man this comments section has become something insane. thank you all for sharing your story, regardless if you agree or disagree. genuinely love reading every single one.
Nice content! Like others I randomly stumbled over your video via youtube algorithm and man your style of editing is exactly the type I enjoy and stay focused on. The Jeff nippard of gaming :D Stay focused and keep up your good and healthy work. Love it !
You’ve made me realize I have been rushing through games, unlike when I was a child. The same goes for my life. I’m very impatient and just try to hurry on to the next thing in my quests tab. Thank you for this.
I identify with this really hard. Im older with a family now, so game time is about how much of the interesting stuff I can get done. I used to grind for hours for resources so when my tribe mates logged into the server on Ark, we could go on an adventure without having to grind silently for our own stuff... now i haven't played a game with them in almost 2 years...
I realized I don't rush through things. It's just it doesn't hold my attention so I start "rushing". I feel like it's more of a lack of interest in the world. It's why I play mostly games with friends because I don't have to enjoy necessarily the world in the game as long as I enjoy the time with my friends.
You actually made me realize something, I have trouble finishing games because I dont want the excitement to end, just how in life im scared of fully committing to expressing myself because im afraid of people disliking me
"im scared of fully committing to expressing myself because im afraid of people disliking me" Wow I had a small breakthrough reading this. Fitting into the bounds of social norms has always been a difficult for me. Growing up as a weird kid trying really hard to un-weirdify myself has made me a self conscious adult with guards way up and any time it comes down and I have a lapse of impulse control I feel so anxious about it
Always consider that just as many people will like you, as dislike you. Fearing the negative actually ensures that you never get the positive. So, without the positive, have you really avoided the negative you're afraid of? Or are you just blindfolding yourself with it.
as i learn and experience more to life i’ve realized people can dislike you for anything, after awhile it’ll look like their purposely look for that specific reason. even if you become a people pleaser, go to the gym (not saying you need to), get a partner, get ur dream job, wear clothing other people like etc there will always be those that judge you for things you can’t control like race or religion. what i’m getting at is you’ll always be capable of loving yourself the way others can’t. be yourself no matter if people like you or not cause if they dislike the real you, their opinion about you doesn’t matter
@@JackTowns-mn2ob I understood this for so long but my unconscious brain still can’t realise it really frustrates me I don’t know when it will finally click inside it’s like my brain is programmed to try and make people like me everytime
Same, there's a lot of hobbies I want to try that I fall out of quickly. I remember really wanting to learn how to flip butterfly knives for like a week, I have never had any sort of interest in knives before or after that.
I was talking to my therapist about this exact thing today, how the way I play games mirrors the way I do everything else and that I can't commit to finish things, I don't put a continuous effort in the things I want to do and shit It's 2:56 am where I live and I can't sleep so I decided to open youtube to watch some random things, but then this video was on my front page. What a coincidence, you have the exact same experience as I do and just today I was talking about this thing. Thank you for your video and thank you TH-cam algorithm
Oh my god, dude. It's exactly 2:56 am where I am right now as of writing this comment, and I'm also watching this video randomly because it popped up ln my recommended. Thank you TH-cam for this even funnier coincidence.
if i may, it seems you have a problem with self-discipline... most committal issues are with that, leading to unfished projects and tasks that the sufferer WANTS to finish (note that there is a difference contrasted against tasks that the person does not care to finish). that is, if a person cannot finish something they do not care about, that is one thing; but a person that cannot finish something they do want to actually finish, is another thing. now, that outcome can potentially be 'not your fault' (eg. ADHD dysfunctionality of the brain) or it can be 'your fault' (which many people never hear, oddly), it may literally be your lack of willpower and committing to it. try to exercise your self-discipline towards something small and easy at first, increasing scope and difficulty after that, each time. actually commit though. if you absolutely cannot finish tasks, it will affect your life negatively (eg. getting fired lots). this can be alleviate with medication. good luck to you, friend.
Not me, man. In video games, I'm the complete polar opposite of what I am in real life. Video game me is a decent, hardworking, ambitious, goal oriented, disciplined, rational, optimistic, calm, organized individual.
What games taught me about myself: -I'm not a risk taker. -If I find something that works for me I'll stick with and not try anything else. -I find it hard to learn something if there's too many variables involved. -I get worse at something the more I try my hand at something in one session, and will have to take a break to let my brain process what I already learned. BUT -I'm a good learner, provided I'm taught the right way, and I know I'm capable of doing better, I just need to learn how to work with my brain better, and figure out what circumstances I need to reach my potential... Me actually being interested in what I'm learning also helps tremendously. The two games that taught me most of these games, Dark Souls 1, and E.Y.E.: Divine Cybermancy.
For me it taught me: - I’m very cautiously optimistic but can alternate with a bit of cynicism - I like to enjoy everything I can about a hobby or interest up to the point where I lose enjoyment with it - I have an issue trusting people unless they have a good fundamental reason for me to, plus knowing them more personally. Their mannerisms, reaction to certain things, how the person treats others in times of prosperity and distress, motivations, etc I’m a curious individual and like to learn new information regardless of others personal beliefs or opinions on a taboo subject Like you I can learn new concepts or techniques of doing something, a craft, or specific methodology if I am shown exactly how to along with more advanced tips. I hate taking compliments because I would much rather give that compliment or piece of credit to someone whose efforts were underhanded/acknowledged. I am seemingly compassionate but only when it’s in a private environment, sometimes for strangers (depends idk)
What am I in games: - Completionist (collect trophies) - I plan long ahead what I want to complete. Not just completion itself, but also choice of game. - I set goals for how much i want to complete in a given year. - I'm not much of a creative type. I play a game mostly the same way, even if it's inconvenient. In that way sandbox types of games is not my style. I prefer the developer keeping the journey tight and scripted. - I prefer to watch videos of others doing things I don't know how to do, rather than finding out myself. - I'm very ethical. I do not kill something, unless I'm forced to. And I'm not rude unless I'm offended or dislike the person, so no trolling around. - I care more about narrative themes than gameplay or graphics for that matter. - I prefer slower paced games than high speeding games. - I care about games being authentic, meaning I will for example switch language if the game is not made by an english speaking developer.
It kinda makes sense if you listen to his story. Dude is super energetic about a subject, but can't stay in the same lane consistently long enough. So when he is in creator mode, then it's 200% passion. Also likely had rabbit holes in public speaking / storytelling / film&game analysis and other how Tobe quality creative binge watches just out of momentary pure curiosity. Even if it's random interest, not prep for work, some info is bound to stick. So he has vastly superior foundations than soulless content-mills or limited previous interests/experience honest startup channels.
I stopped playing video games this year. Got into martial arts, going to the gym, running. It's been one hell of a journey changing my entire life and its been for the better. My mental health has never been better, my relationships, outlook on life. And it started by seeing dark souls 1 all the way through. Embracing the sucky aspects. Embracing the trying and failing. Seeing beauty in the chaotic and dark world i immersed myself in. Strange how our entertainment can shape us. How art truly can move us.
Nice to see fellow gamers embracing real life. Honestly as an aspiring game dev my goal is to make a game that inspires people to start putting in the work to improve their life, or at least touch grass.
Not gonna lie playing Elden Ring inspired me to never give up outside of gaming. Just keep going, learning and growing. You’ll end up seeing progress in both games and irl.
Man .. hearing you in this video describing each and every day I live my life is unbelievable. We are always rushing and rushing forgetting to live what we have, thank for the reminder, this is just a great video at a much needed time. How we do anything is how we do everything. Peace.
I lost my happiness and excitement to play games a few years ago, nothing was interesting to me anymore, when new games came out I got it, rushed through it, looked up on yt where to find things, what to do first. I was lead by a string like your video said. It became draining but then I just wanted to explore thing's on my own pace, not care about how fast I can finish a game, get the best gear, items, ect. I just layed back in the evening, played the game however I wanted to without anyone guiding me, at my own comfortable pace and that brought me some joy back and love for gaming. So be yourself, don't listen to others and enjoy the ride
@@wookim9066 I know what you mean by that 🤭 I own a PS2 but from that point on just PC. You can definitely see similarities but sometimes it's nice to just admire the artwork. I do like taking pictures of nature and in video games so having a beautiful looking game is very nice but definitely not the main point. For just relaxing I recently tried fabledom. Nothing serious just building your town while watching TH-cam or twitch at the side or when my friend is free play some Fortnite together or dead by daylight. What about you?
It took me many years to start emulating my game talents into irl talents, it began a question between friends online of just "... what if i just did this IRL instead" in the realm of: leadership, organization, goals, efficiency, grind, cost analysis, time analysis, mechanical skills, complex problem solving, tutorial creation, community management. Honestly if I never mentioned game anywhere it would just sound like it's an organization/work activities already. Great video, excellent reminder
Soo true. Literally last month I’ve come to a realisation that it’s pretty hard for me to learn something new from games. Why not try the same stuff but irl? So I decided to drop games as a test and do whatever I want but irl only (usually I have around 80-100 hours in steam per two weeks). For now it looks like one of the best decisions of my life. I’m 31 btw
It's good to hear that someone had the same experience, I had the same epiphany while playing cyberpunk, that I approach things the same way in life as I do in gaming. I have more of a completionist attitude and get overwhelmed with all the stuff you can possibly do cause I want to experience it all. My curiosity is my friend and enemy cause at certain points it's too much to handle, I'm a jack of all trades and a master of none. In real life I keep moving to new places, get different jobs and never stay too long out of boredom or curiosity for something new to discover or learn. It's fun and exciting but sometimes it feels like I lived a whole bunch of different lives and it can feel lonely cause I always feel misunderstood cause the people in every new place only get to know a part of me but never get the whole picture.
As an older gamer, I've found I run into a weird problem - I fall in love with a game, but I know if I finish it, I won't come back to it to finish all the extra side quests, so I investigate side quests and try to delay beating the game entirely. Except, then what happens is I stop playing the game. I can't even explain why. This happened with Zelda: Tears of the Kingdom. I loved Breath of the Wild, but once I beat it, I didn't go back in to finish the side content. So, with TotK, I've intentionally focused on the side quests. Now, we're more than a year from the game's launch and I've just stopped playing entirely. I haven't beaten it. I just stopped playing it. I'm still not sure why. 🤷♂ This was a GREAT video - it really made me think about how I game (as well as how I approach other parts of life).
this exact thing happens to me, although funny enough not with Zelda just bc that's my number one. i hate endings, so i put them off. i avoid and do less serious things than the main quests, then i stop playing and pretend that it doesn't end.
and that is the problem with open world games. I think Elden Ring does this the worst way possible. You aren't constantly following a proper story, it's just you and the massive hostile world where all you do is fighting so once you are done you are really glad about it. At least that's how i felt, took me extremly long time to complete.
I do this as well, but it's also just a bad habit I've always had since I was a kid, I don't want to miss out on content but I get bored when grinding doing the less fun parts so the game starts to feel like a job and as a kid I could power through but as an adult I just stop playing the game as it's now another chore to do.
I’m glad I’ve finally come across someone with the same problem as me. Not that I have looked very hard but still…I’ve always felt insane trying to explain it to the few friends I have that still play games. I’m completely aware of it by now but it still doesn’t stop me from doing it. “This time will be different” is what I tell myself. And I actually got better for a while until it happened again recently. I started playing through Bloodborne a few years back and actually finished it 100% to then go on and do the same with Dark Souls (1-3), Sekiro, and Elden Ring when it came out. After ER I was also surprisingly able to 100% TotK - never thought that would happen especially with the koroks. But every game after that has been back to the same old routine. It’s beyond crazy for me to understand why. Those games I mentioned are definitely some of my all-time favs but it’s not like other games I play aren’t fun to me. I could understand if I was forcing myself to finish games I had no interest in but that’s for sure not the case. Who knows? Unnecessarily long comment but at least I finished it lmao.
Man, your type of honesty is what I miss about people in general. This was actually thought out. You really reflected and brought it out here. No adds, no prompts from AI or scalped themes off of other people. Useful considerations, no bs. I want to make it as a writer and I’m itching to do it with the kind of honesty you showed here as a content creator. Congratulations on the amazing video. Keep it real.
The thing that makes this problem so much worse for me is whenever I identify it, I get that rush to better myself but just end up giving up and seeping back down into depression. It’s just an endless cycle of inspiration quickly leading to desperation for a success story that never comes because I just lose all momentum and motivation to do anything in my life. The hardest part of life is figuring out how the end of one verse can lead into the next but you gotta do it anyways. Don’t be like me, go out there, get help if you need to, do that thing you wanted to do 3 weeks ago but never had the push to do.
Try to not rush into living a super disciplined life for a few days because you’ll get burnt out immediately. Try to ease into it with smaller habits. Don’t set your alarm for 4 am try setting it to a time your more used to maybe 7 or 8 am. If you do this gradually you won’t get burnt out so easily
Something that helped me was my dad telling me, "The best time to do it was yesterday but the next best time is today." That phrase on repeat has helped me to not beat myself up every time I "make a mistake" or "mess up". I can imagine you may be expecting yourself to be perfect but just know that we are all humans and to human is to error. So do your best to start with small goals and forgive yourself for not being perfect every time. Make sure to congratulate yourself for doing well as well even if it's something small like getting out of bed on time or at all. If you focus on everything you have to do all at once you'll only crush yourself under the weight.
Bro, you don't even look like you're past your 20s, how much did you expect of life (so far, there's a reason rich guys often have grey hair everywhere)? How much do you believe others get out of their life (again, so far)?
you need to know how to use that strong push, to not try and use it all at once, because it's actually not that much energy. you need to make slow changes, subtle changes. I'm talking set an alarm and go on a walk for any distance, any amount of time, but you have to step off the property. don't start setting big goals, set tiny goals. Texas summers beat me down but I'm half way done with my monthly goal of 10 walks since I hold out until night. I also do all the "ups", sit ups, push ups, pull ups, and believe it or not my neglected homeschooler ass is even reading books sometimes. change takes time and needs to be gradual, especially for someone like me who has lived the same damn day for over a decade. I know it sucks but just cut yourself some slack, and if it's still hard, turn it into a game. how? Idk lol still figuring that part out
this is the best video i came across on youtube lately. Im an older gamer who started gaming at a very young age and the part you say we play game the way we live our life is part true. Enjoying games like when we were younger is harder because of our career, hobbies, social life... Games are much longer, bigger... I work in a office, when i get home my brain is fried which it makes it impossible to focus on a game. Why i said it's part true, i play only RPG style with a long story and i stick to the game or i alternate between 2-3 games. I use to start alot of them and never finish it until i realize i wasted so much money and time never reaching my goals and that included my life too. I stopped gaming for a few yrs just to start back last yr but this time i dont put my life on hold and i play games the way i live my life not the other way around.
This video was really touching for me, and I’m sure it was for you too. I’m guessing no one will read this, but I’d like to say it anyways even if it only benefits me. I don’t play video games anymore, but when I did, I would play shooter games. All I could play was multiplayer, and all that brought me excitement was being in the action, flanking the enemy team, and getting massive multi kills with snipers or explosives. I realised part of this translates to my real life. I spent less time with family and taking care of my passions (such as gardening, art, and music), and focused so much on having a good social life and going out all the time. This all or nothing attitude was clear through the way I played games. Instead of being present, enjoying campaigns and small details of the graphics or story, I would fast-forward to the action. In other words, I’m learning to live a more balanced and present life, without rushing and setting huge expectations on the ‘big things’. This video really helped me, I’m even going to tell my therapist about it tomorrow. Thank you 😁
The second sentence in combination with the likes brought up something I've heard long time ago: "the less you expect something, the more likely its gonna happen."
The second sentence in combination with the likes brought up something I've heard long time ago: "the less you expect something, the more likely its gonna happen."
@@possiblyb4tman if i may continue for them (they may never return), if a person 'drives' their cart cautiously, looking at the floor for spills and objects and hazards; that may be one aspect of how they live their life, a methodical, cautious approach to things, prizing safety. if a person 'drives their cart' fast and not looking for hazards, in contrast; that may be one indicator of how they may live parts of their life, or all of it, a speedy, uncaring for safety approach to life, always in a hurry, always seeking their target goal in the distance (and potentially, not enjoying the journey on the way, and missing many small things in life). there are many interpretations of course, it is not always cut-and-dry (straight-relations) of one observation to their condition, but it can give hints to how they may live their life. peace to you.
I related to this more than you could know. A serial starter... you have finally given me a term to describe myself lol. You gave me a lot to think about, thank you and happy holidays!
You nailed it too when you talked about how quests in the game start to become a list of things you have to do, like it's work. We don't play video games to work, so when something you love becomes like work, you tend to not enjoy it as much anymore, if at all. I used to come home from working a shift, just to boot up a game and do work in the game and you're right, it burns you out.
Speak for yourself. There is quite a big group of players who enjoy games like WoW, with their repetitive grinding and lack of suprises exactly because they are like work. It's a routine they can stick to, the excitement is dosed and plannable. Not a lot of mental challenge, just do the same things as yesterday with the same people.
