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- In the midst of my successful, professional career, I received a rude awakening about my role as a mother to my children.
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I gave up my job as an insurance claims adjuster to stay home and care for my disabled wife rather than put her in a nursing home. Now turning my 45 acre home into an herbal farm so I can stay home and care for her. I never studied herbs or permaculture, but you're never too old to learn. I now live life day to day learning what weeds to eat, what herbs to use for illnesses, I've raised my own food for years but never took homesteading seriously. I've since learned Family first. There's aways tomorrow and tomorrow becomes today and life goes on. Love conquers all
I commend you for your choice. May God bless you both.
Hang in there sir. You can take it step by step slowly. part herbal and part vegetable is good too but that's too much work without help.
Mr. Vaughn... you are a gem and your wife is truely blessed.
THIS is what acts of unconditional love looks like 👏🏾 Respect & may you be blessed.
THIS is what acts of unconditional love looks like 👏🏾 Respect & may you be blessed.
Thank you for this vlog. I'm holding back the tears.
I married at 19. At 21 I had my first son and two more followed close after. Four years later, at age 28 I had my last child, my only daughter.
I bucked the system. Not only was I a stay at home mom, I birthed my children at home, and I nursed them all for over a year. My marriage wasn't a happy one, but the husband had a 90 minute commute to get to work. With very little money, I did what I could for my kids. We might not have had much food, but we had dinner, sitting at the table, me and my kids. I had a small garden. My kids had chores. I babysat and cleaned houses so my kids had shoes and were able to play soccer.
Eventually I divorced my husband.
My kids are now 41, 39, 38 and 34. I have 10 grandkids, with another grand daughter coming in March 2020. This will be my daughters 2nd daughter. Her first is going on 16!
My kids turned out well. We are close, and dedicated to one another.
I did eventually go to work full time, but the kids were older. The important thing was to be there for them when they needed me. I don't regret anything.
Now I'm remarried, and I am disabled. Even so my kids all live close by.
My hubby and I eat dinner together every night. We rarely go out to eat. I have a small garden. We are happy.
Just curious how do your beloved children relate to their Father?
@@rexsheeley8177 bro same im like karen chill this aint the time
@@megmarie8819 time for what?
@@rexsheeley8177 Personal details. I am also curious but some things we don't need to know.
Karen, Thanks for the post. I also had all three of my kids at home. The first one I had a doctor. I don't know what his title is but not a medical doctor. The second two I had a midwife. I also breast fed all three of them. Fortunately I had a good marriage. I am happy for your happiness now. My kids are all grown now too and good people.
I seldom miss an LTH episode, but I somehow missed this one, until now. Sarah, you are one of most extraordinary women, next to my wife and my granddaughter, that I have ever encountered. You owe nothing to "luck" or "good fortune." You and Kevin had a clear vision, and the guts to bring that vision to life. This is one of the most moving videos I have ever seen. Thank you.
I am 72 yrs. old and in the early 70’s most women did not return to work after having a baby. I had been a teacher for 5 years but always aspired to be a mother. By the time I was 32 I had three children just under the age of 5 and if I’d gone back to teaching would be loosing money, so stayed home. I now treasure those memories! The best time of my life. Even though we couldn’t afford the “best” of everything, we had an amazing life and I wouldn’t trade it for anything! Every person has to decide what is best for them and hopefully, has the freedom to manifest it for themselves! I’m so glad that you found what is best for your family. Thanks for sharing!
This is such an important message that so many of us forget. Career pressure and roles has pushed family values to the backburner.. When I have a kid I will sacrifice any success for myself for success for my family.
Wow !! Tears in my eyes. I’m 64 now. My kids are grown. I stayed home and raised my kids. People tried to make me feel like I was wasting my talents. No regrets for staying home ❤️🙏
Exactly the same with me. I "WANTED" to raise MY children. That was the job I wanted. I did not want someone else influencing their fresh young minds and see their first steps or hearing their first words.
Me too - just a few yrs younger. God allowed US to shape our own children's worldviews and habits, and with homeschooling, we learned all about the world together on the couch and at our family table. It was lovely, and now the 5 grands will have a similar upbringing. NO REGRETS!
Sarah - lovely story and right choice! Your homesteading life shines with fulfillment and accomplishment.
I've been a stray at home mom most of my kids life. I chose to not go to college when I found out I was pregnant. Everyone called me a failure, everyone said I was screwing up my life, everyone said I was screwing up my daughters life, everyone said I had no value. But I knew in my heart of hearts that my calling was to be a stray at home mom. ( My mom worked and I only saw her on the weekends, where she was busy doing everything else and I hated it). The only time I got to spend with my mom was doing house chores and working on the house. She didn't come to anything I was involved in, says want around for any kids issues. I basically raised myself from the age of 12 up.
I'm 42 and my oldest daughter just got married last month. That was the moment everything was sealed for me. The moment ask those lies were crushed and I now know with out a doubt I did exactly what I was created to do.
It was exactly the same for me. My mom was a stayed home of 9 so she stayed home to take care of us while my father worked and provided for us. We did have much but what we had was plenty of love, yummy home made food for dinner. My mom would make everything from scratch! I had two degrees and when I got married I left my job because I knew I wanted to give my children what my mom gave to us growing up. I love every minute of it, I love seeing my children’s faces when I picked them up from school. I cook for them every single day like my mom did for us. I love being there for every little active they have at school, taking them to the library, swimming, baseball, karate. They’re so polite, kind and compassion kids and it makes me so proud when people always tell me how polite and kind they’re. I have zero regrets staying home with my children. They only stay small for short amount of time so I wanted to be there for everything!
April 24, 2018 I sat right here at this desk while my husband was asleep and bawled like a baby. God and I spent the rest of the night talking. The next day my husband and I had the start of many conversations. I just turned 68, he is 63 and this fall we will be moving to ten acres and selling our house in town. My children have good memories of Mom at home and they and my grandchildren will have wonderful memories of the homestead. Thank you for opening up the way you did. Bless you all.
