The reason I’m 34 years old and find your content comforting is because it’s so simplistically real, cozy and inviting. A lot of youtubers have harsh vlogging (by that I mean, they are very boisterous, they have unhealthy ideals of beauty, homes that are unrelatable and too squeaky clean)…you my dear are the pioneer of pleasant viewing. I love taking a minute from my stay at home mom life of 5 to hear your wisdom, enjoy your inviting atmosphere to your videos and be inspired to shop secondhand and do my best to be close to the lord. Sending blessings your way from CA!
As an expecting first time mom, I am literally sitting here with my notebook taking notes on what you are saying. I really appreciate you being a positive Christian example on raising little ones!
I am a sixty year old grandmother, and I just want to tell you that this is excellent advice! I hope you know how valuable this vlog is! You are an amazing Mom with a beautiful family. Keep up the great work, you are making a difference!
As a first time mom with a three week old baby I appreciate videos like this! Also the breathing techniques for labour are a must in my experience! I laboured for 29 hours total and pushed for 1.5 hours! It was the hardest and most incredibly painful thing I’ve ever done, but breathing seriously made a huge difference!
Literally on number 5 and I relate to everything so much. The fact that you pointed out that every child will grow differently, in terms of development and eating/pooping, made me look at my own daughter and realize she’s completely different than how the books and articles say a 21-22 month old should be. Your content is truly a blessing 😭
Your transparency and vulnerability is gold. You don’t know how many times you’ve encouraged me as a mom! God has really been reminding me of how it’s in our weakness that His power is made perfect. Thank you for reminding me that I’m not alone in my weaknesses and imperfections!
I’m trying to get pregnant the next couple months and I am gobbling up your videos like crazy! Thank you for sharing this information and helping first time (almost) moms like me
I love that you discussed not teaching your kids to suppress their faith, but rather helping them learn to work through them. That’s something that my wife & I feel very strongly about. 💜
The Lord is really using you, Delilah - to bless and impact other Moms in such positive ways. I'm 52 and my youngest child is 12 now, but I so enjoy your content, and it is sometimes so validating of my own feelings/struggles as a mom when my kids were young. Thank you for all the time and effort you put into these videos.
Ooow, what a great video! I too was 20 when I had my first daughter, she is going to be 18 this year. I regret a whole bunch of things, especially letting her cry it out. It was the advice that was given a lot back then. We all want the best for our kids and work with what we know, but if I could go back and tell 20 year old me one thing it would be to never let my babies cry all alone in their little beds. Crying is perfectly normal, that is how they communicate, but we have to be there to listen and respond.
As a first time mom, I expected perfection from myself, and I had so many expectations for how things “should go.” I feel like motherhood really teaches you how to be flexible, and I wish I could have been less rigid sooner
I think the way you are tackling teaching your kids how to deal with their emotions is remarkable. As someone in their twenties who is now seeking help on how to do that myself, it makes my heart soar that you are putting the time in to validate and not minimise how they're feeling and reacting to something.
I can relate to all of this. The milestones, the keeping track of everything.... motherhood is to be enjoyed, it should not be stressful... happy mamas equal to happy babies..... thanks for sharing...
I regret not holding my first baby as much. I was so worried about putting him down as he became tired so he’d learn to sleep on his own because that advice is everywhere. However, I hold my second little guy until he sleeps for naps and I love it. He does great at night and it works for us. So really I regret being hard on myself and losing out on that joy because I thought to be a good mom I HAD to put him down.
I agree with this so much!!! My baby is now going on 11 months old, and I cherish every single time that she falls asleep on me. It doesn't happen often anymore. Most of the time she's super wriggly and squirming all over the place, so those times that she actually wants to snuggle me are the best. I spent way too much time in the early months trying to get her to sleep away from me, and I miss those days so much.
This was so good to hear 🥺I'm a new aunt and would've benefited from hearing messages like yours Delilah when my sister was experiencing motherhood for the first time. I think the more of us hear this the better we're able to support new mothers ❤
LOVE this video! So many good points! As a psychology student with special interest in childrens development I love that you touched on the fact that children are often simply not able to do what we adults want them to do (!) and that the behavour is very seldom about defiance. Also a good point that trying to suppress childrens emotions in the moment is more of a short term sollution, mostly by making the current situation easier for the adult, but can lead to unhealthy emotional regulation techniques for the child further on. Helping the child learn how to regulate their emotions instead is such good advice!
You have no idea how much this video helped me. My son will be 4 months old this Sunday & I swear social media has been making me feel like every baby should be the same and everything works for everyone. I was even considering doing some sort of sleep training which wasn’t something I wanted to do but had second thoughts about my intuition. I just started binge watching your channel & you have made me look at the positive side of motherhood & have been such an inspo you have no idea - thank you 🙏🏽 🤍
Thank you for mentioning Force Feeding, our parents always forced us to eat up but we have never been very hungry children and it ruined every family dinner.
Same! We had a famine during WWII. I always felt like this force feeding habit was a legacy from the upbringing my grandparents had. Sometimes things stick because they helped us survive in the past, not necessarily because they're the best way to do things today. Being informed is everything.
It does. It really ruins family dinners. Meals are more than just about eating. I love Ellyn Satters DOR family food guidelines. It's very much about each member knowing their responsibilities ie: caregivers provide the food, everyone else consuming the food decides if they will eat and what they will eat. No short order cook/al la carte issues with complex menus, just 3 meals and 2-3 small snacks at designated times. It's so basic, it's embarrassing when I dont follow it we have big problems!
My biggest regret that still haunts me is that I didn’t trust my gut. I didn’t know what I was doing as a first time mom, but I knew something wasn’t right with my baby. He stopped eating, lost weight, and became deathly lethargic. I let doctors and nurses convince me it was because I had a low milk supply. He was hospitalized at 10 days old when we almost lost him. I wish I had pushed back on those doctors until they took me seriously so we didn’t have to go through what we did in order to get his diagnosis. He’s three and now thriving, but that experience taught me that if my gut says something isn’t right with him, don’t stop pushing until I get answers and I know in my bones that he is ok. Thank you for this video; your openness and rawness really spoke to me and left me teary eyed. Your babies are so lucky to have you!
Thank you for being open and honest. It’s not the easiest to admit and acknowledge missteps. I have a 6 month old and already have situations I wish I had handled differently.
