@@Softsoul. I'm so glad that I learned to do box braids from teen years in the 90s. That probably saved my edges. I'm not fast and i don't part as straight but any tight style I can take down and put back in looser! I remember taking down a style when I was 8 or 9...my family was upset..after they paid good money... and i sat down and undid the cornrow style. I don't get cornrow extensions anymore. I will clip in a weave or a wig. No more braid downs.
My mom tries to convince me to do wash and go’s. I told her if I wear my hair loose, I’ll have to braid it up after a full day and I’ll be too lazy to and wear my hair loose for a week. My hair breaks so much when I wear it loose too often. I just keep them in mini braids so it’s less manipulation and stress on my ends. Afro’s and twist outs are cute, but with my hair’s short length and time, it’s just easier styling my hair in mini twist and going my way. I think they’re cute anyway and I care more about the health of my hair than trying to keep up with all the trends and beauty standards. It still looks presentable.
My hair is a fine 4A, and coily like the girl from the show "blackish". I used to wear a low ponytail for years. Now I wear silk presses, and keep it on low heat with a heat protectant. I cut my hair into a neck length blunt bob. I was noticing major hair loss and thinning when I was using gels and leave in conditioners for years to keep my hair in its place, and "moisturised". I was literally combing my wet hair out to put it into a low ponytail almost daily. This was ripping my hair out. Now my silk presses last for over a week, and is low maintenance. I massage my scalp with a light oil when I wrap my silk press at night. Thanks for the tips 🌺❤️
💯 Yes I LOVE TO WEAR SYNTHETIC BRAIDS but then I noticed that my ends were thinning and I didn’t know why. 😱 I haven’t wore weave in 5 months and my hair is THRIVING‼️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I wear kinky twists braided extensions 12 weeks of the 52 a year. That's it. no more...I need access to my scalp and hair. I always get my trims every 12-16 weeks.
What about crochet braids? I've also seen a few videos where they put their real hair in a ponytail and then crochet hair into create a longer ponytail
I air dry my hair...but my hair dries in an hour and I only use leave-in conditioner..not gel!! This is because my scalp doesn't like styling products and my trichologist told me to lay off the styling products and focus on keeping the moisture in my hair instead.
I use a Leave-In Styler (Camille Rose Aloe Butter Gel) and Wetline Xtreme Gel because I have a mixed coarse Coily type 4 and I live in a highly hot and humid industrial city so, by day 2, the crunch in the gel is already gone since the humidity breaks it down but my definition lasts between 5-7 days. When I'm ready to wash, I use African Pride Preshampoo so, I don't have breakage.
Completely broke off my crown. Will lead to thinning edges. Woman taking all these vitamins and jumping through hoops to grow hair when simplest answer is to stop damaging it
I always thought ponytails were more damaging than buns, as they have your ends out and exposed to the elements, rubbing on your clothes, chairs and car seats etc. While buns have your ends rolled up and tucked away from the drying sun and wind.
Thanks so much for this video. Cuz I will not go back to the salon anymore nor wear tight ponytails. I like twists better than braids, cuz they’re easy on the scalp
Wash n gos tore up my hair went from waist length back up to above bra strap. Had to start my whole length journey over because I had splits way up my hair shaft and little knots everywhere! Them curls hide damage really well. I also was slowly losing density and balding in some areas from constantly wetting my hair. Whew glad I caught it early!
Im natural, and I work out, and I sweat in my head.. I do crochets own myself. My hair texture is fine/thin, and yes, I noticed thins on top due to thyroid issues. I have the slightest what to do. I wonder if should I go back to a relaxer? I didn't have the fizz problem or the hair to sweat a lot, either.
Every since I went back to a relaxer things are much easier.I don’t get stressed out about braids anymore .I only braid twice per year now . Thanks 🙏 for the information
Me too ..I'm off the wagon and back on the creamy crack ...lol... I was losing more hair trying to be natural .. now I use less product causing less product damage .. less heat since I can let it air dry and that allows me to do wavy styles instead of bone straight .... and since I'm only doing 2 to 3 relaxers per year... I feel no guilt..