Get the family together and plant 2 trees ( In case one dies) as close to your move in date as you can. And the kids and grandkids can watch the trees grow and remember the day you all planted them together. Take pictures of the before during and after and they can look back at how much the trees have grown. Just dont make the mistake if putting them too close to a power line like i did many moons ago. Now they have to e trimmed. But that was in the city. Now we have our own land and lots of trees.😊
I am an English teacher and I don't have the words to express how heartfelt and inspirational this video is: love and hugs from Australia.❤️
This video is an eye opener to many in the world
Lovely story! I want to add something for you. When I was growing up my mum made wonderful cookies and cakes and meals for us. She died about 12 years ago and I'd find myself wanting to call her to ask what she used to put in this recipe or that. Then I recalled we had her recipe books, and found all our favorites hand written by her like stories, detailing not only the ingredients but how she cooked them, and some of her mothers, and her grandmothers. Those two books are amongst our most precious heirlooms - I can feel her standing by me while I cook. So leave your children your handwritten recipe book. They'll love you for it.
Sarah, you are an incredible woman. I am 64, divorced, and doing the homestead, prepping, and canning life. Your family is so lucky to have a woman like you for a mother/wife. You are a role model for all women who care to leave a legacy, and not just plod along day to day. Thank you so much for all you do and share.
Your story is really so true for so many mom's who work outside the home. My story revolves around onions. My son was about four and told him he was old enough to help cook dinner. Asked him to climb up onto the step stool and saute the onions. After a few minutes he said he had to stop because it was making him cry. Said okay. Then I said that's why you see mommy cry when she's chopping and sauting onions. He hugged me so hard. He said mommy I thought you didn't like being my mommy and having to cook dinner. He then sat on the sofa. I could see his young mind racing with thoughts of what else did he misunderstand. That night gave my son the peace of mind I didn't know he needed. Now he is a good cook and look forward to his culinary surprises when he has vacation time.
I’m proud of you and Kevin to not let money be more important than you kids and your family. What your doing on the farm is more important than any of the STUFF you could have/would have bought your kids while working to ease your guilty feelings. Great job. Love you guys.
Lynn Smith amen couldn’t have said it better myself ❤️
When my wife and I realized that we didn’t want someone else raising our children. Couple of friends thought it was kind of a controlling decision on my part. We both thought it would be a good idea. We didn’t have all the toys others had, with both working, but we had peace of mind and self satisfaction.
You definitely made the right decision!
I absolutely love this! I've been a stay at home mom since having my daughter 6 years ago, we've since added our 3 year old son to the mix. There have been times where it has been a real struggle (especially the beginning) and I was almost guilted into going back to work. We were so poor (financially) that I had one family member ask me if I've thought about collecting unemployment since I "couldn't get a job". I've had others make jabs about having a "princess complex" like they think my husband just takes care of me. He does in a lot of ways but I take care of him too. And my kids. It's hard work! I've really only come to fully embrace it in the last year or so and not be made to feel guilty. Us stay at home moms should be absolutely proud of our accomplishments. It is a blessing to be called to be a wife and mother. It's a high calling at that. Congratulations on building amazing memories for your children and giving up the temporary luxuries from working outside the home. The world needs more women that are willing to sacrifice luxury in order to gain the true riches in life, which is your family.
It is so good to see someone who really believes and lives putting family first! Thank you all for being real and honest with us!
This is such a beautiful testimony to share. Thank you for that. It seems like everyone is struggling and burnt out today. I would be willing to bet more than a few people will find this story moving, and that it will spark some of the very same internal conversations in them. Society is moving too fast, everyone is sick, mental illness is constantly in the news, and kids are being all but forgotten. We've been conditioned to produce but I see more and more that people are starting to wake up and crave something different. Simpler, slower, dare I say wholesome.
Sarah, thank you for sharing your story with us. I really admire you and the family you and Kevin have built. It is just beautiful, and I really strive to one day have something similar. 💜
Thank you Sarah for sharing this past time in your life, my daughter past away this past August, she was only 37. Now I have my beautiful granddaughter that is 14, living with me, and my grandson who is in the army now but he now calls this place home..My heart is so broken with my daughter being gone that I am having a very hard time trying to find my joy again, I am trying to hold on to my faith but it truly is being tested. I thank you because you just reminded me of what has always been important to me, and that is FAMILY.. My child might not be with us anymore, but she has left the best parts of herself behind, and I am thankful!
I’m glad you made this change. I stayed home with our daughter and never regretted it. She died in a car accident when she was seventeen almost seven years ago. But, I know she had a great life.
Iam sorry for the passing of your daughter.. GOD bless you ... i feel the need to say this 🙂 i strongly feel ! That You KNOW..THAT you KNOW ! shes still with you! and oneday!! yall will be to gather in paridise 4 ever..never to depart!! because .. you cant love someone that much !!! As much as yall love one another ..Not to ..never see each other again!😇
I am so sorry for your loss. God bless you.
I am so sorry!
This is heartfelt. I'm sorry to hear of the passing of your daughter. Continue to be strong in the Lord and trust in Him. We are 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 for peace & comfort.
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Thank you for sharing. After I had my son and was supposed to go back to work after having 3 months off, I told my husband I couldn’t go back to work and put him daycare. I said I will drive this car until the wheels fall off. We will eat lots beans and rice. But just couldn’t see my child being raised by a stranger. That was 35 years ago. We raised a very accomplished young man. And survived just fine without my pay check. I so agree with your message.
Amazing story, I have been cooking every since I was five. I am 57 now. But my mother worked so much that I was the cook and the house keeper. I never really had a childhood, on top of that I had to see over my baby brother. I can remember that when I had to change his diaper and I was about five and half years old and I stuck him by accident. It scared me so much that the fear of doing it again was like so much pressure that I can remember that my little heart would race! But I don't regret all the stuff I had to do. It built my character and I am really a great cook and pretty great with children.
I understand what you are saying, been there.