I would respond to that by saying that ANYTHING you have to put effort into is, in some way or another, work. If you're using 'it's work' to mean 'it's something that feels bad to do', I'd say that's a sign that you need to change your relationship with work rather than games. There seems to be some kind of common fallacy that anything you do in your free time should be easy and effortless, but I don't think that's the case. I think that games directly reward us for how much we engage with them, and that if you've lost motivation to play games it's because you're not finding anything to connect with in them. It might be that the game is trash, but it also might be because you're not bringing yourself to the game. I'm putting forth this idea: games SHOULD be work, but pleasurable work, self-employed work in which you get to decide how much effort you put into them, for which you pay yourself with fun and growth. When you play a game and you put *maximum effort* into it, that effort alone makes the game worth playing. When work feels bad, it's often because it shuts you out, makes you feel like you're easily replaceable and anyone could do your job. If you shut *yourself* out from your games by not bringing yourself to them - your enthusiasm, your interest, your creativity, your ambition - then of course you're not going to enjoy them. So bring yourself to them. Engage with your games in the way that only you can.
When I play cyberpunk I do a mission and then load game and try and do it again but better and then load game and try and do it again but better and better until I do without getting hit once in a way that's really cool and fast and uses all my abilities and perks
I actually like quests in games. They're chores, but chores I'm actively choosing to do for a reward rather than chores forced on me to meet goal expectations at the end of the week, not having to worry about somebody else's KPIs
It's a very strange thing, our brains. We commit to something, and pull all our energy and effort into something we're interested in; and it almost feels like a chore to do it. ... But those moments where we sit back, just relex and dont really have expectations: that's when the joy comes in and thats when we have the most fun with gaming. I say "we", but I really mean just me. I don’t know if anyone else has the same effect, but it feels like the more I want to enjoy something; the less I actually enjoy it. Those moments where I'm not really focusing on the plot, or the characters, or the gameplay; but just "being there" and chilling - those are when my best experiences with games happen.
A lot of the people in the comments seem to be similar to you, so I figured I'd toss out my perspective. I'm someone who only really plays one game at a time, one task at a time. I commit hard to things and seek self-improvement above all when it comes to tasks (and games). In life, it's led me to learning great time management skills and to become a really efficient worker. In games, I've become a pretty consistent tournament player for the past few years, even just in smaller community run stuff. Where for you the downside seems to be overcommitment leading to burnout. For me, anything I don't see worth committing to just doesn't get anywhere near my normal effort, if any at all. Every set of traits has its ups and downs. Being a good casual gamer might help you enjoy things while relaxing, while being too competitive means you can't have fun without being pushed to your limit. Maybe no expectations is best, maybe expectations are needed. Who knows? Everyone has to find out for themselves.
I have recently felt a disconnected from my younger self. I felt adult life take over and I stopped getting to know my self. This bled into gaming. I started to only grind games, instead of explore. I wanted to complete, instead of learn. After this revelation I have begun to look at pictures of myself from the time I was exploring, learning, being curious, and I feel Im starting to get to know myself again. Shortly after I started enjoying, stopped grinding, started exploring instead of finishing. Great video with a deep topic.
A lot videos in this style try to represent something philosophical. Like their point is to be enchanting and deep without actually being so. You had a line in here about childhood and not worrying about the main quest versus how you see things now. That hit hard, thank you. I'll be pondering on that.
To be honest, i hate endings; knowing i finished something that i loved makes me feel sombre, knowing it's over. Yeah, i could play it again, but i didn't have the chance to relive it for the first time. I've always wanted to be a writer, and i knew how i would end the first book, and i was scared about it, but i guess a quote from one of my characters sums it up perfectly. "That's us. We've always loved the journey, the ride. We are on, but we dont want that ride to end. We dont want to see the destination, the final curtain, but we'll have to face it one day, and i dont know if I'll be ready for it."
I am the same way kind of. I am not all that interested in games. I see a Gann I think I'll like, I buy it, I play, I don't finish it and I don't mess with it often for a very long time. Some games I only every finish because they are in easy mood and I just want to play the game I don't care about the challenge (Especially because I'm such a casual that I die on easy mode anyway). But anyway I am also a ferm believer in differences in people especially things like learning and achieving goals. Everyone learned different. Like for example I can learn better watching a video then doing it myself or reading. I keep information in my head better that way so I don't really read much because regardless if it's a story or something to better myself. I learn better by watching videos or if it's a book an audio book. Not to mention I'm a bit autistic and dyslexic probably. I have a hard time reading and focusing more on reading then the story or any important information I need to grasp. Same thing with doing things as I learn. I focus too hard on doing that thing that I don't really know what I'm doing in first place. Even when people tell me and I get it done it's no different then giving me a textbook full of things to learn and then putting it in a test. But like for example I want to be a bullfighter. All basic moves and muscle memory I know about didn't come from reading a book or even first hand experience. It came from literally copying from bullfighting video. I have developed the skills needed to be a bullfighter. Now I just need more training. But my gaming, how I watch TV shows, and TH-cam channels. It's all about my interests. Eventually my interests change and I want to do something else. With games and TV shows I know it's OK. But with bullfighting. I've been waiting to be a bullfighter for 11 years now. I might not go to practice or to the gym everyday but I go 4 days a week and still as passionate about this as the day I found it. So I'm not too sure if what he's saying really true. Some people are just different and with different things like ADHD, Autism, etc etc being in meny people. I think it's just like different ways of learning. It's a different thing for everyone. Not a true "If you don't finish this game you're lazy and will never change your life for the better" Type thing. Self growth and success is different for everyone and the process to get there is even more different.
Yeah, I don't like game endings. Plenty of game endings aren't great anyways. I don't play games the way a lot of people do, it's not about "getting to the end" for me like as if it's a movie or TV show or something, it's more about enjoying the journey as much as possible, day-by-day, and/or getting distracted with sidequests and getting more loot and ingame currencies. And in games where I can avoid the main storyline quest, like in open-world games like Fallout or Elder Scrolls, Red Dead Redemption, The Witcher games, I avoid the main story questline for quite a bit of time usually.
Most of the time game endings are the depressing thing you do when you've done everything else you wanted to do. I played through New Vegas again recently and didn't even do the ending, kinda been there done that.
Same! Around my 5th play through of God of War: Ragnarok, once I realized there were no secrets left for me to uncover, I felt a bit sad that it was finally at an end. I almost cried when the DLC announcement dropped. Hope all of us aspiring writers get the chance to actualize our dreams
Woah, watching this made me realise I have the problem you mentioned but in a weird way. Any game I play, I try to explore the world and talk to every NPC ever, try going through every door in the area, for about like 25 minutes. Then I try to just progress through the story and forget about all the exploring, doing it haphazardly when I do. After a few days, no matter how much I enjoyed the game, I always find it difficult to open my PC and just- launch the game. I can't get myself committed to starting it up again, even if I want to play it. I think to myself that if I start now, I'll just end up playing for the whole day and waste my time. However, I end up just doomscrolling and not achieving anything at the end of the day either. Doing things haphazardly and being afraid to commit to one game shows in other aspects of my life aswell. Getting the urge to study but not wanting to open the book, knowing that I should text my friends back but not wanting to open their messages. Thank you for making this video, it made me think about a lot of things. Maybe I should start by opening a game I've been meaning to play for a long time?
This is literally me. Yakuza 0, Pokemon, Paper Mario, etc, its all the exact same thing. I think sometimes I forget theres a post-game or theres always more time to come back later, but you can only really experience the story for the first time once. I want to clear my game backlog so badly, but I just flit from game to game, enjoying everything.
Playing through a game like a to-do list just to "finish the story" takes away the appreciation in the moments. Taking in these moments is all that matters. You wouldn't want to rush through life just to "finish the story". So stop living your life like it's a to-do list. Enjoy each quest in this life, even how dull it may seem. appreciate the mundane, going to work/gym/school etc. This video somehow managed to express the thoughts that have been on my mind recently. Thank you❤
I'm playing Stray right now and I stop and appreciate the beauty of the game so much, that I screenshot and send to my friend. I realize I just want someone to share these beautiful moments with, it's sad to experience them alone all the time. Even tho I really enjoy spending time with myself it's extra lonely in those times.
@@lovekittyforever i totally get what you're saying. Whenever i play games and i see something beautiful (which is wherever i turn if I'm playing rdr2😭) i feel the urge to share it with my friends. Maybe subconsciously to get validation... Idk. Anyway I guess it's in those moments I've recently began to tell myself "I'm gonna enjoy this by myself, and that's fine". Because we spend our whole lives with our own minds. Which means we should get comfortable going solo from time to time, without getting the spotlight effect (feeling that everyone is noticing you in public). As long as one has a balanced lifestyle between sharing moments with others and experiencing them solo.
Social Media does this to us. It's designed to keep our attention span for a few seconds, and then it's on to the next thing. I try to fight against it, and stop the mindless scrolling.
I call it google brain. We have outsourced are attention and memory to the internet. I am fighting this, if u ever are having a convo with a friend and are trying to recall a actors name , refrain from googling it, work those brain muscles , it has helped so much in recalling words to peoples names , getting rid of brain fog.
I recently started an apprenticeship (I live in Germany) and am working full time for the first time in my life. It's crazy how everything speeds up to the unimaginable. Get up, work, come home, sleep. Now do that again. And my coping was to completely lose myself in it. Rushing things and only trying to aim for results because I was always short on time for everything. I lost the way I usually did things. What really helped me was playing Stray. Anytime I had a little bit of free time I played as a cute cat wandering around. And I started the game with no real goal at all. I just wanted to enjoy the game. I tried to act like a cat would lmao. Doing whatever I wanted in just that moment. Whatever came to my mind and be it for whatever reason. Also I wanted to see and enjoy beauty again so I stopped at every nice view and every cozy place. At first I had to force myself because my mind was still racing but once I found something nice, once I gave in to the view and found beauty in a forgotten city or enjoyed a trickling sound in some quiet place, I started noticing so much more, enjoying lots and lots of other things. And before I knew it my mind was flooded with beautiful things I found and was excited to play some more once I got off from work just like when I was a kid and nothing else mattered. I really enjoyed giving in to that mindset and it helped me remember that there are other ways of doing things in everyday life instead of just aiming for results. And now, after remembering and reliving other ways of life, it is up to me to change my lifestyle and enjoy more things in life. Best of luck to everyone, we're all still growing up. - "Keep your mind wide open"
Yeah... Adulthood isn't easy, but you're taking the right steps. Don't let life rush past you; always keep your mind in the present, because if you don't, before you know it, ten years will have flown by. A decade starts to feel like "yesterday" faster than we can imagine. On a side note, if you liked Stray and its slow burn, "take your time" pace, you should try Death Stranding (Director's Cut). Some, including me, consider it a masterpiece, but you need to be in the right frame of mind for it. Keep on keeping on, bro.
To me, this is the definition of having epiphanies, miniature enlightenment. You ever notice how monks talk very simply, but the more you ponder, you realize it was something very deep, just guised on the surface as simple? This is how everything in life really is, and I think we can start to have these deeper experiences by, like you explained eloquently, being in the present moment. This is truth my brother and I think it’s really cool you had this realization through video games.
This realization hit me back in high school, when my math teacher took me out for ice cream by the seaside (I won it for solving a tough question :D). She asked me, ‘Would you rather instantly absorb all the benefits of reading a book or take your time and enjoy the experience of reading it?’ For me, the answer was clear I didn't event think for a second, I am always impatient. That’s how I to approach everything in life. But tbh, I don’t know if it’s the right way or not.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve started things and didn’t finish. I have a portfolio of unfinished drawings, a hard drive full of unfinished songs, several unfinished playthroughs of games. I have this desire driven by a burst of motivation and ambition that just ends abruptly. What I do in the games I play now is usually just drive around aimlessly to avoid anything, or to search for something exciting. Sometimes I’m driven, and other times I’m burnt out. But regardless, we just keep driving.
if i may repeat my own comment, it seems you may have a problem with self-discipline... most committal or completionist issues are with that; leading to unfished projects and tasks that the sufferer WANTS to finish (note that there is a difference contrasted against tasks that the person does not care to finish). that is, if a person cannot finish something they do not care about, that is one thing; but a person that cannot finish something they do want to actually finish, is another thing. now, that outcome can potentially be 'not your fault' (eg. ADHD dysfunctionality of the brain) or it can be 'your fault' (which many people never hear, oddly), it may literally be your lack of willpower and committing to it. try to exercise your self-discipline towards something small and easy at first, increasing scope and difficulty after that, each time. actually commit though. if you absolutely cannot finish tasks, it will affect your life negatively (eg. getting fired lots). this can be alleviated with medication. if you really do not care if you finish games, songs, projects, et al. then it may just be a nonchalance of personality, or a sense of ennui. either way, whether you seek help for it or just accept it, good luck to you, friend.
i feel almost the same. as the guy below you mentioned, I think i have a very severe self discipline issue, and i’m gonna try to work on it but slowly trying to complete tasks and working upward from there.
You know what, I like this idea. I'll try to do it, treating everything as a Dark Souls Boss and trying to overcome it through persistence and gradual improvement, after all, I can do it in Dark Souls, so why not in real life.
I just turned 30 and only now started learning how to be myself, to break free from societal expectations and follow my passion to find out how I want to live my life. I‘ve also started to enjoy games again, to just immerse myself and enjoy the atmosphere instead of rushing and forcing everything. You just reminded me that it‘s no coincidence. Thank you for this, I‘m really glad I stumbled upon your channel!
you're right, ever since i was a kid my parents always emphasised about investing for the "future", but it almost seems that so called future never comes. its too tiring and meaningless to always be so uptight about everything. fuk it
@@Galactus23 That‘s awesome! It‘s great to hear from other people in similar circumstances. Sometimes these recommendations just find you at the right time, it‘s wild.
@@playversetv3877 It‘s insane how from childhood on our social environment hammers in this expectation of always having to perform, to be too scared to defy this pressure and ask what we really want in life. Hope you‘re doing well, whatever path you choose for yourself!
The fact that I got recommended this during my cyberpunk play through and I also struggled with rushing through the story is beyond a coincidence. Thank you good sir.
Its not that hard to do. Its just pressure from a toxic hustle culture, which is easily ignored unless you care that much about conforming to society and what other people think. Ive had no problem ignoring that and my mental health is better for it.
@@SwagbobKushpants yes. success built on shortcuts is bound to crumble. working hard towards success and failing at least leaves you with the skills and discipline you learned along the way which you can use to carry on and try again.
I first noticed this effect when I was playing through the Witcher 3, where I realized there were actually a lot of ways that you could direct Geralt, all of which would be "true to his character." Some decisions worse than others sure, and some decisions more in line with his character sure, but what was more important was the fact that the selected dialogue said more about me than it did about Geralt. I noticed this especially when I was romancing Yeneffer, where I, to avoid spoiling, quite disliked her based on some of her previous actions, and yet I chose to stick around out of some strange obligation, and because I was too timid and complacent to tell her "no." I would have much preferred to be with Triss, but I chose to stick around despite some brewing sense of detestation, and I just sat there and thought about what that would spell for me in a real relationship. It's not just how we interact with gaming as a medium that reflects "how we do everything," but a lot of the choices we make within the games themselves as well I feel.
Holy shit you just blew my mind. Sadly for me i have experienced this exact guideline of behavior in real life and am paying the price. Thank you for your insight.
Serial Starter is a very apt name for the issue. I found for me it was my ADHD (it's not just distraction, but an executive function disorder) coming into play. There's the initial dopamine hit from the "new" game, but once the levels/xp/story/etc. starts becoming familiar, the attraction/enthusiasm/drive starts to wear off and the interest just fizzles out.
This is true. I like games with resource management, grinds, and economies and some creativity. I like structure and min/maxing. This translates in my life to financial gain and management, conscientiousness, detailed-oriented, and some perfectionism, but I lack spontaneity. My best friend likes tactical fast-paced action games with quick dopamine hits or soap operas with a lot of character interaction like Mass Effect. He is more sociable, in-the-present and thrill-seeking, but lacks structure, planning, and patience. We're a dynamic duo, but rarely want to play the same games. Great video!
Omg the way you described yourself is exactly me! That’s why my favorite game is Stardew Valley, among other things, it’s like the game was made for me. What are some games do you recommend?
@@mel4340 Give Palworld a go if you haven't yet. The game has a lot of charm by itself, but the breeding and base mechanics gives you many goal-oriented objectives. It's quite addicting breeding the strongest Anubis to increase your ore production or finding new Pals to work on your farms and you will definitely enjoy it a lot, the world is also beautiful for explorationand the different variety of Pals keeps it interesting. It's like Pokémon meets Zelda. If you're into history and military or political tactics, try Crusader Kings 3. It's about building an empire and conquering the world through subterfuge, war, diplomacy, or wealth and managing your empire and its dynasty. It has a steep learning curve, and may take some time to get used to. Planet Crafter is also pretty good. It's about building up a Martian planet atmosphere and making it survivable and eventually inhabited by small flora and fauna. It's made by a husband and wife duo and recently left early access and they release frequent updates. Satisfactory and Factorio are also meant to be great games in this niche, but I have yet to play them. A lot of people I know that like Stardew Valley also talk highly of games like Undertale, but I don't know much about that one. (TH-cam keeps deleting my comments. Apologies if this comment shows multiple times!)
