What's wrong with a boy growing his hair? [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.03.18]

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  • @swan3x
    @swan3x 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2911

    The only problem here is the lack of communication & rude people touching the kid .
    The kid is really amazing , someone in his age speaking his thoughts clearly & he knows what he wants to do .

    • @emily191
      @emily191 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      No comments?

  • @ShrutiGuna
    @ShrutiGuna 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3825

    The baby is really an angel!! he said that his friends did not grow their hair to help people in need and made that it made him upset! ?! A true angel!!. Humanity still exists in this world people!

    • @takemetomarz
      @takemetomarz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Shruti Guna ikr

    • @uglypotato89
      @uglypotato89 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ik but, why didn't they hide his hair with a beanie or a hat?

    • @zanish6872
      @zanish6872 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Ugly potato no they didn’t they out it in a ponytail

    • @bluesky-pb9di
      @bluesky-pb9di 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Let her donate her hair.

    • @jayko904
      @jayko904 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yeah, it made me tear up. He is truly an angel😘

  • @ss-es5bn
    @ss-es5bn 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2135

    MC: “How do you feel when you see friends with short hair?”
    Hayul: “Upset.”
    MC: “Why?”
    Hayul: “Because they cant help those in need.”
    Hes too precious!🥺💞

    • @anienana1575
      @anienana1575 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      that was too cute of him.

    • @takemetomarz
      @takemetomarz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Unicorn Paradise he should be protected at any cost 😭😭

    • @wiupset6696
      @wiupset6696 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Me too kid me to

    • @anushka1223
      @anushka1223 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@wiupset6696 aww cutie cuchie coo~~

  • @shjns_
    @shjns_ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2497

    Their major issue is definitely the lack of communication.

    • @jak3fromstatefarm
      @jak3fromstatefarm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      I understand the father's concern though. "how is he happy when he doesnt know the things he's missing out on". The counselors still dont help the situation they just side with whoever think its right instead of staying neutral.

    • @shjns_
      @shjns_ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      jak3fromstatefarm Yeah, I honestly understand both sides. They just need to work on their communication better.

    • @takemetomarz
      @takemetomarz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Syuhadah Anuar yea

  • @mauricelynn6291
    @mauricelynn6291 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3360

    There’s nothing wrong with boys having long hair, all the men in my family have super long hair (native Americans lol)

    • @Sonnenanbeterin1991
      @Sonnenanbeterin1991 5 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      Its actual really Petty on woman and men

    • @riayaraizel2214
      @riayaraizel2214 5 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      I'm oneida and I live on the rez so it's not uncommon to see people with long hair around town. There's a lot of non-natives that have grown their hair out in my state too

    • @riayaraizel2214
      @riayaraizel2214 5 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      @@dadali61 it does have to do with culture though. Where I live hair length doesn't matter despite gender and how old you are. Old or young, people don't care.

    • @riayaraizel2214
      @riayaraizel2214 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      @@dadali61 and it's because times are changing that this is a problem. Older people need to be able to adapt just like how younger people need to be understanding about some of the differences that come with generational gaps

    • @salma31000
      @salma31000 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      i work in a Native American school and see young boys with long hair and 1 teacher with long hair ... their hairs are so pretty =) ...

  • @TheDorkyDorcas97
    @TheDorkyDorcas97 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3212

    this is my favorite episode, the boy is so eloquent, the mother is actually wise and so loving, and the father really is loving in his own way and you can see he really wants to communicate more with her. I really hope they were able to come to a balance in the way they choose to raise their son and their future child.

    • @maryam101kikiki
      @maryam101kikiki 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      It's become my favourite too

    • @takemetomarz
      @takemetomarz 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      TheDorkyDorcas yeas

    • @jishhjj3254
      @jishhjj3254 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      blue sky him*

    • @keym0c644
      @keym0c644 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      mines too you can tell both of the parents really wanted to try and fix what was wrong instead of ignoring it and thinking they’re both right

    • @jpt.alipit_
      @jpt.alipit_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@maryam101kikiki r

  • @lucythomas3320
    @lucythomas3320 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1054

    I loved that ending when they both started crying cus they both realised that they both just want the best for their son because they love him so much and that they forgot to love each other too and realised how pointless all the arguing was and they were obviously both sorry and awww my heart 💀💀💜💜

    • @multitrash9945
      @multitrash9945 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yeahhhhh....

    • @lucythomas3320
      @lucythomas3320 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lee Zieyra what, you don’t agree? So they don’t love each other then?

    • @multitrash9945
      @multitrash9945 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lucythomas3320 what??....i agree with u tho😅

    • @lucythomas3320
      @lucythomas3320 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lee Zieyra lol sorry 😅😅 someone said something similar to me about a week ago and had this big rant telling me to F off and stuff. I got a bit defensive sorry 🙏🏻😅

    • @multitrash9945
      @multitrash9945 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lucythomas3320 hehehehe.. it's okay...

  • @destinationaddictionsamsar7894
    @destinationaddictionsamsar7894 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1473

    Have you seen little Gun Hoo he's so cute with long hair😶

    • @rhyasella
      @rhyasella 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      OMG YES

    • @Diana_Dsouza
      @Diana_Dsouza 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Exactly what I was supposed to mention 😊

    • @jhasmineroblox6051
      @jhasmineroblox6051 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Army Animal Nerd MyDays IKR

    • @silogreen8976
      @silogreen8976 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Yeah but the difference is that people actually know Gunhoo. No one knows that little boy.

