will you still need me, will you still feed me, when I'm 64!! but seriously, 64 seems like such a great age. I can't wait to be 64! I'm guessing it'd be relaxing and chill. not too young, but not old at all either! bless you, and enjoy your time being 64!have a great day
@@Greenballoffire It’s fabulous being 64! I also feel privileged to be this age. Some of my friends and family didn’t make it. Enjoy your life at any age. It’s a show we don’t get to rehearse. 🥰
I’m with you! I’m so happy, comfortable and feeling liberated for having had my long hair cut into a very short crop. It feels wonderful and is super quick to look after. Happiness is a choice 🥰
I've always thought that women tend to keep the hairstyle they had in their youth. The short "old lady" hairstyles are the young lady hairstyles of the 30's, 40's, etc. I realized this when looking through old yearbooks. The men keep the same hairstyles too (if they keep their hair). For example, most elderly men have their hair cut with scissors around the nape of their neck instead of clippers. The same was true when they were young.
This is it~! 100%~~ my mum who is 77 rn also likes to keep her hair short because it's less maintenance and as an older person she finds it hard to maintain long hair. Short hair also means you look fine when you have frequent hospital admissions, and while in hospital can't keep your hair up. Having long hair in the hospital is often messy and down, and doesn't look good.
I'm 60. I was a young woman in the 80s. Someone who was a young adult in the 30s would be well over 100 by now. Even the youth of the 1960s are now in their 70s & 80s.
During the pandemic, when most of the salons were shut, my boss let his hair grow out down juuust above his collar, just because the salons were closed. Because he never lets it get that long on purpose. It was kind of interesting seeing him like that, especially with him having just turned 60 in 2020. But I am so used to seeing him with his hair cut short, I was oddly relieved when he was able to get his hair cut again. Kinda like, "there's the Rex I know and love." 😅
I am 66, and still have my long, almost straight, hip length hair. I wear it loose, and have no plans to ever cut it off. If you zoom in on my photo (taken when I was 53) you can see why long hair works for me. My face shape, skin condition, and hair all look much younger than my calendar age. I don't look silly, or like I'm trying to fool anyone. As my hair has gotten greyer, it's also graying in a flattering way. Everyone should be free to style their hair in any way they want. I tell my story because I don't want others to think that *all* older women *must* cut their hair off.
I'm seeing more older women with long, naturally graying hair. I think it's a wonderful look, although I'm not sure everyone can pull it off. A lot of women have thinning hair and want the volume of a shorter cut. I agree that no matter what, women should wear their hair any way they want!
My grandmother is 78 and her hair has always been past her butt she’s a rather tall woman too she started graying when I was born but now she has beautiful silvery white streaks throughout her salt and pepper hair. People have always loved my grandmas hair I am glad she never chopped it off because I have always bragged about her hair and grew mine out and so did my mother because of her even though for my mom and I to be the equivalent in length ours would have to be at my knees due to height difference. For me I love it when I see an older lady especially ones with graying to have long hair as I see my grandma.
@@StarlaBizarre I used to say that too as my mom has a gorgeous head of grays at 79 (I'm 57) so I let my gray grow in for about 4-5 months (about an inch and a half of growth) it depressed me and just wasn't ME. So...back to my semi permanent color every 6 weeks or so on the grays (mostly by my ears/temples). I feel so much better after the color. I really wanted to let the gray grow but I guess I'm not ready quite yet.
I think among older, traditional women (like the kind who think you can't wear white after labour day) there's this idea passed on through the generations that long, grey hair makes you look like a crazy witch (that's how they would describe it). A lot of it is probably just misogyny. Guys see long hair and immediately associate it with a young, sexually attractive female. If they then see that same hair on an older lady, they find it jarring and they feel cheated when they realize the back of a head that they'd been drooling over could be their grandmother.
Yes it's unfortunately rooted in misogyny. According to society conventions, older women are not supposed to be desirable and attractive once they are past their reproductive age. It's also the reason why female aging is more stigmatized than male aging. I also think it has to do with culture you come from. I come from a South Asian culture so older women wear their hair long but tied back in bun or braid. I have never heard of the concept "older women should have short hair" until I came to the US and seen many white older women with short hair.
@@lilymulligan8180i have always had long, thick shiny black hair (South Asian here!) At 36, am beginning to go grey...while it's just a few strands here and there and not too noticeable, am dreading the day i would start having to dye it 😬 I badly want to rock my silver strands, haha. My issue is that ALL women i have seen who look awesome in their grey hair, are kind of "older" (think 50 or 55 and above). Although am 36, i have quite a youthful face and am wondering if it would look TOO weird to walk around with greying hair 😶😶
A lot of women over 50 had shorter hair when we were younger so there may be a generational issue too. Im seriously angry about the peer pressure on my granddaughters to have long hair because their bob cuts arent 'feminine'. One little girls (who swims a lot) who has a pixie cut, gets called a dyke.I thought we got rid of that crap years ago,
Lo g hair is a trend. Plus in times of bad economics and uncertainty women always tendet for a more female look and behavior. Listen to the voices: The majority of young women makes their voice sound brighter. That's normal at bad times.
I have an older lady friend she peers pressures me all the time to cut mine and my daughter’s hair,it’s exhausting and annoying she wants us to cut our hair up to our ears lol I’ve seen photos of her when she was younger(she’s always had short hair she’s never had it long)so she thinks we all gotta be like the “cookie cutter mentally”meaning we all gotta be the same “as her”it just becomes rude when she’s gotta lecture us to “get rid off it” it’s too much” “I would never with that annoying hair”just her being a senile about it,being lectured on our braids or if we want to either curl and straighten it🤦🏻♀️people need to mind their business and leave people alone
My grandmother is 89, she has her hair set in this hard little old lady fro, and she's been getting it "set" since she was in her 20s!!!! That is the craziest thing to me, she doesn't just do it because she's old, she does it because she's always done it. She's done it since before my mother was born. Every single week, she has her bath and then goes to the hairdresser early in the morning on Friday. She's been doing this 52 weeks a year for 66 years at like $25ish/visit. I've never seen a picture of her without this hairstyle, she's never had anything else since shes been an adult. She sleeps with no pillow and naps with her head down on her chest so it doesn't get altered. It's wild.
My grandmother, who died when I was 24 and who would be 104 had she lived, also always went to get her hair "done" on Friday mornings. I'm not sure what she did to keep it big and poufy all week but when she died she was only six years older than I am now and never left the house without big hair and hairspray. Even when she was very ill and dying she somehow got her hair done and we used to paint her nails for her every week. A different world.
It’s really based on history. After the 1920s “proper” fashion meant short, curled hair, especially in the ‘50s. The standard from 1920 to the mid ‘60s was hair between basically a pixie length and around the shoulders. As fashion moved forward and long hair returned, the “old” people kept their fashions. So, in the later 70s, and 80s onward white hair in a fashionable ‘50s cut became synonymous with old ladies, who were just wearing the hair from their “prime” years. In the 20s-50s, an old lady was always depicted with long hair in a bun. Before this period, during, and after though, accusations of vanity and berating women’s tastes have long ensured women who are older follow what they’re “supposed” to look like. In the Victorian period, even though old women all still had long hair, they were mocked if they dressed in a more youthful way, just like women nowadays who are older and expected to cut their hair.
Yes....one good thing about being older is I cannot be bullied re fashion or my looks I know what suits ME best. Some older women who have not taken care of themselves get bitter and catty about women who HAVE taken care of themselves and still care how they look. Not all of them do get critical of other women. I have hypothyroidsm and for years was overweight I accepted it and knew I was loved I still took care in my grooming and clothing. I went from a size 18 to now an 8...it was purely my disease. I didnt sudenyly do something "right" other than get my hormone levels sorted out. Suddenly I get alot of attention...positive from older men, negative sometimes from older women.I just dont care. I loved myself and was a happy person at size 18 and I am as well as a size 8. Wonderfully my face has held up well and my facial skin is great because I used sunscreen and RetinA for decades. I wear my hair slightly below shoulder length and it is blonde...I was born blonde and will stay blonde just as my grandmlther did...it's a little ashier now.
There is no "prime years". Life has it's stages, but all of them are good. Are you talking about child baring years or something? If you think there is a time when your over your prime, that is what your life will be like when you are older. I love being 58, and do not think of myself as having less life at all. My life is better now in many ways than it was when I was in my 20s, that's for sure.
@@latinaalma1947 I went from size 18 to size 10 and then actively tried to stop the weight loss at that point. I'm happy being an average weight. I was on a medication, that put the weight on me and made it impossible to get off, as well.
The reason is simple, I think. A lot of post-menopausal women are dealing with subsequent hair loss. Short and curly or textured is an easy way to make thinning hair appear fuller.
I'm post menopausal (57) and must be a unicorn as my hair has gotten thicker, longer and stronger (my keto diet and vitamins is probably helping too).😉
@@sarahs.9678 I started letting my gray come in, got to 5 months (almost 2" or so of growth), it looked horrible, I hated it and it depressed me. I felt instantly happier after I dyed the roots again (I only use semi permanent, I do it at home every 6 weeks or so). I don't think I'm ready mentally for gray hair....yet. My mom has a full head or gorgeous gray hair as does my husband it looks great on them, it just made me feel dragged down and washed out.
@@sarahs.9678 Coloring products now days are far better formulated especially the pro colors like Wella and shouldn't be an issue if one does it every 4-6 weeks. Bleaching on the other hand is really back for the hair follicles, so possibly the bleach blonds of past is the problem. Self care and wellness is also an issue in older yrs, if one does their homework on how to stay youthful and healthy this thinning hair shouldn't be an issue.
Personally speaking, I prefer short hair for several reasons: 1) The texture of my incoming grey hair is completely different from the hair I've had until now. It's thicker, more brittle, less pliable, and often grows in very curly, while the hair I've had until now is straight. When my hair is in a ponytail, you can see all these little spirally grey things sticking out of my crown. 2) I can't lift my arms above my head for more than a few moments due to the arthritis in my hands and shoulders. Shorter is simpler to maintain and to style.
That it for me, too, it’s not the same hair as before! It takes a half-hour to comb it out after shampooing, even with detangling sprays. It has a completely different texture, it went from straight to wavy/curly where it’s gone gray!🙂
Yeah that is what my comment was I'm only 35 I have a hard time walking for a Longer than a block because I spy so I don't feel bad But yes I asked a family member I most older women have short hair and she said Well dear a lot of older people get arthritis Any kids harder to take care of long hair Along with other things that get harder With age it is just more simple Also when women get older think we realize we want to attract a man that's gonna treat us right for who we are and not just what we look like
I am 80 and have always had hair to please????my ma(e)n, although I hated having g a mop of hair hanging in my back I live in Tucson, where it’s hot (110) and humid, but also brings up real stormy monsoon winds. Am I to struggle with long hair with all of it just blowing around, sticking to your face or back…..,…Nooo. I got a pixie cut, which turned out almost bald because the hairstylist wanted to fix previous mistakes, making an excuse to use her beloved razor. I think they have an addiction to it. It erases all mistakes. I now run my head under cold water whenever I get too hot, am loving it but keeping it covered for a little more length and will add some highlights to match the incoming grey. That concerns my head. Now the rest of me wants to be super healthy and fit for my age! Do not to impress, do to enjoy it.
Now give us a video showing us why long hair can be beautiful as we age. I say that because the women in my family look great with short hair, but I think they look more 'beautiful/romantic' when their hair is long and past shoulder length (we all have very long necks as well! ) 😅
Yes, please a video for mature women with long hair. I am 54 with long curly hair down to my waist and I love it. I can style my hair according to my mood :) , occasion even outfit
57 with long hair down my back, will never get "the chop" it would make me look hideous, my face does not take to short hair, nor do I like short hair....on me.
I was always a bob or short-haired gal. But as I aged, I realized that too short made me look matronly. So, I opted for the "universally flattering cut," which is just above the shoulders, long layers, and side bangs. One thing is for sure, long hair is a no-no (not that I ever liked long hair). When my hair hasn't had a cut in months, I can tell it's dragging my face down.
Yes, I came to that conclusion too, plus at that length you have options of styling without the inconvenience of too much hair. Sometimes I get it a bit below chin length and then let it grow out to your suggested length and leave it for a bit longer. That means I've gotten longer time value for money haircut. Hope you get my meaning.
I'm 57 and for me short hair is a no no, I look hideous, it just doesn't go with my face. My hair is 3" below my bra line in the back and it looks fine on me, never getting "the chop!".
My mom always had pixie cuts since she was young. It suited her small face. I never liked keeping hair dangling so it is always up in a bun or ponytail lol.
