! So I moved back west the water is great this side of the country and women do have lovely locks around here .
The Not Your Mother’s Curl Talk shampoo, cleansing oil and conditioner contains two chelating ingredients (Disodium Edta and Citric Acid). All are sulfate free.
NOBODY IS DOING THIS. Mell is the MVP. She is like the Bill Nye of hair.
I kept asking her to do soft water vs hard water. You're welcome 😁
Jill Nye the Science Not-Guy 😂
@@sigh_anna we do not deserve you lol 🙌
@@delightfullydeanna I needed to know, I was tired of having bad vacation hair all the time
Janelle O'Shaughnessy did a video on it 2 months ago.
RE : swimming. You should wet your hair before you go swimming so your hair soaks up clean water before exposing it to chlorine water. Same goes for your skin
Joud Faisal I always do that and my hair always feels better then when i use to go swimming without conditioner in my hair
Put oil in your hair and conditioner so that way when you go swimming it would make your hair feel as dry
Use shea moisture pre swim. My hair is no longer nasty feeling after swimming
How is that going to work if you submerge your head in pool water? It doesn't make any sense honestly
@@emily3820 it's your imagination then if you think your hair feels better because that makes no sense. Wetting hair with "better" water and then submerging in pool water? It's not going to make a difference because it makes no sense. All you're doing, is wasting time
I’ll just shave my head at this point.
lmao
Same 2 same
Well I did that and then my scalp got fucked up and dry 😂
@@0h0h0h0 Lol same. That's what I did. Yea you have to give yourself time to adjust to having no hair. It can definitely dry your scalp out like crazy at first but that's cause not only are we not used to having no hair there and use the same amount of products we would normally use, but we also need time for our scalp to adjust to not being covered as well.
lmao!
I've tried a zillion things. The single things that really worked in my case: A nutritious diet, proper sleeping timings, moving your body at least for 25 mins, eating right, using good shampoo as well as oil. I use just liitllleextra cocoonniion hair oil shampoo combo for this reason plus it does the work. The hairfall got under control with it.
Pleasant smell and thick hair oil from littlllextra coocoonnioon. Noticed positive results following a month of using for one month. Hairfall has stopped and my hair has thickened.
For years I have been trying to find out why my hair always seems to be at war with me!! My hair is always better on vacation and now I know why!! We have extremely hard water and it is the cause of all the hair and scalp troubles I’ve been having for years!! I can’t wait to try a new shower filter and hard water fighting shampoo!!! Thanks Mell for your amazing brain and Amanda for your editing skills!!!
@@rumiorange I did get a better shower head however I have discovered I also have a fragrance allergy. Also a chelating shampoo does wonders if you don’t want/ have the ability to change your shower head. Things are getting better but I’m still learning what works.
@@tracykinney9615 you from London ?
@@unknownuser5300 nope!
@@tracykinney9615 where u from ? Because I come from London n we have hard water caused me itchy flaky scalp/ hair shedding / inflammation
Hello, could you please link the shower head you bought?
As she went through the checklist I just kept saying "damn" 😫😂😂 describing my hair perfectly
LOL didnt mean to call you out like that! hahaha
Me too!!! 😩😩😩
Sameeee
ikr
Same here!
LOL @ 4:19 - Mell's Canadian is showing when she says, "if you live in THESE states....." and then lists US cities. 😄 Oh, but it only makes me love her more. 💖 Great info! 👏👏
I didn't even notice that til now when I came back to watch it again 😂
At least she isn't listing states as countries like lots of Americans
Me: Calls the water supply...
Them: How can we help?
Me: Change the water for my address only, custom pipes, no lead of copper and perfect the PH balance for my curls or I'm sueing ya'll
I literally don't know where my curls would end up if I don't find your channel. My hair came a long way thanks to you. Thanks so much!❤️❤️❤️
This is EXTREMELY accurate! My hair comes out GORGEOUS when I visit our condo in North Carolina- but here in Connecticut (well water) my hair is AWFUL and dull and frizzy and lacks volume. Same routine, same products... different WATER. It's massive!
Culligan shower filter has helped me soo much it makes a huge difference in my hair and skin!
