I cant find anything wrong with how your conversation went Dan, it is the same as all your previous conversations with Dad. So you can relax with regards to that. Your patience in repeating everything a hundred times is admirable. ❤
@@sashamulligan2993 Hang in there. Sending You my sympathy. My Gram got violent too; it's hard because they slowly become people we no longer know. It's hard for them, with the mind slipping, Gram knew she was losing her mind, and that, too, was angering for her (but she was already a fighter), the lack of her ability to really understand what she was doing caused some anger as well. Sometimes we can only be on the sidelines, and try to keep them safe, but I know it can be dangerous when they are angry, confused, and don't know whom they are, forget about the 'stranger' that's trying to 'interfere'. Bless You, You're doing the best You can, it's easy to get down on Yourself, helplessness is real, I recommend getting in touch with professionals that can give You guidance, because it is a struggle to mourn someone that isn't dead, but they aren't the same individual they were. There's no 'right way', just Love them, and ask for help when YOU need a break, it's okay to not be okay with this situation. I found my Aunts and Uncles fought over Grams care, but ultimately they didn't WANT her in a home, but she became a danger to herself, even at night, so she did end up in a special ward, but was gone within the year, after forgetting most of her own kids, and getting violent about going home. Just sharing, so You know that there is no 'wrong/right', do what You can, but remember that this is hard, and NOT Your fault if You feel resentful of this disease. I know I resent the disease, and wept alone, when she no longer knew who I was, but I still tried to visit with her, and the nurses would tell me I did good, because Gram said "I don't know who the hell You are!" But we went to her room and hung out, after 5 minutes of initial hostility; the nurse was encouraging, I could've given up, but so glad, even Bittersweet, that we had time together, strangers connected by blood.
I COULDN'T HAVE SAID IT ANY BETTER MYSELF AND DAN COULDN'T HAVE MADE ED FEEL ANY BETTER EITHER ... JUST LOOK AT HIS SMILE ... TWO SWEETHEARTS IF YOU ASK ME ... ALL MY RESPECT TO BOTH LOVELY GENTLEMEN!😊
I think you did just great Dan. You have more patience than most people with answering the same questions over and over again🙂. Pop’s so blessed to have you and Danielle ❤. He ended up with a smile and a coffee, that’s all you can ask❤. His hearing loss makes you have to sound like you’re really loud, but I’m assuming hearing aids aren’t the answer(?). No matter what, give yourself a pat on the back for looking after your dad; so many other elderly folks aren’t as lucky.
And coffee always makes things better, and I bet after eating his tuna sandwich he will reset and calm a bit! I went thru this with my dad and I know it can be a challenge, there’s good days and bad days. And then one day it suddenly ends and you will cherish the time you spent together!
Wouldn't be kinder to tell him he has. Memory loss which I know u do Dan but Danielle is a little more harsher y telling him he has dementia. I think his feelings get hurt. 🤔❤️
Dan, take it from a retired Alzheimer’s nurse!! You have absolutely nothing to apologize for!!! I have learned more from you about how to handle an Alzheimer’s patient then I ever learned in our classes. You do a fantastic job! I am so glad that you have Mark to help you. We love your Dad and we are so thankful that he has two loving sons. We also love you and want you to take care of you, also!! God will bless you and your family!!!
This video reminds me when I would talk with my Dad who passed away 3:years ago at 91 (miss him !) Dan you do a wonderful job caring and interacting with your Father who is absolutely adorable 🥰
Imagine being Ed and waking up and not knowing where you are, the person you live with and what happened to a previous life that you only have a vague recollection of. Even though he’s the luckiest guy to have a caring son, this is scary stuff and I feel for him.
It must be like those dreams where you think you are back in school or on a job and have some assignment that was supposed to be done and you haven't even started. When I have one of those and wake up it's a flood of relief. In Ed's case, it happens when he wakes up and doesn't go away until he's been filled in by Dan.
