This is the cold hard truth that many guys don’t wanna listen too. Every man MUST have his shit together to attract his “ perfect girlfriend”. Having boundaries and standards is the key to each relationship.
I can definitely appreciate this video. A lot of these videos give tips on how to manipulate women, but this is taking an approach with integrity; becoming a better man and better equipped to be in a healthy relationship. Thank you
I feel like it's the most important thing in dating, that you are happy with who you are and that you accept yourself. Otherwise a) you attract women, who have the same problems, and/or b) women don't accept you as well, cuz let's face it, how are they supposed to do that, if you're not even able to do it yourself.
I am truly coming to trust your beliefs. It's wonderful to finally understand wtf is going on between women and men. I understand I have so much to unlearn. So much I was desperate to learn. You and a few others like you are creating the foundation for what can only be considered a paradigm shift.I am excited to begin the journey. Thank you for showing me there is a bit of a game to dating but dating is not a game.
three of my exes are what you described that one about a clingy girl is exactly what I did! I am to blame for a couple of other beauties that completely knocked me off my feet and lost em. I had no idea what staying in your masculine meant it was but this definitely hits home in a good way.
What if you don't know who you are as a man, and how do you go about figuring it out? This is a sincere question. I really have no clue, and am in my mid 40's. It's probably a good thing I don't date. I can say from personal experience, I don't attract anyone. Considering the issue, it's for the best.
Hey Robert, you're not alone in that experience - I'd highly recommend getting involved with something called 'men's groups' - look into Author 'David Deida'
Im only 22 but Ive had the same issue. I sparred with a lifecoach for a while to...together....figure out what I like and want in life and how I can achieve those things
all the hardcore is fine but you need some real face-to-face time with yourself man. go to vipassana at less 3 times. there's no better way to know who you really are. Now. be prepared to find something unpleasant.
Having gone through quite the journey in the past year when it comes to understanding women and relationships, I've found your channel to be especially refreshing. All the things I've learned about how women operate, and how to improve myself, and I am just now thinking about things like this which are by and large just as important as initial impressions. I have always struggled with women, mostly because I am an introvert, have social anxiety, and my parents' marriage fell apart and didn't give me much to go off of. But there have been times where I have dated a girl here or there, and things didn't work out the way I wanted them to. Just in the past month, watching your videos and some other creators', I've realized that (as much as a meme as it is) I am in control of who I attract to a great extent. The issue is that, while I have picked up knowledge here and there about mistakes I am making and things I can try, I am ultimately still a socially incapable person when it comes to women I want to date or meet generally. Being a broke college student doesn't help either. It's virtually impossible for me to do the things necessary to break out of my defense mechanism when I am consumed by school, career prospects, friends, and family. I also don't know what else I can do to improve myself that I haven't already done.
Good point. Good video. It's funny how you can have this gut feeling of yours, but it takes someone else actually spell the thing, for you to start understanding it with your mind.
Very good video. I've had so many bad relationships, i got resentful at women. Now that i understand and set boundaries, it's improved majorly. Your emotions are often a good guideline to see if a woman crossed your boundaries
Hi! Thanks for sharing. As a woman, I think all your advice on this channel is very thoughtful and sound. A question: does the 50-30-20 rule apply to women too (who are looking for an ideal boyfriend)?
Well there are still toxic relationships with women who suffer from mental disorders like, borderline syndrome but you don't know that until it's to late. I don't say this to blame anyone, mostly because you can't be 100% sure about such things, until you in psychotherapy. But you are right, if you unsure about yourself, if you have a low self esteem you will attract or at least stay in such relationships longer than you might would, if you where confident enough.
I can relate to the end... because we as a family didn't had good conflict resolution skills. We just used to avoid them which in turns make my relationships harder because when it was time to talk I couldn't and it ended what could of been a very good relationship
Be completely and 100% honest with your bf, if he explodes if you’re honest with what’s making you upset, he isn’t worth it. Every guy loves it when a girl is all cutesy and lovey dovey with them. Be yourself and be supportive.
