@@Wuwei72-o5n If no one is going to help me, my situation is hopeless. I've been in my personal hellscape for a decade now. I've been to therapists. I've been on every anti-depressant on the market. My only hope left is someone somehow helping me.
@@KingFluffs If you can live in the city you can live anywhere the country side is always cheaper. Obviously we all need help, but you can't expect to live off of others for the rest of your life, when they're not there now, what? Usually the Hikikomori and other people with conditions, morbid obesity comes to mind, they always depend on someone to survive, but when you no longer have that livelihood and you feel hungry, you look for work in whatever it is, ask someone you know or a family member for help. Field work is hard, but calm and rewarding. Having that charity in part is what keeps us in the comfort zone, unable to grow, and increasingly frustrated with your existence. If you have disabling anxiety, try starting an online business and sell anything, people will buy anything if it is made with love. I have a small carpentry workshop and I sell items, for pet dishes, pet beds, etc and it's going well. I plan to expand it with more artistic things in the future. Also think about the causes of what keeps you like this, ask for help if necessary, most people are good but do not depend on anyone or we will return to the same thing.
@@KingFluffs If you can live in the city you can live anywhere the country side is always cheaper. Obviously we all need help, but you can't expect to live off of others for the rest of your life, when they're not there now, what? Usually the Hikikomori and other people with conditions, morbid obesity comes to mind, they always depend on someone to survive, but when you no longer have that livelihood and you feel hungry, you look for work in whatever it is, ask someone you know or a family member for help. Field work is hard, but calm and rewarding. Having that charity in part is what keeps us in the comfort zone, unable to grow, and increasingly frustrated with your existence. If you have disabling anxiety, try starting an online business and sell anything, people will buy anything if it is made with love. I have a carpentry workshop and I sell pet items, dishes, beds, etc. and it's going well. I plan to expand it with more artistic things in the future. Also think about the causes of what keeps you like this, ask for help if necessary, most people are good but do not depend on anyone or we will return to the same thing.
This anime put me in despair, but soon after it gave me the answer. In short, no one will take your hand and carry you towards success. And that's not the world's fault.The people around you have their own problems to solve
I'm sorry, but I thought the ending was stupid. Saying "Get a minimum wage job and your obvious mental health problems will go away" is like saying "Choose to be happy and your clinical depression will go away." The series keeps pushing the idea that there are no easy answers, then gives us an easy answer to one of Japan's most complex social issues. Of course, that's only my personal opinion. Perhaps you interpreted the ending differently.
Ok then the people can go deal with their own problems then. That’s just another reason to embrace loneliness. What’s the point of having any type of relationship then?
@@Joosh398 I find it insane how we still haven't learned since the stone age that humans are only strong together. No shit you're struggling to solve your problems all alone, we're supposed to be helping each other...
@@furiousdestroyah9999 I’m responding what this guy said. It’s a contradiction. On one hand, we should deal with our own shit and leave people to deal with theirs. On the other hand, we supposed to help each other and form relationships. Can’t have it both ways. But the guy above seems to think he can. The point I’m making is why the hell should we bother making friends if everyone’s meant to deal with their own problems? Also, back in the Stone Age, people had no choice. We have a choice now.
I’ve had suicidal thoughts and have struggled with depression for many years. But there are three things I’ve learned over the years: One, we don’t live in an isolation bubble. We usually isolate ourselves by not going outside and meeting people (or just limit who we talk to based on assumptions). I’ve joined some local groups with similar interests and hobbies, and that has helped me a lot. Secondly, the crippling feeling WILL not stick forever. You will have ups and down your whole life, which is normal. People with depression feel the downs longer, but it helps to have people to talk to and share the burden, even if it’s just through a simple text message. Life is always changing, we just have to look outside. Thirdly, I believe God is real and cares about our struggles. He cries with us when we suffer, and He celebrates are smallest victories. And even if we feel alone, He is always there, struggling with us. We can rely on Him, especially when we feel our weakest. But no matter what you believe, you are never truly alone in life. There are people who care, even if you don’t know who they are. Your life holds infinite worth, and there are people who want and need you, if you let them in.
I’m lonely by nature I think. I know the pain. It’s one that causes resentment and anger. But also allows a lot introspective time. In someway I think I need it. People exhaust me but I need to hide sometimes. Because i need to decompress. It’s an odd and painful experience.
I feel you me myself I have a high tolerance of being alone and don't suffer from those effects, maybe it's because I smoke weed once a week multiple joints on that one day, and since I have a survival mindset I still can do things like having a job go outside to exercise to keep my body healthy. And maybe I am build different because of the bullying and mistreatment that I always received from others in my childhood made me and my brain adapt and change having a higher tolerance for being alone since I do prefer to be alone but off course high tolerance doesn't mean I can do that forever, I'm able to go for years without talking to someone until that need to be social comes up.
Misaki is an enabler, and part of the story is the deconstruction of "godsend angel girl to save me" trope. She wanted to make Sato depending on her to exist, because she was broken af herself. I like the anime version of the story better than the manga though.
I can understand where misaki comes from. I liked being one of my cousins only friends and now she's more socially adept than me I feel shitty. I miss how things were but it just means I have to do better. I would love for someone to be reliant on me though.
As someone that's read the LN, Manga and watched the Anime, I agree. The manga's climatic moment (e.g. taking place in his apartment building) was weird and I guess was trying to be different than the anime (or it caught up with the anime and they had to come up with something). It was more about him leaving the NEET/Hikki life and doing his own thing, but left the Misaki/Sato storyline in a pause. The LN provides some details not in the anime that are edgier than what could be in the anime (such as protag's narcotics use), but generally follows the anime. I recommend finding the LN (luckily only one volume if you avoid the 're' series that is a reimaging of the story) for a expanded take on this, but it's expensive.
In early 2023, in the span of two months I lost my job, my girlfriend and one of the people who raised me after weeks despairing in the hospital and dealing with the hospital's staff mistreatment. Ever since then I've been living isolated as a NEET, surviving from my mom's allowance as I couldn't get a job even after bouncing back from the grief and depression. I've never even watched this anime, but all you talked about in this video and Sato's story was so real that it scared me, but also felt comforting to know some people are aware of what it's like waking up and panicking because you don't know what you can do to make your day productive and has no one to talk to. Some days are harder than others, but ever since I've reached out for professional help things have felt less hopeless, I've even made some friends and have applied for a job as an english teacher with good prospects of being hired. That feeling of "everyone's laughing at me" doesn't go away, but at least it no longer prevents me from trying to get out of this situation.
Welcome to the nhk truly helped me feel less alone at a point in my life where I felt completely isolated. I still struggle with loneliness but I also learned how to be my own best friend. I used to not want to go places or do things without someone else because it made me feel awkward but now if I want to shop or go to a movie or something I would avoid because I had no one to do it with, I found a new kind of peace and enjoyment in doing because its what I WANT to do
This anime spoke to my soul. I remember watching it and just breaking down crying when I was a teenager. Sometimes, it still gets me today. My family, including myself, are immune compromised so we rarely go out and this is life now to protect ourselves.
Don't pretend you're not a hikikomori but at the same time don't make it your identity. Just state you don't have friends, you're alone, and you stay cooped up most of your life. If you make it your identity you will only see through the lenses as a hikiko.
who th cares what you are bro. you decide what you do. Who can stop you? Do what is right and you'll win, it doesn't matter if there is a definiton out there that is describing you or not. It doesn't define you, unless you let it.
Being honest to yourself that you don't try to be a social person and love being pampered within your comfort, it will be how it is. Shit don't rain on you for no reason.
I'm not a NEET, but I can see myself becoming a Hikkikomori or a NEET in the future. Ever since starting university and becoming an adult I feel like I've failed at life. I have friends, family and a job too. But, I'm always stumbling where it counts. I've got so many dreams and ambitions that I've been too scared, busy or lazy to work on to achieve them fully. And the constant stress with life and just being on your own most of the time is agonizing. I live on campus now, but I am eventually gonna need a place of my own and my isolation is just gonna get worse. I become busier and so do my friends, so there's more nights where I'm on my own and hating myself for not being who I need or want to be and I just want to cut everything off and die in a hole somewhere. The idea that this exhaustion and and loneliness is just part of adulthood frightens me. So many people are aware of that and keep on living regardless and I don't think I can keep doing the same forever. Death as an option has failed me, so I trek onwards, but deep down if I could live off of working from home and all my loved ones would let me die off on my own and stopped caring for me so I can rot in a dark room. Then I think that would be easier. I think of a life where if I could disappear it could be easier. These thoughts invade my head and I look back on a year ago when I thought a car was about to crash into me on a late night walk and just how for a few split seconds my first feeling was pure bliss and peace of mind. Not sure if there will ever be a "fix" for me somewhere. I use video games and twitter to keep me chipper and forget on most days. I personally believe there's no good ending for people like me, but I firmly do also believe that change is possible for most people out there. For now I'll just keep on living out an uncertain future and I just wanted to vent about that a bit. Leave a little bit of my agony in some corner of the internet somewhere.
It takes courage to open up about stuff like this, and having read what you wrote, I do not know what to say... I won't pretend that I have the answer to your problem but let me at least say this: Nothing is set in stone. Your past does not define your future, even the smallest thing can propel you into a different direction, so please keep holding on. But above all else, do not forget to be kind to yourself and do things that makes you happy, it's okay to be selfish. I hope my words helped you somehow.
Homie...I need backup to a project building an e-commerce shipping company in India and China and Japan. Even I find myself against the wall in a terrible way...like legitimately no one is coming to help me or give me hard hand when I need it and I am so screwed over in serious stuff. I am choking and people are pretty much watching me not knowing that I legitimately am about to be killed and need money for an attorney and serious protection and honestly how many times I told this story. People are going to kill me or eventually get to me if I don't get help and also financial legal help... definitely I see what you see...money matters but how you make it and live the purpose of your life or do what you want to do is actually something... stagnation and not going anywhere sucks. Dangerous too. Being without friends and allies is a curse
Coming from someone who was in a similar place mentally two years ago, I would recommend you to seek a professional help. Medication doesn't fix things immediately, but it can help to look at things in the more positive way. Then you can start working towards improvement of your mental status. From there it's a tough and probably never-ending process of self-improvement but it gets easier everyday. As for me, HealthyGamer GG community been also a huge help in my journey. I hope you'll feel better, my man. Also, sorry for my grammar, English is not my first language.
Being severely depressed and suicidal, I've becomed bitter, resentful, I find people "caring" about me to be absolutely corny, embarrassing, superficial and - or uncomfortable, so I've come to an conclusion that I am not normal, and that absolutely destroys me. I do not care that "I'm not alone" it just makes it worse. I simply give up and wished to be born differently, for you do not understand how difficult it is to be this miserable.
Of course, it’s impossible to truly know someone else’s perspective, just as the solutions to their problems are also just as specific (not just by the general answer of getting more responsibilities before you can uphold or learn why/how to find them), but by having any different (outside) professional (focused/educated) perspective to meaningfully work for you on the small obstacles that keep everyone from knowing or overcoming their own cycles. Of course though nobody mentions the limitations of reality, but those limitations are the all more necessary for reaching out despite the inevitable disappointments/ignorance’s of others/reality, and hoping for a better future because of our knowledge of the undetermined possibilities for change goes in both positive and negative ways (with a lot of needed dedication in trying to tip the scales of course through calculated chess moves to set a domino effect for our wanted outcomes). It ain’t ever easy but it sure beats the alternatives. Sorry if I came off too strongly stupid, but I was just using your comment selfishly for my own inner dialogue cause I relate. I still hope you are able to make it despite all the insurmountable odds and get rewarded for surviving them despite it not correlating with your efforts or expectations whatsoever. 😅
Stop thinking about yourself so much. You’ve nothing to occupy your time, so your mind works on yourself all day long. Go get busy and you will not have ridiculous thoughts like “people caring about me is corny, don’t they know I’m worthless and the earth is just a rock and the sun is going to go out?”
@@theskyizblue2day431 I do have a job, I'm not entirely miserable perse, but I've been continuously suicidal and extremely depressed. I will get out if it, I am saving a lot of money for a good psychiatrist because my psyhcologist heavily recommended it. I was venting which was a stupid thing to do and am now thinking of deleting this dumb comment. I will not give up that easily, even if sometimes is very debilitating. :)
I worked third shift night stock at a grocery store for over a decade. The pandemic didn’t functionally change my life, except the company I worked for finally decided to not have the store open 24 hours a day and made it a LOT easier on us. No drunks or junkies or shoplifters to deal with. Third shift workers are not paid enough across the board, because you’re trading your health and sanity for a few dimes more per hour. You got to embrace that most companies are like the Administratum from 40K, and recognize that you are alone and on your own.
If the universe is feeling a twisted compassion one of those days, YOU get to plan to un-alive your neighbor clerk for ANY reason, even minor like his cute coffee cup! ...Yeah, humanity is doomed.
3rd shift at white castle broke my mental. not just because of how bad the managment was or how hard i had to work to make up for trash coworkers, but the methheads and drunks coming through, people flashing guns, no im cool on people on society leave me alone
@@mohammadhosseini6675 I know the sentiment behind your comment. "How can he suffer? He has clothes to wear. He has food to eat. He has a job. He has peace." However, we can not convey feelings through comments. You do not know what this man has been through. You know not his shames, his regrets, his diseases, his psyche, his soul. You can never know online. Thus, don't assume his life is perfect because he is not killing and dying in a senseless war. Peace.
I enjoy being alone most of the time I can listen to the silence, music or any sound that might arise. It's very peaceful There's no drama There's no one that demands your attention
And the best thing is that you can fart loudly without having to be embarrassed.Jokes aside. I've been living in isolation since 2014 and I have insight. Everyone just has to decide for themselves whether it is simply being alone or loneliness. For me the glass is half full. Even if the pessimism creeps into my mind every now and then and tells me whether I'm jumping, hanging or bleeding on the tracks. Somehow it works, and you're happy that a crow comes to visit you on the balcony every morning.
