What She Says vs. What She Means: Unlocking "Girl Speak"
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 ก.ย. 2024
- In this video, we dive into the often confusing world of "girl speak" and break down what women really mean when they say certain things. We'll help you decode phrases like "I'll let you know," "Fine," and "Let's take it slow," so you can understand her true intentions and respond effectively. This insight can save you from frustration and miscommunication in your dating life.
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“I hate drama” = I am the drama. 😂😂😂😂😂
:)
Yeah, I've noticed that one also.
Or “I don’t want competition” (“I am the drama, and no one else is”)
"I'm thinking about breaking up with you."
"No need for you to think about it any longer. We have just broken up."
She has had plenty of time to think about it. If you give her more time, after she has dropped that on you, you will be handing her all the power, and giving her the impression that she is justified in thinking about breaking up with you.
Maintain your self-respect.
Agreed. These words she used are all about maintaining the power in the relationship or just about delaying you while she sees if her other options are better than you.
TLDR: Walk away.
A even better response would be: "I am so glad you said this because i have 3-4 girls begging me for a chance to be with me " Never let a women think she has hurt you. You can cry in private if you need to. Always let her know you have options if she steps out of line. Does not matter if its true or not. The name of the game is control and power. You got to have the power for any women to be interested in you. Women do not date down.
@@Lightflames85 It is about power, certainly. But in responding, I would recommend caution. If you tell her that there are other women who are begging for a chance with you, then you are indirectly telling her that you have, up until the present moment, valued her in your life more than them. So, if she believes you, you will be giving her an ego boost.
I remember Jordan Peterson talking about aiming to be "maximally courageous and maximally truthful" when confronting situations.
Perhaps the best response is simply: "If you are thinking that way, then there is no point in continuing". And then leave without saying anything further (if you are not at home).
@@lindenh2014 The reason I throw this in her face is to say other women want me so you better act right if you and I are going to roll together. Also there is nothing wrong with choosing her over other women for now but she got to know you be fine no matter what happens. This keeps her on her best behavior. Telling her you have options will most likely trigger her as women do compete with other women for high value men.And high value is just higher value then her. She may get a short-term ego boost if she knows other women want her man but its only until she risk losing you. Then its not funny anymore. Also if you can cast her away like she is nothing that will hurt a womens ego so even if she may not like you she will try to prove she can keep you only for her ego's sake. Yeah women are odd i know. Most women have a huge ego and are insecure at the same time.
"I'm not looking for a relationship right now" and "let's take it slow" are gold.
You're welcome!
When a man says “Say what you mean or be gone”, he means “Say what you mean or be gone”.
Lol😊
When a woman tells me to do what I want, I take her words at face value and do what I want.
As you should. Not playing stupid games is the best policy.
ALL of this is REAL work! And women are baffled about why men are walking away from dating. “Is the price of the ticket worth the ride?” Chances are it’s not.
100%
Sure its work but your dick does not suck it selfs. And i am not talking about those guys that do that to themselves witch is sick. Also your genes needs to be spread or you die out. If we are here for any reason at all its to spread our seed as fare as possible otherwise its kinda pointless.
Ah, maybe more like uh...'the juice isn't worth the squeeze'
@@iWalkChris So true. A lot of women these days are a whole lot of squeezing for a few drops of juice.
it's take balls to date women;
men are gutless and feeble these days.
If someone told me she is thinking of breaking up, I will make it easy for her. I break it off immediately.... no further contact... ever
this is girl speak? Most of these are "let me behave like a child and be as non-direct as i can because i dont know how to communicate like an adult"
Correct.
well to be fair most women are not adults. They just play pretend. Also women need to avoid conflict in order to be liked in female circles otherwise other women will try to destroy you and you know how evil women can be to one another so they try to avoid this at all costs even if its a lie. And when you lie this often it becomes hard to tell the truth. It comes part of who you are. So things like morals is not something you care about. This is why a women can do the most evil shit and not even have a moral response to it. They never say they are sorry for crossing a line.
Correct. That’s women for you!
It is immature indeed. We shouldn't care about what they mean if it's not what they say. We shouldn't promote "girl speak" and we should take all they say straight without interpretation. If they don't like it, it's on them and they should learn to speak their mind honestly without playing games.
@@vukkulvar9769 Be careful there because too many of these girl-speak statements are manipulative.