The ADHD serial starter is such a real feeling. Edit: Man there are some ignorant and insecure people here. I don’t have the time nor the crayon’s to assist your unwrinkled brains in understanding what ADHD is. And I’m not saying the creator has ADHD but merely sharing a related experience. Ffs.
I'm at the other adhd end, I know games have the potential to eat weeks of my life while I obsessively push through and platinum them, so I try really hard not to play too many new ones.
@@educampsrocks You are kinda wrong. It's an adhd thing. The longer you invest your time in something the more it gets boring. You get less and less Dopamin for doing the same thing over and over again. It's pretty frustrating because you want to play but its just way to draining
@@educampsrocksThis is a harmful misconception. Those with ADHD suffer from Executive Dysfunction, which makes building consistent habits very difficult. Please look up executive dysfunction and take the time to put aside your false misconceptions to learn something, and stop spreading misinformation about neurological conditions through willful ignorance.
Exactly what I needed to hear today. I’ve been struggling to stay consistent with my fitness journey. I always start strong, but then I stop and lose all my progress. I just started again, and watching this while on the treadmill made me realize a lot. Thank you!
its crazy how TH-cam looked into my soul and recommended me the exact thing Ive been wondering about myself, from someone who faces the exact same struggles as me. Good luck on your journey man.
I am so appreciative for all of you watching this video and sharing your thoughts. I read every comment. And yes, I will ask my doctor about potentially having ADHD, haha. Thank you again. 🙏
While watching, I kept thinking “this is me.” I’ve not been diagnosed with ADHD, but I’m almost certain I have it. Regardless, I think you’re right about the approach, and I’m going to try to hold myself to it as well (try being the keyword lol). Excellent video, and thank you for sharing! That quote is really resonating…
As someone with 33 years of experience in ADHD, let me tell you what I've learned -- it's not going to be elegant, it's not going to be pretty, and it's not going to be glamorous. If you want to complete something, you're going to need to learn how to smash your face into it until it's complete. This goes for video games, and, well, everything else. The dumbest person that shows up to something is still smarter than the smartest person who doesn't. Consistency is key, but consistent consistency is impossible without doing something you don't want to do. That's just the way it is. Hope this helps. Also, it's OK to not want to finish things, but when you're struggling with finishing something you really want to finish, I hope you remember this advice.
I can't tell you how badly I needed to hear this exact message right now. Thank you for sharing your story with the vulnerability and openness that let me see my own life and current trajectory mirrored. There's a lot of wisdom in the curiosity and wonder of youth, and even though it sometimes feels out of reach, I think with small and consistent acts we might find we aren't as far away from that place as we may feel. Thanks for being a guidepost; hoping we can all start enjoying the journey a bit more.
Starting to play games again nowadays, especially older games where they have no microtransactions, every rewards, upgrades come from the game. And then the skill you acquired carry over, it felt really nice
This made me realize how i started batman arkam asylum recently and when a difficult level came which is kind of sacry i just stopped playing. I am scared facing my problems and i tend to avoid them until its too late. I used to play alot of pokemon and whenever the game got difficult i just quit or used cheats to finish the game instead of working hard to level up my pokemon and defeat the elite four. So i have to start facing all my problems and issues head on instead of ignoring them and second i need to work hard and not quit when things get hard or try to look for easy way out. Damm this video was something. Thankyou man
I haven't spent this long in the comments of a video in a long time. It made me very emotional to see hundreds of people like me in the same video. Since most of what I want to share has been written, I don't see the need to add anything. I just wanted to thank you for creating this awareness for me and so many others.
So a tip i can give you man is, just slow down and catch a breath, before you try something new ask yourself “It’s really worth my time? Am i gonna keep doing it? Or is it just a one time thing?”. ‘Cause ik this feeling too well. Anyway good video and gl :)
Issue is I know I won't whatever it is, at least I "tried" and to quote Dr K a bit, tomorrow you is new you. Today I wanted to try out the guitar, bought/ordered it and.... it's still in a box 2 years later. I was so convinced I will at least try it, nope took too long for it to arrive, assuming that was the problem. The Me who wants to play it, no idea when he pops up again, if ever.
Very good input, I use a similar approach when it comes to making purchases, big or small. Asking myself: Do I really need it/ is there an application. Will I be using it in a year from now. Does it make me happy.
I hardly cry at all, and I don't know if I have ever watched a TH-cam video and really cried from it- aside from this one. Between the realization of how much we have all changed since we were kids and how your experience of hopping from one thing to the next mirrored mine, you were able to get to me- to pierce right through whatever excuse of a shell I have for an ego and speak straight to me instead of the mask that I pretend to be. The main point is an incredibly worthwhile thing to reflect on, as is trying to think back to how I played games when I was younger- and just back to how I was as a kid in general. Thank you so much for sharing this with the world. I really appreciate all of the time, effort and thought you put into making this. It is amazing and so are you.
that line bro "How you do anything is how you do everything" Really explains everything in ones life You really make me pause and think its really true Thank you sir you deserve more respect
serial starter is the term i was looking for to describe myself. also how thinking about doing things sounds so fun until you try and start doing them and it just isn't fun anymore. that's why i can't find a real creative hobby or a passion. i get burned out before i even start, i can't get myself to stick to the process, i want results immediately. this comment is just me venting and finally deciding to speak about how i feel, sorry for that, but that video hit just the right spot
bro you opened my mind, i am too competitive in videogames, and always trying to be the best of the game in the shortest time, but now i started to realize that i do the same in my life, always trying to be the winner, be the best in mentality, in study, in everything, and i will not lie, this took me far, but i dont stay happy with the things that i conquer, but now i will be more grateful for the things that i conquer and start to see fun in small things thank you
That’s kind of destructive thinking. Far be it from me to tell you how to live your life, but you shouldn’t categorize yourself like that. You’re not set in stone. If there’s something you don’t like about yourself, change it.
A coworker told me I work like if I was in a video game. - collect objectives - run to all locations - complete objectives asap - "collect xp" and get my next objective I work in production. Boss says work comes out the plant the days I'm in
For the past couple years, I have exclusively played Civ V, Ravenfield, NMS, Cyberpunk 2077, Star Wars BF2 (singleplayer only) and Minecraft. I dont deviate from playing these games. I like to chill in games so I spend most of my time in CB driving around Night City. In Civ V I play on Warlord mode bc I just like building a cool kingdom and growing my economy. In Ravenfield, I give my team the coolest tanks and stuff and the enemy team the rubbish stuff. In minecraft, I have a routine of harvesting my crops, building something for a while, then farming again. In NMS, I go between my freighter and my base worlds to harvest fuel and collect resources, then go back to my frigate and send my fleet on a mission. In BF2, I dont pay Xbox for multiplayer so I just play singleplayer, going through the same Prequel/Original era maps time and time again. I love playing the clone troopers, they have always been my favourite. My gaming style is a very slow one, and im pretty content with the games I have. Civ V was the newest edition to my collection as I played it as a kid, and so bought it on sale last year (which took A LOT of mental effort). I tried other games like DOOM 2016, but Im not good under pressure and id much prefer following my little routines in games I do play. Which is very much how I go through my life. It doesnt take a whole ton to keep me happy, and im an animal of routine. I sleep and wake up at consistent times mainly because thats just how ive always done it. I dont really like big dramatic stuff or surprises, and I dont really have any meaningful connections to others. Im playing singleplayer in the game of life. But heres my bigger question. I went through a phase in Cyberpunk of dumping all my items, stripping naked and running around killing all the bad criminals with my sword, cutting them apart afterwards, taking pictures of them, before stealing their car and driving to the next gang spot. How does this translate into real life?
Well done dude. You're spot on. And remember to remind yourself you are in the good old days.. you are not as fat, skinny, ugly as you think you are. One day you will look back on yourself and be proud of who you were, and who you turned out to be. Keep it pushing
The irony that I get this recommended and I'm playing cyberpunk and I too have heard the quote from my old sales manager, this also makes me feel like that in a way, you are raised right as you want to be happy, thank you *edit* 39k in a few days? Looks like the algorithms are getting better. Hope our content creator doesn't think 39k = a free ticket out of his content haha, all the best.
Also currently replaying Cyberpunk for the first time in years (not because I hated it at launch or anything, I actually loved the game at launch despite it's issues, but because my Desktop has been broken for ages and I recently brought a really powerful laptop) and got recommended this. I swear, the algorithm knows things.
I relate to this as well, and it's awesome that cyberpunk helped you realize this. The best parts of Cyberpunk are when V just sits back and talks to their friends. Sitting around the fire with the Nomads, comforting Judy on the roof, helping Johnny through an existential crisis at the oil fields. In a game where so much of it is spent in a world of sensory overload, ads and sexuality and gore, it is the quiet moments that bring you down to the present. It is also very easy to run through the game at max speed, hammering every encounter that looks like a nail. But the game becomes so much more rewarding when you lean into the builds and rp aspects of being a merc. At the end of the day not *everything* in Night City wants you dead, so it can be nice to just walk around and enjoy the dark future. Look up whenever you're walking down a sidewalk in game and it'll probably be a pretty cool view.
Yes! The quiet moments and the kinda tragic characters make this game so special to me. Also I spent hours just flying (with jetpack mod) on roofs and balconies, sucking in the all the different views and angles of Night City. Finding weird or abandoned places. Looking under bridges. Checking out the borders of the map. Finding places in between skyscrapers that were not meant to be found by the player. Changing sunset time to nighttime just to experience the different moods it creates at different places. I still can’t get enough of it.
Seriously every time combat happens in this game I kind of hate it, we should have a firewatch style of game in the cyberpunk universe where its just people talking about their lives
The very fact that you're making this video and aware of your patterns and downfalls, shows you won't get stuck in them. (or shouldn't assuming you want to break free of them) Good luck, and great video. P.S. PLLEEASSSEEE see Phantom Liberty through. It's one of the best narratives in the world.
@@MrAliquam In my experience, awareness is the first step in changing patterns that do not serve us. Sometimes it's not enough though and seeking external help is perfectly legitimate.
@@MrAliquam Not always, but it is the start to change. Trust me, I feel you, on shortcomings that you know about but stil can't change. It's a struggle. But being aware DOES help.
@@MrAliquam Correct action = improvement. Awareness of the fault, the need to improve, and understanding how to improve is the catalyst that allows for the action.
You're very much right. I don't like challenges, either in games on irl, i like to play from a safe vantage point, with very little drawbacks. Usually i play creative games or games where i can express my creativity one way or another, especially if they involve a character creator (which i often use as a way to visualize my ideal self which i'm working towards). If i'm playing action games, i always choose the safest combat option, like archery, sniper or, since you mention Cyberpunk, a netrunner). it's something i've been aware of for a long time, that the way i play mirrors the way i live and i sort of had to make myself watch this video because hearing that idea reinforced scares me, cause it makes me realize how safe and sometimes lazy i tend to be. I've been working on it through therapy for a while now, and even though the way i run my life has changed, the way i play hasn't much.
@@anlraider1954 For me, there's an instinctual "fear of failure" that lies beneath it. Even when it's a single player game, even when i can just save and retry it's still there, preventing me from being more courageous. As an example, when i was a kid i used to be afraid of venturing into dungeons for the fear of dying and losing all my items or losing my way and getting stuck in. Over time obviously that went away, but i still struggle with that fear of failure.
@@mygetawayart I get that, like I usually draw the line at something like an extraction shooter, like tarkov, as it fills me with more anxiety than determination, but I look for games that I can easily get lost in or have to persevere to beat something, like in souls games and roguelikes, and because its designed to be a challenge unlike a random player, it feels good to finally overcome.
Set small goals and challenges for yourself. Think of something you're afraid of or find difficult, start with something just a little outside of your comfort zone, and once you achieve it, take it up a notch. Do this little by little, and before you know it, you will be looking back and realize you've faced all of your fears and overcome challenges you previously thought outside of your ability. Level up.
man, this video pretty much sums up my thoughts and the way i've been feeling for the past 3-4 years. games have lost all excitement completely for me and as many others mentioned no new game hits the same as it did before, but also keeping in mind that the gaming industry has changed a lot for the past 10+ years and the same over-hyping and under-delivering became old and most people feel pretty jaded from it, but that aside I couldn't finish a single game, so I went through all the games I started but haven't finished, created a list from it and started beating them one by one, I even stopped buying new games until a beat a single one of those I started. another thing to keep in mind is that our minds are different from 10+ years ago and with all the short form content our dopamine reception is completely cooked and people have lost patience for most entertainment. all in all a great video
This hit close to home because yesterday I was doing another playthrough of Elden Ring and was getting frustrated fighting a boss that was gimmicky knowing three things: the boss was optional, I was doing a “no armor” run, and they dropped nothing of value (runes included). Yet knowing this I kept fighting him until I beat him but got frustrated during the process and this reflects my life to a T. W Video
Trust me after watching this I felt a sense of closeness. I was just like you as a boy curious, eager to learn, In the games I played I same as you talked to every NPC, visited all places explored, captured moments, etc but now under the burden of society. I feel so worthless, burnt out from life itself I feel like I serve no purpose and living a loop, a bad loop. In recent times I have not played a single game and is just watching TH-cam videos. I want to escape this faith live the life I used to live get a chance to be curious again. I and you feel like the same person.
It's heartbreaking really. This feeling that I never do what I "feel" I want to do makes me anxious. I don't appreciate the moment because I always feel that I have no right to, because everything I do feels like it's against me. After being in this state for probably a few years now, I feel like, maybe I don't want to change, maybe, subconsciously, I like this mediocre life. Maybe I want to enjoy the ease of not doing the hard things. But I hate that thought. I always feel like I have to know everything before diving into the water, but I know that I would figure stuff out after I just dove in. I KNOW that I can overcome the hard stuff, but I guess I'm just so desperate about this situation that I'd rather talk about it in a YT Comment section than changing it. Sh*t
This will be saved in my profile and my mind forever as one of my most favorite YT videos. It appeared just right at the time when I needed it too. Thank you.
True. I see all my games out until the end and don’t begin another game until I have completed the one I am currently playing through. My brain would not be able to comprehend starting 5 different games at once and playing them on and off. I have to dedicate myself to one game at a time or two at most. The same is true for the way I watch TV.
I try to be more like that, but sometimes I need a change of pace, like rn I'm playing kingdom come deliverance, replaying hades cos I didn't finish it for hades 2 and animal well, I mainly feel like playing animal well on weekdays after work, because its relaxing and not too taxing. But hades and kingdom come are very addicting for me and I can play for 4 to 6 or even longer hours without any effort, so I leave them until weekend so I can just get into it and have lie ins. can be similar for an anime too, like about halfway through monster, I just had a break and watched all of devilman crybaby in a couple days, because it was short and completely different kinda pace, and then carried on with monster.
@@anlraider1954 So when it comes to TV shows I have to complete one season at a time before I can move over to something else. I’ll normally have a taxing SP game which I will compete (such as TW3) and also have a multiplayer game which I can play alongside it causally with friends. I have been known to complete games I despise also because I am unable to move away from them until they’re finished. That makes me the polar opposite to people such as yourself, haha. I am planning on playing Kingdom Come Deliverance on a Switch Lite in a few months but I’ll probably be dedicated to that game until it’s complete. It might take me 2 months to complete it but I won’t be distracted by other games unless I am playing multiplayer titles.
this video moved me to tears. i see myself in a lot of what you said. i'm quite literally the same: always rushing to the end, not able to finish things... the sentiment of "how you do anything is how you do everything," and starting small are sentiments I'll always carry with me. i'll not soon forget it. thank you for making this.
Wow. I just watched this video and honestly I did not expect it to connect as much as it did with my personality. Ever since I have been a kid I have had an interest in so many different things but I can never keep it consistent enough to finish so I get frustrated and give up and now that I'm 21 i see the repercussions of all of that. When I play games if I can't finish a certain section of a game or can't figure it out I quit. When I was a kid I did that a lot with games on my DS and my 3ds any sort of puzzle or problem I ran into in a game I would just give up and quit because I hated how stressed it made me. Even when I was in 10th grade in 2019 I was taking a culinary arts class and eventually I just got bored and tired of everything in the class and gave up. And even now that I'm still 21 I still struggle with consistency but I am working on it because my psychiatrist says that in order to grow I need to accept uncomfortable situations for what they are and figure out a way to overcome them and I've been keeping her words in my mind and in a way it's helped me out somewhat. Either way after this video I subbed liked and gotta say thank you for making this video it was so well done and so informative and honestly I'm glad that I'm not the only one who struggles with consistency. I hope you have a wonderful day every day and once again thank you for making this video. I'm out.
Few years back I had no direction in life and was addicted to video games, but the thing is is that I was very good at the games I played. Meticulous even. I was able to take that process of how deeply I would perfect something and how fixated I was on how things 'worked' into software development. Taught myself to code, and now I'm an engineer. People don't understand when I say this but for a time when I experienced major growth I had turned work into a game.
How did you become a software engineer? I mean I can teach myself a language and a few frameworks, maybe even do a few projects, but how did you go from doing that to putting together a good resumé, getting interviews and them finally landing a job? Jumping between these two islands is probably the thing I'm gonna struggle with
@@mastershooter64 I found people to work on projects with and one of them referred me. If you're likeable and skilled, actually working on stuff with other devs is a way more productive method to building trust than resume spamming.