I believe black women just need to 💜💜💜 on their hair. I used to weave, braid, dye, bleach, flat iron every week. Got so tired of it and spending all that $. I have been natural for 4 years and use Ayurveda and my hair is SO happy/healthy and I feel more empowered!
Exactly cause according to these TH-camrs you can’t do shit to your hair with breakages…atp do whatever style that your hair can handle. Everyone hair is different. My hair can handle braids and ima keep getting them too.
@@b.b.3761 the thing is what I noticed is everyone has a different opinion on this. This is clearly a controversial topic. Our hair in general just very delicate to say the least.
I think the solution is to use human hair when doing styles like braids, not doing a tight super sleek ponytail or just not wearing these styles too regularly. I guess the best hairstyle to wear would ideally just be our natural hair with little manipulation. In reality our hair type just takes so much energy and time to maintain, and it does sometimes feel like the hairstyles we can do with it is limited without implementing those 'damaging' styles like braids, ponytails, buns etc... 😭
@@SOMETHINGTOSLOW it’s exactly this it’s to have low manipulation styles like twist, corn rows, different variations of that. I find those are what the waist length natural hair women are doing. But most people don’t want to have their hair in a natural state they want to have the extensions and all the added whistles and bells which nothing is wrong with that but there’s a price to pay.
@@nickiawalker645 I agree! With hair it's all about patience, proper care and time. But most people like you said don't want to wear their hair natural and wait for the process of growing their hair over the course of several years.
I just cut my ends yesterday, I'm still learning how to keep my ends healthy. I mostly wear my hair natural. My ends looked good, until I straighted my hair. I was shocked. I guess air drying my hair isn't good. 😢
Shell, how much of your conditioner should we be using? I have fine hair and I use about a quarter-sized amount for my entire head and then comb through. I’m always afraid that using too much conditioner will leave a film on my hair and therefore will affect how well my hair presses (I straighten with an old-fashioned hot comb….not too hot).
I'm definitely the one with the messy ends from braids! I use your products, but now I'm gonna start taking your tips doing more stretched natural styles.
I really interested in what you had to say in your video. I tried so many products and it seem like nothing is working. It was just today that I was saying that I give up on my hair to wear until I saw the video they gave me a little hope, especially the product shenourished curls recover deep conditioner trying my best to find the product but the website says all the products are sold out unfortunately I was wondering if you knew anywhere where I can find this product?
What about straight back cornrows under wigs? I have fine hair. I think wigs in general have thinned my perimeter a little. I’m waiting for the weather to get to 60 degrees again so I can rock silk presses 😮💨
Cornrows under wigs are ok.. just avoid synthetic hair. And yes wigs can do that. It’s best to not do anything excessively. Maybe wear headband wigs and leave your edges out.
I have ultra-fine hair. I only flat twist my hair under my wigs with no extension hair. I only wear wigs for 12 weeks of the year and I only wear braided kinky twists for 12 weeks of the year. I take down my flat twists every week and shampoo and deep condition with heat.
Hey Shell, Hope all is well. I’ve been watching your videos night and day since I went and got my hair cut. I've always struggles with maintaining length due to many of the damaging hairstyles that you've mentioned here. I just have a question about my scalp. Its really flaky and dry and sore when I comb it and it seems to be inflamed. My stylist mentioned me finding a dermatologist. Do you know how I can fix this with a DIY at home until I can get scheduled with a doctor?
I love braids but I can’t anymore! It pulls my hair out and ruin all my hard work of taking care of my natural hair, I agree! And that fake hair is not good for you spiritually!
I wear buns too but I use silk hair ties and a silk bun maker. My hair is usually in a silk press or a bun with a crown braid lol but I don’t wear the bun too tight when I do wear them, and I let my hair out when I’m at home.
@@DS-Trina I just ordered a bunch from Amazon and that’s where I got the bun maker from too. The bun maker was a little pricey but worth it. Even using a satin, or a blend is okay as long as it not the actual hair ties. I blow out my hair too, I know longer style my hair wet. My hair was really short and choppy too for a few months when I tried cutting my hair so I’d do a crown braid in the front (because it was too short to even make it in a bun) and then bun the back.
