a major reason is that food addiction, is not fashionable unless a specific food type is referred to as addictions have issues being done in moderation. it was not untill recently that the flaws nutritionism got put attention to with the nova classification getting more public attention with UPF becoming more than just a term for researchers. so for a while the ability to define food addiction in a decent way was never there.
i hate when people say that obesity is genetic. i was told my whole life by my family that i will always be obese because they were all obese, saying that no matter what i will always be big. the second i followed my own diet and started making my own food. i lost 60 pounds very fast and kept it off indefinitely. now im the only one in my family with abs:)
My dad was 65 years old and nearly 500lbs. His doctor told him, “You’re one of the lucky ones!” My dad replied, “Lucky? What do you mean lucky? I’m diabetic, on blood thinners, have terrible knee problems, and struggle just to do daily tasks.” The doctor responded, “Maybe so, but how many people do you know who are your age and your size?” My dad thought about it and reluctantly replied, “None.” The doctor responded, “That’s right. None. They’re all dead, but not you. You’re the lucky one!” My dad committed to losing weight that day, and he’s never looked back. He’s almost 78 now and just under 250lbs. Sheer willpower. Also, he’s off of the blood thinners and he no longer has diabetes. He says his only regret was waiting so long to start the process of losing weight. ❤
@@urgamerhomi7088 I suppose a more accurate representation would be “he no longer takes medication for diabetes.” You are correct Type II diabetes cannot technically be cured, but it can be reversed, which means that blood sugar levels can be managed through diet and exercise and without medication. Not quite the same thing, but pretty close!
@@urgamerhomi7088 Bullshit, You have a chance at getting rid of type two diabetes with keto. And even if it does not reverse itself, you still gain a far better control over your blood sugar-
A "cheat day" is just making sure you don't form a habit. The best way to get over an addiction is to deromanticize it. If you keep treating the thing like something you love then it'll be insanely harder to stop
I've had success doing keto for 6 days, and then having 1 cheat day per week. The cheat day gives you something to look forward to, so you don't feel like you're "trapped" in the diet. But you do need to limit it to only 1 cheat day per week... if it starts to drift into 2 cheat days, and then 3, and then 4... then it won't work.
you are right, but people over look this is not a drug, food is a necessity. combining the two is the problem... also most the overweight females, first sexual partner was mommies boyfriend. we got a 50 50 here. half of us mass monsters, in shape or not have food addiction. the other half are victims of sexual abuse.
I was 267 pounds at 6 foot tall when I started watching this channel. I started making better choices and now I’m 215 with muscle and VERY happy only a year later. Honestly most of the weight dropped in the first six months and now I’m losing maybe one pound a month. But I’m also working out so that checks out. My goal is 195 like I was when I was in the army. Watching these videos helps me immensely. Thank you.
I'm 60 pounds down in 8 months, I'd like to lose another 40 to get around 160. I'm taking care of a very ill family member so finding time to exercise is tough. Still losing about 1-2 lb/mo. If I can keep that up I'll be content with that for now. Congratulations and good luck on your journey. You're doing great.
The less you eat the less you have appetite to eat. I do one meal a day, with small portion of meal. I was 156 lbs and now 128lbs. I still need to lose some more 28lbs. I believe I can achieve it in 4 or 5 months
@@radhiadeedou8286I had my 4th baby a year ago. Before having children I was a very petite 52kg. I kept 10kg after every baby (breastfeeding is great for burning calories but they don’t tell you how insatiable it makes you!). Dr recently told me I was obese at 94kg and I’ve lost 20kg in 3 months. High protein, low carb and intermittent fasting has been a game changer! Good luck x
@@radhiadeedou8286 I'm not much of a motivational speaker, but let's just say I had every single thing in my life against me, and I still pulled through. You can do it too.
I was once 350 lbs. Now I am about 210 Ilbs. No way to say this except- do not support it. Everyone needs to become accountable. I am 6 feet tall and in good health now- Thanks!
Boot camp took me from 385lbs to 197lbs. It was hard, but so worth it in the end. This whole fat-acceptance thing just shows they would rather put in the effort to make you feel bad for their laziness instead of the effort go make themselves better.
Most people use overeating as a coping mechanism for trauma. I have been overweight all my life, and I didn't realize that I was eating my feelings until I started going to therapy. Being an emotional eater is the worst because i was just mindlessly eating and i didnt realize when i was full until i was in physical pain.
Same, and funny enough therapy was doing jack shit for me, so all I got out of it was realizing I was eating my feelings and stress coping. It wasn't until I started the carnivore diet that my hormones and blood sugar got back into balance, and I lost weight properly. He is wrong about weightloss not being about hormones. Unregulated insulin levels is what fucks you up.
Weight Watchers : a more confusing, less acurate and thus less effective proxy for Calorie Counting. The reason ot "works" for some people is they spend money thus want it to work, and socialize with others to keep themselves motivated. Most still fail to control their food intake medium and long term.
@@familhagaudir8561I had a coworker who was pudgy, not blatantly fat and I couldn’t believe she lost 26lbs I think in like 3-4 months doing weight watchers but when we’d order food it was so tedious, she’d have to go onto the site and see how many “points” something was and then be like “oh, they don’t have (particular restaurant dish) on here” but still want something so we’d have to use some place that WW DID have points for (she was pretty dumb). It was so tedious! I was proud of her for losing that weight tho but I left the job a little later and I’m thinking she probably put the weight back on eventually because that wasn’t a sustainable diet for her.
I grew up in a tall and large family, pretty much everyone was obese to morbid. Being the shortest, 5’1 on a good day, I was pressured to keep up with their portions. Obviously I became obese too, my heaviest being 176lbs, and it was awful. I decided to take control of my bad habits, and researched nutrition. I learned a lot and started choosing actual nutritious foods, limiting my portions, and started exercising. Unsurprisingly I started losing weight. Made it to 125lbs and it was worth it. It wasn’t easy, but nothing worth doing ever is. It was even harder when I had family around me become bitter that I could succeed where they have failed. They started saying I was starving myself, becoming too skinny, and always had to make a big deal when I chose low carb vegetables over other carb dense foods. It’s truly an addiction. You don’t feed into a drug addicts addiction, or an alcoholic’s, food should be no different, but you have the fat acceptance movement doing just that. The thing is, people hate to see you succeed, so it’s only natural people want to encourage you to eat more, stay fat, stay like them so they can’t see their own failures. It’s so rewarding when you can prove them wrong, and prove to yourself that you can accomplish something so life changing. Don’t fall into other peoples habits, and you’ll be thankful to yourself in the long run. If you’re struggling to lose weight, just keep in mind it’ll all be worth it in the end, and that you can do it!
Well done to your amazing work, lifestyle changes, introspection, and for overcoming the hurt that your own family refused to support and encourage you.
Good job losing the weight! I am myself about 5'2 and got from 180lbs to around 125lbs now -- I fell in love with fitness, weight lifting specifically, in the process. But binging is still a struggle, probably will always be. Stay consistent, people, slowly build good habits. It's not easy, but as DumDum420 said -- totally worth it.
@@babousk7593I'll give you a brief recap of her. Grew up with addict parents (it's debatable that she went through a neglectful childhood. She constantly contradicts herself on the topic). Animal a*user (also debatable) Ped (she dated a 15 year old at 18. A*used the 15 year old, physically and mentally. Also had creepy behavior with a 15 year old ar 22). Had cancer (uterine) and didn't change her diet. Allegedly tore ligaments in her ankle last year from falling off a curb (not lying) and didn't change her diet. The lore behind Amberlynn is vast and deep. So tired carefully. Her universe (we call it the Amberverse) is like hotel California. Once you enter, it is almost impossible to leave.
I'm a pharmacist and I'm disgusted by the medical industry pushing pills and injections over healthy eating habits and exercise. Twelve years ago I was obese and miserable. On my 39th birthday, I decided I did not want to be a fat 40 year old and gradually lost 50 pounds over the next year. Losing 50 pounds was the best birthday gift I ever gave myself. Everyone asked how I did it, and when I replied eating better and running, everyone turned up their noses. In the meantime, I've had co-workers do fad diets, shakes, meal replacement bars, and even gastric bypass. I'm still the only skinny one.
l had several different health issues that made it impossible to work in my 30’s and l gained weight from eating to much and being completely inactive 24 hrs a day /bed rest. I’m 5’9” and l was 210 lbs. l was fat. I looked ridiculous at that weight. l finally got healthy from the medical issues l had. l worked out, stretched and ate clean healthy foods and counted all my calories. No fast food, no high calories restaurant food, no junk foods, etc. l have lost 60 lbs and l have kept it off for over 6 years now. Do the work. Become the best version of yourself.
Congrats to you! Yes, the oldest, best, and only successful way to lose weight is calories in - calories out must be a negative number consistently. Sadly, and entire industry has popped up to convince people that they aren't the ones causing their own problems. My question to them is always simple: "Why were there no fat prisoners in WW2 concentration camps?" If weight loss is a genetic thing, it would ALWAYS have been a genetic thing. We would've seen a certain percentage of fat people in WW2 concentration camps. But there are none. Most are barely skin and bones. It ain't genetic, folks. Sure, some people do naturally have higher metabolisms but at the end of the day, you have to figure out how much your body NEEDS and stay below that amount. It's the only thing that works. Every "diet" out there is just a trick to get you to eat less than you need to maintain.
Yea, my mom is one of the medical industries puppets. She has unhealthy habits and lies to herself about it and I'm seriously running out of patience or good humor about it. I'm the most in-shape person in my family that isn't school-aged... None of my family tries.
She's 80 + pounds over the average of 170 which makes that statement even more ridiculous, my highest weight is right around that actual average and you're right.. it's nothing to be proud of if you're average height or worse short (like me lol)
watching this video hit close to home. Struggling with my own journey, I empathize with Amberlin's challenges. It's tough when personal struggles become public, and I understand the battle with emotional eating. While the critique seemed harsh, it made me reflect on the complexities of addiction. Amidst the judgments, there's an unspoken reminder of the importance of addressing the aspect of health on any journey. We're all navigating our paths, and sometimes, compassion speaks louder than criticism.
doesn't matter if it's criticism or compassion, it's a choice that at the end of the day a person makes that affects their future, anyone with enough intelligence can google how to lose weight and get various results on it longterm if they really tried and they chose to never give up on it
The most compassionate thing you can do for an overweight or obese person is tell them they are fat and need to change. And I know this because I was super fat (not chubby, I was actually medically overweight) and I ate like shit. Now I don’t because someone was kind enough to tell me I was fat
“It’s tough when personal battles become public” the giant cow is making it public for a reason. Attention. She doesn’t care about getting better that’s why she still eats like a barnyard creature.
no, while some people do need compassion, i've seen more people in my life who could have heard the tough truth rather than a compassionate lie. you can't deal with addiction of any sort until you admit its a problem and too many people are told being fat is fine.
I'm a recovering food addict. The reason we binge is the same for just about any addiction. Every single choice we make in life is to either avoid pain, or gain pleasure. What makes addiction so hard is that it does both at the same time (albeit only temporarily.)
As a NON SMOKER who used to smoke, I have to say that the reason I smoked was self-sabotage because I have borderline. I wonder if lots of these folks would benefit from my protocol. It does require exercise and eating healthy though so probably not.
I understand how most people feel, i used to eat 3-7 meals a day and then i got even more stressed so i started eating 0-2 meals, now im eating 1-3 meals a day and tbh, its still hard to control myself but i was alone the entire time and i helped myself, and i was around 10-12 during these times, and i still have a bunch of bad addictions that i cant stop. Only because stress is yk stressful LMAO, and stress causes people to do things they dont want to, and it is a loop after that. Addiction Realization Guilt Shame And it goes back to one after that.
When I went though my weight loss at home, my parents didn’t realize that I was serious. They’d still buy me fast food and junk food, so everytime they did I’d instantly take it upstairs to my room, and dump it in the garbage, after some time I made it pretty clear to them I’ve been wasting the food and they understood
My boyfriend is similar to that, I've mentioned many times that I'm trying to lose weight. He drove through McDonald's to buy himself a soda and I said I didn't want anything, he continued to buy me a large Dr Pepper after I told him I didn't want anything, then continued to get upset when I didn't want to drink it. Like I'm sorry but I don't want to waste most of my calories for the day with this one soda
Same with me. My parents still buy me Cheetos and other chips (my past addiction ngl), even though since the day I decided to start working out and changing my diet on pure whim I haven’t given in a bit and actively/obviously resist. I’d just leave the bags in the kitchen deep in a cupboard so I wouldn’t see them (previously would hoard in my room). My dad constantly asks me if I ate and says I need to eat more and he’s worried I’m starving myself which is super annoying. But at least now after these past three months they are starting to slowly recognize I’m serious about changing my lifestyle for the better
Assuming you have not watched the full video from Julibee, the reason she walks with a cane is because of a chronic disorder she has. I’m not condoning the body positivity bs btw.
I was waiting for the Amberlynn video to come sooner or later. She is the epitome of everything you speak about on this channel. Addiction, untreated trauma, abuse and how victims become abusers, narcissism and how it can lead to absolute self destruction.
I think it's hilarious. I laugh at her doing this to her body and its weird to look into her history and see that she apparently has been very abusive to past partners and has a shady past outside of the weight problems. She is nothing more then a fem nick avocado, A lolcow laughing stock.
I love (and honestly needed) your videos! I went from nearly 300lbs last year, and this year I’ve successfully gotten down to 215. I’ve been able to do calesthenics, improve my cardio (primarily through hiking), and am much more mindful of my eating habits. This channel has been a valuable tool for helping me not only break the delusion I was taught growing up, but also helping aid in motivation to keep the weight off. Anytime I indulge in junk a little too much, I see one of these types of videos and it reminds me how much better I feel sticking to the program and how much progress I’ve made. Quite possibly could have saved my life in the long run. Thank you!
*Amberlynn eats 3 supersize packs of chocolate bars made for a family of 8* Also Amberlynn: “Why am I not 150 pounds? I ate an 800 calorie salad for lunch
I love how you point out the issues that are factually incorrect. The example of someone saying “There’s a study” without telling you the study, is a great point! It’s made me reassess how I communicate information. This is information anyone could benefit from. Keep on keeping on!
I found your videos in October, learned that food addiction was a thing, took in what you and some other people were saying about how to lose weight properly, and I am now officially 22.3kgs down. I am just over 1kg away from being in the healthy weight range according to BMI. I was obese before. I’m so annoyed that with the correct information it was so damn easy to correct my eating. Edit: +3 wks - I finally jumped over the line to healthy per BMI for the first time in 9 years. Total lost so far is 24.65kgs. I plan to keep going until I’m firmly in the middle of the healthy BMI range, but I’m going to slow it down a bit to make sure I’m good ❤. Edit: hey everyone so I’m down 30kg now. Thanks so much for the support :). All I can say is calories in vs calories out works.
I don't wanna be fat no more. Wanna be able to stand and piss. Never been able to see my peen before. No one should have to live their life like this. - Rob Thomas
@@myras2blessed2beestressed32 1. Google what your required calorie intake per day is. 2. plan meals and eat 500 calories less than that - eg. mine was 2100 calories a day, so I aimed for 1600 calories per day. I’ve been losing just over 1kg per week, sometimes more sometimes less. BUT to start, just spend a week seeing how much you’re eating now, trying to eat to your requirement and then making small reductions to build towards the 500 deficit. You’ve stretched your stomach with overeating, so you’re going to think you’re hungry when eating only what your body requires. Meat & veg are your friends as they’ll let you feel full while also being pretty low in calories 3. Sleep 7-8 hrs a night 4. Learn how to cook (makes eating right pleasant, plus is cheaper than buying meals - I cook a lot & freeze ready made portions, generally comes down to max $7 per meal now. 5. Check out the UK tv show Secret Eaters - it’s on TH-cam and has a lot of food psychology information & will help you identify where you’re going wrong while also giving you strategies to fix it. 6. I’m using a free app as a food diary, I add food & it tells me how many calories it contains, makes it easy 7. And lastly: start now. Don’t wait until tomorrow, or tonight, or Monday, or after the holidays, or when you’re feeling stronger. You’ll never be stronger in the future, because you right now are your future self - you in this moment are strong and able to get over this addiction. Good luck
@@myras2blessed2beestressed32I can try to give you a route to losing weight but please promise you that you will take it slow very slow it can happen but I don’t want you to become demoralized or depressed doing it heres my list 1. Write down what you eat on a daily basis don’t forget to add the condiments and snacks because they add up quick 2. Reduce the amount of food or calories (you can replace food but please do this slowly your body is used to eating them) SLOWLY like if you drink three sodas a day take it down to two sodas a day until you get use it then reduce it again 3.Drink more water 4. Get More Sleep please 6-8 hours a day constantly please slee is so important 5. Try excersise try things like going for walks, going to the gym, yoga, etc (I couldn’t think of anymore i’m kinda tired sorry) 6. Have fun with it give yourself motivation that you can do this 7. Seek out help from people who actually helped people loss weight the correct way(if these don’t work) 8. Try to surround yourself with people who want better for you and encourage you very well 9.Try to find healthy snacks that can replace some of the other choices 10. You got this I believe in you I hope I helped you seriously Have a blessed day
As someone who’s biggest life weight was 422 lbs at age 21 and slimming to 303 lbs a year later on a continuing weight loss journey, I learned that it isn’t too hard to make much needed lifestyle changes. The hardest thing is overeating. I remember before my journey I could eat up 12 times a day. Beginning of the journey was indeed hard cause of cravings but since then I could fast for up to 14 hours a day. Anybody in my previous predicament, encourage yourself to do it. Weight loss doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time, but with that time you’ll look good and feel good. Health is wealth
Yep intermittent fasting has helped big time I cut down alcohol out of my diet .I exercise during locking downs I ballooned up 204 lbs from 150 I decided to do keto diet and thus far have lost 30 lbs .got a gym membership hit the gym put on muscle 💪 now I do high protein diet I don't eat passed 8pm till noon the next day
What has helped me with emotional eating is having things in the house that are healthy snacks. Tomatoes and cucumber in particular really helped me. Carrots were also good but dident like the taste to much. I noticed I wasent actually hungry while emotional eating but something in my head told me to eat....because. Never really figred out why. So id rather eat something with barely any calories in it then stuff like candy or something. Helped me greatly. Hope it helps you to.
