I found, after 35 years, that life is short, and I've suffered long enough. Time to start living. Sometimes its not about love - its about chosing life and not sinking because of one person for the rest of your life.
"Carry out a random act of kindness with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you." ~Princess Diana
@@laurelmcphee793 someone who is watching this that may be getting abused could then use the things she says to justify the things that are happening to them.
Just a reminder that you shouldn’t try compassionate culture with abusive people (emotionally or physically). You deserve better, it’s not your job to “fix” them. Get your distance please and focus on your mental and physical health. I’m a person with sociopathic parents. Try showing them some empathy. They take it all, never get tired of getting, but they won’t give you anything in return. Not all people change. And for the ones who do, let’s meet them again when they have already changed.
There's a point at which compassion runs out. Abundant compassion can become an opportunity and permission to offend again. There's nothing wrong with separating yourself from abusive people.
With like a hundred wars going on around the world how do you think we're doing so far with old ways of thinking ? Quote from the late Dave Allen let your God go with you.
@@joannot6706 It always depend on the case. (E.g. Abusive people). Inside your mind and body knows the truth and it has been cientifically proven the benefits of forgiveness.
May an increased understanding of the value of compassion on a personal level, also help us to shape a society in which we will be open minded to diverse thoughts and solutions.
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:12
How about acceptance culture. Accepting true diversity manifesting itself as diverse thought and opinions. Thank you Betty. For reminding folks of the options we have. Cancel culture must end. Otherwise our society is doomed to fail.
Thats a stupid concept. If you don't open yourself up to the things you disagree with then you reach a box of seclusion and ignorance and if you stay in that box you gain a massive ego even for being wrong but if you open yourself up to things you can understand more,widen your views and become more intelligent
There isn't enough context here to appropriately decipher the message. What was the ideological difference? Was it, "I believe in capitalism while you believe in socialism", or was it "I don't believe you have the right to basic respect or to exist and you do"? These are vastly different contexts and change everything. It sounds like the disagreement between the speaker and her father was more the former. She seems to be saying that her father was capable of love and did love her, but she rejected him due to being immature and now has learned her lesson. If that is the case, then please for the love of the lord, make that clear!!! I'm happy she had a father who loved her. Good for her. But not everyone who "cancels" their parents has that. There are so many people who are gravely compromising their mental and physical health to maintain relationships with abusive people. And for people with this experience, this message is just enabling, flying monkey trash. And I wouldn't "cancel" the speaker for her fetishization/idealization of suffering (I suffered through this 11-minute talk), but I will write a TH-cam comment telling her to bugger off with this self-aggrandizing nonsense.
I am so glad that you have discovered compassion. Not new, people have been doing it for 100,000s of years. Although suffering alongside someone sounds a bit silly... you can sympathise and understand other people's point of view without the suffering. Not quite sure why this is a TED talk..
When you have been effectively locked up together for a year straight, almost any relationship will be strained, compassion isn't the solution when Covid has destroyed your general appreciation of or ability to put up with another person.
@@jaywhoisit4863 Absolutely, it works fine for people with a lot in common and aren't holding onto any grudges or annoyances. For those that do, it's been catastrophic.
I needed to see this. I've been really angry lately about how so many charities exclude men in the people they offer help to and I've been hearing people say that it's because of an empathy gap (that society does not have empathy for men.) So maybe there are problems, but I wanted to resist getting resentful toward women, because I know this is a problem with politicians, but not women, so I looked up to see examples of women showing empathy and compassion toward men, and this lady is a great example of that. It was so wonderful to hear her perspective and to keep up my faith in humanity.
Meh. Just made me feel bad for pushing back against my abusers. Planted the seed fourteen million times. If the message had worth, it should come with a ton of warnings and maybes.
As we continue to advance as a society there are new concepts that we learn that grandpa might not have learned in his lifetime. That is why discussion and compassion will allow each side to learn and perhaps grow.
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Her voice and how to pronunciate is so clear in every word. It is makes me easy to understand as an English learner.
I found, after 35 years, that life is short, and I've suffered long enough. Time to start living. Sometimes its not about love - its about chosing life and not sinking because of one person for the rest of your life.
