This is something I have always said. If parents realized this, I think less people would become parents because guiding takes much more time and sacrifice than to just raise.
This is an intergenerational cycle of parenting handed down from generation to generation to raise children or guide and mentor them into fully expressing their unique selves as they grow. My siblings and I did manage to break the cycle of violent physical abuse but those who had partners who had parents who accepted and nourished them were very helpful in this regard to parenting but those who did not have partners from this parenting style struggled or could not use parenting skills they had no experience of.
@@dianaboughner7977 You are a wise woman Diana. I know breaking the cicle is not easy when you fo not have that model in your family. You have to start a new way out of your connection with your inner self. And we know starting new ways is always difficult. However, as you say, our parents were also victims from their parents, and did their best to provide their children with those things they considered necessary to grow. We must be thankful no matter how hurtful this may have been to us. Actually those 'good things' they did for us gave us the strength to overcome our shadow.
Funny thing is, when you wake up and start to be more yourself the people in your circle will be upset by it. My mother for example, she keep saying I'm acting strange, that I was never like these before ( having my on opinion, don't accepting everything my family says as truth, choosing my on path, doing my on things... ). I realize that the person I was before was not me, that person existed just to please her family and loved ones. The real me is way different, and people usually dont like that. They dont like original people, the ones that choose to follow their unique path instead of following the predictable script. But I feel better then ever now, being the real me. And I dont feel guilt for let other people expectations down anymore.
Yessss!! Be yourself! . . If you live with your family,u might want to move out,if u are of age,that way you don't have to have arguments with anyone about anything,and you can have your space,and so can they! . Sending you love
I have always been the black sheep in my family. They never understood my feelings, I know they love me but..... Then, I got married to man who is as crazy as I am and is part of all my craziness. I have a lovely family now which includes my husband, my son and me.
It's not the worst way to be raised really. This style of parenting made me a perfectionist with my photography and I was working at a professional level at a very young age because of it. Had my mom said 'good job, this looks great' to my earlier works I wouldn't have continued trying to get everything as perfect as possible. Her lack of praise and feedback had me feeling like my work could always get better, and it did.
It can be hard coming up with these answers for sure. Try to compare and contrast your childhood with lives of people you knew or even people from other cultures. Another thing you can try is observe what your parents or caregivers did habitually. For example, in our house everyone read books. I was raised to read lots of books, and they had to be serious classics. I wasn't really praised for it out loud, it was just "the norm". (And this wasn't how it was in some of my friends' houses.) Try looking for "the norm" in your childhood life.
“Your personality is an amalgamation of the parts of you that kept you safe” I kind of knew that before in regards to thinking about myself , but it didn’t really click into place until now that it can be used for thinking about/reading other people! I’ll keep this in mind more while interacting with others
Well this is divine timing as usual from Teal! I was at my friends house a few days ago for a birthday party and we got talking about Spirituality and religion. I was obviously coming from the spiritual side, whereas they were coming from the religious side. I was just thinking literally for most of today how our personalities and beliefs are just constructs; some of that being passed down by our parents. I encourage all to seek out your inner divine truth.....and then run with it! Be aligned to the best version of yourself! Another video for the vault, Teal!
God, I'm realizing that I'm angry at my parents because I feel like I'm under their influence... I've integrated their values so deeply I have no idea who I am...
Been there! Very liberating and very daunting at the same time. Takes a lot of work and introspection (and a dash of pain) to unravel all that stuff. I'm still working on it, decades after making the realization. Worth it, though.
yes be angry , and some of those values will stay with you forever , if you rly did agree with them you gonna keep them , thats nto the problem , the problem the values that you didnt like but still had to folllow
Being articulate is not a matter of intelligence it is a matter of consciousness. The more evolved we become the more articulate we become also. There is nothing in what Teal says that you cannot say as well... in exactly the same way :)
Mindblowing information. I now understand completely why I have never felt complete joy and happiness in my life. I’m not being my authentic self. Thank you so much Teal. You are a beautiful soul. ♥️
I was that little girl. Kind, sensitive, emotional and loving. My mother was a hard German woman who hated all of those parts of me. My father was a loving protector, but he wasn't strong enough to handle her that he became an alcoholic. I've done a lot of healing and shadow work. I finally found the person who I really am. My mother and brother hate me now. My family thinks I'm crazy and wants nothing to do with me. I hated who I use to be. Sometimes she rears her ugly head. Thank you Teal for putting in words how I feel.
I was in distortion all my life. It is tough to align to core but worthy. I gave 40 years of my life to others, now I can give the rest to myself and the univers. Thank you for your beautiful sharing!❤️
Some humans have been forcibly put under such states of being unaware and not knowing how to free themselves from colonization and other cultures that might expose them to evil or corruption.
