The social media beauty cult | DW Documentary
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- Social media are influencing the way women feel about their own bodies. Young women in particular are constantly being confronted with pictures of beautiful female bodies online - images which have almost always been digitally enhanced.
This documentary take a long and alarming look at young women whose everyday lives are dictated by the search for bodily perfection. The more users click their way through Instagram, Facebook and so on, the greater their dissatisfaction with their own appearance becomes. Hardly anyone can escape the pull of this illusory world, where beauty, fitness and lifestyle count for everything. The consequences an even be fatal: slimming and fitness crazes, eating disorders of all kinds, body shaming and sexism. During her research, filmmaker Jennifer Rezny came across a Canadian study that found that young women’s insecurity has been increased by social media. It feels like almost everyone is trying to present themselves on Instagram in slick filter-processed selfies these days. Despite increasing calls for diversity, the "ideal” female body still dominates the media's perception of female beauty. Numerous movements and initiatives - even on the part of the fashion and advertising industries themselves - have had little effect. "The female body has always been a carrier of female identity. It's nothing new for us women to be objectified and sexualised,” says Rezny. "There has also been a great deal of social development, but we are still not where we should be and where we women want to be, in an equal society. And in any case, we live in a meritocratic society, one defined and colored by capitalism, which always has to be optimized and improved. It can never be enough.”
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It really depends on who you choose to follow on instagram. My feed is filled with art, plants and vintage fashion. It inspires me and makes me happy!
My facebook with minimalism, healthy recipes and kittens .we rule
Mine is filled with my closest friends, book reviews and a lot of food, sometimes instagram can be a happy place
@Millinial Picasso just because YOU dont know girls/women who dont, doesnt mean its a rarity or that it isnt true
mine is mostly cute animals and travel :)
Kirsten Bakker exactly what i’m saying.my sister always accuses me of still having social media but i’m just using it differently than other people, also i kind of know when and when not to go on instagram, facebook whatsoever
As a photoshop professional and photographer I can honestly tell you that these ideal images are not exactly what they seem...it's all about angles ,poses and manipulation
@Lia yep
💯💯!!
But still they are so beautiful
🤔🤣👍🇬🇧
well, but some womens has been work.
I think it also needs to be talked about how this effects men and their view of women. It's conditioning them as well.
And what about women and their view of men? When are we going to talk about this newfangled nonsense going around in the media and social media that men and their masculinity are "toxic" by nature, hence so-called "toxic masculinity"? Let's discuss that lie, shall we...?
@@ACS402010 you've misunderstood something there. Masculinity is not toxic by nature and nobody's saying that. Toxic masculinity is about traditional cultural norms that are harmful to both men and women. You can be masculine without being toxic.
@@venlapallari9484 You want to talk about "traditional cultural norms", specifically in western society? Let's talk about the idea that women have certain expectations of men, and certain standards men need to meet in order for women to deem them acceptable, tall, handsome, fit, high paying career, fancy car etc. And there is certainly no harm in women setting standards. But when men have certain expectations and set specific standards for they want in a woman, slim, fit, pretty, sexy, easy to get along with etc.,, out come the cries of "Misogyny!" and "Sexism!" and the "You should accept a woman as she is and at any size because all women are beautiful!" and other such foolishness. And everyone joins in the pile-on, because how DARE a man have certain expectations in a woman? Double standards...yuck.
@@venlapallari9484 so If I say women need to be submissive and skinny that's toxic femininity...hmm ironic never heard that by the feminist, they usually call that one misogyny.. pathetic... It's obvious that the term toxic masculinity is purposely the way it is to blame everything on masculinity
@@venlapallari9484 the term is victim blaming, it should be called misandry but feminist cant accept that men are victim too, thats why I don't support them even though I agree with a lot they say
There's a saying in Chinese:
If you compare yourself to others, you'll eventually frustrate/compare yourself to death
@@rrr-tg1wk I guess it really is much easier to troll when your anonymous online, the journalist was right. You're a miserable creature.
@@straw1berry11 do you really think I can't say the same staying face to face with him?
@@rrr-tg1wk I sure hope you do say racist shit to ppls faces. Because I know if you do that one day you are going to meet that one person that will put you in your place, aka break your nose and make you cry for your mommy. Please remember to film that moment because I know seeing that would make my whole day
@@rrr-tg1wk no u can't. or why else did u delete ur bs?
@@mara_9178 it was not me who delete my first comment
These poor kids have no frame of reference to a world where social media did not exist. I feel sorry for them.
I imagine after a couple generations of this nearly everyone will have a mental illness
@@asparrow5505 I think we're already seeing it
@@tiedtruth1071 You're right
Well said and true, but also the inverse is true as well, because social media now sets the tracking of "cultural/social capital", which is required for creating opportunity in the "capital" capital worlds of many industries. Social media has flattened things like Hollywood and made youtube and tiktok the platforms for being free agents of content creation and distribution. going from 0 to 1 to launch your brand or company has never been easier. whatever the negatives, we can't let that sink the entire ship.
@@abutaher9392 Good counterpoint. Tech is tech. And throughout the passage of history adaptation is required either thrive or get destroyed ( monolithic Hollywood and centralised institutions)
Following "body positive", plus size, and fitness models are the same problem as following thinspo. You are still putting all your mental energy and self-value into your BODY. Don't put your self-value in your body. Period. You have a body, it doesn't matter how it looks. Be balanced, healthy, and enjoy what you love. If you love fitness and it's your job or whatever, then fine. But don't do it to LOOK good, do it because you love it. Don't put all your self-worth into your body is what I think the solution is.
Very well said!
