It's truly remarkable how this video found me at the exact moment i was ready to hear exactly this. The algorithm is FREAKY sometimes. This was beautifully said and simplified something that A LOT of people, teachings and myself included, have a tendency to make extremely complex and difficult. Thank you, an angel in disguise ❤
I really appreciate this comment man. I know right? I believe the universal algorithm collaborates with TH-cam 😂 Thanks again my friend, have a beautiful day 🙏💚
You are a gem, never heard this before! I have to go through major lung surgery and I had hated the thought with a passion, and have been trying to block it out of mind. So, just accepting it as a beautiful gift from life seems to be very good, better than suffering through rejecting it. In other words, it's just what is.
Yes. I’m learning to let go. This physical is just illusion. Home is all around us. During astral and OBE but OBE is better during paralysis because u see home for real. The doors are portals and mirrors. Home is outside this vessel when it sleeps. Check out DARIUS J WRIGHT FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO LEARN THIS. ME I HAVE PARALYSIS ABOUT TWICE OR THREE TIMES A YEAR. BUT DARIUS BREAKS IT DOWN AND TEACHES HOW TO SHUT THE BODY DOWN SO U BE FULLY CONSCIOUS WHEN THE SOUL GOES OUT EVERY NIGHT. because WE HALF TO CHARGE IN THE FIELD WHILE THIS VESSEL. CHARGES THROUGH CONSTRUCT. SOON AS WILL KNOW ITS BEEN A GAME MUCH LOVE
Brilliant observation which I also accidentally fell into. We are the authority of our own lives. I had bad cptsd and tried variius therapists who really didnt help one bit so I took charge of my own healing because suddenly I realised only I know myself. I healed my cptsd with intense biographical journaling and shadow work. Im free of all but one plaguing reaction but this is very helpful thank you Saja. 🙏
Thank you for sharing. My journey of self-healing sounds similar although I was lucky to have been able to be with therapists who did not come from a place of power or knowledge but empowered me to heal myself. Because powerlessness was at the root of my own post traumatic stress. There have been periods of effort and periods of effortlessness, it’s all been relevant. Intense biographical journaling and shadow work really has been a gift, so has doing nothing and just being present with what is in between.
I could have written this… a few years ago I was watching a documentary (marwencol) about a victim of violence who realized he absolutely had to heal himself (the assistance, modalities and system were failing him) and he set about it in a beautifully unconventional way and it simply clicked that we do have this capacity inside ourselves and it’s always there and just a matter of sincerely seeking it.
As someone who isn’t so much avoidant but more obsessive about things, I thank you for your insights. For much of my life I felt i needed to take responsibility for these thoughts and feelings but trying to ‘solve’ them. Or constantly ‘checking’ them to make sure they don’t return, which of course made them return. Just by doing that. It’s really just clicked for me now while watching this that I obsess over thoughts and feelings because I desperately want to get rid of them/don’t want them to return. It’s quite a covert intention. It’s like frequently looking/checking a mirror to make sure the man in the mirror has gone away. The reason he keeps appearing in the mirror is because you keep looking. The suffering created by hating thoughts and feelings isn’t talked about as much in spiritual teachings. So I appreciate you talking about it Thank you sir
I also like how you said we need to be the authority in our lives. I struggle with the uncertainty of if my own wisdom is enough. So I always look to others for guidance. It feels scarier to trust yourself somehow
Seeing and hearing, emotions, desires, and opinions are all internal thieves. But if the inner mind is awake and alert, sitting aloof in the middle of it all, then these plunderers change and become members of the household. -- Hong Zicheng
Wonderful🙏 Just the other day I read someone describing an emotion as 'e-motion' = energy in motion. If the mind steps out of the game and we allow it to just flow through it's in and out so quickly! Like a cloud in the sky. Looking forward to the big laugh we'll all have once we come to the ultimate realization of how simple life has always been!
By the term "consistent solution" you used, I understand it as applying 'mindfulness and equanimity' to all situations we might face in life. Not that we have to "continually" apply it to the same issue. Sajafendel didn't get it or didn't want to try to understand what you meant.
