Finding and Releasing Your Voice (Self-Expression)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 พ.ค. 2024
- In this episode, Matt speaks with vocal coach, producer, and artist Javier Wallis about finding and releasing the voice to foster a deeper capacity for self-expression. They unpack ways to unlock the voice through facing the fears and blockages many of us have about expressing ourselves.
Come spend an hour with Matt and Javier and learn some of the powerful benefits of vocal expression and how it can lead to profound transformation, healing and empowerment.
The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:
◾How vocal expression supports self-expression
◾How to find and release your voice
◾The blocks to self-expression
◾The benefits of vocal expression
◾The benefits of vocal coaching
Guest - Javier Wallis
Instagram: javierwallis
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When we find our voice we find ourselves.
Hey there! Thanks for sharing such a profound insight. Finding our voice is like embarking on a journey of self-discovery-it's where our true essence shines through. Here's to embracing every part of ourselves as we find our voices and, ultimately, find our true selves. 🎶😍
Fascinating episode!
Awwww... Thank you! We're glad you found it fascinating.😍
I Hear You through that wonderful voice.
Thank you so much for your kind words! Your support means the world to us. 🎶✨
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Absolutely, we agree with you! Each journey is unique and shapes us into the strong individuals we are. 🏳🌈💪
I started to take singing lessons almost a year ago. Really love the way my voice works. Before I was very reserved to open myself up and sing. Since I started these lessons, have practiced vulnerability and authenticity a lot more easier. Our voice is I guess that door which opens up the whole world. Great episode, I admire your work, both of you are beautiful souls, and was a joy listening to you ❤
Wow, your journey with singing lessons sounds incredibly inspiring! It's amazing how embracing our voice can lead to greater openness and authenticity. We're honored to have played a part in your journey, and your kind words truly mean the world to us. Keep shining your beautiful light, and keep singing your heart out! Thank you for being a part of our community!😍🌈
Great episode, Matt. Yours always are!! I've been singing for 73 years now, beginning at age 6. I sing solo, in a large mixed choir, and in a men's quartet. I used to sing in a mixed group that toured, but quit due to personal responsibilities. My present vocal coach has taught me authenticity among many other valuable things. I was singing in a lower "fake" range that she noticed immediately. I now sing in my higher, softer range. My one grace from "Above" is that I haven't ever experienced stage fright. I have always said I could sing in Carnegie Hall fine, just don't ask me to introduce what I'm singing. I would freeze if I had to speak, but singing is my passion.
Many of the things you two talked about today certainly resonated with me. Thank you!!
Wow, thank you for sharing your incredible journey with us! It's truly inspiring to hear about your lifelong dedication to singing and your openness to growth. Your experience and wisdom shine through your words, and it's wonderful that you've found your authentic voice with the help of your vocal coach. Keep spreading your passion through song, and thank you for being a part of our community! 🎶💫
Amazing that you've never experienced stage fright, truly a gift! Glad you've found this lifelong joy in singing, and thanks for listening.
Singing definitely improves once the voice is detraumatised
Absolutely! Singing has an incredible power to heal and transform. Keep nurturing your voice, and you'll continue to experience its beauty and strength. 🎶
Definitely! Or even just detraumatising the body at large
Great episode as usual. I'm 69 and came out as Gay at 45. i have always been shy and always had a soft voice. As I'm getting older, my voice seems to be softer. This episode gave me some ideas to work on my voice.
Thank you for your kind words! We're so glad to hear that you found the episode helpful. It's never too late to explore and develop new aspects of ourselves. Embracing your identity and working on your voice is a beautiful journey. Keep shining brightly!🌟
Thank you Matt for this wonderful conversation!
For anyone watching this episode, I'll be around to answer any burning questions you've got about the voice, so drop a comment.
Fellows ThankU This is great. The prospect of vocal work is terrifying. Remembering my acupuncturist explaining how lungs are associated with grief.
