That's a very good question and I'm not sure that I have the answer for that. I think it's really difficult to find those tendencies in everyone. Sometimes time is the only way that you're going to figure that out. I tell clients and people who contact me for consultations that once you see the behavior it's best to know how to back out.
I was with a psychopath for six years. It was trauamatic and horrific for all six years but I learned countless valuable lessons from that relationship
@@mitzipulido5658 as a female with aspd .. it is very difficult. difficult for the one with this personality type/disorder and much worse for the romantic partner. i see a psychologist who specializes in attachment.. she’s great but I don’t feel much improvement except superficially .. i’m optimistic though. good things usually take time.
This is a great video. I want to point out, though, that psychopaths actually have quite good "theory of mind". They just don't care enough to alter their plan and actions because the reward is more important to them.
Can we talk about how psychopaths like to terrorize and play with you, especially when they start to get bored or agitated. Or when they feel they’re losing control over you. The mind games, the subtle clues, and riddles that make you question their sincerity, playfully allowing their mask to fall off and quickly recovering, trolling, glibness, glee, creating grand scenes and false narratives and using third parties to draw you into playing that part or reacting in a way they predict, making you feel safe and loved then suddenly making a cruel or threatening joke or saying something deeply unsettling and difficult to interpret. This is the brunt of my trauma and has been what’s hindered my recovery.
Can't take anyone seriously who thinks they're losing control they never had. They're toddlers living everlasting moments of temper tantrums from not getting their way 😂
You've obviously gotten hold of the Team Malevolent's official playbook ... the Section on Passive-Aggressive gambits, at least. PS: What it hinders in me is my trust in them. Great Note!
@@Justhangingout90 I get it. 100%. I remember one night when my ex husband kept showing up at the places I was at. When I left the final place, embarrassed, because he was being incredibly creepy and rude. So, I went walking, trying to make it to my cousin's house and he followed me through a cut in the woods and I was crying and kept telling him to "stay away from me-leave me alone-etc..." And I was hysterical. Instead of backing off and letting me go, giving me space, like any normal human being capable of love and empathy for his wife would have done, He just grabbed me, yanked me up off my feet and threw me down on the ground, on my back and straddled me. Then he lifted his arms up in the air with hands clasped together and said in the most evil-sounding voice, "NOW YOU DIE!" He brought his hands down as if he was gonna bash my face in and at the last millisecond, he separated them so that they hit the ground on either side of my head. I think at this point in time, I was so accustomed to his mess I wasn't even afraid or shocked but I was now beyond the hysterical-frustrated-angry I had been and I just glared at him and said, calmly in a low voice, "get the F--- off of me, Sean." At that moment I loathed him and I think I'd also just given up on caring. This....demon...then jumped up off of me and started skipping around me, giggling, like an elf. This is only one of the incidents where his behavior was beyond bizarre. It was living in hell. Now he has our children and control over my late father's money, their inheritance, and my former doctor and seems to be doing very well for himself. I am an alienated mother.
Please please please, recommend family counseling for any troubled boys. My brother was scapegoated by my Narcissist Mom and Narcissist Step Dad. He showed some of the levels you’ve mentioned as a child but surprisingly he ended up turning that anger into himself and was on and off drugs. His major issues seemed to be coupling with Narcissist abusive women who stressed him out. He would also overeat. Somehow because of his intelligence and counseling he became a clean sober OSHA inspector at 50, but passed shortly afterwards from a stroke. I learned all about him after he passed. I kept my distance from him as an adult because I was told he was toxic. He was always kind to me when we did talk as an adult. Please treat the whole family. I don’t think many people are born this way and these boys are suffering. It’s been passed down to the next generation of my family. My nephew was a brilliant, sensitive kid who changed once my Narcissistic sister and his Narcissistic step father abuse him and make it look like it’s him. Last I heard he was suicidal. I was in the family role of invisible child.
Thank you for sharing this. I am not clear if this regards your brother or nephew because you mentioned both. But I am sorry for your loss. It's difficult, believe it or not, to treat males going down this path. I often recommend individual and family counseling but ALL parties must be willing to tackle issues, admit faults, take responsibility, follow the treatment course, and want to change. I'll talk more about this Wednesday.
My "ex" scored 38/40 on the PCL-R. He tried to kill me by strangulation after I EP'd him and took control back of my finances. In fact, he strangled me after my first EP, too, but the attack on Sept. 5, 2020 was murderous, since I'd taken my money, bank card, etc., back. He was adopted. No ACES, no trauma. Early behavioral problems, criminal versatility, glib, superficial charm, grandiose sense of self, lacking empathy, w. callous disregard for the rights of others, reckless, impulsive, yet cunning and strategic, pathological lying...assaultive, of course, yet coldly so, using it as a means of coercive control. He smokes Crack, has killed my cats, gambles, robs, scams, commits frauds...and is free! The court released him on his own recognizance.
I finally realized my dad is a psychopath. Both of my ex's are as well. (Actually diagnosed ASPD) very scary because they are the calmest people I know especially under stress. (Dad not so much)
Yes, it is very scary. Some research on parent-child relationships points to the idea that perhaps the child, who has grown up under a sociopathic or psychopathic father, will likely date one or marry one. That's even more scary.
@@TherapistTamaraHill they are very dangerous. No remorse, compulsive liars, delusional, and they hide behind your image in the community so people automatically trust them. I was raised by my father and will have to be in therapy for the rest of my life now that I understand what happened to me. Thank you for responding.
@@yazzi5087 We have to go no contact for our own safety and that means with the flying monkeys/enablers etc.They will bring you down and affect your health/life/happiness etc etc.You will be indoctrinated in the way they behave and will attract more of these types if you don't recognise them in other people and their personality traits.They are evil.Speaking from experience.Be careful.Good luck.