I agree to an extent, but I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to look good. It is when things become an obsession and damage your mental health that it becomes a problem. That can happen with anything though not just body image. If you think of your self as very scholarly you can put all your self-worth into your grades and your degree, which can lead to just as many problems with stress or perhaps turning to stimulant drugs to study more. The solution is not to stop trying to get good grades or to stop trying to look good it is to have a balanced, healthy life with a reasonable outlook and to love yourself regardless of the results.
I agree, but the girl shown at ~ 8:00 isnt unhealthy or anything like that, shes really just a little bit curvier and I believe her taking care of herself. I dont think shes following the extremes (Tess Holiday fe) or worshipping them in any way.
So true !!
Thank you. What you’ve written is amazing and I’m going to keep it with me ❤️
I'm 25, and never ever felt attracted to Instagram, Snapchat etc. I've never even uploaded a profile pic to Facebook.
That doesn't make me smarter or better in any way, obviously. But it's always nice to see that I'm not missing out on much...
As a guy who grew up in the 90s in a small town in India, I strongly believe in the ideal of simple living and high thinking. It's not how you look, it's the substance.
True.
Absolutely correct
thats cool we are forced to work and shop
You're fkin' right ! 👍
Wow% some one with a brain yes. definitely give you a thumbs up.
My mum said this about how i should dress, "dress your self in clean and tidy clothes, good manner, and polite tongue, and everybody will respect you" and that's it really
I was told I dress like the help
Not really. Not everybody will respect you because of all above.
You can't sew on a soul.
Dress like an Indian so the cowboys don't get ya lol.
@@cherchehacknostale how sure are you?
A wise woman once said that body neutrality is the best way - Feel neutral about our bodies and not obsessing over them or have the need to show it all over social media since there's a lot more to us then our bodies.
I don’t mind people showing off. But they shouldn’t edit their pictures. Show off your body, but don’t portray something you aren’t in real life.
I had achieved that by dressing in high coverage. Cover not because it's ugly, cover because all these things are just for myself.
i like this a lot, and I think its the same with many other societal issues like ra*ism and LGBT too! In their attempt to change and improve bad norms, people jump from one extreme to the other, I think the key would be: Neutrality, equality, take the focus away on our difference or ideals.
I think it would just be a wonderful world if people could just stop caring about bodies, appearance, race, gender, etc..
You then 🙄
Yes!! 💖
I sometimes imagine explaining how starving will be a status symbol in the 21st century to medieval farmers .They’d be really confused
Even nowadays, trying to explain the "coolness" of starvation to someone from an African country where famine reigns...
@@waiki8223 I guess it depends on which African you are talking to
Yess iam African particulary from Uganda and you’re so right. Here a fat person is deemed rich cuz most families cant afford 3 meals a day. Being fat is an ideal body size.
Me: What's your profession?
Her: An Instagram model.
Her: Yours?
Me: A soldier on Call of Duty.
Me: A reader who wishes to be a doctor...
Or "an influencer"
I think I'd prefer the 2013 version 15:23
Jenni looks like Demi Lovato 26:40
.lol ha ha ha 😁😃😃🙂
“Those that care about the opinion of others will also die by their judgments”
I wouldn't want to be young today. Being young in the 80s was about hanging out in malls, dancing, and writing hand written notes to boys you liked.
Yes AWWW I miss those times ❤️
Today it's still about hanging out, dancing, shopping . . . . while selfie-ing yourself and uploading it on social media to impress the whole world.
Nostalgic..
I'd rather send my boyfriend photos than do boring things like that, I hate people eitherway lol
I don't think we grew up in the same 80s.
In my teenager years I would compare myself to others, but now I think its nonsense! I think its so important to grow self esteem and accept yourself.
It’s certainly not an easy lesson for most to learn and I would think growing up with social media would make it harder to overcome that. I’m actually glad social media wasn’t prevalent when I went to school. Then again I’ve never compared myself so maybe I’m missing the point to of had that mind set
@@Tismeabbie Yeah, totally agree with you. Its the inner mindset that matters.
True words!
Watching this video hits close to home. I struggle with low self esteem because I am overweight and not pretty. Growing up, my mother was always knit picking at me about all my flaws. I had acne, so she would always bring it up about how bad my acne was. When I started to gain weight, she would knit pick at me about my weight. She used to tell me that a man would only want me if I was skinny and flawless. If I have to be constantly on eggshells about that and in order to meet a man, then it is not worth the anxiety and depression.
wow .. ur mom is abusive sorry 😢
appearance is fake its molded by social media its really nothing, its in the eye of the beholder also. ur worth isnt determined by your beauty, pls love yourself for the interests u have the love u can give
Rather ironically pressuring people about their heavy weight is likely going to make them eat even more as they begin getting depressed and comfort eating. Apparently acne can be caused by stress too, so why heap even more stress?!
It's sadly your mom that has problems, which is often the sign of a personality disorder . Glad you are clever enough to know what's going on in your life, and you can be skinny and flawless, but absolutely horrible. Anyone with a genuine lovely personality is going to be attractive to many other genuinely lovely souls out there in the world . Good luck.
I get you and I'm glad that your acne is gone. I am 24 and still trying everything to cure it. Looking at the mirror disgust me. 0%
self-confidence. Never had relationship. The covid isolation has been very easy for me because i have done it most of my life so others don't have to see my disgusting face and don't even get me started on anxiety and depression. Acne is so much worse than anyone thinks. So i'm glad that you don't have it anymore.❤
I deleted my FB account in January and I never even tried out Instagram... feels so good to be free. I can only imagine how exhausting it must be for a woman to be on Instagram. I will never go back to social media - my real life is just too precious.😌
I am a woman and I dont feel exhausted being in instagram 😒😒 all women are not the same when they see beautiful woman or fit woman in social media they get depressed 😒😒 some have their confidence still there.