Can you explain your approach to the games you played, like how meticulous were you? did you plan everything out and kept track of stuff? I'm just curious cuz i want to apply that to what I do in life.
@@palmsky1119 A good way to explain one example of this is say if you play soulslike games, you could learn the timing of a mob's combos enough to clear the fight but it's also possible to go deeper by mapping out each of the paths you can go down at each situation the game presents to you, noticing the ramifications you create with different 'valid' decisions. For instance it's possible in elden ring to crouch, jump, or even weapon animation your way through mechanics which all have different timing/spacing/stamina/etc ramifications to your standing in that moment. I want to emphasize that a major part was simply that it was a great help to realize my brain isn't broken and that if I'm curious I can learn. There's a lot of complexity in the world to digest if you look for it but I notice that most people are wanting to stop once they have a working solution and unwilling to test alternatives once they believe they have an answer. I've actually been burnt out and lost track of this for awhile! I try to forgive myself and remember it's always a process for everyone. It's in the recent month that I'm reapplying attention to detail by noting the decisions I'm making against circumstances, reassessing alternate solutions to areas that feel like they have explorable depth. Similarly I didn't apply this to all games, just the ones I felt really interested in. If you do one thing well, it is possible to reapply that to other things with some grace, perhaps help along the way from others, and of course grit.
@@Huey-ec1 Thanks for the reply :) I just want to say that I feel like I've only looked at life in one certain way and don't really try to do things differently. To be honest I tend to give up or lose motivation when hitting a wall. So seeing this kinda makes me feel like I haven't been doing my best that I know I can. Why not use my experience and apply that to real world problems, different routes and literally make things fun. I 100% relate when you said that you know you can learn, it just needs to be done in a certain way. Anyway thanks for your reply it actually helped me more than you know. ☺️
Wow. I wasn't ready for the wave of realisation that hit around 4:40 when talking about Skyrim... You almost made a grown man cry. Thank you for the video.
I had the same reaction😭. Used to explore games and learn things around me irl but somewhere along the line i started relying on others to figure something out for me, or finding a youtube video to help me find an in game secret
You have no idea how many games AND shows I’ve started and haven’t finished within the past 3 years. I still have games in my library that I found interesting and got on sale that I haven’t even pressed play on yet. I start new games all the time, but never fully finish EXCEPT for the very few that pull me in. The ones that I do complete I get 100% completion or pretty close to it because of how much I enjoy the game and how much I love the experience, but I never play it and finish it twice for some reason, even if I say it’s my favorite game of all time. I realize now that this is how my life is as I’m reflecting on this video. The games I’ve started and enjoy, but haven’t finished (and most likely never will) are like these minor hobbies I’ve started in life that I do enjoy, but I don’t stick with it because of bigger things. For example, I like messing around with my guitar and ukulele, but never take real time to actually properly learn fingerings or theory, I just know some chords. However with piano, I took lessons for 8-9 years, went through tons of theory, recitals, performances, an exam with college judges, tests, master classes, etc. I’m off of my piano ride as of recent and am now pursuing basketball to see where it takes me. I’ve played for about 3 almost 4 years, but never actually stuck with training until now. I’ve had countless hobbies that I’ve liked, but never put much time into except for piano and basketball. Sadly I’m a Jack of All Trades but a master of none at the moment. Now, those games that are still waiting to be finished are like my minor hobbies. Fencing, guitar, ukulele, baseball, drawing, whatever it is, just waiting to be picked up again, which I normally do, but I still never put much time into them. They’re more like just party tricks at this point or conversation starters. The main games that I’ve finished and got immersed into are like my main hobbies. Piano, singing, and basketball. I put time and effort into them. I try to make sure I’m exploring and figuring out the best way to learn and execute something. Speaking both from game and hobbies perspective. Yet, I never play and complete the same game twice. I think that might be because I already went through that area once before I find it boring, even if I choose a different path since I already got the one I wanted when I went through the first time. I think that could mean that maybe I don’t like having the same moment happen twice? I’m always exploring and searching for something new rather than dwelling on what I could’ve done? I feel like both apply to me, but I also sometimes think about what I could’ve done differently in real life situations. I’m also kinda spontaneous, so I guess that could stem from me spontaneously playing a new game and then stopping soon after. Anyway, I need to freaking finish Omori, Stay, Artful Escape, Elden Ring, Mind Scanners, Alan Wake, Fallout 4, FNAF: Sister Location, Murdered: Soul Suspect, Watch Dogs, Watch Dogs 2, Watch Dogs: Legion, Red Dead Redemption, Assassin’s Creed: Odyssey, Assassin’s Creed: Unity, Far Cry 5, Dear Esther, Kona (so I can play Kona Brume), and probably more games I’ve forgotten about. Not to include the TV shows I still haven’t finished 😭😭😭 Most of those games are fantastic btw I just haven’t finished them and idk why. ALSO WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT BEING AGGRESSIVE IN SHOOTERS IS SO TRUE. I used to play Fortnite and Rainbow Six a lot with my friends and I would always forget to say I was pushing people because I was so focused on getting kills and “being the best”. I do tend to take more risks in life and expect to get the optimal result even when I don’t tell others my plans. Except thankfully that tactic works better in real life 😅
A friend once told me "a master of none is better than a master of one" this really helped me since I'm also a jack of all trades and master of none and thought it is useless to be a master of none. Be proud of having diverse skills instead of only one. In the end it's always better to have a diverse skillset even if it's not leveled up to the fullest :)
I mean, you said yourself, that you are really good at piano! In my opinion you should be happy, that you've been invested to piano, then to basketball as much as you've been! My biggest hobbies right now are reading books, watching movies, listening to music and playing DnD and even though you can't really call that a skill, using Dungeons & Dragons language I would call it my feature. You don't need to be the best nor professional level in everything! You can be invested in one thing you love and still enjoy exploring new hobbies, actually doing some things as amateur is much more fun! It's not about making a living out of for example drawing, if you use most of your energy for basketball. It's about the journey.
Everyone else in Stellaris: **Tries to conquer the whole galaxy from the very beginning.** Me in Stellaris: **Builds unbeatable borders with fortress planets and only starts to participate in wars after building the fleet fully consisting of battleships, titans and juggernaut, perfectly designed to obliterate the crysis.**
This video made me realize that I don't enjoy gaming like I used to (besides the try hards) is because all of it feels like an assignment to reach some goal. I lose interest when things feel like its an assignment or I have to do it.
Similar thoughts crossed my mind while playing strategy games. I was playing Stronghold Crusader and realized how I always invest tons of time into the economy, developing my castle and army, and only start attacking when I know I can win easily. And I do. But it takes way too long to build up and do something, so it's not the most fun way of playing. Then I realized I’m doing the same in life and a lot of joy that I had before was gone because all I do is for the big important future. I’ve mostly been over this issue for a while now, but at that moment, I realized games can reflect what I’m doing in real life and maybe expose a bad pattern. Now that I think of it, maybe realizing this was one of the reasons I started breaking this pattern of always prioritizing future gain over fun in the moment. Congrats on first viral video! Keep it up!
@@kebabas222 I'm glad! I'm usually not too chatty about personal stuff on internet but video was so on point and honest that it made me want to share as well.
This shit hits home. I’ll tend to go real hard at the start and complete incredibly long games. But by the time I’m there at the end, I can’t even begin another one or focus on other games. So I gotta give it time and take a break before I commit to something else with that same intensity.
Just saw your can't decide which game to play video and then found this one, and I literally feel almost exactly the same as you seem to about everything you have talked about in this video and that one. I mean, I have a different taste in games, but I interact with them the same way you describe your experience and it drives me insane. Your videos are great man! Full of just solid observations and advice.
This felt like the essay the teacher wanted us to write what our hobbies were and why we like doing those hobbies. This hit really hard. Going through so much video game montages figuring out what game I should play next on top of all my unfinished games. This helps alot. First step to actual change is awareness.
I cheat in every single player game eventually (never in multiplayer games don’t worry)… IDK why I do it, I just can’t wait to get to the fun op stuff, I just pull up the console or download a mod. And now I completely understand how I approach stuff, I’m impatient (comes with ADHD), I always start things thinking about what ill do at the end, and once I start I try to find shortcuts and it usually hampers my ability and causes me to quit, until I get obsessed with the cool stuff I want to do with said thing again and the cycle repeats… Something something far cry quote… But jokes aside it gets tiring and no matter what I can’t stop myself from just shooting myself in the foot.
@@Maconviking play isn’t just about challenge but sometimes just seeing “what if” I can’t answer why OP does it but that’s certainly why I do it in some games. …Why not see what happens if you took on an entire army while indestructible, able to fly, and with punches that catch enemies on fire? Just to see…
This video genuinely hits so close to home, I think I’m the same way, I get distracted easily, try doing everything and just stopping halfway, feeling empty and guilty for not being able to do certain things and just self hating. It even shows in my comments and sentences, I was gonna talk about something else than I forgot and just went back to edit this in, it’s bad. I never commit and if I do, I burn myself out so quickly, and then I do it again and again, it’s a cycle and I can’t escape it.
And I here I am, usually beating around 80 games every year. I just love playing through a story, and Cyberpunk 2077 is one of my favourite ones. I could never skip a cutscene.
Such a relatable piece of growth advice. Now the trick is to remember it in the moment and slow down. I find myself rushing through the main quest of life all the time. You can really min max the fun out of life by grinding too long and not appreciating the journey. Just like when you min max too hard in a video game and lose the magic, I just becomes a numbers game with no joy, I believe we tend to do that to our own lives. I’m working on enjoying the day to day quests without rushing.
This is not only exactly what i needed right now, its also an amazing example of good storytelling in video form. Hits all the resonances with me for the hero's journey
Damn, This video is amazing, I struggle with finding my niche on TH-cam and Find myself "running out of time" when choosing a game to play. Truly Impactful man, Thank you for this video
This Video really spoke to me so I'm just going to share some thoughts as someone who falls into almost the same MO and who almost had a full blown identity crisis because of it. Long story short the same habit you talked about with finding a thousand hobbies and topics you're interested in but never for longer than a few weeks really made me question whether I will ever find a career path that suits me and that I'll be passionate about for 40ish years. It also comes with the choice paralysis because you realize that choosing one path will forever shut you out of so many other possible paths that could be your passion one day in the future. I always thought that games would be that passion for me but now that I am in a game dev university major I find myself less and less interested in gaming as well and right now I cant imagine myself ever actually working in the gaming industry or in any one industry for my whole working adult life. However what really helped me was the realization that I actually like all of that about me. I love getting lost in the most random topics, thinking about nothing else and learning as much as I can about it even if it doesn't help me make money in any way. Or getting lost in a game of Stellaris and thinking about nothing but my space empire for 16 straight hours on one day and then not touching it for 6 months after that. Who decided that having a structured lifestyle with consistent habits is the only way to have a fulfilled and successful life? Who decided that a specialist, who dedicated his life to one craft is better then a generalist who can connect any topic to a larger context and who can draw new and creative Ideas from so many, completely unrelated sources. So this Chaotic Brain as I always call it can actually be your greatest strength if you actually see it as a strength and not something to be fixed. Habits work great for some people but they aren't for everyone and that's ok. Sure you're never going to study 30 minutes every day to ace your exams but once your hyperfixation actually tackles the topic you're supposed to learn, you are going to devour months of learning material in a few days. Sure I'm never going to have the same level of productivity every day at my job but on some days I just get really into my project at the time and do 5 days worth of work so who cares If I listen to random podcasts for 4 days after that. One person who really made me feel understood was Elizabeth Filips here on TH-cam who talks a lot about handling life with a chaotic brain and finding little tricks to make yourself productive despite everything. Like you can actually increase the likelihood of your hyperfixation jumping on a topic you actually need to learn by surrounding yourself as much as you can with things relating to that topic because we can only be hyperfixated on things that actually make it onto our 'mental feed'. Society is made for people who thrive with structure. Our whole system is created around structure and timetables. Comparing yourself with those structured people will only make you hate yourself. Like a fish who resents not being able to climb a tree like a monkey despite having his own unique and valuable skills a monkey could never even dream of having. So just get to know yourself and get to know what works for you and know you're not alone in this as every other comment here proves!
thank you for this comment, it really spoke to me, choosing a career based on what might be ur interest atm is what i also did and idk if i’ll regret or not, what i know is that i enjoy it right now and if i don’t in the future that will be a future problem. Id have so much more to say but have a great life man
man this comments section has become something insane. thank you all for sharing your story, regardless if you agree or disagree. genuinely love reading every single one.
I just finished watching this video and you commented something 😭
Nice content! Like others I randomly stumbled over your video via youtube algorithm and man your style of editing is exactly the type I enjoy and stay focused on. The Jeff nippard of gaming :D
Stay focused and keep up your good and healthy work. Love it !
Good one! Keep it up!
I am exactly like you in that way i am also a serial starter
And often i am quite talented at things but i never see it through
would have been real funny for the video to just end without it being completed
He's changing
underrated lol
*In Morpheus voice* he's beginning to believe
It should be still be in his editing program if so
@@L3onkingye
props to the youtube algorithm to actually recommending me this
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Scrolled on the home page for fun, TH-cam decided I needed an intervention instead
Oh you too?
Damn yeah….
Same…
Yikes this comment hits me right in the heart
Big same
You’ve made me realize I have been rushing through games, unlike when I was a child. The same goes for my life. I’m very impatient and just try to hurry on to the next thing in my quests tab. Thank you for this.
I identify with this really hard. Im older with a family now, so game time is about how much of the interesting stuff I can get done. I used to grind for hours for resources so when my tribe mates logged into the server on Ark, we could go on an adventure without having to grind silently for our own stuff... now i haven't played a game with them in almost 2 years...
I realized I don't rush through things. It's just it doesn't hold my attention so I start "rushing". I feel like it's more of a lack of interest in the world. It's why I play mostly games with friends because I don't have to enjoy necessarily the world in the game as long as I enjoy the time with my friends.
You actually made me realize something, I have trouble finishing games because I dont want the excitement to end, just how in life im scared of fully committing to expressing myself because im afraid of people disliking me
"im scared of fully committing to expressing myself because im afraid of people disliking me"
Wow I had a small breakthrough reading this. Fitting into the bounds of social norms has always been a difficult for me. Growing up as a weird kid trying really hard to un-weirdify myself has made me a self conscious adult with guards way up and any time it comes down and I have a lapse of impulse control I feel so anxious about it
Always consider that just as many people will like you, as dislike you. Fearing the negative actually ensures that you never get the positive. So, without the positive, have you really avoided the negative you're afraid of? Or are you just blindfolding yourself with it.
as i learn and experience more to life i’ve realized people can dislike you for anything, after awhile it’ll look like their purposely look for that specific reason.
even if you become a people pleaser, go to the gym (not saying you need to), get a partner, get ur dream job, wear clothing other people like etc there will always be those that judge you for things you can’t control like race or religion.
what i’m getting at is you’ll always be capable of loving yourself the way others can’t. be yourself no matter if people like you or not cause if they dislike the real you, their opinion about you doesn’t matter
@@ryucartel351it’s like speaking something bad into existence then wondering why it’s happening
@@JackTowns-mn2ob I understood this for so long but my unconscious brain still can’t realise it really frustrates me I don’t know when it will finally click inside it’s like my brain is programmed to try and make people like me everytime
“serial starter” really resonated with me and I didn’t notice the connection until I watched this video
100% same
Or serial quitter.
Same, there's a lot of hobbies I want to try that I fall out of quickly. I remember really wanting to learn how to flip butterfly knives for like a week, I have never had any sort of interest in knives before or after that.
@@TheGmanreal Same.
same af.
I was talking to my therapist about this exact thing today, how the way I play games mirrors the way I do everything else and that I can't commit to finish things, I don't put a continuous effort in the things I want to do and shit
It's 2:56 am where I live and I can't sleep so I decided to open youtube to watch some random things, but then this video was on my front page. What a coincidence, you have the exact same experience as I do and just today I was talking about this thing.
Thank you for your video and thank you TH-cam algorithm
Oh my god, dude.
It's exactly 2:56 am where I am right now as of writing this comment, and I'm also watching this video randomly because it popped up ln my recommended.
Thank you TH-cam for this even funnier coincidence.
Not a coincidence
2:04 here wandering the internet for another interest
@@TorManiak its 2:48 am and this is showing up now.
if i may, it seems you have a problem with self-discipline... most committal issues are with that, leading to unfished projects and tasks that the sufferer WANTS to finish (note that there is a difference contrasted against tasks that the person does not care to finish).
that is, if a person cannot finish something they do not care about, that is one thing; but a person that cannot finish something they do want to actually finish, is another thing.
now, that outcome can potentially be 'not your fault' (eg. ADHD dysfunctionality of the brain) or it can be 'your fault' (which many people never hear, oddly), it may literally be your lack of willpower and committing to it.
try to exercise your self-discipline towards something small and easy at first, increasing scope and difficulty after that, each time. actually commit though.
if you absolutely cannot finish tasks, it will affect your life negatively (eg. getting fired lots). this can be alleviate with medication. good luck to you, friend.
