Narcissist are scared of you

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  • @LeahRachelle
    @LeahRachelle 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +382

    They can't trust you because they know they don't deserve it.

    • @nicoleharris5005
      @nicoleharris5005 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      So true!!!

    • @rockstarofredondo
      @rockstarofredondo 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      💯

    • @janerobinson3730
      @janerobinson3730 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

      They don't trust you because they can't trust themselves. If their a Cheater your a Cheater.

    • @stefblanco3887
      @stefblanco3887 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      🎯

    • @AlanCraig-g4h
      @AlanCraig-g4h 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Chosenaireyes my husband triangulated me with his mom as well they mother abuse and neglected me.

  • @sierraafton2776
    @sierraafton2776 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    They will straight up accuse you of doing everything they're actually doing. Just pay attention!

  • @aajaylee5481
    @aajaylee5481 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

    My retaliation is my silence, no contact and the fact that they will never be admitted into my good graces again.

  • @SweetCheerleader42
    @SweetCheerleader42 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +203

    That “guilty conscience” of a narcissistic person is craaaaaazy

    • @Forexroadrunner
      @Forexroadrunner 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      They have one? 😂

    • @BJBlaskovichGaming
      @BJBlaskovichGaming 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@ForexroadrunnerThat’s what I’m saying!

    • @Mystic-77
      @Mystic-77 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      With me it's like a double edged sword ⚔️ because a women's wrath is like wind with fire . It's sad but true but as many times as I forgive them and God's Grace is so I won't be misplaced. That's my temperament and a lot of people test my temperature to see what bothers me but the less that I am not around that toxic ways of people and I cut the silver Cord of destruction it's a better way for my healing methods/ lessons from the Blessings and not wishing any bad unto others .#1❣️❣️❣️

    • @SweetCheerleader42
      @SweetCheerleader42 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@Forexroadrunner 😆 more so the “conscience” of them knowing what they’re doing to you is wrong… tryna be slick about it… and accusing you of doing whatever it is they’re doing to you on the low. 😆 ex. Cheating

    • @DelmaRufinodaSilva
      @DelmaRufinodaSilva 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Their conscience is just fear you treat them like they treat you.

  • @abva56
    @abva56 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    God sees all. You don't have to do anything back. Karma.

    • @tcbcmoto4895
      @tcbcmoto4895 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Amen God is great 🙏🙌❤️

    • @LaMesaC
      @LaMesaC 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yep, I called it.

  • @theindigopickle
    @theindigopickle 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +69

    "You can forgive people... But you don't have to reconcile with them.". Quote of the day. Thank you

  • @crystalnyla
    @crystalnyla 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +164

    They don’t trust and are VERY SCARED of you ONCE they learn YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHO THEY ARE especially after hiding it from you for sooooooooooo long 🙃

    • @achillesunleashed
      @achillesunleashed 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Very true. And it causes them to be paranoid at times and always try to get you to "confirm" the relationship is still working.

    • @ElPatrickson
      @ElPatrickson 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      N that’s when they ghost yo ass!🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @ElPatrickson
      @ElPatrickson 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      After a 2 year engagement n financially supporting him in every way cooking every night after work…I finally called his ungrateful ass out n he moved out my house that same night drunk af!

  • @crazyredheadbeyotch8125
    @crazyredheadbeyotch8125 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    They know they DESERVE retaliation.

  • @callmeishmaelk767
    @callmeishmaelk767 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

    They have a first strike mentality thinking they're going to destroy you, so that you're not a threat. They never think there's a possibility of you actually surviving the first strike, at that point I can see them being totally terrified.

  • @cathyjennings5580
    @cathyjennings5580 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Forgiveness is not for them especially for their choices of behaviors. Never forgive them with words or actions.
    Forgive yourself for giving them your heart to be ABUSED, MISTREATED, DISRESPECTED. BELITTLED, PUT DOWN, SHAMED, HARMED. FOR VOLENTARING to help them. Forgive yourself. & change your own behaviors. Get stronger. Thanks so much. 😊😊😊❤❤❤❤

    • @amumother1456
      @amumother1456 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I love this❤

  • @valiizajames925
    @valiizajames925 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    It is so funny that narcissist are worried about retaliation BUT do some of the illest s**t to you!!🤨🤔😓

    • @michaelkunz7370
      @michaelkunz7370 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      thats not funny at all

    • @dream_catcher0181
      @dream_catcher0181 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Eggxactly like wild 😢are generation is so scary to me they take “hurt people, hurt people” to a new lvl

    • @NatzTalk
      @NatzTalk 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That's why they're so worried. As he said they fucking know.🙄

  • @lexylex1000
    @lexylex1000 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

    I finally snapped and went up against my violent narc father after taking 35 years of abuse. I mirrored his behaviour (learnt from the best) and spoke to him with the same contempt he always showed me. I have been told he had a panic attack after I left.
    Aww what’s up dad don’t you like your own medicine? 🙄
    Best day of my life standing up to him. I started the healing journey after that incident.

