Marriage advice from someone who just got divorced lol: if your core values and life ideals don't align and you guys cannot talk through that and there is no way to compromise, i.e he wants a kid and you don't because you are afraid of childbirth so you agree to adopt, but if you don't want kids at all then it may be more difficult to navigate that for example. Then the relationship is doomed. A relationship is about constant communication and compromise, it's not about being in love 24/7. You will not be happy all of the time, but once you start feeling that resentment and like your needs aren't being met and you are being held back or vice versa the relationship is heading in a bad direction. Do not let resentment build without discussing. That's my best advice.
Perfect advice! It's why my ex and I ended. I think another important thing is to have time away from eachother so you can continue to learn from eachother and grow together. 💖💖💖
Maybe, communication helped it. Who says she is even going to carry it? With therapy you can get to the root of the issue and changing your mind is a part of that
@@iguessso1790 Right….the problem with what you said is that when a relationship starts off with 1 not wanting kids and the other wanting kids, whatever way you get the the partner to agree with you, will always leaves some feelings of deep resentment. When life gets hard, when children start acting out, and they get in a serious fight, resentment for past events can just pop out. Why is it so hard for people to marry someone who shares the same core values as them?
I've ALWAYS hated the way people just have kids willy-nilly. As someone who had a childhood full of struggle and trauma I implore the people to really think about whether or not you should reproduce/adopt. Kids are not puppies, kids are not clones of you, they are sentient beings who will have complex emotions, desires, and lives where wonderful and terrible things are guaranteed to happen. This cast just REEKS of future resentment filled parents who'll use the "I put a roof over your head, I clothe you, feed you - so obey me without contestation!" to gaslight and hurt their kids. I don't know about you guys but take it from someone who knows, not everyone should be a parent and if you are questioning even a little bit if you should and aren't %100 in it - just don't. These are real human lives, people. Treat them as such.
thanku for reminding me that the feed clothe bit is them essentially saying " i do the bare minimum for u so im literally the law to you" its hard to remmeber when they keep saying it
I completely agree, it makes me so sad that some parents feel like just because they “went through all the trouble” of raising their kid(s) that gives them the right to be abusive and treat them like shit and a burden. That’s a choice they made to be parents, it’s honestly disgusting.
@Christian Schaffer » I get the crux of ur comment, but I’m inclined to commiserate with the psychological subtext expressed by proxy of the worrisome belief that YT videos are a comparable substitute for ‘quality therapy’ (or even 20% there of..)
I think you miss understood Nick when he said “We are all taking responsibility for this baby” …. He was actually referring to the contract they all signed when getting on the show 😮💨 the baby belongs to the network now and will forever host reality shows kinda like a new Ryan Seacrest 🤣🤣🤣
Maybe a “Truman” show type of thing?! 😅 I can hear the commercial already: “You saw this baby’s conception on “The Ultimatum! Now, tune in and watch every second of this baby’s existence! Watch its every experience!” 🤩 🤢 lol
@@okoala62 watch it eat, watch it cry,watch it take a sh t Watch it watch cartoons,get hooked on opioids and dress up and twirk for the cameras. Watch it detest and protest against parents's wishes who wont care cuz they get paid to ruin her life. Yaaaaaaaayyyy (Btw I said IT instead of she on purpouse)
I just will never understand how people RUSH to get married when they have huge issues in their relationship. Do they think everything's going to be magical and all your problems will be fixed ? News flash: you'll wake up next to your new spouse the next morning, and it'll be exactly the same as the day before, but with a license binding you to this person. That'll just turn into an expensive breakup instead of one you could easily walk away from. I've been married for a little less than a year now, but i'm going on 10 years with my partner. We're not perfect and we bicker, but we took our time to get to know each other, then eventually got engaged when we just felt like it lol there's nothing wrong with shorter engagements and what not, but you got to make sure you're ok waking up to your spouse every day for the rest of your life.
I so agree with u I'm the best example of it I've been marriaged 3 times, each lasted up to 5 years 2 of them very abusive in every way 1 good but he ended up cheating, now been with my partner (notice not husband) for over 8 years still happy still full of love. But we don't want to get married but just love each other.
So I'm not married, not really. It's been a long engagement actually. However after 10 years together, we decided we're happy if the ceremony never happens. We're basically married at this point anyway. Basically we saw Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn still carrying on happy as ever and decided that can be us too. We don't need an official label on anything as long as we're happy.
@@izabelasiczek3547 I'm glad you got to where you are now! Just sucks you had to go through those hard relationships first before getting to this point. I always knew I wanted to get married, but my partner and i both were like, "it can wait we got a lot of stuff to do first before we plan something like that." Cause you know how expensive that is. Plus we learned a lot of stuff about each other and learned how to communicate better! Congrats on finding your person!
@@Bl4ckD0g That's awesome!!! Mind me asking is the 10 years how long you've been engaged? Some people just are like that. Put a ring on it, but then that's it. It's intimate that way, i like it! Plus if you ever REALLY wanted to seal the deal, you could just go to the courthouse lol
Kind of in shock that Madison and Colby are together and pregnant…. Also kind of not shocked at all 😤 They are both individually infuriating for their own reasons…. They deserve eachother but that child deserves better 😩
My ex and I (who are still good friends) used to leave our phones out and unlocked all the time. It was so refreshing to have someone I trusted and who trusted me. I'm sad that we're over because we wanted different things from life, but happy we're still friends coz out of the 15 years we've known each other we were only together 1.5 years and it would suck to lose that friendship. These people are weird and toxic. Thankyou Leo for watching 10 hours of it so we didn't have to; and making it entertaining along the way 😂
Personally, given my trauma and the fact that my friends come to me with their own secrets, I could never be THAT trusting but that does sound amazing. And being able to walk away healthily really shows how much you actually care about each other, must be great to have a friendship like that all sadness aside 💕
Hey Sixteen Leo! I'm a newer subscriber and I've been slowly going through all your videos. I've had life long depression and anxiety and your videos have really helped me through this and made me forget about my problems. You make me laugh, and I don't laugh. You are a big reason why I want to try and turn around my life and even try TH-cam ♡ you're the man :)
I sincerely appreciate hearing that so much, and its comments like these that make it all worth it. all the best on your amazing journey, i will see you at the top where you belong
Kids are a deal breaker. If you really want a kid it is really difficult to be with a person who do not want. It is just unfair for the child and your spouse.
You are so right. You can't necessarily stop the feeling of jealousy tapping on your shoulder, but you can definitely choose what to do with that feeling.
@@celinahatton2653 jealousy is a complex emotion. It's like saying you shouldn't be frustrated or upset. Emotions are also illogical, so trying to stop them instead of dealing with how you deal with it isn't going to help you express them properly. You're not bad person for being jealous as long as you acknowledge it and deal with it properly. Is the person actually doing something or are you dealing with past issues you're projecting onto them?
One thing I will say on the kids thing. Yes it's a deal breaker, but sometimes people don't even know why they want kids. They just do, sometimes it's because of societies expectations. My partner did, I did not. We discussed it for a long time. He realised he didn't have a reason, it was just expected. I'm all up for fostering an older child or even adopting an adult later in life and that's where we agreed. Ain't having no babies, and I told him if he starts to resent me for that then we are done too. I won't live that life. He knows what he's getting into.
idk man, I don't need a reason to not want kids, I don't think people should need a reason to want them. We're illogical and have biological drives, some of us just lack it or actively go against them because of external forces and conditions. If someone hassled me for a reason as to why I don't want children I'd be put off. I can't have them anyway, but I'd probably distance myself if they implied I NEEDED a reason to justify it.
@@appalachiabrauchfrau I disagree. I don't think you need a reason for not wanting them, but I think you need reasons for blowing up your entire life. Because that's what kids do, doesn't have to be a bad thing. But nothing will ever be the same again, doing that on a whim or without thought is massively irresponsible imo. Kids should be actively wanted, not just a thing you do just because you feel like you should.
@@appalachiabrauchfrau I think that people feel kids are an accessory to their lives to fulfill some kind of void. I believe that people do not recognize that children are complete and separate beings who now have to navigate life in a world that is often not kind. They may have to navigate life in a household with one or two caregivers that struggle to or do not care to fulfill their needs. Once they are born, they have the weight of society's expectations placed on them and there are many people that wonder why they were even born just to struggle. Having children is not something that should be taken lightly because "I just want to, so there." It's about more than just you. People need to take a step back and think about these things. The ability to have children does not mean that you should or must. That being said, this is not a challenge to you to convince me if why you want to have children. That's not my business. This is just a challenge to you to put deeper thought into your reasons and to think past yourself. Think about your responsibilities to the new human/s that you wish to bring into the world.
Yeah my friend and her husband have been married for years, and dated for years before that. She didn’t want kids, he did. He changed his mind and diced he didn’t want kids either, so they got married. He is now vehemently anti having children. Before he just always assumed he would have them and didn’t really question where that assumption came from, it was just because. Which is damn stupid reason to do something. People don’t bat an eyelash when people change their minds and decide they DO want kids, in fact they mostly assume that anyone who doesn’t want kids will change their minds. Why is the reverse any different? I know people who’ve had kids and have given me grief because I don’t want them, not because kids are great, or fulfilling, or there is pleasure in raising and caring for them, but because “who is going to look after me when I’m old?” Fantastic reason to bring a whole person into the world. To look after YOU.