What if you're talking to a family member and you mention something you did that was dumb, or you mention something silly and or unflattering about yourself like you fell down the stairs. And they remember it, twist it into something evil and use it against you at a later date when they are angry with you? Is that considered psychopathic behavior? What about adults who use bullying behavior to make you feel bad about yourself, just to (they feel) have power over you? Someone who gets so angry, that they do those things and get angry, mean, verbally abusive and scream over problems that could otherwise be talked about and worked out? What about people who keep bringing up something from the past that you did but have apologized for, haven't done since, but they keep bringing it up out of the blue? Is there a name for those people and is there a way to get through to them so they don't keep treating you that way?
Wow this sounds just like my ex that is exactly what he did to me for the whole year and half in our relationship smh it was a nightmare I actually never experienced anything like it in my life
I was with an evil psychopath from 17-23 I knew he couldn’t feel my pain when he hurt me again and again and again so I would beat tf out of him so hard cause I wanted him to feel my pain, that relationship scarred me!
I've been spending a lot of time with a person I've developed quite as strong attachment to, unfortunately he is a sociopath. He knows that I'm a domestic violence survivor, and he's constantly trying to go to me into attacking him. He's always portraying me as the abuser even though he knows that I'm not able to hurt anybody, I'm only 5'5 and 115 lb. He's 6'4 and over 200 lb and he lifts weights, he can do 300 push-ups at any time of day, and he's constantly making veiled threats and seeing how easy it is for him to get a gun and come back here and rob me and all this stuff. He always says that he would never do that and he just says it when he's under the influence, but it's still scary. I honestly don't believe he would ever hurt me but I'm autistic, and I'm pretty naive about this type of stuff. I've been an abusive relationship since I was 14 years old and I'm 42. I've only dated one person who didn't beat me up, and I wasn't even attracted to him. He had severe PTSD from being abused as a child himself, and he was not only 10 years older than me but he was from a completely different lifestyle, he used to be a street punk rocker and have all these just piercings and stuff that I wasn't into. I am into more hip hop and graffiti stuff, and he was really into this subculture of punk rock and (what I called) gothic rave music. Either way I tried to make it work out, I just knew back then after I had completed my EMDR therapy then in order to avoid another abusive relationship, that I needed to date somebody who was a complete opposite of the type of men I usually dated. I was with him for almost 8 years, unfortunately he had that PTSD I mentioned along with severe depression and I ended up financially supporting him, like I do for every one of my boyfriends. That's part of why I'm attracted to the guy in some strange way, even though it's not romantic, I'm still attracted platonically to my friend who is a sociopath because not only have all of my best friends died at this point in my life, but I'm a single mother and I don't make a lot of money. He sells drugs and does a bunch of shit and he definitely helps me out with money when I need it, he's bought me groceries and generally just has played the role as a partner for me and I've just felt so grateful. I know it's stupid to be grateful for a sociopath who gets intoxicated and has epic rants, but for myself who has lost over 30 people including having a miscarriage, breaking up with my abusive ex, cutting ofh my abusive narcissistic cousin and ending that friendship after almost 30 years (she betrayed me and was talking bad about me during a time I was trying to leave my abuser and saying how stupid I was), I was diagnosed with autism that same year and I lost all three of my grandparents as well as my career that I walked away from due to the abuse I was experiencing at home. Anyways to make a long story short, my sociopathic friend has bragged openly about how he has made people commit acts of violence against other people just for his pleasure. He told me that he took my car keys on accident one night, which I know he accidentally took them, but he did it also add on that he had told me that night that he was going to throw them across the street (which caused me to get out of my bed in the middle of the night crying and running out into the street bare feet in 25 degrees - only to find him standing outside my apartment complex smirking holding the keys and dangling them in front of me. He was laughing, said he just wanted to make me run and see how fast I could come. This was after a horrible night where he had called me bitch over and over, he was calling me stupid and he had spit in my face. I'm just glad that he's going back to the state that he came out here from as soon as he's done with his domestic violence Court cases - something else that he lied to me about. He told me they were false charges that a neighbor had called on him, but I found out that they are not false and that he is facing serious consequences. I'm just really fed up. This whole thing started because I wanted to be his friend, he's a skateboarder and we have mutual friends in common. I'm single and I thought I could be friends with benefits with him, he's also single, we are sexually attracted to each other for sure. But then he got very critical during sex, first he complained about wearing a condom, then he said I felt clenched up. I told him that he was the first encounter I've had in over 5 years and that I was a domestic violence survivor and I wanted to make sure I felt comfortable, I said even though he made me feel comfortable, my body was still really tense. Instead of trying to relax me he started making fun of me and telling me that he didn't want to have sex with me. He was complaining about the smell of the condom and saying that I wasn't "fun at all". I told him that I'm autistic and he demanded to see my "papers", like he was a prison Warden or something. It's just downright bizarre. I love his happy aside, but the violent side I can't stand. He's a complete package though, you cannot take one aspect of his personality away from the other. They are so closely down together. That's why I stay in touch with him in the first place. I've worked as an lmhp and I've been an abusive relationships before and know all of the red flags. The red flags are what intrigued me because I've never seen anybody wearing their childhood trauma so clearly projected upon their persona. He constantly is comparing me to his mom, he tells me how his mom threw him down the stairs and that's why he has a dent in his head, he told me how his dad cut somebody's throat in front of him and watch him bleed out when he was only nine. I feel a lot of empathy for my friend, but I know that it's very dangerous. That's why he's not in my apartment right now! LOL I shouldn't have even told him that I had suicidal ideations after my second baby. I believe that he's more psychopathic than sociopathic, and that he would hold on to that type of information for a long time. If he potentially hurt somebody, he could use a statement like that that against the victim posthumously.