The idea that you went hot/cold on a clingy woman without losing your personality is interesting because I had a similar experience. I met this girl on the net and she was very clingy and insecure and had a lot of problems, and she basically thought I was the be-all, end-all of guys and her one chance at love. As a result, she was more or the less the sort of girl who would do anything for me and as a result, I would swing back and forth between wanting her and hating her, and none of my interactions with her felt like me. So, maybe there is something to your point there.
Absolutely! The way the woman treats me will be (largely) controlled by me, as a man. A very painful, but very rewarding, conclusion I’ve arrived at only recently. I married a woman who I saw as several leagues above me and did indeed treat me like a king in the beginning. I didn’t have any boundaries and as challenges came along I would make short-term decisions that would please her but make our future even darker. We’re now divorced after endless fighting and yes, I’m hesitant to get back into another relationship because intuitively I know It’ll turn out the same way until I do something about it. I’m noticing that as I get my shit together and stand my ground that my ex, who I’m still in touch with, is more respectful and accommodating. It’s gradually translating into higher quality and more desirable ‘matches’ too, but my success begins with me amd yes, the chosen woman can morph into more of my ideal women as I demonstrate being the ideal man. Who was it who said ‘Wherever you go, you take yourself with you’?
As a man one of the most important things I evaluate in a woman is her attractiveness. What are your thoughts about the Hot-Crazy plots and the miniscule fraction of women that are attractive but are not absolutely crazy due to a lifetime of getting everything they want?
What do you mean testing boundaries? What types of actions count as boundary testing and which count as just being mean or belittling? I mean, like at what point is she just an asshole?
Well it's all a boundary push.... Imagine I'm dating a woman, and she shoves me violently - She's just being mean - But she's still testing a boundary for the first time even though she's just being mean - How I respond to that boundary being pushed defines our relationship. Men with poor boundaries can easily end up getting used financially - women with poor boundaries can easily end up getting physically assaulted.
There is a strange idea in your thesis - "like attracts like, a strong man will be attracting strong women, and so on". Does it mean, that in order to attract soft, feminine women, I should become soft and feminine myself? =-)
No, that's our sexuality - that's not the same as our emotional health. So my reasoning is that we attract people who are a reflection of our emotional health level. Not who is exactly the same as us emotionally... so... someone who's very anxiously attached and needy, will usually date someone who is avoidantly attached and aloof - Different problems but same level of emotional maturity.
I think it is both, there are tons of women who you just cannot make a relationship work, then there are those who are just great quality in their own right who may break up with you rather than falling to use and abuse you for a long time and then there are malleable women who you can heavily influence the tone for the relationship. That is what I get from listening to tons of dudes in the manoshere share their experiences and philosophies on women. p.s. I could be wrong but it sounded like you were making excuses for women's negative conduct towards men in relationships which if so I would disagree with you since women are adults and should behave like it even when they are with a troubled and/or weak man. Women are capable of having moral values and keeping to them just like men, even while knowing that women can be more emotional than men.
Actually the sentiment was more along the lines of 'women may behave like rubbish, but if you have strong boundaries, they're very likely to get into line, they can only give you the rubbish you're willing to put up with from them'. Same goes in reverse. That doesn't excuse a woman's (or a man's) bad behavior for sure.
@ageofbogyo totally agree. even in the work place, they tend to talk shit about others, be passive aggressive, gossip all the time, they don't care where they are or what their responsibility is, if they feel a certain way, they will behave according to their feelings and don't care about anything else.
you do realize you are only gaining this conclusion from the experience with women (or experience others have with women) that probably accounts for like between 0.00001% - 0.00000001% of all the women in the world you realize this right? I doubt you personally got to know 1000 women or even heard that many stories.
