This Brilliant Line Got Me to Call Instead of Text (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
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I'm guilty…
Like most men, I had fallen into the habit of only texting women instead of picking up the phone and calling.
It’s quick, it’s convenient, and I assumed it was the preferred method to keep in touch between dates - that is, until I met HER…
The woman who completely changed my mind.
The woman who used ONE brilliant line to literally re-train me to stop texting and actually pick up the phone and call her every time.
She didn't have to nag me, or even come right out and ask me…
But this one thing she said stuck in my brain, raised her value, and made me want to treat her differently than all other women.
I’m going to share with you this brilliant line in today’s video - it’s part of a crazy-simple, 3-step process you can use right away to get this same amazing result with the men in your life…
I’ll also reveal the one thing you MUST have if you want to get past the first date and get asked out a second, third and fourth time… and I’ll tell you exactly how to get it.
And don't forget to watch all the way to the end of the video, because I've got HUGE NEWS for you…
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I did this the other day with a guy who had been texting me for two weeks.... his response... pen pal I don't want to be your pen pal! I didn't know I can call. Now he calls and makes jokes with me!! Thank you Matthew.
WHATS THE UPDATE? SPILLL HEHE
@@humanyoda chill.
This worked !!! I’m still in shock !!! This guy is spot on ladies ....
What is a pen pal ?
@@hananeameur8738 basically someone that writes to you, traditionally in letter form. Pen pals inform each other of whats happening in each other's lives. It gives the impression they're just friends and that she just wants to remain that way
Matthew, we are like youtube pals ..... Waits by phone for Matthew to call ....... Still waiting.....
try giving him your number maybe :P
i am chocking by laughter!!!
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Cat S 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hahahaahahahaa
"Competence creates confidence" amen!
You, my friend are a genius!
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The woman who came up with this penpal thing is an absolute genius! 👏🏻
Martina Castelli it's good. But it that exact line had the opposite effect on me in college. A girl said it to me my freshman year of college. I lacked a lot of confidence and didn't know how to respond. Just like the guy in the video did, I took it as a negative. Except due to my lack of confidence it resulted in a permanent friend zone relationship from both ends.
His advice is decent, just know your target.
Martina Castelli Generations of single ladies will be thanking her forever, 😂😂.
Totally!!a person who makes Matthew do homework is a genius for sure!!
I tried it and it worked like miracle
The question is she was smart enough to do something like that but is he still with her?
"Learn the rules like a master so you can break them like an artist.” ― Pablo Picasso
Pretty sure he wasn't referring to dating though.
He is some kind of a genius. How can he know so much about human nature and be so young, that blows my mind.
He's coached thousands of people. So he's noticed a pattern in human nature. I can't remember which video he talked about this.
Yes, the boy just turned 30. He's a savant.
Prisca Nemger yeah he's gifted
I literally just called the guy but hung up in 5 secs because I got scared then he called me back straight away and spoke for over 15mins!! Woop success!
Why on earth is dating so complicated!?