    • @execbot
      @execbot 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      That's sooo cool!
      They sure don't like it when they get treated the way they treat others.

    • @lexylex1000
      @lexylex1000 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      No they do not. I was shocked when he backed off actually. I was expecting him to drag me around by my hair or something. I think he could see that I wasn’t scared of him that day. I had a real red mist moment and let him have it with both barrels.

    • @anitaomashenu3239
      @anitaomashenu3239 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😂

    • @andrewsmith3257
      @andrewsmith3257 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Awesome! 6 months ago I went off my Narcissist after 4 years of his crap. I'm trying to get a discard or reverse discard soon! They are awful and the stress can kill you

    • @mariabelen2273
      @mariabelen2273 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You didn't say how long ago this happened...if it's recent, please be careful. The smear campaign might be awful. Think about what power he still has over your life, and protect that intelligently. Can he ruin your relationship with family members you love or your finances? What can he still make you lose? I've been in a similar place and wasn't smart enough that's why I'm telling you this.

  • @jilltaylor86
    @jilltaylor86 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +95

    Narc guy I dated- one time he got too drunk and was throwing up and that was the one and only time I've seen him vulnerable. I was sitting on the bathroom floor with him and he was crying and said " I treat you so badly, why do you want to be with me?". Another time, completely sober, he said something was wrong with ME because I continued dating him when he treated me so badly.
    These sick people treat you horribly then turn it around and YOU are the problem.

    • @jeniperillo-natural-vanity
      @jeniperillo-natural-vanity 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      WOOOWWW!!! That’s crazy! Such sick feeble people

    • @stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax
      @stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      That's exactly what they think too! He was telling you the truth! You didn't see your value which is why you stayed with him.

    • @Missybella92227
      @Missybella92227 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ex covert would tell me “now I know you’re crazy cause you have all these complaints of me but keep coming around.”

    • @kc4359
      @kc4359 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      In a weird way he was right, we stayed because we are the one without standards and boundaries

    • @Justme-bless
      @Justme-bless 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      This lets us know that people use alcohol as an excuse to for acting like they don’t know what they said, see he really does know drunk or sober he treats you bad.

  • @ladylavender10
    @ladylavender10 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    He's not for me.I know now that i am way way way better off without them.

  • @pam8962
    @pam8962 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Match it and then go no contact forever 😊

  • @beentheredonethat502
    @beentheredonethat502 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Paranoid about the get back. Most people don’t have time or patience to sit there and plot the “get back” they’d rather you just cut the shit

    • @NatzTalk
      @NatzTalk 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes can we just be real?!!

    • @LaMesaC
      @LaMesaC 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I know right

    • @SimoneMarie4
      @SimoneMarie4 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      💯

    • @seameology
      @seameology 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Right? I was too busy picking up the broken pieces.

  • @livinggood6876
    @livinggood6876 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Because by that point they know it's just a matter of time

  • @theneatlist407
    @theneatlist407 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    Yes they do, because they know they did you severely wrong and they accuse you of any attempt to hold them accountable as “revenge.” They are truly from the bowels of the devil.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ‼️‼️‼️

    • @dream_catcher0181
      @dream_catcher0181 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Straight from hell cause like why on earth would one work so hard to be so evil like smh
      - “it takes more to be wicked then it does to be peaceful”

    • @xxamxx
      @xxamxx 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Omg. So after I had my son I had post partum depression and ended up drinking (I had been sober for 6 years). I got overly emotional and somewhat combative (mostly crying but did not hit anyone but did throw over a shoe rack.) My ex had me arrested and placed a restraining order, took custody and i didn't see my infant for 3 months. Everyone around me from counselors my therapist, my AA sponsor, everyone said it was very harsh because yes i drank but this was like an over reaction. I was racked with guilt and shame and immediately got sober and did all things required of me and stayed sober. When I first saw him again after 3 months he started to hoover me (didn't know what that was yet) by asking me if I wanted to come in (he had moved out and gotten his own place) and I always said yes because of course it meant more time with my son. Mind you I still had the restraining order so I was very hesitant and scared. He got back together with me and I was so grateful that I forgot everything. As we were back together, one time, I asked him if he wanted a coke from the fridge and I opened it for him and then noticed he didn't drink any of it. I asked him why he wasted it and he said he was scared of me poisoning him. I said why the hell would I poison you?? And he said he's afraid of me because he knew everything he put me through for drinking one time was too much and he was expecting me to get back at him any moment. He was self aware in that one moment. The rest of the relationship (3 years) was him reminding me everytime I would even think of calling out one of his unacceptable behaviors in the present moment, he would throw that one time I drank in my face and say I didn't deserve to be treated with respect. 😢

  • @elonawilliams4809
    @elonawilliams4809 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    Narcissist only fears losing supply. Narcissist conscience is seared. They cannot care how you feel about what they have done to you. They don't fear you they fear losing their image and ego supply. ❤️🙏

    • @INHOUSEMUSICGROUP-PROMOS-vz7lm
      @INHOUSEMUSICGROUP-PROMOS-vz7lm 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Actually they do CARE what you think of them because they CARE about their reputation and image daily. They are worried and paranoid about you exposing them but they will act like they don’t care. They want you back because they need to feed off of you, however when they realize you don’t want them back, they fear you because they know you can truly hurt them and hurt their chances of deceiving new supply.