If you’re depressed in this way you’re likely resisting the urge for change. So you’re likely in a suppression. You need a new environment, you need to make changes like make new friends, start the hobby you wanted to to when you were younger, movement s need to be made. It’s likely from the depressed perspective “I don’t want to do anything though, I have no desires, everything is dull” that’s when you know you need to do things more than ever. Create new opportunities and experiences and the emotions will come back.
But what if something bad is happening to us , like if we’re in a toxic situation, like my sister being super hateful , am I just supposed to allow it and let it happen and keep forgiving the person even they gives me a lot of pain ? Aren’t we supposed to just distance and detach ourselves from them? But I think even after distancing it continues to hurt me (suffering)
You’ve misunderstood what I mean by forgiveness and acceptance. Think of it like this. Forgiveness and acceptance in the inside, right action, justice and progress on the outside. It is not right action, justice or progress on the outside if you don’t take necessary action to distance yourself from toxic people and allow them to walk all over you. we have to be able to say yes to doing that. Most people don’t because they are scared. That would be resistance. To take action to move away or resolve would be an expression of forgiveness and acceptance. It means it’s been resolved in you and therefore you can move on.
We dont need to necessarily go back into painful trauma. If one gets a thorn stuck in their leg, we dont have to go back to the shorn bush to uproot it. Likewise we dont even ultimately need to address the trauma directly. This approach is about being an all forgiving welcome to all of our experience irrespective of whether it’s labelled trauma, an emotion, the sound of a bird, or a sensation 🙏 Hope this clarifies.
Emotions are energy and energy has effects. Strong emotions can do much more than a hand pressing a thigh. They can cause your body to violently shake. They can make your diaphragm convulse-laughter. They can make your eyes spontaneously discharge fluids. And over time they can give you, if unexpressed, ulcers and heart disease. I can’t agree with your conclusion as to emotions being physiologically nothing.
I agree with you, trapped emotion can cause those things. However it doesn’t mean your analysis is correct. You’ll disagree with my ultimate analysis even more. I’d go as far as saying emotions are made of consciousness. If you break it down all the way they are made of happiness itself. Emotions may seem to cause many things to happen, but that doesn’t mean the stuff they are made of is something solid and dense. It also doesn’t mean they have an intensity. I would suggest trying the investigation fully before making any assumptions based on concepts. That’s the whole point of the investigation to begin with. To remove the concepts 🙏
@@sajafendel Hmm. I actually agree that everything is made of consciousness-why are you assuming that I would disagree with that? Saying everything is consciousness doesn’t mean emotions don’t have relative intensity or that somehow an externally applied sensory experience-touching your leg-has more “intensity” than any emotion. The touching your leg is only consciousness too. You seem to be reifying the physical in the name of the immaterial. Trapped emotions acquire a density even though released that energy reveals itself to be just awareness. It’s a relative reality, to be sure, but I haven’t found the assertion of that to be helpful in the resolving of those patterns of energy. Your personal energy is nice and I’m not saying you aren’t offering a process that may release these patterns for some. After some years of experimenting though with various Western nonduality teachers, I find myself rather disillusioned with this general approach.
Then you’re misunderstanding what I’m saying brother. If you’re feeling like shit, and this approach doesn’t work, then I suggest therapy. Because the fundamental part of this approach, the part where I mention about uprooting the truth of the thought, will stop You feeling like shit in the first place making what you’re saying redundant because that’s not what I’m suggesting at all. If the thought that makes you feel like shit can’t be uprooted, then like I said, therapy may be required.
Man! Didn't want to offend you here! It's just sometimes this advice like everything is for you and embrace the pain is hard to swallow, even if it is still the right thing to do! So all good, Saja! ❤
@@submodality haha I’m not offended at all brother, I’m trying to help you understand the point clearly, because I know you’ve been marking with this for a while 🙏💚 I don’t know what you thought I was offended by, but what I said was genuine 🫶
Feel what you feel. Don't go looking for anything, be still and it will come to you. As what you feel presents itself in that moment, just experience the sensation without making a judgement about it. This is what " it is what it is" really is about. This takes practice to get it.