Yeah that reactional abuse that they trigger out of people who normally would not do those things but re living on hypertensive flight and fight mode due to response is very real. I experienced the same thing
@@Mandolin523 I'm so sorry that you also experienced that. I just had a nightmare about him last night, haven't seen him in 5 years 🙃 it's so traumatic
I'm sorry. Any time I am posed with the question "should I leave?" I always reply "I think you know that answer and want to hear me validate you." Only you know and deep down will you know.
Incredible!, you’re so good!.. I think I was dating a depressive and bipolar disorder girlfriend but!.. now I can understand she have more things as psychopath than bipolar.. can you made a video explaining HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE DATING A PSYCHO? Same 20 signals!.. that was excellent!.. and HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE DATING A BIPOLAR? Same 20 signals!… and HOW DO YOU KNOW ID YOU ARE DATING A HISTRIONIC?
Thank you for explaining this, it explains the narcissist ex husband. I’m glad I found and subscribed to your channel. I have to get my children into a better counselor along with myself. Thanks again for helping others and yes this is very helpful. Love and light to everyone and take care everyone 🥰😊💛💚
Hi Tamara, I have a BA in Social Science/ Psychology and am thinking about going back for my Masters Degree. Just want to know what your degree is in and what certifications is necessary to own my own practice? Thanks
After 49 years, I realize that I'm a psychopath. I am evil. It finally took my wife to leave me to realize this. I always knew I was different but I didn't realize how bad I was. I hurt everyone and didn't care or show remorse. Now I'm cutoff from everyone and everybody is now happy. I lied about everything. I'm now being punished by the law and by God. I pray for change now that I know I'm a psychopath. I am now cutoff from God. He changed my looks and I look scary now. People wont even look at me to talk and I don't know how to talk to people anymore. I'm so lonely now and look back in futility as I don't know how I lived such a bad life and not know it. People would be nice and just let me do what I was doing or not punish me for my wrongdoing. I lied to every psychiatrist jyst to get pills. I pray now to change but God does not give me another chance. I can't feel anything like smelling and taste and feel temperature change. I tested negative for COVID. I pray butt I know God doesn't want to hear me. God was to make us in his image so I don't know why I was made this way. Nobody wants to go through life like this. All day long I lay in a twisted position and feel like my chest is sinking in. I'm miserable with no hope in sight. My brain doesn't process medication as I tried to overdose many times and pills don't work on me. I feel nothing. I don't sleep I'm the sense that I feel like I'm awake even in sleep as it is one dream of being awake. I don't want to go to hell but I see no hope out of this. I don't know what to do now. I can't believe that God created me.
You’re still a valuable person and you are worthy of life. I say this as an ex of a horrible evil psychopath I’m sorry you were dealt this hand of cards but you are still human, hope you feel better
You need to see a psychiatrist for your mood disorders and then speak to them about getting ongoing CBT and DBT to help mitigate the psychopathic traits that are repelling people and thus the ability to have successful relationships and validate yourself existence through them.
These people have the ability but they lack the intrinsic motivation to see affective empathy as important, unless it's momentarily beneficial. That's one reason they are so good at manipulation. You cannot control what you don't understand. No doubt they have impairments after not using affective empathy consistently to the point of automatic responses. It's a shame we can't track development closely enough to know if it's just the "you don't use it, you lose it" effect on brain anatomy or a mixture of defects and environmental stimulus. It's said you cannot turn off one emotion and leave on others. Some theorists believe the trauma most disordered people go through causes them to withdraw from feelings of compassion and openness to intimacy to avoid pain internalized and observable in others.
Hi there I’m new to your channel but my question is that I came out of very difficult relationship ( was long term) and I got over time mentally very unwell as I didn’t understand why certain behaviour’s happened and always behind closed doors but the man was very pleasant outside but as I got more and more unwell mentally one day I crawled under the bed of fear and when he found me there he was attacked me with words and used sensitive spot against me( my spirituality) and I believed him and started to cry on the ground and he laughed ( as of pleasure over absolute control and power over me) and got sexually aroused from it. What do you think that he was possibly narcissist or sociopath? I really don’t know. Thank you God, I’m now finally free from the monster clutches. Thank you Ivana
HI Ivana, welcome to the channel! Glad to have you. I'm sorry this has happened to you. He sounds like a sadistic and sick man. I can't say that he is a sociopath because I don't know him or have a list of all of his behaviors. But I can say that he definitely has a character pathology -- meaning that his personality is the major problem and may or may not be changed by therapy alone. I'm very glad you got out of that. I often feel that only God can help in these kind of cases because the trauma, the codependency, and the fear the victim feels can be great.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you for your reply, I appreciate it! How these people are so sick, who is made them so sick and cruel and for what? How long do people take to recover? I been diagnosed with cPTSD and now I’m on disability pension but I’m palliative care RN and I’m also trained dietitian and diabetes educator but this man made me disabled and I used to love my palliative care nursing so much but doctors and psychologists said that I’m not ready to work yet. But I should not really complain as they paying me for psychiatric care and psychotherapy also, I thought one year ago that I lost my sanity and asked doctors if is reversible, I was mess mentally, sorry Tamara I used to , when walking outside, turn around to ensure if I will see my shadow- as is “ do I really exist “ or sometimes look at myself in the mirror if I will see my reflection? What causes that- gaslighting? Pure horror! Thank you for interesting content in your videos! Love Ivana
You're welcome Ivana! I'm so glad you are on the channel. Feel free to join me live on Fridays after 6pm. There is a very supportive chat box too! And as far as recovery, it could take some time depending on how much trauma you have experienced and why. Most people regain some form of independence and healing back after a few years. But again, this just depends on what the trauma is and how long you have been impacted. I can only imagine how stressful this has all been for you. Tomorrow I will be discussing re-traumatization and re-experiencing trauma which may touch on your question here. Stay tuned.
