Totally agree. I am so happy that, even at the age of 3.5 my son knows he can fully express himself to me without shame. When I get frustrated at times, he will quickly say to me, Mommy, don't talk to me like that. I don't like that. I absolutely Love it! :D He knows that he is worthy of love and respect at ALL times. And when he is having a meltdown I always tell him it's okay to be upset. Everyone gets upset sometimes. As for manifestation, if I know there is a gift he will be receiving, weeks in advance, I tell him to tell the Universe he wants 'said' gift and to believe that it will come and that the Universe will bring it to him somehow because he creates his reality. Then, when the gift "shows up", I remind him that HE is the one who manifested it. I know I am not a perfect parent, but I try my best to do what I call "In Alignment Parenting". Much Love Teal and All!
Olivia Krzeminski poor thing Olivia. That anger is a generational curse. You mom had that anger too for many years growing thru the same ages you are growing thru (but never honestly told you she experienced the same hurt within her toward her own parent) ......... it's all so unfair, but you have the OPPORTUNITY to put an end to that generational curse. Maybe curse is the wrong word, because it is a descriptive word often used is witchcraft and occult, which I'm in NO WAY connected to that stuff. Let's say "generational bad programming" to keep people from freaking out. Words do matter. Read what I wrote to "beefowoman" above this. I don't often type "advice" on TH-cam comment section but sometimes I just let my heart flow if I see people in pain. I dealt with the same thing with my Dad that you are dealing with your mom. I think your Mom and my Dad would have been great bowling partners :) The pain is REAL and anybody that tells you it is not real is someone that does not have the depth of wisdom to be a good guide on this journey you are on. And you ARE on a journey-- a wonderful journey -- even though it does not FEEL wonderful between you and your mom.
From what I've learned about teal throughout all of her videos, blogs, etc.. she is by far one of the most strong & intelligent women I've seen that actually enjoys helping others overcome their personal issues. Which makes Teal absolutely beautiful in my eyes.. exactly the kind of personality more women should posses nowadays. She certainly can & has helped a lot of people. In her Santa Fe group sessions, I noticed how confident she was while speaking & she knew exactly what to say to each person. That confidence is extremely attractive & it really does make a huge impact when your teaching people. I just hope she continues helping people, but only if it keeps making her happy.
I can personally say that my friends that were parented this way were way more happy and healthy then those of us raised "normally". They also became very successful.
One of the things I'm grateful for about my parents is that they never said "You're too young to understand that," particularly when I asked scientific questions. About the only time they'd say "why don't you hold onto that question and ask me again when you're over 18" was when my question related to sex. I hate seeing other parents who blow off a child's question.
why don't you hold onto that question and ask me again when you're over 18" was when my question related to sex. Only time a question should be redirected.
I'm not a parent, (I'm an aunt) but I can see that this all makes a lot of sense. I can see from the way I was parented. But I know that I am able to re-parent myself now, and I feel so assured. I am becoming sure and confident and strong again and my life is getting better before my eyes. I am one individual who has really been effected by you.
I understand completely, my parents have huge issues with their childhoods and that is the emotion I have been adopting from my birth. Kids suck in information like a sponge suck in water, they don't care if the info or water is "dirty" that's just the reflection of the people and environment around them. So we being aware of ourselves brings understanding of what kids reflect upon us.
I stopped some cycles & started others. One of the issues I`ve had to work through since Awakening is feeling guilt for NOT raising my children in an Awakened manner. But how could I when I was`nt Awake yet? My parents stopped some cycles & started others also. And continued some. Lol. But healing my inner child is paramount to continuing with ascension & I can still parent my adult children in a 2.0 manner! And my grandchildren will benefit from this also!!
I listen to this video again and again (and also Parenting 101) trying to sink into the simple wisdom of love. Thank you, Teal Swan! Thank you for easing my way to my daughter!
Can you make a video on how adult children can balance the relationship with parents who are not aware of their inner child and are not working on understanding themselves and who are still projecting unto their adult children? That would be an interesting complement to this video. Perhaps it would be a situation where the adult child becomes the parent? Not sure if it's a healthy direction to take.