  • @KarrieWhitehead
    @KarrieWhitehead 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +61

    My ex narc always accused me of cheating and doing drugs. I've never done either. He accused my of random crazy stuff too. I finally realized he was accusing me of everything he was doing.

    • @stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax
      @stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Yes, they project very heavily.

    • @Scoo
      @Scoo 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Every accusation is a confession.

    • @dream_catcher0181
      @dream_catcher0181 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Scooand that’s even sadder like imagine doing all that behind somebody back, treating them bad and then projecting your screaming confessions on them you, I couldn’t imagine lying through a smile day in and out, and being bold enough to stand firm on lies and betrayal and can’t even tell the person you cheated like jeez ppl are wild

    • @cathleenburton-noble418
      @cathleenburton-noble418 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The smeller's the feller.😉

  • @lizzieschuch2800
    @lizzieschuch2800 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    "You can forgive them; but you can't reconcile with them." Should be in a kid's book.

  • @TheDistancWithin
    @TheDistancWithin 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

    I realized my ex didn't like that I did things on my own after he said he didn't want to go although he would go do things without me and never ask me or get mad and take away the invite.
    He also hated when I laid boundaries.
    The relationship was so hypocritical and one sided.

    • @Lc-sh7uk
      @Lc-sh7uk 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes!! I went through the same and then when I move out and got tired of him and started ignoring him he got madder his text messages were pages of putting me up and slam down!! 😬🙄🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️😂

    • @BJBlaskovichGaming
      @BJBlaskovichGaming 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I went through the same, just much more covert, elusive, sneaky and hidden.

  • @Bigmouth660
    @Bigmouth660 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Know your worth.
    And you are worth more than all the jewels and gold in the world.
    They lose.

  • @marijkevandermeer2772
    @marijkevandermeer2772 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    They can dish it out..but they can't take it ...😅

  • @jeniperillo-natural-vanity
    @jeniperillo-natural-vanity 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    It’s as though our life is a just a mere game with them. Everything they’re doing is just moving chess pieces around so they can end up on the top end up the winner somehow ….and it’s just still never enough.

  • @miss_whipps
    @miss_whipps 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Literally EXACTLY what I'm going through. He cheated and lied through his teeth about being a sleazy f*ckboy. He'd shame me for things I did when we weren't even together, trying to make me feel embarrassed or guilty even though I never cheated. The entire time he was throwing things in my face, he was cheating and lying about it! We are still trauma bonded and cohabitating, and he's PARANOID that I'm running around with guys and denying it. He imagines I'm capable of retaliation and vengeful behavior because that's the way HE acts in similar situations. It's hard for him to comprehend that not everyone is a spiteful, immature, scrub like he is. Not all of us are devoid of integrity just because he is... But now I'm being punished by his paranoia.

    • @JP-db8dy
      @JP-db8dy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Me is that you?? Girl I wish I couldn’t relate so much 😩😩😩😩😩

    • @matthewlockridge91
      @matthewlockridge91 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I went through the exact same thing the manipulation is unreal.

  • @cayotelives
    @cayotelives 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    yes they fear you once they know you know.

  • @marijkevandermeer2772
    @marijkevandermeer2772 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    What i find incomprehensible is that they act absolutely horrible...feel high amounts of shame..but still go on with their horrible behaviour...they do not repent...

    • @dream_catcher0181
      @dream_catcher0181 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Like that is what still is so wild to me like 😂you thrive off being messed to ppl and secretly feel bad and at the same time blame the opposite person and accuse them of what your actually doing behind there back is always going to be wild to me

    • @marijkevandermeer2772
      @marijkevandermeer2772 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@dream_catcher0181 yes, absolutely wild...horrible

  • @edithhernandez2336
    @edithhernandez2336 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    When i used to confront my narcissistic husband about cheating,and the way it made me feel,he would say well you should go do it aswell, as if, that would make us even and make me feel better about it,he was so clueless,about being a normal person🤦🏻‍♀️🙄,or a good person

  • @mariellanelson3414
    @mariellanelson3414 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am a magnet to narcissist and other toxic creatures. I see what I deal with very quickly, because I suffered years of narcissistic abuse. I tell them they are narcissists or toxic. I feel they fear me. I am at a point that I really hate them. How can I make sure they leave me alone in the first place? They are everywhere!!!