A method I found that pretty much let me break my sugar addiction overnight was something I cribbed for Warhammer 40K called The Armour of Contempt. Basically I would meditate on how much I hate sugar, raging at what it had done to me and what it was doing to society and my friends, I would hold memory of the taste in my head and reject it. Now even if I get a craving for it a reflexive disgust overpowers it. There is no need to expend discipline to stop yourself from doing something you don't want to do in your heart of hearts.
Bro, you are literally doing what most people call "Magic" or Wiccan, etc these days. Thanks for sharing this. I'm gonna give this a try with junk food.
@@StormGod-X You can call it magic if you want but there are no supernatural processes involved. Also I'm calling bullshit, I willing to bet if in a survey of the general population if you describe the process and ask what it is called most people would not think of magic or wiccan.
That's very interesting. I've noticed that most people don't associate the food with the health effects caused by its consumption. Like if people touch a stove and get surprised that they got burnt, without realizing that getting burnt is the direct result of that and that it can not be separated from the act of touching the hot stove because those two things are intertwined. The hot stove is the consumption of sugar, and getting burnt is the negative health effects (stomach ache, excess calories, putting on weight). People don't realize that a certain amount of sugar is tolerable and excess is not. They just say yum yum let me eat more sugar. Yes, sugar tastes good, but after a few packs of kit kats, starts to taste disgusting. It starts to be repulsive much like it is to eat anything in excess. And that's the point when I start feeling sick to my stomach. Most people just get sad that they feel sick without thinking about how that is the direct result of the "good" feeling they had while eating sugar. Therefore, your craving for sugar should logically extend only as far as your ability to stomach sugar. And your ability to stomach sugar should end at the point when you have reached excess consumption. Just like for salt, or for oil, or for carotenoids, carbohydrates, etc.
I"m not fat , but since i was 16 and had my own money , everytime i had bad day i would go buy fast food to make me feel me better .Something about eating made me calm down and forget about that day ,but i realized how much weight i gained and now i have better control on what i eat
When I got my first job I’d eat out about once a week, because I had the money to do so for the first time. It wasnt really healthy, but I also didnt gain much weight. Some people are just genetically benefitted I suppose. Though I also barely ate breakfast or lunch so I suppose the taco bell calories was still not that much.
Part of your addiction was probably the caffeine from the Coca-Cola (and the head rush from breathing the carbon dioxide bubbles). So when your caffeine addiction made you feel sleepy, you felt like going to McDonald's and eating an entire combo meal.
Yeah i worked at a place that hosted weight loss talks. And most people their are desperate because they are spending so much money. I met 2 that actually went bankrupt because of food addiction.
She spends the majority of her income on food She’s lucky she had a TH-cam career as wouldn’t be able to spend as much if she had a normal job or welfare
This lady’s video made me tear up because this is literally how I felt when I was addicted to food. I was about 10 lbs away from being obese class 3. Then one day my kid (who was 4 at the time) was sad because he told me he wanted me to run and play with him but knew I couldn’t. That tore me up and I changed that day. Thankfully, I was a sneak eater and never gave junk to my kids (they’re in sports & don’t know the names of ff restaurants or candies,sodas, chips, juices, etc.) I threw all my secret stashes out, budgeted my money better (stopped buying FF in secret), walked 10k steps a day or more, and started to eat at a calorie deficit (used MFP religiously). In 2 months I lost over 60 lbs. I m now at a normal weight class and pregnant with my 3rd boy. I owe it to my oldest because without him I’d probably still be stuck like this woman or worse…
You’re such a good mama! My kids’ paternal grandfather was such an amazing, loving grandpa but he was morbidly obese and had so many health issues by age 60 that he mismanaged in the same way he did his weight. All the nights I cried because he just wouldn’t love himself or my kids enough to fix his issues. He died too young. It was 4 yrs ago and my kids still can’t talk about him without crying because they miss him so much. It was so avoidable. It left us all with such mixed feelings of love, anguish and anger because he wouldn’t get healthy and left us too soon as a result. You’re such a good mom to get healthy for your family. Your boys are blessed to have you. ❤
I used to hate fat people cause I couldn't understand why they ate so much. Then I got addicted to drugs and realized how hard it is to break your addictions. Now I understand it and have much more respect for people who try to lose weight. 4 years sober and still going. Wasn't easy at all.
20 years sober here. You've got this! I hope you're incredibly proud of yourself. It's not easy but if you've made it this far you can go all the way. ❤
It wasn't easy, but you did it. That is the whole thing. Addiction is really hard to break out of, but it can be broken. Obesity can be beaten, but you have to make the choice to start taking the steps to tackle it. Stop drinking sugar drinks, stop eating fast food, start reducing calories, start counting calories, start exercising, see a dietician and a doctor.
@@dominiciannucci5217 And do keto. The types of food you eat matter. Carbs are very addictive and cause insulin spikes, so reducing carbs causes you to lose weight faster.
"I used to hate fat people cause I couldn't understand why they ate so much." Wtf? Do you hate everything and everyone you don't understand? I know you try to redeem yourself by saying you understand now that you became an addict yourself... but dude, that's a sh***y way to go through life.
I want to thank you for making this video. I have been an obese woman my whole life and I was crying a lot while I listened to this video. Everything amber lynn said made perfect sense, in a fucked up morbid way. When I binge my brain turns off and I can’t even focus on breathing let alone controlling what I stuff into my mouth. I have so much emotional pain. I was sexually assaulted by my brother numerous times when I was a child, and I have had my life threatened several times in my life by family members. I don’t know if this is the cause of my pain, but my mind often wonders to those moments in my life when I’m alone and feelings down. I think I need therapy, but it is so expensive for me. The gym is very cheap so I can afford it. I am proud to say I have been going to the gym for the past two months consistently for 3-4 days a week, haven’t lost too much weight but I am enjoying moving my body and I am feeling so much stronger. I want to be a healthier woman for my boyfriend who supports and loves me, but I just wish I could conquer my binging. Creating time between eating is definitely helping me. I’m currently at 270 lbs and I am so scared that my life will end quickly and I’ll leave behind my ageing parents and my family who love me. It makes me so sad that I allowed myself to get this big, but I’ve started calorie counting ALOT since the start of December and I am seeing slow progress Thank you for your continued work in this area. I just wish I could shake this sad feeling inside me. Follow up: I never expected that so many people would reply to this. Re-reading my comment with a more relaxed mind is a little embarrassing but at the same time, I am glad I had that little “trauma dump” and got my feelings out. The Think Before You Sleep no BS approach to the obesity problem was eye opening for me and has definitely helped me. I wanted to add some clarification on my family dynamic. Yes I was SA’d by my brother throughout my younger years, I was a young teen when the bulk of it happened. I do not see that brother and haven’t seen him in almost a decade, but if I’m honest, I don’t hate him and have no bad feelings towards him and forgive him completely. The same goes for my family members. I love my parents and I know they love me, and I have forgiven them too because I know they had their own problems when the worse of our family feuds occurred and I don’t hold any grudges anymore. My family have apologised to me and supported me in many ways over the years since my adolescences ended. I know it sounds like I’m making excuses for them but I’m not. I don’t want to live in any kind of hate or resentment. But at the same time, I know that the damage has been done to me & I feel incredibly held back in many many ways. At the same time, I am so happy to have began my healthier life style. I’ve been eating lots more protein and healthier options and if I relapse (I relapsed once in December) I’m able to recover and get back on track. About therapy, I will save money and try to get an online therapist if some kind in the future, but right now I’ve noticed a massive improvement in my mood from just exercising and eating better. Maybe it’s TMI, but my sex life has improved so much too. My bf seems far more excited to see me and we feel closer than ever before. Again thank you for everything guys and I appreciate everyone’s comments. I also appreciate people who recommended finding Christ and religion, I will consider that. Addiction has destroyed my life in my ways but I know I have a long life ahead that I can fight for. Alot of what happened to me happened over 20 years ago, my family and I are perfectly fine now and I have forgiven them. I do like to create some distance, but I do visit them. It’s very complicated, cross cultural messy story, that I rather not get into, and tbh, I appreciate the concern, but I rather just do things my way… EDIT: I don’t meet or talk to my brother at all. EDIT: I’ve lost 5 kg since I posted this, so around 11 lbs. So happy!!!
Remember your obesity has a huge affect on those around you; they have to carry the burden of doing things you can't, you're not just losing weight for you. You should ask your family/parents to help with your therapy fees, they love you, and yet it sounds like they were the start of your problems. I wish you success.
Hey you’re making excellent choices rhat will help you live a longer happier life. I hope you continue to make these concerted efforts because I KNOW they will pay off for you. I’ve been a personal trainer and coach for over 5 years now. Any time I hear someone is making moves like you have I know they’re going in the right direction and it’s only a matter of time until you start seeing the changes you desire just pls be persistent !!! You’ve got this. It’s the small Penny investments every day into yourself and your health that add up !!!
It's not the same addiction, but I'm a recovering sex/porn addict that I've had since I was about 8 or 9, and lying to myself about how bad it is is the worst thing I could do about it. I'm already getting arousal issues before my 20s and I can tell you that this was all a very poor choice I made a long time ago. God bless all of you that are dealing with an addiction or are recovering, as you will never be alone in that aspect, and congratulations to all that have overcome it.
I had X addiction and met A LOT of people w it . They ALWAYS have other addictions .It is a mentality issue or not having healthy coping mechanicsisms built in but person must become aware about it first and wanna change
I was very fit my whole life until lockdowns, during which I developed really unhealthy eating habits and pretty much stopped exercising. Interesting because lots of people used to tell me I was only in shape because I had a naturally fast metabolism. Being obese sucks but I lost 20 pounds in 2023 and I'm almost down to an "overweight" BMI instead of obese. Looking to lose another 20-30 pounds this year and I appreciate these types of no-nonsense videos for motivation.
Lockdowns sucked, great to hear you adjusted and are generally losing weight. Eat like you used to maby a little less and in a year or 2 you'll be were you want to be.
i know that feeling. i was my life long thin, than i struggled with my iron-insufficency and getting a job after school, which helped to become overweight (on a brink to obese). after getting a job i started to take iron pills which made my munchies for meat and sugar (to fight against my symptoms) disapear. now i realized how much more i snacked during that time than usual. My weight is now close to my normal weight. I used to hear always, i'm only thin because of my metabolism bc they see me snacking once a day and assume i do it constantly and not eating healthy meals. Like please, even thin people eat chocolate or chips, it's not what you eat but how much you eat from "bad food".
i stopped counting calories & tracking my macros for christmas and i feel like i’ve set myself back by a lot, i can’t even believe what overeating constantly must feel like. i hope these people get better.
I stopped paying attention to those too and now I'm back into bad eating habits and craving more sugar than i did before. Now my body is tired and I'm cranky lol. Its amazing how much what you put in your body effect who you are.
I highly recommend watching "carb addiction" pt 1 & 2 from the carb addiction doc on TH-cam. Explained things so so clearly and got me to change my diet over 2 years ago now. Never felt so awake and energized.
lol I’ve been fat my entire life, been bullied, been treated like shit. Last year I got into Keto and intermittent fasting, in 10 months I’ve lost 40kgs and I’ve never felt better. No sugar changed my life, I can never go back to the way it was, I’ll be eating salads and meat until I die!
@@FlansyLinny do it, you will lose 10kgs in 10 days and then it just keeps on going. Carb intake must be restricted, if you want your body to use it’s stored energy, you first must stop adding outside energy
I had my last ever cigarette on the 26th of December, I had my last ever cannabis cigarette on the Christmas day. I feel incredible. Now that I have realized that I am in control of my life, it's the easiest thing to do. I've "tried" quitting smoking before many many times but fundamentally my way of thinking about it was wrong. I now use the withdrawal symptoms as a positive instead of a negative. These nights of poor sleep has been annoying but it's the evil leaving my body and that feels good. I can't thank you enough TBYS, your videos have really helped me overcome my fear. Edit: I'm 31 and half years old, I've been smoking cigarettes since I was 16 or 17 & smoking weed daily since I was 21.
Doesn't count as quitting nicotine until you're clean for 2 weeks. Good luck. It's definitely worth it. Nicotine hijacks your life, makes you stink like shit, and creates roadblocks to everyday tasks.
Good on ya, man. Yeah, quitting smoking is tough. I've done it dozens of times. But I'm making it stick this time. I've fallen off the wagon a few times, but back on it tomorrow (I'm drinkin' and smokin' tonight lol). Had the same thoughts about the MJ, too - I've got things I want to do and it's not helping.
One item that has helped me is eating slowly and chewing your food at least 20 times. Seems to fill me up a lot quicker and actually taste and enjoy the food I am eating. I would previously wolf down my meals like it was an eating contest and end up overeating and feeling bloated and stuffed along with digestion problems.
It's crazy that she got heartburn from the chocolate and wanted more. When I found out I was lactose intolerant, anything with dairy was just repulsive because i knew how it would make me feel. Not that i didn't miss dairy based foods, but knowing i would feel terrible after eating, it prevented me from eating it.
She’s a full blown addict. I was addicted to opiates, and I’d go through withdrawal i.e. hot/cold flashes with extreme sweating, restless legs, insomnia, nausea, diarrhea, vomiting, headache, rage, depression, anxiety, fatigue, and basically feeling like your skeleton wants to jump out of your skin to escape the horror that your brain is going through. To put it simply, it’s _hell!_ But I’d end up using again, and again just to end up in WD’s. It’s hard to explain to people what addiction really is. The pain you go through doesn’t matter when you know that next hit will be bliss. It’s a viscous cycle. Luckily i got treatment, and I’m 12 years sober, but you have to want to get better.
@toothgrinder2760 hearing that you are 12 years sober brought a warm joy to my heart. Congratulations. I could never understand an addiction like you've had, but I just wish there was some magic switch to get addicts off of their addictions. I know it's way easier said than done. It's just sad to see so many people wasting their lives away.
When I ate alot more chips and sodas to try to dull chronic pain, often I wouldn't feel better and just thought "another soda might make me feel better". It rarely did, but for Amberlyn it usually does, very strongly. And she abuses the fck out of that.
When you said the average weight of a woman in America is 170, I was so proud of myself lol. My mom passed in 2020 and I was a grief/stress eater. I am 5’9 and got up to 240. Being that heavy, I felt horrible, depressed, self conscious, and anxious all the time. I am now down to 155, Im so proud ❤ I don’t understand how people allow themselves to get up to 300+… like you said if you’re hardly eating and working out you will lose the weight. I’m convinced these fat activists won’t commit to a diet; they’ll try it for less than a week, weigh themselves and then say “it’s not working”. That’s why you stick to a diet and don’t weigh yourself!!! Weigh yourself after 3 months!
Keep up the good work! Also, from what I can see in America it's designed on purpose to make people unhealthy it's plus for business including health care. In Europe even the same processed food or similar ones are healthier, some substances which are in some products in America are are even illegal here. So I could say that there is less excuse to be in unhealthy weight here than in America.