Let's not overlook hot flashes! I, thankfully, don't suffer from hot flashes, but I do live in a hot and humid climate which makes tolerating long hair more difficult, and at some point I figured, why keep my long hair when I always wear it up/back anyway, due to the heat? My friends who do get hot flashes hate having a lot of hair on their heads trapping the heat and getting all sweaty. The struggle is real.
That's exactly why I cut mine. I sweat so bad and the long hair stayed wet for hours. Gross. Now I can run my head under the water anytime I want, and it's dry quick
I’m 48 with long blonde hair, no grey. I plan to keep it long when it goes grey in plaits or a granny bun. I don’t want to look like every other older women in white linen pants, middle age spread and a short hair style. Always gone against the grain, aging is no exception 😅
I've been taking Hair/Skin/Nails vitamins for three years, that helped but what really helped was going Keto, my hair is thick shiny and growing like crazy!
@@charlottesmomi’ve tried that too, got real bad problems with my stomach. my hair hasn’t gotten any better, still receding. don’t even know what to do now.
My aunt had always dyed her hair and worn it in short, soft curls. Then she had chemo in her 70s, and her hair grew out straight and pure silver white, and when it was about a half inch long, she was absolutely stunning. I can't wear my hair that short, but she was gorgeous.
I just turned 60. I was blessed with very thick hair that has just gotten moreso as I age. It's one of my best features I'm not going short because of some odd societal expectation.
For me, there are several reasons why my hair is medium length: 1: Mom was right; I don't want to spend all my time caring for my long, very thick hair any more. 2: The wave pattern in my hair is best somewhere between my jawline and shoulder, with layering. I've had pixie cuts, and frankly, I noticed my flaws & long nose more when my hair was quite short.
The beauty of having longer hair is that you can push your hair up in any style and have it off your face but some days you feel more like hiding your preserved flaws you can let your hair loose. It's far more versatile. Pixie is only that, boring!
This was FASCINATING ! Especially the info about facial proportions. I’m 57 and my hair has always been thick and is getting thicker as white hair is slowly taking over the red. When I was young, and had a firm jaw line, I wore a severely angled bob. Now that I’m almost 60, I feel long, layered hair helps to distract from my jaw.
I’m entirely in favour of personal choice. For me, going from shoulder length to a short crop was super liberating and is so quick to look after. So many people have remarked that it suits me and makes me look younger, which wasn’t the aim but it’s sweet. Loving my tight crop and the freedom!
I've had a pixie cut most of the time since age 18 because it just happens to be my hairstyle. During the pandemic, I briefly went back to longer a couple of times, and while I thought it looked okay, it was specifically the straight men in my circles who told me that the pixie cut looked better and more feminine and that they missed it.
I think one of the best things about a pixie cut is that it is unique. Not so many women want to have such short hair or feel they can pull it off. It's so unique, I think it almost becomes a part of your identity to others and maybe to yourself. I wish I was among those who could wear a pixie!
I’ve had some straight men say they like it on me. I’ve had it since I was 16 and I’m 24 now. Unfortunately, I had a male lyft driver tell me that he doesn’t like short haired women bc he can’t pull the woman’s hair.😂This conversation was sparked by the fact that he told me I looked like a woman he used to know. He said she was a very beautiful woman, but she has long hair now. I just made a joke that I’m not her twin now since we have different hair length. That’s when he made such a crass comment. Guess I started it by saying that though, lol. I’ve also had girls that I thought were friends ask me how my bf was going to be able to pull my hair while having sex. But even when I had chin to shoulder length hair, I wore a ponytail and girls in class used to pull it. Couldn’t get away from the “humiliation” ig. Overall though, people say it fits me. As for men, I’m totally fine if some of them don’t prefer the haircut. We all have preferences. It’s just when you get ignorant comments about it. I still get insecure about guys not liking me and wondering if I should just conform. I know some women are going to be like “not everything is for men.” Get that, but I am attracted to men and naturally, I’m going to want to be appealing to them. My rant is over.😂
@@LLCoolJ_25lol so many annoying people around you! If I were around there'd be fights 😂 I never got how and why people think it's ok to touch or pull hair of others.
I usually wore a pixie or short bob because it was so oily that I had to wash it every morning. The criticisms I would get, usually from males, was hurtful, but the criticisms were never based on what was actually most flattering to me, just the knee-jerk group-think that women/girls all look better with long hair. There were a few partners, though, that were pretty adamant that I look most pretty with a pixie because it made the most of what was, actually, a very pretty face, whereas longer hair kind of neutralized that and took all of the attention. I actually agree, and would rather look my prettiest than a blander cookie-cutter version of everyone else. Who wants to be with a boy/man who doesn't appreciate your unique beauty and just wants someone to fit a mold?
I think hair loss with menopause is a very relevant issue. I am in my mid 40s, always have long waist hair, but it has starting to fall like crazy. I am starting to look bald in top head. 😥 I think I will need to cut it just because it’s loosing its mojo. Girl it’s getting old. 🤷🏻♀️ but it’s ok 😅
Money is a huge reason. Hair dressers used to convince older women that long hair made them seem older. They figured older women could afford to keep coming back.
I had either long or very long hair my entire life. I'm 38 and I'll never, ever, ever have my hair short, even if I live well into my 100s. It's literally part of me.
Same. The shortest my hair has ever been is right above my shoulders and I didn’t really like it. Short hair is just not flattering on especially as I’m tall and now carry a few extra pounds. I have really thick hair too. I don’t plan on having it short anytime soon but I can definitely understand not wanting to deal with it when getting older so I will definitely have to go through a difficult transition when that time comes lol.
I'm South Asian too and was about to say the same thing. Most older women in India wear their hair long but tied back in bun or braid. All of the elder women in my family have long hair while I am a 26 years old girl with short hair lol.
The queen's hairstyle had not been updated in many years, and made her look old. She had beautiful clothes, but that didn't take away from the old hairstyle. Just because we are “white and older” certainly does not mean that we want old-fashioned hairstyles. I am 74 now and always take time to style my hair, and I frequently get compliments on it.Remember that you will be there too one day😊
I felt like when I did a pixie in my late 20s that I had to change my entire wardrobe to more feminine looks and also I felt like I had to wear a full face of makeup because I felt boyish with the hair cut. I had a really pretty face too because I was a professional fashion model. I feel like you have to be super pretty to pull off a pixie, I wouldn't dare do it now lol.
I used to wonder about this when I was younger but now that I'm in my late 40s I know why. For the past several years I've been shedding a lot of hair but at least my hair was soft and shiny. Then all of a sudden in the past 4 months my hair feels like straw, it's thinner and dull, staticky and it has become very difficult to manage. On top of that the uneven white hair is annoying because I have to dye it every two weeks. Being old and trying to have decent hair takes a lot of work, all I want to do at this point is shave my hair off and wear a wig.
Yes! More people should do that. Give the hair a reboot. Shave off 3x. Like they do w babies in India. Is done within the first year. Use wigs and let the hair be unbothered and healthy underneath. And when all grey whoa. Such beauty. Throw off the wig and dazzle them w the silver ❤
I'm 55 and my hair is very different now. I had thick silky straight blond hair. Now there is frizz, I have significantly less hair, but the main reason why I cut it shorter now is: my hair doesn't grow as long as it did. So, if I let it grow I will have a head full of shorter regrowing hair and very little longer hair that makes a thin, sad ponytail with lots of baby hair sticking out everywhere on my head.
Another great video, Jenn. I always noticed that mature women tended to have shorter hair, but have never heard it explained quite this way. I have always assumed it is because as we become older our image in society becomes de-sexualized and we no longer see ourselves as attractive, which probably also has some truth to it. Long hair is often associated with younger women, but that doesn't mean short hair isn't attractive, as you pointed out so well.
A lot of it is menopausal and post menopausal hair loss. It can be quite traumatic. I suddenly lost half my hair at age 60. Seriously, I was almost totally bald on top. Rogaine gave me some of it back, but it'll never be thick enough to grow my hair out again.
Such great information! I’m in my 40’s and I keep my hair extra long because I love wearing high and low messy buns and French braids. Someone said to me once, aren’t you a little old for a French braid? Uh, no. Just no. 😂
I came of age in the 80s and short hair was really popular then. I cut my hair short when I was a sophomore in college and even though I've had long hair since then, I think of myself as someone with short hair. I look much younger and cuter with short hair. I got married with short hair. I recently got a "French Bob" and I love it. I'd love to have long hair - but I think short is so much more flattering. I have friends who insist on keeping their hair long and I think it looks pretty aging. (BTW I was always told I look younger than my age - I have good skin and a round face. I am very happy keeping my buccal fat pads!!)
You honestly have the best beauty content because everyone is beautiful and can highlight their beauty in so many ways and it doesn't mean it has to be basic mainstream and what brings one person joy and what they want to highlight about their features can be something completely different to someone else
I'm mature and I like long hair now. It gives a softening effect. My hair is still thick, ive got a long neck, and it suits me when I wear it up, so that helps. I think it's easy to manage because I can just use a clip and put it up or half up. I wore it all sorts of lengths for years, mostly shorter and layered. Now I think those complicated cuts would feel too try hard. Good to know why i once found short hair so flattering though.
I love your videos! I just discovered your channel 2 days ago but I'm already binge-watching them. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate your work, but more importantly, the message at the end - that just because our faces are not conventionally "balanced" does not mean we are not beautiful in our own unique ways.. Thanks for that reminder.
As a woman who has gone through the menopause and had always had Long thick curly hair, I can tell you the every woman I know who decided to go for shorter hair after menopause did so due the change in their hair texture, hair thinning and rate of har growth slowing down. I would cut my hair once a month pre menopause as my hair grew so fast, now my hair hardly grows, it's dryer, and less thick. I now just wear my hair in a slick pony tail. It has nothing to do with my face aging.
It's menopause-related for me too, but my hair is still crazy thick as ever .... and that is a problem now that I SWEAT like I'm running a marathon. Cool breeze on the neck feels oh-so-ahhhhhh.....
I never drank alcohol ever by choice. Best anti-ageing decision I made! I gave up caffeine recently and I lost 5 years within weeks. Convicing enough for my 22-year old daughter to dodge all alcohol herself. We are what we eat and drink.
Well, this video is extremely well done and it gives wonderful tips, but I seriously doubt that all the older women around me get a short hair cut for these reasons. Typically it starts with an average bob at 50 then it becomes sort of a grey pixie with rolls. The problem is that many women don't have the right features for that even in older age. Moreover, it's plenty of hair salons where I live but they are very expensive, so a vast majority of women cannot go there at least once a week and they end up with a sloppy head in a muted brownish-grey colour. Rich women are much better done, they get precise colouring and a good hair-blowing. You can really tell who has the money and who doesn't. Shorter hair doesn't mean less styling effort, especially for wavy hair. At this point, I suspect the main reasons for the popular short cut are the following: 1 - Age. As simple as that. Hair gets old just like anything else. At some point it stops growing. If you are considering a dramatic chop, please, be aware that there is rarely a way back. The life span of hair becomes shorter and shorter so your hair will grow shorter and shorter. If your hair is still good and you want to uncover the bottom part of your face and neck, you may consider an elegant updo as an option. 2 - People around you talks you into the chopping, fashion pics for elders always show women with short hair and in less time than you know you go around resembling like anyone else in your same age range, because you don' want to be too different. Unless you really enjoy a short style and that's up to you, but I'm not sure that most women make a completely personal choice. 3 - Morality: this is the worst reason of all. Long hair are part of female sex-appeal, not just for fashion, but also for genetic reasons. Once you hit the 50 the world expect you to be less sexy and to retire to a morally decent behaviour that doesn't scream "I'm a woman!". Also clothes and shoes become more mannish. The northern you go up in Europe the more ladies look like MEN, sometimes to the point that you don't immediately can tell what gender they are. Please, let me tell a little scene I've seen myself. I was in a fancy coffee shop with a friend and there was a table with a bunch of ladies in their 60s. All of them had short grey hair and the big alpha woman in the group was giving directions on how to do this and that in everyday life. At some point another lady above 60 entered the place. She was quite fit, reasonably wrinkled but she put a nice soft makeup and she had lovely sparkly eyes, dressed in a simple way with good taste and she had beautiful long shining wavy silver hair let loose. The colour was perfect for her skintone. The lenght was to her bottom line, very similar to my own hair, only in silver. She looked beautiful to my eyes. She went to a table where a nice-looking gentleman was waiting for her and they both smiled and started talking very intimately. The alpha woman at the other table went mad, her big round face with the inflated hair on top became red and in a low voice started a long rant against long hair in old age while the other ladies kept silent and nodded submissively, because... hear this: it's immoral! I said to my friend: when I grow old I want to be like that silver lady, surely NOT like anyone sitting at that other table.
