I went into NC the minute he said he wanted to end things. Picked up my things and left his house in silence. Didn’t even try to Explain myself. Went home crying , broken , everything he talks about an anxious attachment style person . But I already know about my attachment style so I was able to keep my dignity intact . 2 weeks into NC and my ex reached out to me, saying how much he misses me , etc etc. But MEANWHILE offered me a friends with benefits status , and thanks to Mr blac videos and my own self healing I SAID NO , that he was not going to demote from GF to booty call. 💪 stray strong everyone
Yeah the first time my ex broke up with me after two years, he tried to initiate sex with me during the breakup... I told him no. He was thinking he was going to get breakup sex, probably would've been a good story he would have told his friends... Nope, not with me! I told him I want all or nothing... And I meant it. We deserve loving relationships, not BS FWBs. Good on you for keeping your wits about you - I'm proud of you! 💪 Keep doing you & healing in healthy ways~
Take your time guys, remember this is the time to focus on you! Fix the house, take up your hobbies again, go to the gym, a broken heart makes it easier to step outside of your comfort zone. Meet new people and get into new circles. If they don't come back, you have a better life now that will attract someone... maybe a better someone.
No contact works you have to level up and act cool like life does exist without your ex. And once you get back you pretty much have to start all over as if it is new. Keep your emotions in check. Read a lot on emotions and practice on your triggers
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his contact below this comment.
Thank you because I was trying to figure out how to move after she breaks no contact I'm currently in no contact regardless of the hurt every second that goes by I feel stronger but miss her even more!
I talked with u, Coach Blk, about my relationship about 9 months ago. I was in a bad place. U helped me to understand that he actually put in very little effort and energy while I put in most. It hurt but it was true. 8 months after no contact he reached out to me via phone call. I was not bitter or angry when he called, but not excited either. I was indifferent. He contacts me and wants to see me often. Although i maintain my cool, i know i still love him. But he took me for granted and rarely made me a priority. I gave him space. I believe that 8 month space of no contact gave him the opportunity to feel what life is like without me. And he didnt like that life. Not quite sure how to move now but am definitely moving slowly. Thank u so much, coach. U taught me how to rediscover myself. I am healthier, more confident and more attractive 9 months later. I definitely came out the winner.
It’s difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 1 years ended, but I couldn’t just let her go I did all I could to get her back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back, keep in touch through his channel. @droman01
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his channel below this comment.
The real answer to them leaving we will never know. Whatever excuse they said, it’s their reality. Let them go. God didn’t stop making people when he made them. If you know you’re a great person, don’t worry. The right person will adore you without playing games with you. Why want someone who didn’t value you anyway?
@@J__007 those moments too shall pass. I use to want so many ppl in my life, cried for them. Hell, begged. Then realized, asking myself why? They don’t treat me good. I don’t like the feelings they bring out of me. The person I am with them isn’t the best person I know I can be without them. People always come back to something good, so surely if you’re good they will come back. You just have to know that you’re good without them and keep on moving forward.
My ex called me after 5 months of no contact and he wants to meet up and talk and I said yes as long is he tells the truth no love bombing,no trying to control my feelings,no manipulating,no yelling or arguments just talking. I will see how it goes
@@soa2444 well he admitted everything and I told him how he hurt and made me feel and now wants to be friends and see how things go from there and I said why if I did what u did to me would u want to be friends or me in your life and he said no so I told him I’m your past and your ex for a reason so let’s keep it that way and he called me on Easter but I didn’t pick up I’m done and I love being single and no drama period
What do y'all say about this ,ok I've ghosted this man this my fourth time but this time its been almost 6 months and in these six months he kept popping up i woild drive off of r walk away then he just stopped contacting me hopefully he gave up ....what i want to ask is did i dp right?
I'm struggling so bad, 2 months after break up. He's living his life and I'm barely existing. I watch yoir vids daily, countless times just to give me the strength to get through this. Thank you
There is nothing I can say that will make you feel any better. I was where you are 2 months ago. Its torture and I'm so sorry we are going through this. I started to study the Law of Attraction over the last 2 weeks and it really helps. It wouldn't have done anything for me though when I was at your stage. But please look into it when you feel stronger. I'm in no way "healed" but I'm 1000 times better. Love from Ireland x
Keep going. Coach is great but I find myself watching his videos less and less. Not too long ago I was going through every single one of his videos. Everyday. Lunch breaks. In the car. All the time. I’m about 5 months post break up. If you’re in pain you should remain in no contact. I was where you’re at. Still am. It will get easier though. Trust in yourself. Regain your self worth. It is not easy but you are on your own timeline. Give yourself grace and ultimately let go. It’s taken me so long to get to this point but it’s starting to feel better. You can’t predict the future so I have found a sense of indifference is helping. Good luck to you! Regardless of the outcome brighter days will certainly be ahead.
I was utterly broken and devastated last year when my ex left me for someone I thought was my friend. I never thought I'd get out of thr agony I was in but almost a year on life is good!! I was with this person 11 years and known them 18. I can't explain the pain I felt it has been the worst emotional agony ever. You will be OK it does take time and I so still have days where I am sad but I promise you, you will come out of it if you do the work on yourself. Don't beg and plead and do all that stuff it only pushes them further away. My ex and new partner have put on weight and look awful whilst I have been hitting the gym and met someone new.
It’s difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 1 years ended, but I couldn’t just let her go I did all I could to get her back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back, keep in touch through his channel. @droman01
@zinedinali1100 I know how it feels. I have 1 year and 4 months of no contact and not a freaking sign. You just have to accept it that it's over. Move forward with your life and never look back.
If you want your exe to break you have to give the person a reason to want to. What have you done for your exe partner to break. Have you hit the gym and transformed your physique? Have you made more money? Have you made your social circle more appealing to be in ?
After 11 months of no contact, he reached out to me and asked me to meet him. However, I had no hope he would ever contact me. But he texted me yesterday.
How do you feel about it? My ex came back after 3 half years. I was so much better off. But, I accepted her back. She broke up again with me 2 months ago. My advice, before getting back, be ready, people love bomb and leave. Wishing you good luck ❤
@@diegocruz6236 Diego, I'm sorry you had to go through that. I had a similar thing happen to me. I was in a 2-year relationship and he broke up... He came back 6 months later, we talked/dated for a little bit and I accepted him back. Now, about 6 weeks ago, after another 2 years and 2 months together, he broke up again under similar circumstances. I'm truly heartbroken 💔😔 just taking it a day at a time and trying to heal. I hope you find someone better for you, and I wish the same from me. 🙏 Btw you're cute hahah 😄 I'm sure you'll find someone new, but hopefully they're also a good person on the inside and not the type to just love bomb and leave again. Best of luck, be well~
Thank you for your videos. They have truly helped me on my healing journey. I do not want my ex back, nor have I heard from him in months. He had his new gf before we were over and I dont want someone back who treated me like an option not a priority. Life has been better for me and I love having myself back.
I have been going through my healing journey as well. It has been three months, have not heard from him nor do I wait to hear from him as I went no contact and blocked him and he has his new supplier staying with him and has been in the picture as his priority, and I myself only an option to him. I told him enough of that shenanigans, it took me 39 days to move out of his rental house packed my stuff and left never look back and my healing journey is rough but I know that I am way way way better without him for sure, he was toxic and exhausting with all his drama and narcissistic behavior. I am free of that and I rejoice every day I dodged the bullet. It’s a healing journey all right and also at peace
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, watch his channel and see amazing comments. @droman01
Hey Coach. Congratulations to the happy couple. I love hearing uplifting stories. I believe what’s meant to be will be. You’ll be with whom you’re meant for. Just my belief.☺️
I did no contact, I did not beg. My ex reached out, we even met once because she was waiting outside my office before I came to work. She hugged and kissed me and then she cried. She texted me a few times after that. I invited her over to my place but she did not want to. During this time she met a new guy, as soon as their relationship was solidified, she stopped texting me. I never reached out, I never begged, I only answered when she reached out and suggested to get together. So, moral of the story is... They only come back if they cant replace you. She replaced me with the first guy she met and it was quick. Perhaps she even monkey branched, I believe was the case. So moral of the story, the biggest factor here is depending if they can find someone better fast enough or not.
