Sign numbers 2 I can relate. I work at a hospital and i get annoyed when the female nurses or doctors are always trying to flirt with me. U don't mess with women on the job because I'm just mainly there to make money. They be staring all in my face when I walk by. I'm a introvert so getting too much attention is the worst
Here is another sign that gets overlooked: 1. You get alot of attention from older women! Women who are in their 50s, 60's etc all always in youe face, telling you that you are handome, complimenting you left and right...because they have nothing to lose...but you dont get the same type of energy from the rhe women around your age.... That happens to me quite often!!
So it depends on the situation. If it’s in a situation where you’re dressed up in a suit or tux then I wouldn’t look into it too much because older people kind of call anyone in a suit handsome especially if it’s and event where everyone is dressed up and supposed to look good. In that case they are probably just being polite. But if you in your regular clothes or you at work or just out and a random older lady calls you handsome or good looking then that’s a good sign.
@@MarvOverMatter i'm so happy to read that! All situations for me happened when I was wearing casual clothes! In two separate cases, two older ladies have told me that I look like I get a lot of numbers. These both made me happy but also sad cause I haven't gotten any. I need to step up my game.
A man should always be focused on personal growth, elevating, developing , improving his finances, acquiring shelter and fitness. Don’t give your time, energy and strength to chasing women. You will loose your drive, determination and resources.
@ tell them the truth homie. Looking attractive is great but you can’t eat attractions or good looks🤷🏾♂️ nor can you invest them or take those looks to the bank and withdraw money 🎯 To many people looking good but their finances ain’t no good, credit is shot and no money in the bank but they have abs of steel🤷🏾♂️ If you look good and you don’t have your stuff together as a man then how long do you think your attraction will last in the eyes 👀 of an intelligent woman? You deliver a great message and I appreciate you. You are speaking facts about attraction Elaborate more on what a man needs to do to keep themself more attractive in years to come. Priorities, finances, fitness, and focus on your dreams and goal. You look better the 90% of the men because you have covered and maintained 5 areas of your life
@SmarticalBoy12 First thanks for the acknowledgment about having a good message I appreciate that fr 🙏🏾 When it comes to telling guys about everything else, I’m going to humbly stay in my lane. I’m mainly here for guys who don’t understand the psychology of dating, they don’t understand why women are attracted to certain behaviors and repulsed by others. Now my channel may grow into more the more I grow and evolve, but a lot of guys don’t know the basics of interacting with women so I teach about that. Once they get more experience with women, life will show them what they need, because it’s not the same for every man. Some guys do great with women even if they have bad credit. And some guys with great credit suck with women because they don’t understand them. When guys get to a certain point and their life shows them they need to work on their finances, or their fitness or business there are plenty of channels for that with people who are experts in those areas. But I’m here for guys that are need insight about the social dynamics of attraction when it comes to women. But again I appreciate the support man. And if you create a channel informing guys about the other aspects, I’ll definitely support it. 💯
Bro the Not so good looking chicks approaching part was brilliant 😮 -I’ll add to it ,… if you are annoyed by ANY WOMAN talking to you and your looking for women … and you feel they are beneath your standard, you have to look Good to feel that way 👍🏾
@shoune8795 It’s like anybody. When you’re talking to your friends you’re probably out going but if you talk to your crush or a girl you like you might be more reserved around them or shy. It’s not always the case but if you notice there’s a drastic change in behavior and it’s just with you it’s a good sign she thinks you’re attractive. And if it happens with a lot of girls you’re probably an attractive guy.
That’s a big one bro…i think they’re intimidated but very attracted at the same time…ngl i feel uncomfortable when someone’s not comfortable around me…but i get it they find you good looking so it makes them shy
Not true at all. I ain’t that attractive and women are often silent around me yet the good looking guys that get girls chasing them women talk to them all the time. This sounds like cope coming from you
I will say about number 3, before I could barely talk to women but now with my job where the majority of the diaspora is female it has really helped me with my confidence with women in general. Now at work all the girls on my shift are comfortable with me and will talk to me about anything and I'm good friends with a couple of them
Those are good signs but also, ppl just can't help but compliment you and ask, "Do you work out?" This makes you wonder just how good looking are you really. Then, once you find out, just don't get a gigantic head, stay chill and relatable. You're a man, not a female.
being cool with multiple women really dose work. at my job i’m cool with a lot of women. some of them come up to my desk to visit me and have a chat there are a few who likes me. it’s because im a confident cool dude to them.
There are men who did not have favorable interactions in their teens and early twenties with attractive women. But then they have a “glow up” from working on themselves and start getting attention from women they like. Now they are a handsome man with no game and don’t know how to react because they have no experience.
This is 8 out of 10 my experience as "Tony Cashman". I don't need hindsight to know what dating and sex experience was worth it or not looking even in years underage. As a extroverted multitasking INFJ i felt this more than expected.
I don’t think I’m all that attractive. But I feel likes girls get excited whenever I talk to them. I recycle game like a mf lol I just be clueless and innocent. When in reality I’m a 🦮 lol I don’t hold back nun hah
#4, when you walk into a room and the women suddenly get really loud and animated, goofing off with each other and laughing. Often I would walk into someplace and my peace would be immediately disturbed by loud female cackling. It would annoy me so much. It wasn't until later that people get louder when someone they attractive walks in. Happened today at Starbucks.
I used to be annoyed by women talking and laughing loudly. Then, I discovered why. Still annoys me at times but, I'm more flattered these days (happily married).
@@MarvOverMatter I make an effort to put myself out there too! I don't like to sit around and not meet women. They gotta see me before they have the chance to choose up on me
I can’t lie number two is exactly how I thought. I always thought. Why are the unattractive girls coming at me? It made me feel like I was unattractive but when you put in this perspective, I’m like OK. This is different. So I appreciate this. Definitely getting like for me.
Nah if girls like you girls like you it’s just most dudes don’t pick up on the signals attractive girls give because they are so subtle most of the time. So all you end up seeing is the direct unattractive women girls. But now you can start noticing the subtle signs and make your move from there. I have a video on the subtle signs as well.
Women don’t see 80% of men they pay no attention to them. The other 19% they see but it’s no big deal, Now the 1% of us Handsome guys If you walk by a group of women and if you can hear a pin drop or a mouse pissing on cotton, man you are Handsome, or the opposite, they will all giggle right after you pass. And if you turn around and look they will all shut up. Man you are very Handsome.
When you say fall into it makes it sound bad. Women can still be attracted to a guy who doesn’t flirt, those are usually the guys the woman makes the move on. Because if a woman’s signs aren’t working to get a guy to show interest (or flirt with her) a lot of times they’ll just make a bold move to see if he’s feelin her. Number 3 happens with guys who understand you don’t have to rush things with women. They understand they don’t always have to flirt with a women, she’s going to be into them regardless simply because they are attractive. The guys it happens to usually don’t know they are handsome or they have a lot of experience with women and know for a fact they are handsome and have other women already.
I’ve picked up on a not so talked about one over the years - if when interviewing for external corporate roles and you more typically get the job offer when the hiring manager is a female. I think some men feel subconsciously threatened by men who are more attractive than them. I don’t mean this in a self-righteous way, but this has been my experience. I’ve asked attractive women if they deal with this phenomenon, and they say the same thing - that they interview much better with men than women.
I fit the narrative of every point you made. I’ve also been called attractive by a lot of people and stared at but for some reason, I still feel like I’m not that attractive lol. I grew up as a chubby kid. The friend zone thing is true, dating is easy when you look good, too easy to enter a relationship imo more so than getting laid.
