I beg to differ with one of the points that Claire made on acceptance. Yes while there are quirks that you may accept a friendship where your 'energy' is not returned is draining. To use one of the examples mentioned; If your friend goes out to plan amazing birthday celebrations for you the least you can do is return the favour. It may not be on the same scale but even a coffee, a slice of cake, something to commemorate this person you consider dear. Maybe one year you got swamped with work, life etc and all you managed was a phone call. But it can't be every year you do nothing whilst they do everything on yours. The absence of balance eventually becomes the elephant in the room.
I personally do things for my friends and expect totally NOTHING in return. NOTHING!!! All I need from my friends is love, loyalty. They way they choose to show it is up to them. I will throw a friend birthday party after birthday party because I want to and because I feel like I want to celebrate them. And when I do it, I shall NEVER expect the favor to be returned. If I do expect the favor to be returned I will mention it. “Btw Jane, I expect you to match this energy on my birthday”. For example: I didn’t have a baby shower because we were in lockdown. I have communicated to my friends that if I have a second baby, I want a shower. #myopinion
Nah I disagree. A healthy relationship will understand that people are different and will respect these differences. They also won’t expect you to reciprocate.
@@Knowledge2cash this i agree my friends blame me for expecting nothing on my birthday i keep telling them i don't like extravagant parties (am not married and i keep emphasizing i Don't want showers) and i can only do what i can, but no pressure to those friends expecting from me, let people be
If you are an independent adult, financially stable, it's very easy to create boundaries with your toxic family. You love from a distance, support from a distance etc. Meet physically when you choose to etc. The challenge is if you are still living under their roof or depending on them financially 😂 Whatever the case is, walk away from toxicity whenever you can. Do not engage. Don't get into physical fights with your parents or abusive battles. Disagree respectfully and walk away. I have seen people beat up their parents but does it ever solve anything or it just makes you equally toxic 🤔
I feel like people want boundaries but they don't know what boundaries are so they don't know how to ask. Our culture also sees boundaries as kajanja like you said. The fact that doctors feel free to publicly talk about a patients health problems. Eg. the speaker who recently passed away and the oncologist gave details about the deceased health situation and conversations they had in private. I saw that as disrespecting towards the deceased and his family members. And also to patients he is currently treating. No boundaries at all. If he was the US, he would have been sued for breach of confidentiality. Uganda why are we like this?why don't we allow people to be?
Why are we like this indeed? People dislike us who choose to set boundaries and enforce them. 🤦🏾♀️ but we just need to be the change we want to see. ♥️♥️♥️
#releaseyourself This year I released myself from a friend I have known for so many years and considered a sister but realised I run down her priority list and that’s ok even if it hurt a bit. We all met new people that fit into our current life space but it took me a while to let go.
Hi ladies, am watching you from Ireland. You showed up in my TH-cam feed today and I had to ask a friend in Uganda who you are. The first thing that stood out for me is Fiona's expressions and mannerisms (the hand gestures - talking with your hands, the pointy finger, the eyes open wide when drawing emphasis on something...). It was like looking in the mirror and seeing all the things my friends tell me I am, ALL THE TIME! Girl, you embody me, spirit soul and body!💖💖 That said....ladies, I have watched a couple of your "the unpopular opinion" videos now and YOU ARE NAILING IT! I felt like going through the screen and joining you at the table! LOL! 😂😂Thank you for shining a light on these things and for pushing the boundaries.
Thanks ladies for this topic…I have always struggled with communicating what I don’t like for the fear of looking bad but in the end it goes down badly…it’s some think I am practicing and yes a healthy relationship needs a lot of work in communication and being sincere. We all can’t like everything about the other party it’s part of life.
Claire, you were dropping them gems!!!!!!!!!! Love it. I say this a lot too. When you give and do things for a loved one, do it because it makes you happy to do regardless of how the other person receives it, and do it without expectations.
People talk a lot about compromise but I believe there are many layers to it. It should have limits. If you find yourself OVER compromising or being the only one compromising, check that relationship.
