Give me growth and truth over comfort any day! When I speak my truth, I experience great anxiety but it is followed relatively quickly by a release of energy that is both a relief and empowering. Then the energy feels still and pure.
Isn’t it wonderful to be able to speak your truth with those that want to hear it? That is what is truly wonderful. Or even taking the time to listen to them is wonderful.
this was helpful. for the first time i was able to see my parents as low-level alcoholics, they drank 1-2 glasses of wine w/ dinner every day, and they were/are in massive denial and are pretty much insane. I go to Al-Anon meetings, for people who have had to deal w/ alcoholics/addicts in their life, the 12 step recovery rooms are good places for people to go to to b e around other honest people that arent afraid to face their shame, torment and pain from childhood.
And to me that seems so normal it’s as if people have normalized it then again I’d see my old employer drink like this and it seemed odd. It’s like I’m stuck in the middle about it. For me I try to stay sober. I have many reasons why but mostly because I’m a Christian.
Whose going to watch this? Someone who really learns a lot from what you have to say and is inspired by your bravery. I have tried to manifest myself too, despite the cost. I've noticed that a lot of the people who i associate with are not real and the more I've faced myself the less I can connect with such people. I find it easier to go back to superficial relationships, but they no longer satisfy. I can only hope to reach the level of bravery that I see demonstrated by you here.
ive come to realize that the emptiness of comfort is far more horrifying then the unknown....if the unknown doesn't kill me the routine will surly do .
I go through the same thoughts when I make a video. The response has been overwhelmingly positive: people are desperate to hear someone else express what they are too terrified to say.
The older I get, the more appealing the ascetic lifestyle is, the more I try to push away comfort, and embrace the uncomfortable. One small example, I got rid of my television (and my TV addiction) in 1998, and it changed my life for the better as I challenged myself and grew. Another small example, physical discomfort brings me a measure of mental relief. I recently went to Budapest again to spend some time in the baths. Szechenyi Spa has a series of pools ranging from 20C (68F) to 40C. Last time I went, I was unable to get into the cold pool. This year, I actively sought out the discomfort, and I enjoyed spending 10 minutes in the cold water, and then getting warm again, before seeking out the physical discomfort. So few things in life challenge our physical discomfort, that it seems necessary to introduce these things artificially to remind ourselves, to test ourselves - our mental fortitude, our resolve, and our self-discipline. I wake up every day and wash my face with cold water for a minute or so - summer, winter, no matter. It is a tiny step, but I want to build on this. Any ideas how we can introduce small discomforts?
Video games are one of the most powerful addictions for young people, I would enjoy playing games 10 hours a day for the rest of my life but I quit playing them a few years ago, I still have the lust for them though. Almost all TV watching is addiction also. Junk novels and 90% of the food available in the grocery store aisles is junk for addictions.
Also today at work i asked customers how they are doing and the ones that are real and honest are the sweetest they are the ones that I’d do a lot for because they are most real.
I once heard someone telling about her standing day by day for hours at the window on the locked ward of Skt. Hans, looking at Roskilde Fjord, and imagining herself swimming along. She, and everybody else, laughed at it: "Fancy how crazy I was!" I was the only one, who couldn't see where the fun came in. She's safely addicted to clozapine today, never found out about the truth in her vision. Thanks for having the courage to make these vids! They're awesome.
You are telling the damm truth in such a beautiful way. It helps me a lot!!! Thank YOU for making your self vulnerable and opening my eyes wide and wider... :)) kepp up the great great work!
Give me growth and truth over comfort any day! I find when I express my true self, there is definitely anxiety (I hear you) but followed relatively quickly by a release of energy which is a relief and empowering and everything feels still and pure.