So good, Delilah. 💛 I feel this is a good demonstration of humility as well, to be able to look back and say “I would do that differently, knowing what I know now” & that is really honorable. A couple of mine that I’ve recently thought about as well, now that I’m preparing to meet babe number two any day: 1. I wish I didn’t allow the pressure from social media to get the nicest trendiest things for my baby, make me feel poorly when I couldn’t afford those things. My babe didn’t care what swing she was in, or that she lives in a small apartment, & it was silly of me to spend soo much energy feeling guilt over something she didn’t even need. 2. This time I don’t want to rush a single thing. Much like what you said, I don’t want to compare my babes milestones to another’s, or rush them through what their learning in that moment. They’re their own person & I want to soak in every phase we’re in without rushing onto the “next thing”. 3. Rest isn’t a waste of time. Taking a day to play with your babes, snuggle more, and not run a single errand, is okay. It’s more than okay, it’s important to be able to do that without feeling like I didn’t accomplish enough that day. Anyway, love this video & love what you’re doing. 💛
WOW I needed this. Probably need to listen again and take notes and pray. I have a 2.5 year old and 2 month old. Both girls. I’m realizing some adjustments I need to make in my mindset! Specifically, don’t expect more of them than I do myself, teach them to process emotions, and I need to stop sweating the small stuff.
Those big little feelings ! I love how you explain it. Not suppressing them. I read and read about how to react but hearing you say that helps me to remember HOW to react.
This video is such an enouragement to me. I really relate to a few things on this list, especially not learning more pain management skills and not accepting help. I'm experiencing a lot of the same things that you have, and hearing the things you regret encourages me to really work at not doing those same things. I regret letting my own emotions get in the way too much, because kids are frustrating! But I don't want to live like that, so thank you.
I am a first time mum and my son is currently 6 months old.... this video really eased my mind.. things I have done now and things (the food expectations) helps me reassess my own expectations. Thank you!
Love this vid!! Other topic idea: you reacting to your birth videos, or your older advice videos - I’d love to hear your insight now that there’s been some time.
I love this fourth point! I work in a daycare and I observed so many Moms comparing their children with each other and where so unsecure, when they figured out that the other kids could do something what their child was yet not able to. They were even concerned when I told them what you said, that it's normal and every child development is different.
Thank you so much for this video. My daughter is 3 years old and I've been watching you since she was born. I fully relate to what you said. We as mums tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves to tick all the right boxes and do things 'perfectly'. I learned that it is imperative that I take care of myself because no one can pour from an empty cup. Also to be kind to myself, every day is q different struggle, when you think you've conquered one part of parenting there is always a new challenge to test you! Thank you for your honesty and insight.
This is such a helpful video. THANK YOU! I find these videos so sweet and empowering. I’m not a momma but I have always enjoyed your videos and have learned so much! My first video from you was with Theo and all about cloth diapers. Keep sharing all the knowledge! I know now of us is perfect but like you said, it’s so important to help each other.
This video is so calming 🥰 my 17 month old and me (21 weeks pregnant) just had a collective meltdown and this is nice to snuggle on the couch watching!
This is so on time for me. My babygirl is due to be born any day and I've been prepping for her. Thank you for still putting out videos despite Mom and Wife life 🤗
It brings me so much peace to watch your vlogs, but I have to come on here and comment to say that I REALLY enjoyed this video! It was completely thought provoking in all the right ways. This thing called motherhood is a tough job and we’re all learning along the way, but what a blessing it is to have you share your wisdom with us!
Delilah, you are such a gift. Thank you for sharing this. My daughter is 3 and has always been a little “behind”. Some days it makes me cry with worry and feel really alone. It’s a helpful reminder to share that none of us are alone as moms, and that every child is their own little person on their own track 🤍not to mention I could relate to literally everything else you said too!
I know we’re not close, but the offer always stands for you that I’ve offered from the beginning. I will always come hang out with your kids, take them to the park, or hang out in your backyard while you have a nap or work or anything. I’m always here, and my kids are obsessed with yours so I’m sure they’d love it too 😉♥️
I'm impressed with your self reflection. Many people can't or don't allow themselves to look inside and make needed changes. I can honestly say as a Mom of 3 adult men ( ages 33, 34, 35)and now grandmother of 1 grandson (age 8), and granddaughter (age 6) I am still "relearning" about my boys and what and how they have made their own changes into adulthood. Seeing them as adults and not children and respecting them as the intelligent men they have become. Each having their own strengths and weaknesses. I give myself the grace now to foster a more healthier relationship with them, than I was capable of at age 23. And definitely make better, healthier decisions with my grandbabies be abuse now . I know better. So I do better. I think you are an old soul Delilah. Very grounded. I love watching you blossom through your vlog. When my boys were little you NEVER spoke out about needing help. That would have been frowned upon. I tell my daughter in law all the time that she will always have my support. Keep up the great work. 🥰😘💖💙💙
Thank you for bringing up our expectations our little ones. I am an RN, being familiar with little ones I felt very confident raising my first child and when certain milestones were not reached "on time" I felt as if I was failing him as a mother. He has a speech delay and the doctors keep wanting to run so many hearing tests that he does not need. If he doesnt do a certain task at his doctors office they will not count what i say he does at home...and that he needs to be saying 10 words by age 2 or else"we will look into other things" !? I recognized it during a previous video, you said nurses push tummy time and this is very true its drilled in our heads. It was your videos that truly got me to take a step back, be in the moment and live intentionally, because felt like I was "training" him instead of naturally playing and let go of the thought that I was never doing enough. Everyone is happier, and he is just fine and already trying to talk all the time now. Sorry for the rant, its my first "break" ☕️ lol Thank you for all you do to help struggling mommas find their way 🙏 🌻
I loved this video!! I am currently 29 weeks pregnant with my first and the stress has begun of how am I gonna do this. Hearing your videos gives me a lot of hope and helps me realize I’m not alone. Also… I’d love to hear how you do family planning. I know you had mentioned it in a previous video and I’m so interested on how to do natural birth control after baby comes:)
My child didn’t crawl until 11 months, just starting pulling up on things at 13 months, and I’m not expecting walking until 15-18 months. Every baby is so different!
Thank you! Being a mom is so much work, it's so satisfying, but also very draining at times. This is exactly why I watch your videos, because you make me feel less alone. Thank you!
I love your brand. Your brand isn't just motherhood. It's you. I could see you doing an aesthetic style, decorating, family experiences like camping, gardening, cooking, clothing and fashion. Idk. Whatever you want to make, I'll watch it 😂
Thank you. Especially #10. Most of your points I’ve already thought about, but #10 is one that I needed to hear. You’re right, those feelings should be felt and worked through, not shushed. I was shushed a lot as a child and still have a hard time being candid in public about how I feel. My son is only 3 months old, and your words may have just saved him from the shushing. Thank you.
My biggest regret is not listening to my instinct enough and listening to other people’s opinions too much . A mother’s instinct is amazing, and usually right. I also regret not having asked for help for my mental health problems earlier. Motherhood can be very dark sometimes, I had PTSD from giving birth and I waited too long and it developed into PPD.
