I'm sorry Sis sounds like she needs to do some more healing before she dates ANYBODY! I understand she's fed up...but her frequency is giving low vibration. All this cussing, anger, and what I don't want is.... over and over again. What do you think you're going to attract???
You can cuss and all that being healed and state what you want. Doesn’t make you any less healed or uneducated. Women are tired of it. At this stage she, I, and many other women refuse to accept less. It’s 2024. Men need to do better.
You can tell she is REALLY fed up. I get it. However, I think she will turn off even Euro men with her delivery. She needs some therapy for her anger. That is all.
After years of dating trash Black men that SHE chose, she blames ALL Black men!! This is typical - this woman clearly is too old to make demands on men. The ONLY good decision she made, is that she's NOT a baby mama - outside of that... she's too old, clearly past age 40, past her prime, angry, and needs therapy.
I used to believe in that type of attraction concept until a therapist broke it down for me. All kinds of people can be attracted to you, for better or for worse. But the experiences you get is a function of who you let in. You will choose at your level and frequency... emotionally, spritually, mentally etc. A really great guy could pursue you and you'll reject him because you are not at his emotional level due to past trauma or seeking excitement in roller coaster relationships that pass your chemistry checkbox... That understanding was empowering. It is what you choose. You have control over that.
All women of all races experience bad men. A bad man is a bad man, no matter the race. Talk to any single, miserable, bitter woman of any race (other than Black) and i bet they have the same stories as any black woman.
One of my aunts had a white boyfriend who beat the brakes off of her, and she had to get a restraining order against him. Even after that, she didn't say most white men were domestic abusers. She just said that one white guy was crazy.
After years of dating trash Black men that SHE chose, she blames ALL Black men!! This is typical - this woman clearly is too old to make demands on men. The ONLY good decision she made, is that she's NOT a baby mama - outside of that... she's too old, clearly past age 40, past her prime, angry, and needs therapy.
Her perspective represents a gross minority at best! She's clearly the problem.... Over 80% of black men do not fall into this category and there are actual stats to back that up! She's overweight, average and older looking than she claims with a poor disposition! She's delusional about her options and bitter because of it. That's a her problem!
Sadly I think that this is what dealing with BM turns many BW into, very hurt, angry and bitter women. To me this is what they mean by BW being masculine, but what they won’t admit is it’s their behaviors that have turned blk woman into this. I think this woman has been very hurt by probably every black male that she has ever loved and it has turned her very angry and bitter, hurt and masculine and I think black men have done that to a lot of black women
@@PrettyBones-ho4rq I understand that however many women need to be accountable for the wrong choices they made as well. These men didn't pop out of thin air..these women ignored red flags and chose the wrong men. It's ridiculous to lump all black men into one raggedy category. It's no different than racist White folks saying all black people are ghetto,ignorant thugs on welfare. Especially when yheir race is the largest recipient of government benefits but that's a whole other conversation. There's bad apples in ever race all over the world. Many women need to CHOOSE BETTER. All these good, respectful, honorable and faithful black men out here...
I now know why people tell me to stop cussing it is not feminine and empowering. It takes away from the goodness. Damn! Watching this made me see how others see me it is definitely low vibrational energy. 😢
cussing out is a sign of insecurity, this woman is highly insecure and will never attracts a decent man, EVER, you can share your experience without cussing every second, especially for a woman, valid for men too.
@@rosewatersweetteaNo. Men pump and dump women they don't want. A man will be limited by his own finances and what the woman he is with wants. A woman working is not a sign a man doesn't really want her.
@@robertwright4220that her point... She's tired of men asking what do women have to bring. Men just need to be men and stop looking for the other half of the table.. She's not wrong for a traditional relationship.
A lot of women clearly do not understand what the proverbial ‘table’ truly represents. This is likely why most of you (or the caller) will never have a certain type of man.
@@Star0920 If you want to be taken care of you need to present well and speak with care. Cussing is not attractive. You can let the crazy side show after he commits. Cussing isn’t lady like. You need to be soft to live a soft life.
@@QueenKurantsimamaybe you’re rude talking about her hair!!! Her hair is fine I’m looking at her face. Just like you’re entitled to your opinion so am I!!!❤
she doesn't want to move to a racist country then she names West Africa....as racist? Then she said no third world racist country....so i guess she is ok with a "first world" racist country. Good luck with whatever man gets with her.
She has a continued self-love and healing journey. Yes, but she’s on a path to knowing what she wants. She just has to continue to make the choices that are right for her and not for anyone else.💗👁️
I like this generation of black women who are assertive and know what they want the lifestyle they deserve I mean she worked hard and why would she want to be BOB THE BUILDER❤
Bob the Builder is a unionized carpenter making $200,000+ in Toronto’s real estate boom… And Joe the Plumber’s doing even better than him! Problem is, this woman’s been dating Jamal the Hustler and D’Shawn the Wasteman for far too long… then generalizing her experience to all Black men 🫤
After years of dating trash Black men that SHE chose, she blames ALL Black men!! This is typical - this woman clearly is too old to make demands on men. The ONLY good decision she made, is that she's NOT a baby mama - outside of that... she's too old, clearly past age 40, past her prime, angry, and needs therapy.
Thank You! I will say that Ashley asked for further context, but it demonstrates her issues that she went off on a tangent! She exposed herself! I have a question for you? if no 50/50 then why does she need someone who makes at least what she makes? What does any man get for being with an overweight, average/older looking than her age, female with a generally poor disposition? She works a full-time job, makes 80k per year but has aversions to cooking or giving her man a massage and claims she wants a soft life but changers her own tires....
@@robertwright4220 I am Jamaican and was disgusted by this woman's attitude... toward my Jamaican and African Kings .....she has been dealing with Nugs Nugs...Pookies . She is masculine...not fit...not friendly and definitely...not feminine..... no real man with anything will deal with the audacity of this woman...buy a dog and.....
