DATING FRENCH GUYS (Part 2): If Only We Had Known THAT! 🇨🇵
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What is it like to date a French guy? No, not just the chase but REALLY enter into a committed relationship with a French man? Look no further, we will share all the juicy details!
Part one to this video: • DATING A FRENCH MAN: W...
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This video is for anyone who is curious about French romance and wonders what it is really like to date a frenchman, dating in france vs US, or what French men are like (REALLY). We're skipping past the stereotypes about dating French men and the French kissing and all that hoo-ha and going to the next step - what it is like to be in a relationship with a French man.
Have you had experiences with French dating customs? What surprised you? What didn't? Do you have any tips for how to date in France? Or in bicultural relationships in general? Let us know in the comments below! Bisous!
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You know you are dating a French man when...
I'm italian but, about privacy and social media, I remember of a group of American students coming to Italy and we spent some time together. Every time I was doing ANYTHING they were starting recording it with their mobile. I felt uncomfortable like I was there to entertain them and it wasn't pleasant having all these cellphones on your face.
Elena Lo Greco they wanted to document their travels. I think that’s fair
Part of it is the American obsession with snapchat - that is common even when Americans go to a local bar with their friends. Good or bad, everyone does it. People also do it to show off they are in another country. BUT people also want to update friends and family on their experiences.
kinda ruin the experience itself:/ i hate snapchat because of that
GetchaaPull not really if the person you're recording is not confortable with it.
I´m American myself and I completely agree. We document so much, yet we're not living it. I hate taking pictures now if it's excessive or if the person is only doing it for likes.
About the "je t'aime" fact it's simply because men & women say it only when they are sure to really be in love and it's quite a big thing to say. That's way more deep than other country meaning. I personally think that's kind of more romantic, I once date an american boy and he told me "i love you" really fast like 2 weeks after we start dating and that just sound so wrong and weird, I really did not appreciate it, it was like something he could say easily to anybody..
In my eyes i think a "je t'aime" that take times to come is way better than a "i love you" that come too fast.. So girls, be sure thant if a french boy don't say "je t'aime" the first month it's not weird, and he finally say it that mean that he really and deeply mean it ;)
Je t'aime is really strong. You can use it as a joke to your friends. If you are serious, je t'aime is a big deal.
Absolutely!! I think this is true no matter where the person is from. I love you's that come too soon mean absolutely nothing because they don't know you, so they can't possibly mean it. I love you's that come after truly getting to know each other, spending time together, and building strong respect for each other, that's the real deal. :)
Lol I met several french guys in my life who said me je t’aime after 2-3 days :))) and it was obvious that these words don’t mean a lot for them. They could say it as easy as Bonjour. In Russia if guy says я люблю тебя then yes, it is very serious and he is ready to have the serious relationship. But for french men it’s nothing
Turning 18 and moving out is a bit of an older trend in the United States. With the increased cost of student loans, it's starting to be pretty common for people to live with their parents.
Tiffany McIntire yeah I hear the same thing from ever to guy I meet. After 25 it doesn't hold water
Each person has their own story! I started living alone when I was 16 and always had at least two jobs until i graduated from undergrad. But, that's your dating preference - so more power to you!
hey! I'm French and this thing that you describe about Sunday spent with parents in law or your boyfriend sharing some of your "couple stuff" with their parents is NOT a French typical thing!! NOT AT ALL. I'm sorry to tell you but it's just YOUR boyfriend and husband thing... Appart from this (yeah, you noticed, I started with the direct rude French comment. ah ha.), your videos about French men are really good and made me understand many things I had never noticed. Thanks!
Hi! you don't sound rude at all ;) just a little bit surprised, to hear something you didn't experience. have a great day!
American woman married to a French man here and let me tell you that the Facebook profile photo thing is an absolute no no!
Sounds like toxic monogamy but OK
hahaha how can one simple picture shock you so much?? Maybe it's his sister or best friend?? Hilarious, I'm glad I'm not american.
@@Naccarat It’s called having respect.
Yeah. Seems like guy is a player and doesn't even respect his own wife lol
What when Facebook or social didnt’ even exist ?
we don't"say" i love you
we admit it.
Hey girls, for point 3) don't forget that a lot of men express their feelings by acts and not by words... so not hearing the magic 3 words does not necessarily mean bad things
You know you got a frenchman heart when he's willing to stand in a queue line with you in the dreaded French Administration !
