@@biNoelle this is the problem......we shouldn't be blaming such behaviour on "young and naive"......she KNOWS EXACTLY what she is doing.......she just wants to live a "lazy" lifestyle 💯.......because she is now "PLANNING" how to get the money 🤷🏾♂️
I mean that's what she preaches. None of yall will ever find love thinking like that. A nigga like me never had shit. I'm not into all that materialistic stuff. I'm good if I lived in the woods with no internet or nothing, just as long as I got my dogs and my girlfriend
Having a baby with a wealthy man when you don’t have wealth isn’t always a good thing. There are times where the man will win full custody and the mother is left with nothing.
So then...that IS a good thing...the child needs financial security just as she should've been striving for the same. If her stup1d choices ruined her goals then that's on her. The child shouldn't suffer cuz she wants to be selfish. The mother isn't always what's best for the child. Actually statistically speaking a single father creates more structure, and joy in a child's life than a single mother does. And that goes for BOTH genders. Coming from someone who's been raised in a 2 parent household u don't realize how necessary certain things are until u sit, down, look back and reflect. I'm so thankful for my parentS and it's sad that others didn't have the same. 😊
@@trombonefellowright? The original comment was essentially self-snitching. It's always what's best for the child. That's the sacrifice a parent makes and should make.
As a mother myself the most important thing when raising a child isn’t FINANCES, it’s raising a child in a healthy, LOVING environment. Finances are important but that mentality is scary, money can come and go. You need to be worried about the man’s character
We can't blame social media for certain things, it starts at home, being raised.. If morals, values, principles are instilled as tiny girls..there's nothing a influencer can convince you to do.. Using social media is always a excuse for lack of common sense 🤦🏽♀️
Social Media is definitely the ultimate downfall. It pushes certain agenda's even the blind can see that. If ppl dont see it already they are comfortable living in ignorance. Period.
A 22 year old living off a boyfriend is disastrous. Go and live your life sweetheart. Snatch a man around 25-27. You’re too young for this life. I was in that situation at that age and got trapped into a kid at 23.
Where you been ?! Lmao !! These women been made having a child the end game. Baby showers are the new weddings . You ain’t know 😂😂 (sarcasm ) it’s truly sad. Peoples priorities and values be all messed up.
@@genovasquez8361agreed… every white guy I dated I was their first black girl. I don’t like white guys who have black girl fetish or dislike white girls.
Getting on an internet platform and openly discussing possibly trapping a man with a baby is wild. She seems naïve. Hopefully she finds a happy medium with this situation or the next.
Yes good idea, ONLY problem alot of women under the age of 50 barely stay in a relationship longer than 6 months. So she will have to work hard to provide value for at the very least 4 year degree. You have to stand still and not move around and really commit for the long haul. 4 years a long time for alot of sistas.
This. He probably doesn't see the need because she likely doesn't do anything all day, lol. It's also doesn't help that she brought it up so late into the relatioship.
Sorry to say rich men will invest in your looks before they invest in your business. Reason being is because boss man doesn’t want another boss in his home if that’s the case he’d date someone from his office… which is why you don’t see a lot of them powerful rich women.
Social media is ruining our people. This is exactly why you should not want what others have. You never know the ends and outs. These ppl have issues just like us maybe even worse. Ladies love the life you live and stop comparing yourself to others. ❤ Side note: Ash I really like this makeup look.
She’s definitely with this man for his wealth. He’s with her because she’s young. Wealthy men will have you quit your job so they can have some control over you. Quitting your job because your boyfriend said so shows how naive she is. This entire conversation she spoke of wealth.
Its a common play for gold diggers to leave or pretend to leave their job so they have a reason or excuse to play him for more money. A rookie sugar daddy might fall for it a few times
So she was thinking about having a baby by her sugar daddy to secure a bag only to contradict herself and say she doesn’t really want to have a kid and wants to travel 🤔🤔……
Yeah this girl is all over the place when it comes to priorities. She wants more money but only she knows her man so she needs be upfront with him. I don’t think she really had that conversation with him in terms of an allowance because why would she be on here? I think considering her current position she should work on having her own income stream.
He’s not generous with giving you an allowance now soooo why would having a baby make things better?….. Babies never improve relationships. They either make pull up your socks and get into real life or they will make drift further apart.
She seems lazy. At least give the man a reason to want to be throwing money her way. She's not an entrepreneur, she doesn't seem to have any goals. The man ain't her problem.
I refused to date any girl who wants me just because of my money. The type of girls my mom ALWAYS warns me about. I LOVE YOU MAMA❤️❤️❤️. Now I get it very clearly!
