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- What's the antidote to rising nationalism, polarization and hate? In this inspiring, poetic talk, Valarie Kaur asks us to reclaim love as a revolutionary act. As she journeys from the birthing room to tragic sites of bloodshed, Kaur shows us how the choice to love can be a force for justice.
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Her book, See No Stranger, is FANTASTIC!!!
Bought it because of your comment!
How many lights must we find before the darkness lifts? Ms. Kaur is such a light. Long May she shine.
« Forgiveness is not forgetting, forgiveness is freedom from hate. »
- Valarie Kaur
when she spoke of her mother and her grandmother and their mothers I GOT SUPER EMOTIONAL because it reminded me of when I was ordained into temporary buddhist nun-hood and my mom and her mom were there and it felt divine.
As a Christian, I have great respect for the tennents of the Sikh faith and those who endeavor to follow it. I'm sorry that not all of Christ's followers have shown you such respect.
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*tenets
Valarie is an incredible speaker with a powerful message. I am moved.
I was on the verge of crying tor the entirety of this speech. it was powerful, raw, empathetic, and radically revolutionary. I loved the emphasis on revolutionary love for one another. If all could receive this message in the way intended, the world would be softer and a lot more compassionate.
we watched this in my comparative religions class today and i basically cried. i wholeheartedly embrace this philosophy. it’s beautiful
When clicked on this video i didn't know i was in for such an amazing speech, one of the most thought provoking ted talks i have watched in a while!!
My favorite place in India was the giant free kitchen the Sikhs offered at Amritzar. They fed thousands and had dal pots you needed to stand on a ladder to stir. They fed EVERYONE! Thank you for your work Valarie Kaur.
Joy is the gift of love, grief is the price of love, and anger is the force that protects it.
I have watched this so many times, and it always gives me chills and tears. It buoys me and stokes my flame of faith that we have a future ahead of us, and it motivates me to fight for that future. Revolutionary, radical, unconditional love. Thank you.
This is so moving. It made me cry. Can't recommend this wonderful woman's message highly enough. Thanks to her from the bottom of my heart.
“Tending to the wound is not healing it; only they can do that.” This is a profound statement which I am going to talk about in a slightly different context. Thank you for this video which has inspired me in several different ways.
Just WOW! That phone call to reach across that divide is the greatness that humans can achieve...to go past the animal instinct to fear and to act in revenge....this is the beauty of humanity!
had me in tears the whole speach dear God what a potent message
For those commenting on love versus political ideology : she raises the conversation beyond ideology. She mentions 3 facets of love in support of civil rights activism. It's not romantic love obviously but love as a force of tolerance and inclusion, love as a spiritual AND rational understanding that those you fear are not very different from you at their core : they have their own fears and wounds which lead them to commit acts of violence and hate. By loving yourself (meaning your own wounds) and others (those you wish to protect from injustice and hate) and your opponents (those who see you as the ennemy because they have similar wounds in them), you can bring lasting changes in a divided society. She talks about love in a very practical way that I found very inspiring. Idelology tends to be disconnected from personal experiences with others because it tends to be theoritical more than practical. Love is a direct experience within ourselves and in the presence of others, especially those who are different and that we tend to label without knowing them.
well said! Thank you.
Thank you Valerie for this incredibly powerful speech! I love the fire of fierce love and the three tiers: loving ourselves, each other and our opponents. I will remember the breath and push of mothering that is required to create greater compassion for the hardened and hated parts of ourselves and our enraged world. Many blessings to you and your family.
easily the best TED talk ever given.
Thank you, Valarie, for these wise words. As a former midwife, I feel them deeply and take them to heart. Love to you
That was amazing! Brought me to tears, actually. We all need to live like this.
What an inspiting, gentle and amazing woman. One of the best Ted Talks Ive seen.
Such a powerful, emotional, and beautiful speech. And I see the truth of your words in the world
Love is sweet and dangerous. I was once in love and it ended like the whole world ended or fell on me. Before you love anyone, love yourself first and be confident and always know you can lose that person at any time. Overall, love but always protect your heart and brain because these are the two things that damage people after a love-fall-out. ❤❤🙏🙏
Brilliant - this is a path forward which gives me hope
Beautiful and inspiring. I hope this video finds new life now!!