I would love more videos on balancing your roles as wife and mother. We recently implemented dates once a month (on the calendar!!) after really liking your once a week date plan (hoping to work our way there eventually). Its hard to find time for us when he works during the day, I take care of the baby, and we are both exhausted by the time baby goes down for the night. Also videos relating to how to not be perpetually exhausted. Having only one, I cannot fathom how you function on a daily basis, lol
This is great, very inspiring! I want to know more about how the transition was for you from being at a 'normal' job to being a full-time stay-at-home mom. I'm 14 months in to the SAHM life and struggling with emotions of losing my old self and old life, but feeling so lucky to be able to watch my son grow and change day to day.
I’ve struggled with that too. For me it helps to set up social time with people I really care about- game nights, or a music group. I’ve started playing a few instruments and learning a new language. It helps me balance self-care because it’s time when my son can see me socialize with other adults, but the skills are something to enjoy with him. I can play and sing to him now, and it’s nice to have people to chat with and learn with. Plus, I can teach him later, and that helps with the mom-guilt of taking an hour or two for a music night. I hope that helps, but we’re all so different with the things that “recharge” us. For my sister in law it’s spa/bath treatments. For my best friend it’s sleepovers for the kids at their grandparents once a week.
Tearing up listening to this video, because I can so relate to alot of these points. Thank you for Blessing us with such a raw, honest, beautiful video 💞
What did you do months 1-8 to prepare you own body for labor and delivery? Did you eat specific foods, do certain workouts, etc. and did you notice a difference in your three pregnancies based on your prep?
Loved this video! Not because of your regrets but to see that motherhood isn’t about perfection. 🥰 My top three regrets would be 1. Not being jealous for my daughter, to bond with her. I felt like other people held her way more than I did. Between bonding issues and depression, which were probably linked, we had a very rough first nine months. With my second, everybody get back! That’s my baby 😍 2. Forcing a schedule instead of learning her rhythm. Similar but very different! 3. Not having a mom friend to love me, encourage me, and pray for me in my dark moments.
This was a really good video. I am hard on my two older kids as well, expecting them to act just as good if not better than myself in most situations. It's a lot of work to give grace to others when you're struggling yourself. Seeking help, but it's slow progress.
you are a great mom, God bless your family, i have 4 kids from 23-9 and i wish i had heard these words 24 years ago you spoke so much truth and love today i hope lots of new mamas find this and soak it in, and new dads too, may be do a video with a dads prospective and 10 mistakes
This made me feel so seen. I’m currently trying to figure out first-time-momhood and it’s nice to hear you be open about your experiences. I’d love to listen to your Podcast while tackling chores 😊
Along the lines of this video with all children being unique.. a video on first 6 months breast & bottle feeding, sleeping, changing etc for new mums/ expectant mums would be good. Since you’ve had 3 kids it’d be really helpful to have a reflection on how those journeys were different - how you managed them differently rather than just a kid comparison. And also any thoughts on what you would do differently for baby number 4 with regards to the above? Also just general how you coped with the first 6 months (tiredness, stress, expectations) what you learned with each child. I am pregnant with my first and am loving watching your videos still, have been following since Theo’s birth. A new what you used in your hospital bag would be good and also to do a vaginal vs caesarean comparison. A new born essentials video.. what did you buy and what did you buy that you didn’t use. You have so much motherhood experience- thank you for sharing it with us!
I love your videos Delilah because they are such a nice moment of reflection for me to see things through my mothers eyes and how she possibly felt about things. Being her eldest and her only daughter (I do have one younger brother) we have such a special connection and it’s only gotten stronger with time. I feel as though now at 23, I am really able to understand the why behind things she did. In my eyes she is the most wonderful mother ever and it’s been so fun to share these moments of realization with her💐💕
First time mom here, I needed this ❤️ We are all trying our best to be the best we can. It’s such an intense learning process, thank you for your content!!
I have three kids and I relate to many of the things you mentioned so much. I was the first of many of my friends to be pregnant and totally took my great pregnancies for granted. And I think all moms relate to what you said about comparing kids with milestones... The struggle is real.
I loved this video ❤️ I'm having my first baby soon 33 weeks now. I hope you can do a follow up video on the ways you worked on those regrets.. like how would you help your kids express and manage their emotions or big feelings? Breathing techniques or talking?
I regret waiting till I can “afford” a baby. I was so scared of any debt that I refused to trust the Lord to provide. Another big one is getting angry at my husband for not helping as much as I wanted him to. When in reality I didn’t see all he does for us when I’m not observing. Great video👍🏻
Gods timing is so beautiful! I really needed this video today, thank you so much for making this video. I have been struggling with these issues as a first time mom and its really good to hear i am not alone and that change is possible. I am so glad you have learned from your mistakes and shared with the rest of us so we can learn from them as well. God bless you and your family!
Based on the tidbit you mentioned in here about asking for help, I would LOVE to see a video on how to help mom friends. I’m at the age where friends are starting to have babies (but not me yet), and I would love to help somehow, but I’m just not sure where to start. A video on this would be awesome!
I can really relate to the part about accepting help and reaching out to other mums for friendship. I am very introverted and also live in a smaller town in a foreign country where I don't speak the language well. I am very worried about feeling isolated when I give birth (in three months) and having trouble meeting other mums. I also worry about being a burden, but I know I have people who would help me if I asked or who have already offered to help. I will try hard to take your advice and learn from the mistakes you talked about.
You are so wise - and yet so young! I've been watching since Theo was a baby (and a lot of the archives from before that) and seeing you become this mature is SO inspiring to me. You are honest and vulnerable about your shortcomings, and I respect that. I hope I'll be like you in my own way someday! I'm 20 and I have been married since I was 18, and when I finish my apprenticeship (as an electrician!) and we have a bigger place to live, we'll probably have a few kids of our own. I know I will definetly be coming back to your videos for advice - you are like an older cousin to me!
As a first time mom to a 6 month old, and a NICU Mom, I regret the same "sweating the small stuff" sentiment. Coming home from the NICU and having breastfeeding difficulties due to my sweet babe being fed first from a tube, then a bottle, i regret how many time I fussed over counting how many ounces I pumped. I regret letting the rigid schedule of a NICU room affect my peace and joy of being home and safe. I regret not enjoying the slow paced life of a newborn, even though while in the NICU that's all I wanted. I regret wanting to do the dishes so much when I had all I could have asked for in my arms, safe and sound. I enjoyed this video because it helped me look at this first year of momhood differently, thank you.
Delilah. You have no idea how thankful I am for this video. I was watching your first videos when you had Eloïse TODAY this afternoon. Because I was trying to see if my 11 and 1/2 month baby boy is up to date with milestones!!! I have been on a mental rollercoaster for the past two weeks thinking he is not hitting a lot of the milestones on the list from the health visitor. I went on the autism rabbit hole and took him to see several doctors. It is so stressful. I keep sitting on the floor with him all day long trying to teach him to do things. We were reassured that even tough it’s too early to tell if there is anything wrong, he is very normal for his age. I have no family or friends to help. So hearing you talk about this is a breath of fresh air. Thank you again 💕🙏🏼
I would love to see a video about the pain management techniques you found helpful! I relate to so much of this! I’m currently expecting baby number two, and I decided before I even became pregnant again that I would not keep track of everything this time. I used an app with my first to log every feeding, every diaper change, and I used it for months! It was so freeing once I stopped. It also caused my screen time to go way up, since my phone was always glued to me.
