My Coming Out Story

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  • Hey guys! Thanks for watching! So, after I made my last video talking about my tattoos and their meaning, I started thinking about my whole coming out process and how far I've come. I thought I would make a video talking about my experience and what I learned now being on the other side of things. I hope you enjoy it and thank you again for watching!
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  • @ozterry1
    @ozterry1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Your story, and your telling of it moved me. I embrace you for your generosity, and for the generosity of the many guys whose coming out stories I have listened to over these last months. I have often been moved to tears, as I was by your struggling with relived emotion as you spoke x and from time to time had to halt. What a wonderful doctor you will be. I am 86; how grateful I should have bern had such personal validation bern available in my childhood and adolescence. I was 72 before I came out to my family, my parents long dead. Although I have come to accept my homosexuality I know I carry a residual guilt, an emotional blister. I join with you in saying, ‘I love you all’. We all have much to share. - Terry Clarke, Australia

  • @myboibill
    @myboibill ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Really nice video. You moved me. I’ve been out for 40 years and it was rough then and it is so much better now because of men like you. Best of luck

  • @43Costello
    @43Costello 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Really appreciated you sharing your story. I know it was/still is hard for you so know that it's much appreciated. You are one good dude. Never stop being you my friend...

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @ianclough9857
    @ianclough9857 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Dude , I know this vid is dated but i just had to say that What an awesome level headed helpful guy you are ! Well done !

  • @garrettdodson6110
    @garrettdodson6110 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Kudos man! Thanks for sharing and being an advocate and showin compassion for others who find themselves in your shoes. May those who see this vid that feel lost alone and afraid find strength and courage in this video:) much love everyone:)

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
      or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @goodguy3791
    @goodguy3791 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have watched a lot of Coming Out videos. Yours resonates with me more than any other, and I really respect your perspective. I've got 20+ years on you and am so far behind you. I wish I had your courage when I was younger. I just kept hoping for change (rooted in religion and 1985 fear of Aids) so I wouldn't disappoint my family, my hometown, etc. Now that I'm finally growing past that, I feel like there's no one left to be with. Man, I've missed out on a lot

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @tthesweetestsinn
    @tthesweetestsinn 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    the guitar makes it really hard to understand

  • @themaushpit9791
    @themaushpit9791 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Beautiful story! Thank you for sharing it!

  • @donaldstorm4959
    @donaldstorm4959 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dan that was an awesome video I commend you. How you wanna help others it's . Amazing Just keep doing what you're doing, It's a shame you didn't come out earlier, you are such a beautiful person!

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @frcgfd107
    @frcgfd107 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I loved your voice and the video, thank you for sharing!

  • @rkeller8141
    @rkeller8141 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Helpful in hearing my complexities of being gay spoken through a man many years younger than me, and yet he excaped. Now you are comfortable, dignified, and brightness personified, loved your confidence. Small complaint, didn't want to miss a word you said,, but the music at the level it was, had me thinking I was inside a guitar. But I had a nice view of you.

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
      or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @jhardy55561
    @jhardy55561 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    music stops me from hearing you

  • @piusmurray6378
    @piusmurray6378 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love your tufts of chest hair and your hairy arms! I was in my late teens when I found myself looking at guys' open shirt collars to see if they had a hairy chest to complement my own hairy chest. Good for you; love your coming out story!

  • @jamesjardin8446
    @jamesjardin8446 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love your story! Mahalo for sharing!

  • @danoliver6000
    @danoliver6000 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    SO HANDSOME

  • @sptmhk3r
    @sptmhk3r 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for your story.

  • @TheAncasterguy
    @TheAncasterguy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Such a handsome articulate young man. Stay strong. Very good advice.

  • @kroogy888
    @kroogy888 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just found your vid. I dont know you, but am truly happy for you. It really is a huge weight off your shoulders. Not knowing is the scariest part. All my friends were cool with it. They thought it was something serious that happened to me. Just working up the courage to finally tell my brothers and parents.