Oh this is a simple answer. Don’t ask for an allowance. Complain about how broke you are and tell him that you got a job (make sure that the “hours” are set to when you would normally see him). He will then try to “solve” the problem of not seeing you because you have a job… he will then offer to give you money.. HIS IDEA :)
@@genovasquez8361 the exception doesn’t make the rule.. I’ve been studying anthropology for a while now in school. Masculine energy solves problems.. we all have masculine energy. If a man is not trying to solve your problems, that means he’s in his feminine energy and you’re probably too much in your masculine energy. The more feminine, you are the more it will awaken his masculine energy for you. Yin & Yang
I believe it’s because she thought this man had more and would allow her to quit her job. She likely had a full roster and chose the wrong one it sounds like lol
He IS PAYING YOU to be his GF.. he knows it, he just wants the cow for free.. he can afford HIS expenses just fine but doesnt want to afford youra and he wants you to be dependent on him.. you fell for the okie doke sis.. get another job, spend less time with jim and then re present your case.. if he doesnt wanna change his mind then you move on - DO. OT GET PREGNANT - HE WILL NOT REAOECT YOU HAVING HIS CHILD I PROMISE YOU!
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It’s sad that as a young lady she’s only concerned about getting money from men, no mention of real a connection. If she continues this way it could be real bad for her when she’s late 20s and wants to settle down and have a FAMILY
Go back to work/school and quit once he put a ring on it. You should probably multi date because this dude is controlling. I don't negotiate my respect and morals over money.
Is it just me or what. I want to make my own money. I do not want to ever allow anyone to have control over me in that way. A lot of times these men do not put these luxury items in their names. These rich men this is their lifestyle. They will be with younger women and when they are done with the fun part of you. They go to the next one to be their fun. Know your worth! Why is everything based on what a person can buy you. Why are we not wanting to just live our best life and do these things ourselves. She is young and beautiful. Know your worth. If this is the lifestyle you young ladies want for yourself you have to not get emotionally involved. You are setting yourself up for failure and heartache. This is a lot.
I wish some of these women poured into themselves and made money on their own instead of searching for a wealthy man. Take yourself to Greece, fly yourself on first class etc. This sister is young enough to hustle and make something of herself instead she quit her job for what? To beg some guy she’s dating for an allowance? Make it make sense.
Why would you need an allowance if he buys everything already?? I would be confused too if I was him lmao. She put herself in a dangerous position being fully reliant on him. And he’s right. It does sound like he’s paying her to be his girl. Now if she wants to continue trying to get more money, Shera would say to get a job with inconvenient hours. Make up an excuse for why you need the job (like saving up for a house or something). If he’s not able to have unlimited access to you anymore he might offer to give you the money but probably not a regularly scheduled payment.
She brings embarrassment to the sprinkle sprinkle movement. Shera said DONT QUIT YOUR JOB WITHOUT SECURITY AND A RING and use his money to make yourself more money!! Girl please go ask God for guidance and instruction.
She sound immature and easily impressionable. I would never quit my job because of a man i dont care how mich money he got. Aint nothing like your own. Now dont get it twisted ima Accepting alll gifts.
Some people will date a black woman for the experience but they arent always open to marrying you. Ashley's advice is spot on. Hope Eliza books that 1 on 1
@@Khumo_Mpho I'm speaking on this situation specifically, as a black woman. I can't speak on anyone else's experience, nor is it relevant for this video specifically because the young lady (as far as I can tell) is black. In addition, black women are the least married women and there is anti blackness all across the world. So, respectfully, my comment is about black women
@@rosewatersweettea my comment is specifically about black women. There is nothing wrong with me making this comment specifically about black women especially when the young woman is black. ❤️
Ashley said Pumpkin changed after the child was born. If true, didn’t Pumpkin say he found out she was married and was doing fraud. Of course all could be false and he did things too, but she presented as a sugar baby, who got pregnant for her sugar daddy, that is tricking and not to be compared to normal woman.
Not quitting my job for a boyfriend. Even if I was married and he didn’t want me to work, I would still have my own business or income from my own skillset.
I’m so confused as to how I’m not dating a wealthy man 😂 this was an easy one. Men are men. Make it an investment on his part. You don’t just ask for $2000. Say “hey I’m taking classes to do X business” or “I’m doing a startup accelerator program for Y” something like that. Think it through, put it on paper and show him the ROI. Most men will respect it and appreciate your mindset. Then again…you could always lie and say your hair cost $400 when it really cost $200 and pocket the difference. But that’s chump change. Asking for $10k and more is an investment and for that, you gotta be smart. As long as you sell the idea as something to do “on the side” that won’t limit his availability to you, you’re good. The framing is always what makes sense and benefits HIM
He seems pretty tight with his wallet, he gives what he feels like in the moment and probably have SET accounting line of expenditures for his women he has in harem.