I'm thinking it's because the women and men of yesterday's history really settled. Didn't get to know someone. Hormones or attraction pressure from family were the main cause for marrying. Now women can realize keep dating talking to men and grow in competence... And find out what you like and don't like what man you like allot and eventually give 100% occupancy to and marry and on that honey moon make it complete by consummating that 100% attraction, love, like feeling by giving your all to each other that nite... Just the beginning of expressing love on a greater level. Women and men can hold on to their hearts and little by little know who that one is that they love. Imagine looking at someone and saying I love you (as in mating and sharing life together forever and they came to the same conclusion or vice versa?... Well, actually the guy taking the lead as the woman hopefully been given time enough to feel, sense AND know she does) so many quick hook ups, dating a very short time and getting physical so soon that it is blinding... Mixing up "do we even KNOW them"? Man this guy really helps us out so much like the big brother I didn't realize I needed. Religious leaders don't really spend allot of time on this I see and noticed but of course on the individual person, yes. It's this though that is the foundation of a home (heart of love nest) and then children and this a family... And then families that create a city.. And cities makes a state and states make country .. And all over this world this "foundation" can be started right. Yes, marriages years ago lasted because they waited to express sex on their honeymoon BUT the virginity isn't the thing... It's the man and woman eventually in time knowing who the heck they are attracted to in so many ways and are compatible with and not just attracted to..(the respect for God caused people to give sexual consummation on wedding nite/honeymoon... It's just that the man and woman ended up out of respect staying together..... No matter what which is like a pride thing to if course tell the world... Oh we've been together for 50 years or 60 or 70.... And they mostly are just bearing this vow... allot .... Like some people I saw as a kid... Were rather loveless... No affection I hardly saw.... They didn't like each other.... But by God they were determined to stick together. But even God wants people to get to know about him for (for me personally it took 3 1/2 to study of God n his ways n his personality) then they can say is they love him or not.... So these people ..."back in the day would say I love you too kind of 1/2 way stranger... And VOW and yet for some it may have been the sex can take place.... So a license!!! So they stay together after that out of soooo many reasons. I forgot the word Matthew used... But it's not one person caring and giving and fretting over the relationship. But you give some attention ... See if it is returned.... Give some attention... See if it's reciprocated. Like a lever... This is why true love can happen but that's why it's complicated,...... Can you imagine how your grandma may have asked if this was available to her to see back then.... She may have had the question..."why are marriages so depressing and sad to behold? Why are my parents married? " How grieving God must be. He made it much stress free for the original date. No stress. Just had to put the woman in front of the man. And he knew.
Roberta text wall
because 99.99% of humans are full of shit
People are making a billion dollar business out of 'Dating', so even its not complicated , it is made out to be
Jan G Good question!!
there are many reasons why he texts and does not call:
1. He has been staying with a very strict order of nuns who have asked him to join them in a vow silence. Texting is his only option.
2. He knows the Sister Wives would get jealous if they were to overhear.
3. He is green and red colorblind so he tries to call but keeps hitting "End" instead.
4. There is a really bad echo in his mom's basement.
5. He is hard of hearing since that insane Yanni concert and can only shout now when speaking.
6. He is a phone calling addict and he's on Step 5 of his recovery. One Day at a Time!
7. Guinness World Record Holder for Number of Marbles in Mouth.
8. Afraid to reveal he talks like Mickey Mouse on helium.
9. Shanking his cell mate means no phone calls, only texting, as punishment.
10. He's only setting the bar as low as you allow!!!
oh my gosh you are funny,
OMG! Who are you??? You are SO funny! I am stealing all of these. It's happening, once it's on the internet it's public domain. Regarding #10, I was once asked why I set my bar so high and my answer was that, no matter how LOW I set my bar, every guy always comes in under it. The guy asking the question backed way off and never asked me out. I think I dodged a bullet.
Ha! Yanni.
dead!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your #3.... you only see the green and red icons when you call somebody. They dont appear unless you actually call Or when somebody's calling. Lol
TheShabby Attic ... OMFG your comment was so freaking funny I had to hold myself to keep from peeing ... You have a great sense of humor ... as well as a great expressive writing ability ... Have A Wonderful Life and Thank You for the Laughter!!! ... 🙃 ...
The funniest thing about this video is, I just realized, this is how you train dogs! Seriously. Nuanced correction ("penpal") , and then reward ("hearing your voice...flustered...etc.) for positive result (receiving phone calls and not just texts), and not punishment for an undesired result, but more of a simple rewiring to show the dog what you WOULD like in place of the undesirable trait. Think you on THAT! Other dog trainers.This is so funny to me, bc if you actually called a man a dog he would find it offensive. but if you think in this term, you can guide a man (or person) to give you what you want.
Yep, we're all mammals aren't we? Works with kids, with dogs, with friends, with ladies... main difference being that dogs and kids can't say "ok, I'm not into this so bye". I mean, if one can behave like an actual "trainer" with someone, punishing and stuff, maybe one just got into aaanother parent-kid relationship. Way more usual with the mom-son dynamic, but I'm the sensitive kind of guy so yeah, I've seen the dad-daughter side. THAT was some drama.