And if she 'friend zones' you, walk away, you are her backup plan.
If she can't say what she honestly means, I don't invest any time or resources in her. Period. Life is too short and too precious to play senseless games.
No no you got that wrong but you only play your own games those you always win at. This is why women play games.
When it comes to a relationship, games are where people get hurt. Games are for recreation and computers. If she wants to play games, she needs more time to grow up. Same for men. This is why the divorce rate is so high, people don't know when to play games and when not to play games.
What she says: blah blah blah
What she means: blah blah blah😂
The correct response to every single one of these is, "Fuck off. I don't deal with games."
I don't be rude to them; they're actually trying not to say no in a way that will hurt you. Just don't date them.... right now. YOu have to learn how to be the charming, attractive man that women won't say no to. You can do it, there are all sorts of dating coaches on youtube, make use of them. Watch and learn; there are only about 100,000 books about this too, so read as well.
@@d.e.b.b5788 You propose to learn and use dark triad moves.
i was thinking the same.... well, i would say "Piss Off!!!"
"I'm not like other girls"
They all say this.
This is like a guide for guys that want to be constantly disrespected
Even those women who talk a big feminist game need set boundaries. The biggest reason for breakups is lack of masculinity.
I liked the 'girl talk translator'. So funny. The 'Manslator'.
If she says she wants to break up with you, agree with her and tell her that you aren't into her either.
If this talk could be put on a phone app you could have with you when talking to women, I'd buy it!
When she says I am thinking of breaking up she actually means she is monkey branching to another man but wants to make sure he will take her.
When a women can't articulate... half of what she's saying is actually inaudible !
(It's in character tho)
Great vid!
You're welcome
All you need to know. Fellas is that she'll never extend herself in conversation. She will never risk being direct because it might cost her something she might wind up getting for nothing.
Women seem to learn this very young:
"Why should I ever risk being direct when Men will fall for giving me 99% of whatever I want from them coming off as gentle, innocent and benign just by being vague and purposefully coy?"
Absolutely spot on 👌
Great observation😂
😂
When a woman says:
I am not looking for a relationship right now she means:
I think about relationships with you, but want all the power and need you to persuade me harder.
NO! She is not into you! SHe Only ssees you as an option to seettle down, if you are willing to invest alot!
The subconscious doesn't have understand the word no. If she talk about relationship avoidance she is unimpressed but still lingering on the idea. I speak on experience here, I ended up in a romantic relationship with her and was a great time in my life.
Like talking with a 2 year old
The answer to most of these situations is "OK, great. See you."
Alternative solution: React to what you understand she means. Our time is too precious for mindgames, and any woman not being able to clearly state out what she wants is already a red flag for me. Just be yourself. If she doesn't appreciate you for who you are, she doesn't deserve you, in the first place.
it is important to know that sometimes when she feels something is wrong but will only say, "you know" that she probably doesn't know the exact problem, but she FEELS something is off and expects (trusts) that he will figure it out and solve/fix the situation. It's the way her emotional side taps into something maybe spiritual in nature.
The biggest reason relationships don't work is because of casual sex. These problems weren't very common when people weren't selfish enough to bed someone for the sake of primal lust. Grow up before you date, then it will be easier (except there are only 3% of women worth going out with today).
How complicated can it be? Who wants a relationship like this? And when dating is already pain, you are divorced/apart after a year. Men, just stay single, have hobbies, projects and go fishing. Women are not worth the troubles. Stay away from troubles.
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Please continue.
Lol your assistant look like she has done all of them and enjoyed it.
😂
Totally, she recognizes the real meaning of every statement and is often amused that you see through the statements.
That’s totally right! A date a deep conversation and a decision to save time and respect to each other.
In my humble opinion, the main thing is to know the backstage of this situation. There’s no weakness or cowardice, only a question of respect and parity.