You can definitely ask for 2k. You can ask for 10k with no return. You have to find men that are okay being sugar daddies not trying to make boyfriends and men that actually like you as a girlfriend do it. That’s the problem right there. These normal regular girls are trying to live the sex worker life and don’t know wtf they’re doing and do dumb shit like quit their job with no financial incentive set up lol. Like come on now. Chileeee
@@carisasnow8357Yeah I’m super regular and I don’t know many guys who are handing out that kind of money just for a random day. That feels like a sugar daddy vibe idk. Men will def upgrade your life and that can be expensive. but just sending money like that? There would have to be a reason
Cindy is still with that man . I don’t think this woman is wrong for what she’s doing at all. She just needs to make sure she’s having cash in hand or get another sugar daddy in addition to this one and tell the old one she has less time because now she has to “work” 🤷🏽♀️
Leave him then! Find someone who will do it. Because he’s not with it. Go back to work and find someone who will completely provide. Also aim for marriage not the spoiled gf!!
Girrllllaaaa….she’s answering her own questions. Save up some money and leave. You can’t make a man generous rich or not. She’s trying to turn him into something that he’s not. A man that truly loves you will spoil you…so yeah, he trying to keep you in a certain place
I heard that if a guy has never been with a certain type of ethnicity and his past women have been different race they usually just settle. So she needs to watch out. It’s the same thing when they say when you look a guys following list and see only blonds but dates a black girl it’s usually not their type and they just settle just for the obvious reasons.
Ashely chica I can’t watch the lives since different time zone! I was waiting to watch the whole live when i woke up but didin’t see any posted smh😭 i was waiting with my cup of coffee😂
No matter how rich he is dont leave your job. 😬 I'm so happy that I love to work no matter what. My hard life without parents taught me to work hard and not depend on anyone no matter how rich he is. Its his money not your money. I don't trust people blindly no matter how rich they are or how good it feels. Even family members, friends one day they will surprise you.
What’s sad is people who’ve already cheapened themselves expecting something for nothing. There’s no such thing as something for nothing. These men want you because they want control which is easier to to have with younger women.
I just found this station so far I like it and Ashley you are so beautiful and smart I want to take you out Ashley. I keep running into chicken heads. I'm falling for you Ashley❤ my player days are over I'm 60 years old how can I get in touch with you ? PS I look like I'm 50.
A high quality man can have money but his income does not equate to his worth or how nice he’ll treat you. Some women are prioritizing money and fail to understand that men can sense you don’t fully care for them. They’ll use and drop you if they feel it’s for inauthentic reasons. And btw, my husband is white and I’m biracial. So I can’t understand the mono racial black woman’s experience fully. However, just because someone dealt with you, it doesn’t mean they actually like people who look like you. Some just want a new experience
Successful men don't spend all of their money...unless they're entertainers or pro athletes. What does she need this money for if everything is covered? A little money? Yes. 5k per week? Hell no.
I am a man that earns a good living. All I hear from her is liabilities. She does not want kids, wants the easy life etc. At my level, and I am not a 1% at all, I want kids and a legacy. I have been married for 16 years so far. I gave my wife 10k for shopping and to spoil herself. I knew she was THE ONE when she came home with a few items for her, and the rest for me. She thought of me first. That's what I want and what I married. Because I know if it comes to me having to lay my life down for her, I would ,knowing she would have done the same. She is not it
She’s moving like she’s married to him. having a baby quitting your job and hoping that he takes care of you and you’re not married is the wrong move also, he could wake up tomorrow and get with another 22-year-old. you both are obviously on different pages regarding this arrangement
Eliza If you see this, just focus and invest in that relationship. Love is great, but it’s a choice. I got married at 22, and some days it IS hard to deal with my husband. But that’s the man I chose to be with, and I remember that. Get married, and love yourself first, the marriage is a partnership. He NEEDS you to be the mother to his child, that’s the ONE thing he can’t do alone in this life, and you want him to be successful to help you and your future family. I had kids young, and I don’t regret it, but if you don’t want them yet, invest in you and him. Make him want to marry you for everything you offer him. And AFTER that investment and mindset shift, give the children and be happy within your life. If you can’t grow in your relationship, then THATS when you know it’s not for you. But this man sounds like he will support you, so even if you don’t get an “allowance” just be supported and ready for the future (if he really is your boyfriend and not a sugar daddy).
Seems like there is a lot of miscommunication within her relationship. Sounds like Eliza views her man as a sugar daddy and he believes he’s her boyfriend. Think she should take some time to be clear about what she wants. I agree Ashley that she should work on her self esteem and not have a baby especially since she says she doesn’t want them. The city girl lifestyle is fun but not long term.
This is why i never spend money in a relationship. i treat relationships like we still in highschool im not doing less, but im not doing more than that.