+TheSpiritualCatalyst My parents and parent's parents grew up with the idea of 'spoil the rod spoil the child,' and of course to some extent I thought it would be best to do this to my child. I'm trying to look for a better way to guide my child to the right path. I don't want her to resent me. And this video and the other parenting video has helped me see a better alternative. I severely suffer from Emotional abuse and shaming from my parents (mainly from my father) everyday. So I have a lot of healing to do for my inner child. So that I can stop the cycle to doing the same to my child. I sounds easier said then done. But I'll take baby steps. -Thank you Ms. Swan
Thank you, Teal Swan.. This is by far the most valuable and at point on how to grow as a parent. All your videos are so honest and eye opening on what is truly inside of us and how to heal. Thank you for all the you tube videos
Oh man Teal I can't tell you how thankful I am for these two parenting videos. You are amazing. My childhood was overflowing with physical, mental and emotional abuse but you are right- the beatings were not as hard to overcome as the emotional abuse. It took my twin soul coming to me to help me through the shame and guilt worthlessness and emotional neglect and fear of love, fear that I am neither meaningful or worth paying attention to, that came from my childhood, and I am still working on that healing. But I am a mother too, and I parent from *I am proud to say, and thanks to my connection with my Higher Self* a conscious perspective; I parent pretty much opposite how my parents did me. I may still have healing to do but Spirit ensured I was Awakening before I had my child so I can raise him with unconditional love, not judgment. He is so fun and happy and a joyful and peaceful and open to Spirit. His light shines very brightly and if there is one thing I can say I have done well in 41 years it is that I have been a good guide to him so far. No I am not perfect but we are two peas in a pod and I love him more than I could possibly imagine. I do want him to be happy and I do NOT want him to grow up having the deep issues I've had because it really does bring Hell on earth and he is made to have a life mainly of joy and abundance. For this reason I work hard to be aware of how I parent him, and yeah it does buck the system but oh well. Children were not born to conform nor did they come to us for us to punish them, scare them or harm them in any way including hitting them. Thanks again. Your work is priceless.
You are absolutely right. I am constantly seing how i project my wounds on my kids sometimes and i know it's all about me. Trying to get it fixed though, hope it's not too late
Agree so much with Teal.It took me many many years to figure out that I am stuck in nowhere in my life because my mother always shamed me. I had great childhood and great loving and caring mother, but she just didn't realized how much she damaged my life by shaming me.Always saying what people will think about you if you do that? Till I get 31 I couldn't tell anybody even closest friend that I like photography and less to show t in public, because I thought I am not good enough. First time when made my photographs public I thought I''l die of heart attack.I was so scared. And still now when people say i have good eye , I don't believe it truly that I do even having good feedback...it is very very hard to shift you thinking. And that because of being shamed in childhood.
The fly on my blanket just told me I need to take a break, as this is intense. And I'm not even a parent yet. It's hitting on some serious frustration I have with the way I was parented. Guess that's partly the point.
+Naled N Same with me. I need to grow to be functional adult first. Because how can a (wounded) child parent a child? It's an abuse to my child and myself.
I totally agree with your videos on parenting . For a child to stay true to their inner being and know unconditional love we have to parent consciously and with unconditional love. And they expand easily this way BUT in other videos you say that we grow from contrast and to know the positive we have to experience the negative. So to know unconditional love we have to experience the opposite and the negative BUT this is wounding and BLOCKS expansion in my opinion ! Yes contrast is there to show us what we don’t and do want but we don’t have to experience the worst to understand the best. If we are shown unconditional love we will understand it and continue to feel our own inner light … NOT by experiencing abuse or trauma ….
I love your videos. I have a 2 year old and he communicates very well. I do catch myself telling him to stop crying when he is freaking out over me not doing something that he wants. He tells me though his tears. I WANT TO CRY. That gives me a big realization that I cannot be telling him to stop crying. Much like when people in my life told me the same thing and it made it worse. I'd like to see another video of more examples of this parenting technique. We have been using small time outs or I let him have a meltdown in his room. The hard part about positive parenting is the criticism you get for it. I try my best to be positive but sometimes you feel like you aren't in control of the situation.
This Video feels like someone is reading me like a book but with such a perfect Emphasis and pronunciation that I can not put the relief of Hearing it in to words. This is priceless.
Ya know, I'm not even a parent, almost got an Ex Pregnant, but it was rumor. I'm happy You've made this video, I had to watch it twice to fully get the complete concept and integration from the old to the new self. Thank you for everything TEAL!