I have a horrible binge eating problem that I've been trying to get under control for the last few years. I've lost 80 pounds so far and the thing I find that helps the most is having someone to help keep me in line and doesn't give in to my addiction. My bf is great about helping and isnt afraid to tell me no when I start wanting fast food or junk food. It pisses me off at the time but once the cravings are gone I'm so thankful he stopped me.
tough love is the best love anyone can give because its not fun to give tough love. the other person will be angry and pissy but tough love is the thing that can save someone from addiction or worse
Thats great but at the same time from experience id advize not cutting out all the foods you like completely, you shouldnt treat losing weight as a temporary diet like a one trick pony, it should be a complete lifestyle change so if you want junk food every once in a while... go for it, satisfy that craving, just eating less already is gonna help you lose weight, but you also want it to be sustainable, you have to approach this in the way that its something youre gonna maintain not for a year.. but for life! So eating healthy isnt just eating salads and clean clean food, eating healthy is limiting your calorie intake by gradually reducing it below your tdee (total daily energy expenditure which you can calculate from your height, sex, weight and activity level) so if you usually eat 4000 calories a day, reduce that amount to 3000 for the first few months, and once youre adjusted to that which you will be and itll be super easy too because it wont feel like much less, and you can up your volume by picking low calorie alternatives and tracking your calories, after that decrease it to 2500 then 2000 which should be your floor, do not crash diet, youll screw your metabolism and plateu, this process should be long and slowwww its all about consistancy and commitment, you gotta keep reminding yourself everyday that you might not feel it today but youll feel it tommorow or the day after. I made the mistake of crash dieting and am now trying to fix my metabolism but gaining muscle has been quite difficult for me, im still working on it though 💪 instead of cutting out pizza or burgers, try reducing your portions (ie if you ate 3 burgers a day, limit yoyrself to one, if you eat a whole pizza at a restaurant have half instead, small changes that allow you to enjoy the foods you love and lose weight at the same time) or homecooking meals so you can control what goes into it and adding a lot of variety into your diet, one of my favourite delicious low calorie meals that i can eat a boat load of is buckwheat, chicken, pepper, mushrooms, potato and egg made into a stir fry with a drizzle of olive oil and worchestershire sauce, shiz is sooo good, cutting out sugar makes the process so much easier too, youll start to crave fruit, fruit will feel like candy to you once you cut out sugars, youll also have a lot more energy and be way more commited to healthy eating, but that doesnt mean you cant have a doughnut like once every 2 weeks yknow
Forgot to mention that this should be obvious but excercise is key too, if you can try to set records for the amount of steps you can take in day, treat it like a game, like youre trying to beat a highscore thats what i did, approach that gradually and if you can start weight training, start small and increase your weight incrementally, whilst youre losing fat you want to maintain and even grow your muscle, so working out gives your body insentive to use a portion of the energy expelled from fat use towards maintaining and slightly building your muscles, this is called body recomp and if youre obese your body could be an incredible canvas for this with all that extra energy you have stored! Make sure to eat 1.3-1.5x the amount of protein your body needs daily whilst youre doing this (from complete sources like chicken, milk, soy beans etc) as it needs the protein to construct the tissue and prevent your body from canabalising your muscles, bring the amount down once youre in shape enough to begin muscle building by eating in an excess but dont worry about that for now
I appreciate your no-nonsense yet respectful approach when you talk about these issues. I have some of the issues you often talk about, i.e. food addiction, childhood trauma, depression. I still watch all of your videos because you don't come across as shaming or attacking, you sound more like a "tough love" kind of person who genuinely wants people to better themselves.
You were spot on with this addictions video. As a former Addictions specialist and former Heroin addict, I believe you have given sound advice for all who are facing daily addictions from fast food, sex, gambling, internet and porn. List goes on
As a morbidly obese person who eats large amounts daily, ALR feeling sick after eating is normal for her. That’s why she can continuously indulge and overeat like this. Her body is now desensitized to that feeling (fullness, bloating discomfort). Whereas the rest of us can’t tolerate the discomfort of over-fullness, so it turns us off from overeating, ALR is used to eating and feasting like everyday is thanksgiving.
As an Alcoholic, I can concur. Looking back at when I used to drink, I can't believe what I thought was normal, like throwing up, feeling like death every morning, headaches, dehydration, only bto ignore it all and do it again that night. I can't imagine tolerating that even once now, much less every day
Thanks for sharing this insight. I hope you'll change your lifestyle around. You deserve to be happy and at a healthy weight. I know you can do it even if it takes years!
I swear man, your videos continue to inspire me to live a more healthy life! 8 months clean, down 30 pounds, gym, sauna, fasting, changing how I eat, cleaning my house. Your stuff is super fire
She's not just an addict. She has a cluster B personality disorder and she just uses it as an excuse for all her wrongdoings and she has no intentions of fixing anything or being held accountable
@@Captain_AAhab It's not a cop out to say that somebody has a disorder, because you're still accountable for fixing it. Giving a causation for an issue doesn't mean that they're not responsible to fix it. It's totally possible to fix disorders. I was diagnosed with CPTSD from childhood trauma; yet I live a productive life where I'm thriving and I'm an asset to society today. Without the diagnosis, I would not have been able to fix the problem. I don't understand why you guys think a reason means an excuse.
Tbf some personality disorders pushes the urges to do something unhealthy. I have BPD and before medication and dedication to stop, I impulsively shop lifted. And let me tell you, it didn't make me feel better. It made more miserable and I didn't even enjoy what I'd take. So, I promised God and started meds after a massive breakdown. I'm two years clean. So you CAN develop willpower but sometimes people just get those urges.
@@Captain_AAhab”Your disorder isn’t your fault, but your recovery is your responsibility.” It’s not a cop out to acknowledge you have a disorder. Acknowledgement of the problem is the first step to fixing it.
Oh yeah? I walked uphill in the snow both ways to school and fought off wolves with a pocket knife. You ain't so tough. Lol. Just kidding...there were no wolves. 😁😁😁
My french ass walks 6km a day to go to my job 💀💀💀 there is a grocery store at least at 2km of walk for me . I swear in the US they are lazy when in comes to walking
back in china i had to climb 300 miles to get to the the tight rope, where i would bike 320 miles, and then i would have to fight off 12 Kodiak Bear Panda half breeds, all with 1 stick, and you complain about this? cousin Timmy walks twice that and he cant even walk yet
Watching videos like this from you and Kiana Docherty helped me out tremendously. I love how you cut straight through the bullshit with truth. I'm a 5' 09'' man started at 349 pounds and am now down to 280. Still got lots to go but it's worth the effort.
I am a true binge eater and never make excuses, In 2020 i weight 250lbs and by 2021 i weighed 130lbs I worked my ass off to reach my goal weight but after 2 years of maintaining my weight loss I lost my job and went into a deppression and went from 130lbs to 242lbs in 8 months of binging. As of today I'm down 51lbs in 5 months and ill reach my goal again easily, it's so easy to lose weight because it involves Zero luck and it's just down to all your discipline and motivation to see it through. I will 100% get back to my old weight because i know how to lose weight I just gotta stop spiraling down for months over dumb things. When you binge you see yourself in 3rd person you know its so dumb and wrong but you can't stop yourself until your physically full to the point it hurts to even drink water. Then your body overheats from all the food your body is trying to breakdown and process like you'll get super hot.
You seem to emphasize fast weight loss like 51lbs in 5 months. Have you slowed it down so as to rewire your overall thinking about food intake and food types? My personal approach is averaging 2lbs per month and maintaining the loss without too much strain on the body. Coupled with a personalised gym exercise at least once a week and calorie counted cooked foods, the entire rationale behind this is a total mind change. That way, enjoying treats won't be a guilt trip and weight management a lot easier. Plus, just walking as much as possible instead of driving helps considerably if gym time is limited. Still, congratulations on your persistence in reaching your goals! 😁
@@bernt4747 True its fast but I stopped tracking i like the freedom i have from just eating good foods without worrying about using my scale for everything.
Delaying for time, reminds me of something a teacher of mine once said. “The night is a good advisor.” She said she always waits a day or two before buying something, because it might be impulse and she might not really need it. I guess the same applies to eating garbage. Giving your brain time to process it, might help avoid bad decisions.
Food addiction is awful. Imagine you’re a heroin addict and you want to quit but you need to have a little heroin every day to live. That’s what a food addiction is like. You feel awful all the time but eating junk food releases dopamine and makes you feel good temporarily and you’re constantly chasing that feeling
@@wisasterjkeyeah buddy the point is you have to have your addiction again eventually cold turkey isn’t an option. You might be to dumb for this channel might wanna give Logan Paul a try more your speed
Yes, the best thing is definitely to never develop a food addiction in the first place. (Which is yet another reason why obese children are so saddening - imagine starting your life out already addicted.)
As someone who has struggled with anorexia , it’s strange how similar to to a food addiction, cause when I was struggling, it was all I could think about. I literally couldn’t do anything without having food videos on. The only difference is that you try and avoid it, rather than eating it instead
My MIL convinced herself that I starved to lose all the baby weight after pregnancy. Also, that it's simultaneously purely genetic that I went to the gym consistently and cooked decent healthy meals. I lost that baby weight and am proud of the accomplishment. It's so hurtful for her to undermine my hard work to feed her stupid addiction. These people are sick.
same; mine convinced herself it was solely due to the fact i’m young (early 20s) and that’s why i’m healthy afterwards. at least you know you’ve done the hard work and can feel a sense of accomplishment about it. good on you 🎉
You know this sort of behavior reminded me of my late black lab from over a decade ago. Pepper was a relatively healthy and sturdy black lab that I got for my twelfth birthday. And apart from her initial aggressiveness towards our first cat, we found that she would impulsively get into our own food whenever we were away for any length of time. And as soon as we got home, we would find the food completely gone, and the dog would be there sulking. And it didn't even matter if the food was left on the dinner table, on the counter, or in one of the cupboards. Heck, it didn't even matter if we were home in the other room. Her complete lack of impulse control had simply gotten worse with age, and absolutely nothing that we tried worked apart from throwing our food in the microwave or the refrigerator. Well, until her tumble that resulted in one of her toes getting amputated and having to remain house-ridden until the day she died. She couldn't go outside at all, not even to use the bathroom, so imagine the shit and piss bombs literally being everywhere in the house. Literally the only upside to this was that she could no longer reach the counter due to her health condition. She was put down a year later. She was only twelve. 2011 and 2012 were very rough years for me. Lost a lot of close family members during that time.
I had a cat like this! She was incredibly intelligent but also had absolutely no impulse control. She would break into cupboards and steal any food she could. Even got into the bread bin and biscuit tin. We had to start locking cupboards and could never leave anything lying around ever. She was morbidly obese. None of my other cats have had this issue, it was pretty bizarre.
Been on a low carb diet for 3 weeks and that will open your eyes to how addicting food is to regular people. When I say “regular” I mean someone who is 15lb overweight as opposed to 200lbs. Chips and bread and sugar and all of it is such a bulwark in our diets. When you remove it even without restricting calories, it is dangerous hard to fill the void.
For people that never experienced it, when you are this overweight you are legitimately hungry all the time. The hunger is real, and the only way to escape that overeating loop is to contest your own sense of hunger. I learned it by prolonged fasting, learning what actual hunger and starvation feels like. My solution was a bit extreme, but that's the level of dedication you need to escape that.
Never thought I'd see the day that TBYS covered Amberlynn. Believe me, no matter how long the video is, it is not enough to understand the mind of our gorl.
Imo: when you suffer from addiction, the first step is to get other people involved(supportive but determined people) as kind of a water bottle after a workout so to speak
@@Twangy1or they seriously don't give a shit. It is so hard to get people to help you by not giving you crap food. It's just been the holidays, and I don't know about you, but all I got from people was sugar this, sugar that. Cookies. Breads. Cake. Candy. Candy popcorn. Freaking soda. Yes it's really sweet when people show they care and try and give you something, but this is all anybody ever shares. It's just really sad.
Truly you have to stop relying on others to fix your problems. Fix your own problem, and sometimes people have problems that will kll them and there's nothing you can do to save them, they dye.
@@Twangy1 because they know they are obese and won't listen to you anyway. THEY have to want to change. Fat people aren't in denial of being fat, they are in denial of how it affects their health.
Even when I heard that the real average is 170 pounds I was shocked. Really? Maybe the really heavy people are pulling the average up, that seems insane to me.
food addiction must be super hard to overcome. when youre addicted to alcohol you can cut it out of your life, which is much easier than telling this addict you need alcohol to survive but you have to consume much less of it to be healthy.
One meal a day might be a good way to eat for recovering food addicts. Cant cut out food completley of course, so instead have a strict eating pattern that you folliw fanatically.
@@krystmarodoren7446 I wouldn't recommend that for food addicts. Cause your stomach would basically be growling the whole day except when you have your one meal. I would think that would entice them more to eat. Honestly if they just cut portion sizes and ate 3 meals a day with healthy food, they would be fine. If they got "hungry" or got an urge to binge they could then promise themselves to hold off till lunch. If they meal prep beforehand they then don't have to be tempted to eat more.
I have been watching Amberlynn for 8 years and it was because of watching her videos that I was able to lose 96lbs. I am also sober 11 years too. I agree with what you say here and I really appreciate that you point out that it isn’t as easy for her to just stop eating as much. With my drug of choice, I didn’t need it to survive daily, however to be addicted to food, must be so difficult to change. You need food to survive, I couldn’t imagine how hard it is to still have to have what you are addicted to survive.
I'm glad to hear you made some significant process. Keep up the good work. But I also need to correct something you said. You said, basically, you have to consume the thing you're addicted to (i.e. food). That's not entirely true the way it's stated. Yes, you must eat food to survive, but you're not addicted to eating food per se. Rather, you're addicted to the rush of chemicals your body releases when you eat things like unhealthy fats, sugars, salt and flavorings, and excess amounts of carbohydrates that turn into sugars. Those are the things you're addicted to, not to food itself. How can I be so sure? Let's try an experiment: eat nothing but a bland diet of things like cooked oats (no flavors, no sugars.... just plain, old fashioned oats boiled in water), steamed broccoli, carrots, and spinach (no butter or salt), and ground beef (85% lean, no salt, no cheese, no ketchup... nothing... just plain old ground beef) patties for one week. That will give you enough fat, carbohydrates, protein, and vitamins to get you what you NEED, but none of the flavors and garbage that you CRAVE. If you do this, I guarantee you will be so sick and tired of that food by the end of the week you won't be binging on it. You'll hate the sight of it. You'll only eat it when you need it, and probably even then won't eat enough b/c you will detest forcing it down your throat. The "addiction" will cure itself... as if by magic! It's not food (oat, veggies, beef) that are the addiction, it's the flavors and the sugars and all the garbage. So the solution is simple: get rid of the garbage. That you DON'T need to survive. Good luck!
You don't need the types of things she eats to survive. That's the fallacy. Your body never actually needs to ingest a single carbohydrate because your liver can break down protein into glucose and meet your needs. It's literally how we're evolved to survive
I saw your channel 3 month ago, and it really helps me with my weight loss journey. Since the beginning of 2023 I’ve lost 27 kg, and your content gave me motivation at the hard times of mine. Thank you!
Great video! The unwillingness people have to take responsibility for their own issues is staggering. I absolutely used to blame genetics and mental illness for my obesity, and while they're definitely contributing factors, that helpless victim mentality is never going to get you anywhere. I definitely still have brief moments of relapse, but 30 lbs + five months on I no longer feel like I'm white-knuckling all the time. But that's only because I've actively changed my behavior: I've learned to cook and went totally cold turkey on microwave meals and traditional junk food. I still have another 60 or so lbs before I'm in a healthy weight range, but this is the first time I've ever felt confident that I'm not going to spiral, binge, and ruin everything.
This time last year I weighed about 240-245 lbs. I currently weigh 200-205 lbs. Something that really helped was keeping food out of my dorm room and only eating from the dining hall, and only keeping water in my room. Late at night and randomly throughout the day I would snack just because I was bored. After I made those changes, I was steadily losing weight. Now it has been a year and I am down 40 lbs. It has genuinely surprised me how little I was hungry throughout the day after just a week or two. Just two small changes has had a major effect on me and I'm so happy that I made those decisions. I am now fitting into some of my old clothes, and shrinking out of some newer, bigger clothes. It really wasn't hard for me, it just took a bit of effort to prevent myself from going back to old habits.
I don’t understand how people can get to this point. When I go through phases of eating like crap, I feel absolutely horrible. My body hurts. I feel queasy and depressed. And the fact that my clothes start feeling tight is usually my motivation to start eating better. I do not want to start buying clothes in a larger size. It’s weird that people can think “ Oh, My pants don’t fit me anymore. Guess I’ll go get multiple pairs of larger ones. “ Instead of “ I need to stop eating so much so I don’t have to buy new pants”. Buying new larger pants is like accepting you either don’t care or you have no control over your body. Maybe I’m just cheap, though.