Ultimately, she's a bedwe*ch unfortunately... She's too happy to be a white dudes first black "girlfriend" . And then made it seem like she had one up on other black girls .........
Yeah, what do you need 5k a week for at 22 when you didn’t earn it yourself. And what does she have to offer him? All she talked about was getting money from him. She never spoke about how she contributes to his life
If a man asks me to leave my Job, I would request he compensate me the money equivalent to my work contract which I know he will not because BABY! Why would I leave my job for a man who can wake up and decide to leave without a reason? This girl is naïve and watches too much Tiktok!!! She needs to delete tiktok, get back to work and leave that man if he still complains!!!
Quitting your job for a BOYFRIEND and not a HUSBAND is the DUMBEST thing i ever heard 😂😂😂
She’s young and naive. She needs to grow up
@@biNoelle this is the problem......we shouldn't be blaming such behaviour on "young and naive"......she KNOWS EXACTLY what she is doing.......she just wants to live a "lazy" lifestyle 💯.......because she is now "PLANNING" how to get the money 🤷🏾♂️
I wondering what she did for the job.....
@@mzcherrythegardner3634 it doesn't matter.......she could have been a Burger King assistant.......it's still wild to quit for a "boyfriend"
What a bunch of mean girls 🤮
She seems lost. Needs more goals than finding a rich man to care for her. Praying for this young lady
She needs a mentor
Right. Like why talk about having kids. Just because he’s wealthy. She said she doesn’t want kids…….
Exactly
I mean that's what she preaches. None of yall will ever find love thinking like that. A nigga like me never had shit. I'm not into all that materialistic stuff. I'm good if I lived in the woods with no internet or nothing, just as long as I got my dogs and my girlfriend
Right as if the man doesn’t notice that she is already fully dependent on him
Having a baby with a wealthy man when you don’t have wealth isn’t always a good thing. There are times where the man will win full custody and the mother is left with nothing.
Its a good thing for the child to be in the most financially stable household
If you have to think that way to trust a man you are weaponizing his money and financial security against him and is truly hurt behavior
That’s what she deserves if she does that trying to get his money
So then...that IS a good thing...the child needs financial security just as she should've been striving for the same. If her stup1d choices ruined her goals then that's on her. The child shouldn't suffer cuz she wants to be selfish. The mother isn't always what's best for the child.
Actually statistically speaking a single father creates more structure, and joy in a child's life than a single mother does. And that goes for BOTH genders. Coming from someone who's been raised in a 2 parent household u don't realize how necessary certain things are until u sit, down, look back and reflect. I'm so thankful for my parentS and it's sad that others didn't have the same. 😊
@@trombonefellowright? The original comment was essentially self-snitching. It's always what's best for the child. That's the sacrifice a parent makes and should make.
As a mother myself the most important thing when raising a child isn’t FINANCES, it’s raising a child in a healthy, LOVING environment. Finances are important but that mentality is scary, money can come and go. You need to be worried about the man’s character
I agree. Finances are important but that can't be the only thing. She needs to seek out finances and character.
The video was sad to watch especially cos I don’t think she got the advice and guidance she really needed
This is absolutely through a man with character is important!!
Wow these influencers are doing a number on these young ladies’ minds, I really feel for them 😔
Its sad that this is even impossible what happen to common sense????
We can't blame social media for certain things, it starts at home, being raised.. If morals, values, principles are instilled as tiny girls..there's nothing a influencer can convince you to do.. Using social media is always a excuse for lack of common sense 🤦🏽♀️
I don’t these people are grown and need common sense and a taste of reality.
Social Media is definitely the ultimate downfall. It pushes certain agenda's even the blind can see that. If ppl dont see it already they are comfortable living in ignorance. Period.
This Has Always Been A Thing
She needs a prayer life. There are some decision you need to make with God and no one else.
A 22 year old living off a boyfriend is disastrous. Go and live your life sweetheart. Snatch a man around 25-27. You’re too young for this life. I was in that situation at that age and got trapped into a kid at 23.
I’d be so ashamed of myself if this was one of my Daughters 😔 So sad. This girl is absolutely clueless and needs to get off SM.
lol
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Yes.
How did having children become the END GOAL over marriage!!?? 😮
It's a game out here. This is what a lot of men are running into
Having kids.is the only reason we are here. Reproducing is the only reason any living being is here
Where you been ?! Lmao !! These women been made having a child the end game. Baby showers are the new weddings . You ain’t know 😂😂 (sarcasm ) it’s truly sad. Peoples priorities and values be all messed up.
“I date men that never dated black women”… Girl that is not a flex!!! If only you knew 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Why not,,,, all men fetishise women,, get over it
@@catcoffee7958that’s the issue ..she’s being fetishized and not loved
Actually that is preferred.