Social media pure evil. Yes, there was a time when natural beauty was OK. If showing off and being proud is your main goal, you have fallen under Satan's spell. Jesus loves you!!!
It’s not that hard especially since most of the photos are photo shopped 😂
I used facebook just for memes and to know what's trend. I don't used instagram.
Markus RiverRhine wow duh, instagram is more “look” focussed then youtube. It’s a different system. You can be on youtube for workshops, talks, documentary’s like this one. Don’t you REALLY see any difference?
As a 60 year old overweight man I now feel my g-string modelling career is not so assured.
Lol you just disappointed so many horney women!
I think in this day and age you will do really well in your modelling career.
little movie magic you be behind camera in no time no wories future is here
Robert Callaghan never give up
Never give up Brother ;)
I'm a guy and I even have body image issues. Until 21 I had bad acne, at 22 I noticed that my hair was falling out and I would be extremely careful not to look down because it would show my balding spot. I had gynecomastia (man boobs) until 27, and walked with my shoulders rolled forward to make them less noticeable and always wore jacket even in hot weather to hide them. I actually believed that girls wouldn't want me because I had to have perfect pecs and defined abs. I still have wider hips than normal men and wonder if any girl would want me. Most guys won't open up about their insecurities because society demands men to be a "tough guy" and punishes those who show even a little emotion. I think social media/media in general has the potential to harm men as well as women's self esteem and their self image. We are all humans and experience the same things so we should not separate men and women. Men should also be encouraged to open up, even though its harder for them, it is much better for their sanity and mental health in the long run. Insecurities are insecurities and we should help each other to overcome them, regardless of gender.
You go man
Own your self 👑
i agree with you.
Well, a lot of women will try not to talk a lot about their insecurities.
I don't think it is society telling men to not be emotional. It is people who do not want to burden others with their problems.
Also, men and women go through some similar things and some different things, generally speaking.
It isn't like men go through pregnancy and periods, right?
I am a very balanced, and “strong-psyched” woman. Not a lot that can happen to me that I cannot process and deal with. But instagram managed to get under my skin - quitting was the best thing I’ve ever done. So dangerous.
girls! delete instagram, less stress and less comparison
I mean, I don't even have instagram. But I can still compare with women I see on the street. Don't need social media to feel this way.
@@user-me7mm7gr1p haha shut tf up incel :D
Victoria Kunetsky they can't. They prefer the easy income.
@@user-me7mm7gr1p why'd you expect them not to be picky on a "dating" app? I don't use those but can already tell most are a sausage fest for sure
@@user-rx4jg8lq7h but atleast you see real people, not fake instagram models who edits almost everything to look good
Why am I watching a german documentary, translated into english, even though I'm german and would understand everything they say. 😂
weil's die doku aus irgendeinem grund nicht auf deutsch auf YT gibt?
Geht mir auch so XD
😂🤣
Hey, guy it's helpful to non - German.
Because those anorexic girls make you go hard as a rock , the effect isn't the same in German.
There was a time in my life when I posted photos of mine on FB daily. At some point I noticed that my real life and life on FB have almost nothing in common. I did everything I could to create an impression that I was living a super colourful and interesting life online while feeling depressed and anguished in real life. A few years ago I made a decision to stop posting on FB. I still have my account but I log in just once or twice a week to check my messages and catch up with foreign friends' birthdays. I'm so happy I'm not addicted to FB anymore.
I raised my daughter to know that what’s in her heart and in her mind will serve her over any other features she might have. So far so good. 👍🏻🥰
but that isn’t enough today, especially in school. Believe me
@@xxanonymous6130 But school will be over eventually. And life is easier knowing your true worth beyond the outer shell.
Your first name means truck
@@aperture0
I know! 😆🤭🚚👍🏻💛
@@lorichaudhry7290 oh I see 😅😁
I block anything I dont want to see , I hate “perfect” fake photo’s it’s all ridiculous and I don’t need it
then stop complaining about it - since you are _apparently_ through with it (which, from your rant, you are still stuck & sick of it)
Lol, you follow and look like the “perfect” fake photos. Easy for you to ridicule others about it.
I think I'd prefer the 2013 version 15:23
Who ever told woman that Botox looks good in any way, played a sick joke on woman.
Also all to common, is those pages and profiles with butts hanging out and over emphasizes looks, lack substances which would suggest a whole person, with a single thought towards individual ideas. Creating a self replicating issue.
Lmao haven't you heard? Bloated dead fish face is the new gorgeous! Hahaha...
chaching
kyle fenrick very sick. We don't know the long term effects of it yet. If it leeches into the nervous system, boom. No good news.
River Smith yeah we do, it’s been used since the 70’s for eye muscle hyperactivity, blepharospasm and cervical dystonia, and it’s absolutely save when used the right way 😊
what people have to realize is that on social media you are a customer and those influencers are just trying to get you to consume their media. You should never make decisions or build opinions based on social media. It s hard to be smart but not that hard to just look and sound smart
I am skinny naturally and I'm stage artist and I always have been ashamed of being skinny. Society doesn't approve skinny people because it doesn't look healthy and not so much beautiful too.
true. I'm also skinny and I get constantly told how sick I'm looking, I should eat more and more weight would suit me better & especially my legs are disgusting... skinny shaming is a thing. and body positivity should include all not just curvy girls
No offense but I'd rather be naturally skinny so I can run around and go anywhere without anyone noticing me... I missed my childhood body type😓😓
Don't let the envious, fat folks talk you down. "Body shaming" is not a one way street always going to the fatties... they are the worst body shamers becaues they are envious.
@@anonymusmaximus805 body shaming like you just did?