How long does the filter last?
@@naturallycurlynovice6392 they last up to 4-6 months depending on how hard your water is
Your hair is so nice its not fair!!!!!! Mine always goes frizzy after two hours :(
are you using a gel/mousse or custard whatever but a product that provides hold aka gives a little but of a crunchy feeling to the hair? How are you defining your curls? Are you drying your hair before going into humidity? are you sealing your hair from humidity? so many things to consider that make a difference!
i’m happy that my parents put in a purifying water system!! it has rly helped with my curls:))
YOU ARE SO LUCKY YAS!!! life saver for sure!!
Where did you get it? And can I use it in any bathroom?
Hey love! What system did your parents put in? I would love to change my shower head
If you EVER come to London, hollaaaaaa💕 we love you over here! I’m learning to love my curls, thank you for being such an inspiration🥰
First, may I applaud you on how thorough and educational your video is. Secondly, I appreciate the topic. I don’t see a lot of this content offered but you gave us a solution. Thanks.
I can't wait for the summer hair care routine. I live in Houston so it is basically summer for 90% of the year 😭🔥
ouffff i hear ya! Okay well in the meantime DEFINIETELY check out this video to save your life: th-cam.com/video/QrUGImvW6s0/w-d-xo.html
and next week i'll have even more tips to follow! stay tuned xoxo
Giirrrlll I live in Houston too!
Our hard water sucks!!!!
Damn!!! This is hands down the best video on hard water vs. soft water. So thoroughly researched and the delivery is clear, educational, and had me cracking up left and right. You rock Mell!!
I got a water filter for my shower head, it helped so much with the buildup on my scalp and the itchiness.
Your content Mell has been so very helpful, as my hair changed to curly in my 30s and I'm still trying to figure that situation out! Having worked in plumbing I'm pleased to see you address hard vs soft water. One thing I want to throw out there is that people with soft water can also end up with white scale on shower heads, and glass doors and such. I live in an area with some of the softest water in the country - TDS is so low that newfangled water heaters that charge minerals in water won't even work here, and I have to add minerals to stabilize pH for my fish. We get white scale from the additives the water treatment plant uses to increase pH.
Which brings up another point: Tap water in soft water areas is high too! The water treatment folks add something to raise the pH to avoid pipe breakdown. So it's likely safest for anyone who isn't on well water to presume their water has a high pH. Since you're the most scientiffy haircare person, if you haven't done so already, I suggest following up with further info for people who have water softening systems. There is more than one type, and one actually adds more to the water (it just bonds with the minerals to keep them from sticking to you and other stuff).
While I'm being water-nerdy: People who are immunocompromised or who use a specific shower infrequently need to use some caution about adding a filter to their showerhead. I got this info third hand (a plumber I trust got it from a water expert), but I've been told the #1 source of listeria in the US (and presumably Canada) is shower heads without chlorinated water. It's a good idea to think twice about whether 100% elimination of chlorine in home water is something everyone really wants to do. That's a good reason for overall home softening, but make sure you go to a real plumbing supply store that sells multiple brands and technologies or they'll dazzle you with techy words and not provide adequate pros and cons.
Quick note here from a media professional - You are the best youtube I've ever seen...just came across your channel and legit - I'm really impressed with your personality, wit, and knowledge. Keep it up girl...you'd be great for a major lifestyle network,
My friend and I were just trying to figure this out! She moved to CO and the water parameters are far different than where I am. Thank you!
This has explained so much for me, I live north of Tampa on the coast where we have extremely hard water. Now I know why my routine isn't working how it should! Thank you!! ...now to convince my parents to get a water purifying system..
haha yas im so happy! Good luck convincing them!! In your pitch make sure the include how it will benefit them and the whole house, too! THE PIPES!!!
@@ManesByMell Yes of course!! I convinced my mom with your video and now it's about getting my dad on board by telling him how the appliances will benefit and they'll save money. Half way there!