@Julietismyshihtzu May God bless you and comfort you in the almighty name of Yeshua ha'Moshiach! Love to you. Call on Him. He will answer. Trust in Him with all your heart and soul. Turn from sin and follow Him. He DIED for YOU so that YOU may have ETERNAL LIFE with HIM. Yes, life eternal. I love you. Hang in there. Things will get better. Trust in our Father in the almighty name of Jesus/ Yeshua. Amen! ❤
Dan did awesome handling dad’s stressful memory situation by easing his confusion with the same repeated reassurance answers he gives dad everyday. Before you knew it dad was redirected, calmer and ready for Mark and lunch!
Dan no worries here you did the best with the situation you explained it the best you could …you told him what he does every day it is so hard for all god bless you Dan for explaining it and you will have to do it again in a few hours or minutes I had the honor of doing this for my sweet mother in law she had a great sense of humor and for fun we did puzzles and I did her hair daily I got her dressed so she knew when it was day time or when it was night time by the way she dressed and every night just like my kids I tucked her in her bed read her a story …
He has just the sweetest smile. I so hate to see the worry and confusion in his kind eyes. You do a great job, Dan. And apparently, a good cup of coffee and some news on the TV is a great distraction! ❤❤❤
There are feelings of worthless, with loss of privacy and dignity in his disorientation. This proves that he was a very good responsible man for long time.🇿🇦
Dan, my father too is 92 with dementia/alzheimers. He looks like your Dad too! My father is home as well with his family taking care of him. (Our house isn't as nice or I'd make videos too lol).. You show him love and respect in every video I've seen. No one can do better. He must have been a great father to you and now it's your turn- (our turn). It's hard to see the men we knew as children and admired for their strength and our perceived view of their intellect become dependent upon us but what better gift can we give them but the peace of being "home" for as long as possible. Thank you for sharing your story. Give Dad a hug from upstate NY ❤
If you are doing a good job like Dan with your father you should video your life with your father. I think someone that is living like most Americans will show everyone another example of how people deal with their parents growing old and having Dementia/Alzheimer's . I think Dan does a great t but people would appreciate more videos of how these situations are handled by all families
Dementia has 7 stages. God Bless you for keeping your dad with you. I’m a nurse and we see too many dumped in a facility where they decline rapidly. Prayers for all of you
I am a retired nurse and I totally agree with you! It is like, “out of sight, out of mind” ! If families would just work together they could all share in caring for their loved ones. Unfortunately, it usually ends up with just a few willing to share in the care. At the end of my precious Mama’s life, I was working 12 hour shifts with a special needs group home . When I was not at work, I was by my Mama’s side in our home place where we grew up. The weekend we lost our beloved Mama, I had called my Director of Nursing and told her that I would not be back to work because I was never leaving my Mama’s side again! I know that my Mama is in Heaven and I know I will be with her again soon! God Bless you and Dan and all families that are there for the ones that gave them their life! ❤️
As a retired nurse and Executive in dementia care; not all loved ones have the financial or emotional resources to care for their parent/grandparent. Most are not “dumped” but rather seeking experienced caretakers to help them through this difficult time❣️Seeing this family may help others determine their ability to follow in suit.
I agree with you but also i understand why some are sadly placed in nursing homes. For instance im a single mother with no life savings, who battled 2 cancers drained bank acc working 6 days a week to take care of both my parents and raise my son to make sure they are well provided for. Meanwhile battleing heart conditions and stress. Im behind on bills my mom is behind on bills and my dad has lewy body dementia and we cannot afford to place him in a nursing home for proper care. If my mom does she would lose her house and thats why i spend every waking moment to care for my dad and my son. I did set up a go fund me for my mom to help out with my dad but after 2 years of trying to do that for her no one could help so its left to me to do the best i can. Its very hard but i do understand why some people place their parents in a care facility. I worship the ground my parents walk on but if i could afford to my dad would be getting the care he needs.
I have young onset mild stage Alzheimer's disease. I worry so much for what my husband endures and for how hard it will be for him. Your love for your father is clear.
Your comment touched me. I hope you find ways, now while you are still able to ease yourself and your husband and family into the coming years. May God be with you and yours.