OK I won't say anything related to the topic, am having a girl crush on the three of you. I came across this channel won't say by accident I think God wanted this for me I am enjoying all the old episodes thanks for this work ladies 😍😍😍.
Been watching the episodes one after the other so pardon my comments but I would like to hear your thoughts on - what are some/one of the hardest lessons you had to learn that changed you but also showed you something about yourself that you didn't know.
Thank you for the time you put into this. We appreciate 😍, also your transparency shines through. Thank you for that as well. A healthy relationship begins with you and in you. Nothing (friends, family, work, business,...)outside you can actually give you a standard on how to have a healthy relationship. With that being said, I highly believe in personal accountability and cross examination, one's life must have values and standards against which every aspect in their life is judged. We should pay the price of knowing ourselves (as a man thinks in his heart, so is he) and from this you will gauge whether actions from people can be deemed as toxic. A healthy relationship includes compassion, compromise ( in line with your values not outside of them), understanding, ability to adapt and grow, open communication, accountability among others.
Lovely conversation.. So much insight in the importance of healthy relationships because WOW, toxicity can be normal in your relationships and you are breaking for no reason yet you can have the option to have a healthy and thriving relationships.
Your always on point you Guy's I appreciate the great job your doing in us Thou I hv just start following you but I hv pic some points I hv been struggling with
I have loved all of you but there’s something about light skinned lady. May God bless you all. You have all done so well . I wanted to listen to her from the first time I saw her .
Prim those relationships you described that give you insecurities or you're not sure of their loyalty, girl!!!!!!! I hope they are not you're friends anymore. Keep them as acquaintances.
Thanks for your advice but try to be more audible when making your videos.some of us dont use headsets.more so when you host a visitor.but thanks for the good work.
I beg to differ with one of the points that Claire made on acceptance. Yes while there are quirks that you may accept a friendship where your 'energy' is not returned is draining. To use one of the examples mentioned; If your friend goes out to plan amazing birthday celebrations for you the least you can do is return the favour. It may not be on the same scale but even a coffee, a slice of cake, something to commemorate this person you consider dear. Maybe one year you got swamped with work, life etc and all you managed was a phone call. But it can't be every year you do nothing whilst they do everything on yours. The absence of balance eventually becomes the elephant in the room.
I personally do things for my friends and expect totally NOTHING in return. NOTHING!!! All I need from my friends is love, loyalty. They way they choose to show it is up to them. I will throw a friend birthday party after birthday party because I want to and because I feel like I want to celebrate them. And when I do it, I shall NEVER expect the favor to be returned. If I do expect the favor to be returned I will mention it. “Btw Jane, I expect you to match this energy on my birthday”.
For example: I didn’t have a baby shower because we were in lockdown. I have communicated to my friends that if I have a second baby, I want a shower.
#myopinion
Nah I disagree. A healthy relationship will understand that people are different and will respect these differences. They also won’t expect you to reciprocate.
@@Knowledge2cash this i agree my friends blame me for expecting nothing on my birthday i keep telling them i don't like extravagant parties (am not married and i keep emphasizing i Don't want showers) and i can only do what i can, but no pressure to those friends expecting from me, let people be
Can we just admit just how beautiful these African ladies are.Beautiful👌👌
💗 thanks Nyambura. So are you :)
"A healthy relationship is not lack of problems" It's in how we deal with them that makes a difference.
If you are an independent adult, financially stable, it's very easy to create boundaries with your toxic family. You love from a distance, support from a distance etc. Meet physically when you choose to etc. The challenge is if you are still living under their roof or depending on them financially 😂 Whatever the case is, walk away from toxicity whenever you can. Do not engage. Don't get into physical fights with your parents or abusive battles. Disagree respectfully and walk away. I have seen people beat up their parents but does it ever solve anything or it just makes you equally toxic 🤔
I feel like people want boundaries but they don't know what boundaries are so they don't know how to ask. Our culture also sees boundaries as kajanja like you said.
The fact that doctors feel free to publicly talk about a patients health problems. Eg. the speaker who recently passed away and the oncologist gave details about the deceased health situation and conversations they had in private. I saw that as disrespecting towards the deceased and his family members. And also to patients he is currently treating. No boundaries at all. If he was the US, he would have been sued for breach of confidentiality. Uganda why are we like this?why don't we allow people to be?