I dated both types of white girls.
I rather be their only black guy
@@genovasquez8361agreed… every white guy I dated I was their first black girl. I don’t like white guys who have black girl fetish or dislike white girls.
@@genovasquez8361this wasn’t the message you thought it was… like huh
Getting on an internet platform and openly discussing possibly trapping a man with a baby is wild.
She seems naïve. Hopefully she finds a happy medium with this situation or the next.
They forget that the video will be watched by millions. In their mind they are only talking to the show host
This is probably staged, tbh. Most sugar babies and daddies are anonymous and low key for obvious reasons
she’s destined for custody battles
Just wild 😂 ppl act like things don't stay on internet.
@@trombonefellowEXACTLY
She says she’s dated lots of wealthy men but still sounds inexperienced in life😂
Maybe one that's it and she being played by him obviously lol😂by the insecurity in the way she speaks just naive
Right at 22 you don’t know shit
Her she definitely shows
I don’t think she has. I think a lot of women come on the show to get exposure.
ashley is soo patient and sweet with young women
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doesn’t accomplish nothing
Don’t ask for an allowance. Give him something to invest in that benefits you whether it’s a business schooling something like that.
invest from your allowance. otherwise he might think he deserves a portion of profits or something 😬
Yes good idea, ONLY problem alot of women under the age of 50 barely stay in a relationship longer than 6 months.
So she will have to work hard to provide value for at the very least 4 year degree.
You have to stand still and not move around and really commit for the long haul.
4 years a long time for alot of sistas.
This. He probably doesn't see the need because she likely doesn't do anything all day, lol. It's also doesn't help that she brought it up so late into the relatioship.
Sorry to say rich men will invest in your looks before they invest in your business. Reason being is because boss man doesn’t want another boss in his home if that’s the case he’d date someone from his office… which is why you don’t see a lot of them powerful rich women.
You can ask for both
Social media is ruining our people. This is exactly why you should not want what others have. You never know the ends and outs. These ppl have issues just like us maybe even worse. Ladies love the life you live and stop comparing yourself to others. ❤
Side note: Ash I really like this makeup look.
Lack of common sense is the problem
Facts 💯
That is not "our"ppl..She belong to non black men with money she DGAF about BM or the black community so she ain't my kind..FOH
She’s definitely with this man for his wealth. He’s with her because she’s young. Wealthy men will have you quit your job so they can have some control over you. Quitting your job because your boyfriend said so shows how naive she is. This entire conversation she spoke of wealth.
she is probably not his only one he is seeing, especially if she lives in her own place he has other women.
Its a common play for gold diggers to leave or pretend to leave their job so they have a reason or excuse to play him for more money. A rookie sugar daddy might fall for it a few times
@@trombonefellow Lead with D never money.
It looked like she didn't want to work to begin with
@@yvetteschoon8405 lol haha
This generation is a different breed.
You were so patient and gracious with Eliza. Was a masterclass on good counsel and loving correction x
Ashley says: “If I could tell you one thing-“. And she cuts her right off to ask another 🙄 I wanted to hear Ashley’s one piece of advice!
She’s too focused on social media lifestyles..smh (poor Bby)
So she was thinking about having a baby by her sugar daddy to secure a bag only to contradict herself and say she doesn’t really want to have a kid and wants to travel 🤔🤔……
Yeah this girl is all over the place when it comes to priorities. She wants more money but only she knows her man so she needs be upfront with him. I don’t think she really had that conversation with him in terms of an allowance because why would she be on here? I think considering her current position she should work on having her own income stream.
Using a baby to ensure her security is ...... selfish
i dont offer women money, if i cant get it like Pookie does, i dont want her. im ray ray. not bill gates.
she's 22 bored and stuck on the trending relationships on tiktok.
I would feel so bad for the child if she did that.
He’s not generous with giving you an allowance now soooo why would having a baby make things better?….. Babies never improve relationships. They either make pull up your socks and get into real life or they will make drift further apart.
It happens for some, but rarely. Lol
She seems lazy. At least give the man a reason to want to be throwing money her way. She's not an entrepreneur, she doesn't seem to have any goals. The man ain't her problem.
I refused to date any girl who wants me just because of my money. The type of girls my mom ALWAYS warns me about. I LOVE YOU MAMA❤️❤️❤️. Now I get it very clearly!
You would do it for your dream girl.
I hope Ashley recognizes the impact she’s having on young women’s lives. ♥️I also love how direct and respectful she is. Perfect balance.
She’s not listening
The Cindy and Pumpkin drama was wild! Proof that influencers be lying and putting on for views.