I agree. Just like we don’t like when black men put black Women down when stating their preferences. It’s unnecessary but I understand where she’s coming from. As others have stated, she needs to heal.
I do not think this went left. This went right. Women are starting to wake up about going where they are appreciated, uplifted, supported, desired and loved.
She will be single forever She has a bad attitude and a nasty mouth like if you don’t have respect for yourself, at least have respect for somebody else’s show unacceptable and why would she think another race wants another race problems she the problem it says alot about her character to shit on all black men because you chose the worst of the worst 😂
That was nonsense and so is this comment. We are not all the same. There are some of us who look forward to giving a woman a soft life. Who is signing up to care for this woman or her kind?
We must be sensrive toward the whole group of those that arent the least bit sensitive to us huh 🤧i love how she unappollegetiallly spoke her piece 🤷♀️
Lucey said she not with the bs and I completely understand. There are men out here that wanna do the bare minimum, complain about paying as a form of gaslighting, and wanting to be coddled. I wonder what’s her zodiac sign lol.
She's the bare minimum. I can't imagine putting any work to be with a woman like that. This is the type of woman a man settles for getting sex with because he doesn't want to improve himself.
So why give them your time and energy? Women are making these CHOICES and are upset with the outcomes. Time to stop trying to change people into what we want them to be, especially when dating. What’s the point? Just move on
The way she was talking you woulda thought there wasn't dusty unfaithful white men out here. It's all theoretical even the dusty white guys aren't checking for her.
classy is letting a potty mouth come on her show and even crack racist jokes about voodoo all while saying wyte men have to be sensitive to her experiences dealing with sexism and racism? nothing classy about that.
If you're tired, then it is time to go through a healing process, not seek a relationship right now. The new person will just trigger something in you, and you might find yourself putting your hands on him. Get somewhere and heal first.
@@vincentvegas7831 That is the best way to explain it. I didn't think about that, but she is about to blow. Get somewhere and heal. I'm in my healing season right now. This is something I should have done in 1997. I'm doing it now. Hope you are doing well too!
Some softness in her case would go a long way. There are plenty of great men in Toronto…. BUT I can see where her challenges lay with finding one. It’s clear she’s hurting 😢
I love her delivery. Life is not pretty. When you can unapologetically articulate your wants and needs that’s attractive af. She won’t settle and she will be happy for it.
you really think a euro man worth anything saw this video and thought it was attractive af? its not that she wont settle. its that the men she want wont settle for her
Her energy is very aggressive and off putting. I wish her well but I don’t see any good man wanting to deal with this. There’s a fine line between knowing what you want and expressing your desires and this. It’s not the message, it’s the the delivery
As soon as she said “I’m black I can’t be racist” I she is not the type of woman I wouldn’t want to deal with. Entitled and aggressive. Want work and pocket all of your money while I have to pay for everything will never make sense to me.
I appreciate that she is open to dating men who don’t look like her. She is not with the crap and is tired. There is nothing like knowing what you want.
look where "knowing what she want" got her? she needs therapy. what bm who value himself would want to date this? would you have the male family members in your family date this woman?
Ummm, this woman is soooo hurt - all that masculine energy will get her just what she’s been getting. Which man of value in his right mind wants to be in the presence of a women that speaks in this manner 🤦♀️.
Normally I would disagree and say she should speak her mind, but I agree 100%. There’s a way to say what you want without being off putting and both men and women that have that toxic delivery style would be a turn off. She literally doesn’t like much and has a very narrow scope. No one wants to entertain someone who’s pissed off at the world.
@@emmanueldurotoye3071men have been acting even worse and destroying things and people's lives. Allow women to vent and call you out. Kangs of 5050 but want submission
@@emmanueldurotoye3071 That's true. They would also call the man a self-hater, and say he hates his mother. All of these ridiculous name calling, shaming tactics if he were to say that he's tired of dating black women. It's fascinating to me how the majority of other races of people don't quickly resort to canceling out their entire race just because they had a few bad experiences with people within their race that they CHOSE to date and let into their lives. Black Americans particularly are some of the most weak minded blacks I've encountered unfortunately.
The saddest thing is: Ashley couldn’t even be honest with that lady. I feel bad for her, because the most honest thing she will hear will come from the comment section…. Imagine that!
May be hard to hear, but what she is saying is facts! There’s tons of black women who have made videos about how challenging it is to date in our community.
What kind of man would want to take care of her and put a child in her. She seems bipolar. She said, she never dealt with these issues, she just heard of other women's complaints.
@brittanyb5942 Well she need to be honest about it 1st, then seek some counseling, and heal, then let it go. Grouping a whole race of men (her own men) into this degenerate category is just bitter unhealed trauma TALKING.
I understand and agree with everything she said about not wanting to date BM, but she sounds like she needs to heal from the drama she went through with BM before she dates other races of men.
Well I personally see everyone as a individual, I was talking to my coworker about this cuz she brought up how her blk husband used to beat her until she screamed and cried and threw up but she stayed with him out of love , eventually he stopped with the assaults and embraced her as his loyal wife but she said those beginning years of her marriage was tough and she almost lost her twin girls cuz of the beatings , I told her she’s a strong person cuz there’s no way I could coddle and make dinner for somone who’s hurting me , I guess it’s all just about what type of woman it is , maybe she just has childhood attachment issues is why she clings to a man who showed her who he was at the start of the marriage .
Yeah no. I don’t care how much better he treats her now, he is trash. Her self esteem is in the garbage can. So sad. I hope he stays this way for her sake, but I wouldn’t believe it.
We don’t all beat and respect our women. Stop with the foolishness. There are many of us who are masculine and alpha men. Yet, with the women we love we become soft, romantic, loving and caring men. I hate being put in a box.