Preach, sis. Preach
Why are we like this indeed? People dislike us who choose to set boundaries and enforce them. 🤦🏾♀️ but we just need to be the change we want to see. ♥️♥️♥️
#releaseyourself This year I released myself from a friend I have known for so many years and considered a sister but realised I run down her priority list and that’s ok even if it hurt a bit. We all met new people that fit into our current life space but it took me a while to let go.
One of the hardest things to do, letting go never comes easy, but when we finally decide to do it, God shows up for us
This episode real pins me down... Am actually feeling sorry for my relationships... Have always been the toxic one
Hi ladies, am watching you from Ireland. You showed up in my TH-cam feed today and I had to ask a friend in Uganda who you are. The first thing that stood out for me is Fiona's expressions and mannerisms (the hand gestures - talking with your hands, the pointy finger, the eyes open wide when drawing emphasis on something...). It was like looking in the mirror and seeing all the things my friends tell me I am, ALL THE TIME! Girl, you embody me, spirit soul and body!💖💖
That said....ladies, I have watched a couple of your "the unpopular opinion" videos now and YOU ARE NAILING IT! I felt like going through the screen and joining you at the table! LOL! 😂😂Thank you for shining a light on these things and for pushing the boundaries.
Thanks ladies for this topic…I have always struggled with communicating what I don’t like for the fear of looking bad but in the end it goes down badly…it’s some think I am practicing and yes a healthy relationship needs a lot of work in communication and being sincere. We all can’t like everything about the other party it’s part of life.
Woooooow
prim was soo volunarable about her issues with her sister,
love you prime🥰🥰
Prims glow OMG thanks for the episode ladies
Claire, you were dropping them gems!!!!!!!!!! Love it. I say this a lot too. When you give and do things for a loved one, do it because it makes you happy to do regardless of how the other person receives it, and do it without expectations.
People talk a lot about compromise but I believe there are many layers to it. It should have limits. If you find yourself OVER compromising or being the only one compromising, check that relationship.
Support, acceptance of people as they are and welcoming knowledge from friends are key to me in a healthy relationship.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 acceptance is very key!
These conversations are so important. I’m just now realizing that I’ve also been absent in my friendships and not paid as much attention.
We live and learn and keep doing better. It's a lifelong process for us all 💗
Hey ladies, thanks for the chat. I almost skipped this....but I think I needed to hear this. Claire is a while vibe😁
Happy to see young women document such truth 🙌 kudos ladies. Enjoyed this episode. 👌
Thanks Doris 💗
you guys are amazing .......in the episodes you have so far done .......you have helped me grow , mature , grow ,grow ,grow love yyyouu
Learning a lot here thanks ladies 👏
Claire said boundaries and i thought about how her ass has no boundaries on the chair😂.......Keep going ladies🤝👏❤
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 but why
@Beezybody 🤣🤣🤣I'm sorry.
Violence banage .....
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 yo hilarious
😂😂😂
OK I won't say anything related to the topic, am having a girl crush on the three of you. I came across this channel won't say by accident I think God wanted this for me I am enjoying all the old episodes thanks for this work ladies 😍😍😍.
Been watching the episodes one after the other so pardon my comments but I would like to hear your thoughts on - what are some/one of the hardest lessons you had to learn that changed you but also showed you something about yourself that you didn't know.
Thank you for the time you put into this. We appreciate 😍, also your transparency shines through. Thank you for that as well.
A healthy relationship begins with you and in you. Nothing (friends, family, work, business,...)outside you can actually give you a standard on how to have a healthy relationship. With that being said, I highly believe in personal accountability and cross examination, one's life must have values and standards against which every aspect in their life is judged.
We should pay the price of knowing ourselves (as a man thinks in his heart, so is he) and from this you will gauge whether actions from people can be deemed as toxic.
A healthy relationship includes compassion, compromise ( in line with your values not outside of them), understanding, ability to adapt and grow, open communication, accountability among others.
