See that's the correct way to go about it. If you have to go around every person telling them you're gay its almost as if you are wanting their approval before you go ahead with it. You don't have to "come out" out anyone even your parents. If people are your friends and your parents love you then there is no reason you should need to get confirmation with anyone
AximusNetwork To be honest, it feels a little impersonal to me. I prefer actually telling the people who are important then once I'm done with that maybe change it on Facebook but I don't like being that reliant on Facebook. To each their own though, whatever works for each person's fine with them
Ah well, the only persons I told personally were my parents and my grandparents. Mom just was overwhelmed a littlebit because she had to adjust a littlebit to the sudden change but never had real problems and doesn't care now as long as I'm happy. Grandparents and dad were okay with it aswell. For the rest just few FB friends and my niece saw it on FB and they spread it to other peeps and family than :p
I found out about you yesterday, and I have already devoured pretty much every single piece of content you have put out. I saved this video for last... I know I'm just a mere number to you, but I thank you so much for making this. I'm out, but I still relate to the feeling of being "broken", and you pretty much perfectly put what I couldn't explain into words. Wish I could just give you a big hug right now. You are awesome.
This video is important for gay men who are not effeminate or stereotypically gay people tend to ignore them.These masculine gay men tend to be invisible in the gay and mainstream community.
I've struggled through so many of the same sort of feelings. I've spent so much time in the closet out of habit. Despite knowing that it really shouldn't matter at my age, I get so afraid of it changing the person I created and how people will deal with that. Thank you for sharing your story, it means a lot to know that I'm not the only one that struggled with this.
Wow, 95% of your whole coming out story was word for word my story. Especially the first like two thirds of it. Made me teary eyed! And helped me feel less alone. Thank you.
I've heard a lot of coming out stories, and they were all really inspirational... but this one was the best. I mean I know it's not right to "rate" people's coming out stories, in a sense, but none of them were as moving, and as inspirational as yours was Hat. This was actually the first coming out story I ever heard, but I have heard many more after, and you're part of the reason I decided that it was okay to come out, Thank you. You're amazing and I love your videos and your comic strips!
Just discovered this channel, I'm not too sure who you are but I cried from the minute you said "I felt broken" till the end of the video. Even though I don't know you I feel super proud of you and it's great to see you are happy and comfortable with yourself!! Great video xxx
I just saw your video and i can relate so much with your loneliness and feeling lost with your emotions. Your video made me so emotional and it just made me feel like giving you a big hug. Because i feel like I'm just not destined to be loved or be in love i feel jaded but I'm happy your happier with yourself now.
I've watched a lot.. and I mean A LOT of coming out videos and I've never felt more emotional than whilst watching this. Lots of tears and pausing the video to calm down later.. Well done! A fantastic story and something you should be proud of!
Oh Hat, Im in the same situation you once were, Im 24 y/o, never been on a date, never even felt the warmth of someone else's hand, and Im a total virgin haha, but you know what? I came to terms with it, I might never experience love, and even if that sounds so terrible... its okay. I find some sort of strength in it, it keeps me focused on my goals, Im also an artist, so I can be a hopeless romantic, but sometimes theres no use looking for hope where there is none, and accept the life you got. Some people just dont get to love in this world and that is a cruel reality. Loved your video by the way! that douche doesnt know what he missed on you :)
For what it is worth, I listen to your story kind of like it is a record... I just enjoy hearing it. The pauses... the disappointments... the fears... and then the good parts... it is something I feel every day, too. Not sure how many times, but when I wonder if you posted a new video and if you do, I watch it, then I listen to this one again. If you haven't posted a new video, I listen to this one again. It is healing and peaceful, your voice. It is like processing the thoughts that are with me everyday through the expression of someone else. Now you know. You have a totally GAY non-gay-sounding VOICE!!!
Thank you so much for sharing. I came out last year and I can completely understand when you say that "coming out has been the best decision of my life." It changes everything.
I had/have similar issues with encouraging myself to pursue people romantically vs ignoring it and focusing on my other interests, and this makes me want to trying dating and being more open. So, thank you for talking about this!
Good video. I had to pause it before I could continue after that last comment because I did actually end up crying. But it was uplifting, and I'm happy things are working out for you.
a good friend of mine said that coming out is a life long process. and it is. you never stop coming out. and i'm so happy you shared your story. we all have our own stories and i hope your story inspires someone out there to come out to their family. it's awkward, often painful, and just plain weird. but in the end it almost always works out. thanks for doing your thing Hat :)
I'm a gay male and unfortunately I'm a very stereotypical gay male. I'm feminine and I have a high pitched voice and I really wish I was masculine but that's not the case. Masculine gay men: be proud ^-^ We're all fabulous, gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, demisexual, sapiosexual, asexual, whatever.. You're still fabulous. You don't have to be gay to be fabulous!
***** Oh my gosh that moved me! Thank you SO MUCH, you don't know how much I appreciate that comment! I'm sorry you experienced that kind of upbringing and I'm glad your life is better now. Bullying is horrible.