PS: it sure doesn't work with my funny senile grandpa. Seems like memory is key.
persona non grata this is classical conditioning (Ivan Pavlov) with sprinkles of operant conditioning (BF Skinner)
persona non grata I highly recommend the 1950's movie 'If a man Answers" with Sandra Dee. So fun for a girls movie night, you can heckle it, enjoy it, and learn how to train your puppy.
Jei Esterline Will check it out! Thanks xx
persona non grata loool
I'd be flustered after talking to him too
I'm gay and I have very loving and stable relationship with my girlfriend, so right now I don't need any advice, yet I have to watch every video from this guy. He's hypnotizingly handsome and his voice sounds like pouring liquid caramel and honey.
PekelnyTvarohacek you are right! He is hypnotizingly handsome and his voice sounds like pouring liquid caramel and honey.
Maybe you're straight?;)
Yes, I'm proud to be straight. :-)
Arc Kocsog cute try ;)
+PekelnyTvarohacek This goes to show that Matthew is so hot that even a lesbian can be charmed and hypnotized lol!
The line I have used after so many texts was a simple comment that was playful. something like, "well, my thumbs are pretty tired. Too bad there isn't an invention to speak to each other as if we were in the same room 😉."
This simple comment, gets the hint across that I'm not willing to just text and I'd like to move forward with a phone call without being bossy or pushy.
"then use your other fingers" lol
Jessica Shelton 😂😂😂 sounds great!
I mean this comment seems passive aggressive whereas just ending the line at “My thumbs are tired!” Would have gotten the point across without the attitude
@@TimTamSlam7 that's where the winky face comes in
I love that! 😃
Tried this... the guy didn't even know what a pen pal was... hahaha I told him to google it and moved on.
Mattie Erby 😂😂🙄
Awesome!😄
😂💀
Yeah... I had to google it too...
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So negative and positive reinforcement. Dating a man is like training a dog.
johnyramble lmao so true
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Hahahhahaha so true
dead on LOL
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Im sooo interested in the women he dates
Camila?
😁😂🤣🤣
@@aryanachoudhury3199 I mean this video was uploaded 5y ago were they 2gether at The time? I think that's something she could say tho
With the right guy, you won’t have to think what to say, how to say etc. it will flow… Matthew is great and I love his advice, but I also know that we don’t have to work too hard to get the guy who is emotionally available, healthy, mature and attracted to us.
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to bring back my ex wife and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems ❤❤❤
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This is reminds of that quote "Success is where preparation and opportunity meet." As always, you're right on the money.
Matthew makes me realize I'm going to be single forever LOL. Each video I realize I could do one thing he suggests, but the rest of the things he suggests are just not me. I feel like I'm lying to a guy if at the beginning of relationship/dating I'm doing things I would never do, and then three months down the road I'm my "true self".
haha.. you are funny
yeah I agree, Its such a mind game! egh! I'm with you starzcharmed, single might be the best way :/
starzcharmed If it makes you feel better my true self makes some men start a new sport called kitchen diving. Single maybe in my future.
starzcharmed i feel like matthew needs to see this.
Bailey Rogers I would agree
So in other words, me writing down topics to take to a dinner party is not stupid or weird, because other people do it, too. I can't even tell you how relieved I am to hear this. I like to be prepared for a lot of situations (dates, speeches at work, power outages, etc.) but my friends are always teasing me about it and then I've felt neurotic and stupid. Not anymore. Thanks so much for this video, I really needed to hear it.
You must be an INTJ too, nerdy about everything, even in dealing with men!
Texting is the modern version of being penpals.
I agree. however there is some information that I need to get out there to the intended person that I live. And I am not always very good with words in person and I am a much better WRITER with English, thank you, than I am at speaking with personal relationships. If I am doing business sometimes the speaking comes naturally or if a more difficult presentation then I have to prepare for it in advance by writing and practicing NY speeches for public speaking.