I'm so happy that you discovered this while you are young. I'm in my 60s now and my sons are adults. I live with guilt everyday thinking about mistakes I made when they were little. And now I can't fix them. I'm glad it's not too late for you.
same here, school full time, work full time, career full time, time flies, kids grown, choosing a different path, I discovered a way for my youngest to stay close, we bought an RV and packed him and his friends every summer and headed to the beach...good memories...God bless Sarah and her family and yours
I remember when my Mom started working and I went to kindergarten. I missed her so much! My best memories are of my Mom preparing dinner for us as we waited for Dad to come home from work. We would run to him, as he got out of his car, squealing and everything was right in the world. Mom and Dad spent all their free time with their family. We lived in the country; it was a great life. I wish I could have given my children what I had growing up but I chose a different path with the military. You are an excellent example for your girls, their friends and your community. You and your husband are a team and the girls are better for it.
Heartbreaking Sarah. Growing up on a farm with hard work and leaving that to living a mile from 8 mile Detroit where we both worked I worked in the public schools for 20 years and I lost my soul..so many children there needed more then being dropped off. Blesd you for seeing that.. My kids saw murders of friends and addiction, how do you console them with that and i tried many years to escape and find my peace on a farm once again. My kids both live in rural communities, my daughter preserves and has an organic homestead in the smokey mountains and my son is learning to live off his land and I'm in the forest with woodland critters. I'm humble and very fortunate. Less is more keep your hands busy and give thanks everyday. God bless you I know I was blessed.. Sad story! Very! We need to reconnect. Thank you for a beautiful truthful story.
I had my daughter later in life. She is a true blessing. I was working a career and while I had the flexibility to be able to attend field trips and volunteer at the school I recall being in a meeting and missing an event. I was blessed with an opportunity to retire from my career and did so while my daughter was in middle school. I cherish every moment with her. I also recall people telling me to take time to myself because I took her everywhere I could. I would reply I had 40 years to myself. I didn't need anymore time to myself. What a beautiful story you have shared. Thank you.
Dude, you have a good woman there.
indeed
Yes, he found a good thing...according to the bible
They both are very nice people. Wonderful couple!!
This struck a nerve with me! You are so right and I'm glad you were able to make a change! Money drives our every move most times to the detriment of our families. You and Kevin are a very courageous couple to reach for and attain your dream! I love watching your channel and learn from your experiences. You have a lot of folks who are cheering for your successes and praying for you in your sorrows. GOD bless you and your family!
Nothing hurts more than to hear,, " what do you know daddy, you were never there". I drove a bus 40 hours a week and 25 to 30 hours overtime a week. Worked EVERY Christmas and new year's eve and new year's day for 17 years to make sure my girls would be prepared for their future. But now I'm just the guy who was never there. We all have a price to pay but I know I did my part and gave it my best
😢 I hope your daughters appreciate you regardless, because you had to sacrifice your time with family for their own wellbeing.
Some men in family I barely knew, as they were never around for long, but Grandpa came in out of the fields for lunch, so I got to see him in the middle of the day. He was the closest thing to a dad that I had growing up, never knew my own.
Whether the children know it or not, you gave your all. That’s all you can do, and it wont be until your children have their own that they might understand.
Black Russian I hope time and age gives them the wisdom to know. I am 59, I never, ever resented either of my parents working. Now daddy never worked holidays, due to the nature of his work, but he worked long hard hours. I am truly blessed to still have my Papa Bear, he turned 85 in March. You hang in there Papa, wait and see what life teaches your girls.
I am so sorry your daughters feel that way. You are a remarkably awesome man. God bless you. I have a feeling you will be richly rewarded. 🙏🏻❤️
I'm so happy to see this coming back around for families and how we want what is important.
Our country has gone through so many changes since I grew up and we all had the opportunity to have dinner together at home every night. Probably mostly due to disability, a willing husband I was able to stay home with my kids. I remember a few times when others looked at me as "less than professional" when they asked me what I did & I said I was raising my family and teaching my kids of which I am still very proud.
No one should feel pressure to conform to someone else's idea of what their family should be like.
That's a lovely looking meal you made there!
What a heartfelt message.. I remember when my children were small , my husband worked nights so same scenario with our children- he was the “Mom” Daddy involved with the children’s school/after school activities. I remember going to a school function & someone came up to me and said “ so you’re Mom, we see your husband all the time! He’s just so wonderful!” In this day & age of liberation, I still feel there are clear defining ‘roles” within the family structure. My youngest child was 8 when I was able to retire with 30 years of corporate life under my belt. I do feel good that I was there for them when I was & with my husband’s blessing & reassurance. There really is something special about being the Mom you want to be.
I chose to become self-employed since I knew I would have to work, yet wanting to be there for my children, their school activities, and appointments. I prayed that I could make enough money, and still be there for my children. I did not make much money, but I did make a profit, and I learned some very beneficial skills. I also prayed that I would not get people that would try to sue me over stupid things. Not that there would have been any reason, but when people fall or have issues they tend to get sue happy. I worked a lot of hours, but I was always able to work around my children. I was blessed to have sufficient for my needs and to have excellent clients. Now my children are raised, and I am grateful for the sacrifices made on their behalf. Children grow up fast, and the sacrifices are worth making.
Great video, keep sharing, and keep up the great work.
When I was a little boy growing up my moma let me learn how to make her buttermilk biscuits standing on a stool. We raised our living off the land in the beautiful West Virginia mountains.
You had me tearing up. I went back to work for a while after all the kids were in school. It was hard on our family and we finally came to the decision that we needed to live on less and for me to stay at home. Fast forward, the kids are now homeschooled, we are building this homestead(my new job!) And we have much better relationships with our kids. We all might drive each other nuts sometimes, but it's so much deeper than before.
Similar story for us ...back to work when kids were ''old enough''. 'Till young son, when asked how he was getting along said with a great sigh ''l don't like coming home to an empty house''. That was our ''can you cook?'' moment. Life changer.