When I started to watch your videos I had that impression that you were a bit crazy...now I had a different opinion, not that it matters...but I tell you there is so much truths and deep on every one of these videos...don't stop Daniel..and thank you
Wow...just wow.....my supervisor from years ago sent me your video on the subject of psychotherapy and licensure and all the B.S. that we have to go through.....I cannot remember the title. I know it was much more recent than this one. I found myself glued to the computer monitor listening to myself talk through your mouth. Just astounding. Literally, I stopped my list of "tasks" to do for today just to watch a little more. Perhaps it is an escape of sorts...not sure....I do know that sometimes we ALL need a little "comfort" and time off...especially when we are hard at work on ourselves, etc. I know, for me, as a therapist there are times when I need to "zone out" or listen to music, watch TV, etc. I am not much of a drinker and do not use drugs, but I sure need those moments of comfort. Sometimes a nap, the glass of wine on Friday, etc. I look forward to watching more of your videos. Thank you for having the courage to say what many are thinking, but doubting..........BIG HUG!!
You are spot on my friend. I went through a similar process a few years ago and used 'EFT' (Emotional Freedom Techniques' to get myself well and balanced. It helps to speed up the process in dealing with the 'stuff'. What I have found though is that it needs to be a continual process as we slip back a little sometimes and need to let go of the comfort again and again. Many thanks for this. I'll go and watch part 2 now. Regards Bob
thank you. I feel the same way about my topics of interest. - philosophy, economics, politics, ethics. Very few are into it. They're almost always turned off by it. I am compelled to keep digging into the topics. To live without doing so woudl be to deny yourself, and live unconsciously, and to avoid the great important issues in life - a life not worth living. It's really hard when most people hate, attack, and spread bad things about you for doing so.
Wow 🤔Addiction to comfort! Yes! I love this. I hate doing new things which I mentioned in a comment on one of your last videos. I was just talking about how I feel very uncomfortable doing the whole meet and greet at church…I feel so small and fake and even unreal and that others are unreal to because they to are afraid to just be themselves. I think the only person at church is maybe a few people and my boyfriend and even that I feel uncomfortable in. Idk why I can’t just let go at church verses when me and him hang out it’s like I’m a totally different person and I have to be this person where I have this make believe box around me so that I don’t let others in. It’s almost as though it would be easier for me to be on my gabapentin again because then I’d be more social and now I’m just this quiet shy woman at church when with my boyfriend I am not. 🤔🤷♀️
"WHEN the traveller, who had seen many countries and nations and continents, was asked what common attribute he had found everywhere existing among men, he answered, "They have a tendency to sloth." Many may think that the fuller truth would have been, "They are all timid." They hide themselves behind "manners" and "opinions." At bottom every man knows well enough that he is a unique being, only once on this earth; and by no extraordinary chance will such a marvellously picturesque piece of diversity in unity as he is, ever be put together a second time. He knows this, but hides it like an evil conscience;-and why? From fear of his neighbour, who looks for the latest conventionalities in him, and is wrapped up in them himself. But what is it that forces the man to fear his neighbour, to think and act with his herd, and not seek his own joy? Shyness perhaps, in a few rare cases, but in the majority it is idleness, the "taking things easily," in a word the "tendency to sloth," of which the traveller spoke. He was right; men are more slothful than timid, and their greatest fear is of the burdens that an uncompromising honesty and nakedness of speech and action would lay on them. It is only the artists who hate this lazy wandering in borrowed manners and ill-fitting opinions, and discover the secret of the evil conscience, the truth that each human being is a unique marvel. They show us, how in every little movement of his muscles the man is an individual self, and further-as an analytical deduction from his individuality-a beautiful and interesting object, a new and incredible phenomenon (as is every work of nature), that can never become tedious. If the great thinker despise mankind, it is for their laziness; they seem mere indifferent bits of pottery, not worth any commerce or improvement. The man who will not belong to the general mass, has only to stop "taking himself easily"; to follow his conscience, which cries out to him, "Be thyself! all that thou doest and thinkest and desirest, is not thyself!"" - Schopenhauer as Educator
I had a gay therapist say, "the closet is a very comfortable and safe place . . . " I think it's (and for me) a dungeon of self-loathing and general avoidance: you don't grow in a closet.