Yeah watch my video “Why Handsome Men Struggle” I break down that mental block of not being able to believe you’re handsome no matter how much people tell you you are. And yeah I’m gonna upload a video soon that will touch on the hard to just get laid thing. So keep an eye out bro. I gotchu
I think I’m like a 4-5. Not hideous, but no chad either. Never had a problem with women. I’m married, been with her 8 years. She’s absolutely beautiful, and she’s the one who was hitting on me. I may not have the 10/10 looks, but my style, how I groom myself, my personality/sense of humor, and the many skills I have make up for it. When I was younger, I was friend zoned a couple of times, but as I matured, I got more attention. I’m in my 30’s and while I’ve been with my wife 8 years like I said, at the time she started hitting on me, there were also like 5-6 other women battling for my attention. I’m the one rejecting women now. Mainly because I’m married lol but I have the pick of the litter. Lots of older and slightly younger women try to flirt with me and I ignore them, they try harder. When they see my wife, they get that envious look, and guys also compliment me. People love my blue eyes, tats, 2” stretched ears, piercings, my long hair and beard, sense of humor, and I’m always told I have an amazing smile. I’m no model, only 5’6”, 130lbs, I’m not rich, I’m slightly above average down below, and I have a unique style, plus I’m a musician, have lots of skills, and I’m very intelligent when it comes to topics of personal interest, can speak and understand 4 languages. I grew up young, so I seem older, yet look younger than I actually am. Lots of older women tell me I’m an old soul or was born in the wrong generation. I think a big part of it is that I just accept myself and roll with it. I am what I am, and make up for it in other areas. Tbh, I may be a 6-7 to others based on how I’m treated, but I rate myself a 4-5 physically speaking. No shame though, it hasn’t stopped me in any way. Shit, when I picked my wife over the women I rejected years ago, some got mad at me and some wanted to fist fight my wife even though I told em all multiple times I wasn’t interested in them, wasn’t attracted to them, and that I already was talking to and interested in someone else. I actually had to get s restraining order against one chick who wouldn’t leave me alone and kept trying to show up To my job to convince me to leave my wife for her…not to be mean, but my wife is naturally beautiful with an amazing personality, this other girl was a short chubbalubba goblin looking thing. She smells, was way overweight, and just slept around. Not my thing. My wife had her v card still when we met, she was 19 turning 20, I was 22 turning 23. She was never into partying, girls nights out, clubbing, she wanted marriage and kids. Wanted to wait to sleep with someone for her first time until she felt it was the right person, guys actually avoided her because they knew she wouldn’t sleep with them and she was one of the “town prudes”. To keep it kinda short, we both had and still have very similar goals in life and have so much in common she may as well be a female version of myself. We met one night through a friend, talked a bit, and she felt something because she started coming around a lot more specifically to see me. Obviously things worked out lol 2 of the biggest reasons she said was no one has ever been able to make her laugh the way I do, Or understand her on such a deep level, I have all of the same amazing qualities her dad had (unfortunately he passed away before I got the chance to meet him), and she’s never met anyone who can cook the way I do. And eventually when we finally slept together when she was ready and knew it was what she wanted, and the relationship progressed, she said I make her feel things she didn’t know was possible and IK her body better than she does, so basically, I’m a great lover and know what’s appropriate and when and I can read her body language without her having to say anything. Point being, attractiveness isn’t always about money, status, looks and what you’re packing below. From my experience as a shorter borderline average guy, it’s more about how you make women feel when they’re around you, being a good listener, and having some type of skill set.
Honestly, I’ve noticed that I don’t even get put in the friend zone, women will just not mess with you if they find you attractive and they’re not available
Bro, YOU know what you’re talking about. That’s exactly it. Or if you’re too nice they won’t really play you like that they just don’t want anything to do with you. Lol that’s funny you said that I was thinking that after I posted the video.
@@MarvOverMatteryup I feel like there’s no balance for us, when I approach a girl and I’m cordial/ “nice” I get ghosted, if I approach and I talk my shit I get ghosted too because they think I’m a player 😂
@nelyybeats2517 right… you don’t want to be nice/cordial you want to think of it more as nonchalant. Cause if that nice/eager energy is there it’s still not going to come across in a way that gets women interested. But I got a video coming soon on that!
I very rarely interact with people in general, so there's not much data off of which to build a solid conclusion, but i would say that all of my interactions with women have been neutral to positive. Even the ones who rejected me were very polite about it.
Whenever I approach a girl and give them my number they don’t text or call me. When I meet a woman online it’s much easier. I don’t get approached by females at all, occasionally they’ll stare but I mainly get approached by gay men😭 I’m friends with women that are engaged or in relationships but for the most part every woman that I’m attracted to wants to be friends or rush into a relationship.
Without talking to you or hearing more my guess is that you’re too nice of a guy. The girls that are more guarded and afraid of being hurt want a relationship with you because you feel safe. And the women who want passion and toxicity are turned off because you’re not edgy enough for them. So my advice to you is to be more nonchalant with women. Don’t appear eager or be so friendly try to be more aloof they’ll think it’s sexier. But still when it’s time to make a move, like go in for the kiss or something physical, be calm but assertive. I hope this helps.
@TheRealZmanWorld Yeah because on the inside you’re you and you know what you want. So when given that choice to be in a relationship, you know you just want to smash, so you don’t take it. But maybe the way you’re presenting yourself isn’t an accurately communicating that to the women. So they’re getting the wrong idea about who you are. HOW you come across is very important with women. It’s not what you say or do it’s how you say it or do it. Imma do a video on this soon the explain more.
Ok I’ll give one that no one talks about. If you go to a gentlemen’s club and the dancers come up to you and ask you “what are you doing in here” that means you are very very handsome . If you are in a Gentlemen’s club and a dancer walks over to you and your sitting down and she squats down at your side so that she is looking up at you to asks you if you want a dance she is letting you know she is into you and you are very very handsome she is being submissive. To me these two are probably the the biggest signs, ever because these women are at the top of Sexy they know what it takes to get a man wrapped around their finger they have heard all the lines possible from all types of men. But she wants to know why you’re in there? And then she turned into a submissive little girl when she approaches you. Also the best looking ones will probably avoid you. I once was at a gentlemen’s club and I asked one of the top dancers why was she avoiding me and she said. I made her nervous. Guys if you can shake up a Dancer you are truly a handsome man. And if you can pull one out of there without money man you are at the top of handsome. I think this is the one answer Marv most people don’t talk about.
Yeah I’ve never been to a Gentlemen’s Club so I wouldn’t even know this one lol. But it makes sense, if you get women why would you be there paying to see women. Thanks man.
@ this is true for handsome men they don’t see us there that often we get women so no need to go. I’ve been a few times with business men or hanging out with the Boyz, in some cities they double as night clubs everyone goes there. It’s an experience for sure. When I have a steady women you won’t find me there but if I don’t me and a friend may go hang out have a drink before ending the night if you have never gone it’s worth the experience. What I really find the most interesting is how EZ it is to talk to a beautiful women when she wants something out of you. So really it should always be EZ when it’s hard she is just not interested.