My ideal woman: tough enough to handle bad times and not over 2-3 partners not overly obese and not much younger or older. If that is what you say I can change with who I am you must have me confused with god.
i prefer woman who has zero partner before me. i have dated women who have been in a relationship and i am not satisfied. i want to be the first. i dont want to buy and eat a food that has been licked by someone else
Let me be honest for a second cause this is definately not PC. So I feel like I got my shit together. (Eg. 6 figure salary, leader of my organization, 3 houses throughout the state, >$600k, no divorce/ kids, etc). I am now entering my late 30's and invested around $3000 in getting professional photos travelling to other places to meet girls who I can meet. So far, the only girls I am getting online are girls >35yo single moms even if I screened for age between 18 to 30's and wrote no single moms in my profile. WTF. I am not in a city and cannot move to more urban areas due to work. I feel like there are only certain things we can only due in our 20's and 30's we can never do in our 40's plus. I exclusively swipe right on young white girls of European decent in their teens to early 30's and never get matches (this causes it to be taboo to talk about arout on social media or family). If like attracts like, why am I only getting used up single moms who are over their 30's 😭. I get Asians are not attractive as whites but I feel like I did everything within my boundary to bring something to a relationship with a future. And I am NOT a fuckin racist... But It is a lie to deny that young white girls of Northern European decent has the highest sexual market value of any race. I will never settle and genes matter. Is there any way that I can actually do to succeed or did I piss everyone off due to the race thing. * It already pissed off my family and caused so much contention in my Korean circles so this anotomous internet thing seems to be the only way.
If you are Asian (Korean to be precise), I don't see a reason for you to only be looking for white girls to date when there are plenty of good looking Korean girls out there with whom you would probably have a higher chance of success (a lot of people prefer to date/marry within their own race/culture, which doesn't make them racist of course)
Man 20 years of difference is what you look for ? How perverted one can be? Part of problems with woman is exclusively due to the fact that teens and 20y.o like guys like you. So sorry but you must not look good if you have no offers. I know maybe a few girls in my year that didn't do that craze for old rich and pervy. One just got married another one is getting soon. Others just jump the chad D carousel. with occasional sugar daddy in there. if you look at amount of people that are said to be sugar babies it turns out it is 10% of collage population. And it's from one site and I didn't factor in countries of arabic origin and India where being on site for sugar babies migth drastically reduce ones lifespan. So all in all we probably are looking at 30-40% of women being missnamed prostitutes. That is dangerously high amount to society regardless if we like prostitutes ( I don't particularly wish to buy their services even if I have enough cash ) or not.
People are attracted to those like them. You’re almost 40, people who match with you will be 30+. Same with race. If I was you I’d aim for late twenties to mid thirties if you want a family and get over your racial standards. Might want to try looking in different places too.
@@Martick05545 hahaha poor misguided soul if you are 40 you get girls out of high school since they(women) are told: "old are rich why bother loving if I can sell my body and society will force some poor guy to accept woman with milion partners if i have to settle down"
Jakub Rogacz You weht from calling him a pervert for trying to get girls 20 years younger and then turn around and support the very same idea through a niche perspective you’ve generalized to half the population. Dudes asking for advice out of frustration and you’re on here just to cause chaos and troll. You could try to do a better job of concealing it.
Um... you know the maths on that doesn't work out right? Unless you're suggesting women date 15 guys at once, then something is seriously askew with your logic
LEARNING TO HAVE CONFEDENCE WITH WOMEN REMINDS ME OF LEARNING TO RIDE AND CARE FOR A HORSE. A HORSE IS A MAGNEFICENT BEAST POWERFUL EMOTIONAL SENSITIVE A FORCE OF NATURE THEY CAN BE A HELPER A GOOD FRIEND BUT IF YOUR AFRAID THEY SENSE IT . THEY MIGHT TEST YOU. BUT IF YOU MASTER THEM YOU COULD HAVE A GOOD RELIABLE DEPENDABLE FRIEND.
Yes, horses are good examples - I think creating realtionships with animals and other humans is very similar. But people get all sensitive if you go comparing a gender to an animal, even though the comparison is not intended to be derogatory.
@@SchoolOfAttraction The solution is to compare horses to romantic relationships instead of women. Just as so many of us are saying and affirming, most of the same advice here applies equally to both men and women. Which means the horse metaphor applies to both genders. Presumably, heterosexuality vs homosexuality wouldn’t be a factor either.
