Ugh, this is my sister. She always criticizes everyone in the family. I barely talk to her now. No one wants to be around a person who constantly reminds you that you will never measure up to their standards.
This is exactly why I don’t talk to either of my siblings. They never ask any questions, yet have all kinds of opinions they call “advice” that wasn’t solicited. All they’re really saying is, “I’m so much better than you.” The world is harsh enough. No one should have to tolerate that behavior from “family.”
To me respect begins with fully recognizing and accepting that your partner is their own fully formed individual, they do not exist to fill in the gaps in your life. They are not an extension of you and do not have to mold themselves into whatever shape you are looking for. Mutual respect is crucial, without that there is no real foundation to work off of.
Totally agree with you. People I know like this in my family don't fully acknowledge that the other person has autonomy and their own sense of self not tied to the critical person's worldview. It also seems to come from some codependency.
I was in a marriage where he criticized me at least 10 times or more a day. I wish he had taken this advice, would have made things way better. As the partner, you feel stressed because you are constantly looking for his approval, and for a constant search for validation
I think John hit the nail on the head, I also think he's been told this before but its just easier to focus on his wife imperfections instead of his own.
These guys don't realize how lucky they are to have a partner. I totally ignored relationships to focus on school and grades and to obtain a respectable career, then again to focus on my career (all work no play). Now it feels I've missed the dating phase. After work coming home and eating dinner solo really sucks and I've come to realize I had my priorities all messed up.
If you have a good income, women are not hard to come by. I've been married twice, in a third relationship for 10 years. Single for maybe a two years total for the past 32 years. There's way more women looking for us than us looking for them; especially recently divorced 35-45 year olds wanting to find themselves again(code for wanting to feel sexually desired again). Not difficult, but don't try to make it long-term.
No relationship is better than a toxic relationship. But you gotta get out of the house and go volunteer somewhere and meet people in person! Take a community class, look up events for singles in your areas, join a church community, and make it KNOWN to your coworkers/friends/family that you want to be set up on dates.
Addicts have a hard time with intimate relationships and that doesn't go away when they become sober. They became used to running from self-responsibility as an addict and that stays with them - thus blaming their partner. I guess they can get over this, but after the addiction is gone, this remains unless they get special help for that also. His ability to want to deal with his own behavior is a very positive thing.
they also had a party atmosphere life and they don't have that "buzz" pulling them together and it just got real and it got real hard at the same time.
Thank you for this comment. I didn't realize how overly critical I was about things, and it's seriously been a lot of work to try to fix it within myself rather than looking at external things.
Some people think respect means treating you like an authority. Other people think respect means treating you like a human being. The problem arises, when someone says “if you don’t treat me like an authority, I will hit you like a human being”. And this is the real problem when it comes to respect.
That's a really good point, thank you for bringing that up! Reflecting on my own and relationships around me, I see many problems arising from this. It's often the most fundamental disagreement that leads to many smaller conflicts.
My boyfriend used to do this. What changed was that I kept communicating to him that this was not fair, nice, and didn't keep us healthy. He isn't perfect now, but I don't notice it 99% of the time. What's funny is that he was hanging out with his uncle, and his aunt (by blood) does the same thing to him. He told me... my uncle looks "resigned and beaten down." Then he checked in with me to see if he was still doing that. I told him, no, ur good. 😊
I don't think it's ever gonna work out if you don't respect her. That rarely changes. You either respect someone or you don't. She should probably leave the caller and move on.
It doesn’t have anything to do with her. If he marries another woman, it’ll just happen again. Man has to own up and put in the work for himself and the marriage.