I'm a girl who is mainly attracted to men with an occasional girl crush. I am, by looks, extremely girly. So many people treat me like a bimbo because of that not to mention that I work in the game industry which is still ruled mostly by men so I do stick out a bit. I have never understood why people dislike femininity (in both women and men) it's like people consider it as a sign of weakness. am I making any sense? haha english is not my native language :p
NemoRosa700 You are making sense. I call that "sexism", which is by far worse than homophobia. Perhaps homophobia stems from sexism, which may be the root of a lot of social problems. Not even a hundred years ago, black people were thought to be less than the whites. But no. I love masculinity and I love femininity and both complement each other. In my opinion, both need each other. You're not a "bimbo" just because you're feminine :) Don't let people say that. Game industry? That's cool! I'm quite interested in game design :)
Cara Ames Thanks! I've actually thought about that homophobia and sexism are linked together like that. but it's just so wrong grrr I love different kinds of personalities and preferences and it's far more interesting than, let's say, if everyone were to follow the "social-norm" :/ it's not just that, people are afraid of everything that doesn't fit the norm. There should be more "non-chalant" exposure to everything! I'm a visual artist, I do graphics and such^^
Magnificent!! I'm a writer (poet) who had never been published until coming out. I've been published many times since...and I believe I'd actually been 'standing in my own way' until then. I feel 'whole', now. You remind me of me.
I found your story very touching, Like you, I was a "late bloomer" at 22 years old that didn't put to much value in relationships with other people and then suddenly realized I needed to be my full self.
You are a wonderful person. This story reminds me so much of my story. I didn't fall into any of the stereotypes and I too felt broken. You are a true inspiration!
I was so scared you weren't gonna tell what happened to the guy and then you did. Since the comics I've always been a really huge fan and since you've started making youtube videos I admire you SO much more. You're really a fantastic person and I know this is gonna have a huge impact on people. Great job, Hat!
I want to give you all the hugs. I'm happy that you discovered this side of yourself, and that you're able to be open and honest about it, in the past, and now c: I love hearing about coming out stories, because I never really had to 'come out', because it was pretty clear to everyone around me, and I sorta miss it. I'm not really sure why I miss it - I suppose because I never got to /tell/ anyone in my own time and voice. I don't know where I'm going with this. I guess you understand. Thanks for sharing, man :)
your story was very different from most on the tube and that makes it special. So honest and helpful for so many. I wish you happiness and joy with your family no matter how it looks.
Hi Hat. I really hope you read this because I want you to know how special your video is. As I've said in a previous comment I think seven months ago, I watched this before coming out to my brother. Now I watched it again before coming out to my parents. I knew that your video would give me that courage... again. Thank you for this video :). It changed my life and I'm sure it changed, changes and will change other people's lives. :)
Thank you for sharing. It is empowering and inspirational. I totally relate to what you went through. It will be a catalyst for many to do the same and everyone needs to do it. Release the pain and enjoy the life that was given to us no matter what it is.
Your story is really good! I can't believe how strong you are, the support you got from your father! Great video and thanks for sharing, you brought tears into my eyes
You are the most adorable thing I've ever have the honor of watching. I want to hug you til the end of time. There's not much that can make me cry, but your story and everything about you fills my heart with such love and compassion. I've gone through so much of the same things and still am. The only person in my family that knows is my mother and my grandmother, but she's no longer with me. Keep up all that you do. You are changing the world so much for the better.
300th commentary, thanks for sharing your story and encouraging others to face their fears and do what they love without feeling ashamed for it, I admire you :') Hi from Perú.
You are a very special person and I hope you have a great wonderful inspired life! Thank you for sharing your pain and longing for what everyone else seems to have, I can relate to what you have gone through and hope you are no longer going through.
Cheers for sharing your story mate. I hope it encourage young and maybe confused people to be true to themselves. My story is one of those tragic ones, came out when I was 17. But made me the man I'm today. No regrets. Happily married to the man of my dreams and best friend since I was 19, soon I'll be 29.
Thank you for sharing your coming out story. I was touched by your sincerity. The struggle that you talk about is real. I didn't come out until I was around 30 years old and now I am another 30 years past that. Happy New Year. Bill
So I love to draw, i wouldn't call myself an "artist" but I totally understand what you mean about love being a huge inspiration on art. I have noticed it on my drawings too.
I just wanted to say thank you for posting this, its really interesting to see how other people have come out, and hope that it helps those of us not out to do so. Keep making videos and comics, I love reading and watching them!
Wow! That was the best coming out video I've ever watched! That was so well spoken. The feelings people can't explain were explained perfectly. The first few minutes had me entirely roped into your life. Absolutely amazing. Wow again.