    • @destinationaddictionsamsar7894
      @destinationaddictionsamsar7894 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@silogreen8976 we know him now and he's cute, I wished my grandma would let my little brother grow his hair out a little 😅

  • @madeinbusanjkjm
    @madeinbusanjkjm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +614

    Youngja: ''Let's make her cry more. Tell her you love her!''
    Bahahaha she is the best

  • @user-ip7bq4yk4x
    @user-ip7bq4yk4x 4 ปีที่แล้ว +251

    I'm Korean and my brother's hair is super long. He's younger than me and it hurts to see people call him a girl and not let him go into men's bathroom. He's only 7 now 😢 He has big eyes, a beautiful face shape and is very thin which is why he's accused. I wish people wouldn't judge based on the looks

  • @sl3975
    @sl3975 5 ปีที่แล้ว +185

    That child is a true angel, he's so intelligent and well mannered. We need more people like him in this world.

    • @yaliaaaa.
      @yaliaaaa. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      We don't need more people like him in the world. We need to become like him in this world.

  • @languageofhoneyflowers
    @languageofhoneyflowers 5 ปีที่แล้ว +324

    I remember in TROS that Haru had short hair and everyone thought she was a boy . it's 2019 come on anyone can have short hair ,long hair , medium

    • @user-tq9vs6fc9u
      @user-tq9vs6fc9u 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      IloveBloo orellana Yes, I was thinking about Siha when watching this.

    • @chayseedmondson987
      @chayseedmondson987 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      *UwU* who is ur profile pic 😖😇😘

    • @ShotoTodoroki-if6vy
      @ShotoTodoroki-if6vy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Haha now millions of people went bald :)

  • @angelicaguison1506
    @angelicaguison1506 5 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    i almost cried when he said “im upset because other friends can’t help those in need.” HE IS SO PRECIOUS PLEASE LEMME PROTECT HIM AT ALL COST

  • @user-nf3hh8kn5r
    @user-nf3hh8kn5r 5 ปีที่แล้ว +162

    FINALLY! AN ORDINARY COUPLE ON THIS SHOW! LMAO

  • @connertalks7918
    @connertalks7918 5 ปีที่แล้ว +454

    13:52 A boy growing long hair won't make him confused about his identity lol. It doesn't work that way sir

    • @FranJongdae
      @FranJongdae 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      koreans right? huuur

    • @sarahhch2824
      @sarahhch2824 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Ikr that was so dumb

    • @bucket5581
      @bucket5581 5 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      i dont think he meant the hair but the comments were what would confuse him

    • @karin6915
      @karin6915 5 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      FlamingGhost no I’m pretty sure he didn’t mean the hair. It’s probably from all the com ents that everyone else says

    • @moonchild4157
      @moonchild4157 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      i don't think he meant the hair he meant the comments ppl would make

  • @letterstonikole
    @letterstonikole 5 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    She honestly seems like a great mother. My only concern is her communication skills with her husband (although he seems really stubborn). His hair isn't the problem but the arguing and people touching their son inappropriately is.

  • @madeinbusanjkjm
    @madeinbusanjkjm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +190

    Wow, Coyote's greeting to the public is so badass compared to today's idols lol I was shook.
    And SinJi look absolutely beautiful and youthful still after all those years.....gorgeous.

  • @rishatp4939
    @rishatp4939 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Am i the only one that tears up every time this precious kid says something😅💜

  • @chimcham6762
    @chimcham6762 5 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    They’re such a soft-hearted family. The father is timid and I think because of the trauma that his wife experienced during her pregnancy, he doesn’t want to push her or argue with her so he just lets her do as she wishes. She’s raising her child much in the same way I want to raise my future child/children but she must communicate with her husband. Communication is the problem here not Hayul’s long hair. Like the hosts said “if you raise a child with happy parents, they’ll grow up happy”. Hayul is just the cutest! He’s so adorable and well spoken, I doubt he’ll have any issues with speaking up for himself when he’s older so the dad doesn’t have to worry. What he needs to do is start checking people who look at his son weird or want to touch his privates...this is an aspect of Korean culture I completely do not understand.

    • @samhayet4286
      @samhayet4286 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      He only thought about the trauma after it was brought up on the show. Before, it seemed like he just wanted the wife to take care of everything *and* do what he and relatives wanted. Can't have your cake and gobble it up too, buddy.

  • @joliz8454
    @joliz8454 5 ปีที่แล้ว +187

    the mum wishes the best for the child, I’m glad that she’s doing that. For the mum, doing things unconventionally will help hayul be happy. However, the dad also clearly wishes the best for the child, but for him, doing things ordinarily is a better option for hayul to be happy.
    They parents seem like good people, just tired by the lack of communication. You can tell that the mum also got embarrassed that she didn’t tell her Husband about many things. Communication is really the number one thing in a relationship, I hope both of them, not just the dad, open up to each other and are able to negotiate with other another, and let hayul truly explores a variety of things to see what really makes him happy. Wishing them well

  • @anisa2408
    @anisa2408 5 ปีที่แล้ว +878

    My thoughts on this:
    1. The mother needs to stop raising the son on her own and stop avoiding fights with her husbands. He's the father all, they're married (I assume) and it's his son, he deserves having a say when it comes to his son too. I'm not just talking about the hair, but the way the son is being raised.
    2. Having long hair isn't a problem, the main problem here is how the son is raised completely on her beliefs. I still think she's a great mom, but she needs to learn to face consequences more.
    3. Koreans seem to have a problem with old perverts and little boys genitals... disgusting and very outdated.

