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The energy of the dragon is an amazing tool that all have hidden inside us, it´s waiting to be awakened, and it can be used both physical and emotional. Dragon Reiki focuses on healing and caring for the spirit, because of the belief is that if the spirit is in harmony and at peace, only then we can begin to heal ourselves on the outside. It teaches us that our bodies are naturally destined to heal themselves if our spirits are balanced and nourished.
If only our politicians believed that too... I'm getting more sceptical about daycare the more I look into it - impossible to fund well, impossible to staff adequately and children pay the price for the shortcomings of the system.
@WisdomRebellion research over the past 40 years has shown that under the age of 3 attatchment is more important than education and that the quality of the daycare center or nanny does not matter as they are not engaging as a mother nor have such a stable attatchment. Only where the mother was severely overwhelmed and the attatchment bad did they recommend it under the age of 3 and a maximum of 4 hours a day. Only after the age of 3 did the quality of the daycare make a difference. Very enlightening. We as mothers think it's nothing or that we have to educate and entertain our kids and that they need peers but a daycare was shown to be as stressful as a CEO job, in measurable terms, by measuring their cortisol levels. I can provide the links to those studies if interested
Thank you for continuing to discuss this topic. When every family member is against not putting our 3yr old into nursery, watching interviews like this remind me that I’m doing the right thing. It baffles me why we think it’s better to put our children into settings when they’re young. People look at me like I’m insane when I say, it’s actually better for kids to be with their parents when they’re young. Shouldn’t that be common sense? It was thanks to this doctor that I decided to not return to work and to have my children home until they’re at least 5-6yrs old. My children can’t thank you enough. Thank you.
The culture seems to go against any common sense we used to or still have. I'm keeping my children close to me and consider delaying starting school for my little boy too and that was thanks to Erica too. It's what I believe is best for my children but also for me - spending time with them has been and continues to be the greatest adventure of my life. Thank you for going against the grain. So many other women would benefit from doing the same.
Same for us! I live in China, and three-year-olds start full-time kindergarten. By full time, I mean eight hours a day, five days a week. You rarely hear of someone not sending their child to kindergarten even though it is optional. We aren't sending our son, and people think it is so strange!
I am a dad, I hear my boys cry even when they are two rooms apart. I attacked to my boys after few months of nurturing them not immediately. When I was a boy, I did not go to school until 9 years old. I did not know that was a good thing before.
Private nurseries can take babies a few months old from 7am-7pm! Five days week. Mine were in at 1 years old 8am-5pm, but thankfully just two days a week. I was led to believe that early nursery exposure was a good thing for socialisation, separation practice etc. As hard as it is to do my job two days week because always feel like in behind and it is never enough time, I am glad that my children are the priority. I am fortunate that I can do that financially. It is hard to juggle, the work of Erica Komisar helps me realise that I do have my priorities right.
I soooo agree!!! Motherhood is very very important - nurturing we can never replace afterwards. You can only raise your child once. I LOVE my work - but took a huge break when I got my 3 babies - and was there for them - and it’s an enormous privilege to be a mother. Its easy to work parttime when the children are bigger - indeed less income - but that’s less important. Indeed -other women can look down on you for choosing motherhood fulltime for a while. I didnt care. Attachment Parenting has great articles and support.
This is great to hear, I have quite a few friends who embraced motherhood fully, and it's wonderful to see them so much more fulfilled, peaceful, and strangely determined than they were before. I'm glad to hear you made it work for you, too. Your kids' lives will be so much better because of it. Money is great, but only if you know how to spend it well, and since it's a skill we're almost never taught, we often chase the one thing that will never bring us "happiness".
What a great interview. My grandmother and mother had a really bad attachment experience. My mother directed me towards career path and never mentioned how wonderful being a mum was. As soon as I became one I felt like a failure. Now my son is 12 and I am looking forward for a second chance to connect more with him.
Thank you, Erica's work is such an inspiration to reconnect with your kids, no matter how much of a rocky start your relationship might have been. P.S. I still feel like a failure sometimes, it might just come with the motherhood as a package.