Not me, man. In video games, I'm the complete polar opposite of what I am in real life. Video game me is a decent, hardworking, ambitious, goal oriented, disciplined, rational, optimistic, calm, organized individual.
you probably are those things, you just undervalue yourself
you have the potential to be the same person. it is inside you, you just don't know it yet
What games taught me about myself:
-I'm not a risk taker.
-If I find something that works for me I'll stick with and not try anything else.
-I find it hard to learn something if there's too many variables involved.
-I get worse at something the more I try my hand at something in one session, and will have to take a break to let my brain process what I already learned.
BUT
-I'm a good learner, provided I'm taught the right way, and I know I'm capable of doing better, I just need to learn how to work with my brain better, and figure out what circumstances I need to reach my potential...
Me actually being interested in what I'm learning also helps tremendously.
The two games that taught me most of these games, Dark Souls 1, and E.Y.E.: Divine Cybermancy.
For me it taught me:
- I’m very cautiously optimistic but can alternate with a bit of cynicism
- I like to enjoy everything I can about a hobby or interest up to the point where I lose enjoyment with it
- I have an issue trusting people unless they have a good fundamental reason for me to, plus knowing them more personally. Their mannerisms, reaction to certain things, how the person treats others in times of prosperity and distress, motivations, etc
I’m a curious individual and like to learn new information regardless of others personal beliefs or opinions on a taboo subject
Like you I can learn new concepts or techniques of doing something, a craft, or specific methodology if I am shown exactly how to along with more advanced tips.
I hate taking compliments because I would much rather give that compliment or piece of credit to someone whose efforts were underhanded/acknowledged.
I am seemingly compassionate but only when it’s in a private environment, sometimes for strangers (depends idk)
That's some really good introspection👍👍
@@maddalenasegato Thanks.
What am I in games:
- Completionist (collect trophies)
- I plan long ahead what I want to complete. Not just completion itself, but also choice of game.
- I set goals for how much i want to complete in a given year.
- I'm not much of a creative type. I play a game mostly the same way, even if it's inconvenient. In that way sandbox types of games is not my style. I prefer the developer keeping the journey tight and scripted.
- I prefer to watch videos of others doing things I don't know how to do, rather than finding out myself.
- I'm very ethical. I do not kill something, unless I'm forced to. And I'm not rude unless I'm offended or dislike the person, so no trolling around.
- I care more about narrative themes than gameplay or graphics for that matter.
- I prefer slower paced games than high speeding games.
- I care about games being authentic, meaning I will for example switch language if the game is not made by an english speaking developer.
You probably changed my life ! Thank You.
i seriously thought this video was a dude with like 100k subs and a million views, props fr bro
This hobby channel has higher production quality (mic, voicing, pp) than a lot of full time YTubers.
same
Haven't you seen the memes of small channels making high quality content? It's the truth.
It kinda makes sense if you listen to his story. Dude is super energetic about a subject, but can't stay in the same lane consistently long enough.
So when he is in creator mode, then it's 200% passion. Also likely had rabbit holes in public speaking / storytelling / film&game analysis and other how Tobe quality creative binge watches just out of momentary pure curiosity. Even if it's random interest, not prep for work, some info is bound to stick. So he has vastly superior foundations than soulless content-mills or limited previous interests/experience honest startup channels.
Surprisingly there's a ton of high quality content out here from smaller accounts. YT is finally showing it and giving newer creators a chance
I stopped playing video games this year. Got into martial arts, going to the gym, running. It's been one hell of a journey changing my entire life and its been for the better. My mental health has never been better, my relationships, outlook on life. And it started by seeing dark souls 1 all the way through. Embracing the sucky aspects. Embracing the trying and failing. Seeing beauty in the chaotic and dark world i immersed myself in.
Strange how our entertainment can shape us. How art truly can move us.
Keep it up bud!
Nice to see fellow gamers embracing real life. Honestly as an aspiring game dev my goal is to make a game that inspires people to start putting in the work to improve their life, or at least touch grass.
hell yeah bro what kinda martial arts are you doing
Not gonna lie playing Elden Ring inspired me to never give up outside of gaming. Just keep going, learning and growing. You’ll end up seeing progress in both games and irl.
goat good shit
Man .. hearing you in this video describing each and every day I live my life is unbelievable. We are always rushing and rushing forgetting to live what we have, thank for the reminder, this is just a great video at a much needed time. How we do anything is how we do everything. Peace.
I lost my happiness and excitement to play games a few years ago, nothing was interesting to me anymore, when new games came out I got it, rushed through it, looked up on yt where to find things, what to do first. I was lead by a string like your video said. It became draining but then I just wanted to explore thing's on my own pace, not care about how fast I can finish a game, get the best gear, items, ect. I just layed back in the evening, played the game however I wanted to without anyone guiding me, at my own comfortable pace and that brought me some joy back and love for gaming. So be yourself, don't listen to others and enjoy the ride
Agreed. So what you've been playing lately?
@@wookim9066 right now I'm playing ghost of Tsushima on PC, very beautiful but also a bit depressing lol dead bodies everywhere 😅
@@risingg3169 I tried that too recently but couldn't bother play more than a hour😅. I mean you play one ps game you've played them all
@@risingg3169 what's your cozy game?
@@wookim9066 I know what you mean by that 🤭 I own a PS2 but from that point on just PC. You can definitely see similarities but sometimes it's nice to just admire the artwork. I do like taking pictures of nature and in video games so having a beautiful looking game is very nice but definitely not the main point. For just relaxing I recently tried fabledom. Nothing serious just building your town while watching TH-cam or twitch at the side or when my friend is free play some Fortnite together or dead by daylight. What about you?
"I finally reached 1000 views" is always a funny statement to hear on a video with a million views. Congrats on the new milestone!
It took me many years to start emulating my game talents into irl talents, it began a question between friends online of just "... what if i just did this IRL instead" in the realm of: leadership, organization, goals, efficiency, grind, cost analysis, time analysis, mechanical skills, complex problem solving, tutorial creation, community management. Honestly if I never mentioned game anywhere it would just sound like it's an organization/work activities already. Great video, excellent reminder
Soo true. Literally last month I’ve come to a realisation that it’s pretty hard for me to learn something new from games. Why not try the same stuff but irl? So I decided to drop games as a test and do whatever I want but irl only (usually I have around 80-100 hours in steam per two weeks). For now it looks like one of the best decisions of my life. I’m 31 btw
I'm not good at any of that. In fact, I have to play every game on easy mode and still don't finish alot.
@@deviansee what do you do after getting home from work now?
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What if you completly suck at games
It's good to hear that someone had the same experience, I had the same epiphany while playing cyberpunk, that I approach things the same way in life as I do in gaming. I have more of a completionist attitude and get overwhelmed with all the stuff you can possibly do cause I want to experience it all. My curiosity is my friend and enemy cause at certain points it's too much to handle, I'm a jack of all trades and a master of none. In real life I keep moving to new places, get different jobs and never stay too long out of boredom or curiosity for something new to discover or learn. It's fun and exciting but sometimes it feels like I lived a whole bunch of different lives and it can feel lonely cause I always feel misunderstood cause the people in every new place only get to know a part of me but never get the whole picture.
As an older gamer, I've found I run into a weird problem - I fall in love with a game, but I know if I finish it, I won't come back to it to finish all the extra side quests, so I investigate side quests and try to delay beating the game entirely.
Except, then what happens is I stop playing the game. I can't even explain why. This happened with Zelda: Tears of the Kingdom. I loved Breath of the Wild, but once I beat it, I didn't go back in to finish the side content. So, with TotK, I've intentionally focused on the side quests.
Now, we're more than a year from the game's launch and I've just stopped playing entirely. I haven't beaten it. I just stopped playing it. I'm still not sure why. 🤷♂
This was a GREAT video - it really made me think about how I game (as well as how I approach other parts of life).
this exact thing happens to me, although funny enough not with Zelda just bc that's my number one.
i hate endings, so i put them off. i avoid and do less serious things than the main quests, then i stop playing and pretend that it doesn't end.
and that is the problem with open world games. I think Elden Ring does this the worst way possible. You aren't constantly following a proper story, it's just you and the massive hostile world where all you do is fighting so once you are done you are really glad about it. At least that's how i felt, took me extremly long time to complete.
I do this as well, but it's also just a bad habit I've always had since I was a kid, I don't want to miss out on content but I get bored when grinding doing the less fun parts so the game starts to feel like a job and as a kid I could power through but as an adult I just stop playing the game as it's now another chore to do.
I'm literally having the same problem with TOTK hahah
I’m glad I’ve finally come across someone with the same problem as me. Not that I have looked very hard but still…I’ve always felt insane trying to explain it to the few friends I have that still play games. I’m completely aware of it by now but it still doesn’t stop me from doing it. “This time will be different” is what I tell myself. And I actually got better for a while until it happened again recently. I started playing through Bloodborne a few years back and actually finished it 100% to then go on and do the same with Dark Souls (1-3), Sekiro, and Elden Ring when it came out. After ER I was also surprisingly able to 100% TotK - never thought that would happen especially with the koroks. But every game after that has been back to the same old routine. It’s beyond crazy for me to understand why. Those games I mentioned are definitely some of my all-time favs but it’s not like other games I play aren’t fun to me. I could understand if I was forcing myself to finish games I had no interest in but that’s for sure not the case. Who knows? Unnecessarily long comment but at least I finished it lmao.
Man, your type of honesty is what I miss about people in general. This was actually thought out. You really reflected and brought it out here. No adds, no prompts from AI or scalped themes off of other people.
Useful considerations, no bs. I want to make it as a writer and I’m itching to do it with the kind of honesty you showed here as a content creator.
Congratulations on the amazing video. Keep it real.
Hey, a fellow writer! What are you writing about? :D
Beautiful comment.
You’ll get there!! One step at a time 😊
@@abdulg4762 thanks!
The thing that makes this problem so much worse for me is whenever I identify it, I get that rush to better myself but just end up giving up and seeping back down into depression. It’s just an endless cycle of inspiration quickly leading to desperation for a success story that never comes because I just lose all momentum and motivation to do anything in my life. The hardest part of life is figuring out how the end of one verse can lead into the next but you gotta do it anyways. Don’t be like me, go out there, get help if you need to, do that thing you wanted to do 3 weeks ago but never had the push to do.
Try to not rush into living a super disciplined life for a few days because you’ll get burnt out immediately. Try to ease into it with smaller habits. Don’t set your alarm for 4 am try setting it to a time your more used to maybe 7 or 8 am. If you do this gradually you won’t get burnt out so easily
Something that helped me was my dad telling me, "The best time to do it was yesterday but the next best time is today." That phrase on repeat has helped me to not beat myself up every time I "make a mistake" or "mess up". I can imagine you may be expecting yourself to be perfect but just know that we are all humans and to human is to error. So do your best to start with small goals and forgive yourself for not being perfect every time. Make sure to congratulate yourself for doing well as well even if it's something small like getting out of bed on time or at all. If you focus on everything you have to do all at once you'll only crush yourself under the weight.
Bro, you don't even look like you're past your 20s, how much did you expect of life (so far, there's a reason rich guys often have grey hair everywhere)? How much do you believe others get out of their life (again, so far)?
you need to know how to use that strong push, to not try and use it all at once, because it's actually not that much energy.
you need to make slow changes, subtle changes. I'm talking set an alarm and go on a walk for any distance, any amount of time, but you have to step off the property. don't start setting big goals, set tiny goals. Texas summers beat me down but I'm half way done with my monthly goal of 10 walks since I hold out until night. I also do all the "ups", sit ups, push ups, pull ups, and believe it or not my neglected homeschooler ass is even reading books sometimes.
change takes time and needs to be gradual, especially for someone like me who has lived the same damn day for over a decade. I know it sucks but just cut yourself some slack, and if it's still hard, turn it into a game. how? Idk lol still figuring that part out
We go thru the exact same things bro to the T, like you just described me maybe we can help each other?
this is the best video i came across on youtube lately.
Im an older gamer who started gaming at a very young age and the part you say we play game the way we live our life is part true. Enjoying games like when we were younger is harder because of our career, hobbies, social life...
Games are much longer, bigger... I work in a office, when i get home my brain is fried which it makes it impossible to focus on a game.
Why i said it's part true, i play only RPG style with a long story and i stick to the game or i alternate between 2-3 games. I use to start alot of them and never finish it until i realize i wasted so much money and time never reaching my goals and that included my life too.
I stopped gaming for a few yrs just to start back last yr but this time i dont put my life on hold and i play games the way i live my life not the other way around.
This video was really touching for me, and I’m sure it was for you too. I’m guessing no one will read this, but I’d like to say it anyways even if it only benefits me. I don’t play video games anymore, but when I did, I would play shooter games. All I could play was multiplayer, and all that brought me excitement was being in the action, flanking the enemy team, and getting massive multi kills with snipers or explosives. I realised part of this translates to my real life. I spent less time with family and taking care of my passions (such as gardening, art, and music), and focused so much on having a good social life and going out all the time. This all or nothing attitude was clear through the way I played games. Instead of being present, enjoying campaigns and small details of the graphics or story, I would fast-forward to the action. In other words, I’m learning to live a more balanced and present life, without rushing and setting huge expectations on the ‘big things’. This video really helped me, I’m even going to tell my therapist about it tomorrow. Thank you 😁
I read it and clicked like and so did 40 other people 😊
The second sentence in combination with the likes brought up something I've heard long time ago:
"the less you expect something, the more likely its gonna happen."
The second sentence in combination with the likes brought up something I've heard long time ago:
"the less you expect something, the more likely its gonna happen."
Bruh quit yapping
@@rispy4875fr yo
i’ve noticed this for people’s driving IRL. the way they drive, the attitudes, habits, abilities, and reactions line up with their general personality
I CAN TELL SOOOO MUCH just observing how people move their carts in a grocery store and how they shop 😭😭🙏🏼
tell me more🤔
keep going @@happyvalentino
@@happyvalentinoyoo do elaborate more, would love to know how u observe
@@possiblyb4tman if i may continue for them (they may never return), if a person 'drives' their cart cautiously, looking at the floor for spills and objects and hazards; that may be one aspect of how they live their life, a methodical, cautious approach to things, prizing safety. if a person 'drives their cart' fast and not looking for hazards, in contrast; that may be one indicator of how they may live parts of their life, or all of it, a speedy, uncaring for safety approach to life, always in a hurry, always seeking their target goal in the distance (and potentially, not enjoying the journey on the way, and missing many small things in life).
there are many interpretations of course, it is not always cut-and-dry (straight-relations) of one observation to their condition, but it can give hints to how they may live their life.
peace to you.
I related to this more than you could know. A serial starter... you have finally given me a term to describe myself lol. You gave me a lot to think about, thank you and happy holidays!
You nailed it too when you talked about how quests in the game start to become a list of things you have to do, like it's work. We don't play video games to work, so when something you love becomes like work, you tend to not enjoy it as much anymore, if at all.
I used to come home from working a shift, just to boot up a game and do work in the game and you're right, it burns you out.
Speak for yourself. There is quite a big group of players who enjoy games like WoW, with their repetitive grinding and lack of suprises exactly because they are like work. It's a routine they can stick to, the excitement is dosed and plannable. Not a lot of mental challenge, just do the same things as yesterday with the same people.
I would respond to that by saying that ANYTHING you have to put effort into is, in some way or another, work. If you're using 'it's work' to mean 'it's something that feels bad to do', I'd say that's a sign that you need to change your relationship with work rather than games.
There seems to be some kind of common fallacy that anything you do in your free time should be easy and effortless, but I don't think that's the case. I think that games directly reward us for how much we engage with them, and that if you've lost motivation to play games it's because you're not finding anything to connect with in them. It might be that the game is trash, but it also might be because you're not bringing yourself to the game.
I'm putting forth this idea: games SHOULD be work, but pleasurable work, self-employed work in which you get to decide how much effort you put into them, for which you pay yourself with fun and growth. When you play a game and you put *maximum effort* into it, that effort alone makes the game worth playing.
When work feels bad, it's often because it shuts you out, makes you feel like you're easily replaceable and anyone could do your job. If you shut *yourself* out from your games by not bringing yourself to them - your enthusiasm, your interest, your creativity, your ambition - then of course you're not going to enjoy them. So bring yourself to them. Engage with your games in the way that only you can.
Exactly!
When I play cyberpunk I do a mission and then load game and try and do it again but better and then load game and try and do it again but better and better until I do without getting hit once in a way that's really cool and fast and uses all my abilities and perks
I actually like quests in games. They're chores, but chores I'm actively choosing to do for a reward rather than chores forced on me to meet goal expectations at the end of the week, not having to worry about somebody else's KPIs
It's a very strange thing, our brains.
We commit to something, and pull all our energy and effort into something we're interested in; and it almost feels like a chore to do it.
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But those moments where we sit back, just relex and dont really have expectations: that's when the joy comes in and thats when we have the most fun with gaming.
I say "we", but I really mean just me. I don’t know if anyone else has the same effect, but it feels like the more I want to enjoy something; the less I actually enjoy it.
Those moments where I'm not really focusing on the plot, or the characters, or the gameplay; but just "being there" and chilling - those are when my best experiences with games happen.