A few people have said something this here in the comments, but despite the video title and the way he phrases his problem, what he's describing isn't "I don't respect her" it's "I don't know how to stop myself behaving disrespectfully," which is actually not the same thing. It *can* be, but as John points out this is more about him than his wife. He's nitpicking and criticising because *he's* uncomfortable, and the fact that he called in and wants to change that behaviour very much sounds like he does respect her, because he wants to change his own behaviour to stop hurting her rather than justifying what he says as being "her fault." It's really easy to fall into the trap of thinking that the first explanation that occurs to us is the reason behind behaviour (eg. you criticise because you don't respect her) but there are other explanations that can be true, such as feeling unsafe and trying to control your environment. This is also not healthy, but it's a different underlying problem.
My dad ALWAYS nitpicks my mother's food. And he wonders why she "lost confidence" with cooking. If I were 10 years younger and part of a different generation, I would tell my dad she didn't lose confidence for cooking. She hates cooking for him. Because nothing is ever good enough.
@@SarahConnor562okay really? Whether or not somebody's right about a nitpick doesn't justify the nitpick. Nobody likes a nitpicker. It comes across as either overly competitive or as you just being an asshole. We all know that person and we all probably have a relative like this, who no matter what you do or how successful of a thing you accomplish, they will always on some level remind you of a flaw in the success or somewhere where you fail before. Or something you still haven't done. They're just always ready and eager to cut your tree down the second it starts to grow. Like they just have to constantly keep you in check and never let you truly feel good about something And if You are with somebody and every time they turn around you are letting them know what they did wrong, over time all of those jabs are going to destroy their confidence.
This is my husband. He is so disrespectful and when I bring it up he’s the victim. 🙄 He told me my interests are stupid. He said he doesn’t like to have a conversation with me because all I do is gossip, I have no one to talk to. So when my sister calls me about her problems I’ll tell you. He has said I will never be anything or do anything with my life… 20 years and I am tired of him.
@@deusexmachina9776 It’s always easier on the other side. Especially when you don’t know someone’s circumstances. Lol. It makes it easier to judge people.
I respect this guy for being self-aware and understanding what he needs to work on. And this is a tough one. I have relatives that I absolutely love but boy they are just always ready to cut down your tree to size. Always ready to keep you in check. You could graduate from Harvard with a 3.9 GPA and they'd remind you you got a B+ in one class. You'd cook the perfect Thanksgiving dinner and they'd compliment you but then make sure to tell you that they would have appreciated one more napkin than they were given. They just seem to have this never-ending desire to always provide a criticism at every turn. And while you can struggle a lot of those moments off, over time it does affect you. Kinda like that "Not quite my tempo" moment from the movie whiplash.
Create some we goals and play! Word creates world …honor your word. Make promises …tell the truth …and have fun doing it. Look at how much you gain for your life.
Definitely respect them getting sober, but dang…nobody is the same person after that journey. They may find that they truly see the value in each other without the fog of alcohol etc or they could realize they aren’t what each other needs to lead a sober, happy life.
Ugh this dude has no clue as to how lucky he is to be with a female partner. For him to criticize and be disrespectful to his partner blows my mind. There are people out there who struggle with even going on dates and finding a partner. I wonder how he would feel if he ends up single. I wonder how this dude will act then. He would probably beg her to be back with him lol.
I wonder how many meals this guy is making for the family. My guess is zero but had the audacity to judge her cooking. He’s lucky he gets a meal at all
This is super unfortunate. Like all addicts he is codependent and Recovery is a long road. If they have no kids it’s probably best to just recover separately and THEN see if they are even interested in each other. After at LEAST the 4th step.
Recover separately? That’s dumb as hell. Marriage is a commitment and you don’t go live a weird I love Lucy separate bed life. I have years sober and we definitely need to honor the vow unless the marriage is shattered.
There is another element at play... When you are high, you might pick a person. When you sober up, you realize you picked the wrong person. I don't hang with my drinking friends anymore because I don't drink. We don't really have anything in common.