Hello, Dan. ~ Well, everything is relative I guess. I grew up in an uncomfortable place with uncomfortable people. I suffered & life was a struggle. These days, my every moment is about what would make me feel comfortable & more comfortable. Period. ~ Btw/ if it’s true that discomfort causes growth I should be a giant billionaire by now. No one grows from pain & suffering. They shut down ( arrested development )
Daniel * * u are super supercool * * So brave u are wow.. i think you totally rock!cuz u are both funny wise and I feel it is very important to point out all the things you are saying here! esp in part 2 I never tried drinking/casual sex,and i dont know why society think thats oki.. and ppl think i am strange ..lol... but i think they are strange.. but i *am* totally addicted to music and to God but soooon i will also take that leap of faith and jump into the fire... *gratitude & love * Selina
NEW DSM IV Disorder: BIG3 ! Hi Mr. X, I hope i understand you right, you know my english :- ( Think Limbic: People and the neurobiological three Consumer-Typs: 1: Stimulanz - Stimulant, 2: Dominanz - domination 3: Balance. Is Stimulanz and Dominanz a Disorder and Balance not??? I think, It is a healthy mix and then I think it is a healthy addiction :-) wishes wolfgang can you give me the 295.5 :-)
thanks all---much appreciated!!
-daniel
You're one of the most sane people out there
Give me growth and truth over comfort any day! When I speak my truth, I experience great anxiety but it is followed relatively quickly by a release of energy that is both a relief and empowering. Then the energy feels still and pure.
Isn’t it wonderful to be able to speak your truth with those that want to hear it? That is what is truly wonderful. Or even taking the time to listen to them is wonderful.
I had three customers today be truth tellers and it was lovely.
Sir. You walk in the light
this video is so old but i’m so grateful it’s still up
Thank you :)
this was helpful. for the first time i was able to see my parents as low-level alcoholics, they drank 1-2 glasses of wine w/ dinner every day, and they were/are in massive denial and are pretty much insane.
I go to Al-Anon meetings, for people who have had to deal w/ alcoholics/addicts in their life, the 12 step recovery rooms are good places for people to go to to b e around other honest people that arent afraid to face their shame, torment and pain from childhood.
And to me that seems so normal it’s as if people have normalized it then again I’d see my old employer drink like this and it seemed odd. It’s like I’m stuck in the middle about it. For me I try to stay sober. I have many reasons why but mostly because I’m a Christian.
Thanks Daniel, your content is still relevant even after a decade
Glad to hear it. Thanks!
Whose going to watch this? Someone who really learns a lot from what you have to say and is inspired by your bravery. I have tried to manifest myself too, despite the cost. I've noticed that a lot of the people who i associate with are not real and the more I've faced myself the less I can connect with such people. I find it easier to go back to superficial relationships, but they no longer satisfy. I can only hope to reach the level of bravery that I see demonstrated by you here.
ive come to realize that the emptiness of comfort is far more horrifying then the unknown....if the unknown doesn't kill me the routine will surly do .
I go through the same thoughts when I make a video. The response has been overwhelmingly positive: people are desperate to hear someone else express what they are too terrified to say.
I don't think you are crazy: I see spiritual and intellectual honesty and excellence.
The older I get, the more appealing the ascetic lifestyle is, the more I try to push away comfort, and embrace the uncomfortable.
One small example, I got rid of my television (and my TV addiction) in 1998, and it changed my life for the better as I challenged myself and grew.
Another small example, physical discomfort brings me a measure of mental relief. I recently went to Budapest again to spend some time in the baths. Szechenyi Spa has a series of pools ranging from 20C (68F) to 40C. Last time I went, I was unable to get into the cold pool. This year, I actively sought out the discomfort, and I enjoyed spending 10 minutes in the cold water, and then getting warm again, before seeking out the physical discomfort.
So few things in life challenge our physical discomfort, that it seems necessary to introduce these things artificially to remind ourselves, to test ourselves - our mental fortitude, our resolve, and our self-discipline. I wake up every day and wash my face with cold water for a minute or so - summer, winter, no matter. It is a tiny step, but I want to build on this.
Any ideas how we can introduce small discomforts?