People who eat this much food are already depressed. When you are depressed all the time, you can't tell if something is making it worse because it's just your reality. Although I don't get how people eat this much food, especially fast food, every day, multiple times a day and not feel sick. I eat fast food and I can't eat anything for the rest of the night.
If you already feel worse than that, it's an improvement. I'd wager there are some health problems that precipitate their weight gain and also help sustain it.
Yes! Chronic overeating is an addiction. I think it's good to compare it to alcoholism. It's much less sympathetic, it doesn't live wiggle room for "acceptance", but it also doesn't minimize how hard it is to kick it.
8:50 is such a good point, I used to suffer really bad with self harm and I’ve suffered with it since I was 9 years old, im 6 months clean today but I still get a lot of urges to self harm again but instead of giving into those urges I distract myself by reading or drawing or watching videos and the urge eventually goes away, addiction is really hard but there are ways to overcome it💗
I really like your explanation about us having a finite amount of willpower each day and the necessity to plan your life so that you don’t use it all up.
My coworkers always try to get me to eat junk food at work. I always decline. They say , “You can afford it you’re thin.” Yeah I’m thin because I work at it! I choose to eat healthier.
Happens to me, too! What I've learned is people encourage it hoping that you also eventually gain weight. People who want to be fit but have no self-control to be fit try to make the fit people around them bigger to feel better about themselves.
Talk about ending the year with a bang. But as a 5"7 skinny guy who eats a lot, I'm glad I have a family who calls me out on my gluttonous behaviors which then motivates to exercise and eat more healthier food, but to also enjoy myself doing it. Keep up the good content and happy new year to everyone reading this comment.
I remember having similar habits of eating a lot of those nasty chocolate bars and chips when I was a lot younger coming home to an empty apartment since my parents worked all day. I never was overweight but very close and kind of chose not to become as overweight as some of the people around me. Now I can’t even take a bite of a snickers since it’s sooo awfully sweet and doesn’t even taste like real chocolate - I still love something sweet from time to time but sweet and sweet can be so different
Capitalism as it is today is a symptom of human inadequacy in understating life. As long as people are submitting to their desires & chasing chemical happiness in sorts, these agencies continue to exist
It's not addictive, we all eat and we all need it , it comes down to nothing more than Responsibility and accountability for ones Actions. This chick on TH-cam makes money from staying unhealthy.
@user-lz8bp8wo6lyou are correct, I go past KFC and McDonald's every day, I eat they're food maybe once or twice a year. I take responsibility for my body and choices. It isn't Heroin , it's food.
So I've lost 200 lbs. over the last 5 years. I have Hashimoto's thyroiditis, an auto-immune disorder that affects the thyroid. I also recently found out that the MRSA I had 25 years ago is still in my deep muscle tissue so I've had that inflammatory process going on for a quarter of a century and that is going to be surgically corrected at the end of Jan. because I lost the 200 lbs. and can actually have the surgery. I didn't start seriously addressing my food addiction until I was 58 successfully but I spent my entire life trying to figure out how to be better, I never gave up on myself, I never quit trying. I discovered I'm a cyclist in the process and will continue my training (I want to cycle a century, 100 miles, in another year or so, however long it takes) after I slay this surgery/recovery. Choices, not excuses.
being obese is 100% a choice, I was fit and healthy for most of my life until a few years ago when I fell into a deep depression and gained around 70lbs of fat. About 4 months ago I decided to work on myself again and so far I'm down around 30lbs through consistent workouts and healthier eating habits. I don't wanna say it's easy but it's definitely no witchcraft to lose weight.
Obesity- 100% not a choice. Also, the amount of food a person eats has virtually no impact on whether someone becomes obese or not. The biggest lie ever told is that more food=obesity.
Everyone here appears to be partly right from where I sit. I am technically obese and have been actively experimenting this year. CICO isn't sufficient. According to my food logs, I only went over my 2100 calorie limit 5 times last year, but I only lost 8 of my planned 50 lbs. This despite taking up running for part of the year and calisthenics the rest, increasing my basal metabolic rate and active calorie burn. I was low on protein for much of the year, even by the garbage WHO standard. That didn't help. I have an undiagnosed milk allergy that has severely altered my metabolism, food choices, and nutrient absorption. That didn't help, either. Best I can tell, every simple answer is fundamentally wrong. Bodies are systems with redundancies and fallback mechanisms - you need to solve for those to see the truth.
@@robertbeisert3315 Indeed! Great answer! Coming from a person who ACTUALLY knows! There is way too much toxicity aimed at people for their body types which they can only make a maximum 5-10% change to without extremely drastic or invasive procedures. It's quite sad really how mean people get when they feel like their hatred is somehow "justified", as if obese people just "deserve" to be hated, smh. Coming from the opposite side of the bar I can definitively unquestionably unarguably 1000% vouch that CICO has virtually no impact on weight gain or loss- at least to any large proportions. I sat firmly not rising a single pound above 120, at 5'9" (female) for well over 20 years regardless of activity (active or sleeping 20 hours a day) nor amount of food (2-4k Cal per day CONSISTENTLY FOR YEARS). I have always had a huge appeitite, never restricting my fat, sugar, meat, processed or junk food, salt, and if anything always indulging them, even going so far as to go directly to a butcher and buying bags of pure animal fat to fry, laying sticks of butter on food constantly etc to eat BECAUSE I WANTED TO GAIN WEIGHT (facts are that skinny girls are unhappy girls), but no matter what I did never did my weight rise a single pound above 120 until magically one day some time in my late 30's it began to rise like a pound per year, now capping just under 130. Did I hit a genetically preprogrammed trigger that I had no control over? Did my YEARS of indulgence *finally* catch up to me? 😂 I have no fricken idea. What I do know is that food had NOTHING TO DO WITH IT.
I got thyroid cancer and lost my thyroid and ended up gaining weight. Yeah it made my life extremely difficult, nevermind other issues that came with not having a thyroid but I REFUSE to let that let me stay fat. I've been working on running, constantly moving. No elevator only stairs and most importantly, I'm eating less. I've been actually losing weight. Extremely slowly but I'm happy to know that not having a thyroid isn't preventing me from losing weight. It has only made it harder, but not impossible.
One big thing I did (Eric Berg mentions this) is that I started supplementing potassium in my diet. Doing that and taking 5 grams of it a day has totally stopped my sugar cravings. I’m one of those freaks now that will say cinnabon , krispykreme donuts are way too sweet and overwhelming for me. I don’t crave for it at all. It will absolutely change your life if you’re craving sugars because you’re just electrolyte deficient
In my experience my electrolyte depletion and carbohydrate depletions are hard to differentiate. I eat alot of salt and supp magnesium so generally I’m low in potassium whenever this happens so this makes perfect sense l.
I know you described yourself as "one of those freaks" because that's how most people probably see you, due to severe sugar addiction being the norm, but damn it's so sad that people like us are actually NORMAL, and have healthy impulse control, yet we are viewd as abnormal freaks because almost everyone is addicted to shitty "food".
As a woman on the skinnier side of the spectrum because of her own choices, it is really insulting when women say, "Being fat or skinny is not a choice". It's a choice, one that has to be made at every single meal, every single day. Some days, it is so freaking hard to eat proper portion sizes or not indulge in the candy or cake or chips or soda. But you make that choice because you want to be healthy.
It.s not always a choice to be skinny...some people cannot afford alot of food...me i can currently only afford to eat food for 20$ a month / around 600 calories a day...i.m a grown man :/... 1 multivitamine, 2 dl oats, beans and 10ml olive oil..and 1 spoon of protein powder every day..also 1g salt with jod.......but it.s always a choice to be obese
@@user-go8jv6uf4f there are part-time, complete at your pace, work from home jobs that would pay you enough to have a $200 per month grocery budget in addition to your other income. What's stopping you?
Im a poor person who doesnt have money to watch my weight. However, what really helped was putting my food in a bowl fit for one person food portion and not a flat plate and only cooking one pack of noodles. Just those kind of small changes, drastically reduced my apetite. So its amazing to hear stuff like this.
Watching your weight can save you money. Before all this recent inflation, I was able to live off of just over $100 a month for food. Watching your weight doesn't require fancy meals with expensive ingredients or even the most wholesome of foods. It's simply a matter of Watching your calories. Though there are plenty of cheap wholesome foods out there packed with calories.
11:49 I’m glad you mentioned Jennette Mccurduy’s experience with addiction in a nutshell. Jeannette is one of the few exceptions where addictive behavior was groomed into her lifestyle from her mom. Highly recommend reading the book, gives you an insight how distructive addiction has and how it effects others.
@@JessicaRodriguez-zy5gz”you don’t want let a slip turn into a slide” is a summary of her experience. While it’s not a unique issue only to her it doesn’t take much to fall into a withdrawal for every addict.
I was a very fat kid growing up. I’ve lost a lot of weight and took up lifting to Stay fit but food is still a coping mechanism for me. It’s definitely a big issue for obese people and it’s something that should be approached the same way you’d approach alcoholism.
Same, lost weight, play football in high school, and join the military afterward. Took up bodybuilding, but still had problems with eating (you know the hole, eat big, lift big, get big), so I started doing MMA training with my bodybuilding. It really helped with my stress and eating habits.
If they aren't listening, there probably is nothing else you can do. However, you can play little tricks on yourself by keeping junk food out of eyesight. Put it on the bottom shelves of the pantry, store it behind healthier foods so they can't be seen, store it in cabinets so you don't see it walking around the house, and make sure it is not in eyesight when you open the fridge. If they refuse to stop buying junk food, you probably can agree to get them to keep it out of sight. It's honestly surprising how well this trick works and how often I would forget that I have high calorie foods in the house when I am trying to lose weight.
Key lessons: 1. Addiction is bad (well no shit man) 2. Willpower is important, but its not enough. 3. Get proper knowledge on your addiction. (Knowledge is power!) 4. To quit an addiction make a strategy 5. Make the time b/w impulse and access longer 6. Improve your Relationships 7. Relapse is a part of getting better! (Don't Overindulge tho) 8. Don't Cheat, and be honest :) 9. Make a full system that prevents you from cheating. I hope this helps everyone get over their addiction next year, and make drastic improvement!💯
Please never stop uploading. I think I speak for everyone when I say that what you post and talk about is absolutely neccessary and the message needs to be spread. Inspirationally well formulated as always.
Getting an ad for diarrhea relief right after the Mexican food clip has to be the funniest shit I've seen on this platform
And the runniest shit
funniest shit? no pun intended lol
when ads are actualy useful, and entertaining
@@mstripling86buh dum tss
Look up "man blows up toilet at Taco Bell"
I don't understand how the medical profession do not regard over eating to this degree as an addiction.
@DPH_PsychosisMen like their women fat
a major reason is that food addiction, is not fashionable unless a specific food type is referred to as addictions have issues being done in moderation. it was not untill recently that the flaws nutritionism got put attention to with the nova classification getting more public attention with UPF becoming more than just a term for researchers. so for a while the ability to define food addiction in a decent way was never there.
@DPH_Psychosisand a lot of men are in these fat acceptance garbage 😂
Food addiction is very profitable!
@DPH_Psychosis sad but true
i hate when people say that obesity is genetic. i was told my whole life by my family that i will always be obese because they were all obese, saying that no matter what i will always be big. the second i followed my own diet and started making my own food. i lost 60 pounds very fast and kept it off indefinitely. now im the only one in my family with abs:)
Congratulations! Well done you! 🎉🎉😊
congrats!
Good for you
congrats man, you proved once again that the laws of thermodynamics shall not be violated!
Exactly, you don't inherit diseases, you inherit habits
My dad was 65 years old and nearly 500lbs. His doctor told him, “You’re one of the lucky ones!” My dad replied, “Lucky? What do you mean lucky? I’m diabetic, on blood thinners, have terrible knee problems, and struggle just to do daily tasks.” The doctor responded, “Maybe so, but how many people do you know who are your age and your size?” My dad thought about it and reluctantly replied, “None.” The doctor responded, “That’s right. None. They’re all dead, but not you. You’re the lucky one!”
My dad committed to losing weight that day, and he’s never looked back. He’s almost 78 now and just under 250lbs. Sheer willpower. Also, he’s off of the blood thinners and he no longer has diabetes. He says his only regret was waiting so long to start the process of losing weight. ❤
Great! But remember you cannot get rid of diabetes once you get it. Not an expert but its common knowledge.
@@urgamerhomi7088 I suppose a more accurate representation would be “he no longer takes medication for diabetes.” You are correct Type II diabetes cannot technically be cured, but it can be reversed, which means that blood sugar levels can be managed through diet and exercise and without medication. Not quite the same thing, but pretty close!
A harsh relaity check without any personal insults. Smart way to point it out. Propa to your dad for all the progress!
Fear is a great power. Nice story
@@urgamerhomi7088 Bullshit, You have a chance at getting rid of type two diabetes with keto. And even if it does not reverse itself, you still gain a far better control over your blood sugar-
I was a few cheeseburgers away from 400lbs not too long ago. Proud to say I crossed the sub 300lbs mark a few weeks ago. Keep speaking the truth TBYS.
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I've always been a skinny dude, so I can't imagine the work it would take to burn off a hundred pounds. Great work dude
Try the carnivore diet and you will lose another 100 lbs in 2024.
that's amazing!! keep going, you got this 💪
LETS GOOOOOOOOOOO! Keep pushin man
A "cheat day" is just making sure you don't form a habit. The best way to get over an addiction is to deromanticize it. If you keep treating the thing like something you love then it'll be insanely harder to stop
It wasn't supposed to be an entire cheat day, just a cheat meal, so you can use it for a social occasion.
I've had success doing keto for 6 days, and then having 1 cheat day per week. The cheat day gives you something to look forward to, so you don't feel like you're "trapped" in the diet. But you do need to limit it to only 1 cheat day per week... if it starts to drift into 2 cheat days, and then 3, and then 4... then it won't work.
If you need a cheat day , the dieting is too strict . People don’t factor psychology and instincts . They just see numbers
you are right, but people over look this is not a drug, food is a necessity. combining the two is the problem... also most the overweight females, first sexual partner was mommies boyfriend. we got a 50 50 here. half of us mass monsters, in shape or not have food addiction. the other half are victims of sexual abuse.
My son lives 30 minutes from the closest grocery store. That’s a food desert!
My favorite saying is "When you blow 1 tire, you don't slash the other 3."
I'm gonna wait to use that
Thanks for the quote I'm gonna steal
May I quote you?😊
@@molotulo8808 It's not my quote, so go ahead. I don't remember exactly where I heard it. 😅
I got an ad for car tires as I read this
I was 267 pounds at 6 foot tall when I started watching this channel. I started making better choices and now I’m 215 with muscle and VERY happy only a year later. Honestly most of the weight dropped in the first six months and now I’m losing maybe one pound a month. But I’m also working out so that checks out. My goal is 195 like I was when I was in the army. Watching these videos helps me immensely. Thank you.
Great job!
I'm 60 pounds down in 8 months, I'd like to lose another 40 to get around 160. I'm taking care of a very ill family member so finding time to exercise is tough. Still losing about 1-2 lb/mo. If I can keep that up I'll be content with that for now. Congratulations and good luck on your journey. You're doing great.
@@pattibennett8774 that’s amazing!
The less you eat the less you have appetite to eat. I do one meal a day, with small portion of meal. I was 156 lbs and now 128lbs. I still need to lose some more 28lbs. I believe I can achieve it in 4 or 5 months
A pound a month? You're not doing it right. Drop the carbs.
It's videos like this that motivated me to start losing weight. 5 months in and I'm 23kg down, I'm nearly at my target weight. Thank you TBYS
Keep going, soldier!
That's amazing. Please send some motivation my way, my baby is one and I still haven't lost the pregnancy weight
@@radhiadeedou8286I had my 4th baby a year ago. Before having children I was a very petite 52kg. I kept 10kg after every baby (breastfeeding is great for burning calories but they don’t tell you how insatiable it makes you!). Dr recently told me I was obese at 94kg and I’ve lost 20kg in 3 months. High protein, low carb and intermittent fasting has been a game changer! Good luck x
@@radhiadeedou8286 I'm not much of a motivational speaker, but let's just say I had every single thing in my life against me, and I still pulled through. You can do it too.
@@radhiadeedou8286be easy on urself mama
I was once 350 lbs. Now I am about 210 Ilbs. No way to say this except- do not support it. Everyone needs to become accountable. I am 6 feet tall and in good health now- Thanks!
That's a massive W. Great job man.
Good to hear, dude!
The crazy thing is people just need to do the bare minimum to get start and then keep going
Boot camp took me from 385lbs to 197lbs. It was hard, but so worth it in the end. This whole fat-acceptance thing just shows they would rather put in the effort to make you feel bad for their laziness instead of the effort go make themselves better.