0:13 happened 2 me so I had this one girlfriend Jessie and she was nice in the beginning but diffrent in the end and she was like being mean so I broke up with her and now I haven't talked 2 her for 4 days now
100% agree that people teach us how to treat them and we teach others how to treat us. Life is a continual series of testing and being tested, people getting their needs met by others or meeting up with boundaries and getting shut down or fulfilled.
· you can be good intentioned and low neurotic but still attract bad¨intentioned and high¨neurotic girls · this happens a lot with guys that seek girls that have sex within an hour of meeting · about half of these girls are just high sex driven · but about half have ill and/or evil intentions
I would have thought the relationship a man has with his mother would play a much more significant impact on the kind of women he attracts into his life, not just whether he has got his finances, career and health etc sorted out in the sense that a man's mother is consciously and unconsciously the feminine ideal which impacts on the kinds of women he ends up attracting into his life. In other words, you can have your shit together in key areas of life and even be emotionally stable to all and sundry but still end up with poor romantic relationships because the sense of the feminine ideal you developed in early childhood is skewed by the dysfunctional relationship you have with your mother. My mother, for example, has had a very traumatic early childhood which means throughout my childhood she was very emotionally turbulent and insecure and still is because she has chosen not to try to work through her issues. It is also why I never told her about significant events in my life such as being physically assaulted in the street by a gang of youths because i knew she would not be able to handle it emotionally so i dealt with these things myself through studying psychology and philosophy. She's a wonderful woman in many ways and often kind to a fault but I do recognise that I have a tendency to attract women who, like my mother, have underline emotional needs which I can't meet and then I end up withdrawing from the relationship because i know that i cannot help them just as i cannot help my mother. Since there are psychological theories that say we try to recreate the dynamics of our early childhood in our adult relationships it would be good to know a way guys with emotionally volatile mothers could overcome some of the deeper stuff that stops them forming secure relationships in adulthood and break the cycle. There could be a similar thing for women who are self-aware enough that they know they have daddy issues but want to overcome their daddy issues, no? i ask because while many people identify the problem people like us face, there doesn't seem to be a clear path through such psychological terrain in the same way that there are clear methods you can use to overcome shyness/social anxiety etc.
This is a very valid point - I'd add to it - 'how you learned to be loved from your primary caregivers' - Many men learn HORRIBLE rules of love from their primary caregivers - manipulative strategies - anxious attachment styles etc etc.
This video is good, but is very dangerous. The literally first message can be interpreted as: "If you date an abusive, manipulative girl, you can make them caring and loving after some time". No. It does not work that way. I know that you did not mean it, but you really should watch what you are saying =-)
@@SchoolOfAttraction "EVERY time she pushes a boundary, she is looking to see how you respond". I think that it is a pretty clear interpretation. You paid a lip service saying "ALMOST every women will start being caring and loving", but you did not specifically said that there are really abusive and manipulative women who don't use "tests" and just do abusive stuff for the "fun". I think you could state it clearer in order to not be misinterpreted as spreading toxic message =-)
This is the cold hard truth that many guys don’t wanna listen too. Every man MUST have his shit together to attract his “ perfect girlfriend”. Having boundaries and standards is the key to each relationship.
I can definitely appreciate this video. A lot of these videos give tips on how to manipulate women, but this is taking an approach with integrity; becoming a better man and better equipped to be in a healthy relationship. Thank you
Thanks Anthony - I really think the world needs a better quality dating advice for men!
I feel like it's the most important thing in dating, that you are happy with who you are and that you accept yourself. Otherwise a) you attract women, who have the same problems, and/or b) women don't accept you as well, cuz let's face it, how are they supposed to do that, if you're not even able to do it yourself.
I am truly coming to trust your beliefs. It's wonderful to finally understand wtf is going on between women and men. I understand I have so much to unlearn. So much I was desperate to learn. You and a few others like you are creating the foundation for what can only be considered a paradigm shift.I am excited to begin the journey. Thank you for showing me there is a bit of a game to dating but dating is not a game.