Every job I applied to with paper application I told a worker to call the manager for an immediate interview 😂 I knew something I had to be some devil triad or like that
But isn't it plain lack of upbringing: growing up with zero discipline, with no habit of self-analysis and self-reflection, and growing up in a physically unsafe environment and in mentally abusive environment? When you allow a child anything without any consequences: not correcting selfish behavior nor rewarding proper behavior, but just letting them grow wild/be raised by the streets or abusive family environment... aren't such circumstances going to naturally result in psychopathy....rather than having a lack of mental medicines? Normally, when we are born, we don't respect anyone naturally. If we don't like something, we scream and yell. Respectful behavior: manners, consideration, politeness are not inborn. We have to be trained to say "thank you", to not interrupt others, to be patient....just like we have to be trained to take a shower and brush our teeth every day. Without such training, we just grow into selfish and savage homo-animals running around..... So I believe psychopathy is a natural result of growing up with no restrictions on anything and no discipline....
Sounds like Sociopathy to me. But I'm not the licensed Professional here. Anyway, Your insights are clearly well-reasoned and articulated ... in my opinion. So, I Thank You for sharing them. 🎼TD
Great Video. Do you offer tele health sessions? Also,if taking “Hydrocodone” made a psychopath feel happy throughout the day. Would that be a good medication for him to be on?
Are people with psychopathy are undeserving of love? What does should one do if they find themselves in a relationship with a psychopath who isn’t violent towards one?
Psychopaths have many demonic spirits inside of them and around them. There are many forms of violence. The psychopath will show you the devil exist, after they have mirrored and charmed you. They will push you as far as you let them and their ultimate high is getting someone to kill themself, while maintaining their own image.. Pray for them. Do them no harm, but don’t feel sorry for them. Many have tried to help them and all are punished. Anyone with arms can lift the Bible. Give them no reaction or personal involvement. Cheers, God Bless!🙏
You have to understand the nature of relationships with psychopaths and sociopaths is completely transactional. They can display acts of love but it's rarely that deep. The sociopath has more capabilities to have selective empathy and genuine concern than the psychopath.
are you really trying to say that untreated ADHD is a potential precursor to ASPD or psychopathy lol?? like, do you have numbers or a source on that because otherwise it seems weird to essentially say that there's some direct correlation between ADHD and antisocial behavior
I love when I'm challenged sometimes. It's educational for everyone. 😉 1. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2637402/ 2.pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24284138/
It makes perfect sense, to me. The 2.5 y.o. On a LEASH, for his own Safety and that of Other's, becomes a CD kid, who goes on to an Adult Life of Crime because he's developed a slew of Personality Disorders. Along with a whole lot of faulty thinking. Because he was just as Dyslexic as he was severely ADHD! So, he never learned to learn. To be rational or logical. With no critical thinking skills, how can one be logical?
They'll literally threaten you, abuse you, tell you you're ugly or just cyber stalk you and then turn around to you and the biggest insult they can think of is, "oh you like the same popular movie i like" (a movie that literally made the most money ever in the WORLD because it is that popular and not unique). Bruh you are evil work on yourself and stop the failed comparisons of all the bad things i did like watching a movie or liking a shape🤣
Well, that's a good point. But research does suggest more men are psychopaths than women. And women tend to show a different personality profile than men. Because I have a video on female sociopaths (th-cam.com/video/HXE51E6HiHk/w-d-xo.html), I had to do one for men too. Hope that makes sense!
Have you shared space with a suspected psychopath? I have.
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I share a headspace with one.. uh.. oops, lol
How can one have a healthy romantic relationship with someone with these tendencies?? And how can you avoid reinforcing those tendencies?
That's a very good question and I'm not sure that I have the answer for that.
I think it's really difficult to find those tendencies in everyone. Sometimes time is the only way that you're going to figure that out. I tell clients and people who contact me for consultations that once you see the behavior it's best to know how to back out.
I was with a psychopath for six years. It was trauamatic and horrific for all six years but I learned countless valuable lessons from that relationship
@@mitzipulido5658 as a female with aspd .. it is very difficult. difficult for the one with this personality type/disorder and much worse for the romantic partner. i see a psychologist who specializes in attachment.. she’s great but I don’t feel much improvement except superficially .. i’m optimistic though. good things usually take time.
Inability to repect the rights of others was the perfect characteristics trait of a psychopath. All of these are spot on
They are so difficult to deal with. You will, however, know them when you see them.
Living with a psychopath will turn any apartment/condo into a haunted house. PURE HORROR.
Very true. Agree.
@Paradigm Climb Precisely.
Yes
Got that right
This is a great video. I want to point out, though, that psychopaths actually have quite good "theory of mind". They just don't care enough to alter their plan and actions because the reward is more important to them.
Thank you Andrew!!
Can we talk about how psychopaths like to terrorize and play with you, especially when they start to get bored or agitated. Or when they feel they’re losing control over you. The mind games, the subtle clues, and riddles that make you question their sincerity, playfully allowing their mask to fall off and quickly recovering, trolling, glibness, glee, creating grand scenes and false narratives and using third parties to draw you into playing that part or reacting in a way they predict, making you feel safe and loved then suddenly making a cruel or threatening joke or saying something deeply unsettling and difficult to interpret. This is the brunt of my trauma and has been what’s hindered my recovery.