I definitely relate to not having mom friends. I have NO one in my life with the same views as me. Most of the time if I try and talk about my natural minded way, I’m told that I’m crazy, I’m a bad mom, I’m doing it wrong, etc. I still am looking for another mommy I can see and talk to about all of it lol. I’m in a much better place now than I was then.
About to be a mom for the first time any week now and I’m so grateful for your advice! I know it will also be a challenge for my introverted self to forge friendships and accept help from the women at my church, but your advice was a good reminder to be intentional about that!
I'm 24 weeks pregnant with my first and was wondering if anyone has any resources I can look into to learn about baby's first year of development? Thanks!
I love your vlog so much. And I love your sweater. I am also a nursing mom and feel your sweater is so cozy and easy to feed baby. Can I ask where did you buy it? Thanks
I can relate to every single thing you mentioned!! I am a first time mom and I’m doing my best to learn everything as I go along. You are a great example of what it is to be a mother🤍 thank you for sharing your life (even the hard parts) with all of us.
hoping to get pregnant within the next few months… just want to say your transparency is inspiring! Great advice I will be taking with me, thank you! 🙏🏼
Number 4!! I feel like I am in the thick of this with my first baby (almost 1-year-old)...everything from eating, to walking, talking, and so on. It's so hard not to get caught up in the "did I serve her the right thing?" ... "I am reading to her enough?" ... etc.
Topic idea: I’m going to be a working (out of the house) mom. I grew up with a SAHM mom (until I started school). I spent time adjusting my expectations of motherhood from what I’d assumed it would be compared to my mom’s experience. Curious if you’ve ever dwelled on the expectation of what motherhood would be compared to what it is over a generational time scale?
I love how you included the point about the body image issues. I also grew up with this mentality, and you're right, it does not help your mental well-being at all. I still currently suffer with body imagery and am struggling with accepting my body. I am definitely going to take multiple pages out of your book, because I love the way you are raising your kids, and it's how I would like to raise mine in the future as well. Thank you for sharing your mistakes and telling us how not to make them. I hope that by the time I am going to become a mother, your videos will still be up so I can look back on them (which won't be for a time since I am only 19 and have no interest in romance at the moment). I again thank you for sharing your experiences of motherhood with us, it has taught me and no doubt a lot of others as well. I comend you for your effort, hard work, and patience with everything despite being such a young mother. Keep it up mama, you got this, and God bless!
My first was almost 16 years ago, I now have four kiddos earthside from 16 to nine months. I nodded through your entire video lol. I was like, yup, yup, yup, that one too! If anyone is new to mamahood, take notes! Also, another good one is to learn to be your own advocate. Because not only are your babies watching and emulating you, but you can’t be their advocate if you’re not yours too. And you can’t fill from an empty cup. I have two babies who are neurodivergent so far, I am as well, and I had to learn pretty quickly that I did not take care of myself in that way and ask for help or even ask for what I deserved as a mom and a person in general. I HAD to go into mama bear mode many times and I would never of been able if I didn’t realise my value and gave myself the appropriate grace and care I deserved. We are constantly told as moms that self sacrifice is the name of the game, and to do it without complaints. And while sacrificing is definitely part of the job, ignoring your needs to a breaking point is not and should not be necessary all the time. Fill your cup. All the things you long to do as a parent will hit different when you’re filled up. They will be more meaningful for you and your kids. Babies need happy mama’s , not wrecked mama’s. Quality not quantity! 🖤
It is so reassuring to hear that a mum who has known their child since day 1, still has to remind themselves of how to manage their expectations of their children and managing their emotions. My partner has a child and I'm still learning how to find the right balance when I'm with her. And sometimes I worry that I'll never learn it because I haven't known her since she was born, but it's good to know that everyone struggles with it.
I quickly learned that I need to stop comparing my babies to what books and other influencers' children are doing. My son is 2 and still not talking as much as a lot of other 2 year olds I'm seeing. He only says 3 words but our pediatrician has assured us he is okay. I now have a 3 month old as well and I'm trying really hard not to compare my children to each other or others
Thank you so much for this!! My son and nephew are 2 months apart and are the first on all sides of the family as well. It is sooooo hard sometimes to not compare where my son is st developmentally or how we parent vs my sis/bro in laws. I try reminding myself a lot (and then being willing to stand up for my son) that he is where he is, and thats okay. That big feelings are okay and so is acknowledging those feelings
Would you be interested in filming cleaning content? Not necessarily decluttering but more so the mundane weekly cleaning that you always go through. For instance, you could talk about your cleaning routine, what products you love, some tips that helps you keep things tidy longer, how you separate chores between you and Zach, and maybe how you get the kids involved with that. Even a cleaning series would be amazing! They are so interesting and relaxing to watch! :)
I related with so many of these! I think it’s be awesome if shared things you didn’t know how to do as a mom that you had to figure out or seek out answers for. I know as my son is getting old there’s so much Im not sure how to do or where to get that advice from. I didn’t get my 3yo into a good sleep schedule until his sister was born & I finally figured out that consistency and how to follow their cues.
I’m not a mom yet, but would love to see an in depth video about the Montessori way… I don’t really understand it but want to implement it someday and I would love to get it!!
The reason I’m 34 years old and find your content comforting is because it’s so simplistically real, cozy and inviting. A lot of youtubers have harsh vlogging (by that I mean, they are very boisterous, they have unhealthy ideals of beauty, homes that are unrelatable and too squeaky clean)…you my dear are the pioneer of pleasant viewing. I love taking a minute from my stay at home mom life of 5 to hear your wisdom, enjoy your inviting atmosphere to your videos and be inspired to shop secondhand and do my best to be close to the lord. Sending blessings your way from CA!
totally agree! well said
Totally agree! Also a mom of 5 here and love her channel. By the way my youngest she’s 8 months old is named Delilah too! I love that name!! 😀
You hit the nail on the head 👏
Yes! As 39 years old mom of 3 boys, I love her content!
As an expecting first time mom, I am literally sitting here with my notebook taking notes on what you are saying. I really appreciate you being a positive Christian example on raising little ones!
Same!!
Same 😂
Trying to understand how religion has anything to do with being a positive, moral mother.
I am a sixty year old grandmother, and I just want to tell you that this is excellent advice! I hope you know how valuable this vlog is! You are an amazing Mom with a beautiful family. Keep up the great work, you are making a difference!
How can I become wife and mom material?
As a first time mom with a three week old baby I appreciate videos like this! Also the breathing techniques for labour are a must in my experience! I laboured for 29 hours total and pushed for 1.5 hours! It was the hardest and most incredibly painful thing I’ve ever done, but breathing seriously made a huge difference!