@@Rudmyster dude, unless you pulled any of them for free, they aren't into you. lmao Every woman in a "gentleman's club" will make you think you are hot just to get in your wallet
You have to put yourself in situations with women to find out. That’s the ONLY way. Don’t listen to the scientists they’ll have your brain screwed up and you’ll be more worried about what your rating is than if you can get a girl. If women give you certain signs, or compliment you then you’re probably attractive. And it does you no good to second guess or doubt that. Attractiveness is simply a TOOL to be able to mate and pass on your genes it is NOT the goal. It really doesn’t matter unless you are trying to become an actor or model.
Question: you mentioned you in L.A. do you go to beach often? What sorta of females tend to approach you. Now your in Cali oppose to when you was in Boston. Is there an aesthetic difference in the type of girls who approached you now. Have you adapted your style, swag and hairstyle to stand out.. When I was in highschool I had to change my style because I was 80% of the girls who was checking for me wasn't black like me. I did have access to a few sistas who were above average. But I had absolutely no access to average sistas.. So I switch my style and swag to get more options. Every pond is different so I play around with different styles to see which one gets a rise out of the women and then I adjust to that when I'm there
More white girls approach me here back home it was mostly black and latinas. I did dress more urban back home though cause I was younger and here I dress more athletic/casual. I’m not gonna lie I could do more to adapt my style though if I want to maximize my results.
I have been friend-zoned - initially - but after a little time, they come back for, well, you know! This has happened with a least 3 women. And they initiated when the time finally did come, not me.
That’s what I’m saying. It’s cause when you are too eager in the beginning it’s a turn off then once you stop trying and are nonchalant (if you’re attractive) she’s GOING to want you, It’s human nature.
I suffer from this at my job and at the gym. I didn’t grow up a ladies man but I had girlfriends but getting older I’m noticing it was all kiddy love and I don’t really get dating. I seem to struggle with low self esteem because I’m 6’3, a gym rat, ripped and in really good shape. At my job and the gym I get many women that stare or catch eyes with me (some women do it every time I walk by or she sees me) but I never have the courage to go up and talk to them (not even a “hey how are you”). I see those same women get approached by other guys so I just back off because in my mind i don’t wanna be the 11th guy trying to holler at this girl so in the end I don’t say anything to any of the women
This is missing something... Some of us have the experience where most are extremely rude to us and then turn around and be super friendly with objectively ugly guys. You are left like wtf with a question mark above your head 🤔 like why tf do you avoid eye contact and even turn your back
What are you saying to them when they are extremely rude? Cause I don’t get this too often and usually when I do get the rudeness it’s because they want me but can’t have me.
@MarvOverMatter Nothing man just the basic stuff, good morning or whatever sometimes I get no response or some one word answers. Or they turn their head, their back, blank deer stares etc. I just encounter NPCs. These are not cold approaches but coffee shop waitresses or people in common you' d think would be a nice introduction. Other channels have covered the thing with intimidation and or assuming you are cocky or a player. That's the only theory I've found to make the most sense. The real question I guess is where are you meeting all these 'cool' open friendly vvomen you talk about??
@FrickinCCDeVileV Ok I see what’s happening… I’m not friendly to random women. I’m only friendly in settings where we’re expected to interact. When I talk to stranger women I’m stoic. Because yes if you come off like you’re too friendly right away when a girl finds you attractive it’s a turn off. You have to make them feel like you don’t care about talking to them. And that peeks their curiosity they think “hmmm why doesn’t he like me” and then proceed to try and make you like them. You have to think about it, most of the times guys are nice to them it’s cause they are trying to smash so why would you be different. But if you treat them like they’re whatever it’s something they aren’t use to so it catches their attention. I know this sounds crazy/manipulative but it’s literally just human psychology people don’t want things that are easily accessible.
@@MarvOverMatter 💯 I know exactly what you're saying, but I'm just trying to get through basic manners with them lol most I dont even want. It's just that the hate - and mistrust is puzzling. Last question what kind of settings do you frequent if I may ask. Some of us are not in school and work independently, which is part of the problem. IMO social circle 'game' is the only real deal
@FrickinCCDeVileV Yes my guy you get it. Social circle is the best way to succeed. Attractive women date in their social circle for the most part. The club or bars can work depending on where you live. But if that’s not your scene I would do workout classes (ones that both men and especially women would attend) or day events centered around things you like or care about. But if you can meet girls through friends do that!
I normally talk to everyone though I think I’m very flirty in a smile & eye contact way. I found out a girl has a film major and I felt like we connected based off that, I think she’s cute and I was sorta flirty though I’m just doing my thing. Online world has many doing things that seem more like steps. I like to learn and chat with people, big thing is getting over the fear talking to girls and being natural. Pick their brain enjoy the moment feel it out. If your living life chasing isn’t a thought girls will come when it’s right.
Some people don’t have those social skills they missed something growing up for whatever reason. So they have to earn later in life or they’ll just suffer the consequences of not having those skills. And steps are the easiest way to learn any skill.
@@MarvOverMatterit’s all interesting being someone who was shy years ago though built this ability to feel someone’s energy, but even then just striking up a conversation regardless the situation. Having fun with it especially at work. Letting those know you have emotion and aren’t thinking about an end goal. I don’t look at it as I want you because of sexual tension, I want to build something and me personally never participate in hookups it’s a waste of time for me, if we connect and build awesome if not I’m on the road again.
Another sign I've noticed, women (especially attactive ones) will give you back-handed compliments. Eg: you think you're so fine don't you... or... why do you have to smell so good. They try to avoid giving you a straight compliment
When women see you in the car, because then they can only see your face. Even if the car isn't special or luxurious. So when you see women turning heads because of you in traffic. You're literally a traffic hazard 😂
In high school, I had like 1 of every type of girl like me: Fat, Special Ed, Average looking girl( I actually liked her too but then we stopped talking and it went nowhere cause I guess I wasnt talkative enough; or charismatic and funny like I was in the beginning, Cute black girl(she liked my eyes but it didnt go anywhere cause I didnt talk and it felt awkward). The only group of women that didnt like me were white girls(well, except for the fat ones). With this information, would you say im ugly, or that my personality just sucks because women just want me to be someone I am not? I just want to be with a simple, Christian woman, who is simple like me; who doesnt have to funny all the time to keep the woman interested. It's stupid
Nah I wouldn’t say you’re ugly. White girls especially young pretty ones LOVE being entertained. I don’t now what it is but they are generally the least mature out of the races in my experience. They are like little girls even into their 20’s. They think everything is supposed to be fun and exciting. I used to struggle with them too when I was younger but they would be dating fat guys and buck tooth guys but these guys were funny and goofy and that’s all it took. I remember in college I had a friend who was white and I was like bro I can’t talk to white girls how do you do it, he literally said “bro it’s a struggle I have to pretend the whole time we’re talking”. I say all that to say as someone who’s not outgoing you are going to struggle with young white girls especially in this generation. Even more so in high school. BUT as you get older they stop needing all that excitement if you have other qualities. They start caring more about looks, and what you do, and other factors. So it’ll get easier to talk to them. Side note they are also going to be more subtle than the other races because, one white culture is just more subtle with dating, and two if you’re in a predominantly white area they are going to have WAY more guys after them so they don’t ever have to make a bold move. And if you’re nervous to talk to them I’m assuming you probably struggle to pick up the signs of interest. But at the end of the day you are going to have to talk. You don’t need to be entertaining but what’s happening is you’re shutting down because you don’t want them to stop liking you. It used to happen to me. You don’t understand why they like you in the first place so you don’t want to mess it up. But I’m telling you the o my thing that will mess it up is the very fear of messing it up. I’m sure you laugh and joke with your friends. Do the same thing with these girls that like you. They are going to be more receptive because they like you so you can actually mess up more than you can normally. You have more freedom in the conversation not less. Find something you guys both like and talk about it in depth that’s all you need to do to have interesting conversation and that’s enough for most girls. I hope this helps bro, you got this! 💯
When i was younger i didnt really have unattractive women approaching, around about my late teens i had an older woman approach me twice. she was unattractive but only becuase she had really bad eyes. like one her eyes really cocked eyed. it made it hard to look at her. But she tried to get with me twice. she just didnt have anything that stood out to me, plus i rather go with someone younger face wise. But she approached me in two different places. both times she sent some girl close to my age to say she liked me, she may have been a little slow. i dont know because she looked to be about in her 30s. an i was still in highschool. The girl was probably her daughter. But mostly when it was girls that were out of my league who approached me directly and bluntly. Average girls were the ones who beat around the bush. I could never catch on to hints i was oblivious. i had a few girls tell me, "you cant catch the hint."