Wow. This is so well put. It definitely starts on a personal level. Introspection so important
@@fionakemi thank you 😍. This is a topic that should have parts. Do more episodes please
Too much wisdom 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I currently live for the close ups😂😂😂 love it
Bannange CNN are you not seeing Fiona Kemi,her voice will do wonders in your newsrooms,studios whatever,I can listen to her the whole day.
AMEN, sis
Jealous is a normal reaction,but it gets bad when it turns to envy and that's how people become witches 😅😅😅
Claire loved that part about checking yourself.............having no expectations .....
Clare looks very beautiful.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Great episode, ladies!!
You don’t have to be mean to be honest…Facts🔥🙏🙏🙏
Wow. How I liked the conversation. Anyways, I think am just going to release myself. Probably I may have been one toxic all through.haha.
Hahhahaha Fiona’s comment of “u guys that’s how iam, byyyyyyeeee”
Great convo ladies!!
Prims comment about insecurity is so much gold
we agree 💗
The way I love Prim,hooo
God knows bashijamwe❣️
Liking the video as the opening song plays ✨
🙃🙃
same here🤣
Lovely conversation.. So much insight in the importance of healthy relationships because WOW, toxicity can be normal in your relationships and you are breaking for no reason yet you can have the option to have a healthy and thriving relationships.
I like the diversity of your persona. All of you and also that there is people out there thinking like Me, us 😘 . This is the future.
Your always on point you Guy's
I appreciate the great job your doing in us
Thou I hv just start following you but I hv pic some points I hv been struggling with
Am absolutely enjoying every episode. Please please allow the download option so we can download and watch later.
Hi Gloria thanks 💗 We have been trying to work on this but no luck yet. Seems to be backend issue. Hopefully we can get it sorted soon
I have loved all of you but there’s something about light skinned lady. May God bless you all. You have all done so well . I wanted to listen to her from the first time I saw her .
Keep doing this girls.. It's very beautiful ❤
Thanks Rita ❤
Awww thank you for appreciating 🙏🏾❤️
Why isn’t there the download option?😭😭😭 wanted to download all the episodes
Sorry babe. We are trying to work on this. We haven't been able to activate it yet.
I'm a kinda a person that expects the list from people due to life experiences, Honestly I don't know if I'm toxic.
I love love this
i just realized that you also have to be these things in the relationship with yourself
True,you can't give what you don't have and you can't receive what you didn't pour out
So true 💗
Me am jhus here to learn more English bcoz it's eeeeeh ateh when it comes to kemi woowwwww and prim claire
Prim those relationships you described that give you insecurities or you're not sure of their loyalty, girl!!!!!!! I hope they are not you're friends anymore. Keep them as acquaintances.
I just love women who are open minded and are communicating what they want.....much love from Kenya 🇰🇪🇰🇪
We love that too 💗karibu. Love to see our audience reach across the border
Damn👏🏾👏🏾
I ve watched twice
Thanks Swafiya 🥰
🤣🤣🤣 love it. I’m glad you enjoyed the episode.
How can I release myself from toxicity?
Just decide not to be anywhere around or near it. Once you sense toxic… walk the other way!
Yes, I have had a boss who tooke me I was too good. And yes, she recommended me for a better Job, that's partly why I am where I am
Beautiful conversation.
🥰❤
@@fionakemi welldone
Thank you babe ❤️
We really appreciate this ….🤝
♥️♥️
We appreciate you too
Kemi your first point is me and my family
Koona, the kadongo💃💃
😄 💃🏾
💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
Prim always speaks my mind
We want to thenk nev
Swahili red time grow to haven
Fiona low-key has a Kenyan accent.
@Fiona Kemi how I subscribe a 100 times ???
❤️😊 wish we had a button for this. Maybe share with a friend?
Thank you for the support
Thanks for your advice but try to be more audible when making your videos.some of us dont use headsets.more so when you host a visitor.but thanks for the good work.
But Claire's bum
I have a face, hair, a nose too.
@@Knowledge2cash I enjoy listening to you guys and I admire your confidence
She spick to go and pray