Literally on number 5 and I relate to everything so much. The fact that you pointed out that every child will grow differently, in terms of development and eating/pooping, made me look at my own daughter and realize she’s completely different than how the books and articles say a 21-22 month old should be. Your content is truly a blessing 😭
Your transparency and vulnerability is gold. You don’t know how many times you’ve encouraged me as a mom! God has really been reminding me of how it’s in our weakness that His power is made perfect. Thank you for reminding me that I’m not alone in my weaknesses and imperfections!
I’m trying to get pregnant the next couple months and I am gobbling up your videos like crazy! Thank you for sharing this information and helping first time (almost) moms like me
I love that you discussed not teaching your kids to suppress their faith, but rather helping them learn to work through them. That’s something that my wife & I feel very strongly about. 💜
The Lord is really using you, Delilah - to bless and impact other Moms in such positive ways. I'm 52 and my youngest child is 12 now, but I so enjoy your content, and it is sometimes so validating of my own feelings/struggles as a mom when my kids were young. Thank you for all the time and effort you put into these videos.
Ooow, what a great video! I too was 20 when I had my first daughter, she is going to be 18 this year. I regret a whole bunch of things, especially letting her cry it out. It was the advice that was given a lot back then. We all want the best for our kids and work with what we know, but if I could go back and tell 20 year old me one thing it would be to never let my babies cry all alone in their little beds. Crying is perfectly normal, that is how they communicate, but we have to be there to listen and respond.
As a first time mom, I expected perfection from myself, and I had so many expectations for how things “should go.” I feel like motherhood really teaches you how to be flexible, and I wish I could have been less rigid sooner
Same here💕
I think the way you are tackling teaching your kids how to deal with their emotions is remarkable. As someone in their twenties who is now seeking help on how to do that myself, it makes my heart soar that you are putting the time in to validate and not minimise how they're feeling and reacting to something.
I can relate to all of this. The milestones, the keeping track of everything.... motherhood is to be enjoyed, it should not be stressful... happy mamas equal to happy babies..... thanks for sharing...
I regret not holding my first baby as much. I was so worried about putting him down as he became tired so he’d learn to sleep on his own because that advice is everywhere. However, I hold my second little guy until he sleeps for naps and I love it. He does great at night and it works for us. So really I regret being hard on myself and losing out on that joy because I thought to be a good mom I HAD to put him down.
I agree with this so much!!! My baby is now going on 11 months old, and I cherish every single time that she falls asleep on me. It doesn't happen often anymore. Most of the time she's super wriggly and squirming all over the place, so those times that she actually wants to snuggle me are the best. I spent way too much time in the early months trying to get her to sleep away from me, and I miss those days so much.
Far from being a mum yet but I can’t wait to finally be financially stable enough to build a family with my love x
This was so good to hear 🥺I'm a new aunt and would've benefited from hearing messages like yours Delilah when my sister was experiencing motherhood for the first time. I think the more of us hear this the better we're able to support new mothers ❤
LOVE this video! So many good points!
As a psychology student with special interest in childrens development I love that you touched on the fact that children are often simply not able to do what we adults want them to do (!) and that the behavour is very seldom about defiance.
Also a good point that trying to suppress childrens emotions in the moment is more of a short term sollution, mostly by making the current situation easier for the adult, but can lead to unhealthy emotional regulation techniques for the child further on. Helping the child learn how to regulate their emotions instead is such good advice!
You have no idea how much this video helped me. My son will be 4 months old this Sunday & I swear social media has been making me feel like every baby should be the same and everything works for everyone. I was even considering doing some sort of sleep training which wasn’t something I wanted to do but had second thoughts about my intuition. I just started binge watching your channel & you have made me look at the positive side of motherhood & have been such an inspo you have no idea - thank you 🙏🏽 🤍
Thank you for mentioning Force Feeding, our parents always forced us to eat up but we have never been very hungry children and it ruined every family dinner.
Same! We had a famine during WWII. I always felt like this force feeding habit was a legacy from the upbringing my grandparents had. Sometimes things stick because they helped us survive in the past, not necessarily because they're the best way to do things today. Being informed is everything.
So true
It does. It really ruins family dinners. Meals are more than just about eating. I love Ellyn Satters DOR family food guidelines. It's very much about each member knowing their responsibilities ie: caregivers provide the food, everyone else consuming the food decides if they will eat and what they will eat. No short order cook/al la carte issues with complex menus, just 3 meals and 2-3 small snacks at designated times. It's so basic, it's embarrassing when I dont follow it we have big problems!
My biggest regret that still haunts me is that I didn’t trust my gut. I didn’t know what I was doing as a first time mom, but I knew something wasn’t right with my baby. He stopped eating, lost weight, and became deathly lethargic. I let doctors and nurses convince me it was because I had a low milk supply. He was hospitalized at 10 days old when we almost lost him. I wish I had pushed back on those doctors until they took me seriously so we didn’t have to go through what we did in order to get his diagnosis. He’s three and now thriving, but that experience taught me that if my gut says something isn’t right with him, don’t stop pushing until I get answers and I know in my bones that he is ok. Thank you for this video; your openness and rawness really spoke to me and left me teary eyed. Your babies are so lucky to have you!
Thank you for being open and honest. It’s not the easiest to admit and acknowledge missteps. I have a 6 month old and already have situations I wish I had handled differently.
As a nanny, I LOVE what you said about not rushing the kiddos to milestones. They will get there, you just have to be patient and trust
So good, Delilah. 💛 I feel this is a good demonstration of humility as well, to be able to look back and say “I would do that differently, knowing what I know now” & that is really honorable.
A couple of mine that I’ve recently thought about as well, now that I’m preparing to meet babe number two any day:
1. I wish I didn’t allow the pressure from social media to get the nicest trendiest things for my baby, make me feel poorly when I couldn’t afford those things. My babe didn’t care what swing she was in, or that she lives in a small apartment, & it was silly of me to spend soo much energy feeling guilt over something she didn’t even need.
2. This time I don’t want to rush a single thing. Much like what you said, I don’t want to compare my babes milestones to another’s, or rush them through what their learning in that moment. They’re their own person & I want to soak in every phase we’re in without rushing onto the “next thing”.
3. Rest isn’t a waste of time. Taking a day to play with your babes, snuggle more, and not run a single errand, is okay. It’s more than okay, it’s important to be able to do that without feeling like I didn’t accomplish enough that day.
Anyway, love this video & love what you’re doing. 💛
Would love to see a video about your cleaning routine/schedule and how you keep up with house chores in general.
WOW I needed this. Probably need to listen again and take notes and pray.
I have a 2.5 year old and 2 month old. Both girls. I’m realizing some adjustments I need to make in my mindset! Specifically, don’t expect more of them than I do myself, teach them to process emotions, and I need to stop sweating the small stuff.