A lot of the people in the comments seem to be similar to you, so I figured I'd toss out my perspective. I'm someone who only really plays one game at a time, one task at a time. I commit hard to things and seek self-improvement above all when it comes to tasks (and games). In life, it's led me to learning great time management skills and to become a really efficient worker. In games, I've become a pretty consistent tournament player for the past few years, even just in smaller community run stuff.
Where for you the downside seems to be overcommitment leading to burnout. For me, anything I don't see worth committing to just doesn't get anywhere near my normal effort, if any at all.
Every set of traits has its ups and downs. Being a good casual gamer might help you enjoy things while relaxing, while being too competitive means you can't have fun without being pushed to your limit. Maybe no expectations is best, maybe expectations are needed. Who knows? Everyone has to find out for themselves.
@@hawklight3739 This is very good insight. Thank you
I’m the exact same way. Is there any advice you have for us both?
Advice on what? @michaeldost8155
hell yeah 100% true for me also..
I have recently felt a disconnected from my younger self. I felt adult life take over and I stopped getting to know my self. This bled into gaming. I started to only grind games, instead of explore. I wanted to complete, instead of learn. After this revelation I have begun to look at pictures of myself from the time I was exploring, learning, being curious, and I feel Im starting to get to know myself again. Shortly after I started enjoying, stopped grinding, started exploring instead of finishing.
Great video with a deep topic.
Dope thing to say
A lot videos in this style try to represent something philosophical. Like their point is to be enchanting and deep without actually being so. You had a line in here about childhood and not worrying about the main quest versus how you see things now. That hit hard, thank you. I'll be pondering on that.
To be honest, i hate endings; knowing i finished something that i loved makes me feel sombre, knowing it's over. Yeah, i could play it again, but i didn't have the chance to relive it for the first time.
I've always wanted to be a writer, and i knew how i would end the first book, and i was scared about it, but i guess a quote from one of my characters sums it up perfectly.
"That's us. We've always loved the journey, the ride. We are on, but we dont want that ride to end. We dont want to see the destination, the final curtain, but we'll have to face it one day, and i dont know if I'll be ready for it."
Damn that's a really good quote
I am the same way kind of. I am not all that interested in games. I see a Gann I think I'll like, I buy it, I play, I don't finish it and I don't mess with it often for a very long time. Some games I only every finish because they are in easy mood and I just want to play the game I don't care about the challenge (Especially because I'm such a casual that I die on easy mode anyway). But anyway I am also a ferm believer in differences in people especially things like learning and achieving goals. Everyone learned different. Like for example I can learn better watching a video then doing it myself or reading. I keep information in my head better that way so I don't really read much because regardless if it's a story or something to better myself. I learn better by watching videos or if it's a book an audio book. Not to mention I'm a bit autistic and dyslexic probably. I have a hard time reading and focusing more on reading then the story or any important information I need to grasp. Same thing with doing things as I learn. I focus too hard on doing that thing that I don't really know what I'm doing in first place. Even when people tell me and I get it done it's no different then giving me a textbook full of things to learn and then putting it in a test. But like for example I want to be a bullfighter. All basic moves and muscle memory I know about didn't come from reading a book or even first hand experience. It came from literally copying from bullfighting video. I have developed the skills needed to be a bullfighter. Now I just need more training. But my gaming, how I watch TV shows, and TH-cam channels. It's all about my interests. Eventually my interests change and I want to do something else. With games and TV shows I know it's OK. But with bullfighting. I've been waiting to be a bullfighter for 11 years now. I might not go to practice or to the gym everyday but I go 4 days a week and still as passionate about this as the day I found it. So I'm not too sure if what he's saying really true. Some people are just different and with different things like ADHD, Autism, etc etc being in meny people. I think it's just like different ways of learning. It's a different thing for everyone. Not a true "If you don't finish this game you're lazy and will never change your life for the better" Type thing. Self growth and success is different for everyone and the process to get there is even more different.
Yeah, I don't like game endings. Plenty of game endings aren't great anyways. I don't play games the way a lot of people do, it's not about "getting to the end" for me like as if it's a movie or TV show or something, it's more about enjoying the journey as much as possible, day-by-day, and/or getting distracted with sidequests and getting more loot and ingame currencies. And in games where I can avoid the main storyline quest, like in open-world games like Fallout or Elder Scrolls, Red Dead Redemption, The Witcher games, I avoid the main story questline for quite a bit of time usually.
Most of the time game endings are the depressing thing you do when you've done everything else you wanted to do. I played through New Vegas again recently and didn't even do the ending, kinda been there done that.
Same! Around my 5th play through of God of War: Ragnarok, once I realized there were no secrets left for me to uncover, I felt a bit sad that it was finally at an end. I almost cried when the DLC announcement dropped.
Hope all of us aspiring writers get the chance to actualize our dreams
Woah, watching this made me realise I have the problem you mentioned but in a weird way. Any game I play, I try to explore the world and talk to every NPC ever, try going through every door in the area, for about like 25 minutes. Then I try to just progress through the story and forget about all the exploring, doing it haphazardly when I do. After a few days, no matter how much I enjoyed the game, I always find it difficult to open my PC and just- launch the game. I can't get myself committed to starting it up again, even if I want to play it. I think to myself that if I start now, I'll just end up playing for the whole day and waste my time. However, I end up just doomscrolling and not achieving anything at the end of the day either.
Doing things haphazardly and being afraid to commit to one game shows in other aspects of my life aswell. Getting the urge to study but not wanting to open the book, knowing that I should text my friends back but not wanting to open their messages.
Thank you for making this video, it made me think about a lot of things. Maybe I should start by opening a game I've been meaning to play for a long time?
are we the same person or what because literally same😭
Real and relatable
I feel you. Commented something similar, but It's probably lost out there already
This is literally me. Yakuza 0, Pokemon, Paper Mario, etc, its all the exact same thing. I think sometimes I forget theres a post-game or theres always more time to come back later, but you can only really experience the story for the first time once.
I want to clear my game backlog so badly, but I just flit from game to game, enjoying everything.
@@Toastiel HAHAH im so happy there are ppl that relate to this 😭😭 we'll get over this i believe in us!!!
Playing through a game like a to-do list just to "finish the story" takes away the appreciation in the moments. Taking in these moments is all that matters. You wouldn't want to rush through life just to "finish the story". So stop living your life like it's a to-do list. Enjoy each quest in this life, even how dull it may seem. appreciate the mundane, going to work/gym/school etc.
This video somehow managed to express the thoughts that have been on my mind recently. Thank you❤
I'm playing Stray right now and I stop and appreciate the beauty of the game so much, that I screenshot and send to my friend. I realize I just want someone to share these beautiful moments with, it's sad to experience them alone all the time. Even tho I really enjoy spending time with myself it's extra lonely in those times.
@@lovekittyforever i totally get what you're saying. Whenever i play games and i see something beautiful (which is wherever i turn if I'm playing rdr2😭) i feel the urge to share it with my friends. Maybe subconsciously to get validation... Idk. Anyway I guess it's in those moments I've recently began to tell myself "I'm gonna enjoy this by myself, and that's fine". Because we spend our whole lives with our own minds. Which means we should get comfortable going solo from time to time, without getting the spotlight effect (feeling that everyone is noticing you in public). As long as one has a balanced lifestyle between sharing moments with others and experiencing them solo.
Yeah like Death Stranding. People call it walking simulator yeah it is but it is more than that and it is more like hiking.
yeah that to-do list mentality takes a lot away ruins the pace experiencing the game.
i start the main questline, the moment i see ten thousand mini quests i go through all of em and then when they're done i continue the main quest
I do the same with the added problem is I'm burnt out by the time I get to the endgame
Social Media does this to us. It's designed to keep our attention span for a few seconds, and then it's on to the next thing. I try to fight against it, and stop the mindless scrolling.
This more people need to realise this and wake up
@@RealNpulsive the irony of you saying this while on TH-cam is baffling 🤦🫵🤡
Nah i have been swapping games since I was a kid, way before social media
I call it google brain. We have outsourced are attention and memory to the internet. I am fighting this, if u ever are having a convo with a friend and are trying to recall a actors name , refrain from googling it, work those brain muscles , it has helped so much in recalling words to peoples names , getting rid of brain fog.
I need to wake up
I recently started an apprenticeship (I live in Germany) and am working full time for the first time in my life. It's crazy how everything speeds up to the unimaginable. Get up, work, come home, sleep. Now do that again.
And my coping was to completely lose myself in it. Rushing things and only trying to aim for results because I was always short on time for everything. I lost the way I usually did things.
What really helped me was playing Stray. Anytime I had a little bit of free time I played as a cute cat wandering around. And I started the game with no real goal at all. I just wanted to enjoy the game. I tried to act like a cat would lmao. Doing whatever I wanted in just that moment. Whatever came to my mind and be it for whatever reason.
Also I wanted to see and enjoy beauty again so I stopped at every nice view and every cozy place. At first I had to force myself because my mind was still racing but once I found something nice, once I gave in to the view and found beauty in a forgotten city or enjoyed a trickling sound in some quiet place, I started noticing so much more, enjoying lots and lots of other things. And before I knew it my mind was flooded with beautiful things I found and was excited to play some more once I got off from work just like when I was a kid and nothing else mattered.
I really enjoyed giving in to that mindset and it helped me remember that there are other ways of doing things in everyday life instead of just aiming for results.
And now, after remembering and reliving other ways of life, it is up to me to change my lifestyle and enjoy more things in life.
Best of luck to everyone, we're all still growing up.
- "Keep your mind wide open"
I enjoyed reading this before bed. Thank you for the uplifting story. I was blown away by how charming and interestingly detailed Stray was too.
Beautiful words. I've been meaning to pick up stray as well
Yeah... Adulthood isn't easy, but you're taking the right steps. Don't let life rush past you; always keep your mind in the present, because if you don't, before you know it, ten years will have flown by. A decade starts to feel like "yesterday" faster than we can imagine.
On a side note, if you liked Stray and its slow burn, "take your time" pace, you should try Death Stranding (Director's Cut). Some, including me, consider it a masterpiece, but you need to be in the right frame of mind for it.
Keep on keeping on, bro.
Viel Glück in deiner Lehre mein Freund!
To me, this is the definition of having epiphanies, miniature enlightenment. You ever notice how monks talk very simply, but the more you ponder, you realize it was something very deep, just guised on the surface as simple? This is how everything in life really is, and I think we can start to have these deeper experiences by, like you explained eloquently, being in the present moment. This is truth my brother and I think it’s really cool you had this realization through video games.
This realization hit me back in high school, when my math teacher took me out for ice cream by the seaside (I won it for solving a tough question :D). She asked me, ‘Would you rather instantly absorb all the benefits of reading a book or take your time and enjoy the experience of reading it?’
For me, the answer was clear I didn't event think for a second, I am always impatient. That’s how I to approach everything in life. But tbh, I don’t know if it’s the right way or not.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve started things and didn’t finish. I have a portfolio of unfinished drawings, a hard drive full of unfinished songs, several unfinished playthroughs of games. I have this desire driven by a burst of motivation and ambition that just ends abruptly. What I do in the games I play now is usually just drive around aimlessly to avoid anything, or to search for something exciting. Sometimes I’m driven, and other times I’m burnt out. But regardless, we just keep driving.
if i may repeat my own comment, it seems you may have a problem with self-discipline... most committal or completionist issues are with that; leading to unfished projects and tasks that the sufferer WANTS to finish (note that there is a difference contrasted against tasks that the person does not care to finish).
that is, if a person cannot finish something they do not care about, that is one thing; but a person that cannot finish something they do want to actually finish, is another thing.
now, that outcome can potentially be 'not your fault' (eg. ADHD dysfunctionality of the brain) or it can be 'your fault' (which many people never hear, oddly), it may literally be your lack of willpower and committing to it.
try to exercise your self-discipline towards something small and easy at first, increasing scope and difficulty after that, each time. actually commit though.
if you absolutely cannot finish tasks, it will affect your life negatively (eg. getting fired lots). this can be alleviated with medication.
if you really do not care if you finish games, songs, projects, et al. then it may just be a nonchalance of personality, or a sense of ennui.
either way, whether you seek help for it or just accept it, good luck to you, friend.
i feel almost the same. as the guy below you mentioned, I think i have a very severe self discipline issue, and i’m gonna try to work on it but slowly trying to complete tasks and working upward from there.
I feel the exact same way. Before I even watched the video I kept seeing the title and what you said is basically verbatim to what I feel
You know what, I like this idea. I'll try to do it, treating everything as a Dark Souls Boss and trying to overcome it through persistence and gradual improvement, after all, I can do it in Dark Souls, so why not in real life.
Key problem is unlike ds life doesnt give you unlimited chance to try because it is hard and annoying
@@berkaysekercioglu3742 fax
@@berkaysekercioglu3742This. Plus there's way harder stuff like Ninja Gaiden lol
I just turned 30 and only now started learning how to be myself, to break free from societal expectations and follow my passion to find out how I want to live my life. I‘ve also started to enjoy games again, to just immerse myself and enjoy the atmosphere instead of rushing and forcing everything. You just reminded me that it‘s no coincidence.
Thank you for this, I‘m really glad I stumbled upon your channel!
Hey! I'm also 30 and you just took the words right out of my mouth with how I'm feeling and this video was randomly recommended to me :)
you're right, ever since i was a kid my parents always emphasised about investing for the "future", but it almost seems that so called future never comes. its too tiring and meaningless to always be so uptight about everything. fuk it
@@Galactus23 That‘s awesome! It‘s great to hear from other people in similar circumstances. Sometimes these recommendations just find you at the right time, it‘s wild.
@@playversetv3877 It‘s insane how from childhood on our social environment hammers in this expectation of always having to perform, to be too scared to defy this pressure and ask what we really want in life.
Hope you‘re doing well, whatever path you choose for yourself!
@@lmnt66 yeh but the good thing is theres always people out there that share the same values and lifestyle
The fact that I got recommended this during my cyberpunk play through and I also struggled with rushing through the story is beyond a coincidence.
Thank you good sir.
"Stop and smell the roses."
In our hectic lives, it's hard to do this. But I'm going to try to do this in my gameplay as well.
I spent most of my time in the Witcher 3 just riding around and picking herbs 😅
ETA: And playing Gwent!
Its not that hard to do. Its just pressure from a toxic hustle culture, which is easily ignored unless you care that much about conforming to society and what other people think. Ive had no problem ignoring that and my mental health is better for it.
Dude just made me realize the biggest lesson in my life. I try to take shortcuts to succeed.
Now it feels like I am not alone anymore.
which I don't think is bad.
Real
@@emperorborgpalpatineIt's not bad until you fail to succeed and have nothing to show for it.
@@SwagbobKushpants yes. success built on shortcuts is bound to crumble. working hard towards success and failing at least leaves you with the skills and discipline you learned along the way which you can use to carry on and try again.
I first noticed this effect when I was playing through the Witcher 3, where I realized there were actually a lot of ways that you could direct Geralt, all of which would be "true to his character." Some decisions worse than others sure, and some decisions more in line with his character sure, but what was more important was the fact that the selected dialogue said more about me than it did about Geralt. I noticed this especially when I was romancing Yeneffer, where I, to avoid spoiling, quite disliked her based on some of her previous actions, and yet I chose to stick around out of some strange obligation, and because I was too timid and complacent to tell her "no." I would have much preferred to be with Triss, but I chose to stick around despite some brewing sense of detestation, and I just sat there and thought about what that would spell for me in a real relationship.
It's not just how we interact with gaming as a medium that reflects "how we do everything," but a lot of the choices we make within the games themselves as well I feel.
I always liked Triss more. I only played Witcher 1 and just started Witcher 2 and i find her more beautiful too.
Holy shit you just blew my mind. Sadly for me i have experienced this exact guideline of behavior in real life and am paying the price. Thank you for your insight.
Serial Starter is a very apt name for the issue. I found for me it was my ADHD (it's not just distraction, but an executive function disorder) coming into play. There's the initial dopamine hit from the "new" game, but once the levels/xp/story/etc. starts becoming familiar, the attraction/enthusiasm/drive starts to wear off and the interest just fizzles out.
This is true. I like games with resource management, grinds, and economies and some creativity. I like structure and min/maxing. This translates in my life to financial gain and management, conscientiousness, detailed-oriented, and some perfectionism, but I lack spontaneity.
My best friend likes tactical fast-paced action games with quick dopamine hits or soap operas with a lot of character interaction like Mass Effect. He is more sociable, in-the-present and thrill-seeking, but lacks structure, planning, and patience. We're a dynamic duo, but rarely want to play the same games.
Great video!
Omg the way you described yourself is exactly me! That’s why my favorite game is Stardew Valley, among other things, it’s like the game was made for me. What are some games do you recommend?
I play all kind of games, never finish them and abandon them. This translate to my lack of purpose and drive in real life 😅
@@frog6054LMAOOOO
@@mel4340 Give Palworld a go if you haven't yet. The game has a lot of charm by itself, but the breeding and base mechanics gives you many goal-oriented objectives. It's quite addicting breeding the strongest Anubis to increase your ore production or finding new Pals to work on your farms and you will definitely enjoy it a lot, the world is also beautiful for explorationand the different variety of Pals keeps it interesting. It's like Pokémon meets Zelda.