Everyone isn't returnable to for people asking. There is a man who kept reaching out to me who I would NEVER return to. Never. You need to know yourself to know if the relationship is ever an option again. You can't go wrong if you detach and reconnect with yourself.
10 months of no contact I decided to move on with my life yeah. I learn to love myself and focus on my health issues. So sad but true yeah. What comes around goes around yeah. Super reading 100 %. Thanks for sharing yeah. Tc. Stay blessed. 🤗🙏🙏🙏👍
I'm on 5 months of no contact, I didn't begged once, I accepted her decision and started focusing on my self. I deleted her from all my socials. Honestly, I do not expect her to reach me out, neither I think I could give her a chance if she does. About a month ago, my mother told me my ex was stalking her on her socials, like wtf?! But anyway, I'm feeling awesome the way my life is going, the future is looking great and I could not look back.
THANK YOU Mr Blac! I am so happy that I found your channel, I wish I found it earlier, because when I look back to the break up last year September (she dumped me) I could have avoided so many mistakes( still writing with her for two months after it, and sending snaps etc. ) Now I know how to do it right next Time. Since new year we kinda went into no contact but we where still sending streak snaps each and every day so that obviously don't count. She also has a new guy( according to her snaps) But since I found you three weeks ago or so, I finally deleted her of everything, deleted all the text massages and pictures now I am in real no contact. I don't know if this works, or if she even noticed it or if she cares. But what I know is that since that, I can finally look forward and I feel much better.
Well, you may not be a miracle worker but you are teaching discipline. We do have to do no contact. Begging or being depressed is not going to help us. I been heartbroken and it hurts but we must keep going even through our tears. Therapy helped so much and journaling, praying, meditation. Beautiful video. ❤❤
@bigboss6867 I think the games will stop when men stop playing games first because they're the ones that I think started it first with the lies and cheating, now women are just playing back in order to get some of their needs met since men can't offer loyalty and love.
Going on 60 days NC. Her bday is coming up next week. As days pass. Life gets better. Stay strong people. Life goes on and shit happens. But you’ve been down and out, yet we’re still here. Love your life and and live that shit. Cheers 🍻 to another blessed day! May all of y’all find the happiness in your life!🙏🏽❤️
Great work as usual Coach. Any vids on playing “both” sides as a dumpee? By this, I mean focusing on no contact as a life choice, but also dating new romantic prospects and keeping an open future in mind.
I love you for this title 😂😂 your content is so great, not only do you give the ppl the info they want but you empower ppl to find their self worth. Peace and blessings!!!
I just cant imagine myself getting back with my Ex. I cant Un-see what ive seen, or un-hear what ive heard. Love is mind, body and soul. If that sacredness, energy, love or infatuation is used else where? I don't care what kind of history we had his not mine to have ever! Am mad i put in 17 years of my time,. energy and effort but i rest my case. I still believe in love and i know the next one will be epic. For all those struggling love your self first so u are capable of loving someone else🙏
Sir your channel is incredible. I will definetely be reaching out for a session together at some point in the future. I love how this channel is pro man but leaves out the misogyny too. Very professional and non biast. Insane good content. Thank You for it 🙏🏽
My story is so complicated that I even don't know from where to start. Bottom line I think that my ex will never ever reach out or some sort of sign. I'm blocked by her everywhere
Same to me bro 10years together with my live in partner we have do everything and we have 2 kids .but and the end we broke 1 year prevous now she have new man it hurts me until now everyday
You two need not to worry establish the no contact and yes do as you are scheduled to be with your children you have to listen to coach start investing inn your self and your new goals build the best version of your self ! Trust the coach ! Never chase and turn a cheek if you’re not being appreciated!
It’s difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 1 years ended, but I couldn’t just let her go I did all I could to get her back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back, keep in touch through his channel. @droman01
Thank you couch needed this today I left him 3 weeks ago today really hard. But I know I was a asset in his life, and still praying for God to restore us
The best thing I think anyone can do is let go at the exact point they go no contact. Not before no contact, not after no contact, but at the exact tipping point of decision put into action. That's my take anyway. You have to be open to anything happening after that and thinking however things turn out you will triumph. Let go of the outcome. That has to be the mindset. Que sera sera, whatever will be will be
2 months NC one emergency message to deal with an issue then 5 months NC Never made a fuss, wished them well and said goodbye...I am moving forward creating my life agsin, and I am intentionally not dating again for the foreseeable future while I work on myself. NC has been hard but liberating.
Absolutely agree! Sooooo much pain and disappointment but the freedom that comes with a break up can be amazing even if the hope for reconnection remains x
My 3 month relationship ended abruptly by my ex, I didn't see it coming. In the beginning, we spent every weekend together he eventually asked for space, and we mutually agreed. I, too, felt more "me" time would be beneficial. The day after our mutual agreement to take more time for self, he hesitantly ended our relationship. I've been NC for 3 days now. We never had an argument, etc. I have no idea how we ended up here 🤷♀️ I appreciate these videos extremely educational. My ex was my safe space, "my person." I am extremely disappointed with this reality
So hang in there, this is not a fixed point of no return, this may be the exact time your person is beginning to feel the distance. But yes you can move on with your own life - we should always be moving forward with our own lives and things that bring joy to us whether we’re in no contact or in a relationship. But moving on doesn’t mean moving on and away from your ex forever. You have no idea what the future may hold for you both. Really. Now is the very time that you can become the very person you feel so happy to be, and he will appreciate that so much if and when he comes back. I know you don’t want to hear this but if it’s not him, there absolutely will be someone in future who falls in love with you and whom you fall in love with in a beautiful way and your joy will be amazing. Hold that in your heart. Don’t fixate on a person, but focus on yourself and the kind of relationship and man you want and imagine them holding you and loving you. Feel the joy and peace and comfort in your body and spirit and ask God or the universe, Spirit, our Source, to bring you that man whether it be your ex or someone even better. And I send you love and hope and joy and all good things. Believe in yourself because you are someone so special and unique xxx
I'm 3 months in and losing hope she'll reach out as well. Focusing on loving myself instead, dating other ppl. No contact is def to reframe the situation so you and I see ourselves as the prize, not our ex
Thank you for the helpful content in all your video's, it's very soothing to know when and how to do the right things after a break up! Fortunately I walked away with no drama at all! I think my age has taught me that but watching and listening to your advice gives me even more mental strength going forward no matter what happens! Keep up the great work! Peace from England :-)
I went NC straight away. Last week she messaged me (2 and a half weeks) with a classic "Are you alive?" 😂 We chatted for the evening, i responded normally, no rushing or suggesting we getting back together. She said she was wondering how I was... Next evening, I got a meme, short discussion then finished. Friday I got a post she wanted to post, asked me if it was ok or missing anything, then we were done. Fast forward, and I havent heard a word again and its been a week exactly... We have been here before and normally when she reached out, rhat was the return of the relationship. Chatting and then meeting up and going on. This one caught me off guard and wasnt expected. Didnt think she would disappear again. Breadcrumb, test, or general just checking if I was ok? Im just staying in NC, i never initiated any of those 3 convos and never pushed for anything more...
She could be testing the water and not wanting to push things. Keep resisting the urge to reach out as bloody tough as it is - I KNOW! Give it more time - this is what my relationship coach says - we think if they contact us and then stop it means that’s it. Not necessarily as I say. But you have YOU! She thought you were an amazing person when you were together. You still have that person and she doesn’t…yet. Breathe and live your life as you have been doing. You’re doing a great job! 😊
Thank you for your videos. I am improved my well being, physical, and following God (improving myself and knowing my value). It has been 1 month with no contact and she has reached out once but I am not giving in.
No don’t, one month feels like forever but there is so much more potential ahead if you stick to this. And it’s a cliche but do move forward with your own life, love yourself, be the person you would want to love (and no I don’t mean change gender 😂). The world is full of great people who will appreciate you for who you are. Find those friends and hang out with them! All the very best to you 🙏🏻
@@Beth1300 after all she done and gave up. Idk if I could. I have went through so much heart ache these past 2 months. She said throwing the past in my face and I told her, “the past does not define who I am today.