I can see that. I was referring to adulthood like in the club but that makes sense in a school setting cause they ugly girls don’t want to be embarrassed.
@MarvOverMatter Yep i feel you, when i was younger, i was always outside, so i mean at places outside of highschool or college the skating rink, the mall and pool was places i was going to the most. i actually started going to bars since i was 13 years old with my big cousins also went to clubs by the time i was 16. so even at 18 to 29 i had mostly pretty girls approach me. When i was in teenager, the one ugly woman, who did approach me twice, once was at the pool and once was at the skating rink. But even as an adult much older now. when i go for my walk, its only really pretty girls who pay me any attention. if i see an ugly girl with a okay body only way i get her is if i cold approach her, i only get approached by pretty girls. all my life. Even when i was 30 my ex wife, approached me she was 18 years old.
@MarvOverMatter my older cousin use to always pull them oogly looking girls with the banging bodies i like. i had another partner he has tons of oogly looking girls. some dudes be a magnet for them girls ... there was one time at the skating rink this BBW was harassing me in my 20s. But i was dressing like a stripper to attract certain types of women, but it made her go crazy, but those were one offs. i can say unattractive women i can count on one had how many of them approached me. an if i approach them they are the hardest to pull to smash, 90% of my rejections came from girls who are average or below average in the face.
Or you can be too attractive we're she wanna keep you as a friend because once you get intimate she's gonna want more than that and she knows she's not qualified for that
Nah, that's heavy cope. The only real sign is that you bed most of the women you want to bed. It's that easy. All the other signs you hear online are coping signs that make you feel better, nothing more.
Yeah they definitely do that, which is why patience is important. She’s gonna break after a while and end up sleeping with you as our friend above mentioned. The signs are not cope though they are there leading up to the point where she sleeps with you. You don’t need a sign if that’s already happening.
@@andikrause399you writing the same comment everywhere. That’s just one statement. Just because you in bed with a lot of women doesn’t make you the number one thing that shows your attractive dummy. There’s many attractive guys that dont bother approaching and are not naturally “F$ck boys”. The real sign you’re attractive is when you get looked at and stared at in public …
1:07 anyone catch this? Chase that trifecta and you’re chasing the Devil. Find a godly spouse and you won’t need videos like these Correction* To be goal oriented on finances fitness and appearance isn’t wrong. But the idea that you need to be 6 feet, with 6 figures and a 6 pack is a recipe for yourself to get overwhelmed. You just need to be focused on being better than who you were yesterday. Do this and you’ll improve.
Many youtubers give 100 different signs that you are attractive but the only real sign is that you bed most of the women you want to bed. It's that easy. All the other signs are somewhat coping signs that make you feel better nothing more.
Women give signs that they want you sleep with you. It’s rare they just come up and say I want to sleep with you. So I’m pointing out those signs for the men who don’t know how to spot them on their own. Yes eventually once you engage and maneuver through the interaction without messing it up yes they will sleep with you. If guys know the signs of interest they can approach the situation with more confidence and get through it better and know which women to engage with. Ultimately yes a girl sleeping with you means she’s interested but there’s definitely steps along the way to that which is why they are signs. Sleeping with her isn’t a sign it’s the destination.
Women will sleep with you if they arent attracted to you. 1. To get your money 2. To use you for status or popularity 3. Becuase she is desperate and just wants to get her issue off Women will go for the medium ugly guy who is good in bed or has reputation of being able to please women. Even though she doesnt find him attractive. Women will sleep with a guy if other girls seem as if they would go for him. But all in all she dont have to be attracted to you to just sleep with you... Attraction breeds her need to want to be around you, if your attractive alot of women want to be around you. not just SXXXX
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Sign numbers 2 I can relate. I work at a hospital and i get annoyed when the female nurses or doctors are always trying to flirt with me. U don't mess with women on the job because I'm just mainly there to make money. They be staring all in my face when I walk by. I'm a introvert so getting too much attention is the worst
Did they ask for your number?
Yeah bro, I feel you I worked at a restaurant and the same thing would happen. It will happen wherever you go if you’re there long enough.
@ did they ask for your number?
Damn, I feel you.
Wear a hat lol. Hat decreases attraction 😂
Here is another sign that gets overlooked:
1. You get alot of attention from older women! Women who are in their 50s, 60's etc all always in youe face, telling you that you are handome, complimenting you left and right...because they have nothing to lose...but you dont get the same type of energy from the rhe women around your age.... That happens to me quite often!!
Word this is another one for sure. That used to happen to me a lot when I was younger
this has happened to me 3-4 times as well. idk if they are just being polite or not.
So it depends on the situation. If it’s in a situation where you’re dressed up in a suit or tux then I wouldn’t look into it too much because older people kind of call anyone in a suit handsome especially if it’s and event where everyone is dressed up and supposed to look good. In that case they are probably just being polite. But if you in your regular clothes or you at work or just out and a random older lady calls you handsome or good looking then that’s a good sign.
@@MarvOverMatter i'm so happy to read that! All situations for me happened when I was wearing casual clothes! In two separate cases, two older ladies have told me that I look like I get a lot of numbers. These both made me happy but also sad cause I haven't gotten any. I need to step up my game.
This is it
A man should always be focused on personal growth, elevating, developing , improving his finances, acquiring shelter and fitness. Don’t give your time, energy and strength to chasing women. You will loose your drive, determination and resources.
Attract not chase!
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tell them the truth homie.
Looking attractive is great but you can’t eat attractions or good looks🤷🏾♂️
nor can you invest them or take those looks to the bank and withdraw money 🎯
To many people looking good but their finances ain’t no good, credit is shot and no money in the bank but they have abs of steel🤷🏾♂️
If you look good and you don’t have your stuff together as a man then how long do you think your attraction will last in the eyes 👀 of an intelligent woman?
You deliver a great message and I appreciate you. You are speaking facts about attraction
Elaborate more on what a man needs to do to keep themself more attractive in years to come.
Priorities, finances, fitness, and focus on your dreams and goal. You look better the 90% of the men because you have covered and maintained 5 areas of your life
@SmarticalBoy12 First thanks for the acknowledgment about having a good message I appreciate that fr 🙏🏾
When it comes to telling guys about everything else, I’m going to humbly stay in my lane. I’m mainly here for guys who don’t understand the psychology of dating, they don’t understand why women are attracted to certain behaviors and repulsed by others. Now my channel may grow into more the more I grow and evolve, but a lot of guys don’t know the basics of interacting with women so I teach about that.