Needed this. Reminds me of “we have no false feelings, only false stories”. Lovely🙏🏼
I haven’t heard that before but I love that! Thanks for sharing :)
It's truly remarkable how this video found me at the exact moment i was ready to hear exactly this. The algorithm is FREAKY sometimes. This was beautifully said and simplified something that A LOT of people, teachings and myself included, have a tendency to make extremely complex and difficult. Thank you, an angel in disguise ❤
I really appreciate this comment man. I know right? I believe the universal algorithm collaborates with TH-cam 😂
Thanks again my friend, have a beautiful day 🙏💚
Its pure grace. It has led me all the way to here. Many avenues, one path. God is everything and it astounds me every day.
You are a gem, never heard this before! I have to go through major lung surgery and I had hated the thought with a passion, and have been trying to block it out of mind. So, just accepting it as a beautiful gift from life seems to be very good, better than suffering through rejecting it. In other words, it's just what is.
Thank you for the comment my friend, I appreciate it :) And yes, you're right!
Its not about healing, its about allowing everything to flow. Because we’re not damaged, but stuck trying to avoid.
Yes. I’m learning to let go. This physical is just illusion. Home is all around us. During astral and OBE but OBE is better during paralysis because u see home for real. The doors are portals and mirrors. Home is outside this vessel when it sleeps. Check out DARIUS J WRIGHT FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO LEARN THIS. ME I HAVE PARALYSIS ABOUT TWICE OR THREE TIMES A YEAR. BUT DARIUS BREAKS IT DOWN AND TEACHES HOW TO SHUT THE BODY DOWN SO U BE FULLY CONSCIOUS WHEN THE SOUL GOES OUT EVERY NIGHT. because WE HALF TO CHARGE IN THE FIELD WHILE THIS VESSEL. CHARGES THROUGH CONSTRUCT. SOON AS WILL KNOW ITS BEEN A GAME MUCH LOVE
Brilliant observation which I also accidentally fell into. We are the authority of our own lives. I had bad cptsd and tried variius therapists who really didnt help one bit so I took charge of my own healing because suddenly I realised only I know myself. I healed my cptsd with intense biographical journaling and shadow work. Im free of all but one plaguing reaction but this is very helpful thank you Saja. 🙏
This is beautiful dawn! Thank you for sharing, glad I could help a little bit with the residues :)
Thank you for sharing. My journey of self-healing sounds similar although I was lucky to have been able to be with therapists who did not come from a place of power or knowledge but empowered me to heal myself. Because powerlessness was at the root of my own post traumatic stress. There have been periods of effort and periods of effortlessness, it’s all been relevant. Intense biographical journaling and shadow work really has been a gift, so has doing nothing and just being present with what is in between.
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@@sajafendel ❤
I could have written this… a few years ago I was watching a documentary (marwencol) about a victim of violence who realized he absolutely had to heal himself (the assistance, modalities and system were failing him) and he set about it in a beautifully unconventional way and it simply clicked that we do have this capacity inside ourselves and it’s always there and just a matter of sincerely seeking it.
Cê me fez ficar tão em paz… obrigado 🙏
As someone who isn’t so much avoidant but more obsessive about things, I thank you for your insights.
For much of my life I felt i needed to take responsibility for these thoughts and feelings but trying to ‘solve’ them. Or constantly ‘checking’ them to make sure they don’t return, which of course made them return. Just by doing that.
It’s really just clicked for me now while watching this that I obsess over thoughts and feelings because I desperately want to get rid of them/don’t want them to return. It’s quite a covert intention. It’s like frequently looking/checking a mirror to make sure the man in the mirror has gone away. The reason he keeps appearing in the mirror is because you keep looking.
The suffering created by hating thoughts and feelings isn’t talked about as much in spiritual teachings. So I appreciate you talking about it
Thank you sir
I also like how you said we need to be the authority in our lives. I struggle with the uncertainty of if my own wisdom is enough. So I always look to others for guidance. It feels scarier to trust yourself somehow
Beautifully explained.. Thank you ❤🙏
My pleasure 🙏🫶 thanks for the support! 🌅
Thank you so much. You are amazing ❤
Thanks my friend 🫶 so are you!