This guy feels like a skrew up because of his wasted year on addiction. Instead of working through those feelings and making positive changes, he critisizes and controls the people around him for a cheap sense of power. Dude needs to go to AA and do a thorough Step 4 inventory to help him work through those issues, so he can stop taking them out on everyone else
This man needs to get real problems. He should be thanking his lucky stars that he even has a wife who is still living under the same roof with him and tolerating his relentless verbal abuse (criticism, belittling). His wife is very lucky that she has somewhere else to go. I don't understand why she bothers to return, because this is his personality. He has a critical nature and they have not been married long enough for it to already be this ugly. He says how can he respect his wife? He doesn't have it within him. He lacks respect. He is a man who "lacks respect" and it has nothing to do with his wife who has now become his victim. It won't get better. It will get worse. He does not deserve to be married. Why am I so adamant about this? Well, because I am the wife in this scenario. Unlike her, I am trapped. I literally have no place else to go. I am forced to endure the relentless criticism from my husband whom I once loved and whom I now despise. So, again, I would urge this woman to leave and file for divorce and I would urge this man to seek therapy and "fix" himself before he ever would ensnare another unsuspecting woman into his life whom he plans to emotionally abuse.
I'm fed up of it's your own fault analysis all the time. Sometimes some people are incorrect and need correction. This type of issue happens in all relationships from family, partner to work....familiarity breeds contempt. You need respectable distance to value self and others.
Yet, you just told people to plan times to be an individual. You just shifted the focus of responsibility from treat your wife respectfully when you're with her to take care of yourself.
Two addicts don't get clean and stay clean together. People who have gone through recovery and are stable wothin their recovery can get together and stay together. You could see it in his eyes when the guy said they were both going through recovery.
Crazy, I skimmed through the channel & surprise surprise these kinds of titles are in large influx tied to XYs.... But yeah.... Women are just being dramatic.
Dr Delony, do you like yourself as you always put yourself down. There is a fine line between being humble and often putting yourself down. Your feelings or what u are going through doesn't often mean what the male callers are feeling, give them the opportunity to express themselves without conclusions based on what u are comfortable doing to yourself. Your approach or advice to this caller and some other male callers is manipulative tatics which is apparent in the video with u and your wife. Stop projecting and I hope u find healing because u seem to be a good person.
I thought Dr. John had 2 children? A boy and a girl? Does he ever bring her up when he offers an example of something similar in his life, to that of the caller? I once heard him say he doesn’t know how to be a father to a girl. Am I mistaken in my view? Maybe his wife took her daughter with her that night so the son was the only one with him.
Respect is a product of FEAR, if you dont fear you dont respect. Thats why countries has Atomic weapons, to impose respect. Don't confuse things about that, a man often won't respect any woman anyway
"She is not on the phone so lets just deal with you". Has anyone ever heard Dr John say such words to a female caller regarding her husband? The gender biasm on this channel is off the charts
Lol he literally just said it in the call after this one to a woman. Listen better sweetheart! 🙄 Also, just in case you need proof it’s 2:50 on the next video after this one called My husband talks down to me (I don’t know what to do)
Right (rolls eyes)-I've been married 3x and take full responsibility in my later years that I have caused some/most of the problems in those relationships. If you don't grow you can't find that rainbow.
Sounds like after that divorce, going forward, you will to let any female that you attempt to date in on the reality that you just do not like most females. Sad to say, you most likely want someone who has more to offer to you, than you have to offer them. Then, as an attempt to level the playing field in the relationship, you will criticize or even worse, become passive-aggressive via ghosting or the silent treatment whenever you are not getting your particular needs met. Men are not the only people who play these narcissistic passive aggressive games, women can act this way as well Sad fact, nothing will ever work if you constantly play the SUM ZERO GAME My way, or the Highway usually results in all out rejection from you partner
Ugh, this is my sister. She always criticizes everyone in the family. I barely talk to her now. No one wants to be around a person who constantly reminds you that you will never measure up to their standards.
Same with my sister.
I can relate 😂
I have a sister and a sister-in-law that does that too. I avoid them both like the plague.