I think Jenn explains in detail rather successfully what many older women in Asia know and practice, chopping off their tresses do make themselves look younger. I noticed only some older women in Asia looked beautiful with long hair because they had maintained their looks throughout the years and their maintenance showed. However, quite rare to see such women keep their long tresses until their 60s and 70s. They keep bob and pixie haircuts.
Do you have a blog? Because I'd love to read more of your stories! So entertaining! My mom's side of the family is from Germany and they live throughout Germany and Scandinavia. We'd often get a stack of photos every couple of years from one of her relatives. This was long before the internet, lol. It always surprised how much the older women did indeed look like the men. It would take us a couple of seconds to figure out if we were looking at an aunt or an uncle. The haircuts, clothing and shoes were interchangeable. I see that in the United States as well. In my grandparents retirement community in Florida, if a couple was walking it could be hard to tell a woman from a man. I'm glad we are at a point in time where older women can be fashionable. And we can have short hair and still look good as we age! There just seem to be more options now thanks to the internet and inspiration from other women.
I stopped coloring my “bob” & had a pixie cut done at the age of 68 for 2 reasons: 1) Both made me look tired & 2) I have better things to do now than fuss with my hair. Think Jamie Lee Curtis but lots whiter. It’s been very liberating & I’ve received lots of compliments-my stylist is an artiste!
I had waist-length hair until I turned 60. It was the best hair I ever had in my life. Then I suddenly lost half of it to the point where I was almost totally bald on top. Cutting it short was the only thing that made me look like I still had some hair. Rogaine gave me some hair back, but it'll never be thick enough to grow it out again. At least now I'm not embarrassed to leave the house.
Since the 80s women in the west were told (erroneously) that after 40 long hair aged them. So they all started wearing those awful short styles that combined with the fading estrogen of menopause made these women look masculine. A terrible decision. With age, the masseter muscle begins to sag and jowl, cheeks begin to sink, the nose protrudes more with loss of surrounding fat, the skin of the neck gets crepey, etc etc. All of this can be masked with a longer hair style. Enjoy your hair ladies - its your crowning glory.
Totally agree. Probably most non celebrity women simply don´t look their best in a pixie or a bob and most older look women better with some coverage. There is also this idea that after 35 you are not supposed to look attractive anymore, so you should pick a masculine, frumpy haircut in order to appear respectable, dignified, age proper.
I don't think extremely short, "masculine" hairstyles on older women are ever necessary or desirable. On the other hand, I firmly believe hair that is extremely long and heavy visually ages most women. I don't see any good reason why an older woman shouldn't go for a somewhat shorter haircut than she had in her youth.
What a great video! I think a lot of women cut their hair because it thins out so much. I've had to get my hair cut shorter since hitting 50 only because it's gotten so brittle and thin at the bottom. Part of it grows and part of it stays shorter so I'll have these longer see through pieces that have to be cut. I just can't have long hair anymore. I imagine by the time I'm in my 60s it will have to be bob length. I just worry because my face is so round. One of my favorite styles on older women is when a woman with a thin or longer face has a bob with movement. Long layers that give movement and bounce is gorgeous.
I’m also cursed with thin hair, ever since forever. One time when I was 20, someone massaged my head and commented “You have so little hair!”…. Truth hurts. I tried growing my hair as long as it might go several times, but every time I end up chopping it down because it looks so flimsy past my breasts. Even then, my hair is super light and somewhat frizzy, lacks coherence and body. I live in Paris so I get to see all sorts of haircuts, but the ones that make me envious are the thick manes that drop down to the waist or buttocks. Sometimes I’d see someone with a bun-the sloppy, quick one that twists hair in a hair clip-and the twist would be huge, the hair obviously full, sometimes very shiny. 🥺✨ I wish I could have such a sign of youth and health (and wealth) to boast of in my older years, but… One cannot win the generic lottery on all fronts, can they?
I took my long dreadlocks out and cut my hair to a pixie cut. I immediately felt like I look much older. This doesn't seem to jive with what's being said, but does feel rooted in the misogynistic rules about hair length and age. I guess I see my short hair and see "older woman" bc that's what society says I should see. 🤷♀️
This is such a great video and explains so much about many aspects of styling. It's nice to see how the other topics you've already discussed in past videos play into other style-related challenges (in this case, it's a look change due to aging), without being redundant because you bring in a different lens through a different topic. Not only is your content great (as in what you're sharing), but also how you've articulated everything (as in how you write your scripts). Everything is understandable and integrated. :) I hope you get to reach a wider audience!
Btw, people say I look younger than my age and this video made me think that likely my short hair has contributed to my look for the longest time. One struggle about growing older (which I would gladly embrace tbh) is seeing my face literally have markers of age--specifically my nasolabial folds are very pronounced. I think all the mask wearing has contributed to this. By any chance, would you consider aging markers like that as a contributor to visual weight? I would like to work around it and hoping not to draw attention to it, but my photos recently of me not smiling make it very much seen. Any feedback on this would help :) Thank you!
I have the exact same concern as I see my smile lines becoming more pronounced as I age. I advise against fillers (been there done that and I honestly feel like my smile lines have gotten more pronounced afterwards). I was gonna suggest a shorter hairstyle like a pixie for the same reasons as I've explained in the video about drawing the emphasis upwards, but sounds like you already have short hair! Adding more volume to the hair will strengthen the effect, and using the arches of your eyebrows is also another way to draw more emphasis upwards towards the eyes. Hope these tips help!
Interesting! I am 70 and grew my hair out to a bob over covid. I have a pixie now. It is easier to care for with my arthritis as a pixie. I get so many comments about how nice my hair looks when it is short. I also like that it doesn't slap in my face like the bob did on windy days.
As someone who grew up in the UK, where short hair became the norm for women in the 1970s(?) I'm more fascinated by grown women wearing their hair long and loose. To me that's a style for little girls. I have long hair but I wear it tied back or put up.
I think you make valid points. With me (a senior with short hair) I got tired of having to mess with my long hair, combing it out after shampooing etc. And the ends started to look thin, dry and ratty. When you said pixie cut, I immediately thot of Hallie Berry, she is so beautiful with a pixie, when she has longer hair, her faces seems to be too delicate and ends up hidden. I wish I could wear my hair that short, but my facial features aren't that delicate. Honestly, I have always had to laugh at women with real long hair, they always say, 'I don't look good with short hair, so I keep it long'. Then they wear it in a pony tail or a tight bun on the back of their head, making them look from the front as if they have short hair lol
Haha that's true - a lot of women have commented here that the alternative would be to wear the hair up into a bun! It's just the feeling of having options that comforts us as well :)
I work with a woman who could be 40’s to 50’s and she’s like the most attractive person at our work. She reminds me of a chill Storm from the X-men. Her hair is super long, fluffy, and silver.
It's the opposite in my country. Traditionally women have long hair at every age. It's changed a bit now especially in urban areas but still not commonly found in other parts of the country. My grandmother calls any woman over 40 with short hair a "bird with clipped wings". Cultural differences 🤷🏻♀️
This speaks to me, lol. For yeeeears, my hair has been long. In 2012, I big chopped to come back to my natural hair, but I let it grow back. When I turned 50 a couple of years ago, I chopped my hair off again. Now I keep it short à la Roxanne Hancock. When I was younger, I didn't mind spending a buncha time on my hair. Now, I swear it feels time is racing by. I love my quick and easy hair now. The whole thing about longer hair dragging the face down never occurred to me! Interesting and makes a ton of sense.
I'm glad you liked the video! I think for me I end up spending more time styling the hair when it's short, although it's definitely easier in terms of washing etc. So both styles end up being high maintenance anyway lol!
Yup would have a similar effect to short hair! The only difference would be that short hair is easier to add volume to the roots, so if you have thinning hair it won't be as effective as short hair in creating more volume :)
Honestly, celebrities and their frozen camera smiles and tons of make-up aside, I think short hair makes older women look even older. I see so many older women with short hair in the streets. They look old even from afar. Like they can't be bothered to style their hair any more. Also, long hair has so many more styling options. You don't need to wear it down all the time if you feel that it makes you look older. Fun fact: I am 62, have retained my original hair color with only a few grays, I have waist long freeform dreadlocks and people usually estimate me being in my forties. There is no one size fits all.
This makes so much sense! I always loved a pixie cut even though I'm rather plain - it's the long fulcrum! Regarding older women, I tend to associate shorter hair with looking older (unless you're in Hollywood where time is more easily manipulated). Maybe they're getting the wrong cut.🤷
Catherine, Like you, actress Jamie Lee Curtis (now famous for her white/silver pixie cut) has a long philtrum, also known as the infranasal depression, and she looks great! Maybe you’re selling yourself short. … I’ve always thought that it was the slim girls who looked the best in pixie cuts. When I tried one in my teens, I couldn’t pull it off, but, when my daughter got a pixie cut, she looked fantastic!
However, my daughter’s features are quite delicate while mine aren’t. That could be the reason that a pixie cut looked so great on her, but a pixie cut didn’t do a thing for me.
I love that little addendum at the end not to take your video and use it to critique ourselves harshly. I didn’t even realize I was starting to pick apart my appearance during your video! But once you brought it up I was able to catch myself and redirect. Thank you!
Jenn, what are your thoughts on simply wearing your hair up to achieve similar effects? I acknowledge that shorter hair would probably look better than me... But my hair is down to my belly button now and I'm too emotionally attached to cut it off lol
I was about to comment something similar, I think wearing long hair up works. That's why now I'm looking into what to do with the color, cause my grays only show when I have my hair up whereas I can get away with it when it's down. But as I'm growing older I noticed long hair doesn't look as good as it used to, with all the texture change as well. But the option to just put it in a ponytail is something I can't give up just yet 😊
If you look at most cultures before the modern era, a girl's hair is always let down (whether braided or loose) and a married woman's hair is always in a type of bun. Thus a bun will always give you a mature, steady look.
Yes wearing an updo will have a similar effect! The only difference is that shorter hair is easier to add volume to the hair than putting it up, and thinning hair with age is also another concern which I think is why a lot of women opt for the shorter length!
In my 50s, I cut my hair short because I felt I “should” because I was now an “older” woman. But I didn’t feel like “me” … like myself. Grew it back, and now at almost 80, I still wear it in a long layered cut. And I color it as well …
i am 56, i am so far over spending hours doing my hair. i believe that when you get older you stop being so obsessed with looks. and become more interested in things that actually matter, like whats going on i. the world. contrary to popular belief, its jot all about how you look
I think it always comes down to personal choice, and how you want to present yourself. I'm in my 50s, and choose to wear long hair because it makes me look younger. If you look at younger women, their hair is usually long, with little to no layers, and center parted, regardless of face shape. While not a very flattering style for everyone, myself included, it makes me look much younger because it's the same, basic, just lay there style. 😅 Thankfully, I've got quite a bit of wave, so it makes it look more interesting. I've also noticed that when I cut it shorter, it instantly ages me, just because older women "do" their hair in a certain way, and don't just leave it hanging there; it's in an more constructed style. Plus the longer hair hides my neck better too 😅
Ive watched two of your videos so far and your topics are wonderfully unconventional, stuff no one talks about. Great channel and content Jen! Youre very observant and detail oriented ❤
Your hair ages. It can become frizzy and dry and always damaged looking. Cutting it shorter makes it look more healthy. A short cut can also make the hair seem fuller if it is thinning with age.
I'm 79 and about a year ago, I opted for a pixie instead of a layered chin length. My decision was based on the fact that my hair takes a long, long time to wash, rinse and especially dry. Even with my pixie, the top of my hair is still very thick and takes about an hour to dry enough for me to use a dryer. I used to have Shirley Temple curls when I was a child, but I lost my curls when I became school age. I didn't get the curls back until my 60s. Now, with the pixie, I can just put a little curling lotion in my hair when it's nearly dry and I have great curls again. I spritz my hair with water in the morning and fluff up those glorious curls again.
I’m 63 and my hair is just shoulder-length. In most of my youth, I wore my hair nearly waist-length and it was beautiful. As my gray hair is growing in now, it’s not the same hair at all. It was straight and now it’s wavy (outer layers) to curly (the under layers) and it’s nearly impossible to comb out, even with detangling sprays, which I hate. My youthful, waist-length hair was much easier to care for, even washing it every day as I did. I don’t know how much gray I actually have because I’ve had it colored for about 3 years now, mine began coming in quite late, around age 58-59, and slowly. Hot flashes are another cause of cutting one’s hair short in middle age, but I can’t bear to go shorter. Stylists always say how going shorter lifts the face, etc. Maybe, but I still don’t want it too short.
I didn't choose to have short hair, it was forced on me by hair loss due to menopause. I hate having short hair and still think of myself with long hair.