@@kmhkennedyit's a basic human biological desire to want to procreate. It's natural to go from no-kids to wanting kids. The other way around is okay too, but the reason one direction is considered more weird than the other is obvious
Ah yeah, cause bringing a baby into a heavily fractured and crumbling relationship where the mums friends hate the dad, they dont listen to each others needs and seem unhappy is such a recipe for disaster. I just wow. Cant believe the worst couple got married and have a baby on the way. Zay seems to be one of those people who likes to hear himself talk and be the only one talking in the room. He puts me to sleep. I totally agree with the relationship advice. You have to find out about yourself first and then find someone who matches those ideals (not 100%) but at least on the big stuff cause then the relationship will possibly crumble and both parties will end up miserable and unfufilled.
Though I agree Zay runs from his problems he really was attacked by Ray in the Reunion. My boy has yet to get a coherent thought out and Ray was going off about how he was antagonising and attacking her. It really was an unfair situation for him and I suppose he felt stuck in the situation and needed to escape hence he left. I kinda wish you had spoken about the situation from his POV.
Exactly this. And also the whole fact that for some people, instead of being defensive or responsive, they shut down. I’d honestly struggle to not shut down when I’m being attacked and antagonised and not given a change to even explain myself. I really don’t like Ray on the show. After a while she grew on me but when watching it again, I realised how much of a hypocritical and toxic person she is. And obviously it’s not all her, they’re both toxic but I found in this reunion in particular she kinda came across as playing the victim and not acknowledging her own part in everything which for me also can explain why Zay has a habit of just removing himself from the situation
Agree. I don't like him but on what basis does she have the right to attack him? She was making out and falling in love with Jake, broke up with Zae and got with Jake right after, then dumped Jake to be with Zae again (if there wasn't overlap) but she's angry at him now that he was also getting it on with Shanika? Sure he should've told her but no one here has the moral high ground. I also dislike how everyone overlooked Shanika's hypocrisy. She was getting mad at Randall for doing what the show she took him to is about but then ended up doing the same or worse than what she was grilling him about. She probably told him but still if I was Randall I wouldn't be with her after all of this. And I like Shanika, just that everyone here are hypocrites.
@@7Mushrooms7 LITERALLYYYY I AGREE WITH ALL THIS, plus it pissed me off how she kept yelling over zae too when zae was literally stuttering for his life trying to speak, 😭 like wth??
He can’t really do that when he’s gone on in that lady (can’t remember her name) every time she left the room. Never speaking from her point of view. Personally I have zero problem with people leaving when they need to cool off. It’s very mature. No idea why he thinks otherwise.
I completely agree, I feel like zay ezpecially in Leo's review got basically no dive on his personality, issues, or a fair chance at seeing his side of the story. Shanique too who also had issues but no one called her out on them, not even the review channels XD.
The most mind-boggling part of this show to me is their age and how long they’ve been together. Two years and you’re ready for marriage? I’m 20 and have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year, I cannot imagine marrying him in a year. I cant wait to marry him, but it’s surely not happening two years in, and surely not in our early twenties.
Right? I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 8 years and I’m 22; could not imagine getting married right now. It has to wait until I’m more stable financially and career wise, at least.
I wish they had contestants that had been together for far longer. Cause noone is ready for that after one and a bit years. Move in first before marriage.
Hey, it works for some people. My parents got married within a year of meeting each other, and they've been happily married for 28 years now. They're actually so adorable, they flirt with each other all the time and have the kind of relationship I aspire to have someday. Getting married quickly definitly ain't for everyone, but it works for some people
That's because your boyfriend is probably 20 too. A 20 year old male is not a husband. If you were with 25 year old doing well, you would have a different perception.
her yelling at him while also saying to not raise his voice really bothered me, and it was hard to watch. i don’t blame him for walking off. it’s a lot
@@idkwhybut... I think it implies here. Sense of self importance, grandiose purposes, gaslighting, hypocrisy, lies and manipualtion.. I think she may be caught up in the current cult... checking identity boxes and basing who she is off of that. Kinda sad really.
A kid is not a compromise on Kids vs No Kids. That's not something you can compromise on, it leads to resentment. Kids should be wanted and loved. And people shouldn't be forced into a decision like that.
Leo, I really hope this won't come off as weird or creepy, but I always love watching your videos and hearing your opinions on things. Besides being ridiculously funny you also come across as very sincere and open, which I really appreciate, and you seem to have a lot of the same views on people and relationships as I do. So it's very refreshing to watch you talk about things in a way that I can relate to, because that doesn't happen often anymore.
It’s not about being insecure; it’s about wanting to control others and break boundaries because they feel entitled to them. I’m deeply insecure, but I don’t go through phones.
I feel like everyone is ganging up on him. Its like he doesn't get the chance to say anything without people saying he is attacking them. He has an opinion too he can say his feelings too without everyone saying "he is always picking a fight". Zaid: I said I take full responsibility! Ray: Why are you attacking me? Listen to MY opinions!!! This show did Zaid dirty . He was soft spoken who opened up about his feelings but everyone attacked him. They wanted him to curb his frustration and attitude when they got to cry, scream, lie, etc. At him? I call BS! That white skinny chick who picked a fight at the dinner table was not labeled as badly as people targeted Zaid. She litteraly inserted herself into other peoples business! DAMN.
Yeah that was for sure weird, especially in this episode where Ray is just screaming at him and he's not able to get a word in edgewise and then suddenly she starts screaming at him about not attacking her. It made her look super hysterical and unreasonable. Idk if a lot was cut out in editing, I wouldn't be surprised it stuff was, but what was shown was very weird and gave very weird vibes regarding Ray, especially since she got physically violent with him an episode or two before.
I agree , I knew I couldn’t be the only one that thought zae was not even picking fights with people , literally NO ONE let the man talk , except like shanique . Even Leo is pushing that he picks fights but he really doesn’t . Why does Rae getta speak her mind , and be all dramatic , but zae does what’s best for him in the moment (walking away) but not even that’s good enough . I was frustrated for zae smh , everyone was doing him dirty .
@@maeish9471 I think her response in this episode comes from months of him shutting her down. She hit him because he was physically stopping her from leaving. She told him to leave her alone and he followed her through the apartment and blocked her in. He wasn't listening to her "no" . As someone who has been in that exact position and had to use force to get someone off me, I totally understand her reaction then and in this interview.
This is exactly why I waited to have my baby. I was thirty and we were ready and planned him down to every last detail. I was not a wanted child and it messed me up for a really long time. We wanted to make sure our kid knows his whole life he was wanted, planned, prayed for and been a blessing every single second we've known him.
I think insecurity breeds jealousy; not jealousy breeding insecurity, but maybe that’s just my take on it ? I’m I alone in this timeline? Also, love leo, I just feel it’s the opposite as he says. -another Leo
A lot of people explains away legitimate cheating actions as “jealousy” on the part of the person being cheating on too. I think both jealousy and insecurity are oversimplifications but I get if I’m in the minority with this take
Can’t sleep but not that mad bc I get to binge watch the channel hours on end and omg love it/you 42:00 However, side note: Oddly enough yet as per the usual, now, for me: every time I watch/listen/etc. to your channel!? Ofc, your humor, research, approach, insight, grit, heart and thoughts spun so terrifically into a yt video. You captivate me - BUT esp lately you hit me every time, EVERY video (yet idk why , every single new watch it is always a jump scare to the soul surprise that leaves me with tears and more sound) BOOM A BOMB TO MY HEART/BROKEN SOUL- and each time I feel the tiniest bit more “me” again- Thank you so much.
hey leo, your one of the best youtubers. i was counting down until the next video, i have also been struggling recently with anxiety, depression and other health problems, (probably not as much as you) and watching your videos make me laugh. and i am glad to know you are doing better. great video:)
Rey attacked Zay because she was embarrassed that he came on TV to tell people that they got back together 😂 she was so unnecessarily heated because he told the truth about how she’s just as dysfunctional as he was. “I’m not gonna back down this time” like she didn’t punch him on international television 🙄
I just gotta thank you man I’ve been in a kinda rough patch and honestly those talks you have where you explain relationships really helps me have a deeper understanding of at least seeing a loss in a positive way or like working on just being secure with myself i just wanna say thank you and i really appreciate your content
Feel better soon-I went though that a few months ago. It was hard but needed. Leo’s videos definitely are a great way to help people laugh and feel better for a bit.
I am SO happy I found your channel!! I have not stopped watching every video since. I have been depressed and dealing with tough sh*t but you make me laugh (which might not seem like a big deal unless you are so depressed you don't even go outside for days). Thank you for being amazing!