With despair comes humility. With humility comes peace of mind. Videos like these try to shake my peace of mind.However, for those who haven’t got it yet this video may be helpful.
I have been a neglected child, never had friends in school, and had to grow with a schizophrenic mother...i can't even describe what real loneliness feels like, bit at a certain point, you just stop feeling emotions...your brain NEEDS to, or it will never survive in such a scenario, now all of my friends are fake, except for one, my parents finally finally acknowledged their mistake...but it is too late, because the only feeling i have left is anger, and not matter how much i fight it... it grows stronger by the day, i have grown up, it's too late for parental love...i struggled with addiction for years, and i have won it, and things have become slightly better...but it's still a looooooooong way up, and sometimes, we have to rest along the way.
I felt the same way you do. I turned numb after a few years in isolation but it got worse when I moved out. I had to learn everything on my own from listening to one self, handle shame from a toxic family, coming out of addiction on my own (had to seek professionals in the end), solve the so called "mystories" of my own behavior and reactions along with my family. I knew we all ended up in the ways we did for a reason but it's no use if you feel numb. Emotions guide our actions, thoughts and feelings more than we think. You lost your toolkit (emotions) in the middle of nowhere (your current state) and it's getting dark (depression, ect.). If I can help you out from here then go dive into releasing anger. It is hard to face emotions when you turn the deaf ear to them. The body reacts in a similar way just as if you turned the deaf ear to another person. Know it's yourself and your emotions and let it know you are finally there to listen. Maybe get a therapists help to release the emotions. It takes time but you will hopefully get over on the other side. I been there and I know how it feels. You are not alone.
Happiness all the time is an illusion and a facade. Accept that and move on to bettering yourself for the sake of YOURSELF. Help you to help others if that's what you want. Never mind what persons A, B, and C are doing next to ya. They're winging it, too.
Because even if you are lonely despite being around people, if you have a job, your own place, are in a club or volunteer, and have friends, you aren't judged cause are considered a contributing member of society. But if you lack these things you will be...and that also makes it harder to make friends. I believe there is a difference between feeling alone and true loneliness.
When I was younger I used to read manga and watch anime a lot. That's how my interest in Japan started. For example, there was the work mentality, how much Japanese people work per week, how many overtime hours they do, and I think I heard that they only get about 10 days' vacation a year. The fact that many people take their work seriously and stories like that, that some have killed themselves because they failed at work. I've also seen a number of videos on this topic and was amazed at how many of these hikkikomoris there are. I've also heard that many young people have no plans for the future, and don't want to start a family. Either because everything is too expensive or because they don't want to put their children through that. Not just in Japan, but in many countries. But I talk too much, thanks for the video.
As someone who read/watched this during his formative years, it's crazy seeing this series be talked about again. You can definitely tell it was from a different era media as it pulls you in as some comedic anime about someone who is alone.....but instead it's almost a PSA or warning about how the lifestyle can be harmful not only to you but to those you may hold dear.
I have seen the dark things as I have gone through my line of work and talked to so many great people. I have seen the darkness in someone's eyes when they have a fake smile. I recently heard about a guy I knew who probably had the brightest smile out of the people in the site I worked at ended his life. I didn't know him personally but I interacted with him pretty much daily and we got along well. When I heard the news I had to bury my emotions bc well I am security and I can't burst into tears mid job so. Now every time I am at my station and wait for people to clock out, I don't see him. It is something I noticed, only me an one other person mentioned him. The world moves on and leaves those that died behind so the ones living can push forward. Not many people will remember him, I think being a security guard is the best thing I can do given I am moving up to armed security for hospitals and such. I have been a person who has been someone for others to lean on when they need it, even complete strangers sometimes. If I can do some good for the people by doing security so be it.
For real. I find it to be pointless to engage with people at my university or out in the world. They either don't want to talk or aren't good at it/don't want to input anything of their own to it.
its not up to me. some people simply fall through the cracks. i have been a neet for 7 years. youd be surprised, once you realize no one thinks about you, you can be chill and not miserable
@@nunothedude Waste of time unless you have a strong conviction. Drop college now. It's going to sap away your youth. Better work an honest job and learn online on your own.
whoa I didn't expect a welcome to NHK video in 2024. I remember bingeing the manga years ago just because the synopsis caught my attention. After this maybe it's finally time to check the anime
I think this Video did infact help me Understand my Position in the World better. Im a guy who overtthinks a lot. Especally in Conversations. Scared to say anything because i dont know how other People will react. I've always been like this. But the Pandamic did make it a 100 times worse. Im currently on a journy on changing this. Thank You, it was very helpfull for me.
Wish you the best on your journey and great and consistent progress in all time coming! Plateus and setbacks will very likely occur from time to time, but always keep your mind on the trend you can observe over the longer previous timespan.
I been alone for 7 years, my old man’s old man been alone for 35 years before he left this wasteland. It’s a journey not a destination. Not everyone goes though a crisis because of loneliness. They rarely think of the word or care to get out of it at least from my end regarding my old man’s old man experience. This doesn’t reflect everyone’s view on the matter. Some can not only handle being alone but prefer it
Loneliness is a double-edged sword. In some ways, you'll find out truths about the world and yourself only through that intense suffering, which can provide good means to heal. On the other hand, it's addicting and debilitating: you lose pace with reality and every waking day in that state past the productive time, you will be aware that time is ticking with nothing to show for it. It's a brutal realization, but a very human one (all the more relevant nowadays). I sincerely wish the best to those who read this and suffer from social isolation, loneliness, and or depression. I'm with you there, and hope there's a way out for the both of us. Suicide can really feel like a good fallback option, a way out from what seems completely unsalvageable existence (believe me I know), but it's true that we just want the noise to stop, not the show to end. Maybe it's just a barista job that gets you seeing faces again and making coffee, maybe it's something small like your one good friend that keeps you waking up just a smidge better. I have a sense you know what you need to do, it's just a shameful feeling to admit it. "You're not progressing the way your peers are! How have you fucked up this much for this long!? Why are you so depressed despite all my sacrifices!" These voices are only your enemy, and do nothing for you. Fuck 'em. Keep this as a reminder: there is a unspoken hole you fill in someone's life that doesn't give a fuck why you're still here, they care you just are. Consider that your purpose to keep going, and everything along the way a bonus (Let's make sure we can both play GTA 6 before we're gone, hmm?)
"there is a unspoken hole you fill in someone's life that doesn't give a fuck why you're still here, they care you just are." Exactly how I felt towards somebody. Just being with them seemed to somewhat fill the hole. Now they're gone and all the progress gone with them
I was never really able to get into this anime because I've been left to my own devices most of my life. The whole "being alone drives you crazy" thing hits different when you were never sane.
Being alone isnt for everyone. I dont understand why everyone assumes everyone is alone therefore everyone is suffering. It makes no sense. I enjoy being alone because its all I ever known.
Being Alone is one thing Being Lonely is another The lonely part makes you question about yourself, questions like Why? How? When?, in prolonged loneliness/isolation, your mind breaks as it cannot distinguish your thoughts with reality.
@@X3RNEA5 Indeed. You are naively ignorant until it hits you for YEARS of isolation. There's a massive difference being alone and lonely. Trust me, you don't want to feel lonely for almost 2 YEARS.
I feel like I should praise the musical choices in during the video, mostly taking certain recalls (talking to you, The tale of a Cruel world and the heaven for death video) and using them to enhance the what I would call introspection during the video, certain emotions (we love empathy here) that do fit the context and information that you're being fed do improve the way that it's received. All in all, thanks for reading the comment(s), I hope you could use that little note for something, if possible. Take care, reader
I understand Sato more than I'd like to admit, and I'm a normal guy with friends and a social job. I've felt an inner emptiness for years, and sometimes, it feels hopeless, and other times, it doesn't. It's like a roller-coaster that has seemingly no end, but I'll never give up simply because I don't have the heart to.
NHK is the best anime i've ever seen. Before watching it i was unemployed, wasn't doing so good at college, i had broke up with my girlfriend i few weeks prior, i was kindda depressed, was anxious and overall, i didn't see light on the end of the tunnel. After i finished the anime (in a week time frame), i had already found myselft a job, finished the last college exams (wich gave me enough grade to successfully pass the semester) and was at peace with myself. The anime gave me a boost to persue my goals and put my life on the tracks again. This anime is so very good.
Even though I really enjoyed and resonated with NHK, even it had the unrealistic trope girl show up at his front door. I haven't had a female acquaintance since high school and it's even worse nowadays since social media took over and 3rd places disappeared. Great show regardless and it's probably the only show in decades that's shed light on shut ins. But it's a lot worse irl when you have no friends, job, education, are poor, and pretty much nothing to motivate you on improving your life.
Loneliness is just a layer ...companionship does not solve everything. There is so much more reasons for suicide or just isolation... after all true loneliness is being surrounded by other people that does not care or understand you, and when hostility comes it's even better to be alone. Only true way is to find like minded and broken people like you, who get it, help them ...and before you know it you start to heal each other... that's what helped me to survive my suicide years. Every one has something broken, when you share what is not you might exchange with others working parts and save each other.
Small talk is extremely important. It helps you guage each other's energies as you lead into more substantial talk. With one woman, what started as passing comments about the weather ended up with us speaking about our siblings and childhoods. It was a very good bond while it lasted.
Best video I've seen in a while. Glad to say I do work full-time even if I'm not always a fan of my job. I think I just don't see enough of people these days though. Some people show their true colors and just don't wanna be as much connected with you, And other times when you hit your 30s, you see people becoming parents and transitioning into a different phase of life that you don't even know if you want. Still, anime is becoming more of a thing than ever. People like us share similar interests should stick together. Keep each other motivated to stay employed and and stay Social.
I think being connected all of the time is the reason no one engages in small talk anymore. They get burnt out and don't know how it feels to be desperate to be social.
I can tell you that 2020-2023 didn't help me any, and I'm in my 30's so it's not just a Gen Z or α thing. Before 2020 I was attempting to have a better social life. Reached out to old friends and was starting to go out again and just doing things. Inviting co-workers after our shift to the local bar for a drink after work to shoot the shit and talk smack about our day to decompress. This was at a time when we were in office. Then 2020 hit and we were mandated to work from home. Being cooped up in my room which served as my office for work did not help me in the slightest in terms of my mental health. I tried keeping myself busy with media and games, but I've slowly lost interest in them over time with small bursts of interest here and there. All I did was gone. Hell, going back through text messages with friends, there's a noticeable gap from when 2020 started to last year when no one spoke to me but family. I've always had a bit of social anxiousness, have had it for years due to things that happened in my early years on top of moving around. Like a lot. I've always found it extremely difficult to make friends and post-2020 really put that on the forefront. Now that no one wants to make small talk - and this is despite me hating it to all hell - I have no idea anymore what I can even talk to people about, let alone someone I have an interest in. I've contemplated seeking professional help but I have trust issues related to previously mentioned things. Before someone worries about me doing something stupid, I have no intentions of self-deletion because - and I'm going to be honest here - I don't want to make my mom sad. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I did. I've been getting better in recent years, but there are days, weeks, or months where I stall out and have no idea what to do next and how to improve my life next. I feel stupid for wanting to ask "how to make friends" since it sounds like something that an alien or some kind of imposter would ask. The social anxiety hit me full force a couple weeks ago when I was at anime convention. Couldn't talk to anyone despite being in a several hundred thousand square foot space filled with fellow weebs. I really do tend to overthink everything and question peoples' intentions just as much as I assume that others will be questioning my intentions as well in social settings. It's a vicious cycle. I had been depending on a friend of mine to help break me out of this, but they've become less and less available over time meaning despite having them as a friend through text or a phone call, they aren't physically present and once more feel alone once more. I'm... probably going to look at those recommendations my primary care doc sent me last year.