MERCI! Personnellement, je trouves les actes plus probants que de simples mots.... Des actes sont réels et restent, mais des mots s'envolent tres rapidement....
Surtout que les mots sont souvent tres faux cul
Je confirme, s'il est prêt à t'accompagner à la préfecture c'est qu'il est follement amoureux, aucun doute !
Mine once came into my place of work, insulted my shitty boss, kissed me and left... Most romantic thing ever from my life 😂😂😂
Moving in together is quite a fast thing because renting cost a TON.
Prices are insanely high in Paris. Moving in together is the basically paying for several trips abroad, and a lot more dinner out.
I'm surprised you never mentioned the most obvious thing about dating in France. There really is no such thing as "dating" in France, or at least compared to how dating is defined in the US. Dating is the US is very specifically defined (i can't speak to Kiwi habits). You have the formal date, the rules of engagement (when to call, to kiss, to sleep...), going on dates with other people (that's considered cheating in France), the 'talk' (not necessary in france since you when start dating someone, you're already committed to dating that person and only that person), or even when you should say 'i love you' for the first time, etc... There's none of that in France, where dating is a much more natural, go with the flow, let's spend some time together and see what happens kinda thing.
I heard French men want sex on the first date and think you're uptight if you don't comply..? Is that true?
Lisagrl89 M. not necessary. Maybe some of them expect to have sex for the first date (because it’s maybe more common in France than in US to sleep with someone the first time you date him). But you can meet a lot of man ready to wait for you, to have other dates before that.
Its so funny how you two have the moments when you agree with each other so much! 😂
I had a French boyfriend (from the south) and I'm finding some of the things you say shocking. I'm Filipino-Canadian so it's always been engrained that Sunday is family day for me and I feel that it's stronger in my culture than for him, but that could just be because he has a small family whereas I came from a huge family. Here in Canada (at least in Toronto), it's very common to find 26 year-olds living with their parents simply because they have to since it's expensive to pay off student debt and pay for rent and all that stuff. My ex is living on his own at 24 and I spoke with my professor in France and she told me it's common for 20 year olds to be living on their own. She was shocked when I told her that in Canada, it's not unusual to be in your mid to late 20s and living with family since living expenses are high in the big cities.
About the "je t-'aime" bit, I dropped the L-bomb on him about 3 months in and he said it right back to me. He was always touchy and affectionate with me in public and even with his friends. He called me all sorts of pet names too. With my ex in Canada, we never did more than hold hands in public just because of manners, so I was a little surprised with how openly affectionate my French bf was.
My ex also has a fake name on Facebook haha! Although, I asked him just a month into our relationship if I could post photos of us online and tag him and he didn't mind. In fact, in my last week in France, he told me I should post a photo of us two together! I also noticed that him and his friends didn't do insta-stories or snapchat stories and I actually really appreciate that because it let us live in the moment.
You girls are GREAT! I’m a Parisian French man living in Palo Alto, CA right now and all you describe is so true, and I miss it so much! I could make similar kind of comments on every little things here that I found weird at the beginning! I really loved when you described how French “freeze” when you hug them, that’s exactly how I felt.. and the square pillow, so funny! Here I actually miss them cause when the rectangle ones get too warm, you cannot bend them to have a fresh side!
Your new video is very nice too, keep posting, thank you!!
In the United States, Sunday USED to be a family day. Most families went to church, then over to mom and dad's for Sunday dinner. Stores were not open. That all started to change in the early 1980s.
@James Bond It really did. Slowly. You don't notice it much while it's happening, but slowly, family time just becomes a non-thing if you're not watching closely.
@James Bond I agree. But stores didn't open on Sunday until after church service time ( same as today for many -- with the exception of Hobby Lobby that doesn't do Sundays at all), so you could and can still attend service Sunday mornings. And retailers are required by law to give employees that time off for worship. Can't blame retailers for people deciding church isn't a priority on Sunday morning.
C'est encore une fois intéressants car on retrouve des choses qui sont dites par d'autres étrangers vivant en France (comme cette histoire de s'intéresser à l'actualité).
En ce qui concerne le fait d'emménager rapidement ensemble, effectivement cela vient d'un simple pragmatisme (prix des loyers) et non pas du french lover qui tombe éperdument amoureux de sa dulcinée rapidement.. clichés, clichés.