Omg my daughters ends look like that 😭😭😭 she has so much hair and braids are our go to protective style. She is now in a style and go phase because she’s learning how to do her own hair in cute styles she likes. I feel like I can’t win with either of our hair 😩🤦🏽♀️
What’s crazy is when you bring this kind of stuff up to naturals they get so angry and verbally attack you just for telling truth about the outcomes of the styles and hair care practices. SMH. I worry for the future of a lot of naturals’ hair health because they don’t care about the actual science of hair or listening to certain professionals who actually took the time to study and learn about these things. I really hope more women open their minds and are willing to make the necessary changes to save their hair & scalp 🙏🏽
Never heard of buns being damaging. I thought it protected your ends since they were tucked. Buns and bunned mini twists are go-to styles for my daughter. Otherwise she’d be playing in her hair or her ends will dry out. Does this just apply to tight buns? Are loose buns okay?
Yes, my products are used on all hair types. Here’s a video I did and used my products on her before I recorded th-cam.com/video/O37INHHaTBU/w-d-xo.htmlsi=xmId4z7r3qM-Ti8U
When I use synthetic extension (I don't use Kinky twist or coarse harsh extensions) I make sure to wash my scalp and hair every week even if it frizz. It's better my hair is moisturised than for it to dry out and have a neat style.
I do have frayed ends as well! Its from air drying my wash an go's , i like air drying though.. How could i fix this ? do i just keep my ends hydrated throughout the week ?
@@SOMETHINGTOSLOW I don’t know. I thought that was odd too most of the braiders Want to only use synthetichair. But the girl said she legit tried looking and kept on getting declined to braid hair. They don’t want to use it.
@@shelltalkshair exactly what she said they said is because it’s too smooth and there’s not enough grip but then it beats the purpose. Of trying to get human hair instead of synthetic that is ripping out our hair.
@@nickiawalker645 this is when you learn to braid your own hair. in the 90s people got human hair braids all of the time in the Caribbean...with no edge control or braiding gel!
I have a question why most hairdressers or hair stylists do not have healthy natural hair ?? They wear loads of weaveons ,wigs ect such a turn off for me and am refering to the women 😲😲
I have very fine hair. Braids snatched my edges one time and I ain’t got em since.
I have Ultra-fine hair but strong edges and....I take the braids out of my edges if they are too tight!!
Same. I cannot get braids anymore. Any size is too heavy for my fine hair.
Me to 😢
@@Softsoul. I'm so glad that I learned to do box braids from teen years in the 90s. That probably saved my edges. I'm not fast and i don't part as straight but any tight style I can take down and put back in looser! I remember taking down a style when I was 8 or 9...my family was upset..after they paid good money... and i sat down and undid the cornrow style. I don't get cornrow extensions anymore. I will clip in a weave or a wig. No more braid downs.
Add wigs and extensions. Tension and clips and lack of airflow to scalp all cause scalp issues and traction alopwcia
My mom tries to convince me to do wash and go’s. I told her if I wear my hair loose, I’ll have to braid it up after a full day and I’ll be too lazy to and wear my hair loose for a week. My hair breaks so much when I wear it loose too often. I just keep them in mini braids so it’s less manipulation and stress on my ends.
Afro’s and twist outs are cute, but with my hair’s short length and time, it’s just easier styling my hair in mini twist and going my way. I think they’re cute anyway and I care more about the health of my hair than trying to keep up with all the trends and beauty standards. It still looks presentable.
My hair is a fine 4A, and coily like the girl from the show "blackish". I used to wear a low ponytail for years. Now I wear silk presses, and keep it on low heat with a heat protectant. I cut my hair into a neck length blunt bob. I was noticing major hair loss and thinning when I was using gels and leave in conditioners for years to keep my hair in its place, and "moisturised". I was literally combing my wet hair out to put it into a low ponytail almost daily. This was ripping my hair out. Now my silk presses last for over a week, and is low maintenance. I massage my scalp with a light oil when I wrap my silk press at night. Thanks for the tips 🌺❤️
💯 Yes I LOVE TO WEAR SYNTHETIC BRAIDS but then I noticed that my ends were thinning and I didn’t know why. 😱 I haven’t wore weave in 5 months and my hair is THRIVING‼️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Can you do a video on a healthy hair routine. a true routine if I cannot get to beauty shop regularly?