A number of my friends have chopped off their hair and it's terribly unflattering. I can no longer wear the long hair of my younger years but I keep to shoulder length or slightly above. I have a big long face with big features and thick hair, and they balance each other out.
I think with age, one simply gets to be more comfortable in his own skin and because sometimes we live in a rush, we opt by having shorter and more manageable hair and we don't make a huge deal out of it like when we were younger because we feel good with shorter hair too. I'm not old yet, but I realise hair is just hair, while as a teenager, an inch of hair cut wrongly would be the end of the world to me😂
Long hair emphasized the act of gravity to my jowls area...I did have beautiful long (18") of hair until 59, last year! But the pixie made me look too much like my mom, so now I will go to shoulder or maybe chin length. Also have to avoid drawing attention to the NECK. I have a long thin neck and it did NOT age well. Your reasons are all the one's I knew when cutting my long hair off. What I really should have done, was LAYERS, which will help in the future. I have a long philtrum as well.
As a kid born in the 80's it seems that all moms chopped their hair after they turned 40 and it was always so strange to me.... Seems like that trend has changed thank God! Longer hair can look beautiful on older women too!
I had long thick hair all my life, always getting compliments but it took a lot of work. In my 50's I got so tired of dealing with it I just cut it all off. It was liberating. I just didn't want to deal with it anymore. Never been happier.
I had very long hair from the ages of 19 to 25. Because of a bad hairdresser, my hair lost 30 centimeters instead of the 15 centimeters that I had requested. Since I was 27-28, my hair has been very long again. I'm 31 and the longer my hair is, the more afraid I am to shorten it. It became part of my identity. I'm 'the girl with long hair'. I would be too afraid to regret having “short” hair (between my shoulders and chest) again. I want to enjoy it as long as its density and color allow me (I'm starting to have a lot of white hair...) because I know that one day, I will have to shorten it.
@@10418 Because with age, either: - my hair will become thinner, more brittle, which won't look pretty if I keep it that long. - my hair will remain thick but I will have less patience and energy to wash and dry such a mass of hair.
Between shoulders and chest is still mid-long :) - But, I know what you mean, I too had similar experience. Keep inform on hormonal changes as you age and keep healthy, sleep well reduce stress and you should be able to keep your hair extra-long indefinitely.
I'm surprised that it wasn't mentioned in the screenshot you added or in what you said, because the number one reason that I always thought of was convenience! I think older women more often don't want to bother with longer hair. Shorter hair is easier to wash, dry, style, it doesn't get in the way etc.
An old mentality from the 1940s dictated that old women should have the shortest hair possible. It's some old freaky mindset about how women "should" act. Old women were expected to keep their hair as short as possible so it doesn't look like they think of themselves as young or competitive with women of much younger child-bearing age. I have seen a lot of (mostly) old women criticize old women who have long hair and say things like "Who is she trying to be?" or "She doesn't know how to take care of herself." 😂
I tried keeping my long hair. It’s always been thin. I’m 48. I tried, you guys. But curls fall out and I hate styling it. Add in some wrist injuries… I’d do extensions but my hair is too fine to hide the tracks. Plus they’re $$. Wigs seem idk, like a costume to me. I worry about whether hair was ethically sourced. So, a bob it is. If it came to it, I’d rather do a wig than a pixie ever. My grandma had lush thick hair, as do my cousins, and they rock long hair.
I am 64 years old. My hair is down to the back of my calves, all one length and is thick.. not too much gray yet either, just here and there mostly under the top coat of hair, closer to the scalp. I remember having a pixie cut - when I was 5 years old just entering kindergarten. I cannot fathom short hair, ever. Reluctantly, I have said that when I get too old to care for it myself, I will cut it shorter. For now, I feel 45 and have no issues doing up a hairdo or just leaving it in a ponytail or bun. I'm not fond of short hair, I have had long hair past my knees since I can remember. I won't be coloring it though, last time I did that I was in my 30's. I will go naturally gray.. I don't wear make up either. Stopped wearing that at 35 when I found out some mascara was made with the after birth of babies.. may not do that now, but back then, it grossed me out and I just stopped, Lol.
I have naturally wavy/curly hair (B2-C1), but growing up in a family of straight haired people, I was never taught how to cut or style my hair in a way that worked for my hair type. I tried so many different hair lengths and styles for decades and very few of them were flattering. I did find out the hard way that short hair styles were a lot harder for me to maintain than long. I'm now 57 (does that mean I'm old?) and about 10 years ago I said "screw it" to paying someone else a lot of money to cut and style my hair in ways that didn't work with my natural hair type and were extremely difficult to maintain. I just didn't care anymore how I looked and started cutting my own hair (basically trimming off about an inch once a month), using hair products specifically designed to enhance curls, allow my hair to air dry and put it back away from my face with a headband. It's below shoulder-length, mostly voluminous, wavy/curly and salt & pepper/gray. I now get more complements on my hair than ever before (even by complete strangers on my day-2 or day-3 hair when I don't think it's looking all that great). For the first time in my life, most days when I look in the mirror, I think "Wow, I look fantastic!" and I wish so much I could have known how to make my hair look like this when I was a teenager. I hate having hair touching my face and I know from having bangs or short cuts/styles in the past, hair would often fall into my eyes or blow across my face. With longer hair, I can easily pull it back with a headband or elastic or pile up with a hair clip. And yeah, Jamie Lee Curtis and Halle Berry are gorgeous and look fabulous with a pixie cut, but a cut like that on me would look utterly ridiculous. I'll stick with my longer cut, thanks.
Most women I know have stopped wearing styles that are even the least bit hard to maintain. Why struggle with it? All my reasons for wearing long hair are related to ease of maintenance and simple daily grooming. Does it look nice? I’d hope so, and yes, I enjoy feeling well groomed without having to struggle with a hair style. Plus, there’s no way I’m ever fussing with bangs again. Every thing about them is a nuisance to me. Growing them out was even worse. No going back for me. 😊
@@rejoyce318 Some of us don't have access to the sort of skilled artisans who can do such work reliably, more's the pity. I've worn a pixie when I did have such talents available within my budget, but over time I have found I prefer the simplicity of longer hair now that I have achieved it. It's also true that many stylists will create layers all the way to the scalp to try to give my hair lift, despite the fact that it has nothing in the way of natural body. Now that I've managed to get all those layers grown all the way out, I much prefer the simplicity of a braid or gentle updo. A personal style that suits my lifestyle. Good enough for me after so many decades of intermittently terrible haircuts and wayward bangs.
I think you have identified why people choose those cuts when they have decided to cut their hair off, but I don't think it's Why they cut. Many women would wear their long hair forever, and women whose hair has not thinned or changed with age often do. When I hit my late 20's, my fine, poker straight hair suddenly became more porous, and with local humidity, this made it look a lot thinner and stringier. It resisted cutting it for years before I decided to prioritize thickness over length and got a variety of bobs. I am 5'11", and very short hair reads more masculine than I prefer on me. (LOVE pixies on others!!) This hit me years ahead of my peers. (My health is fine, just my genetic cards.) Now that I see other women starting to deal with thinning/ changing hair in their 40's and 50's, they're cropping their hair. They're also more willing to discuss this with women their own age, rather than keeping it a secret out of embarrassment like it did. Long hair can really showcase thin hair on the crown, and look thinner when the light shines through the length. Wearing it back can show thinning temples. Many women are pressured to look as young as possible, as long as possible, and are desperate to hide these perfectly normal developments. I fight it, but I still feel it.
I have to cynically say, especially as women, we are primed to automatically compliment each other no matter how someone has changed their hair. Maybe you have brutally honest friends that actually tell you the truth about how fabulous your new, shorter haircut looks… but in my experience, it’s an automatic response to compliment someone’s new style, whether I actually think it looks good or not. 😕 It sucks, but it’s true. 🤷🏻♀️
It's true - there's very few people that I can comfortably say "that style is not for you" without having to think about how the other person would receive it as... with running a consulting business I'm learning ways to be delicate and polite in expressing my suggestions :)
@@stylerefinement That’s great! ☺️ Would love to see suggestions on how to be honest with each other without hurting peoples’ feelings. One line I really appreciate when trying on clothes, for instance, is “I think we can do better! Here, try this!” It’s harder when someone already has a haircut, but hey, if they clearly love it, no harm in celebrating it with them! 😊🤗
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I think the main reason is actually that aging often comes with thinning hair and long hair makes thinning hair much more obvious.
Yep.
It’s really that simple.
Short hair,too.
Yeah I also think people are forgetting that short hair was trendy in the 50s
But why??
In my humble opinion, as an older woman (64) I think we should wear our hair any length we prefer. And style. And colour. 😊
will you still need me, will you still feed me, when I'm 64!!
but seriously, 64 seems like such a great age. I can't wait to be 64! I'm guessing it'd be relaxing and chill. not too young, but not old at all either!
bless you, and enjoy your time being 64!have a great day
@@Greenballoffire It’s fabulous being 64! I also feel privileged to be this age. Some of my friends and family didn’t make it. Enjoy your life at any age. It’s a show we don’t get to rehearse. 🥰
100%!
I’m with you! I’m so happy, comfortable and feeling liberated for having had my long hair cut into a very short crop. It feels wonderful and is super quick to look after. Happiness is a choice 🥰
YES!!!!!!!
I've always thought that women tend to keep the hairstyle they had in their youth. The short "old lady" hairstyles are the young lady hairstyles of the 30's, 40's, etc. I realized this when looking through old yearbooks.
The men keep the same hairstyles too (if they keep their hair). For example, most elderly men have their hair cut with scissors around the nape of their neck instead of clippers. The same was true when they were young.
Exactly that!! Nowadays it's far more common for older women to have long hair- the hairstyles of the 60s!
@@angelaleishman1570 I love that. I plan to do the same and accept the grey as it comes.
This is it~! 100%~~ my mum who is 77 rn also likes to keep her hair short because it's less maintenance and as an older person she finds it hard to maintain long hair. Short hair also means you look fine when you have frequent hospital admissions, and while in hospital can't keep your hair up. Having long hair in the hospital is often messy and down, and doesn't look good.
I'm 60. I was a young woman in the 80s. Someone who was a young adult in the 30s would be well over 100 by now. Even the youth of the 1960s are now in their 70s & 80s.
During the pandemic, when most of the salons were shut, my boss let his hair grow out down juuust above his collar, just because the salons were closed. Because he never lets it get that long on purpose. It was kind of interesting seeing him like that, especially with him having just turned 60 in 2020. But I am so used to seeing him with his hair cut short, I was oddly relieved when he was able to get his hair cut again. Kinda like, "there's the Rex I know and love." 😅
I am 66, and still have my long, almost straight, hip length hair. I wear it loose, and have no plans to ever cut it off.
If you zoom in on my photo (taken when I was 53) you can see why long hair works for me. My face shape, skin condition, and hair all look much younger than my calendar age. I don't look silly, or like I'm trying to fool anyone. As my hair has gotten greyer, it's also graying in a flattering way.
Everyone should be free to style their hair in any way they want. I tell my story because I don't want others to think that *all* older women *must* cut their hair off.
I'm seeing more older women with long, naturally graying hair. I think it's a wonderful look, although I'm not sure everyone can pull it off. A lot of women have thinning hair and want the volume of a shorter cut. I agree that no matter what, women should wear their hair any way they want!
My grandmother is 78 and her hair has always been past her butt she’s a rather tall woman too she started graying when I was born but now she has beautiful silvery white streaks throughout her salt and pepper hair. People have always loved my grandmas hair I am glad she never chopped it off because I have always bragged about her hair and grew mine out and so did my mother because of her even though for my mom and I to be the equivalent in length ours would have to be at my knees due to height difference. For me I love it when I see an older lady especially ones with graying to have long hair as I see my grandma.
If someone ever told me I had to cut my long hair (I'm 57) I'd tell them to stick it where the sun don't shine. ☺️
My mother and grandmother religiously colour their hair every 3 weeks or so, that will never be me
@@StarlaBizarre I used to say that too as my mom has a gorgeous head of grays at 79 (I'm 57) so I let my gray grow in for about 4-5 months (about an inch and a half of growth) it depressed me and just wasn't ME. So...back to my semi permanent color every 6 weeks or so on the grays (mostly by my ears/temples). I feel so much better after the color. I really wanted to let the gray grow but I guess I'm not ready quite yet.
I think among older, traditional women (like the kind who think you can't wear white after labour day) there's this idea passed on through the generations that long, grey hair makes you look like a crazy witch (that's how they would describe it). A lot of it is probably just misogyny. Guys see long hair and immediately associate it with a young, sexually attractive female. If they then see that same hair on an older lady, they find it jarring and they feel cheated when they realize the back of a head that they'd been drooling over could be their grandmother.