You know, the character in the show basically confront a thing that he doesnt want to bear: RESPONSABILITY. In a way or another we can correlate, but i lacked that so much back them, maybe at his level, or even worse.... It reflected in my own view of my emotions back them. "It must be it, i'm not satisfied until i reach this, i'm not well because of that, yadayadayada, why people around me get me wrong, the world is unjust towards me, i'm just unlucky, i wish a time-travel machine, why God made me that way, the fault are the people in my adolescence, if i wanst in the university course, etc". Maybe things started when i responded in a way to my "fear of being alone", as a result of bad experiences with 2 girls and fears of future... i got isolated around 12-14 years old, being afraid of socialization. As a younger kid i was really energic, then i changed, to the point i coulndt bare many strange faces without looking down, out of fear/shame, i dont know, i didnt felt well, i was out of there, i wish the lunch time at school endend more fast ALWAYS. The coincidences stop there. And question myself if i did right or wrong... i could have stopped at this point. But i didnt. If i heard this 33:15 at my age 12-13, i wouldnt be the person i am today. I would have accepted it. But i had a view of the world that would be pain for the next decade for me. I saw the socialization as a "cure" for the lonely feeling, and as long i felt it, the more i wanted to pursue more, no matter the consequences, i just wanted to take the sensation out, without accepting it. I begun aprouching male "friends" (maybe colleagues and "people next to my sit" is apropiate) instead of girls, as i feared no girl/woman would accept me at adolescence, even less at adult age. This affected my social skills too much in a way, i was afraid of getting around woman, but too easy to be near and feel safe around guys somehow, to the point i thought that was a exit to have relationship with guys instead with girls. Sometimes some friends thought i was joking, and i played as if it was joke (or it would be awkward to continue). To reafirm thoses mental trajectories i was following, i searched online friendship as well at Orkut. I got friends at Grand Chase community, majority were gay. I got to adult life, and those friends from school and real life ended in some point (university, my own person problems, etc). I went 3 different universities (i closed 2 courses, philosophy and architecture, now i'm at medicine... nothing to related each other, right?). And i thought i had some adiction to sex or something like that. That was out of control of myself. Not a day without pornography at home, and sometimes more than one period of day. Some times i did "that" alone even if i wasnt excited at all. That was affecting me. Because even during my classes and exercice of medicine during university, i had thoughts really bad, and even shamefull, out of context, even if i wasnt seeing/hearing someone saying things that would excite me... and was with men. I really have respectful thougts towards women, but the "gay thoughts" were very savage, bestial. I was a little paranoid to think that, a simple help or praise from a man/colleague was an invite to talk, maybe to go out and "other things". I had to stop to think, after 13 years, its been two years after i said to myself " i followed this thought to feel more aceptable, is this really ok? what if that's a red flag towards a bigger problem with no return route?", its paradoxal as people nowadays wouldnt accept LGBT in many social circles, but i thought that was the principle of my life, because of i felt majority of my life. Neverthless, i was in "need of friendship" even if that costed my dignity, and i justified and created a world in the head, to avoid certain problems, circunstances, i felt envy of people... strange right? i wanted people and got envy... i really wanted to be like those that are in joy, happy, highly satisfied... i wanted other people's lifes, not having MY OWN, because maybe ... i thought that would be boring, i guess? the feelings were starting to make me question... i betrayed a lot of people, just for pleasure, and to justify this "isolation". Is it even okay? that are not even a religious command against "gay adultery"...is it okay to have this freedoom and hurt others? For 1 or 2 times i thought i would die for relating to dangerous people. I really thank God/angel, i dont know, that put "dont go this time, Rubem" into my mind many times, because my painful and egoistical resolution would tell me to go and feed it. For two years since then, 28 years old, i quit Date app and friends that put pornographies in their status of whatsapp. I tried no fap, failed some months, i'm 1,5 year without doing "that"... and its like coffee. You have headache if you quit from one day to another, if you are addicted to it. I was doing a detox, to really find myself... do i really need this "reality inside my mind" to live well, happy, overjoyed ? is this something intrisically attached to me and nothing can be done? I'm really faded to depression if i dont continue to "feed them"? at short time period seems true, as only pain results... and i felt i had nothing to wait for me. Well, its a surprise, i feel relieved somehow. And part of that "need for friendship" made me forgot that there are people around us that we dont give value, even with their help, the first ones are our parents/responsibles/known people that care for us. This got me into some light to follow. I still have some social awareness, some of it, i'm still working on that... sometimes come thoughts of past because of triggers in the present but i don't feel bad about it, its just an image. If i get nervous about some "fault", its because i didnt reflect on it entirery and i need to confront. I really dont have intention to find people, i still have some old hobbies of animes, games, but i put limit time to it... i have duties of study to do yet. Somehow the church sublimated this loneliness feeling i got in the past years. I got just one friend back then, other eldery faces just give respect, but i dont have much talk. Still, i confront myself everyday: did i got my duties done? did i oversaw something? did i spent much time in certain activities? For the matter of socialization, i guess my future work as medic can help, but you know what? to think TOO MUCH, to conjecture TOO MUCH, you have anxiety, just as the protagonist of the show. I try to avoid it when it comes into socialization. Let the things flow. You have present, past is no more, future will be today. But of course, do your duties. If you have some intention of going to church next weekend, just go, dont think much about it, specially if that church have God that will acompany you in His Body, Blood, Soul and Divinity, BUT in literall way, not just "when reading bible". The way you see life, even with some pain, will be a WAY different, as He doesnt take it from us, but teach us to live and confront it daily, without looking down.
Imagine being a neet/hikki for a decade. Forget all your worries and compress it to one train of thought: "What can I even do if I go outside? Nothing". It's a very scary existence. Everyone's worries in the comment section sounds like a very eventful life compared to it.
I don't need to imagine it. I'm 30. I've lived it as an adult for a decade. This is hell. I just have dumbass video games and anime to dull my sense of pain for short periods. I recommend anyone brave enough to take the exit strategy to go ahead with it. I don't have the balls. I'm a coward and every second of my existence is a mistake.
I watched the anime for the first time in 2008 on DVD. The first episode only. I saw the first episode a second time in 2012. It was only in 2013 that I bought it on DVD from a local convention. It has been one of my favorites ever since. I have watched it no less than 68 times in the last 11 years. It encouraged me to study hard to graduate community college which I eventually did.
Im glad that i saw this video wirh this mental situation i have, that voice that has keep telling me that i "worthless" i finally ignore it. Thank you and all the peopke that has shared his problems and advices❤ i will keep being positive even in this difficult moment.❤
I got through High school about a year ago, graduated, but through my life i have always heard from teachers and parents which im pretty sure my mother started using as an excuse at some point was "He doesnt seem to be interested enough" so i suppose i got used to relying on others to help me, but then i graduated, i have hardly texted most of my high school friends and i guess im also just paranoid if they even think of me or not, i constantly hear and reasonably so from my family that i should go and get a job but im not even sure where to start, but i havent yet because im afraid of hearing that im just not interested enough or im unable to do what i want to in life, im afraid of being told i cant do it.
Ya got this. Start small like applying to be a custodian for a school. Some of the best people I've known were custodians, at first. Realize this, though.... You. Need. Money. It is NOT the end all/be all of life but you need it to survive. Reality dictates that you must have resources to live. College, if you choose the right degree that makes money, can be useful. But do not get into debt for something that isn't productive. Debt is NEGATIVE MONEY. Therefore it is negative freedom. You have to be okay with hearing hard truths. That's where humility comes into play.
If we can be real, I'm gonna be a hiki til I die. I had no qualms with society, but I can't say I'm immune to what could have been now and then. Almost like i stole someones life, ya know? For now, I'm gonna enjoy these nice days while i got them
Been there, Done that, i was afraid once as well, but i meet a guy who understanded my situation, got me back on my feet's, later i got not only 1 job, but 2 that kept me afloat, i learnt people around Arent so bad, your mind is your greatest enemy in this situation. i still revert back to my old self, but i've learn how to tackle it, fight it, and ignore it as well, 2 years ago i meet a girl, that now, knows me for what i am, and what i was, and she accepts me for that, i was lucky to move on, but i also worked hard to sustaine it, i hope people will can do the same, hardship can teach you a thing or two.
Welcome to the NHK was such a wake up call for my life and expand my horizons. I have to thank the creators for making that story to let me know I need to moving forward somehow
Weöcome to NHK is truly a classic that aged well over the Years i watched it when i was a Teenager and could not relate as much to it but in the last year i have a totally dofferent Viewpoint and understand this. The NEET Life is nothing desireable for long time. The Jobmarlet is gruesome rejections after rejection simply a commodity every Application poured with effort seems to be worthless at some point this feeling creeps on you. Even being consciouss about it you simply have not the Power to help yourself because you need it to write more Applications. It becomes like a Fake Downwards Spiral even though you know there is a End you do not know when and how.
your analysis in the video, the editing and your advices are really amazing it's easy to understand and actually relatable. i think you'll be a good friend.
I watched this anime when I was about 24, I believe, so about 6 years ago give or take, as I stumbled upon it through a recommendation from another TH-camr that reviewed anime's or something. I honestly can't remember... Either way! It definitely help changed my perspective on things and become more self-aware of my own neet situation. I had been living with my mom even up until that point in my life and after that as well. Like you said, change doesn't happen over night. And it was hard to crawl out of that isolated world I created for myself, where everything was my way and I felt comfortable and I was the MC of my own world that I had absolute control over. A few years later, I wanted to get my act together, or try to at least. But, as someone who is a high school drop out, it's even HARDER to find work compared to most. And even when most have their high school diploma, it's still hard for them to find even the most grunt work out there. But, anyways, I have been the kind of person who has come and gone from therapy, because there were certain points in my therapy sessions that felt like weren't helping me and I was fearing that change when my everyday routine/life was being challenged. I'd drop out of therapy because of that. About 4 years ago in 2019, I had finally gotten my first real job. It was a part time job, but it was something and a start and good enough for someone like me who was not used to work, and was foreign to the entire concept of responsibility. I stuck around with my therapy sessions one more time and through their help, I was given a job thanks to my vocational rehab program I was in. However... Eventually, that isolation haunted me again. After my Christmas break of that year and much before the pandemic made headlines, I was beginning to have that anxiety, panic and depression all in a single go. After my 2 weeks of break were up, I would call in everyday at work, making excuses and telling them I wasn't feeling well. Eventually, after a week, I stopped calling them and just hoped that if I ignored it, they would just let me go. But, that wasn't the case, because I was there through vocational rehab, so I got a call from work unexpectedly and they asked if everything was okay, because I keep calling in "sick". I spilled the beans and told them no. I was just not in the right mental state to push myself to go through with work anymore. And I told them sorry, but I have to go, and I quit. They were really nice about it and said, "Well, whenever you get straighten out, feel free to give us a call back, we'll take you back." It was honestly... a miracle and I felt so undeserving of that because I let my depression kick my ass into oblivion to the point where I gave up on everything again. I just ended the call with, "Okay, thank you, I'll be sure to give you a call back when I pull myself together." That day never came. Then, the pandemic came around and never in my life had I felt more relieved, because the streets were quiet, nobody was talking to anybody. There were curfews in place. It was a dream come true for a depressed, anxiety filled neet like myself. And I prayed and prayed that this thing could last because finally, a world in which I was living in my head, was almost a reality. But, when things finally picked back up again, I never picked myself up again... I'm 30 now, I spent my 20s wallowing in my own depression, anxiety, isolation, nihilism, that I didn't notice the time fly by. Still living with my mom even to this day. And what you said at the end of the video, is something I always keep in the back of my head, and something I also dread and fear. The fear of the inevitable. Because when that drastic event happens, it'll be either sink or swim for me. And I don't know if I will have the mental strength in me to swim. My therapist has asked me and others have asked me what am I to do when the inevitable happens. And all I can do is be honest with them and say, "I don't know. Probably die, either from starvation, homelessness, both, or by my own doing." Because realistically, I don't know how to take care of myself. And by that I mean, I don't know how to cook and prepare meals for myself, manage my bank account, and other things that include adulting. So, here I am for now and hopefully, the inevitable is a long time from now, or I can finally overcome my own fears and step up again once more. I did it once, and I don't know what's stopping me now. TL;DR, I'm a high school drop out, I was a neet for several years until 2019, then at the start of 2020, depression, anxiety, and nihilism hit me again where I called quits and now I am stuck back on square one. Stay in school, kids, count your blessings and don't give up like I have. Fun fact: I do have a girlfriend by some miracle, but even she isn't someone who is going to carry my ass through life. It wouldn't be fair to her... So, who knows what the future will hold for me, but it is not something I think about too hard. I'm just living in the moment.
Jeez, this is quite a story. The "sink or swim" resonates hard. I believe living in the moment as well as improving a little bit each day is ideal. Even if you wasted a ton of time, you are still young. Still have got time to make it right. You can start by learning to cook, which will make you feel great later :)
@@neferov I appreciate the positive suggestion and response! I didn't mean to get so grim and dark near the latter portion, I just sort of let my honest thoughts run through my mind in the moment. It's a good start as any and I'd definitely rather try and do something about anything now and learn while I still got my one pillar of support still standing strong in my life. Thank you.
@@protostarmirage- Yeah, grasping to the people and things you have is very important. I will share too, if you don't mind. I had a hard time finding a job for half a year after graduation(worked for a less than minimum wage in a dead-end workplace), and would probably be a NEET for a long time, but have managed to grasp one lucky opportunity. Salary isn't great, some of my peers are doing better than me, but I am glad I at the very least have a job, earn money and have a routine going (6 months in the gym already). A couple of years ago I was a kid with no irl friends, had no romance in my life ever and was wasting his time in videogames constantly. Now I have dipped my toes into dating (although now I am single), have a job to attend and build healthy habits. Not even close to the life I envisioned myself when I was a kid, but hey - life is difficult. You just got to hold on a positive mindset and people who will help you improve. And you have both right now, which is super awesome! I wish you a pleasant summer to enjoy with your gf :)
@@neferov Thank you so much for sharing a bit of your own past with me as well. And I am happy for you that you have things balanced well enough in your life. As you said, things aren't what we planned them out to be and maybe they could be better, but we have what we have and that's a start. And eventually, we'll work our way up higher and higher, better opportunities, better jobs, better salary, and just an overall better lifestyle. Not a perfect one, but something more livable. I think it's impossible to ever have a perfect life no matter who you might be. I feel you though. When I was a kid, I wanted to be an astronaut, but of course, that was a dream! Rather than a goal in life. I'm not complaining too much now though. Life's just too short to worry too much and be stressed about things all the time. Thank you so much again for sharing with me, it always is a comforting notion to know that there are others out there whom can empathize with one. Thank you! I hope you have a wonderful summer as well and I'll be sure to let the future missus know that a kind stranger online wished us the best. :)
I’ve been there. And it was so hard, loneliness, isolation, descent to hell finished eventually by a mental breakdown. Like a real one, not just pure sadness, but mental sickness. First family reached hand to me when they realized ( though it was pretty advanced). And then guess which helped me ? Not my friends from long time. They literally told me years later that they considered me dead. Yup. No it was professionals, who helped me get over it, followed up by strangers and people who experienced true despair. If you ever get stuck in a bad life situation and isolation, seek help. It is there. Angels exist, but we tend to be blind to their existence when we’re in despair.
Honestly ive been through my Hikokomori phase, its very difficult to push foward specially when you are in a place where you cant be offered a lot of options. The internet is so... double sword, it can fill the gap of companionship and loliness but in the end everyone needs someone irl to be there for them and with them. It is good to improve and seek to get the best of yourself for yourself to a limit, at some point you will always need someone else, thats how we humans work. Yeah im going through a difficult time, Ive moved countries again and im trying to get a new life here, is difficult, but ill push foward. Ill learn the language eventually and ill adapt to my new place. Will this make me change? I dont think so but It will change my quality of life, which is in the end the most important thing.
this works for the majority of people because they don't have a lot of other hindrances, but as someone who was isolated for years before the pandemic due to physical illness leading to mental illness and being really burned out, i can honestly say, it's hard getting out there and finding a job that works for you in those mental conditions.