Lol yea, no. For generations women having been thinking, praying and pouring positivity into men and look around….. they’re getting worse. I wish that was true though. So, at this point, a lot of women are tired and would rather not waste our love and efforts.
@@ljackson24 ok good for y’all… as long as y’all are giving up on men, they’ll give up on you. That energy is why you see what you see, after doing my own soul searching that’s what I’ve realized. No one is perfect and neither are we as women
@@shaybae111 No one said we’re giving up on men. I never stated that. What I’m saying is, after a certain point of maturity, it’s wise to manage your energy and where it’s best served. No one should have to be forced to waste their time, love, care, kindness and prayers. Use your energy as you see fit. If you feel like you’re getting reciprocity in the same manner, by all means. But honestly, more often than not, it leads to well-paved roads of heartbreak. And it’s not for lack of trying. Look around. Most Black women are still wrapped up in toxic Black men ands being drained or taken out every day. That’s not in our heads. It’s actually happening. In any event, use your energy as you see fit. I wish you well in all of your relationships. 💜
@@ljackson24 never said it was in your heads but you do attract what you get depending on your thoughts. I appreciate it but I don’t want your well wishes. I can read between the lines, be blessed and have a wonderful day💚
@@shaybae111 You can read between the lines & think I’m being disingenuous, yet you think I want your blessing??? Sweetie, I think you should take your own advice. Why would you think that about me if you were being genuine yourself? It literally goes against your entire theory 🤦🏾♀️ You’ve got some work to do young lady. It’s all good. And fyi, I meant what I said about wishing you well. It’s sad that you would think anything other than that. You should ask yourself why would you believe someone doesn’t truly wish you well. Do you not wish others well???? See, none of what you’re saying makes sense to your theory. Which is a shame bc I was looking forward to hearing your thoughts. Smh Oh well. These conversations could be so productive if we simply have them. I don’t understand why communication is so hard with some people. It’s your thread, I commented, but you don’t want to engage so you shut down. Next time maybe you should keep your comments to yourself if you don’t want to discuss them further in a social setting. Just a thought, but do whatever you like. Good day! 🙏🏾
Idk where you get your stats but a high percentage of African women are stay at home moms that a well taken care of because African Men are raised to be providers which they do (ex the women in my family).
All i heard was unresolved trauma and pain. No one wants to deal with that if they themselves are in a good place. She's single until she actually heals. And loses some of that aggression and edge.
It’s her!!!!!! Water seeks its own level. Men of substance more than likely are not checking for her, and the energy she is given, is probably received better by the type of man that is giving her fits.
My brothers we have got to do much better. I am not saying I agree with her. The men I associate with don’t conduct themselves in this way. I will say, she is a potty mouth. Men in my circle wouldn’t deal with her type. She wants a soft life but she is too hard. She got on my last nerve talking about black men. Why is she dealing with Pookie’s and Ray Ray’s? I know why because they are the only ones approaching her. I try so hard to be nice but some don’t deserve my kindness.
Shes a soft broken heart thats why the shell. Trust you know its only human nature to respond to life that way unless you're into pain. Listening and watching her she told how soft and vulnerable she actually was.... She wants a man that can recognize that about her so she can relax.... She will be soft when she is emotionally safe... We need more listening
I loved Queenie. She was truthful and to the point and I agree with her wholeheartedly. Anybody who disagreed with that is probably part of the problem anyway. Anybody got time for that?
yea she's part of the problem why as she said, the blk men who are doing ok don't want to date bw. she live in toronto and all she got hitting her up is green card bros, yall need to be honest with her
Honestly as a human being not even a man I can feel her pain through her expression amplified with words. She seems very traumatized. I she seek therapy for past trauma. Ethnic imagery is a person’s digital 🧬, unfortunately any man no matter race would be turn off.
She's low key funny , some would say her delivery was unpolished, but everything thing she said was truthful lol , not every black man of course but it feels like a good 90 percent have that struggle love mindset , they want you to earn your worth .They want you to act feminine but be the head of the household like their mother and grandmother. You should remain single until you find a man that provides a soft life, Don't let these bums makes you feel bad for not settling,
@@ArtLee68 my dear sir to dismiss her clearly heard and observed distress is by far worse because it lacks an essence of humane consciousness that could easily be used to redirect the thought process in stead of judging. Maybe if she knew better she would do better. Im a late bloomer in obtaining most of my achievements in life (spiritual, physical, emotional, etc), but I was always encouraged that as long as I had a tomorrow I had an opportunity to make better choices and not stand in others judgment or and my behavior / bad choices. Humane none judgmental people that came through my life taught me that. I tend to pay forward in humane currency due to my blessings that came from me eventually getting the message. We all have free will and sometimes in knowing better we have the opportunity to do better. Its never ever too late. #60andlivingolden
This is my last comment I promise lol. This lady pissed me off that much. I wish the host would have pushed back on her more. And I feel that’s the problem. Us men can’t get through to a woman like this and tell her she’s out of pocket. Women with some dang sense like the host need to be the ones letting her know this energy she’s bringing is not helping her. What man watching this other than a desperate simp would even want to sign up for that??? Ok I’m done 😂.
the host even waited until the women hung up to say you cant judge a whole race. she's really setting these women up for failure. But i get that the "no judgement" approach will only attract more guests, and thats whats important. they're already mad that kendra g is tried of their crap 😂
Agree! I believe Ashley recognized that this woman was in no place hear a different opinion or take constructive criticism; thus, best to let her vent and hang up. She’s not ready to hear the reality of how she is contributing to her own demise at this point. She will have to get to a point where she’s all angered out and ready to do the work required to improve her dating life.
@@VirgoDluxe as long as there are women enablers, she will not be angered out and improve. she'll just go to spaces where no one will tell her that she's the problem, and continue to blame men.