Once they get more experience with women, life will show them what they need, because it’s not the same for every man. Some guys do great with women even if they have bad credit. And some guys with great credit suck with women because they don’t understand them.
When guys get to a certain point and their life shows them they need to work on their finances, or their fitness or business there are plenty of channels for that with people who are experts in those areas. But I’m here for guys that are need insight about the social dynamics of attraction when it comes to women.
But again I appreciate the support man. And if you create a channel informing guys about the other aspects, I’ll definitely support it. 💯
Bro the Not so good looking chicks approaching part was brilliant 😮
-I’ll add to it ,… if you are annoyed by ANY WOMAN talking to you and your looking for women … and you feel they are beneath your standard, you have to look Good to feel that way 👍🏾
Bingo that will be in one of the videos on this topic
That is, high level out of the box perspective thinking.
*Another sign. When Women/Girls are silent around U. But talkative with everyone else.*
Facts!
Hello mate. Is that really true? How does it make someone attractive?
@shoune8795 It’s like anybody. When you’re talking to your friends you’re probably out going but if you talk to your crush or a girl you like you might be more reserved around them or shy.
It’s not always the case but if you notice there’s a drastic change in behavior and it’s just with you it’s a good sign she thinks you’re attractive. And if it happens with a lot of girls you’re probably an attractive guy.
That’s a big one bro…i think they’re intimidated but very attracted at the same time…ngl i feel uncomfortable when someone’s not comfortable around me…but i get it they find you good looking so it makes them shy
Not true at all. I ain’t that attractive and women are often silent around me yet the good looking guys that get girls chasing them women talk to them all the time.
This sounds like cope coming from you
I will say about number 3, before I could barely talk to women but now with my job where the majority of the diaspora is female it has really helped me with my confidence with women in general. Now at work all the girls on my shift are comfortable with me and will talk to me about anything and I'm good friends with a couple of them
Gonna be honest.. this video surprised me. Great post! Very different takes and informative. Peace.
Preciate it man 🙏🏾
Those are good signs but also, ppl just can't help but compliment you and ask, "Do you work out?" This makes you wonder just how good looking are you really. Then, once you find out, just don't get a gigantic head, stay chill and relatable. You're a man, not a female.
Exactly if you get too excited… Turn Off! Always be cool
Can relate 2 the 3rd sign. Especially at the gym I work at
being cool with multiple women really dose work. at my job i’m cool with a lot of women. some of them come up to my desk to visit me and have a chat there are a few who likes me. it’s because im a confident cool dude to them.
There are men who did not have favorable interactions in their teens and early twenties with attractive women. But then they have a “glow up” from working on themselves and start getting attention from women they like. Now they are a handsome man with no game and don’t know how to react because they have no experience.
Yeah that what happened to me. So most of my content is from that prospective.
@@MarvOverMatter What about exceptions regarding being always good with woman? Didn't you have any woman where it didn't end up well?
I don’t understand the question. I said I wasn’t always good with women. So yeah I’ve had a lot of situations that didn’t end up well lol
This is 8 out of 10 my experience as "Tony Cashman". I don't need hindsight to know what dating and sex experience was worth it or not looking even in years underage.
As a extroverted multitasking INFJ i felt this more than expected.
I don’t think I’m all that attractive. But I feel likes girls get excited whenever I talk to them. I recycle game like a mf lol I just be clueless and innocent. When in reality I’m a 🦮 lol I don’t hold back nun hah
#4, when you walk into a room and the women suddenly get really loud and animated, goofing off with each other and laughing. Often I would walk into someplace and my peace would be immediately disturbed by loud female cackling. It would annoy me so much. It wasn't until later that people get louder when someone they attractive walks in. Happened today at Starbucks.
Yep it’s the opposite of when they get quiet really quiet around you but it’s just the flip side of the same coin.
I used to be annoyed by women talking and laughing loudly. Then, I discovered why. Still annoys me at times but, I'm more flattered these days (happily married).
Suggested for this on his other video.
And he posted. Hats Off Mate !
I got yall man! It’s a community 🙏🏾
#2 & #3 hit home runs
Preciate it bro 🙏🏾
i’ve never even thought ab friend zone when talkin to women 😂 i usually end up clappin cheeks
I can relate to all 3 of the reasons you just listed!!
Good bro, that means you got it. Now as long as you’re nonchalant and cool the women will make it easy for you
@@MarvOverMatter I make an effort to put myself out there too! I don't like to sit around and not meet women. They gotta see me before they have the chance to choose up on me
I feel that bro, they for sure gotta see you. I’m just sayin when you meet them keep it cool never be too eager with them.
I can’t lie number two is exactly how I thought. I always thought. Why are the unattractive girls coming at me? It made me feel like I was unattractive but when you put in this perspective, I’m like OK. This is different. So I appreciate this. Definitely getting like for me.
Nah if girls like you girls like you it’s just most dudes don’t pick up on the signals attractive girls give because they are so subtle most of the time. So all you end up seeing is the direct unattractive women girls. But now you can start noticing the subtle signs and make your move from there. I have a video on the subtle signs as well.
@@MarvOverMatter bet I’ll check out the video and peep. I’m in my own little world half the time also lmao. 🤣
@AtricanProverblifestyle gotta wake up and smell the coffee 😂
Women don’t see 80% of men they pay no attention to them. The other 19% they see but it’s no big deal, Now the 1% of us Handsome guys If you walk by a group of women and if you can hear a pin drop or a mouse pissing on cotton, man you are Handsome, or the opposite, they will all giggle right after you pass. And if you turn around and look they will all shut up. Man you are very Handsome.
Big facts!! I would have put this one but I feel like I’ve heard other creators say this often. Definitely true though!
@@Rudmyster I've experienced this before. Great point bro! 💯💪
A lot of times guys fall into number 3 because 1. The girls think he’s gay or 2. He’s considered “safe” meaning he won’t try to flirt with them
When you say fall into it makes it sound bad. Women can still be attracted to a guy who doesn’t flirt, those are usually the guys the woman makes the move on. Because if a woman’s signs aren’t working to get a guy to show interest (or flirt with her) a lot of times they’ll just make a bold move to see if he’s feelin her. Number 3 happens with guys who understand you don’t have to rush things with women. They understand they don’t always have to flirt with a women, she’s going to be into them regardless simply because they are attractive. The guys it happens to usually don’t know they are handsome or they have a lot of experience with women and know for a fact they are handsome and have other women already.
Your right at all 3 of your insight bro.
Preciate it man 🙏🏾
I’ve picked up on a not so talked about one over the years - if when interviewing for external corporate roles and you more typically get the job offer when the hiring manager is a female. I think some men feel subconsciously threatened by men who are more attractive than them. I don’t mean this in a self-righteous way, but this has been my experience. I’ve asked attractive women if they deal with this phenomenon, and they say the same thing - that they interview much better with men than women.
I fit the narrative of every point you made. I’ve also been called attractive by a lot of people and stared at but for some reason, I still feel like I’m not that attractive lol. I grew up as a chubby kid. The friend zone thing is true, dating is easy when you look good, too easy to enter a relationship imo more so than getting laid.
Yeah watch my video “Why Handsome Men Struggle” I break down that mental block of not being able to believe you’re handsome no matter how much people tell you you are.