    • @user-ew9bz5jz8g
      @user-ew9bz5jz8g 5 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      I completely agree with this it was infuriating to see how one sided the parenting was.
      And yes it's great that she wants to do what's best for her son but his father has to also be a part of it and they have to instill love and respect for both parents not only one.

    • @matita9197
      @matita9197 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Totally agree!

    • @mact148
      @mact148 5 ปีที่แล้ว +104

      i agree about needing to parent together, but the dad seems to be pretty un-involved anyway, like if he noticed his sons hair was getting longer over 4 months, why did he not just go get it cut then, does he just expect his wife to do it?? and when the family members were rude to his son, why scream at his wife about it, who doesn't defend their son...? and why did no conversation about donating his hair take place between the son and dad over such a long period of time, at his age if something (often anything) happens, at school, with an imaginary friend, kids normally don't stop talking about it and will tell you about it multiple times. The wife seems to do the most work/school/learning with the son, but then the dad gets upset when the son relies on the mum more?? the dad needs to take more time to learn about his own kid and the mother needs to talk more to her husband about what she is doing. but if they watch documentaries together and the son asked how he could help and they came up with the hair thing, this shouldn't be a problem, ever
      I know that a lot of Koreans can have a very traditional view on raising their kids, and the main problem i see (the husband is doing it) is that kids are treated like property, even how they talk about the kid in front of him, instead of saying his name they say 'your' son and 'my' son, also, group mentality which is common in Korea, means that if a few people tell you something is weird then it is and you should change it or if everyone is doing it you should too (the father is too worried about what other think than what his own son thinks), but now with a more modern/younger generation coming through a lot of this is being disregarded. The dads seems to be a traditional person and the mother more open, don't get me wrong both are at fault for the lack of communication, but i think the father needs to grow up and listen to his wife more (if that kid is how he turned out being raised with more of the mothers values, then i think she is doing right, but i think she still needs to take a couple steps back from the son)...

    • @nurulfadd_fadhi
      @nurulfadd_fadhi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Agree with you..

    • @grannygrans4631
      @grannygrans4631 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      나야나사야나 I think it’s just in Texas cause kids literally don’t have a say if they want there hair cut or not until maybe teenage years

  • @ArcticFalcon
    @ArcticFalcon 5 ปีที่แล้ว +368

    "We should leave him alone. He's just a little kiddo. Everyone shouldn't be pointing finger at him just because his hair is long. Look how adorable he is. Let's just let him keep his long hair"
    What a beautiful scenery, where everyone minds their own business.
    Now before you all point fingers at me, I have nothing against this child. It's only right that people leave him and his long hair alone. No matter his hair is long or short or curly, it's nobody's business.
    Also, it's great and impressive of him to grow his hair to help others. He's been raised well.
    Now hear me out, a long time ago, I once watched a concern on this program, a mother was worried about her adult son's long hair, saying he should have it cut and everyone in the studio agreed.
    "His long hair doesn't look pretty on him. He looks like a f---ing gangster. Why doesn't he have it cut?"
    ^ This is not what they actually said. I just interpret their reaction and conclude the situation.
    Double standard much? Since when did you lose your right to grow your hair if you become a grown ass adult? Why couldn't you just leave this man alone? Or were you being hard on him because he's a rough-looking adult compared to a cute little kiddo?
    Apparently, the man isn't growing his hair to help people, so he lost the right to do whatever he wants with his hair
    I swear... typical South Korea, you really can't get away with anything if you aren't "beautiful"

    • @rikali3695
      @rikali3695 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      I get the feeling that it was more of the image he looked and how his mom was embarrassed by it
      It's a bit weird, but the audience here in this video found the boy in having a justified reason for not cutting his hair: helping others. But as for the other case, the son was more or less unemployed, lacking in making his own decisions (although, it's really his moms fault for that) and thus, he was treated more harshly for being seen as a "whiny son who didnt want to cut his hair"
      And to people, I'm assuming they also judged him for how unkempt his hair was, compared to the boy here, where it "looks" healthy and even "clean"
      Just depends on the perspective, and clearly, many Koreans are either far right or left when it comes to issues like this

    • @carribeanbratzguyanesequeen997
      @carribeanbratzguyanesequeen997 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@rikali3695 I agree with you some Korean are too much

    • @hiraeths3806
      @hiraeths3806 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      What if their opinions changed in that amount of time?

  • @hanisismail1526
    @hanisismail1526 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    6:36 as soon as the mother introduce herself..i think i can see that the father getting flustered by his wife cuteness by looking the way he touch his heart 😊🌈

  • @pinkkitty3243
    @pinkkitty3243 5 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    an angel 😚😚he so calm intelligent considerate baby never seen one like him

  • @chanelessence53
    @chanelessence53 5 ปีที่แล้ว +93

    Hayul is legit the smartest 4 year old (American age; he's 6 in Korean age) ever. I think his mother is raising him to be smart AND considerate.

    • @darrasmith7196
      @darrasmith7196 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Chanel Essence If I am not mistaken, he is 5 years old but 6 years old in Korean age....