I would like to add a fourth category to the three categories she starts to mention at 3:24, “For those who may look like us but but with whom we no longer share the same perspective...”
What an inspiring and hearth touching story...Beauty with brain and the way you delivered ur speech is amazing 👏
She mentioned that she is a feminist so unfortunately the fact that you used the word beauty in your comment towards her makes your comment one of sexual harassment and objectification of women that contributes to a rape culture that prevents women from being as powerful as men.
Treeforged see there are two person one who understand what I have written is totally pure and other types are a**hole I think u falls in these category.Thankyou😊
@@treeforged9097 what a small mind you have.
This was beautiful. Heart breaking at times, but I love the message. I just hope people listen. We are all one.
Fire por vous!
The way she speaks, all that she said was beautiful
One of the most amazing TED talks. I didn't expect it. Tears.
Thank you so much for the 3 steps and, most of all, for your inspirations. "In joy, e see even darkness with new eyes."
Such a powerful speaker& message. Brava!
THIS IS THE BEST TED TALK I'VE EVER SEEN IT SPEAKS TO ME SO MUCH!! I AM A NEW FAN VALARIE! I WILL APPLY YOUR TEACHINGS TO MY ACTIVISM WORK 🙏
This talk reduced me to tears multiple time! Your story is beautiful and your mission is valiant. God bless you
Scrolling thru comments, i found it strange some saw manipulation here! What behaviour is she trying to manipulate? Manipulate us into loving each other? and even if this were the case, what would be so wrong with that? What, tell me, is suspect about a fellow human being expressing the idea that to love and forgive is good? If we dig deep enough, I think love is virtually always the answer to virtually any problem...ROCK ON Valarie!
This was beautiful. Im so glad I heard this message tonight! Thank you!
Just flabbergasted by the comments of some viewers... hatred is so much implanted in some minds...I just feel sorry- for those who posted these negative comments. You must be living in a terrible world...And you know what (men): the world we (women) are longing for is not yours... we are fed up with your competitions, wars and contempt... There is another way.
That was one of the best TEDs I've ever watched. Her birthday is Valentine's Day.
Is it just me or is she like really beautiful?!
Huge Applause for her.
Deeply inspiring! Thankyou Valerie for your wisdom and heart.
I watched this with my sister... We think this woman is eloquent and smart. It was cool how femenine is her presentation, even the colors of the scenario.
It is really sad that the main thing you take away from this talk is her gender signifiers.
+Treeforged: It's sad that you're judging me for a very brief comment I made. I literally wrote something fast because I want to watch this again when I have more time and write my thoughts about the talk after having time to reflect about her speech, I don't want to say something about her philosophy (which happens to coincide with my moral values) in a rush. So I made a quick generic comment about the presentation itself (not about it's content), firstly I said "she's eloquent and smart" because that is the most important and impressive.
Secondly, I said I thought it was cool how femenine is her delivery because many times women who are leaders have a more dominant demeanour (which is also cool), but I thought it was very charming how motherly and femenine she sounds even though she's a freaking badass lawyer. I think we shouldn't feel pressured to act with a certain specific mannerism to be leaders and I thought it was cool how she is confident being herself.
Thank you, Valarie Kaur.
You’re very strong! Thank you for this amazing speech ❤️
Thank you for sharing your wonderful speech.
There is hope! My soul danced, my heart melted & I wonder ...
I will stand by your son; my brother & I will not abandon my post. How can I be of service?
17:00 "all of our emotions are necessary"
Hi! I know this comment probably wont get enough attention but, here's what i have to say: I'm Katie, I'm 12 and i love watching tedx talks! Its amazing realization of seeing and hearing these ordinary people and their amazing stories, its honestly eye-opening. They really help me see sides and opinions which I appreciate. Its also pretty nice because my friends think I'm gonna be the next big smart person (lol). And YEAH that's my story :3
Katie Koala keep watching and never stop learning!... and commenting! It is very inspiring when someone so young takes a profound interest in such important topics!. Thank you 💜
lol ty! I have a huge interest in physiological studies and hearing other peoples stories and discoveries!
Katie Koala :)
Katie Koala
as a fellow "next big smart person" I can tell you that you can do it, and that can be your fate, if you make it be so.