For the meantime, buy distilled water and wash with it until you get the filter. A gallon of distilled water is like 1 dollar
Ugh, I WISH we could get a water softening system, our water is really hard. We have a well, but we are also renting. I don't have curls myself but I'm trying to help my two girls with their curly hair and I'm so glad I found this video. I feel like I've been trying to do so many of the right things for their hair, and things have definitely been getting better since I found your videos, but this hard water thing explains SO much. Their hair tends to be frizzy and very undefined, even with using better products. I will have to look into some of these shampoos and try rinsing their hair with distilled water.
They also make filters you can add to your shower that help with hard water! We added one for my husband(dry scalp)
My hair is also very frizzy and undefined. It doesn’t matter if I use a leave in or not, whether I use a hard hold gel or mousse, or even if I use stylers that are supposed to help with frizziness and definition. My hair is always frizzy, tangly, and lacks definition.
@@xkenny-personalitydatabase5604 I don't remember what the package said for the one we got but it was reccomend by his hair stylist and has worked wonders. His flakes are almost gone 🤷🏻♀️
Ive never had issues with hard water(that I know of) so Im not fully sure
I put a shower filter on mine and tested the tds. It was the same amount of sediments with the filter vs without.
There are shower filter you can use. They like 25 bucks.
I noticed my hair and skin were so bad after moving to where i live now. I don't remember where I saw it recommended, but i got a filteres showerhead. Changed my life. I can tell when I forget to change the filter out because my skin and hair dry out so bad. When I remember to change it though my skin and hair feel amazing and are so easy to keep clean and balanced.
I purchased a filtered shower head. My hair was getting stringy looking (it is thick which was weird for it to look stringy) my scalp was getting greasy faster and flaky. Today I used my new shower head to wash my hair and the curls look so much better after 1 wash using it.
My daughters hair was looking stringy too and she used the new shower head yesterday and her hair looks nicer!
Mell you should totally do 1 on 1 virtual consulting! You're so knowledgable I just wanna know what you think is best for my hair 😩
Mell, you are always so delightful to watch! Thank you so much for the explanation!
I swear you get better and better with every video. Great factual info and solutions presented in a very entertaining way! I love the seesters
Wow that really means a lot thank you so much❤️❤️❤️
Here’s a twist for you and something I’ve been trying to figure out for a long time: I live in a city but we have hard water. My house has a water softener, but my moms house (where I grew up in the same town) doesn’t. I started having hair problems when I moved into my house. Greasy build up and it was like my conditioner wouldn’t ever wash out. I turned my water softener to the lowest setting and still have issues using conditioner AT ALL. It’s like it will not rinse out and when I go to heat style my hair, it is greasy and stringy. I use Aveda Blue Malva shampoo and I always double wash but I have dark Demi colored hair. I stopped using conditioner and my hair wouldn’t be greasy after. Even if I used a pea sized amount of conditioner, my hair would be greasy after. I read that really soft water doesn’t have enough minerals to pull the conditioner back out. But I’ve turned my softener down all the way and still have issues. I’m really not sure what to do! I didn’t start having these problems until I moved into my house 3 years ago. The only products I use on my hair are the aveda shampoo and it’s a 10 lite for heat protection. Any advice anyone could give me would be great!!!
Mell I love your tye-dye shirt!! :) where did you get it?
I used to swim 3 times a week and that damaged my hair I stopped swimming now but I love the advice thanks 💓💓
I literally thought soft water and hard water was about the pressure of the water 😅
Haha same.
We still love you XD
Lmaoo same here😂😂
I just have to say that water quality is everything, when I lived in Valencia, Spain (known for the worst water in Spain) the water was so hard it would create a wax film over your hair and make it shed. I almost went bald living there, it would eat up my curls, and I went from waist length hair to a choppy bob. I used the best and most expensive products I could find, even invested in kerastase hair masks, once a week-nothing. My hair wouldn’t grow... my skin was a mess. Never again. When I left there my hair finally started growing. Hard water is the worst!
OMG I’m from a town near Valencia where the water is really bad, I moved to Barcelona and I can tell you that it is 100 times worst than in Valencia. I have never had good water in my life hahaahha 😢😢
@@monicamadrigalbeckford4281 install RO or use distill water
This is exactly what happened to my hair
I got a shower filter
& I did the Malibu hard water treatment and shampoo
along with a protein treatment after
& a good moisturizing routine
& my hair already feels soo much better !!