Yes I've always been skinny was happy with my weight now because of a health reason i lost weight and look like a skeleton. I don't like it and I don't understand who wants it
But even following the “ body positive “ people is still making girls focus on their bodies. Body positive is just as obsessed with outside appearance. BP is just as toxic. Maybe young girls need to help the needy, volunteer for a good cause. Do something good and take the focus off of fitting or not fitting in.
It seems like you have gravely misunderstood body positivity. Please educate yourself on the matter
Body positivity is stupid, fat means unhealthy and undesirable.
@@elyazidasri2968 yikes
@antwinettec Don't "hon" me. I disagree with you but you are allowed to have your opinion
I was with until you wrote your conclusion lol. That’s an absolutely useless solution. Women biologically are judged on their looks so it’s pretty logical that they often have to keep up with social norms of what’s considered beautiful. So a better solution would be to unfollow beauty bloggers, focus on your health (fitness, nutrition), do what you love and the beauty & confidence will come from within.
We are living in a very superficial sad world
March 18, 2020 - 4 months later and it's gotten even sadder. Take care. Jesus Loves You.
WOW. SOME ONE FINALLY MAKES SENSE?
It’s always been like that what planet have you been living on
@@nameless592 la heronina te ha matao el cerebro verdad
I’m not
This goes to show how empty and shallow people are nowadays.
This started out as a message we've all heard and know, but slowly transitioned into something really beautiful and empowering. Great video. Image is a difficult thing. Whoever you are, know that you have value and are loved. Even people that don't know you care about you. Many of us know your pain. Society won't change over night, so don't let yourself get dragged down. Be hopeful for a better future.
image is not difficult xDDDD
Difficult is to live life. And why should image be easy too? Everything meaningful is hard in life, but image is one of those things that if neglected wont harm objective life aspects, such as income, building a family and/or health. If ur ugly u still can live, and that's that!
Disclaimer: If u are fat ugly, then yes, its bad for your health too
just limit your social media activity or close your accounts. ANYONE IMPORTANT is gonna be on your contact list or someone you talk to in person and WHY would you spend hours looking into other peoples lives
"ANYONE IMPORTANT is gonna be on your contact list or someone you talk to in person" to be fair, nowadays you can quite easily go quite some time without interacting with anyone (with possibly co-workers/other students as exceptions). While that's a problem in itself too which should be addressed, I guess that allowing people to be part of a community who would otherwise be excluded is one of the upsides of the internet/social media.
Amen. I deleted all my social media 2.5 years ago, and i am much happier that way. All i have is this youtube account, that's it. :)
This was my motivation to stop using facebook. I never installed instagram and hopefully never will. I want to live a real life.
@@luciatat4084 hello your idea coincides with one of mine, did you manage to stop using facebook now? btw where are you from?
Thank you for this
I'm an artist and I follow other people's art and it makes me feel like my work is CRAPPPPP.
HonestlyKi DW should make a documentary about that. The lies from Instagram aren’t only affecting beauty standards, you end feeling bad about your home, your kitchen, your creativity flow, your holidays...
@@allnargles Literally your everything feels inferior...compared to falsehoods and fantasies. But it's so hard to give it all up. Looking for inspiration easily turns into finding discouragement.
HonestlyKi The concept is share, don’t compare if that’s the route you want to go.
But I bet the time you spend looking at someone else’s is time you could spend allowing your mind and your art to take you freed from preconceived notions to where you can’t even yet imagine!
Your work *isn’t crap.* When it comes from yourself it expresses what makes you the unique human being you are-there is *no one else as good at your art as YOU.*
Promise.
Same
same
Even the ads that ran in the middle of this video were suggesting me to subscribe to low-calorie meal deliveries. It is so hard to ignore all these types of signals and accept your own body the way it is as a woman. As always, thanks for the very well-made documentary, DW!
Same for dudes, the amount of "get big muscles,6 pack,iron man legs and a super chiseled jaw line" ads get a little tiresome after awhile, i'm a over average weight and less than average looking dude who works 50-68 hours a week in a box factory. Ah well just gotta focus on the "what can I do different aspect in my life and also try to focus less on my sleep schedule since thats all I seem to do now is sleep in my free time.
Buy TH-cam premium 🙃
@@jacksonthompson7099 It sounds like you'd need to sleep a lot if you're working that many hours.
@@teshn1229 it has gotten worse lol last two weeks i've punched in 70 hours. Most of the guys at the plant think we will be working 60-70 hour weeks for another month & a half.
Thank you for making this documentary. It's like the 4th one on this issue I can show my daughter to break away from all this body dysmorphia bullshit that is destroying countless kids lives. My kid is on a better path now of self love and confidence.
The best thing she can do for her body confidence is to lift weights. Female weightlifters and powerlifters look strong and beautiful and don’t need to be super lean. That did more for my mental health regarding my body than I can put into words.
I'm glad i don't have any social media. I only watch YT, mostly on history, documentation, travel and food. Made me aware of there's someone out there that really more miserable than myself. It made me grateful for the life i have rn.
Wohooo same! I still have insta but never open it, purely for people contact me through dm:) TH-cam only! Documentary, funny videos, and business related content. And because of it I have my own business and passive income😍 youtube change my life for real xD
same here
I agree, I only have FB and YT. Don’t care to be bombarded of pictures of individuals who alter their pictures to where they don’t even look like that 🤷🏽♀️.
I wish I was you
@@bipashana5887 y not b urself instead it might be more profitable
I wrote my bachelor thesis on the effects of Instagram of the body image of young girls and the results were shocking tbh.
hey where can people read it? :)
I would love to read it pls
point no.5 may surprise you!
I didn't know bachelor's degrees required a thesis?
@@SkyyPiano not every country definitely. but in mine and his we are required to
As a former magazine editor, I can definitely tell you that it's all about manipulation, like big time. That 4-pack ab, check, that tiny waist, check, that smooth skin, check...you get the point.