Can't take anyone seriously who thinks they're losing control they never had. They're toddlers living everlasting moments of temper tantrums from not getting their way 😂
You've obviously gotten hold of the Team Malevolent's official playbook ... the Section on Passive-Aggressive gambits, at least.
PS: What it hinders in me is my trust in them.
Great Note!
@@Justhangingout90 I get it. 100%. I remember one night when my ex husband kept showing up at the places I was at. When I left the final place, embarrassed, because he was being incredibly creepy and rude. So, I went walking, trying to make it to my cousin's house and he followed me through a cut in the woods and I was crying and kept telling him to "stay away from me-leave me alone-etc..." And I was hysterical. Instead of backing off and letting me go, giving me space, like any normal human being capable of love and empathy for his wife would have done, He just grabbed me, yanked me up off my feet and threw me down on the ground, on my back and straddled me. Then he lifted his arms up in the air with hands clasped together and said in the most evil-sounding voice, "NOW YOU DIE!" He brought his hands down as if he was gonna bash my face in and at the last millisecond, he separated them so that they hit the ground on either side of my head. I think at this point in time, I was so accustomed to his mess I wasn't even afraid or shocked but I was now beyond the hysterical-frustrated-angry I had been and I just glared at him and said, calmly in a low voice, "get the F--- off of me, Sean." At that moment I loathed him and I think I'd also just given up on caring. This....demon...then jumped up off of me and started skipping around me, giggling, like an elf. This is only one of the incidents where his behavior was beyond bizarre. It was living in hell. Now he has our children and control over my late father's money, their inheritance, and my former doctor and seems to be doing very well for himself. I am an alienated mother.
I just discovered you and absolutely love the content!
I don’t see enough on this subject!❤️
Welcome aboard! And thank you 😊
Please please please, recommend family counseling for any troubled boys. My brother was scapegoated by my Narcissist Mom and Narcissist Step Dad. He showed some of the levels you’ve mentioned as a child but surprisingly he ended up turning that anger into himself and was on and off drugs. His major issues seemed to be coupling with Narcissist abusive women who stressed him out. He would also overeat. Somehow because of his intelligence and counseling he became a clean sober OSHA inspector at 50, but passed shortly afterwards from a stroke. I learned all about him after he passed. I kept my distance from him as an adult because I was told he was toxic. He was always kind to me when we did talk as an adult. Please treat the whole family. I don’t think many people are born this way and these boys are suffering. It’s been passed down to the next generation of my family. My nephew was a brilliant, sensitive kid who changed once my Narcissistic sister and his Narcissistic step father abuse him and make it look like it’s him. Last I heard he was suicidal. I was in the family role of invisible child.
Thank you for sharing this. I am not clear if this regards your brother or nephew because you mentioned both. But I am sorry for your loss.
It's difficult, believe it or not, to treat males going down this path. I often recommend individual and family counseling but ALL parties must be willing to tackle issues, admit faults, take responsibility, follow the treatment course, and want to change.
I'll talk more about this Wednesday.
Támara Hill, MS NCC CCTP LPC Both, my sister is repeating the pattern. Thank you 🙏
My "ex" scored 38/40 on the PCL-R. He tried to kill me by strangulation after I EP'd him and took control back of my finances. In fact, he strangled me after my first EP, too, but the attack on Sept. 5, 2020 was murderous, since I'd taken my money, bank card, etc., back. He was adopted. No ACES, no trauma. Early behavioral problems, criminal versatility, glib, superficial charm, grandiose sense of self, lacking empathy, w. callous disregard for the rights of others, reckless, impulsive, yet cunning and strategic, pathological lying...assaultive, of course, yet coldly so, using it as a means of coercive control. He smokes Crack, has killed my cats, gambles, robs, scams, commits frauds...and is free! The court released him on his own recognizance.
I finally realized my dad is a psychopath. Both of my ex's are as well. (Actually diagnosed ASPD) very scary because they are the calmest people I know especially under stress. (Dad not so much)
Yes, it is very scary. Some research on parent-child relationships points to the idea that perhaps the child, who has grown up under a sociopathic or psychopathic father, will likely date one or marry one. That's even more scary.
@@TherapistTamaraHill they are very dangerous. No remorse, compulsive liars, delusional, and they hide behind your image in the community so people automatically trust them. I was raised by my father and will have to be in therapy for the rest of my life now that I understand what happened to me. Thank you for responding.
@@yazzi5087 We have to go no contact for our own safety and that means with the flying monkeys/enablers etc.They will bring you down and affect your health/life/happiness etc etc.You will be indoctrinated in the way they behave and will attract more of these types if you don't recognise them in other people and their personality traits.They are evil.Speaking from experience.Be careful.Good luck.
I can't wait for this one! Your videos have been very detailed lately. Love that🤓🤗
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Back from vacation. Missed your videos. I will put this video in my personal folder to be periodically reviewed. Great topic. Thanks.
Welcome back!!
Thanks for watching, as always!
your video really answered some questions i had about sociopath and psychopath
I'm glad to hear that! Thanks for watching!
Thank you for making these videos you hit the Nail on the head every single time!
Thank you! And you're welcome 😊
What if you're talking to a family member and you mention something you did that was dumb, or you mention something silly and or unflattering about yourself like you fell down the stairs. And they remember it, twist it into something evil and use it against you at a later date when they are angry with you? Is that considered psychopathic behavior? What about adults who use bullying behavior to make you feel bad about yourself, just to (they feel) have power over you? Someone who gets so angry, that they do those things and get angry, mean, verbally abusive and scream over problems that could otherwise be talked about and worked out? What about people who keep bringing up something from the past that you did but have apologized for, haven't done since, but they keep bringing it up out of the blue? Is there a name for those people and is there a way to get through to them so they don't keep treating you that way?
all of the examples you give could be characterized as sociopathic behavior in a mild form. It is much worse for those who have all of the traits!