Some of us already know this crap. No, don't cater to it. If she says, "Fine," do NOT try to find out what her issue is. Take her at her word, and later when she gets upset you didn't know better, ignore her.
because of the games that come out in the difference between men and women, it is better to set a boundary and let her know that if she has an opinion on the topic, she must communicate it instead of giving a lame response. This is because if you do make this a relationship, she shouldn't do that kind of thing in the future. In most cases, it is a mistake to ignore her. They are the ones who talk seven times more than men, so if she doesn't want to talk at a certain time, she is having a problem. Women aren't logical enough to be that straight forward and a man has to exert a masculine boundary here or there will be future problems. The reason for dating is to find that helper in all future problems, because they have an ability men need in facing certain things. The responsibility is fully on the male to make the relationship work. He has the control or it won't work. (That's the problem with the feminist movement and why relationships don't last)
@@stankulp1008 "The reason for dating is to find that helper in all future problems, because they have an ability men need in facing certain things."
I don't find that goal to have any resulting payoff that is worth the effort. In fact I find the opposite is true. A significant portion of problems stem directly from dating in the first place. For every problem that a woman helps you solve, there are four more problems created by her that she expect you to help her solve.
Honestly, if it weren't for interacting with women, the number of problems I would have in life would be pretty dang low, and would be pretty easily dealt with on my own.
@@xtnuser5338 that's because they are too selfish to be giving. It's the same for men, after the hunting stage, they are a waste of time for many women that want too much and don't understand the reason for a relationship
@@stankulp1008 Yeah I know.
I don't let them get away with this crap. If they say fine I take it at face value even though I know things are not fine. When she tries to complain about it later I just mention that she said it was fine so she was either lying then or she is lying now. That usually stops the bullshit in its tracks.
Overall, I agree with most everything. However, the very first one I think is a miss. If you ask a girl out on a date, you need her to reply with alacrity with an enthusiastic yes or at least a counter offer for another day/time. Do not give her time to think about it and respond later because as she said, she will check her other options which means she’s not interested. If she gives you any sort of “I’ll let you know.,” say something like “perhaps another time when you schedule is tighter” and then smile, walk away, and ditch her phone number. Next!
2:15 When she thinks about breaking up or having a break, the relationship is ALLREADY OVER and she has someone new! "Ok, have a nice life without me, thanks for your time.", is the correct answer and then let her go, delete her number and never talk to her again! It is not worth any efford anymore to hold on, move on instead! NEVER take her back, even if she wants to come back to you (because the other relationship did not work out)!
To understand girl speak you need to know what you want. Compromising with a woman never works out well for the man. When a woman is vague she is still looking around and the guy is not you.
Non committal communication = find another date. Some other poor chap can be disrespected if they wish.
Hey Gary, this video is outstanding. Greetings from Montreal, Canada.
You're welcome!
What I learned, women always create harmony and they don’t feel bad for you. They instantly proceed with the other 10 men who text her.
Appreciate the comment.
yeah well. On the opposite, when I broke up, geez were they upset and hurt, with hate and pain sitting on their face.
" women always create harmony"
Nothing could be further from the truth, they feed off drama.
Life hard enough as it is if she can't say what she means. I can't be dealing with all that nonsense. She's a grown woman, not a little girl.
@@MyZxcvb12 have you ever interacted with girls?
Great vid! Audio could be better on the lady
Thanks!
Excellent video and conclusions
You're welcome
'We need to talk': Ok hon, see you next Tuesday. LoL!
a lot of these are context dependant, if you're on your first few dates there shouldn't be any expectation of her taking things 'seriously' or 'wanting' a relationship, but if you've been going out for a long time call it off.
Good guide... have had several women use these terms. I'm better prepared now..
Good list. a lot of fun and accurate!
„I’m not like other girls” - translation: „I am exactly the same as other Girls, but I want you to treat me as an unique woman” - Huge red flag.
When a woman acts like this, it’s evident she was raised poorly, and you’re just pissing into the wind by being with her. Just move on and leave her to the simps she wants to control, as her mother taught her. Anything less than moving on is proving you fit the category of simp yourself. No woman who disrespects a man seeking her company is worth your time. YOU WILL NEVER WIN! YOU WILL LOSE EVERY TIME!
Women forgive??? Never in history has this actually happened.
Everything spoken here shows a gross lack of emotional maturity on the woman's part. You wanna earn her respect? Call her out- EVERY time double speak comes out of her mouth you let her know I am interested in you but, I'm not to be messed with. You never have to be a jerk or a$$hole about it but, let her know you appreciate and validate open, honest communication. Women are trained to be polite at the expense of never getting down to the root issues but, if you have found someone worth building a long term relationship with you MUST let her know that this behavior will not be tolerated. When she is allowed to do it once you have already established a bad behavior pattern that will only get worse with time. If she cannot or will not comply, say "Thank you" and walk away. Jeffrey Z. in SC
true. That is what I think all the time. This also explains, why in all honest "dating advice", they basically explain to handle them like children. I really appreciate emotionally stable, sane women, there are not too many of them.