I didn’t send my oldest to childcare until he turned 2, and only for 2 days a week. My younger is 1.5 and she is not in any childcare yet. We are taking turns working/ spending time with these two very young kids and I’m 6 weeks pregnant now. In our house there is no TV, no iPad, I don’t carry my phone when I’m with my kids, unless I take a video or photos for them. My older one learned to take a photo with my phone two. But that is about the only chance they see a screen. They don’t have any electric or digital sound or light making toys. Another thing is, we don’t give them any snacks that’s in a commercial package. Even if I forgot to pack homemade snacks and have to buy snacks from shops, I would put them in a ziplock bag or container from home. I found parents rely on tools to distract their toddlers. It breaks my heart to see a family with very young toddler(s) sitting in a restaurant having a meal with each of them watching a screen in front of them including and toddlers. Basically, I don’t want my children to be distracted. I didn’t carry a fetus for nine months and risked my life to give birth to them to distract them with generic kids shows. I don’t want anything come in between us, even sometimes there are tantrums, tears, but I still just want to experience everything with them. People are amazed how could we do it. But I think it’s actually easier. My 2y 9m son is very reasonable and I rarely need to say no to him.
I’m so glad I started listening to Erica again. I’m planning to go back to school part time with a 2yo and I want to still keep her my priority! It’s tricky!
I want Erica's message to be mainstream! This is serious and important. Every time she gets a public platform her voice is smashes by thoughtless 1 line responses. Everyone needs to listen!!
How much better would future societies be if her message got to the powers that be... slowly but surely, I'm still hopeful some of us will be able to turn this around.
Nap when they nap is the worst piece of advice especially if you have a short napper. When am I going to eat, shower , clean or take time for myself? I hate that advice cause most times by the times I settled into sleep after eating a meal (30 mins) plus the 15 mins it takes to fall asleep my newborn was awake. It just ended in frustration if anything. So no expectations no frustrations.
There is literally no respect in the 🇺🇸 for mothers. I can see how disrespectful people are to their children now, and as someone who cant have children it saddens me and angers me
I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, you're right. Individually, we all care about our children, but collectively, we don't - and our policies show that. Just the other day, I've seen one of the best TED talks ever by Scott Galloway answering the question, 'Do we love our children?' His point was that we have a system in place which constantly transfers wealth from the youth to older, wealthy people.
Yes Kat, I remember that when you were pregnant you were so confident you will back to work soon after delivery and back to previous work activity 😊. Yes, things changes 🤗
Men and women have different competitive advantages... unless those partitioned competitive advantages are defined and explained....we will continue to inefficiently allocate time and resources in a maner that continues to lead to lower and lower birth rates
My thinking is that they have been explained but have been under constant attack over the last 30-40 years, so the different skill sets are not being applied efficiently as we play with novel ideas that are clearly negative for both men and women.
Can we please just leave childfree by choice women alone? Let’s focus on raising the kids that are here properly. Let’s not just add more unwanted kids into this world.
Erica was saying that a stable nanny who can form a deep and lasting relationship with a child she looks after is the best solution if a mother, father, or close relative is not an option.
This whole thing is based on the premise that the mothers are married and have a very high earning man. What happens if that is not the case? What happens when the marriage doesn’t last because the husband cheats? In that case the woman sacrifices her career for children but then after the divorce she is not very employable. In this case the women end up being much poorer. There is a study which states that women who were housewives end up much poorer after divorce because they never prioritized their career. The chances of this happening in todays world are much higher
I was always taught, " If you have children, be prepared to take care of them because life happens to the best of marriages," illness, death and divorce. " I never gave up my career. I worked from home and/ or had a lot of help from my parents. I have been able to find a balance between family and career. Don't ever leave yourself vulnerable. Yes, prioritize your children but always have your own money.
Very true, staying at home with babies is heavily reliant on having a good husband and unfortunately many men are pieces of sh*t, my sisters husband is a verbally abusive retard but makes lots of money and she’s a stay at home mom, she hates him but doesn’t want to get a divorce and sacrifice her time away from her children instead she chooses to stay in a miserable marriage because it gives her all the time in the world for her babies, it’s very sad, if she had her own money though she would have left him a long time ago but then she would never have the precious time with all her babies, it’s a conundrum
This is a false premise. She studies babies and the importance of maternal bonding between 0-3. Women working full-time is a new phenomena. We can’t expect an innate and biological response between mothers and babies to have no consequences (good or bad) when that is disrupted regardless of income. Komisar advocates for a year maternity leave and 3 year part-time work for moms before they go back to work so not to disrupt that bonding with baby. It is for the emotional and mental well-being of the child.
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If you want to support the show all you have to do is subscribe - it massively helps with keeping the show on the road and get more great guests so we can dive into the topics that you want to hear about. Thank you for your support!
The energy of the dragon is an amazing tool that all have hidden inside us, it´s waiting to be awakened, and it can be used both physical and emotional.