Wow this sounds just like my ex that is exactly what he did to me for the whole year and half in our relationship smh it was a nightmare I actually never experienced anything like it in my life
I was with an evil psychopath from 17-23 I knew he couldn’t feel my pain when he hurt me again and again and again so I would beat tf out of him so hard cause I wanted him to feel my pain, that relationship scarred me!
I'm so sorry. If he fits the description you give, he's definitely a sociopath, narcissist, or psychopath. Sometimes it's hard to determine which one.
I've been spending a lot of time with a person I've developed quite as strong attachment to, unfortunately he is a sociopath. He knows that I'm a domestic violence survivor, and he's constantly trying to go to me into attacking him. He's always portraying me as the abuser even though he knows that I'm not able to hurt anybody, I'm only 5'5 and 115 lb. He's 6'4 and over 200 lb and he lifts weights, he can do 300 push-ups at any time of day, and he's constantly making veiled threats and seeing how easy it is for him to get a gun and come back here and rob me and all this stuff. He always says that he would never do that and he just says it when he's under the influence, but it's still scary. I honestly don't believe he would ever hurt me but I'm autistic, and I'm pretty naive about this type of stuff. I've been an abusive relationship since I was 14 years old and I'm 42. I've only dated one person who didn't beat me up, and I wasn't even attracted to him. He had severe PTSD from being abused as a child himself, and he was not only 10 years older than me but he was from a completely different lifestyle, he used to be a street punk rocker and have all these just piercings and stuff that I wasn't into. I am into more hip hop and graffiti stuff, and he was really into this subculture of punk rock and (what I called) gothic rave music. Either way I tried to make it work out, I just knew back then after I had completed my EMDR therapy then in order to avoid another abusive relationship, that I needed to date somebody who was a complete opposite of the type of men I usually dated. I was with him for almost 8 years, unfortunately he had that PTSD I mentioned along with severe depression and I ended up financially supporting him, like I do for every one of my boyfriends. That's part of why I'm attracted to the guy in some strange way, even though it's not romantic, I'm still attracted platonically to my friend who is a sociopath because not only have all of my best friends died at this point in my life, but I'm a single mother and I don't make a lot of money. He sells drugs and does a bunch of shit and he definitely helps me out with money when I need it, he's bought me groceries and generally just has played the role as a partner for me and I've just felt so grateful. I know it's stupid to be grateful for a sociopath who gets intoxicated and has epic rants, but for myself who has lost over 30 people including having a miscarriage, breaking up with my abusive ex, cutting ofh my abusive narcissistic cousin and ending that friendship after almost 30 years (she betrayed me and was talking bad about me during a time I was trying to leave my abuser and saying how stupid I was), I was diagnosed with autism that same year and I lost all three of my grandparents as well as my career that I walked away from due to the abuse I was experiencing at home. Anyways to make a long story short, my sociopathic friend has bragged openly about how he has made people commit acts of violence against other people just for his pleasure. He told me that he took my car keys on accident one night, which I know he accidentally took them, but he did it also add on that he had told me that night that he was going to throw them across the street (which caused me to get out of my bed in the middle of the night crying and running out into the street bare feet in 25 degrees - only to find him standing outside my apartment complex smirking holding the keys and dangling them in front of me. He was laughing, said he just wanted to make me run and see how fast I could come. This was after a horrible night where he had called me bitch over and over, he was calling me stupid and he had spit in my face. I'm just glad that he's going back to the state that he came out here from as soon as he's done with his domestic violence Court cases - something else that he lied to me about. He told me they were false charges that a neighbor had called on him, but I found out that they are not false and that he is facing serious consequences. I'm just really fed up. This whole thing started because I wanted to be his friend, he's a skateboarder and we have mutual friends in common. I'm single and I thought I could be friends with benefits with him, he's also single, we are sexually attracted to each other for sure. But then he got very critical during sex, first he complained about wearing a condom, then he said I felt clenched up. I told him that he was the first encounter I've had in over 5 years and that I was a domestic violence survivor and I wanted to make sure I felt comfortable, I said even though he made me feel comfortable, my body was still really tense. Instead of trying to relax me he started making fun of me and telling me that he didn't want to have sex with me. He was complaining about the smell of the condom and saying that I wasn't "fun at all". I told him that I'm autistic and he demanded to see my "papers", like he was a prison Warden or something. It's just downright bizarre. I love his happy aside, but the violent side I can't stand. He's a complete package though, you cannot take one aspect of his personality away from the other. They are so closely down together. That's why I stay in touch with him in the first place. I've worked as an lmhp and I've been an abusive relationships before and know all of the red flags. The red flags are what intrigued me because I've never seen anybody wearing their childhood trauma so clearly projected upon their persona. He constantly is comparing me to his mom, he tells me how his mom threw him down the stairs and that's why he has a dent in his head, he told me how his dad cut somebody's throat in front of him and watch him bleed out when he was only nine. I feel a lot of empathy for my friend, but I know that it's very dangerous. That's why he's not in my apartment right now! LOL I shouldn't have even told him that I had suicidal ideations after my second baby. I believe that he's more psychopathic than sociopathic, and that he would hold on to that type of information for a long time. If he potentially hurt somebody, he could use a statement like that that against the victim posthumously.
Yeah that reactional abuse that they trigger out of people who normally would not do those things but re living on hypertensive flight and fight mode due to response is very real. I experienced the same thing
@@Mandolin523 I'm so sorry that you also experienced that. I just had a nightmare about him last night, haven't seen him in 5 years 🙃 it's so traumatic
@@Pugetwitch oh my god I am so sorry, reading that was absolutely devastating. Are you ok?
