Its crazy that we don't celebrate ourselves for simply living, we tend to wait for accomplishments to gives us the "okay" to give ourselves love. I learned this the hard way and still am, being in a state of wtf after finishing college and now working.. not feeling like I am doing enough because I am not constantly busy. Learning to appreciate simply being alive and healthy!
I was cooking spaghetti .. thinking about the turmoil in my life… my three kids .. the battle raising them alone …just working on the resistance.. trying so hard to do this just one more day … and I literally burst into tears when she said “welcome home”… you’ve been hard on yourself long enough. I just cried and cried.
Not me high-fiving myself all day😆🥰You two are heaven sent! I’m so grateful for these various platforms that you share this magic on! Grateful for you both and your work! Oh I’m so happy I’m not alone and get to learn and gain skills without leaving my bed! Woah thank you so much!
wow Every morning in front of the mirror, we either ignore ourselves or pick ourselves apart Gooooosebumps!!! And not because I'm in the fridge section of the grocery store lol
Very interesting conversation. I’ve never heard of her work but I do appreciate this conversation. I don’t do it in the bathroom mirror cause I don’t spend a lot of time in the bathroom in the morning in general but part of my morning ‘ritual’ which I do in front of my altar in my bedroom I pull a tarot card and do smudging and use an assortment or sound healing tools and at the very end I do box breathing and give myself a hug and then there’s a floor length mirror I can see myself in probably 5 ft away and I always make a point to look myself in the eyes from that distance and say “I love you” and that’s how I’ve been starting my day for a while but I just added the “I love you” in the mirror about a month ago. Interesting with the high five. Good stuff.
Thank you for your work, I want to say that I see you and hear you and I truly want to acknowledge you for giving me the desire to meet my real self. I am forever grateful for all that I am leaning in your book,your podcast, you IG… thank you ☺️ for ever Nicole
Aww! This is more than beautiful!! I love both of your souls forever! Your work helped me to uncover my hidden self and also help me to see other coping mechanism that I am not familiar with :) it helps me to help my clients more effortlessly 🥰 so much love from Taiwan
Thank you so much for sharing this important video! When you prioritize healthy self identity, self-talk, and self-care, you can take back your identity and show up as more valued. :-)
Thank you Dr Nicole for sharing your experience of tears just flowing within your healing journey. That has started happening with me during my healing journey and I was struggling with what it was telling me. 💕
Just a thought but could it be that the 5 second rule worked so well for Mel Robbins because her trauma response was to be "on the run", like the fight/flight modes was automatic for her? I'm thinking that those of us still stuck in the freeze mode won't find success with it because our automatic response is very different and there are actual things holding us back which is what got us stuck in the freeze mode in the first place. The freeze mode is generally activated when you have no visible way of escaping so going 5 4 3 2 1 may not be as helpful as it may be for someone who is more wired towards the fight/flight mode.
Couldn't you use the 5 second rule to bring awareness to this freeze mode state and then from there ask yourself questions and bring you back to present moment and go from there?
I am super curious. I appreciate the dialogue first and foremost. In any mainstream conversation that you both discuss in detail I have never heard either of you use the term mental illness when discussing yourself or your issues. In mainstream media all of this type of conversation is cloaked in that term. Both are selling a viewpoint. Such an interesting topic. I do t know what number the DSM is up to these days but I am glad to see and encourage anyone who helps people to help themselves. After all every individual has the seed of truth within themselves. Having some kick ass guides is cool for sure.
Loved it! You guys have to hook up together more often. It's hard to find "serious" unpacking on other interviews. High 5 to great questions asked, and to "next level" explanations by both you guys.
Thank you two amazing women for this conversation. I do a fist bump in the mirror, that works better for me. I say "Keep going bro. Good work." Even if I haven't done anything special yet. Thankfully I'm pretty comfortable looking in the mirror. Good luck to all the ones doing this journey. It's not easy but you're not giving up and that means everything. That's the reason to be proud of yourself. Your willingness to heal and love yourself and others in a world that praises dismissiveness. Love you guys!