Damn this woman is a legend 😅
I have spent about 5 years looking for relationship advice after losing myself in a mutually toxic relationship. Have to say, you hit it home here, the first time a light went off. Thank you and much respect for this video.
I love these deep, longer videos, that give us a glimpse into your life and why you do what you do. Very refreshing and such a boost to my day ~ thank you!
This is a a great reminder of confidence and competence. Thanks! I got thinking of how I really miss the days when a call and a date was the only way. When a message was sent direct to the phone, not an app. Also many comments here have given me some things to consider. How lovely the Universe has directed me here. Thank you Mattew Hussey and thanks to the people who have shared perspective. 💛
It didn't work for me, his response was.. "You're my sexy pen pal" 😩
+aya chunn awwww lololol
lmfao lmfao
The struggle is real. I use this a lot an sometimes the guys completely miss the point and it just turns me off.
London In Style I think it only works on guys who actually want to see you in person. Or guys who aren't cheating on their girlfriends/wives.
Maybe add the phrase "pen pal from summer camp" or "My other pen pal is my niece" Make it unsexy with a hint of playfulness.
I just encountered the voice thing recently - after ending an almost 5 hour long skype call (the life of a gamer) I feel this urge to apologise for what I felt was rambling, and her reply was "with that accent, you could talk about anything and I'd be content" - just to point out, I'm Scottish, and this girl is from Florida.
What this said to me, was that while we flirt and are attracted to each other physically, it's not just flirting and we have so much in common that we can bounce from topic to topic, almost seamlessly and completely lose track of time.
Yea the accent helps. If i didnt have a nice accent i would have nothing lol.
Awww - hope you guys remain friends and affectionate and increase that mystical, magical connection :)
Matt Graham aa
aaahh mmuuhh gaad that's cute
I know he is giving advice to women on dating men, but as I man I am learning a ton from Matt. Thank you Matthew! You are competent and confident in what you do, and that in itself is contagious.
My ex was autistic and would put himself in situations where he had to talk with unfamiliar people. If you want to be good at anything you need to practice it
if the guy can't figure out that texting regularly is not hot then forget him.
This is one of those videos that has a potential to change lives. As a guy, my mind has been blown when you spoke about structure and spontaneity. While I am not a very confident person, in social situations I just tend to tell myself just be you and if it doesn't work its not your fault. While on the surface that is not a bad idea but I have had many moments in my life where I felt unprepared for these situations - specifically, I had little control over what I want and should say. The story of "being the best dinner guest" is absolutely crucial as my naive self think people who are very likable and have these amazing stories to tell and when to tell them are rare as it is just in their nature. To my pleasure I was proven wrong. I will try now to bring structure to my spontaneity and balancing my own personality. Thank you Matthew!
Woah, I'm so happy there were no cell phones or text messages when I used to go to this kind of dates. Speaking on the phone was so normal, We used to do it all night long. I loved it.
The guy I'm seeing now calls me every night....we talk from 2 - 7 hours...it's exhausting..haha...wish he would send a text sometimes, but I love his stories
I was born in ‘93 so growing up talking on the phone for hours to anyone was normal but once I got into high school it became less of a thing. Now I just feel totally awkward doing it!
Matthew,
Seeing the positive evolution of your competence and confidence in giving life and dating advice is almost as satisfying as listening to you give it.
Communication is everything to me! What you’re saying hits home completely for me!
5:12 1. Encourage/model behavior
2. Negative association with undesired behavior
3. Positive association with desired behavior
Preparation brings wisdom that bears competence that leads to confidence.
OMG THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I SAID TO THE GUY I LIKED WHO WOULD JUST TEXT ME!! I TOLD HIM "we are like pen pals" and it didn't work...he still kept texting me.....i did it through text not phone tho. but ugh why did it work with your girl. I GIVE UP LOL
I guess the power of your message to him got kinda lost since you were textinh him too. try giving him a call and say that you wanna get out of this pen-pal-zone :)
Yes I agree with Ryan. WhatwouldKarlaSay, it worked with Matthew's girl because she miscalled him, giving him the license to call her back, and then said while they chatting on the phone. It didn't work with you because you texted him. If you want your guy to call you,try giving him a call like Matthew's girl did, and if your guy doesn't answer that's ok. He'll see your miscall on his phone and should call you back. Don't give up! Hope this helps :)
skyblue887 And if he still doesnt respond to that call of you saying hes like a Penpal... Keep it moving... Next guy.