Same. One of my older sisters is like that. Glad we live in opposite coasts of the USA lol
This is exactly why I don’t talk to either of my siblings. They never ask any questions, yet have all kinds of opinions they call “advice” that wasn’t solicited. All they’re really saying is, “I’m so much better than you.” The world is harsh enough. No one should have to tolerate that behavior from “family.”
To me respect begins with fully recognizing and accepting that your partner is their own fully formed individual, they do not exist to fill in the gaps in your life. They are not an extension of you and do not have to mold themselves into whatever shape you are looking for. Mutual respect is crucial, without that there is no real foundation to work off of.
Totally agree with you. People I know like this in my family don't fully acknowledge that the other person has autonomy and their own sense of self not tied to the critical person's worldview. It also seems to come from some codependency.
Yes without respect there cannot be love
I don’t think ppl that that got addicted can heal , because they got high for different reasons in the beginning. It’s a selfish program!
Love this! It’s so true.
Thank you luv this comment
I was in a marriage where he criticized me at least 10 times or more a day. I wish he had taken this advice, would have made things way better. As the partner, you feel stressed because you are constantly looking for his approval, and for a constant search for validation
I think John hit the nail on the head, I also think he's been told this before but its just easier to focus on his wife imperfections instead of his own.
You really can tell he’s been told this before. So true
These guys don't realize how lucky they are to have a partner. I totally ignored relationships to focus on school and grades and to obtain a respectable career, then again to focus on my career (all work no play). Now it feels I've missed the dating phase. After work coming home and eating dinner solo really sucks and I've come to realize I had my priorities all messed up.
How old are you?
You can still meet someone
If you have a good income, women are not hard to come by. I've been married twice, in a third relationship for 10 years. Single for maybe a two years total for the past 32 years. There's way more women looking for us than us looking for them; especially recently divorced 35-45 year olds wanting to find themselves again(code for wanting to feel sexually desired again). Not difficult, but don't try to make it long-term.
No relationship is better than a toxic relationship. But you gotta get out of the house and go volunteer somewhere and meet people in person! Take a community class, look up events for singles in your areas, join a church community, and make it KNOWN to your coworkers/friends/family that you want to be set up on dates.
Maybe because you think cupid is so dumb
Addicts have a hard time with intimate relationships and that doesn't go away when they become sober. They became used to running from self-responsibility as an addict and that stays with them - thus blaming their partner. I guess they can get over this, but after the addiction is gone, this remains unless they get special help for that also. His ability to want to deal with his own behavior is a very positive thing.
they also had a party atmosphere life and they don't have that "buzz" pulling them together and it just got real and it got real hard at the same time.
Thank you for this comment. I didn't realize how overly critical I was about things, and it's seriously been a lot of work to try to fix it within myself rather than looking at external things.
Some people think respect means treating you like an authority. Other people think respect means treating you like a human being. The problem arises, when someone says “if you don’t treat me like an authority, I will hit you like a human being”. And this is the real problem when it comes to respect.
That's a really good point, thank you for bringing that up! Reflecting on my own and relationships around me, I see many problems arising from this. It's often the most fundamental disagreement that leads to many smaller conflicts.
That is such an insightful way to put it. Thank you for taking the time to lay it out in such an easily digestible manner.
In AA they’d say he has his glasses on backwards. He needs to turn them around so he can focus on his flaws, not hers.
Criticism is always about you 3:10 wow. Well said Dr John. .
My first husband was a constant daily stream of criticisms. When I told him "that isn't nice to say" he'd respond "I'm just commenting". 🙄
Mine says “I’m just telling the truth”.
It’s no excuse to be rude though
You sound like you are talking to a child
My boyfriend used to do this. What changed was that I kept communicating to him that this was not fair, nice, and didn't keep us healthy. He isn't perfect now, but I don't notice it 99% of the time.