Yooooo good shit bro. I started going to the gym in November. I’m currently 6’2” 280lbs. Anybody got any weight loss/weight training tips?
Most people use overeating as a coping mechanism for trauma. I have been overweight all my life, and I didn't realize that I was eating my feelings until I started going to therapy. Being an emotional eater is the worst because i was just mindlessly eating and i didnt realize when i was full until i was in physical pain.
Same
@AdChinh Facts , I saw you on that podcast😂 Do you really have aspd?
Same, and funny enough therapy was doing jack shit for me, so all I got out of it was realizing I was eating my feelings and stress coping.
It wasn't until I started the carnivore diet that my hormones and blood sugar got back into balance, and I lost weight properly.
He is wrong about weightloss not being about hormones. Unregulated insulin levels is what fucks you up.
@MrDaros89 I agree I am currently on medication, and I have lost 15 pounds 😊
@@dann736 idk if this comment was for me or not but my aspd diagnosis was a misdiagnosis. I actually have something called alexithymia.
Last year she joined Weight Watchers. She was shocked how many points they gave her. On the first day she exceeded the point limit.
Wasn’t she given about 80 points?!? And the average woman gets about 21-24 in a day.
She's been on and off weight watchers TONS of times.
Weight Watchers : a more confusing, less acurate and thus less effective proxy for Calorie Counting. The reason ot "works" for some people is they spend money thus want it to work, and socialize with others to keep themselves motivated. Most still fail to control their food intake medium and long term.
@@familhagaudir8561I had a coworker who was pudgy, not blatantly fat and I couldn’t believe she lost 26lbs I think in like 3-4 months doing weight watchers but when we’d order food it was so tedious, she’d have to go onto the site and see how many “points” something was and then be like “oh, they don’t have (particular restaurant dish) on here” but still want something so we’d have to use some place that WW DID have points for (she was pretty dumb). It was so tedious! I was proud of her for losing that weight tho but I left the job a little later and I’m thinking she probably put the weight back on eventually because that wasn’t a sustainable diet for her.
I grew up in a tall and large family, pretty much everyone was obese to morbid. Being the shortest, 5’1 on a good day, I was pressured to keep up with their portions. Obviously I became obese too, my heaviest being 176lbs, and it was awful. I decided to take control of my bad habits, and researched nutrition. I learned a lot and started choosing actual nutritious foods, limiting my portions, and started exercising. Unsurprisingly I started losing weight. Made it to 125lbs and it was worth it.
It wasn’t easy, but nothing worth doing ever is. It was even harder when I had family around me become bitter that I could succeed where they have failed. They started saying I was starving myself, becoming too skinny, and always had to make a big deal when I chose low carb vegetables over other carb dense foods. It’s truly an addiction. You don’t feed into a drug addicts addiction, or an alcoholic’s, food should be no different, but you have the fat acceptance movement doing just that.
The thing is, people hate to see you succeed, so it’s only natural people want to encourage you to eat more, stay fat, stay like them so they can’t see their own failures. It’s so rewarding when you can prove them wrong, and prove to yourself that you can accomplish something so life changing. Don’t fall into other peoples habits, and you’ll be thankful to yourself in the long run.
If you’re struggling to lose weight, just keep in mind it’ll all be worth it in the end, and that you can do it!
Good for you! Stay strong!
Self awareness is the first step to addressing one’s addiction. The rest is all in your hands and whether or not you want to walk the path.
So encouraging! Thank you for your story
Well done to your amazing work, lifestyle changes, introspection, and for overcoming the hurt that your own family refused to support and encourage you.
Good job losing the weight! I am myself about 5'2 and got from 180lbs to around 125lbs now -- I fell in love with fitness, weight lifting specifically, in the process. But binging is still a struggle, probably will always be. Stay consistent, people, slowly build good habits. It's not easy, but as DumDum420 said -- totally worth it.
Ah, Amberlynn Reid. A TH-camr that went on a "weight loss journey" and gained hundreds of pounds, scammed her fans, and has no concept of how to diet.
She is a trainwreck, beyond solution.
She scammed?
ikr, shes such a legend
She knows exactly how to diet.
It's a 2 step process.
She knows this is one of the few ways to stay relevant.
@@babousk7593I'll give you a brief recap of her.
Grew up with addict parents (it's debatable that she went through a neglectful childhood. She constantly contradicts herself on the topic).
Animal a*user (also debatable)
Ped (she dated a 15 year old at 18. A*used the 15 year old, physically and mentally. Also had creepy behavior with a 15 year old ar 22).
Had cancer (uterine) and didn't change her diet.
Allegedly tore ligaments in her ankle last year from falling off a curb (not lying) and didn't change her diet.
The lore behind Amberlynn is vast and deep. So tired carefully. Her universe (we call it the Amberverse) is like hotel California. Once you enter, it is almost impossible to leave.
I'm a pharmacist and I'm disgusted by the medical industry pushing pills and injections over healthy eating habits and exercise. Twelve years ago I was obese and miserable. On my 39th birthday, I decided I did not want to be a fat 40 year old and gradually lost 50 pounds over the next year. Losing 50 pounds was the best birthday gift I ever gave myself. Everyone asked how I did it, and when I replied eating better and running, everyone turned up their noses. In the meantime, I've had co-workers do fad diets, shakes, meal replacement bars, and even gastric bypass. I'm still the only skinny one.
l had several different health issues that made it impossible to work in my 30’s and l gained weight from eating to much and being completely inactive 24 hrs a day /bed rest.
I’m 5’9” and l was 210 lbs. l was fat. I looked ridiculous at that weight.
l finally got healthy from the medical issues l had.
l worked out, stretched and ate clean healthy foods and counted all my calories. No fast food, no high calories restaurant food, no junk foods, etc. l have lost 60 lbs and l have kept it off for over 6 years now.
Do the work. Become the best version of yourself.
Congrats to you!
Yes, the oldest, best, and only successful way to lose weight is calories in - calories out must be a negative number consistently. Sadly, and entire industry has popped up to convince people that they aren't the ones causing their own problems. My question to them is always simple: "Why were there no fat prisoners in WW2 concentration camps?"
If weight loss is a genetic thing, it would ALWAYS have been a genetic thing. We would've seen a certain percentage of fat people in WW2 concentration camps. But there are none. Most are barely skin and bones. It ain't genetic, folks. Sure, some people do naturally have higher metabolisms but at the end of the day, you have to figure out how much your body NEEDS and stay below that amount. It's the only thing that works. Every "diet" out there is just a trick to get you to eat less than you need to maintain.
They get more money by leaving conditions untreated
@@walterrising4276 walterrising gets it ^^
Yea, my mom is one of the medical industries puppets.
She has unhealthy habits and lies to herself about it and I'm seriously running out of patience or good humor about it.
I'm the most in-shape person in my family that isn't school-aged... None of my family tries.
"I'm the average weight for women in america" ... that's nothing to be proud about
She's 80 + pounds over the average of 170 which makes that statement even more ridiculous, my highest weight is right around that actual average and you're right.. it's nothing to be proud of if you're average height or worse short (like me lol)
Right? An American woman average for today is 180 pounds on a 5:4 frame. Obese.
Bro wake up Think before you sleep dropped a new video
Stop sleeping, begin thinking. Stop swimming, begin sinking.
I woke up as soon as he posted
Is 3:30 am
@@TheInfiniteMagit’s 2:36 for me
@@TheInfiniteMagtimezone
watching this video hit close to home. Struggling with my own journey, I empathize with Amberlin's challenges. It's tough when personal struggles become public, and I understand the battle with emotional eating. While the critique seemed harsh, it made me reflect on the complexities of addiction. Amidst the judgments, there's an unspoken reminder of the importance of addressing the aspect of health on any journey. We're all navigating our paths, and sometimes, compassion speaks louder than criticism.
Self control is key
doesn't matter if it's criticism or compassion, it's a choice that at the end of the day a person makes that affects their future, anyone with enough intelligence can google how to lose weight and get various results on it longterm if they really tried and they chose to never give up on it
The most compassionate thing you can do for an overweight or obese person is tell them they are fat and need to change. And I know this because I was super fat (not chubby, I was actually medically overweight) and I ate like shit. Now I don’t because someone was kind enough to tell me I was fat
“It’s tough when personal battles become public” the giant cow is making it public for a reason. Attention. She doesn’t care about getting better that’s why she still eats like a barnyard creature.
no, while some people do need compassion, i've seen more people in my life who could have heard the tough truth rather than a compassionate lie. you can't deal with addiction of any sort until you admit its a problem and too many people are told being fat is fine.
I'm a recovering food addict. The reason we binge is the same for just about any addiction. Every single choice we make in life is to either avoid pain, or gain pleasure. What makes addiction so hard is that it does both at the same time (albeit only temporarily.)
For me, it's because my current life is so fucking miserable that eating helped. Good thing I had a gastric sleeve.
As a NON SMOKER who used to smoke, I have to say that the reason I smoked was self-sabotage because I have borderline. I wonder if lots of these folks would benefit from my protocol. It does require exercise and eating healthy though so probably not.
I understand how most people feel, i used to eat 3-7 meals a day and then i got even more stressed so i started eating 0-2 meals, now im eating 1-3 meals a day and tbh, its still hard to control myself but i was alone the entire time and i helped myself, and i was around 10-12 during these times, and i still have a bunch of bad addictions that i cant stop.
Only because stress is yk stressful LMAO, and stress causes people to do things they dont want to, and it is a loop after that.
Addiction
Realization
Guilt
Shame
And it goes back to one after that.
@@Sarahizahhsum What is your protocol?
When I went though my weight loss at home, my parents didn’t realize that I was serious. They’d still buy me fast food and junk food, so everytime they did I’d instantly take it upstairs to my room, and dump it in the garbage, after some time I made it pretty clear to them I’ve been wasting the food and they understood
^^My parents were very supportive btw, in case that paragraph painted them as a “villain” lol, my pops makes some fire eggs and steak ^^
My boyfriend is similar to that, I've mentioned many times that I'm trying to lose weight. He drove through McDonald's to buy himself a soda and I said I didn't want anything, he continued to buy me a large Dr Pepper after I told him I didn't want anything, then continued to get upset when I didn't want to drink it. Like I'm sorry but I don't want to waste most of my calories for the day with this one soda
Same with me. My parents still buy me Cheetos and other chips (my past addiction ngl), even though since the day I decided to start working out and changing my diet on pure whim I haven’t given in a bit and actively/obviously resist. I’d just leave the bags in the kitchen deep in a cupboard so I wouldn’t see them (previously would hoard in my room). My dad constantly asks me if I ate and says I need to eat more and he’s worried I’m starving myself which is super annoying. But at least now after these past three months they are starting to slowly recognize I’m serious about changing my lifestyle for the better
Amberlynn Reid is a whole rollercoaster, man. What's funny is that a lot of people who used to be around her are now losing weight successfully.
Fairly sure I don't want to ride that roller-coaster
It's because she forces them to eat with her whenever she eats. She also is an abuser.
"We're not pushing 'Fat Acceptance'" WHILE SHE'S USING A CANE.
Assuming you have not watched the full video from Julibee, the reason she walks with a cane is because of a chronic disorder she has. I’m not condoning the body positivity bs btw.
Well I doubt she can really push anything
💀 😂
Talk about having double standards.
I am obese and i am not ok with it, i don't believe that any obese people are happy.
I was waiting for the Amberlynn video to come sooner or later. She is the epitome of everything you speak about on this channel. Addiction, untreated trauma, abuse and how victims become abusers, narcissism and how it can lead to absolute self destruction.
You should check out Hungry Fat Chick.
@@xmutaShe's much nicer than Amber!
Lol she's no victim
she sees herself as one and had a rough childhood raised by addicts @@Fupadema
I think it's hilarious. I laugh at her doing this to her body and its weird to look into her history and see that she apparently has been very abusive to past partners and has a shady past outside of the weight problems.
She is nothing more then a fem nick avocado, A lolcow laughing stock.
I love (and honestly needed) your videos! I went from nearly 300lbs last year, and this year I’ve successfully gotten down to 215. I’ve been able to do calesthenics, improve my cardio (primarily through hiking), and am much more mindful of my eating habits.
This channel has been a valuable tool for helping me not only break the delusion I was taught growing up, but also helping aid in motivation to keep the weight off.
Anytime I indulge in junk a little too much, I see one of these types of videos and it reminds me how much better I feel sticking to the program and how much progress I’ve made.
Quite possibly could have saved my life in the long run. Thank you!
Congrats! 💪
That's so awesome! We're so proud of you!!!
She doesnt have OCD, she has OBCD.
clever
OUQTU.
😂💀
😐
Good one😆
*Amberlynn eats 3 supersize packs of chocolate bars made for a family of 8*
Also Amberlynn: “Why am I not 150 pounds? I ate an 800 calorie salad for lunch
Hi
I once weighed 348 and now weigh 125. (5' 6). No surgery and no shots or medications. It took 25 years.
Very well done. Im happy for you. I hope youre proud of yourself for accomplishing that.
I love how you point out the issues that are factually incorrect. The example of someone saying “There’s a study” without telling you the study, is a great point! It’s made me reassess how I communicate information. This is information anyone could benefit from. Keep on keeping on!
I found your videos in October, learned that food addiction was a thing, took in what you and some other people were saying about how to lose weight properly, and I am now officially 22.3kgs down. I am just over 1kg away from being in the healthy weight range according to BMI. I was obese before. I’m so annoyed that with the correct information it was so damn easy to correct my eating.
Edit: +3 wks - I finally jumped over the line to healthy per BMI for the first time in 9 years. Total lost so far is 24.65kgs. I plan to keep going until I’m firmly in the middle of the healthy BMI range, but I’m going to slow it down a bit to make sure I’m good ❤.
Edit: hey everyone so I’m down 30kg now. Thanks so much for the support :). All I can say is calories in vs calories out works.
Pretty much. It's really just a couple of things and people will go their whole lives resisting it.
Yaw give me the correct information then because I don't want to be fat anymore.
I don't wanna be fat no more. Wanna be able to stand and piss.
Never been able to see my peen before. No one should have to live their life like this. - Rob Thomas
@@myras2blessed2beestressed32
1. Google what your required calorie intake per day is.
2. plan meals and eat 500 calories less than that - eg. mine was 2100 calories a day, so I aimed for 1600 calories per day. I’ve been losing just over 1kg per week, sometimes more sometimes less. BUT to start, just spend a week seeing how much you’re eating now, trying to eat to your requirement and then making small reductions to build towards the 500 deficit. You’ve stretched your stomach with overeating, so you’re going to think you’re hungry when eating only what your body requires. Meat & veg are your friends as they’ll let you feel full while also being pretty low in calories
3. Sleep 7-8 hrs a night
4. Learn how to cook (makes eating right pleasant, plus is cheaper than buying meals - I cook a lot & freeze ready made portions, generally comes down to max $7 per meal now.
5. Check out the UK tv show Secret Eaters - it’s on TH-cam and has a lot of food psychology information & will help you identify where you’re going wrong while also giving you strategies to fix it.
6. I’m using a free app as a food diary, I add food & it tells me how many calories it contains, makes it easy
7. And lastly: start now. Don’t wait until tomorrow, or tonight, or Monday, or after the holidays, or when you’re feeling stronger. You’ll never be stronger in the future, because you right now are your future self - you in this moment are strong and able to get over this addiction.
Good luck
@@myras2blessed2beestressed32I can try to give you a route to losing weight but please promise you that you will take it slow very slow it can happen but I don’t want you to become demoralized or depressed doing it heres my list
1. Write down what you eat on a daily basis don’t forget to add the condiments and snacks because they add up quick
2. Reduce the amount of food or calories (you can replace food but please do this slowly your body is used to eating them) SLOWLY like if you drink three sodas a day take it down to two sodas a day until you get use it then reduce it again
3.Drink more water
4. Get More Sleep please 6-8 hours a day constantly please slee is so important
5. Try excersise try things like going for walks, going to the gym, yoga, etc (I couldn’t think of anymore i’m kinda tired sorry)
6. Have fun with it give yourself motivation that you can do this
7. Seek out help from people who actually helped people loss weight the correct way(if these don’t work)
8. Try to surround yourself with people who want better for you and encourage you very well
9.Try to find healthy snacks that can replace some of the other choices
10. You got this I believe in you I hope I helped you seriously
Have a blessed day
1:03 Wow! My family is from this village in the photo! I didn't expect to see it here!