That's really amazing to hear Michael, all the best!
three of my exes are what you described that one about a clingy girl is exactly what I did! I am to blame for a couple of other beauties that completely knocked me off my feet and lost em. I had no idea what staying in your masculine meant it was but this definitely hits home in a good way.
He is very right,have your shit together and own your masculine energy
What if you don't know who you are as a man, and how do you go about figuring it out? This is a sincere question. I really have no clue, and am in my mid 40's. It's probably a good thing I don't date. I can say from personal experience, I don't attract anyone. Considering the issue, it's for the best.
Hey Robert, you're not alone in that experience - I'd highly recommend getting involved with something called 'men's groups' - look into Author 'David Deida'
Im only 22 but Ive had the same issue. I sparred with a lifecoach for a while to...together....figure out what I like and want in life and how I can achieve those things
all the hardcore is fine but you need some real face-to-face time with yourself man. go to vipassana at less 3 times. there's no better way to know who you really are. Now. be prepared to find something unpleasant.
Having gone through quite the journey in the past year when it comes to understanding women and relationships, I've found your channel to be especially refreshing. All the things I've learned about how women operate, and how to improve myself, and I am just now thinking about things like this which are by and large just as important as initial impressions. I have always struggled with women, mostly because I am an introvert, have social anxiety, and my parents' marriage fell apart and didn't give me much to go off of. But there have been times where I have dated a girl here or there, and things didn't work out the way I wanted them to. Just in the past month, watching your videos and some other creators', I've realized that (as much as a meme as it is) I am in control of who I attract to a great extent. The issue is that, while I have picked up knowledge here and there about mistakes I am making and things I can try, I am ultimately still a socially incapable person when it comes to women I want to date or meet generally. Being a broke college student doesn't help either. It's virtually impossible for me to do the things necessary to break out of my defense mechanism when I am consumed by school, career prospects, friends, and family. I also don't know what else I can do to improve myself that I haven't already done.
Good point. Good video. It's funny how you can have this gut feeling of yours, but it takes someone else actually spell the thing, for you to start understanding it with your mind.
This guy knows what he's talking about. Divorced because we ended up as essentially roommates.
Very good video. I've had so many bad relationships, i got resentful at women. Now that i understand and set boundaries, it's improved majorly. Your emotions are often a good guideline to see if a woman crossed your boundaries
Hi! Thanks for sharing. As a woman, I think all your advice on this channel is very thoughtful and sound. A question: does the 50-30-20 rule apply to women too (who are looking for an ideal boyfriend)?
Yes it most definitely is! I see this at play all the time in both men and women.
This video is absolutely brilliant, I stumbled across your channel and watched a vid or two or three , but this one has been thoroughly enjoyed.
Thanks mate!
Well there are still toxic relationships with women who suffer from mental disorders like, borderline syndrome but you don't know that until it's to late. I don't say this to blame anyone, mostly because you can't be 100% sure about such things, until you in psychotherapy. But you are right, if you unsure about yourself, if you have a low self esteem you will attract or at least stay in such relationships longer than you might would, if you where confident enough.
I can relate to the end... because we as a family didn't had good conflict resolution skills. We just used to avoid them which in turns make my relationships harder because when it was time to talk I couldn't and it ended what could of been a very good relationship
You're on a great path right now fixing it man. You fuckin Go. I believe in you.
Sir I'm a female I just wanna be a good gf
Be completely and 100% honest with your bf, if he explodes if you’re honest with what’s making you upset, he isn’t worth it. Every guy loves it when a girl is all cutesy and lovey dovey with them. Be yourself and be supportive.
some great gems in this video. thanks for sharing
The idea that you went hot/cold on a clingy woman without losing your personality is interesting because I had a similar experience. I met this girl on the net and she was very clingy and insecure and had a lot of problems, and she basically thought I was the be-all, end-all of guys and her one chance at love. As a result, she was more or the less the sort of girl who would do anything for me and as a result, I would swing back and forth between wanting her and hating her, and none of my interactions with her felt like me. So, maybe there is something to your point there.