And yeah I’m gonna upload a video soon that will touch on the hard to just get laid thing. So keep an eye out bro. I gotchu
I’m in the same boat as you honestly, I get choosing signals everyday but I still feel like I’m not him
New sub checking in. 👍🏽💪🏾
Preciate you bro 🙏🏾
I think I’m like a 4-5. Not hideous, but no chad either. Never had a problem with women. I’m married, been with her 8 years. She’s absolutely beautiful, and she’s the one who was hitting on me. I may not have the 10/10 looks, but my style, how I groom myself, my personality/sense of humor, and the many skills I have make up for it.
When I was younger, I was friend zoned a couple of times, but as I matured, I got more attention. I’m in my 30’s and while I’ve been with my wife 8 years like I said, at the time she started hitting on me, there were also like 5-6 other women battling for my attention. I’m the one rejecting women now. Mainly because I’m married lol but I have the pick of the litter. Lots of older and slightly younger women try to flirt with me and I ignore them, they try harder. When they see my wife, they get that envious look, and guys also compliment me.
People love my blue eyes, tats, 2” stretched ears, piercings, my long hair and beard, sense of humor, and I’m always told I have an amazing smile.
I’m no model, only 5’6”, 130lbs, I’m not rich, I’m slightly above average down below, and I have a unique style, plus I’m a musician, have lots of skills, and I’m very intelligent when it comes to topics of personal interest, can speak and understand 4 languages. I grew up young, so I seem older, yet look younger than I actually am. Lots of older women tell me I’m an old soul or was born in the wrong generation. I think a big part of it is that I just accept myself and roll with it. I am what I am, and make up for it in other areas. Tbh, I may be a 6-7 to others based on how I’m treated, but I rate myself a 4-5 physically speaking. No shame though, it hasn’t stopped me in any way. Shit, when I picked my wife over the women I rejected years ago, some got mad at me and some wanted to fist fight my wife even though I told em all multiple times I wasn’t interested in them, wasn’t attracted to them, and that I already was talking to and interested in someone else. I actually had to get s restraining order against one chick who wouldn’t leave me alone and kept trying to show up
To my job to convince me to leave my wife for her…not to be mean, but my wife is naturally beautiful with an amazing personality, this other girl was a short chubbalubba goblin looking thing. She smells, was way overweight, and just slept around. Not my thing. My wife had her v card still when we met, she was 19 turning 20, I was 22 turning 23.
She was never into partying, girls nights out, clubbing, she wanted marriage and kids. Wanted to wait to sleep with someone for her first time until she felt it was the right person, guys actually avoided her because they knew she wouldn’t sleep with them and she was one of the “town prudes”. To keep it kinda short, we both had and still have very similar goals in life and have so much in common she may as well be a female version of myself. We met one night through a friend, talked a bit, and she felt something because she started coming around a lot more specifically to see me. Obviously things worked out lol 2 of the biggest reasons she said was no one has ever been able to make her laugh the way I do, Or understand her on such a deep level, I have all of the same amazing qualities her dad had (unfortunately he passed away before I got the chance to meet him), and she’s never met anyone who can cook the way I do. And eventually when we finally slept together when she was ready and knew it was what she wanted, and the relationship progressed, she said I make her feel things she didn’t know was possible and IK her body better than she does, so basically, I’m a great lover and know what’s appropriate and when and I can read her body language without her having to say anything.
Point being, attractiveness isn’t always about money, status, looks and what you’re packing below. From my experience as a shorter borderline average guy, it’s more about how you make women feel when they’re around you, being a good listener, and having some type of skill set.
You can’t judge yourself though. If women find you as attractive as you’re saying then you’re not average.
Bro women are attracted to you at 30 years old cause you’re husband material. Provider. You’re a beta bucks. Sorry that’s how it is
Honestly, I’ve noticed that I don’t even get put in the friend zone, women will just not mess with you if they find you attractive and they’re not available
Bro, YOU know what you’re talking about. That’s exactly it. Or if you’re too nice they won’t really play you like that they just don’t want anything to do with you. Lol that’s funny you said that I was thinking that after I posted the video.
@@MarvOverMatteryup I feel like there’s no balance for us, when I approach a girl and I’m cordial/ “nice” I get ghosted, if I approach and I talk my shit I get ghosted too because they think I’m a player 😂
^All Facts above 🎯💯
@nelyybeats2517 right… you don’t want to be nice/cordial you want to think of it more as nonchalant. Cause if that nice/eager energy is there it’s still not going to come across in a way that gets women interested. But I got a video coming soon on that!
@@nelyybeats2517 Faaacts!!! Almost thought i was the problem mahn
I very rarely interact with people in general, so there's not much data off of which to build a solid conclusion, but i would say that all of my interactions with women have been neutral to positive. Even the ones who rejected me were very polite about it.
The more you do, the more negative interactions you’ll have but the more success you’ll have as well.
Jus subed to ur channel bro & gotta say dis by far da most original video concerning dis topic🙏
That means a lot bro fr… thanks for the support 🙏🏾
Whenever I approach a girl and give them my number they don’t text or call me. When I meet a woman online it’s much easier. I don’t get approached by females at all, occasionally they’ll stare but I mainly get approached by gay men😭 I’m friends with women that are engaged or in relationships but for the most part every woman that I’m attracted to wants to be friends or rush into a relationship.
Without talking to you or hearing more my guess is that you’re too nice of a guy. The girls that are more guarded and afraid of being hurt want a relationship with you because you feel safe. And the women who want passion and toxicity are turned off because you’re not edgy enough for them. So my advice to you is to be more nonchalant with women. Don’t appear eager or be so friendly try to be more aloof they’ll think it’s sexier. But still when it’s time to make a move, like go in for the kiss or something physical, be calm but assertive. I hope this helps.
@ that’s the thing though, I’m not nice enough to give them a relationship 🤷🏽♂️
@TheRealZmanWorld Yeah because on the inside you’re you and you know what you want. So when given that choice to be in a relationship, you know you just want to smash, so you don’t take it. But maybe the way you’re presenting yourself isn’t an accurately communicating that to the women. So they’re getting the wrong idea about who you are. HOW you come across is very important with women. It’s not what you say or do it’s how you say it or do it. Imma do a video on this soon the explain more.
@@MarvOverMatter I’ll subscribe
@TheRealZmanWorld preciate it my guy 🙏🏾
Its not the friends zone... if you are hot it is the wet zone.
Facts
If you straight and a guy hit on you … is it the bussy zone ??? No diddy
Yah I never been friend zoned. Had chicks w bfs pretend to.
It’s nothing to fear if you’re handsome.
This amazing channel listens to his fans
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Yeah we’re a community man.
This is a great video bro. Thank you for this i learned a lot.
Thanks man 🙏🏾 glad to hear it
oh lord not another one of “those” channels 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
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Thank you for your service 🙏🏾
Ok I’ll give one that no one talks about. If you go to a gentlemen’s club and the dancers come up to you and ask you “what are you doing in here” that means you are very very handsome . If you are in a Gentlemen’s club and a dancer walks over to you and your sitting down and she squats down at your side so that she is looking up at you to asks you if you want a dance she is letting you know she is into you and you are very very handsome she is being submissive. To me these two are probably the the biggest signs, ever because these women are at the top of Sexy they know what it takes to get a man wrapped around their finger they have heard all the lines possible from all types of men. But she wants to know why you’re in there? And then she turned into a submissive little girl when she approaches you. Also the best looking ones will probably avoid you. I once was at a gentlemen’s club and I asked one of the top dancers why was she avoiding me and she said. I made her nervous. Guys if you can shake up a Dancer you are truly a handsome man. And if you can pull one out of there without money man you are at the top of handsome. I think this is the one answer Marv most people don’t talk about.