Look my new boyfriend said if we were married he wants me to help cut the grass I have a yard and and have never cut the grass. I am shocked and this happened tonight. 😢
I'm sorry Sis sounds like she needs to do some more healing before she dates ANYBODY! I understand she's fed up...but her frequency is giving low vibration. All this cussing, anger, and what I don't want is.... over and over again. What do you think you're going to attract???
Just ghetto and trashy
This is not true! You can be healed all you want, people learn from different experiences.
@@gingerandspice1209with those responses? And her delivery? She’s jaded.
@@DrYettyBby Thank you
You can cuss and all that being healed and state what you want. Doesn’t make you any less healed or uneducated. Women are tired of it. At this stage she, I, and many other women refuse to accept less. It’s 2024. Men need to do better.
Men provide for who they want, women go 50/50 for men that don’t want them.
Sometimes they can’t afford it
Seriously?
This has to be one of the realest things I read today !! My god
The dumbest comment ever 🤦🏾♂️
The majority of men at least in America don’t make enough to provide for a woman.They need to work harder and make more money.
You can tell she is REALLY fed up. I get it. However, I think she will turn off even Euro men with her delivery. She needs some therapy for her anger. That is all.
Exactly, a white man isn’t going to listen to this woman berate black men 😂 she needs to heal first chile
Great 🎤 drop
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I agree. Delivery is so important
Absolutely 💯
I absolutely love her! Wish there were more honest women who speak directly without worrying what others think.
Fr fr fr
After years of dating trash Black men that SHE chose, she blames ALL Black men!! This is typical - this woman clearly is too old to make demands on men. The ONLY good decision she made, is that she's NOT a baby mama - outside of that... she's too old, clearly past age 40, past her prime, angry, and needs therapy.
This💗👁️
I used to believe in that type of attraction concept until a therapist broke it down for me. All kinds of people can be attracted to you, for better or for worse. But the experiences you get is a function of who you let in. You will choose at your level and frequency... emotionally, spritually, mentally etc. A really great guy could pursue you and you'll reject him because you are not at his emotional level due to past trauma or seeking excitement in roller coaster relationships that pass your chemistry checkbox... That understanding was empowering. It is what you choose. You have control over that.
Underrated comment. What the therapist did was explain accountability and integrity to you. Many of these women lack accountability.
@@megasg75090 This comment should be pinned wow - I re-read it twice
this!! therapy 100% helped me learn this. i attract all types of men, it’s about what you are attracted to, too. lol
🙌🏾💗👁️🌞
This was good! Is your therapist virtual? Asking for a friend lol
A lot of black women have had this experience with black men, sad but true
But she put us all in the same box.
All women of all races experience bad men. A bad man is a bad man, no matter the race. Talk to any single, miserable, bitter woman of any race (other than Black) and i bet they have the same stories as any black woman.
@@ArtLee68right because not all black men are like that.
@@tatijasThank you for knowing that
One of my aunts had a white boyfriend who beat the brakes off of her, and she had to get a restraining order against him. Even after that, she didn't say most white men were domestic abusers. She just said that one white guy was crazy.
Another point... The "Negromatics" has me screaming!!!😭😭😭😭
My thing is I’m not sure what ethnicity she is and if she is not a “negro” I find it offensive to reference this term.
That’s gonna be my new word 🤣🤣
@@brittanyb5942right
Okaaaay 😂😂😂😂😂
After years of dating trash Black men that SHE chose, she blames ALL Black men!! This is typical - this woman clearly is too old to make demands on men. The ONLY good decision she made, is that she's NOT a baby mama - outside of that... she's too old, clearly past age 40, past her prime, angry, and needs therapy.
I’m a black woman and I love black men but I COMPLETELY understand where she’s coming from!!
Her perspective represents a gross minority at best! She's clearly the problem.... Over 80% of black men do not fall into this category and there are actual stats to back that up! She's overweight, average and older looking than she claims with a poor disposition! She's delusional about her options and bitter because of it. That's a her problem!
She obviously attracts what is...low caliber men
WTFFF
Yet you support chrisean rock. You are in no position to demonize all bm.
really...........no 50/50 , no building with a man, soft life.....and all a man gets is ........????
gosh she seems pressed and stressed...
She has been putting those men thru hell in Canada and nobody is going to soften that hard exterior rhino.
As ever...
Sadly I think that this is what dealing with BM turns many BW into, very hurt, angry and bitter women. To me this is what they mean by BW being masculine, but what they won’t admit is it’s their behaviors that have turned blk woman into this. I think this woman has been very hurt by probably every black male that she has ever loved and it has turned her very angry and bitter, hurt and masculine and I think black men have done that to a lot of black women
@@PrettyBones-ho4rq I understand that however many women need to be accountable for the wrong choices they made as well. These men didn't pop out of thin air..these women ignored red flags and chose the wrong men. It's ridiculous to lump all black men into one raggedy category. It's no different than racist White folks saying all black people are ghetto,ignorant thugs on welfare. Especially when yheir race is the largest recipient of government benefits but that's a whole other conversation. There's bad apples in ever race all over the world. Many women need to CHOOSE BETTER. All these good, respectful, honorable and faithful black men out here...
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No man of substance from any race is going to deal with the sailors mouth.
😂😂😂😂😂😂🎉🎉
I now know why people tell me to stop cussing it is not feminine and empowering. It takes away from the goodness. Damn! Watching this made me see how others see me it is definitely low vibrational energy. 😢
Yep. It's not good for anyone, but it's such a turn off when a woman talks like this. She thinks other men are going to be banging down her door? SMH
Lmaooo right it’s not funny but I was like got damn when she was cursing and I curse a lot i will for sure try to stop that bc I was like ewww lol
THAT PART!!
Let her tell it, black men are at fault for everything.
cussing out is a sign of insecurity, this woman is highly insecure and will never attracts a decent man, EVER, you can share your experience without cussing every second, especially for a woman, valid for men too.