  • @ninaj.4885
    @ninaj.4885 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    It's like how dare you treat me how I treat you. That used to kill me....and yes when he got caught multiple times he kept trying to act like I was the one that couldn't be trusted. It was crazy.

    • @execbot
      @execbot 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes!!!
      I rarely stood up for myself... but one day I had had enough ...
      "Oh... so, rules for me buy not for thee?", I asked..
      Oh boy. He blew up.... went on to accuse me of bring disrespectful... the nerve .. he was the one cheating and I was the disrespectful one because I tried to stand up for myself. ?
      They are all the same

    • @ninaj.4885
      @ninaj.4885 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @execbot Yes, they are so alike. There must be some secret narcissist playbook we don't know about.

  • @kiasunray
    @kiasunray 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I ran across my narc in the store today. Been broken up for almost a week. My instinct said, “run!”, but principle wouldn’t allow it. I social distanced and all…and stared holes in the back of his head till he squirmed. His broke self was trynna barter with the cashier. I left. But I saw his sad @ss walking home. I’m good. Clearly, you don’t have another source and you’re struggling.🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @tracietaylor6128
    @tracietaylor6128 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Lee, you are telling the truth. . Thank you so much

  • @crystalanderson4164
    @crystalanderson4164 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Forgiveness is for your own healing. So you can move forward. You don't even need to tell the person that they are forgiven. Just keep moving forward. Don't have to keep being with them or going back to them.

  • @mosaicowlstudios
    @mosaicowlstudios 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I'm dealing with a narcissist workplace bully, and yes, Lee, it has been WILD watching this person squirm as I've taken the attitude that "the sort of people who need to put others down to feel better about themselves...do not deserve the time of day from me...and are completely insignificant to me and unqualified to be in my presence unless it is critical to the group mission--I will engage in strictly work-related engagements and communications with such persons".
    Omg this person has had a hard time with it. Very satisfying to watch.

    • @TheyDontKnowImHere
      @TheyDontKnowImHere 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Omg I’m going through the same thing. I’ve taken on an apathetic position after several months of dealing with toxic coworkers. I genuinely have no interest in interacting other than for mission-critical reasons. And I no longer care how they feel about it because that’s not my weight to carry either.

  • @raghvijain8606
    @raghvijain8606 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    On point! Whenever I used to say him I will do the same with you then only you’ll understand What I go through, he used to reply “you don’t bite the dog if the dog bites you” CAN YOU IMAGINE! EVERYTIME!
    And secondly when I used to say this to him that If I do this to you, how would you feel? His reply was “don’t you ever do anything like this to me”

  • @DhyanaIris-du1nu
    @DhyanaIris-du1nu 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    As a super empath with a narcissistic son, my intention is to be centered, emitting strong positive and universal loving energy; while simultaneously maintaining boundaries from a standpoint of my needs. Forgiveness is not necessarily part of the equation. Because I’ve developed the ability to access non-attachment (even to family members,) and can easily spot manipulation attempts, they don’t work on me. I love your metaphors! Being an extremely strong person is necessary in order not to pick up narcissistic fleas!

    • @janeskey5042
      @janeskey5042 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Narcissistic fleas !! Love that
      Agree with everything you said. My daughter can spot a narcissist or anyone trying to manipulate her. I don’t know where she got that from but I’m glad she’s such a strong person.

    • @ThePoseyWosey
      @ThePoseyWosey 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I don’t want to be all in your business, but can you offer any insight into what might have caused your son to develop his toxic behavior?

    • @Lc-sh7uk
      @Lc-sh7uk 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ThePoseyWosey genetics 🧬

    • @STHHCalebBrewster
      @STHHCalebBrewster 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Para-Site. They need you to host them

    • @XOChristianaNicole
      @XOChristianaNicole 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Lc-sh7uk- I phrase I came across, the other day, is quite fitting.. Genetics loads the gun - environment pulls the trigger.

  • @chiomaceciliaamadi8252
    @chiomaceciliaamadi8252 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    A clear indication they know what they were doing

  • @unomeecj
    @unomeecj 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Oh my gosh. It's so correct because he blames me for everything he does or he treats me as if I'm doing the things hes doing as we both know. I'm not.

  • @howardmencini3040
    @howardmencini3040 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Narcissists need to understand that we normal people aren't like them. We're not vindictive, we're not jealous, we rather they leave us the fuck alone and stop bullying. Unfortunately, the freaks see that as a weakness, so narcissists will eventually be destroyed by the other narcissists they're plotting against.

    • @KJDogluv
      @KJDogluv 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ahhhh that makes sense

  • @Anne-go9ol
    @Anne-go9ol 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    This is so true. People who I know have been talking behind my back hide from me like I am the mean person. Like for real?