Thank you so much for this Teal, I am genuinely moved, my parents have done most of this to me, and I never understood why I kept feeling sad about the fact we have no connection to each other each few weeks after I thought I was healing myself. But thank you, I will use this as a guide to look after my brother and sister and make sure they are raised well. Thank you
Omg.. this video is amazing. " when you say that people will be offended about it being about them, i feel the opposite... I feel understood and like I now have the words to explain what I've always known to other adutls. Somehow I have always had this inner knowing of this concept without being able to say it in words. I reach out to family to take my son when I'm overwhelmed and exhausted, not because I don't want him around but because I know that him being around ME in that state is not ideal for him... It's in his best interest to be around people who also love him , but are more emotionally stable at that moment. My family thinks I am being selfish or don't want him there becsus he's a nuisance or something. Or when his teachers are complaining about his behaviour and the first thing I feel is guilty because I know that my mental state is the reason he's struggling. (I lost his dad, my husband, almost 1 year ago , at the age of 36. My son is 4(3 at the time) now.... And the affects it's had on me are indescribable)and I start immediately explaining how having him only go half days is not helping his situation because of all the pressure and problems it causes ME... But they act like my life has nothing to do with his behaviour. But yes... Actually not being able to work bc of his half days, or have a solo mental health break as I'm grieving, inability to keep up with housework and bills while grieving a huge , untimely, heartbreaking loss.. actually does have a direct impact on my ability to be a decent mother , and therefore it's absolutely showing up in his behaviour. My parents fell into this trap of trying to make us think they were perfect... I don't really have a choice but to be honest with my son about my pain and shortcomings... because they are front and center on a daily basis and basically undeniable. I have always known , even when I was pregnant , long before I ever heard of teal swan, That I would cater my parenting style to suit his personality, unlike my parents who used blanket style parenting for both myself and my sibling, which worked well in her case.. not so much for mine. I have no desire to be right or perfect ... Just happy and as long as my son is happy be can be himself, the real him.. whoever that happens to be. And the last point.. question everything. I have said that about him since day 1.. I want him to know most importantly to question everything. Nothing is off limits... I will encourage him to question everything, even me. Especially in this day and age of blind obedience and mass formation psychosis that is affecting nearly everyone it seems. This is such a validation for me that I am exactly who I'm meant to be , and my parents and childhood are exactly who and what I needed make that possible. My true nature has been there , much to my parents dismay I might add.. since birth. I have tried to suppress my need to push the envelope and be the troublemaker before, but it was so strong and just pushed thru anyway tik I realized that resistance is futile and learned to accept being not accepted and just be ok with being the "problem" most of the time. The universe really does work in mysterious ways.
You are a perfect example of a book judged by it's cover, you are beautiful, it's true... Inside and out, only right for you to become the messenger you have become..
Very well said - would like to add that parents of autism need skip 101 and adopt this advise directly there is no other way. Also to every parent if you don't get it right every time that's ok allow your progression of consciousness to take place.
This is the MAJOR CHANGE that Humanity needs to choose. I wrote my view about what you said during the tchek interview where there is a lot of non sens about corporation and so and. Here it is the turning point for humanity. We need to heal our inner child before having babies. Parenthood is the bigger responsibility in the human experience. The whole planet lives maybe the bigger issue since human being arrivals, and we're 8 billions ? Ask you questions : Which kind of human beings I want to see on earth ? Am I ready to teach to my child the values I'd love to see between human beings? More there is danger, insecurity, more humanity procreates. This tendency were noticed after the 1 st and 2nd world war. So, nothing change ? It's just the survival instinct which operates. Where is the conscious choice ? We live with others species in this planet, Gaïa needs to provide food for all the creation. How many species already disappears ? In less than 200 years ? Gaïa is powerful and limited. When balance is broken, she can act to re-establish the equilibrium. Long time ago, dinosaurs were the stronger species in planet Earth. And suddenly a meteorite, and no weak, no strong, no more dinosaurs. It's time now for the big cleaning of human inconsciousness. Be responsable of your choice and the consequences of your act for the LOVE OF GAÏA. She's loving, kind, she got for us a profound motherhood feeling, a huge love for her little children.The words will never express her kindness and warmth. But she suffers, deeply in silence, without blaming. And this is her strength. Pure LOVE.
not a parent here. but this is exactly what i would have wanted from my parents. I admit I was an emotionally broken person for as long as I can remember. but I am healing. why not avoid the emotional breakage in the first place by parenting this way!
Oh... I just went back in time while listening this... And now i know where most of my wounds come from... I knew that some of them are the result from that time, but now i know i was wrong... I love my parents and i know that they just didn't know a better way... May they rest in peace... But won't do the same mistakes on my child/children. Thank you Teal. :)
Thank you so much for your video. I agree with you 100%. I have gone through a transformation by becoming a mother and I am always working to better myself for my children.
I made some notes on the practical advice. Why not share them here. :) Every emotion a child experiences is valid. An extreme reaction is appropriate. React by kneeling down and showing empathy: “I know honey, it’s OK to feel upset. I feel the exact same way when I want something that I don’t feel l ike I can have”. Encourage the child to express verbally how they feel or where they feel the feeling in their body. With this you allow them to have feelings and not suppress them, allow them to move through the feeling, cause them to know that no matter what you will be there for them and with them through everything, they are not alone. The result is an emotionally intelligent child. Note that you are not rushing to make the emotion better by giving the child what he was asking for, we did not try to rescue them from their emotions so we avoid causing them to believe emotions are bad, wrong, to be avoided. You also do not give in and buy what they want, become a doormat, the child did not become a dictator who everyone is a slave to. Instead the child is treated as an equal member of the household, equal to adults. It is OK to explain the child that as a parent you also have shortcomings, that you might not know the answer, that you are not Gods. Show them process of going looking for the answer, to learning. Encourage that someday they might found out the answer themselves. Mirroring the emotion: empathize with how they feel and express how you recognize how tht feels, that it is ok to feel that way, that you felt that same way once, that anyone would feel that way. The result is that a child does not fight against a negative emotion and so it blows over quickly. DO NOT shame your child. Example: the child does not want to go to bed. You warn them of the potential consequence (feeling tired the next day). Let them find this out for themselves.