@@elizabethchewter3532 thank you for your reply. It is so tough and she has tried talking to me but I gave her short answers and not calling or texting her. This is so tough but I must move forward in life and be a better me
Dear coach Blac, thank you for the content you create for us. My ex just stopped responding to my texts, I did not text him much also as he was being distant. No contact for over two months now although I texted him once to ask how he was doing without him responding. Must admid that I still miss him. Did not date other guys as I am not interested. Deep down inside I hope he will contact me, on the other side it will not be the same anymore if we reconnect....
My ex told me to never contact her again and then 2 months later is subbing me thru her stories and even reached out. Emotions can change at any time; you don’t know how she will feel in the future, so take it one day at a time
No, it might be better! But stay no contact, not even one little text. Give them every chance to miss you and wonder about you. They are not your life. You are your life. I’m two months out and it still hurts but if I didn’t immerse myself in all that brings me fulfillment and joy without them I’d go mad…almost did 😂. I’m stronger and happier now. Still hopeful but not depending on the outcome. I have me and my future to look forward to.
Love your words and encouragement coach, however, I think you’d have more clientele if you’d lower your prices. End of 2023 seems to be when just about everyone broke up with someone. Myself included. 🙏🏼
My ex unblocked me after 9 month of no contact but she doesn't communicate. It's who decide to end our relationship, she blocked me after taken her decision. I didn't chased her, i accepted, i moved forward and... guess who's back... I letting her to do the first move..
Approaching 3 months of no contact, I’ve done no contact perfectly (haven’t spoken since the day of the breakup) but she hasn’t reached out. I’ve spent this time really working on myself and becoming better overall and with my mental health. Not sure if I should reach out soon or just move on
Hi coach I watch all your videos and I just want to say thank you for being there and saying all the things I needed to hear at that time..I'm grateful but I have to say 😢 it's really hard to move on when there's kids involved
He put me on not contact and I don’t want to reach out because I feel he should be the one reaching out to me. I guess we both have to move on even if I still have feelings for him
NC is def working on my ex… she writes paragraphs venting about me but doesn’t realize I see them lol. She hasn’t reached out yet though so it’s all just words to me
A delightful video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
Have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about two years ago, but I could not let her go, so I had to do all I could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and I must say I am enjoying every moment.
I really need coaching sessions with you, but I cannot afford your hourly price. Is there a bundle package for a certain amount of sessions at a slightly cheaper price?
I’m a little over a month post breakup but my situation is a lot different. Been watching your videos a lot to help. Ex contacts me almost daily and we’ve met up a few times. We kinda agreed to be friends post breakup but shortly after both agreed it would be better to try to stop talking. Since then my ex has been messaging me almost daily and the most we’ve gone without talking is 2 days. Every time I sort of pull back or say something like we should stop talking she gets mad at me and the other day lashed out over text when I was being cold. She doesnt want me at the moment from what I think but finds every and I mean every opportunity to talk to me. I’ll ask 2 questions, 1. What should I do if I want her back? 2. What should I do if I want to move on? Thanks coach your videos are the best!
Watch the all the videos on this channel and you’ll be very clear what to do. Coach Blac explains in detail why she is reacting this way and what you need to do in order to get out of the friend zone.
She's using you as a binkie (security blanket). No Contact works. Either by getting them back (all repentant and humble) or by making a new, improved version of you. It's a win-win.
Talk to her honestly, tell her how you feel, I swear most of us women we want someone who loves us and care about us but if you put pride over us we will have to move on.
I just woke up feeling with the heaviest heart right now. We broke up 3 months ago and only went nc for a week. I can't do this.. its hurting me so much. 😭
If you consider yourself a good person, know that are worthy of better, and even if there isn't someone else in your life now, it's better than being with someone who didn't truly value you. Keep reminding yourself that your value isn't gone because someone who you loved or care about didn't appreciate you or see your value. Hold your head up and start doing the things you like through the hurt it will slowly get better
Hey @coachblac New subscriber , just dealt with this about a month ago now, they broke up with me out of nowhere, I begged them not to leave, two weeks later I tried to reach out and they said they needed more time to process after a full month she erased me and my family off fb as well and I haven’t heard from her, what do I even do now if she has no way to see what I’m doing and erased me off everything ?
I feel like my ex indirectly reached out to me yesterday. She had her friend message me about getting her some things, and I was blocked. But then my ex messaged me regarding the same thing. I’m in my head like I already told your friend about things, why would you unblock and message me about the same thing that was already understood? I think she was breadcrumbing and was hoping she would display that she unblocked me and to see if I would reach out or blow her up because she’s too prideful to apologize. But I responded about business and then ignored her text after that. If you want to talk, you can reach out with effort and make it happen and not be stubborn.
She cancelled our last two dates and went from multiple texts a day to one every three. So I just stopped reaching out. She’s avoidant so I feel like space is always the answer.
I’ve been in NC 9 days and that man messaged me to tell me congrats based on a convo my mom was having with him. Weird and wild but he’s “checking up on me”. He can stay talking to everyone else but me,idc.😏
Well mine definitely just moved on so damn fast after out separation . It’s been 7 months and already has been with so many females and loving the attention on social media.. so I know he never cared about our marriage nor me because someone who does truly love you wouldn’t be out there trying to get attention from all these females .. so I accepted him being done with me nothing I can do . And so ugly from him to act this way all while accusing me of doing exactly what he’s doing now..
I never started contact. She broke up with me 7 months ago and the record is 1 month NC.... Everytime she textes i reply... i'm getting tired of this mind games... i don't think she knows that hurts me keep talking with me... in the beginning i told her that i was never starting contact, and i never did, but she talks everyday with me.. i'm trying to block and delete but i still cant.. :(
Yes yes yes it works. I am proof to this.lasted two weeks m. She revealed to me this morning at my place ( Mtl, Canada) approx. 9:40 aAM. ) how much she misses me. We have a child 2-get her Ty. Sir.
I let my ex go first because i wasnt ready mentally to take care of her as i was depressed and struggled mentally i wanted to take time before i got back into dating months after despite us keeping contact she told me that she loves me but shes hurt and then ended up going to another guy telling me just a day after that she loves him a lot ive been in no contact for a week now she stalks my socials but now blocked me is there any chance i could have her again?
I kinda begged for like 2/3 days, more like explaining my perspective to him and why I think it can work and is worth it, I did make sure to say I will respect his decision if he hears me out. I sent a final text saying I understand, I wish you the best, to which he thanked me and said I am an amazing woman and wished me well. I left it at that. Will no contact still work for me? Is there any hope? Our relationship had no issues he loved me and onky ended it because my parents pressure on marriage. I made sure to explain that idc to rush for marriage and it’s between us, he still sounded firm in breakup tho he said it would be too difficult. He also said it is hard for him to break up
She told me after a 2 weeks of no contact that she loves and misses me like crazy but needs a couple months to work on ourselves before she can see herself getting back together. Will that work?
Sounds possible. It’s hard not to focus on two months now she’s said that, wondering and dealing with the uncertainty. I’m sorry. Try so hard to move forward (not necessarily on) with your own life and don’t contact her, just don’t! Resist the urge! Spring is in the air, enjoy the sun and your friends. You’ll find your strength and motivation. God bless you!
tell her, she can take all the time she need, BUT you will keep your options open until you are exclusiv again. her thinking you will be there anyways, is not good.