Thank you so much for this comment. I see and hear from family at this time of year and there are always questions about doing business or studying. I tried to study when the twins started nursery school because of something dad said and then I got a job at the same time in the same field I was studying for. It didn't work out. My kids suffered. Even my non verbal autistic son listed all our names on the side of the fridge. Well, almost all. Daddy was at the top. Their four names in order of age. I didn't know he could write all the names. I also didn't make the list. He was 7 and his 5-year old brother drew a picture of daddy dressing them for school. The twins were 2 and instead of getting them to bed I was at class. So I stopped all of it. Everyone is happy now and sometimes like now my brother the doctor will call from overseas on his off day... so thank you. I am only a mom who grows vegetables and does housework. Just what I need to be.
I'm so encouraged by thus!!!! Thank you for sharing!!
Seeing all these stories is making me cry.
I feel these stories in my soul.
Thank you for sharing them.💜
About 4 yrs ago I was a CNA, my 10 yr old told me I care more about my clients then them. It broke my heart. I was a single mom just trying to provide for my kids. Me and my ex-husband have remarried and after 3 yrs together have a little house on 5 acre's. My kids are my world.
How could you present this video without tears? I shed numerous ones just watching....truly. Is the coronavirus pandemic making me emotionally weak?? lol Life is so much more than material things and I enjoy watching you guys live life like I wish I had lived. I would do anything to turn back the clock (at 67 y/o) and live the subsistence life you guys almost do. You know, our children are the most important thing in our lives and I appreciate watching the effort you exhibit raising yours. As a divorced man, I did the best I could to raise my two boys the way I was raised. I am proud of both of them and they turned out well and we are close.
Your children seem well versed in the things that matter. Keep doing the good work and I appreciate your videos. They make my day. Love you guys.
That’s a very touchy story. Thanks for sharing, by the way that soup looks delicious.😋 I also gave away my carrier to care for my 6 children, my husband who passed when he was just 49 years old after living 10 years after a liver transplant, taking care of my mom for over 20 years,still with me on her 88 years birthday. Caring for my first born child with bones problems ( 7 surgeries), living with my dear mother in law and seeing how in her last 15 years of her life,she vanished due to dementia, oh no there are more to add to this but I don’t want to bring up what I did in my life for my family, I just wanted to encourage people “mothers “ that it’s a blessing to have the opportunity to be home and serve your family and is rewarded by God. You leave a legacy for your children that will serve them for generations to come.
And now I’m 60 and have a grate desire to move to a homestead place just to teach my grandkids how to preserve family values and living a purpose life.
God bless you and keep doing the good work momma!❤
OMG, your life sounds so much like my wife's....it breaks my heart to see her struggle with so much and I hate having to wait till 6:30 or 7pm to see her. I really liked your story and now I understand the origin of your channel, Living "Traditions" Homestead, so awesome!! Brought tears to my eyes...
You’re such a strong and amazing woman. God bless you and your family.
Wow!! That was totally heart warming, thank you so much. I know that this video was very hard to make, i cried along with you. Bravo Sara!!! For the courage to make a change for the sake of your children and for the memories they share about you to your future grandchildren.. you are one awesome lady and they will cherish you forever. Good Morning from Cajun Country!!! I hope you have a very wonderful and blessed day!!!
I grew up on a farm, and it was the best part of my life. Of course we went the way of most people today, I joined the USAF at 17, retired at 38 yrs old, went to work for the county where we live and retired from there as well, but the sad part is I don't even know my kids. I am now 74 yrs old and very seldom see my adult kids and they are doing the same thing I did. I would like to see a lot more people do the homestead thing because it reminds me how I grew up. If we didn't raise it or grow it we didn't eat it. God bless you Sarah and Kevin and your beautiful children. I have just recently found you, but I'm a subscriber for life.
How in the world does this video have 700 “thumbs down”??? So beautiful and heart felt, thank you!! 💜💜💜
Because unfortunately the world's way is not God's way he created women to be wives and mothers. The world and the system has tried to convince us that we are not complete unless we do something else. Funny how the breakdown of the family unit has led to so much destruction and confusion for children. Almost as though it was planned that way 🤔🧐
It has that many because it spoke a much needed, truthful message that goes against the accepted drivel. This is a wonderful vlog and speaks direct to the heart about important matters. Keep speaking and teaching by example, we need to hear what you have to say. Excellent!
The ppl convicted
Their conscience voted down
Because not only what she is saying it’s against what the culture tells us but because deep inside the people know this is true and when we get convicted of something we don’t like so we choose to kill our conscience little by little until not only we are desensitized to the truth but we stand firm against it like it’s the plague. This is my favorite video from them! Well done!
@@deliamura7744 Well said.
What a powerful and beautifully encouraging story. Thank you, Sarah, for sharing this. God bless
I feel this to the depths of my soul. I was seeing my kids for two waking hours a day and they were 3 months and 20 months while I worked 40+ hours a week while my husband commutes to a different city. We had no life. There was no time. And I was missing out. Quitting my job was huge. Learning to live on less. But every day, I am grated that I get to take care of my family. We may not get vacations and going to movies. But we get each other.
God bless you and your family!
So happy for you! I pray you take them to a good church and fill them with God’s truth. Best decisions!
Amen, best present ever.
That was a great decision that you made!
No one EVER regrets coming home to be with their kids
No one says on their deathbed
I wish I had spent less time with my kids
No One!
Live in someone’s basement, just BE with ur kids and DO with ur kids
It took my youngest asking” mommy when do I get to see you again” for me
Oh wow! Wake up call 😇❤️
Brave, very brave!! I am a retired psychotherapist and psychologist, I am absolutely astonished you had the courage, and psychological fortitude to self analyse what needed to happen to make your family happy. the psychological and mental muscle required to arrive at that insight and subsequent actions are a shining unselfish testament to you and your husband it is an example to us all!! Well done, live your lives well, you only live once. YOU NEED TO SHARE YOUR JOURNEY WITH YOUR YOUNG ONES AT SOME POINT, THE EXAMPLE YOU SHOW AND DECISIONS YOU HAVE MADE WILL BE PASSED ON, THE TREASURES WILL SUSTAIN THEM FOREVER......