I know exactly how you feel. I came out a year ago, and I'm not a really good looking guy. So with that, I felt like I wouldn't be loved, and I felt like would be alone. I have been alone for a while before coming out. And just the feeling alone sucks, trying a bunch of sites. MeetMe,GetMale. And when I was in the car with my mom I told her that I was "Bi" and she automatically said she already knew. I cried to her about it for a good while. And just recently, last month I met this GREAT guy on meetme. We met in a coffee shop, and I was RREEAALLYY nervous. We got to talking, and we started seeing each other. And the other day he had shown me one of your videos, and some strips on your facebook. Which by the way LOVE the Flamingo one. So, my and him have been seeing each other since July 25th this year. And hes just great. And the day he shown me your channel, we watched a movie with his sister and her bf, and after the movie, tv, and I look up, only to see him looking down at me smiling. (This has been little while not the same month) And he kisses my forehead. Few minutes later, the tip of my nose, and after that softly on my lips. My face went RED!! all I could think about was "Oh my god!! My first Kiss!! ". And Im just going on, But its ok to by Gay, I live in Utah. with all the religious people and I dont care what they say. :) we are who we are, and we are happy, thats all that matters.. If I could give you a hug I would
I can say with complete honesty that this is the most touching and moving coming out video I've seen in my entire life. It's kind of difficult to make me cry, but I actually did it while watching this. I kind of felt like I was the one talking, through his voice. This video definitely needs more views.
Thanks for the thoughtful, intelligent and touching story. It is so important to share these experiences with others who, like you, felt completely alone and isolated. I so look forward to the day when we look back on "coming out" videos as a puzzling piece of our history and have to explain to a new generation that times were once very different, when people actually suffered for their innate desire to love someone of their own sex. Times are changing ... I never thought I'd see us get this far and still, it seems the door only just beginning to open. Cheers.
Oh, what a wondeful story. It's amazing how love can change us, isn't it? Either loving someone else or learning how to love who you are, it's just amazing
That is a great video man! I subscribed. I think you are very brave for sharing this. I was so nervous when I made my own coming out story. I wish u all the best!
your story is so similar to mine it's almost freaky. had i seen this a few months back when i came out...it'd have made it easier. thank you for sharing this. honestly, thank you.
Thanks for sharing your story.It's so similar to my own. Never easy, don't know if it gets any easier. We get so worked up about not being accepted, and it turns out that most everyone we tell, accepts us. I think we should be more defined by what we do, and not who we're attracted to. I hope many more people see this video. You're very very articulate. And the beauty on the inside is obvious. Peace.
Thank you so much for this. I felt so related. Right now I'm in that introspective process you described and feel terrified, but now I got really inspired by this. Thank you (I'll have to get one of those sound machines :P)
Ok so I am only just turning 18 next week so i guess my story is still happening to me now but high school for me happened just as it did for you it seems. I sort of self categorized myself as just not a social person who didn't need/want friends and wasn't interested in any form of romantic relationship and this kept me from being outed sure but it also make me really unhappy with myself. I just felt like the person i was at home was entirely different to the one at school. Instead of a social life I tried to focus on school work which served me well in going to university but in the end I am not an 18 year old who has never done so many of the things that other people my age have done. I also had the same scary feelings that I would never be loved or be happy with someone and that I would have to live my life with a woman who i knew i couldn't really love but this kinda gave me hope in that I see that I can change so I just dived in and told my mum and brother and it is better now. Seriously better.
Gosh. I didn't know, that listen to your story would make me cry. It was so emotional. I'm not gay(but I support it), but I know how hard it is to find your true self. Somehow I think this video is going to help a lot of people, who don't know how to come out or how to find their true self. I think, it will help them to be themselves. Thank you for being yourself. And thanks for showing, that you are proud of yourself. By the way. Sorry for the eventually bad, bad English. ;)
This was beautiful! Idk if I ever told you, but you have a way of connecting with peoples emotions so naturally, its really something special. Thanks for sharing "hat" :)
i was lookin' for brazilian stories, something closer to me,and i found yours. i luved this video, is awsome! it helped me a lot. you are a great guy with a great story. congratualations!
I usually find these coming out videos a little boring, to be honest, but yours was so much more than a coming out video. It was so inspiring and empowering and honest and moving. And I liked so much the part about being gay = being special and unique. Thank you so much for sharing this!
Thank you so much for this video. My sister came out to me I don't remember if she told me or mom first but I looked at her and said "OK cool I try not to limit myself" she has since come to the conclusion that she prefers guys but none of us ever thought of her any differently. I'm sorry that you did not let yourself feel attracted to people growing up but I'm so glad that you are able to now.
i had the urge to give you a big hug like 4x during that. Hopefully other people watching this will be able to find the courage to come out and realise like you did how special it is.
Your story has touched me in many ways. You're so real and honest and I appreciate your story very much. Been married to my hubby for almost 2 years. Been together for 17 years and raised 3 children. Now we do foster care. We found our calling in this harsh world. Glad you finally found yours.
Wow, just wow! What a beautiful and honest video, it takes courage to open up like that and tell the world about your personal life-thank you for sharing it-I can certainly relate to parts of it as I'm sure so many others have and I love the positive ending!