Omg! I have frayed ends. I was getting island twists and braids back to back. So that explains why my ends look like that smh. Thank you for the info.
I wear kinky twists braided extensions 12 weeks of the 52 a year. That's it. no more...I need access to my scalp and hair. I always get my trims every 12-16 weeks.
What about crochet braids? I've also seen a few videos where they put their real hair in a ponytail and then crochet hair into create a longer ponytail
Yeah that first picture of the ends is me and I’ve done back to back braids for years. Trying to find new hairstyles
All great points, thank you. Was waiting to hear about wash and go… and the safe way to do them.
I was looking for this comment. I was waiting on that too
I have to tread lightly when talking about certain styles lbvs but wash n gos can be ok just don’t air dry or use drying gels with them.
I air dry my hair...but my hair dries in an hour and I only use leave-in conditioner..not gel!! This is because my scalp doesn't like styling products and my trichologist told me to lay off the styling products and focus on keeping the moisture in my hair instead.
I use a Leave-In Styler (Camille Rose Aloe Butter Gel) and Wetline Xtreme Gel because I have a mixed coarse Coily type 4 and I live in a highly hot and humid industrial city so, by day 2, the crunch in the gel is already gone since the humidity breaks it down but my definition lasts between 5-7 days.
When I'm ready to wash, I use African Pride Preshampoo so, I don't have breakage.
Wish you were my hair stylist so bad. It’s so dry here in the DMV! It’s VERY hard finding a good hairstylist like yourself 😩
It’s so hard.
Specifically those people who get crochets very frequently. They tend to get some of the most damage on their hair.
Completely broke off my crown. Will lead to thinning edges. Woman taking all these vitamins and jumping through hoops to grow hair when simplest answer is to stop damaging it
I always thought ponytails were more damaging than buns, as they have your ends out and exposed to the elements, rubbing on your clothes, chairs and car seats etc. While buns have your ends rolled up and tucked away from the drying sun and wind.
Without buns, I have nothing left to do🥴
Thanks so much for this video. Cuz I will not go back to the salon anymore nor wear tight ponytails. I like twists better than braids, cuz they’re easy on the scalp
Wash n gos tore up my hair went from waist length back up to above bra strap. Had to start my whole length journey over because I had splits way up my hair shaft and little knots everywhere! Them curls hide damage really well. I also was slowly losing density and balding in some areas from constantly wetting my hair. Whew glad I caught it early!
What did you end up doing?
@Sonyb3ats I do blow outs and silk presses now
Im natural, and I work out, and I sweat in my head.. I do crochets own myself. My hair texture is fine/thin, and yes, I noticed thins on top due to thyroid issues. I have the slightest what to do. I wonder if should I go back to a relaxer? I didn't have the fizz problem or the hair to sweat a lot, either.
Every since I went back to a relaxer things are much easier.I don’t get stressed out about braids anymore .I only braid twice per year now . Thanks 🙏 for the information
Same, um relaxed & I never braid. Even when I was natural, i rarely braided my hair due to the stress it causes on the scalp especially the hairline
@@2cut32handleomg same! Having my hair braided growing up made my sides kinda thin....braids are lowkey torture 😂
Me too ..I'm off the wagon and back on the creamy crack ...lol... I was losing more hair trying to be natural .. now I use less product causing less product damage .. less heat since I can let it air dry and that allows me to do wavy styles instead of bone straight .... and since I'm only doing 2 to 3 relaxers per year... I feel no guilt..
I believe black women just need to 💜💜💜 on their hair. I used to weave, braid, dye, bleach, flat iron every week. Got so tired of it and spending all that $. I have been natural for 4 years and use Ayurveda and my hair is SO happy/healthy and I feel more empowered!
So what styles are actually healthy for the hair?