Those big little feelings ! I love how you explain it. Not suppressing them. I read and read about how to react but hearing you say that helps me to remember HOW to react.
This video is such an enouragement to me. I really relate to a few things on this list, especially not learning more pain management skills and not accepting help. I'm experiencing a lot of the same things that you have, and hearing the things you regret encourages me to really work at not doing those same things. I regret letting my own emotions get in the way too much, because kids are frustrating! But I don't want to live like that, so thank you.
I am a first time mum and my son is currently 6 months old.... this video really eased my mind.. things I have done now and things (the food expectations) helps me reassess my own expectations. Thank you!
Love this vid!!
Other topic idea: you reacting to your birth videos, or your older advice videos - I’d love to hear your insight now that there’s been some time.
Haven’t watched yet but that corner is such a cozy filming spot!
I love this fourth point! I work in a daycare and I observed so many Moms comparing their children with each other and where so unsecure, when they figured out that the other kids could do something what their child was yet not able to. They were even concerned when I told them what you said, that it's normal and every child development is different.
Thank you so much for this video. My daughter is 3 years old and I've been watching you since she was born. I fully relate to what you said. We as mums tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves to tick all the right boxes and do things 'perfectly'. I learned that it is imperative that I take care of myself because no one can pour from an empty cup. Also to be kind to myself, every day is q different struggle, when you think you've conquered one part of parenting there is always a new challenge to test you!
Thank you for your honesty and insight.
This is such a helpful video. THANK YOU! I find these videos so sweet and empowering. I’m not a momma but I have always enjoyed your videos and have learned so much! My first video from you was with Theo and all about cloth diapers. Keep sharing all the knowledge! I know now of us is perfect but like you said, it’s so important to help each other.
This video is so calming 🥰 my 17 month old and me (21 weeks pregnant) just had a collective meltdown and this is nice to snuggle on the couch watching!
This is so on time for me. My babygirl is due to be born any day and I've been prepping for her. Thank you for still putting out videos despite Mom and Wife life 🤗
Praying for a safe delivery! 💃🏻
Congrats!! 🎉
@@leab5212 Thank you!! She's got great development 🙂
@@eve_63 Gracias!! ❤️
It brings me so much peace to watch your vlogs, but I have to come on here and comment to say that I REALLY enjoyed this video! It was completely thought provoking in all the right ways. This thing called motherhood is a tough job and we’re all learning along the way, but what a blessing it is to have you share your wisdom with us!
This video touched me in so many ways. Thank you Delilah.
Delilah, you are such a gift. Thank you for sharing this. My daughter is 3 and has always been a little “behind”. Some days it makes me cry with worry and feel really alone. It’s a helpful reminder to share that none of us are alone as moms, and that every child is their own little person on their own track 🤍not to mention I could relate to literally everything else you said too!
I know we’re not close, but the offer always stands for you that I’ve offered from the beginning. I will always come hang out with your kids, take them to the park, or hang out in your backyard while you have a nap or work or anything. I’m always here, and my kids are obsessed with yours so I’m sure they’d love it too 😉♥️
I'm impressed with your self reflection. Many people can't or don't allow themselves to look inside and make needed changes. I can honestly say as a Mom of 3 adult men ( ages 33, 34, 35)and now grandmother of 1 grandson (age 8), and granddaughter (age 6) I am still
"relearning" about my boys and what and how they have made their own changes into adulthood. Seeing them as adults and not children and respecting them as the intelligent men they have become. Each having their own strengths and weaknesses. I give myself the grace now to foster a more healthier relationship with them, than I was capable of at age 23. And definitely make better, healthier decisions with my grandbabies be abuse now . I know better. So I do better. I think you are an old soul Delilah. Very grounded. I love watching you blossom through your vlog. When my boys were little you NEVER spoke out about needing help. That would have been frowned upon. I tell my daughter in law all the time that she will always have my support. Keep up the great work. 🥰😘💖💙💙
Thank you for bringing up our expectations our little ones. I am an RN, being familiar with little ones I felt very confident raising my first child and when certain milestones were not reached "on time" I felt as if I was failing him as a mother. He has a speech delay and the doctors keep wanting to run so many hearing tests that he does not need. If he doesnt do a certain task at his doctors office they will not count what i say he does at home...and that he needs to be saying 10 words by age 2 or else"we will look into other things" !? I recognized it during a previous video, you said nurses push tummy time and this is very true its drilled in our heads. It was your videos that truly got me to take a step back, be in the moment and live intentionally, because felt like I was "training" him instead of naturally playing and let go of the thought that I was never doing enough. Everyone is happier, and he is just fine and already trying to talk all the time now. Sorry for the rant, its my first "break" ☕️ lol Thank you for all you do to help struggling mommas find their way 🙏 🌻
Thanks for this! Number 9 really hit hard, I really needed to hear that. Thanks!
I loved this video!! I am currently 29 weeks pregnant with my first and the stress has begun of how am I gonna do this. Hearing your videos gives me a lot of hope and helps me realize I’m not alone.
Also… I’d love to hear how you do family planning. I know you had mentioned it in a previous video and I’m so interested on how to do natural birth control after baby comes:)
My child didn’t crawl until 11 months, just starting pulling up on things at 13 months, and I’m not expecting walking until 15-18 months. Every baby is so different!
I've worked with babies and toddlers for 20 years. Your baby is completely normal. I've seen lots of babies not walk until 18 months.
3 and 3/4 years old, our little girl was when she started to walk. A year on and we are working hard on outdoor walking and stairs 👍🙏🤩💖x
Thank you! Being a mom is so much work, it's so satisfying, but also very draining at times. This is exactly why I watch your videos, because you make me feel less alone. Thank you!
I love your brand. Your brand isn't just motherhood. It's you. I could see you doing an aesthetic style, decorating, family experiences like camping, gardening, cooking, clothing and fashion. Idk. Whatever you want to make, I'll watch it 😂
Thank you. Especially #10. Most of your points I’ve already thought about, but #10 is one that I needed to hear. You’re right, those feelings should be felt and worked through, not shushed. I was shushed a lot as a child and still have a hard time being candid in public about how I feel. My son is only 3 months old, and your words may have just saved him from the shushing. Thank you.
My biggest regret is not listening to my instinct enough and listening to other people’s opinions too much . A mother’s instinct is amazing, and usually right. I also regret not having asked for help for my mental health problems earlier. Motherhood can be very dark sometimes, I had PTSD from giving birth and I waited too long and it developed into PPD.
i recently found your channel and i am so grateful. This video helps me feel not so alone. you have inspired me to be a better mama thank you 💜🙏
I would love more videos on balancing your roles as wife and mother. We recently implemented dates once a month (on the calendar!!) after really liking your once a week date plan (hoping to work our way there eventually). Its hard to find time for us when he works during the day, I take care of the baby, and we are both exhausted by the time baby goes down for the night.