Bravo Teal! Important Parental wisdom for the ages delivered with just the right measure of urgency and edginess...In me Lots of sadness and regret-but also hope for the future.
thank you teal i like to think i get most of this already but you complete the geometry that i had half formed or forgot or didn't know to begin with, this is fgoing to help me immensely with the relationship between me and my parents their inner children and mine, and innevitably alot of other people and my own children when the time comes
7:33 is the one of main root of financial trauma 🎉 good to discover it especially when you have no visual memories yet and you have so mix confusing feeling signature toward finances 😢
THIS HAS BEEN MY MOST FAVORITE VIDEO YET, MAKES ALOT OF SENSE, I MADE SURE I DID EVERYTHING TO STAY AWARE SO THAT I DIDN'T PARENT LIKE MY PARENTS DID, I THINK THE BIGGEST SOLUTION IS TO JUST STAY AWARE WHILE PARENTING, THANK YOU REAL, GREAT ADVISE!!!!
Most common issue nowadays is trying to give our children everything in order to avoid their frustration. Parents will assume the child´s suffering as their own, so the child feels no pain. They give all their power to their kids, and then say thing like "My kid is always challenging me", as if the problem was the kid. Children are not allowed to get bored or take risks. However they are allowed to slave their parents. These parents do not know what their role is.
One very good way to get back into those repressed childhood memories to reprocess these memories/traumas etc is Iboga. Do research, the answers are out there...
Teal- I love that you are making these parenting videos. I have 3 kids, 9,5, and 8 months. I am starting to remember and understand the manifestation process. I have been asking the universe to help me fix what damage I have done emotionally to my children (in the socially accepted way).. And then you upload these videos! How cool is that ?! :-) That every thought creates our reality here, it makes me hopeful that I can integrate. I feel I have "passed the baton" to my older two kids. I was emotionally crushed as a child, and now waking to truth and dealing with damage control...any tips on how to rebuild self concept in them?
Great vid. I have a question - could one argue that these points for "parenting" could be applied to communication in general with all of those around you? I am 35, have no kids yet and am in a wonderful marriage. A wonderful marriage is not without difficulties. I feel like some of these points could go for communicating with your partner - like projecting unfulfilled aspects of yourself onto your partners behavior.
Teal, my name is Daniel and I'm from ecuador. I just wanted to say to you that I had the most tender and beautiful dream with you and as I just woke up I really feel the urgency to write this even though it may not be appropiate or it may pass unnoticed. As of now, I love you...
Totally agree. I am so happy that, even at the age of 3.5 my son knows he can fully express himself to me without shame. When I get frustrated at times, he will quickly say to me, Mommy, don't talk to me like that. I don't like that.
I absolutely Love it! :D He knows that he is worthy of love and respect at ALL times. And when he is having a meltdown I always tell him it's okay to be upset. Everyone gets upset sometimes.
As for manifestation, if I know there is a gift he will be receiving, weeks in advance, I tell him to tell the Universe he wants 'said' gift and to believe that it will come and that the Universe will bring it to him somehow because he creates his reality. Then, when the gift "shows up", I remind him that HE is the one who manifested it.
I know I am not a perfect parent, but I try my best to do what I call "In Alignment Parenting".
Much Love Teal and All!
Olivia Krzeminski poor thing Olivia. That anger is a generational curse. You mom had that anger too for many years growing thru the same ages you are growing thru (but never honestly told you she experienced the same hurt within her toward her own parent) ......... it's all so unfair, but you have the OPPORTUNITY to put an end to that generational curse. Maybe curse is the wrong word, because it is a descriptive word often used is witchcraft and occult, which I'm in NO WAY connected to that stuff. Let's say "generational bad programming" to keep people from freaking out. Words do matter. Read what I wrote to "beefowoman" above this. I don't often type "advice" on TH-cam comment section but sometimes I just let my heart flow if I see people in pain. I dealt with the same thing with my Dad that you are dealing with your mom. I think your Mom and my Dad would have been great bowling partners :) The pain is REAL and anybody that tells you it is not real is someone that does not have the depth of wisdom to be a good guide on this journey you are on. And you ARE on a journey-- a wonderful journey -- even though it does not FEEL wonderful between you and your mom.
Wow! It makes me so happy to hear how much love and kindness you're giving to your baby. Thanks for sharing!
Dom/Sub illness is common.
With parents and children, it's warped and requires acknowledgement.
Social Engineering Down Below
How are you now? How is he now?
In every way possible, my beautiful son is raising me.
My 2.3 daughter is raising me too! From day one. :)
❤️❤️❤️❤️
He and TH-cam right??
Damned shame...