    • @brandonhall7901
      @brandonhall7901 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes they run away not knowing they tell on themselves by moving so obvious people who have been talking to you then have a sudden change in behavior have a guilty conscience

  • @scotttully8572
    @scotttully8572 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    They fear you, because you’ve SEEN who they really are.

  • @kellik6680
    @kellik6680 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Yes, I was supposed to put up with it all until he found someone to replace me. He could not handle me even just existing and minding my own business. The mentality is wild

  • @barbarabermingham9385
    @barbarabermingham9385 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I Totally 👍 Believe They 😨 Fear Us Treating Them ,And Getting Back At Them 💯

  • @talkinfanci
    @talkinfanci 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    I never suspected my ex cheated but the ex would accuse me constantly, looking back now that it’s over I see all the things I missed & was naive to

    • @Analysis_Paralysis
      @Analysis_Paralysis 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      They accuse people of the very same things they're themselves guilty of! 🙃 It's textbook narcissistic behavior... Their behavior/accusations should always be looked at as confessions! :)

    • @execbot
      @execbot 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yeah.. similar.. each time he accused me, I later found out, it was he who was cheating.
      Felt so dumb... still do every now and then.. you gotta remember, don't beat yourself up.
      You love some and open up your heart... give them all your trust...
      Most of us wromgly assume the other person would never cross a line we wouldn't... we get wrapped up in our feelings towards them that we believe their words and not pay attention to their actions...
      Looking back... I now see all the actions... it was crystal clear my ex couldn't and shouldn't have been trusted... but I trusted his words...
      How are you feeling now? I hope things are better.
      Keep learning.. it does help to understanding all this...
      *hugs*

    • @talkinfanci
      @talkinfanci 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Analysis_Paralysis I see that now.

    • @talkinfanci
      @talkinfanci 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@execbot when I realized the accusations were confessions it angered & extremely hurt me. I try not to be too hard on myself bc I know on my end was pure but it doesn’t stop the pain of realizing how foolish I was trying I tried to hold on to an imposter.🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @PriscillaD-ie2jq
    @PriscillaD-ie2jq 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    They can not handle you doing to them what they did to you. That is their biggest fear. Quote Lee, great insight.
    They do not want the the shame in their pain center. Weirdness is you forgive them and they become MORE paranoid and controlling toward you about you doing to them what they did to you. You can forgive but not reconcile. Quote, great insight.
    It seems totally different than anyone you have ever dealt with. Unless they become self aware and stop trying to control and manipulate and measure you on their morals, standards, and behaviors, projecting that you think like them, so hard to grasp.
    It does not/can not get better unless these types hit the psychoanalyst's couch weekly and untwist their perceptions.
    Like I learned in close relationship when have a hot argument or disagreement and you are at stubborn deadlock logger heads, go first, to humble yourself -- admit parts of the disagreement that you are wrong about, or that you did wrong, like own your shit, and say sorry -- normally that touches the other person's or partners's heart to admit what they are wrong about and apologizing. With the NPD person, they agree you are at fault, blame you. LOL

  • @JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht
    @JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    They dont trust anyone because they dont trust themselves.

  • @punk86
    @punk86 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yeah I retaliated, manipulated, played, and she was none the wiser. She should be afraid.

  • @Gracielaflores-g1fl
    @Gracielaflores-g1fl 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I❤ praise God for keeping me away from revenge from cheating. 💪Keeping me strong and my morality Straight.

    • @flowergarden-1
      @flowergarden-1 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Fight the dark narc with bright light

  • @mermaid9688
    @mermaid9688 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    My narcissistic boss of 30 years fired me and replaced my job with her current girlfriend. We also got hit with a major insurance company audit, in which her business failed the audit. She also knew I had a lawsuit going on in my personal life in which I almost could have died. The audit her company had failed by insurance company was coming after her for well over $100,000. She fired and replaced me with her girlfriend and she also created lies to extort money from me. I now sit with a low grade felony and am due for sentencing in 2 months and it could be a possibility I face prison time. My record has always been clean. I was a loyal employee for all my years while she had always thrown me under the bus for her shortcomings.(I got confirmation on that from her dau

  • @sparetreat
    @sparetreat 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    They cant do no wrong, smallest thing, they avoid one thing they said wrong, then write you a book about everything else.

  • @kokettebabette
    @kokettebabette 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Funny...he tried to manipulate our friends and talked bad behind my back. Well, I told the truth and guess what? They kicked him out. Karma is sometimes the sweetest revenge.
    And yeah, he was super jealous. Don't know but I think he tried to cheat on me. But I don't care anymore. He will also get his karma for that

  • @Me-mn4nw
    @Me-mn4nw 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'm not like them. I walk away while believing in a Greater Power and Karma.

  • @deec1601
    @deec1601 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I was cat-fished by mine, he went silent and so I blocked him, on all platforms, deleted his number, everything, I was happy getting on with my life, and two months later I'm talking to this guy online and my intuition is going off like fireworks, just certain phrases were triggering bad feelings, fake pictures, similar interests, he was telling me he missed me after 3 days of chatting, so weird! And one week later I asked him to speak to me on the phone, an excuse followed my request, so I called him out and he vanished into thin air!