Never give up, and always question authority (including people giving Ted talks)
I'm now 19, and I'm doing great things, working acts of revolutionary love. We need more beautiful people, people who care about their fellow man, to lead us into this new age of Love and acceptance. You can do that. You can lead us. *IF* you decide to.
Peace, love, and unity, young lady.
Hey kid here's a tip, even if you were't telling the truth. Don't say your age. Peace.
Simply wonderful, every word.
That was amazing! Thanks for the message of love
Jesus said: Love others as much as you love yourself (Matt 22:39). This concept was not created by the feminist movement.
This speech is perfect. I love it.
Sibele Thibes Monteiro , I thought the same.
Attributing the discovery of the importance of self love to feminism it's kind of naively manipulative.
What about many philosophers and mystics in history?
it was not jesus that said that first...COPYCATS.
@@dreffereinkayden2731 OOo looking for some fuzukin originality k? EVERY DAY IS NEW AND I THINK THAT THE WISDOM OF THE PAST ALWAYS STANDS AND IT TAKES AN OPENESS AND CERTAIN LEVEL OF COURAGE TO TAKE A STAND AND TRY TO CULTIVATE THE INFINITE SOURCE WITHIN IN OTHERS and kinda just being emotionally attentive while also thinking critically about the routines of trying to please the powers that be, yourself. HEY zues pass me a lightning rod. allah akbar
oooooooooooooooommmmmmmmmmmmmm
:) religion is tricky but can be so simple,
Thanks val ... my aunts name is also val lol
Awesome speech! Very true words.
Thank you for your work.
I heard of you and found you. A woman warrior.
I aspire to be as fierce and loving and smart. I feel so far. 15 years for you? I will keep hope to try!
❤ thank you
We learn that participation in oppression comes at a cost. It cuts the oppressor off from their own capacity to love. Wow. That is the heart of it, isn't it?
What an AMAZING, WISE, POWERFUL, LOVING SOUL 💙🌍💚🌍💜 Thank you for sharing your wisdom with such courage and compassion. Rivers flowing from my eyes as my heart is so deeply in love with the diversity of people, cultures, orientations, beliefs on this planet… I know we came here to bring peace, to learn love and forgiveness, to change things and to assist in the birthing of this new earth. You are such a powerful force of love and an incredible woman, mother and soul! Infinite prayers to you, to all who feel like you do, to all who suffer globally…. We came to shift things. I believe in the power of love 🌍
That emotion at 9:00💕💕😭
@Lukas ?
Powerful. So amazing and I felt the love and compassion.
It deserved more views for people learn to love
Thank you for the excellent message and presentation!
Brilliant. 💖💞💖
Thank you 🙏❤️
Beautiful! Amazing!
Beautiful talk, love it ❤
She is a Mirror of God's Love for all of us and she is speaking and living the motto, May God's will done on the Earth as it is in the Heavens! She is an awesome example how all of us should act. The more we reflect her love and God's love the more hate will be dissolved and transformed into Agape Love. We need to be that change! 🙏👍🙏❤💙💪
brilliant words of wisdom
Palestra maravilhosa. Fiquei emocionado. Muito obrigado.
Here from the NPR podcast TED Radio Hour: “How To Citizen” with Baratunde Thurston (who also has a great TED talk)
Just the good cry i needed today. I'm pleased to say i'm finally moving past being angry at people who don't share my--liberal--views and now i will learn to love them...and everyone!
Thanks for affirming that LOVE really is the only way! Does anyone know of any classes in Loving ourselves and others? really cool would be a school dedicated to teaching students all the philosophies of love. So far, Ghandi, MLK, You, and a handful of others are all i have found.
Traditions that speak to me of living myself include the work of Buddhist nun Pema Chodrin, wellspring classes at the Unitarian Universalist Church, and Catholic priest Father Richard Rohr. Best wishes on your journey!
Loving, not living
I would love to see Valarie Kaur and AOC together in the american Government !
Such a wonderful lesson!
Returning to this after 2024 election. Needed a reminder.
A very powerful message as it always has been. After her first epiphany, she couldn't realise what epiphnanies were yet to come. Her fourth lesson will be that a "feminist intervention" call to arms simply means more hate, more intolerance, more polarisation, more self loathing, and more narcissism. She blames 'right wing white nationalism' for a corrupt government without recognising her 'enemy' or that the core of the event was frustration from demonisation is not useful in the least. 2016 meant a choice for America between the faces of two evils. The speaker does not realise she has not started to practice what she preaches because she wishes to tear down hate and injustice which always has a cost despite how much you may attempt to sugar the pill. The best way to deal with an enemy is to live a good life, instill good values in your children and contribute to your shared society, in my humble opinion.