Par contre, concernant la relation fusionnelle avec la famille et le partage des secrets avec ses parents, ce n'est pas mon cas. Je pense que c'est plutôt un truc individuel que sociétal.
Pour finir le faux nom sur FB, c'est un truc de survie dans certains métiers ! Quand tu es prof, tu n'as pas forcément envie que tes élèves voient tes photos persos !
En tout cas, merci pour les vidéos et bon courage à vous deux avec vos frenchies !
Romain Lécapène ta version est clairement plus ressemblante aux moeurs des français.
Je confirme tes 3 réponses. Je rajouterais pour les exes que ça dépend de la fin de la relation ..
en fait pour facebook ça dépend de ton milieu social:
-si tu utilise surtout ce réseau pour communiquer avec tes amis tu choisis un pseudo cool avec une photo marrante de toi en public ou en privé.quelque chose qui se rapproche de ta personalité sans être quoi que ce soit de trop dangereux a partager sur le web.
-si c'est plutôt sérieux(travail,motivation etc...) alors tu met ton nom et tu fait très attention a ne pas montrer ta vie privée en détail. les recruteurs vont vraiment voir ton profil ces jours-ci et c'est fréquent que des inconnus jettent un oeil aussi.si t'a des photos de toi en train de vomir c'est un peu comme être exhibitionniste.
Et je pense que tout cela a un lien très fort avec ce qu'elle a remarqué de nous (souvent mécontent, distants voire même de plus en plus dépressifs pour certains). En ce sens, l'actualité notamment à la télé montre essentiellement des mauvaises nouvelles. On parle sans arrêt du chômage, des grèves, du pouvoir d'achat, des catastrophes naturelles, de la guerre. Rien d'étonnant qu'avec tout ça on ait moins envie de sourire ahah
"Je pense que c'est plutôt un truc individuel que sociétal. "
c'est définitivement sociétal mais je pense qu'une énorme part est due à la géographie. Non seulement l'île de France contient quasiment un quart de la population française dans une zone minuscule, mais en plus la France est très petite comparativement aux US. Il est bien plus facile pour un Français d'avoir des visites régulières chez sa famille (en moyenne, ça change au cas par cas évidemment) même si tu changes de ville, qu'aux US.
My husband is Italian, and we had so many fights about how I never "dress up" eith the whole package, how Im not even friend with him on facebook, how I had hard time to say I love you, friendship with exes, geopolitic conversation etc.. (Never heard about a french saying I love you after 3 weeks but Italian actually do !) When I told him about your video, he seemed released like "finally normal people ! You french are so emotionally cold ! 😂"
you're not friends with your HUSBAND on facebook? tf is wrong with you? you're cheating right? he should leave you.
@@im_so_bored3896 Is it because you're so bored you're that pathetic ?! It's a picture, respecting your woman is also respecting that what you do with her you don't show it and do it to everyone, otherwise love would have not much meaning compared to friendship. Plus why being on Facebook which is bad and toxic for freedom, equity, fraternity in first place ?! OMG
@@DarkRedman31 the fuck you on about, triggered much? idk even remember what this vid is about, you're the pathetic one commenting ona year old comment. you should be friends i\with your so on Facebook it's beyond weird if you're not, end of. now leave me the fuck alone you absolute lunatic moron.
What do you mean never dress up with the whole package?
Haha, I'm french and after my graduation when I was 25 I lived for 9 months with my parents and when I moved to London my mother and I both cried ^^'
NO NO NO- your HUSBAND'S FB profile photo is him hugging a different woman ???? NO
yup that's extremely disrespectful. i would ask for a divorce
lol I'm French and this doesn't shock me at all. XD
Debbie Edelmann c’mon it’s just a picture! HAHAHA
Maybe its his sister?! You should mind your own business..
WTF?! xD
The bit on social media is interesting... You could also flip it around: Why are the Anglo-saxons so keen in sharing details of their private lives with the world?
Because they don’t consider many things private
Hello. I'm French. In thing that the fact that rents are so high in Paris has at least two implications that you mention and which do not necessarily apply to other part of France. First, when you cannot afford an apartment, then you stay at your parent's. Second, when you live in a 9m² apartment, then all your belonging fit in 2 boxes. So when you are in a somewhat stable relationship, then you can quite easily move together. If you break up, then you take your 2 boxes and leave.