Nice village!!👍
As someone who’s biggest life weight was 422 lbs at age 21 and slimming to 303 lbs a year later on a continuing weight loss journey, I learned that it isn’t too hard to make much needed lifestyle changes. The hardest thing is overeating. I remember before my journey I could eat up 12 times a day. Beginning of the journey was indeed hard cause of cravings but since then I could fast for up to 14 hours a day. Anybody in my previous predicament, encourage yourself to do it. Weight loss doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time, but with that time you’ll look good and feel good. Health is wealth
Yep intermittent fasting has helped big time I cut down alcohol out of my diet .I exercise during locking downs I ballooned up 204 lbs from 150 I decided to do keto diet and thus far have lost 30 lbs .got a gym membership hit the gym put on muscle 💪 now I do high protein diet I don't eat passed 8pm till noon the next day
What has helped me with emotional eating is having things in the house that are healthy snacks. Tomatoes and cucumber in particular really helped me. Carrots were also good but dident like the taste to much. I noticed I wasent actually hungry while emotional eating but something in my head told me to eat....because. Never really figred out why. So id rather eat something with barely any calories in it then stuff like candy or something. Helped me greatly. Hope it helps you to.
A method I found that pretty much let me break my sugar addiction overnight was something I cribbed for Warhammer 40K called The Armour of Contempt.
Basically I would meditate on how much I hate sugar, raging at what it had done to me and what it was doing to society and my friends, I would hold memory of the taste in my head and reject it.
Now even if I get a craving for it a reflexive disgust overpowers it.
There is no need to expend discipline to stop yourself from doing something you don't want to do in your heart of hearts.
i need to weaponize my hate to deal with my problems more too
Bro, you are literally doing what most people call "Magic" or Wiccan, etc these days. Thanks for sharing this. I'm gonna give this a try with junk food.
@@StormGod-X You can call it magic if you want but there are no supernatural processes involved.
Also I'm calling bullshit, I willing to bet if in a survey of the general population if you describe the process and ask what it is called most people would not think of magic or wiccan.
That's very interesting. I've noticed that most people don't associate the food with the health effects caused by its consumption. Like if people touch a stove and get surprised that they got burnt, without realizing that getting burnt is the direct result of that and that it can not be separated from the act of touching the hot stove because those two things are intertwined. The hot stove is the consumption of sugar, and getting burnt is the negative health effects (stomach ache, excess calories, putting on weight). People don't realize that a certain amount of sugar is tolerable and excess is not. They just say yum yum let me eat more sugar. Yes, sugar tastes good, but after a few packs of kit kats, starts to taste disgusting. It starts to be repulsive much like it is to eat anything in excess. And that's the point when I start feeling sick to my stomach. Most people just get sad that they feel sick without thinking about how that is the direct result of the "good" feeling they had while eating sugar.
Therefore, your craving for sugar should logically extend only as far as your ability to stomach sugar. And your ability to stomach sugar should end at the point when you have reached excess consumption. Just like for salt, or for oil, or for carotenoids, carbohydrates, etc.
Sounds like an imperial fist player :D putting yourself in the painglove.
Whatever works though, right? Hope it helps you lose weight man.
I"m not fat , but since i was 16 and had my own money , everytime i had bad day i would go buy fast food to make me feel me better .Something about eating made me calm down and forget about that day ,but i realized how much weight i gained and now i have better control on what i eat
When I got my first job I’d eat out about once a week, because I had the money to do so for the first time. It wasnt really healthy, but I also didnt gain much weight. Some people are just genetically benefitted I suppose. Though I also barely ate breakfast or lunch so I suppose the taco bell calories was still not that much.
Part of your addiction was probably the caffeine from the Coca-Cola (and the head rush from breathing the carbon dioxide bubbles). So when your caffeine addiction made you feel sleepy, you felt like going to McDonald's and eating an entire combo meal.
How much is she spending per day on food ?
Junk food is not cheap, its expensive to be fat
Yeah i worked at a place that hosted weight loss talks. And most people their are desperate because they are spending so much money. I met 2 that actually went bankrupt because of food addiction.
She spends the majority of her income on food
She’s lucky she had a TH-cam career as wouldn’t be able to spend as much if she had a normal job or welfare
A few people have tried doing the math on that alread, she spends thousands on takeout every week
This lady’s video made me tear up because this is literally how I felt when I was addicted to food. I was about 10 lbs away from being obese class 3. Then one day my kid (who was 4 at the time) was sad because he told me he wanted me to run and play with him but knew I couldn’t. That tore me up and I changed that day. Thankfully, I was a sneak eater and never gave junk to my kids (they’re in sports & don’t know the names of ff restaurants or candies,sodas, chips, juices, etc.) I threw all my secret stashes out, budgeted my money better (stopped buying FF in secret), walked 10k steps a day or more, and started to eat at a calorie deficit (used MFP religiously). In 2 months I lost over 60 lbs. I m now at a normal weight class and pregnant with my 3rd boy. I owe it to my oldest because without him I’d probably still be stuck like this woman or worse…
Wow, well done!
60 lbs in 2 months??? Jesus thats unhealthy but i’m glad you made it without dying
You’re such a good mama! My kids’ paternal grandfather was such an amazing, loving grandpa but he was morbidly obese and had so many health issues by age 60 that he mismanaged in the same way he did his weight.
All the nights I cried because he just wouldn’t love himself or my kids enough to fix his issues.
He died too young. It was 4 yrs ago and my kids still can’t talk about him without crying because they miss him so much.
It was so avoidable. It left us all with such mixed feelings of love, anguish and anger because he wouldn’t get healthy and left us too soon as a result.
You’re such a good mom to get healthy for your family. Your boys are blessed to have you. ❤
i wish my parents were a bit healthier when i was child, i used to eat mcdonalds every day until i was about 6 years old
This is why you are the GOAT!
I used to hate fat people cause I couldn't understand why they ate so much. Then I got addicted to drugs and realized how hard it is to break your addictions. Now I understand it and have much more respect for people who try to lose weight. 4 years sober and still going. Wasn't easy at all.
20 years sober here. You've got this! I hope you're incredibly proud of yourself. It's not easy but if you've made it this far you can go all the way. ❤
It wasn't easy, but you did it. That is the whole thing. Addiction is really hard to break out of, but it can be broken. Obesity can be beaten, but you have to make the choice to start taking the steps to tackle it. Stop drinking sugar drinks, stop eating fast food, start reducing calories, start counting calories, start exercising, see a dietician and a doctor.
@@dominiciannucci5217 And do keto. The types of food you eat matter. Carbs are very addictive and cause insulin spikes, so reducing carbs causes you to lose weight faster.
"I used to hate fat people cause I couldn't understand why they ate so much."
Wtf? Do you hate everything and everyone you don't understand? I know you try to redeem yourself by saying you understand now that you became an addict yourself... but dude, that's a sh***y way to go through life.
I want to thank you for making this video.
I have been an obese woman my whole life and I was crying a lot while I listened to this video.
Everything amber lynn said made perfect sense, in a fucked up morbid way. When I binge my brain turns off and I can’t even focus on breathing let alone controlling what I stuff into my mouth.
I have so much emotional pain. I was sexually assaulted by my brother numerous times when I was a child, and I have had my life threatened several times in my life by family members. I don’t know if this is the cause of my pain, but my mind often wonders to those moments in my life when I’m alone and feelings down. I think I need therapy, but it is so expensive for me. The gym is very cheap so I can afford it.
I am proud to say I have been going to the gym for the past two months consistently for 3-4 days a week, haven’t lost too much weight but I am enjoying moving my body and I am feeling so much stronger.
I want to be a healthier woman for my boyfriend who supports and loves me, but I just wish I could conquer my binging. Creating time between eating is definitely helping me.
I’m currently at 270 lbs and I am so scared that my life will end quickly and I’ll leave behind my ageing parents and my family who love me.
It makes me so sad that I allowed myself to get this big, but I’ve started calorie counting ALOT since the start of December and I am seeing slow progress
Thank you for your continued work in this area. I just wish I could shake this sad feeling inside me.
Follow up:
I never expected that so many people would reply to this. Re-reading my comment with a more relaxed mind is a little embarrassing but at the same time, I am glad I had that little “trauma dump” and got my feelings out. The Think Before You Sleep no BS approach to the obesity problem was eye opening for me and has definitely helped me.
I wanted to add some clarification on my family dynamic. Yes I was SA’d by my brother throughout my younger years, I was a young teen when the bulk of it happened. I do not see that brother and haven’t seen him in almost a decade, but if I’m honest, I don’t hate him and have no bad feelings towards him and forgive him completely.
The same goes for my family members. I love my parents and I know they love me, and I have forgiven them too because I know they had their own problems when the worse of our family feuds occurred and I don’t hold any grudges anymore. My family have apologised to me and supported me in many ways over the years since my adolescences ended.
I know it sounds like I’m making excuses for them but I’m not. I don’t want to live in any kind of hate or resentment.
But at the same time, I know that the damage has been done to me & I feel incredibly held back in many many ways. At the same time, I am so happy to have began my healthier life style. I’ve been eating lots more protein and healthier options and if I relapse (I relapsed once in December) I’m able to recover and get back on track. About therapy, I will save money and try to get an online therapist if some kind in the future, but right now I’ve noticed a massive improvement in my mood from just exercising and eating better.
Maybe it’s TMI, but my sex life has improved so much too. My bf seems far more excited to see me and we feel closer than ever before.
Again thank you for everything guys and I appreciate everyone’s comments. I also appreciate people who recommended finding Christ and religion, I will consider that. Addiction has destroyed my life in my ways but I know I have a long life ahead that I can fight for.
Alot of what happened to me happened over 20 years ago, my family and I are perfectly fine now and I have forgiven them. I do like to create some distance, but I do visit them. It’s very complicated, cross cultural messy story, that I rather not get into, and tbh, I appreciate the concern, but I rather just do things my way…
EDIT: I don’t meet or talk to my brother at all.
EDIT: I’ve lost 5 kg since I posted this, so around 11 lbs. So happy!!!
Just remember, that we cheer for you! You'll feel better eventually
Remember your obesity has a huge affect on those around you; they have to carry the burden of doing things you can't, you're not just losing weight for you.
You should ask your family/parents to help with your therapy fees, they love you, and yet it sounds like they were the start of your problems. I wish you success.
What do you mean when you write " I just wish I could shake this sad feeling inside me."?
Hey you’re making excellent choices rhat will help you live a longer happier life. I hope you continue to make these concerted efforts because I KNOW they will pay off for you. I’ve been a personal trainer and coach for over 5 years now. Any time I hear someone is making moves like you have I know they’re going in the right direction and it’s only a matter of time until you start seeing the changes you desire just pls be persistent !!! You’ve got this. It’s the small Penny investments every day into yourself and your health that add up !!!
keep up the good work!
I love all the pretty pictures of nature and old architecture you put in all your videos. It feels so wholesome.
It's not the same addiction, but I'm a recovering sex/porn addict that I've had since I was about 8 or 9, and lying to myself about how bad it is is the worst thing I could do about it. I'm already getting arousal issues before my 20s and I can tell you that this was all a very poor choice I made a long time ago. God bless all of you that are dealing with an addiction or are recovering, as you will never be alone in that aspect, and congratulations to all that have overcome it.
I had X addiction and met A LOT of people w it . They ALWAYS have other addictions .It is a mentality issue or not having healthy coping mechanicsisms built in but person must become aware about it first and wanna change
jerking off at 8 years old is crazy. I started I think at about 11 which is still too young to be watching that stuff imo
Bro is scared of sex 😂😂😂😂😂
@@LaloSalamancaGaming69and why is that funny?
Amen! I’m also recovering from xrated stuff addiction, using it to feel better.. but you don’t, I hope to keep going
I was very fit my whole life until lockdowns, during which I developed really unhealthy eating habits and pretty much stopped exercising. Interesting because lots of people used to tell me I was only in shape because I had a naturally fast metabolism. Being obese sucks but I lost 20 pounds in 2023 and I'm almost down to an "overweight" BMI instead of obese. Looking to lose another 20-30 pounds this year and I appreciate these types of no-nonsense videos for motivation.
Lockdowns sucked, great to hear you adjusted and are generally losing weight.
Eat like you used to maby a little less and in a year or 2 you'll be were you want to be.
i know that feeling. i was my life long thin, than i struggled with my iron-insufficency and getting a job after school, which helped to become overweight (on a brink to obese). after getting a job i started to take iron pills which made my munchies for meat and sugar (to fight against my symptoms) disapear. now i realized how much more i snacked during that time than usual.
My weight is now close to my normal weight. I used to hear always, i'm only thin because of my metabolism bc they see me snacking once a day and assume i do it constantly and not eating healthy meals. Like please, even thin people eat chocolate or chips, it's not what you eat but how much you eat from "bad food".
Interesting. I got fitter during lock down since there were nothing to do, I rode bike everywhere
i stopped counting calories & tracking my macros for christmas and i feel like i’ve set myself back by a lot, i can’t even believe what overeating constantly must feel like. i hope these people get better.
i did the same and now i’m pissed that i gained 2.6 pounds in 1 month 😭
I stopped paying attention to those too and now I'm back into bad eating habits and craving more sugar than i did before. Now my body is tired and I'm cranky lol. Its amazing how much what you put in your body effect who you are.
I highly recommend watching "carb addiction" pt 1 & 2 from the carb addiction doc on TH-cam. Explained things so so clearly and got me to change my diet over 2 years ago now. Never felt so awake and energized.
I stopped paying attention and lost so much weight LOL
Tracking macros is the only thing that has helped me lose weight long term. I dropped 50 lbs in 2018 and have never gained it back 😊
lol I’ve been fat my entire life, been bullied, been treated like shit. Last year I got into Keto and intermittent fasting, in 10 months I’ve lost 40kgs and I’ve never felt better. No sugar changed my life, I can never go back to the way it was, I’ll be eating salads and meat until I die!
Good for you man 👍
I want to do keto and everyone in my family says it’s unhealthy. I will just have to ignore them and try it out for myself.
@@FlansyLinny do it, you will lose 10kgs in 10 days and then it just keeps on going. Carb intake must be restricted, if you want your body to use it’s stored energy, you first must stop adding outside energy
I had my last ever cigarette on the 26th of December, I had my last ever cannabis cigarette on the Christmas day. I feel incredible. Now that I have realized that I am in control of my life, it's the easiest thing to do. I've "tried" quitting smoking before many many times but fundamentally my way of thinking about it was wrong. I now use the withdrawal symptoms as a positive instead of a negative. These nights of poor sleep has been annoying but it's the evil leaving my body and that feels good.
I can't thank you enough TBYS, your videos have really helped me overcome my fear.
Edit: I'm 31 and half years old, I've been smoking cigarettes since I was 16 or 17 & smoking weed daily since I was 21.
Doesn't count as quitting nicotine until you're clean for 2 weeks. Good luck. It's definitely worth it.
Nicotine hijacks your life, makes you stink like shit, and creates roadblocks to everyday tasks.
@@mikeking683was gonna say this… look before you leap!
Good on ya, man. Yeah, quitting smoking is tough. I've done it dozens of times. But I'm making it stick this time. I've fallen off the wagon a few times, but back on it tomorrow (I'm drinkin' and smokin' tonight lol). Had the same thoughts about the MJ, too - I've got things I want to do and it's not helping.
One item that has helped me is eating slowly and chewing your food at least 20 times. Seems to fill me up a lot quicker and actually taste and enjoy the food I am eating. I would previously wolf down my meals like it was an eating contest and end up overeating and feeling bloated and stuffed along with digestion problems.
Idk why y’all comment towards this content creator… he doesn’t acknowledge y’all
Being fat is hard and being fit is hard! Pick your path.
Being fit and maintaining is much easier than losing weight
But one of those things actually comes with a benefit
being f@t sucks. 0beesity and mentuhl illness go hand in puffy hand
Not one benefit, various
Many, many benefits
Been both, being fat is easier.
It's crazy that she got heartburn from the chocolate and wanted more. When I found out I was lactose intolerant, anything with dairy was just repulsive because i knew how it would make me feel. Not that i didn't miss dairy based foods, but knowing i would feel terrible after eating, it prevented me from eating it.
She’s a full blown addict. I was addicted to opiates, and I’d go through withdrawal i.e. hot/cold flashes with extreme sweating, restless legs, insomnia, nausea, diarrhea, vomiting, headache, rage, depression, anxiety, fatigue, and basically feeling like your skeleton wants to jump out of your skin to escape the horror that your brain is going through. To put it simply, it’s _hell!_ But I’d end up using again, and again just to end up in WD’s. It’s hard to explain to people what addiction really is.
The pain you go through doesn’t matter when you know that next hit will be bliss. It’s a viscous cycle. Luckily i got treatment, and I’m 12 years sober, but you have to want to get better.