"Carry out a random act of kindness with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you." ~Princess Diana
don’t let this justify any kind of abuse. physically, mentally or spiritually.
There is no way you could spin what she said into justifying abuse...
@@laurelmcphee793 someone who is watching this that may be getting abused could then use the things she says to justify the things that are happening to them.
@@haleycomer112395 true
I left my abusive ho fr fr
Just a reminder that you shouldn’t try compassionate culture with abusive people (emotionally or physically). You deserve better, it’s not your job to “fix” them. Get your distance please and focus on your mental and physical health. I’m a person with sociopathic parents. Try showing them some empathy. They take it all, never get tired of getting, but they won’t give you anything in return. Not all people change. And for the ones who do, let’s meet them again when they have already changed.
👍 100% agree
@TED. stop trying take advantage of broken hearts
Well added 🥰
That’s all my thoughts
Totally agree!
One of my favourite Ted talks. Holy cow the power in her message and voice. 💚
I cried so hard
Truth, Love and Peace for All.
I want to improve my relationship with my sister..I WILL TRY HARD AND TRY TO MAKE A CHANGE.
Yes!!! You can do it!!
This is one of the mpst profound and well spoken topics i have ever heard! Absolutely beautiful ❤️
She is right. Compassion and harmony fall short nowadays.
There's a point at which compassion runs out. Abundant compassion can become an opportunity and permission to offend again. There's nothing wrong with separating yourself from abusive people.
With like a hundred wars going on around the world how do you think we're doing so far with old ways of thinking ? Quote from the late Dave Allen let your God go with you.
Me in my teenage years would've completely disagreed with this woman, but me right now can totally feel this
Every girl expects a knight, it's hard for every guy to meet those criteria
@@renjia3504 : and not every girl deserves the knight and not every girl is a lady. U didn't mention so I thought to do that 😉
Thats way it feels bad to cancell someone. And it feels good to forgive
I talk from experience telling you the opposite is usually true.
@@joannot6706 It always depend on the case. (E.g. Abusive people). Inside your mind and body knows the truth and it has been cientifically proven the benefits of forgiveness.
May an increased understanding of the value of compassion on a personal level, also help us to shape a society in which we will be open minded to diverse thoughts and solutions.
She is indeed a seed of influence. Awesome and powerful talk. 👏🏼
I absolutely adore her outlook! We need a world of Bettys.
Be compassionate but do not stay in abuse - In case of Abuse compassion needs to start with yourself first. This is the only difference . Be Love ❤
This is one of the most amazing TED talks I’ve listened to. Thank you 🙏🏽
What a powerful and open eyes' message. Plant s seed with the best intention that you will help someone else.... We can make it true.
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For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:12
How about acceptance culture. Accepting true diversity manifesting itself as diverse thought and opinions.
Thank you Betty. For reminding folks of the options we have.
Cancel culture must end.
Otherwise our society is doomed to fail.
*Compassion is the path of the righteous, it is not available to everyone. Compassion makes a person vulnerable.*
Yes, we need to talk more about this. Cancel culture is toxic and not part of the society we would like to live in.
Exactly it makes it worse for everyone and it does so much damage without people realizing that.
Fantastic! This is now one of my favorite Ted talks. This needs to be spread and performed!
Thank you very much for changing my mindset
“Amor Fati” beautifully explained again.
Thank you so much for teaching me :)
Mrs Hart you are inspiring!
We need to cancel the cancel culture.
Tbh I'm so sick of it at this point it doesn't help anyone it makes it worse
It's important to close the eyes on the things we don't like, if we want to live a peaceful and happy life.
Thats a stupid concept.
If you don't open yourself up to the things you disagree with then you reach a box of seclusion and ignorance and if you stay in that box you gain a massive ego even for being wrong but if you open yourself up to things you can understand more,widen your views and become more intelligent
@@InMaTeofDeath ah.. That's exaggerating. I'm talking about family gathering.
@@georgewilliams1097 That's such a well written thought
What a strong woman. I like her.
Compassion is radical now. Sad...Powerful talk.
I love this talk. Really inspiring.
Wonderful talk and she looks fabulous in that dress!
Same thoughts!