What's funny is that he was hanging out with his uncle, and his aunt (by blood) does the same thing to him. He told me... my uncle looks "resigned and beaten down."
Then he checked in with me to see if he was still doing that.
I told him, no, ur good. 😊
the way he said daaaang at 2:30 hilarious 😂
I don't think it's ever gonna work out if you don't respect her. That rarely changes. You either respect someone or you don't. She should probably leave the caller and move on.
It doesn’t have anything to do with her. If he marries another woman, it’ll just happen again. Man has to own up and put in the work for himself and the marriage.
A few people have said something this here in the comments, but despite the video title and the way he phrases his problem, what he's describing isn't "I don't respect her" it's "I don't know how to stop myself behaving disrespectfully," which is actually not the same thing. It *can* be, but as John points out this is more about him than his wife. He's nitpicking and criticising because *he's* uncomfortable, and the fact that he called in and wants to change that behaviour very much sounds like he does respect her, because he wants to change his own behaviour to stop hurting her rather than justifying what he says as being "her fault." It's really easy to fall into the trap of thinking that the first explanation that occurs to us is the reason behind behaviour (eg. you criticise because you don't respect her) but there are other explanations that can be true, such as feeling unsafe and trying to control your environment. This is also not healthy, but it's a different underlying problem.
@@Jacob-nb2xd I'd rate that us unlikely. People like that usually don't change.
@@johniii8147agreed
Disrespect is really a great foundation for a marriage....🤦
My dad ALWAYS nitpicks my mother's food. And he wonders why she "lost confidence" with cooking.
If I were 10 years younger and part of a different generation, I would tell my dad she didn't lose confidence for cooking. She hates cooking for him. Because nothing is ever good enough.
It is for sure
@@SarahConnor562okay really? Whether or not somebody's right about a nitpick doesn't justify the nitpick.
Nobody likes a nitpicker. It comes across as either overly competitive or as you just being an asshole.
We all know that person and we all probably have a relative like this, who no matter what you do or how successful of a thing you accomplish, they will always on some level remind you of a flaw in the success or somewhere where you fail before. Or something you still haven't done.
They're just always ready and eager to cut your tree down the second it starts to grow. Like they just have to constantly keep you in check and never let you truly feel good about something
And if You are with somebody and every time they turn around you are letting them know what they did wrong, over time all of those jabs are going to destroy their confidence.
@@lucindabreeding - I would still tell your dad. Man up. Do what is right. He won’t like it, but who cares if it is the right thing.
Said no one ever 😉
HAHA! I love how effortlessly and powerfully Dr John turns people's focus back on to themselves! Cuts straight through the BS 😂😂😂😂😂
Bravo, Sir!
This is my husband. He is so disrespectful and when I bring it up he’s the victim. 🙄
He told me my interests are stupid. He said he doesn’t like to have a conversation with me because all I do is gossip, I have no one to talk to. So when my sister calls me about her problems I’ll tell you. He has said I will never be anything or do anything with my life…
20 years and I am tired of him.
Walk away hun he doesn't deserve you!
u chose to marry and stay with him
@@deusexmachina9776 It’s always easier on the other side. Especially when you don’t know someone’s circumstances. Lol. It makes it easier to judge people.
@@cindichean ma'am no one forced you to marry him - it is western culture you chose freely
@@deusexmachina9776 LMAO.
I respect this guy for being self-aware and understanding what he needs to work on. And this is a tough one.
I have relatives that I absolutely love but boy they are just always ready to cut down your tree to size. Always ready to keep you in check.
You could graduate from Harvard with a 3.9 GPA and they'd remind you you got a B+ in one class.
You'd cook the perfect Thanksgiving dinner and they'd compliment you but then make sure to tell you that they would have appreciated one more napkin than they were given.
They just seem to have this never-ending desire to always provide a criticism at every turn.
And while you can struggle a lot of those moments off, over time it does affect you.
Kinda like that "Not quite my tempo" moment from the movie whiplash.