It's nice to know that you don't have to change who you are totally and that you need to only develop other parts of yourself. It makes it less daunting.
Amazing..in alignment with what you are saying, you explaining to me the distortion behind my own reasoning, I posted this on Facebook 3 hours ago: " Inner child work - I have been afraid of expressing my needs and wants since childhood, been feeding of breadcrumbs of emotional satisfaction. In my twenties I realised that it was easier for me to interact with strangers because it was liberating not to be confined in my own beliefs and expectations and even more the ones dear to me - their beliefs and expectations. This gave me the realization that I have been preferring to deal with one friend at a time, in social gatherings being withdrawn even though I'm not that introverted, but purely because I've been mirroring the person/situation/energy/my expectation of their expectation without having a solid core of my own. It has only been shown to me when thinking about gathering my friends for a party for example, where anxiety have arisen for judgement from my friends or that they would not like each other. I've been a mask of my belief of what I thought they needed/wanted/expect of me. Given me the "power" of a chameleon, even in changing my dialect. Now is the time I'm taking my own core seriously and become secure in my own essence. 2020 for me was already in the beginning of the year "building foundation". It now makes sense to me. Love and light to all!"
I resonate with this too! I've lived based on the external and acquired beliefs and patterns, with no clue who I really was. I've been going through so much change this year that I'm being more and more solid in my own truth. It's so liberating! It's time we shine our own unique and beautiful light. Peace and love to you 🌹💛🕊️☀️
Wow, you just made something click with me. I just realized by reading your comment on how my own social anxieties in larger gatherings is directly related to my inauthenticity, & why.
Let’s be aware she fallen at the last hurdle and has become victim to ego and hubris. She will realise this eventually - meanwhile y’all just sycophants making it worse. True gurus never say they are gurus, they utterly reject praise from others because ego death is core to enlightenment.
This makes so much sense. In reclaiming my lost parts, I've been singularly identifying with them and rejecting the learned/praised part, ending up just flipflopping and not feeling whole at all. But bringing BOTH in feels a lot better.
After so many years focusing on spiritual lessons, I think this video gets me so into the core wounds of childhood programming in a way I have never discovered. Thank you Teal. Great stuff. Life changing - really.
The middle of this video really knocked me for a loop. Long time follower, long time appreciator. Really wish I could afford to buy a few hours of your time but for now these continual breakthroughs keep happening. Thank you for working so hard.
I grew up like this and now I have Borderline Personality Disorder and absolutely no sense of self... I will try doing this parts work. Thank you again Teal Swan. I love your videos and would love to go to one of your events someday!
So eye opening, thanks for sharing your level of conscience with us! I think that our family's expectations usually want us no harm, but since they are based on another generation's beliefs they often do. However It could be good to be aware that their worries do represent challenges within society. Example: parents expect son to be heterossexual, son turns out to be gay. Though we live in a much more open society, homophoby remains a challenge. Or in the case of the hardwork: we still live in a society which praises hard grinding work. It seems to me that assuming our true selves must come accompanied with a lot of patience and some disposition to teach. (Sorry If I spelled something wrong.. english is not my first language)
Yes! I would actually go vote for Teal or Ralph Smart. People that have views that challenge the matrix we live in. Encouragement to explore our inner being rather then just the material plane. Peace & much love everyone ❤️
This is so true I remember my mom and dad put me in sports.. even though I’ve always been an artist, and they never helped to cultivate my talents or learn about me but wanted me to do what they felt was right for their own benefit.
You look really good in this video!! Ya what I've realized the hardest part of finding myself is being able to just be myself without trying to suppress myself in any way to make others comfortable.
How can ppl give this a thumbs down ? She’s I helping us...I don’t understand ppl like that but just want to say thank you 🙏🏻 teal and your team ....you guys rock
You might have been speaking just about me. However I realised, watching this, that both my parents were distorted just as much, if not more than I was. I used to blame them for everything but now I don't need to. Sometimes life brings you what you need when you need it. I can't thank you enough for this. Beautiful soul, as many have said
The synchronicity of this video confirms my inward journey that I’ve taken. The seeking of balance in my life has been a long path. Thank you Teal for sharing!
Honestly... this video was an eye-opener for me. Watched it a few days ago and ever since it feels like a heavy piece of my depression just fell away! Instead there is a sense of peace that wasn't there for a long time. There is so much gratitude for Teal and her team in my heart....! Thank you for doing all you're doing! It makes the world a better place, it truly does!