Dragon Reiki focuses on healing and caring for the spirit, because of the belief is that if the spirit is in harmony and at peace, only then we can begin to heal ourselves on the outside. It teaches us that our bodies are naturally destined to heal themselves if our spirits are balanced and nourished.
These videos should be mandatory for families to watch before having children.
Thank you and Erica's work is a must for any existing or to-be-parents.
A childcare centre can never replace a mother ever. ❤
Mothering is what children deserve.
If only our politicians believed that too... I'm getting more sceptical about daycare the more I look into it - impossible to fund well, impossible to staff adequately and children pay the price for the shortcomings of the system.
@WisdomRebellion research over the past 40 years has shown that under the age of 3 attatchment is more important than education and that the quality of the daycare center or nanny does not matter as they are not engaging as a mother nor have such a stable attatchment. Only where the mother was severely overwhelmed and the attatchment bad did they recommend it under the age of 3 and a maximum of 4 hours a day. Only after the age of 3 did the quality of the daycare make a difference. Very enlightening. We as mothers think it's nothing or that we have to educate and entertain our kids and that they need peers but a daycare was shown to be as stressful as a CEO job, in measurable terms, by measuring their cortisol levels. I can provide the links to those studies if interested
@@j.3069 I'd live some.linksbto those studies please.
That is very kind of you to offer and mothers need recognition and celebration.
🥰💞💜
Thank you for continuing to discuss this topic. When every family member is against not putting our 3yr old into nursery, watching interviews like this remind me that I’m doing the right thing.
It baffles me why we think it’s better to put our children into settings when they’re young. People look at me like I’m insane when I say, it’s actually better for kids to be with their parents when they’re young. Shouldn’t that be common sense?
It was thanks to this doctor that I decided to not return to work and to have my children home until they’re at least 5-6yrs old. My children can’t thank you enough. Thank you.
The culture seems to go against any common sense we used to or still have. I'm keeping my children close to me and consider delaying starting school for my little boy too and that was thanks to Erica too. It's what I believe is best for my children but also for me - spending time with them has been and continues to be the greatest adventure of my life.
Thank you for going against the grain. So many other women would benefit from doing the same.
Same for us! I live in China, and three-year-olds start full-time kindergarten. By full time, I mean eight hours a day, five days a week. You rarely hear of someone not sending their child to kindergarten even though it is optional. We aren't sending our son, and people think it is so strange!
I am a dad, I hear my boys cry even when they are two rooms apart. I attacked to my boys after few months of nurturing them not immediately. When I was a boy, I did not go to school until 9 years old. I did not know that was a good thing before.
Private nurseries can take babies a few months old from 7am-7pm! Five days week. Mine were in at 1 years old 8am-5pm, but thankfully just two days a week. I was led to believe that early nursery exposure was a good thing for socialisation, separation practice etc. As hard as it is to do my job two days week because always feel like in behind and it is never enough time, I am glad that my children are the priority. I am fortunate that I can do that financially. It is hard to juggle, the work of Erica Komisar helps me realise that I do have my priorities right.
I soooo agree!!! Motherhood is very very important - nurturing we can never replace afterwards. You can only raise your child once. I LOVE my work - but took a huge break when I got my 3 babies - and was there for them - and it’s an enormous privilege to be a mother. Its easy to work parttime when the children are bigger - indeed less income - but that’s less important. Indeed -other women can look down on you for choosing motherhood fulltime for a while. I didnt care. Attachment Parenting has great articles and support.
This is great to hear, I have quite a few friends who embraced motherhood fully, and it's wonderful to see them so much more fulfilled, peaceful, and strangely determined than they were before.
I'm glad to hear you made it work for you, too. Your kids' lives will be so much better because of it.
Money is great, but only if you know how to spend it well, and since it's a skill we're almost never taught, we often chase the one thing that will never bring us "happiness".
What a great interview. My grandmother and mother had a really bad attachment experience. My mother directed me towards career path and never mentioned how wonderful being a mum was. As soon as I became one I felt like a failure. Now my son is 12 and I am looking forward for a second chance to connect more with him.
Thank you, Erica's work is such an inspiration to reconnect with your kids, no matter how much of a rocky start your relationship might have been.
P.S. I still feel like a failure sometimes, it might just come with the motherhood as a package.
I didn’t send my oldest to childcare until he turned 2, and only for 2 days a week. My younger is 1.5 and she is not in any childcare yet. We are taking turns working/ spending time with these two very young kids and I’m 6 weeks pregnant now. In our house there is no TV, no iPad, I don’t carry my phone when I’m with my kids, unless I take a video or photos for them. My older one learned to take a photo with my phone two. But that is about the only chance they see a screen. They don’t have any electric or digital sound or light making toys.