You may have see it but there is a quite famous French movie about a guy which never leave his parent's house: Tanguy.
Frédéric Mazoit ah yes Tanguy ! I love that film.. :)
pauline a la plage, fun 70's film
@@blan514 😍😍
Take your two boxes and leave lol. May be true, but sounds funny
It would be a temptation to think 'oh that's just how French men are' when really it doesn't matter what nationality someone is if they are doing or saying hurtful things. Having their facebook pic showing them with another women, being too friendly with all their exes, and telling their mother about private relationship moments that you had trouble with, is not on from any boyfriend IMO.
Puritanism is showing here its hideous and self-righteous face. Read Philip Roth's "The Human Stain".
Red flag city
I would love to see a video with your partners!
They will never show themselves in a video. Especially discussing such a private topic!
YelenaVlogs except if someone manage to play a challenge they would like to win or something?
Moi aussi,j'aimerai bien les voirs.
Serieusement, ouais. Il faut les voir les pauvres gars qui doivent se taper ces meufs toute la journée
+Janell Kristina Impossible, la rumeur est qu'ils demeurent enfermés dans la cave, nourris au pain sec et à l'eau.
Thanks for this. I've recently started chatting with a Frenchman and these videos were very enlightening. Please do more.
especially the part about sharing stuff about the relationship with family, so true!
I m a 18 years old french guy and I found myself in both videos !!! Your observations were sooo accurate !!
You both do such a face in the intro! seems like dating a French guy is so traumatic! 😂
Great insights! So glad you made these two videos for us outsiders to know it a bit better
Thanks again for sharing your personal experience !
I reckon this video can be useful to both expats and French people as it helps them understanding each other a bit (a lot?) better because I don't think this is the kind of thing you talk to to your boyfriend or girlfriend that easily when you're beginning a relationship.
Great vid, hope to see you in another one soon ! Have a lovely day :)
I love your videos, keep making them. Also this video is sooo funny!!!
Lol love the “ I love you” “your welcome” story😊🙏❤️
Once again good job for this accurate video ! :)
Of course every french are not the same, but I recognize a lot of things that happens daily in Paris.
My friends and I visit our family every week end, the “pragmatic” moving together, being informed about what happens in the world every day and discussing about it for hours...
Congrats for your 4K subscribers !
Privacy on fb, yes that's mainly true.....but keeping his profile picture...with another woman..hugging....and being married to you...has definitely nothing to to with french culture...but is just being what we call.....a goujat.
Some people tend to to considere social media with extreme suspicion(and with some reasons). French mentality it's like that, learning us than nothing is too sacred an everthing is discutable. So in France, the fact of this mind state be applicate at your facebook account is not à Big deal.
Lots of French guys are 'goujat' to be fair🤦♀️
Hi girls,
you just made me realize, that I do the same thing with my husband for the news.
I read the newspapers (we do not necessarily read the same newspapers) I send him some articles, and we discuss of it in the evening. I just thought everyone do that not just french. 😂
for leaving the house later, it's because it is impossible to find an apartment without a job in France, and it's very complicated, with a small salary or without cdi, so a lot people leave their parents later that they would like 😕
omg if I had ever fell on a guy, who tells everything to his parents, I would have left him at the second 😣
ah ah my husband and I also have fake names on our social media...no pictures of us, and certainly not "in couple with ..." in facts our SM serve us only for news, brands that we follow. .. but, not for our friends it's "private stuff "
And with my husband (since 14 years now) we had our first date as a couple and I "moved " to his apartment the same night, I was always sleeping at his home.
we did not even talk about it, and six months later we were renting officially a house together.
but I'm not at all romantic girl so it suited me perfectly.
I like keep the things simple , frank and especially without "chichis"
I really likes your videos. It's so fun to see how we are perceived. 😆
le "without "chichis"" est au top ^^
Usually, I agree with you, but about the connexion with one's family, it's really depending on the family. A lot of people don't like to hang on with theirs or just don't care, so they don't visit very much and especially every week-end.
For 26yo people who are still living at their parents', I think it's more normal in Paris, as renting and buying your own location is so expensive, but elsewhere, it's not normal to be 26 and still at your parents' home. It happens, but it's not a normal cultural thing as Japan.