  • @DestinyWorthy
    @DestinyWorthy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is so true!!! And it is such a headache!! I’ve questioned myself sooo many times.

  • @hlengiwemathe7376
    @hlengiwemathe7376 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Exactly...my husband would rage on me for no reason and when I raged back so hard to a point that he was afraid and he started to behave like a child...cringing, shaking, eyes out... yooo what an encounter😢😢😢!

  • @tbyrdrandom
    @tbyrdrandom 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I had a (non-narc) ex many moons ago who did the same thing. I forgave him, and he became paranoid. 😂 Some people are so toxic it doesn't occur to them that there are people who are capable of forgiving and moving forward.

  • @trishybug8830
    @trishybug8830 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    They can’t take what they dish out. If you forgive them for cheating, they won’t stay with you because they’ll be expecting you to do the same lol…WEIRD smh

  • @doriansrandorianvlogplace2676
    @doriansrandorianvlogplace2676 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    And if you isolate and act distant they will get paranoid thinking that you about to retaliate and about to expose them. So they’ll go and start smearing your name JUST because they “feel” like you got something on them when you really just minding your business and isolating yourself. 🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️ you can never win

  • @christinaarchambault4527
    @christinaarchambault4527 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    The more I hear this stuff you post the more I remember the things he’s done and also realize things I never thought about and hate his guts more lol
    It’s so easy to just push aside the wrath they blast when they’re finally in their calm time if the month because if you bring it up hell breaks loose so you learn to enjoy the calm

    • @MyHeadHurts32
      @MyHeadHurts32 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Absolutely

  • @nicholecornes1915
    @nicholecornes1915 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Omg never go back thats dangerous

  • @HelenHaynes-t8w
    @HelenHaynes-t8w 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is so true! I have done my husband like he done me and he turns around and takes it to the next level

  • @NatzTalk
    @NatzTalk 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yes its by Lee Bryce!!! My Narc sent me this!!!!! Never heard this song until he sent it to me "explaining he's difficult" thought it was awww but now looking back.. I see it as *I can treat you as horrible as I want but I'd never let you treat me that way* I love this song but now it just rubs me the wrong way.

  • @binopetersen
    @binopetersen 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    And. They shall be!!!

  • @stephaniemcwilliams840
    @stephaniemcwilliams840 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Yup forgave my husband and then every time I try to leave bc of him raging, he would insinuate that I was going out to cheat! Just crazy. But then he ghosted me and didn't talk to me for weeks and then told me he did it again and got upset when at that point I said I'm done!

  • @mercedesleon9142
    @mercedesleon9142 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    All right, I love the comments below and the fact that I am truly hearing this from an EXPERT ( Lee) that is SPEAKING FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. I value this channel. It has taken me almost a lifetime to recognize that almost every relationship that I have had it’s been with a narcissist. I am hands down an empath. And I am called frequently, now, “you’re not normal”, I have learned to EMBRACE that. My Dad was the NARCISSIST in our family, MOM, a covert narcissist. I got it from both ends. However, when my Dad died I had made peace with him and I had confronted him before he got so sick. I did see his HUMBLENESS and HIS SORRY before he died. That set me free big time. When my mom passes, suspected soon, I will be devastated, BUT I have set my peace with her too. She knows I know so she has kept her distance for years now. My husband is finding out I am on to him ( strong narcissistic tendencies) and he hates it! May be I will heal this part of my journey before my end comes. I am great full for you ALL…..Lee, thank you!

    • @missmarie2496
      @missmarie2496 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Have you considered that maybe you’re the narcissist? Everyone, every single person around you cannot be the narcissist and you stay….

    • @ctibaga
      @ctibaga 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Unfortunately, these idiots are every where. Once one gains better insight, self-awareness and a greater sense of self-worth, one realizes that they are illogical time wasters.

  • @Nkruma9
    @Nkruma9 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great info! I’m finding the entire narcissistic pathology is contradictory
    That inside I knew the narc I encountered wouldn’t dare accept what he did to me if I did it to him, helped me get away from him.
    Again they tell on themselves
    Also Lee can we encourage the survivors to stop owning the narc when we say “ my narc”
    Each time we own the narc we extend energy to them and we stay attached
    Let’s really heal yall!!