Omg... you really touched me. Thx for sharing that honesty. I read in your eyes, that you are such a sweet person. I really hope that you will find love . Because you really deserve it. Whit love from The Netherlands.
I watch a lot of videos on TH-cam and watched a lot of "Coming out story" in the past. But this, is the first video that makes me want to write a comment. I don't know, it was just sincere. You are good with words! Anyway, liked your story and video. ;)
Adorable. Simply adorable. The equation beautiful soul = honest eyes remains unchallenged. Never belittle the meaningfulness of that special glint of honesty in one's eyes.
So this is only the second video I've watched of yours (the first being the gay scientific kingdom one) and all I can say is wow. So much of your story I related to, not exploring myself until way after college and having to play catch up to everyone around us. I even teared up a bit with you. You are right though we aren't normal, we go through a completely different and more challenging life than most straight people and that trial by fire makes us special. So thanks for making this video and reminding us all of that :-) Also A+ sound effects usage haha.
WOW the best coming out video that I have seen so far. Finally a video that I can relate to. On the other hand I feel extremely sorry that you missed college life. I really wish we could exchange some emails. You are a real person. Thank you for the video!!!
Mr. Hat guy , i'm glad you were able to finally experience what it feels like to want , admire and love another person, it's amazing when you find the right one ! unfortunately , it takes kissing a few frogs before you find a real prince ? that's normal and molds you into the person you ultimately become, so , congratulations and good luck finding the person who makes you feel like it's your birthday or x-mas everyday ! 2 things , 1. Be safe & 2. Don't judge potential dates on past frogs you've had to kiss , you might pass up your prince charming ?
. I want thank you for making this video, sweet man. I can really relate to what you are saying and that is so cool and comforting. I will be sharing this video with many other people. God bless you!
Hands down the best coming out video I have seen so far. Your honest, sincere, funny, creative and did I mention VERY good looking. I hope you enjoy all life has to offer, dating can be a roller coaster ... hang on, it gets better. Thank you for sharing your story with the TH-cam world.
Great video. I'm so glad to hear you had a positive response from your father. You must treasure that (I'm sure you do). I nearly lost everything after I told my parents, and I was kicked back into the closet. They live overseas and away from me at the moment, and I live my own life, but I still have to hide it all. Through various circumstances, me hiding from them is damaging my relationship with my parents. Eventually I need to tell them again, and I'm dreading the time I will have to.
I feel for your story, which was excellent, moving and touching. I talk like a gay guy, maybe not as much now, but I fall back into it sometimes. It was very hard to be that way. For what it is worth, I like your voice and I find it very strong, or that it is a good-sounding voice for a man that is creative. Loved the hat AND the tears. Glad Dad is on your side! You said too many incredibly wonderful things for me to possibly list!!! You look very much like the late actor, Lenny Baker (Next Stop Greenwich Village). This film is touching and a wonderful story. This is meant as a compliment. I decided to tell the my own story after hearing some of the heartbreaking stories that, to this day, are told by young people in 2014. My story is extremely honest, revealing and frank. Coming Out Story by Jim in 1970s
That was such a great video, thank you so much for sharing that with the world. It made me feel better, I relate so much to it, believing that love still can come, it just might take some time.
*Take em! TAKE ALL MY HUGS. **_TAKE THEM._*
No, take mine!!!!!
My coming out story:
*Changes FB info to interested in "man"*
People ask: Are you gay?
Me: Yep.
They: K
The End
Exactly! I never made a big deal out of it, so neither did other people.
See that's the correct way to go about it. If you have to go around every person telling them you're gay its almost as if you are wanting their approval before you go ahead with it. You don't have to "come out" out anyone even your parents. If people are your friends and your parents love you then there is no reason you should need to get confirmation with anyone
AximusNetwork To be honest, it feels a little impersonal to me. I prefer actually telling the people who are important then once I'm done with that maybe change it on Facebook but I don't like being that reliant on Facebook.
To each their own though, whatever works for each person's fine with them
Ah well, the only persons I told personally were my parents and my grandparents. Mom just was overwhelmed a littlebit because she had to adjust a littlebit to the sudden change but never had real problems and doesn't care now as long as I'm happy. Grandparents and dad were okay with it aswell. For the rest just few FB friends and my niece saw it on FB and they spread it to other peeps and family than :p
you're lucky
Shit two minutes in and I'm already crying wtf
I found out about you yesterday, and I have already devoured pretty much every single piece of content you have put out. I saved this video for last...
I know I'm just a mere number to you, but I thank you so much for making this. I'm out, but I still relate to the feeling of being "broken", and you pretty much perfectly put what I couldn't explain into words. Wish I could just give you a big hug right now. You are awesome.
This video is important for gay men who are not effeminate or stereotypically gay people tend to ignore them.These masculine gay men tend to be invisible in the gay and mainstream community.
I've struggled through so many of the same sort of feelings. I've spent so much time in the closet out of habit. Despite knowing that it really shouldn't matter at my age, I get so afraid of it changing the person I created and how people will deal with that. Thank you for sharing your story, it means a lot to know that I'm not the only one that struggled with this.
