Pro tip: Talking to strangers is like benchpress for your social skills. Start small by asking a grocery store employee where a certain product is or wish the cashier a good day, and eventually build up by making small talk with people in the gym or any other environment.
Some people like to be alone not because they are introverted, but because they went to sit on there phone, if you can’t sit alone without your phone then you are not an introvert but an addicted kid
Summary : - Know Your Strengths. - Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone. - Practice "Active" Listening. - Build Your Communication Skills - Find Your Style ( In Communication ). - Take Breaks.
0:59 Definitely the most important step in my opinion. Trust me once you stop letting your comfort zone control you, your life will be much more fulfilling.
thank you. that's something i need to work on more. sometimes i'd pass up a golden opportunity for simply no other reason other than because it's "something i wouldn't normally do".
so im autistic (mostly on the social part of the spectrum) and the other day, my family held a kind of get-together party at our house and i didnt know most of the people there. I didnt know what to do with myself. i couldnt sit still and i was pacing around my house until eventually i went to my room and i broke down crying. I didnt feel sad, it just happened. I think its because i wanted to be part of it but i was just physically unable to. Because ive been dealing with this same kind of issue my whole life, ive been avoiding every social event i possibly can and because of this, my social skills are servearly lacking compared to my piers and its a major issue for me and because im a teenager, im more self concious of every action i do, everything i say; i have a stutter and sometimes end up making a fool of myself in front of my class when doing presentations. Im also a bit jealous of everyone else because they are all going out partying and im just sat in my room doing nothing. I needed this video. Thanks.
Been in that situation there i was not autistic though, i would suggest you form a small group of people to do one to one conversation, And also keep wingman or woman with you it will make you feel more comfortable, and don't be too conscious that you will hurt with whatever you say. All you need is small practice everyday, Keep smiling face, The main positive is that you know about it and are willing to improve, Don't overthink just act you. I was almost the same this is what help me i formed small groups of people and let them initiate conversation you have to just sit with them and listen first. Now i am 28 doing business, sales& Marketing from talking to just 3-4 people a day to i am talking now 15-50 per day. Believe in yourself you can do it 💪.
Hate to say it but attraction plays a huge role. I’m not black pilled enough to say it’s all that matters but attraction does play seemingly 60-70%. Get in shape, find a style and try to match your style with your personality. The halo effect is real so take advantage of it.
Hey there! Loved your video on improving social skills as an introvert. As someone who's all about embracing the introvert life, I gotta say your tips were spot on! It's amazing how a few small tweaks can make a big difference. Definitely gonna try out your advice and rock those social situations with confidence. Keep up the awesome content!
I am so much introvert that l even think 4 to 5 times before commenting on any video but you gave so much practical advises that made me too comment on this video to appreciate you thank you.
I go to a dance school and I’ve been there for about 5 years, for the past 3 and a half years I was talking to my classmates like a normal person, maybe that was just because I was around 7-9 years old but since around last year it’s just gotten worse and worse, and it doesn’t help that I don’t share many interests with the people around me, but I am at the point where I went 3 whole dance shows without talking to a single person in my class, and now I’m realising that I can’t go on like this, so thank you for these tips that may help me restart my social life in my dance class.
I’m actually an introvert but I really enjoy time with people and don’t have problems with communication. I just define me as introvert because I’m productive alone.
The problem for me is that I'm scared to speak cause of my speech defect, this is why I'm almost always quiet. everytime i say something most of the people say if i can repeat cause they didn't understand
Can you make a video about being able to engage in more deep conversations as an extrovert. I’m a pretty extroverted guy, I have no problems steering a conversation with multiple people in it or leading an interesting conversation, but every time I try to engage in deeper conversations with anyone, they assume I’m joking or change the topic, as if I’m ‘the guy to have surface-level conversations with’
I've been socially awkward my whole life, I hate it with passion. I take so long to be confortable around someone and to start to actually act normal without making it all weird all the time. It honestly just makes my life so much harder. Job interviews, small talk, parties... I just overthink every effing detail and get mortified about my day every night before bed. I am so sick of being this way, but I just cannot for the life of me stop being so socially weird. I try to smile and be nice, and instead I look like I'm about sh*t myself and end up giving the worse first impression known to man kind. Natural extroverts won lottery!