My ex has told me the worst of things and even showed me. But no contact is hard because we have a kid. I always want him and there’s lots of flirty and even went on some dates and etc.. I just wish I could disappear
4 years after the break up. Haven’t seen her in 3+ years . I deleted Facebook because she hacked my email during the relationship. She was actually logged into my Facebook up until 1.5 years ago. I started a TH-cam channel and she contacted my best friend saying “ I better stop talking about her in videos “ . So now I know she watches my social media and TH-cam . SMH
What happens if your ex reaches out to you? Obviously you respond but when do I start initiating? Or do I go back to NC until they make it more obvious that they want to meet up? Already did NC and we got back in touch for 3 months and hung out and actually she showed signs of wanting to give it another try, but then she pulled away again. Went NC after that, she’s imitated contact directly and indirectly but I feel like she pulled away cause she was seeing someone else, and maybe it didn’t work out? Idk
It has been 3 months, well it doesn't work for everyone, but that's obvious. The most painful thing is, that she left suddenly without telling a reason. Well, she lied in a classic way:"Something has changed, you will be better without me, i have to know what to do with my life". That is very sad, is it not a cowardnes to not say :"I don't love you anymore"? I feel like a trash tossed out into the garbage
Someone please help me , i begged and I sent even lusty messages and he told me he didn’t want to ignore me but he didn’t know how to answer .. I chose from my last answer to go no contact , he actually broke the no contact to ask how I was and remind me i have a huge place in his heart … I honestly did a lot of affirmations and stuff and he actually texted me out of nowhere … should I answer ? Should I not answer ? The no contact was only 5 days until he broke it … please I need guidance
I’m going through this too Queen J😣 after 3 years he left me and moved out one day after a big fight, and claimed I did all this stuff wrong to make him leave, and he said he’s not ready to talk in person yet. But then why can’t he stop texting me every day, and saying he’s my “best friend” if he is SO mad at me lol?? If I don’t reply to him he gets so offended… SIR, YOU RIPPED MY FUTURE OUT OF MY HANDS AND BERATED ME???
its been over 3 years, going on 4. i don't think no contact is working lmao. i saw her in someone else's twitch chat & i put the hand wave emoji & she said "herro" (sic) back. which is a nice greeting coming from her, as her M.O. would normally be to simply ignore. that & a pleasant but brief exchange in the DM's is the only contact we've had in 4 years. but yeah, no contact ain't doing shit. i don't think she ever liked me tbh.
Naw that’s a negative mindset. I know a woman that was friends with her current husband in college and got together nearly 10 years later and now they’re married and in love. So never say never. But the only way is to completely level up and be CONFIDENT
@@Gbb93 "I know a woman that was friends with her current husband in college and got together nearly 10 years later and now they’re married and in love." --- she circled the block & settled for him when she discovered that she couldn't do better. i'll be damned if i let a woman do that to me. i don't want chad & tyrone's sloppy seconds. no thank you. I know MANY women who did exactly that. my high school sweetheart tried to come back to me 20 years later after having 3 kids by 3 different fathers, none of which are in the kids' lives. we went on 1 date & when she saw I wasn't stupid enough to be her kids stepfather, she was no longer interested. I wasn't getting a good deal. I didn't get her in her prime, I'd be getting her when she was overweight, aged & used up with several kids by several different men. all I was getting was parental responsibility for kids that aren't mine. i'm good. "So never say never." --- never... ever will I take tyrone's sloppy seconds. oh hey, NOW you the kind, good & responsible guy can have me after all the bad boys had their way with me & did God knows what with my body... hell nah. i'm good. "But the only way is to completely level up and be CONFIDENT" --- level up so I can gain the validation of a used up chick? lol nah. if she didn't think I was good enough when we met, then she's not good enough for me now when i'm leveled up. at the end of the day, men want a woman that likes them for THEM. not material things. if I need to be "leveled up" for her to like me, then she only likes me for my image, new clothes, my car, this house I bought, this new job & career & material things. if thats all she wants then she doesn't deserve me. especially not when she's exiting her prime lookswise & i'm entering my prime financially. any woman that thinks like that can kick rocks.
I hung out with her after 2 ½ months of NC just to hear her talking about her guy troubles and showing me pictures of hickeys on her. I'm definitely starting the pain all over again...
Oh yuck. That was super uncool of her. So very sorry. You are worth more, yes you are. Leave her be in her own mess and stay strong. Grieve when you need to and enjoy the moments of happiness and hope for your future when they come. Only good can come from doing all this ❤
@elizabethchewter3532 thank you a lot. What sucks is she tried to justify it by just saying "we're friends" but you can bet that's not the case anymore.
The ex showed up after 7 weeks of being in no contact , juat offering to be friends from now on , I refused though and started no contact again , Is it useful now this no contact ? I have heard he has now another girl around , a girl whom I also know And Is there any chance of getting him back or should I leave him behind forever ? It’s painful not having him in my life after being with him for 2 years
Caught my ex cheating last week she’s had a guy over 2 days later I went no contact she’s lied about who the car was that was there she’s calling texting daily says she loves me but hasn’t said she wants us to work
My ex broke up with me for the 3rd time and asked to hangout as a friend and later on he said he’s seeing someone and blocked me everywhere because I gave him shit for what he did to me and playing with my emotions specially we were engaged when we got back together for the 3rd time .is he still going to contact me?
Hi I followed the advice with no contact but this guy don’t stop contacting me. Only 2 days after HE break up he was texting but I don’t answer. Than 2 days later he text me again. 😂 I can’t take this guy serious. But we have kids now he play the game „ I just want to know how the kids are „ but he saw the kids just before 4 days and he will see them tomorrow again. He is already regenting it or what ….. I don’t understand him
My ex left me for another woman who was also my distance cousin. Their relationship lasted for a while and then broke up again so he's now deciding to come back but he's pride and igo are still high. What would be the best advice in such situations?
Just confused lol she dumped me and basically telling me she wants space after I tried to make things work. I went no contact and little less than 5 days she’s calling me telling me she loves me still. She did go into a rebound relationship. She’s been bread crumbing for the past 2 weeks reaching out like once a week. Why still reach out to me after her saying she basically moved on? I don’t get it. She told me how she doesn’t think anyone would love her the way I did but why still reach out when you’re sleeping with someone else? Idk I don’t get it
No contact isn’t supposed to work on your ex it’s supposed to work for you!
I went into NC the minute he said he wanted to end things. Picked up my things and left his house in silence. Didn’t even try to Explain myself. Went home crying , broken , everything he talks about an anxious attachment style person . But I already know about my attachment style so I was able to keep my dignity intact . 2 weeks into NC and my ex reached out to me, saying how much he misses me , etc etc. But MEANWHILE offered me a friends with benefits status , and thanks to Mr blac videos and my own self healing I SAID NO , that he was not going to demote from GF to booty call. 💪 stray strong everyone
Wow! He has Ssome nerve!
Shame shame shame on him.
Great job to you, and many blessings to your journey ❤
Yeah the first time my ex broke up with me after two years, he tried to initiate sex with me during the breakup... I told him no. He was thinking he was going to get breakup sex, probably would've been a good story he would have told his friends... Nope, not with me! I told him I want all or nothing... And I meant it.
We deserve loving relationships, not BS FWBs. Good on you for keeping your wits about you - I'm proud of you! 💪 Keep doing you & healing in healthy ways~
What an asshole. Wishing you well ❤. You'll have a better life without him!
Are you joking!? Yeah F that guy, that’s insulting.
@@jd6331 good for you !!! We gotta stay STRONGGGG
Take your time guys, remember this is the time to focus on you! Fix the house, take up your hobbies again, go to the gym, a broken heart makes it easier to step outside of your comfort zone. Meet new people and get into new circles. If they don't come back, you have a better life now that will attract someone... maybe a better someone.
💯% either way you win!
No contact works you have to level up and act cool like life does exist without your ex. And once you get back you pretty much have to start all over as if it is new. Keep your emotions in check. Read a lot on emotions and practice on your triggers
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his contact below this comment.
This is his channel @droman01
Broo, as soon as I hit my glow, all
of them came back, break ups make boys/girls Men/ Women 😊
Thank you because I was trying to figure out how to move after she breaks no contact I'm currently in no contact regardless of the hurt every second that goes by I feel stronger but miss her even more!
I talked with u, Coach Blk, about my relationship about 9 months ago. I was in a bad place. U helped me to understand that he actually put in very little effort and energy while I put in most. It hurt but it was true. 8 months after no contact he reached out to me via phone call. I was not bitter or angry when he called, but not excited either. I was indifferent. He contacts me and wants to see me often. Although i maintain my cool, i know i still love him. But he took me for granted and rarely made me a priority. I gave him space. I believe that 8 month space of no contact gave him the opportunity to feel what life is like without me. And he didnt like that life. Not quite sure how to move now but am definitely moving slowly. Thank u so much, coach. U taught me how to rediscover myself. I am healthier, more confident and more attractive 9 months later. I definitely came out the winner.
Beautiful. They comeback when you healed.