Yes it's unfortunately rooted in misogyny. According to society conventions, older women are not supposed to be desirable and attractive once they are past their reproductive age. It's also the reason why female aging is more stigmatized than male aging.
I also think it has to do with culture you come from. I come from a South Asian culture so older women wear their hair long but tied back in bun or braid. I have never heard of the concept "older women should have short hair" until I came to the US and seen many white older women with short hair.
I can’t wait to look like an old witch 🧙🏻♀️
@@pretzellina same 🧙♀️ my first boss was an older lady with long, straight, thick silver hair. It was beautiful. It's been my hair goals ever since.
@@lilymulligan8180i have always had long, thick shiny black hair (South Asian here!) At 36, am beginning to go grey...while it's just a few strands here and there and not too noticeable, am dreading the day i would start having to dye it 😬 I badly want to rock my silver strands, haha.
My issue is that ALL women i have seen who look awesome in their grey hair, are kind of "older" (think 50 or 55 and above). Although am 36, i have quite a youthful face and am wondering if it would look TOO weird to walk around with greying hair 😶😶
Already looking like an old witch and happy about it🧙♀️🐈⬛
A lot of women over 50 had shorter hair when we were younger so there may be a generational issue too. Im seriously angry about the peer pressure on my granddaughters to have long hair because their bob cuts arent 'feminine'. One little girls (who swims a lot) who has a pixie cut, gets called a dyke.I thought we got rid of that crap years ago,
So awful! Sorry to hear about your granddaughters going through so much pressure :(
@@stylerefinement in some ways 'toxic pink' culture, is much worse than it used to be.
Lo g hair is a trend.
Plus in times of bad economics and uncertainty women always tendet for a more female look and behavior.
Listen to the voices:
The majority of young women makes their voice sound brighter.
That's normal at bad times.
I have an older lady friend she peers pressures me all the time to cut mine and my daughter’s hair,it’s exhausting and annoying she wants us to cut our hair up to our ears lol I’ve seen photos of her when she was younger(she’s always had short hair she’s never had it long)so she thinks we all gotta be like the “cookie cutter mentally”meaning we all gotta be the same “as her”it just becomes rude when she’s gotta lecture us to “get rid off it” it’s too much” “I would never with that annoying hair”just her being a senile about it,being lectured on our braids or if we want to either curl and straighten it🤦🏻♀️people need to mind their business and leave people alone
Crap will be with us forever. Guess we have to buck up…
My grandmother is 89, she has her hair set in this hard little old lady fro, and she's been getting it "set" since she was in her 20s!!!! That is the craziest thing to me, she doesn't just do it because she's old, she does it because she's always done it. She's done it since before my mother was born. Every single week, she has her bath and then goes to the hairdresser early in the morning on Friday. She's been doing this 52 weeks a year for 66 years at like $25ish/visit. I've never seen a picture of her without this hairstyle, she's never had anything else since shes been an adult. She sleeps with no pillow and naps with her head down on her chest so it doesn't get altered. It's wild.
That is dedication!!!
I would love to see what it looks like lol. The description reminds me of Dutch queen Beatrix hair. Always rock hard 😂
My grandmother, who died when I was 24 and who would be 104 had she lived, also always went to get her hair "done" on Friday mornings. I'm not sure what she did to keep it big and poufy all week but when she died she was only six years older than I am now and never left the house without big hair and hairspray. Even when she was very ill and dying she somehow got her hair done and we used to paint her nails for her every week. A different world.
@StarlaBIZARRE . I UNDERSTAND YOUR GRANNY ! You get something that works 👍for you and it suits ❤️you ! WHY CHANGE ! 🙂🙀👵🏻😱✌️
If it makes her feel comfortable in life, you should be for it. Am I right?
It’s really based on history. After the 1920s “proper” fashion meant short, curled hair, especially in the ‘50s. The standard from 1920 to the mid ‘60s was hair between basically a pixie length and around the shoulders. As fashion moved forward and long hair returned, the “old” people kept their fashions. So, in the later 70s, and 80s onward white hair in a fashionable ‘50s cut became synonymous with old ladies, who were just wearing the hair from their “prime” years. In the 20s-50s, an old lady was always depicted with long hair in a bun.
Before this period, during, and after though, accusations of vanity and berating women’s tastes have long ensured women who are older follow what they’re “supposed” to look like. In the Victorian period, even though old women all still had long hair, they were mocked if they dressed in a more youthful way, just like women nowadays who are older and expected to cut their hair.
Yes....one good thing about being older is I cannot be bullied re fashion or my looks I know what suits ME best. Some older women who have not taken care of themselves get bitter and catty about women who HAVE taken care of themselves and still care how they look. Not all of them do get critical of other women.
I have hypothyroidsm and for years was overweight I accepted it and knew I was loved I still took care in my grooming and clothing. I went from a size 18 to now an 8...it was purely my disease. I didnt sudenyly do something "right" other than get my hormone levels sorted out.
Suddenly I get alot of attention...positive from older men, negative sometimes from older women.I just dont care. I loved myself and was a happy person at size 18 and I am as well as a size 8. Wonderfully my face has held up well and my facial skin is great because I used sunscreen and RetinA for decades. I wear my hair slightly below shoulder length and it is blonde...I was born blonde and will stay blonde just as my grandmlther did...it's a little ashier now.
You described that so well, thank you!
There is no "prime years". Life has it's stages, but all of them are good. Are you talking about child baring years or something? If you think there is a time when your over your prime, that is what your life will be like when you are older. I love being 58, and do not think of myself as having less life at all. My life is better now in many ways than it was when I was in my 20s, that's for sure.
i wonder, on those times, who imposed those fashions....
@@latinaalma1947 I went from size 18 to size 10 and then actively tried to stop the weight loss at that point. I'm happy being an average weight. I was on a medication, that put the weight on me and made it impossible to get off, as well.
The reason is simple, I think. A lot of post-menopausal women are dealing with subsequent hair loss. Short and curly or textured is an easy way to make thinning hair appear fuller.
I'm post menopausal (57) and must be a unicorn as my hair has gotten thicker, longer and stronger (my keto diet and vitamins is probably helping too).😉
Excessive coloring contributes to this. I wish more women would just let their natural grey/silver come in.
@@sarahs.9678 I started letting my gray come in, got to 5 months (almost 2" or so of growth), it looked horrible, I hated it and it depressed me. I felt instantly happier after I dyed the roots again (I only use semi permanent, I do it at home every 6 weeks or so). I don't think I'm ready mentally for gray hair....yet. My mom has a full head or gorgeous gray hair as does my husband it looks great on them, it just made me feel dragged down and washed out.
@@sarahs.9678 Coloring products now days are far better formulated especially the pro colors like Wella and shouldn't be an issue if one does it every 4-6 weeks. Bleaching on the other hand is really back for the hair follicles, so possibly the bleach blonds of past is the problem. Self care and wellness is also an issue in older yrs, if one does their homework on how to stay youthful and healthy this thinning hair shouldn't be an issue.
@charlottesmom Me to!! I am 55 and also Keto!! Lots of collagen in the diet!
Personally speaking, I prefer short hair for several reasons:
1) The texture of my incoming grey hair is completely different from the hair I've had until now. It's thicker, more brittle, less pliable, and often grows in very curly, while the hair I've had until now is straight. When my hair is in a ponytail, you can see all these little spirally grey things sticking out of my crown.
2) I can't lift my arms above my head for more than a few moments due to the arthritis in my hands and shoulders. Shorter is simpler to maintain and to style.
That it for me, too, it’s not the same hair as before! It takes a half-hour to comb it out after shampooing, even with detangling sprays. It has a completely different texture, it went from straight to wavy/curly where it’s gone gray!🙂
Yeah that is what my comment was I'm only 35 I have a hard time walking for a Longer than a block because I spy so I don't feel bad But yes I asked a family member I most older women have short hair and she said Well dear a lot of older people get arthritis Any kids harder to take care of long hair Along with other things that get harder With age it is just more simple Also when women get older think we realize we want to attract a man that's gonna treat us right for who we are and not just what we look like
Sorry if that was hard to understand I'm using talk to text
I am 80 and have always had hair to please????my ma(e)n, although I hated having g a mop of hair hanging in my back
I live in Tucson, where it’s hot (110) and humid, but also brings up real stormy monsoon winds.
Am I to struggle with long hair with all of it just blowing around, sticking to your face or back…..,…Nooo.
I got a pixie cut, which turned out almost bald because the hairstylist wanted to fix previous mistakes, making an excuse to use her beloved razor. I think they have an addiction to it. It erases all mistakes.
I now run my head under cold water whenever I get too hot, am loving it but keeping it covered for a little more length and will add some highlights to match the incoming grey.
That concerns my head. Now the rest of me wants to be super healthy and fit for my age!
Do not to impress, do to enjoy it.
I cut it short because of hot flashes. I can run my head under the water anytime I want to, and in 10 minutes it's dry.
Now give us a video showing us why long hair can be beautiful as we age. I say that because the women in my family look great with short hair, but I think they look more 'beautiful/romantic' when their hair is long and past shoulder length (we all have very long necks as well! ) 😅
And you can put it up and get all the advantages of shorter hair.
@@notaclue822 True. X
Yes, please a video for mature women with long hair. I am 54 with long curly hair down to my waist and I love it. I can style my hair according to my mood :) , occasion even outfit
I am 70 with long hair. It looks good 😊
57 with long hair down my back, will never get "the chop" it would make me look hideous, my face does not take to short hair, nor do I like short hair....on me.
I was always a bob or short-haired gal. But as I aged, I realized that too short made me look matronly. So, I opted for the "universally flattering cut," which is just above the shoulders, long layers, and side bangs.
One thing is for sure, long hair is a no-no (not that I ever liked long hair). When my hair hasn't had a cut in months, I can tell it's dragging my face down.
Yes, I came to that conclusion too, plus at that length you have options of styling without the inconvenience of too much hair. Sometimes I get it a bit below chin length and then let it grow out to your suggested length and leave it for a bit longer. That means I've gotten longer time value for money haircut. Hope you get my meaning.
@@Christina-sf4py I do. I can go months between haircuts. Especially nowadays, too expensive.
I'm 57 and for me short hair is a no no, I look hideous, it just doesn't go with my face. My hair is 3" below my bra line in the back and it looks fine on me, never getting "the chop!".
My mom always had pixie cuts since she was young. It suited her small face. I never liked keeping hair dangling so it is always up in a bun or ponytail lol.
Let's not overlook hot flashes!
I, thankfully, don't suffer from hot flashes, but I do live in a hot and humid climate which makes tolerating long hair more difficult, and at some point I figured, why keep my long hair when I always wear it up/back anyway, due to the heat? My friends who do get hot flashes hate having a lot of hair on their heads trapping the heat and getting all sweaty. The struggle is real.
Great point!
That's exactly why I cut mine. I sweat so bad and the long hair stayed wet for hours. Gross.
Now I can run my head under the water anytime I want, and it's dry quick
I’m 48 with long blonde hair, no grey. I plan to keep it long when it goes grey in plaits or a granny bun. I don’t want to look like every other older women in white linen pants, middle age spread and a short hair style. Always gone against the grain, aging is no exception 😅
Most of the time, it's related to thinning hair. If you are blessed with thick hair even when you're older, your long hair will continue to look nice.
Minoxidil easily fixes that.
I've been taking Hair/Skin/Nails vitamins for three years, that helped but what really helped was going Keto, my hair is thick shiny and growing like crazy!
@@charlottesmomi’ve tried that too, got real bad problems with my stomach. my hair hasn’t gotten any better, still receding. don’t even know what to do now.
@@Fooleenmaybe get a doctor involved. Some bloodwork maybe they can find the cause there.
My aunt had always dyed her hair and worn it in short, soft curls. Then she had chemo in her 70s, and her hair grew out straight and pure silver white, and when it was about a half inch long, she was absolutely stunning.
I can't wear my hair that short, but she was gorgeous.
I just turned 60. I was blessed with very thick hair that has just gotten moreso as I age. It's one of my best features I'm not going short because of some odd societal expectation.
For me, there are several reasons why my hair is medium length: 1: Mom was right; I don't want to spend all my time caring for my long, very thick hair any more. 2: The wave pattern in my hair is best somewhere between my jawline and shoulder, with layering. I've had pixie cuts, and frankly, I noticed my flaws & long nose more when my hair was quite short.
Because short hair brings more emphasis to your facial features, you might have felt like your nose was more noticeable!
The beauty of having longer hair is that you can push your hair up in any style and have it off your face but some days you feel more like hiding your preserved flaws you can let your hair loose. It's far more versatile. Pixie is only that, boring!
This was FASCINATING ! Especially the info about facial proportions.