A real man has zero issues paying for it all. However, he needs to feel he is getting a fair deal. Most women aren't offering fair deals.
Boom. I’m a woman and I 100% agree. Men provide for who they want. Women go 50/50 with men that don’t want them.
@@rosewatersweetteaNo. Men pump and dump women they don't want. A man will be limited by his own finances and what the woman he is with wants. A woman working is not a sign a man doesn't really want her.
So what does her full-time job and 80k per year go to? What does she have to offer? She didn't mentioned ANYTHING she has to offer....
@@robertwright4220that her point... She's tired of men asking what do women have to bring. Men just need to be men and stop looking for the other half of the table..
She's not wrong for a traditional relationship.
A lot of women clearly do not understand what the proverbial ‘table’ truly represents. This is likely why most of you (or the caller) will never have a certain type of man.
Sis could take a little anger management. Too much cussing. Be more ladylike sis.
Thank You! She wants a soft life but she is hard!
33????? She looks like shes 50 plus.
Right
I didn’t want to say it but I was thinking it. Thank you for saying it.
@@journeytoabetteru🤭
@@ArtLee68I see you in every reply taking jabs at this lady. Is a hit dog hollering?
@@stillwaterssit’s very weird. She doesn’t even look 50 like why they lying
Omg she is A LOT!! Queeny: Her delivery is not the best, the cussing was just too much for my ears. But I totally understand what she meant.
Right, but she wants a soft life and she is as hard as a brick.
@@ArtLee68😂😂😂
Why are yal always acting as if you have never heard a cuss word? Stop with all the fake outraged.
@@Star0920 If you want to be taken care of you need to present well and speak with care. Cussing is not attractive. You can let the crazy side show after he commits. Cussing isn’t lady like. You need to be soft to live a soft life.
@@Star0920 it’s not so much her cussing as much as her fat ass thinks that she deserves the world
She looks 50 wow I’m only saying that because I’m 55 she looks closer to my age!!
That stress aged her a bit lol
That’s extremely rude. It may be the wig
@@QueenKurantsimamaybe you’re rude talking about her hair!!! Her hair is fine I’m looking at her face. Just like you’re entitled to your opinion so am I!!!❤
I'm 60 and would not have guessed her in the 30s based on her facial features. Her attitude doesn't age her, but it diminishes her.
I think it’s the hair.
Her delivery may be harsh but her words resonate.
LOOK IN THE MIRROIR SOMETIMES QUEEN
@@undivested ill assume you didn't complete your thought.
Beautiful, who do they resonate with?
@@ArtLee68 those that hear her truth
Your an idiot
she doesn't want to move to a racist country then she names West Africa....as racist? Then she said no third world racist country....so i guess she is ok with a "first world" racist country. Good luck with whatever man gets with her.
Then she goes ahead and says “she’s black and can’t be racist”. I’m so confused.
West African country racist?! She needs to do her research
She said racist or sexist country. So the West Africa was in reference to the sexism
It seems like she puts so much blame on black men as a whole...when it's the men SHE is choosing..you're gona fond the same man in every race...
She has a continued self-love and healing journey. Yes, but she’s on a path to knowing what she wants. She just has to continue to make the choices that are right for her and not for anyone else.💗👁️
She is NOT worth the time or effort...men keep showing her this in the way they treat her.
I like this generation of black women who are assertive and know what they want the lifestyle they deserve I mean she worked hard and why would she want to be BOB THE BUILDER❤
Does she have to sound like trash to get her point across?
Single af
Bob the Builder is a unionized carpenter making $200,000+ in Toronto’s real estate boom… And Joe the Plumber’s doing even better than him!
Problem is, this woman’s been dating Jamal the Hustler and D’Shawn the Wasteman for far too long… then generalizing her experience to all Black men 🫤
You sound like a simp my guy
@@grmo7912 exactly
I 1000% understand where she’s coming from 😂❤
Not a excuse to act like a bitch, though
After years of dating trash Black men that SHE chose, she blames ALL Black men!! This is typical - this woman clearly is too old to make demands on men. The ONLY good decision she made, is that she's NOT a baby mama - outside of that... she's too old, clearly past age 40, past her prime, angry, and needs therapy.
She could have simply said her preference is Caucasian men only and she's not interested in 50/50. All the extra was rude and classless.
Agreed
Thank You! I will say that Ashley asked for further context, but it demonstrates her issues that she went off on a tangent! She exposed herself! I have a question for you? if no 50/50 then why does she need someone who makes at least what she makes? What does any man get for being with an overweight, average/older looking than her age, female with a generally poor disposition? She works a full-time job, makes 80k per year but has aversions to cooking or giving her man a massage and claims she wants a soft life but changers her own tires....
@@robertwright4220 I am Jamaican and was disgusted by this woman's attitude... toward my Jamaican and African Kings .....she has been dealing with Nugs Nugs...Pookies . She is masculine...not fit...not friendly and definitely...not feminine..... no real man with anything will deal with the audacity of this woman...buy a dog and.....
I agree. Just like we don’t like when black men put black Women down when stating their preferences. It’s unnecessary but I understand where she’s coming from. As others have stated, she needs to heal.
Agree totally! Rude and disrespectful to Ashley and everyone listening.
Yes Sis! If you have no kids don’t take them with kids
Not negromatics lmaooooooooo. I am deceased 😭😭😭😭3:15
same😭😭😭😭😭
I loved her. She’s at the beginning stage of healing.
She is no where near the women she needs to be compared to what she is asking for smh
I do not think this went left. This went right. Women are starting to wake up about going where they are appreciated, uplifted, supported, desired and loved.