From what I've learned about teal throughout all of her videos, blogs, etc.. she is by far one of the most strong & intelligent women I've seen that actually enjoys helping others overcome their personal issues. Which makes Teal absolutely beautiful in my eyes.. exactly the kind of personality more women should posses nowadays. She certainly can & has helped a lot of people. In her Santa Fe group sessions, I noticed how confident she was while speaking & she knew exactly what to say to each person. That confidence is extremely attractive & it really does make a huge impact when your teaching people. I just hope she continues helping people, but only if it keeps making her happy.
PLEASE WRITE A BOOK ON CONSCIOUS PARENTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
They have very much in common in their teachings about parenting. I was thinking of Dr Shefali as well.
1000% agree
I AGREE!
I can personally say that my friends that were parented this way were way more happy and healthy then those of us raised "normally". They also became very successful.
I love you Teal Swan. You are one of the best Teachers of this world.
One of the things I'm grateful for about my parents is that they never said "You're too young to understand that," particularly when I asked scientific questions. About the only time they'd say "why don't you hold onto that question and ask me again when you're over 18" was when my question related to sex.
I hate seeing other parents who blow off a child's question.
why don't you hold onto that question and ask me again when you're over 18" was when my question related to sex.
Only time a question should be redirected.
RoclanHicks Redirected or not, the child will seek the answer even if the parent didn't give it to her.
Boom.... Mic drop🎤 TYSVM for sharing all of your much needed insights💜
I'm not a parent, (I'm an aunt) but I can see that this all makes a lot of sense. I can see from the way I was parented. But I know that I am able to re-parent myself now, and I feel so assured. I am becoming sure and confident and strong again and my life is getting better before my eyes. I am one individual who has really been effected by you.
Yes, Teal is an amazing person I too have learned so much from her, I am a parent and her words of wisdom touch me deeply.
I understand completely, my parents have huge issues with their childhoods and that is the emotion I have been adopting from my birth. Kids suck in information like a sponge suck in water, they don't care if the info or water is "dirty" that's just the reflection of the people and environment around them. So we being aware of ourselves brings understanding of what kids reflect upon us.
well said Jerry Tyfting
A DVD of this should be given out by hospitals to the Mother before she leaves lol.
I stopped some cycles & started others. One of the issues I`ve had to work through since Awakening is feeling guilt for NOT raising my children in an Awakened manner. But how could I when I was`nt Awake yet? My parents stopped some cycles & started others also. And continued some. Lol. But healing my inner child is paramount to continuing with ascension & I can still parent my adult children in a 2.0 manner! And my grandchildren will benefit from this also!!
I listen to this video again and again (and also Parenting 101) trying to sink into the simple wisdom of love. Thank you, Teal Swan! Thank you for easing my way to my daughter!
Can you make a video on how adult children can balance the relationship with parents who are not aware of their inner child and are not working on understanding themselves and who are still projecting unto their adult children? That would be an interesting complement to this video. Perhaps it would be a situation where the adult child becomes the parent? Not sure if it's a healthy direction to take.
+TheSpiritualCatalyst My parents and parent's parents grew up with the idea of 'spoil the rod spoil the child,' and of course to some extent I thought it would be best to do this to my child.
I'm trying to look for a better way to guide my child to the right path. I don't want her to resent me. And this video and the other parenting video has helped me see a better alternative.
I severely suffer from Emotional abuse and shaming from my parents (mainly from my father) everyday. So I have a lot of healing to do for my inner child. So that I can stop the cycle to doing the same to my child.
I sounds easier said then done. But I'll take baby steps.
-Thank you Ms. Swan
Thank you, Teal Swan.. This is by far the most valuable and at point on how to grow as a parent. All your videos are so honest and eye opening on what is truly inside of us and how to heal. Thank you for all the you tube videos
Oh man Teal I can't tell you how thankful I am for these two parenting videos. You are amazing. My childhood was overflowing with physical, mental and emotional abuse but you are right- the beatings were not as hard to overcome as the emotional abuse. It took my twin soul coming to me to help me through the shame and guilt worthlessness and emotional neglect and fear of love, fear that I am neither meaningful or worth paying attention to, that came from my childhood, and I am still working on that healing. But I am a mother too, and I parent from *I am proud to say, and thanks to my connection with my Higher Self* a conscious perspective; I parent pretty much opposite how my parents did me. I may still have healing to do but Spirit ensured I was Awakening before I had my child so I can raise him with unconditional love, not judgment. He is so fun and happy and a joyful and peaceful and open to Spirit. His light shines very brightly and if there is one thing I can say I have done well in 41 years it is that I have been a good guide to him so far. No I am not perfect but we are two peas in a pod and I love him more than I could possibly imagine. I do want him to be happy and I do NOT want him to grow up having the deep issues I've had because it really does bring Hell on earth and he is made to have a life mainly of joy and abundance. For this reason I work hard to be aware of how I parent him, and yeah it does buck the system but oh well. Children were not born to conform nor did they come to us for us to punish them, scare them or harm them in any way including hitting them. Thanks again. Your work is priceless.