IT SURE IS!!!!
This is such a well-done, extensively descriptive, factual, and expert mini-documentary. This was truly thought-provoking and interesting. Thank you.
Thanks for your positive feedback! Glad to hear you liked the film.
I am so glad as I mature, I realize how little my looks matter in comparison to how I show up in my own life and for others.
Makes you realize mental health issues are more widespread than one suspects.
Outer beauty will fade ladies ♡ its the inner beauty that really counts, when it really counts ✝️ learn to love what you were blessed with
This documentary sheds light on the sobering impact of social media on young women's self-esteem and body image. It's disheartening to see how unrealistic beauty standards are perpetuated online. Thank you for raising awareness about this crucial issue.
"I wake up in the morning and the first thing I do is watch pictures of thin models." Right. Put down the phone, girl.
Easier said that done. A vast majority of people check their phone first thing in the morning.
It's not even "thin models", oh, ok she says it: just normal girls, with anorexia.
I google my favorite brothels in Switzerland to see who is working.
Check out the latest documentary on netflix called @social dilemma. And there is much more info out there. It can help bring more insight in the underbelly of social media. Don't take my word for it. Check it out.
@@raulh5008 indeed. The latest Doc on netflix called Social Dilemma is very eye opening.
Wow I'm surprised and impressed that they actually addressed the sexual assault, abuse, and escorting that models and actresses are pushed into. There's no female winner when you have a society that objectifies women
they said: it's empowering ....bullshit
I am a woman and now women are more objectified than ever. People rate us (men or woman) as numbers...it's nonsense
Nobody is pushing them. They want the cookie, you can go and work a 9 to 5? But no. Amber had to marry Johnny Depp? Why?
@@franz3810 I was arguing with someone about that. I asked why the numbers and he said it’s the norm. When I asked what if a “10” is a narcissist, an abusive drug addicted mother a mentally I’ll person, a manipulative pos, a scammer , a gold digger ….is she still a 10? “
The guy answered yes ..I said “ ok I’m done you are far gone buddy” 🤷♀️🤷♀️
@@joshhernandez6974 because the numbers are purely based on physical looks
@@franz3810 the number rating thing has been around since the 1970s. There is a movie with a woman named Bo Derek and she played someone who was a 10 in the movie 10. That s*** has been around a long time! I do think it's worse now than before but the number thing has a long history. Just like stupidity.
I'm insecure not because of social media but only because of my family, my ex-friends, I have never felt good about myself because my mom never had told me that I'm her little princess or I'm perfect, no, she used to point out my belly when I was only 12 years old in front of other people or telling me that my friends are so pretty and I'm just OK, then my grandma used to say that I'm ugly and no one is going to marry me and my aunt used to call me weak and useless. Basically, my anxiety and problems with eating a proper amount of food and picking my skin started because of my culture, I didn't fit into the cultural beauty standards (and I'm so sorry for my English it's my fourth language so please don't judge)
Whenever I think of beauty standards, I think of Judy Garland. The girl was 17, and was forced into taking amphetamines and barbiturates to stay skinny. The extra pressure to stay in a certain image, plus the grueling stress of working on a set, the industry is awful. She ended up dying cause she never felt satisfied with her life, and in the end it drives a person mad. Perfection is not worth it.
OH MY GOD really. How sad
I don't use any social media for 3 years now 💪
I minimize my use of it, because too much of it is trite, filled with platitudes. Everyone needs to have their post liked instantly, so if no one pays attn, it's disturbing and you get paranoid about not being liked. So, when I notice that I'm looking at past dates, I log off and more importantly, I reserve Friday through Sunday for reading books and exercise.
Never in my life i use any social media
TH-cam is a form of social media you dumb ass
@@misterprogressive8730 exactly what i was thinking about
You're using social media here
Before social media, they had magazines, Hollywood, and other females to which they compared themselves. Nothing new about this.
@@OpiumBride, there was photo enhancement before digital imaging. There were many tricks with the lens, the camera, and the development to smooth skin, remove blemishes and freckles, make it glow, etc. Also, most models already represent an idealized image. They are like the 1% in beauty.
@@OpiumBride umm, most of them had surgeries as well...
The difference now being that you're constantly reminded of other (fe)males existence much more frequently whenever you look down at your phone, and to add to that you then see (wo)men who are much more "accessible" seemingly looking better than you and having a life that appears much better than yours. It's the equivalent of looking at said magazines/movies every other moment rather than occasionally.
You could always say they were exceptions to the norm that's why they were featured.
True
Okay, I just watched the first 5 minutes but I have to say as someone who grew up in the 90s this is not something new. I’ve watched and heard enough of this topic with women feeling completely unsatisfied with how they look. Eating disorders because of wanting to look like models existed before instagram. They just consumed a lot of those fashion magazines back then.
Social media and technology as a whole is just a new thing to blame problems on in general. Before that, it was comics, TV and even books, believe it or not.
Perhaps it was the invention of the mirror and the camera, that really got it stated 😉
Every documentary that I watch from DW open my mind, thanks for that.
And this is one of the reasons that I quit Social Media years ago. I can say I was a visionary!
@Ben Grimm too
Inferiority complex is dangerous. A real underlying mental issue that needs to be addressed. It goes both ways, for models and for wannabe models.
Aging and being chronically ill, my body is my enemy, my meat cage. It's hard to hear but I hate it. Seeing these people who are healthy and pretty have problems is rough. I'd give anything to be healthy.