She will be single forever She has a bad attitude and a nasty mouth like if you don’t have respect for yourself, at least have respect for somebody else’s show unacceptable and why would she think another race wants another race problems she the problem it says alot about her character to shit on all black men because you chose the worst of the worst 😂
Soooooo she’s borrowing trauma from others as this isn’t her experience 🙄🤔 Her behavior will attract the low of the low🤷🏽♀️
Speak on it sis!!! Go where you're appreciated!!!!
You can learn from other womens experiences! You don’t have to go through much to see what men are doing!
I LOVE HER!!!! 😍 If more women was honest these blk men would do better!
She tells it like it is
they would go elsewhere. why would you do better for someone like this?
Women being honest will not make black men do better. They do not care.
@@SteveN-yr4kf 💯
That was nonsense and so is this comment. We are not all the same. There are some of us who look forward to giving a woman a soft life. Who is signing up to care for this woman or her kind?
We must be sensrive toward the whole group of those that arent the least bit sensitive to us huh 🤧i love how she unappollegetiallly spoke her piece 🤷♀️
Lucey said she not with the bs and I completely understand. There are men out here that wanna do the bare minimum, complain about paying as a form of gaslighting, and wanting to be coddled. I wonder what’s her zodiac sign lol.
She's the bare minimum. I can't imagine putting any work to be with a woman like that. This is the type of woman a man settles for getting sex with because he doesn't want to improve himself.
Thas how the men are here in Buffalo, NY too..lots of BUMS smh
Aries or Taurus
So why give them your time and energy? Women are making these CHOICES and are upset with the outcomes. Time to stop trying to change people into what we want them to be, especially when dating. What’s the point? Just move on
She needs to remain in Canada and deal with the men there . Also keep that laugh North of the border. Soft life but talks rough.
I don’t understand Afro Canada and Canada doesn’t tolerate this maybe that’s why she’s mad
I hear her loud and clear. Blacl men are exhausting 🥺
I don’t think it’s a race thing. You just have to be right and find a man that’s gonna treat you right. Look at Tamar’s white man 👀
Thank you
The way she was talking you woulda thought there wasn't dusty unfaithful white men out here. It's all theoretical even the dusty white guys aren't checking for her.
Her man just out here embarrassing left and right.. bad example. lol
He’s not a traditional WM, he thinks and lives like a BM, so yeah, WM like him don’t count.
Or Travis Kelce…
Ashley is so classy❤❤❤
She is..., it's refreshing!
classy is letting a potty mouth come on her show and even crack racist jokes about voodoo all while saying wyte men have to be sensitive to her experiences dealing with sexism and racism? nothing classy about that.
If you're tired, then it is time to go through a healing process, not seek a relationship right now. The new person will just trigger something in you, and you might find yourself putting your hands on him. Get somewhere and heal first.
Good advice. She's a walking time bomb.
@@vincentvegas7831 That is the best way to explain it. I didn't think about that, but she is about to blow. Get somewhere and heal. I'm in my healing season right now. This is something I should have done in 1997. I'm doing it now. Hope you are doing well too!
Queue spiritual journey here!
@@LabRatsProductions Healing journey here!
Ashleys eyes when the lady said "get your voodoo and your bs out of here."
Queenie is filled to the brim with hatred 😅😅😅😅
Some softness in her case would go a long way. There are plenty of great men in Toronto…. BUT I can see where her challenges lay with finding one. It’s clear she’s hurting 😢
those great men are looking for great women. she's really angry because she cant compete.
I love this entire perspective! Such a breathe of fresh air ❤
I love her delivery. Life is not pretty. When you can unapologetically articulate your wants and needs that’s attractive af. She won’t settle and she will be happy for it.
you really think a euro man worth anything saw this video and thought it was attractive af? its not that she wont settle. its that the men she want wont settle for her
You may love it but I guarantee you any quality man is not going for what she is offering.
@@GegeP1804 absolute trash. This is the fearmongering bm use on bw. Dont listen to GegeP.
Does she think that only black men want a woman with a good attitude?
Her energy is very aggressive and off putting. I wish her well but I don’t see any good man wanting to deal with this.
There’s a fine line between knowing what you want and expressing your desires and this. It’s not the message, it’s the the delivery
I have never dated a black male and I wouldn't ever.
As soon as she said “I’m black I can’t be racist” I she is not the type of woman I wouldn’t want to deal with. Entitled and aggressive. Want work and pocket all of your money while I have to pay for everything will never make sense to me.
I appreciate that she is open to dating men who don’t look like her. She is not with the crap and is tired. There is nothing like knowing what you want.
The thing is the men she wants doesn’t want her
look where "knowing what she want" got her? she needs therapy. what bm who value himself would want to date this? would you have the male family members in your family date this woman?
@@MaximumTruuuthsays who? There are plenty of women who look like her who are married interracially in 2024.
@@alicia7737who? ..
Euro men bring the crap as well soooo...and you'll end up on the damn ID Channel fooling with them.🙄
Ummm, this woman is soooo hurt - all that masculine energy will get her just what she’s been getting. Which man of value in his right mind wants to be in the presence of a women that speaks in this manner 🤦♀️.
Ghetto and Trashy
Normally I would disagree and say she should speak her mind, but I agree 100%. There’s a way to say what you want without being off putting and both men and women that have that toxic delivery style would be a turn off. She literally doesn’t like much and has a very narrow scope. No one wants to entertain someone who’s pissed off at the world.
She doesn’t look 33 lol but I love how honest she is and direct.
More like 43
She is tired and I don’t blame her. She just keeping it real. 😊
She needs to keep working on herself for awhile...
If men were tired and acting like this, no one will accept it, so why should we accept this from her?
@@emmanueldurotoye3071men have been acting even worse and destroying things and people's lives. Allow women to vent and call you out. Kangs of 5050 but want submission
@@emmanueldurotoye3071 That's true. They would also call the man a self-hater, and say he hates his mother. All of these ridiculous name calling, shaming tactics if he were to say that he's tired of dating black women. It's fascinating to me how the majority of other races of people don't quickly resort to canceling out their entire race just because they had a few bad experiences with people within their race that they CHOSE to date and let into their lives. Black Americans particularly are some of the most weak minded blacks I've encountered unfortunately.