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

    • @kroogy888
      @kroogy888 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      J E I eventually told people I cared about. Their all very progressive. 🙂

  • @EricHammond01
    @EricHammond01 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love your video it's amazing

  • @ivancruizer23
    @ivancruizer23 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing!

    • @danjamesDR2
      @danjamesDR2  10 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are very welcome! Thanks for watching!

    • @bigmannjunior5865
      @bigmannjunior5865 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Dan James hey are you doing?

  • @Bunkysworkshop
    @Bunkysworkshop 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wonder how I would feel if I did my own coming out video. Would it free me of some of my feelings or bring back some negative things that I wish I could burn. How did you feel after making this video ? Thanks for this video.

  • @Madsci1
    @Madsci1 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Big Bear Hug and Thank You.

  • @sleekcartim
    @sleekcartim 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good community work dan. The lesson for kids is you dont have to beat urslef up, its ok to be you, even if others dont get it.

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @williamtourot5601
    @williamtourot5601 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    thank you

  • @friendforlife8729
    @friendforlife8729 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤️

  • @LMays-cu2hp
    @LMays-cu2hp ปีที่แล้ว

    Very cool.

  • @kevinb.jacksonsr.6066
    @kevinb.jacksonsr.6066 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    you are awesome thank you so very much for sharing your story somewhat similar to mop appreciate you for your encouragement thank you God bless

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
      or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @scottsmith-gm4lr
    @scottsmith-gm4lr 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hey there, 👋 how is life treating you now? After all these years after coming out? How's life now, I'm just interested in the journey thus far dude 😊❤

  • @myboibill
    @myboibill ปีที่แล้ว

    Dan James where did you go? Seven years and nothing new. I Joe you are still out there and doing well.

  • @jamesrobinson2175
    @jamesrobinson2175 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You sound great Dan. I'd love to meet you physically Dan!!!

  • @danoliver6000
    @danoliver6000 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    LIKE THIS

  • @jimmeriden
    @jimmeriden 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are an amazing person for offering to be there even though you don't know me.

  • @romasgudisauskas3696
    @romasgudisauskas3696 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very nice video thank you for sharing

  • @dubon9999
    @dubon9999 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I send all my love and support to all the LGBT people of the world ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You all are important and very valuable even though we live in a world that makes you all believe otherwise. Remember always be proud of who you are 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 You all make from this world a better place ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 LGBT people are a rainbow of love in a world full of hate, but with difference of our straight partners, we all are united over a same flag 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 The flag of LGBT love ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 And we all must be united against hate, violence, discrimination and intolerance ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 We all are like a great family and we must fight to destroy hate ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Remember, LGBT people is love and love always wins ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 I don't care about your race, nationality, biological gender, health condition, religion or any other condition ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 If you are an LGBT person you have all my love and my support ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You guys are not alone in this fight and all the LGBT people of all over the world needs to understand this messagge, cause just united we will win against hate and we don't have to allow that nothing divide us. Never feel bad of who you are and never allow that this cruel world change who you really are or turn off your light and your shine ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You all born that way and remember LGBT people of all the world, at the end, love always wins ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

  • @rehgaalkane8518
    @rehgaalkane8518 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Daaamn your story looks so much like mine but I’m 23 and only my friends know

  • @darwinanderson7401
    @darwinanderson7401 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey brother, you are a sweet and kind guy. I would love to share my story with you sometime. Lots of love. Darwin

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
      or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @shangriladeis2523
    @shangriladeis2523 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Come to Panama, I wanna meet you.

  • @krelhntklerhbg
    @krelhntklerhbg 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    what is that music in the background?

    • @danjamesDR2
      @danjamesDR2  10 ปีที่แล้ว

      It is "romantic acoustic theme" from freestockmusic.com

    • @krelhntklerhbg
      @krelhntklerhbg 10 ปีที่แล้ว

      thanks

  • @CindyKelly98
    @CindyKelly98 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing xx u live in dominica huh?

  • @chasingflacko593
    @chasingflacko593 ปีที่แล้ว

    Question? What made u wanna kiss that girl? Did u have feelings for her? Where u attracted to her? Or was it’s just to get it over with?