If you're into history and military or political tactics, try Crusader Kings 3. It's about building an empire and conquering the world through subterfuge, war, diplomacy, or wealth and managing your empire and its dynasty. It has a steep learning curve, and may take some time to get used to.
Planet Crafter is also pretty good. It's about building up a Martian planet atmosphere and making it survivable and eventually inhabited by small flora and fauna. It's made by a husband and wife duo and recently left early access and they release frequent updates.
Satisfactory and Factorio are also meant to be great games in this niche, but I have yet to play them. A lot of people I know that like Stardew Valley also talk highly of games like Undertale, but I don't know much about that one.
(TH-cam keeps deleting my comments. Apologies if this comment shows multiple times!)
My comments are only showing up when I sign out... This silly website.
YT algorith hits hard
TH-cam saw what I was watching and decided I needed therapy. lol
Yeah
The ADHD serial starter is such a real feeling.
Edit: Man there are some ignorant and insecure people here. I don’t have the time nor the crayon’s to assist your unwrinkled brains in understanding what ADHD is.
And I’m not saying the creator has ADHD but merely sharing a related experience. Ffs.
It's who I am.
I'm at the other adhd end, I know games have the potential to eat weeks of my life while I obsessively push through and platinum them, so I try really hard not to play too many new ones.
It’s not ADHD, its just bad discipline
@@educampsrocks You are kinda wrong. It's an adhd thing. The longer you invest your time in something the more it gets boring. You get less and less Dopamin for doing the same thing over and over again. It's pretty frustrating because you want to play but its just way to draining
@@educampsrocksThis is a harmful misconception. Those with ADHD suffer from Executive Dysfunction, which makes building consistent habits very difficult. Please look up executive dysfunction and take the time to put aside your false misconceptions to learn something, and stop spreading misinformation about neurological conditions through willful ignorance.
Exactly what I needed to hear today. I’ve been struggling to stay consistent with my fitness journey. I always start strong, but then I stop and lose all my progress. I just started again, and watching this while on the treadmill made me realize a lot. Thank you!
its crazy how TH-cam looked into my soul and recommended me the exact thing Ive been wondering about myself, from someone who faces the exact same struggles as me. Good luck on your journey man.
I am so appreciative for all of you watching this video and sharing your thoughts. I read every comment. And yes, I will ask my doctor about potentially having ADHD, haha. Thank you again. 🙏
Lmaoo I was just finna comment something about this, really like the video man good job
While watching, I kept thinking “this is me.” I’ve not been diagnosed with ADHD, but I’m almost certain I have it. Regardless, I think you’re right about the approach, and I’m going to try to hold myself to it as well (try being the keyword lol). Excellent video, and thank you for sharing! That quote is really resonating…
As someone with 33 years of experience in ADHD, let me tell you what I've learned -- it's not going to be elegant, it's not going to be pretty, and it's not going to be glamorous.
If you want to complete something, you're going to need to learn how to smash your face into it until it's complete. This goes for video games, and, well, everything else. The dumbest person that shows up to something is still smarter than the smartest person who doesn't. Consistency is key, but consistent consistency is impossible without doing something you don't want to do. That's just the way it is.
Hope this helps. Also, it's OK to not want to finish things, but when you're struggling with finishing something you really want to finish, I hope you remember this advice.
Real
dont worry adhd has advatange and is another popular clickbait. some whine with it. for me its a superpower.
I'm in a place where I genuinely needed to hear something like this. Appreciate the algorithm for doing something right for a change
I can't tell you how badly I needed to hear this exact message right now. Thank you for sharing your story with the vulnerability and openness that let me see my own life and current trajectory mirrored. There's a lot of wisdom in the curiosity and wonder of youth, and even though it sometimes feels out of reach, I think with small and consistent acts we might find we aren't as far away from that place as we may feel. Thanks for being a guidepost; hoping we can all start enjoying the journey a bit more.
Starting to play games again nowadays, especially older games where they have no microtransactions, every rewards, upgrades come from the game. And then the skill you acquired carry over, it felt really nice
Please share for me what games? I’m also interested and searching something similar to play!!
@@P.CălinFlorin The old halo campaigns have been rlly fun for me lately.
@@P.CălinFlorin far cry 5
@@P.CălinFlorin Probably some Valve games like The Half Life Franchise, Portals games etc
@@P.CălinFlorin the gears 2 campaign was cool to replay after like a decade lol fun mechanics for movement and reloading
This made me realize how i started batman arkam asylum recently and when a difficult level came which is kind of sacry i just stopped playing. I am scared facing my problems and i tend to avoid them until its too late. I used to play alot of pokemon and whenever the game got difficult i just quit or used cheats to finish the game instead of working hard to level up my pokemon and defeat the elite four. So i have to start facing all my problems and issues head on instead of ignoring them and second i need to work hard and not quit when things get hard or try to look for easy way out.
Damm this video was something.
Thankyou man
I haven't spent this long in the comments of a video in a long time. It made me very emotional to see hundreds of people like me in the same video. Since most of what I want to share has been written, I don't see the need to add anything. I just wanted to thank you for creating this awareness for me and so many others.
Your voice and the way you presented your message was quite calming. Thank you for this.
So a tip i can give you man is, just slow down and catch a breath, before you try something new ask yourself “It’s really worth my time? Am i gonna keep doing it? Or is it just a one time thing?”. ‘Cause ik this feeling too well.
Anyway good video and gl :)
Issue is I know I won't whatever it is, at least I "tried" and to quote Dr K a bit, tomorrow you is new you. Today I wanted to try out the guitar, bought/ordered it and.... it's still in a box 2 years later. I was so convinced I will at least try it, nope took too long for it to arrive, assuming that was the problem. The Me who wants to play it, no idea when he pops up again, if ever.
Very good input, I use a similar approach when it comes to making purchases, big or small. Asking myself: Do I really need it/ is there an application. Will I be using it in a year from now. Does it make me happy.
@@CrazyKraut20 and answer is yes and the item proceeds to stay in closet for years. Great investment.
@@gamerdweebentertainment1616 If it appreciates in value then yes :P
@@gamerdweebentertainment1616 sometimes the initial struggle seems like a hundred meters long mountain, but it's just a slight steep.
I hardly cry at all, and I don't know if I have ever watched a TH-cam video and really cried from it- aside from this one.
Between the realization of how much we have all changed since we were kids and how your experience of hopping from one thing to the next mirrored mine, you were able to get to me- to pierce right through whatever excuse of a shell I have for an ego and speak straight to me instead of the mask that I pretend to be.
The main point is an incredibly worthwhile thing to reflect on, as is trying to think back to how I played games when I was younger- and just back to how I was as a kid in general.
Thank you so much for sharing this with the world. I really appreciate all of the time, effort and thought you put into making this. It is amazing and so are you.
that line bro "How you do anything is how you do everything"
Really explains everything in ones life
You really make me pause and think its really true
Thank you sir you deserve more respect
serial starter is the term i was looking for to describe myself. also how thinking about doing things sounds so fun until you try and start doing them and it just isn't fun anymore. that's why i can't find a real creative hobby or a passion. i get burned out before i even start, i can't get myself to stick to the process, i want results immediately. this comment is just me venting and finally deciding to speak about how i feel, sorry for that, but that video hit just the right spot
bro you opened my mind, i am too competitive in videogames, and always trying to be the best of the game in the shortest time, but now i started to realize that i do the same in my life, always trying to be the winner, be the best in mentality, in study, in everything, and i will not lie, this took me far, but i dont stay happy with the things that i conquer, but now i will be more grateful for the things that i conquer and start to see fun in small things
thank you
This video made me realize that I'm absolutely self destructive and am also a jack of all trades and a master of none. Life is cruel.
That’s kind of destructive thinking. Far be it from me to tell you how to live your life, but you shouldn’t categorize yourself like that. You’re not set in stone. If there’s something you don’t like about yourself, change it.
@@coolguymcbadass I appreciate that but it is definitely easier said than done.
You know that this saying has a second part?
"Jack of all trades is a master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one"
Depends on what you mean by self-destructive
Jack of all trades, master of none, oftentimes better than a master of one.
A coworker told me I work like if I was in a video game.
- collect objectives
- run to all locations
- complete objectives asap
- "collect xp" and get my next objective
I work in production. Boss says work comes out the plant the days I'm in
Yea but with those achievements irl we dont get a progression bar, so the lack of stimuli turns us with adhd off
@IIIISai It doeeeees! Which is why I barely achieve anything outside of work. The objectives don't feel as clear
@@IIIISaimake the bar in your head
For the past couple years, I have exclusively played Civ V, Ravenfield, NMS, Cyberpunk 2077, Star Wars BF2 (singleplayer only) and Minecraft. I dont deviate from playing these games. I like to chill in games so I spend most of my time in CB driving around Night City. In Civ V I play on Warlord mode bc I just like building a cool kingdom and growing my economy. In Ravenfield, I give my team the coolest tanks and stuff and the enemy team the rubbish stuff. In minecraft, I have a routine of harvesting my crops, building something for a while, then farming again. In NMS, I go between my freighter and my base worlds to harvest fuel and collect resources, then go back to my frigate and send my fleet on a mission. In BF2, I dont pay Xbox for multiplayer so I just play singleplayer, going through the same Prequel/Original era maps time and time again. I love playing the clone troopers, they have always been my favourite.
My gaming style is a very slow one, and im pretty content with the games I have. Civ V was the newest edition to my collection as I played it as a kid, and so bought it on sale last year (which took A LOT of mental effort). I tried other games like DOOM 2016, but Im not good under pressure and id much prefer following my little routines in games I do play. Which is very much how I go through my life. It doesnt take a whole ton to keep me happy, and im an animal of routine. I sleep and wake up at consistent times mainly because thats just how ive always done it. I dont really like big dramatic stuff or surprises, and I dont really have any meaningful connections to others. Im playing singleplayer in the game of life.
But heres my bigger question. I went through a phase in Cyberpunk of dumping all my items, stripping naked and running around killing all the bad criminals with my sword, cutting them apart afterwards, taking pictures of them, before stealing their car and driving to the next gang spot. How does this translate into real life?
Well done dude. You're spot on. And remember to remind yourself you are in the good old days.. you are not as fat, skinny, ugly as you think you are. One day you will look back on yourself and be proud of who you were, and who you turned out to be. Keep it pushing
Beautiful comment
So true 💜
The irony that I get this recommended and I'm playing cyberpunk and I too have heard the quote from my old sales manager, this also makes me feel like that in a way, you are raised right as you want to be happy, thank you
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39k in a few days? Looks like the algorithms are getting better. Hope our content creator doesn't think 39k = a free ticket out of his content haha, all the best.
Cyberpunk is so good fr
Also currently replaying Cyberpunk for the first time in years (not because I hated it at launch or anything, I actually loved the game at launch despite it's issues, but because my Desktop has been broken for ages and I recently brought a really powerful laptop) and got recommended this. I swear, the algorithm knows things.
@@Lunam_D._Roger pretty much in the same boat myself wtf
I relate to this as well, and it's awesome that cyberpunk helped you realize this. The best parts of Cyberpunk are when V just sits back and talks to their friends. Sitting around the fire with the Nomads, comforting Judy on the roof, helping Johnny through an existential crisis at the oil fields.
In a game where so much of it is spent in a world of sensory overload, ads and sexuality and gore, it is the quiet moments that bring you down to the present.
It is also very easy to run through the game at max speed, hammering every encounter that looks like a nail. But the game becomes so much more rewarding when you lean into the builds and rp aspects of being a merc.
At the end of the day not *everything* in Night City wants you dead, so it can be nice to just walk around and enjoy the dark future. Look up whenever you're walking down a sidewalk in game and it'll probably be a pretty cool view.
Yes! The quiet moments and the kinda tragic characters make this game so special to me. Also I spent hours just flying (with jetpack mod) on roofs and balconies, sucking in the all the different views and angles of Night City. Finding weird or abandoned places. Looking under bridges. Checking out the borders of the map. Finding places in between skyscrapers that were not meant to be found by the player. Changing sunset time to nighttime just to experience the different moods it creates at different places. I still can’t get enough of it.
Seriously every time combat happens in this game I kind of hate it, we should have a firewatch style of game in the cyberpunk universe where its just people talking about their lives
@@thechugg4372 really? I love the combat. Check out videos by Benjamin Winters to see what combat looks like if you mastered the game.
@@thechugg4372 really? I love the combat. Check out videos by Benjamin Winters to see how combat looks like when you mastered the game.
My TH-cam algorithm has been absolutely crap but this was a pleasant surprise.
The very fact that you're making this video and aware of your patterns and downfalls, shows you won't get stuck in them. (or shouldn't assuming you want to break free of them) Good luck, and great video.
P.S. PLLEEASSSEEE see Phantom Liberty through. It's one of the best narratives in the world.
No. I've been aware of a lot of my shortcomings, but could change almost none of them. Awareness does not equal improvement.
@@MrAliquam exactly, God taught me that today. Awareness can even be bad to improvement.
@@MrAliquam In my experience, awareness is the first step in changing patterns that do not serve us. Sometimes it's not enough though and seeking external help is perfectly legitimate.
@@MrAliquam Not always, but it is the start to change. Trust me, I feel you, on shortcomings that you know about but stil can't change. It's a struggle. But being aware DOES help.
@@MrAliquam Correct action = improvement. Awareness of the fault, the need to improve, and understanding how to improve is the catalyst that allows for the action.
You're very much right. I don't like challenges, either in games on irl, i like to play from a safe vantage point, with very little drawbacks. Usually i play creative games or games where i can express my creativity one way or another, especially if they involve a character creator (which i often use as a way to visualize my ideal self which i'm working towards). If i'm playing action games, i always choose the safest combat option, like archery, sniper or, since you mention Cyberpunk, a netrunner). it's something i've been aware of for a long time, that the way i play mirrors the way i live and i sort of had to make myself watch this video because hearing that idea reinforced scares me, cause it makes me realize how safe and sometimes lazy i tend to be. I've been working on it through therapy for a while now, and even though the way i run my life has changed, the way i play hasn't much.
same
strange, I love challenges in games, but hate challenges in real life. probs because one is fun and one usually isn't.
@@anlraider1954 For me, there's an instinctual "fear of failure" that lies beneath it. Even when it's a single player game, even when i can just save and retry it's still there, preventing me from being more courageous. As an example, when i was a kid i used to be afraid of venturing into dungeons for the fear of dying and losing all my items or losing my way and getting stuck in. Over time obviously that went away, but i still struggle with that fear of failure.
@@mygetawayart I get that, like I usually draw the line at something like an extraction shooter, like tarkov, as it fills me with more anxiety than determination, but I look for games that I can easily get lost in or have to persevere to beat something, like in souls games and roguelikes, and because its designed to be a challenge unlike a random player, it feels good to finally overcome.
Set small goals and challenges for yourself. Think of something you're afraid of or find difficult, start with something just a little outside of your comfort zone, and once you achieve it, take it up a notch. Do this little by little, and before you know it, you will be looking back and realize you've faced all of your fears and overcome challenges you previously thought outside of your ability. Level up.
man, this video pretty much sums up my thoughts and the way i've been feeling for the past 3-4 years. games have lost all excitement completely for me and as many others mentioned no new game hits the same as it did before, but also keeping in mind that the gaming industry has changed a lot for the past 10+ years and the same over-hyping and under-delivering became old and most people feel pretty jaded from it, but that aside I couldn't finish a single game, so I went through all the games I started but haven't finished, created a list from it and started beating them one by one, I even stopped buying new games until a beat a single one of those I started. another thing to keep in mind is that our minds are different from 10+ years ago and with all the short form content our dopamine reception is completely cooked and people have lost patience for most entertainment. all in all a great video
wow! awesome man
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. you perfectly explain what my life is like. Start a project, burn out, start a project, play a new game, put it down, so on.
This hit close to home because yesterday I was doing another playthrough of Elden Ring and was getting frustrated fighting a boss that was gimmicky knowing three things: the boss was optional, I was doing a “no armor” run, and they dropped nothing of value (runes included). Yet knowing this I kept fighting him until I beat him but got frustrated during the process and this reflects my life to a T.
W Video
Trust me after watching this I felt a sense of closeness. I was just like you as a boy curious, eager to learn, In the games I played I same as you talked to every NPC, visited all places explored, captured moments, etc but now under the burden of society. I feel so worthless, burnt out from life itself I feel like I serve no purpose and living a loop, a bad loop. In recent times I have not played a single game and is just watching TH-cam videos. I want to escape this faith live the life I used to live get a chance to be curious again. I and you feel like the same person.
It's heartbreaking really. This feeling that I never do what I "feel" I want to do makes me anxious. I don't appreciate the moment because I always feel that I have no right to, because everything I do feels like it's against me. After being in this state for probably a few years now, I feel like, maybe I don't want to change, maybe, subconsciously, I like this mediocre life. Maybe I want to enjoy the ease of not doing the hard things. But I hate that thought. I always feel like I have to know everything before diving into the water, but I know that I would figure stuff out after I just dove in. I KNOW that I can overcome the hard stuff, but I guess I'm just so desperate about this situation that I'd rather talk about it in a YT Comment section than changing it. Sh*t
another blessing from an uknown guy from youtube just living his life and learning his lessons and giving genuine hope and knowledge... love you
This will be saved in my profile and my mind forever as one of my most favorite YT videos. It appeared just right at the time when I needed it too. Thank you.