He has a lot of great videos out. I think I have except for one or two I even send to my daughter who is this with little kids away from their parents cuz the parents are at the front stations but she really enjoys her job
@@rubencabral1838 I really appreciate that💞 !! I have definitely found my favorite channel, great creator and followers. People that take their time to reach out to someone struggling is so awesome!! 🥺🌟
You put so much time/effort into your videos bro & I just wanted to throw you a few $ to say THANK YOU BRO & for you to get that big fat rock in your ear💯Just think...if everyone commenting/watching gave you a few $ you could have a Lambo to go with that BOULDER in your ear😁SERIOUSLY....you rock hard af Sixteenleo!
I also am pretty sure on specifically Too Hot To Handle, staff, editors, and producers had a tremendous issue with the cast constantly breaking the glass type wine glasses, so for the second season and all subsequent reality shows that followed they used the metal “tumbler-style” wine glasses.
18:59 - 19:38 I was literally tearing up. This applies to my situation rn and I needed to hear that. Then of course I ended up laughing through my tears at the last part. 😭 Love you Leo!
I watched the entire train wreck when it was released, super cringy but somehow i couldnt stop watching :D Wanted to see what your take was, and DAMN i laughed so hard at some of your comments, worth it. That's why i love watching your commentaries, you always add a lot more value than the show or clip itself. Thank you Dr Lovedoctorsixteenleo. If it does not rob you of your last sanity, more of this content is appreciated :D
Cool video as usual, I just wanted to add something very important. Olive oil shouldn't be used as lube because oil damages the latex in condoms and it can lead to unwanted pregnancy. Please be careful with contraception.
I was hoping to see someone already post this. The base of the lube needs to be conducive to whatever condom is used. If there's no condom, still bad due to PH imbalances. KY is not much better. This applies to toys as well!!! It can damage them by breaking them down- hence the importance of being mindful of [and transparent about] the lubricant used and type of condom. Plus, some people have sensitive skin or allergies. Consent is sexy, just like good health! :)
Thanks for making this video. I was curious enough to see the outcome, but not curious enough to risk losing brain cells watching it myself. You're a hero,lol. Much love! Edit: I totally wrote that before hearing his comment about getting brain damage and it made it all that much more funny, lol.
Dude I feel bad for Zaye. He listened to Ray go off and then he was shut down when he tried to speak. He wasn’t yelling, just trying to talk. Like damn.
Soo close to 500k!!! Been here since before you got 100k. Love seeing you grow, Leo. You keep doing you. We all love and appreciate you, Leo! You’re the best.
Also I love that Nick 98 degrees’ wife acted like she didn’t know her baby’s gender, then pulled out a pink wrapped gift. Unless they had 3 choices down there 😂
Why the hell did you refer to Vanessa (Minillo) lachey in such a degrading way? What the actual fuck is wrong that you can’t call her by her name, exactly? Because she’s literally more famous than him if you’re going for 98 degrees as your reference.
I mean if you watch the episode she says right after that she actually already knew it was a girl from their social media, I think her asking was more for the cameras and the people at home who don't follow them on social media. Also, her name is Vanessa and "Nick 98 degrees' wife" is a very weird thing to call her when they say her name almost constantly both in the show and in youtube videos like this.
ohhh shit! another sixteenleo banger just dropped. time to roll a couple blunts and get comfy. shout out to our guy for giving us quality videos too. keep em coming bro!!
I enjoy the microcosm of yes-women that Madeline has and exerts dictatorial control over. It's like a tiny Shakespearian play in which the second in command friend is slowly plotting her revenge and will break up the couple and overthrown Maddie in their social circle.
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 25 years and he's never asked to see my phone nor I his and other personal items fall into that category as well like wallets, purses, personal journals, mail, locations etc . It makes me sad to see couples that feel they need to hide things or play detective with each other. If you're doing that there's no trust or communication and the relationship has broken legs.
This. People are allowed to have privacy, even from their partners. You should have trust and open communication, not surreptitious phone searches. If you're in each other's business to that degree, things aren't going to last. It's the underlying insecurity and failures in communication that should be addressed, not their phone contents. Likening it to reading someone else's journal feels very apropos.
I had to shoot over here as soon as I saw the notification. Loved your video on the ultimatum. Thank you for your continued sacrifice. Your memory shall be honored.
Damn, that comment about walking away from your relationships with your exes... love it! It actually really makes sense. All the good or the bad.. it teaches you about yourself. And I think we should consider that before we cry, feel self pity or seek revenge. 😕 thank u for the wise words!! Lol, hope u get ur rock!!
Again, another great video you produced. Great humorous responses to the material, and also the words of perspective and insight that you give which tells me that you are sharing yourself in your work...Great one Sixteenleo!
I literally started laughing when I saw that you posted the Reunion. I can only imagine what I’m about to see lmfao!! Thank you for this real rare great humor that is hard to find 🙏🏼😂😂🙏🏼
I know that looking through someone's phone is not healthy and it's not a good thing to do, but I've done it in the past when I was young. People aren't always going to be honest and they'll gaslight you if you call them out on their behavior. It's not ok and not worth staying in the relationship for sure, but things aren't black and white all the time. In my situation he allowed me access to his phone whenever and I happened to see shit I didn't like. I think it depends on how it's handled. No one wants to be lied to but you shouldn't just be looking for things that aren't there out of nowhere or period. You should ask them! Little different when you stumble upon it though with permission.
I had an ex who kept lying me to me, meeting this girl he used to like, while telling me he was going out with his old friend group. Unfortunately for him, i knew the girl too so i saw their photos together. When i confronted him, he lied. But his phone didnt lie. I gave him a chance. When he was acting weird some time later, i saw his phone and he had pictures of him and another girl in bed. He said he took the photos since i was going to look at the phone and he didnt have the courage to break up with me. He wanted to me to break up with him. This time we broke up. Although he tried to crawl back Its not a good thing to check on phones of course, but i guess my trust levels are fucked now. My fiance has full access to my phone, as i my fiance. We dont constantly check it or anything like that though but the openness really helps
@@havenprice I'm so sorry that happened to you. But I applaud you for being able to get over your trauma and insecurities enough to be able to trust your current partner and I hope you two have a happy life together!
When you are in a committed relationship I honestly expect a two way street when it comes to phone/computer access. In my case we both have each other’s phone passwords. We never had to resort to investigating each other but having the ability to do so is in my opinion a hard line.
Dude it’s ok in some situations. I never had looked through my boyfriends phone and just trusted him but I kept having this strange gut feeling, he kept gaslighting me and telling me I was being crazy. Finally I looked at his phone when he was asleep and saw he had been cheating on me and I never would’ve found out if I hadn’t done that so I have no regrets and I’d do it again if I ever felt like I was in the same situation.
Welcome to the toxic area of the comment section. These are the women you avoid. If you feel you have to go through his phone, leave. You shouldn't take it that far, you clearly didn't trust him, so just walk away. All you're doing by going through his phone is trying to vindicate yourself and tell him "I was right!" 🙄
Dude it’s ok in some situations. I never had looked through my boyfriends phone before and just trusted him but I kept having this strange gut feeling, he kept gaslighting me and telling me I was being crazy. Finally I looked at his phone when he was asleep and saw he had been cheating on me and I never would’ve found out if I hadn’t done that so I have no regrets and I’d do it again if I ever felt like I was in the same situation where I was made to feel crazy for my valid suspicions.
@@scubatuba1083 No that rubs me the wrong way. If he’s gas lighting you and calling you crazy, that’s when you leave. Take away the actual cheating and the gaslighting just the harsh words alone like calling you crazy should never be acceptable. SO NO you SHOULDN’T have looked through his phone because you SHOULD have left when he was calling you crazy in the first place. Respectful Men don’t speak like that towards their woman. If you get to the point where you think you have to creep around them or look through their phone, the relationship is already over babe.
@@allianathomas4668 yeah I disagree, the moral ramifications of looking through someone's phone for cheating is neither good nor bad. Unlike cheating where there is no justification for it. Imo I wouldn't mind if my significant other look through my phone because if I ever thought of cheating, then there is something wrong with the relationship and it needs to end. Also imagine being a cuck and just 100 percent trusting whatever a person says.
I wonder what kind of people actually watch these types of series unironically? Either that, or I wonder when I became such a dad if I’m in my early 20s. Watching you talk about these shows is literally the only way I know anything about some of them.
I also wonder! I'm going to guess (hope*) that people watch these because morbid curiosity. And the rest (the unironically ones) are watching for drama. The people who watches only for drama are actually a community. A significant amount of people.
The unironic appeal to these types of shows literally is the mess of it all. We're not supposed to root for these people, we're supposed to warm ourselves and roast marshmallows on this metaphorical garbage fire
hey! so im fairly new to your channel(i’ve started watching consistently in the past few months or so) i’ve struggle with a lot of mental health issues that i won’t go in depth into, but your videos have really helped me in every way possible. they help me laugh, get motivated, and just relax in general. i know that you had issues with your health(idk if that’s still significant) but i really applaud that you were still consistent in those times. by saying all of that stuff, what i was really trying to say is thank you. as dumb as it sounds your content has saved me in a way .