  • @ladyvirgo013
    @ladyvirgo013 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I stayed with my soon ex husband back in 2015 ,he cheated, fast forward to 2023,he blindsided me,discarded me and my adult daughter, abandoned our home and shacked up with the secretary from his work.
    I should have never accepted him back in my life in 2015, in my defense, i had lost my 20 year old son via Suicide just 14 months prior & i blamed his alcohol issues, well, hes a Narcissist. All dots connected because of how brutally he blindsided me. I have so much healing to do. Thanks Lee✨️🙏

  • @mizzbecky1983
    @mizzbecky1983 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I literally dont believe a word that the narcissist in my life currently says. NOTHING! I dont believe him when he tells me he loves me, or any other "nice" things he says, or when he future fakes, none of it. Then when he starts raging i calmly tell him how ridiculous he's being and how childish he looks. I've told him to leave and get out of my house at least 10 times. He won't leave. I hate him. I dispise every little being in him. He disgusts me the way he is. I just wish he would leave. I ignore or grey rock him 90% of the time and I'm to the point that the other 10% of the time is just to get him back for some of the stuff he has drained out of me.

  • @Cellia836
    @Cellia836 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I have lee. Got mine back pretty good and I have gave him a dose of his own medicine and it pissed him off. I don't care anymore about his feelings. I look at it this way. He never cared about mine or cared about me. I have even exposed him to others about his cheating, emotional abuses and when I told him I am going to do something against him... I always follow through and have slammed him. Now he hates me and I no longer care either. I believe in an eye for eye.

  • @nicolemjohnson
    @nicolemjohnson 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    So weirddd. My narc ex told me that if I had cheated on him, he would have been totally fine with repairing our broken relationship. But since I left, he can’t ever trust me to repair what was broken. NEVER any acknowledgement of the issues that drove me out for my safety and sanity. Literally as if nothing bad ever happened that justified me leaving. I had attempted to repair our relationship before I realized that everything I had been through was exactly the narcissist cycle!

  • @lolxd9396
    @lolxd9396 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I prefer to cut off any kind of bond or obsession with toxic people and move on with being myself. Thank you Lee 🙏☺

  • @SheilaDay-k6q
    @SheilaDay-k6q 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I walk away.

  • @nicholecornes1915
    @nicholecornes1915 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    GOOD! I keep my husband that way at all times

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🙏🏽

    • @nicholecornes1915
      @nicholecornes1915 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@MentalHealness don't worry we don't live together

  • @nicholecornes1915
    @nicholecornes1915 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Omg i think he knows i dont man EVER... im doing Gods work

  • @DacomaWalker
    @DacomaWalker 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You right on point Lee

  • @lizapedersen8435
    @lizapedersen8435 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    You are very spot on as usual, Lee
    ? - might you make a video about the type of narcissist who is vulnerable, malignant and very stealth in his behavior?
    Stealth meaning he doesn’t very often slip and have a yelling meltdown, but very authoritarian at home, and very entitled.😢

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      😞😞 i can do that

    • @beyoncecrownedme8275
      @beyoncecrownedme8275 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      *”Now, concerning only yourself, what does Stealth mean for you? Your meaning is your answer of how to deal with, and counter his f&@! a@& at home, and period.”*

    • @beyoncecrownedme8275
      @beyoncecrownedme8275 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@MentalHealness*”She can, too!”*

  • @jbo2926
    @jbo2926 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I am grateful to you Hammock Family for sharing!!!!! Lee, damn, well you know... you da Best! ☮❤! No jive 🦃's here. The best to Jess as well. 🤎💛🧡❤

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Happy Thanksgiving

  • @MiamiKia
    @MiamiKia 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I feel like I don't want to retaliate because he's my bby daddy & the other narc is my mother.

  • @danasmith8390
    @danasmith8390 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Factz always afraid you will do a them on them

  • @brendaleverick3655
    @brendaleverick3655 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You might be correct about that. My evil female covert narc next door neighbor was walking around outside the building with a golf club. I never see her practice her swing, and my neighborhood is a safe one, if you just behave yourself, and leave people and their stuff alone. So, either she was ready to bash me or somebody else in the head with it. God, I want that woman to MOVE away!

  • @A_L_09
    @A_L_09 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My narc literally just carved his name all over my bedroom because he thinks I’m moving on and then lied about working for thanksgiving to go see another woman and had no words when he was caught and still sending me reels to mess with from her house.

  • @1mikesofocused42
    @1mikesofocused42 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    A narcissist fears the negative stuff they did to them but infact they got it coming much worse it's God's vengeance and karma and there's no escaping that. No matter what they do or say they got it coming the fear of the unknown

  • @Dayandthelifeofjohaunnaalize
    @Dayandthelifeofjohaunnaalize 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi mr hammock
    I just realized the very last night he set me free I believe he felt me slipping away that's why he got mad and threatened to break it off with me when I kept trying to tell him I was in a state of emergency regarding my mom so yes he said he no longer wanted my number or me so I just gave him what he wanted and kept it moving I refused to beg react or respond to anything he said to me he disrespected me so bad that I never ever returned so at that moment I knew that I wanted to get my life priorities and myself back together
    They don't care when they 1st set u free but when u refuse to stop playing their games now all of a sudden they care🎉❤😊😊😊

  • @helenazuma6319
    @helenazuma6319 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Lee, the narcissist will treat you so bad because they believe that the only reason you took them back is because you are doing the same horrible things behind their back. Because you are not allowed to do the same even when you are not, they will punish you for that.