Also videos relating to how to not be perpetually exhausted. Having only one, I cannot fathom how you function on a daily basis, lol
This is great, very inspiring! I want to know more about how the transition was for you from being at a 'normal' job to being a full-time stay-at-home mom. I'm 14 months in to the SAHM life and struggling with emotions of losing my old self and old life, but feeling so lucky to be able to watch my son grow and change day to day.
I’ve struggled with that too.
For me it helps to set up social time with people I really care about- game nights, or a music group. I’ve started playing a few instruments and learning a new language. It helps me balance self-care because it’s time when my son can see me socialize with other adults, but the skills are something to enjoy with him. I can play and sing to him now, and it’s nice to have people to chat with and learn with. Plus, I can teach him later, and that helps with the mom-guilt of taking an hour or two for a music night.
I hope that helps, but we’re all so different with the things that “recharge” us. For my sister in law it’s spa/bath treatments. For my best friend it’s sleepovers for the kids at their grandparents once a week.
Tearing up listening to this video, because I can so relate to alot of these points. Thank you for Blessing us with such a raw, honest, beautiful video 💞
What did you do months 1-8 to prepare you own body for labor and delivery? Did you eat specific foods, do certain workouts, etc. and did you notice a difference in your three pregnancies based on your prep?
Loved this video! Not because of your regrets but to see that motherhood isn’t about perfection. 🥰
My top three regrets would be
1. Not being jealous for my daughter, to bond with her. I felt like other people held her way more than I did. Between bonding issues and depression, which were probably linked, we had a very rough first nine months. With my second, everybody get back! That’s my baby 😍
2. Forcing a schedule instead of learning her rhythm. Similar but very different!
3. Not having a mom friend to love me, encourage me, and pray for me in my dark moments.
This was a really good video.
I am hard on my two older kids as well, expecting them to act just as good if not better than myself in most situations. It's a lot of work to give grace to others when you're struggling yourself. Seeking help, but it's slow progress.
you are a great mom, God bless your family, i have 4 kids from 23-9 and i wish i had heard these words 24 years ago you spoke so much truth and love today i hope lots of new mamas find this and soak it in, and new dads too, may be do a video with a dads prospective and 10 mistakes
This made me feel so seen. I’m currently trying to figure out first-time-momhood and it’s nice to hear you be open about your experiences. I’d love to listen to your Podcast while tackling chores 😊
Along the lines of this video with all children being unique.. a video on first 6 months breast & bottle feeding, sleeping, changing etc for new mums/ expectant mums would be good. Since you’ve had 3 kids it’d be really helpful to have a reflection on how those journeys were different - how you managed them differently rather than just a kid comparison. And also any thoughts on what you would do differently for baby number 4 with regards to the above?
Also just general how you coped with the first 6 months (tiredness, stress, expectations) what you learned with each child.
I am pregnant with my first and am loving watching your videos still, have been following since Theo’s birth.
A new what you used in your hospital bag would be good and also to do a vaginal vs caesarean comparison. A new born essentials video.. what did you buy and what did you buy that you didn’t use. You have so much motherhood experience- thank you for sharing it with us!
I love your videos Delilah because they are such a nice moment of reflection for me to see things through my mothers eyes and how she possibly felt about things. Being her eldest and her only daughter (I do have one younger brother) we have such a special connection and it’s only gotten stronger with time. I feel as though now at 23, I am really able to understand the why behind things she did. In my eyes she is the most wonderful mother ever and it’s been so fun to share these moments of realization with her💐💕
First time mom here, I needed this ❤️ We are all trying our best to be the best we can. It’s such an intense learning process, thank you for your content!!
I have three kids and I relate to many of the things you mentioned so much. I was the first of many of my friends to be pregnant and totally took my great pregnancies for granted. And I think all moms relate to what you said about comparing kids with milestones... The struggle is real.
I loved this video ❤️ I'm having my first baby soon 33 weeks now.
I hope you can do a follow up video on the ways you worked on those regrets.. like how would you help your kids express and manage their emotions or big feelings? Breathing techniques or talking?
I regret waiting till I can “afford” a baby. I was so scared of any debt that I refused to trust the Lord to provide. Another big one is getting angry at my husband for not helping as much as I wanted him to. When in reality I didn’t see all he does for us when I’m not observing. Great video👍🏻
Gods timing is so beautiful! I really needed this video today, thank you so much for making this video. I have been struggling with these issues as a first time mom and its really good to hear i am not alone and that change is possible. I am so glad you have learned from your mistakes and shared with the rest of us so we can learn from them as well. God bless you and your family!
Accepting help was definitely a huge one. But even more so, not honouring my boundaries and standing up for what I needed or what my daughter needed 🧡
Based on the tidbit you mentioned in here about asking for help, I would LOVE to see a video on how to help mom friends. I’m at the age where friends are starting to have babies (but not me yet), and I would love to help somehow, but I’m just not sure where to start. A video on this would be awesome!
I can really relate to the part about accepting help and reaching out to other mums for friendship. I am very introverted and also live in a smaller town in a foreign country where I don't speak the language well. I am very worried about feeling isolated when I give birth (in three months) and having trouble meeting other mums. I also worry about being a burden, but I know I have people who would help me if I asked or who have already offered to help. I will try hard to take your advice and learn from the mistakes you talked about.
So much mother wisdom at 25(ish?)! So impressed :) you're an awesome mum. I'm 33 and having my second soon.
Thank you, Delilah. I am almost 39 weeks pregnant and I’m incredibly nervous.
This was so very needed.
This video is SO helpful! I can relate to many aspects shared by you!
You are so wise - and yet so young! I've been watching since Theo was a baby (and a lot of the archives from before that) and seeing you become this mature is SO inspiring to me. You are honest and vulnerable about your shortcomings, and I respect that. I hope I'll be like you in my own way someday! I'm 20 and I have been married since I was 18, and when I finish my apprenticeship (as an electrician!) and we have a bigger place to live, we'll probably have a few kids of our own. I know I will definetly be coming back to your videos for advice - you are like an older cousin to me!
As a first time mom to a 6 month old, and a NICU Mom, I regret the same "sweating the small stuff" sentiment. Coming home from the NICU and having breastfeeding difficulties due to my sweet babe being fed first from a tube, then a bottle, i regret how many time I fussed over counting how many ounces I pumped. I regret letting the rigid schedule of a NICU room affect my peace and joy of being home and safe. I regret not enjoying the slow paced life of a newborn, even though while in the NICU that's all I wanted. I regret wanting to do the dishes so much when I had all I could have asked for in my arms, safe and sound. I enjoyed this video because it helped me look at this first year of momhood differently, thank you.
Home tour!!! This whole corner is darling and would love to know and see in greater detail!