Wow, 95% of your whole coming out story was word for word my story. Especially the first like two thirds of it. Made me teary eyed! And helped me feel less alone. Thank you.
Hey, buddy! We really miss your content. Hope you’re doing well!
when you smile your whole face lights up. please never stop smiling hat
That whole bit about middle school and stuff....oh the shared feels
People used to argue with me when I told them I was gay,because I don't act,talk,walk it.They told me I wasn't.But I am.Sending love from the uk x
Same with me, an also because I'm 13 -.-
There's no such thing as "acting gay" there's just acting as yourself. Be yourself, don't let anyone label you c:
stephen pugh I relate to this on a spiritual level
I've heard a lot of coming out stories, and they were all really inspirational... but this one was the best. I mean I know it's not right to "rate" people's coming out stories, in a sense, but none of them were as moving, and as inspirational as yours was Hat. This was actually the first coming out story I ever heard, but I have heard many more after, and you're part of the reason I decided that it was okay to come out, Thank you. You're amazing and I love your videos and your comic strips!
Just discovered this channel, I'm not too sure who you are but I cried from the minute you said "I felt broken" till the end of the video. Even though I don't know you I feel super proud of you and it's great to see you are happy and comfortable with yourself!! Great video xxx
I just saw your video and i can relate so much with your loneliness and feeling lost with your emotions. Your video made me so emotional and it just made me feel like giving you a big hug. Because i feel like I'm just not destined to be loved or be in love i feel jaded but I'm happy your happier with yourself now.
I've watched a lot.. and I mean A LOT of coming out videos and I've never felt more emotional than whilst watching this. Lots of tears and pausing the video to calm down later.. Well done! A fantastic story and something you should be proud of!
Oh Hat, Im in the same situation you once were, Im 24 y/o, never been on a date, never even felt the warmth of someone else's hand, and Im a total virgin haha, but you know what? I came to terms with it, I might never experience love, and even if that sounds so terrible... its okay. I find some sort of strength in it, it keeps me focused on my goals, Im also an artist, so I can be a hopeless romantic, but sometimes theres no use looking for hope where there is none, and accept the life you got. Some people just dont get to love in this world and that is a cruel reality.
Loved your video by the way! that douche doesnt know what he missed on you :)
I'm only at the 2-minute mark and I already feel like crying and hugging you and just making you feel better.
For what it is worth, I listen to your story kind of like it is a record... I just enjoy hearing it. The pauses... the disappointments... the fears... and then the good parts... it is something I feel every day, too.
Not sure how many times, but when I wonder if you posted a new video and if you do, I watch it, then I listen to this one again. If you haven't posted a new video, I listen to this one again. It is healing and peaceful, your voice. It is like processing the thoughts that are with me everyday through the expression of someone else. Now you know. You have a totally GAY non-gay-sounding VOICE!!!
Thank you so much for sharing. I came out last year and I can completely understand when you say that "coming out has been the best decision of my life." It changes everything.
Thank you for being so honest and sharing your experience. The sound-box was a nice touch too!
I had/have similar issues with encouraging myself to pursue people romantically vs ignoring it and focusing on my other interests, and this makes me want to trying dating and being more open. So, thank you for talking about this!
Good video. I had to pause it before I could continue after that last comment because I did actually end up crying. But it was uplifting, and I'm happy things are working out for you.
a good friend of mine said that coming out is a life long process. and it is. you never stop coming out. and i'm so happy you shared your story. we all have our own stories and i hope your story inspires someone out there to come out to their family. it's awkward, often painful, and just plain weird. but in the end it almost always works out. thanks for doing your thing Hat :)
I'm a gay male and unfortunately I'm a very stereotypical gay male. I'm feminine and I have a high pitched voice and I really wish I was masculine but that's not the case.
Masculine gay men: be proud ^-^ We're all fabulous, gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, demisexual, sapiosexual, asexual, whatever.. You're still fabulous. You don't have to be gay to be fabulous!
***** Oh my gosh that moved me! Thank you SO MUCH, you don't know how much I appreciate that comment! I'm sorry you experienced that kind of upbringing and I'm glad your life is better now. Bullying is horrible.
Everyone here is so nice! You take care too ***** I appreciate your lovely comment, again. ***** I owe you gratitude too. I am lifted :)
I'm a girl who is mainly attracted to men with an occasional girl crush. I am, by looks, extremely girly. So many people treat me like a bimbo because of that not to mention that I work in the game industry which is still ruled mostly by men so I do stick out a bit. I have never understood why people dislike femininity (in both women and men) it's like people consider it as a sign of weakness. am I making any sense? haha english is not my native language :p
NemoRosa700 You are making sense. I call that "sexism", which is by far worse than homophobia. Perhaps homophobia stems from sexism, which may be the root of a lot of social problems. Not even a hundred years ago, black people were thought to be less than the whites.