Video games are one of the most powerful addictions for young people, I would enjoy playing games 10 hours a day for the rest of my life but I quit playing them a few years ago, I still have the lust for them though. Almost all TV watching is addiction also. Junk novels and 90% of the food available in the grocery store aisles is junk for addictions.
Also today at work i asked customers how they are doing and the ones that are real and honest are the sweetest they are the ones that I’d do a lot for because they are most real.
13 days sober. 5 days Vegan. Thank You, Daniel.
Have been binging your videos. So thankful you decided to put these out there!
THANK YOU BOTH!!! Much appreciated. A risk to put up these videos, and I'm glad they speak to you.---Daniel
I once heard someone telling about her standing day by day for hours at the window on the locked ward of Skt. Hans, looking at Roskilde Fjord, and imagining herself swimming along. She, and everybody else, laughed at it: "Fancy how crazy I was!" I was the only one, who couldn't see where the fun came in. She's safely addicted to clozapine today, never found out about the truth in her vision.
Thanks for having the courage to make these vids! They're awesome.
If this is bonkers, we need more of it. Many compliments
Yes! I watch because I want to heal myself❤️
You are telling the damm truth in such a beautiful way. It helps me a lot!!! Thank YOU for making your self vulnerable and opening my eyes wide and wider... :))
kepp up the great great work!
Give me growth and truth over comfort any day! I find when I express my true self, there is definitely anxiety (I hear you) but followed relatively quickly by a release of energy which is a relief and empowering and everything feels still and pure.
Also finding comfort in government and religion are the most powerful and base addictions.
When I started to watch your videos I had that impression that you were a bit crazy...now I had a different opinion, not that it matters...but I tell you there is so much truths and deep on every one of these videos...don't stop Daniel..and thank you
Wow...just wow.....my supervisor from years ago sent me your video on the subject of psychotherapy and licensure and all the B.S. that we have to go through.....I cannot remember the title. I know it was much more recent than this one. I found myself glued to the computer monitor listening to myself talk through your mouth. Just astounding. Literally, I stopped my list of "tasks" to do for today just to watch a little more. Perhaps it is an escape of sorts...not sure....I do know that sometimes we ALL need a little "comfort" and time off...especially when we are hard at work on ourselves, etc. I know, for me, as a therapist there are times when I need to "zone out" or listen to music, watch TV, etc. I am not much of a drinker and do not use drugs, but I sure need those moments of comfort. Sometimes a nap, the glass of wine on Friday, etc. I look forward to watching more of your videos. Thank you for having the courage to say what many are thinking, but doubting..........BIG HUG!!
+John Newmark greetings -- and thanks!!!
I LOVE ALL THAT U TEACH US. TRUTH SHALL SET US FREE.
Excellent
@Daniel Mackler Daniel you were an absolutely beautiful child. You are gorgeous today inside and out.
You are spot on my friend. I went through a similar process a few years ago and used 'EFT' (Emotional Freedom Techniques' to get myself well and balanced. It helps to speed up the process in dealing with the 'stuff'. What I have found though is that it needs to be a continual process as we slip back a little sometimes and need to let go of the comfort again and again. Many thanks for this. I'll go and watch part 2 now. Regards
Bob
thank you.
I feel the same way about my topics of interest. - philosophy, economics, politics, ethics.
Very few are into it. They're almost always turned off by it.
I am compelled to keep digging into the topics. To live without doing so woudl be to deny yourself, and live unconsciously, and to avoid the great important issues in life - a life not worth living.
It's really hard when most people hate, attack, and spread bad things about you for doing so.
Less than one per cent of everyone you meet in life are anywhere near enlightened, and not even on the path to enlightenment.
Excellent video. Your insecurities are unfounded, as least from what I can tell.
Daniel, it is such a joy to listen to your reflexions. A fresh air of honesty, intelligence and courage. I deeply appreciate your videos.