Thanks for all this help
How’s it been going? I never heard of the malibu
@@sereneserenity1945 are you still doing Malibu treatments? I’m on the fence about them.
@@sereneserenity1945it seems you either love or hate the Malibu scalp treatments. The instructions are not what you’d expect, so that might be why some people are unhappy with their results.
@@MK-ih6wp huh?
If you live in an area of hard water I would highly recommend a water softener, it also make the water taste better
Just changed my shower head to a filtered one and it made a huuuuuge difference on my hair and skin.
Hard water is a disaster for dry skin, finding a good shampoo is really a problem. Thank you for this video!
Water quality became so bad in my region for the last few years, so I became allergic to lots of skin products. And if you have a hard water and naturally dry skin, you should stay calm or your skin will be even worse.
Love the thumbnail!! Missed you mell! sending lots of love!! have a great day! Also do you have any tips about shrinkage when wearing a bonnet? Also please do a Q and A!!!
Hey Mady thank you!! Wishing you a fabulous day as well! A trick to prevent shrinkage is banding the hair, so essentially separating it into multiple polytails (i would use a silk scrunchy) and keep adding elastics down the hair strand :) or, a headscarf style to sleep wont condense and scrunch the curls as much :) hope that helps!! xoxo
Thanks so much for this eye-opening video. I moved from Wisconsin to Florida and have tried everything to help my baby fine, thin, mostly 3A hair deal with the hard water here, with no results. It was a frizz bomb as soon as I walked outdoors. Thanks to this video, I tried pouring distilled water over my hair as a final rinse and my hair looks just as shiny, soft and normal as it used to look back in Wisconsin, though it is now more wavy than curly. I can't afford a whole house softener, so I'm buying a spray bottle to use distilled water. A tip for those who decide to get whole house water softening, be sure to start taking a trace mineral supplement, since our food is very short on minerals now, and most of us get the minerals we need from our drinking water. Great video.
I'd also like to request a video on how to deal with having several different types of hair on your head. The back of my hair is 3c, the top is 3a and the part in front of my ears is 2b. Is it possible to make it all look the same?
YOU LITERALLY NAMED ALL MY SYMPTOMS
Thank you for doing this! I kept bugging you for a hard water vs soft water explanation, and you did great.
Excellent explanation.
I live in San Antonio so I bought a shower filter for the hard water here. My hubby thought I was crazy, now he loves it.
Changing to a filtering showerhead was a game changer for me, there wasn't even that much mineral buildup before but now there's None and my curls are Living!
Brand of shower filter?
I don't know this channel, I dunno if you're a really big youtuber or not this is probably the only video of yours I'm gonnna watch as im not your demographic but this was a really well presented video and you're very charismatic. edits were on point too. Take a like.
I washed my hair two or three times at my bf's place with two different shampoos and my (pin straight, dark ,partially unbleached, good quality) hair always looks like garbage, and he has 2b 2c voluminous short untreated hair and it's still always dry af and he has a front piece that always fall straight-ish and the top is only frizz. I've been thinking for a while that it might be because of his water
What a thorough discussion on this topic... and I've been watching several, lol. Thank you! I was just about to order Malibu C Hard Water Wellness Shampoo, but you convinced me to try Un-do-goo instead :)
Mell, you are amazing. I did not know if I had a hard water issue with my hair, as we have well water but use a water softener. However, I knew we are not always completely diligent about adding salt to the softener on time. I used the ION chelating shampoo, lathered and rinsed about 4-5 times to make sure I got every strand cleaned super well. Then I added my Olaplex conditioner and OMG. My hair feels so good. It feels so healthy today, I didn't even realize that hard water was contributing to my problem. My products went through my hair so much easier, I could actually comb my hair with my Denman brush without it getting caught. This was such a Godsend. Thank you for educating me on this!! I have learned so much about my curly hair. Every time someone asks me about my hair now or how I take care of it, I just tell them I learned everything I know from Mell. Thanks to you and Amanda for teaching me so much! I love you both
@Riya Sunny I never noticed any extra greasiness really. I just noticed when the softener would run out of salt because i could smell the difference in the water and my hair would feel unmanageable. I actually recently installed this shower filter thing that is AMAZING. it filters the water and my hair has felt soooo good ever since. The company is called Hydroviv.