Thanks girlie :)
WhatWouldKarlaSay Wow that guy was clueless. You may have to block him.
she got you to call. but was she able to have a fulfilling relationship with you?
M. Bond I was wondering the same thing? Yea, where’s she today? I’ll tell ya, he did her and dumped her. Quality women do not call FIRST!!
@@lisaaustin4561 Its truth Lisa, quality women dont call first ... i was thinking the same, im tired of making things in order to keep a man into me, its boring.
Girls the message flew over your head
Yes but she is right!! When is the right moment to call out of the blue?? When he's been ghosting me? When he doesn't initiate a conversation, I'm not gonna call him!!😑
I love that Mathew posts his advice all for free on youtube. I will ALWAYS trust him more than anybody with a youtube ad who "has the secrets"
Well said. Best video format yet. Brilliant.
Erin Fearns Heh heh... and i see 3 shades of grey in this video, maybe 4 ---depending on what color Matthew's eyes are. : )
Matthew, I LOVE this episode! I never realized that Competence was a key factor. Because of YOU, I am going to further study how to be more COMPETENT in my love life. You are AMAZING! Thank You.
You are so amazing, you have been bringing a lot of power and magic into my life, great job Matt ❤️️, always know how to get over my weak moments by searching for your advice, now I have reached a lot of peace in my soul
I’m just in love with his voice, he gets every point and he’s hella fascinating.
this was honestly the best video I have seen on this subject. I love the way you talk! A lot of people make these videos and they seem to talk down to the viewers where as with you it felt totally different ! Love it!
I used an exact text message of yours and got the response I wanted! It boost my confidence even more! Competence is the key!
This is something like "penicillin" for what I was sick with. Truly humbling to realize the confidence/competence comparison.
This is probably your best video and can be applied to anything and why being an Adult Learner is so important. Love your stuff. I'm currently dating and using your work daily - literally siting here taking notes. Thank you.
I don't always watch your videos for relationship advice. You're a great motivational speaker and some of your videos inspire me. Your videos really help me build confidence and improve my communication skills! Thanks Matt :)
Who gonna get this guy ( MH ) its gonna be a very very lucky lady in this world
Hmmm... When I say I'd like a guy to phone me not text me, I mean I want him to need to talk to me more often than we meet, to want to hear my voice, to be interested in my opinion. I don't mean he should call me because he feels sexy doing that. For me his motivation is more important than the result.
Thank you for the brilliant advice. It makes so much sense! In fact a guy I’ve been texting, I used the script of being a pen pal. Holy crap he responded so quick. Competence and confident, sending the right signals.
I love how you brought up the beauty "competent" and put effort to have quality conversations. New perspective! Thanks Matt.
Your deep thoughts are so attractive.
This video was BRILLIANT! Your best one to date.
Matthew Hussey is such an effective public speaker that I can sit through a 16 minute video!
I definitely need to break the texting habit. Leave it only for quick flirts and saying I am "On my Way!"
Leila Jayne Yeah but the boundary gets pushed too often.
Wow, the tittle seems so simple but when I watched it, there are alot of things that could help me surviving life. This is not only about men and women, this is actually about life. How we face everything in life. Thank you, Matt. You certainly have a really good understanding about life. You have the competence. It means you had a lot of experiences, willingness to learn, and you're smart. Thanks again for sharing!
Brilliant life tool...competence & confidence! Thank you for sharing Matthew!
I think we need to remember that nobody is perfect or needs to be super competent as long as we are willing to willing to take some risks, be genuinely interested in learning to know about the other person and just be in a good, positive mood and be kind and warm. Also being a good listener is key to good communication.