You are absolutely right. I am constantly seing how i project my wounds on my kids sometimes and i know it's all about me. Trying to get it fixed though, hope it's not too late
Agree so much with Teal.It took me many many years to figure out that I am stuck in nowhere in my life because my mother always shamed me. I had great childhood and great loving and caring mother, but she just didn't realized how much she damaged my life by shaming me.Always saying what people will think about you if you do that? Till I get 31 I couldn't tell anybody even closest friend that I like photography and less to show t in public, because I thought I am not good enough. First time when made my photographs public I thought I''l die of heart attack.I was so scared. And still now when people say i have good eye , I don't believe it truly that I do even having good feedback...it is very very hard to shift you thinking. And that because of being shamed in childhood.
The fly on my blanket just told me I need to take a break, as this is intense. And I'm not even a parent yet. It's hitting on some serious frustration I have with the way I was parented. Guess that's partly the point.
Very important personally i would never have a child until i 'fix' myself not to transfer him pain or shit.
+Naled N Same with me. I need to grow to be functional adult first. Because how can a (wounded) child parent a child? It's an abuse to my child and myself.
Yeah. And where are you now? Which issue you still have?
Kevin Fernando Horas yeah
Glad you know that but the odds of achieving it by the age of 40 (give or take) isn't all that likely for most.
@@angelamary91 I think that nobody totally achieve it completely but it's a lifetime never ending process..
I totally agree with your videos on parenting . For a child to stay true to their inner being and know unconditional love we have to parent consciously and with unconditional love. And they expand easily this way BUT in other videos you say that we grow from contrast and to know the positive we have to experience the negative. So to know unconditional love we have to experience the opposite and the negative BUT this is wounding and BLOCKS expansion in my opinion ! Yes contrast is there to show us what we don’t and do want but we don’t have to experience the worst to understand the best. If we are shown unconditional love we will understand it and continue to feel our own inner light … NOT by experiencing abuse or trauma ….
I love your videos. I have a 2 year old and he communicates very well. I do catch myself telling him to stop crying when he is freaking out over me not doing something that he wants. He tells me though his tears. I WANT TO CRY. That gives me a big realization that I cannot be telling him to stop crying. Much like when people in my life told me the same thing and it made it worse. I'd like to see another video of more examples of this parenting technique. We have been using small time outs or I let him have a meltdown in his room. The hard part about positive parenting is the criticism you get for it. I try my best to be positive but sometimes you feel like you aren't in control of the situation.
Teal - you are awesome. God Bless you. Keep teaching the good stuff to people and may the true knowledge through you spread further & more......🙏
Thank you Teal, these were the most important parenting points ever made in one video. Amazing.
This Video feels like someone is reading me like a book but with such a perfect Emphasis and pronunciation that I can not put the relief of Hearing it in to words. This is priceless.
Ya know, I'm not even a parent, almost got an Ex Pregnant, but it was rumor. I'm happy You've made this video, I had to watch it twice to fully get the complete concept and integration from the old to the new self. Thank you for everything TEAL!
Thank you so much for this Teal, I am genuinely moved, my parents have done most of this to me, and I never understood why I kept feeling sad about the fact we have no connection to each other each few weeks after I thought I was healing myself. But thank you, I will use this as a guide to look after my brother and sister and make sure they are raised well. Thank you
On the behalf of my 2 little boys: THANK YOU!!!!!
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Thank you, thank you, thank you for your priceless and wonderful advice !!!
Thank you for making me a better parent. So thankful..blessings to you n to everyone😘❤
I love this video so true, I will start using this with my own kiddos and my students.
I wish there was a school near me that practiced this way of teaching children. Maybe some day I will create one
Omg.. this video is amazing. " when you say that people will be offended about it being about them, i feel the opposite... I feel understood and like I now have the words to explain what I've always known to other adutls. Somehow I have always had this inner knowing of this concept without being able to say it in words. I reach out to family to take my son when I'm overwhelmed and exhausted, not because I don't want him around but because I know that him being around ME in that state is not ideal for him... It's in his best interest to be around people who also love him , but are more emotionally stable at that moment. My family thinks I am being selfish or don't want him there becsus he's a nuisance or something. Or when his teachers are complaining about his behaviour and the first thing I feel is guilty because I know that my mental state is the reason he's struggling. (I lost his dad, my husband, almost 1 year ago , at the age of 36. My son is 4(3 at the time) now.... And the affects it's had on me are indescribable)and I start immediately explaining how having him only go half days is not helping his situation because of all the pressure and problems it causes ME... But they act like my life has nothing to do with his behaviour. But yes... Actually not being able to work bc of his half days, or have a solo mental health break as I'm grieving, inability to keep up with housework and bills while grieving a huge , untimely, heartbreaking loss.. actually does have a direct impact on my ability to be a decent mother , and therefore it's absolutely showing up in his behaviour.