Absolutely! The way the woman treats me will be (largely) controlled by me, as a man. A very painful, but very rewarding, conclusion I’ve arrived at only recently.
I married a woman who I saw as several leagues above me and did indeed treat me like a king in the beginning. I didn’t have any boundaries and as challenges came along I would make short-term decisions that would please her but make our future even darker.
We’re now divorced after endless fighting and yes, I’m hesitant to get back into another relationship because intuitively I know It’ll turn out the same way until I do something about it. I’m noticing that as I get my shit together and stand my ground that my ex, who I’m still in touch with, is more respectful and accommodating. It’s gradually translating into higher quality and more desirable ‘matches’ too, but my success begins with me amd yes, the chosen woman can morph into more of my ideal women as I demonstrate being the ideal man.
Who was it who said ‘Wherever you go, you take yourself with you’?
As a man one of the most important things I evaluate in a woman is her attractiveness. What are your thoughts about the Hot-Crazy plots and the miniscule fraction of women that are attractive but are not absolutely crazy due to a lifetime of getting everything they want?
we should talk about "quality" women for "high" value men.. it is almost impossible to find the right "lady". nowadays
this video won
How do find girls
What do you mean testing boundaries? What types of actions count as boundary testing and which count as just being mean or belittling? I mean, like at what point is she just an asshole?
Well it's all a boundary push.... Imagine I'm dating a woman, and she shoves me violently - She's just being mean - But she's still testing a boundary for the first time even though she's just being mean - How I respond to that boundary being pushed defines our relationship. Men with poor boundaries can easily end up getting used financially - women with poor boundaries can easily end up getting physically assaulted.
You sound like you know about Coach Corey wayne... am I right ?
No, actually, never heard of him...
Does the world seem to be consisting of only bad eggs? - Yes I have a Tinder account and there's a lot of bots that like my profile
Sure, there are plenty of them around ot be sure :/
There is a strange idea in your thesis - "like attracts like, a strong man will be attracting strong women, and so on".
Does it mean, that in order to attract soft, feminine women, I should become soft and feminine myself? =-)
No, that's our sexuality - that's not the same as our emotional health. So my reasoning is that we attract people who are a reflection of our emotional health level. Not who is exactly the same as us emotionally... so... someone who's very anxiously attached and needy, will usually date someone who is avoidantly attached and aloof - Different problems but same level of emotional maturity.
@@SchoolOfAttraction So, you mean "strong" metaphorically? Got it, thanks =-)
I think it is both, there are tons of women who you just cannot make a relationship work, then there are those who are just great quality in their own right who may break up with you rather than falling to use and abuse you for a long time and then there are malleable women who you can heavily influence the tone for the relationship. That is what I get from listening to tons of dudes in the manoshere share their experiences and philosophies on women.
p.s. I could be wrong but it sounded like you were making excuses for women's negative conduct towards men in relationships which if so I would disagree with you since women are adults and should behave like it even when they are with a troubled and/or weak man. Women are capable of having moral values and keeping to them just like men, even while knowing that women can be more emotional than men.
Couldn't have said it better myself
Actually the sentiment was more along the lines of 'women may behave like rubbish, but if you have strong boundaries, they're very likely to get into line, they can only give you the rubbish you're willing to put up with from them'. Same goes in reverse. That doesn't excuse a woman's (or a man's) bad behavior for sure.
No they can't
@ageofbogyo totally agree. even in the work place, they tend to talk shit about others, be passive aggressive, gossip all the time, they don't care where they are or what their responsibility is, if they feel a certain way, they will behave according to their feelings and don't care about anything else.
you do realize you are only gaining this conclusion from the experience with women (or experience others have with women) that probably accounts for like between 0.00001% - 0.00000001% of all the women in the world you realize this right? I doubt you personally got to know 1000 women or even heard that many stories.
I'm not good enough for anybody so I can't follow your advice.
No chance.
They’re all mad!!!
All these videos sound like psychopath v psychopath duke it out.