    • @darrasmith7196
      @darrasmith7196 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hana Jeong from what I know, Korean add 1 year in their age... fyi ur English is perfectly fine 😊

    • @darrasmith7196
      @darrasmith7196 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Gabrielle it’s 1 year difference

    • @darrasmith7196
      @darrasmith7196 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Gabrielle if you did your research well then you will know what I mean stupid! Also, I have many Korean friends and they told me, their age is 1 year difference.

    • @youprollyalilbish793
      @youprollyalilbish793 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Two years will be added if he was born on december 31, because he is one when he is born and the new year adds another year 🥰 we don’t know tho if he was born on dec 31.

  • @april00026000
    @april00026000 5 ปีที่แล้ว +259

    The problem here isn’t the mother and son, because they’re doing this for a good cause, but rather the people staring in the first place, like mind your own business jesus christ

    • @kayla5374
      @kayla5374 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactlyyyyyy the mother is allowing the kid to make his own choices and he’s trying to help people and isn’t causing harm therefore she’s allowing him to do it so the little boy shouldn’t have to cut his hair which is something he wanted to do because people don’t know how to show respect and not make rude comments

  • @raizasagala
    @raizasagala 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    She's a good mom. She ask her son his opinions and respect it. Yul is one lucky boy to be raise by such amazing mother. You can see he talk politely and doesn't make a fuss during recording. He can decide what he likes or not and why. It means his mom works hard to teach and guide her child to be able to do that in a young age.

  • @vr2516
    @vr2516 5 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    they're so softtt im glad this ended with a nice and good results :') and their son omg i wish soon i can have a child like that too:'))

  • @lalaforeverxxx
    @lalaforeverxxx 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is one of the best families' I have seen on Hello Counsellor. You can see the love in the family and how happy the child is.

  • @misakik6608
    @misakik6608 5 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    I'm just reminded of the episode about that one 30 year old man who had long hair and his mum came because she thought it was a major concern. She literally stopped talking to him just because she felt embarrassed and angry at how long his hair was. And honestly he didn't even look that bad. She was so much more concerned about his long hair than about the fact that he was still unemployed and unmarried. One of the idols that was there gave the shittiest and dumbest reason for him to cut his hair, it made me so mad and confused as to how she could even come up with such a dumb reason like that. In the end the hosts just convinced the guy to cut his hair, despite him trying to tell them that it was a part of who he was and that the reason he started in the first place was to protest against the rules in his old workplace that said men were not allowed to have long hair. That episode made me so mad and this in addition to that just shows how narrow-minded Korea still is, despite it having improved in some aspects,

    • @samhayet4286
      @samhayet4286 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I remember that. That bitch nearly disowned her son and said she regretted giving birth to him FOR HIS FREAKIN HAIR!! I felt like jumping into the screen and punching her! Hell, the dude is older than me, yet I would've been willing to adopt such a sweet, helpful son!
      KUDOS TO THIS MOTHER FOR ENCOURAGING HER SON TO THINK FOR HIMSELF! This will carry him so far in life!! He's so lucky to have such supportive parents! T_T

    • @misakik6608
      @misakik6608 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@samhayet4286 Yes ugh. She acted like his whole personality turned bad just because he grew out his hair but he really was just the same sweet son who was still willing to go shopping with his mum and help her out a lot. I'm also happy with the way the mother in this episode, she just needs to communicate more with her husband lol.

    • @samhayet4286
      @samhayet4286 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@misakik6608 Yeah. I think they'll be fine. If her husband is yelling at her for what the relatives tell him I can understand not wanting to talk to him
      Seems like the husband trusts his wife's judgement now is willing to listen.
      She seems like a fantastic mom! This is how "tiger" moms should be (not like that dreadful Amy Chua). Wish I had a parent like that! I hope that she's willing to meet her husband halfway since he's changed his POV.

    • @lavinder11
      @lavinder11 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I felt bad that he cut his hair off just to be able to speak to his mom.

    • @bluesky-pb9di
      @bluesky-pb9di 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@samhayet4286 she's just brainwashing him to think like a feminist.

  • @JM-iu2ss
    @JM-iu2ss 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    He’s the most adorable kid I’ve ever seen lmao I feel like everyone started smiling as soon as he came on the screen

  • @clearblueskies1145
    @clearblueskies1145 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Cried me a river..parents deserve medals for doing their best to raise that bright little boy who is everything

  • @juniper5262
    @juniper5262 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    When I was six I was still trying to figure out how a juice box works

  • @jessicapeyton5444
    @jessicapeyton5444 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    It is a concern if people are assaulting him! Now I have respect for elders, but that doesn’t mean they should just get away with anything!

  • @cherylahx127
    @cherylahx127 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I have never loved a kid this much before. my heartt

  • @reapermistress7331
    @reapermistress7331 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    i have 4 kids.. 3 of them donate their hair 4 times already(since their hair grow so quickly) that kid dad should be proud.. beside d kid knows it will be for a good cause... so proud fr d mother and kid👏👏👏👏

  • @canal50tonsdepalidez
    @canal50tonsdepalidez 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    it was so cute that both mom and dad cried at the end! Hayul is powerful! i want a baby like that too!