People complicate these issues. Trust me. I thought this problem for many years. I have nt had felt genuine connection for nearly a decade of my life since I was stuck addicted to videogames since I was 7. I barely developed my social skills naturally. I watched tons of videos like this. Read books. Even put myself in discord to analyze how a conversation works. And all that effort has given me the conclusion that: ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS UNDERSTAND THE BROADER OR DEEPER INTENTION OF A CONVERSATION OR A CONVERSATION TOPIC AND ASK QUESTIONS AND COMMENT FROM THERE. LISTENING IS 10% OF UNDERSTANDING THE CONTENT AND 90% OF UNDERSTANDING WHAT PEOPLE ARE TRYING TO DO It is that simple. A stranger is talking about how difficult his job is? That could just mean that he is complaining and want to look for another job. How do you respond? You can complain as well and give them job recommendations. Your classmate is talking about his embarrasing experience? That could just mean he is trying to make you laugh and make you feel less intimidated by him. How do you respond? You could act more friendly and tease him a bit and make jokes yourself. It takes prwctice to make this second nature bur once its automatic, you wont need these tips online anymore
do u got a video abt social anxiety and how to get around that, because while I am an introvert, I also have social anxiety and that is the major reason why I struggle to make conversation
There's nothing called an Introvert or an Extrovert! You are not a product labeled with a name and you will work as what is written in the description of that product! You become what you think.
Exactly, and I don't think the concept of introvert and extrovert even existed before 200 years. People of those times didn't have to feel bad about being introvert or extrovert
@@uzairlol Because there was no matrix at that time These all labels introvert, extrovert, intj, alpha, gamma, sigma, loner, nerd are created by matrix to control us. If you will think I am an introvert, even if you aren't really then your subconscious will make you an introvert and you will always remain silent If you will think i am an extrovert and lets say you hate intoversion. then your subconscious will make it impossible for you to ever stay quite, you will always speak even when it is necessary.
Hi. Can you please make a video related to baldness or how to embrace it. I have hair, but I'm losing and will be bald soon. So I'm kinda insecure about that. Hope you see this comment.
I practiced talking to people by saying "thank you ___" to the starbucks barrista and calling them by nametag. It took me several weeks to do that comfortably.
That's great. Keep going. Take small steps out of your comfort zone and take breaks when you feel too overwhelmed. Next stage is asking about their day/the weather and the step after that is giving them a genuine compliment.
just practice bro, no youtube video is going to fix social anxiety. i used to be very shy to the point where my heart would beat out of my chest if i was talking to someone i didn’t know. first talk to family members, then friends, random people in public and an attractive woman. it’s like progressive overload in the gym
@@vibin4092I also feel the same way, my heart beat rockets up when I'm talking to someone and I end up messing up, is there any way I can overcome this and become an extrovert who talks to everyone as if he's everyone's childhood friend?
@@uzairlol it depends on where you mess up. in my experience, i always got very nervous talking to attractive women. but when i was talking to my close friends its like i came alive and became extroverted all of a sudden. my advice to you is, start building your way up slowly, so first practice what you find easy then slowly ramp it up and start talking to people you get nervous around. for example, you might get very nervous when at a party talking to a cute girl, so practice small talking a bit to the cashier in the store that you dont find that attractive. youll get better over time!
Problem with me is my conversations are like a flat line. I can do small talk but I can't seem to connect people after that and I'm naturally not a funny guy. I have a very logical mind so my responses are the same
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Pro tip: Talking to strangers is like benchpress for your social skills. Start small by asking a grocery store employee where a certain product is or wish the cashier a good day, and eventually build up by making small talk with people in the gym or any other environment.
an actual useful tip thanks
This really does work
Please give me more examples to talk to strangers
It works
Best tip I've heard thanks
Need this. Definitely not shy. Love being alone tho. I’m ready to leave parties 5 minutes after arriving 😂
Fr, I love being alone
same here, ppl are annoying
@@lifeweb3898 facts
@@lifeweb3898yep idk why but I just can’t get along😢
Some people like to be alone not because they are introverted, but because they went to sit on there phone, if you can’t sit alone without your phone then you are not an introvert but an addicted kid
Summary :
- Know Your Strengths.
- Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone.
- Practice "Active" Listening.
- Build Your Communication Skills
- Find Your Style ( In Communication ).
- Take Breaks.
-get out of your comfort zone
-know your strenghts
-interact more in social events
-listen actively
-find your communication style
-take breaks
0:59 Definitely the most important step in my opinion. Trust me once you stop letting your comfort zone control you, your life will be much more fulfilling.
thank you. that's something i need to work on more. sometimes i'd pass up a golden opportunity for simply no other reason other than because it's "something i wouldn't normally do".
Incorrect
so im autistic (mostly on the social part of the spectrum) and the other day, my family held a kind of get-together party at our house and i didnt know most of the people there. I didnt know what to do with myself. i couldnt sit still and i was pacing around my house until eventually i went to my room and i broke down crying. I didnt feel sad, it just happened. I think its because i wanted to be part of it but i was just physically unable to. Because ive been dealing with this same kind of issue my whole life, ive been avoiding every social event i possibly can and because of this, my social skills are servearly lacking compared to my piers and its a major issue for me and because im a teenager, im more self concious of every action i do, everything i say; i have a stutter and sometimes end up making a fool of myself in front of my class when doing presentations.