I agree 26 seems a bit extreme. It's true though that when you're in college you often stay at your parents' house because of the french uni system. You're not normally supposed to go to a uni far from your hometown so it doesn't make sense to pay a rent when you don't really need it and when you're not earning any money.
Ipiutiminel Yeah but even though I agree with you, she wasn't talking about students here.
I agree not every familly is fusional but when the relationship is good, there is often a lot of information exchanged with family.
Of course it's important to be informed about what is going on in the world, but that's not real curiosity. When you are really curious, you are interested in a lot of subjects and not just in the recent news. Plus, there are news that you can't really have an opinion about because you haven't enough thought about it.
Hi I'm Mélanie. I'm a 26 year-old french girl and am living in London so it's really a pleasure to see what you guys think about French people and it's usually true! However, about food stuff,(am talking to the blond lady who said she's got a blog about good restaurants and else in Paris.. ) I'd recommend maybe to go outside of Paris if you really want to taste French dishes and even in Paris you can find good restaurant but it's more rare (as I remember you can find delicious burgers though) because eating pizza as you may already know is absolutely not French. But yeah, I can understand that in Paris it's easier to find pizzas or burgers than real French menus. (I remember how Paris is full of Italians pizzas, Chinese, Japanese, indian stuff.. ) but in France each region has its speciality and it's litteraly not the same than in Paris (which you may already know obviously)
About the fact that a lot of French people are still living home, I think that you're right but I noticed that most of my frenchiiie friends are in general a bit scared about living alone. There is an other reason which is proved by the statistics, it's the fact that in France, young people are struggling to find a permanent contract and the prices for renting a flat are increasing per year, so the reasons are more like this. (unbelievable because the generation of our parents was not like this, at 18 y o they left home for becoming a independent and because of family pressure)
Je trouve cette vidéo tellement plus intéressante que la 1ere. Personnellement je ne suis jamais sortie avec qui que ce soit, mais il est vrai que l'actualité (surtout après le lycée, avant c'est pas tellement un sujet de conversation) devient quelque chose de récurent.
Par contre pour le truc de fb et de pas montrer sur les réseaux sociaux, je pense que ça dépend des gens. Mais c'est vrai que moi et la plupart de mes amis prenons fb pour nos amis.
oh oui encore d'autres vidéos de vous deux ! c'est très intéressant d'avoir d'autre points de vues sur la france, ou des sujets plus précis comme pour cette vidéos :)
This is so entertaining and enlightening to watch! Been with my partner for seven years now and it's still an ongoing discovery of which parts of his personality is ingrained through his culture (most things here were true - and some seem to be an expectation he's grown up in at least) and which parts are just uniquely him! Other things I found were cultural were the unique sounds they make when speaking haha
So funny it is so true. But this applies only for people from a certain background. Here, we are taught very young to be very critical about anything we may read, hear, or watch. Especially when you go to a good to elite school. At age 15, I found myself debating on politics or philosophy during lunch, the recurrent question 'what's your opinion about..?' always assumes you have already heard about the issue. Because if not, YOU 'should' have. That's why everyone tries to catch up with everything's going on. At 17, I was on holidays with a friend and her family, and when eating out, we would also talk politics and cultural stuff. Always.
Just found your channel and it’s crazy how accurate the things you’re saying are! Like some of it I couldn’t even put into words and then you said them and I was like - exactly! Also, the French boyfriend that I lived with had told me it was a big deal to move in together and none of his friends (mid twenties age) were living with a girlfriend/boyfriend, but that’s in Lyon
The other woman photo is not "french" it's disrespectful and weird. Privacy is ok, but this is wrong.
agreed!
Why? She's a friend!
I don't see anything weird. She just her best friend.
And more important, he want to conserve his private life and this is a citizen right!
I’m American and I see nothing wrong with a spouse/bf/gf having friends.
Not only is it not wrong, it’s wonderful.
If you’re in a relationship with someone and you are stifling their freedom to have friends, you’re the problem.
Locking up your spouse from expressing love for their friendships will be damaging to your relationship, be careful.
@@sophied.1647 Yeah but no (I am French)
Fascinating! Thank you! More please
Yes! :) I definitely would like to see your video about how the english language and accent evolve when crossing the seas in different directions and meating different civilisations and cultures...