  • @passion3131
    @passion3131 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    she’s a good mom thats why her son is so mature

  • @sakura20ify
    @sakura20ify 5 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    This kid is polite and smart, and he knows he's doing this for a good reason, Korean society really needs to change I guess that's a matter of time, here in Perú if your boy has long hair people just don't care or at least they talk about it but not in front of the kid ya know
    Ps I think the mom is doing a great job raising that child he's so smart

  • @rafa7279
    @rafa7279 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    she really is a wonderful mom. she's exactly the kind of mother i would like to be (minus the lack of communication lol)

  • @akuxsukaassgnmnt
    @akuxsukaassgnmnt 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    weird this is such issue in south korea when all of their historic drama usually have long hair to begin with. long hair is common and it's not wrong, whether western or asian what's so weird bout it?

  • @smruthyjose1143
    @smruthyjose1143 5 ปีที่แล้ว +220

    They want to grow hair for some deed and here parents are fighting among them ,I wish his mother talk with his father and decide what to do!! Madam please change your attitude towards your husband!!wish you luck

    • @lilip9814
      @lilip9814 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      suzan xavier yea she should communicate with her husband and he doesn’t seem to be too unreasonable. I think both of them should re-evaluate how they communicate and decide when it comes to their kid

    • @yourdoneyourdone8551
      @yourdoneyourdone8551 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I know this has nothing to do with kpop but I LOVEEE your profile lmao GOT7💚

    • @smruthyjose1143
      @smruthyjose1143 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@yourdoneyourdone8551 Thank you same as you

  • @user-gp1rr9dw3k
    @user-gp1rr9dw3k 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The kid is such a gem! Even adults are afraid to be different at times, and scramble to the marjority. But look at Hayul, he is not afraid to stand out from the rest and is always ready to stand firm on his ground. In fact, he doesnt feel inferior at all, he feels sad for the others not being able to contribute more to the world instead,

  • @sarlet_caugal1281
    @sarlet_caugal1281 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    He’s such a angel...I realize I’m making wrong choice for my baby brother who have long hair on back-side. I kept telling my parent to cut my baby brother’s hair because people saying he looking like a cute doll that would taken. My baby brother may be so spoiled by my parent but at someway he’s sweet and comfort us when we cries...
    All I hope is the little boy can help people and keep his path peace without getting cruel judgement. ❤️

  • @babosarang27
    @babosarang27 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The way the little boy speaks and his cute satoori 😭💕💕

  • @lucielucie4808
    @lucielucie4808 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This little boy is so precious he need to be protected at all costs❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @taeyongsarang
    @taeyongsarang 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My tears dropped when he said he's upset with friends who can't help others. I'm not lying that my tears began to drop :" How is it possible for a kid like him say such a deep words. I hope this kid will keep grow as real gentleman in the future.

  • @kuntarinirahsilawati920
    @kuntarinirahsilawati920 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am crying watching this video. The kid being considerate in his way touches my heart deeply.

  • @Daphnechin2386
    @Daphnechin2386 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    "Lack of communication" is the main reason.
    It could not be denied that the mother is doing a really good job in raising her child to be a kind people who is willing to help people in need although many people complain that she brainwashed her child. I agree that it's brainwashing, yet it's how it works for kids to grow up! Children are fast learners and they learn from what they see and hear. If the purpose is to grow a kind kid, I don't see any harms of it. If you said it limits the kid's self-thinking ability, I don't think so because while he grows older, he is going to school and meet many different types of people, at this moment only is the time for this kid to develop more and more his self-thinking ability. Another thing which the mother does well is, she is also bringing her kid to join all of the classes which allow the kid to socialize with other people at his age while she is doing home schooling. This proves that she is making a good effort in balancing the disadvantage of homeschooling.
    For the father, while he complains about his son was having long hairs before summer and he kept asking his wife to get the son a hair cut. I wonder “you had so many months to bring your son to have a hair cut by yourself, why didn't you do so???” don't say that you work and earn money, so you have no time to bring your kid to have hair cut. How about weekends? Instead of asking your wife for not taking the son to hair cut for months, you could actually bring your son to hair cut by yourself, do you know?
    It could be seen at the end that both of the parents love their son very much. Yet the father should try to participate more in raising the child (e.g. take the son to hair cut by yourself instead of spending months to ask you wife doing it) and also have more discussions with wife regarding child raising issue then your ideas or your preferred ways to raise your son could be applied in future to. If you don't communicate with your wife, of course your wife would assume that you have no opinion and then she raises the kid in her own way.
    Communication is the best way to find a balance between father's and mother's ways in raising a child. You should not complain about your wife's way of raising child if it's yourself who doesn't want to put efforts in participating the process.

  • @iXoXoMaddi
    @iXoXoMaddi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So cute and such a strong lil man. I think his parents raise him very well (specifically his mom), hands down!

  • @hironorikano
    @hironorikano 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How could people being rude to such an cute lil angel?
    He's too precious

  • @august6316
    @august6316 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I understand where the dad is coming from, but it seems like Hayul's eloquence, his kindness, and such largely comes from his mom's way of raising him.

  • @ffeya
    @ffeya 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    he has a beautiful heart and mind uwu
    i hope he never changes !! he could really do even more amazing things in the future

  • @Tensi1126
    @Tensi1126 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Aweee .... such a beautiful little one, parents are so nice it’s just that they don’t communicate.... husband seems nice and mom is too, over all they are beautiful little family!

  • @GurleenKaur-xc7vy
    @GurleenKaur-xc7vy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The little kid made me cry when he said to grow hair to help sick people🥺 He’s the sweetest and wisest kid I’ve ever seen omg my heart🥺❤️

  • @ceilaghjackson
    @ceilaghjackson 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The child is really precious.
    The mother is really wise.
    The father is really realllyy good looking as well as wise too.