@Riya Sunny I have both a softener and the shower filter. I have not noticed any greasiness at all, but I also didn't feel like my hair was greasy from the water softener. So I don't know, but if you are looking to remove the minerals from your hard water, I think that shower head filter will help.
@Riya Sunny yeah I hope it works for you!
That is a real problem, I moved from North of Mexico to North of Germany and experienced every single issue you mentioned in the video, it took me a while to realize this was all caused by hard water....
I'm half way the video and I had to: girl you are awesome! Love the light way you give information, you give it all but it feels easy. Good work and thank you!
Thank you a gazillion times. My hair was no longer curly. It was so annoying since I finally embraced it about ten years ago. Then...after watching this vid on hard water a light bulb went on for me at three in the morning. Of course, wouldn't want to just sleep all ight. Anyway I realized I was using purple shampoo and it was probably coating my hair too heavily. Wham bam..after clarifying three times my hair has moved back home. Oh!!! And that also explained why I couldn't use curlsmith shampoo. I have beautiful tasting rocky mountain water. It doesn't get much heavier. Thanks a ton, Hon.
Loved this video!! Once I started using a chelating shampoo, my whole hair life changed. Preach to 'em, Mel!!
Agree wholeheartedly! If someone’s on a budget use Garnier’s Clarifying Shampoo and Dove’s Repair Conditioner. You’re hair will be soft and silky.
Thank you Mell, sooo helpful! A Tipp for regular swimmers, when I go swimming and I don't have a chelating shampoo I use an apple cider vinegar rince on my hair and skin. I find when I do this I don't get that chlorine smell and my hair is light n soft.☺️
Water filters will filter out some minerals, but they DO NOT soften your water; you need an actual water softener for that. I got a water softner that you attach to the shower called "Waterstick". It's the only true shower water softner that I found. It's pricey, but I've had it for 2 months and I've found it to be well worth it as it took my SUPER hard water down to no hardness and made washing my hair so much better!
I got a shower softener because I live in apartments, but if I had a house I would have invested in a house softener so that my clothes and dishes could get the same benefits.
@Galatea I can't find any that are named Waterstick. Do you have a link?
Once again, Mell has shown up to SAVE US!!!!! I've sent sooo many people to her channel because of her informative videos and fun style! Thanks again Mel, hi to Amanda!
Thank you so much for the love and support! 🥰🥰🥰
THIS is the video I've needed for the last year. THANK YOU for putting the effort into this! You're the best!
I use a filter in my shower. They last a long time. Thanks Mell...Great content!❤️
I'm in San Antonio, and even with a water softener I get gunky buildup from calcium. Once a month I put about (or aboot as you Canadians say) half a teaspoon of baking soda in my shampoo. It makes my hair sooooo soft and cleans all the gunk out.
She is so cute, her videos never get boring
My hard water has sulfur in it, or so I was told, and has severely darkened my red hair. On top of that, we live on top of a gravel deposit, and since we only have well water, it is so bad ahhhh. Literally our shower is sorta a dark orange where the water continues to hit it. I am so thankful to have stumbled upon a video about waters, since I have a hard time finding videos about it.
This video needs a counter keeping track of this high volume of water puns! Well done!
I had a set back from using hard water my hair broke like chips finally after realizing it I use a filter now my hair is back to its healthy state curls popping not tangled on it's own easy to handle again not much frizz I felt like my hair was reborn 👏🏼👏🏼
Absolutely love Mell’s channel! Have been watching her videos for so long now! I just started my own hair channel because of her! Thank you for inspiring me Mell 💕
I'm so honoured omg!! My greatest tip is to be real, always be yourself
This video was just what I needed. I have been watching your videos trying to figure out what was going on with my daughter's hair. She has very dense and long low porosity 3a/3b curly hair that was dry and matted. I was shocked that I was able to brush through her tangles after using the Un Goo shampoo, and her hair accepted moisture from her hair mask. Thank you! And she can finally clean her scalp on her own with the scalp brush.
