😂😂 I have a lot to clarify here. Ok so hi I’m the emailer-this was humiliating but I really appreciate your advice. So, yes I work remotely and the dr legit prescribed me antibiotics for 10 days for strep-I worked the whole time I was sick so a 20 hour drive wasn’t gonna happen. I completely agree with Jared that I was over-correcting from not reciprocating when he revealed his feelings. I think I was panicking because it had been 3 weeks and I was feeling anxious, sick & wanting to get out of parents house. Lmao about the effects 🤣 he texts with effects all the time-it’s weird lol but it was the “gentle effect” which is the same effect he used when I told him I was sick. Like I cannot make this up-he uses the “invisible ink” effect whenever he sends something dirty..🤣🤣 I’ve never seen someone use effects so much. Before he sent the sex question he was reminiscing about our second date and suggesting a movie we should watch for the third. Jared, I def needed to hear that I will be able to handle if I were to say how I felt in the moment and then potentially be rejected after the date. You’re 100% correct that I don’t think I can handle that pain. So thank you!! 🫶🩷 Also lmao about them being a vampire family! It was New Year’s Eve so that’s why they were up so late 🤣🤣🤣
Just some unsolicited advice that I asked above before you replied, but next time, this should be a phone conversation, not a text! And his question to you about whether or not you enjoyed the sex should also have been an in-person conversation!
100% they went really hard on you. And they didn’t pay attention to details you included in the email, like that he had been suggesting plans for your next hang. Glad it was helpful to you but def feel like they can be a unnecessarily mocking sometimes.
I’m not gonna lie I was cringing and SO embarrassed the whole time I watched. They trolled me big time! I was surprised they didn’t make fun of him for the song thing very much. Thank you for saying this! 🫶
I'm starting to think it doesn't even matter what you say because we're always in a cycle of "Should I be cool?" or "I should tell them how I feel" then being punished for it with ghosting or complacency 😅😅
Tbf not trying to be cycnical about it, because as Jordana said on the JTrain podcast 6 days ago "You have to be okay with taking the L". Doesn't make it hurt less, but this is definitely the mindset you need to have to be free of ambiguity.
I use it when I'm stressed or uncomfortable! Cough wasn't the right word lol so I agreed with Jordana when she interpreted a sigh, but not a "whewwww 🤪"
Re: thanksgiving ::: I’d LOVE to see Jared fully prepare a Thanksgiving dinner for his family 😂 he has no clue how much work is involved. Try it just once and I bet you’ll be even more thankful for Thanksgiving! Nov 2024! Lots of time to prep! 😂😂😂
Oooomg jordana saying “great night to go out, everybodys single” transported me back to college when my bf at the time left me on Valentine’s Day to go party in a diff college town with his single friends lmao 😀🥰🥲
New Ick: her BD is on Super Bowl :D Our first date was on Valentine's Day last year! We haven't acknowledged it back then, it just happened like that because he was sick prior. He brought me cakes and lightbulbs for my car's headlights :D Installed them a month later :D
I’m not into the masculine/feminine energy concept either but it’s annoying you guys talked so much shit about that considering you often uphold gendered patterns in dating (like men paying for dates). Seems like this emailer was just naming that dynamic explicitly. I am not into men paying, because it’s a turnoff for me to feel like the “man is providing” in an uneven way. So if that concept upsets you, maybe consider what underlies other beliefs y’all have about who should do what. And while I’m here - I’ve been listening for years and it seems like you guys are getting increasingly rough and mocking of emailers, and just kind of tearing people’s words to shreds, often missing key details in the email while you make up stories about what you think is happening. And it just is really getting to me, especially considering how extremely defensive and sensitive you, especially Jared, can be about other people’s DMs and comments about/to you. This show is becoming more of a hate-listen for me lately, which sucks.