I'm a caregiver and I love to care for the elderly with dementia and Alzheimer's. You do a wonderful job caring for your dad. What a great example of love and compassion you show others for your dad.
My Mother who died on 12/2/22 had altimers and dementia and towards the end she would go off on me and my sister saying that "you want to give my dog away" or "your just waiting for me to die" every time it would rip our hearts out, but we knew it wasn't her but it really hurt and life went on and I commend you for everything you're doing for your Father..
Alzheimers is so difficult for the caregivers. You are doing so well with your dad. Don't be hard on yourself. I'm sure it's hard on the patient being so lost and confused. ❤
Dan, I was a caregiver for many years and I specialized in Dementia and Alzheimer's disease. You did great, you stayed calm and repeated details to him until he finally understood. You're doing a great job. I know how difficult it can be on both sides, but he's very lucky to have such a caring family. I am praying for you and your family as you continue to care for your Dad.
My 89 year old father does this too. I really appreciate your being so transparent and sharing these very difficult life passages. These videos have really been educational.
All Student Nurses should be made to watch this clip. Particularly the students on Mental Health course. A great learning tool on how to interact with a confused patient. ❤
I also think you handled the situation as well as anyone could. Your love for your dad is heartwarming. He raised some good kids to be able to be safe with them in his old age. He’s adorable. I wish this didn’t happen to old folks.
You treated your Dad with respect and showed a great amount of patience answering his questions. DON'T apologize about the way you handled things. Your family is amazing.
BLESS YOU FOR TAKING OF HIM. My Gram went through "I'm going home." It is hard to watch them get confused; Gram left us at 72, I am so glad he has You.
Dan,I think the reality is that a lot of people wouldn't be able to handle this and they would have put the parent in a home. Respect to you and your family ❤
You did just fine dealing with interaction with your dad. You supported him, reassuring him, explained things. Dementia is hard for everyone. These are the moments that make care givers struggle. We try to do the right thing, we try to support them as much as we can. We explain things to them and love them. It’s no ones fault, you did a great job. Much love to you and your dad.
Oh, how I remember these conversations with my MIL. She was the sweetest person. When she spoke of going home she didn't always mean the one on earth. Fortunately for us she retained her sence of humor and she never forgot my husband. Her face always lit up when she saw him. You did an amazing job of explaining with love and patience. God bless you on this journey. It may seem not seem like it, but you will cherish these times sooner than you think.
You are an amazing son every dad should dream of !! My dad died at 71 in 2012. I wish I he was still around for me to take care of him. Love both of you !! You kept a little knot of care on his top, that’s the care he was giving you when you were learning to walk as well !!
Dementia is a family disease! All hands on deck all the time. I went through 6 years with my husband at home who passed away last year at the young age of 72. Heartbreaking to watch an Accountant who could no longer even turn on his computer…. He was a lot like your Pop! He was very confused at times, but then somewhat lucid, and it could change on a dime! Thank you for sharing Pop with us❣️
Your doctor is the cause of dementia! Cholesterol drugs starve the brain, the brain is the fattiest organ in the human body. We didn't have those diseases 35 years ago because we didn't have statins. Doctors don't make any money from healthy people. Wake up!
I was talking about end of life and as the words were coming out, I was thinking what the hell am I saying? That was not ideal, but at least he did come back to normal in the end
@@BsTheLadynred we'll look at it this way in half an hour he'll have forgotten about it anyway. Your a great son after all the care he gave you, I guess it's his time now. We're all human we have flaws and make mistakes as long as your learning your not failing him. Your the one who stepped up to fill this role of care and you should be proud of that despite your flaws. I just hope when you get old someone looks after you as well as your doing to him. Keep up the great work. At least you still have your dad around that's a gift in itself and he's healthy as best he can be. Love the videos . Camera vertical is better by the way. Keep smiling everyday is a blessing.