To solve the problem after she says, I will let you know. Say thank you. Then go ask someone else and do not call her back. Assuming she Calls you and says she wants to accept your invitation, you tell her you assumed she didn't want to go to whatever it was, and you asked someone else. Period.
Not in a relationship:
1. Leave me alone
2. Don't come close to me
"I'm not looking for a relationship right now" Heard that one quite a few times. I loved the friend zone when I was single. I hooked up with their friends, and of course that would make them want me the moment I did, so it was a self licking lolipop at that point. Worked for me anyway.
Brilliant!
You're welcome!
Be willing to have fun in the smaller person's proclivities. It's okay to learn. Try to find a balance.
its not about words! its about intention and authenticity which is cultivated within the self....forget this strategic approach or use it and find out it's limitations by all means
its bout both?
Best video so far, thanks!
Glad you liked it!
Thanks for teaching
Glad to help!
I find it exceedingly challenging to comprehend her discourse. It seems more akin to an exercise in deciphering spoken English than grasping the nuances of feminine communication 🤷
"Truer words were never spoken..."
Thanks.
0:36 "Fine" I have another solution, I do always start out by saying I trust her and I will never treat her as a child. So when she says "fine" do I believe her and do no longer concentrate on that, because she has just said it was fine, so it is fine!
1:17 "Do whatever you want" For the same reason do I expect that what she says is what she means, and I do exactly whatever I want.
6:08 Here is a 100% guaranteed way to know if a woman likes you... She'll tell you that she had a crush on you, when she or you are married to another.
7:42 Her: "That guy is really attractive" My answer is a smile and: "okay, that girl in the bakery was also fairly hot"
8:52 "How do you know her?" Again, I expect her to be an adult, so I'll answer her question, I do not want to play games.
11:03 "I am almost ready" Again do I trust her word and if we get too late because of her, and we no longer can manage to get there on time, do I simply start doing other things, because we are staying home, or at least I am.
13:13 "Do you think she is pretty?" Again do I think she is an adult and ask her why she is asking if her reason is unsaid, then do I ignore the question, if there is a reason, do I answer dependent on that.
13:54 "I forgive you" I answer thanks, I am glad. If she then later brings it up again do I simply say why she has lied to me, she said she had forgiven me, but she has clearly not. How shall I trust her if she is clearly lying?
If she says she is thinking about breaking up move on immediately.
Very enlightening. And I quote "All the hassle for a smelly cavernous hole. No thanks"
Or....what you can do is move on without her and be happy for the rest of your life.
Pure gold, cheers Gary
You're welcome!
To simplify: Yes means Maybe Maybe means No No means No but try again, I like the attention.
Nope, bye bye is the good answer anytime
It’s too bad this level of understanding didn’t exist widely in the far past. Now that I’m old and gray, I’m considered a “creepy” old man if I even glance at an attractive younger woman (less than 50).
I honestly believe that the understanding in this video would have saved me from 2 divorces.
or you could leave her alone and let her do her own thing
Im going to be 1 hour lol. We have all been waiting for women.
11:02 that was worth a chuckle "I'm almost ready"
Another scenario:
Today
Her: We should spend more time with each other.
Me: Okay. I'm free tomorrow.
Her: Lets see tomorrow.
Okay... I like your concept on how you did this video. But, two problems, it seems very rushed and maybe you should have slowed it down and did "Part 1" & "Part 2" and put common issues together in each like "Negative" and "Positive."
Secondly, your beautiful lady friend was very hard to understand, and often times, I didn't really get what she said... Perhaps captioning it and again slowing it down.
Cheers!
Who cares what women say? Live your life on _your_ terms, not hers. Why be with some woman who comes with a manual and constant drama or attention-seeking? Let her sort her own garbage out.
this dating coach guy seems well meaning, but this is just very bad advice. All of his advice is constantly tip toeing around the ego and feelings of the female and not being direct with her bullshtt.
for example, when she says , "fine" this simp wants to methodically and patiently have a conversation about what she is annoyed with you about.