My parents fell into this trap of trying to make us think they were perfect... I don't really have a choice but to be honest with my son about my pain and shortcomings... because they are front and center on a daily basis and basically undeniable.
I have always known , even when I was pregnant , long before I ever heard of teal swan, That I would cater my parenting style to suit his personality, unlike my parents who used blanket style parenting for both myself and my sibling, which worked well in her case.. not so much for mine. I have no desire to be right or perfect ... Just happy and as long as my son is happy be can be himself, the real him.. whoever that happens to be.
And the last point.. question everything. I have said that about him since day 1.. I want him to know most importantly to question everything. Nothing is off limits... I will encourage him to question everything, even me. Especially in this day and age of blind obedience and mass formation psychosis that is affecting nearly everyone it seems. This is such a validation for me that I am exactly who I'm meant to be , and my parents and childhood are exactly who and what I needed make that possible. My true nature has been there , much to my parents dismay I might add.. since birth. I have tried to suppress my need to push the envelope and be the troublemaker before, but it was so strong and just pushed thru anyway tik I realized that resistance is futile and learned to accept being not accepted and just be ok with being the "problem" most of the time. The universe really does work in mysterious ways.
You are a perfect example of a book judged by it's cover, you are beautiful, it's true... Inside and out, only right for you to become the messenger you have become..
Such valuable information. I would love Teal to write a book on conscious parenting!
Very well said - would like to add that parents of autism need skip 101 and adopt this advise directly there is no other way. Also to every parent if you don't get it right every time that's ok allow your progression of consciousness to take place.
this applies very well for adults too...
This is the MAJOR CHANGE that Humanity needs to choose. I wrote my view about what you said during the tchek interview where there is a lot of non sens about corporation and so and. Here it is the turning point for humanity. We need to heal our inner child before having babies. Parenthood is the bigger responsibility in the human experience.
The whole planet lives maybe the bigger issue since human being arrivals, and we're 8 billions ?
Ask you questions : Which kind of human beings I want to see on earth ?
Am I ready to teach to my child the values I'd love to see between human beings?
More there is danger, insecurity, more humanity procreates. This tendency were noticed after the 1 st and 2nd world war. So, nothing change ? It's just the survival instinct which operates. Where is the conscious choice ?
We live with others species in this planet, Gaïa needs to provide food for all the creation. How many species already disappears ? In less than 200 years ?
Gaïa is powerful and limited. When balance is broken, she can act to re-establish the equilibrium. Long time ago, dinosaurs were the stronger species in planet Earth. And suddenly a meteorite, and no weak, no strong, no more dinosaurs.
It's time now for the big cleaning of human inconsciousness.
Be responsable of your choice and the consequences of your act for the LOVE OF GAÏA. She's loving, kind, she got for us a profound motherhood feeling, a huge love for her little children.The words will never express her kindness and warmth. But she suffers, deeply in silence, without blaming. And this is her strength. Pure LOVE.
Thank you so much for this. I can see where I need to improve for my children now.
" A child will only respect and love who loves them "
Very valuable video with clarity and useful meaningfulness.
not a parent here. but this is exactly what i would have wanted from my parents. I admit I was an emotionally broken person for as long as I can remember. but I am healing. why not avoid the emotional breakage in the first place by parenting this way!
Oh... I just went back in time while listening this... And now i know where most of my wounds come from... I knew that some of them are the result from that time, but now i know i was wrong...
I love my parents and i know that they just didn't know a better way... May they rest in peace... But won't do the same mistakes on my child/children.
Thank you Teal. :)
Thank you so much for your video. I agree with you 100%. I have gone through a transformation by becoming a mother and I am always working to better myself for my children.
I made some notes on the practical advice. Why not share them here. :)
Every emotion a child experiences is valid. An extreme reaction is appropriate.
React by kneeling down and showing empathy: “I know honey, it’s OK to feel upset. I feel the exact same way when I want something that I don’t feel l ike I can have”.
Encourage the child to express verbally how they feel or where they feel the feeling in their body.
With this you allow them to have feelings and not suppress them, allow them to move through the feeling, cause them to know that no matter what you will be there for them and with them through everything, they are not alone.
The result is an emotionally intelligent child.
Note that you are not rushing to make the emotion better by giving the child what he was asking for, we did not try to rescue them from their emotions so we avoid causing them to believe emotions are bad, wrong, to be avoided. You also do not give in and buy what they want, become a doormat, the child did not become a dictator who everyone is a slave to. Instead the child is treated as an equal member of the household, equal to adults.
It is OK to explain the child that as a parent you also have shortcomings, that you might not know the answer, that you are not Gods. Show them process of going looking for the answer, to learning. Encourage that someday they might found out the answer themselves.
Mirroring the emotion: empathize with how they feel and express how you recognize how tht feels, that it is ok to feel that way, that you felt that same way once, that anyone would feel that way. The result is that a child does not fight against a negative emotion and so it blows over quickly.