I’m 57 and my hair has always been thick and is getting thicker as white hair is slowly taking over the red. When I was young, and had a firm jaw line, I wore a severely angled bob. Now that I’m almost 60, I feel long, layered hair helps to distract from my jaw.
I’m entirely in favour of personal choice. For me, going from shoulder length to a short crop was super liberating and is so quick to look after. So many people have remarked that it suits me and makes me look younger, which wasn’t the aim but it’s sweet. Loving my tight crop and the freedom!
I H.A.T.E. going to the coiffeur, for me it's the opposite.
I feel liberated because I just let my hair grow.
to be practical doesn't mean it looks beautiful.
I've had a pixie cut most of the time since age 18 because it just happens to be my hairstyle. During the pandemic, I briefly went back to longer a couple of times, and while I thought it looked okay, it was specifically the straight men in my circles who told me that the pixie cut looked better and more feminine and that they missed it.
I think one of the best things about a pixie cut is that it is unique. Not so many women want to have such short hair or feel they can pull it off. It's so unique, I think it almost becomes a part of your identity to others and maybe to yourself. I wish I was among those who could wear a pixie!
I’ve had some straight men say they like it on me. I’ve had it since I was 16 and I’m 24 now. Unfortunately, I had a male lyft driver tell me that he doesn’t like short haired women bc he can’t pull the woman’s hair.😂This conversation was sparked by the fact that he told me I looked like a woman he used to know. He said she was a very beautiful woman, but she has long hair now. I just made a joke that I’m not her twin now since we have different hair length. That’s when he made such a crass comment. Guess I started it by saying that though, lol. I’ve also had girls that I thought were friends ask me how my bf was going to be able to pull my hair while having sex. But even when I had chin to shoulder length hair, I wore a ponytail and girls in class used to pull it. Couldn’t get away from the “humiliation” ig. Overall though, people say it fits me. As for men, I’m totally fine if some of them don’t prefer the haircut. We all have preferences. It’s just when you get ignorant comments about it. I still get insecure about guys not liking me and wondering if I should just conform. I know some women are going to be like “not everything is for men.” Get that, but I am attracted to men and naturally, I’m going to want to be appealing to them. My rant is over.😂
@@LLCoolJ_25lol so many annoying people around you! If I were around there'd be fights 😂 I never got how and why people think it's ok to touch or pull hair of others.
I thought for a second I wrote this post! Yes. Short hair is just me. I don't care for longer hair.
I usually wore a pixie or short bob because it was so oily that I had to wash it every morning. The criticisms I would get, usually from males, was hurtful, but the criticisms were never based on what was actually most flattering to me, just the knee-jerk group-think that women/girls all look better with long hair. There were a few partners, though, that were pretty adamant that I look most pretty with a pixie because it made the most of what was, actually, a very pretty face, whereas longer hair kind of neutralized that and took all of the attention. I actually agree, and would rather look my prettiest than a blander cookie-cutter version of everyone else. Who wants to be with a boy/man who doesn't appreciate your unique beauty and just wants someone to fit a mold?
I’m 48 and the texture and thickness of my hair has changed significantly…which has me wearing it shorter than I want.
Maybe you have a gluten problem?
Get extensions for thickness and length.
But so much work to maintain though :(
@@wintermatherne2524 I just don’t want to stress the roots of the hair I do have.🥴
@@stylerefinement I agree! And so much 🤑
I think hair loss with menopause is a very relevant issue. I am in my mid 40s, always have long waist hair, but it has starting to fall like crazy. I am starting to look bald in top head. 😥 I think I will need to cut it just because it’s loosing its mojo. Girl it’s getting old. 🤷🏻♀️ but it’s ok 😅
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Same, I've been shedding hair for almost 20 years but now more than ever. I've heard castor oil is good for hair growth.
Get minoxidil. Spironolactone from a doc will also grow the hair back.
100%! Hair loss and losing volume is definitely one of the top reasons as well
In my case, even though the blood tests came back in the normal range, I needed thyroid supplementation.
Money is a huge reason. Hair dressers used to convince older women that long hair made them seem older. They figured older women could afford to keep coming back.
Yep, keeps them in business!
The last bits of your message was really helpful (the entire video is! But the notes on loving our own unique features are especially appreciated!)
I'm glad you liked my little pep talk sesh hehe ♥
I had either long or very long hair my entire life. I'm 38 and I'll never, ever, ever have my hair short, even if I live well into my 100s. It's literally part of me.
Same. The shortest my hair has ever been is right above my shoulders and I didn’t really like it. Short hair is just not flattering on especially as I’m tall and now carry a few extra pounds. I have really thick hair too. I don’t plan on having it short anytime soon but I can definitely understand not wanting to deal with it when getting older so I will definitely have to go through a difficult transition when that time comes lol.
I'm south asian and we tend to keep our hair longer tbh but I've seen many white older women go for the queen Elizabeth thing
I'm South Asian too and was about to say the same thing. Most older women in India wear their hair long but tied back in bun or braid. All of the elder women in my family have long hair while I am a 26 years old girl with short hair lol.
It's also an East Asian thing where women get the "broccoli' perm after reaching a certain age lol
Y’all are cracking me up with the hair names😂 the Queen Elizabeth and the broccoli perm 😂😂😂
The Queen Elizabeth 🤣🤣🤣🤣 That's hilarious, and that's a good name for the style you are talking about too
The queen's hairstyle had not been updated in many years, and made her look old. She had beautiful clothes, but that didn't take away from the old hairstyle. Just because we are “white and older” certainly does not mean that we want old-fashioned hairstyles. I am 74 now and always take time to style my hair, and I frequently get compliments on it.Remember that you will be there too one day😊
I felt like when I did a pixie in my late 20s that I had to change my entire wardrobe to more feminine looks and also I felt like I had to wear a full face of makeup because I felt boyish with the hair cut. I had a really pretty face too because I was a professional fashion model. I feel like you have to be super pretty to pull off a pixie, I wouldn't dare do it now lol.
I’ve had a pixie and felt like I needed to wear more makeup to compensate as well 😆
@@stylerefinement earrings too.
Or you can just wear whatever you want. I've had very short hair and never really changed my style.
That's silly
I used to wonder about this when I was younger but now that I'm in my late 40s I know why. For the past several years I've been shedding a lot of hair but at least my hair was soft and shiny. Then all of a sudden in the past 4 months my hair feels like straw, it's thinner and dull, staticky and it has become very difficult to manage. On top of that the uneven white hair is annoying because I have to dye it every two weeks. Being old and trying to have decent hair takes a lot of work, all I want to do at this point is shave my hair off and wear a wig.
Yes! More people should do that. Give the hair a reboot. Shave off 3x. Like they do w babies in India. Is done within the first year. Use wigs and let the hair be unbothered and healthy underneath. And when all grey whoa. Such beauty. Throw off the wig and dazzle them w the silver ❤
I'm 55 and my hair is very different now. I had thick silky straight blond hair. Now there is frizz, I have significantly less hair, but the main reason why I cut it shorter now is: my hair doesn't grow as long as it did. So, if I let it grow I will have a head full of shorter regrowing hair and very little longer hair that makes a thin, sad ponytail with lots of baby hair sticking out everywhere on my head.
The hair sticking straight up around my forehead makes me insane!!
It never grows longer, sticks up daily n I hate it
Another great video, Jenn. I always noticed that mature women tended to have shorter hair, but have never heard it explained quite this way. I have always assumed it is because as we become older our image in society becomes de-sexualized and we no longer see ourselves as attractive, which probably also has some truth to it. Long hair is often associated with younger women, but that doesn't mean short hair isn't attractive, as you pointed out so well.
A lot of it is menopausal and post menopausal hair loss. It can be quite traumatic. I suddenly lost half my hair at age 60. Seriously, I was almost totally bald on top. Rogaine gave me some of it back, but it'll never be thick enough to grow my hair out again.
I agree@@edennis8578
@@edennis8578malabsorption of the gut,maybe. Do you eat grain??
Stop it.
Such great information! I’m in my 40’s and I keep my hair extra long because I love wearing high and low messy buns and French braids. Someone said to me once, aren’t you a little old for a French braid? Uh, no. Just no. 😂
Why would someone be too old for a French braid? It's not as if it's a "little girl" hairstyle.
@@detectivefiction3701 my thoughts exactly :)
That's just silly - I love Frech braids for any age!
What a weird thing to say
I came of age in the 80s and short hair was really popular then. I cut my hair short when I was a sophomore in college and even though I've had long hair since then, I think of myself as someone with short hair. I look much younger and cuter with short hair. I got married with short hair. I recently got a "French Bob" and I love it. I'd love to have long hair - but I think short is so much more flattering. I have friends who insist on keeping their hair long and I think it looks pretty aging. (BTW I was always told I look younger than my age - I have good skin and a round face. I am very happy keeping my buccal fat pads!!)
Same. Unless you had big hair, which was how older women wore their hair, or a few models, almost every woman who was in fashion had short hair.
@@poollife777 Most older women who keep their hair long do look like hags or grannies. They don't know it but they do.
You honestly have the best beauty content because everyone is beautiful and can highlight their beauty in so many ways and it doesn't mean it has to be basic mainstream and what brings one person joy and what they want to highlight about their features can be something completely different to someone else
Thank you so much for the sweet compliment! 😊❤ Yes - we're all different and so is the perception of beauty anyway!
I'm mature and I like long hair now. It gives a softening effect. My hair is still thick, ive got a long neck, and it suits me when I wear it up, so that helps. I think it's easy to manage because I can just use a clip and put it up or half up.
I wore it all sorts of lengths for years, mostly shorter and layered. Now I think those complicated cuts would feel too try hard.
Good to know why i once found short hair so flattering though.
I love your videos! I just discovered your channel 2 days ago but I'm already binge-watching them. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate your work, but more importantly, the message at the end - that just because our faces are not conventionally "balanced" does not mean we are not beautiful in our own unique ways.. Thanks for that reminder.
I'm glad you like the approach! Welcome to the channel ❤
As a woman who has gone through the menopause and had always had Long thick curly hair, I can tell you the every woman I know who decided to go for shorter hair after menopause did so due the change in their hair texture, hair thinning and rate of har growth slowing down. I would cut my hair once a month pre menopause as my hair grew so fast, now my hair hardly grows, it's dryer, and less thick. I now just wear my hair in a slick pony tail. It has nothing to do with my face aging.
Exactly. My giving up on long hair had nothing to do with my face.
It's menopause-related for me too, but my hair is still crazy thick as ever .... and that is a problem now that I SWEAT like I'm running a marathon. Cool breeze on the neck feels oh-so-ahhhhhh.....
I'm menopaused and my hair is thicker than ever. I personally shaved the back and side of my hair just because of the hot flashes lol.
That last bit where you reminded us to have a healthy perspective - much appreciated ❤
I'm glad you liked the last bit :D
you have such a great eye for details and your analytical skills are unbelievable.
Thank you so much for the compliment! ♥
Your content is so rich. Thanks so much for enlightening us with so much knowledge we can apply to feel better ❤
I'm glad you enjoyed the video ♥ ♥ ♥ Thank you for the kind compliment!
@@stylerefinement, great video! Are you able to do one on looking good with grey hair?
Hair loss is also a valid reason 😢
I never drank alcohol ever by choice. Best anti-ageing decision I made! I gave up caffeine recently and I lost 5 years within weeks. Convicing enough for my 22-year old daughter to dodge all alcohol herself. We are what we eat and drink.
Well, this video is extremely well done and it gives wonderful tips, but I seriously doubt that all the older women around me get a short hair cut for these reasons.
Typically it starts with an average bob at 50 then it becomes sort of a grey pixie with rolls.
The problem is that many women don't have the right features for that even in older age.
Moreover, it's plenty of hair salons where I live but they are very expensive, so a vast majority of women cannot go there at least once a week and they end up with a sloppy head in a muted brownish-grey colour. Rich women are much better done, they get precise colouring and a good hair-blowing. You can really tell who has the money and who doesn't.
Shorter hair doesn't mean less styling effort, especially for wavy hair.
At this point, I suspect the main reasons for the popular short cut are the following:
1 - Age. As simple as that. Hair gets old just like anything else. At some point it stops growing. If you are considering a dramatic chop, please, be aware that there is rarely a way back. The life span of hair becomes shorter and shorter so your hair will grow shorter and shorter. If your hair is still good and you want to uncover the bottom part of your face and neck, you may consider an elegant updo as an option.
2 - People around you talks you into the chopping, fashion pics for elders always show women with short hair and in less time than you know you go around resembling like anyone else in your same age range, because you don' want to be too different.
Unless you really enjoy a short style and that's up to you, but I'm not sure that most women make a completely personal choice.
3 - Morality: this is the worst reason of all. Long hair are part of female sex-appeal, not just for fashion, but also for genetic reasons.