She's very good at what she does ...very adept ...very focused ...very intense ...very concentrated ...so powerful ...I can FEEL HER FROM HERE ...ILL BE PRAYING TO YOU GODDESS
Teal swan is just not the person who you should count on to guide you to raise your consciousness/vibration. She’s a juvenile teacher at best, someone that can introduce a youth to such concepts but not suitable for those of us who are matured over the age of 20. IMO
If anyone ever talks bad about you, Teal, I got your back. Thanks for being an awesome long distance friend even though you probably don't know who I am. 🥰
Teal what you've done for humanity is indescribable, endless, and forever. Your teaching style Is like none other, its combination of many disciplines makes it practical, useful , and understandable. You've broken the parameters of psychology with your style. Today's episode was so well said, very easy to understand and was so badly needed right now. Thank you for all you do and have done to help others. Blees you Teal
This is really hard to watch, however greatly appreciated. Makes me sad and makes my stomach sick. Everyday working on integration because of my childhood. I am appreciative of people that come into my life like you Teal. Thank you, for all you do.. 🙏💚
"One pattern that is a part of this socialization process, hid your truth in a way that conditions to fight to keep your truth hidden. It is a pattern of development and praise." SO true.
the culture of punishment stops any creativity they find a threat. thank you on the back pain video and appearing with Ralph over the years. Thank you for the honesty that we dont have to say happiness, peace and joy. the last 25 years were nothing but challenges "to defend the distortions," its nothing short of a mental prison. to all reading you are valued, loved and today is a brand new day.
Watched this early today and then watched the parts work video. Then worked with parts of myself I’d been struggling with a lot the past few days, and it was so, so helpful. Perfect timing, thank you Teal 🤍
Thank you Teal!!! What great dot connecting for me - after Fukushima you observed that the Japanese culture is the most suppressed culture worldwide. I recently had a falling out with a friend from Fukushima who was there at the time of the hit. I call it the elder chair syndrome: They need to be like an interrogator.They need to enlist you into mental energy, and challenge, discount the value I place with feeling my heart. Saying "I care how I feel" helped me to see how I had grown up cold hearted and mean spirited.. Another recent reflection was Taj Mahal singing on Playing For Change, "I don't talk Japanese and I don't eat baloney."He must be tuning into the suppression/judgement/hiding in the Japanese mind.Suicide and elder death care (exposing the parent on the mountain) are very much part of the culture. They have been telling me for a long time,"Don't get angry," as if that were the problem. I really need to take care of my fear when I am around this programming.. Softening to listen to fear's unwillingness to express helps unwind my reptilian anti-loving-life aspect.
I'm an architect and I was raised to be a perfectionist by rejecting mistakes, doing and being wrong Imagine how can any one in any field that is based on creativity, to create while being a perfectionist! You can't Create if you can't make a single mistake! I had to be stuck to start resolving this issue before I can move forward with my career.. Thank you teal 💌
💖 Thank you Teal. Without recognizing these truths we cannot understand, grow, and change the brainwashing. Now I know why I have spent my many years of life being a people pleaser. I knew that my people pleasing personality was trauma related and that it was a way of seeking acceptance, safety, and most hopefully love but I did not know these deeper psychological reasons.
Thanks for another great video! Our personality is just an amalgamation of all the parts/moments in life where we felt safe, so well said. But if we take those moments of fear, unsettledness, uncertainty, those are the moment where we can rise above that personality perception and become even stronger, wiser, healthier versions of ourself. Thanks for sharing!
Video request: Please could you make a video on getting into relationships when your safety has previously only been in the 'therapist' role for people? You briefly discussed it in the last online synch workshop, where you explained setting clear boundaries of when you're in which 'mode', and that was really helpful but it also made me realise just how lost I feel with it. Practical examples are really helpful for me with understanding how to navigate it, so a guide of sorts would be appreciated. Thank you.
8:12 spot on. Parents have these programs that try to replicate itself even to their grandchildren. Sometimes defiance is a good thing coz hacks this programming 💪. You're more smarter than the other psychologists I've come across.
“True grit?“ That’s a rather simplistic assessment. The world has teeth, or rather rough skin; she’s going to develop a callous whether she’s trained to have one or not, my lovely Balrog
Teal, this is such an important teaching. I have just started learning about The Enneagram, and your teaching is very much in alignment to the teaching of the enneagram. If only we were tought this in school. So much suffering would not appear if we knew, that our personality or ego structure is just a survival mechanism, and that we are so much more - and that we are born whole. Thank you Teal❤️
And as I do this work and balance myself into the path of realization I see many, almost everyone, fall by the wayside. Codependency, addiction, fear, have all been friends of mine. Shades of them are still there but this time I know when they're present and trying to influence me. This time I'm not afraid to let it go. Thank you Teal.
Ive actually been opposite because of immediate environmental surroundings. Ive seen the damage of what you discuss by those around me. I've always embraced self even through the face of humility and humbleness. There are pros and cons to both sides. But equally important to note is that life is a journey and through each step one learns and realizes "self" is unique and embracing/getting to know self becomes ones mission.