True. I see all my games out until the end and don’t begin another game until I have completed the one I am currently playing through. My brain would not be able to comprehend starting 5 different games at once and playing them on and off. I have to dedicate myself to one game at a time or two at most. The same is true for the way I watch TV.
I try to be more like that, but sometimes I need a change of pace, like rn I'm playing kingdom come deliverance, replaying hades cos I didn't finish it for hades 2 and animal well, I mainly feel like playing animal well on weekdays after work, because its relaxing and not too taxing. But hades and kingdom come are very addicting for me and I can play for 4 to 6 or even longer hours without any effort, so I leave them until weekend so I can just get into it and have lie ins. can be similar for an anime too, like about halfway through monster, I just had a break and watched all of devilman crybaby in a couple days, because it was short and completely different kinda pace, and then carried on with monster.
@@anlraider1954 So when it comes to TV shows I have to complete one season at a time before I can move over to something else. I’ll normally have a taxing SP game which I will compete (such as TW3) and also have a multiplayer game which I can play alongside it causally with friends. I have been known to complete games I despise also because I am unable to move away from them until they’re finished. That makes me the polar opposite to people such as yourself, haha. I am planning on playing Kingdom Come Deliverance on a Switch Lite in a few months but I’ll probably be dedicated to that game until it’s complete. It might take me 2 months to complete it but I won’t be distracted by other games unless I am playing multiplayer titles.
this video moved me to tears. i see myself in a lot of what you said. i'm quite literally the same: always rushing to the end, not able to finish things... the sentiment of "how you do anything is how you do everything," and starting small are sentiments I'll always carry with me. i'll not soon forget it. thank you for making this.
Wow. I just watched this video and honestly I did not expect it to connect as much as it did with my personality.
Ever since I have been a kid I have had an interest in so many different things but I can never keep it consistent enough to finish so I get frustrated and give up and now that I'm 21 i see the repercussions of all of that.
When I play games if I can't finish a certain section of a game or can't figure it out I quit. When I was a kid I did that a lot with games on my DS and my 3ds any sort of puzzle or problem I ran into in a game I would just give up and quit because I hated how stressed it made me.
Even when I was in 10th grade in 2019 I was taking a culinary arts class and eventually I just got bored and tired of everything in the class and gave up.
And even now that I'm still 21 I still struggle with consistency but I am working on it because my psychiatrist says that in order to grow I need to accept uncomfortable situations for what they are and figure out a way to overcome them and I've been keeping her words in my mind and in a way it's helped me out somewhat.
Either way after this video I subbed liked and gotta say thank you for making this video it was so well done and so informative and honestly I'm glad that I'm not the only one who struggles with consistency. I hope you have a wonderful day every day and once again thank you for making this video. I'm out.
Few years back I had no direction in life and was addicted to video games, but the thing is is that I was very good at the games I played. Meticulous even. I was able to take that process of how deeply I would perfect something and how fixated I was on how things 'worked' into software development. Taught myself to code, and now I'm an engineer. People don't understand when I say this but for a time when I experienced major growth I had turned work into a game.
How did you become a software engineer? I mean I can teach myself a language and a few frameworks, maybe even do a few projects, but how did you go from doing that to putting together a good resumé, getting interviews and them finally landing a job? Jumping between these two islands is probably the thing I'm gonna struggle with
@@mastershooter64 I found people to work on projects with and one of them referred me. If you're likeable and skilled, actually working on stuff with other devs is a way more productive method to building trust than resume spamming.
Can you explain your approach to the games you played, like how meticulous were you? did you plan everything out and kept track of stuff? I'm just curious cuz i want to apply that to what I do in life.
@@palmsky1119 A good way to explain one example of this is say if you play soulslike games, you could learn the timing of a mob's combos enough to clear the fight but it's also possible to go deeper by mapping out each of the paths you can go down at each situation the game presents to you, noticing the ramifications you create with different 'valid' decisions. For instance it's possible in elden ring to crouch, jump, or even weapon animation your way through mechanics which all have different timing/spacing/stamina/etc ramifications to your standing in that moment.
I want to emphasize that a major part was simply that it was a great help to realize my brain isn't broken and that if I'm curious I can learn.
There's a lot of complexity in the world to digest if you look for it but I notice that most people are wanting to stop once they have a working solution and unwilling to test alternatives once they believe they have an answer.
I've actually been burnt out and lost track of this for awhile! I try to forgive myself and remember it's always a process for everyone. It's in the recent month that I'm reapplying attention to detail by noting the decisions I'm making against circumstances, reassessing alternate solutions to areas that feel like they have explorable depth. Similarly I didn't apply this to all games, just the ones I felt really interested in. If you do one thing well, it is possible to reapply that to other things with some grace, perhaps help along the way from others, and of course grit.
@@Huey-ec1 Thanks for the reply :)
I just want to say that I feel like I've only looked at life in one certain way and don't really try to do things differently. To be honest I tend to give up or lose motivation when hitting a wall. So seeing this kinda makes me feel like I haven't been doing my best that I know I can. Why not use my experience and apply that to real world problems, different routes and literally make things fun. I 100% relate when you said that you know you can learn, it just needs to be done in a certain way. Anyway thanks for your reply it actually helped me more than you know. ☺️
Wow. I wasn't ready for the wave of realisation that hit around 4:40 when talking about Skyrim... You almost made a grown man cry. Thank you for the video.
I had the same reaction😭. Used to explore games and learn things around me irl but somewhere along the line i started relying on others to figure something out for me, or finding a youtube video to help me find an in game secret
You have no idea how many games AND shows I’ve started and haven’t finished within the past 3 years. I still have games in my library that I found interesting and got on sale that I haven’t even pressed play on yet. I start new games all the time, but never fully finish EXCEPT for the very few that pull me in. The ones that I do complete I get 100% completion or pretty close to it because of how much I enjoy the game and how much I love the experience, but I never play it and finish it twice for some reason, even if I say it’s my favorite game of all time. I realize now that this is how my life is as I’m reflecting on this video. The games I’ve started and enjoy, but haven’t finished (and most likely never will) are like these minor hobbies I’ve started in life that I do enjoy, but I don’t stick with it because of bigger things. For example, I like messing around with my guitar and ukulele, but never take real time to actually properly learn fingerings or theory, I just know some chords. However with piano, I took lessons for 8-9 years, went through tons of theory, recitals, performances, an exam with college judges, tests, master classes, etc. I’m off of my piano ride as of recent and am now pursuing basketball to see where it takes me. I’ve played for about 3 almost 4 years, but never actually stuck with training until now. I’ve had countless hobbies that I’ve liked, but never put much time into except for piano and basketball. Sadly I’m a Jack of All Trades but a master of none at the moment. Now, those games that are still waiting to be finished are like my minor hobbies. Fencing, guitar, ukulele, baseball, drawing, whatever it is, just waiting to be picked up again, which I normally do, but I still never put much time into them. They’re more like just party tricks at this point or conversation starters. The main games that I’ve finished and got immersed into are like my main hobbies. Piano, singing, and basketball. I put time and effort into them. I try to make sure I’m exploring and figuring out the best way to learn and execute something. Speaking both from game and hobbies perspective. Yet, I never play and complete the same game twice. I think that might be because I already went through that area once before I find it boring, even if I choose a different path since I already got the one I wanted when I went through the first time. I think that could mean that maybe I don’t like having the same moment happen twice? I’m always exploring and searching for something new rather than dwelling on what I could’ve done? I feel like both apply to me, but I also sometimes think about what I could’ve done differently in real life situations. I’m also kinda spontaneous, so I guess that could stem from me spontaneously playing a new game and then stopping soon after. Anyway, I need to freaking finish Omori, Stay, Artful Escape, Elden Ring, Mind Scanners, Alan Wake, Fallout 4, FNAF: Sister Location, Murdered: Soul Suspect, Watch Dogs, Watch Dogs 2, Watch Dogs: Legion, Red Dead Redemption, Assassin’s Creed: Odyssey, Assassin’s Creed: Unity, Far Cry 5, Dear Esther, Kona (so I can play Kona Brume), and probably more games I’ve forgotten about. Not to include the TV shows I still haven’t finished 😭😭😭 Most of those games are fantastic btw I just haven’t finished them and idk why.
ALSO WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT BEING AGGRESSIVE IN SHOOTERS IS SO TRUE. I used to play Fortnite and Rainbow Six a lot with my friends and I would always forget to say I was pushing people because I was so focused on getting kills and “being the best”. I do tend to take more risks in life and expect to get the optimal result even when I don’t tell others my plans. Except thankfully that tactic works better in real life 😅
A friend once told me "a master of none is better than a master of one" this really helped me since I'm also a jack of all trades and master of none and thought it is useless to be a master of none. Be proud of having diverse skills instead of only one. In the end it's always better to have a diverse skillset even if it's not leveled up to the fullest :)
I mean, you said yourself, that you are really good at piano! In my opinion you should be happy, that you've been invested to piano, then to basketball as much as you've been! My biggest hobbies right now are reading books, watching movies, listening to music and playing DnD and even though you can't really call that a skill, using Dungeons & Dragons language I would call it my feature. You don't need to be the best nor professional level in everything! You can be invested in one thing you love and still enjoy exploring new hobbies, actually doing some things as amateur is much more fun! It's not about making a living out of for example drawing, if you use most of your energy for basketball. It's about the journey.
May I ask you how old you are?
I read through your whole comment cos it felt like I wrote it. Why are you me?😭
@@nishhx_x yeah I know him, its me.
Everyone else in Stellaris: **Tries to conquer the whole galaxy from the very beginning.**
Me in Stellaris: **Builds unbeatable borders with fortress planets and only starts to participate in wars after building the fleet fully consisting of battleships, titans and juggernaut, perfectly designed to obliterate the crysis.**
This video made me realize that I don't enjoy gaming like I used to (besides the try hards) is because all of it feels like an assignment to reach some goal. I lose interest when things feel like its an assignment or I have to do it.
Similar thoughts crossed my mind while playing strategy games. I was playing Stronghold Crusader and realized how I always invest tons of time into the economy, developing my castle and army, and only start attacking when I know I can win easily. And I do. But it takes way too long to build up and do something, so it's not the most fun way of playing.
Then I realized I’m doing the same in life and a lot of joy that I had before was gone because all I do is for the big important future. I’ve mostly been over this issue for a while now, but at that moment, I realized games can reflect what I’m doing in real life and maybe expose a bad pattern. Now that I think of it, maybe realizing this was one of the reasons I started breaking this pattern of always prioritizing future gain over fun in the moment.
Congrats on first viral video! Keep it up!
That hit the spot in me. Thanks for sharing
@@kebabas222 I'm glad! I'm usually not too chatty about personal stuff on internet but video was so on point and honest that it made me want to share as well.
This shit hits home. I’ll tend to go real hard at the start and complete incredibly long games. But by the time I’m there at the end, I can’t even begin another one or focus on other games. So I gotta give it time and take a break before I commit to something else with that same intensity.
Just saw your can't decide which game to play video and then found this one, and I literally feel almost exactly the same as you seem to about everything you have talked about in this video and that one. I mean, I have a different taste in games, but I interact with them the same way you describe your experience and it drives me insane. Your videos are great man! Full of just solid observations and advice.
This felt like the essay the teacher wanted us to write what our hobbies were and why we like doing those hobbies. This hit really hard. Going through so much video game montages figuring out what game I should play next on top of all my unfinished games.
This helps alot. First step to actual change is awareness.
I cheat in every single player game eventually (never in multiplayer games don’t worry)… IDK why I do it, I just can’t wait to get to the fun op stuff, I just pull up the console or download a mod. And now I completely understand how I approach stuff, I’m impatient (comes with ADHD), I always start things thinking about what ill do at the end, and once I start I try to find shortcuts and it usually hampers my ability and causes me to quit, until I get obsessed with the cool stuff I want to do with said thing again and the cycle repeats… Something something far cry quote… But jokes aside it gets tiring and no matter what I can’t stop myself from just shooting myself in the foot.
You’re not alone 💪🤝🫡
Seems like you have an issue with delayed gratification. It's an issue that holds many of us back.
How do you have any fun at all by cheating. That doesn’t seem rewarding at all
@@Maconviking play isn’t just about challenge but sometimes just seeing “what if”
I can’t answer why OP does it but that’s certainly why I do it in some games.
…Why not see what happens if you took on an entire army while indestructible, able to fly, and with punches that catch enemies on fire? Just to see…
@@Odyssey636 And then there I am looking up console codes to cheat in XP, money, or item… 2 very different sides of a coin.
This video genuinely hits so close to home, I think I’m the same way, I get distracted easily, try doing everything and just stopping halfway, feeling empty and guilty for not being able to do certain things and just self hating.
It even shows in my comments and sentences, I was gonna talk about something else than I forgot and just went back to edit this in, it’s bad.
I never commit and if I do, I burn myself out so quickly, and then I do it again and again, it’s a cycle and I can’t escape it.
Thought about ADHD？
And I here I am, usually beating around 80 games every year. I just love playing through a story, and Cyberpunk 2077 is one of my favourite ones. I could never skip a cutscene.
Such a relatable piece of growth advice. Now the trick is to remember it in the moment and slow down. I find myself rushing through the main quest of life all the time. You can really min max the fun out of life by grinding too long and not appreciating the journey. Just like when you min max too hard in a video game and lose the magic, I just becomes a numbers game with no joy, I believe we tend to do that to our own lives. I’m working on enjoying the day to day quests without rushing.
This is not only exactly what i needed right now, its also an amazing example of good storytelling in video form. Hits all the resonances with me for the hero's journey
Damn, This video is amazing, I struggle with finding my niche on TH-cam and Find myself "running out of time" when choosing a game to play. Truly Impactful man, Thank you for this video
Especially if work are catching up, and you have to choose carefully which game you can play without hindering work-life-hobbies. we’re not alone.
"30 hours in a week is a lot"... i think im a little past that stage. when i switched from xbox to pc i clocked about 287 hours on destiny in 2 weeks
Thank you for reminding me to enjoy life l just genuinely forgot.
This Video really spoke to me so I'm just going to share some thoughts as someone who falls into almost the same MO and who almost had a full blown identity crisis because of it.
Long story short the same habit you talked about with finding a thousand hobbies and topics you're interested in but never for longer than a few weeks really made me question whether I will ever find a career path that suits me and that I'll be passionate about for 40ish years. It also comes with the choice paralysis because you realize that choosing one path will forever shut you out of so many other possible paths that could be your passion one day in the future. I always thought that games would be that passion for me but now that I am in a game dev university major I find myself less and less interested in gaming as well and right now I cant imagine myself ever actually working in the gaming industry or in any one industry for my whole working adult life.
However what really helped me was the realization that I actually like all of that about me. I love getting lost in the most random topics, thinking about nothing else and learning as much as I can about it even if it doesn't help me make money in any way. Or getting lost in a game of Stellaris and thinking about nothing but my space empire for 16 straight hours on one day and then not touching it for 6 months after that. Who decided that having a structured lifestyle with consistent habits is the only way to have a fulfilled and successful life? Who decided that a specialist, who dedicated his life to one craft is better then a generalist who can connect any topic to a larger context and who can draw new and creative Ideas from so many, completely unrelated sources.
So this Chaotic Brain as I always call it can actually be your greatest strength if you actually see it as a strength and not something to be fixed. Habits work great for some people but they aren't for everyone and that's ok. Sure you're never going to study 30 minutes every day to ace your exams but once your hyperfixation actually tackles the topic you're supposed to learn, you are going to devour months of learning material in a few days. Sure I'm never going to have the same level of productivity every day at my job but on some days I just get really into my project at the time and do 5 days worth of work so who cares If I listen to random podcasts for 4 days after that. One person who really made me feel understood was Elizabeth Filips here on TH-cam who talks a lot about handling life with a chaotic brain and finding little tricks to make yourself productive despite everything. Like you can actually increase the likelihood of your hyperfixation jumping on a topic you actually need to learn by surrounding yourself as much as you can with things relating to that topic because we can only be hyperfixated on things that actually make it onto our 'mental feed'.
Society is made for people who thrive with structure. Our whole system is created around structure and timetables. Comparing yourself with those structured people will only make you hate yourself. Like a fish who resents not being able to climb a tree like a monkey despite having his own unique and valuable skills a monkey could never even dream of having. So just get to know yourself and get to know what works for you and know you're not alone in this as every other comment here proves!
thank you for this comment, it really spoke to me, choosing a career based on what might be ur interest atm is what i also did and idk if i’ll regret or not, what i know is that i enjoy it right now and if i don’t in the future that will be a future problem. Id have so much more to say but have a great life man
@@annasouii Nice I'm glad to hear that. I only wish you the best, friend!
Dude. At the moment u have said "as a kid playing Skyrim". I realized that im old and my heart stoped for one Beat 😂 4:26
You are a complete stranger to me and yet our lives mirror eachother almost perfectly.
Thank you for this video. I needed it.