@@emmanueldurotoye3071competing with women is why yall are failed men
You thought you ate lol
The saddest thing is: Ashley couldn’t even be honest with that lady. I feel bad for her, because the most honest thing she will hear will come from the comment section…. Imagine that!
May be hard to hear, but what she is saying is facts! There’s tons of black women who have made videos about how challenging it is to date in our community.
And they all acted like her, and still wonder whats the issue
@@emmanueldurotoye3071 nope
You’re still the issue. Other communities have confirmed they see it’s you
Simply meant she's telling the truth. I have had that happen before. Especially when it comes to African men. You wanna fall in love after a week?😂
Newsflash they never loved you. They just wanted the green card.
That First Lady had me crying 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I’m rewatching it again
33! Bless her.
53
I'm sorry I am loving everything she is saying negro matics and struggle love . Yes!
What kind of man would want to take care of her and put a child in her. She seems bipolar. She said, she never dealt with these issues, she just heard of other women's complaints.
I concur
She's rachet AF, talking about blk men. She clearly carries herself in a way that attracts a particular type of blk man.
Bingo! Im glad Ashley ask her. Because we all would've thought that it was something she personally went thru.
I don’t think she’s bipolar. I think she’s been done wrong many times and now she’s fed up and not taking no more bull crap
@brittanyb5942 Well she need to be honest about it 1st, then seek some counseling, and heal, then let it go. Grouping a whole race of men (her own men) into this degenerate category is just bitter unhealed trauma TALKING.
She said I’m not trying to catch a felon😂🤣🤣
Facts,that one scary as fuck.
She’s a 33 lie!!
Lol im glad I'm not the only one who thought this
At least 43-45.
😸😹😀😂
Thank you! This chick is 43 to 53.
Lol
I dont think it gonna work out for her
europeans only like fit thin women, color does not matter much but class and thin women. i lived in europe all my life
no sis, i’m from london, I only date white men and Im thick with the ghanaian hips and bum lol!
I understand and agree with everything she said about not wanting to date BM, but she sounds like she needs to heal from the drama she went through with BM before she dates other races of men.
why wait and heal? she can share her aversion to black men with her next white boo lol
I love this lady!
Well I personally see everyone as a individual, I was talking to my coworker about this cuz she brought up how her blk husband used to beat her until she screamed and cried and threw up but she stayed with him out of love , eventually he stopped with the assaults and embraced her as his loyal wife but she said those beginning years of her marriage was tough and she almost lost her twin girls cuz of the beatings , I told her she’s a strong person cuz there’s no way I could coddle and make dinner for somone who’s hurting me , I guess it’s all just about what type of woman it is , maybe she just has childhood attachment issues is why she clings to a man who showed her who he was at the start of the marriage .
Yeah no. I don’t care how much better he treats her now, he is trash. Her self esteem is in the garbage can. So sad. I hope he stays this way for her sake, but I wouldn’t believe it.
@@thisblackgirloverhere9013I agree , question is why tf is she still wit him ?
@@COOKIEDOUGHTHEGREAThe got the spell on her
We don’t all beat and respect our women. Stop with the foolishness. There are many of us who are masculine and alpha men. Yet, with the women we love we become soft, romantic, loving and caring men. I hate being put in a box.
@@ArtLee68 you need counseling , I never said anything wrong , seek help sir
Is she prejudice?
The more we think negatively about them, the more of that behavior we’ll see
Lol yea, no. For generations women having been thinking, praying and pouring positivity into men and look around….. they’re getting worse. I wish that was true though. So, at this point, a lot of women are tired and would rather not waste our love and efforts.
@@ljackson24 ok good for y’all… as long as y’all are giving up on men, they’ll give up on you. That energy is why you see what you see, after doing my own soul searching that’s what I’ve realized. No one is perfect and neither are we as women
@@shaybae111 No one said we’re giving up on men. I never stated that. What I’m saying is, after a certain point of maturity, it’s wise to manage your energy and where it’s best served. No one should have to be forced to waste their time, love, care, kindness and prayers. Use your energy as you see fit. If you feel like you’re getting reciprocity in the same manner, by all means. But honestly, more often than not, it leads to well-paved roads of heartbreak. And it’s not for lack of trying. Look around. Most Black women are still wrapped up in toxic Black men ands being drained or taken out every day. That’s not in our heads. It’s actually happening. In any event, use your energy as you see fit. I wish you well in all of your relationships. 💜
@@ljackson24 never said it was in your heads but you do attract what you get depending on your thoughts. I appreciate it but I don’t want your well wishes. I can read between the lines, be blessed and have a wonderful day💚
@@shaybae111 You can read between the lines & think I’m being disingenuous, yet you think I want your blessing???
Sweetie, I think you should take your own advice. Why would you think that about me if you were being genuine yourself? It literally goes against your entire theory 🤦🏾♀️
You’ve got some work to do young lady. It’s all good. And fyi, I meant what I said about wishing you well. It’s sad that you would think anything other than that. You should ask yourself why would you believe someone doesn’t truly wish you well. Do you not wish others well???? See, none of what you’re saying makes sense to your theory. Which is a shame bc I was looking forward to hearing your thoughts. Smh
Oh well. These conversations could be so productive if we simply have them. I don’t understand why communication is so hard with some people. It’s your thread, I commented, but you don’t want to engage so you shut down. Next time maybe you should keep your comments to yourself if you don’t want to discuss them further in a social setting. Just a thought, but do whatever you like.
Good day! 🙏🏾
1:48 damn she came in shooting hardcore shots. Lmao
Why is no one being honest…she can’t get what she wants. Her attitude and looks alone are off putting.
its not the norm for women to be honest with each other.