Amazing, . Identified with the example about the man brought up to be selfless and put others first, and therefore were not encouraged to have interests as this was seen as selfish, as an adult you only feel good when helping others and struggle to enjoy yourself in other ways. Great insight.
This is fascinating. Lilith has trained me to not hide anything, and not care what anyone thinks. I feel completely safe and fulfilled. So if I am grasping this correctly, my personality is more real than the vast majority of people. Yet people still keep insisting I am not real. That seems incredibly ironic.
Some parents think that children need to be ‘raised’. No they need to be guided and nurtured.
This is something I have always said.
If parents realized this, I think less people would become parents because guiding takes much more time and sacrifice than to just raise.
This is an intergenerational cycle of parenting handed down from generation to generation to raise children or guide and mentor them into fully expressing their unique selves as they grow. My siblings and I did manage to break the cycle of violent physical abuse but those who had partners who had parents who accepted and nourished them were very helpful in this regard to parenting but those who did not have partners from this parenting style struggled or could not use parenting skills they had no experience of.
@@dianaboughner7977 You are a wise woman Diana. I know breaking the cicle is not easy when you fo not have that model in your family. You have to start a new way out of your connection with your inner self. And we know starting new ways is always difficult.
However, as you say, our parents were also victims from their parents, and did their best to provide their children with those things they considered necessary to grow. We must be thankful no matter how hurtful this may have been to us. Actually those 'good things' they did for us gave us the strength to overcome our shadow.
Mostly in asia
You don't raise humans you raise cattle ;)
Funny thing is, when you wake up and start to be more yourself the people in your circle will be upset by it. My mother for example, she keep saying I'm acting strange, that I was never like these before ( having my on opinion, don't accepting everything my family says as truth, choosing my on path, doing my on things... ). I realize that the person I was before was not me, that person existed just to please her family and loved ones. The real me is way different, and people usually dont like that. They dont like original people, the ones that choose to follow their unique path instead of following the predictable script. But I feel better then ever now, being the real me. And I dont feel guilt for let other people expectations down anymore.
So how does upsetting others who may do things against you better in this case?
Yesss! It's like they throw tantrums when they can't feed off of your distress anymore.
Keep shining, you are doing great! xo
Yessss!! Be yourself! .
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If you live with your family,u might want to move out,if u are of age,that way you don't have to have arguments with anyone about anything,and you can have your space,and so can they!
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Sending you love
I have always been the black sheep in my family. They never understood my feelings, I know they love me but..... Then, I got married to man who is as crazy as I am and is part of all my craziness. I have a lovely family now which includes my husband, my son and me.
@@mayadeepak5150 That is so awesome 💕💕💕
To whoever is reading this you are a beautiful soul 🌼❤️
As are you 💞
👍
@Em Chi lighten up, you stiff
So are u,thankyou
You are beautiful soul too! Xo
I can't recall being praised for anything in childhood, only criticised
It's not the worst way to be raised really. This style of parenting made me a perfectionist with my photography and I was working at a professional level at a very young age because of it. Had my mom said 'good job, this looks great' to my earlier works I wouldn't have continued trying to get everything as perfect as possible. Her lack of praise and feedback had me feeling like my work could always get better, and it did.
It can be hard coming up with these answers for sure. Try to compare and contrast your childhood with lives of people you knew or even people from other cultures. Another thing you can try is observe what your parents or caregivers did habitually. For example, in our house everyone read books. I was raised to read lots of books, and they had to be serious classics. I wasn't really praised for it out loud, it was just "the norm". (And this wasn't how it was in some of my friends' houses.) Try looking for "the norm" in your childhood life.
Then it is time to praise yourself again! 💪🏼 praising yourself is the most important
*HUMANITY IS RISING*
To what end?
@@michaeldanielson3098 Lets find out :)
Yessss!
People never want to brake reality down into the cellular or even atomic level. I love and appreciate your content❤🙏
Thank you old master.
People are scared of what the truth might be!
@@manufacturedreality8706 xD
Break* but ily
@@alexc2265 They could be from a non-English-speaking country where it's not the first language there. :) I'm proud of how well he/she has done.
“Your personality is an amalgamation of the parts of you that kept you safe”
I kind of knew that before in regards to thinking about myself , but it didn’t really click into place until now that it can be used for thinking about/reading other people! I’ll keep this in mind more while interacting with others
Well this is divine timing as usual from Teal!
I was at my friends house a few days ago for a birthday party and we got talking about Spirituality and religion. I was obviously coming from the spiritual side, whereas they were coming from the religious side.