I watched this in 2007 on TH-cam....back then their copyright enforcement is a bit slow, but anyway, Welcome to NHK is one of the best animes I have ever watched. Funny and touching at the same time.
It's much more like... I've tried various different things, had at least half a dozen jobs and spent years with inner work, but still just don't feel it. I'm fully and unironically convinced, that society is just exploiting you and that there is no dream jobs for the broad masses, but just a select few. If at all. I can't bring myself to develop any interest in society and was unsatisfied with every job i've ever had. (felt like a cage) To make matters worse: Even if i was to work full time again, it would hardly offer me any solid perspective, because even with education, you're just a corporate wage-slave that has to spend his lifetime making profits for others. That's essentially what nearly all education amounts to and that's what i despise so much. You can hardly call yourself free, if you're stuck at a place you only go to for money and nothing else. (I also have an "avoidant attachment style" , which means i really struggle bonding with basically anyone in general. It also means that my brain runs primarily on dopamine and not oxytocin.) (Oxytocin = The brain chemical that makes you bond and feel this bond.) In addition to that, i don't wanna seriously bond with coworkers, because it's just gonna be used against me eventually. (Guilt tripping you into taking shifts you don't want to take, etc.) So in a nutshell: Hedonism is the only thing that i really can be bothered about. That and risk-avoiding behavior, as well as constantly obsessing about what risks i'm exposed to. It's a vicious cycle and i would have just broken it by now if it was just that but; the thing being: I am unfortunately 100% right with my bitter and cynical rambling. So yeah... I'm quite literally stuck, so i figured i might as well go full Hikikomori and "at least lead a life that i enjoy". And i am actually not unpleased. I have all i need as a NEET, except for a long term money solution that doesn't cause me to hate my life and be miserable. Aside from that, i am absolutely not unhappy with basically anything. Yes, i'm out of shape, life with my parents and don't have a girlfriend, or a car, or a job; But i am completely unbothered by that. I have loads of free time and even though i would like to have someone or something that makes society's daily Bullshit actually worth it and would actually cause me to "achieve" a long term career: I am still grateful for the way my life is, because i've had it worse as an employee. So, again, in a nutshell: The issue is kinda on me, but it's justified. Not just by a crappy childhood and quite literally a form of "brain damage", but by all the lies and the BS that society puts down on us and makes us believe, so we can be effectively exploited.
Fine? Fine is too simple of a word and, I bet, nothing about you is even remotely simple or simple-minded. Imagine you can feel something better. You have the capacity, I know you do.
@@mister-zen8491 i find it better not to imagine feeling something better if it is just to face the reality afterward, the best way to support my kind of lonelyness is either ending it for good or forgeting what not being alone is.
This anime actually made me jealous of the MC because he had at least one girl paying attention to him, even if she wasn't completely able to understand what she was doing was destructive. I had a real life girl, try to "help" me, and her intention was to destroy me, for fun. I hope she had fun. It wasn't fun for me.
I fall into a lot of these patterns. But I also go out and enjoy my life and have real friends and genuine social interaction. I'm like 50/50. I can hole myself up for days, or I can go out working, meeting people, socializing, spending time with friends and family. It's like a switch for me. And I wish I could turn the half off and spend more time socializing and building up my life
Your friend is kinda wrong about it three is difrance about it pulling triger is not gutsy move but desperation i bet he is one of thes PPL that say "get over your depresion its easy" to understand it you need expiriance such pain as its more complicaded than he thinks
@@beliar52 Not really. That one was specifically for me. We know things are different for people with nothing to lose and all. Even though killing yourself comes from desperation, it still takes a lot of mental fortitude to go through with it, since you're going against your nature of keeping yourself alive. Neither of us go around saying "Just don't be depressed, bro", since we both came from dark places in life and now we lift each other.
@@CarlosRoyalTiger not realy its more of opesite of mental forditute its loosing all of it and our nature as social race will drive us to it i been there many years ago that why my respond whas to your comment at less you had buddy to help you out for me it whas mental strugle between my mental state and contius i still can remember that conversation i had in my head
Taking your own life takes a lot of willpower, yes. But pushing through isn't about willpower after a point. Many ppl who either kill themselves or simply let themselves rot bcs they can't bring themselves to do it, are like this bcs they don't see a reason to pushing through. It's basically "What's the point if it's all going to repeat itself all over again and end in yet another failure?". Willpower/guts or w/e have no impact in this case. It's all about the complete loss of reason and hope.
I feel this. for a few years of my life I was mentally and physically well enough to leave the nest and have a job, but things like the pandemic sent me spiraling to a point I also nearly took that desperate step to end it all. Some part of me, though, had enough fight to live that I called everyone I knew, saying I needed someone with me right now because I was having a mental breakdown. People got to me, calmed me down, but after a couple months and getting covid I realized I just was not healthy enough to try to recover from that rock bottom point in my life. So I quit my job and went back to my parents'. I can't tell you how hard it's been to not shut down and just play video games all day and stay in my room, which sometimes I do for weeks on end because things like bad side effects from medications mess me up even more. By playing my game it blocks out the really bad intrusive thoughts I get, and yeah I used to over think small things to the point of sheer paralysis so that I couldn't communicate with anyone even to tell them something simple. I'm blessed to have family members and friends I miss and want to visit back where I had my job, so now and then I get properly away from the house to go see them, but here in this small town I don't have anybody really because the people I grew up with have moved away, or in the case of my once best friend, I realized was toxic and cut off. But I don't know really how to meet more people. Been doing the same thing of trying to use medications to help me mentally and physically for years with no good results, but I've finally found a more naturalist doctor who I hope will finally be the answer to my hope to one day get off medications entirely. Hopefully going to them instead will be the right path to getting my health up so I can get back to living life again.
Why do i feel called out by this anime. Honestly im planning on ending myself at the age of 25. I already planned everything, i feel relieved. Im 21 now and if i dont have any success at the age of 25 , i think i will pull the plug. Its a relief thinking it that way, im just a failure.
I’m not gonna shame you for feeling like that, but I hope you are happier soon. Your personal success shouldn’t bear such a heavy burden, just take it one step at a time.
Honestly, I truly don't know what you're going through but I know a book that helped me cope with my existence. It's called the happiness trap and im right now reading it and it helped me alot. Hope you feel better and hope you give the book a try.
Your worth is not dependent on what others think of you or your accomplishments. Your self destructive beliefs aren’t you. Draw a line for your own sake and start fighting for some things you actually value.
@Ponpon66669 dude we are literally brothers, i have been planning since i was 18 and if i don`t have success until i`m 26 i will end it, im almost finished with university and im gonna start looking for a job in the area to see if i can turn stuff around, if not, well i tried 🙃.
I watched this anime two years ago during my final year of high school which was really difficult due to my low self esteem, loneliness, and high anxiety levels, and it really spoke to me back then. Now that I'm in university, my life is sort of more on track but I still feel feelings of loneliness, low self esteem, and a tendency to overthink. I have some friends and a loving family, but something is still missing in my life - I'm not quite sure what. Maybe it is a genuine, deep connection that I am missing, romantic or otherwise. Regardless, this video really hit home, I actually teared up at the part about suicide. I've never been suicidal, but I have thought about committing social suicide, that is, becoming a hikikomori. I think even in that case it's not that we hate society and want to be alone - it's more that we just want our feelings of anxiety to end. It's an unhealthy coping mechanism, but one that is deeply relatable and one I was scarily close to falling into. I think it's incredible but also saddening how thjs anime from nearly twenty years ago still resonates today - truly we are in a crisis, with no easy solutions. But here's hoping we will all be okay. We don't have to be drastic like Satou who wanted to avoid starvation. But if we can take small steps to improve ourselves, that is what is important. Thank you for this video :)
One thing that cause all the pain (and hope) is the belief happiness can be found out there, and other people found it. But this was before the internet and social network showed us whats really going on. I've spent the last 4 years doing nothing but trying to find if other people are really happy - and the more i learn the more i lose hope. In 2024, i think there are very few people who are really happy.
Look. It's okay that people don't think for themselves. However, YOU can think for yourself and you need not worry what others are doing. You're free. Act accordingly and you'll only rise.
But also generalizing that everyone is an asshole could end up attracting the same people. People are lonely because many are thinking the same thing. I used to think this way until I realize what I thought about people said more about me than others.
Honestly, from a whole bunch of statistics I've seen while going down a certain rabbit hole (which youtube likes to censor heavily), I'd say that around 60-70% of world population are genuinely disgusting people, and while most of them might not be able to hurt you specifically and probably won't ever show their bad sides to you, they'll still purposefully hurt someone else who trusted them. But at least that means that there's absolutely nothing wrong with getting close with like only 1-2 people out of a group of 10 people. (and, I suppose, it shows why trying to befriend everyone never worked out for me.)
Your video was amazing. So much of what you said had mirrored my own life at at my worst moments to a startling degree. I truely thought this was an experience unique to me, but it seems like you're just as familiar with it. To put all those lonely thoughts and feelings into words. From one lonely heart to another, well done.
I have that fear too of eveyrone judging me. And yes they judge you, saying they don't care isn't completely true. Judging is a natural thing people do. Building the tolerance for it is something you have to do. You see society as one big amorphous blob that is united against you. But one way to make steps curing this is knowing that that blob is made up of different factions and you're not the only person others judge, hate or envy. Knowing there's losers of their own prison torment will make you feel better, you can make allegiances in the shadows, you don't have to be alone.
Sadly, watching life going by, colorful like a book, when you feel like the only ugly grayish thing there is, therefore, undeserving, unwanted, is an experience that a lot of us are going to have. I hope that people out there can paint the gray and feel connected to the world they live in. I don't wish the opposite to anyone. Great video, great anime.
This anime is very realistic, the only difference to reality is no one would help the protagonist and he would possibly have already killed himself
@@Wuwei72-o5n If no one is going to help me, my situation is hopeless. I've been in my personal hellscape for a decade now. I've been to therapists. I've been on every anti-depressant on the market. My only hope left is someone somehow helping me.
@@Wuwei72-o5nI’ve had the thought of someday I’ll kill myself just not today.
@@Wuwei72-o5n How would someone in the characters position (whom relies on the charity of others) afford to move to the countryside?
@@KingFluffs If you can live in the city you can live anywhere the country side is always cheaper. Obviously we all need help, but you can't expect to live off of others for the rest of your life, when they're not there now, what? Usually the
Hikikomori and other people with conditions, morbid obesity comes to mind, they always depend on someone to survive, but when you no longer have that livelihood and you feel hungry, you look for work in whatever it is, ask someone you know or a family member for help. Field work is hard, but calm and rewarding. Having that charity in part is what keeps us in the comfort zone, unable to grow, and increasingly frustrated with your existence. If you have disabling anxiety, try starting an online business and sell anything, people will buy anything if it is made with love. I have a small carpentry workshop and I sell items, for pet dishes, pet beds, etc and it's going well. I plan to expand it with more artistic things in the future. Also think about the causes of what keeps you like this, ask for help if necessary, most people are good but do not depend on anyone or we will return to the same thing.
@@KingFluffs If you can live in the city you can live anywhere the country side is always cheaper. Obviously we all need help, but you can't expect to live off of others for the rest of your life, when they're not there now, what? Usually the
Hikikomori and other people with conditions, morbid obesity comes to mind, they always depend on someone to survive, but when you no longer have that livelihood and you feel hungry, you look for work in whatever it is, ask someone you know or a family member for help. Field work is hard, but calm and rewarding. Having that charity in part is what keeps us in the comfort zone, unable to grow, and increasingly frustrated with your existence. If you have disabling anxiety, try starting an online business and sell anything, people will buy anything if it is made with love.
I have a carpentry workshop and I sell pet items, dishes, beds, etc. and it's going well. I plan to expand it with more artistic things in the future. Also think about the causes of what keeps you like this, ask for help if necessary, most people are good but do not depend on anyone or we will return to the same thing.
This anime put me in despair, but soon after it gave me the answer. In short, no one will take your hand and carry you towards success. And that's not the world's fault.The people around you have their own problems to solve
So the answer really is s****** then
I'm sorry, but I thought the ending was stupid. Saying "Get a minimum wage job and your obvious mental health problems will go away" is like saying "Choose to be happy and your clinical depression will go away." The series keeps pushing the idea that there are no easy answers, then gives us an easy answer to one of Japan's most complex social issues. Of course, that's only my personal opinion. Perhaps you interpreted the ending differently.
Ok then the people can go deal with their own problems then. That’s just another reason to embrace loneliness. What’s the point of having any type of relationship then?
@@Joosh398 I find it insane how we still haven't learned since the stone age that humans are only strong together. No shit you're struggling to solve your problems all alone, we're supposed to be helping each other...
@@furiousdestroyah9999 I’m responding what this guy said. It’s a contradiction. On one hand, we should deal with our own shit and leave people to deal with theirs. On the other hand, we supposed to help each other and form relationships. Can’t have it both ways. But the guy above seems to think he can. The point I’m making is why the hell should we bother making friends if everyone’s meant to deal with their own problems?
Also, back in the Stone Age, people had no choice. We have a choice now.
thanks for pointing out that it's not life that you want to end, but rather you want to end that crippling feeling inside...
Or both
@@MalcolmNessGranger yup.. both
I think all men who have accepted the black pill shouldl watch this.