When a person shows you who they are believe them. Whoever deals with a person of this character on display on a public platform. 🙏🏾
I had to pause this video just to laugh at “ negromatics “. My stomach hurts. Omg that was funny. 😂😂
This is a woman who needs to heal, you can hear the hurt in her voice. Heal before you try another relationship.
Wait till she finds out the Africans are living the real soft life
😂😂
Sorry but where? African women are the hardest working people in the history of humanity :(
Idk where you get your stats but a high percentage of African women are stay at home moms that a well taken care of because African Men are raised to be providers which they do (ex the women in my family).
All i heard was unresolved trauma and pain. No one wants to deal with that if they themselves are in a good place. She's single until she actually heals. And loses some of that aggression and edge.
I pray she heals.
It’s her!!!!!! Water seeks its own level. Men of substance more than likely are not checking for her, and the energy she is given, is probably received better by the type of man that is giving her fits.
Listen, I get it 💯
“Why do you think you are single” …. Video plays.
My brothers we have got to do much better. I am not saying I agree with her. The men I associate with don’t conduct themselves in this way. I will say, she is a potty mouth. Men in my circle wouldn’t deal with her type. She wants a soft life but she is too hard. She got on my last nerve talking about black men. Why is she dealing with Pookie’s and Ray Ray’s? I know why because they are the only ones approaching her. I try so hard to be nice but some don’t deserve my kindness.
She is a no value woman. We don't have to do better for her caliber.
Shes a soft broken heart thats why the shell. Trust you know its only human nature to respond to life that way unless you're into pain. Listening and watching her she told how soft and vulnerable she actually was.... She wants a man that can recognize that about her so she can relax.... She will be soft when she is emotionally safe... We need more listening
So how ia it us who need to do better! Nothing she said represents even a third of black men!
@@kimandrews2695 whats she needs is a therapist...no man of any ethic group should be subjected this level of misandry and toxic femininity.
@@Shelto220 her needing a therapist after trauma is a whole nother discussion..
First there needs to be acknowledgement of her trauma
This was so real and honest
I agree with her 1000%
She says “ Nobody needing papers”😂😂😂😂😂
I loved Queenie. She was truthful and to the point and I agree with her wholeheartedly. Anybody who disagreed with that is probably part of the problem anyway. Anybody got time for that?
yea she's part of the problem why as she said, the blk men who are doing ok don't want to date bw. she live in toronto and all she got hitting her up is green card bros, yall need to be honest with her
You will attract what you want with more kindness .
Honestly as a human being not even a man I can feel her pain through her expression amplified with words. She seems very traumatized. I she seek therapy for past trauma. Ethnic imagery is a person’s digital 🧬, unfortunately any man no matter race would be turn off.
She does sound like she has been thru some stuff...
Idc I love the first woman lol I agree with her %100 😂
She needs to get therapy before she decides to be in a relationship with someone.
“Give me one reason why you think you’re single. Cough*” 😂😂😂
A lot of hurt radiating. Hope she heals- she’s not necessarily wrong but she’s very angry. Not healthy
She's low key funny , some would say her delivery was unpolished, but everything thing she said was truthful lol , not every black man of course but it feels like a good 90 percent have that struggle love mindset , they want you to earn your worth .They want you to act feminine but be the head of the household like their mother and grandmother. You should remain single until you find a man that provides a soft life, Don't let these bums makes you feel bad for not settling,
What an unpleasant human being. Sheesh! Work on yourself, ma’am. Like attracts like.
Queeny you are alright with me‼️
As beautiful as you are you are okay with her foolery. 🤦🏿♂️
@@ArtLee68 my dear sir to dismiss her clearly heard and observed distress is by far worse because it lacks an essence of humane consciousness that could easily be used to redirect the thought process in stead of judging. Maybe if she knew better she would do better.
Im a late bloomer in obtaining most of my achievements in life (spiritual, physical, emotional, etc), but I was always encouraged that as long as I had a tomorrow I had an opportunity to make better choices and not stand in others judgment or and my behavior / bad choices.
Humane none judgmental people that came through my life taught me that. I tend to pay forward in humane currency due to my blessings that came from me eventually getting the message.
We all have free will and sometimes in knowing better we have the opportunity to do better. Its never ever too late. #60andlivingolden
This is my last comment I promise lol. This lady pissed me off that much. I wish the host would have pushed back on her more. And I feel that’s the problem. Us men can’t get through to a woman like this and tell her she’s out of pocket. Women with some dang sense like the host need to be the ones letting her know this energy she’s bringing is not helping her. What man watching this other than a desperate simp would even want to sign up for that??? Ok I’m done 😂.
Unfortunately I don’t think she would have listened to what Ashley had to say. She was dead set on what she didn’t like.
the host even waited until the women hung up to say you cant judge a whole race. she's really setting these women up for failure. But i get that the "no judgement" approach will only attract more guests, and thats whats important. they're already mad that kendra g is tried of their crap 😂
Agree! I believe Ashley recognized that this woman was in no place hear a different opinion or take constructive criticism; thus, best to let her vent and hang up. She’s not ready to hear the reality of how she is contributing to her own demise at this point. She will have to get to a point where she’s all angered out and ready to do the work required to improve her dating life.
@@VirgoDluxe as long as there are women enablers, she will not be angered out and improve. she'll just go to spaces where no one will tell her that she's the problem, and continue to blame men.
She has a right to her opinion based on experiences.
5:44 - plenty of reasons she’s single. She has a lot of work to do on herself. Cuz, NO!
I have no problem of what she was saying. Especially about the African men that need help.
2024 😂 She's hilarious
Look my new boyfriend said if we were married he wants me to help cut the grass I have a yard and and have never cut the grass. I am shocked and this happened tonight. 😢