Once you hit the 50 the world expect you to be less sexy and to retire to a morally decent behaviour that doesn't scream "I'm a woman!".
Also clothes and shoes become more mannish. The northern you go up in Europe the more ladies look like MEN, sometimes to the point that you don't immediately can tell what gender they are.
Please, let me tell a little scene I've seen myself.
I was in a fancy coffee shop with a friend and there was a table with a bunch of ladies in their 60s. All of them had short grey hair and the big alpha woman in the group was giving directions on how to do this and that in everyday life.
At some point another lady above 60 entered the place.
She was quite fit, reasonably wrinkled but she put a nice soft makeup and she had lovely sparkly eyes, dressed in a simple way with good taste and she had beautiful long shining wavy silver hair let loose. The colour was perfect for her skintone. The lenght was to her bottom line, very similar to my own hair, only in silver. She looked beautiful to my eyes.
She went to a table where a nice-looking gentleman was waiting for her and they both smiled and started talking very intimately.
The alpha woman at the other table went mad, her big round face with the inflated hair on top became red and in a low voice started a long rant against long hair in old age while the other ladies kept silent and nodded submissively, because... hear this: it's immoral!
I said to my friend: when I grow old I want to be like that silver lady, surely NOT like anyone sitting at that other table.
I think Jenn explains in detail rather successfully what many older women in Asia know and practice, chopping off their tresses do make themselves look younger. I noticed only some older women in Asia looked beautiful with long hair because they had maintained their looks throughout the years and their maintenance showed. However, quite rare to see such women keep their long tresses until their 60s and 70s. They keep bob and pixie haircuts.
Do you have a blog? Because I'd love to read more of your stories! So entertaining! My mom's side of the family is from Germany and they live throughout Germany and Scandinavia. We'd often get a stack of photos every couple of years from one of her relatives. This was long before the internet, lol. It always surprised how much the older women did indeed look like the men. It would take us a couple of seconds to figure out if we were looking at an aunt or an uncle. The haircuts, clothing and shoes were interchangeable. I see that in the United States as well. In my grandparents retirement community in Florida, if a couple was walking it could be hard to tell a woman from a man. I'm glad we are at a point in time where older women can be fashionable. And we can have short hair and still look good as we age! There just seem to be more options now thanks to the internet and inspiration from other women.
Hahaha i love this story! ❤
Jealousy 😂
I am 70 and my hair is long, natural blonde and some grey hairs within. It looks good. My husband and my children don't want a short haircut for me 😊
I prefer pixies. Don't want to fuss. So easy. Always feels healthy. Stopped dying it 3 years ago. Love it.
This is why I'm enjoying my long hair & even letting it grow even more...great video 📹 ❤
Thank you! ❤
Mirren has let her hair grow really long! Almost to her waist and it looks GREAT!
I stopped coloring my “bob” & had a pixie cut done at the age of 68 for 2 reasons: 1) Both made me look tired & 2) I have better things to do now than fuss with my hair. Think Jamie Lee Curtis but lots whiter. It’s been very liberating & I’ve received lots of compliments-my stylist is an artiste!
I had waist-length hair until I turned 60. It was the best hair I ever had in my life. Then I suddenly lost half of it to the point where I was almost totally bald on top. Cutting it short was the only thing that made me look like I still had some hair. Rogaine gave me some hair back, but it'll never be thick enough to grow it out again. At least now I'm not embarrassed to leave the house.
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Why didn't you get wigs?
@@CordeliaWagnerthat’s honestly too much effort to have to put o. every time you want to go out
Since the 80s women in the west were told (erroneously) that after 40 long hair aged them. So they all started wearing those awful short styles that combined with the fading estrogen of menopause made these women look masculine. A terrible decision. With age, the masseter muscle begins to sag and jowl, cheeks begin to sink, the nose protrudes more with loss of surrounding fat, the skin of the neck gets crepey, etc etc. All of this can be masked with a longer hair style. Enjoy your hair ladies - its your crowning glory.
Totally agree. Probably most non celebrity women simply don´t look their best in a pixie or a bob and most older look women better with some coverage. There is also this idea that after 35 you are not supposed to look attractive anymore, so you should pick a masculine, frumpy haircut in order to appear respectable, dignified, age proper.
I hate the phrase "age appropriate" :(
Interesting points.
I don't think extremely short, "masculine" hairstyles on older women are ever necessary or desirable. On the other hand, I firmly believe hair that is extremely long and heavy visually ages most women. I don't see any good reason why an older woman shouldn't go for a somewhat shorter haircut than she had in her youth.
@@stylerefinement Yes. It's so limiting..
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What a great video! I think a lot of women cut their hair because it thins out so much. I've had to get my hair cut shorter since hitting 50 only because it's gotten so brittle and thin at the bottom. Part of it grows and part of it stays shorter so I'll have these longer see through pieces that have to be cut. I just can't have long hair anymore. I imagine by the time I'm in my 60s it will have to be bob length. I just worry because my face is so round. One of my favorite styles on older women is when a woman with a thin or longer face has a bob with movement. Long layers that give movement and bounce is gorgeous.
I’m also cursed with thin hair, ever since forever. One time when I was 20, someone massaged my head and commented “You have so little hair!”…. Truth hurts.
I tried growing my hair as long as it might go several times, but every time I end up chopping it down because it looks so flimsy past my breasts. Even then, my hair is super light and somewhat frizzy, lacks coherence and body. I live in Paris so I get to see all sorts of haircuts, but the ones that make me envious are the thick manes that drop down to the waist or buttocks. Sometimes I’d see someone with a bun-the sloppy, quick one that twists hair in a hair clip-and the twist would be huge, the hair obviously full, sometimes very shiny. 🥺✨
I wish I could have such a sign of youth and health (and wealth) to boast of in my older years, but… One cannot win the generic lottery on all fronts, can they?
Yes I agree - thinning hair is for sure a major reason!
I took my long dreadlocks out and cut my hair to a pixie cut. I immediately felt like I look much older. This doesn't seem to jive with what's being said, but does feel rooted in the misogynistic rules about hair length and age. I guess I see my short hair and see "older woman" bc that's what society says I should see. 🤷♀️
This is such a great video and explains so much about many aspects of styling. It's nice to see how the other topics you've already discussed in past videos play into other style-related challenges (in this case, it's a look change due to aging), without being redundant because you bring in a different lens through a different topic. Not only is your content great (as in what you're sharing), but also how you've articulated everything (as in how you write your scripts). Everything is understandable and integrated. :) I hope you get to reach a wider audience!
Btw, people say I look younger than my age and this video made me think that likely my short hair has contributed to my look for the longest time. One struggle about growing older (which I would gladly embrace tbh) is seeing my face literally have markers of age--specifically my nasolabial folds are very pronounced. I think all the mask wearing has contributed to this. By any chance, would you consider aging markers like that as a contributor to visual weight? I would like to work around it and hoping not to draw attention to it, but my photos recently of me not smiling make it very much seen. Any feedback on this would help :) Thank you!
Thank you so much for the compliment! I'm glad to hear you're finding my content useful 😊❤
I have the exact same concern as I see my smile lines becoming more pronounced as I age. I advise against fillers (been there done that and I honestly feel like my smile lines have gotten more pronounced afterwards). I was gonna suggest a shorter hairstyle like a pixie for the same reasons as I've explained in the video about drawing the emphasis upwards, but sounds like you already have short hair! Adding more volume to the hair will strengthen the effect, and using the arches of your eyebrows is also another way to draw more emphasis upwards towards the eyes. Hope these tips help!
Interesting! I am 70 and grew my hair out to a bob over covid. I have a pixie now. It is easier to care for with my arthritis as a pixie. I get so many comments about how nice my hair looks when it is short. I also like that it doesn't slap in my face like the bob did on windy days.
It’s because their hair isn’t thick anymore and shorter styles can be more voluminous. An old lady friend told me because I always wondered why lol
Agreed!
As someone who grew up in the UK, where short hair became the norm for women in the 1970s(?) I'm more fascinated by grown women wearing their hair long and loose. To me that's a style for little girls. I have long hair but I wear it tied back or put up.
I think you make valid points. With me (a senior with short hair) I got tired of having to mess with my long hair, combing it out after shampooing etc. And the ends started to look thin, dry and ratty. When you said pixie cut, I immediately thot of Hallie Berry, she is so beautiful with a pixie, when she has longer hair, her faces seems to be too delicate and ends up hidden. I wish I could wear my hair that short, but my facial features aren't that delicate.
Honestly, I have always had to laugh at women with real long hair, they always say, 'I don't look good with short hair, so I keep it long'. Then they wear it in a pony tail or a tight bun on the back of their head, making them look from the front as if they have short hair lol
Haha that's true - a lot of women have commented here that the alternative would be to wear the hair up into a bun! It's just the feeling of having options that comforts us as well :)
I work with a woman who could be 40’s to 50’s and she’s like the most attractive person at our work. She reminds me of a chill Storm from the X-men. Her hair is super long, fluffy, and silver.
It's the opposite in my country. Traditionally women have long hair at every age. It's changed a bit now especially in urban areas but still not commonly found in other parts of the country. My grandmother calls any woman over 40 with short hair a "bird with clipped wings". Cultural differences 🤷🏻♀️
Agreed!
This speaks to me, lol. For yeeeears, my hair has been long. In 2012, I big chopped to come back to my natural hair, but I let it grow back. When I turned 50 a couple of years ago, I chopped my hair off again. Now I keep it short à la Roxanne Hancock. When I was younger, I didn't mind spending a buncha time on my hair. Now, I swear it feels time is racing by. I love my quick and easy hair now.
The whole thing about longer hair dragging the face down never occurred to me! Interesting and makes a ton of sense.
I'm glad you liked the video! I think for me I end up spending more time styling the hair when it's short, although it's definitely easier in terms of washing etc. So both styles end up being high maintenance anyway lol!
Maybe doing elegant bun would make people with longer face can keep their long hair
Yup would have a similar effect to short hair! The only difference would be that short hair is easier to add volume to the roots, so if you have thinning hair it won't be as effective as short hair in creating more volume :)
Honestly, celebrities and their frozen camera smiles and tons of make-up aside, I think short hair makes older women look even older. I see so many older women with short hair in the streets. They look old even from afar. Like they can't be bothered to style their hair any more. Also, long hair has so many more styling options. You don't need to wear it down all the time if you feel that it makes you look older. Fun fact: I am 62, have retained my original hair color with only a few grays, I have waist long freeform dreadlocks and people usually estimate me being in my forties. There is no one size fits all.
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This makes so much sense! I always loved a pixie cut even though I'm rather plain - it's the long fulcrum! Regarding older women, I tend to associate shorter hair with looking older (unless you're in Hollywood where time is more easily manipulated). Maybe they're getting the wrong cut.🤷
For sure - the style of the actual cut also matters!
Catherine,
Like you, actress Jamie Lee Curtis (now famous for her white/silver pixie cut) has a long philtrum, also known as the infranasal depression, and she looks great! Maybe you’re selling yourself short. …
I’ve always thought that it was the slim girls who looked the best in pixie cuts. When I tried one in my teens, I couldn’t pull it off, but, when my daughter got a pixie cut, she looked fantastic!
However, my daughter’s features are quite delicate while mine aren’t. That could be the reason that a pixie cut looked so great on her, but a pixie cut didn’t do a thing for me.
I love that little addendum at the end not to take your video and use it to critique ourselves harshly. I didn’t even realize I was starting to pick apart my appearance during your video! But once you brought it up I was able to catch myself and redirect. Thank you!
I'm glad you liked the little pep talk session at the end hehe ❤
Jenn, what are your thoughts on simply wearing your hair up to achieve similar effects? I acknowledge that shorter hair would probably look better than me... But my hair is down to my belly button now and I'm too emotionally attached to cut it off lol
I was about to comment something similar, I think wearing long hair up works. That's why now I'm looking into what to do with the color, cause my grays only show when I have my hair up whereas I can get away with it when it's down. But as I'm growing older I noticed long hair doesn't look as good as it used to, with all the texture change as well. But the option to just put it in a ponytail is something I can't give up just yet 😊
If you look at most cultures before the modern era, a girl's hair is always let down (whether braided or loose) and a married woman's hair is always in a type of bun. Thus a bun will always give you a mature, steady look.
Yes wearing an updo will have a similar effect! The only difference is that shorter hair is easier to add volume to the hair than putting it up, and thinning hair with age is also another concern which I think is why a lot of women opt for the shorter length!