The way you’ve explained this has made it finally click for me, thank you so much
I’m so glad, thanks for sharing this Rhiannon! 🙏💚
Totally agree ❤❤
Recognizing what you're feeling without judgment. It’s important to be aware of all your emotions, whether they're positive, negative, or neutral.
Absolutely 🙏 and not just that, but all experience.
Dude, I love your insights!
Glad you like brother! :)
I really like the way you put it. Forgiveness is so strong, if you really do it as you stipulated it.
Absolutely man 🙏 I appreciate the comment.
Seeing and hearing, emotions, desires, and opinions are all internal thieves. But if the inner mind is awake and alert, sitting aloof in the middle of it all, then these plunderers change and become members of the household. -- Hong Zicheng
Wonderful🙏
Just the other day I read someone describing an emotion as 'e-motion' = energy in motion. If the mind steps out of the game and we allow it to just flow through it's in and out so quickly! Like a cloud in the sky.
Looking forward to the big laugh we'll all have once we come to the ultimate realization of how simple life has always been!
Haha yep 😂 thanks for the comment my friend! I agree.
The tooth fairy analogy somehow really made the processing emotion thing finally click for me. ❤
I’m so glad max! Thanks for the comment my friend. Wishing you peace 🙏🌅
Thanks for sharing the example from your childhood. It gave me perspective
Of course! Thanks for the comment Astrid :)
Thank you! Very helpful. I'd love to view the full class you mentioned, but I don't see the link, tks
thank you! im somehow in tears
I’m glad it resonated 🤗 thanks for the comment 🙏
Well..I have been doing this wrong my whole life! Thank You 🙏 😊❤
My pleasure Kathleen, thanks for the comment 🫶
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Nice insight and analogies brother 😎
I appreciate the comment man! Thank you :)
I feel my emotions without any conscious thought. I don't feel awe or any other emotion that feels good.
great video
Thanks brother
Great one Saja. Thanks so much for sharing this.
My pleasure thank you for the comment and support 🙏
love this dude! By the way, what software do you use to get the captions on the screen in live time?
I appreciate it brother 🙏 I use veed. Unfortunately I don’t recommend them. Find another software if possible.
You are speaking A Course
In Miracles forgiveness keith k😊😊
I know of it but no familiar with its content. Thanks for sharing :) 🙏
Very nice
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The startless path! gonna shake things up fr
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I love this video ❤❤
Thank you 🙏💚
mindfulness AND equanimity is the simple, consistent solution
A solution shouldn’t need consistent effort brother.
@@sajafendel have you heard of "effortless effort"? Consistent in all useful teachings, is what I meant.
There is an effort needed, or an intention if you will, to retrain how one uses their attention. This is true for over 99% of the population.
By the term "consistent solution" you used, I understand it as applying 'mindfulness and equanimity' to all situations we might face in life. Not that we have to "continually" apply it to the same issue. Sajafendel didn't get it or didn't want to try to understand what you meant.
SPOT ON!
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Nice video !! You really help !!!
I’m glad :) thanks for the comment!
This is SOO good
I appreciate the comment brother 🙏🌅
From the transcript: "... it's like finding out Santa Claus is real ..."
I fucken knew it!!!
Lmao I need to take a closer look at this damn subtitle transcript 🥲🤣🤣
What if you don’t feel emotions but are depressed/sad. How do we process that?
If you’re depressed in this way you’re likely resisting the urge for change.
So you’re likely in a suppression.
You need a new environment, you need to make changes like make new friends, start the hobby you wanted to to when you were younger, movement s need to be made.
It’s likely from the depressed perspective “I don’t want to do anything though, I have no desires, everything is dull” that’s when you know you need to do things more than ever.
Create new opportunities and experiences and the emotions will come back.
Journal to the depth that you find exactly what is causing your sadness and dont stop until you do. Its all inside you.
But what if something bad is happening to us , like if we’re in a toxic situation, like my sister being super hateful , am I just supposed to allow it and let it happen and keep forgiving the person even they gives me a lot of pain ? Aren’t we supposed to just distance and detach ourselves from them?
But I think even after distancing it continues to hurt me (suffering)
You’ve misunderstood what I mean by forgiveness and acceptance.
Think of it like this.
Forgiveness and acceptance in the inside, right action, justice and progress on the outside.