This is the most BEAUTIFUL and THOUGHT provoking post I may have ever seen. I NEEDED this. Four years later and God has used this I'm January of 2023 to touch a Mommy's heart that has been struggling. Thank You, Sarah. From the depths of my being, on behalf of myself, my family, MY Children, Thank you. God BLESS you.
Like you I have chosen a more traditional life as a woman and I couldn’t be happier. Your amazing💖
whats you all address sara ch
We decided that I should stay home with our son and quit my job when he was 2, I wish I have done it when he came into this world. It has been 26 years. It wasn't easy but I enjoyed it so much. Great decision! God bless you!
I so agree with you.
Very touching. Your story is how so many families are living, today. You had the gift of awakening and chose to use it to make a different outcome for your family. God Bless you, all 😊
I hope that many see this and try and get back to the family as center. Totally sad.
I love this story! When my kids were about the same age as your girls when you had this awakening, I too was working full-time +. I was not able to quit my job, but did go part-time for several years in order to be at home more. I would not trade those year for the world even though we had to sacrifice. It doesn't have to be all-or-nothing. But each family owes it to themselves to really have that hard conversation..."what are we working for?" Kids won't remember the stuff you bought them or how big the house was or how new the car. But they will remember if mom or dad spent time with them. That is your investment.
We were married 10yrs before we miraculously had our first child. We tried for so long, then were again blessed w a daughter 15mo later.
I worked at USPS for 10 yrs, and I missed a lot of things. My husband had always wanted me to be a stay-at-home mom, but I felt the need to help w the finances and to pay for daycare. My ‘aha’ moment was when my son said to me one day when I finally made it to his baseball game: “You’re late again?” That broke my heart. I told him I wouldn’t be late again. He had also begged for 3 yrs for me to homeschool, but I was afraid that I wouldn’t do the right thing.
I immediately went into work w a huge smile on my face to voluntarily quit. I then released my children out of the public school system (4th & 6th grade) and started homeschooling. My daughter went back to school in high school to play basketball w all her friends, but I finished homeschooling my son through 12th grade. She went to college and my son went to the Navy. Now they both have their own families, both have each a son, and I am enjoying my time as their grandmother.
I still believe that was the best decision my husband and I made by staying home. I never missed another game, and we still have very open conversations. I am now teaching the grandkids when I see them, and the smile on their face when they learn something new makes my heart full. It was so worth it!!!
Was she not able to play basketball outside of school?
Emiline Bellé She was able to, but she wanted to play w her friends that were playing on her select basketball team. She was a very social person, unlike my son, and was willing to go back to school for it. She wanted to play past high school, too, which she did in college. I will not lie, the kids in school can be very mean to homeschooled kids. But she persevered and became a great mentor to others that were shunned from the game. That’s why I decided to let her go back. She had so much to share ;)
WOW!!!!!!!Can't stop the tears. I am 60 , my kids are grown. There is so many things I wish I had done different. Raising kids on your own is so hard and I worked all the time trying to make ends meet. I missed so much. I now have grandkids and great grandkids and trying to make time with them that I didn't with my children. You are amazing and so blessed to have a husband like you have. You two are a team, and see in these videos the love you have for each other. May God continue to bless you and your sweet family. It is 2022 and I have just found you two on youtube and I am so glad I did.
THAT WAS A BEAUTIFUL STORY,ME AND MY HUSBAND DIVORCED IN 88 AND MY DAUGHTER WAS 6 BOYS 10 AND 13 SO I HAD TO WORK TO HELP SUPPORT MY FAMILY.I REALLY ADMIRE YOU FOR WHAT YOU DID.Y'ALL HAVE A GREAT LIFE GOING ON THERE IN THE OZARKS.I LOVE ALL OF YOUR VIDEOS.I AM JUST A GA COUNTRY GIRL.
I've been a stay at home Mom since I've been married. I have 1 son now almost 32 years old. I didn't want someone else raising him. I didn't regret it one bit. He sees now What a Blessing it was having Mommy home. God blessed us so I could stay home. I went to flea mkts., garage sales and gardened. I even home schooled his his last 3 years because we moved. God will make a way where there seems no other way. I never regretted it whatsoever. You made the right decision. You have a good thing going on. That's stepping out on Faith! God bless you and your Family. This video put tears to my eyes. Love you all!
So many homesteaders or even others who stay in the city but drastically change the way they live and raise their family have some kind of God moment or Aha moment where they realize "this isn't where I want to be" or "this isn't how I want my kids growing up" or something similar.... I know I personally had a handful of those moments before I took the hint that I was forcing my life in the wrong direction.
Homesteading definitely has its downfalls and heartbreaks, but it is nothing compared to the heartbreak of realizing your own children barely know you, or that you are working so many long, hard hours for materialistic stuff and you're missing the true enjoyment of LIVING a purposeful life.
Thank you for sharing your story. God bless you for doing what you know in your heart is right for you and your family.
What a blessing to hear your story of how you were moved to change your life for your children/family. God does have His ways of getting our attention. I was never blessed with children and so to hear your story brought me to tears ...but they were tears of joy for your family. I've been watching your programs since this Pandemic hit because I actually have had time to be on the computer. I don't have TV, just DVD and so when I come in at night since the library is closed and I've not picked up any DVD's I've been watching the two of you live a most fantastic life style. Now that's become my routine most night. Thanks so much for opening up your lives to all of us. I'm learning lots from you in many ways. Blessings, Teri
What a beautiful testimony and courageous story to tell. You put out there your vulnerability and guilty feelings of being a working and sometimes absent mom. Thank you for sharing. I've been on the other side of this conversation. I've been shamed by parents and friends for wanting to stay home and be a homemaker. I never was able to, but I kept getting part time jobs that meant nothing just to help with the bills because everyone kept saying "It takes two incomes to survive". I never stayed at a job more than 4 years because I knew my heart wasn't in it to be away from the kids and their activities. They are grown now, with children of their own and I'm able to help out with our grandchildren and love it. I'm estranged from my parents still at age 50 because they think I should have a full time job. My husband is hard working outside the home in the concrete game, I do the yard work, two large gardens and all the chores, cooking, shopping and errands. Even with my parents not speaking to me, I'm the happiest I've ever been. Thanks for sharing and listening.