@@MalcolmNessGranger You wouldn't want to end your life if everything felt good
I’ve had suicidal thoughts and have struggled with depression for many years. But there are three things I’ve learned over the years:
One, we don’t live in an isolation bubble. We usually isolate ourselves by not going outside and meeting people (or just limit who we talk to based on assumptions). I’ve joined some local groups with similar interests and hobbies, and that has helped me a lot.
Secondly, the crippling feeling WILL not stick forever. You will have ups and down your whole life, which is normal. People with depression feel the downs longer, but it helps to have people to talk to and share the burden, even if it’s just through a simple text message. Life is always changing, we just have to look outside.
Thirdly, I believe God is real and cares about our struggles. He cries with us when we suffer, and He celebrates are smallest victories. And even if we feel alone, He is always there, struggling with us. We can rely on Him, especially when we feel our weakest. But no matter what you believe, you are never truly alone in life. There are people who care, even if you don’t know who they are. Your life holds infinite worth, and there are people who want and need you, if you let them in.
I’m lonely by nature I think. I know the pain. It’s one that causes resentment and anger. But also allows a lot introspective time. In someway I think I need it. People exhaust me but I need to hide sometimes. Because i need to decompress. It’s an odd and painful experience.
I feel you me myself I have a high tolerance of being alone and don't suffer from those effects, maybe it's because I smoke weed once a week multiple joints on that one day, and since I have a survival mindset I still can do things like having a job go outside to exercise to keep my body healthy. And maybe I am build different because of the bullying and mistreatment that I always received from others in my childhood made me and my brain adapt and change having a higher tolerance for being alone since I do prefer to be alone but off course high tolerance doesn't mean I can do that forever, I'm able to go for years without talking to someone until that need to be social comes up.
Misaki is an enabler, and part of the story is the deconstruction of "godsend angel girl to save me" trope. She wanted to make Sato depending on her to exist, because she was broken af herself.
I like the anime version of the story better than the manga though.
Why?
@@SuzukiCabshave you watched the anime?
I can understand where misaki comes from. I liked being one of my cousins only friends and now she's more socially adept than me I feel shitty. I miss how things were but it just means I have to do better. I would love for someone to be reliant on me though.
I didn't know welcome to the nhk had a manga but I preferred the book to the anime. Felt lonelier somehow.
As someone that's read the LN, Manga and watched the Anime, I agree. The manga's climatic moment (e.g. taking place in his apartment building) was weird and I guess was trying to be different than the anime (or it caught up with the anime and they had to come up with something). It was more about him leaving the NEET/Hikki life and doing his own thing, but left the Misaki/Sato storyline in a pause. The LN provides some details not in the anime that are edgier than what could be in the anime (such as protag's narcotics use), but generally follows the anime. I recommend finding the LN (luckily only one volume if you avoid the 're' series that is a reimaging of the story) for a expanded take on this, but it's expensive.
In early 2023, in the span of two months I lost my job, my girlfriend and one of the people who raised me after weeks despairing in the hospital and dealing with the hospital's staff mistreatment. Ever since then I've been living isolated as a NEET, surviving from my mom's allowance as I couldn't get a job even after bouncing back from the grief and depression.
I've never even watched this anime, but all you talked about in this video and Sato's story was so real that it scared me, but also felt comforting to know some people are aware of what it's like waking up and panicking because you don't know what you can do to make your day productive and has no one to talk to. Some days are harder than others, but ever since I've reached out for professional help things have felt less hopeless, I've even made some friends and have applied for a job as an english teacher with good prospects of being hired. That feeling of "everyone's laughing at me" doesn't go away, but at least it no longer prevents me from trying to get out of this situation.
"Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations." -Zig Ziglar
Come back in a few years when you realize that friendship is an illusion. No one cares. Everyone is self-serving.
Please watch this show, for those who can sympathize with the main character, it's a shock to the system.
I was there once man. Get a job first. Any job.
@@Apricot90That is some real true level crap😅 unluckily....that's how things are.
Welcome to the nhk truly helped me feel less alone at a point in my life where I felt completely isolated. I still struggle with loneliness but I also learned how to be my own best friend. I used to not want to go places or do things without someone else because it made me feel awkward but now if I want to shop or go to a movie or something I would avoid because I had no one to do it with, I found a new kind of peace and enjoyment in doing because its what I WANT to do
You are amazing 😮
Same, it's a feeling that never goes away once it works it's way in, but you learn to live with it.
This anime spoke to my soul. I remember watching it and just breaking down crying when I was a teenager. Sometimes, it still gets me today. My family, including myself, are immune compromised so we rarely go out and this is life now to protect ourselves.
Don't pretend you're not a hikikomori but at the same time don't make it your identity. Just state you don't have friends, you're alone, and you stay cooped up most of your life. If you make it your identity you will only see through the lenses as a hikiko.
who th cares what you are bro. you decide what you do. Who can stop you? Do what is right and you'll win, it doesn't matter if there is a definiton out there that is describing you or not. It doesn't define you, unless you let it.
Being honest to yourself that you don't try to be a social person and love being pampered within your comfort, it will be how it is. Shit don't rain on you for no reason.
@@lunix3259elaborate please
i have been a hikikomori starting in 2011. no one asks me anything. no one will talk to you. most people dont notice you
I'm not a NEET, but I can see myself becoming a Hikkikomori or a NEET in the future. Ever since starting university and becoming an adult I feel like I've failed at life. I have friends, family and a job too. But, I'm always stumbling where it counts. I've got so many dreams and ambitions that I've been too scared, busy or lazy to work on to achieve them fully. And the constant stress with life and just being on your own most of the time is agonizing. I live on campus now, but I am eventually gonna need a place of my own and my isolation is just gonna get worse. I become busier and so do my friends, so there's more nights where I'm on my own and hating myself for not being who I need or want to be and I just want to cut everything off and die in a hole somewhere. The idea that this exhaustion and and loneliness is just part of adulthood frightens me. So many people are aware of that and keep on living regardless and I don't think I can keep doing the same forever. Death as an option has failed me, so I trek onwards, but deep down if I could live off of working from home and all my loved ones would let me die off on my own and stopped caring for me so I can rot in a dark room. Then I think that would be easier. I think of a life where if I could disappear it could be easier. These thoughts invade my head and I look back on a year ago when I thought a car was about to crash into me on a late night walk and just how for a few split seconds my first feeling was pure bliss and peace of mind.
Not sure if there will ever be a "fix" for me somewhere. I use video games and twitter to keep me chipper and forget on most days. I personally believe there's no good ending for people like me, but I firmly do also believe that change is possible for most people out there. For now I'll just keep on living out an uncertain future and I just wanted to vent about that a bit. Leave a little bit of my agony in some corner of the internet somewhere.
It takes courage to open up about stuff like this, and having read what you wrote, I do not know what to say... I won't pretend that I have the answer to your problem but let me at least say this: Nothing is set in stone. Your past does not define your future, even the smallest thing can propel you into a different direction, so please keep holding on. But above all else, do not forget to be kind to yourself and do things that makes you happy, it's okay to be selfish. I hope my words helped you somehow.
Homie...I need backup to a project building an e-commerce shipping company in India and China and Japan. Even I find myself against the wall in a terrible way...like legitimately no one is coming to help me or give me hard hand when I need it and I am so screwed over in serious stuff. I am choking and people are pretty much watching me not knowing that I legitimately am about to be killed and need money for an attorney and serious protection and honestly how many times I told this story. People are going to kill me or eventually get to me if I don't get help and also financial legal help... definitely I see what you see...money matters but how you make it and live the purpose of your life or do what you want to do is actually something... stagnation and not going anywhere sucks. Dangerous too. Being without friends and allies is a curse
Coming from someone who was in a similar place mentally two years ago, I would recommend you to seek a professional help. Medication doesn't fix things immediately, but it can help to look at things in the more positive way. Then you can start working towards improvement of your mental status. From there it's a tough and probably never-ending process of self-improvement but it gets easier everyday. As for me, HealthyGamer GG community been also a huge help in my journey. I hope you'll feel better, my man. Also, sorry for my grammar, English is not my first language.
@@hazie3375 Thanks. I appreciate it.
@@dannylo5875 Ah, I understand you. For what it's worth. At the end of all this, I hope you will make it out at least with your life.
Being severely depressed and suicidal, I've becomed bitter, resentful, I find people "caring" about me to be absolutely corny, embarrassing, superficial and - or uncomfortable, so I've come to an conclusion that I am not normal, and that absolutely destroys me. I do not care that "I'm not alone" it just makes it worse. I simply give up and wished to be born differently, for you do not understand how difficult it is to be this miserable.
Of course, it’s impossible to truly know someone else’s perspective, just as the solutions to their problems are also just as specific (not just by the general answer of getting more responsibilities before you can uphold or learn why/how to find them), but by having any different (outside) professional (focused/educated) perspective to meaningfully work for you on the small obstacles that keep everyone from knowing or overcoming their own cycles. Of course though nobody mentions the limitations of reality, but those limitations are the all more necessary for reaching out despite the inevitable disappointments/ignorance’s of others/reality, and hoping for a better future because of our knowledge of the undetermined possibilities for change goes in both positive and negative ways (with a lot of needed dedication in trying to tip the scales of course through calculated chess moves to set a domino effect for our wanted outcomes). It ain’t ever easy but it sure beats the alternatives. Sorry if I came off too strongly stupid, but I was just using your comment selfishly for my own inner dialogue cause I relate. I still hope you are able to make it despite all the insurmountable odds and get rewarded for surviving them despite it not correlating with your efforts or expectations whatsoever. 😅
Lmao couldnt be me 🤣🤣🤣
What makes your life so miserable? Where do you live anyway?
Stop thinking about yourself so much. You’ve nothing to occupy your time, so your mind works on yourself all day long. Go get busy and you will not have ridiculous thoughts like “people caring about me is corny, don’t they know I’m worthless and the earth is just a rock and the sun is going to go out?”
@@theskyizblue2day431 I do have a job, I'm not entirely miserable perse, but I've been continuously suicidal and extremely depressed. I will get out if it, I am saving a lot of money for a good psychiatrist because my psyhcologist heavily recommended it. I was venting which was a stupid thing to do and am now thinking of deleting this dumb comment. I will not give up that easily, even if sometimes is very debilitating. :)
I worked third shift night stock at a grocery store for over a decade. The pandemic didn’t functionally change my life, except the company I worked for finally decided to not have the store open 24 hours a day and made it a LOT easier on us. No drunks or junkies or shoplifters to deal with.
Third shift workers are not paid enough across the board, because you’re trading your health and sanity for a few dimes more per hour.
You got to embrace that most companies are like the Administratum from 40K, and recognize that you are alone and on your own.
If the universe is feeling a twisted compassion one of those days, YOU get to plan to un-alive your neighbor clerk for ANY reason, even minor like his cute coffee cup! ...Yeah, humanity is doomed.
As another overnight retail worker I can relate
wrong. men are on their own.
3rd shift at white castle broke my mental. not just because of how bad the managment was or how hard i had to work to make up for trash coworkers, but the methheads and drunks coming through, people flashing guns, no im cool on people on society leave me alone
Walmart?
I'm literally living like this while watching this video, except I have a job but I still feel like a Hikkiomori despite this
Than do something about it at least your not in a war zone
@@mohammadhosseini6675 I know the sentiment behind your comment. "How can he suffer? He has clothes to wear. He has food to eat. He has a job. He has peace."
However, we can not convey feelings through comments. You do not know what this man has been through. You know not his shames, his regrets, his diseases, his psyche, his soul. You can never know online. Thus, don't assume his life is perfect because he is not killing and dying in a senseless war.
Peace.
Ditto. The only reason I'm still alive is because of my cat. Once she passes away, I'm gone.
You could get another cat and help those stray cats
damn, so getting a job isn't the real solution, might as well stay unemployed😂
I'm kidding, clearly the solution starts from inside
I enjoy being alone most of the time
I can listen to the silence, music or any sound that might arise.
It's very peaceful
There's no drama
There's no one that demands your attention
And the best thing is that you can fart loudly without having to be embarrassed.Jokes aside.
I've been living in isolation since 2014 and I have insight. Everyone just has to decide for themselves whether it is simply being alone or loneliness. For me the glass is half full. Even if the pessimism creeps into my mind every now and then and tells me whether I'm jumping, hanging or bleeding on the tracks. Somehow it works, and you're happy that a crow comes to visit you on the balcony every morning.
But dealing it with years felt like I was moving into an empty hole
With despair comes humility. With humility comes peace of mind. Videos like these try to shake my peace of mind.However, for those who haven’t got it yet this video may be helpful.
I have been a neglected child, never had friends in school, and had to grow with a schizophrenic mother...i can't even describe what real loneliness feels like, bit at a certain point, you just stop feeling emotions...your brain NEEDS to, or it will never survive in such a scenario, now all of my friends are fake, except for one, my parents finally finally acknowledged their mistake...but it is too late, because the only feeling i have left is anger, and not matter how much i fight it... it grows stronger by the day, i have grown up, it's too late for parental love...i struggled with addiction for years, and i have won it, and things have become slightly better...but it's still a looooooooong way up, and sometimes, we have to rest along the way.
I felt the same way you do. I turned numb after a few years in isolation but it got worse when I moved out. I had to learn everything on my own from listening to one self, handle shame from a toxic family, coming out of addiction on my own (had to seek professionals in the end), solve the so called "mystories" of my own behavior and reactions along with my family. I knew we all ended up in the ways we did for a reason but it's no use if you feel numb. Emotions guide our actions, thoughts and feelings more than we think. You lost your toolkit (emotions) in the middle of nowhere (your current state) and it's getting dark (depression, ect.).