Exactly cause according to these TH-camrs you can’t do shit to your hair with breakages…atp do whatever style that your hair can handle. Everyone hair is different. My hair can handle braids and ima keep getting them too.
@@b.b.3761 the thing is what I noticed is everyone has a different opinion on this. This is clearly a controversial topic. Our hair in general just very delicate to say the least.
I think the solution is to use human hair when doing styles like braids, not doing a tight super sleek ponytail or just not wearing these styles too regularly.
I guess the best hairstyle to wear would ideally just be our natural hair with little manipulation. In reality our hair type just takes so much energy and time to maintain, and it does sometimes feel like the hairstyles we can do with it is limited without implementing those 'damaging' styles like braids, ponytails, buns etc... 😭
@@SOMETHINGTOSLOW it’s exactly this it’s to have low manipulation styles like twist, corn rows, different variations of that.
I find those are what the waist length natural hair women are doing.
But most people don’t want to have their hair in a natural state they want to have the extensions and all the added whistles and bells which nothing is wrong with that but there’s a price to pay.
@@nickiawalker645 I agree! With hair it's all about patience, proper care and time.
But most people like you said don't want to wear their hair natural and wait for the process of growing their hair over the course of several years.
I really want to be a straight natural but the weather condition in Ghana makes it difficult to keep my silk press
How do I treat my frayed ends, please 🙏🏽
Trims every 6-8 weeks until it’s healthy. Use my oil and deep conditioner to help hydrate your hair. Www.shenourished.com
Every 6 weeks cut until they are gone.
I just cut my ends yesterday, I'm still learning how to keep my ends healthy. I mostly wear my hair natural. My ends looked good, until I straighted my hair. I was shocked. I guess air drying my hair isn't good. 😢
I seen this happen to a friend of mine she got a bald spot from the pony tails with fake hair felt so bad I’ve seen multiple ppl doing it
Shell, how much of your conditioner should we be using? I have fine hair and I use about a quarter-sized amount for my entire head and then comb through. I’m always afraid that using too much conditioner will leave a film on my hair and therefore will affect how well my hair presses (I straighten with an old-fashioned hot comb….not too hot).
Your right 😊😊😊
The only time I ever had braids, it was with synthetic hair and it broke my hair off. I had to do a big chop.
Sorry to hear that 😢
Thank you, I like your videos! 💋❤️😘💐
I'm definitely the one with the messy ends from braids! I use your products, but now I'm gonna start taking your tips doing more stretched natural styles.
I really interested in what you had to say in your video. I tried so many products and it seem like nothing is working. It was just today that I was saying that I give up on my hair to wear until I saw the video they gave me a little hope, especially the product shenourished curls recover deep conditioner trying my best to find the product but the website says all the products are sold out unfortunately I was wondering if you knew anywhere where I can find this product?
First! Got my pen and notebook ready!
❤️🙌🏾
What about straight back cornrows under wigs? I have fine hair. I think wigs in general have thinned my perimeter a little. I’m waiting for the weather to get to 60 degrees again so I can rock silk presses 😮💨
Cornrows under wigs are ok.. just avoid synthetic hair. And yes wigs can do that. It’s best to not do anything excessively. Maybe wear headband wigs and leave your edges out.
I have ultra-fine hair. I only flat twist my hair under my wigs with no extension hair. I only wear wigs for 12 weeks of the year and I only wear braided kinky twists for 12 weeks of the year. I take down my flat twists every week and shampoo and deep condition with heat.
This was a great video, thank you so much.
Hey Shell, Hope all is well. I’ve been watching your videos night and day since I went and got my hair cut. I've always struggles with maintaining length due to many of the damaging hairstyles that you've mentioned here. I just have a question about my scalp. Its really flaky and dry and sore when I comb it and it seems to be inflamed. My stylist mentioned me finding a dermatologist. Do you know how I can fix this with a DIY at home until I can get scheduled with a doctor?
I love braids but I can’t anymore! It pulls my hair out and ruin all my hard work of taking care of my natural hair, I agree! And that fake hair is not good for you spiritually!