  • @yonghwasbutton1632
    @yonghwasbutton1632 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Not only is he more mature than his father, he's more mature than every single person to ever appear on this show. A 6 year old child has compassion and will to help others in need but instead, he gets sexually and verbally abused. Except for his loving mother, entire society should be ashamed of themselves.

  • @ItsBrittanyLajoyce
    @ItsBrittanyLajoyce 5 ปีที่แล้ว +130

    Wow korea is so far behind a kid growing his hair is looked at as weird

    • @Pumpkin0_0
      @Pumpkin0_0 5 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      The mother said younger people are completely fine with it. It's some older people who keep teasing the boy or stealing glances when he's at a male's bathroom. Referring to a whole country for this matter is what's weird.

    • @Pumpkin0_0
      @Pumpkin0_0 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@Youngnrrwhtjwtjetk
      Nope, I'm from an entirely different country (Portugal) and older men here, even older women, still find it quite weird whenever they see a man/boy with long hair, and Portugal is a country that keeps up with times. They're just not vocal about it because it's a different culture. I'm 28 years old and people back then thought the same, even I did while growing up, but I just kept up with the times and don't mind. There are male Korean idols with longer hair than usual and people like it. Male idols with a mullet is actually trending in Korea right now, actually. It's just older people and their old views of the world as per usual, which manifest in various forms around the world.

    • @Pumpkin0_0
      @Pumpkin0_0 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Youngnrrwhtjwtjetk
      That's what foreigners that don't know much about Portugal believe.

    • @theashmaster1000
      @theashmaster1000 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@Pumpkin0_0 korea is definitely behind in terms of accepting people who look different from the standard of "normal." even my Korean friends and many Koreans agree

    • @Pumpkin0_0
      @Pumpkin0_0 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@theashmaster1000
      I know. I'm talking about this case. The mother said young people were fine with it, but the older people were the ones who teased the boy. It's not as if everyone who looked at the boy did the same thing, so judging a whole country based on this case still doesn't make sense. What does that make of the people who are fine with boys/guys with long hair? Generalizing a country isn't smart.

  • @gebririzkyanovli1569
    @gebririzkyanovli1569 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this couple truly loves each other

  • @LoreEclectic
    @LoreEclectic 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The mom is so sweet and they've raised such a caring and eloquent son

  • @bessa4775
    @bessa4775 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Omg so precious! I wish there were more kids like him in the world.

  • @sshdontdisturb
    @sshdontdisturb 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is what’s wrong about the korean’s society, they tend to disregard diversity and demand people to follow the norms and are way too traditional, I mean I know its a part of them but can’t they just really, at the very least, learn to respect the decision of an individual and stop meddling with their lives? Like why would you even have to touch someone else’s private part just to satisfy your own curiosity and ignorance? And this little kid is really such an angel. Its very rare to see kids like him specially in the current generation. I’m so proud of him. He really is a treasure.
    Also, I think both of his parents are a really good people, its just that they have been fighting that it ended up hurting one another and decided to just make decisions without asking the other to avoid it, which is nice if its a way for their kid to not see them fighting, but also has a negative effect which separates the mon and dad, they both have a point and they have to come up with a better idea to be able to meet in the middle. I love his mom but maybe she could at least, step down a little and realize that the dad is also a part of their kids lot and his opinion also matters.

  • @denali2412
    @denali2412 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh my god this is literally my favorite couple that has ever been on this show. They just have so much love for each other it's so nice and warming.

  • @raizasagala6789
    @raizasagala6789 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That kid can empathize with other conditions and asking what he could do to help. It wasn't happen just like that his mother definitely is a huge influence. Yul Mom you are a great mom! To be able to help preserve and grow your child innocent thinking and his care for others is a hard work.

  • @AsianDuck
    @AsianDuck 5 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    people need to stop with the "men should have short hair, girls should have long hair" tradition- it's already 2019, let people do whatever they want to do.
    honestly tho, it's really sad to see how constricting it is in south korea where people cannot even act on their own personal freedoms without being judged, despite being a first world country.

    • @kira2742
      @kira2742 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      What's interesting is that it was the norm for everyone to have long, cascading hair in ancient/old Korea! Actors will get wigs or extensions for historical dramas and everyone swoons over the main character but outside of television it doesn't seem acceptable in South Korea anymore for some reason :/ I wonder when the change happened and if it was from Western influence back in the day?

  • @hendashraf7738
    @hendashraf7738 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This family is so cute and lovely omg ♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @vithushabala210
    @vithushabala210 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This child is so precious I want to cry

  • @phtonos3337
    @phtonos3337 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh my God I always click on Hello Counselor videos expecting to end up frustrated and angry but this made me so happy and soft what the hell. They're so precious.

  • @vanillaar655
    @vanillaar655 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    okay so i think the mom should talk to the dad but like the dad is an average traditional korean man so i get why she hides things from him. it seems both parents have good intentions just different ways to raise a child. they need to find a middle ground. the only thing i'd criticize the dad for would be that he expects his son to cut his hair instead of telling others to stop being perverts (he should be defending his son who is a victim) or thinking that long hair might make him question his gender (or sexuality) bc i dont think theres really a correlation. other than that, i wish the best for them. also a comment id like to add is that the son is compassionate and well-spoken bc of his mother's education:)

  • @jjane3226
    @jjane3226 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    honestly i wish i was as cool as hayul

  • @karennatashiagunawan4184
    @karennatashiagunawan4184 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    On the moment he said other friends can't help...My eyes just got teary.
    This angel had truly touch a lot of hearts

  • @mizkelo7348
    @mizkelo7348 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    What an amazing child. God bless you for your compassion towards others Hayul.