If I can help you out from here then go dive into releasing anger. It is hard to face emotions when you turn the deaf ear to them. The body reacts in a similar way just as if you turned the deaf ear to another person. Know it's yourself and your emotions and let it know you are finally there to listen. Maybe get a therapists help to release the emotions. It takes time but you will hopefully get over on the other side. I been there and I know how it feels. You are not alone.
i dont know why people think that everyone outside has some happy life. been my experience that everyone is a little bit lonley.
so true, people are great at appearing good to others, meanwhile they might be dead inside
Happiness all the time is an illusion and a facade. Accept that and move on to bettering yourself for the sake of YOURSELF. Help you to help others if that's what you want. Never mind what persons A, B, and C are doing next to ya. They're winging it, too.
Because even if you are lonely despite being around people, if you have a job, your own place, are in a club or volunteer, and have friends, you aren't judged cause are considered a contributing member of society. But if you lack these things you will be...and that also makes it harder to make friends.
I believe there is a difference between feeling alone and true loneliness.
some people are lonely and others are just alone.
Everyone is alone but some are more alone than others
Welcome to the NHK is my genuine favorite anime of all time. Really hits home and helps me not feel like I'm alone in my feelings.
" I have no mouth and i must Scream. "
I'm gate keeping this anime
“Why ? Why me !?why mee??”
"HATE. HATE."
"I have no lover and I must bust"
more like I have a mouth but I must not scream.
When I was younger I used to read manga and watch anime a lot. That's how my interest in Japan started. For example, there was the work mentality, how much Japanese people work per week, how many overtime hours they do, and I think I heard that they only get about 10 days' vacation a year. The fact that many people take their work seriously and stories like that, that some have killed themselves because they failed at work. I've also seen a number of videos on this topic and was amazed at how many of these hikkikomoris there are. I've also heard that many young people have no plans for the future, and don't want to start a family. Either because everything is too expensive or because they don't want to put their children through that. Not just in Japan, but in many countries. But I talk too much, thanks for the video.
Same word for word, bar for bar
As someone who read/watched this during his formative years, it's crazy seeing this series be talked about again. You can definitely tell it was from a different era media as it pulls you in as some comedic anime about someone who is alone.....but instead it's almost a PSA or warning about how the lifestyle can be harmful not only to you but to those you may hold dear.
The day has finally come, someone finally made a TH-cam video on my niche interest anime
I'm so happy that there's more content about welcome to the nhk. such an underrated masterpiece:)
I have seen the dark things as I have gone through my line of work and talked to so many great people. I have seen the darkness in someone's eyes when they have a fake smile. I recently heard about a guy I knew who probably had the brightest smile out of the people in the site I worked at ended his life. I didn't know him personally but I interacted with him pretty much daily and we got along well. When I heard the news I had to bury my emotions bc well I am security and I can't burst into tears mid job so. Now every time I am at my station and wait for people to clock out, I don't see him. It is something I noticed, only me an one other person mentioned him. The world moves on and leaves those that died behind so the ones living can push forward. Not many people will remember him, I think being a security guard is the best thing I can do given I am moving up to armed security for hospitals and such. I have been a person who has been someone for others to lean on when they need it, even complete strangers sometimes. If I can do some good for the people by doing security so be it.
tbh the fact that most gen z dont respond well to small talk can be discouraging to those wjo actual wish to converse
For real. I find it to be pointless to engage with people at my university or out in the world. They either don't want to talk or aren't good at it/don't want to input anything of their own to it.
Relatable, I was lucky enough to have a nice convo with an alt girl a few weeks back ago.. but most of everyone else.. sadly no
Real@@deionsamuels3812
Dude I’m 28 and I can’t do small talk at all…….infp as well
Perhaps converse about something other than small talk.
This anime will either help you try change your life or push you into the absolute abyss.
its not up to me. some people simply fall through the cracks. i have been a neet for 7 years. youd be surprised, once you realize no one thinks about you, you can be chill and not miserable
Sato is literally me, all my life i was a neet but got into college at 22
good for u bro, what do u study
@@gnatdagnat designer stuff plus arts
@@nunothedude Waste of time unless you have a strong conviction. Drop college now. It's going to sap away your youth. Better work an honest job and learn online on your own.
@@RyutaaKuzunoha ahh ur poor
whoa I didn't expect a welcome to NHK video in 2024. I remember bingeing the manga years ago just because the synopsis caught my attention. After this maybe it's finally time to check the anime
I think this Video did infact help me Understand my Position in the World better. Im a guy who overtthinks a lot. Especally in Conversations. Scared to say anything because i dont know how other People will react. I've always been like this. But the Pandamic did make it a 100 times worse. Im currently on a journy on changing this.
Thank You, it was very helpfull for me.
Wish you the best on your journey and great and consistent progress in all time coming! Plateus and setbacks will very likely occur from time to time, but always keep your mind on the trend you can observe over the longer previous timespan.
I been alone for 7 years, my old man’s old man been alone for 35 years before he left this wasteland. It’s a journey not a destination. Not everyone goes though a crisis because of loneliness. They rarely think of the word or care to get out of it at least from my end regarding my old man’s old man experience. This doesn’t reflect everyone’s view on the matter. Some can not only handle being alone but prefer it
Is it bad to say i got anxious alittle as he was talking about Sato’s behavior?
This is a very well made video btw
I don’t have to imagine any of this. Been there and it’s awful. Thank you for talking about it in such a meaningful way.
Loneliness is a double-edged sword. In some ways, you'll find out truths about the world and yourself only through that intense suffering, which can provide good means to heal. On the other hand, it's addicting and debilitating: you lose pace with reality and every waking day in that state past the productive time, you will be aware that time is ticking with nothing to show for it. It's a brutal realization, but a very human one (all the more relevant nowadays).
I sincerely wish the best to those who read this and suffer from social isolation, loneliness, and or depression. I'm with you there, and hope there's a way out for the both of us. Suicide can really feel like a good fallback option, a way out from what seems completely unsalvageable existence (believe me I know), but it's true that we just want the noise to stop, not the show to end.
Maybe it's just a barista job that gets you seeing faces again and making coffee, maybe it's something small like your one good friend that keeps you waking up just a smidge better. I have a sense you know what you need to do, it's just a shameful feeling to admit it. "You're not progressing the way your peers are! How have you fucked up this much for this long!? Why are you so depressed despite all my sacrifices!" These voices are only your enemy, and do nothing for you. Fuck 'em.
Keep this as a reminder: there is a unspoken hole you fill in someone's life that doesn't give a fuck why you're still here, they care you just are. Consider that your purpose to keep going, and everything along the way a bonus (Let's make sure we can both play GTA 6 before we're gone, hmm?)
"there is a unspoken hole you fill in someone's life that doesn't give a fuck why you're still here, they care you just are." Exactly how I felt towards somebody. Just being with them seemed to somewhat fill the hole. Now they're gone and all the progress gone with them
Did you just say "keep living" without using those exact words at the end?! That's wild and so far true words. Let's all wait untill GTA 6 is here
I was never really able to get into this anime because I've been left to my own devices most of my life. The whole "being alone drives you crazy" thing hits different when you were never sane.
People also drive you crazy. So either or
Bro you are so good at making everything so depressing, props
Aku no hana, lain and NHK are some of my most cherished anime experiences, for how personal they felt while watching.
lain was a great show
Aku no hana is perfect for me
0:55 _nervous laughter_ yea.. really hard to imagine...
Even outside Japan, a lot of people live like this. You know you won't get far, so why try? My heart goes out to anyone feeling like this.
Being alone isnt for everyone. I dont understand why everyone assumes everyone is alone therefore everyone is suffering. It makes no sense. I enjoy being alone because its all I ever known.
Being Alone is one thing
Being Lonely is another
The lonely part makes you question about yourself, questions like Why? How? When?, in prolonged loneliness/isolation, your mind breaks as it cannot distinguish your thoughts with reality.
I've learned to enjoy being "alone" with my wife and our pets. There's definitely a difference between depression and an introverted personality.
@@X3RNEA5 Indeed. You are naively ignorant until it hits you for YEARS of isolation. There's a massive difference being alone and lonely. Trust me, you don't want to feel lonely for almost 2 YEARS.
mentioned he's alone to try too come off as quirky because he doesn't want to be alone COPING HARD 😭 !!!! Or hear me out he actually isn't alone
@@AuthorityCat
Alone
Wife and dog
Which one is it?
I feel like I should praise the musical choices in during the video, mostly taking certain recalls (talking to you, The tale of a Cruel world and the heaven for death video) and using them to enhance the what I would call introspection during the video, certain emotions (we love empathy here) that do fit the context and information that you're being fed do improve the way that it's received.
All in all, thanks for reading the comment(s), I hope you could use that little note for something, if possible. Take care, reader
I understand Sato more than I'd like to admit, and I'm a normal guy with friends and a social job. I've felt an inner emptiness for years, and sometimes, it feels hopeless, and other times, it doesn't. It's like a roller-coaster that has seemingly no end, but I'll never give up simply because I don't have the heart to.
Exactly
NHK is the best anime i've ever seen. Before watching it i was unemployed, wasn't doing so good at college, i had broke up with my girlfriend i few weeks prior, i was kindda depressed, was anxious and overall, i didn't see light on the end of the tunnel. After i finished the anime (in a week time frame), i had already found myselft a job, finished the last college exams (wich gave me enough grade to successfully pass the semester) and was at peace with myself.
The anime gave me a boost to persue my goals and put my life on the tracks again. This anime is so very good.
Even though I really enjoyed and resonated with NHK, even it had the unrealistic trope girl show up at his front door. I haven't had a female acquaintance since high school and it's even worse nowadays since social media took over and 3rd places disappeared. Great show regardless and it's probably the only show in decades that's shed light on shut ins. But it's a lot worse irl when you have no friends, job, education, are poor, and pretty much nothing to motivate you on improving your life.
Well the motivation is socializing and connection.
@@flowerbloom5782which is bs since either nobody cares about connection or socializing in the post modern era.
Welcome the the NHK!
This anime has a special place in my heart. Speaks the truth 🥺
Loneliness is just a layer ...companionship does not solve everything.
There is so much more reasons for suicide or just isolation... after all true loneliness is being surrounded by other people that does not care or understand you, and when hostility comes it's even better to be alone.
Only true way is to find like minded and broken people like you, who get it, help them ...and before you know it you start to heal each other... that's what helped me to survive my suicide years.
Every one has something broken, when you share what is not you might exchange with others working parts and save each other.
Small talk is extremely important. It helps you guage each other's energies as you lead into more substantial talk. With one woman, what started as passing comments about the weather ended up with us speaking about our siblings and childhoods. It was a very good bond while it lasted.
"is hard to imag" me looking around my room alone and decaying... nope not at all
Welcome to the NHK really is a timeless masterpiece.
One of the greatest anime of all time with one of the best openings of all time
Best video I've seen in a while. Glad to say I do work full-time even if I'm not always a fan of my job. I think I just don't see enough of people these days though. Some people show their true colors and just don't wanna be as much connected with you, And other times when you hit your 30s, you see people becoming parents and transitioning into a different phase of life that you don't even know if you want.
Still, anime is becoming more of a thing than ever. People like us share similar interests should stick together. Keep each other motivated to stay employed and and stay Social.
I'll never stop resenting life and people.
@@Dunge0nthat’s the way to go tbh best mindset
I think being connected all of the time is the reason no one engages in small talk anymore. They get burnt out and don't know how it feels to be desperate to be social.
True
I can tell you that 2020-2023 didn't help me any, and I'm in my 30's so it's not just a Gen Z or α thing. Before 2020 I was attempting to have a better social life. Reached out to old friends and was starting to go out again and just doing things. Inviting co-workers after our shift to the local bar for a drink after work to shoot the shit and talk smack about our day to decompress. This was at a time when we were in office. Then 2020 hit and we were mandated to work from home. Being cooped up in my room which served as my office for work did not help me in the slightest in terms of my mental health. I tried keeping myself busy with media and games, but I've slowly lost interest in them over time with small bursts of interest here and there. All I did was gone. Hell, going back through text messages with friends, there's a noticeable gap from when 2020 started to last year when no one spoke to me but family. I've always had a bit of social anxiousness, have had it for years due to things that happened in my early years on top of moving around. Like a lot. I've always found it extremely difficult to make friends and post-2020 really put that on the forefront. Now that no one wants to make small talk - and this is despite me hating it to all hell - I have no idea anymore what I can even talk to people about, let alone someone I have an interest in. I've contemplated seeking professional help but I have trust issues related to previously mentioned things. Before someone worries about me doing something stupid, I have no intentions of self-deletion because - and I'm going to be honest here - I don't want to make my mom sad. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I did.
I've been getting better in recent years, but there are days, weeks, or months where I stall out and have no idea what to do next and how to improve my life next. I feel stupid for wanting to ask "how to make friends" since it sounds like something that an alien or some kind of imposter would ask. The social anxiety hit me full force a couple weeks ago when I was at anime convention. Couldn't talk to anyone despite being in a several hundred thousand square foot space filled with fellow weebs. I really do tend to overthink everything and question peoples' intentions just as much as I assume that others will be questioning my intentions as well in social settings. It's a vicious cycle. I had been depending on a friend of mine to help break me out of this, but they've become less and less available over time meaning despite having them as a friend through text or a phone call, they aren't physically present and once more feel alone once more.
I'm... probably going to look at those recommendations my primary care doc sent me last year.
why to see reality in anime when you feel and experience it irl
You know, the character in the show basically confront a thing that he doesnt want to bear: RESPONSABILITY. In a way or another we can correlate, but i lacked that so much back them, maybe at his level, or even worse.... It reflected in my own view of my emotions back them. "It must be it, i'm not satisfied until i reach this, i'm not well because of that, yadayadayada, why people around me get me wrong, the world is unjust towards me, i'm just unlucky, i wish a time-travel machine, why God made me that way, the fault are the people in my adolescence, if i wanst in the university course, etc".
Maybe things started when i responded in a way to my "fear of being alone", as a result of bad experiences with 2 girls and fears of future... i got isolated around 12-14 years old, being afraid of socialization. As a younger kid i was really energic, then i changed, to the point i coulndt bare many strange faces without looking down, out of fear/shame, i dont know, i didnt felt well, i was out of there, i wish the lunch time at school endend more fast ALWAYS.