Bro if someone shouts at you you’re not going to just sit there and take it and this is obviously such an uncommon thing for her to defend her self to him. Like if she’s been with him she probably knows his hyperyelling and deflecting behaviours which why she knows when to cut him off in certain situations.
My husband and I did everything backwards. Got pregnant at 16 and then at age 21 & 22 we had 2 more kids together. When our 3rd child was 1 we finally got married. We had one more child in 2017 but have been taking all the time since to try and focus as much as we could on our relationship. There’s been betrayal, lies and stupidity on both sides. How can there not be when you have so many outside factors stressing out a relationship. We just realized how much it sucked to not be in each other’s lives than to just try to fix our problems. And these problems came quickly after our first child. Between our first kid and our second is when the toughest times were for us. I loved him enough to change my flaws but it was easy. I saw a huge difference in him plus my family noticed. In time tho you shed the jealousy, anger and resentment. A lot of better times were ahead for us and now all that strife is a distant memory & we’re stronger for it.
@@paadoxal oh for sure! I got pregnant the year before that MTV show 16 & pregnant came out. At first I felt jaded cause my life was so much more dramatic than some of the segments they showed lol. In hindsight it was all for the best. Privacy is taken for granted these days.
Yoooo finally I'm early to a video, just a heads up I love the longer format videos, I love listening to these while I game and then rewatching them just for the on screen jokes personally, love your personality and keep up the great work brother! 😎🤘
I hope you never get cheated on Leo, I really do. It's about broken trust more than it is about confidence and it leaves scars. And yes I've been cheated on but no I don't go through my partner's phone.
Dude it’s ok in some situations. I never had looked through my boyfriends phone and just trusted him but I kept having this strange gut feeling, he kept gaslighting me and telling me I was being crazy. Finally I looked at his phone when he was asleep and saw he had been cheating on me and I never would’ve found out if I hadn’t done that so I have no regrets and I’d do it again if I ever felt like I was in the same situation where someone was making me feel like I was crazy for valid suspicion. I probably still would’ve been with him to this day if I didn’t look, he didn’t want me to find out because I was financially supporting him.
@@scubatuba1083 Oh that sucks! I'm glad you looked. It's always difficult to get out of abusive relationships and having that one thing you can point to and say "NO! That's the line!" is weirdly empowering even when it hurts.
Sound like you need to heal, because it’s not fair for your future partner to deal with the consequences of another’s actions. Because maybe that cheater is also brings their baggage from a last relationship. Maybe they were cheated on and wanted to be the cheater for once. That’s why healing and therapy is important.
@@shayla106 I completely agree that healing is important. It's baby steps every day. I'm in a relationship now and we're both very open with who we are and trust is important - which is why I don't look at his phone and he doesn't look at mine even though we both have the codes and COULD. Which is why I made the statement I did to Leo. I have confidence in who I am as a person, but if my current partner cheated on me, I wouldn't just shrug it off and move on. I agree that confidence is key with knowing your self worth, but building a long term relationship with someone needs more than that.
I think Colby and Madelyn made up all the drama. I think they were about to get engaged/married anyway and then heard about the show and agreed to whatever they needed to in order to get air time, including final fling stuff. I’ve always thought some people would do that and they seem like prime candidates. How on Earth do you flip on a dime like that otherwise?
I have never laughed so hard as when he said "Sloppy Toppy" lmao I have never heard that before, but it's about to make it's way into my regular vocab from now on 😂😂😂😂
I really love what you said here 14:10 I have a friend who always goes out of her way to make sure her boyfriend isn't talking to other girls always checks 😭 every 5 minutes where he is and has the password to all of his accounts when asking why she does it she says it's so that he won't get the thoughts to cheat on her it's so frustrating when I try and make her understand that if he wants to he will cheat no matter what she tries and she doesnt listen 💀i have given up now trying to make her understand while her own insecurities will harm this relationship more than other people ever will she says be quiet you've never been in a relationship and starts making fun of me for it 😂 but I'd rather be single than be so insecure 😭
Omg, the Kim Possible sound is my message sound on my phone and I literally thought I was getting messages XD Great videos about the show @sixteenleo :) A lot of interesting takeaways!
Dude, you’re the funniest host ever! 😂🤣 Seriously, you got me in stitches bro Note: I also appreciate how you offer sound advice throughout. You’re a good man Leo
Eye I just wanted to remind everyone back during the vegan gains situation that #sixteenleo had a goal to pass vegan gains. Sixteenleo is at 475,000 subscribers. Vegangains is at 320,000 subscribers. It was funny cause I watched sixteenleo's videos back during the vegan gains fiasco. I just wanted to say good for you. While he is going down you are going up. Way up. Keep on being a hilarious yet truthful TH-camr.
Okay but Rae looked real stupid yelling over Zay, howling at him that he’s attacking her, yelling at him to not raise his voice while he cannot for the life of him get a single word in. Like damn girl, he fucked up yeah but all of that was so trash. You explained yourself very clearly but you still couldn’t let him talk?? Did you just wanna make him feel bad or did you actually want an apology??
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Bro I ran so fast here lol
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Thank you, something to watch during my bath i was sick of scrolling through TH-cam
Marriage advice from someone who just got divorced lol: if your core values and life ideals don't align and you guys cannot talk through that and there is no way to compromise, i.e he wants a kid and you don't because you are afraid of childbirth so you agree to adopt, but if you don't want kids at all then it may be more difficult to navigate that for example. Then the relationship is doomed. A relationship is about constant communication and compromise, it's not about being in love 24/7. You will not be happy all of the time, but once you start feeling that resentment and like your needs aren't being met and you are being held back or vice versa the relationship is heading in a bad direction. Do not let resentment build without discussing. That's my best advice.
That is some great advice. I honestly needed to hear it.
@@al_sprays_paint8669 I'm glad it helps! I wish you happiness and health! 😊
@@Vesperrv Same to you! Best of luck navigating your divorce. The best is yet to come.
Perfect advice! It's why my ex and I ended. I think another important thing is to have time away from eachother so you can continue to learn from eachother and grow together. 💖💖💖
Makes sense to me. If your core values don’t match up, it’s gonna hurt you at some point
What kind of "therapy" did they go to to convince Lauren to have a kid she was pretty adamant about not wanting?
IMAGINARY
the one that has different settings for vibration
Maybe, communication helped it. Who says she is even going to carry it? With therapy you can get to the root of the issue and changing your mind is a part of that
@@iguessso1790 Right….the problem with what you said is that when a relationship starts off with 1 not wanting kids and the other wanting kids, whatever way you get the the partner to agree with you, will always leaves some feelings of deep resentment. When life gets hard, when children start acting out, and they get in a serious fight, resentment for past events can just pop out. Why is it so hard for people to marry someone who shares the same core values as them?
I'm afraid this kid is going to have a terrible childhood.
I've ALWAYS hated the way people just have kids willy-nilly. As someone who had a childhood full of struggle and trauma I implore the people to really think about whether or not you should reproduce/adopt. Kids are not puppies, kids are not clones of you, they are sentient beings who will have complex emotions, desires, and lives where wonderful and terrible things are guaranteed to happen. This cast just REEKS of future resentment filled parents who'll use the "I put a roof over your head, I clothe you, feed you - so obey me without contestation!" to gaslight and hurt their kids. I don't know about you guys but take it from someone who knows, not everyone should be a parent and if you are questioning even a little bit if you should and aren't %100 in it - just don't. These are real human lives, people. Treat them as such.
thanku for reminding me that the feed clothe bit is them essentially saying " i do the bare minimum for u so im literally the law to you"
its hard to remmeber when they keep saying it
Preech! Daughter of a dead best narcissist dad here 🙃
I completely agree, it makes me so sad that some parents feel like just because they “went through all the trouble” of raising their kid(s) that gives them the right to be abusive and treat them like shit and a burden. That’s a choice they made to be parents, it’s honestly disgusting.
As someone who experienced parents gaslighting me, totally agree.
I completely agree with you
i love how you often strike that fine balance of 80% comedy, 20% quality therapy 👌🏻
Literally I love the random bits of therapy and advice, he has no clue how much he's helping me🧡
@Christian Schaffer
» I get the crux of ur comment, but I’m inclined to commiserate with the psychological subtext expressed by proxy of the worrisome belief that YT videos are a comparable substitute for ‘quality therapy’ (or even 20% there of..)
@@ArtOfficialKreations if therapy was accessible and affordable than we wouldn’t have to search for our own versions lols
I agree! Another excellent video 😌
Yeah, he’s funny but also so insightful and intelligent. You can tell he’s a genuinely good guy.
I think you miss understood Nick when he said “We are all taking responsibility for this baby” …. He was actually referring to the contract they all signed when getting on the show 😮💨 the baby belongs to the network now and will forever host reality shows kinda like a new Ryan Seacrest 🤣🤣🤣
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Poor child will be hosting America's Next Top Toddler when they're five years old.