It is not right action, justice or progress on the outside if you don’t take necessary action to distance yourself from toxic people and allow them to walk all over you.
we have to be able to say yes to doing that. Most people don’t because they are scared. That would be resistance.
To take action to move away or resolve would be an expression of forgiveness and acceptance. It means it’s been resolved in you and therefore you can move on.
@ thankyou so much for your valuable advice God bless you ❤️
Nice one.
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Go back into painful trauma. Add self love, forgiveness
We dont need to necessarily go back into painful trauma.
If one gets a thorn stuck in their leg, we dont have to go back to the shorn bush to uproot it.
Likewise we dont even ultimately need to address the trauma directly.
This approach is about being an all forgiving welcome to all of our experience irrespective of whether it’s labelled trauma, an emotion, the sound of a bird, or a sensation 🙏
Hope this clarifies.
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Emotions are energy and energy has effects. Strong emotions can do much more than a hand pressing a thigh. They can cause your body to violently shake. They can make your diaphragm convulse-laughter. They can make your eyes spontaneously discharge fluids. And over time they can give you, if unexpressed, ulcers and heart disease. I can’t agree with your conclusion as to emotions being physiologically nothing.
I agree with you, trapped emotion can cause those things.
However it doesn’t mean your analysis is correct.
You’ll disagree with my ultimate analysis even more.
I’d go as far as saying emotions are made of consciousness. If you break it down all the way they are made of happiness itself.
Emotions may seem to cause many things to happen, but that doesn’t mean the stuff they are made of is something solid and dense. It also doesn’t mean they have an intensity.
I would suggest trying the investigation fully before making any assumptions based on concepts. That’s the whole point of the investigation to begin with. To remove the concepts 🙏
@@sajafendel Hmm. I actually agree that everything is made of consciousness-why are you assuming that I would disagree with that? Saying everything is consciousness doesn’t mean emotions don’t have relative intensity or that somehow an externally applied sensory experience-touching your leg-has more “intensity” than any emotion. The touching your leg is only consciousness too. You seem to be reifying the physical in the name of the immaterial. Trapped emotions acquire a density even though released that energy reveals itself to be just awareness. It’s a relative reality, to be sure, but I haven’t found the assertion of that to be helpful in the resolving of those patterns of energy. Your personal energy is nice and I’m not saying you aren’t offering a process that may release these patterns for some. After some years of experimenting though with various Western nonduality teachers, I find myself rather disillusioned with this general approach.
I just found a maggot in my peanut butter. I accept the event. And then i dug it out. And then i discarded it into my trash bin. What a feeling.
Whoa.
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Dont get it
Don’t worry there’s nothing to get
where are all these 20 yo gurus coming from, I expect a child explain dharma to me next
If a new born child could speak, it would be a guru.
@@juang4618whoa. A child fresh from creation.
Yes so true and funny
At the age of 3 some children can be extremely wise but they tend to lose their wisdom as they grow up
Vipassana
You know, you are probably right. Still "hey I'm feeling like shit! Isn't this amazing to experience?" Ahm well not so sure about that
Then you’re misunderstanding what I’m saying brother.
If you’re feeling like shit, and this approach doesn’t work, then I suggest therapy.
Because the fundamental part of this approach, the part where I mention about uprooting the truth of the thought, will stop
You feeling like shit in the first place making what you’re saying redundant because that’s not what I’m suggesting at all.
If the thought that makes you feel like shit can’t be uprooted, then like I said, therapy may be required.
Man! Didn't want to offend you here! It's just sometimes this advice like everything is for you and embrace the pain is hard to swallow, even if it is still the right thing to do!
So all good, Saja! ❤
@@submodality haha I’m not offended at all brother, I’m trying to help you understand the point clearly, because I know you’ve been marking with this for a while 🙏💚
I don’t know what you thought I was offended by, but what I said was genuine 🫶
My brother Luke will be hosting a class soon I think he will help a lot with this approach 🙏
Feel what you feel. Don't go looking for anything, be still and it will come to you. As what you feel presents itself in that moment, just experience the sensation without making a judgement about it. This is what " it is what it is" really is about. This takes practice to get it.
Aren't you clever#
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