Regarding privacy i can only agree with you and it's probably related to our curiosity about the news that you also mentioned in your video. We were already suspicious as anyone would be when confronted with something new that one doesn't know anything about so we've quickly become really carefull when it came to sharing private information in the internet. Learning in the news about all the bad things happening all the time in the web didn't help. Although i don't think it's specific to french people. It's more like the don't forget to close your bag when you take the metro thingy...
Ps: I loved the woody background with the christmas tree and the lighting on the video... Really nice choice of point of view! your christmas tree has been decorated since? Could it be an artistic choice to leave it without decorations so you can create a mountain cabin atmosphere for the video.. kiwi tradion maube.. =)
Ohh, love this video so much! You make a great youtube couple!!!
You guys have great chemistry!! More please!
I'm a french man and I fall in all your stereotypes ! It's funny hearing what others cultures think of us ! And very interesting ! For your part about privacy on FB and social media in general I have a personnal explanation : I was a teacher and I didn't want my pupils to go and find out about my life online. Like the super drunk photos and what my passions are and everything... Just my reason for doing so !
Anyways love your vids it's a pleasure to learn about my country through the eyes of a foreigner ! Keep doing it ! It's awesome !
For some reasons, this channel was in my suggestions....now that I finished binge watching, I can subscribe! :'D
This was delightful!
Hey ! I am French and your video is so hilarious 😂 all of this is so true but so normal for us 😁
Your videos are making me wonder if my bf is actually french! The family thing is so intense here in Spain!
Hahahah!! You made me laugh so hard with the part about moving in together! The only time I talked about this subject with my french bf -because a friend was moving in with his girlfriend-, he looked at me weirdly and said “so?” 😂 that’s when I understood that it wasn’t a big step for him and it was kind of “normal” and “expected”
the truth is :95% of the viewers of this video are french guys :D
yes plz do a American vs new Zealand love your vids btw
I agree,they are very,very private.All my French friends are.Mainly,their profile pics are half of their face.They decide when and with whom they share private things.As for the news,my friends rarely watch tv or read papers,so,its not a thing for them.They still staying at home thing,I think is Europe in general,its very much like that in Uk too,mostly because people can't afford to get a place of their own,plus,not everyone goes to College or Uni and if they do,its not always that far away.
Love this video! And again, could have been useful for me like more than 6 months ago 😭
Love these videos!! I’m living in Lyon as an expat from Dallas 🇺🇸 and my husband is from Marseille I can definitely relate to these things from part 1&2!! I would have to say after being married for sometime I definitely wish I knew these things too in advance. The debates, the oversharing with family the comments about weight gain 😂 oh la la....c’est la vie
Marseille, where i come from as well, is even another world respect to those topics. Some I can relate, some I totally not recognize me in
My french husband has lunch with his mum every. single. midday. It is not a positive thing 😂
ohhhh gosh! boys have such a weirdo relationship with their mum!
I'm french and I see my mom twice a year lol
Guess what on the plate? YOU 😂😂😂😂
Very fun video!! ❤️
You guys are great 💕💕 subbed already !
One thing Patricia B speaks about in her latest video is the first kiss. To french people, it's the beginning of the couple life with exclusivity, contrary to what happens in the USA where people needs to have a big conversation. Is it the same in Kiwiland ? How did you manage that ?
More videos like this please... i'm dating a french guy for 2 months now. It's quite a big culture shock for me... 😂😂😂
thank you for your videos , it helps us to understand how we are in france and why . And having a point of view from a different country is pretty much appreciated and helpful il we manage to date a woman in new Zealand !
Nice video ! That nice to know what people think about us ! I'm actually studing in South Africa and many expat student think we are really romantic and all because we are french but.. yeah you know ahah ! keep going ! :D
Just watched the two videos and loved them - and both of you! Kate I am looking forward to reading more from your blog :)
I definitely agree to most (if not all of these) so i found the videos reassuring and also pretty funny knowing i am not the only one haha
I would find it SUPER interesting for your boyfriend/husband to share their side too about differences that surprised them from dating a foreigner (i am originally from s.america but grew up in the states so basically american)
given their preference for privacy maybe not in a video form but maybe on Kate's blog as "guest writers" or maybe it could be a follow up to these videos but with you two presenting their points of view (i think that would be pretty hilarious and definitely tagging on to your point on direct feedback hahaha)
Haha this is all so true!! Thanks for the video, really fun
I totally understand the family thing! When my Frenchie and I started dating 4 years ago, we lived 1 hour away in France and would only see each other on the weekends. He would often leave on Sunday before lunch because he wanted to eat with his family. At first, I thought that he was really close to his family. It turns out that it's just what you do on Sundays!