Yeah I’ve never been to a Gentlemen’s Club so I wouldn’t even know this one lol. But it makes sense, if you get women why would you be there paying to see women. Thanks man.
@ this is true for handsome men they don’t see us there that often we get women so no need to go. I’ve been a few times with business men or hanging out with the Boyz, in some cities they double as night clubs everyone goes there. It’s an experience for sure. When I have a steady women you won’t find me there but if I don’t me and a friend may go hang out have a drink before ending the night if you have never gone it’s worth the experience. What I really find the most interesting is how EZ it is to talk to a beautiful women when she wants something out of you. So really it should always be EZ when it’s hard she is just not interested.
@@Rudmyster dude, unless you pulled any of them for free, they aren't into you. lmao Every woman in a "gentleman's club" will make you think you are hot just to get in your wallet
@@andikrause399facts
Best looking strippers easily get money from tricks. They know the better a guy looks, the less likely he is to get a dance
I dunno whether im attractive physically or not. Oh no I defo get the third one.
You have to put yourself in situations with women to find out. That’s the ONLY way. Don’t listen to the scientists they’ll have your brain screwed up and you’ll be more worried about what your rating is than if you can get a girl.
If women give you certain signs, or compliment you then you’re probably attractive. And it does you no good to second guess or doubt that.
Attractiveness is simply a TOOL to be able to mate and pass on your genes it is NOT the goal. It really doesn’t matter unless you are trying to become an actor or model.
@MarvOverMatter That's good advice, thanks for the reply dude.
@eta_carithebrightlord3396 No doubt
This video made me subscribe. Great work champ. Keep swimmin 🌊
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Good video and good take on this subject 👍.
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Question: you mentioned you in L.A. do you go to beach often?
What sorta of females tend to approach you. Now your in Cali oppose to when you was in Boston.
Is there an aesthetic difference in the type of girls who approached you now. Have you adapted your style, swag and hairstyle to stand out..
When I was in highschool I had to change my style because I was 80% of the girls who was checking for me wasn't black like me. I did have access to a few sistas who were above average. But I had absolutely no access to average sistas..
So I switch my style and swag to get more options.
Every pond is different so I play around with different styles to see which one gets a rise out of the women and then I adjust to that when I'm there
More white girls approach me here back home it was mostly black and latinas. I did dress more urban back home though cause I was younger and here I dress more athletic/casual. I’m not gonna lie I could do more to adapt my style though if I want to maximize my results.
Next video, talk about how you deal with the third situation. Of how you can politely reject them.
I gotchu. Might not be the next one but I gotchu
Yeah it took me awhile to get the signs but looking back at it damn so many missed opportunities.
Bro tell me about it. I was just talking about that with my boy. But you still young you can enjoy all the opportunities to come.
this title though 😂😂😂
I have been friend-zoned - initially - but after a little time, they come back for, well, you know! This has happened with a least 3 women. And they initiated when the time finally did come, not me.
That’s what I’m saying. It’s cause when you are too eager in the beginning it’s a turn off then once you stop trying and are nonchalant (if you’re attractive) she’s GOING to want you,
It’s human nature.
I suffer from this at my job and at the gym. I didn’t grow up a ladies man but I had girlfriends but getting older I’m noticing it was all kiddy love and I don’t really get dating. I seem to struggle with low self esteem because I’m 6’3, a gym rat, ripped and in really good shape. At my job and the gym I get many women that stare or catch eyes with me (some women do it every time I walk by or she sees me) but I never have the courage to go up and talk to them (not even a “hey how are you”). I see those same women get approached by other guys so I just back off because in my mind i don’t wanna be the 11th guy trying to holler at this girl so in the end I don’t say anything to any of the women
Yeah bro, watch my video “You have to talk” it’ll help you out with this scenario.
Good Content: The friendzone is a place where men go when they chase women who don't want them.
Attract, dont chase.
Thanks 🙏🏾 and Big facts!
This is missing something... Some of us have the experience where most are extremely rude to us and then turn around and be super friendly with objectively ugly guys. You are left like wtf with a question mark above your head 🤔 like why tf do you avoid eye contact and even turn your back
What are you saying to them when they are extremely rude? Cause I don’t get this too often and usually when I do get the rudeness it’s because they want me but can’t have me.
@MarvOverMatter Nothing man just the basic stuff, good morning or whatever sometimes I get no response or some one word answers. Or they turn their head, their back, blank deer stares etc. I just encounter NPCs. These are not cold approaches but coffee shop waitresses or people in common you' d think would be a nice introduction. Other channels have covered the thing with intimidation and or assuming you are cocky or a player. That's the only theory I've found to make the most sense.
The real question I guess is where are you meeting all these 'cool' open friendly vvomen you talk about??
@FrickinCCDeVileV Ok I see what’s happening… I’m not friendly to random women. I’m only friendly in settings where we’re expected to interact. When I talk to stranger women I’m stoic. Because yes if you come off like you’re too friendly right away when a girl finds you attractive it’s a turn off. You have to make them feel like you don’t care about talking to them. And that peeks their curiosity they think “hmmm why doesn’t he like me” and then proceed to try and make you like them.
You have to think about it, most of the times guys are nice to them it’s cause they are trying to smash so why would you be different. But if you treat them like they’re whatever it’s something they aren’t use to so it catches their attention. I know this sounds crazy/manipulative but it’s literally just human psychology people don’t want things that are easily accessible.
@@MarvOverMatter 💯 I know exactly what you're saying, but I'm just trying to get through basic manners with them lol most I dont even want. It's just that the hate - and mistrust is puzzling. Last question what kind of settings do you frequent if I may ask. Some of us are not in school and work independently, which is part of the problem. IMO social circle 'game' is the only real deal
@FrickinCCDeVileV Yes my guy you get it. Social circle is the best way to succeed. Attractive women date in their social circle for the most part. The club or bars can work depending on where you live. But if that’s not your scene I would do workout classes (ones that both men and especially women would attend) or day events centered around things you like or care about.
But if you can meet girls through friends do that!
Don’t no why I’m watching this because I know I’m not attractive
😂 you never know
The reason you can't attract and land dates is because women can sense when a guy is insecure and lack self confidence and you're one of them.
I normally talk to everyone though I think I’m very flirty in a smile & eye contact way.
I found out a girl has a film major and I felt like we connected based off that, I think she’s cute and I was sorta flirty though I’m just doing my thing. Online world has many doing things that seem more like steps.
I like to learn and chat with people, big thing is getting over the fear talking to girls and being natural.
Pick their brain enjoy the moment feel it out. If your living life chasing isn’t a thought girls will come when it’s right.
Some people don’t have those social skills they missed something growing up for whatever reason. So they have to earn later in life or they’ll just suffer the consequences of not having those skills. And steps are the easiest way to learn any skill.
@@MarvOverMatterit’s all interesting being someone who was shy years ago though built this ability to feel someone’s energy, but even then just striking up a conversation regardless the situation. Having fun with it especially at work. Letting those know you have emotion and aren’t thinking about an end goal. I don’t look at it as I want you because of sexual tension, I want to build something and me personally never participate in hookups it’s a waste of time for me, if we connect and build awesome if not I’m on the road again.
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Good topic because men go through what women go through as well peace
100% we do they just don’t talk about it in mainstream media.
consistency game.
Another sign I've noticed, women (especially attactive ones) will give you back-handed compliments. Eg: you think you're so fine don't you... or... why do you have to smell so good. They try to avoid giving you a straight compliment
Very true, and like you said that’s one the more attractive girls will show.