Thank you!
I got it what she meant... thanks .. good influence... Amazing and emotional talk
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oh my god, this just made me cry (in a positive sense)!! It was such an empowering talk! :)
i'm crying
There isn't enough context here to appropriately decipher the message. What was the ideological difference? Was it, "I believe in capitalism while you believe in socialism", or was it "I don't believe you have the right to basic respect or to exist and you do"? These are vastly different contexts and change everything. It sounds like the disagreement between the speaker and her father was more the former. She seems to be saying that her father was capable of love and did love her, but she rejected him due to being immature and now has learned her lesson. If that is the case, then please for the love of the lord, make that clear!!!
I'm happy she had a father who loved her. Good for her. But not everyone who "cancels" their parents has that. There are so many people who are gravely compromising their mental and physical health to maintain relationships with abusive people. And for people with this experience, this message is just enabling, flying monkey trash. And I wouldn't "cancel" the speaker for her fetishization/idealization of suffering (I suffered through this 11-minute talk), but I will write a TH-cam comment telling her to bugger off with this self-aggrandizing nonsense.
Really blessed by this💕
Beautiful! ❤️
He's right, you're beautiful .
Not only relationships but the whole world I would say
Emphasis on the ones we love
To plant seed of change... Interesting talk
Totally worthy✨
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Beautiful x
I am so glad that you have discovered compassion. Not new, people have been doing it for 100,000s of years. Although suffering alongside someone sounds a bit silly... you can sympathise and understand other people's point of view without the suffering. Not quite sure why this is a TED talk..
How if they don’t see and feel any compassion!
it doesn’t need to go both ways. Walk in others shoes and learn their experiences. Then they are faced with choice of accepting compassion or not.
I appreciate her message but you can't suffer with someone who wants to deny or jeopardize your human rights.
When you have been effectively locked up together for a year straight, almost any relationship will be strained, compassion isn't the solution when Covid has destroyed your general appreciation of or ability to put up with another person.
I’m much closer with my family since lockdown. We just enjoy each other and actually have time for one another. It’s been a blessing for us.
@@jaywhoisit4863 Absolutely, it works fine for people with a lot in common and aren't holding onto any grudges or annoyances.
For those that do, it's been catastrophic.
Respect...
Wow amazing. Love from indonesian
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thats how it works
Pp
@@rartis4636 agreed
@TED. You wanna hook up babe
I had to hear this today 3.28.21. THANKS
I needed to see this. I've been really angry lately about how so many charities exclude men in the people they offer help to and I've been hearing people say that it's because of an empathy gap (that society does not have empathy for men.) So maybe there are problems, but I wanted to resist getting resentful toward women, because I know this is a problem with politicians, but not women, so I looked up to see examples of women showing empathy and compassion toward men, and this lady is a great example of that. It was so wonderful to hear her perspective and to keep up my faith in humanity.
Big Heart...😘
💛
powerful
Any thing is possible
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Maybe we can make an app to pick a phone call in mute untill we need to aplly
Athinenna chechieeeee
Cancel cancel culture... Everything will sort out...
Meh. Just made me feel bad for pushing back against my abusers.
Planted the seed fourteen million times.
If the message had worth, it should come with a ton of warnings and maybes.
Im commenting
This is music to my heart or should that be soul?
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Hi
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Nope. You don’t understand toxic people. You are assuming that some of us haven’t suffered enough.
Pog
Why do you assume grandpa needs to change and not you? He has much more life experience.
As we continue to advance as a society there are new concepts that we learn that grandpa might not have learned in his lifetime. That is why discussion and compassion will allow each side to learn and perhaps grow.
I know why some people clicked on this video.
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She looks like that women from Wakanda
Now they are trying to cancel Destiny's child "Cater To You" 😔SMH cancelling love for man😔🎯
goood gig after avengers!
Niceeeeee
Me first
Sorry, Ma'am, you go ahead and keep enjoying all the suffering. Have fun.
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“The investor’s chief problem - and even his worst enemy - is likely to be himself.”Earn 40,000$ every week from your own investment . Ask me how.
She doesn’t even have hair. What can she teach me?
Shallow Allow
So rude.
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