Hey man, I agree with helping out your shared society... doing your job, not stepping on the toes of someone doing their job.... I feelthink the feminist manwoman convo is a source of important and saucy line blurring... Everyone can plant trees though, sans penis or weilding a slippery bananski. Our home could use a few more naturals. #94peacebethejourney
Your's is a truly Revolutionary Love....
God speed....
Waheguru ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh
Nanak Naam Chardi Kala Tere Bhaney Sarbat Da Bhala
Guru Ang Sang
Thank you!
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Halleluja
I am crying.
*How Amazing every Word!!!!*
Let's talk about love, and come together.
Tom Riddle exactly ❤❤❤❤
Thank you
It is our turn to see no stranger!
Love our enemy who is intention is to kill me, who is stealing my property, who is not like me!
Heart touching inspiration
POWERFUL!!!
It is the perfect talk
Amazing 👏🏾👏🏾
Wonderfully written and delivered. While I find most of her points to be a panoply of the most basic social-mediaesque leftist talking points, I appreciate the passion and drive with which she speaks.
The Wokeness is strong with this one.
@@stopthephilosophicalzombie9017 better to be awake than on the wrong side of history, trump cult member.
Love is different. It's surprise, awesome, amazing, cool, extraordinary, morbulous etc.,
Speech is very nice mam
Good morning
Thanks a lot for share your beatiful idea. You are so brave. We'll brave too.
It all makes sense! In order to breath we need a nice atmosphere, people like Elon Musk (Tesla) also recognized this.
We need no revolutionary love, we need universal love. Love life in every aspect and be grateful that you are able to love.
Om mane padme hum
Maravilhosa... muito bom mesmo 👏👏
Share this with everyone you know. Revolutionary Love , the feminist intervention.
Inspiring! :)
So to make the long story short, she wants to say that, love is the solution to hatred.
It is like no one has ever thought this before... I wonder how we managed?
But there is also tiny little thing that we miss if badness wouldn't have existed then how we would know the value of goodness.
Much easier said than done. Constant inspiration is necessary to do.
If people as individuals would care each other despite knowing that everybody won't pretends as you then we could make world better place, don't try to impress people with what you say, try to impress people with what you do, it makes sense right?
Yea hundo.. trees are so badass... especially when there are us humans rolling and dishing out carbon dioxide. Here is my plan of revolutionary tree love, let me know what you think honestly: We gather up some people, preferable someone who knows which companies are releasing the worst juju into the the beautiful spere we are all doing our best to jive through, and we go and plant a bunch of trees and occupy the space long enough for the trees to grow and stabilize the uncertain future. The beautiful uncertain future that I am very EXITED about because of love doing it's thing.
This hits a little differently after the pandemic.
There is love and then there is Love.
love is incapable of ever giving birth to Love.
love has a sense of division and separation, which breeds conflict, violence, and suffering.
Love does not.
love originates in the brain.
Love does not.
love is a chemical process of the brain.
Love is not.
love is the opposite of hate. love and hate are opposite sides of the same coin.
Love has no opposite.
love is possessive, controlling, jealous, envious.
Love is not.
love is given and received.
Love is not given or received.
Love is not like a commodity traded in the market.
love is limited.
Love is not limited.
love can be increased.
Love can not be increased.
love loves only a few.
Love Loves all.
Love does not exclude anyone or anything.
love is the movement of the I, the me, the self, the so-called True or Higher Self, which is the activity of the past conditioning of the brain.
Total Freedom from this delusion is the beginning of Love, in each and every moment of daily life.
Do Jacob's Ladder. Set yourself Totally Free of fear, anxiety, sorrow, envy, greed, jealousy, violence, hatred, loneliness, attachments, competitiveness, ambition, bias, and prejudice in daily, once and for all, now and forever. There's no reason why anyone need waste another day trapped in the Matrix of self-deceptions. See the group on FB called "Total Enlightenment NOW!".
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Powerful
Thank you St Anne the Tart for suggesting I watch this Tedtalk.