DO NOT shame your child. Example: the child does not want to go to bed. You warn them of the potential consequence (feeling tired the next day). Let them find this out for themselves.
Im so grateful for showing me this❤❤❤
thanx for reminding me that unconditional LOVE is the answer!
Teal you never cease to amaze me! So true . I have had much criticism l💘💘☀️💚💚☀️
Would like to hear a video on how to discipline a child!
I wish I could have been parented by a mom and a dad who thought like this. It would have changed my entire childhood radically. :)
Bravo Teal! Important Parental wisdom for the ages delivered with just the right measure of urgency and edginess...In me Lots of sadness and regret-but also hope for the future.
That was an excellent insight, Thank you Teal. Namaste,
thank you teal i like to think i get most of this already but you complete the geometry that i had half formed or forgot or didn't know to begin with, this is fgoing to help me immensely with the relationship between me and my parents their inner children and mine, and innevitably alot of other people and my own children when the time comes
Ah, Teal, there is so much good material here, so many pertinent observations and is helping me most powerfully. Thank you once again.
I hope I am blessed to be able to raise my children with a mother like you Teal ;-)
i showed this video to my father and he yelled at me.
LOL :-D
lol sounds like something my dad would do, sorry to hear about that :-(
It only reflects his own fears and self doubt. He's trying to hide
and how did you react on that ?
You r brilliant! Thank you for sharing your insights!
7:33 is the one of main root of financial trauma 🎉 good to discover it especially when you have no visual memories yet and you have so mix confusing feeling signature toward finances 😢
Love this. Thank you big sister!❤️
Can you please do a video about step-parenting and blended families?
Next time someone shames you, tell them "You're pouring acid on my self-concept."
wow this woman is highly inteligent
Open heart ... popcorn and Teal on the Tele... life is great!
thank you so much for making this and all the other videos!!!
Teal, you're amazing. Thank you. I love you
I checked out your channel. Beautiful voice
buster bunny wow, thank you so much :)
Thank you Teal for this great video. Have a great day 💜
Amazing lady thank you!
I was having so many doubts this evening and your video really open up my mind, thank you so much
yay :) new video
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Excellent message! Thank you!!:)
Hvala.
Love this video...if I could do it over again like this I would.
Amen!
Wow this is brilliant.....Many thanks :)
THIS HAS BEEN MY MOST FAVORITE VIDEO YET, MAKES ALOT OF SENSE, I MADE SURE I DID EVERYTHING TO STAY AWARE SO THAT I DIDN'T PARENT LIKE MY PARENTS DID, I THINK THE BIGGEST SOLUTION IS TO JUST STAY AWARE WHILE PARENTING, THANK YOU REAL, GREAT ADVISE!!!!
very good, thank you.
Most common issue nowadays is trying to give our children everything in order to avoid their frustration. Parents will assume the child´s suffering as their own, so the child feels no pain. They give all their power to their kids, and then say thing like "My kid is always challenging me", as if the problem was the kid. Children are not allowed to get bored or take risks. However they are allowed to slave their parents. These parents do not know what their role is.
Thank you for this!
Thank you so much really enjoyed this one
You are amazing Teal
One very good way to get back into those repressed childhood memories to reprocess these memories/traumas etc is Iboga.
Do research, the answers are out there...
I wish I was conscious enough and knew all these when I was raising my babies :(
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You nailed it once again Teal
Thank you so much Teal.
Thank you teal
I love you Teal. Thank you!! When can we talk life and raise vibrations
Excellent advice!
Great video... Thank you...
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Teal- I love that you are making these parenting videos. I have 3 kids, 9,5, and 8 months. I am starting to remember and understand the manifestation process. I have been asking the universe to help me fix what damage I have done emotionally to my children (in the socially accepted way).. And then you upload these videos! How cool is that ?! :-) That every thought creates our reality here, it makes me hopeful that I can integrate. I feel I have "passed the baton" to my older two kids. I was emotionally crushed as a child, and now waking to truth and dealing with damage control...any tips on how to rebuild self concept in them?
I really like the images at 1:35 and 9:08.
Perfect.
Great vid. I have a question - could one argue that these points for "parenting" could be applied to communication in general with all of those around you? I am 35, have no kids yet and am in a wonderful marriage. A wonderful marriage is not without difficulties. I feel like some of these points could go for communicating with your partner - like projecting unfulfilled aspects of yourself onto your partners behavior.
well said Jennifer Schwartz ...... I big time agree. All RELATIONSHIPS could learn from this and from the wisdom of your words.
I regret being a parent 100% and I’m stuck in a roller coaster that I don’t want to be on. What do I do? I hate being a parent.
Ur amazing..
Respect.
Teal, my name is Daniel and I'm from ecuador. I just wanted to say to you that I had the most tender and beautiful dream with you and as I just woke up I really feel the urgency to write this even though it may not be appropiate or it may pass unnoticed. As of now, I love you...