Thank you for your feedback! It's natural to feel apprehensive, but you're not alone. Keep exploring and you might surprise yourself. 😊🎙
Grief can really grip the voice, indeed. But with small steps and time, it's really worth it to loosen that. Good luck!
i love this so much! Thank you for talking about this subject. im a closeted singer as well. I used to do alot of drag, and i realized that there was no pleasure in it (aside from looking amazing which i lve too lol) because i was lip syncing and not actually expressing myself in the way that i deeply wanted to (sing). Singing is so primal and it connects directly to the heart of the matter. Also I'm a leo so I love expressing myself in this primal way. I have been singing on this app called smule, and it has helped me tremendously to just get it all out. Do you have any ideas on how one can slowly sing in public in a low-pressure way. I dream of singing with others.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! It's inspiring to hear about your journey with singing and finding your true expression. We can relate to the desire to connect deeply through music. As for singing in public, have you considered open mic nights or joining a community choir? They can offer a supportive environment to ease into performing publicly. Keep following your passion, and we're sure you'll find your voice shining brightly alongside others soon! 🎤✨
Singing *is* really primal, fully agree. Great to keep exploring ways to express yourself. I second the GMGD crew on community choirs and open mics :)
Good discussion. Thank you.
You both mentioned pressure to have more masculine voices and how that affected you growing up. But you do have masculine voices and they sound pretty natural and effortless to me. Neither one of you sound like you had to overcome a feminine voice. You both also have masculine appearances.
I think that it is probably easier for some men to change/deepen their voices than others and to maintain it. But as you both say, that should not be the goal.
A point that I am trying to make here is that when you sound and look masculine, life is a bit easier. As someone who was called "Mam" on the phone a lot growing up and was ostracized, bullied and repeatedly beaten up for appearing and sounding too feminine (twinkish - thin, little body hair), let me tell you about chronic trauma... It destroyed me in adolescence. And as an adult, though qualified, I would be passed over for jobs and promotions. And I'm sure it contributed to being laid off and terminated a few times. In college, I got the Spanish award. My award speech was taped and played to the class. Even the teacher cringed. I would never let myself be recorded after that. Now, being a lot older and simply tired of it all, it is what it is. I accept it. But I will never like it or completely live it down. To round this up, I would say that things are no better in the gay community. We all know that masculinity (voice and appearance) are just as important in the gay community as in mainstream society. My sense is that while 'seeming more masculine' was important to you both growing up, you negotiated that pressure successfully, though at some cost. But it makes you more attractive in every sense, to both men and women. And quite honestly, more people are going to follow and listen to you because you fit important standards for what a man 'should be'. Hope this makes sense.
Thank you for sharing your perspective and personal experiences with us. We appreciate your insight into the complexities of societal expectations regarding masculinity and the impact it has had on your life. Your courage in navigating these challenges is commendable, and your voice adds valuable depth to our discussion. Your resilience serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of embracing authenticity and challenging societal norms.🥰🌈
Thanks for sharing! This sounds like a really painful and challenging set of life experiences, and I definitely hear where you're coming from. I agree that perceived masculinity within patriarchy affects us all in so many ways. It may surprise you but I was bullied at school also for similar things - the 'rules' are distorted - and have ongoing health issues relating to my adverse early life experiences. This is why we'd all benefit from tearing down these standards of what gender roles 'should' look like, in my view.
I appreciate your viewpoint, and your resilience!
sometimes i am afraid of coming off as overlyconfident, and when i hear myself sing I'm afraid that i might be shouting, or singing too strongly in a learned way. or like I'm copying my favorite singers (whitney houston mary j blige etc). is singing like your favorite singers a bad thing?
Good question! It's completely normal to have those concerns, but remember, your voice is uniquely yours. Drawing inspiration from your favorite singers is a wonderful way to learn and grow, just be sure to infuse your own authenticity into it. Embrace your voice and its journey. Keep singing, Superstar!🎤🤩
Mimicry is a very useful learning tool, but it's also great to investigate what makes you sound like you :)
I Hear You through that wonderful voice.
I Hear You through that wonderful voice.