Delilah. You have no idea how thankful I am for this video. I was watching your first videos when you had Eloïse TODAY this afternoon. Because I was trying to see if my 11 and 1/2 month baby boy is up to date with milestones!!! I have been on a mental rollercoaster for the past two weeks thinking he is not hitting a lot of the milestones on the list from the health visitor. I went on the autism rabbit hole and took him to see several doctors. It is so stressful. I keep sitting on the floor with him all day long trying to teach him to do things. We were reassured that even tough it’s too early to tell if there is anything wrong, he is very normal for his age. I have no family or friends to help. So hearing you talk about this is a breath of fresh air. Thank you again 💕🙏🏼
I would love to see a video about the pain management techniques you found helpful!
I relate to so much of this! I’m currently expecting baby number two, and I decided before I even became pregnant again that I would not keep track of everything this time. I used an app with my first to log every feeding, every diaper change, and I used it for months! It was so freeing once I stopped. It also caused my screen time to go way up, since my phone was always glued to me.
I definitely relate to not having mom friends. I have NO one in my life with the same views as me. Most of the time if I try and talk about my natural minded way, I’m told that I’m crazy, I’m a bad mom, I’m doing it wrong, etc. I still am looking for another mommy I can see and talk to about all of it lol. I’m in a much better place now than I was then.
About to be a mom for the first time any week now and I’m so grateful for your advice! I know it will also be a challenge for my introverted self to forge friendships and accept help from the women at my church, but your advice was a good reminder to be intentional about that!
I'm 24 weeks pregnant with my first and was wondering if anyone has any resources I can look into to learn about baby's first year of development? Thanks!
Thanks for being so honest!!
I regret cleaning and washing too much...distroyed all the nice bacteria... powerful video, thank you :)
I love your vlog so much. And I love your sweater. I am also a nursing mom and feel your sweater is so cozy and easy to feed baby. Can I ask where did you buy it? Thanks
I can relate to every single thing you mentioned!! I am a first time mom and I’m doing my best to learn everything as I go along. You are a great example of what it is to be a mother🤍 thank you for sharing your life (even the hard parts) with all of us.
This has so much insight and I really enjoyed it! Thank you!
hoping to get pregnant within the next few months… just want to say your transparency is inspiring! Great advice I will be taking with me, thank you! 🙏🏼
Number 4!! I feel like I am in the thick of this with my first baby (almost 1-year-old)...everything from eating, to walking, talking, and so on. It's so hard not to get caught up in the "did I serve her the right thing?" ... "I am reading to her enough?" ... etc.
taking pregnancy for granted... I lost my baby at 21 weeks of pregnancy and now i know how fragile we are
So sorry for your loss dear. May God bring you peace and healing. 🙏❤️
Topic idea: I’m going to be a working (out of the house) mom. I grew up with a SAHM mom (until I started school). I spent time adjusting my expectations of motherhood from what I’d assumed it would be compared to my mom’s experience. Curious if you’ve ever dwelled on the expectation of what motherhood would be compared to what it is over a generational time scale?
Would love to hear more on how you teach/parent your children during big emotions. More on this please! its such a delicate moment.
I love how you included the point about the body image issues. I also grew up with this mentality, and you're right, it does not help your mental well-being at all. I still currently suffer with body imagery and am struggling with accepting my body. I am definitely going to take multiple pages out of your book, because I love the way you are raising your kids, and it's how I would like to raise mine in the future as well. Thank you for sharing your mistakes and telling us how not to make them. I hope that by the time I am going to become a mother, your videos will still be up so I can look back on them (which won't be for a time since I am only 19 and have no interest in romance at the moment). I again thank you for sharing your experiences of motherhood with us, it has taught me and no doubt a lot of others as well. I comend you for your effort, hard work, and patience with everything despite being such a young mother. Keep it up mama, you got this, and God bless!
My first was almost 16 years ago, I now have four kiddos earthside from 16 to nine months. I nodded through your entire video lol. I was like, yup, yup, yup, that one too! If anyone is new to mamahood, take notes! Also, another good one is to learn to be your own advocate. Because not only are your babies watching and emulating you, but you can’t be their advocate if you’re not yours too. And you can’t fill from an empty cup. I have two babies who are neurodivergent so far, I am as well, and I had to learn pretty quickly that I did not take care of myself in that way and ask for help or even ask for what I deserved as a mom and a person in general. I HAD to go into mama bear mode many times and I would never of been able if I didn’t realise my value and gave myself the appropriate grace and care I deserved. We are constantly told as moms that self sacrifice is the name of the game, and to do it without complaints. And while sacrificing is definitely part of the job, ignoring your needs to a breaking point is not and should not be necessary all the time. Fill your cup. All the things you long to do as a parent will hit different when you’re filled up. They will be more meaningful for you and your kids. Babies need happy mama’s , not wrecked mama’s. Quality not quantity! 🖤
It is so reassuring to hear that a mum who has known their child since day 1, still has to remind themselves of how to manage their expectations of their children and managing their emotions. My partner has a child and I'm still learning how to find the right balance when I'm with her. And sometimes I worry that I'll never learn it because I haven't known her since she was born, but it's good to know that everyone struggles with it.
I quickly learned that I need to stop comparing my babies to what books and other influencers' children are doing. My son is 2 and still not talking as much as a lot of other 2 year olds I'm seeing. He only says 3 words but our pediatrician has assured us he is okay. I now have a 3 month old as well and I'm trying really hard not to compare my children to each other or others
Thank you so much for this!! My son and nephew are 2 months apart and are the first on all sides of the family as well. It is sooooo hard sometimes to not compare where my son is st developmentally or how we parent vs my sis/bro in laws. I try reminding myself a lot (and then being willing to stand up for my son) that he is where he is, and thats okay. That big feelings are okay and so is acknowledging those feelings
Wow this was brutally honest, thanks so much, super helpful!!!
Would you be interested in filming cleaning content? Not necessarily decluttering but more so the mundane weekly cleaning that you always go through. For instance, you could talk about your cleaning routine, what products you love, some tips that helps you keep things tidy longer, how you separate chores between you and Zach, and maybe how you get the kids involved with that. Even a cleaning series would be amazing! They are so interesting and relaxing to watch! :)
I related with so many of these! I think it’s be awesome if shared things you didn’t know how to do as a mom that you had to figure out or seek out answers for. I know as my son is getting old there’s so much Im not sure how to do or where to get that advice from.
I didn’t get my 3yo into a good sleep schedule until his sister was born & I finally figured out that consistency and how to follow their cues.
Amazing reflection and I relate to it so much. Especially 9 and 10. Definitely in the thick of those with you, but the self work is so worth it!
I’m not a mom yet, but would love to see an in depth video about the Montessori way… I don’t really understand it but want to implement it someday and I would love to get it!!
So sooo helpful!! Thank you for this. Much needed. You and your family are so beautiful. 😊
That was an excellent video! I can relate to allllll of those! Love how you spoke about everything so gently!