I’ve found guys set their expectations based on these IG models & when they meet up with a gal, treat us in comparison to these images.I had an eating disorder for years to be considered a pretty gal guys prioritise
"comparison is a thief of joy" 👌
After I have spent 15 days at the hospital taking care of my uncle and witnessing the suffrage and pain of young, adults, kids. My perspective on life was changed. I realized the huge amount of trivialities I was sinking in.
Social media is not always bad... I've met nice people who have the same hobby as me from social media and they're really fun to hangout with! They're very nice and supportive. It all depends on the user. I'm really grateful for social media because its hard for me to make friends irl.
It’s interesting how just a few years can make a huge difference. Especially with the pandemic forcing all of us to stay home for longer periods, people are valuing real, raw content more these days. Less filters & perfect lighting, and more vlogs and unfiltered photos. Shows how the beauty/advertising industry is so flighty and ever-changing. We’ll never be “perfect” because the definition is always changing. Sad that so many are making permanent decisions on temporary trends.
IG and Tinder are making people more superficial. I don't see the upside of that.
IG and Tinder - they do nothing. It's us who misuse these tools.
Well, i met my soon to be husband on tinder. It really depends if you get influenced by fake people on the internet or you become as authentic as you are. Social media is a useful tool to influence people be it through authenticity or superficiality 🙂
@@JOVI08 Congratulations on your engagement and your attractiveness, because if you and your fiance met on Tinder, you're most likely both quite attractive.
Ikr
It makes women more superficial. Men dont care about social media.
I have never used instagram, ever. I have been made fun of, bullied, left out of groups because I was the new person in a school system. I have become strong in my own identity and do not need social media to rule my world. No one ever fits into a mold of beauty..it is an unattainable ideal. You must love yourself.
Adversity builds character. Kudos to you 👍
I like your comment Dee 😁... wish more people thought like you ....
Great attitude! Keep it up!
As a man myself I appoligize for what my gender has done to woman and their insecurity about themselves and all I can do to make up for it is support you now in whatever you want to become.....and personally I will. It's pretty certain if you look around the World today we men have not created a great utopia by any means, hopefully after enough woman leaders, like Merkel or Ardern who have shown to the World they are more then capable, we'll see if they can change that, and my hope and belief is they can....it's time we get out of the way and let them try
I quit most social media because I’ve got no one to impress. I only appreciate those who love me for being ‘me.’
No Instagram
No Facebook
No tik tok
I don't use social media it's a waste of time and makes me feel heavy burden plus full of negative energy that I don't need.
Um better off without it
youtube?)
@@tuumanka7974 I said the same thing. lol
TH-cam is a social media
Same. The best thing you can do is not be a part of that fake life. But I think for women especially its an addiction. Its instant gratification and non stop attention.
@@tuumanka7974 youtube is different....i choose what I like to watch on youtube
"If I post a problematic picture and 5 people take it as an example, that's my doing."
RESPECT!!!
You can't refer to problematic beauty standards and at the same time strongly emphasize attention seeking individuals. Actual, serious examples do exist, not just whiny public sphere successfuls.
'Its in our nature to enjoy dressing up and wear make-up' hmmmmm, I don't think so.
"those who are judged the be the most beautiful are rewarded with the most likes, emojis and clicks"
U forgot to mention money...
This has been always the case.
💁♀️its true 😓
And status, and free stuff, and fame, attention, and more selection of partners, and higher chances of getting a job (even if it’s not related to looks)....
Haven't had social media for 3 years now. And it's honestly toxic to have. I haven't been happier.
how are you on TH-cam then
@@PlaceboEllie this isn't social media its a platform for entertainment not used for keeping in touch or anyone to find me etc. Have a blessed day!
i still get angry over the news and yt because people are so stupid it physically hurts me (just watch any karen and you'll want to nuke the entire fucking country)
@Long Duk Dong see what? The father of my kids giving me a kiss? Lol married to a Jamaican and PROUDDD :)
@Long Duk Dong I know being a mature adult is fuckin difficult huh buddy :( *pat pat*
“I don’t compare myself to others. I just want to get better.”
Boy. That lady is lying hard to herself. I bet my left ball she spends half of her day browsing Instagram, comparing herself to other women out there. She has no idea how her life is completely manipulated by the AI of social media. If she even knows what that means.
You don't need someone else's image to make you feel beautiful.
🙁
It's so sad.
Every documentry of DW is highly appreciable.Thanks DW.
"My body just never fit into that mold"
- Cut to a picture where her body fits into eurocentric beauty standards perfectly.
Well that depends. I look like her in that picture in swimwear and I feel fat. I know I'm not (I was even told my body would be fine with a.bit more fat at a fitness center) but seeing other girls with amazing figures makes me put myself down so often.
Lol, yeah.
It's in their heads, and they need to get over it. People should stop blaming their personal maturing process on society.
If she was ugly, yes, blame society for being mean to her. But she isn't.
It is her problem, and she needs to work on it. Not a bad thing if she asks for help though, that is ok....
AllisterCaine You’re miles beyond stupid lmfao. The education system wherever you’re from is complete dumpster fire. I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of anorexia or body image disorders in general, but they’re not cute little quirky hobbies people just pick up because they’re bored. Read up on anorexia; your brain experiences involuntary changes that distort your reality when you look in a mirror, it’s not something you can “just get over” without years of work. It’s shaped largely by your environment. Lots of women naturally are bombarded with propaganda and programming since birth about how hot they need to be to matter. For a lot of women it takes years after adolescence to unlearn that shit and accept themselves.
yes))) lol
@@AllisterCaine It is in their heads, absolutely. But like Satan (who shouldn't have called you stupid, that was uncalled for) said, most women are bombarded with propaganda their whole lives emphasizing that womens' value comes from their beauty. And men get bombarded with social structures and propaganda as well that hurts them negatively. My point is that you're mostly right: it is her problem, and it is in her head, but the cause is environmental/social.