I was just thinking literally for most of today how our personalities and beliefs are just constructs; some of that being passed down by our parents.
I encourage all to seek out your inner divine truth.....and then run with it! Be aligned to the best version of yourself!
Another video for the vault, Teal!
God, I'm realizing that I'm angry at my parents because I feel like I'm under their influence... I've integrated their values so deeply I have no idea who I am...
Richard Grannon the Spartan Life Coach is good too. Teal is so real, so she's spectacular.
Real deep though
Been there! Very liberating and very daunting at the same time. Takes a lot of work and introspection (and a dash of pain) to unravel all that stuff. I'm still working on it, decades after making the realization. Worth it, though.
yes be angry , and some of those values will stay with you forever , if you rly did agree with them you gonna keep them , thats nto the problem , the problem the values that you didnt like but still had to folllow
@@MichaelEarthOsada yeaaaa high5 i love richard too
I feel like I always knew this on some level but not smart enough to explain it so elegantly like you have Teal! Thank you
"Not smart enough" - please remove that phrase from your self-talk dictionary pronto!!! ❤
thats it!
Being articulate is not a matter of intelligence it is a matter of consciousness. The more evolved we become the more articulate we become also. There is nothing in what Teal says that you cannot say as well... in exactly the same way :)
Purrrrr....Meow
@@juliedavis168 so you are saying to have less times where your at a loss of words to be more aware?
WOW YOU LOOK BEAUTIFUL! great choice of top :)
If leaders were like Teal, this world would be a better place.
Maybe it's time we trained, master our skills, unite and fight to rid earth from evil.
@multorumunumabuse. Manipulation. Lies. Control over others. All for a big egotistical Sence of self importance over life and the universe.
Man I’m seriously thinking being yourself is the sweetest thing in life, sharing yourself the second...
Yes so true! I never loved myself and especially speaking my truth. But when you make videos and dare to show yourself, the world opens
Yesss ☺ can't think of anything sweeter 💓
Mindblowing information. I now understand completely why I have never felt complete joy and happiness in my life. I’m not being my authentic self. Thank you so much Teal. You are a beautiful soul. ♥️
Most settler states/countries are rat societies. They only perceive and are aware of materialism. And Chase happiness and pleasures.
Like the buddy under the tree. I sat today and meditated. Freeing myself from this cycle/loop.
I was that little girl. Kind, sensitive, emotional and loving. My mother was a hard German woman who hated all of those parts of me. My father was a loving protector, but he wasn't strong enough to handle her that he became an alcoholic. I've done a lot of healing and shadow work. I finally found the person who I really am. My mother and brother hate me now. My family thinks I'm crazy and wants nothing to do with me. I hated who I use to be. Sometimes she rears her ugly head. Thank you Teal for putting in words how I feel.
I praise you!! What an important work you have been doing.
I accidentally ended up here and totally amazed how wise you are. You are an eyeopener. ❤️
I was in distortion all my life. It is tough to align to core but worthy. I gave 40 years of my life to others, now I can give the rest to myself and the univers. Thank you for your beautiful sharing!❤️
This is as good or better than ridiculously expensive therapy sessions. Brilliant work yes thanks agree with everything in this video 👍
Personality is just made up of belief that you see as the truth. Change your beliefs and you change your personality. Much love to everyone🙌🏻💚
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But alot of beliefs i hold dear to my heart....
Magic mushrooms are good therapy foro the soul.
Some humans have been forcibly put under such states of being unaware and not knowing how to free themselves from colonization and other cultures that might expose them to evil or corruption.
It all takes place in the internal dialogue. Be mindful.
It's nice to know that you don't have to change who you are totally and that you need to only develop other parts of yourself. It makes it less daunting.
Amazing..in alignment with what you are saying, you explaining to me the distortion behind my own reasoning, I posted this on Facebook 3 hours ago:
" Inner child work - I have been afraid of expressing my needs and wants since childhood, been feeding of breadcrumbs of emotional satisfaction. In my twenties I realised that it was easier for me to interact with strangers because it was liberating not to be confined in my own beliefs and expectations and even more the ones dear to me - their beliefs and expectations.
This gave me the realization that I have been preferring to deal with one friend at a time, in social gatherings being withdrawn even though I'm not that introverted, but purely because I've been mirroring the person/situation/energy/my expectation of their expectation without having a solid core of my own.
It has only been shown to me when thinking about gathering my friends for a party for example, where anxiety have arisen for judgement from my friends or that they would not like each other.
I've been a mask of my belief of what I thought they needed/wanted/expect of me. Given me the "power" of a chameleon, even in changing my dialect.
Now is the time I'm taking my own core seriously and become secure in my own essence. 2020 for me was already in the beginning of the year "building foundation". It now makes sense to me.