Need part 3!
C'est tellement drôle 😂😂 j'adore vous écouter !! Un véritable intérêt sociologique 👍
I'm married to a first generation Frenchman, and so much of this is sooo true!
You girls are great! Yes, please do more videos .😊
Thanks for the video ! You're so right about the obsession about privacy ! For instance right now, I'm commenting the video with a male false alias whereas I'm a girl, just because I'm concerned about my privacy on the internet... But you are absolutely right, it can get really frustrating when my boyfriend never wants to share our pictures on the facebook, under the pretext it's his "jardin secret" ! Besides, regarding the news and geopolotics, I have the same problem here. Being french, I'm still not very interested in this so much. But my boyfriend expects me to give him my opinion on the articles he shared with me earlier in the day XD
The adult living with parents thing, it is so true Indonesia. We usually live on our own house after getting married. Thanks for your video, very entertaining and informative 👍🏽
I really liked this. I didn't even know some of these were stereotypes but I had almost all these experiences! Now it all makes sense!😂.
Thanks for sharing your experience ! I'm french and I think it's normal to be romantic with your girlfriend. Some ppl say that it's "Vieille France" which means the "old ways" of the etiquette or behavior but it seems normal to me. We are in a country of poetry !
That is very accurate. Good job! I like the way you did it... :-)
btw would love to see another video collab of you both!!!
Yes, being informed about the world and your own country is a must! It is called being a "citizen of the world" and not be always so self-obsessed....
Here is my dream vlog: I would love seeing the 2 of you watching an iconic French movie* (with some live reactions) and then commenting it especially about its "frenchness" compared to your cultures (characters, sense of humour...). 😘
(*) For example, "Intouchables", "Le fabuleux destin d'Amélie Poulain", "Le Père Noël est une ordure", ...
Please do a video watching Le Père Noel est une ordure. Or Kaamelott !
I can totally relate to pretty much all of these. I met my partner in Germany and he is totally drawn back to France, and is very very private on social media!
I just watched both parts of video and I have to say it is sooo true :-D I have a french boyfriend as well and soon it will be one year together and when I think back it’s all exactly similar with your experiences :-D Great idea to make this video and point out! Love it! ;-)
As usual, very good video ;) About the fact that French people live a long time with their parents : in my experience, it is quite true for Paris and some big cities if your family is from that city, because it is often too expensive to pay for a separate apartment if you can live at your parent's home. But in my case and for most of my friend, if you have to live your city for college or work, you have to leave your parent's house. So in my master in Paris we were like 40, and i think than maybe 5 of us didn't have their own apartment :)
I'm french and i say Je t'aime in 3 weeks x) Maybe some clichés are true, when we love , we LOVE.
Hi again,
watching those 2 videos made me realize that we french people are very different between ourselves considering where precisely we are from. I was born in the north of my country, and I'm travelling a lot for my job in several french cities. There is a great divide between people from Paris (and suburbs) and people from the rest of the country.
I personally think that young adults have to live by their parents in big cities because of the cost of the life. Back when I was at university, I was eager to leave home and get my own apartment, and I moved at 19. I had to work after class and some weekends in order to pay for it. But it is true that I went to visit my parents once a week, usualy on Saturdays or Sundays.
I do share the same mistrust in social networks that Kate's husband have. I'm friend with my family, friends and colleagues on Facebook, but I never share any of my "common" feelings, because I think it belongs to my privacy. I will only share things that really moves me, because I feel the need to talk about it with my relatives (someone's passing, a serious event or somethings like that). In the same way, I don't publish to Facebook any picture or video of my son in order to protect him from ... let's say the rest of the world : he's not a painting or a work of art ! There's no need to expose him, he will decide in few years what he wants to do about his privacy.
Concerning the fact of moving in with one another, I wouldn't say that it isn't such a big deal, but I think it's the course of events. It is a big step in a relationship for sure, because it's for me the sign that you are considering the two of you together as a couple, and no longer as two different people dating.
Trop badass next !