Oh this is a simple answer. Don’t ask for an allowance. Complain about how broke you are and tell him that you got a job (make sure that the “hours” are set to when you would normally see him). He will then try to “solve” the problem of not seeing you because you have a job… he will then offer to give you money.. HIS IDEA :)
You stank hoes will never get me 😂😂😂😂
Now that's a good idea!!
sprinkle sprinkle
Not all men think that way, Some men are trained to not problem solve with women.
@@genovasquez8361 the exception doesn’t make the rule.. I’ve been studying anthropology for a while now in school. Masculine energy solves problems.. we all have masculine energy. If a man is not trying to solve your problems, that means he’s in his feminine energy and you’re probably too much in your masculine energy. The more feminine, you are the more it will awaken his masculine energy for you. Yin & Yang
Why did she leave the last man that gave her the allowance.
Something fishy.
Like Ashley said you have your answer.
She’s immature it shows
I believe it’s because she thought this man had more and would allow her to quit her job. She likely had a full roster and chose the wrong one it sounds like lol
He was married
He IS PAYING YOU to be his GF.. he knows it, he just wants the cow for free.. he can afford HIS expenses just fine but doesnt want to afford youra and he wants you to be dependent on him.. you fell for the okie doke sis.. get another job, spend less time with jim and then re present your case.. if he doesnt wanna change his mind then you move on - DO. OT GET PREGNANT - HE WILL NOT REAOECT YOU HAVING HIS CHILD I PROMISE YOU!
You said that right
Ashley said youre not about to pimp a PIMP!! Pay up Eliza 💵😂
This was entirely cringe she needs to log off social media and let go of the smoke and mirrors. all i have is prayers.
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Ash is there a way you or i can post the discord link so the community here to join?
It’s sad that as a young lady she’s only concerned about getting money from men, no mention of real a connection. If she continues this way it could be real bad for her when she’s late 20s and wants to settle down and have a FAMILY
No use of connection if you don't have money to protect it,,, she will land a sugar daddy,, let's stop with glorifing love over financial stability
@@catcoffee7958 Exactly .
im so confused honestly, doesn’t sound like a relationship more of someone she wants just for money…
He's her sugar daddy he thinks he's her boyfriend she's with him for money
@@averyupton4694 And he's with her because she's young so what's the problem?
Go back to work/school and quit once he put a ring on it. You should probably multi date because this dude is controlling. I don't negotiate my respect and morals over money.
Is it just me or what. I want to make my own money. I do not want to ever allow anyone to have control over me in that way. A lot of times these men do not put these luxury items in their names. These rich men this is their lifestyle. They will be with younger women and when they are done with the fun part of you. They go to the next one to be their fun. Know your worth! Why is everything based on what a person can buy you. Why are we not wanting to just live our best life and do these things ourselves. She is young and beautiful. Know your worth. If this is the lifestyle you young ladies want for yourself you have to not get emotionally involved. You are setting yourself up for failure and heartache. This is a lot.
I wish some of these women poured into themselves and made money on their own instead of searching for a wealthy man. Take yourself to Greece, fly yourself on first class etc. This sister is young enough to hustle and make something of herself instead she quit her job for what? To beg some guy she’s dating for an allowance? Make it make sense.
Why would you need an allowance if he buys everything already?? I would be confused too if I was him lmao. She put herself in a dangerous position being fully reliant on him. And he’s right. It does sound like he’s paying her to be his girl.
Now if she wants to continue trying to get more money, Shera would say to get a job with inconvenient hours. Make up an excuse for why you need the job (like saving up for a house or something). If he’s not able to have unlimited access to you anymore he might offer to give you the money but probably not a regularly scheduled payment.
Whats the point of dating a rich man if he's not generous
She brings embarrassment to the sprinkle sprinkle movement. Shera said DONT QUIT YOUR JOB WITHOUT SECURITY AND A RING and use his money to make yourself more money!! Girl please go ask God for guidance and instruction.
OMGI am enjoying your tact. Your assertiveness, your boundaries I’m enjoying this.
Whew chile, the ghetto.
say that again
Ashley also said BEAUTIFUL?
@@barbarablackmon7807 angel said a month full
@@genovasquez8361I heard that😳😳😳
Girl get a job and stack your $$$
or start a business.
This is SAD!
Go to work…… he already paying your bills the least you can do is work and get money to invest in something for yourself
He's not doing it because he's a nice person.
He doesn’t want her to work. That’s why I say she need to have her own business
This overall live was HEAVY!!!! I hope they really take your advice and some of the chats positive advice.
That is crazy ! Because he asked her to quit her job....
She sound immature and easily impressionable. I would never quit my job because of a man i dont care how mich money he got. Aint nothing like your own. Now dont get it twisted ima
Accepting alll gifts.
This live was 😰 😰😰. Be safe out there.