Im also a bit jealous of everyone else because they are all going out partying and im just sat in my room doing nothing.
I needed this video. Thanks.
Dude the fact that you are autistic and are watching this channel top improve yourself are HUGE. I wish you the best it life!
Me too fellow autistic brother, it's hell for us kinds of people.
Been in that situation there i was not autistic though, i would suggest you form a small group of people to do one to one conversation, And also keep wingman or woman with you it will make you feel more comfortable, and don't be too conscious that you will hurt with whatever you say.
All you need is small practice everyday, Keep smiling face, The main positive is that you know about it and are willing to improve, Don't overthink just act you.
I was almost the same this is what help me i formed small groups of people and let them initiate conversation you have to just sit with them and listen first. Now i am 28 doing business, sales& Marketing from talking to just 3-4 people a day to i am talking now 15-50 per day. Believe in yourself you can do it 💪.
how old are you ?
Social skills are necessary. Can be implemented into any aspect of your life!
Hate to say it but attraction plays a huge role. I’m not black pilled enough to say it’s all that matters but attraction does play seemingly 60-70%. Get in shape, find a style and try to match your style with your personality. The halo effect is real so take advantage of it.
Hey there! Loved your video on improving social skills as an introvert. As someone who's all about embracing the introvert life, I gotta say your tips were spot on! It's amazing how a few small tweaks can make a big difference. Definitely gonna try out your advice and rock those social situations with confidence. Keep up the awesome content!
Man watching all these at night to give me motivation and when I wake up all motivation gone and all things forgotten i should really try to focus
I am so much introvert that l even think 4 to 5 times before commenting on any video but you gave so much practical advises that made me too comment on this video to appreciate you thank you.
My problems are I either don't know what to say or I give short and straightforward replies that don't allow me to continue conversing
I have that problem too and it ends up in a little akward situation
Maybe you should try to delve into knowing more by reading up or researching things you find interest in. The truth is, you can't know everything.
the problem is i feel tired after like 10min of socializing 😥
same
I go to a dance school and I’ve been there for about 5 years, for the past 3 and a half years I was talking to my classmates like a normal person, maybe that was just because I was around 7-9 years old but since around last year it’s just gotten worse and worse, and it doesn’t help that I don’t share many interests with the people around me, but I am at the point where I went 3 whole dance shows without talking to a single person in my class, and now I’m realising that I can’t go on like this, so thank you for these tips that may help me restart my social life in my dance class.
I’m actually an introvert but I really enjoy time with people and don’t have problems with communication. I just define me as introvert because I’m productive alone.
The problem for me is that I'm scared to speak cause of my speech defect, this is why I'm almost always quiet. everytime i say something most of the people say if i can repeat cause they didn't understand
Can you make a video about being able to engage in more deep conversations as an extrovert. I’m a pretty extroverted guy, I have no problems steering a conversation with multiple people in it or leading an interesting conversation, but every time I try to engage in deeper conversations with anyone, they assume I’m joking or change the topic, as if I’m ‘the guy to have surface-level conversations with’
wow, didnt know extroverts have problems too. this is the exact opposite for me
Its simple, just talk less and don't force it. Not many people wanna have deep talks anyway
You're right, extroverted people are the people to have surface level conversations with
I've been socially awkward my whole life, I hate it with passion. I take so long to be confortable around someone and to start to actually act normal without making it all weird all the time. It honestly just makes my life so much harder. Job interviews, small talk, parties... I just overthink every effing detail and get mortified about my day every night before bed. I am so sick of being this way, but I just cannot for the life of me stop being so socially weird. I try to smile and be nice, and instead I look like I'm about sh*t myself and end up giving the worse first impression known to man kind. Natural extroverts won lottery!
Hi have I a good question as I am also an introvert I guess...how long have you been facing these socializing issues ?🤔
As a introvert. I am great 1 on 1 conversations, but pretty terrible in groups. It could be a ADHD thing
People complicate these issues. Trust me. I thought this problem for many years. I have nt had felt genuine connection for nearly a decade of my life since I was stuck addicted to videogames since I was 7. I barely developed my social skills naturally.
I watched tons of videos like this. Read books. Even put myself in discord to analyze how a conversation works. And all that effort has given me the conclusion that:
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS UNDERSTAND THE BROADER OR DEEPER INTENTION OF A CONVERSATION OR A CONVERSATION TOPIC AND ASK QUESTIONS AND COMMENT FROM THERE.