Well done documentary DW. This should be shown in schools. This starts at an early age. I started ballet at an early age and loved it. I didn't grow up with social media. However, in ballet companies some ballerinas have problems with eating disorders as they cannot contol what they eat. Unfortunately, this body image, reinforced by social media can be a serious issue for health. Although for most principal dancers you're physically working out all the time and eat properly because you need the fuel. Not keeping a balance and you cannot do your job. However young girls, trying to fit an image that the world wants you to be, before you even have formed a strong identity must be very stressful for them. I blame social media for a large part of this. These issues with self image with girls and even boys need to be addressed at an early age. They need support from family and people who have gone thru these issues and gotten help or support and helped to limit time on social media platforms , finding other interests that don't just focus on your looks and body image that the worlds media dictates for you. Thanks for exposing this dark side of social media. 35:21
Thanks DW for addressing this profoundly important topic, which reminded me that I tried social media for four days back in 2012. I gave it up on day four since I felt the pressure to always have something "great" to present. My thought was--and still is--this is not real life, it's not giving me joy...so I let it go. Since then, I have been interacting with people--in person--on a daily basis, and enjoying the moments deeply.
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment.
Welcome to TH-cam, a social media platform. :D
Thank you for including english voice actors in the documentary. It makes it much more easy to watch when i'm working on other things.
The double voices confuse me a lot. I listen to the German voices and then suddenly the American voice comes in. Switching all the time between languages is pretty exhausting.
"My motivation is to keep getting better. I don't compare myself to others, I just want to improve myself." (13:53)
- Says a girl who takes part in fitness modeling competitions and shares it all on social media.
I am not saying she is a bad human being, but she is either lying or totally unaware of herself.
Taking part in competition is the ultimate way of comparing yourself to others and living an active life on social media does not support your statement either.
That mindset most people have, associating problems always with others while not reflecting how you contribute to it yourself, is one of the reason why we fail to deal with complex issues.
yas I agree.
she has the same obsession as an anorexic person, but can hide behind the word "healthy" or "fitness".
@@rutabagage8176 it is called orthorexia
@@dystopia390 thanks, I didn't know
noo... not everything is a disorder people can be happy and not compare themselves while still wanting to improve and knowing they aren't perfect
James Conley yes of course, eating healthy and exercising doesn’t mean orthorexia. However, orthorexia appears when one has an unhealthy obsession with eating healthy, to the point of having difficulty to live normally
To say, "there's no solution" is just another lie. Turn off the smartphone and stop comparing. Serve others and find ways to benefit society and stop complaining or keep going the way you're going. If you have to have the smartphone attached at the hip then you're already in dependency mode looking for validation that your life matters.
It’s hard out there when the standard seems to be a small body with big hips, small nose, strong jawline and expensive clothes. Even if you’re a plus size model, most of them look smaller than an actual plus size person so it’s tricky and it makes it harder for society so accept real raw people.
it's scary that models which are described as plus size in the actual real world would be completely average weight
Most of your assumed body standards might be correct. Not sure about wider hips though, but I think that it depends. But definitely not small noses. Small noses are ugly, big and medium ones are definitely more beautiful. Also people often associate small noses with low IQs. (I'm not saying those people tend to be dumber, I only mean, they're often perceived as dumber by participants in a test who have been shown pictures of people and had to rate them based on their looks.) Maybe that's because people with certain disabilities have very tiny noses and that's probably where that assumption comes from. But I still don't get why anyone could find small noses beautiful. Maybe that was created by men who want women to look stupid. I don't know.
Even plus sized models fit the beauty standard of being smooth, proportionate and feminine. How many plus sized women actually look like that in real life?? Very few. Most plus sized women have big stomachs and flat/flabby bums. Not firm hourglass shape w big boobs big bum small waist. It’s not truly representation.
This is exactly why I deleted my social media accounts. I have more peace of mind now.
Same
Yet here you are texting away on TH-cam 🙄🙄🙄
@@jackjackthompson5771 ,hilarious🤣🤦🏾♀️
Same :):) I prefer TH-cam plenty of things to learn here
I'm watching this while eating. And as they talk about eating less, I just got hungrier.
Eat girl.
😂😂😂
Funny 😂😂😂
me too! haha
That Rapper Esra is so cool , very beautiful and such as positive role model for women ...Thank you Esra ❤❤❤
I think taking care of your body is important and looking "good" does impact your social life but I feel like social media broadcast an "one size fits all" kind of beauty and a beauty that can only be purchased, which is impossible to achieve. But I also think that social media has given space for minorities and people with different bodies, looks, disabilities, etc to speak up and be role models for others. Unfortunately we live in an era that narcissistic and extreme self absorbed behaviours are considered empowering and a sign of self confidence, which is not always the case. Everyday I feel like what we say matters less than how we look specially when it comes to women.
Been off social media for the past 5 yrs and i ain't complaining .
TH-cam is social media tho
Guessing Geo it depends on how you use it
@@relanimh1039 no it doesn't, it's a social media platform. anyway, this person has commented...so they're using it to communicate.
Guessing Geo ok bro email/letters are social media aswell 🤡
@@tcm-pi1ku no they're not ❤️ look it up
“You are not special. You're not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We're all part of the same compost heap. We're all singing, all dancing crap of the world.”
― Chuck Palahniuk
Asteroth ah how i love the humorous irony that is Mr Palahniuk, a modern day version of my other favorite author Kurt Vonnegut . Without those two and their hilarious commentaries on society as a whole, you would not have this barrel full of laughs standing before you in the comment section. .
"I make hundreds of thousands of dollars and you don't." --- Chuck Palahniuk
Just because not everybody can be special, doesnt mean no one is you know 🤷♂️
Everyone is special! Who would like to see only roses? It would get boring really quickly yes. Stop being bad, okay!