Some people will date a black woman for the experience but they arent always open to marrying you. Ashley's advice is spot on. Hope Eliza books that 1 on 1
That doesn't just happen to black women lol
This is any race of women of any age
@@Khumo_Mpho I'm speaking on this situation specifically, as a black woman. I can't speak on anyone else's experience, nor is it relevant for this video specifically because the young lady (as far as I can tell) is black. In addition, black women are the least married women and there is anti blackness all across the world. So, respectfully, my comment is about black women
@@rosewatersweettea my comment is specifically about black women. There is nothing wrong with me making this comment specifically about black women especially when the young woman is black. ❤️
Ashley said Pumpkin changed after the child was born. If true, didn’t Pumpkin say he found out she was married and was doing fraud. Of course all could be false and he did things too, but she presented as a sugar baby, who got pregnant for her sugar daddy, that is tricking and not to be compared to normal woman.
I pray for a mature and wise female mentor to guide and inform this young woman.
Not quitting my job for a boyfriend. Even if I was married and he didn’t want me to work, I would still have my own business or income from my own skillset.
I’m so confused as to how I’m not dating a wealthy man 😂 this was an easy one. Men are men. Make it an investment on his part. You don’t just ask for $2000. Say “hey I’m taking classes to do X business” or “I’m doing a startup accelerator program for Y” something like that. Think it through, put it on paper and show him the ROI. Most men will respect it and appreciate your mindset.
Then again…you could always lie and say your hair cost $400 when it really cost $200 and pocket the difference. But that’s chump change. Asking for $10k and more is an investment and for that, you gotta be smart. As long as you sell the idea as something to do “on the side” that won’t limit his availability to you, you’re good. The framing is always what makes sense and benefits HIM
He seems pretty tight with his wallet, he gives what he feels like in the moment and probably have SET accounting line of expenditures for his women he has in harem.
You can definitely ask for 2k. You can ask for 10k with no return. You have to find men that are okay being sugar daddies not trying to make boyfriends and men that actually like you as a girlfriend do it. That’s the problem right there. These normal regular girls are trying to live the sex worker life and don’t know wtf they’re doing and do dumb shit like quit their job with no financial incentive set up lol. Like come on now. Chileeee
@@carisasnow8357Yeah I’m super regular and I don’t know many guys who are handing out that kind of money just for a random day. That feels like a sugar daddy vibe idk. Men will def upgrade your life and that can be expensive. but just sending money like that? There would have to be a reason
Cindy is still with that man . I don’t think this woman is wrong for what she’s doing at all. She just needs to make sure she’s having cash in hand or get another sugar daddy in addition to this one and tell the old one she has less time because now she has to “work” 🤷🏽♀️
She doesn’t look like she’s in a relationship with a wealthy man!
this was one the wildest things I’ve ever watched.
Leave him then! Find someone who will do it. Because he’s not with it. Go back to work and find someone who will completely provide. Also aim for marriage not the spoiled gf!!
Girrllllaaaa….she’s answering her own questions. Save up some money and leave. You can’t make a man generous rich or not. She’s trying to turn him into something that he’s not. A man that truly loves you will spoil you…so yeah, he trying to keep you in a certain place
Once he asked u to quit, he should replace that income
Period 💯
Ashley I appreciate you keeping it real🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I heard that if a guy has never been with a certain type of ethnicity and his past women have been different race they usually just settle. So she needs to watch out. It’s the same thing when they say when you look a guys following list and see only blonds but dates a black girl it’s usually not their type and they just settle just for the obvious reasons.
Wait, she was considering having children with the baby daddy but then says she doesn’t really want children??
The congestive dissonance is insane
This level of delusion should be a cautionary tale… SMH
“Ask me in a private chat “ Yass ash get your coins.
Ashely chica I can’t watch the lives since different time zone! I was waiting to watch the whole live when i woke up but didin’t see any posted smh😭 i was waiting with my cup of coffee😂
I missed it too 😢 But this clip was goodt 👌🏾
@@TBear02 yess😭
He’s literally giving her anything she wants ..she just wants cash ..it can seem sneaky from the boyfriends point of view
The man she’s seeing is not willing to give her monetary support . She quit her job and lost her stability. Unreal
No matter how rich he is dont leave your job. 😬 I'm so happy that I love to work no matter what. My hard life without parents taught me to work hard and not depend on anyone no matter how rich he is. Its his money not your money. I don't trust people blindly no matter how rich they are or how good it feels. Even family members, friends one day they will surprise you.
What’s sad is people who’ve already cheapened themselves expecting something for nothing. There’s no such thing as something for nothing. These men want you because they want control which is easier to to have with younger women.