Love and light to all!"
thank you
I resonate with this too! I've lived based on the external and acquired beliefs and patterns, with no clue who I really was. I've been going through so much change this year that I'm being more and more solid in my own truth. It's so liberating! It's time we shine our own unique and beautiful light. Peace and love to you 🌹💛🕊️☀️
Wow, you just made something click with me. I just realized by reading your comment on how my own social anxieties in larger gatherings is directly related to my inauthenticity, & why.
Teal Swan is like the substitute teacher that everyone is excited about 💛🙌🏼
Let’s take a moment to admire Teal’s beauty 🌼
Let’s be aware she fallen at the last hurdle and has become victim to ego and hubris. She will realise this eventually - meanwhile y’all just sycophants making it worse. True gurus never say they are gurus, they utterly reject praise from others because ego death is core to enlightenment.
@@camogrrl seems like a pretty rigid way of looking at “gurus”
People are waking up, one love, let's start openly talking about this stuff and taking action ✊🏿✊🏻
NATIVES the world over have know truth. Settlers,, the lost ones seeking to settle and disrespect natives laws have twisted this truth.
Settlers, are you lost?
Serendipity at its best🙏 You're literally changing my life every time I click on any of your content 🙏
"Each being comes into life as a unique expression of source consciousness"...Teal Swan 💙
This makes so much sense. In reclaiming my lost parts, I've been singularly identifying with them and rejecting the learned/praised part, ending up just flipflopping and not feeling whole at all. But bringing BOTH in feels a lot better.
I’m cryyyiiinnnggggg.....the distortion has been sooo real!!!! I am a bubbly feminine creature! I’m unique and more self involved! Ahhh thank you!!!!
After so many years focusing on spiritual lessons, I think this video gets me so into the core wounds of childhood programming in a way I have never discovered. Thank you Teal. Great stuff. Life changing - really.
The middle of this video really knocked me for a loop. Long time follower, long time appreciator. Really wish I could afford to buy a few hours of your time but for now these continual breakthroughs keep happening. Thank you for working so hard.
I grew up like this and now I have Borderline Personality Disorder and absolutely no sense of self... I will try doing this parts work. Thank you again Teal Swan. I love your videos and would love to go to one of your events someday!
So you have Waken up to what your culture actually is. Don't stop there. Learn the secrets of the universe!
So eye opening, thanks for sharing your level of conscience with us!
I think that our family's expectations usually want us no harm, but since they are based on another generation's beliefs they often do. However It could be good to be aware that their worries do represent challenges within society. Example: parents expect son to be heterossexual, son turns out to be gay. Though we live in a much more open society, homophoby remains a challenge. Or in the case of the hardwork: we still live in a society which praises hard grinding work. It seems to me that assuming our true selves must come accompanied with a lot of patience and some disposition to teach.
(Sorry If I spelled something wrong.. english is not my first language)
Thanks for the extra examples, makes me feel empathy instead of anger xx
"The socialization process which parenting is the core of" 👏👏👏👏
Teal for president 🙌🏽
Wow! What a difference that would make!
Yes! I would actually go vote for Teal or Ralph Smart. People that have views that challenge the matrix we live in. Encouragement to explore our inner being rather then just the material plane. Peace & much love everyone ❤️
She will drain the swan at capitol hill... I mean drain it. lol
President of the Department of Double Penetration. 🥒🥒
YESSSS LETS TRY TO MANIFEST THIS
Dear TEAL you kept it real as always. Your lesson should been thought at school. That’s why the 98% of us get stuck along the way in life 💯❤️
Meanwhile the racist in Florida act despecable and I humane knowing they am be destroyed any second.
Thank you Teal! Great insight! You are appreciated here in MN
just cried after the end of the video . such a massive video it was . loved it . living in Iran sucks but spirituality makes me breath . thanks teal .
This is so true I remember my mom and dad put me in sports.. even though I’ve always been an artist, and they never helped to cultivate my talents or learn about me but wanted me to do what they felt was right for their own benefit.
You look really good in this video!!
Ya what I've realized the hardest part of finding myself is being able to just be myself without trying to suppress myself in any way to make others comfortable.
How can ppl give this a thumbs down ? She’s I helping us...I don’t understand ppl like that but just want to say thank you 🙏🏻 teal and your team ....you guys rock
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Blows my mind how on point she is. Been to multiple counsellors and no one makes as much sense as Teal does. Love it.
You might have been speaking just about me. However I realised, watching this, that both my parents were distorted just as much, if not more than I was. I used to blame them for everything but now I don't need to. Sometimes life brings you what you need when you need it. I can't thank you enough for this. Beautiful soul, as many have said
The synchronicity of this video confirms my inward journey that I’ve taken. The seeking of balance in my life has been a long path. Thank you Teal for sharing!