@toothgrinder2760 hearing that you are 12 years sober brought a warm joy to my heart. Congratulations. I could never understand an addiction like you've had, but I just wish there was some magic switch to get addicts off of their addictions. I know it's way easier said than done. It's just sad to see so many people wasting their lives away.
@@toothgrinder2760 I feel that "withdrawl" way when I'm not people pleasing. Part of what made me realize I need to focus on myself instead of others.
When I ate alot more chips and sodas to try to dull chronic pain, often I wouldn't feel better and just thought "another soda might make me feel better".
It rarely did, but for Amberlyn it usually does, very strongly. And she abuses the fck out of that.
She's using the internet to validate her binge eating
When you said the average weight of a woman in America is 170, I was so proud of myself lol. My mom passed in 2020 and I was a grief/stress eater. I am 5’9 and got up to 240. Being that heavy, I felt horrible, depressed, self conscious, and anxious all the time. I am now down to 155, Im so proud ❤ I don’t understand how people allow themselves to get up to 300+… like you said if you’re hardly eating and working out you will lose the weight. I’m convinced these fat activists won’t commit to a diet; they’ll try it for less than a week, weigh themselves and then say “it’s not working”. That’s why you stick to a diet and don’t weigh yourself!!! Weigh yourself after 3 months!
Keep up the good work! Also, from what I can see in America it's designed on purpose to make people unhealthy it's plus for business including health care. In Europe even the same processed food or similar ones are healthier, some substances which are in some products in America are are even illegal here. So I could say that there is less excuse to be in unhealthy weight here than in America.
great job Lauren!
wow what a comeback!
Well done. ❤
average weight of women in america is 170 and the average woman is obese. lol
I have a horrible binge eating problem that I've been trying to get under control for the last few years. I've lost 80 pounds so far and the thing I find that helps the most is having someone to help keep me in line and doesn't give in to my addiction. My bf is great about helping and isnt afraid to tell me no when I start wanting fast food or junk food. It pisses me off at the time but once the cravings are gone I'm so thankful he stopped me.
tough love is the best love anyone can give because its not fun to give tough love. the other person will be angry and pissy but tough love is the thing that can save someone from addiction or worse
THIS IS HOW RELATIONSHIPS SHOULD BE! good job for both of u
Thats great but at the same time from experience id advize not cutting out all the foods you like completely, you shouldnt treat losing weight as a temporary diet like a one trick pony, it should be a complete lifestyle change so if you want junk food every once in a while... go for it, satisfy that craving, just eating less already is gonna help you lose weight, but you also want it to be sustainable, you have to approach this in the way that its something youre gonna maintain not for a year.. but for life! So eating healthy isnt just eating salads and clean clean food, eating healthy is limiting your calorie intake by gradually reducing it below your tdee (total daily energy expenditure which you can calculate from your height, sex, weight and activity level) so if you usually eat 4000 calories a day, reduce that amount to 3000 for the first few months, and once youre adjusted to that which you will be and itll be super easy too because it wont feel like much less, and you can up your volume by picking low calorie alternatives and tracking your calories, after that decrease it to 2500 then 2000 which should be your floor, do not crash diet, youll screw your metabolism and plateu, this process should be long and slowwww its all about consistancy and commitment, you gotta keep reminding yourself everyday that you might not feel it today but youll feel it tommorow or the day after. I made the mistake of crash dieting and am now trying to fix my metabolism but gaining muscle has been quite difficult for me, im still working on it though 💪 instead of cutting out pizza or burgers, try reducing your portions (ie if you ate 3 burgers a day, limit yoyrself to one, if you eat a whole pizza at a restaurant have half instead, small changes that allow you to enjoy the foods you love and lose weight at the same time) or homecooking meals so you can control what goes into it and adding a lot of variety into your diet, one of my favourite delicious low calorie meals that i can eat a boat load of is buckwheat, chicken, pepper, mushrooms, potato and egg made into a stir fry with a drizzle of olive oil and worchestershire sauce, shiz is sooo good, cutting out sugar makes the process so much easier too, youll start to crave fruit, fruit will feel like candy to you once you cut out sugars, youll also have a lot more energy and be way more commited to healthy eating, but that doesnt mean you cant have a doughnut like once every 2 weeks yknow
Forgot to mention that this should be obvious but excercise is key too, if you can try to set records for the amount of steps you can take in day, treat it like a game, like youre trying to beat a highscore thats what i did, approach that gradually and if you can start weight training, start small and increase your weight incrementally, whilst youre losing fat you want to maintain and even grow your muscle, so working out gives your body insentive to use a portion of the energy expelled from fat use towards maintaining and slightly building your muscles, this is called body recomp and if youre obese your body could be an incredible canvas for this with all that extra energy you have stored! Make sure to eat 1.3-1.5x the amount of protein your body needs daily whilst youre doing this (from complete sources like chicken, milk, soy beans etc) as it needs the protein to construct the tissue and prevent your body from canabalising your muscles, bring the amount down once youre in shape enough to begin muscle building by eating in an excess but dont worry about that for now
I appreciate your no-nonsense yet respectful approach when you talk about these issues. I have some of the issues you often talk about, i.e. food addiction, childhood trauma, depression. I still watch all of your videos because you don't come across as shaming or attacking, you sound more like a "tough love" kind of person who genuinely wants people to better themselves.
Truer words could not be said
You were spot on with this addictions video. As a former Addictions specialist and former Heroin addict, I believe you have given sound advice for all who are facing daily addictions from fast food, sex, gambling, internet and porn. List goes on
As a morbidly obese person who eats large amounts daily, ALR feeling sick after eating is normal for her. That’s why she can continuously indulge and overeat like this. Her body is now desensitized to that feeling (fullness, bloating discomfort). Whereas the rest of us can’t tolerate the discomfort of over-fullness, so it turns us off from overeating, ALR is used to eating and feasting like everyday is thanksgiving.
You should see hungry fat chick she was over 400lbs she was on a diet .which she just quit and is now back to eating mukbangs
As an Alcoholic, I can concur. Looking back at when I used to drink, I can't believe what I thought was normal, like throwing up, feeling like death every morning, headaches, dehydration, only bto ignore it all and do it again that night. I can't imagine tolerating that even once now, much less every day
Thanks for sharing this insight. I hope you'll change your lifestyle around. You deserve to be happy and at a healthy weight. I know you can do it even if it takes years!
@@billmartins5545 dawg, you read it wrong
Everything the guy said was valid @@TragicGFuel
I swear man, your videos continue to inspire me to live a more healthy life! 8 months clean, down 30 pounds, gym, sauna, fasting, changing how I eat, cleaning my house. Your stuff is super fire
She's not just an addict. She has a cluster B personality disorder and she just uses it as an excuse for all her wrongdoings and she has no intentions of fixing anything or being held accountable
Sounds accurate.
That’s a cop out. Everyone has a disorder if you dig deep enough. She just lacks accountability and impulse control.
@@Captain_AAhab It's not a cop out to say that somebody has a disorder, because you're still accountable for fixing it. Giving a causation for an issue doesn't mean that they're not responsible to fix it. It's totally possible to fix disorders. I was diagnosed with CPTSD from childhood trauma; yet I live a productive life where I'm thriving and I'm an asset to society today. Without the diagnosis, I would not have been able to fix the problem. I don't understand why you guys think a reason means an excuse.
Tbf some personality disorders pushes the urges to do something unhealthy. I have BPD and before medication and dedication to stop, I impulsively shop lifted.
And let me tell you, it didn't make me feel better. It made more miserable and I didn't even enjoy what I'd take.
So, I promised God and started meds after a massive breakdown. I'm two years clean. So you CAN develop willpower but sometimes people just get those urges.
@@Captain_AAhab”Your disorder isn’t your fault, but your recovery is your responsibility.”
It’s not a cop out to acknowledge you have a disorder. Acknowledgement of the problem is the first step to fixing it.
2 miles = a food dessert??? That’s 3,2km. I live in the Netherlands and bike 4,5km to AND from school daily with an average bag weight of 9KG. Insane.
Oh yeah? I walked uphill in the snow both ways to school and fought off wolves with a pocket knife. You ain't so tough. Lol. Just kidding...there were no wolves. 😁😁😁
My french ass walks 6km a day to go to my job 💀💀💀 there is a grocery store at least at 2km of walk for me . I swear in the US they are lazy when in comes to walking
@@Lostouille have you tried walking anywhere in the US? half the time there aren't even sidewalks and good luck crossing a 6 lane road
back in china i had to climb 300 miles to get to the the tight rope, where i would bike 320 miles, and then i would have to fight off 12 Kodiak Bear Panda half breeds, all with 1 stick, and you complain about this? cousin Timmy walks twice that and he cant even walk yet
@@electricant55 no but at least when the other shop is next cross the parking lot , don t drive for 500m......
Watching videos like this from you and Kiana Docherty helped me out tremendously. I love how you cut straight through the bullshit with truth. I'm a 5' 09'' man started at 349 pounds and am now down to 280. Still got lots to go but it's worth the effort.
Keep going man. You got it.
I am a true binge eater and never make excuses, In 2020 i weight 250lbs and by 2021 i weighed 130lbs I worked my ass off to reach my goal weight but after 2 years of maintaining my weight loss I lost my job and went into a deppression and went from 130lbs to 242lbs in 8 months of binging.
As of today I'm down 51lbs in 5 months and ill reach my goal again easily, it's so easy to lose weight because it involves Zero luck and it's just down to all your discipline and motivation to see it through. I will 100% get back to my old weight because i know how to lose weight I just gotta stop spiraling down for months over dumb things.
When you binge you see yourself in 3rd person you know its so dumb and wrong but you can't stop yourself until your physically full to the point it hurts to even drink water. Then your body overheats from all the food your body is trying to breakdown and process like you'll get super hot.
You got this bby❤
You seem to emphasize fast weight loss like 51lbs in 5 months. Have you slowed it down so as to rewire your overall thinking about food intake and food types?
My personal approach is averaging 2lbs per month and maintaining the loss without too much strain on the body. Coupled with a personalised gym exercise at least once a week and calorie counted cooked foods, the entire rationale behind this is a total mind change. That way, enjoying treats won't be a guilt trip and weight management a lot easier. Plus, just walking as much as possible instead of driving helps considerably if gym time is limited.
Still, congratulations on your persistence in reaching your goals! 😁
@@bernt4747 True its fast but I stopped tracking i like the freedom i have from just eating good foods without worrying about using my scale for everything.
Delaying for time, reminds me of something a teacher of mine once said. “The night is a good advisor.” She said she always waits a day or two before buying something, because it might be impulse and she might not really need it. I guess the same applies to eating garbage. Giving your brain time to process it, might help avoid bad decisions.
Food addiction is awful. Imagine you’re a heroin addict and you want to quit but you need to have a little heroin every day to live. That’s what a food addiction is like. You feel awful all the time but eating junk food releases dopamine and makes you feel good temporarily and you’re constantly chasing that feeling
Inaccurate, you can easily go 30 days without food (if you are obese). After 30 days period you will have to take supplements.
@@wisasterjke you've missed the point!
@@wisasterjkeyeah buddy the point is you have to have your addiction again eventually cold turkey isn’t an option. You might be to dumb for this channel might wanna give Logan Paul a try more your speed
Yes, the best thing is definitely to never develop a food addiction in the first place. (Which is yet another reason why obese children are so saddening - imagine starting your life out already addicted.)
It's even worse, because unlike heroin, you need food to survive.
THANKYOU TBYS. I’m having a chill NYE at home (sobriety woo!) and this is such a treat
You australian? Or another country in the east?
@@T-Bone99 correct!
Me too , greetings from Ayers Rock Australia!
Have a great New year🎉
@@Hannah-ty7ox aye Happy New Year then!
После одиннадцать часов. Сейчас время для принять мою первую выпивку!
To her:
"Stop it.
Just. Stop. It.
Get sum help."
As someone who has struggled with anorexia , it’s strange how similar to to a food addiction, cause when I was struggling, it was all I could think about. I literally couldn’t do anything without having food videos on. The only difference is that you try and avoid it, rather than eating it instead
Yes! They are very similar mentalities with opposite behaviors for coping.
My MIL convinced herself that I starved to lose all the baby weight after pregnancy. Also, that it's simultaneously purely genetic that I went to the gym consistently and cooked decent healthy meals. I lost that baby weight and am proud of the accomplishment. It's so hurtful for her to undermine my hard work to feed her stupid addiction. These people are sick.
same; mine convinced herself it was solely due to the fact i’m young (early 20s) and that’s why i’m healthy afterwards.
at least you know you’ve done the hard work and can feel a sense of accomplishment about it. good on you 🎉
@emilyp9869 thanks :) good on you as well!
You're mother inlaw is jealous.
She is JELLY 😂. Good job on your hard work. 👍🏾💪🏾
You know this sort of behavior reminded me of my late black lab from over a decade ago. Pepper was a relatively healthy and sturdy black lab that I got for my twelfth birthday. And apart from her initial aggressiveness towards our first cat, we found that she would impulsively get into our own food whenever we were away for any length of time. And as soon as we got home, we would find the food completely gone, and the dog would be there sulking. And it didn't even matter if the food was left on the dinner table, on the counter, or in one of the cupboards. Heck, it didn't even matter if we were home in the other room. Her complete lack of impulse control had simply gotten worse with age, and absolutely nothing that we tried worked apart from throwing our food in the microwave or the refrigerator. Well, until her tumble that resulted in one of her toes getting amputated and having to remain house-ridden until the day she died. She couldn't go outside at all, not even to use the bathroom, so imagine the shit and piss bombs literally being everywhere in the house. Literally the only upside to this was that she could no longer reach the counter due to her health condition. She was put down a year later. She was only twelve. 2011 and 2012 were very rough years for me. Lost a lot of close family members during that time.
Our lab would constantly let herself out and go and harass our local butcher by lurking outside their door or raiding their skip bins 😂
I had a cat like this! She was incredibly intelligent but also had absolutely no impulse control. She would break into cupboards and steal any food she could. Even got into the bread bin and biscuit tin. We had to start locking cupboards and could never leave anything lying around ever. She was morbidly obese. None of my other cats have had this issue, it was pretty bizarre.
I'm sorry, man. Losing a pet is rough. Hang in there.
Sorry? This is animal abuse!@@daveeyes
Been on a low carb diet for 3 weeks and that will open your eyes to how addicting food is to regular people. When I say “regular” I mean someone who is 15lb overweight as opposed to 200lbs.
Chips and bread and sugar and all of it is such a bulwark in our diets. When you remove it even without restricting calories, it is dangerous hard to fill the void.
When you watch mukbangs of huge people , it is usually a lot of empty carbs
only sugar is addicting, not bread or chips except you eat unhealthy sugary bread that would count as cake and not bread in normal countries.
For people that never experienced it, when you are this overweight you are legitimately hungry all the time. The hunger is real, and the only way to escape that overeating loop is to contest your own sense of hunger. I learned it by prolonged fasting, learning what actual hunger and starvation feels like. My solution was a bit extreme, but that's the level of dedication you need to escape that.
Brah must having trouble sleeping because he posted this at 4 am
Never thought I'd see the day that TBYS covered Amberlynn. Believe me, no matter how long the video is, it is not enough to understand the mind of our gorl.
Imo: when you suffer from addiction, the first step is to get other people involved(supportive but determined people) as kind of a water bottle after a workout so to speak
I believe you’re correct! But people’s friends and family’s unfortunately are afraid or to tell their loved ones they’re overweight :/
@@Twangy1or they seriously don't give a shit. It is so hard to get people to help you by not giving you crap food. It's just been the holidays, and I don't know about you, but all I got from people was sugar this, sugar that. Cookies. Breads. Cake. Candy. Candy popcorn. Freaking soda. Yes it's really sweet when people show they care and try and give you something, but this is all anybody ever shares. It's just really sad.
Truly you have to stop relying on others to fix your problems. Fix your own problem, and sometimes people have problems that will kll them and there's nothing you can do to save them, they dye.
@@Twangy1 because they know they are obese and won't listen to you anyway. THEY have to want to change.
Fat people aren't in denial of being fat, they are in denial of how it affects their health.
Madeline:"I'm an average American weight"
Me in the other side of the Atlantic: "Yep, no wife for me in America"
Even when I heard that the real average is 170 pounds I was shocked. Really? Maybe the really heavy people are pulling the average up, that seems insane to me.
All I want for Christmas is another TBYS video. Patience really is a virtue, because here I am
food addiction must be super hard to overcome.
when youre addicted to alcohol you can cut it out of your life, which is much easier than telling this addict you need alcohol to survive but you have to consume much less of it to be healthy.
One meal a day might be a good way to eat for recovering food addicts. Cant cut out food completley of course, so instead have a strict eating pattern that you folliw fanatically.