Another thing is, we don’t give them any snacks that’s in a commercial package. Even if I forgot to pack homemade snacks and have to buy snacks from shops, I would put them in a ziplock bag or container from home.
I found parents rely on tools to distract their toddlers. It breaks my heart to see a family with very young toddler(s) sitting in a restaurant having a meal with each of them watching a screen in front of them including and toddlers.
Basically, I don’t want my children to be distracted. I didn’t carry a fetus for nine months and risked my life to give birth to them to distract them with generic kids shows.
I don’t want anything come in between us, even sometimes there are tantrums, tears, but I still just want to experience everything with them.
People are amazed how could we do it. But I think it’s actually easier. My 2y 9m son is very reasonable and I rarely need to say no to him.
Love this. beautiful response. Thanks for sharing.
I’m so glad I started listening to Erica again. I’m planning to go back to school part time with a 2yo and I want to still keep her my priority! It’s tricky!
I want Erica's message to be mainstream! This is serious and important. Every time she gets a public platform her voice is smashes by thoughtless 1 line responses. Everyone needs to listen!!
How much better would future societies be if her message got to the powers that be... slowly but surely, I'm still hopeful some of us will be able to turn this around.
Nap when they nap is the worst piece of advice especially if you have a short napper. When am I going to eat, shower , clean or take time for myself? I hate that advice cause most times by the times I settled into sleep after eating a meal (30 mins) plus the 15 mins it takes to fall asleep my newborn was awake. It just ended in frustration if anything. So no expectations no frustrations.
There is literally no respect in the 🇺🇸 for mothers. I can see how disrespectful people are to their children now, and as someone who cant have children it saddens me and angers me
I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, you're right. Individually, we all care about our children, but collectively, we don't - and our policies show that. Just the other day, I've seen one of the best TED talks ever by Scott Galloway answering the question, 'Do we love our children?' His point was that we have a system in place which constantly transfers wealth from the youth to older, wealthy people.
Yes Kat, I remember that when you were pregnant you were so confident you will back to work soon after delivery and back to previous work activity 😊. Yes, things changes 🤗
Kids change everything and most for the better, although the cleanliness of our house has deteriorated drastically... I'm not going to lie 😅
Absolutely wonderful, Thank you!!!
I love Erica❤my mentor.Thank you so much
Men and women have different competitive advantages... unless those partitioned competitive advantages are defined and explained....we will continue to inefficiently allocate time and resources in a maner that continues to lead to lower and lower birth rates
My thinking is that they have been explained but have been under constant attack over the last 30-40 years, so the different skill sets are not being applied efficiently as we play with novel ideas that are clearly negative for both men and women.
Can we please just leave childfree by choice women alone? Let’s focus on raising the kids that are here properly. Let’s not just add more unwanted kids into this world.
I baby-sat children for 10 years so i could raise my own children
Erica was saying that a stable nanny who can form a deep and lasting relationship with a child she looks after is the best solution if a mother, father, or close relative is not an option.
This whole thing is based on the premise that the mothers are married and have a very high earning man. What happens if that is not the case? What happens when the marriage doesn’t last because the husband cheats? In that case the woman sacrifices her career for children but then after the divorce she is not very employable. In this case the women end up being much poorer. There is a study which states that women who were housewives end up much poorer after divorce because they never prioritized their career. The chances of this happening in todays world are much higher
I was always taught, " If you have children, be prepared to take care of them because life happens to the best of marriages," illness, death and divorce. " I never gave up my career. I worked from home and/ or had a lot of help from my parents. I have been able to find a balance between family and career. Don't ever leave yourself vulnerable. Yes, prioritize your children but always have your own money.
Very true, staying at home with babies is heavily reliant on having a good husband and unfortunately many men are pieces of sh*t, my sisters husband is a verbally abusive retard but makes lots of money and she’s a stay at home mom, she hates him but doesn’t want to get a divorce and sacrifice her time away from her children instead she chooses to stay in a miserable marriage because it gives her all the time in the world for her babies, it’s very sad, if she had her own money though she would have left him a long time ago but then she would never have the precious time with all her babies, it’s a conundrum
This is a false premise. She studies babies and the importance of maternal bonding between 0-3. Women working full-time is a new phenomena. We can’t expect an innate and biological response between mothers and babies to have no consequences (good or bad) when that is disrupted regardless of income. Komisar advocates for a year maternity leave and 3 year part-time work for moms before they go back to work so not to disrupt that bonding with baby. It is for the emotional and mental well-being of the child.
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