The coincidences stop there. And question myself if i did right or wrong... i could have stopped at this point. But i didnt. If i heard this 33:15 at my age 12-13, i wouldnt be the person i am today. I would have accepted it. But i had a view of the world that would be pain for the next decade for me. I saw the socialization as a "cure" for the lonely feeling, and as long i felt it, the more i wanted to pursue more, no matter the consequences, i just wanted to take the sensation out, without accepting it.
I begun aprouching male "friends" (maybe colleagues and "people next to my sit" is apropiate) instead of girls, as i feared no girl/woman would accept me at adolescence, even less at adult age. This affected my social skills too much in a way, i was afraid of getting around woman, but too easy to be near and feel safe around guys somehow, to the point i thought that was a exit to have relationship with guys instead with girls.
Sometimes some friends thought i was joking, and i played as if it was joke (or it would be awkward to continue).
To reafirm thoses mental trajectories i was following, i searched online friendship as well at Orkut. I got friends at Grand Chase community, majority were gay.
I got to adult life, and those friends from school and real life ended in some point (university, my own person problems, etc). I went 3 different universities (i closed 2 courses, philosophy and architecture, now i'm at medicine... nothing to related each other, right?). And i thought i had some adiction to sex or something like that. That was out of control of myself. Not a day without pornography at home, and sometimes more than one period of day. Some times i did "that" alone even if i wasnt excited at all. That was affecting me. Because even during my classes and exercice of medicine during university, i had thoughts really bad, and even shamefull, out of context, even if i wasnt seeing/hearing someone saying things that would excite me... and was with men. I really have respectful thougts towards women, but the "gay thoughts" were very savage, bestial. I was a little paranoid to think that, a simple help or praise from a man/colleague was an invite to talk, maybe to go out and "other things".
I had to stop to think, after 13 years, its been two years after i said to myself " i followed this thought to feel more aceptable, is this really ok? what if that's a red flag towards a bigger problem with no return route?", its paradoxal as people nowadays wouldnt accept LGBT in many social circles, but i thought that was the principle of my life, because of i felt majority of my life. Neverthless, i was in "need of friendship" even if that costed my dignity, and i justified and created a world in the head, to avoid certain problems, circunstances, i felt envy of people... strange right? i wanted people and got envy... i really wanted to be like those that are in joy, happy, highly satisfied... i wanted other people's lifes, not having MY OWN, because maybe ... i thought that would be boring, i guess? the feelings were starting to make me question... i betrayed a lot of people, just for pleasure, and to justify this "isolation". Is it even okay? that are not even a religious command against "gay adultery"...is it okay to have this freedoom and hurt others?
For 1 or 2 times i thought i would die for relating to dangerous people. I really thank God/angel, i dont know, that put "dont go this time, Rubem" into my mind many times, because my painful and egoistical resolution would tell me to go and feed it.
For two years since then, 28 years old, i quit Date app and friends that put pornographies in their status of whatsapp. I tried no fap, failed some months, i'm 1,5 year without doing "that"... and its like coffee. You have headache if you quit from one day to another, if you are addicted to it.
I was doing a detox, to really find myself... do i really need this "reality inside my mind" to live well, happy, overjoyed ? is this something intrisically attached to me and nothing can be done? I'm really faded to depression if i dont continue to "feed them"? at short time period seems true, as only pain results... and i felt i had nothing to wait for me.
Well, its a surprise, i feel relieved somehow. And part of that "need for friendship" made me forgot that there are people around us that we dont give value, even with their help, the first ones are our parents/responsibles/known people that care for us.
This got me into some light to follow.
I still have some social awareness, some of it, i'm still working on that... sometimes come thoughts of past because of triggers in the present but i don't feel bad about it, its just an image. If i get nervous about some "fault", its because i didnt reflect on it entirery and i need to confront.
I really dont have intention to find people, i still have some old hobbies of animes, games, but i put limit time to it... i have duties of study to do yet. Somehow the church sublimated this loneliness feeling i got in the past years. I got just one friend back then, other eldery faces just give respect, but i dont have much talk. Still, i confront myself everyday: did i got my duties done? did i oversaw something? did i spent much time in certain activities?
For the matter of socialization, i guess my future work as medic can help, but you know what? to think TOO MUCH, to conjecture TOO MUCH, you have anxiety, just as the protagonist of the show. I try to avoid it when it comes into socialization.
Let the things flow. You have present, past is no more, future will be today. But of course, do your duties. If you have some intention of going to church next weekend, just go, dont think much about it, specially if that church have God that will acompany you in His Body, Blood, Soul and Divinity, BUT in literall way, not just "when reading bible". The way you see life, even with some pain, will be a WAY different, as He doesnt take it from us, but teach us to live and confront it daily, without looking down.
Until the pain of the same is greater than the pain of change, there will be no changes.
Ever been so lonely that you get physical pain?
i feel ill
must be bed sores youre feeling. i only feel a sense of doom
Yop
Imagine being a neet/hikki for a decade. Forget all your worries and compress it to one train of thought: "What can I even do if I go outside? Nothing".
It's a very scary existence. Everyone's worries in the comment section sounds like a very eventful life compared to it.
I'm at eight years now, so a decade is rapidly approaching.
This is what I think everyday.
I don't need to imagine it. I'm 30. I've lived it as an adult for a decade. This is hell. I just have dumbass video games and anime to dull my sense of pain for short periods. I recommend anyone brave enough to take the exit strategy to go ahead with it. I don't have the balls. I'm a coward and every second of my existence is a mistake.
@@thegatorhator6822 beyond brutal, it's truly over man, things will never get better
@@thegatorhator6822And you're going to give up? Nonsense. That's too simple and nothing about you screams simple-minded.
When I first got into watching Anime, Welcome to the NHK was one of the first shows I watched. I really liked it. I felt that I could really relate.
I watched the anime for the first time in 2008 on DVD. The first episode only. I saw the first episode a second time in 2012. It was only in 2013 that I bought it on DVD from a local convention. It has been one of my favorites ever since. I have watched it no less than 68 times in the last 11 years. It encouraged me to study hard to graduate community college which I eventually did.
What’s it called?
@@Restless786 welcome to the nhk
@@Esenin472 thank you!
It wouldnt be a hikikomori essay vid without a suttle omori reference ❤
Homosexual.
omori is gay
Im glad that i saw this video wirh this mental situation i have, that voice that has keep telling me that i "worthless" i finally ignore it. Thank you and all the peopke that has shared his problems and advices❤ i will keep being positive even in this difficult moment.❤
I got through High school about a year ago, graduated, but through my life i have always heard from teachers and parents which im pretty sure my mother started using as an excuse at some point was "He doesnt seem to be interested enough" so i suppose i got used to relying on others to help me, but then i graduated, i have hardly texted most of my high school friends and i guess im also just paranoid if they even think of me or not, i constantly hear and reasonably so from my family that i should go and get a job but im not even sure where to start, but i havent yet because im afraid of hearing that im just not interested enough or im unable to do what i want to in life, im afraid of being told i cant do it.
Ya got this. Start small like applying to be a custodian for a school. Some of the best people I've known were custodians, at first. Realize this, though....
You. Need. Money.
It is NOT the end all/be all of life but you need it to survive. Reality dictates that you must have resources to live.
College, if you choose the right degree that makes money, can be useful. But do not get into debt for something that isn't productive. Debt is NEGATIVE MONEY. Therefore it is negative freedom.
You have to be okay with hearing hard truths. That's where humility comes into play.
I remember this anime broke me in the sense of what it feels like to stay inside and push yourself away from everyone
If we can be real, I'm gonna be a hiki til I die. I had no qualms with society, but I can't say I'm immune to what could have been now and then. Almost like i stole someones life, ya know?
For now, I'm gonna enjoy these nice days while i got them
I’m 31 and still feel like this
Been there, Done that, i was afraid once as well, but i meet a guy who understanded my situation, got me back on my feet's, later i got not only 1 job, but 2 that kept me afloat, i learnt people around Arent so bad, your mind is your greatest enemy in this situation.
i still revert back to my old self, but i've learn how to tackle it, fight it, and ignore it as well, 2 years ago i meet a girl, that now, knows me for what i am, and what i was, and she accepts me for that, i was lucky to move on, but i also worked hard to sustaine it, i hope people will can do the same, hardship can teach you a thing or two.
Welcome to the NHK was such a wake up call for my life and expand my horizons. I have to thank the creators for making that story to let me know I need to moving forward somehow
Weöcome to NHK is truly a classic that aged well over the Years i watched it when i was a Teenager and could not relate as much to it but in the last year i have a totally dofferent Viewpoint and understand this.
The NEET Life is nothing desireable for long time.
The Jobmarlet is gruesome rejections after rejection simply a commodity every Application poured with effort seems to be worthless at some point this feeling creeps on you.
Even being consciouss about it you simply have not the Power to help yourself because you need it to write more Applications.
It becomes like a Fake Downwards Spiral even though you know there is a End you do not know when and how.
your analysis in the video, the editing and your advices are really amazing it's easy to understand and actually relatable. i think you'll be a good friend.
I watched this anime when I was about 24, I believe, so about 6 years ago give or take, as I stumbled upon it through a recommendation from another TH-camr that reviewed anime's or something. I honestly can't remember... Either way! It definitely help changed my perspective on things and become more self-aware of my own neet situation. I had been living with my mom even up until that point in my life and after that as well. Like you said, change doesn't happen over night. And it was hard to crawl out of that isolated world I created for myself, where everything was my way and I felt comfortable and I was the MC of my own world that I had absolute control over.
A few years later, I wanted to get my act together, or try to at least. But, as someone who is a high school drop out, it's even HARDER to find work compared to most. And even when most have their high school diploma, it's still hard for them to find even the most grunt work out there. But, anyways, I have been the kind of person who has come and gone from therapy, because there were certain points in my therapy sessions that felt like weren't helping me and I was fearing that change when my everyday routine/life was being challenged. I'd drop out of therapy because of that.
About 4 years ago in 2019, I had finally gotten my first real job. It was a part time job, but it was something and a start and good enough for someone like me who was not used to work, and was foreign to the entire concept of responsibility. I stuck around with my therapy sessions one more time and through their help, I was given a job thanks to my vocational rehab program I was in. However... Eventually, that isolation haunted me again. After my Christmas break of that year and much before the pandemic made headlines, I was beginning to have that anxiety, panic and depression all in a single go. After my 2 weeks of break were up, I would call in everyday at work, making excuses and telling them I wasn't feeling well.
Eventually, after a week, I stopped calling them and just hoped that if I ignored it, they would just let me go. But, that wasn't the case, because I was there through vocational rehab, so I got a call from work unexpectedly and they asked if everything was okay, because I keep calling in "sick". I spilled the beans and told them no. I was just not in the right mental state to push myself to go through with work anymore. And I told them sorry, but I have to go, and I quit. They were really nice about it and said, "Well, whenever you get straighten out, feel free to give us a call back, we'll take you back." It was honestly... a miracle and I felt so undeserving of that because I let my depression kick my ass into oblivion to the point where I gave up on everything again. I just ended the call with, "Okay, thank you, I'll be sure to give you a call back when I pull myself together."
That day never came. Then, the pandemic came around and never in my life had I felt more relieved, because the streets were quiet, nobody was talking to anybody. There were curfews in place. It was a dream come true for a depressed, anxiety filled neet like myself. And I prayed and prayed that this thing could last because finally, a world in which I was living in my head, was almost a reality. But, when things finally picked back up again, I never picked myself up again...
I'm 30 now, I spent my 20s wallowing in my own depression, anxiety, isolation, nihilism, that I didn't notice the time fly by. Still living with my mom even to this day. And what you said at the end of the video, is something I always keep in the back of my head, and something I also dread and fear. The fear of the inevitable. Because when that drastic event happens, it'll be either sink or swim for me. And I don't know if I will have the mental strength in me to swim. My therapist has asked me and others have asked me what am I to do when the inevitable happens. And all I can do is be honest with them and say, "I don't know. Probably die, either from starvation, homelessness, both, or by my own doing." Because realistically, I don't know how to take care of myself. And by that I mean, I don't know how to cook and prepare meals for myself, manage my bank account, and other things that include adulting.
So, here I am for now and hopefully, the inevitable is a long time from now, or I can finally overcome my own fears and step up again once more. I did it once, and I don't know what's stopping me now.
TL;DR, I'm a high school drop out, I was a neet for several years until 2019, then at the start of 2020, depression, anxiety, and nihilism hit me again where I called quits and now I am stuck back on square one. Stay in school, kids, count your blessings and don't give up like I have.
Fun fact: I do have a girlfriend by some miracle, but even she isn't someone who is going to carry my ass through life. It wouldn't be fair to her... So, who knows what the future will hold for me, but it is not something I think about too hard. I'm just living in the moment.
Jeez, this is quite a story. The "sink or swim" resonates hard.
I believe living in the moment as well as improving a little bit each day is ideal. Even if you wasted a ton of time, you are still young. Still have got time to make it right.
You can start by learning to cook, which will make you feel great later :)
@@neferov I appreciate the positive suggestion and response! I didn't mean to get so grim and dark near the latter portion, I just sort of let my honest thoughts run through my mind in the moment.
It's a good start as any and I'd definitely rather try and do something about anything now and learn while I still got my one pillar of support still standing strong in my life. Thank you.
@@protostarmirage- Yeah, grasping to the people and things you have is very important.
I will share too, if you don't mind. I had a hard time finding a job for half a year after graduation(worked for a less than minimum wage in a dead-end workplace), and would probably be a NEET for a long time, but have managed to grasp one lucky opportunity. Salary isn't great, some of my peers are doing better than me, but I am glad I at the very least have a job, earn money and have a routine going (6 months in the gym already).