Wow 🤔Addiction to comfort! Yes! I love this. I hate doing new things which I mentioned in a comment on one of your last videos. I was just talking about how I feel very uncomfortable doing the whole meet and greet at church…I feel so small and fake and even unreal and that others are unreal to because they to are afraid to just be themselves. I think the only person at church is maybe a few people and my boyfriend and even that I feel uncomfortable in. Idk why I can’t just let go at church verses when me and him hang out it’s like I’m a totally different person and I have to be this person where I have this make believe box around me so that I don’t let others in. It’s almost as though it would be easier for me to be on my gabapentin again because then I’d be more social and now I’m just this quiet shy woman at church when with my boyfriend I am not. 🤔🤷♀️
Daniel, this is great stuff. Thanks
Am I addicted to comfort if I habitually take a red pill every morning by watching videos like that?
Thank you for being real with us..you have really opened my eyes..bless you
Thank you for you work 🙏🏽
You’re welcome!
This is a really valuable message, thanks for posting them here.
I’m not the average anything.
This is really good. First time seeing your videos
thank you
This so beautiful
"WHEN the traveller, who had seen many countries and nations and continents, was asked what common attribute he had found everywhere existing among men, he answered, "They have a tendency to sloth." Many may think that the fuller truth would have been, "They are all timid." They hide themselves behind "manners" and "opinions." At bottom every man knows well enough that he is a unique being, only once on this earth; and by no extraordinary chance will such a marvellously picturesque piece of diversity in unity as he is, ever be put together a second time. He knows this, but hides it like an evil conscience;-and why? From fear of his neighbour, who looks for the latest conventionalities in him, and is wrapped up in them himself. But what is it that forces the man to fear his neighbour, to think and act with his herd, and not seek his own joy? Shyness perhaps, in a few rare cases, but in the majority it is idleness, the "taking things easily," in a word the "tendency to sloth," of which the traveller spoke. He was right; men are more slothful than timid, and their greatest fear is of the burdens that an uncompromising honesty and nakedness of speech and action would lay on them. It is only the artists who hate this lazy wandering in borrowed manners and ill-fitting opinions, and discover the secret of the evil conscience, the truth that each human being is a unique marvel. They show us, how in every little movement of his muscles the man is an individual self, and further-as an analytical deduction from his individuality-a beautiful and interesting object, a new and incredible phenomenon (as is every work of nature), that can never become tedious. If the great thinker despise mankind, it is for their laziness; they seem mere indifferent bits of pottery, not worth any commerce or improvement. The man who will not belong to the general mass, has only to stop "taking himself easily"; to follow his conscience, which cries out to him, "Be thyself! all that thou doest and thinkest and desirest, is not thyself!"" - Schopenhauer as Educator
I had a gay therapist say, "the closet is a very comfortable and safe place . . . " I think it's (and for me) a dungeon of self-loathing and general avoidance: you don't grow in a closet.
Great video!! Very informative.
Hello, Dan. ~ Well, everything is relative I guess. I grew up in an uncomfortable place with uncomfortable people. I suffered & life was a struggle. These days, my every moment is about what would make me feel comfortable & more comfortable. Period. ~ Btw/ if it’s true that discomfort causes growth I should be a giant billionaire by now. No one grows from pain & suffering. They shut down ( arrested development )
Daniel * * u are super supercool * * So brave u are wow.. i think you totally rock!cuz u are both funny wise and I feel it is very important to point out all the things you are saying here!
esp in part 2
I never tried drinking/casual sex,and i dont know why society think thats oki.. and ppl think i am strange ..lol... but i think they are strange.. but i *am* totally addicted to music and to God but soooon i will also take that leap of faith and jump into the fire... *gratitude & love *
Selina
💛💛💛
I guess all of this comfort is just an illusion.
NEW DSM IV Disorder: BIG3 !
Hi Mr. X, I hope i understand you right, you know my english :- (
Think Limbic: People and the neurobiological three Consumer-Typs:
1: Stimulanz - Stimulant,
2: Dominanz - domination
3: Balance.
Is Stimulanz and Dominanz a Disorder and Balance not??? I think, It is a healthy mix and then I think it is a healthy addiction :-)
wishes wolfgang
can you give me the 295.5 :-)
Maybe just maybe u can't ever really be whole while denying the society that created so much pain.
You are very handsome!
Thank you for all your videos. Let me know if you are visiting Europe...