@@krystmarodoren7446 I wouldn't recommend that for food addicts. Cause your stomach would basically be growling the whole day except when you have your one meal. I would think that would entice them more to eat.
Honestly if they just cut portion sizes and ate 3 meals a day with healthy food, they would be fine. If they got "hungry" or got an urge to binge they could then promise themselves to hold off till lunch. If they meal prep beforehand they then don't have to be tempted to eat more.
A carnivore diet makes it much easier to transition to a healthier diet. In few days, all carbs cravings go away.
@@Raya-ir4tmGlad someone said it. We all have to eat. Yes. Real food. And even alcoholics have to drink.. water.
@@GeneraluStelaruyeah the amount of protein keeps you fuller but i'd still recommend eating fruit or vegetables
I have been watching Amberlynn for 8 years and it was because of watching her videos that I was able to lose 96lbs. I am also sober 11 years too. I agree with what you say here and I really appreciate that you point out that it isn’t as easy for her to just stop eating as much. With my drug of choice, I didn’t need it to survive daily, however to be addicted to food, must be so difficult to change. You need food to survive, I couldn’t imagine how hard it is to still have to have what you are addicted to survive.
I'm glad to hear you made some significant process. Keep up the good work.
But I also need to correct something you said. You said, basically, you have to consume the thing you're addicted to (i.e. food). That's not entirely true the way it's stated. Yes, you must eat food to survive, but you're not addicted to eating food per se. Rather, you're addicted to the rush of chemicals your body releases when you eat things like unhealthy fats, sugars, salt and flavorings, and excess amounts of carbohydrates that turn into sugars. Those are the things you're addicted to, not to food itself.
How can I be so sure?
Let's try an experiment: eat nothing but a bland diet of things like cooked oats (no flavors, no sugars.... just plain, old fashioned oats boiled in water), steamed broccoli, carrots, and spinach (no butter or salt), and ground beef (85% lean, no salt, no cheese, no ketchup... nothing... just plain old ground beef) patties for one week. That will give you enough fat, carbohydrates, protein, and vitamins to get you what you NEED, but none of the flavors and garbage that you CRAVE. If you do this, I guarantee you will be so sick and tired of that food by the end of the week you won't be binging on it. You'll hate the sight of it. You'll only eat it when you need it, and probably even then won't eat enough b/c you will detest forcing it down your throat. The "addiction" will cure itself... as if by magic!
It's not food (oat, veggies, beef) that are the addiction, it's the flavors and the sugars and all the garbage. So the solution is simple: get rid of the garbage. That you DON'T need to survive.
Good luck!
You don't need the types of things she eats to survive. That's the fallacy. Your body never actually needs to ingest a single carbohydrate because your liver can break down protein into glucose and meet your needs.
It's literally how we're evolved to survive
She isn't really addicted to food though. She is addicted to sugar, salt and fat.
I saw your channel 3 month ago, and it really helps me with my weight loss journey. Since the beginning of 2023 I’ve lost 27 kg, and your content gave me motivation at the hard times of mine. Thank you!
Great video! The unwillingness people have to take responsibility for their own issues is staggering. I absolutely used to blame genetics and mental illness for my obesity, and while they're definitely contributing factors, that helpless victim mentality is never going to get you anywhere. I definitely still have brief moments of relapse, but 30 lbs + five months on I no longer feel like I'm white-knuckling all the time. But that's only because I've actively changed my behavior: I've learned to cook and went totally cold turkey on microwave meals and traditional junk food. I still have another 60 or so lbs before I'm in a healthy weight range, but this is the first time I've ever felt confident that I'm not going to spiral, binge, and ruin everything.
This time last year I weighed about 240-245 lbs. I currently weigh 200-205 lbs. Something that really helped was keeping food out of my dorm room and only eating from the dining hall, and only keeping water in my room. Late at night and randomly throughout the day I would snack just because I was bored. After I made those changes, I was steadily losing weight. Now it has been a year and I am down 40 lbs. It has genuinely surprised me how little I was hungry throughout the day after just a week or two. Just two small changes has had a major effect on me and I'm so happy that I made those decisions. I am now fitting into some of my old clothes, and shrinking out of some newer, bigger clothes. It really wasn't hard for me, it just took a bit of effort to prevent myself from going back to old habits.
Keep up the good work 👍
I don’t understand how people can get to this point. When I go through phases of eating like crap, I feel absolutely horrible. My body hurts. I feel queasy and depressed. And the fact that my clothes start feeling tight is usually my motivation to start eating better. I do not want to start buying clothes in a larger size. It’s weird that people can think “ Oh, My pants don’t fit me anymore. Guess I’ll go get multiple pairs of larger ones. “ Instead of “ I need to stop eating so much so I don’t have to buy new pants”. Buying new larger pants is like accepting you either don’t care or you have no control over your body. Maybe I’m just cheap, though.
Mom / honey / ma / dad, can we go clothes shopping? These undies are choking my piping!
- Sure thing, same old place?
People who eat this much food are already depressed. When you are depressed all the time, you can't tell if something is making it worse because it's just your reality.
Although I don't get how people eat this much food, especially fast food, every day, multiple times a day and not feel sick. I eat fast food and I can't eat anything for the rest of the night.
@@kpoppy9635 It is because they have different hormonal response, they don't feel full, and satiated like you do.
If you already feel worse than that, it's an improvement. I'd wager there are some health problems that precipitate their weight gain and also help sustain it.
No, it's because they turned eating into an addictive habit.
Yes! Chronic overeating is an addiction. I think it's good to compare it to alcoholism. It's much less sympathetic, it doesn't live wiggle room for "acceptance", but it also doesn't minimize how hard it is to kick it.
8:50 is such a good point, I used to suffer really bad with self harm and I’ve suffered with it since I was 9 years old, im 6 months clean today but I still get a lot of urges to self harm again but instead of giving into those urges I distract myself by reading or drawing or watching videos and the urge eventually goes away, addiction is really hard but there are ways to overcome it💗
Bruh really started at 9 years old
@@walterrising4276 Yeah thank god i stopped💀
Happy New Year TBYS and here's to all the great content for next year. Thank you 🥂
I really like your explanation about us having a finite amount of willpower each day and the necessity to plan your life so that you don’t use it all up.
Her problem is she thinks eating healthy means she can only eat baked chicken breast and broccoli
My coworkers always try to get me to eat junk food at work. I always decline. They say , “You can afford it you’re thin.” Yeah I’m thin because I work at it! I choose to eat healthier.
Happens to me, too! What I've learned is people encourage it hoping that you also eventually gain weight. People who want to be fit but have no self-control to be fit try to make the fit people around them bigger to feel better about themselves.
Videos like this are the perfect gym prelockout/motivation.
Talk about ending the year with a bang. But as a 5"7 skinny guy who eats a lot, I'm glad I have a family who calls me out on my gluttonous behaviors which then motivates to exercise and eat more healthier food, but to also enjoy myself doing it.
Keep up the good content and happy new year to everyone reading this comment.
I remember having similar habits of eating a lot of those nasty chocolate bars and chips when I was a lot younger coming home to an empty apartment since my parents worked all day. I never was overweight but very close and kind of chose not to become as overweight as some of the people around me. Now I can’t even take a bite of a snickers since it’s sooo awfully sweet and doesn’t even taste like real chocolate - I still love something sweet from time to time but sweet and sweet can be so different
I mostly blame the food industry.
They pull every legal Trick to make their trash as addictive as possible.
It sure is getting a little hard to find healthy food these days, especially in cities. I think the solution is to learn how to cook for yourself.
You still have the power to choose tho
Capitalism as it is today is a symptom of human inadequacy in understating life. As long as people are submitting to their desires & chasing chemical happiness in sorts, these agencies continue to exist
It's not addictive, we all eat and we all need it , it comes down to nothing more than Responsibility and accountability for ones Actions.
This chick on TH-cam makes money from staying unhealthy.
@user-lz8bp8wo6lyou are correct, I go past KFC and McDonald's every day, I eat they're food maybe once or twice a year.
I take responsibility for my body and choices.
It isn't Heroin , it's food.
So I've lost 200 lbs. over the last 5 years. I have Hashimoto's thyroiditis, an auto-immune disorder that affects the thyroid. I also recently found out that the MRSA I had 25 years ago is still in my deep muscle tissue so I've had that inflammatory process going on for a quarter of a century and that is going to be surgically corrected at the end of Jan. because I lost the 200 lbs. and can actually have the surgery. I didn't start seriously addressing my food addiction until I was 58 successfully but I spent my entire life trying to figure out how to be better, I never gave up on myself, I never quit trying. I discovered I'm a cyclist in the process and will continue my training (I want to cycle a century, 100 miles, in another year or so, however long it takes) after I slay this surgery/recovery. Choices, not excuses.
Fuckin' A! Keep it up! 😃
being obese is 100% a choice, I was fit and healthy for most of my life until a few years ago when I fell into a deep depression and gained around 70lbs of fat.
About 4 months ago I decided to work on myself again and so far I'm down around 30lbs through consistent workouts and healthier eating habits. I don't wanna say it's easy but it's definitely no witchcraft to lose weight.
Obesity- 100% not a choice. Also, the amount of food a person eats has virtually no impact on whether someone becomes obese or not. The biggest lie ever told is that more food=obesity.
@@SkyCloudSilence no...that's just a simple fact. You want to get skinny? Don't eat.
You want to be fat? Eat more than you use.
ok fatty@@SkyCloudSilence
Everyone here appears to be partly right from where I sit. I am technically obese and have been actively experimenting this year.
CICO isn't sufficient. According to my food logs, I only went over my 2100 calorie limit 5 times last year, but I only lost 8 of my planned 50 lbs. This despite taking up running for part of the year and calisthenics the rest, increasing my basal metabolic rate and active calorie burn.
I was low on protein for much of the year, even by the garbage WHO standard. That didn't help.
I have an undiagnosed milk allergy that has severely altered my metabolism, food choices, and nutrient absorption. That didn't help, either.
Best I can tell, every simple answer is fundamentally wrong. Bodies are systems with redundancies and fallback mechanisms - you need to solve for those to see the truth.
@@robertbeisert3315 Indeed! Great answer! Coming from a person who ACTUALLY knows! There is way too much toxicity aimed at people for their body types which they can only make a maximum 5-10% change to without extremely drastic or invasive procedures. It's quite sad really how mean people get when they feel like their hatred is somehow "justified", as if obese people just "deserve" to be hated, smh.
Coming from the opposite side of the bar I can definitively unquestionably unarguably 1000% vouch that CICO has virtually no impact on weight gain or loss- at least to any large proportions. I sat firmly not rising a single pound above 120, at 5'9" (female) for well over 20 years regardless of activity (active or sleeping 20 hours a day) nor amount of food (2-4k Cal per day CONSISTENTLY FOR YEARS). I have always had a huge appeitite, never restricting my fat, sugar, meat, processed or junk food, salt, and if anything always indulging them, even going so far as to go directly to a butcher and buying bags of pure animal fat to fry, laying sticks of butter on food constantly etc to eat BECAUSE I WANTED TO GAIN WEIGHT (facts are that skinny girls are unhappy girls), but no matter what I did never did my weight rise a single pound above 120 until magically one day some time in my late 30's it began to rise like a pound per year, now capping just under 130. Did I hit a genetically preprogrammed trigger that I had no control over? Did my YEARS of indulgence *finally* catch up to me? 😂 I have no fricken idea. What I do know is that food had NOTHING TO DO WITH IT.
I got thyroid cancer and lost my thyroid and ended up gaining weight. Yeah it made my life extremely difficult, nevermind other issues that came with not having a thyroid but I REFUSE to let that let me stay fat. I've been working on running, constantly moving. No elevator only stairs and most importantly, I'm eating less. I've been actually losing weight. Extremely slowly but I'm happy to know that not having a thyroid isn't preventing me from losing weight. It has only made it harder, but not impossible.
Stay strong 🙏🏼
One big thing I did (Eric Berg mentions this) is that I started supplementing potassium in my diet. Doing that and taking 5 grams of it a day has totally stopped my sugar cravings. I’m one of those freaks now that will say cinnabon , krispykreme donuts are way too sweet and overwhelming for me. I don’t crave for it at all. It will absolutely change your life if you’re craving sugars because you’re just electrolyte deficient
5 grams a day is alot. Doesn't that have any side effects? Do you do routine blood tests to make sure nothing is going wrong?
@@alix6xgorg839 The recommended daily requirement of potassium is around 5,000 mg
In my experience my electrolyte depletion and carbohydrate depletions are hard to differentiate. I eat alot of salt and supp magnesium so generally I’m low in potassium whenever this happens so this makes perfect sense l.
I know you described yourself as "one of those freaks" because that's how most people probably see you, due to severe sugar addiction being the norm, but damn it's so sad that people like us are actually NORMAL, and have healthy impulse control, yet we are viewd as abnormal freaks because almost everyone is addicted to shitty "food".
As a woman on the skinnier side of the spectrum because of her own choices, it is really insulting when women say, "Being fat or skinny is not a choice". It's a choice, one that has to be made at every single meal, every single day. Some days, it is so freaking hard to eat proper portion sizes or not indulge in the candy or cake or chips or soda. But you make that choice because you want to be healthy.
It.s not always a choice to be skinny...some people cannot afford alot of food...me i can currently only afford to eat food for 20$ a month / around 600 calories a day...i.m a grown man :/... 1 multivitamine, 2 dl oats, beans and 10ml olive oil..and 1 spoon of protein powder every day..also 1g salt with jod.......but it.s always a choice to be obese
@@user-go8jv6uf4f there are part-time, complete at your pace, work from home jobs that would pay you enough to have a $200 per month grocery budget in addition to your other income. What's stopping you?
@@user-go8jv6uf4fthats terrible. Did you check if your government/state can help you somehow?
"I'm about to eat these mini Snickers. . . I'll let you know how many I have."
"I ate the whole thing. :l"
Nice shot of Cesky Krumlov around the 13:02 mark, awesome town!!
Im a poor person who doesnt have money to watch my weight. However, what really helped was putting my food in a bowl fit for one person food portion and not a flat plate and only cooking one pack of noodles. Just those kind of small changes, drastically reduced my apetite. So its amazing to hear stuff like this.
Watching your weight can save you money. Before all this recent inflation, I was able to live off of just over $100 a month for food. Watching your weight doesn't require fancy meals with expensive ingredients or even the most wholesome of foods. It's simply a matter of Watching your calories. Though there are plenty of cheap wholesome foods out there packed with calories.
11:49 I’m glad you mentioned Jennette Mccurduy’s experience with addiction in a nutshell. Jeannette is one of the few exceptions where addictive behavior was groomed into her lifestyle from her mom. Highly recommend reading the book, gives you an insight how distructive addiction has and how it effects others.
He didn’t really talk about her personal addiction. Did you listen?
@@JessicaRodriguez-zy5gz”you don’t want let a slip turn into a slide” is a summary of her experience. While it’s not a unique issue only to her it doesn’t take much to fall into a withdrawal for every addict.
I was a very fat kid growing up. I’ve lost a lot of weight and took up lifting to Stay fit but food is still a coping mechanism for me. It’s definitely a big issue for obese people and it’s something that should be approached the same way you’d approach alcoholism.
Same, lost weight, play football in high school, and join the military afterward. Took up bodybuilding, but still had problems with eating (you know the hole, eat big, lift big, get big), so I started doing MMA training with my bodybuilding. It really helped with my stress and eating habits.
Trying to convince my parents to remove junk food from the house but they say I just need “self control”, anyone know how I can respond?
If they aren't listening, there probably is nothing else you can do. However, you can play little tricks on yourself by keeping junk food out of eyesight. Put it on the bottom shelves of the pantry, store it behind healthier foods so they can't be seen, store it in cabinets so you don't see it walking around the house, and make sure it is not in eyesight when you open the fridge.
If they refuse to stop buying junk food, you probably can agree to get them to keep it out of sight. It's honestly surprising how well this trick works and how often I would forget that I have high calorie foods in the house when I am trying to lose weight.
Key lessons:
1. Addiction is bad (well no shit man)
2. Willpower is important, but its not enough.
3. Get proper knowledge on your addiction. (Knowledge is power!)
4. To quit an addiction make a strategy
5. Make the time b/w impulse and access longer
6. Improve your Relationships
7. Relapse is a part of getting better! (Don't Overindulge tho)
8. Don't Cheat, and be honest :)
9. Make a full system that prevents you from cheating.
I hope this helps everyone get over their addiction next year, and make drastic improvement!💯
Aba and Preach did a great video about body positivity and fat acceptance. These people are just gaslighting themselves into their own doom.
Please never stop uploading.
I think I speak for everyone when I say that what you post and talk about is absolutely neccessary and the message needs to be spread.
Inspirationally well formulated as always.