Your response should be, "yes fine. I have already considered (x,y,z or whatever you already suspect she is annoyed about) and your annoyance is not worth me changing my mind or actions about whatever it is. If you are annoyed about such and such, go home. go away. stop bothering me."
and then if whatever she is annoyed about is actually something different than what you suspected, you can have an honest conversation about the topic. Hint- 95% of the time your suspicion of what she is annoyed about was right from the beginning and maybe 2% of the time it might actually be something different than what you suspected, but probably not.
We need to talk, means I'm going to break up with you.
Wait, "Let´s take it slow!" was both at 3:59 and 8:13. So how do I know if it´s "I´m enjoying dating other guys at the same time (4:04)" or "You´re giving me lots of red flags and I´m not sure I want to sleep with you. (8:19)"?
:34 in and you already have it all wrong. Sad. If you are wondering if a woman is into you or not, then she is not into you. And no, she doesn't owe you an explanation. She doesn't owe you a date. She has somebody else in mind. It is that simple.
9:37 Ha!! I knew it!
For me it is toxic and manipulative to be this dishonest
Your forgetting that you can ignore anything she says like it never happened. If she push it then look at her like she is dumb. You do not owe her a response. Warning this may piss her off but its better then you responding because that means she is the one with the power if you give her validation. You can also misinterpret what she says to make it into something funny. Its hard to be annoyed at someone when they are laughing. Your only really in trouble if you take her too serious. You decide what goes on and if she does not like it then she can f*ck off. This is the only way to deal with women. You build the ship she can either get on or sink to the bottom. This is what it means to lead.
if you want to play this way thats fine :) but since I dont care, I would not engage with this kind of BS :) if you have an attitude its your problem not mine... the moment you are trying to decipher this, you are playing the game... and you will not win a kicking game with a house :) if every woman I met would be like this, this would mean I will become a monk :)
Women speak in subtext. It's natural.
@@GaryGunn you see I can do that too, question is, does woman would go the same length as man in order to decipher such message. I would say most likely no. so why should men? (well if man would not do this, you would not be a coach you are currently ;))
meat?
@@maciekwarmen are more direct so women don't need to.
@@GaryGunn what I'm trying to say, if you need to be manipulative in order to meet someone, as a man or as a woman, why bother, I reject such attitude. I refuse to manipulate or being manipulated even if it means, I would die as a single :)
Or… i could just not deal with women unless they are open and clear in their communication…..
Instead of being a Nice Guy Simp, make yourself happy, do as you wish.
Ignore her and let HER come back to you.
Never chase her.
Never raise another man's child.
Don't date Single Mothers.
Don't pay any of her bills.
It is yes or anything else is no. If she doesn’t say yes just move on.
I don't care what women mean. I speak, they listen. The things they say, including their names, are unimportant to me. I've gone out with 6 women the last 2 weeks. I only know the name of 1
i am MGTOW.. i do not have to deal with this
One again all of the aspects lead to one thing -> Your look. If you are attractive then You know, but if not than its quite terrible.
Cuts both ways.
If you think that then you need a dating coach. Confidence in a man beats looks many times over.
'Take care, brother take care, cause the female of the species is deadlier than the male' 🎵🥶😈😱🎹🎵🎶
Chick = Do you think she's pretty?
Dude = I already picked the prettiest girl, "put's arm around her"
Shuts them up every time. No response but a smile.
Your welcome.
that girl looks supremely bored. I hope she was paid something, I noticed a couple eye rolls also
Remember men, they are like buses…there’s another one coming along in 5 mins!
And they wonder why men aren't playing anymore.
.....all this work, just to communicate, not worth it.
im a very literal communicator.....why cant women just be transparent and say what they mean?????????ugggh
I got a headache from hearing her talk.
NO.
I never waited for ANY woman. For me, maybe meant No. simple as that.
We don’t care, men are the prize, end of 😊
Dude, that is the stupidest advice I’ve ever heard! If you ask a girl out and she has to think about it, you have your answer already. Horrible advice
I have mentioned this before , but what man needs this drama ? You are a coach to nowhere ! If a man needs to work real hard at translating the women ' s message ... who needs that !? Nobody ... hence the men walking away . Get a different job . Nobody is caring for her message !!
Women is a lost of time.