I love the concept of giving myself a high five and I'm completely on board with what Ms. Robbins says about the positive associations your brain makes, but what if 'high-fiving' is not part of your culture? I don't think I've ever 'high-fived' anyone, so it doesn't come with any of the associated meanings, e.g. 'you're loved' that are mentioned. I would really appreciate some feedback.
Hey, I liked your question and even I can't answer for Ms Robbins, maybe you could caress your reflexion in the mirror?like petting kind of a thing, or give a kiss even? I don't know since these imply more of a loving energy than boosting someones energy. Or try the hive five to see if it will have an effect on you after all :)
@@artemisvl260 thank you for replying. I will try the high five. After all, even if it doesn't work it's not going to do anh harm or cost me anything :)
I read the book by Mel after listening to this and I have to say that it felt a bit dishonest and commercial. Unlike your book. It made a lot of valid points but it was a just a pop science. It felt like it was just written to make sales. I didn't feel human heart poured into it.
Its crazy that we don't celebrate ourselves for simply living, we tend to wait for accomplishments to gives us the "okay" to give ourselves love. I learned this the hard way and still am, being in a state of wtf after finishing college and now working.. not feeling like I am doing enough because I am not constantly busy. Learning to appreciate simply being alive and healthy!
2 of my favs!!!! Omg - you two helped me out of the deepest depression 3 years ago with your content 😁🙏😊💞🤩 beyond grateful for you both!!!
Me too!! Thank you for sharing. I was in the same place. These women are a blessing.
Pareil
I was cooking spaghetti .. thinking about the turmoil in my life… my three kids .. the battle raising them alone …just working on the resistance.. trying so hard to do this just one more day … and I literally burst into tears when she said “welcome home”… you’ve been hard on yourself long enough. I just cried and cried.
Not me high-fiving myself all day😆🥰You two are heaven sent! I’m so grateful for these various platforms that you share this magic on! Grateful for you both and your work! Oh I’m so happy I’m not alone and get to learn and gain skills without leaving my bed! Woah thank you so much!
wow Every morning in front of the mirror, we either ignore ourselves or pick ourselves apart
Gooooosebumps!!! And not because I'm in the fridge section of the grocery store lol
My heart BURST seeing your 2 faces together!! I didn't even have to listen....immediate "LIKE" and SAVE! Thank you, so grateful for you both! 💖
Two amazing, inspirational and influential women. Keep up the good work.
Mirror work. It works. Lousie Hay. great talk
I immediately thought of Louise too!
I needed this today. 2 of today's thought-leading women, giving it to me straight. Endless thanks, Dr Nicole & Mel ❤️
My two favorite strong women!! Thank you both so much for all you do for us❤️❤️
I love your channel and I love Mel. This is going to be good! Watching now😊
Very interesting conversation. I’ve never heard of her work but I do appreciate this conversation. I don’t do it in the bathroom mirror cause I don’t spend a lot of time in the bathroom in the morning in general but part of my morning ‘ritual’ which I do in front of my altar in my bedroom I pull a tarot card and do smudging and use an assortment or sound healing tools and at the very end I do box breathing and give myself a hug and then there’s a floor length mirror I can see myself in probably 5 ft away and I always make a point to look myself in the eyes from that distance and say “I love you” and that’s how I’ve been starting my day for a while but I just added the “I love you” in the mirror about a month ago. Interesting with the high five. Good stuff.
I absolutely love this. Thank you for sharing ❤️
I love the realness and sincerity of this! Thank you so much.
Thank you for your work, I want to say that I see you and hear you and I truly want to acknowledge you for giving me the desire to meet my real self. I am forever grateful for all that I am leaning in your book,your podcast, you IG… thank you ☺️ for ever Nicole
What a fantastic conversation!