@@janetday5431 no they're not.
"I don't think it would work any other way, the economy and business who work with people like that, don't benefit from you being happy with your body. Then there wouldn't be any idealistic instagram" that's the purpose dear
Even when girls follow 'body positive' influencers, they still fixate on the BODY. It still sends a message that confidence comes through body and style. It's healthier, of course, but you get my point. It doesn't help girls to NOT worry so much about their ever-changing bodies.
Is there a documentary that explores the similar social media affect on young men?
Note; this is not a criticism, im actually curious as to wether there is a similar recognition of the social media affects upon young men.
Men don't tend to internalize their problems like women, they tend to become aggressive at others instead, because society tends to send the message that women have to be perfect and it's their fault for not being and men don't need to be perfect because they already are, even if they are mediocre at best. (See the common sitcom cliche of beautiful housewife who does everything right and ugly dorky husband who always does everything wrong but somehow they are a good couple) Ofcourse all people are different and deal with their problems differently but statistically you won't see men behaving as much like this.
id suggest any doc on the mindset/psyche of bodybuilders and why they do it/their self image. they usually explore inferiority/body image but youd have to find a newer one to have a social media angle.
There is very little interest in any of the 'traditional' media in the problems that males face.
phosphenevision becoming aggressive is a symptom of internalizing problems but okay
Yes, its not social media but rather pornography.... they are the ones looking at the girls that are posting all day long..
The cult of narcissism. Constantly gawping in the mirror and taking selfies, get out there and volunteer for a charity and give some much needed help to those less fortunate, if your brain and all your limbs work then you are already truly blessed.
Something a low value individual with no social opportunities would say. Hmmm
@@dannyx498 the lack of self awareness and nuance in this comment is astounding.
Extreme narcissists should be a new reality show like all the other stupid brainless ones.
What ever happened to Let It Be" as Song to get thru the Pandemic thru"??
Secure people do not require excessive validation
I was a teenager in the 90’s and we didn’t have access to social media, it was magazines and music videos. The trend back then, was “heroin chic” (Kate moss etc) and I lived off of a diet of Diet Coke and cigarettes. I was a size 0 and at my thinnest I was 6 and a half stone (I’m 5ft 7). I was not well… at all! I felt like I was going to collapse most days’. I dread to think how I would have been in today’s society, where you can’t get away from it. I feel sorry for the youth of today. They have a lot to contend with.
We don't teach ENOUGH. That's a profound pun. It has two meanings: quantity and sufficiency.
Watching this, I’m so grateful for being 40 now, for having had the privilege of growing up in a world without mobiles and Facebook. When I was 22, I had better things to do than sitting at my parent’s home and to compare myself to photoshopped “models” and feeling inadequate.
Good for you, I see so many 40 plus complaining about their age. I'm 26 and would do anything to have been a teenagers in the 80s/90s. I mean Chris Cornell,. Eddie Vedder, Layne Staley? Fuck yes, No mobiles, no internet, Real life dates rather than tinder. Being on a bus/train and striking conversations with people, looking people in the eyes rather than staring at their phones. Man it must have been wonderful.
I’m 40 as well and I’m sorry but I remember the time period when we all tried to be model thin. Even video vixens were thin during that period compared to now. We just didn’t have social media exaggerating it and easy access to the procedures and plastic surgery. Especially if you were from California. And it didn’t let up until around 2005. But I will admit. It was way better then than now.
@@juizee98 what do you mean "tried"? We were all thin back then!
@@sorchx It was wonderful I miss those days so much!! I feel so bad for today's youth its made them into zombies its really sad to see
Oh whatever. You didn't look at magazines? Or watch TV shows or Movies? Get off your high horse m with that " I had better things to do" 🙄. All you're doing is shaming and blaming women and girls framing body issues as something that's in their control
'“We will gradually become indifferent to what goes on in the minds of other people when we acquire a knowledge of the superficial nature of their thoughts, the narrowness of their views and of the number of their errors. Whoever attaches a lot of value to the opinions of others pays them too much honor.” - Arthur Schopenhauer
We men should really raise our voices and say something about these absurd beauty standards that society has invented for women. *They're not even **_our_** beauty standards in matter of women!* In real life we don't have such a narrow fixation on few body types and face features!
In other words, stereotypical beauty standards don't even reflect real (heterosexual) men's tastes.
Awesome Documentary ever ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you 🙏🏽
Psychiatrist : Today's animals live more relaxed and comfortable life than humans.
Girl : How!
Psychiatrist : They don't use Instagram.
what is intsagram ?
My cat lives a pretty more decent life than me, for sure.
@Asherah 1147 I'm not comparing we can learn many good things from animals. Animals follow natural instinct & we humans follow fake social customs.
And me 🤓 i dont have all this shit for straight 3 and a half year. Its all for rubbish showup and makes u feel less valued and beautiful
I think you should also have an male version for this, it would be such an eye-opening for the older,current, and the next generation. Greatfull to see this channel.
@@VeganV5912 your first line is "go vegan and you can have loads of food and LOSE WEIGHT".
You are part of the problem they are discussing.
I agree
Men compare themselves with regards to their income and career, not their looks
@@FINSuojeluskunta
Maybe for what we widely known point of view, indeed it's one of the reasons, come to think of it, there are a lot of factors upon it. Anyway thanks for that.
@@FINSuojeluskunta straight men maybe, gay men have it harder on our looks, we’re expected to look perfect
This documentary is so good.
I'll be eternally grateful I didn't grow up in the time of social media.
That why people like us are unusual to everyone else but I don't care I don't have any Facebook never posts anything keeping my private business to myself 😊