But no. I love masculinity and I love femininity and both complement each other. In my opinion, both need each other. You're not a "bimbo" just because you're feminine :) Don't let people say that.
Game industry? That's cool! I'm quite interested in game design :)
Cara Ames Thanks! I've actually thought about that homophobia and sexism are linked together like that. but it's just so wrong grrr I love different kinds of personalities and preferences and it's far more interesting than, let's say, if everyone were to follow the "social-norm" :/ it's not just that, people are afraid of everything that doesn't fit the norm. There should be more "non-chalant" exposure to everything!
I'm a visual artist, I do graphics and such^^
Magnificent!! I'm a writer (poet) who had never been published until coming out. I've been published many times since...and I believe I'd actually been 'standing in my own way' until then. I feel 'whole', now. You remind me of me.
I'm glad you had that sound effects thing because I was crying but I also couldn't help but notice how much you look like my dad
I found your story very touching, Like you, I was a "late bloomer" at 22 years old that didn't put to much value in relationships with other people and then suddenly realized I needed to be my full self.
You are a wonderful person. This story reminds me so much of my story. I didn't fall into any of the stereotypes and I too felt broken. You are a true inspiration!
So relatable. I always thought the same way. Although I came out in a therapists office around noon.
I was so scared you weren't gonna tell what happened to the guy and then you did. Since the comics I've always been a really huge fan and since you've started making youtube videos I admire you SO much more. You're really a fantastic person and I know this is gonna have a huge impact on people. Great job, Hat!
I want to give you all the hugs. I'm happy that you discovered this side of yourself, and that you're able to be open and honest about it, in the past, and now c:
I love hearing about coming out stories, because I never really had to 'come out', because it was pretty clear to everyone around me, and I sorta miss it. I'm not really sure why I miss it - I suppose because I never got to /tell/ anyone in my own time and voice.
I don't know where I'm going with this. I guess you understand.
Thanks for sharing, man :)
Wow that was powerful, very moving thank you for sharing.
your story was very different from most on the tube and that makes it special. So honest and helpful for so many. I wish you happiness and joy with your family no matter how it looks.
One of the best coming out videos !
Thanks for sharing :)
Hi Hat. I really hope you read this because I want you to know how special your video is. As I've said in a previous comment I think seven months ago, I watched this before coming out to my brother. Now I watched it again before coming out to my parents. I knew that your video would give me that courage... again. Thank you for this video :). It changed my life and I'm sure it changed, changes and will change other people's lives. :)
WOW! That was really inspirational. I agree totally. I'm 65 but I can understand your struggle.
you're my inspiration today, thank you, with your video you give me the courage to talk about this with my family.
Thank you for sharing. It is empowering and inspirational. I totally relate to what you went through. It will be a catalyst for many to do the same and everyone needs to do it. Release the pain and enjoy the life that was given to us no matter what it is.
Your story is really good! I can't believe how strong you are, the support you got from your father! Great video and thanks for sharing, you brought tears into my eyes
You are the most adorable thing I've ever have the honor of watching. I want to hug you til the end of time. There's not much that can make me cry, but your story and everything about you fills my heart with such love and compassion. I've gone through so much of the same things and still am. The only person in my family that knows is my mother and my grandmother, but she's no longer with me. Keep up all that you do. You are changing the world so much for the better.
300th commentary, thanks for sharing your story and encouraging others to face their fears and do what they love without feeling ashamed for it, I admire you :') Hi from Perú.
You are a very special person and I hope you have a great wonderful inspired life! Thank you for sharing your pain and longing for what everyone else seems to have, I can relate to what you have gone through and hope you are no longer going through.
Cheers for sharing your story mate. I hope it encourage young and maybe confused people to be true to themselves. My story is one of those tragic ones, came out when I was 17. But made me the man I'm today. No regrets. Happily married to the man of my dreams and best friend since I was 19, soon I'll be 29.
Thank you for sharing your coming out story. I was touched by your sincerity. The struggle that you talk about is real. I didn't come out until I was around 30 years old and now I am another 30 years past that. Happy New Year. Bill
So I love to draw, i wouldn't call myself an "artist" but I totally understand what you mean about love being a huge inspiration on art. I have noticed it on my drawings too.
I just wanted to say thank you for posting this, its really interesting to see how other people have come out, and hope that it helps those of us not out to do so. Keep making videos and comics, I love reading and watching them!
Wow, really powerful story. So happy for you that you are where you are now. Thanks for sharing.
Wow! That was the best coming out video I've ever watched! That was so well spoken. The feelings people can't explain were explained perfectly. The first few minutes had me entirely roped into your life. Absolutely amazing. Wow again.
I think this is the most beautiful and moving youtube coming out story I have ever heard. Thanks for sharing.