Lmfao Eliza baby you doing this wrong asf
Eliza all I want to say is don’t let your boyfriend stop you from finding your husband you can have what you want
She ain’t no looker .. she better stay in school .. and get her job bag
I meant get her job back
He doesn’t have it or he doesn’t want to give it.
Whew, this is heavy. 22, a young butterfly. I wish the best for her.
I just found this station so far I like it and Ashley you are so beautiful and smart I want to take you out Ashley. I keep running into chicken heads. I'm falling for you Ashley❤ my player days are over I'm 60 years old how can I get in touch with you ? PS I look like I'm 50.
A high quality man can have money but his income does not equate to his worth or how nice he’ll treat you. Some women are prioritizing money and fail to understand that men can sense you don’t fully care for them. They’ll use and drop you if they feel it’s for inauthentic reasons.
And btw, my husband is white and I’m biracial. So I can’t understand the mono racial black woman’s experience fully. However, just because someone dealt with you, it doesn’t mean they actually like people who look like you. Some just want a new experience
These young girl are allowing these older men to suck the life out of them for a $1 and get tricked. It’s a shame. Go live baby girl
Successful men don't spend all of their money...unless they're entertainers or pro athletes. What does she need this money for if everything is covered? A little money? Yes. 5k per week? Hell no.
Ash ❤Post thee entire live!!!
I am a man that earns a good living. All I hear from her is liabilities. She does not want kids, wants the easy life etc. At my level, and I am not a 1% at all, I want kids and a legacy. I have been married for 16 years so far. I gave my wife 10k for shopping and to spoil herself. I knew she was THE ONE when she came home with a few items for her, and the rest for me. She thought of me first. That's what I want and what I married. Because I know if it comes to me having to lay my life down for her, I would ,knowing she would have done the same. She is not it
I think some of these women be capping about the type of ppl they date and what actually took place lol
Quitting your job for a man is weird.
Do not have a child. If he's not "giving you money" a baby will not change that. Get some goals and make sure you can stand on your own
She don’t know what she’s doing
Common sense is not so common.
Love the host’s dialect ❤
Have him buy you things you can convert to cash. Have him buy you stocks, and ask for some start up money for a business
She’s moving like she’s married to him. having a baby quitting your job and hoping that he takes care of you and you’re not married is the wrong move also, he could wake up tomorrow and get with another 22-year-old. you both are obviously on different pages regarding this arrangement
Eliza If you see this, just focus and invest in that relationship. Love is great, but it’s a choice. I got married at 22, and some days it IS hard to deal with my husband. But that’s the man I chose to be with, and I remember that. Get married, and love yourself first, the marriage is a partnership. He NEEDS you to be the mother to his child, that’s the ONE thing he can’t do alone in this life, and you want him to be successful to help you and your future family. I had kids young, and I don’t regret it, but if you don’t want them yet, invest in you and him. Make him want to marry you for everything you offer him. And AFTER that investment and mindset shift, give the children and be happy within your life. If you can’t grow in your relationship, then THATS when you know it’s not for you. But this man sounds like he will support you, so even if you don’t get an “allowance” just be supported and ready for the future (if he really is your boyfriend and not a sugar daddy).
Seems like there is a lot of miscommunication within her relationship. Sounds like Eliza views her man as a sugar daddy and he believes he’s her boyfriend. Think she should take some time to be clear about what she wants. I agree Ashley that she should work on her self esteem and not have a baby especially since she says she doesn’t want them. The city girl lifestyle is fun but not long term.
This is why i never spend money in a relationship. i treat relationships like we still in highschool im not doing less, but im not doing more than that.
Cindy was a crook - she was already married! And Pumpkin found out 🤷🏽♀️
She has an answer for everything...smh ..she's not learning anything.
Ultimately, she's a bedwe*ch unfortunately... She's too happy to be a white dudes first black "girlfriend" . And then made it seem like she had one up on other black girls .........
Lord please help this baby find herself through You and not through folks’ fake lives on social media 🙏🏾
Seems to me like she’s lazy and wants something for nothing
Yeah, what do you need 5k a week for at 22 when you didn’t earn it yourself. And what does she have to offer him? All she talked about was getting money from him. She never spoke about how she contributes to his life
If a man asks me to leave my Job, I would request he compensate me the money equivalent to my work contract which I know he will not because BABY! Why would I leave my job for a man who can wake up and decide to leave without a reason? This girl is naïve and watches too much Tiktok!!! She needs to delete tiktok, get back to work and leave that man if he still complains!!!
Ash pls post the full live 😔
Referring to having a baby as something to “get it over with” really shows how much you want to be a mother 🙄
Seems like she's lying or making it up as she goes along..smh
There is a solid reason why God says ASK FOR WISDOM‼️‼️‼️‼️
I thank god for my stay at home mom and older sister and brothers.