At 19, I moved in with my boyfriend after a few months together in Paris for financial reasons. I think it's mainly a big city and high rent prices combo... since living here in Lyon, I have many couple friends that can afford to live separately for longer if they don't have an immediate need to share a space. Also, this is a similar topic in other big cities like LA and NYC ! Thanks for the vlog :) been dating my french guy since 2013 !
Loved it, ladies¡!!
OMG THE FIRST ONE IS SOOOOOO TRUE LMAO great video :)
Vous êtes grave jolie, c'est super interessant ce genre de vidéo ça montre les différences culturels c'est cool ça change ♥
You videos are really funny and I just subscribed, but I'm a little terrified by all the stereotypes you have about us (and possibly the rest of the world?).
Funny to see how we are. It's a kind of a free therapy, i guess ;)
Indeed, we must know what's happen, having an opinion. In fact, i cant imagine beeing with a girl with no opinion on nothing, except her shoes.
Well, i lived 3 years in Morrocco (where a girl dont speak too much, stay at home to educate children). I met there a morrocan girl and it was very difficult to change her mind, make her interrested by others things. But, finally, she was happy to be awaken.
not having an opinion is kinda like having holes in your personality^^ you don't need to know much about what going on in the country/world etc... but you pretty much need an opinion on important subjects like what being a woman/man/human mean,food,sports etc...religion and politics are tabous though.you rarely heard someone speaking of god/allah/budhha etc... i was really shocked by the way religions were treated in the usa for example. And nobody talk about politics because that always devolve in a fight
Interesting point of view about dating french guys! I had never thought about all of this and of course everything is not always the same but some of it is really true !!
In my case I asked my boyfriend to move in my apartment and he just said yes.... No big ceremony haha
We like to know the news from all around the world but the newspaper thing during the day and all does not apply to us at all !!
The most interesting thing I guess is how you expect men to act considering where they come from of the society they live in and even the stereotypes. 🤣
Love you videos, keep going !
Hi!
About the general knowledge, I'll just speak for me but since I started high school my mom begun bugging me every dinner with "you should brush up on your general knowledge and news!" (because I couldn't participate in the conversation, it was quite easily seen). Like really really! She expected it of me because I was growing up and becoming an adult.
Even now that I'm 24 it's kind of expected that people will at least have an idea about what happen and it's actually a casual topic of discussion, like with colleagues during lunch or coffee break... Beside the how-are-you-and-your-family and other mundane thingsn of course...
I'm a Dutch woman and I can relate to these French men in about everything, except maybe the 'tell your parents everything' bit. Maybe these are more (continental) European things than specific French things.
All accurate for me. I said this on part one: everything moves slower in our relationship. It can be tough, decoding it all. And I imagine I seem over eager to him at times.
Not Even French omg, please don't say that. Lol
But you're probably correct.
Not Even French , for me it took 2 years, while living together, to decide to get married. Then 2 more years after, a kid came in the picture. Well, that's my experience. And thinking of marriage, it felt a bit too quick for me (my parents divorced though). Oh well, we've got another kid now. Happy as a poppy I am!
I don't agree that most french people stay at their parent's til late or are difficult to take out of France. Maybe in Paris people stay more at their parent's because they have every option for education and schools in the same city, and also because rent is so high, so it can make sense to stay at their parents. But outside of Paris it's normal to move out at age 18 to go study and never move back home. Also, I'm french and have been an expat for several years, as 2 million french people that leave abroad so some of us are not that difficult to take out of France :)
But most of the video is accurate apart from that imo :)
You guys have a good energy together. More videos together.
French man speaking: thanks for putting up with us :-)
My wife is Scottish and I wonder how she copes with all the "Frenchness" lolol. And sorry about something you didn't mention: we are a food obsessed nation. I'm sure I need not explain what I mean :-)
ouichtan with all the amazing cuisine and history surrounding food in France, I don’t blame you for being a “food obsessed” nation. I’m dreaming of going to France for the pastries and wines!
I'm a Frenchman and I do all those things with out even realized it before! The fact of riding news papers and talks about politics and culturales subjects in general is really and I'm proud of this state of mine. Eating for hours while talking about the destiny of humanity for hours.
I think it's becoming a lot more common for adults to live with their parents, or to boomerang in and out of their parent's homes.
number 4 is so true for me and my French boyfriend. haha I can relate on this one so much😂