That was handled perfectly. Dan has a good, clear, strong voice and explains everything at a nice steady pace. Ed is a very lucky man. And this channel is showing others going through this how it can be done and is, at the end of the day the greatest way to show love and gratitude to a parent or other. When you think of old people in homes where staff can only do so much, it's a joy to think of dementia patients being looked after in the bosom of their own family.❤
You are amazing. The love. The time with explaining over and over. Your dad is truly blessed to have you for support. I only wish I could have the support you provide as I age. I am so scared of aging because I have no one. Keep doing what you do so well.
as retired caregiver at a memory careward for 20years I had this same conversation with many different people Trust me you are doing very well give Dr Ed hug
Yes! Dan is sometimes hard on himself but he does a great job explaining things to his dad and constantly reminding him that he has nothing to worry about.
Your Dad seems like a real sweetheart and its heartbreaking to be so confused and disoriented. You are absolutely wonderful in the way to talk to him, your tirelessness and patience. I could only dream if such a disaster as dementia happened to me that I would have such a loving and kind person to help me. Thank you for these videos. They are very helpful in teaching about this terrible disease and how to care for one so afflicted.
I was thinking I was going to see you become upset. You are the most patient and kind man. Nothing to apologize about. It’s not easy to repeat yourself over and over again and to see your Dad getting so confused. You are a blessing to him.
You did very well Dan! No judgment should ever come your way, because anyone who’s complaining are not living in yours or Danielle’s shoes! Caregivers are amazing people with an mega depth of love and compassion!! Thanks for sharing!!🥰🥰🥰🥰🙏🙏🙏💯 6:59
This should be shown to carers who work in dementia specific nursing homes. I’ve seen so much lack of compassion: report so many people for awful treatment to the residents. You are doing amazingly. TRULY ❤❤
This channel is immensely helpful to me. My partner is 86 and is suffering from early dementia/memory loss. This helps me understand his behavior better, especially as it gets worse. Thank you.
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You are providing a great place for people to understand and see the effects of dementia on a family member and how it affects the rest of the family. You are a great example of how to speak to someone going through this disease and how difficult it can be. Thank you, Dan!
All I see is the illness. so sad. His confusion, disorientation, the long gazes, the constant harping on his keys, his home, its all the illness. You are doing a great job Dan. You are telling him all the right things - he is safe, protected, and very much loved
This segment brings many memories of my husband before he passed away. He tried to pack his clothes and go home, one evening. My prayer was answered because just as he walked out onto the porch, it started pouring out. Now he is home, healed and whole. My heart goes out to you! ❤
His smile when you tell him he's in good health was too cute and sweet! I work in an assisted living facility, bless you for taking care of your father. You are a wonderful son!🥹💗
Mr. Dan Salinger, The manner in which you Care for your father is amazing. Your parents did a phenomenal job in raising their children. They invested in your Lives and cared about the people that they sent out into the World. And it shows how All of you Love, Respect, and Care for your Dad. Thank you so much for sharing your caregiving journey with your father. God continue to bless and keep you and your family safe with his Angels encamped around you all.
Well done Dan you have so much patience with your dad , you are reassuring, very loving . It’s very hard for you to be a caregiver and it’s 24 hours a day . God bless you Dan ❤🙏😇 I love you both xoxo Annie from France 🇫🇷
My mom had dementia and I totally get it. You handled this extremely well. You were so reassuring and positive, and you spoke clearly and loud enough for him to hear without getting frustrated. He ended up happy, waiting for his coffee, watching the news and forgot about having to get on the plane, Lol, so well done!
This is as perfect as a response can be from a son to his dad during an episode ! As a former nurse for the elderly - you and your family are a wonderful example of how to embrace this sweet man and giving him the best last years he could possibly have !
I lost my 87 year old husband 3 years ago and it was so hard living with him every day. Now, I would give everything to have him back. What you are doing for your father is amazing! And educating others on the daily life of caring for someone with dementia. It’s a tough and exhausting world for u and your family, but you will be super grateful you honored your father when he is no longer with this world and you have all the memories.