Honestly... this video was an eye-opener for me. Watched it a few days ago and ever since it feels like a heavy piece of my depression just fell away! Instead there is a sense of peace that wasn't there for a long time. There is so much gratitude for Teal and her team in my heart....! Thank you for doing all you're doing! It makes the world a better place, it truly does!
I send so much love to you. I can’t thank you enough for just being yourself.
She's very good at what she does ...very adept ...very focused ...very intense ...very concentrated ...so powerful ...I can FEEL HER FROM HERE ...ILL BE PRAYING TO YOU GODDESS
You get me. Thanks Teal, I'm working on being a better, more authentic, person.
Anyone who has kids knows they need loving boundaries and discipline.Too many parents ignore that responsibility and it's incredibly damaging to kids.
Teal swan is just not the person who you should count on to guide you to raise your consciousness/vibration. She’s a juvenile teacher at best, someone that can introduce a youth to such concepts but not suitable for those of us who are matured over the age of 20. IMO
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Why do you say that? Please elaborate further.
These 18 mins felt genius! That was such a difficult to explain concept you tackled so beautifully 💞! Love n respect to you! ❤️
If anyone ever talks bad about you, Teal, I got your back. Thanks for being an awesome long distance friend even though you probably don't know who I am. 🥰
thanks for the teachings Teal. have a great day always. peace be upon you always
Teal what you've done for humanity is indescribable, endless, and forever. Your teaching style Is like none other, its combination of many disciplines makes it practical, useful , and understandable. You've broken the parameters of psychology with your style. Today's episode was so well said, very easy to understand and was so badly needed right now. Thank you for all you do and have done to help others. Blees you Teal
This is really hard to watch, however greatly appreciated. Makes me sad and makes my stomach sick. Everyday working on integration because of my childhood. I am appreciative of people that come into my life like you Teal. Thank you, for all you do.. 🙏💚
This is exactly who I am and now I'm trying to heal from the distorted traits I have grown up with. Thank you much Teal.
Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/distortion-the-pattern-that-hid-the-truth-of-you-r412/
"One pattern that is a part of this socialization process, hid your truth in a way that conditions to fight to keep your truth hidden. It is a pattern of development and praise." SO true.
It’s at 28 years old that I realize I don’t know who I really am...
I found out at 50 yrs old!
Wow what a great video. I am working on this for several years now and have never heard it said this beautiful and clear.
the culture of punishment stops any creativity they find a threat. thank you on the back pain video and appearing with Ralph over the years. Thank you for the honesty that we dont have to say happiness, peace and joy. the last 25 years were nothing but challenges "to defend the distortions," its nothing short of a mental prison. to all reading you are valued, loved and today is a brand new day.
I’m a helper. Oh my gosh. There’s revelation about me in most of your videos.
Watched this early today and then watched the parts work video. Then worked with parts of myself I’d been struggling with a lot the past few days, and it was so, so helpful. Perfect timing, thank you Teal 🤍
It's because we have been told who we are, what to think, what to believe, and given our dreams to keep us asleep!
So sad, really!
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Glad that some of us,can see behold that
This is definitely a difficult pill to swallow. Great job 👍
Beautiful colors and light in this video ;)
You mean, this yellow color 😁
@@velikimilos And Teal :p
Love all of Teal's videos...We really need this videos translated into Spanish so we can share them to more people!!
Would be of good help if you find free time to translate yourself and help others 🙂
Thank you Teal!!! What great dot connecting for me - after Fukushima you observed that the Japanese culture is the most suppressed culture worldwide. I recently had a falling out with a friend from Fukushima who was there at the time of the hit. I call it the elder chair syndrome: They need to be like an interrogator.They need to enlist you into mental energy, and challenge, discount the value I place with feeling my heart. Saying "I care how I feel" helped me to see how I had grown up cold hearted and mean spirited.. Another recent reflection was Taj Mahal singing on Playing For Change, "I don't talk Japanese and I don't eat baloney."He must be tuning into the suppression/judgement/hiding in the Japanese mind.Suicide and elder death care (exposing the parent on the mountain) are very much part of the culture. They have been telling me for a long time,"Don't get angry," as if that were the problem. I really need to take care of my fear when I am around this programming.. Softening to listen to fear's unwillingness to express helps unwind my reptilian anti-loving-life aspect.
I'm an architect and I was raised to be a perfectionist by rejecting mistakes, doing and being wrong
Imagine how can any one in any field that is based on creativity, to create while being a perfectionist!
You can't Create if you can't make a single mistake!
I had to be stuck to start resolving this issue before I can move forward with my career..
Thank you teal 💌
That's very interesting. Complicated.