  • @thelatenightguard7763
    @thelatenightguard7763 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    She had me thinking I was Crazy. She attacked me whenI came over unannounced told me I had Eye Boogers. She was dressed provocative. I was taken back. Then she opened the door up and said no ones here. That threw me off because I didnt even think of that. After gaslighting me for concluding she was seei g someone else, a ExMilitary Buddy did some diging and found out she was talking to other people weeks back. She actually posted about it and I never thought to check her Social Media.
    Nothing but Silence from her since

  • @Jess-n5o
    @Jess-n5o 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I once behaved like him and he got very angry because I wanted to show him what he was doing to me

  • @KimLangston
    @KimLangston 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I don’t do what the narc does but the worst is brought out of me.. I finally blow and say stuff.. and act a way out my character.. I have to defend myself I’m dealing with a psychopath narcissist.. damn I’m
    Moving to another time zone .. I got to go lick my wounds

  • @awakeningEmpath
    @awakeningEmpath 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    my narcissistic mother hides behind my father every time I drive 4 hours to visit them, she uses him as the bouncer while she hides in the kitchen & they assess my mood & any threats, one time my narc-enabling father asked me & my brother “what are you plotting?” when he visited us, you see their guilt manifest right there , & all this suspicion & dread & skilful tap-dancing routine after telling me for 19 years telling me I can’t be trusted & Im wicked & a thief & I’m the one with a guilty conscience, 4 years no contact now, I am mourning their passing before it happened , gotta protect me from further gaslighting

  • @GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp
    @GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    ❤❤❤❤ THANK YOU FOR THIS MESSAGE

  • @WalterMudanya
    @WalterMudanya 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I was a narcissist it’s 100 percent fixable don’t be scared if you are one. I changed myself😅. It’s not that you are stuck you can’t change

  • @IsabellaPiesch
    @IsabellaPiesch 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I admit I was more scared of him... (I was always in disadvantage - my mother was stronger than me when I was a child and my husband was stronger than me when I was in the relationship). But narcissists are very envious...Maybe he was afraid of my direct speeches (I have a bitter tongue so to say...). And I always call people out of wrong-doings and bad behaviour. I know he didn´t like my critic. ...

  • @mickeymaliyah774
    @mickeymaliyah774 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    LOL my second child's father trying to say he will give me money if i need it but i know that's a lie because he doesn't even give his first baby mother money.

  • @smudgezoe
    @smudgezoe 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My ex NARC left the pub I was at with his new supply he looked at me and was worried. Prob fear of exposure. But a few regular folk there looked at me weird so I'm sure the slander has happened. He told me all exs were crazy also ex wife that I now talk to. She's lovely. None of his kids want anything to do with him.
    I wish I could warn the new girl but he would of said I'm crazy to her too. The mask can only stay on for so long though

  • @30daychallenge33
    @30daychallenge33 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Nice equipment you have, Lee. Sounds like really good quality. Keep up the good content.

  • @nikki7marie9385
    @nikki7marie9385 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I've gave him his own medicine. It became he cheated, I cheated, he got revenge again, I did it again, he tried to leave me, I tried to leave him. So, break the cycle! Don't lose yourself playing their BS games!!

  • @fiorellapacheco6690
    @fiorellapacheco6690 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What I can say is that when you make a narcissist cry by giving them the same treatment they give you, is both funny and scary. I mean, how they didn't realize that's the same way you felt once.

  • @maxvodka9494
    @maxvodka9494 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you cause I told him I don't forgive him but told him when you get out of prison why would I fuck with you becaus of the past. He actually said well you don't know that, im like baby you gonna do the same shit

  • @nicholecornes1915
    @nicholecornes1915 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Rule with a dam IRION FIST!!!!! Dammit tell them how it's going to go! Business no emotions!

  • @atmedia9882
    @atmedia9882 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I literally had a nightmare that I was outside in the summer at my childhood home my ex was walking down the street talking to this other woman on his phone, who was so excited and he was telling her everything he told me except what I think he never understood was I fell in love with his energy his smile who I thought he was, I thought he would slow dance with me in the kitchen and every day with him would just be us liking each other more and more. I dreamed that dream all night all the fear I felt in person once he text me on accident trying to text that woman then full out triangulated I guess to make us both accept it but he did it through email forwarding me her email where he addressed us both, her being more adored than me of course, the letter a 9 page pdf attachment addressed to her but not me but me mentioned the equivalent of a film camera….removed her email in the forward to me, saying he doesn’t want to fight with me…… broke my little heart lol…..because he never loved me I was replaceable, so he triangulated me and tried to have both of us he thought I was weak just because I genuinely loved him. What a nightmare.