God Bless! You are so patient, and very attentive to your father. You make sure he can understand when he is having a confusing moment. Such a blessing to see. Caring for a loved one is never easy, especially when they are sick, or having memory loss. God Bless you and your family.
I spent five years taking care of my mother. While she had all her facilities she had major health issues. Diabetes, insulin injections twice a day,mobility issues and many more. It was very hard working 50 hours a week and taking care of her but I don’t regret a single minute. Finally she fell because of a health issue and she was placed in a nursing home. Within 6 months she fell under their supervision and died soon after. It’s a very hard job to take care of a parent. I applaud you.
I cant find anything wrong with how your conversation went Dan, it is the same as all your previous conversations with Dad. So you can relax with regards to that. Your patience in repeating everything a hundred times is admirable. ❤
Absolutely agree!
Agree!!!❤
Absolutely well said! You are an angel Dan!
💯 % ...... Good job, Dan!
I really admire you Dan, sometimes it's so sad, like today, dad mentioned his teacher and friends 🇿🇦
You’re a great son, Dan, and you handled the situation perfectly… with patience.
He sure did do good job. People dont understand until they been in the situation
@@diannekhan5199I agree. I’m dealing with this now only my mom isn’t quite so pleasant.
@@sashamulligan2993 Hang in there. Sending You my sympathy. My Gram got violent too; it's hard because they slowly become people we no longer know. It's hard for them, with the mind slipping, Gram knew she was losing her mind, and that, too, was angering for her (but she was already a fighter), the lack of her ability to really understand what she was doing caused some anger as well. Sometimes we can only be on the sidelines, and try to keep them safe, but I know it can be dangerous when they are angry, confused, and don't know whom they are, forget about the 'stranger' that's trying to 'interfere'. Bless You, You're doing the best You can, it's easy to get down on Yourself, helplessness is real, I recommend getting in touch with professionals that can give You guidance, because it is a struggle to mourn someone that isn't dead, but they aren't the same individual they were. There's no 'right way', just Love them, and ask for help when YOU need a break, it's okay to not be okay with this situation. I found my Aunts and Uncles fought over Grams care, but ultimately they didn't WANT her in a home, but she became a danger to herself, even at night, so she did end up in a special ward, but was gone within the year, after forgetting most of her own kids, and getting violent about going home. Just sharing, so You know that there is no 'wrong/right', do what You can, but remember that this is hard, and NOT Your fault if You feel resentful of this disease. I know I resent the disease, and wept alone, when she no longer knew who I was, but I still tried to visit with her, and the nurses would tell me I did good, because Gram said "I don't know who the hell You are!" But we went to her room and hung out, after 5 minutes of initial hostility; the nurse was encouraging, I could've given up, but so glad, even Bittersweet, that we had time together, strangers connected by blood.
Agreed. That was not an easy situation, but you navigated it with grace, love, and earned wisdom. Kudos to you.
Dan, you're great with your Dad. He gets continually reminded of who he is, where he is, and how much is is cared for
I COULDN'T HAVE SAID IT ANY BETTER MYSELF AND DAN COULDN'T HAVE MADE ED FEEL ANY BETTER EITHER ... JUST LOOK AT HIS SMILE ... TWO SWEETHEARTS IF YOU ASK ME ... ALL MY RESPECT TO BOTH LOVELY GENTLEMEN!😊
I think you did just great Dan. You have more patience than most people with answering the same questions over and over again🙂. Pop’s so blessed to have you and Danielle ❤. He ended up with a smile and a coffee, that’s all you can ask❤.
His hearing loss makes you have to sound like you’re really loud, but I’m assuming hearing aids aren’t the answer(?).
No matter what, give yourself a pat on the back for looking after your dad; so many other elderly folks aren’t as lucky.
And coffee always makes things better, and I bet after eating his tuna sandwich he will reset and calm a bit! I went thru this with my dad and I know it can be a challenge, there’s good days and bad days. And then one day it suddenly ends and you will cherish the time you spent together!