Thank you.
kick ass, as always! you know its truth when you're like "hell yeah" after every sentence. thank you for the clariity
Wow Teal! Realty is: the source is your heart! and i love being really connected with you.
💖 Thank you Teal. Without recognizing these truths we cannot understand, grow, and change the brainwashing. Now I know why I have spent my many years of life being a people pleaser. I knew that my people pleasing personality was trauma related and that it was a way of seeking acceptance, safety, and most hopefully love but I did not know these deeper psychological reasons.
Thank you these kind of truth is liberating and sets me in a good vibration....so Thank You Teal Swan....😘
Thank u for putting these interesting thoughts into elegant helping words
Thanks for that, I touch on & listened to your vid at the precise right time, Im in the process of deep diving into exactly what you spoke about.
Thanks for another great video! Our personality is just an amalgamation of all the parts/moments in life where we felt safe, so well said. But if we take those moments of fear, unsettledness, uncertainty, those are the moment where we can rise above that personality perception and become even stronger, wiser, healthier versions of ourself. Thanks for sharing!
Interesting...you are much more relaxed/grounded than usual.
Wow! This is so interesting! I've only just found your channel. I've subscribed 😍💗
You are loterally describing my life omg
My dad is a cowboy and I was sensitive and bubbly and seen as weak and I have DID omg..
Video request:
Please could you make a video on getting into relationships when your safety has previously only been in the 'therapist' role for people? You briefly discussed it in the last online synch workshop, where you explained setting clear boundaries of when you're in which 'mode', and that was really helpful but it also made me realise just how lost I feel with it. Practical examples are really helpful for me with understanding how to navigate it, so a guide of sorts would be appreciated. Thank you.
Pay attention to outgoing flow and incoming flow. Or what you give vs what you receive.
8:12 spot on. Parents have these programs that try to replicate itself even to their grandchildren. Sometimes defiance is a good thing coz hacks this programming 💪. You're more smarter than the other psychologists I've come across.
I’m so thankful for you and your teachings, Teal! Thank you so much🙏🏼❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom 🙏🏻 love your ability to explain and give examples. learns a lot 🤗
Helping parents is the instrument of teaching kids, isn't it? It is not about helping, we all know the best help is don't get in the way.
Glad I found you at young age.
Sameeeee🌺
How old are you?
@@sanny-nk9re I knew there would be such reply. I can say I'm just a teen. It's nice to know things from her perspective at this age.
I found you when I was 19 in 2014 :’)
I regret now not being able to have support when I was younger. Mad now bc I'm suicidal and cant get better.
I love her beyond measure ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you teal
wonderful to see you again, Teal
“True grit?“ That’s a rather simplistic assessment. The world has teeth, or rather rough skin; she’s going to develop a callous whether she’s trained to have one or not, my lovely Balrog
Teal, this is such an important teaching. I have just started learning about The Enneagram, and your teaching is very much in alignment to the teaching of the enneagram. If only we were tought this in school. So much suffering would not appear if we knew, that our personality or ego structure is just a survival mechanism, and that we are so much more - and that we are born whole. Thank you Teal❤️
She's so POWERFUL!!!!
EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. THANK YOU so much Teal. Thank you 🖤
Beautiful as always, Teal.
Sidenote- Teal looks so radiant 😮😍
And as I do this work and balance myself into the path of realization I see many, almost everyone, fall by the wayside. Codependency, addiction, fear, have all been friends of mine. Shades of them are still there but this time I know when they're present and trying to influence me. This time I'm not afraid to let it go. Thank you Teal.
We love you Teal. Thanks
sometimes we are not criticized for doing something wrong, we are criticized for doing things differently
Ive actually been opposite because of immediate environmental surroundings. Ive seen the damage of what you discuss by those around me. I've always embraced self even through the face of humility and humbleness.
There are pros and cons to both sides. But equally important to note is that life is a journey and through each step one learns and realizes "self" is unique and embracing/getting to know self becomes ones mission.
Amazing, . Identified with the example about the man brought up to be selfless and put others first, and therefore were not encouraged to have interests as this was seen as selfish, as an adult you only feel good when helping others and struggle to enjoy yourself in other ways. Great insight.
Awesome insight Teal !!! Thank you so much!!! 👌👌👌🙏🙏🙏
What a GREAT video. Peace, Love and Harmony.
This is fascinating. Lilith has trained me to not hide anything, and not care what anyone thinks. I feel completely safe and fulfilled. So if I am grasping this correctly, my personality is more real than the vast majority of people. Yet people still keep insisting I am not real. That seems incredibly ironic.
Hey Teal! I love these concepts. I think it would be great to see these steps (and advice in your other videos) put in workbook format. Thank you ❤️