That movie is incredible! Literally struggle to take breath watching it. The pitfalls of perfectionism / genius
A lot of Dr. John's input is more or less what I would expect to hear, but this is actually really unexpected and spot-on. 👏👏
Create some we goals and play! Word creates world …honor your word. Make promises …tell the truth …and have fun doing it. Look at how much you gain for your life.
Definitely respect them getting sober, but dang…nobody is the same person after that journey. They may find that they truly see the value in each other without the fog of alcohol etc or they could realize they aren’t what each other needs to lead a sober, happy life.
Ugh this dude has no clue as to how lucky he is to be with a female partner. For him to criticize and be disrespectful to his partner blows my mind. There are people out there who struggle with even going on dates and finding a partner. I wonder how he would feel if he ends up single. I wonder how this dude will act then. He would probably beg her to be back with him lol.
And you are someone whom a woman would appreciate so much but you are nervous to put yourself out there.
Two alcoholics trying to figure it out. Figuring relationships out without having to unlearn that behavior is tough enough as it is.
I wonder how many meals this guy is making for the family. My guess is zero but had the audacity to judge her cooking. He’s lucky he gets a meal at all
I think the dude never loved his wife and doesn't want to face that hard fact.
This is super unfortunate. Like all addicts he is codependent and Recovery is a long road. If they have no kids it’s probably best to just recover separately and THEN see if they are even interested in each other. After at LEAST the 4th step.
Recover separately? That’s dumb as hell. Marriage is a commitment and you don’t go live a weird I love Lucy separate bed life. I have years sober and we definitely need to honor the vow unless the marriage is shattered.
The respect is already there. Or it should be. If you don't respect them don't marry them
“ dangggggg” that hit me
There is another element at play... When you are high, you might pick a person. When you sober up, you realize you picked the wrong person. I don't hang with my drinking friends anymore because I don't drink. We don't really have anything in common.
This guy feels like a skrew up because of his wasted year on addiction. Instead of working through those feelings and making positive changes, he critisizes and controls the people around him for a cheap sense of power. Dude needs to go to AA and do a thorough Step 4 inventory to help him work through those issues, so he can stop taking them out on everyone else
I didn’t expect this to be so relatable as a 21 year old single person
All women please read “Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men” by Lundy Bancroft
This man’s problem is his thinking.
I agree. This is an excellent book.
This man needs to get real problems. He should be thanking his lucky stars that he even has a wife who is still living under the same roof with him and tolerating his relentless verbal abuse (criticism, belittling). His wife is very lucky that she has somewhere else to go. I don't understand why she bothers to return, because this is his personality. He has a critical nature and they have not been married long enough for it to already be this ugly. He says how can he respect his wife? He doesn't have it within him. He lacks respect. He is a man who "lacks respect" and it has nothing to do with his wife who has now become his victim. It won't get better. It will get worse. He does not deserve to be married. Why am I so adamant about this? Well, because I am the wife in this scenario. Unlike her, I am trapped. I literally have no place else to go. I am forced to endure the relentless criticism from my husband whom I once loved and whom I now despise. So, again, I would urge this woman to leave and file for divorce and I would urge this man to seek therapy and "fix" himself before he ever would ensnare another unsuspecting woman into his life whom he plans to emotionally abuse.
I'm fed up of it's your own fault analysis all the time. Sometimes some people are incorrect and need correction. This type of issue happens in all relationships from family, partner to work....familiarity breeds contempt. You need respectable distance to value self and others.
He is projecting...
Yet, you just told people to plan times to be an individual. You just shifted the focus of responsibility from treat your wife respectfully when you're with her to take care of yourself.
Two addicts don't get clean and stay clean together. People who have gone through recovery and are stable wothin their recovery can get together and stay together.
You could see it in his eyes when the guy said they were both going through recovery.
Hi! This conversation has open my eyes thank you. May I please have the link for the talk with the comedian please?