Maybe a “Truman” show type of thing?! 😅 I can hear the commercial already: “You saw this baby’s conception on “The Ultimatum! Now, tune in and watch every second of this baby’s existence! Watch its every experience!” 🤩
🤢 lol
@@okoala62 watch it eat, watch it cry,watch it take a sh t
Watch it watch cartoons,get hooked on opioids and dress up and twirk for the cameras.
Watch it detest and protest against parents's wishes who wont care cuz they get paid to ruin her life.
Yaaaaaaaayyyy
(Btw I said IT instead of she on purpouse)
@@celinahatton2653 child at the rate they’re slapping and smacking anyone on stage by the time he’s grown all awards is gonna be on Zoom 💀💀💀
I just will never understand how people RUSH to get married when they have huge issues in their relationship. Do they think everything's going to be magical and all your problems will be fixed ? News flash: you'll wake up next to your new spouse the next morning, and it'll be exactly the same as the day before, but with a license binding you to this person. That'll just turn into an expensive breakup instead of one you could easily walk away from.
I've been married for a little less than a year now, but i'm going on 10 years with my partner. We're not perfect and we bicker, but we took our time to get to know each other, then eventually got engaged when we just felt like it lol
there's nothing wrong with shorter engagements and what not, but you got to make sure you're ok waking up to your spouse every day for the rest of your life.
I so agree with u I'm the best example of it I've been marriaged 3 times, each lasted up to 5 years 2 of them very abusive in every way 1 good but he ended up cheating, now been with my partner (notice not husband) for over 8 years still happy still full of love. But we don't want to get married but just love each other.
So I'm not married, not really. It's been a long engagement actually. However after 10 years together, we decided we're happy if the ceremony never happens. We're basically married at this point anyway. Basically we saw Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn still carrying on happy as ever and decided that can be us too. We don't need an official label on anything as long as we're happy.
@@izabelasiczek3547 I'm glad you got to where you are now! Just sucks you had to go through those hard relationships first before getting to this point. I always knew I wanted to get married, but my partner and i both were like, "it can wait we got a lot of stuff to do first before we plan something like that." Cause you know how expensive that is. Plus we learned a lot of stuff about each other and learned how to communicate better! Congrats on finding your person!
@@Bl4ckD0g That's awesome!!! Mind me asking is the 10 years how long you've been engaged? Some people just are like that. Put a ring on it, but then that's it. It's intimate that way, i like it! Plus if you ever REALLY wanted to seal the deal, you could just go to the courthouse lol
@@bowechosqualler it's actually been 8 of the 10 years for the engagement.
Kind of in shock that Madison and Colby are together and pregnant…. Also kind of not shocked at all 😤 They are both individually infuriating for their own reasons…. They deserve eachother but that child deserves better 😩
What do you mean they might be great parent's
@@EmperorDxD They actually have another baby on the way
They are the worst couple and trying to fix a miserable and broken relationship by having a kid.
the only reason Madeline and colby stayed together is bc they were comfortable w one another and knew no one else would put up w their attitudes
My ex and I (who are still good friends) used to leave our phones out and unlocked all the time. It was so refreshing to have someone I trusted and who trusted me.
I'm sad that we're over because we wanted different things from life, but happy we're still friends coz out of the 15 years we've known each other we were only together 1.5 years and it would suck to lose that friendship.
These people are weird and toxic.
Thankyou Leo for watching 10 hours of it so we didn't have to; and making it entertaining along the way 😂
Personally, given my trauma and the fact that my friends come to me with their own secrets, I could never be THAT trusting but that does sound amazing. And being able to walk away healthily really shows how much you actually care about each other, must be great to have a friendship like that all sadness aside 💕
When you have nothing to hide, you hide nothing
No matter what relationship problems I experience I always have these idiots on these shows to remind me how it could be so much worse
Hey Sixteen Leo! I'm a newer subscriber and I've been slowly going through all your videos. I've had life long depression and anxiety and your videos have really helped me through this and made me forget about my problems. You make me laugh, and I don't laugh. You are a big reason why I want to try and turn around my life and even try TH-cam ♡ you're the man :)
I sincerely appreciate hearing that so much, and its comments like these that make it all worth it. all the best on your amazing journey, i will see you at the top where you belong
@@sixteenleo see ya at the top!
Nobody asked
His videos always make me laugh in the middle of an otherwise lonely night, this one is no exception!
You’ll be ok💕 stay strong
Kids are a deal breaker. If you really want a kid it is really difficult to be with a person who do not want. It is just unfair for the child and your spouse.
Its also a waste of time for both you and the person who doesnt want kids when you can both find someone who matches the big ideals. Thats important.
It's not really the jealousy, it's how you act on it. You can acknowledge jealousy and reflect on why you feel that way instead of acting out.
You are so right. You can't necessarily stop the feeling of jealousy tapping on your shoulder, but you can definitely choose what to do with that feeling.
@@celinahatton2653 jealousy is a complex emotion. It's like saying you shouldn't be frustrated or upset. Emotions are also illogical, so trying to stop them instead of dealing with how you deal with it isn't going to help you express them properly.
You're not bad person for being jealous as long as you acknowledge it and deal with it properly. Is the person actually doing something or are you dealing with past issues you're projecting onto them?
I got married over the weekend, and we come back to TH-cam just in time for another sixteenleo drop! 🙌🏾🥂🥳 Best week ever!
Hey Congrats! Best wishes for a long and happy marriage. 💘
Congratulations!! 🍾🥂✨I hope you two have a long and happy marriage
Best wishes! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
Congratulations!
It's not Just Taj anymore!! Congratulations!
One thing I will say on the kids thing.
Yes it's a deal breaker, but sometimes people don't even know why they want kids. They just do, sometimes it's because of societies expectations.
My partner did, I did not.
We discussed it for a long time.
He realised he didn't have a reason, it was just expected. I'm all up for fostering an older child or even adopting an adult later in life and that's where we agreed.
Ain't having no babies, and I told him if he starts to resent me for that then we are done too. I won't live that life.
He knows what he's getting into.
idk man, I don't need a reason to not want kids, I don't think people should need a reason to want them. We're illogical and have biological drives, some of us just lack it or actively go against them because of external forces and conditions. If someone hassled me for a reason as to why I don't want children I'd be put off. I can't have them anyway, but I'd probably distance myself if they implied I NEEDED a reason to justify it.
@@appalachiabrauchfrau I disagree. I don't think you need a reason for not wanting them, but I think you need reasons for blowing up your entire life. Because that's what kids do, doesn't have to be a bad thing. But nothing will ever be the same again, doing that on a whim or without thought is massively irresponsible imo.
Kids should be actively wanted, not just a thing you do just because you feel like you should.
@@appalachiabrauchfrau I think that people feel kids are an accessory to their lives to fulfill some kind of void. I believe that people do not recognize that children are complete and separate beings who now have to navigate life in a world that is often not kind. They may have to navigate life in a household with one or two caregivers that struggle to or do not care to fulfill their needs. Once they are born, they have the weight of society's expectations placed on them and there are many people that wonder why they were even born just to struggle.
Having children is not something that should be taken lightly because "I just want to, so there." It's about more than just you. People need to take a step back and think about these things. The ability to have children does not mean that you should or must.
That being said, this is not a challenge to you to convince me if why you want to have children. That's not my business. This is just a challenge to you to put deeper thought into your reasons and to think past yourself. Think about your responsibilities to the new human/s that you wish to bring into the world.
Yeah my friend and her husband have been married for years, and dated for years before that. She didn’t want kids, he did. He changed his mind and diced he didn’t want kids either, so they got married. He is now vehemently anti having children. Before he just always assumed he would have them and didn’t really question where that assumption came from, it was just because. Which is damn stupid reason to do something. People don’t bat an eyelash when people change their minds and decide they DO want kids, in fact they mostly assume that anyone who doesn’t want kids will change their minds. Why is the reverse any different? I know people who’ve had kids and have given me grief because I don’t want them, not because kids are great, or fulfilling, or there is pleasure in raising and caring for them, but because “who is going to look after me when I’m old?”
Fantastic reason to bring a whole person into the world. To look after YOU.
@@kmhkennedyit's a basic human biological desire to want to procreate. It's natural to go from no-kids to wanting kids. The other way around is okay too, but the reason one direction is considered more weird than the other is obvious
Ah yeah, cause bringing a baby into a heavily fractured and crumbling relationship where the mums friends hate the dad, they dont listen to each others needs and seem unhappy is such a recipe for disaster. I just wow. Cant believe the worst couple got married and have a baby on the way.
Zay seems to be one of those people who likes to hear himself talk and be the only one talking in the room. He puts me to sleep.
I totally agree with the relationship advice. You have to find out about yourself first and then find someone who matches those ideals (not 100%) but at least on the big stuff cause then the relationship will possibly crumble and both parties will end up miserable and unfufilled.
Though I agree Zay runs from his problems he really was attacked by Ray in the Reunion. My boy has yet to get a coherent thought out and Ray was going off about how he was antagonising and attacking her. It really was an unfair situation for him and I suppose he felt stuck in the situation and needed to escape hence he left. I kinda wish you had spoken about the situation from his POV.