I only bun because my ponytail looks choppy 😢
I wear buns too but I use silk hair ties and a silk bun maker. My hair is usually in a silk press or a bun with a crown braid lol but I don’t wear the bun too tight when I do wear them, and I let my hair out when I’m at home.
@@__HappilyMarriedgreat advice 💕
Which brand of silk hair ties do you use? I have yet to find a nice skinny silk hair tie.
@@DS-Trina I just ordered a bunch from Amazon and that’s where I got the bun maker from too. The bun maker was a little pricey but worth it. Even using a satin, or a blend is okay as long as it not the actual hair ties. I blow out my hair too, I know longer style my hair wet. My hair was really short and choppy too for a few months when I tried cutting my hair so I’d do a crown braid in the front (because it was too short to even make it in a bun) and then bun the back.
What curl pattern are you? My hair looks like yours
How did you get your beautiful waves?
Omg my daughters ends look like that 😭😭😭 she has so much hair and braids are our go to protective style. She is now in a style and go phase because she’s learning how to do her own hair in cute styles she likes. I feel like I can’t win with either of our hair 😩🤦🏽♀️
What about buns with a jaw clip or a scrunchie ?
What’s crazy is when you bring this kind of stuff up to naturals they get so angry and verbally attack you just for telling truth about the outcomes of the styles and hair care practices. SMH. I worry for the future of a lot of naturals’ hair health because they don’t care about the actual science of hair or listening to certain professionals who actually took the time to study and learn about these things. I really hope more women open their minds and are willing to make the necessary changes to save their hair & scalp 🙏🏽
I would love to know your thoughts on The Doux silk press collection
Braids truly are damaging!!!
I’ve cut over 9 inches of hair this year alone. ❤
I’d like to add that wearing ponytails all the time (especially low ones) cause breakage at the nape as well.
Never heard of buns being damaging. I thought it protected your ends since they were tucked. Buns and bunned mini twists are go-to styles for my daughter. Otherwise she’d be playing in her hair or her ends will dry out. Does this just apply to tight buns? Are loose buns okay?
It starts thinning and breaking off
I tried downloading your free guide but it's saying the form has exceeded its allocated quota
Are your products good for 3b/3c hair as well?
Yes, my products are used on all hair types. Here’s a video I did and used my products on her before I recorded
th-cam.com/video/O37INHHaTBU/w-d-xo.htmlsi=xmId4z7r3qM-Ti8U
@@shelltalkshair thank you for responding, excited to try them!
When I use synthetic extension (I don't use Kinky twist or coarse harsh extensions) I make sure to wash my scalp and hair every week even if it frizz.
It's better my hair is moisturised than for it to dry out and have a neat style.
I do have frayed ends as well! Its from air drying my wash an go's , i like air drying though.. How could i fix this ? do i just keep my ends hydrated throughout the week ?
Alternating the ponytail to a different spot .. ok
Where are you located?
Milwaukee Wisconsin
New subby ❤
She lost me with the first video. I have always had long thick hair and my mom used Vaseline and Blue Magic my entire adolescent life.
So there was someone saying how they had human hair for braiding and every stylist refused.
Wait, why??
@@SOMETHINGTOSLOW I don’t know. I thought that was odd too most of the braiders Want to only use synthetichair. But the girl said she legit tried looking and kept on getting declined to braid hair. They don’t want to use it.
@@nickiawalker645that’s odd…probably because the hair is to smooth and don’t have a grip like synthetic hair does idk
@@shelltalkshair exactly what she said they said is because it’s too smooth and there’s not enough grip but then it beats the purpose. Of trying to get human hair instead of synthetic that is ripping out our hair.
@@nickiawalker645 this is when you learn to braid your own hair. in the 90s people got human hair braids all of the time in the Caribbean...with no edge control or braiding gel!
I have a question why most hairdressers or hair stylists do not have
healthy natural hair ??
They wear loads of weaveons ,wigs ect such a turn off for me and am
refering to the women 😲😲
I’m not sure, I wear my real hair and weaves. But Most stylists wear whatever’s convenient because of their busy lifestyle.
I always found the stylist who weren't done up took great care of my hair