Thank you! I finally learned why my hair was so brittle, dull, rough
So glad I found you! I struggle with my hair for a very long time and always treated it wrong. My mother has straight hair and didn't knew any better. Always wanted to grow my hair out again. Made a very big mistake during my teenage years (perm ... cough), but I always have to chop it off, when it's just about shoulder length. It's very fine and as I found out not long ago - natural curly. In my childhood I lived in a place with very soft water and now I live, were the water is very hard. 🙆🏻♀️
Haters are gonna hate! Why did those 4 people didn't like your video? it is so informative!! ugh!
Thank you for all the information provided. I have hard water and for almost a year I used rain water but then I got tired of washing my hair picking the water from a bucket. Now I'm thinking of buying a shower filter. Do you know of any that you can reccommend?
Heyy mell! I would love an after pool/beach routine for that nappy hair you get after the weekend at the beach!!!!!
You are very good and very gracious. God bless you beautiful young lady. Your hair looks great. Thank you for your research and contributon. Amen!
I’m so happy for texture Tuesday and to learn more about how to takes care of my curls !!!! You are my favorite because you always back things up with evidence and science !!!
That's why i'm here!! Thank you maribel i am so happy to hear that
Manes by Mell literally every time you respond to me, I squeal!!! I’m like my favorite celebrity answered me !!!! You deserve the world ! I recommend you to literally everyone and I show people before and after pictures of my curls. B.M (Before Mell) ..... A.M ( After Mell) ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is the video I've been waiting FOR. SO. LONG.
This is the video I’ve been waiting for! I have hard water and been wondering what to do about it. I’ve been eyeing shower head filters but wasn’t sure which one or if that would make a positive difference. Thank you for this! ❤️
you have lovely personality and fun to watch . thank you for all the explanation while entertaining us
Who else is addicted to MELL’S videos? 🙋🏻♀️ I’ve been binging on them for days 🙄 I’ve laughed 😂, I’ve cried 😭, I’ve gone to Walmart and bought a bunch of Cantu products to feed my addiction. I need to build a new room on my house for all of my hair products 😬. I hope my husband doesn’t find my guilty secret out 🤫
A small town where I live close by, the water is so hard just using the sink for one day will leave so muchhh white residue I was in shock. If i lived there I'd be using chelating shampoos every wash LOL
I’m glad to see you back! I completely understand why you took Tuesday off. So excited for this video because I live in southeast Georgia and have hard water with my house having 3 water softener filters attached. So many curlies don’t do videos about hard water.
YES YES YES!!!!! I’ve been waiting for a video like this for sooo long! Thank you!!!!!
Can you please do a video on what you need for a curly hair routine? Not like specific products but like the general things you would do in a week plus how many times you diffuse,etc.
Hey Mel, so my curls look great until I sleep on them. I use the same bonnet as you and I use your bonnet method, but I still wake up with crazy, misshapen, bed head. When I wake up I find that my curls are way less defined and my hair is in a weird shape, do you know how I can fix this?
Did you see Mell's refresh videos?
I kept running into the same problem. Neither pineapple nor the bonnet method worked for my long hair. I attributed it to the fact that I have more of a wave than a curl, and because my hair is quite heavy it easily loses its shape overnight. The only thing that really works for me is refreshing with a little water and I just make sure to sleep on a silk pillowcase and gather my hair in a loose bun or pony, accepting the fact that it'll be a limp, clumpy mess in the morning lol It takes a little trial and error to figure out what works for each of us in the end.
Hey Georgia! I'll link Mell's refresh video for you: th-cam.com/video/WljidC54MbY/w-d-xo.html
At 8:45 she says that sometimes she smoothes out frizz with a little bit of product (I use a very light leave in conditioner to avoid weighing my hair down) diluted with wet hands. I used this technique and it worked for me! It smooths out my frizz, and I'll even go in with a little bit of gel afterwards to make sure they stay defined. Hope this helps! 😊
The only thing that works on me is grabbing my hair upwards as if I was scrunching, then put a scrunchie over it. If it falls don’t be scared to wrap the scrunchie around it a second time.