Thank you so much. This is helpful!
That's great!! Thanks for watching.
The face thing! That is what sticks with me about this guy: his face was blank. So weird!!
It is weird for sure!
Yes he just tried to kill me...I can't find resources in my area. Should I leave? I'm not functioning well the longer I don't feel safe.
I'm sorry.
Any time I am posed with the question "should I leave?" I always reply "I think you know that answer and want to hear me validate you." Only you know and deep down will you know.
Do you want to live?
Try EMDR* (For Vet's PTSD+?) with a "Trauma Therapist" for a bit, too. ... In case, they've triggered Complex/ "c-PTSD" in you.
I left but i feel more unsafe living out of my car in a state I know no one.
These are excellent videos. Thank you for making them!
You're very welcome!🙂 Thanks for watching.
Thanks for the sharing, that’s extremely useful.
You're welcome!!
My nephew has that .. it's crazy I called it.
Incredible!, you’re so good!.. I think I was dating a depressive and bipolar disorder girlfriend but!.. now I can understand she have more things as psychopath than bipolar.. can you made a video explaining HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE DATING A PSYCHO? Same 20 signals!.. that was excellent!.. and HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE DATING A BIPOLAR? Same 20 signals!… and HOW DO YOU KNOW ID YOU ARE DATING A HISTRIONIC?
Trying for a hat trick 👀 😄
Excellent. You have a beautiful mind!
Thank you 💖
Thank you for explaining this, it explains the narcissist ex husband.
I’m glad I found and subscribed to your channel. I have to get my children into a better counselor along with myself.
Thanks again for helping others and yes this is very helpful.
Love and light to everyone and take care everyone 🥰😊💛💚
Hi Kendra, welcome! Thanks so much. I'm glad to hear this is helpful. 😊
Yep he got them all
That's terrifying. I'm sorry.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Ive resorted to reporting his domestic terrorist traits on a couple channels, whom should I call do you think? Prob FBI.
Hi Tamara,
I have a BA in Social Science/
Psychology and am thinking about going back for my Masters Degree. Just want to know what your degree is in and what certifications is necessary to own my own practice? Thanks
After 49 years, I realize that I'm a psychopath. I am evil. It finally took my wife to leave me to realize this. I always knew I was different but I didn't realize how bad I was. I hurt everyone and didn't care or show remorse. Now I'm cutoff from everyone and everybody is now happy. I lied about everything. I'm now being punished by the law and by God. I pray for change now that I know I'm a psychopath. I am now cutoff from God. He changed my looks and I look scary now. People wont even look at me to talk and I don't know how to talk to people anymore. I'm so lonely now and look back in futility as I don't know how I lived such a bad life and not know it. People would be nice and just let me do what I was doing or not punish me for my wrongdoing. I lied to every psychiatrist jyst to get pills. I pray now to change but God does not give me another chance. I can't feel anything like smelling and taste and feel temperature change. I tested negative for COVID. I pray butt I know God doesn't want to hear me. God was to make us in his image so I don't know why I was made this way. Nobody wants to go through life like this. All day long I lay in a twisted position and feel like my chest is sinking in. I'm miserable with no hope in sight. My brain doesn't process medication as I tried to overdose many times and pills don't work on me. I feel nothing. I don't sleep I'm the sense that I feel like I'm awake even in sleep as it is one dream of being awake. I don't want to go to hell but I see no hope out of this. I don't know what to do now. I can't believe that God created me.
You’re still a valuable person and you are worthy of life. I say this as an ex of a horrible evil psychopath I’m sorry you were dealt this hand of cards but you are still human, hope you feel better
@JJ honestly maybe or maybe not I just get really nice when I’m wine drunk lmao
@JJ it’s just so hard to read and not feel empathy. Idk it’s weird
If you are truly honest, get to know Jesus the Son of God and why He came to this world, gave His life do you could be a changed human being.
You need to see a psychiatrist for your mood disorders and then speak to them about getting ongoing CBT and DBT to help mitigate the psychopathic traits that are repelling people and thus the ability to have successful relationships and validate yourself existence through them.
If you have to deal with this for a long period of time would you start to incorporate some of this?
Why not? Pretty lengthy amount of time not to. If not 🔫
Concerning
These people have the ability but they lack the intrinsic motivation to see affective empathy as important, unless it's momentarily beneficial. That's one reason they are so good at manipulation. You cannot control what you don't understand. No doubt they have impairments after not using affective empathy consistently to the point of automatic responses. It's a shame we can't track development closely enough to know if it's just the "you don't use it, you lose it" effect on brain anatomy or a mixture of defects and environmental stimulus. It's said you cannot turn off one emotion and leave on others. Some theorists believe the trauma most disordered people go through causes them to withdraw from feelings of compassion and openness to intimacy to avoid pain internalized and observable in others.
Well said!! Thank you for sharing your view on this.
Hi there I’m new to your channel but my question is that I came out of very difficult relationship ( was long term) and I got over time mentally very unwell as I didn’t understand why certain behaviour’s happened and always behind closed doors but the man was very pleasant outside but as I got more and more unwell mentally one day I crawled under the bed of fear and when he found me there he was attacked me with words and used sensitive spot against me( my spirituality) and I believed him and started to cry on the ground and he laughed ( as of pleasure over absolute control and power over me) and got sexually aroused from it. What do you think that he was possibly narcissist or sociopath? I really don’t know. Thank you God, I’m now finally free from the monster clutches. Thank you Ivana
HI Ivana, welcome to the channel! Glad to have you.