In my 50s, I cut my hair short because I felt I “should” because I was now an “older” woman. But I didn’t feel like “me” … like myself. Grew it back, and now at almost 80, I still wear it in a long layered cut. And I color it as well …
i am 56, i am so far over spending hours doing my hair. i believe that when you get older you stop being so obsessed with looks. and become more interested in things that actually matter, like whats going on i. the world. contrary to popular belief, its jot all about how you look
I have long hair but wear it up in various ways. I like the versatility since it’s also extremely healthy and thick
I think it always comes down to personal choice, and how you want to present yourself. I'm in my 50s, and choose to wear long hair because it makes me look younger. If you look at younger women, their hair is usually long, with little to no layers, and center parted, regardless of face shape. While not a very flattering style for everyone, myself included, it makes me look much younger because it's the same, basic, just lay there style. 😅 Thankfully, I've got quite a bit of wave, so it makes it look more interesting. I've also noticed that when I cut it shorter, it instantly ages me, just because older women "do" their hair in a certain way, and don't just leave it hanging there; it's in an more constructed style. Plus the longer hair hides my neck better too 😅
Very interesting topic! You always provide new insights for me. love to watch you
Thank you! I'm glad you liked the insights ♥ ♥ ♥
It's easier to wash and dry ,and feels better on my head when it's shorter, that's it.
Hi Jenn!!! I really have a long philtrum, I would love a video about any ideas about hair or makeup and how to avoid mistakes
I have short hair because due to shoulder issues, I can no longer blow my hair dry & style it.
Ive watched two of your videos so far and your topics are wonderfully unconventional, stuff no one talks about. Great channel and content Jen! Youre very observant and detail oriented ❤
I’m glad you’re enjoying my content ❤️❤️❤️
Your hair ages. It can become frizzy and dry and always damaged looking. Cutting it shorter makes it look more healthy. A short cut can also make the hair seem fuller if it is thinning with age.
I'm 79 and about a year ago, I opted for a pixie instead of a layered chin length. My decision was based on the fact that my hair takes a long, long time to wash, rinse and especially dry. Even with my pixie, the top of my hair is still very thick and takes about an hour to dry enough for me to use a dryer. I used to have Shirley Temple curls when I was a child, but I lost my curls when I became school age. I didn't get the curls back until my 60s. Now, with the pixie, I can just put a little curling lotion in my hair when it's nearly dry and I have great curls again. I spritz my hair with water in the morning and fluff up those glorious curls again.
My grandma had long hair but she did a bun everyday
My great grandma too
I’m 63 and my hair is just shoulder-length. In most of my youth, I wore my hair nearly waist-length and it was beautiful. As my gray hair is growing in now, it’s not the same hair at all. It was straight and now it’s wavy (outer layers) to curly (the under layers) and it’s nearly impossible to comb out, even with detangling sprays, which I hate. My youthful, waist-length hair was much easier to care for, even washing it every day as I did. I don’t know how much gray I actually have because I’ve had it colored for about 3 years now, mine began coming in quite late, around age 58-59, and slowly. Hot flashes are another cause of cutting one’s hair short in middle age, but I can’t bear to go shorter. Stylists always say how going shorter lifts the face, etc. Maybe, but I still don’t want it too short.
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You just gave me peace about cutting off and letting go of my thinning brittle hair.
YAASSSS!!
I didn't choose to have short hair, it was forced on me by hair loss due to menopause. I hate having short hair and still think of myself with long hair.
A number of my friends have chopped off their hair and it's terribly unflattering. I can no longer wear the long hair of my younger years but I keep to shoulder length or slightly above. I have a big long face with big features and thick hair, and they balance each other out.
I agree that a lob length is a good happy medium for many!
I think with age, one simply gets to be more comfortable in his own skin and because sometimes we live in a rush, we opt by having shorter and more manageable hair and we don't make a huge deal out of it like when we were younger because we feel good with shorter hair too. I'm not old yet, but I realise hair is just hair, while as a teenager, an inch of hair cut wrongly would be the end of the world to me😂
Long hair emphasized the act of gravity to my jowls area...I did have beautiful long (18") of hair until 59, last year! But the pixie made me look too much like my mom, so now I will go to shoulder or maybe chin length. Also have to avoid drawing attention to the NECK. I have a long thin neck and it did NOT age well. Your reasons are all the one's I knew when cutting my long hair off. What I really should have done, was LAYERS, which will help in the future. I have a long philtrum as well.
As a kid born in the 80's it seems that all moms chopped their hair after they turned 40 and it was always so strange to me.... Seems like that trend has changed thank God! Longer hair can look beautiful on older women too!
100%!
I had long thick hair all my life, always getting compliments but it took a lot of work. In my 50's I got so tired of dealing with it I just cut it all off. It was liberating. I just didn't want to deal with it anymore. Never been happier.
I had very long hair from the ages of 19 to 25. Because of a bad hairdresser, my hair lost 30 centimeters instead of the 15 centimeters that I had requested. Since I was 27-28, my hair has been very long again. I'm 31 and the longer my hair is, the more afraid I am to shorten it. It became part of my identity. I'm 'the girl with long hair'. I would be too afraid to regret having “short” hair (between my shoulders and chest) again. I want to enjoy it as long as its density and color allow me (I'm starting to have a lot of white hair...) because I know that one day, I will have to shorten it.
Why you will have to shorten them ?
@@10418 Because with age, either:
- my hair will become thinner, more brittle, which won't look pretty if I keep it that long.
- my hair will remain thick but I will have less patience and energy to
wash and dry such a mass of hair.
You can buy wigs.
Between shoulders and chest is still mid-long :) - But, I know what you mean, I too had similar experience. Keep inform on hormonal changes as you age and keep healthy, sleep well reduce stress and you should be able to keep your hair extra-long indefinitely.
Excellent video & something I’ve subconsciously worked out in my head but have never articulated. You have a wonderful way of articulating. Well done!
I’m glad you enjoyed the video! ❤️
This is a great analysis, Jenn!
I'd really appreciate an analysis of the best haircut for older women with jowls.
Thank you! I do have a video called "Hairstyle tips for chubby faces" where I talk about jowls so you should check it out 😊❤
The Rachel from friends seems a good one. That or a shorter version that is wrapped around the face and under the chin
I just cut my hair short (into a bob). Best decision I've made in a long time! I also love how it shows off the neck!
People should wear their hair however they want 🤷♀️
Agreed!
I'm surprised that it wasn't mentioned in the screenshot you added or in what you said, because the number one reason that I always thought of was convenience! I think older women more often don't want to bother with longer hair. Shorter hair is easier to wash, dry, style, it doesn't get in the way etc.
All good points!
An old mentality from the 1940s dictated that old women should have the shortest hair possible. It's some old freaky mindset about how women "should" act. Old women were expected to keep their hair as short as possible so it doesn't look like they think of themselves as young or competitive with women of much younger child-bearing age. I have seen a lot of (mostly) old women criticize old women who have long hair and say things like "Who is she trying to be?" or "She doesn't know how to take care of herself." 😂
I love the explanation how the length of the philtrum plays into which haircuts suits whom!
I'm glad you liked the explanation! ❤
I tried keeping my long hair. It’s always been thin. I’m 48. I tried, you guys. But curls fall out and I hate styling it. Add in some wrist injuries…
I’d do extensions but my hair is too fine to hide the tracks. Plus they’re $$. Wigs seem idk, like a costume to me. I worry about whether hair was ethically sourced.
So, a bob it is. If it came to it, I’d rather do a wig than a pixie ever.
My grandma had lush thick hair, as do my cousins, and they rock long hair.
Do it! As a gift to HIM. 😎
Love wigs! Find the right ones.
I am 64 years old. My hair is down to the back of my calves, all one length and is thick.. not too much gray yet either, just here and there mostly under the top coat of hair, closer to the scalp. I remember having a pixie cut - when I was 5 years old just entering kindergarten. I cannot fathom short hair, ever. Reluctantly, I have said that when I get too old to care for it myself, I will cut it shorter. For now, I feel 45 and have no issues doing up a hairdo or just leaving it in a ponytail or bun. I'm not fond of short hair, I have had long hair past my knees since I can remember. I won't be coloring it though, last time I did that I was in my 30's. I will go naturally gray.. I don't wear make up either. Stopped wearing that at 35 when I found out some mascara was made with the after birth of babies.. may not do that now, but back then, it grossed me out and I just stopped, Lol.
When I'm older I'm keeping longer hair. My grandma had long hair well into her 70s. Also Indian women dont keep their hair short even as they age
I have naturally wavy/curly hair (B2-C1), but growing up in a family of straight haired people, I was never taught how to cut or style my hair in a way that worked for my hair type. I tried so many different hair lengths and styles for decades and very few of them were flattering. I did find out the hard way that short hair styles were a lot harder for me to maintain than long.
I'm now 57 (does that mean I'm old?) and about 10 years ago I said "screw it" to paying someone else a lot of money to cut and style my hair in ways that didn't work with my natural hair type and were extremely difficult to maintain. I just didn't care anymore how I looked and started cutting my own hair (basically trimming off about an inch once a month), using hair products specifically designed to enhance curls, allow my hair to air dry and put it back away from my face with a headband. It's below shoulder-length, mostly voluminous, wavy/curly and salt & pepper/gray.
I now get more complements on my hair than ever before (even by complete strangers on my day-2 or day-3 hair when I don't think it's looking all that great). For the first time in my life, most days when I look in the mirror, I think "Wow, I look fantastic!" and I wish so much I could have known how to make my hair look like this when I was a teenager.
I hate having hair touching my face and I know from having bangs or short cuts/styles in the past, hair would often fall into my eyes or blow across my face. With longer hair, I can easily pull it back with a headband or elastic or pile up with a hair clip.
And yeah, Jamie Lee Curtis and Halle Berry are gorgeous and look fabulous with a pixie cut, but a cut like that on me would look utterly ridiculous. I'll stick with my longer cut, thanks.
Most women I know have stopped wearing styles that are even the least bit hard to maintain. Why struggle with it? All my reasons for wearing long hair are related to ease of maintenance and simple daily grooming. Does it look nice? I’d hope so, and yes, I enjoy feeling well groomed without having to struggle with a hair style. Plus, there’s no way I’m ever fussing with bangs again. Every thing about them is a nuisance to me. Growing them out was even worse. No going back for me. 😊
Many of us are also willing to invest in excellent haircuts so that our styles are easy to maintain.
@@rejoyce318 Some of us don't have access to the sort of skilled artisans who can do such work reliably, more's the pity. I've worn a pixie when I did have such talents available within my budget, but over time I have found I prefer the simplicity of longer hair now that I have achieved it. It's also true that many stylists will create layers all the way to the scalp to try to give my hair lift, despite the fact that it has nothing in the way of natural body. Now that I've managed to get all those layers grown all the way out, I much prefer the simplicity of a braid or gentle updo. A personal style that suits my lifestyle. Good enough for me after so many decades of intermittently terrible haircuts and wayward bangs.
I think you have identified why people choose those cuts when they have decided to cut their hair off, but I don't think it's Why they cut. Many women would wear their long hair forever, and women whose hair has not thinned or changed with age often do.
When I hit my late 20's, my fine, poker straight hair suddenly became more porous, and with local humidity, this made it look a lot thinner and stringier. It resisted cutting it for years before I decided to prioritize thickness over length and got a variety of bobs. I am 5'11", and very short hair reads more masculine than I prefer on me. (LOVE pixies on others!!)
This hit me years ahead of my peers. (My health is fine, just my genetic cards.) Now that I see other women starting to deal with thinning/ changing hair in their 40's and 50's, they're cropping their hair. They're also more willing to discuss this with women their own age, rather than keeping it a secret out of embarrassment like it did. Long hair can really showcase thin hair on the crown, and look thinner when the light shines through the length. Wearing it back can show thinning temples.
Many women are pressured to look as young as possible, as long as possible, and are desperate to hide these perfectly normal developments. I fight it, but I still feel it.
I have to cynically say, especially as women, we are primed to automatically compliment each other no matter how someone has changed their hair. Maybe you have brutally honest friends that actually tell you the truth about how fabulous your new, shorter haircut looks… but in my experience, it’s an automatic response to compliment someone’s new style, whether I actually think it looks good or not. 😕 It sucks, but it’s true. 🤷🏻♀️
It's true - there's very few people that I can comfortably say "that style is not for you" without having to think about how the other person would receive it as... with running a consulting business I'm learning ways to be delicate and polite in expressing my suggestions :)
@@stylerefinement That’s great! ☺️ Would love to see suggestions on how to be honest with each other without hurting peoples’ feelings. One line I really appreciate when trying on clothes, for instance, is “I think we can do better! Here, try this!” It’s harder when someone already has a haircut, but hey, if they clearly love it, no harm in celebrating it with them! 😊🤗
If someone asks me a question, I tell the truth (or my opinion) I guess I am that brutally honest friend.