Hat!! Don't cry!!! If u cr... oh shit, my emotions T_T. I guess now its my turn(?) To come out too. Thanks u encouraged me :')
I know exactly how you feel. I came out a year ago, and I'm not a really good looking guy. So with that, I felt like I wouldn't be loved, and I felt like would be alone. I have been alone for a while before coming out. And just the feeling alone sucks, trying a bunch of sites. MeetMe,GetMale. And when I was in the car with my mom I told her that I was "Bi" and she automatically said she already knew. I cried to her about it for a good while. And just recently, last month I met this GREAT guy on meetme. We met in a coffee shop, and I was RREEAALLYY nervous. We got to talking, and we started seeing each other. And the other day he had shown me one of your videos, and some strips on your facebook. Which by the way LOVE the Flamingo one. So, my and him have been seeing each other since July 25th this year. And hes just great. And the day he shown me your channel, we watched a movie with his sister and her bf, and after the movie, tv, and I look up, only to see him looking down at me smiling. (This has been little while not the same month) And he kisses my forehead. Few minutes later, the tip of my nose, and after that softly on my lips. My face went RED!! all I could think about was "Oh my god!! My first Kiss!! ". And Im just going on, But its ok to by Gay, I live in Utah. with all the religious people and I dont care what they say. :) we are who we are, and we are happy, thats all that matters.. If I could give you a hug I would
I can say with complete honesty that this is the most touching and moving coming out video I've seen in my entire life. It's kind of difficult to make me cry, but I actually did it while watching this. I kind of felt like I was the one talking, through his voice. This video definitely needs more views.
Thanks for the thoughtful, intelligent and touching story. It is so important to share these experiences with others who, like you, felt completely alone and isolated. I so look forward to the day when we look back on "coming out" videos as a puzzling piece of our history and have to explain to a new generation that times were once very different, when people actually suffered for their innate desire to love someone of their own sex. Times are changing ... I never thought I'd see us get this far and still, it seems the door only just beginning to open. Cheers.
Oh, what a wondeful story. It's amazing how love can change us, isn't it? Either loving someone else or learning how to love who you are, it's just amazing
That is a great video man! I subscribed. I think you are very brave for sharing this. I was so nervous when I made my own coming out story. I wish u all the best!
Your ending comment was hilarious. Life is too short, you are a very talented, kind and loving person. Love your Dad (what did Mom say?). Enjoy Life!
your story is so similar to mine it's almost freaky. had i seen this a few months back when i came out...it'd have made it easier. thank you for sharing this. honestly, thank you.
Omg, I thought I was the only who felt that way. This video gave me chills and I actually got emotion myself.
Thanks for sharing your story.It's so similar to my own. Never easy, don't know if it gets any easier. We get so worked up about not being accepted, and it turns out that most everyone we tell, accepts us. I think we should be more defined by what we do, and not who we're attracted to. I hope many more people see this video. You're very very articulate. And the beauty on the inside is obvious. Peace.
Thank you so much for this. I felt so related. Right now I'm in that introspective process you described and feel terrified, but now I got really inspired by this. Thank you (I'll have to get one of those sound machines :P)
Ok so I am only just turning 18 next week so i guess my story is still happening to me now but high school for me happened just as it did for you it seems. I sort of self categorized myself as just not a social person who didn't need/want friends and wasn't interested in any form of romantic relationship and this kept me from being outed sure but it also make me really unhappy with myself. I just felt like the person i was at home was entirely different to the one at school. Instead of a social life I tried to focus on school work which served me well in going to university but in the end I am not an 18 year old who has never done so many of the things that other people my age have done. I also had the same scary feelings that I would never be loved or be happy with someone and that I would have to live my life with a woman who i knew i couldn't really love but this kinda gave me hope in that I see that I can change so I just dived in and told my mum and brother and it is better now. Seriously better.
Gosh. I didn't know, that listen to your story would make me cry. It was so emotional.
I'm not gay(but I support it), but I know how hard it is to find your true self. Somehow I think this video is going to help a lot of people, who don't know how to come out or how to find their true self. I think, it will help them to be themselves.
Thank you for being yourself. And thanks for showing, that you are proud of yourself.
By the way. Sorry for the eventually bad, bad English. ;)
This was beautiful! Idk if I ever told you, but you have a way of connecting with peoples emotions so naturally, its really something special. Thanks for sharing "hat" :)
i was lookin' for brazilian stories, something closer to me,and i found yours. i luved this video, is awsome! it helped me a lot. you are a great guy with a great story. congratualations!
I feel the need to give you the largest hug possible right now.
Tanks for sharing your experience. Hugs from Brazil.
Best coming out video I have ever seen. I am excited to see where you channel goes. Much live being sent you way.
You made me cry...
"Beeing gay it's not normal... it's special" that phrase will be in my mind for a long time... maybe forever...
That was amazing also cried but as you say everyone's story is a little different. Happy that you had support from your dad! He sounds amazing.
Oh my God. When his eyes turned red, mines did too. What a lovely guy.
I started to cry at one point because this is what I currently feel like
I usually find these coming out videos a little boring, to be honest, but yours was so much more than a coming out video. It was so inspiring and empowering and honest and moving. And I liked so much the part about being gay = being special and unique. Thank you so much for sharing this!