That was truly beautiful! Memories trump money every time!
I also have to add that this video was beautifully put together and edited!
You’re so beautiful Sarah. This is so so good.
Oh and you totally made me cry.
Thank you, Jess!
Thanks for sharing
What a very personal story for sharing. Thank you for opening our eyes too.
I’m overwhelmed with love for my new “friend.” Thank you for being YOU! ...and for making the world a better place. ❤️
You just punched me right in the heart. I feel this on so many levels. It was just me and kiddo at the time. I worked fulltime and went to school parttime. She was a 10hr day daycare kid easily. Fast forward she's 6 and things are just awfully heartbreaking. Our relationship was terrible. Her behavior was worse. I had $3k in savings. I finally took the leap of faith and quit my career. Two years later, still catchin' side gigs. Totally present for the daughter. God continues to pave the way and open doors I didn't know exist!
I have watched your channel for some time! Love your channel. Never saw this one. I just want to say, I relate to you more now than I thought I had! This is beautiful!! Family is so important and you are right! "THIS IS HOW FAMILY IS SUPPOSED TO BE!" Beautiful video!
So beautiful, thank you. My story is I used to work at a Day Care when I was in my twenties. I watched parents drop off their kids at 7am and not pick them up until closing at 6pm, we even had a newborn baby who wasn’t even named yet to look after. I knew many families didn’t have a choice, both parents had to work or they were a single parent raising children. Then there were the parents who dropped their kids off even when they had days off or were on vacation, a policy had to be put in place that the kids had to be home for a least 1 week during the year, or they would never be on vacation with the parents.
When I got married my husband and I agreed that I would stay home to raise our children, we lived with less in a small mobile home, but we were so happy. I got to take them for their first day of school, pick them up if they got sick or hurt at school. I looked forward to snow days, we called pj days, hot cocoa and games and building snow forts outside.
Now my boys are grown men and they have so many wonderful memories of growing up, they both love to cook and bake, and this year my oldest asked for the gingerbread recipe so he could make and decorate his own at his place. I had a tear in my eye, traditions will carry on.
I was thrilled to see your story this morning, and happy for you, your husband and your girls. I wish many more people would understand, it’s not about the stuff for your kids, it’s about the memories and story you leave behind.
I have the same experience the only difference is that I have to still work because my husband suffered a horrible accident that left him disabled, so I missed out on a lot of the quality time with my kids . I am trying my best to make it up to them , and I spend all the time with my darling geandson. Thanks God that you were able to make the changes look forward leave the past where it belings in the past .
I too in the 80's lived this life but I cooked every night too. I had to work to be able to afford a house and my husband worked also. It was hectic. I remember being so very tired but a school project was due and it was just not possible to get rest. I got laid off in the 90's after 13 years at my job and that is when i became a part time worker and full time mom. Volunteered at school. I feel for the women in the 80's who were looked down upon by career women. It wasn't fair. I always thought that the womens movement were supposed to support other women in whatever their choices. I never missed my full time job. I know how you feel.
The women's movement was created to break the family. Destroy the family unit and you can take down a country.
Been following you for a little while, and today this video popped up. So very sweet and honest. I'm so happy for what you have done and continue doing. I was a stay-at-home/homeschooling mom for many years, and then went back to college when the youngest went to college and had a 12-year career as a special education teacher in a middle school. Now, I'm so happy to be back at home after retiring and developing my homesteading skills more than.ever. I so enjoy watching you and Kevin with your homesteading wisdom! Thanks, Marie
God bless you! I am proud of you for sharing this! I chose the opposite path and there are days when I wonder if I gave them the best role model for a mother because they didn't see me working. But they are all hard workers and they all have great family lives. I missed not making money and getting the praise of my co-workers but the love and praise and lives of my kids made it worth it!
That was an absolutely beautiful story. Loved it
It’s ok if men cook and women don’t. I can promise you that your children love you and you were doing other things that mean a lot!!. So if you couldn’t cook it’s ok!!! That isn’t all that makes a mom😉 and how amazing that they knew their daddy could cook!! That means they will see men as also being nurturing and caring and that they will look for that kind of man!!! It’s actually beautiful that he cooked great meals for y’all!!
That is so true about men Boys are told told enough that their actions could make them a good overall person, husband, or father someday. They are only told to be string and make a lot of money.
Sherlyn Patterson
True. And we want them to be strong but nothing wrong with sharing roles🥰sometimes we lose fathers to death or war as then Momma’s have to be strong and brave❤️🥰
..and maybe this is an example of how men have felt …. It’s good that both roles can be interchangeable.
Your story brought tears to my eyes. I hope you both know how blessed you are to have your best friend right in your own home with each other. It's a true blessing not many of us get in a marriage. My kids are all grown and I am a grandmother of six. I would still love to be a stay home wife and get a homestead in full swing, providing for us and my kids as needed, as well as, selling at markets, but my hubby is nowhere close to seeing things that way. So I continue to work everyday and wish for better times in my garden, greenhouse and kitchen, loving my family in a much different way. Maybe when I retire. It's never too late to live your dreams, right?!
You stopped surviving and started LIVING! You are brave and beautiful! You gave your children the greatest gift...FAMILY!
How beautiful…such a true picture of a family and the changes you both were willing to make so you could show your children what’s possible. Bravo and May God continue to richly bless you.
Beautiful story and beautiful meaning! Thank you for sharing!
Wow, your heart felt story made me cry, our children are so precious and it is important to make good memories with them. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
I fully understand where you are coming from. Just the other day, we were talking with my family stating how I needed to go back to work after the holiday break. You see, my daughter and granddaughter live with us full-time. My granddaughter, when she heard this, started to cry and said Grandma I don't want you to go back to work. That tugged at my heartstrings so much. What she doesn't know, is that we are already working to get me home on a full-time basis. She is 5 now abd she'll be 6 in October. Lord willing, I'll be home full-time by the end of the year. God bless you, and continue to follow your dreams.