Maybe, after it's fully dry, you can plop with a silk scarf. I have long to hips 3a curls and I just flip my hair from one side to another to make it somehow decent but it's nowhere as defined as the day before, so I just give up.
This is very informative. I live in Tampa and always wonder why my hair is so frizzy and brassy but now I know why! Thank you Mel!
Thank you so much!
I'd already watched this video, just as informative. But when my scalp was itchy, routines that had worked before did not, and the top of my head was heavy. It was a livesaver.
My curls are back again, happy and defined. 😊🙏🏽
For us wavies who don't want clumps, but want soft, voluminous waves, do you have any product recomentations?
I love it when my 2b hair naturally looks like I did a blow out and loose flat iron waves. That is my hair goal.
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Great video! I've requested it before and have been patiently waiting for it! Thank you!!!!!!
I watched this the day that you put it up and im so SO glad that you made this video!! I've been losing a ton of hair for the last month and a half, I was clairifying every single week but still have greasy looking hair with a ton of build up and it was just breaking like crazy. I came to the conclusion that it is our water and it has been happening slowly over a period of time. Without your video, I would have never known that I needed a chelating shampoo to remove the mineral build up. So a huge thank you to YOU MELL!! ❤❤ You saved my hairs!!
I absolutely loved this video, I used to lived in a house with very very hard water now that I moved the water is less hard but still high on iron and to top it all I live in canada, so winter and hard water ooohh boy
Mell, I have to say, I just found your channel like 2 weeks ago, and I cant stop watching it
You 2 seesters are amazing, and the fact that you explain us all this science based is another level, really
Thank you so much, and please, do continue!
All the best from Portugal!
Great video! I live in a super hard water area (you can see the mineral deposits at the bottom of a glass of water) and we installed a shower head that removes limescale. It really has helped my hair a lot and saved the shower as well!
Please link to the filter
How did I miss this one... spot on . Thanks m8! Helped a lot
Knew this was why my hair goes to shyte when I'm on holidays overseas, makes me appreciate the soft water at home so much.
OK, so what exactly do you recommend for very soft water? I live in Greenville SC and here is what they say: Greenville Water is considered very soft with total hardness averaging less than 1 grain/gallon. Sooooo, do I need to do a clarify 1x per month? My hair is pretty dry, I just started going curly in April so I am just starting to really pay attention to ingredients, etc with hair products. Also, my hair is dyed....just another wrench to throw in there! Allergic to coconut and glycerin has a VERY bad effect on my hair.....By-the-way, I LOVE your channel!!
YOU ARE SO GOoD AT THIS! SUCH A FUN TEACHER, SO INFORMATIVE, MY LORD! YOU HAVE MADE ME SMILE+I HAVE LEARNED SO MUCH! THANK YOU SO MUCH! BEST WISHES TO YOU WITH ALL YOU DO! KEEP IT UP!
My curls have never looked better and that is all thanks to you!!! Thank you! I’m so glad I found you a couple months ago. I’ve learned so much!!! 😎❤️🙌🏻☺️
Side note: have you ever used miss Jessie’s multi cultural cream? It is, in my opinion, the holy grail of curl cream!!!!! 😅❤️ you should check it out
Mel your the best! I’ve learned so much from you about my very curly hair it’s really starting to look good!
Let’s all give an applause for Mell Brains!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼Thank you Mell for being so smart and educated on hair. You’re saving our lovely curls!
I moved to Lincolnshire UK the water there is horrible left a residue on everything 😢
My hair was wrecked !
So I moved back west the water is great this side of the country and women do have lovely locks around here .
I am so happy your back we miss you ❤❤❤
Im here to stay and not to play 💜💜 happy to be back and so excited about the upcoming videos!! lots on the way xoxo
This is the answer to all my problems.
Wooooooaaaaaaooooooooowww. I actually learned something. My water must be super hard from the feel of my hair and my crazy skin😭
The Not Your Mother’s Curl Talk shampoo, cleansing oil and conditioner contains two chelating ingredients (Disodium Edta and Citric Acid). All are sulfate free.
I love you Mel!! Thank you for helping us curly girls
I missed you terribly last week but am so grateful it was for a good cause. I was worried!!
I missed you guys too!!! ❤️❤️