Thank you so much for this video. My sister came out to me I don't remember if she told me or mom first but I looked at her and said "OK cool I try not to limit myself" she has since come to the conclusion that she prefers guys but none of us ever thought of her any differently. I'm sorry that you did not let yourself feel attracted to people growing up but I'm so glad that you are able to now.
i had the urge to give you a big hug like 4x during that. Hopefully other people watching this will be able to find the courage to come out and realise like you did how special it is.
i have never heard someone tell there story like this ..it acculy made me cry :'} i can relate so much man
Your story has touched me in many ways. You're so real and honest and I appreciate your story very much. Been married to my hubby for almost 2 years. Been together for 17 years and raised 3 children. Now we do foster care. We found our calling in this harsh world. Glad you finally found yours.
Wow, just wow! What a beautiful and honest video, it takes courage to open up like that and tell the world about your personal life-thank you for sharing it-I can certainly relate to parts of it as I'm sure so many others have and I love the positive ending!
This is beautiful. I really enjoyed watching this. :)
That last comment about uniqueness really hit me. Wow. Thank you.
Omg... you really touched me. Thx for sharing that honesty. I read in your eyes, that you are such a sweet person. I really hope that you will find love . Because you really deserve it. Whit love from The Netherlands.
I watch a lot of videos on TH-cam and watched a lot of "Coming out story" in the past. But this, is the first video that makes me want to write a comment. I don't know, it was just sincere. You are good with words! Anyway, liked your story and video. ;)
Adorable. Simply adorable. The equation beautiful soul = honest eyes remains unchallenged. Never belittle the meaningfulness of that special glint of honesty in one's eyes.
Lordy me, this got all my feels going.
I love this!!! Im so honored you shared your story. I appreciate you.
Thanks, Hat, for all that you've done! Your comics really helped me through my own coming out process, and I know this video will help many more!
your crying made me cry. we all love you!
So this is only the second video I've watched of yours (the first being the gay scientific kingdom one) and all I can say is wow.
So much of your story I related to, not exploring myself until way after college and having to play catch up to everyone around us. I even teared up a bit with you.
You are right though we aren't normal, we go through a completely different and more challenging life than most straight people and that trial by fire makes us special. So thanks for making this video and reminding us all of that :-)
Also A+ sound effects usage haha.
WOW the best coming out video that I have seen so far. Finally a video that I can relate to. On the other hand I feel extremely sorry that you missed college life. I really wish we could exchange some emails. You are a real person. Thank you for the video!!!
Mr. Hat guy , i'm glad you were able to finally experience what it feels like to want , admire and love another person, it's amazing when you find the right one ! unfortunately , it takes kissing a few frogs before you find a real prince ? that's normal and molds you into the person you ultimately become, so , congratulations and good luck finding the person who makes you feel like it's your birthday or x-mas everyday ! 2 things , 1. Be safe & 2. Don't judge potential dates on past frogs you've had to kiss , you might pass up your prince charming ?
I'm so proud of this video. Inspirational and warming. Best of luck to you.
. I want thank you for making this video, sweet man. I can really relate to what you are saying and that is so cool and comforting. I will be sharing this video with many other people. God bless you!
Hands down the best coming out video I have seen so far. Your honest, sincere, funny, creative and did I mention VERY good looking. I hope you enjoy all life has to offer, dating can be a roller coaster ... hang on, it gets better. Thank you for sharing your story with the TH-cam world.
I was touched by your story. I enjoyed listening to your perspective and thanks for sharing.
Thanks for sharing your story. It was beautiful and very touching.
Great video. I'm so glad to hear you had a positive response from your father. You must treasure that (I'm sure you do). I nearly lost everything after I told my parents, and I was kicked back into the closet. They live overseas and away from me at the moment, and I live my own life, but I still have to hide it all. Through various circumstances, me hiding from them is damaging my relationship with my parents. Eventually I need to tell them again, and I'm dreading the time I will have to.
I feel for your story, which was excellent, moving and touching. I talk like a gay guy, maybe not as much now, but I fall back into it sometimes. It was very hard to be that way. For what it is worth, I like your voice and I find it very strong, or that it is a good-sounding voice for a man that is creative. Loved the hat AND the tears. Glad Dad is on your side!
You said too many incredibly wonderful things for me to possibly list!!!
You look very much like the late actor, Lenny Baker (Next Stop Greenwich Village). This film is touching and a wonderful story. This is meant as a compliment.
I decided to tell the my own story after hearing some of the heartbreaking stories that, to this day, are told by young people in 2014. My story is extremely honest, revealing and frank.
Coming Out Story by Jim in 1970s
That was such a great video, thank you so much for sharing that with the world. It made me feel better, I relate so much to it, believing that love still can come, it just might take some time.
This is so special and educational!! I love artists!
This made me cry. HAT! YOU ARE AN INCREDIBLE PERSON! THANKS FOR BEING BRAVE!!! XOXOXO
Great video, very moving. Congratulations on coming out and being you !!