Exactly this. And also the whole fact that for some people, instead of being defensive or responsive, they shut down. I’d honestly struggle to not shut down when I’m being attacked and antagonised and not given a change to even explain myself. I really don’t like Ray on the show. After a while she grew on me but when watching it again, I realised how much of a hypocritical and toxic person she is. And obviously it’s not all her, they’re both toxic but I found in this reunion in particular she kinda came across as playing the victim and not acknowledging her own part in everything which for me also can explain why Zay has a habit of just removing himself from the situation
Agree. I don't like him but on what basis does she have the right to attack him? She was making out and falling in love with Jake, broke up with Zae and got with Jake right after, then dumped Jake to be with Zae again (if there wasn't overlap) but she's angry at him now that he was also getting it on with Shanika? Sure he should've told her but no one here has the moral high ground. I also dislike how everyone overlooked Shanika's hypocrisy. She was getting mad at Randall for doing what the show she took him to is about but then ended up doing the same or worse than what she was grilling him about. She probably told him but still if I was Randall I wouldn't be with her after all of this. And I like Shanika, just that everyone here are hypocrites.
@@7Mushrooms7 LITERALLYYYY I AGREE WITH ALL THIS, plus it pissed me off how she kept yelling over zae too when zae was literally stuttering for his life trying to speak, 😭 like wth??
He can’t really do that when he’s gone on in that lady (can’t remember her name) every time she left the room. Never speaking from her point of view. Personally I have zero problem with people leaving when they need to cool off. It’s very mature. No idea why he thinks otherwise.
I completely agree, I feel like zay ezpecially in Leo's review got basically no dive on his personality, issues, or a fair chance at seeing his side of the story. Shanique too who also had issues but no one called her out on them, not even the review channels XD.
The most mind-boggling part of this show to me is their age and how long they’ve been together. Two years and you’re ready for marriage? I’m 20 and have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year, I cannot imagine marrying him in a year. I cant wait to marry him, but it’s surely not happening two years in, and surely not in our early twenties.
Right? I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 8 years and I’m 22; could not imagine getting married right now. It has to wait until I’m more stable financially and career wise, at least.
I wish they had contestants that had been together for far longer. Cause noone is ready for that after one and a bit years. Move in first before marriage.
Hey, it works for some people. My parents got married within a year of meeting each other, and they've been happily married for 28 years now. They're actually so adorable, they flirt with each other all the time and have the kind of relationship I aspire to have someday. Getting married quickly definitly ain't for everyone, but it works for some people
That's because your boyfriend is probably 20 too. A 20 year old male is not a husband. If you were with 25 year old doing well, you would have a different perception.
Am I the only one who CANNOT stand Rae? She gives “pick me girl” vibes and everything she says is littered with hypocrisy and narcissism
her yelling at him while also saying to not raise his voice really bothered me, and it was hard to watch. i don’t blame him for walking off. it’s a lot
OMG YES!! I was binge watching the series yesterday, was pretty high and all I could see in her was exactly what you wrote!!!
Lol I don't care for her either but not she's supposedly a "pick me girl". Definitely a hypocrite though.
Throwing the word "narcissist" around like it means nothing.
@@idkwhybut... I think it implies here. Sense of self importance, grandiose purposes, gaslighting, hypocrisy, lies and manipualtion..
I think she may be caught up in the current cult... checking identity boxes and basing who she is off of that. Kinda sad really.
A kid is not a compromise on Kids vs No Kids. That's not something you can compromise on, it leads to resentment. Kids should be wanted and loved. And people shouldn't be forced into a decision like that.
Leo, I really hope this won't come off as weird or creepy, but I always love watching your videos and hearing your opinions on things. Besides being ridiculously funny you also come across as very sincere and open, which I really appreciate, and you seem to have a lot of the same views on people and relationships as I do. So it's very refreshing to watch you talk about things in a way that I can relate to, because that doesn't happen often anymore.
I don't see how this comment would be weird or creepy in anyway
Why would that be creepy? We all love him lmao
@@marialovesmusicalot idk either lmao, i was tired when i wrote that haha
@@Laurie_Ramone xD
That whole Zae bit had me rolling. "My phone died, my friends phone died, I didn't even know what a phone was so I Ex-scaped outta there" lol!!!
Nah he actually said my phone died and I crashed at his place lmfaooo
It’s not about being insecure; it’s about wanting to control others and break boundaries because they feel entitled to them. I’m deeply insecure, but I don’t go through phones.
I feel like everyone is ganging up on him. Its like he doesn't get the chance to say anything without people saying he is attacking them. He has an opinion too he can say his feelings too without everyone saying "he is always picking a fight". Zaid: I said I take full responsibility! Ray: Why are you attacking me? Listen to MY opinions!!!
This show did Zaid dirty . He was soft spoken who opened up about his feelings but everyone attacked him. They wanted him to curb his frustration and attitude when they got to cry, scream, lie, etc. At him? I call BS! That white skinny chick who picked a fight at the dinner table was not labeled as badly as people targeted Zaid. She litteraly inserted herself into other peoples business! DAMN.
Yeah that was for sure weird, especially in this episode where Ray is just screaming at him and he's not able to get a word in edgewise and then suddenly she starts screaming at him about not attacking her. It made her look super hysterical and unreasonable. Idk if a lot was cut out in editing, I wouldn't be surprised it stuff was, but what was shown was very weird and gave very weird vibes regarding Ray, especially since she got physically violent with him an episode or two before.
I agree , I knew I couldn’t be the only one that thought zae was not even picking fights with people , literally NO ONE let the man talk , except like shanique . Even Leo is pushing that he picks fights but he really doesn’t . Why does Rae getta speak her mind , and be all dramatic , but zae does what’s best for him in the moment (walking away) but not even that’s good enough . I was frustrated for zae smh , everyone was doing him dirty .
@@maeish9471 I think her response in this episode comes from months of him shutting her down. She hit him because he was physically stopping her from leaving. She told him to leave her alone and he followed her through the apartment and blocked her in. He wasn't listening to her "no" . As someone who has been in that exact position and had to use force to get someone off me, I totally understand her reaction then and in this interview.
This is exactly why I waited to have my baby. I was thirty and we were ready and planned him down to every last detail. I was not a wanted child and it messed me up for a really long time. We wanted to make sure our kid knows his whole life he was wanted, planned, prayed for and been a blessing every single second we've known him.
I think insecurity breeds jealousy; not jealousy breeding insecurity, but maybe that’s just my take on it ? I’m I alone in this timeline?
Also, love leo, I just feel it’s the opposite as he says. -another Leo
I think it goes both ways
It's a cycle
A lot of people explains away legitimate cheating actions as “jealousy” on the part of the person being cheating on too. I think both jealousy and insecurity are oversimplifications but I get if I’m in the minority with this take
It's a feedback loop. They feed each other.
I agree, but hate that usage of "am I alone in this timeline"
i’m a very simple gal. King Leo posts, i watch immediately 😃
trueeee
Literally. Doesn’t matter what it is or how long the video is.
I’m here for it!
Facts
AMENNNN!!
Alexis literally looks like an unnamed villain for a forgotten cartoon. Haha 💀
Can’t sleep but not that mad bc I get to binge watch the channel hours on end and omg love it/you
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However, side note:
Oddly enough yet as per the usual, now, for me: every time I watch/listen/etc. to your channel!? Ofc, your humor, research, approach, insight, grit, heart and thoughts spun so terrifically into a yt video. You captivate me -
BUT esp lately you hit me every time, EVERY video (yet idk why , every single new watch it is always a jump scare to the soul surprise that leaves me with tears and more sound) BOOM A BOMB TO MY HEART/BROKEN SOUL- and each time I feel the tiniest bit more “me” again-
Thank you so much.
Wow, I remember when you stood in the kitchen with just a few thousand subs, and now you're almost at 500k. So proud :)
Right??!! I wonder how his kitchen is doing? 😁
hey leo, your one of the best youtubers. i was counting down until the next video, i have also been struggling recently with anxiety, depression and other health problems, (probably not as much as you) and watching your videos make me laugh. and i am glad to know you are doing better. great video:)
Rey attacked Zay because she was embarrassed that he came on TV to tell people that they got back together 😂 she was so unnecessarily heated because he told the truth about how she’s just as dysfunctional as he was. “I’m not gonna back down this time” like she didn’t punch him on international television 🙄
I'm glad you mentioned her literally punching him- if I remember correctly, the show completely glossed over that.
@@TheAsocialNetwork yeah like she was his victim. And yet she was an equally bad partner
I just gotta thank you man I’ve been in a kinda rough patch and honestly those talks you have where you explain relationships really helps me have a deeper understanding of at least seeing a loss in a positive way or like working on just being secure with myself i just wanna say thank you and i really appreciate your content
perfect timing, just broke up with my bf i really need to laugh and you never fail to make me feel good. ty❤️
wait same thing just happened to me man. It's very true that when Leo posts it makes everyone feel better
Hope you get over the pain soon, sending love and positive vibes 🙌❤️
Feel better soon-I went though that a few months ago. It was hard but needed. Leo’s videos definitely are a great way to help people laugh and feel better for a bit.