My ideal woman: tough enough to handle bad times and not over 2-3 partners not overly obese and not much younger or older. If that is what you say I can change with who I am you must have me confused with god.
i prefer woman who has zero partner before me. i have dated women who have been in a relationship and i am not satisfied. i want to be the first. i dont want to buy and eat a food that has been licked by someone else
Let me be honest for a second cause this is definately not PC. So I feel like I got my shit together. (Eg. 6 figure salary, leader of my organization, 3 houses throughout the state, >$600k, no divorce/ kids, etc). I am now entering my late 30's and invested around $3000 in getting professional photos travelling to other places to meet girls who I can meet. So far, the only girls I am getting online are girls >35yo single moms even if I screened for age between 18 to 30's and wrote no single moms in my profile. WTF. I am not in a city and cannot move to more urban areas due to work. I feel like there are only certain things we can only due in our 20's and 30's we can never do in our 40's plus. I exclusively swipe right on young white girls of European decent in their teens to early 30's and never get matches (this causes it to be taboo to talk about arout on social media or family). If like attracts like, why am I only getting used up single moms who are over their 30's 😭. I get Asians are not attractive as whites but I feel like I did everything within my boundary to bring something to a relationship with a future. And I am NOT a fuckin racist... But It is a lie to deny that young white girls of Northern European decent has the highest sexual market value of any race. I will never settle and genes matter. Is there any way that I can actually do to succeed or did I piss everyone off due to the race thing. * It already pissed off my family and caused so much contention in my Korean circles so this anotomous internet thing seems to be the only way.
If you are Asian (Korean to be precise), I don't see a reason for you to only be looking for white girls to date when there are plenty of good looking Korean girls out there with whom you would probably have a higher chance of success (a lot of people prefer to date/marry within their own race/culture, which doesn't make them racist of course)
Man 20 years of difference is what you look for ? How perverted one can be? Part of problems with woman is exclusively due to the fact that teens and 20y.o like guys like you. So sorry but you must not look good if you have no offers. I know maybe a few girls in my year that didn't do that craze for old rich and pervy. One just got married another one is getting soon. Others just jump the chad D carousel. with occasional sugar daddy in there. if you look at amount of people that are said to be sugar babies it turns out it is 10% of collage population. And it's from one site and I didn't factor in countries of arabic origin and India where being on site for sugar babies migth drastically reduce ones lifespan. So all in all we probably are looking at 30-40% of women being missnamed prostitutes. That is dangerously high amount to society regardless if we like prostitutes ( I don't particularly wish to buy their services even if I have enough cash ) or not.
People are attracted to those like them. You’re almost 40, people who match with you will be 30+. Same with race.
If I was you I’d aim for late twenties to mid thirties if you want a family and get over your racial standards. Might want to try looking in different places too.
@@Martick05545 hahaha poor misguided soul if you are 40 you get girls out of high school since they(women) are told: "old are rich why bother loving if I can sell my body and society will force some poor guy to accept woman with milion partners if i have to settle down"
Jakub Rogacz You weht from calling him a pervert for trying to get girls 20 years younger and then turn around and support the very same idea through a niche perspective you’ve generalized to half the population.
Dudes asking for advice out of frustration and you’re on here just to cause chaos and troll. You could try to do a better job of concealing it.
I feel like a can of trash...
You continually describe how irritating and difficult women can be...someone would want that why?
Well I don't find them irritating or difficult... I was suggesting that if you don't know what's going on, then they're irritating and difficult...
Never forget single men outnumber single women by about 15 to 1 ...you don't stand a chance
Um... you know the maths on that doesn't work out right? Unless you're suggesting women date 15 guys at once, then something is seriously askew with your logic
LEARNING TO HAVE CONFEDENCE WITH WOMEN REMINDS ME OF LEARNING TO RIDE AND CARE FOR A HORSE. A HORSE IS A MAGNEFICENT BEAST POWERFUL EMOTIONAL SENSITIVE A FORCE OF NATURE THEY CAN BE A HELPER A GOOD FRIEND BUT IF YOUR AFRAID THEY SENSE IT . THEY MIGHT TEST YOU. BUT IF YOU MASTER THEM YOU COULD HAVE A GOOD RELIABLE DEPENDABLE FRIEND.