I'm sorry this has happened to you. He sounds like a sadistic and sick man. I can't say that he is a sociopath because I don't know him or have a list of all of his behaviors. But I can say that he definitely has a character pathology -- meaning that his personality is the major problem and may or may not be changed by therapy alone. I'm very glad you got out of that. I often feel that only God can help in these kind of cases because the trauma, the codependency, and the fear the victim feels can be great.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you for your reply, I appreciate it! How these people are so sick, who is made them so sick and cruel and for what? How long do people take to recover? I been diagnosed with cPTSD and now I’m on disability pension but I’m palliative care RN and I’m also trained dietitian and diabetes educator but this man made me disabled and I used to love my palliative care nursing so much but doctors and psychologists said that I’m not ready to work yet. But I should not really complain as they paying me for psychiatric care and psychotherapy also, I thought one year ago that I lost my sanity and asked doctors if is reversible, I was mess mentally, sorry Tamara I used to , when walking outside, turn around to ensure if I will see my shadow- as is “ do I really exist “ or sometimes look at myself in the mirror if I will see my reflection? What causes that- gaslighting? Pure horror! Thank you for interesting content in your videos! Love Ivana
You're welcome Ivana! I'm so glad you are on the channel. Feel free to join me live on Fridays after 6pm. There is a very supportive chat box too!
And as far as recovery, it could take some time depending on how much trauma you have experienced and why. Most people regain some form of independence and healing back after a few years. But again, this just depends on what the trauma is and how long you have been impacted. I can only imagine how stressful this has all been for you.
Tomorrow I will be discussing re-traumatization and re-experiencing trauma which may touch on your question here. Stay tuned.
Every job I applied to with paper application I told a worker to call the manager for an immediate interview 😂 I knew something I had to be some devil triad or like that
i can only use one ther pist with my insurance i know of and only get 10 sessions 3 or 4 left
But isn't it plain lack of upbringing: growing up with zero discipline, with no habit of self-analysis and self-reflection, and growing up in a physically unsafe environment and in mentally abusive environment?
When you allow a child anything without any consequences: not correcting selfish behavior nor rewarding proper behavior, but just letting them grow wild/be raised by the streets or abusive family environment... aren't such circumstances going to naturally result in psychopathy....rather than having a lack of mental medicines?
Normally, when we are born, we don't respect anyone naturally. If we don't like something, we scream and yell. Respectful behavior: manners, consideration, politeness are not inborn. We have to be trained to say "thank you", to not interrupt others, to be patient....just like we have to be trained to take a shower and brush our teeth every day. Without such training, we just grow into selfish and savage homo-animals running around.....
So I believe psychopathy is a natural result of growing up with no restrictions on anything and no discipline....
Sounds like Sociopathy to me. But I'm not the licensed Professional here.
Anyway, Your insights are clearly well-reasoned and articulated ... in my opinion. So, I Thank You for sharing them.
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If someone with psycho symptoms should we stop dating???
Sometimes we feel alone
There are over 8 billion people on this planet. You will find somebody who will be able to return the love that you are eager to share.
Great Video.
Do you offer tele health sessions?
Also,if taking “Hydrocodone” made a psychopath feel happy throughout the day.
Would that be a good medication for him to be on?
They turn into MONSTERS
@@CookMeredith777 they don’t turn into something. It’s who they are.
Do you have patients with ASPD ?
Are people with psychopathy are undeserving of love? What does should one do if they find themselves in a relationship with a psychopath who isn’t violent towards one?
Psychopaths have many demonic spirits inside of them and around them. There are many forms of violence. The psychopath will show you the devil exist, after they have mirrored and charmed you. They will push you as far as you let them and their ultimate high is getting someone to kill themself, while maintaining their own image.. Pray for them. Do them no harm, but don’t feel sorry for them. Many have tried to help them and all are punished. Anyone with arms can lift the Bible. Give them no reaction or personal involvement. Cheers, God Bless!🙏
You have to understand the nature of relationships with psychopaths and sociopaths is completely transactional. They can display acts of love but it's rarely that deep. The sociopath has more capabilities to have selective empathy and genuine concern than the psychopath.
My husband....
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are you really trying to say that untreated ADHD is a potential precursor to ASPD or psychopathy lol?? like, do you have numbers or a source on that because otherwise it seems weird to essentially say that there's some direct correlation between ADHD and antisocial behavior
I love when I'm challenged sometimes. It's educational for everyone. 😉
1. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2637402/
2.pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24284138/
It makes perfect sense, to me. The 2.5 y.o. On a LEASH, for his own Safety and that of Other's, becomes a CD kid, who goes on to an Adult Life of Crime because he's developed a slew of Personality Disorders.
Along with a whole lot of faulty thinking. Because he was just as Dyslexic as he was severely ADHD! So, he never learned to learn. To be rational or logical.
With no critical thinking skills, how can one be logical?
They'll literally threaten you, abuse you, tell you you're ugly or just cyber stalk you and then turn around to you and the biggest insult they can think of is, "oh you like the same popular movie i like" (a movie that literally made the most money ever in the WORLD because it is that popular and not unique). Bruh you are evil work on yourself and stop the failed comparisons of all the bad things i did like watching a movie or liking a shape🤣
A president that is saying WHAT things?! 🤨
I came here to find out if my ex boyfriend is… yeah
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Lets not brand just men as psychopaths
Well, that's a good point. But research does suggest more men are psychopaths than women. And women tend to show a different personality profile than men. Because I have a video on female sociopaths (th-cam.com/video/HXE51E6HiHk/w-d-xo.html), I had to do one for men too. Hope that makes sense!
This is my husband.
maybe tune down the exposure a bit on the video next time?
Psychopaths, sociopaths, narcissists rule the world.