Such a beautiful, heartfelt, and inspiring story. Thank you so much for sharing it with the world. It definitely resonated with me.
I love this. I am crying right now. I have 3 grown daughters and 4 grandchildren. We are blessed to own a wonderful farm that we can't fully utilize because we both work full time. My husband sometimes works 7 days a week and spends all his free time working cows and trying to keep up the farm. I work 5 days and then help care for my grands and try to keep up with chores. Your story spoke to my heart. Recently, my husband and I have been having a lot of conversations about homesteading and being "just farmers". We've been looking into ag grants and other ways we can use our farm to be self sufficient. This video helped strengthen my resolve and determination. Thank you for continuing to share your journey and helping inspire others to begin theirs. God bless you and your beautiful family.
I learned to cook from my Dad and " His Mom " Grandma. I cooked for my four younger siblings since I was twelve. And most of the cooking in my marriage. My Son Aaron picked up on this and became a cook. I never went to cooking school. He did and made it a profession. He died July 25th and I buried him two weeks ago today. Toughest time of my life so far. Lost my Dad last year. My Mom in 2001. Take care. Love, God Bless and stay safe.
Terry Multon hugs and prayers for you! Its a tough place you are in right now. May the God of all comfort wrap His arms around you.
I was a nurse for 20 years...12 hour shifts......I’m 41 now...my oldest is 23, my youngest is 7. I’ve been home now for 3 years and I love it!
if you had not been a nurse for 20 yrs, you would not be able to be free now. nurses have nurses unions to make things really profitable for nurses. the rest of us have to fight for every day's work. ask us how we are doing after 40 years of freelance work (a union member, but our union does jack sh%# for freelance union members)
Cheryl anon not true
@@KandicePolut you're totally welcome to disagree, but the financial facts are plain to see-- it takes a lot of money & usually both parents making above average salary. Others with less stable jobs, less income, have a harder time, usually are stuck spinning their wheels. But thank you for disagreeing. Would love to see your financial data & whether you had student loans, parents help, etc. Most people have a much harder time of it!
Cheryl anon the fact is.... you have ABSOLUTELY no idea what my life is like, how I arrived where I am today, or the kind of struggles I have or have not had. So, you are completely speaking out the side of your neck. Regardless, I wish you lots of happiness, and blessings, bc you’re obviously angry.
@@KandicePolut hey Kandice, its all good, you go ahead and enjoy your nice pension from the nurses union, and staying home, while I continue to work until I drop dead. No I'm not angry, I'm just too busy looking for work. But you go ahead and enjoy your wonderful, well-paid & well-appreciated life with wonderful paid benefits. Its so nice that some of you have got it made in the shade, or the sun, probably both!
Thank you for sharing your personal family story. It was quite moving! How did you phase out your full-time job, and phase in homesteading? I have a lot to learn!
This is a story worth proclaiming in every Church and at every workplace. Thank you. We shall pray for you to receive more blessings.
This is one of the most sincere videos I have EVER watch on TH-cam. I have 2 sons and one daughter. I am thankful my oldest son (25) and my daughter (23) love to cook. Youngest is (15) still learning. As a woman and a mother in this day and age, I believe it is even more important to be a MOM, a lady, a wife. Yes we can do it all but our most important job is MOMMA. I love being the “traditional “ mom and my kids are better for it. Their daddy shows them how to treat a woman and my daughter has married a man who loves her unconditionally just like her daddy loves her momma. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing this with us. ❤️
You are so on target!!! I could feel the love for yourself, husband and children. Many blessings!
Wonderful story about self awareness and knowing what you want for your kids. Thanks a lot, take care. Much love and respect, blessings.
Understanding that marriage and family comes first and that a career is not supposed to be an identity in itself, that too at the cost of displacing marriage and family to lower positions on one's priority list, is something a *LOT* of couples have been waking up to, over the past 2-3 years.
It's beautiful that you have such a lovely deep bond in your family. Wishing the best for you all. God bless.
Thank y'all for trusting us with your personal lives and advice. you're gems. Thank you
Thank you for sharing. I had a very similar experience. When my daughters were 6, 8 and 19, I was a single mom. My oldest was helping me with her younger sisters when I worked (I am a nurse). I felt I had to work as many hours as I could to make as much money as possible to do right by my girls. This mentality led to me leaving at 4a-5a and not coming home until 1130pmish at least 6 days a week. One night I was home, and my 8-year-old daughter was not eating her veggies and when I asked why she wasn't eating them, she told me she didn't like them. I asked her "since when do you not like (whatever veggie it was)?" Her response was " You wouldn't know what I like, you are never here anymore". Her response broke a part of my heart and opened my eyes to what was truly important. That broken part of my heart is a constant reminder and even though it is not my finest moment I would not trade it as it set my thinking and actions right.
What a stunning person your are! I love you and your videos and even though I think I am old enough to be your mom, you are teaching me something in every video your share. Thank you! With love, from South Africa!
I went through this as well, only difference is, I was a single mom on my own with 5 kids ... I had to, but made sure I was working hours that worked around my kids.
Thank you for sharing your hearts with us (as well as your knowledge and your experiences). I love you guys! Happy New Year!
This is a beautiful story and I thank you for sharing. Honestly, it could not have come at a better time. I spent much of my career in upper management in the non profit sector raising 2 children as a single mom. During that time, I suffered 2 heart attacks and was diagnosed with FMD...an arterial disease. I met my current partner 5 years ago and we moved from city life to country life as a result of his work transfer. It was always my dream to live in the country since I was a little girl.
I left my management job and we've been country living for a year and a half now. Tonight, I found myself in a flux, reflecting on my past work and missing it so much.
Watching your video exemplified for me, it is more the status of the work I identified with...the percieved importance of it. I spent the night lamenting on these feelings until I saw your video...and remembered...
Remembering the struggle as a single mom, juggling work and family...remembering the inordinate amount of responsibility and stress that led to 2 heart attacks, and subsequently, 2 back to work schedules til I resumed full time plus responsibilities. That remembrance is good, it puts things into perspective once again.