You go girl!! Be careful & remember that personal boundaries are so that YOU do not violate your own personal values. Stay strong 💪🏾
It’s difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 1 years ended, but I couldn’t just let her go I did all I could to get her back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back, keep in touch through his channel.
@droman01
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his channel below this comment.
@droman01
The real answer to them leaving we will never know. Whatever excuse they said, it’s their reality. Let them go. God didn’t stop making people when he made them. If you know you’re a great person, don’t worry. The right person will adore you without playing games with you.
Why want someone who didn’t value you anyway?
“God didn’t stop making people when he made them”. 😮 profound. So true. I Guess Im just blinded by it all at the moment.
@@J__007 those moments too shall pass. I use to want so many ppl in my life, cried for them. Hell, begged. Then realized, asking myself why?
They don’t treat me good. I don’t like the feelings they bring out of me. The person I am with them isn’t the best person I know I can be without them.
People always come back to something good, so surely if you’re good they will come back. You just have to know that you’re good without them and keep on moving forward.
My ex called me after 5 months of no contact and he wants to meet up and talk and I said yes as long is he tells the truth no love bombing,no trying to control my feelings,no manipulating,no yelling or arguments just talking. I will see how it goes
@@soa2444 well he admitted everything and I told him how he hurt and made me feel and now wants to be friends and see how things go from there and I said why if I did what u did to me would u want to be friends or me in your life and he said no so I told him I’m your past and your ex for a reason so let’s keep it that way and he called me on Easter but I didn’t pick up I’m done and I love being single and no drama period
Update..?
So what happened
What do y'all say about this ,ok I've ghosted this man this my fourth time but this time its been almost 6 months and in these six months he kept popping up i woild drive off of r walk away then he just stopped contacting me hopefully he gave up ....what i want to ask is did i dp right?
@prayingmother you should just tell him that you not interested in him
I'm struggling so bad, 2 months after break up. He's living his life and I'm barely existing. I watch yoir vids daily, countless times just to give me the strength to get through this. Thank you
There is nothing I can say that will make you feel any better. I was where you are 2 months ago. Its torture and I'm so sorry we are going through this. I started to study the Law of Attraction over the last 2 weeks and it really helps. It wouldn't have done anything for me though when I was at your stage. But please look into it when you feel stronger. I'm in no way "healed" but I'm 1000 times better. Love from Ireland x
P.s thank you Coach, your the best ❤
Keep going. Coach is great but I find myself watching his videos less and less. Not too long ago I was going through every single one of his videos. Everyday. Lunch breaks. In the car. All the time. I’m about 5 months post break up. If you’re in pain you should remain in no contact. I was where you’re at. Still am. It will get easier though. Trust in yourself. Regain your self worth. It is not easy but you are on your own timeline. Give yourself grace and ultimately let go. It’s taken me so long to get to this point but it’s starting to feel better. You can’t predict the future so I have found a sense of indifference is helping. Good luck to you! Regardless of the outcome brighter days will certainly be ahead.
I was utterly broken and devastated last year when my ex left me for someone I thought was my friend. I never thought I'd get out of thr agony I was in but almost a year on life is good!! I was with this person 11 years and known them 18. I can't explain the pain I felt it has been the worst emotional agony ever. You will be OK it does take time and I so still have days where I am sad but I promise you, you will come out of it if you do the work on yourself. Don't beg and plead and do all that stuff it only pushes them further away.
My ex and new partner have put on weight and look awful whilst I have been hitting the gym and met someone new.
It’s difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 1 years ended, but I couldn’t just let her go I did all I could to get her back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back, keep in touch through his channel.
@droman01
4 months of no contact there is no sign. I have to move on now
🙏🏾🙏🏾
I felt this. 😢
@zinedinali1100 I know how it feels. I have 1 year and 4 months of no contact and not a freaking sign. You just have to accept it that it's over. Move forward with your life and never look back.
How much begging did you do after the breakup?
If you want your exe to break you have to give the person a reason to want to. What have you done for your exe partner to break. Have you hit the gym and transformed your physique? Have you made more money? Have you made your social circle more appealing to be in ?
After 11 months of no contact, he reached out to me and asked me to meet him. However, I had no hope he would ever contact me. But he texted me yesterday.
How do you feel about it?
My ex came back after 3 half years. I was so much better off. But, I accepted her back. She broke up again with me 2 months ago. My advice, before getting back, be ready, people love bomb and leave. Wishing you good luck ❤
Men should never contact an ex after breakup (yes, that's a woman's job) but hey, lots of emotional men these days behaving like women.
@@robicelushuh? A man *should* reach out if he's the one who broke up...... Whoever is the dumper should reach out, period.
@@diegocruz6236 Diego, I'm sorry you had to go through that. I had a similar thing happen to me. I was in a 2-year relationship and he broke up... He came back 6 months later, we talked/dated for a little bit and I accepted him back. Now, about 6 weeks ago, after another 2 years and 2 months together, he broke up again under similar circumstances. I'm truly heartbroken 💔😔 just taking it a day at a time and trying to heal.
I hope you find someone better for you, and I wish the same from me. 🙏 Btw you're cute hahah 😄 I'm sure you'll find someone new, but hopefully they're also a good person on the inside and not the type to just love bomb and leave again. Best of luck, be well~
Just be careful.
Thank you for your videos. They have truly helped me on my healing journey. I do not want my ex back, nor have I heard from him in months. He had his new gf before we were over and I dont want someone back who treated me like an option not a priority. Life has been better for me and I love having myself back.
I have been going through my healing journey as well. It has been three months, have not heard from him nor do I wait to hear from him as I went no contact and blocked him and he has his new supplier staying with him and has been in the picture as his priority, and I myself only an option to him. I told him enough of that shenanigans, it took me 39 days to move out of his rental house packed my stuff and left never look back and my healing journey is rough but I know that I am way way way better without him for sure, he was toxic and exhausting with all his drama and narcissistic behavior. I am free of that and I rejoice every day I dodged the bullet. It’s a healing journey all right and also at peace
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, watch his channel and see amazing comments. @droman01
Hey Coach. Congratulations to the happy couple. I love hearing uplifting stories. I believe what’s meant to be will be. You’ll be with whom you’re meant for. Just my belief.☺️
I did no contact, I did not beg. My ex reached out, we even met once because she was waiting outside my office before I came to work. She hugged and kissed me and then she cried. She texted me a few times after that. I invited her over to my place but she did not want to. During this time she met a new guy, as soon as their relationship was solidified, she stopped texting me. I never reached out, I never begged, I only answered when she reached out and suggested to get together. So, moral of the story is... They only come back if they cant replace you. She replaced me with the first guy she met and it was quick. Perhaps she even monkey branched, I believe was the case. So moral of the story, the biggest factor here is depending if they can find someone better fast enough or not.
Don't worry. Karma will find it's way to her and she'll be sorry sooner or later
@@fenixa21ANDthanks for the support. I appreciate it.
Everyone isn't returnable to for people asking. There is a man who kept reaching out to me who I would NEVER return to. Never. You need to know yourself to know if the relationship is ever an option again. You can't go wrong if you detach and reconnect with yourself.
Seek God for restoration or closure.
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@@Wildanimal864.
Yes heal the self and love the creator. You need both.
Exactly 💯 @@maheshmangar1450
10 months of no contact I decided to move on with my life yeah. I learn to love myself and focus on my health issues. So sad but true yeah. What comes around goes around yeah. Super reading 100 %. Thanks for sharing yeah. Tc. Stay blessed. 🤗🙏🙏🙏👍
I'm on 5 months of no contact, I didn't begged once, I accepted her decision and started focusing on my self. I deleted her from all my socials. Honestly, I do not expect her to reach me out, neither I think I could give her a chance if she does. About a month ago, my mother told me my ex was stalking her on her socials, like wtf?! But anyway, I'm feeling awesome the way my life is going, the future is looking great and I could not look back.
These videos helped so much. Thank you. She reached out after no contact. But it was 2 late i moved on and found myself.