Sending hugs ❤️ hope you heal your heart fast ❤️
Getting relationship advice from sixteenleo actually hits harder than the stuff others have told me...Thanks man
I am SO happy I found your channel!! I have not stopped watching every video since. I have been depressed and dealing with tough sh*t but you make me laugh (which might not seem like a big deal unless you are so depressed you don't even go outside for days). Thank you for being amazing!
He has a lot of great videos out. I think I have except for one or two I even send to my daughter who is this with little kids away from their parents cuz the parents are at the front stations but she really enjoys her job
I feel this!
@@jasminecurry5732 💜💜💜💜💜!!!
Stay strong and keep finding the positives in life (like Leo vids). Every day is another chance
@@rubencabral1838 I really appreciate that💞 !! I have definitely found my favorite channel, great creator and followers. People that take their time to reach out to someone struggling is so awesome!! 🥺🌟
It's honestly interesting how confident Colby is that the baby is his lol
You put so much time/effort into your videos bro & I just wanted to throw you a few $ to say THANK YOU BRO & for you to get that big fat rock in your ear💯Just think...if everyone commenting/watching gave you a few $ you could have a Lambo to go with that BOULDER in your ear😁SERIOUSLY....you rock hard af Sixteenleo!
everytime i come here for a laugh I end up getting the realest most down to earth relationship advice ever thank you dr. leo
I also am pretty sure on specifically Too Hot To Handle, staff, editors, and producers had a tremendous issue with the cast constantly breaking the glass type wine glasses, so for the second season and all subsequent reality shows that followed they used the metal “tumbler-style” wine glasses.
18:59 - 19:38 I was literally tearing up. This applies to my situation rn and I needed to hear that. Then of course I ended up laughing through my tears at the last part. 😭
Love you Leo!
God I’m so happy I found this channel. I sound like a mad man laughing alone in my living room at 3AM.
Fine asf
I watched the entire train wreck when it was released, super cringy but somehow i couldnt stop watching :D
Wanted to see what your take was, and DAMN i laughed so hard at some of your comments, worth it. That's why i love watching your commentaries, you always add a lot more value than the show or clip itself. Thank you Dr Lovedoctorsixteenleo. If it does not rob you of your last sanity, more of this content is appreciated :D
"Don't raise your voice at me" she yells...lol lord.
Damn I remember when you were at 40k and trying to get to 100k you’ve come so far, your content is amazing keep it up bro
The empty kitchen days 😆
One of the things you do notice soon after you move in together is a mans aversion to handling laundry appropriately
Cool video as usual, I just wanted to add something very important. Olive oil shouldn't be used as lube because oil damages the latex in condoms and it can lead to unwanted pregnancy. Please be careful with contraception.
I was hoping to see someone already post this. The base of the lube needs to be conducive to whatever condom is used. If there's no condom, still bad due to PH imbalances. KY is not much better. This applies to toys as well!!! It can damage them by breaking them down- hence the importance of being mindful of [and transparent about] the lubricant used and type of condom. Plus, some people have sensitive skin or allergies. Consent is sexy, just like good health! :)
When she said that I SCREAMED like NO that’s a one way ticket to BV!! Don’t just be putting shit in your pudenda for fucks sake
Thanks for making this video. I was curious enough to see the outcome, but not curious enough to risk losing brain cells watching it myself. You're a hero,lol. Much love!
Edit: I totally wrote that before hearing his comment about getting brain damage and it made it all that much more funny, lol.
Dude I feel bad for Zaye. He listened to Ray go off and then he was shut down when he tried to speak. He wasn’t yelling, just trying to talk. Like damn.
Soo close to 500k!!! Been here since before you got 100k. Love seeing you grow, Leo.
You keep doing you. We all love and appreciate you, Leo! You’re the best.
Also I love that Nick 98 degrees’ wife acted like she didn’t know her baby’s gender, then pulled out a pink wrapped gift. Unless they had 3 choices down there 😂
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This comment 😂
Omg I never realized that
Why the hell did you refer to Vanessa (Minillo) lachey in such a degrading way? What the actual fuck is wrong that you can’t call her by her name, exactly? Because she’s literally more famous than him if you’re going for 98 degrees as your reference.
I mean if you watch the episode she says right after that she actually already knew it was a girl from their social media, I think her asking was more for the cameras and the people at home who don't follow them on social media.
Also, her name is Vanessa and "Nick 98 degrees' wife" is a very weird thing to call her when they say her name almost constantly both in the show and in youtube videos like this.
ohhh shit! another sixteenleo banger just dropped. time to roll a couple blunts and get comfy. shout out to our guy for giving us quality videos too. keep em coming bro!!
I’m so thankful for how much time and effort you put in your videos !! I hope you’re feeling and doing well !❤️❤️❤️
I enjoy the microcosm of yes-women that Madeline has and exerts dictatorial control over. It's like a tiny Shakespearian play in which the second in command friend is slowly plotting her revenge and will break up the couple and overthrown Maddie in their social circle.
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 25 years and he's never asked to see my phone nor I his and other personal items fall into that category as well like wallets, purses, personal journals, mail, locations etc . It makes me sad to see couples that feel they need to hide things or play detective with each other. If you're doing that there's no trust or communication and the relationship has broken legs.
This. People are allowed to have privacy, even from their partners. You should have trust and open communication, not surreptitious phone searches. If you're in each other's business to that degree, things aren't going to last. It's the underlying insecurity and failures in communication that should be addressed, not their phone contents. Likening it to reading someone else's journal feels very apropos.
I had to shoot over here as soon as I saw the notification. Loved your video on the ultimatum. Thank you for your continued sacrifice. Your memory shall be honored.
Damn, that comment about walking away from your relationships with your exes... love it! It actually really makes sense. All the good or the bad.. it teaches you about yourself. And I think we should consider that before we cry, feel self pity or seek revenge. 😕 thank u for the wise words!! Lol, hope u get ur rock!!
Leo, that 99 cent 98 cent fake convo, is all too real! I genuinely deal with some version of that at work everyday.
Madelyn and Colby having a child together is the last thing I wanted to see.... poor kid
Surprisingly, they’re still together and now have 2 kids lol
Again, another great video you produced. Great humorous responses to the material, and also the words of perspective and insight that you give which tells me that you are sharing yourself in your work...Great one Sixteenleo!
I literally started laughing when I saw that you posted the Reunion. I can only imagine what I’m about to see lmfao!! Thank you for this real rare great humor that is hard to find 🙏🏼😂😂🙏🏼
as hot trash myself, I take offense to the title of this video.
Possums and trash pandas love you more than this show
@@Gchildwarrior I just don't wanna be lumped in with the likes of this show. I'll take the trash pandas, thank you.
lol “the wicked witch of the wild Wild West” 😅 your videos are so funny 😂
I know that looking through someone's phone is not healthy and it's not a good thing to do, but I've done it in the past when I was young. People aren't always going to be honest and they'll gaslight you if you call them out on their behavior. It's not ok and not worth staying in the relationship for sure, but things aren't black and white all the time. In my situation he allowed me access to his phone whenever and I happened to see shit I didn't like.
I think it depends on how it's handled. No one wants to be lied to but you shouldn't just be looking for things that aren't there out of nowhere or period. You should ask them! Little different when you stumble upon it though with permission.
I had an ex who kept lying me to me, meeting this girl he used to like, while telling me he was going out with his old friend group. Unfortunately for him, i knew the girl too so i saw their photos together. When i confronted him, he lied. But his phone didnt lie.
I gave him a chance.
When he was acting weird some time later, i saw his phone and he had pictures of him and another girl in bed. He said he took the photos since i was going to look at the phone and he didnt have the courage to break up with me. He wanted to me to break up with him.
This time we broke up. Although he tried to crawl back
Its not a good thing to check on phones of course, but i guess my trust levels are fucked now. My fiance has full access to my phone, as i my fiance. We dont constantly check it or anything like that though but the openness really helps
@@havenprice I'm so sorry that happened to you. But I applaud you for being able to get over your trauma and insecurities enough to be able to trust your current partner and I hope you two have a happy life together!
When you are in a committed relationship I honestly expect a two way street when it comes to phone/computer access. In my case we both have each other’s phone passwords. We never had to resort to investigating each other but having the ability to do so is in my opinion a hard line.
Dude it’s ok in some situations. I never had looked through my boyfriends phone and just trusted him but I kept having this strange gut feeling, he kept gaslighting me and telling me I was being crazy. Finally I looked at his phone when he was asleep and saw he had been cheating on me and I never would’ve found out if I hadn’t done that so I have no regrets and I’d do it again if I ever felt like I was in the same situation.
Welcome to the toxic area of the comment section. These are the women you avoid. If you feel you have to go through his phone, leave. You shouldn't take it that far, you clearly didn't trust him, so just walk away. All you're doing by going through his phone is trying to vindicate yourself and tell him "I was right!" 🙄
He did in fact get a rock at 500 thousand 😂
"She's fat!"
Gave me a good laugh 😄
Remember people, having a baby saves a relationship always...