A couple of years ago I was a kid with no irl friends, had no romance in my life ever and was wasting his time in videogames constantly. Now I have dipped my toes into dating (although now I am single), have a job to attend and build healthy habits. Not even close to the life I envisioned myself when I was a kid, but hey - life is difficult. You just got to hold on a positive mindset and people who will help you improve.
And you have both right now, which is super awesome! I wish you a pleasant summer to enjoy with your gf :)
@@neferov Thank you so much for sharing a bit of your own past with me as well. And I am happy for you that you have things balanced well enough in your life. As you said, things aren't what we planned them out to be and maybe they could be better, but we have what we have and that's a start. And eventually, we'll work our way up higher and higher, better opportunities, better jobs, better salary, and just an overall better lifestyle. Not a perfect one, but something more livable. I think it's impossible to ever have a perfect life no matter who you might be.
I feel you though. When I was a kid, I wanted to be an astronaut, but of course, that was a dream! Rather than a goal in life. I'm not complaining too much now though. Life's just too short to worry too much and be stressed about things all the time.
Thank you so much again for sharing with me, it always is a comforting notion to know that there are others out there whom can empathize with one.
Thank you! I hope you have a wonderful summer as well and I'll be sure to let the future missus know that a kind stranger online wished us the best. :)
I’ve been there. And it was so hard, loneliness, isolation, descent to hell finished eventually by a mental breakdown. Like a real one, not just pure sadness, but mental sickness. First family reached hand to me when they realized ( though it was pretty advanced). And then guess which helped me ? Not my friends from long time. They literally told me years later that they considered me dead. Yup.
No it was professionals, who helped me get over it, followed up by strangers and people who experienced true despair.
If you ever get stuck in a bad life situation and isolation, seek help. It is there.
Angels exist, but we tend to be blind to their existence when we’re in despair.
As someone who recently just made my own Welcome To The N.H.K. review, this is really well made, man. Keep it up!
This manga was one of the first i read and loved it so much. I relate to it so much and seek it to help me getting out of my depression.
Honestly ive been through my Hikokomori phase, its very difficult to push foward specially when you are in a place where you cant be offered a lot of options. The internet is so... double sword, it can fill the gap of companionship and loliness but in the end everyone needs someone irl to be there for them and with them. It is good to improve and seek to get the best of yourself for yourself to a limit, at some point you will always need someone else, thats how we humans work.
Yeah im going through a difficult time, Ive moved countries again and im trying to get a new life here, is difficult, but ill push foward. Ill learn the language eventually and ill adapt to my new place.
Will this make me change? I dont think so but It will change my quality of life, which is in the end the most important thing.
this works for the majority of people because they don't have a lot of other hindrances, but as someone who was isolated for years before the pandemic due to physical illness leading to mental illness and being really burned out, i can honestly say, it's hard getting out there and finding a job that works for you in those mental conditions.
Hyper Light Drifter & Omori OSTs packed into this vid 🔥
I watched this in 2007 on TH-cam....back then their copyright enforcement is a bit slow, but anyway, Welcome to NHK is one of the best animes I have ever watched. Funny and touching at the same time.
It's much more like...
I've tried various different things, had at least half a dozen jobs and spent years with inner work, but still just don't feel it.
I'm fully and unironically convinced, that society is just exploiting you and that there is no dream jobs for the broad masses, but just a select few. If at all.
I can't bring myself to develop any interest in society and was unsatisfied with every job i've ever had. (felt like a cage)
To make matters worse:
Even if i was to work full time again, it would hardly offer me any solid perspective, because even with education, you're just a corporate wage-slave that has to spend his lifetime making profits for others.
That's essentially what nearly all education amounts to and that's what i despise so much.
You can hardly call yourself free, if you're stuck at a place you only go to for money and nothing else.
(I also have an "avoidant attachment style" , which means i really struggle bonding with basically anyone in general. It also means that my brain runs primarily on dopamine and not oxytocin.)
(Oxytocin = The brain chemical that makes you bond and feel this bond.)
In addition to that, i don't wanna seriously bond with coworkers, because it's just gonna be used against me eventually.
(Guilt tripping you into taking shifts you don't want to take, etc.)
So in a nutshell:
Hedonism is the only thing that i really can be bothered about.
That and risk-avoiding behavior, as well as constantly obsessing about what risks i'm exposed to.
It's a vicious cycle and i would have just broken it by now if it was just that but; the thing being:
I am unfortunately 100% right with my bitter and cynical rambling.
So yeah...
I'm quite literally stuck, so i figured i might as well go full Hikikomori and "at least lead a life that i enjoy".
And i am actually not unpleased.
I have all i need as a NEET, except for a long term money solution that doesn't cause me to hate my life and be miserable.
Aside from that, i am absolutely not unhappy with basically anything.
Yes, i'm out of shape, life with my parents and don't have a girlfriend, or a car, or a job;
But i am completely unbothered by that.
I have loads of free time and even though i would like to have someone or something that makes society's daily Bullshit actually worth it and would actually cause me to "achieve" a long term career:
I am still grateful for the way my life is, because i've had it worse as an employee.
So, again, in a nutshell:
The issue is kinda on me, but it's justified.
Not just by a crappy childhood and quite literally a form of "brain damage", but by all the lies and the BS that society puts down on us and makes us believe, so we can be effectively exploited.
I relate to you so much.
Agreed..@@armoredlumberjack1999
js know u can do better
Why was this in my recommended? TH-cam algorithm, I thrive in and enjoy my solitude, thank you very much!
being alone's fine, i've done it for more than 10 years and appart from the microwave talking to me everything's fine... everything is fine...
The lamp is having an affair with the stove.
Fine? Fine is too simple of a word and, I bet, nothing about you is even remotely simple or simple-minded. Imagine you can feel something better. You have the capacity, I know you do.
@@mister-zen8491 i find it better not to imagine feeling something better if it is just to face the reality afterward, the best way to support my kind of lonelyness is either ending it for good or forgeting what not being alone is.
It's normal now. So you can feel comfort knowing so many other people are alone
Yes, not all the recluses have social anxiety with loneliness.
This anime actually made me jealous of the MC because he had at least one girl paying attention to him, even if she wasn't completely able to understand what she was doing was destructive. I had a real life girl, try to "help" me, and her intention was to destroy me, for fun. I hope she had fun. It wasn't fun for me.
I'm really sorry that happened to you brother...I know that it doesn't mean much coming from some random stranger on the net but still.
I fall into a lot of these patterns. But I also go out and enjoy my life and have real friends and genuine social interaction. I'm like 50/50. I can hole myself up for days, or I can go out working, meeting people, socializing, spending time with friends and family. It's like a switch for me. And I wish I could turn the half off and spend more time socializing and building up my life
It seems to be based on the 1998 Hollywood classic The Big Lebowski starring Jeff Bridges, and John Goodman.
I only got to see the introduction of this vid and I'm already hooked. I'll watch this anime for sure, thanks for the recc dude.
As a dear friend of mine once told me: "If you have the guts to pull the trigger, you have the guts to push through."
Your friend is kinda wrong about it three is difrance about it pulling triger is not gutsy move but desperation i bet he is one of thes PPL that say "get over your depresion its easy" to understand it you need expiriance such pain as its more complicaded than he thinks
@@beliar52 Not really. That one was specifically for me. We know things are different for people with nothing to lose and all. Even though killing yourself comes from desperation, it still takes a lot of mental fortitude to go through with it, since you're going against your nature of keeping yourself alive. Neither of us go around saying "Just don't be depressed, bro", since we both came from dark places in life and now we lift each other.
@@CarlosRoyalTiger not realy its more of opesite of mental forditute its loosing all of it and our nature as social race will drive us to it i been there many years ago that why my respond whas to your comment at less you had buddy to help you out for me it whas mental strugle between my mental state and contius i still can remember that conversation i had in my head
good one
Taking your own life takes a lot of willpower, yes. But pushing through isn't about willpower after a point. Many ppl who either kill themselves or simply let themselves rot bcs they can't bring themselves to do it, are like this bcs they don't see a reason to pushing through. It's basically "What's the point if it's all going to repeat itself all over again and end in yet another failure?". Willpower/guts or w/e have no impact in this case. It's all about the complete loss of reason and hope.
I feel this. for a few years of my life I was mentally and physically well enough to leave the nest and have a job, but things like the pandemic sent me spiraling to a point I also nearly took that desperate step to end it all. Some part of me, though, had enough fight to live that I called everyone I knew, saying I needed someone with me right now because I was having a mental breakdown. People got to me, calmed me down, but after a couple months and getting covid I realized I just was not healthy enough to try to recover from that rock bottom point in my life. So I quit my job and went back to my parents'. I can't tell you how hard it's been to not shut down and just play video games all day and stay in my room, which sometimes I do for weeks on end because things like bad side effects from medications mess me up even more. By playing my game it blocks out the really bad intrusive thoughts I get, and yeah I used to over think small things to the point of sheer paralysis so that I couldn't communicate with anyone even to tell them something simple.
I'm blessed to have family members and friends I miss and want to visit back where I had my job, so now and then I get properly away from the house to go see them, but here in this small town I don't have anybody really because the people I grew up with have moved away, or in the case of my once best friend, I realized was toxic and cut off. But I don't know really how to meet more people.
Been doing the same thing of trying to use medications to help me mentally and physically for years with no good results, but I've finally found a more naturalist doctor who I hope will finally be the answer to my hope to one day get off medications entirely. Hopefully going to them instead will be the right path to getting my health up so I can get back to living life again.
Why do i feel called out by this anime. Honestly im planning on ending myself at the age of 25. I already planned everything, i feel relieved. Im 21 now and if i dont have any success at the age of 25 , i think i will pull the plug. Its a relief thinking it that way, im just a failure.
I’m not gonna shame you for feeling like that, but I hope you are happier soon. Your personal success shouldn’t bear such a heavy burden, just take it one step at a time.
Honestly, I truly don't know what you're going through but I know a book that helped me cope with my existence. It's called the happiness trap and im right now reading it and it helped me alot. Hope you feel better and hope you give the book a try.
What's your definition of success?
Your worth is not dependent on what others think of you or your accomplishments.
Your self destructive beliefs aren’t you. Draw a line for your own sake and start fighting for some things you actually value.
@Ponpon66669 dude we are literally brothers, i have been planning since i was 18 and if i don`t have success until i`m 26 i will end it, im almost finished with university and im gonna start looking for a job in the area to see if i can turn stuff around, if not, well i tried 🙃.
I watched this anime two years ago during my final year of high school which was really difficult due to my low self esteem, loneliness, and high anxiety levels, and it really spoke to me back then. Now that I'm in university, my life is sort of more on track but I still feel feelings of loneliness, low self esteem, and a tendency to overthink. I have some friends and a loving family, but something is still missing in my life - I'm not quite sure what. Maybe it is a genuine, deep connection that I am missing, romantic or otherwise. Regardless, this video really hit home, I actually teared up at the part about suicide. I've never been suicidal, but I have thought about committing social suicide, that is, becoming a hikikomori. I think even in that case it's not that we hate society and want to be alone - it's more that we just want our feelings of anxiety to end. It's an unhealthy coping mechanism, but one that is deeply relatable and one I was scarily close to falling into. I think it's incredible but also saddening how thjs anime from nearly twenty years ago still resonates today - truly we are in a crisis, with no easy solutions. But here's hoping we will all be okay. We don't have to be drastic like Satou who wanted to avoid starvation. But if we can take small steps to improve ourselves, that is what is important. Thank you for this video :)
Thanks for making this
One thing that cause all the pain (and hope) is the belief happiness can be found out there, and other people found it. But this was before the internet and social network showed us whats really going on. I've spent the last 4 years doing nothing but trying to find if other people are really happy - and the more i learn the more i lose hope. In 2024, i think there are very few people who are really happy.
Nothing wrong with being alone when you see everyone as either a terrible person or an idiot that doesn't think for themselves.
Look. It's okay that people don't think for themselves. However, YOU can think for yourself and you need not worry what others are doing. You're free. Act accordingly and you'll only rise.
But also generalizing that everyone is an asshole could end up attracting the same people. People are lonely because many are thinking the same thing.
I used to think this way until I realize what I thought about people said more about me than others.
Honestly, from a whole bunch of statistics I've seen while going down a certain rabbit hole (which youtube likes to censor heavily), I'd say that around 60-70% of world population are genuinely disgusting people, and while most of them might not be able to hurt you specifically and probably won't ever show their bad sides to you, they'll still purposefully hurt someone else who trusted them.
But at least that means that there's absolutely nothing wrong with getting close with like only 1-2 people out of a group of 10 people. (and, I suppose, it shows why trying to befriend everyone never worked out for me.)
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Damn, at least I religiously keep my place clean.
Your video was amazing. So much of what you said had mirrored my own life at at my worst moments to a startling degree. I truely thought this was an experience unique to me, but it seems like you're just as familiar with it. To put all those lonely thoughts and feelings into words. From one lonely heart to another, well done.
Finally more videos about one of my favorite animes
I have that fear too of eveyrone judging me. And yes they judge you, saying they don't care isn't completely true. Judging is a natural thing people do. Building the tolerance for it is something you have to do. You see society as one big amorphous blob that is united against you. But one way to make steps curing this is knowing that that blob is made up of different factions and you're not the only person others judge, hate or envy. Knowing there's losers of their own prison torment will make you feel better, you can make allegiances in the shadows, you don't have to be alone.
I mean I talk to my drug dealer briefly and then back to my room by myself.
Sadly, watching life going by, colorful like a book, when you feel like the only ugly grayish thing there is, therefore, undeserving, unwanted, is an experience that a lot of us are going to have. I hope that people out there can paint the gray and feel connected to the world they live in. I don't wish the opposite to anyone.
Great video, great anime.
Nah, I'll never stop hating people.
Why?
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