  • @jimmeriden
    @jimmeriden 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish I knew at your age what I am still struggling to know at my age.

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
      or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @cfcf1524
    @cfcf1524 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Can hear what you're saying

  • @democraticpatriot2657
    @democraticpatriot2657 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    What's with the guitar music? It adds nothing, but just makes it more difficult to hear what you are saying.

  • @sumguy2581
    @sumguy2581 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wish to meet someone like you one day to love. 😉

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
      or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @andrewjackson5805
    @andrewjackson5805 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can thank you for your story I am gay and OK! am 63 and just came out a month ago 2019 the thing about coming out is that it is a process. Highs and lows love and support and then discouragement. Have resources we friends, family, hot lines just have support. Dr Can hope you are successful in her school, internship whatever love yourself Andy

    • @hsltr1
      @hsltr1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well done Andrew ,to wait until your 63 to come out is just unimaginable .How have you got through life in the closet is beyond belief . I can only think that maybe you lived with your parents and would find it impossible to come out to them and perhaps now your parents have passed on you are able to be yourself without having to explain to them . I wish you lots of love and happiness and l hope you have someone to share it with 😊

    • @andrewjackson5805
      @andrewjackson5805 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@hsltr1 no not parental issues but church job and fear of risks

  • @biglouslife6658
    @biglouslife6658 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dan i tried to find a way to msg you but couldnt find how on here. Would love to ask you a couple of questions. That help you out with coming out. I know you might not even see my msg since video is old. Plus you tubers never reply. But do you have Instagram or snap where we can talk? Please let me know thanks. Love the video

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
      or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @supermilkguy
    @supermilkguy 10 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for sharing. One thing about the production: the background music was kind of a distraction, and the 15 second musical intro was really unnecessary

  • @vanessamtakula99
    @vanessamtakula99 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I feel so dark inside 🙁

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @bgdady4269
    @bgdady4269 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi! Watched your video and was wondering if we could talk. I know the video is old.. just need someone to talk too....

    • @danjamesDR2
      @danjamesDR2  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      yea no problem. I think you can message me through youtube?

    • @headlights4395
      @headlights4395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for anyone that you know, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
      If anyone that you know needs support against religious, social, or cultural abuses, this can help them: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God”- the psychological origins of religions.
      neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html or
      homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html

  • @srf1293
    @srf1293 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good for you are are still human gay or straight. You seem like a good guy

  • @CoopyKat
    @CoopyKat ปีที่แล้ว

    What's with the guitar music playing? you don't need music to move your viewers. If they're moved, that comes naturally.

  • @frankmarter6845
    @frankmarter6845 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You put yourself through so much needlessly as it turned out. It’s a shame you didn’t have more faith in your parents and close friends. It’s hard to know when to broach your sexual feelings to others. Mostly the only people who care are potential lovers. Others don’t have a dog in the show no matter what they think. As a matter of convenience and social mixing it is easier if those who know you well are aware of your preferences. But it isn’t essential. Who you love is your business and doesn’t need to be front page news to anyone. If everyone doesn’t care then that’s that. If they do and are not ok with it then you can avoid them until they finally get on board. You don’t have to please everyone and you never will. What you can’t change about yourself is either accepted without condition or it isn’t. If not then simply go on your way. There are plenty of people who don’t care and they will be very happy to include you in their circle.

  • @M13x13M
    @M13x13M 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Funny how these coming out videos are mostly by guys that could pass as straight.

  • @Ray3645
    @Ray3645 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Why are all the guys in these coming out videos so goodlooking? Aren't there any coming out stories from ugly folks? ;-)

  • @billclary9751
    @billclary9751 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    horseback riding?

    • @sumguy2581
      @sumguy2581 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bareback lol

  • @fumarate1
    @fumarate1 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    fucking annoying Humphrey B Bears music.

  • @scottdomenica2004
    @scottdomenica2004 ปีที่แล้ว

    Really beautiful looking buddy. Thanks for sharing