Aww! This is more than beautiful!! I love both of your souls forever! Your work helped me to uncover my hidden self and also help me to see other coping mechanism that I am not familiar with :) it helps me to help my clients more effortlessly 🥰 so much love from Taiwan
What a beautiful reference and reverence 🙌🏼🌹💕
Thank you so much for sharing this important video! When you prioritize healthy self identity, self-talk, and self-care, you can take back your identity and show up as more valued. :-)
Thank you Dr Nicole for sharing your experience of tears just flowing within your healing journey. That has started happening with me during my healing journey and I was struggling with what it was telling me. 💕
Just a thought but could it be that the 5 second rule worked so well for Mel Robbins because her trauma response was to be "on the run", like the fight/flight modes was automatic for her? I'm thinking that those of us still stuck in the freeze mode won't find success with it because our automatic response is very different and there are actual things holding us back which is what got us stuck in the freeze mode in the first place. The freeze mode is generally activated when you have no visible way of escaping so going 5 4 3 2 1 may not be as helpful as it may be for someone who is more wired towards the fight/flight mode.
Couldn't you use the 5 second rule to bring awareness to this freeze mode state and then from there ask yourself questions and bring you back to present moment and go from there?
I am super curious. I appreciate the dialogue first and foremost. In any mainstream conversation that you both discuss in detail I have never heard either of you use the term mental illness when discussing yourself or your issues. In mainstream media all of this type of conversation is cloaked in that term. Both are selling a viewpoint. Such an interesting topic. I do t know what number the DSM is up to these days but I am glad to see and encourage anyone who helps people to help themselves. After all every individual has the seed of truth within themselves. Having some kick ass guides is cool for sure.
2 of the greatest ladies!!!
This is such an important conversation 👏 😭
Two awesome women right here folks!!
Loved it! You guys have to hook up together more often. It's hard to find "serious" unpacking on other interviews. High 5 to great questions asked, and to "next level" explanations by both you guys.
Amazing pair....... Both of you have made my day... 😊🙏❤️
Thank you two amazing women for this conversation. I do a fist bump in the mirror, that works better for me. I say "Keep going bro. Good work." Even if I haven't done anything special yet. Thankfully I'm pretty comfortable looking in the mirror. Good luck to all the ones doing this journey. It's not easy but you're not giving up and that means everything. That's the reason to be proud of yourself. Your willingness to heal and love yourself and others in a world that praises dismissiveness. Love you guys!
Nicole looks like she's goin' to break down in tears at any moment...
This is so good. Thank you both 💜
This is great!!! Yeah, my two fav gals!! love you both!!
Amazing duo 💜. Thank you!
Just love this
Very inspiring and helpful. 🙏🙂
I just realized I haven't shed the labels that were my mother's over mine
Is this available as a podcast ep anywhere? Thanks
I love the concept of giving myself a high five and I'm completely on board with what Ms. Robbins says about the positive associations your brain makes, but what if 'high-fiving' is not part of your culture? I don't think I've ever 'high-fived' anyone, so it doesn't come with any of the associated meanings, e.g. 'you're loved' that are mentioned. I would really appreciate some feedback.
Hey, I liked your question and even I can't answer for Ms Robbins, maybe you could caress your reflexion in the mirror?like petting kind of a thing, or give a kiss even? I don't know since these imply more of a loving energy than boosting someones energy. Or try the hive five to see if it will have an effect on you after all :)
@@artemisvl260 thank you for replying. I will try the high five. After all, even if it doesn't work it's not going to do anh harm or cost me anything :)
@@lunadog71 yes you do that!!! I tried it today and it made me laugh haha 😃
@@artemisvl260 :)
I read the book by Mel after listening to this and I have to say that it felt a bit dishonest and commercial. Unlike your book. It made a lot of valid points but it was a just a pop science. It felt like it was just written to make sales. I didn't feel human heart poured into it.
2 years late. Starting today.
Im in a vicious cycle of observing suicidal thoughts at night and waking up wishing that I didn't.
I'm here
Haitian from cananda
Is anyone gonna point out that these two look like sisters? :D