😂😂 I have a lot to clarify here. Ok so hi I’m the emailer-this was humiliating but I really appreciate your advice. So, yes I work remotely and the dr legit prescribed me antibiotics for 10 days for strep-I worked the whole time I was sick so a 20 hour drive wasn’t gonna happen. I completely agree with Jared that I was over-correcting from not reciprocating when he revealed his feelings. I think I was panicking because it had been 3 weeks and I was feeling anxious, sick & wanting to get out of parents house. Lmao about the effects 🤣 he texts with effects all the time-it’s weird lol but it was the “gentle effect” which is the same effect he used when I told him I was sick. Like I cannot make this up-he uses the “invisible ink” effect whenever he sends something dirty..🤣🤣 I’ve never seen someone use effects so much. Before he sent the sex question he was reminiscing about our second date and suggesting a movie we should watch for the third. Jared, I def needed to hear that I will be able to handle if I were to say how I felt in the moment and then potentially be rejected after the date. You’re 100% correct that I don’t think I can handle that pain. So thank you!! 🫶🩷 Also lmao about them being a vampire family! It was New Year’s Eve so that’s why they were up so late 🤣🤣🤣
I think the comment about being sick for 2 weeks was so unnecessary. A flu can knock you out for that long easily, I have that shit every 2 year :D
Just some unsolicited advice that I asked above before you replied, but next time, this should be a phone conversation, not a text! And his question to you about whether or not you enjoyed the sex should also have been an in-person conversation!
I agree. Appreciate the feedback!
100% they went really hard on you. And they didn’t pay attention to details you included in the email, like that he had been suggesting plans for your next hang. Glad it was helpful to you but def feel like they can be a unnecessarily mocking sometimes.
I’m not gonna lie I was cringing and SO embarrassed the whole time I watched. They trolled me big time! I was surprised they didn’t make fun of him for the song thing very much. Thank you for saying this! 🫶
I appreciate the text being added to the screen.
Candace and Jorge, the new edits and layover with the text are a good idea! Thanks for letting us follow this ride along 😮
our pleasure! the idea was one thing, but full credit to Shannon and Jorge with the editing to make it happen 🙌
Totally! I'm going alone in a couple of weeks !
LOL. My birthday was on Super Bowl this year. February 11th. hahahaha
I'm starting to think it doesn't even matter what you say because we're always in a cycle of "Should I be cool?" or "I should tell them how I feel" then being punished for it with ghosting or complacency 😅😅
Tbf not trying to be cycnical about it, because as Jordana said on the JTrain podcast 6 days ago "You have to be okay with taking the L".
Doesn't make it hurt less, but this is definitely the mindset you need to have to be free of ambiguity.
masculine and feminine energy is very much a thing. :)
Wait I thought we were using 😮💨 to mean like “whew that was tough or stressful”?!
Right like, phew 😮💨 that was tough to be vulnerable
I use it when I'm stressed or uncomfortable! Cough wasn't the right word lol so I agreed with Jordana when she interpreted a sigh, but not a "whewwww 🤪"
@@uuppodcast thank you for the validation. I can’t learn I’m using yet another emoji or turn of phrase wrong 😅
You guys should have Jeff Arcuri on the pod sometime
Re: thanksgiving ::: I’d LOVE to see Jared fully prepare a Thanksgiving dinner for his family 😂 he has no clue how much work is involved. Try it just once and I bet you’ll be even more thankful for Thanksgiving! Nov 2024! Lots of time to prep! 😂😂😂
Oooomg jordana saying “great night to go out, everybodys single” transported me back to college when my bf at the time left me on Valentine’s Day to go party in a diff college town with his single friends lmao 😀🥰🥲
Some teachers do have the Monday off after the Super Bowl, but don’t tell Jared!
:D
New Ick: her BD is on Super Bowl :D
Our first date was on Valentine's Day last year! We haven't acknowledged it back then, it just happened like that because he was sick prior. He brought me cakes and lightbulbs for my car's headlights :D Installed them a month later :D
This listener's "vulnerable" text should've been a phone call. This is not the kind of conversation you have via text. 🤦♀
I’m not into the masculine/feminine energy concept either but it’s annoying you guys talked so much shit about that considering you often uphold gendered patterns in dating (like men paying for dates). Seems like this emailer was just naming that dynamic explicitly. I am not into men paying, because it’s a turnoff for me to feel like the “man is providing” in an uneven way. So if that concept upsets you, maybe consider what underlies other beliefs y’all have about who should do what.
And while I’m here - I’ve been listening for years and it seems like you guys are getting increasingly rough and mocking of emailers, and just kind of tearing people’s words to shreds, often missing key details in the email while you make up stories about what you think is happening. And it just is really getting to me, especially considering how extremely defensive and sensitive you, especially Jared, can be about other people’s DMs and comments about/to you. This show is becoming more of a hate-listen for me lately, which sucks.