Hie .. The way u poured ure heart and soul in this clip to communicate and highlight the need for competence and practice to be able to communicate our wishes, feelings and desires eloquently .. Stay blessed mate ... Had I had ure advise when I was blundering through my marriage I would have still been married .. This is not the first clip I've watched nor the last ... And I hope these clips are going to save many hearts from breaking .. May the light be with u
it is amazing how after many years and so many changes your advice still applies. I just saw you thru a video of Lewis and I'm impressed. Thank you for sharing.
Wow! You just blew my mind. I agree with everything you just said and it made me think. Interesting!
Absolutely incredible. Eye-opening.
Competence versus confidence. THANK YOU SO MUCH for shooting down the fallacy that you only need confidence. And yes, more competence increases your confidence. This is what I have been looking for. No more theory - concrete help. Thank you Matthew. This is the video that got me to buy 4 of your programs today!
Omg taking you advise turned the direction of my relationship around in 2 days I honestly thought 2 days ago that this was the end.... Thank you for all the. Clueless women like me in helping us understand men better
Confidence vs Competence, Matthew, you not only just helped with relationship, but also with communicating my thinking in work, school and many aspects
i like this content. very honest and no marketing bull. very true as well. i just wonder what happened to that intelligent lady.
This is one of the most Powerful Messages in TH-cam. Confidence + Compotes = Power!!!! This will help you in every aspect of your life.
This dude is just simply so good. what he was saying about having confidence and competence really applies to so many levels! He's really wise and the stuff that comes out of his mouth are just on point, some how he got me really motivated to finish a law essay i have to get done for uni lol
“I’ll give u an ex-ommmm-pull “
Hahah love the accent
Hahahahahaha
U ARE ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT!!!
Matthew, this was your BEST video yet! And I ordered your programs! This should be the prerequisite for EVERYTHING else!!!!
Dear Huessy,
You've really convinced me nicely in agreement. Confidence vs Competence. Structure vs Spontaneous. Thanks for teaching and illustrating this.. It will change my life.
Hussey* sorry for misspelled.
"Pen pal "😂🙌🏾 this is amazing
he is so nice to listen to
+Reena Jiyong I agree. I don't really agree with everything he said but I like hearing him speak.
Communications major here, knowing how to communicate is so useful and just great knowledge to have. Your videos are so interesting and insightful. Love, thank you.
I found your video insightful. My favorite part was when you mentioned communication. It is absolutely about competence. The rehearsal and competence stems from understanding yourself and knowing what type of interaction you prefer. When women spoke of confidence they were probably correct but expressing yourself is different. Most semantic judo is based on dominance. We usually don't know we do it. It is hard to break through and genuinely express yourself. Believe it or not, honesty and an ability to express yourself is desirable. The ones that tend to desire it are beyond simple manipulation and are rare. So again is honesty and an ability to express yourself. I think you have a wonderful understanding of the wooing dance. I would love a book list
I agree with you Matt to a point. I was friends with this guy via text for over a year before he finally asked me out. We had our first date and it was great. All of our conversations fell into place. Unfortunately he's back to texting now for the last 2 weeks. I'm sick of it. I've used the pen pal line because it's so true. We live 2 hours apart and he's coming to my home this weekend. I told him that we have to sit down and have that uncomfortable conversation about how I feel it's disrespectful to text me verses call. We're in our mid 40's and divorced. If this is what I have to look forward to then I don't want it in my life.
Matthew Hussey ! You're super competent, what makes you a superman in my eyes ;) I've learned so much from you. Thank you!
I loved this. Competence vs confidence is an amazing and such an important mind set!
Matthew, comparing confidence and competence will be a game changer for me. Thanks for sharing your gifts and knowledge. I will also steal this comparison to share with others
Matthew! I found this video really interesting! Thank you! I think what struck me the most even after the brilliant lines that got you to call instead of text, was your overall message of confidence versus competence.