THANK YOU Mr Blac! I am so happy that I found your channel, I wish I found it earlier, because when I look back to the break up last year September (she dumped me) I could have avoided so many mistakes( still writing with her for two months after it, and sending snaps etc. ) Now I know how to do it right next Time. Since new year we kinda went into no contact but we where still sending streak snaps each and every day so that obviously don't count. She also has a new guy( according to her snaps) But since I found you three weeks ago or so, I finally deleted her of everything, deleted all the text massages and pictures now I am in real no contact. I don't know if this works, or if she even noticed it or if she cares. But what I know is that since that, I can finally look forward and I feel much better.
Oh well done you! Hurts like f-- but so worth the journey forward to wonderful new things. Truly. God bless you!
@@elizabethchewter3532 May God bless you too!
Well, you may not be a miracle worker but you are teaching discipline. We do have to do no contact. Begging or being depressed is not going to help us. I been heartbroken and it hurts but we must keep going even through our tears. Therapy helped so much and journaling, praying, meditation. Beautiful video. ❤❤
I hope you're able to do livestreams more often. They're so helpful. A lot of us are going through it in this toxic dating pool and generation...
Truly, we live in an age where narcissism, selfishness and entitlement have become the norms.
@bigboss6867 I think the games will stop when men stop playing games first because they're the ones that I think started it first with the lies and cheating, now women are just playing back in order to get some of their needs met since men can't offer loyalty and love.
What a fantastic analogy!
Going on 60 days NC. Her bday is coming up next week. As days pass. Life gets better. Stay strong people. Life goes on and shit happens. But you’ve been down and out, yet we’re still here. Love your life and and live that shit. Cheers 🍻 to another blessed day! May all of y’all find the happiness in your life!🙏🏽❤️
So true. Thank you!
Your videos have been helping me so much with my confidence after a breakup. Thank you 🙏🏽
Looking fresh coach. Nice fit with the gold watch
Thanks my friend
Great work as usual Coach. Any vids on playing “both” sides as a dumpee? By this, I mean focusing on no contact as a life choice, but also dating new romantic prospects and keeping an open future in mind.
I love you for this title 😂😂 your content is so great, not only do you give the ppl the info they want but you empower ppl to find their self worth. Peace and blessings!!!
I just cant imagine myself getting back with my Ex. I cant Un-see what ive seen, or un-hear what ive heard.
Love is mind, body and soul. If that sacredness, energy, love or infatuation is used else where? I don't care what kind of history we had his not mine to have ever! Am mad i put in 17 years of my time,. energy and effort but i rest my case. I still believe in love and i know the next one will be epic. For all those struggling love your self first so u are capable of loving someone else🙏
Did you still have interest on him?
@@whatsapphim029 No. Literally taking drastic measures and trying to leave the country. I want distance
Sir your channel is incredible. I will definetely be reaching out for a session together at some point in the future.
I love how this channel is pro man but leaves out the misogyny too. Very professional and non biast.
Insane good content. Thank You for it 🙏🏽
My story is so complicated that I even don't know from where to start. Bottom line I think that my ex will never ever reach out or some sort of sign. I'm blocked by her everywhere
Same
Same to me bro 10years together with my live in partner we have do everything and we have 2 kids .but and the end we broke 1 year prevous now she have new man it hurts me until now everyday
I blocked my ex on everything because I realize he's being a player and treating me like an option. Why did she block you?
You two need not to worry establish the no contact and yes do as you are scheduled to be with your children you have to listen to coach start investing inn your self and your new goals build the best version of your self ! Trust the coach ! Never chase and turn a cheek if you’re not being appreciated!
It’s difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 1 years ended, but I couldn’t just let her go I did all I could to get her back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back, keep in touch through his channel.
@droman01
Thank you couch needed this today
I left him 3 weeks ago today really hard. But I know I was a asset in his life, and still praying for God to restore us
Coach can you make a video about how no contact affects the other person after a short term relationship?
The best thing I think anyone can do is let go at the exact point they go no contact. Not before no contact, not after no contact, but at the exact tipping point of decision put into action. That's my take anyway. You have to be open to anything happening after that and thinking however things turn out you will triumph. Let go of the outcome. That has to be the mindset. Que sera sera, whatever will be will be
Awesome, bro. That helps me
2 months NC one emergency message to deal with an issue then 5 months NC Never made a fuss, wished them well and said goodbye...I am moving forward creating my life agsin, and I am intentionally not dating again for the foreseeable future while I work on myself. NC has been hard but liberating.
Absolutely agree! Sooooo much pain and disappointment but the freedom that comes with a break up can be amazing even if the hope for reconnection remains x
My 3 month relationship ended abruptly by my ex, I didn't see it coming. In the beginning, we spent every weekend together he eventually asked for space, and we mutually agreed. I, too, felt more "me" time would be beneficial. The day after our mutual agreement to take more time for self, he hesitantly ended our relationship. I've been NC for 3 days now. We never had an argument, etc. I have no idea how we ended up here 🤷♀️ I appreciate these videos extremely educational. My ex was my safe space, "my person." I am extremely disappointed with this reality
Another great video! Best content understanding the dynamics of attraction and break-ups!
your videos always motivate me to keep going no contact and stay strong, thank you for your good work coach❤️
wau masha Allah brother you're too wise I loved the car gas example
*Meaningful video.*
Im almost there too. 4 months is right around the corner.
So hang in there, this is not a fixed point of no return, this may be the exact time your person is beginning to feel the distance. But yes you can move on with your own life - we should always be moving forward with our own lives and things that bring joy to us whether we’re in no contact or in a relationship. But moving on doesn’t mean moving on and away from your ex forever. You have no idea what the future may hold for you both. Really. Now is the very time that you can become the very
person you feel so happy to be, and he will appreciate that so much if and when he comes back. I know you don’t want to hear this but if it’s not him, there absolutely will be someone in future who falls in love with you and whom you fall in love with in a beautiful way and your joy will be amazing. Hold that in your heart. Don’t fixate on a person, but focus on yourself and the kind of relationship and man you want and imagine them holding you and loving you. Feel the joy and peace and comfort in your body and spirit and ask God or the universe, Spirit, our Source, to bring you that man whether it be your ex or someone even better. And I send you love and hope and joy and all good things. Believe in yourself because you are someone so special and unique xxx
I'm 3 months in and losing hope she'll reach out as well. Focusing on loving myself instead, dating other ppl. No contact is def to reframe the situation so you and I see ourselves as the prize, not our ex
Not the ads pop on when you’re getting to the meat of the story 😂😂 it’s cool I’ll wait
Loool 🤦♂️
Ha ha true!
This only applies if you had an argument and you guys are mad at each other…but if you are not compatible and equally it won’t apply to you
Thank you for the helpful content in all your video's, it's very soothing to know when and how to do the right things after a break up! Fortunately I walked away with no drama at all! I think my age has taught me that but watching and listening to your advice gives me even more mental strength going forward no matter what happens! Keep up the great work! Peace from England :-)
I went NC straight away.
Last week she messaged me (2 and a half weeks) with a classic "Are you alive?" 😂
We chatted for the evening, i responded normally, no rushing or suggesting we getting back together. She said she was wondering how I was...
Next evening, I got a meme, short discussion then finished. Friday I got a post she wanted to post, asked me if it was ok or missing anything, then we were done.
Fast forward, and I havent heard a word again and its been a week exactly...
We have been here before and normally when she reached out, rhat was the return of the relationship. Chatting and then meeting up and going on.
This one caught me off guard and wasnt expected. Didnt think she would disappear again.
Breadcrumb, test, or general just checking if I was ok?
Im just staying in NC, i never initiated any of those 3 convos and never pushed for anything more...
She could be testing the water and not wanting to push things. Keep resisting the urge to reach out as bloody tough as it is - I KNOW! Give it more time - this is what my relationship coach says - we think if they contact us and then stop it means that’s it. Not necessarily as I say. But you have YOU! She thought you were an amazing person when you were together. You still have that person and she doesn’t…yet. Breathe and live your life as you have been doing. You’re doing a great job! 😊
I’m in this situation now. Coach I’m going to book a session.
Thank you coach Blac, you are a blessing
Thank you coach, this video was exactly what I needed to hear
Thank you for your videos. I am improved my well being, physical, and following God (improving myself and knowing my value). It has been 1 month with no contact and she has reached out once but I am not giving in.