Yes, horses are good examples - I think creating realtionships with animals and other humans is very similar. But people get all sensitive if you go comparing a gender to an animal, even though the comparison is not intended to be derogatory.
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@@SchoolOfAttraction The solution is to compare horses to romantic relationships instead of women. Just as so many of us are saying and affirming, most of the same advice here applies equally to both men and women. Which means the horse metaphor applies to both genders. Presumably, heterosexuality vs homosexuality wouldn’t be a factor either.
0:13 happened 2 me so I had this one girlfriend Jessie and she was nice in the beginning but diffrent in the end and she was like being mean so I broke up with her and now I haven't talked 2 her for 4 days now
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Video was incredibly perceptive!
100% agree that people teach us how to treat them and we teach others how to treat us. Life is a continual series of testing and being tested, people getting their needs met by others or meeting up with boundaries and getting shut down or fulfilled.
I’m only a teen but I’ve been looking for a gf the thing is I’m really picky because I need a lot of attention lol
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· you can be good intentioned and low neurotic but still attract bad¨intentioned and high¨neurotic girls
· this happens a lot with guys that seek girls that have sex within an hour of meeting
· about half of these girls are just high sex driven
· but about half have ill and/or evil intentions
I would have thought the relationship a man has with his mother would play a much more significant impact on the kind of women he attracts into his life, not just whether he has got his finances, career and health etc sorted out in the sense that a man's mother is consciously and unconsciously the feminine ideal which impacts on the kinds of women he ends up attracting into his life. In other words, you can have your shit together in key areas of life and even be emotionally stable to all and sundry but still end up with poor romantic relationships because the sense of the feminine ideal you developed in early childhood is skewed by the dysfunctional relationship you have with your mother. My mother, for example, has had a very traumatic early childhood which means throughout my childhood she was very emotionally turbulent and insecure and still is because she has chosen not to try to work through her issues. It is also why I never told her about significant events in my life such as being physically assaulted in the street by a gang of youths because i knew she would not be able to handle it emotionally so i dealt with these things myself through studying psychology and philosophy. She's a wonderful woman in many ways and often kind to a fault but I do recognise that I have a tendency to attract women who, like my mother, have underline emotional needs which I can't meet and then I end up withdrawing from the relationship because i know that i cannot help them just as i cannot help my mother. Since there are psychological theories that say we try to recreate the dynamics of our early childhood in our adult relationships it would be good to know a way guys with emotionally volatile mothers could overcome some of the deeper stuff that stops them forming secure relationships in adulthood and break the cycle. There could be a similar thing for women who are self-aware enough that they know they have daddy issues but want to overcome their daddy issues, no? i ask because while many people identify the problem people like us face, there doesn't seem to be a clear path through such psychological terrain in the same way that there are clear methods you can use to overcome shyness/social anxiety etc.
This is a very valid point - I'd add to it - 'how you learned to be loved from your primary caregivers' - Many men learn HORRIBLE rules of love from their primary caregivers - manipulative strategies - anxious attachment styles etc etc.
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Yes 110%
You perfectly described my last relationship from start to finish. Your videos are geat!
I'm both happy to hear it and sorry to hear it ;) speaking about your last relationship..
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nice way to rationalise and justify female malevolence.
This video is good, but is very dangerous. The literally first message can be interpreted as: "If you date an abusive, manipulative girl, you can make them caring and loving after some time".
No. It does not work that way. I know that you did not mean it, but you really should watch what you are saying =-)
I think that's the way you interpreted it, but that's really not what I said.
@@SchoolOfAttraction "EVERY time she pushes a boundary, she is looking to see how you respond". I think that it is a pretty clear interpretation. You paid a lip service saying "ALMOST every women will start being caring and loving", but you did not specifically said that there are really abusive and manipulative women who don't use "tests" and just do abusive stuff for the "fun". I think you could state it clearer in order to not be misinterpreted as spreading toxic message =-)
@@Straga_Severa Interpreting any single sentence out of context can be both logical and completely incorrect. Mission accomplished!