This sparked a question in me that I hope you answer! My question is: how do you stay confident in situations where you don't connect with the people. Maybe its a dinner party, or whatever it may be. Some situation you get yourself into where you can't be totally confident because the people are not responding to what you have to say.
I've had hard times in the past where I will tell compelling stories, or jokes, etc. and the majority respond positively. On the other hand, people may not have my same sense of humor, or may not connect to my story. Then all of a sudden, I shut down. I don't want to say anything else. I am usually a confident person but when I get negative feedback it kind of sucks and I feel less confident and competent. I want to be able to overcome this.
I know you are a very intelligent guy who might be able to help so I thought I'd give this question a shot :P
This was awesome. So many "drops mic" moments. I totally agree. "Confidence means nothing without competence." So true.
I've been on a marathon since last week and let me tell you something, this is one of the videos that I've loved the most! There were things here that I knew sort of knew but really didn't know how to explain 'cause my problem is that I'm competent in certain things but what I lack is confidence, structure allows me to pull through and people find it hard to believe that I'm not all that confident and I have to find a way to gain that confidence. This also helps me 'cause with this I can actually help people understand this about themselves in a certain area of my life where I have to take a leadership roll and I'm always looking for ways for them to ALSO be leaders so if by chance you read were to read this: Matthew Hussey, I'm gonna quote you on this!
Matthew... brilliant. The competence and confidence distinction is so important!.
The styling in this video is great. The colors and accessories are lovely.
When a man only wants to Text it means he is seeing someone else or has a few women on the go at the same time....... So just run away.
Brilliant! So deep and thoughtful! It's not only about love but also about mindset. That's so greattt!!!!!
Please Matthew more videos on communication! I love what you said about being able to influence and reaching desired results through speech, THANK YOU FOR THIS
My grandparents are since 50 years together and they told me the only thing that count is love, respect and apriciation. They didn't had youtube or all these trainers. Just be yourself and say what you feel, real love is unconditional expect nothing. I just talk to the ladys, look them in the eyes and in the first seconds you gonna feel it or not. Of course he says some good things but at the end of the day if you don't love yourself you can't give love to another person.
Love starts with yourself, how you threat you, you gonna threath other. Beings.
if you have to do all that shit he is telling just to get someones attention or love its not worth it.
If you don't get the attention instantly then move on he don't want you.
If he looks to other womens he don't respect you.
If he look away when a nice women is passing he loves you and never want give you the feeling that he likes othe girls.
Santos SkyWalkers wow great advice 😊
It's like having talent without technique, or technical ability.... Very inspiring video. I have a meeting next week, and I was hoping to just wing it! Not now, I'm going to be fully prepared for it. Good luck or should I wish you fulfilment with your future plans👸
You’re amazing! Thank you for all your work! Really love everything you bring about! It seriously helps me grow as a woman that I know I am 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I love your videos! My morning ritual has become viewing your videos before starting any work. Stay competent,confident and attractive :)
exhaustingggg!! 😰
Texting is for cowards.
Dylan A. Kent Or men who don't know how to communicate.
It must be said and know that your work is single handedly the most important part of everyone's life that seriously needs to be focused on & valued more
This is sooo true in ALL areas of life - structure allows spontaneity.
Thank you Mathew for the reminder.
The only problem with all of this is...ppl online, many of them are social misfits. So they feel much better with hiding behind a keyboard..and then resorting to text messg bec they are like technology robots...any technology that comes along, they blindly fall into that trap. So they go from texting online...words are TEXTS, to texting in another format which is dumb. Many ppl are blind followers and they seem reluctant to do what REALLY allows them to connect with others.
Nothing replaces voice inflections, how words are emphasized in regular speech, and body language/eye contact in person. Ppl think technology brings them closer, which is not true, but they are convinced that the untruth is truth.
I agree with him.. Ughh i need these skills.. you rock Matt..
matthew your stuff makes so much sense to me, even as a guy I can learn so much from you... great video!
I love listening to your tips! They help even if you are in a relationship 😁 it just goes to show you that those who actively work on the way they communicate with others get more positive results!