When women see you in the car, because then they can only see your face. Even if the car isn't special or luxurious.
So when you see women turning heads because of you in traffic. You're literally a traffic hazard 😂
😂😂 true
yoo i can relate to that 🔥🔥
0:33 this topic should be interesting coming from a normal person lol
9:00 facts lol
In high school, I had like 1 of every type of girl like me: Fat, Special Ed, Average looking girl( I actually liked her too but then we stopped talking and it went nowhere cause I guess I wasnt talkative enough; or charismatic and funny like I was in the beginning, Cute black girl(she liked my eyes but it didnt go anywhere cause I didnt talk and it felt awkward). The only group of women that didnt like me were white girls(well, except for the fat ones).
With this information, would you say im ugly, or that my personality just sucks because women just want me to be someone I am not? I just want to be with a simple, Christian woman, who is simple like me; who doesnt have to funny all the time to keep the woman interested. It's stupid
Nah I wouldn’t say you’re ugly. White girls especially young pretty ones LOVE being entertained. I don’t now what it is but they are generally the least mature out of the races in my experience. They are like little girls even into their 20’s. They think everything is supposed to be fun and exciting. I used to struggle with them too when I was younger but they would be dating fat guys and buck tooth guys but these guys were funny and goofy and that’s all it took. I remember in college I had a friend who was white and I was like bro I can’t talk to white girls how do you do it, he literally said “bro it’s a struggle I have to pretend the whole time we’re talking”.
I say all that to say as someone who’s not outgoing you are going to struggle with young white girls especially in this generation. Even more so in high school. BUT as you get older they stop needing all that excitement if you have other qualities. They start caring more about looks, and what you do, and other factors. So it’ll get easier to talk to them.
Side note they are also going to be more subtle than the other races because, one white culture is just more subtle with dating, and two if you’re in a predominantly white area they are going to have WAY more guys after them so they don’t ever have to make a bold move. And if you’re nervous to talk to them I’m assuming you probably struggle to pick up the signs of interest.
But at the end of the day you are going to have to talk. You don’t need to be entertaining but what’s happening is you’re shutting down because you don’t want them to stop liking you. It used to happen to me. You don’t understand why they like you in the first place so you don’t want to mess it up. But I’m telling you the o my thing that will mess it up is the very fear of messing it up. I’m sure you laugh and joke with your friends. Do the same thing with these girls that like you. They are going to be more receptive because they like you so you can actually mess up more than you can normally. You have more freedom in the conversation not less. Find something you guys both like and talk about it in depth that’s all you need to do to have interesting conversation and that’s enough for most girls.
I hope this helps bro, you got this! 💯
Yup. I'm ugly. Oh well...
😂 chill
When i was younger i didnt really have unattractive women approaching, around about my late teens i had an older woman approach me twice. she was unattractive but only becuase she had really bad eyes. like one her eyes really cocked eyed. it made it hard to look at her.
But she tried to get with me twice. she just didnt have anything that stood out to me, plus i rather go with someone younger face wise.
But she approached me in two different places. both times she sent some girl close to my age to say she liked me, she may have been a little slow. i dont know because she looked to be about in her 30s. an i was still in highschool. The girl was probably her daughter.
But mostly when it was girls that were out of my league who approached me directly and bluntly. Average girls were the ones who beat around the bush. I could never catch on to hints i was oblivious. i had a few girls tell me, "you cant catch the hint."
I can see that. I was referring to adulthood like in the club but that makes sense in a school setting cause they ugly girls don’t want to be embarrassed.
@MarvOverMatter Yep i feel you, when i was younger, i was always outside, so i mean at places outside of highschool or college
the skating rink, the mall and pool was places i was going to the most.
i actually started going to bars since i was 13 years old with my big cousins
also went to clubs by the time i was 16. so even at 18 to 29 i had mostly pretty girls approach me.
When i was in teenager, the one ugly woman, who did approach me twice, once was at the pool and once was at the skating rink.
But even as an adult much older now. when i go for my walk, its only really pretty girls who pay me any attention. if i see an ugly girl with a okay body only way i get her is if i cold approach her, i only get approached by pretty girls. all my life. Even when i was 30 my ex wife, approached me she was 18 years old.
@MarvOverMatter my older cousin use to always pull them oogly looking girls with the banging bodies i like. i had another partner he has tons of oogly looking girls. some dudes be a magnet for them girls ... there was one time at the skating rink this BBW was harassing me in my 20s. But i was dressing like a stripper to attract certain types of women, but it made her go crazy, but those were one offs. i can say unattractive women i can count on one had how many of them approached me.
an if i approach them they are the hardest to pull to smash, 90% of my rejections came from girls who are average or below average in the face.
@genovasquez8361 That’s interesting what area are you in?
@MarvOverMatter I'm in saint Louis Missouri
What if you don’t care for “game” but just like women? Then what? I don’t like to act in a “game” way that isn’t me
Game is just a way to describe knowing what to do with women.
Or you can be too attractive we're she wanna keep you as a friend because once you get intimate she's gonna want more than that and she knows she's not qualified for that
Nah, that's heavy cope. The only real sign is that you bed most of the women you want to bed. It's that easy. All the other signs you hear online are coping signs that make you feel better, nothing more.
Yeah they definitely do that, which is why patience is important. She’s gonna break after a while and end up sleeping with you as our friend above mentioned.
The signs are not cope though they are there leading up to the point where she sleeps with you. You don’t need a sign if that’s already happening.
@@andikrause399you writing the same comment everywhere. That’s just one statement. Just because you in bed with a lot of women doesn’t make you the number one thing that shows your attractive dummy. There’s many attractive guys that dont bother approaching and are not naturally “F$ck boys”. The real sign you’re attractive is when you get looked at and stared at in public …
1:07 anyone catch this? Chase that trifecta and you’re chasing the Devil. Find a godly spouse and you won’t need videos like these
Correction* To be goal oriented on finances fitness and appearance isn’t wrong. But the idea that you need to be 6 feet, with 6 figures and a 6 pack is a recipe for yourself to get overwhelmed. You just need to be focused on being better than who you were yesterday. Do this and you’ll improve.
Many youtubers give 100 different signs that you are attractive but the only real sign is that you bed most of the women you want to bed. It's that easy. All the other signs are somewhat coping signs that make you feel better nothing more.
Women give signs that they want you sleep with you. It’s rare they just come up and say I want to sleep with you. So I’m pointing out those signs for the men who don’t know how to spot them on their own. Yes eventually once you engage and maneuver through the interaction without messing it up yes they will sleep with you. If guys know the signs of interest they can approach the situation with more confidence and get through it better and know which women to engage with. Ultimately yes a girl sleeping with you means she’s interested but there’s definitely steps along the way to that which is why they are signs. Sleeping with her isn’t a sign it’s the destination.
Women will sleep with you if they arent attracted to you.
1. To get your money
2. To use you for status or popularity
3. Becuase she is desperate and just wants to get her issue off
Women will go for the medium ugly guy who is good in bed or has reputation of being able to please women. Even though she doesnt find him attractive.
Women will sleep with a guy if other girls seem as if they would go for him.
But all in all she dont have to be attracted to you to just sleep with you...
Attraction breeds her need to want to be around you, if your attractive alot of women want to be around you. not just SXXXX
What up marv
Haha what’s up bro
Well
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Yeah I defo ain't it, didn't mark 1 box