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Hey that part about cheating and looking at your partners phone is so true!!! Thank you for always having such beautiful commentary Leo💕
Dude it’s ok in some situations. I never had looked through my boyfriends phone before and just trusted him but I kept having this strange gut feeling, he kept gaslighting me and telling me I was being crazy. Finally I looked at his phone when he was asleep and saw he had been cheating on me and I never would’ve found out if I hadn’t done that so I have no regrets and I’d do it again if I ever felt like I was in the same situation where I was made to feel crazy for my valid suspicions.
@@scubatuba1083 No that rubs me the wrong way. If he’s gas lighting you and calling you crazy, that’s when you leave. Take away the actual cheating and the gaslighting just the harsh words alone like calling you crazy should never be acceptable. SO NO you SHOULDN’T have looked through his phone because you SHOULD have left when he was calling you crazy in the first place. Respectful Men don’t speak like that towards their woman. If you get to the point where you think you have to creep around them or look through their phone, the relationship is already over babe.
@@allianathomas4668 yeah I disagree, the moral ramifications of looking through someone's phone for cheating is neither good nor bad. Unlike cheating where there is no justification for it. Imo I wouldn't mind if my significant other look through my phone because if I ever thought of cheating, then there is something wrong with the relationship and it needs to end.
Also imagine being a cuck and just 100 percent trusting whatever a person says.
I like to imagine when he does the little skits on photoshop lol its like he is playing with action figures as a kid Lmao you're great Leo
I wonder what kind of people actually watch these types of series unironically? Either that, or I wonder when I became such a dad if I’m in my early 20s. Watching you talk about these shows is literally the only way I know anything about some of them.
Dad lifestyle is the way to go. I’m never having kids and am not a dude but I’m a dad for life lol
I also wonder!
I'm going to guess (hope*) that people watch these because morbid curiosity. And the rest (the unironically ones) are watching for drama.
The people who watches only for drama are actually a community. A significant amount of people.
haven't seen a #borninthewronggeneration comment in ages
The unironic appeal to these types of shows literally is the mess of it all. We're not supposed to root for these people, we're supposed to warm ourselves and roast marshmallows on this metaphorical garbage fire
I love how you create long content vs just a few minutes like many others. Thank you for that.
hey! so im fairly new to your channel(i’ve started watching consistently in the past few months or so)
i’ve struggle with a lot of mental health issues that i won’t go in depth into, but your videos have really helped me in every way possible. they help me laugh, get motivated, and just relax in general. i know that you had issues with your health(idk if that’s still significant) but i really applaud that you were still consistent in those times.
by saying all of that stuff, what i was really trying to say is thank you. as dumb as it sounds your content has saved me in a way .
I don’t ever wanna be with someone where we have to be so insecure we going through each other’s phone miss me
Every time I hear Zay talking I can physically feel how my brain cells die in agony
You’re one of the kindest person I’ve followed on YT. Thank you so much for sharing your content!
Bro if someone shouts at you you’re not going to just sit there and take it and this is obviously such an uncommon thing for her to defend her self to him. Like if she’s been with him she probably knows his hyperyelling and deflecting behaviours which why she knows when to cut him off in certain situations.
My husband and I did everything backwards. Got pregnant at 16 and then at age 21 & 22 we had 2 more kids together. When our 3rd child was 1 we finally got married. We had one more child in 2017 but have been taking all the time since to try and focus as much as we could on our relationship. There’s been betrayal, lies and stupidity on both sides. How can there not be when you have so many outside factors stressing out a relationship. We just realized how much it sucked to not be in each other’s lives than to just try to fix our problems. And these problems came quickly after our first child. Between our first kid and our second is when the toughest times were for us. I loved him enough to change my flaws but it was easy. I saw a huge difference in him plus my family noticed. In time tho you shed the jealousy, anger and resentment. A lot of better times were ahead for us and now all that strife is a distant memory & we’re stronger for it.
Beautiful story, wish you the best.
thanks for sharing, that mustve been really hard to go through, damn, best of luck:)
@@paadoxal oh for sure! I got pregnant the year before that MTV show 16 & pregnant came out. At first I felt jaded cause my life was so much more dramatic than some of the segments they showed lol. In hindsight it was all for the best. Privacy is taken for granted these days.
Yes! This is what I NEEDED Leo!! 🙌
Yoooo finally I'm early to a video, just a heads up I love the longer format videos, I love listening to these while I game and then rewatching them just for the on screen jokes personally, love your personality and keep up the great work brother! 😎🤘
Zay literally has the same energy as Red Shirt from Tra Rags skits💀
I hope you never get cheated on Leo, I really do. It's about broken trust more than it is about confidence and it leaves scars. And yes I've been cheated on but no I don't go through my partner's phone.
Dude it’s ok in some situations. I never had looked through my boyfriends phone and just trusted him but I kept having this strange gut feeling, he kept gaslighting me and telling me I was being crazy. Finally I looked at his phone when he was asleep and saw he had been cheating on me and I never would’ve found out if I hadn’t done that so I have no regrets and I’d do it again if I ever felt like I was in the same situation where someone was making me feel like I was crazy for valid suspicion. I probably still would’ve been with him to this day if I didn’t look, he didn’t want me to find out because I was financially supporting him.
@@scubatuba1083 Oh that sucks! I'm glad you looked. It's always difficult to get out of abusive relationships and having that one thing you can point to and say "NO! That's the line!" is weirdly empowering even when it hurts.
Sound like you need to heal, because it’s not fair for your future partner to deal with the consequences of another’s actions. Because maybe that cheater is also brings their baggage from a last relationship. Maybe they were cheated on and wanted to be the cheater for once. That’s why healing and therapy is important.
@@shayla106 I completely agree that healing is important. It's baby steps every day. I'm in a relationship now and we're both very open with who we are and trust is important - which is why I don't look at his phone and he doesn't look at mine even though we both have the codes and COULD.
Which is why I made the statement I did to Leo. I have confidence in who I am as a person, but if my current partner cheated on me, I wouldn't just shrug it off and move on. I agree that confidence is key with knowing your self worth, but building a long term relationship with someone needs more than that.
I think Colby and Madelyn made up all the drama. I think they were about to get engaged/married anyway and then heard about the show and agreed to whatever they needed to in order to get air time, including final fling stuff. I’ve always thought some people would do that and they seem like prime candidates. How on Earth do you flip on a dime like that otherwise?
Hey, April - you can ask *him* to marry you. Welcome to 2022.
I have never laughed so hard as when he said "Sloppy Toppy" lmao I have never heard that before, but it's about to make it's way into my regular vocab from now on 😂😂😂😂
So many red flags. Relationships shouldn’t be that hard.
I really love what you said here 14:10 I have a friend who always goes out of her way to make sure her boyfriend isn't talking to other girls always checks 😭 every 5 minutes where he is and has the password to all of his accounts when asking why she does it she says it's so that he won't get the thoughts to cheat on her it's so frustrating when I try and make her understand that if he wants to he will cheat no matter what she tries and she doesnt listen 💀i have given up now trying to make her understand while her own insecurities will harm this relationship more than other people ever will she says be quiet you've never been in a relationship and starts making fun of me for it 😂 but I'd rather be single than be so insecure 😭
Omg, the Kim Possible sound is my message sound on my phone and I literally thought I was getting messages XD
Great videos about the show @sixteenleo :)
A lot of interesting takeaways!
"y'all see what i did there, i fucked it" my dude this is officially the line i think about in public and crack up
16 is my favorite TH-cam commentary because he's funny the content is on point
And he peppers in actually good advice
Loe you leo! Never stop posting
IM SO GLAD YOU DID A REUNION ANALYSIS 🙌🏾🙌🏾😂😂😂
Dude, you’re the funniest host ever! 😂🤣 Seriously, you got me in stitches bro
Note: I also appreciate how you offer sound advice throughout. You’re a good man Leo
Wooo, I'm not 12 hours late this time! Sending love from opposite timezones! :D
Eye I just wanted to remind everyone back during the vegan gains situation that #sixteenleo had a goal to pass vegan gains. Sixteenleo is at 475,000 subscribers. Vegangains is at 320,000 subscribers. It was funny cause I watched sixteenleo's videos back during the vegan gains fiasco. I just wanted to say good for you. While he is going down you are going up. Way up. Keep on being a hilarious yet truthful TH-camr.
April looked better with her dark hair, at least slap some red on there and rep instability like I always do 😭
I love your videos, haven’t laughed like this in a while💗
Okay but Rae looked real stupid yelling over Zay, howling at him that he’s attacking her, yelling at him to not raise his voice while he cannot for the life of him get a single word in. Like damn girl, he fucked up yeah but all of that was so trash. You explained yourself very clearly but you still couldn’t let him talk?? Did you just wanna make him feel bad or did you actually want an apology??
HAHA🤣🤣🤣 your videos always make my day better! This was hilariousXDDD
"Sloppy Toppy" lol that's a new one for me
Honestly maybe your best video yet. I don’t give a shit about this show or anything like it but I laughed so hard!