LISTENING IS 10% OF UNDERSTANDING THE CONTENT AND 90% OF UNDERSTANDING WHAT PEOPLE ARE TRYING TO DO
It is that simple. A stranger is talking about how difficult his job is? That could just mean that he is complaining and want to look for another job. How do you respond? You can complain as well and give them job recommendations.
Your classmate is talking about his embarrasing experience? That could just mean he is trying to make you laugh and make you feel less intimidated by him.
How do you respond? You could act more friendly and tease him a bit and make jokes yourself.
It takes prwctice to make this second nature bur once its automatic, you wont need these tips online anymore
This is gonna help me a lot, thank you😇
internet always talk about introvert what about people who are genuinely shy and have social anxiety.
They are done
You have to conquer that, that’s just another extreme extent of an introvert.
Watching this is coming from a realist introvert like myself.
As an introvert I recomend people read the book Influence and I am also and introvert but I exel at social interactions
0:11 - San andreas
do u got a video abt social anxiety and how to get around that, because while I am an introvert, I also have social anxiety and that is the major reason why I struggle to make conversation
if you are an autistic introvert with adhd, forget about it.
There's nothing called an Introvert or an Extrovert! You are not a product labeled with a name and you will work as what is written in the description of that product! You become what you think.
Exactly, and I don't think the concept of introvert and extrovert even existed before 200 years. People of those times didn't have to feel bad about being introvert or extrovert
@@uzairlol Because there was no matrix at that time
These all labels introvert, extrovert, intj, alpha, gamma, sigma, loner, nerd are created by matrix to control us.
If you will think I am an introvert, even if you aren't really then your subconscious will make you an introvert and you will always remain silent
If you will think i am an extrovert and lets say you hate intoversion. then your subconscious will make it impossible for you to ever stay quite, you will always speak even when it is necessary.
That's great if you can believe in this...
Hi. Can you please make a video related to baldness or how to embrace it. I have hair, but I'm losing and will be bald soon. So I'm kinda insecure about that. Hope you see this comment.
These skills are very real guys
Bro tell us about how to approach people in next video here we understood the mindset next should be practical skills
I practiced talking to people by saying "thank you ___" to the starbucks barrista and calling them by nametag. It took me several weeks to do that comfortably.
That's great. Keep going. Take small steps out of your comfort zone and take breaks when you feel too overwhelmed. Next stage is asking about their day/the weather and the step after that is giving them a genuine compliment.
Imma do this too!👏
Fine advice and input
Why am I watching this as an extrovert with good social skills
Boy be puttin 10/10 dudes on the thumbnail but we know most of us don't have that jawline
my classmate dont like to talk to me lol
Can you make a video for people who are actually shy and antisocial 😅
just practice bro, no youtube video is going to fix social anxiety. i used to be very shy to the point where my heart would beat out of my chest if i was talking to someone i didn’t know. first talk to family members, then friends, random people in public and an attractive woman. it’s like progressive overload in the gym
@@vibin4092I also feel the same way, my heart beat rockets up when I'm talking to someone and I end up messing up, is there any way I can overcome this and become an extrovert who talks to everyone as if he's everyone's childhood friend?
@@uzairlol it depends on where you mess up. in my experience, i always got very nervous talking to attractive women. but when i was talking to my close friends its like i came alive and became extroverted all of a sudden.
my advice to you is, start building your way up slowly, so first practice what you find easy then slowly ramp it up and start talking to people you get nervous around. for example, you might get very nervous when at a party talking to a cute girl, so practice small talking a bit to the cashier in the store that you dont find that attractive. youll get better over time!
@@vibin4092 thanks a lot! Will definitely try that out
Im an introvert and try self improvment
Problem with me is my conversations are like a flat line. I can do small talk but I can't seem to connect people after that and I'm naturally not a funny guy. I have a very logical mind so my responses are the same
Power
Appreciate the video, but is that buzzing/clinking? sound effect? It reminds of a video game, but I'm not sure.
where do you get your editing assets? I'm trying to become an editor.
The reality is that is no such thing as a vert.
bro i have been introvert for whole life but now I want to more social but i can't find occasion to connects? what to do
Same
@@himawanthsomarowthu9897from where?
Did u change ur editor?
This time the editing was better
Can you suggest some books on this?
4:47 am
Its so sad im searching for this bruh
can we get an hot nerd aesthetic?
No
No
Watch any looks maxing video. Put on glasses. Boom there you go
@@Gunnatello
Ngl from my personal experience, the most extroverted and popular-esque people I know wear glasses.
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I high key feel like i have social anxiety
Thank you for making this
Partnership skills me and my family we work together as team my team is Heather ha msmojo