Does that mean you don't want to be with her anymore?
No don’t, one month feels like forever but there is so much more potential ahead if you stick to this. And it’s a cliche but do move forward with your own life, love yourself, be the person you would want to love (and no I don’t mean change gender 😂). The world is full of great people who will appreciate you for who you are. Find those friends and hang out with them! All the very best to you 🙏🏻
@@Beth1300 after all she done and gave up. Idk if I could. I have went through so much heart ache these past 2 months. She said throwing the past in my face and I told her, “the past does not define who I am today.
@@elizabethchewter3532 thank you for your reply. It is so tough and she has tried talking to me but I gave her short answers and not calling or texting her. This is so tough but I must move forward in life and be a better me
Dear coach Blac, thank you for the content you create for us.
My ex just stopped responding to my texts, I did not text him much also as he was being distant. No contact for over two months now although I texted him once to ask how he was doing without him responding. Must admid that I still miss him. Did not date other guys as I am not interested. Deep down inside I hope he will contact me, on the other side it will not be the same anymore if we reconnect....
My ex told me to never contact her again and then 2 months later is subbing me thru her stories and even reached out. Emotions can change at any time; you don’t know how she will feel in the future, so take it one day at a time
No, it might be better! But stay no contact, not even one little text. Give them every chance to miss you and wonder about you. They are not your life. You are your life. I’m two months out and it still hurts but if I didn’t immerse myself in all that brings me fulfillment and joy without them I’d go mad…almost did 😂. I’m stronger and happier now. Still hopeful but not depending on the outcome. I have me and my future to look forward to.
@@Gbb93absolutely right!
Love your words and encouragement coach, however, I think you’d have more clientele if you’d lower your prices. End of 2023 seems to be when just about everyone broke up with someone. Myself included. 🙏🏼
I have no more social media accounts and I blocked his number I don’t think he can come back. Cheaters are not welcome in my life
My ex unblocked me after 9 month of no contact but she doesn't communicate. It's who decide to end our relationship, she blocked me after taken her decision. I didn't chased her, i accepted, i moved forward and... guess who's back... I letting her to do the first move..
4months of u improving an growing on u self love will have u dont care if they pop up in ur life . Next ...to the best thing !!
💯!
Approaching 3 months of no contact, I’ve done no contact perfectly (haven’t spoken since the day of the breakup) but she hasn’t reached out. I’ve spent this time really working on myself and becoming better overall and with my mental health. Not sure if I should reach out soon or just move on
Move on. If you reach out. You will put yourself the same spot. Don’t go through the pain again.
Yes move on and keep healing
Hi coach I watch all your videos and I just want to say thank you for being there and saying all the things I needed to hear at that time..I'm grateful but I have to say 😢 it's really hard to move on when there's kids involved
He put me on not contact and I don’t want to reach out because I feel he should be the one reaching out to me. I guess we both have to move on even if I still have feelings for him
Thanks bro for youre visedom needed to hear that right now, Blessing from Sweden
NC is def working on my ex… she writes paragraphs venting about me but doesn’t realize I see them lol. She hasn’t reached out yet though so it’s all just words to me
How do you see them? Like without her sending them? On what app
"salvage" means to fix..
"unsalvageable" means it can't be fixed.
A delightful video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
Have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about two years ago, but I could not let her go, so I had to do all I could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and I must say I am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do I reach her?
Her name is '' Maurice Gleti, '' and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
valuable information, I just looked her up online. impressive Thank you for this
I really need coaching sessions with you, but I cannot afford your hourly price. Is there a bundle package for a certain amount of sessions at a slightly cheaper price?
I’m a little over a month post breakup but my situation is a lot different. Been watching your videos a lot to help. Ex contacts me almost daily and we’ve met up a few times. We kinda agreed to be friends post breakup but shortly after both agreed it would be better to try to stop talking. Since then my ex has been messaging me almost daily and the most we’ve gone without talking is 2 days. Every time I sort of pull back or say something like we should stop talking she gets mad at me and the other day lashed out over text when I was being cold. She doesnt want me at the moment from what I think but finds every and I mean every opportunity to talk to me. I’ll ask 2 questions, 1. What should I do if I want her back?
2. What should I do if I want to move on? Thanks coach your videos are the best!
Watch the all the videos on this channel and you’ll be very clear what to do. Coach Blac explains in detail why she is reacting this way and what you need to do in order to get out of the friend zone.
She's using you as a binkie (security blanket). No Contact works. Either by getting them back (all repentant and humble) or by making a new, improved version of you. It's a win-win.
Talk to her honestly, tell her how you feel, I swear most of us women we want someone who loves us and care about us but if you put pride over us we will have to move on.
@@CatwalkPurzI’ve been watching them all, I know the answer is no contact, just hard to accept it.
@@tredd9019yeah I’ve tried a few times, each time she keeps reaching out and contacting even if it’s a small breadcrumb, next day same thing
Your videos arw helping me in this time.
I just woke up feeling with the heaviest heart right now. We broke up 3 months ago and only went nc for a week. I can't do this.. its hurting me so much. 😭
If you consider yourself a good person, know that are worthy of better, and even if there isn't someone else in your life now, it's better than being with someone who didn't truly value you. Keep reminding yourself that your value isn't gone because someone who you loved or care about didn't appreciate you or see your value. Hold your head up and start doing the things you like through the hurt it will slowly get better
Hey @coachblac New subscriber , just dealt with this about a month ago now, they broke up with me out of nowhere, I begged them not to leave, two weeks later I tried to reach out and they said they needed more time to process after a full month she erased me and my family off fb as well and I haven’t heard from her, what do I even do now if she has no way to see what I’m doing and erased me off everything ?
I feel like my ex indirectly reached out to me yesterday.
She had her friend message me about getting her some things, and I was blocked.
But then my ex messaged me regarding the same thing.
I’m in my head like I already told your friend about things, why would you unblock and message me about the same thing that was already understood?
I think she was breadcrumbing and was hoping she would display that she unblocked me and to see if I would reach out or blow her up because she’s too prideful to apologize.
But I responded about business and then ignored her text after that.
If you want to talk, you can reach out with effort and make it happen and not be stubborn.
You're chanel helps me alote.no contact she help me alote.thanku
No contact has worked for me recently . took 3 months
Thank you bro ❤❤❤❤
She cancelled our last two dates and went from multiple texts a day to one every three. So I just stopped reaching out. She’s avoidant so I feel like space is always the answer.
I’ve been in NC 9 days and that man messaged me to tell me congrats based on a convo my mom was having with him. Weird and wild but he’s “checking up on me”. He can stay talking to everyone else but me,idc.😏
Well mine definitely just moved on so damn fast after out separation . It’s been 7 months and already has been with so many females and loving the attention on social media.. so I know he never cared about our marriage nor me because someone who does truly love you wouldn’t be out there trying to get attention from all these females .. so I accepted him being done with me nothing I can do . And so ugly from him to act this way all while accusing me of doing exactly what he’s doing now..
I never started contact. She broke up with me 7 months ago and the record is 1 month NC.... Everytime she textes i reply... i'm getting tired of this mind games... i don't think she knows that hurts me keep talking with me... in the beginning i told her that i was never starting contact, and i never did, but she talks everyday with me.. i'm trying to block and delete but i still cant.. :(
i messd up so bad my ex will only speak to me at church. I am Ghosted blocked on every level. I am so sad.
Yes yes yes it works. I am proof to this.lasted two weeks m. She revealed to me this morning at my place ( Mtl, Canada) approx. 9:40 aAM. ) how much she misses me. We have a child 2-get her Ty. Sir.
I let my ex go first because i wasnt ready mentally to take care of her as i was depressed and struggled mentally i wanted to take time before i got back into dating months after despite us keeping contact she told me that she loves me but shes hurt and then ended up going to another guy telling me just a day after that she loves him a lot ive been in no contact for a week now she stalks my socials but now blocked me is there any chance i could have her again?
I kinda begged for like 2/3 days, more like explaining my perspective to him and why I think it can work and is worth it, I did make sure to say I will respect his decision if he hears me out. I sent a final text saying I understand, I wish you the best, to which he thanked me and said I am an amazing woman and wished me well. I left it at that. Will no contact still work for me? Is there any hope? Our relationship had no issues he loved me and onky ended it because my parents pressure on marriage. I made sure to explain that idc to rush for marriage and it’s between us, he still sounded firm in breakup tho he said it would be too difficult. He also said it is hard for him to break up
The same for me...