We never know how the message we share with others may impact and influence their moment in life. I thank you for yours tonight. Thank you for helping me to remember and fully embrace the gift I have been given now.
What a beautiful story and what courage you have to redefine your life. Thanks and God Bless.
Sarah, you always seem to stir the deepest emotions in me. Yesterday you had me rolling in the floor laughing and now this morning I have had a good ugly cry. I could write a novel here but I won’t bog down the comments with it. I will just say that I know from experience how very important this message you gave us is. And now I will be 64 in January and you have challenged even me to re-evaluate what I want the rest of my life to look like. Thank you for this beautiful video. It’s such an important message I am going to share it. 😘
My partner and I don't have kids but I want to be a homemaker. I'm trying to get us an affordable house right now so I can start working from home (I have lots of ideas to generate income from home without having to sit in front of a computer all day and without having to work morning to night). I really hope I'm able to make it happen. Thanks for sharing. Seeing that there are other families doing this helps. Cheers.
This video is a wonderful and your family is so amazing. Thank you!!❤️👍
Your family is what is the truest symbol of home, hearth and family.
Thank you so much for sharing with us and bringing to our remberence of what we can truly become.
I used to have 2 jobs and it was soul crushing as well as the permanent damage it did to my body. I'm not sure what's worse. The constant grind or sitting idle and in pain. I'm trying to find my happy medium now and I get inspired by people like you Sarah. Thank you for all the sacrifices you have made to get you to this stage in your lives. Thank You and may all you need come your way.
I am on social assistance because of stress related illness. I keep moving when I feel good and stop when the body says stop. Lots of painkillers and strict watch of diet. But keep moving as much as I can. Sitting idle will kill you sooner than the pain.
@@ecocentrichomestead6783 I literally went mad, if it wasn't for fishkeeping and a patient family I don't know what I would do. I'm slowly getting back to reality and getting on top of my health needs. Life is good and there's others doing it worse than me.
@@caewalker9276 that's good
@@caewalker9276 you mean like aquariums? I know they relax you and lower blood pressure. I have been without one for 20 years. Now I'm 55. And have wanted one badly for years now because I love them and they could lower my blood pressure , pain and stress. We are just building our hoop house and starting bee keeping this year. Thank the Lord, as a child of 8 and nine, I helped our neighbor with a huge veggie garden and learned a lot . I kept helping until I was 10 or so. And at 8 or 9 I read every book I could get my hands on about tropical fish. So I started raising them too. And parakeets . And decided to try flowers which our land lady shared a few for me to replant at our house. And we had pecan trees in our yard and to this day I love picking them up. During the years i didn't have these things I got to the point of way too much stress and anxiety. But now maybe my husband and I can grow and can and share. And I can plant flowers for the bees and figs and pecans for us. And within the next few months I am going to have a fish aquarium again one way or another! 😊 I hope you continue to improve. I'm here if you ever need to talk. God bless you ! I would love to hear about your fish!
@@ecocentrichomestead6783 I understand stress and too much pain in the joints. Would love to hear what diet you are eating for pain and what kind of pain. Maybe it could help us in our attempt to homestead at our age and health level.
So heartfelt. I was balling my eyes out watching this. So glad you realized your true potential and direction before it was too late. You have such a supportive family. Your are truly blessed, all of you.
Me too! Heartfelt
Bawling, not balling
This is a very much appreciated video, I enjoyed seeing the human side and the importance of your family to you.
So fortunate that you share your kitchen with us. I feel really privileged. Thank you.
Your story hit home in so many ways…… I was never able to bear children, but along the way I have been blessed with four sweet little cats, one at a time. Last June I buried my 4th ‘baby’. My best friend. I took early retirement at age 52, 16 years ago now, so I could care for my husband, and various family members through the years. I have never regretted it. It’s been tight financially, but we are doing ok. As long as you have a ‘best friend’ you can make it through. I hope I have made them proud.
Bless you for sharing. ❤️
What a beautiful piece of you to share. Thank you. I wish I’d have had the opportunity to stay at home. That wasn’t Gods plan for me and my kids. My children’s father wasn’t the man I thought he was and I was a single mom for a very long time! No complaints! I’m proud of what I did. I put myself through school, worked 50 hours a week, raised amazing kids who are even better parents than I was. My girls will tell you I’m the strongest person they’ve ever met. I know this because I’ve been blessed to hear them tell me so. Honestly I was scared to death of messing them up most of the time, just never let them see it. I made time for them. I never missed a game, an event, a meeting, whatever it was, no matter how tired I was, I made sure I was there. I wasn’t perfect. Probably yelled more than I should have. But we made it. They’re no worse for the wear I suppose. I wish I could have been home more but I feel so blessed to see them now. All grown up, married, kids of their own. God is good and I’m so grateful. TFS. God Bless ~Lisa
Thank you, Lisa, for being a single Mom.
Your comment made me cry! My mom was a single mom, raised 4 kids on her own. And like you, she was there as much as she could be. Seeing that she didn't drive, she wasn't one of the "PTA" type moms that was there for every single school event, but she was there for the important stuff. One thing she was consistent in was raising us in church and telling us about God all through our childhood. To me, there will never be a better mom to walk this earth. I know your children must feel the same way about you beautiful lady! No doubt, any woman that can raise her children well on her own is indeed one strong woman! The father May not have been the man you thought he was, but God knew your strength, even when you questioned it. God bless you Lisa and your amazing kids! 😊
Man there’s always one who has to show their behind.
Sounds like you are the perfect mom to me. No shame in our game. Single moms rock
leila lalala Just do the absolute best you can and ALWAYS tell them you love them and are proud of them. As parents we sometimes get too caught up in the misbehavior and forget to praise them when they’ve done something good. Even if it’s something simple like drawing you a picture. Praise that picture like it’s a Rembrandt!! Make every moment count so even when you are tired they’ll understand and it won’t matter so much ‘cause the good times and GREAT! God Bless you and yours. From this mom to you...you are AMAZING!!! 💛 ~Lisa