Crazy, I skimmed through the channel & surprise surprise these kinds of titles are in large influx tied to XYs....
But yeah.... Women are just being dramatic.
Damn this video is really hitting home and showing me im not even happy with myself
Or easier to go back to drinking if does not have a wife to be accountable to and for.
My EX husband qas always critical of any cooking that wasnt his grandmas cooking. Id have asked her to give me lessons if she hadnt been very dead.
I knew that everything my wife did was perfect and it was my fault for bringing it up.
Hell yeah to your wife, John, for learning to become a grill master! Good steaks are worth it!
Dr Delony, do you like yourself as you always put yourself down. There is a fine line between being humble and often putting yourself down. Your feelings or what u are going through doesn't often mean what the male callers are feeling, give them the opportunity to express themselves without conclusions based on what u are comfortable doing to yourself. Your approach or advice to this caller and some other male callers is manipulative tatics which is apparent in the video with u and your wife. Stop projecting and I hope u find healing because u seem to be a good person.
Soon as he said west palm beach ....and read the title...i scoffed 😂........typical
R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me....sock it to me(4X).....
😂
::background:: Just a little bit….just a little bit…. 😂
My man sounds like a Virgo♍️!
What? You are so wrong.
Read up on Virgos. You are absolutely incorrect
I think he just miss the alcohol. It will pass.
I haven’t watched this yet but wtf lol
Rodney Dangerfield Uno reverse card
I ❤️ women
I thought Dr. John had 2 children? A boy and a girl? Does he ever bring her up when he offers an example of something similar in his life, to that of the caller? I once heard him say he doesn’t know how to be a father to a girl. Am I mistaken in my view? Maybe his wife took her daughter with her that night so the son was the only one with him.
Don't marry that's usually a good idea.
Delony should be deported from Texas until he learns to grill like a real man. Hank Hill would hate this guy...
He doesn’t live in TX so no need to be deported! 🤣
The guy can't even bbq but he's giving ppl life advice. Good lord, I'm surprised he knows how to work the phone...@@flashthecorgi2053
He doesn't belong in any state until he mans up@@flashthecorgi2053
People have to earn respect. It is not just given by default
Yes it is lol
Respect is a product of FEAR, if you dont fear you dont respect. Thats why countries has Atomic weapons, to impose respect. Don't confuse things about that, a man often won't respect any woman anyway
That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever read
"She is not on the phone so lets just deal with you". Has anyone ever heard Dr John say such words to a female caller regarding her husband? The gender biasm on this channel is off the charts
Lol he literally just said it in the call after this one to a woman. Listen better sweetheart! 🙄 Also, just in case you need proof it’s 2:50 on the next video after this one called My husband talks down to me (I don’t know what to do)
Yeah, he has, you're just making a hard-to-verify claim hoping nobody will refute you.
Yes
Stop comparing yourself to women and you'll be happier
Yes he says it to women all the time.
This is a call you'd never get from a women. They will never seek to be a better spouse
False: I’m a wife and here seeking ways to be a better spouse.
Turn off the phone and go talk to a real women. What you see online isn't accurate lmao
False lol 😂
Ah, the dedicated he-man woman-hater
Right (rolls eyes)-I've been married 3x and take full responsibility in my later years that I have caused some/most of the problems in those relationships. If you don't grow you can't find that rainbow.
Divorce.
Sounds like after that divorce, going forward, you will to let any female that you attempt to date in on the reality that you just do not like most females.
Sad to say, you most likely want someone who has more to offer to you, than you have to offer them.
Then, as an attempt to level the playing field in the relationship, you will criticize or even worse, become passive-aggressive via ghosting or the silent treatment whenever you are not getting your particular needs met.
Men are not the only people who play these narcissistic passive aggressive games, women can act this way as well
Sad fact, nothing will ever work if you constantly play the SUM ZERO GAME
My way, or the Highway usually results in all out rejection from you partner