  • @justpassingthrough205
    @justpassingthrough205 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    In my culture, it's actually very common for boys to grow out their hair.

    • @YahYahPlugz
      @YahYahPlugz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Just Passing Through exactly. The culture shock is real

  • @adiarainfoster
    @adiarainfoster 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My son had very long hair by his own choice as a child and was often mistaken for a girl. It annoyed him for a bit but he got used to it. He'd just roll his eyes and say "I'm a boy" and walk away lol. I told him that it's nothing to be ashamed of. If he wants his hair long then he will have it long and never mind what all the busybodies have to say about it.
    At one point it got him bullied at school and he came home and asked for a hair cut. I told him to wait and think about it until the weekend and if he still wanted it we would go to the salon to cut it. He DID get it cut, but he hated it short and ended up growing it back out again lol.
    He has hair to the middle of his back until recently. He had to cut it because it was damaged at the bottom but he is busily growing it back out again lol. He's in his 20's now so he doesn't get all the looks he used to and is rarely mistaken for a girl any more. In fact the girls seem to follow him around alot...I feel like I should be worried about THAT more lol.

  • @kkochkk
    @kkochkk 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This lil boy is a sweetheart 😍 He's so smart and mature 😢💕

  • @yulbaharani8306
    @yulbaharani8306 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Awwww, my heart swells of warmth watching this, it's obvious they love each other so much, but the lack of communication drove them apart, they could only see the difference between how each want to raise their son, and forgot about their love in the process. I am so happy to see they realize how much they love each other through this, I started crying when the wife teared up, and smiling while crying when the husband cried as well. Oh and their son though, such a sweet little angel. I wish them eternal happiness, and may they continue to build their family with love and care. God bless them.

  • @kristianegrr9505
    @kristianegrr9505 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I’m sorry but if I had been the father I think I would go crazy. She’s not even listening or trying to adapt for what he wants. It’s not just HER child it’s theirs.

    • @zaria135
      @zaria135 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The dad is being dumb. Either way, his reasons for not wanting his son’s hair is so stupid. “Ion wanna him to be confused about his identity.” He’s 6. He’ll figure out who he is just fine. What he needs to worry about is telling his nosy ass family members to mind their business and the strange pedophiles touching his son. Not his wife.

    • @kristianegrr9505
      @kristianegrr9505 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      yoongi's hoe I agree that some of the reasons for cutting the hair is bad, and I’m not saying that the mother is totally in the wrong, but the dad has more than one reason, he said that random men are looking at his son’s private parts to check if it’s a son when they’re at public bathrooms etc. The son also said it himself, that he doesn’t like it when grown up women touch his PeePee to check on him. I understand that the mother tries to make his son fight for what he means is right and that’s a good thing, but she is totally ignoring the fathers opinion, which isn’t good.

    • @zaria135
      @zaria135 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Kristiane grr That’s what I said. Something is wrong with those men/women who are touching and watching the son that’s not the mom’s fault. Those adults need to be reported and imprisoned for touching a kid because at the end of the day he’s a kid. They have to understand boundaries. Nothing is wrong with the mom growing her son’s hair. I agree, she should include the dad into more decision making but the dad is worrying about trivial things. He’s paranoid that his son isn’t really happy in life. It doesn’t take much to make a toddler happy. All they need is happy parents and they’re happy too.

    • @kristianegrr9505
      @kristianegrr9505 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yoongi's hoe I agree almost completely, I also think that the mother is being way too overprotective over the child. She won’t let him go out of the house unless she is coming with him, she suddenly and randomly goes on trips without telling the dad. It’s good that she wants her child to be healthy and have a good childhood but not letting him go to normal kindergarten (or school or what it was he was supposed to go to) and not letting him eat out with other friends is too much. Especially if his father wanted the son to do all of that. I think the dad is bad with all of his unnecessary worrying and irrational thinking but I think the mother is even worse in some aspects.

    • @zaria135
      @zaria135 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Kristiane grr homeschool is totally fine tho? He is being educated at home and the kid is also getting vital commutative skills by interacting with people he meets at his other activities like swimming lessons. So what’s the issue? Nothing is wrong with what she is doing. She allows her son individuality and independence but he’s 6. He can’t get that much freedom. She’s doing enough. The kid’s hair will cut eventually and life would be fine.

  • @user-mm6lp6lc5h
    @user-mm6lp6lc5h 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Why is no one talking about the witty answer of the father?! "I'm sure Hayul will be tired later". Absolutely Hilarious!

  • @lolitarachmadian2850
    @lolitarachmadian2850 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is really heartwarming ❤️ i started crying too when her husband finally respects his wife decision and says his love for her. We can clearly see how much he really loves his family, thats why he just wants to be common and live their lives just like everybody else..

  • @mandavimishra5893
    @mandavimishra5893 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Both the parents are good hearted .....I got emotional when they cried together ....I wish I had such parent...rather ...such a father.
    Ohgod I'm literally sobbing rn !!
    They held back hurting each other ..
    Bless you both mom and dad of hayul !!