She told me after a 2 weeks of no contact that she loves and misses me like crazy but needs a couple months to work on ourselves before she can see herself getting back together. Will that work?
Sounds possible. It’s hard not to focus on two months now she’s said that, wondering and dealing with the uncertainty. I’m sorry. Try so hard to move forward (not necessarily on) with your own life and don’t contact her, just don’t! Resist the urge! Spring is in the air, enjoy the sun and your friends. You’ll find your strength and motivation. God bless you!
tell her, she can take all the time she need, BUT you will keep your options open until you are exclusiv again. her thinking you will be there anyways, is not good.
My ex has told me the worst of things and even showed me. But no contact is hard because we have a kid. I always want him and there’s lots of flirty and even went on some dates and etc.. I just wish I could disappear
4 years after the break up. Haven’t seen her in 3+ years . I deleted Facebook because she hacked my email during the relationship. She was actually logged into my Facebook up until 1.5 years ago. I started a TH-cam channel and she contacted my best friend saying “ I better stop talking about her in videos “ . So now I know she watches my social media and TH-cam . SMH
Did you still have interest on her
Ty
What happens if your ex reaches out to you? Obviously you respond but when do I start initiating? Or do I go back to NC until they make it more obvious that they want to meet up? Already did NC and we got back in touch for 3 months and hung out and actually she showed signs of wanting to give it another try, but then she pulled away again. Went NC after that, she’s imitated contact directly and indirectly but I feel like she pulled away cause she was seeing someone else, and maybe it didn’t work out? Idk
It has been 3 months, well it doesn't work for everyone, but that's obvious. The most painful thing is, that she left suddenly without telling a reason. Well, she lied in a classic way:"Something has changed, you will be better without me, i have to know what to do with my life". That is very sad, is it not a cowardnes to not say :"I don't love you anymore"? I feel like a trash tossed out into the garbage
He told me that he had felt anxious with me for the last month, but he couldn't explain what I had done to make him feel anxious.
Someone please help me , i begged and I sent even lusty messages and he told me he didn’t want to ignore me but he didn’t know how to answer ..
I chose from my last answer to go no contact , he actually broke the no contact to ask how I was and remind me i have a huge place in his heart … I honestly did a lot of affirmations and stuff and he actually texted me out of nowhere … should I answer ? Should I not answer ? The no contact was only 5 days until he broke it … please I need guidance
I’m going through this too Queen J😣 after 3 years he left me and moved out one day after a big fight, and claimed I did all this stuff wrong to make him leave, and he said he’s not ready to talk in person yet. But then why can’t he stop texting me every day, and saying he’s my “best friend” if he is SO mad at me lol?? If I don’t reply to him he gets so offended… SIR, YOU RIPPED MY FUTURE OUT OF MY HANDS AND BERATED ME???
its been over 3 years, going on 4. i don't think no contact is working lmao. i saw her in someone else's twitch chat & i put the hand wave emoji & she said "herro" (sic) back. which is a nice greeting coming from her, as her M.O. would normally be to simply ignore. that & a pleasant but brief exchange in the DM's is the only contact we've had in 4 years. but yeah, no contact ain't doing shit. i don't think she ever liked me tbh.
3-4 years… it’s time to move on bro
Naw that’s a negative mindset. I know a woman that was friends with her current husband in college and got together nearly 10 years later and now they’re married and in love. So never say never. But the only way is to completely level up and be CONFIDENT
@@Gbb93 "I know a woman that was friends with her current husband in college and got together nearly 10 years later and now they’re married and in love." --- she circled the block & settled for him when she discovered that she couldn't do better. i'll be damned if i let a woman do that to me. i don't want chad & tyrone's sloppy seconds. no thank you.
I know MANY women who did exactly that. my high school sweetheart tried to come back to me 20 years later after having 3 kids by 3 different fathers, none of which are in the kids' lives. we went on 1 date & when she saw I wasn't stupid enough to be her kids stepfather, she was no longer interested. I wasn't getting a good deal. I didn't get her in her prime, I'd be getting her when she was overweight, aged & used up with several kids by several different men. all I was getting was parental responsibility for kids that aren't mine. i'm good.
"So never say never." --- never... ever will I take tyrone's sloppy seconds. oh hey, NOW you the kind, good & responsible guy can have me after all the bad boys had their way with me & did God knows what with my body... hell nah. i'm good.
"But the only way is to completely level up and be CONFIDENT" --- level up so I can gain the validation of a used up chick? lol nah. if she didn't think I was good enough when we met, then she's not good enough for me now when i'm leveled up.
at the end of the day, men want a woman that likes them for THEM. not material things. if I need to be "leveled up" for her to like me, then she only likes me for my image, new clothes, my car, this house I bought, this new job & career & material things. if thats all she wants then she doesn't deserve me. especially not when she's exiting her prime lookswise & i'm entering my prime financially.
any woman that thinks like that can kick rocks.
@@jovannigrant7096 "3-4 years… it’s time to move on bro" --- you right.
@@jovannigrant7096BEEN time to move on lol
I hung out with her after 2 ½ months of NC just to hear her talking about her guy troubles and showing me pictures of hickeys on her. I'm definitely starting the pain all over again...
Oh yuck. That was super uncool of her. So very sorry. You are worth more, yes you are. Leave her be in her own mess and stay strong. Grieve when you need to and enjoy the moments of happiness and hope for your future when they come. Only good can come from doing all this ❤
@elizabethchewter3532 thank you a lot. What sucks is she tried to justify it by just saying "we're friends" but you can bet that's not the case anymore.
Never take anyone back who left you. No contact for life. Let them lay in that bed. They haven’t changed.
God bless you and your Videos.
This one gave me chills, you are magical.
That no contact is best when you don’t have children.
What if you dated for a month with a break up and reconnection within that time before them telling you they can't do it again? just move on, right?
NC works. Now they have been texting me good morning the past 4 months. Going nowhere other than that lol
I had the same thing happen. They have been texting good morning for the past 5 months. Now they disappeared on me
The ex showed up after 7 weeks of being in no contact , juat offering to be friends from now on , I refused though and started no contact again ,
Is it useful now this no contact ?
I have heard he has now another girl around , a girl whom I also know And
Is there any chance of getting him back or should I leave him behind forever ?
It’s painful not having him in my life after being with him for 2 years
Caught my ex cheating last week she’s had a guy over 2 days later I went no contact she’s lied about who the car was that was there she’s calling texting daily says she loves me but hasn’t said she wants us to work
My ex broke up with me for the 3rd time and asked to hangout as a friend and later on he said he’s seeing someone and blocked me everywhere because I gave him shit for what he did to me and playing with my emotions specially we were engaged when we got back together for the 3rd time .is he still going to contact me?
Hi I followed the advice with no contact but this guy don’t stop contacting me. Only 2 days after HE break up he was texting but I don’t answer. Than 2 days later he text me again. 😂 I can’t take this guy serious. But we have kids now he play the game „ I just want to know how the kids are „ but he saw the kids just before 4 days and he will see them tomorrow again. He is already regenting it or what ….. I don’t understand him
My ex left me for another woman who was also my distance cousin. Their relationship lasted for a while and then broke up again so he's now deciding to come back but he's pride and igo are still high. What would be the best advice in such situations?
I want to do the no contact and work on myself but how you do it when you have kids together?
How do you respond when your ex text you that there is not much to talk about after reaching out to them after a month of no contact?
Waited 15 months, he unblocked me 4 months ago. I moved on, obviously didn't work.on him.😅
Just confused lol she dumped me and basically telling me she wants space after I tried to make things work. I went no contact and little less than 5 days she’s calling me telling me she loves me still. She did go into a rebound relationship. She’s been bread crumbing for the past 2 weeks reaching out like once a week. Why still reach out to me after her saying she basically moved on? I don’t get it. She told me how she doesn’t think anyone would love her the way I did but why still reach out when you’re sleeping with someone else? Idk I don’t get it