  • @causewellyeah
    @causewellyeah 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    With the sound that the girl is trying to make, I can hear it! It sounds like a little bird! Can anyone hear that too or am I imagining things????

  • @melikayame7401
    @melikayame7401 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    If a stranger wants to touch my kid's private area, i would just punch them
    That's inapropriate af
    But i wish the best for this family 👍
    He's so pure and mature for his age! 😍

  • @yan5193
    @yan5193 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    he is so cute! really proud of him to be thinking that way in such a young age!!

  • @itsgi0
    @itsgi0 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    they're gonna be a happy family :)
    so warm.
    edit: this by far has to be my favorite HC episode

  • @misha745
    @misha745 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Oh my goodness. He is so precious.🤗

  • @kiiiwiiii
    @kiiiwiiii 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Personally, i love boys with long hair. I think its cute!!

  • @Molkwho
    @Molkwho 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    the little bow was such a sweet angel I don't see the problem with him growing out his hair because he doing for good case. the parents just need work talking to each more about thing .

  • @lisapratiwi4867
    @lisapratiwi4867 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think he is so smart and eloque because his parents listening to him, discussing everything to him so he can express what he really want..
    I actually adore this couple

  • @mangofaerie
    @mangofaerie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    She needs to have more communication with her husband AND she needs to have respect for him too! Like he just ain't your child, ugh! She's annoying.. Plus the older generation needs to move on with the times and need to stop touching strangers. I get you're curious, but that doesn't give you the right to be touching whoever you want's body. Idk what Korean laws are like, but that's harassment and maybe even sexual harassment >___

    • @Pumpkin0_0
      @Pumpkin0_0 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      She felt that she was going to lose her baby before he was born. It's not a surprise that she took things a bit far. It's easy to talk.

    • @Pumpkin0_0
      @Pumpkin0_0 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@Youngnrrwhtjwtjetk
      Unless you take other routs like artificial insemination, you don't make a baby alone. Making a baby and then behaving as if you're the only parent isn't healthy for the child. Carrying it yourself is no excuse. It's not men's fault they can't have babies. Any child should feel a balance in the relationship, not to be treated like their parents are using him/her for some sort of competition.

  • @nyckim2949
    @nyckim2949 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    He so cute 😂💜

  • @blue_jen_1650
    @blue_jen_1650 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Despite his young age he wants to help other people so sweet keep it up!

  • @bangstanpurple1029
    @bangstanpurple1029 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Kids have the purest hearts

  • @AngelAngel-fs1qo
    @AngelAngel-fs1qo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Why should the father yell at the mother, if their son is making a decision at such a young and impressionable age that the son shouldn't do that. The son may grow up thinking that donating is something to not be done. His mother is encouraging his good will and decision making skills by allowing him to grow his hair for charity. The son is obviously mature, and smart and if encouraged can grow up with a good mindset.

    • @nnnee.01
      @nnnee.01 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I believe the father was mad at the mother for allowing their son to make such decisions at such early age without being completely aware of the consequences. He even mentioned how it was uncomfortable having people staring at the boy, especially during the bathroom incidents. Such things could possibly have a mental impact on their child thus causing problems for the child's future. I think that was the reason the father lost it and yelled at the mother, it wasn't really with bad intentions, but it was also partly her fault for not discussing it with him in first place.

    • @BlueMeaney49
      @BlueMeaney49 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nnnee.01 He yelled at her because HIS family members were touching the little boy. He could not yell at the elders, so he yelled at her.

  • @Mercyforthewicked
    @Mercyforthewicked 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    wowoowow, the cultural differences are so real compared to NA

  • @haemilee8875
    @haemilee8875 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    so refreshing to see a dad actually care about his family

  • @morganh2269
    @morganh2269 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This kid is gonna be a great humanitarian

  • @najiakashcool6547
    @najiakashcool6547 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I adore Coyote song .. I heard it in Music Bank & I was like : Who's this woman & what group. 💎

  • @ZhoniaP
    @ZhoniaP 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Am I the online thinking the mom is low-key brainwashing the son into her way of thinking? Granted they are mostly things that are good for him and for others but she's literally cut out all possible opportunity to explore new things she doesn't want him too and cut dad out of the picture and just lives off his money. He's spending every single day taking in her mentality to the point where he's taking his mom's side against the dad in things he knows nothing about.

    • @shadycatz85
      @shadycatz85 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      all parental decisions are brainwashing. you could argue that parents making their kids go to public school is brainwashing to accept that way of learning. going to church is brainwashing. keeping kids healthy is brainwashing. if we just let kids do whatever they wanted then they'd stay at home, watch tv, and eat ice cream for every meal. parents just have to do what they think will produce the best adult and hope it works.
      also, the issue with the husband is that no doubt apart from playing with and discipline, he absolutely does not help raise his child in any capacity (as you can tell he's traditional). these sorts of men leave everything to do with the child to the mother but expect to be in charge of decisions relating to them. they act like they own the child. we see this so much on HC. men have nothing to do with their kids but make every decision in regards to their raising.

    • @svenolle690
      @svenolle690 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shadycatz85 no just no

  • @dawnbright8214
    @dawnbright8214 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That boy is raised well by his mother, his father dont have to worry too much. Donnt worry too much about what other people will say. The mother is doing a good thing.

  • @bilgeserendipity9713
    @bilgeserendipity9713 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am crazy now ,this little child is sooo cutee and he has a perfect heart.