Ed seems to get confused when it's time to eat.😅
Wouldn't be kinder to tell him he has. Memory loss which I know u do Dan but Danielle is a little more harsher y telling him he has dementia. I think his feelings get hurt. 🤔❤️
Dan, take it from a retired Alzheimer’s nurse!! You have absolutely nothing to apologize for!!! I have learned more from you about how to handle an Alzheimer’s patient then I ever learned in our classes. You do a fantastic job! I am so glad that you have Mark to help you. We love your Dad and we are so thankful that he has two loving sons. We also love you and want you to take care of you, also!! God will bless you and your family!!!
This video reminds me when I would talk with my Dad who passed away 3:years ago at 91 (miss him !) Dan you do a wonderful job caring and interacting with your Father who is absolutely adorable 🥰
He’s so sweet!!! You are so kind and patient… you’re day fantastic job!!!
I like that Dan doesn’t get that exasperated tone in his voice! He’s dealing with a lot and still keeps his tone respectful. I like that. ❤
This disease is scary as hell, but the good thing is that he has loving sons and daughter in law who cares and love him. That's a blessing.
Imagine being Ed and waking up and not knowing where you are, the person you live with and what happened to a previous life that you only have a vague recollection of. Even though he’s the luckiest guy to have a caring son, this is scary stuff and I feel for him.
Man, I couldn't agree with you more😢
It must be like those dreams where you think you are back in school or on a job and have some assignment that was supposed to be done and you haven't even started. When I have one of those and wake up it's a flood of relief. In Ed's case, it happens when he wakes up and doesn't go away until he's been filled in by Dan.
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Oh my I didn't know his name is Ed. That's my husband name he's also a victim of dementia
@Julietismyshihtzu May God bless you and comfort you in the almighty name of Yeshua ha'Moshiach! Love to you. Call on Him. He will answer. Trust in Him with all your heart and soul. Turn from sin and follow Him. He DIED for YOU so that YOU may have ETERNAL LIFE with HIM. Yes, life eternal. I love you. Hang in there. Things will get better. Trust in our Father in the almighty name of Jesus/ Yeshua. Amen! ❤
Dan did awesome handling dad’s stressful memory situation by easing his confusion with the same repeated reassurance answers he gives dad everyday. Before you knew it dad was redirected, calmer and ready for Mark and lunch!
Dan no worries here you did the best with the situation you explained it the best you could …you told him what he does every day it is so hard for all god bless you Dan for explaining it and you will have to do it again in a few hours or minutes I had the honor of doing this for my sweet mother in law she had a great sense of humor and for fun we did puzzles and I did her hair daily I got her dressed so she knew when it was day time or when it was night time by the way she dressed and every night just like my kids I tucked her in her bed read her a story …
Yep, you did Great, Dan!!!
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He didn't really ease his confusion, he confused him more. Gave him too much information.
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I see nothing but Love in the way you handle your Dad. You are a wonderful Son!!!!!!!!!!!!
He has just the sweetest smile. I so hate to see the worry and confusion in his kind eyes. You do a great job, Dan. And apparently, a good cup of coffee and some news on the TV is a great distraction! ❤❤❤
Dan you're a great son. You'll never regret it
Indeed, not only won't he regret it, he is forging a deep and priceless bond with his dad that will endure! It will be Dan's finest hour.
really putting his Dad on social media is right. His Dad doesn't have a choice in the matter.
Get with it. Your a prude@@eforester8891
efortester8891. Your a downer.
Great Son because he was raised by a great father. Funny how things go full circle
There are feelings of worthless, with loss of privacy and dignity in his disorientation. This proves that he was a very good responsible man for long time.🇿🇦
Dan, my father too is 92 with dementia/alzheimers. He looks like your Dad too! My father is home as well with his family taking care of him. (Our house isn't as nice or I'd make videos too lol).. You show him love and respect in every video I've seen. No one can do better. He must have been a great father to you and now it's your turn- (our turn). It's hard to see the men we knew as children and admired for their strength and our perceived view of their intellect become dependent upon us but what better gift can we give them but the peace of being "home" for as long as possible. Thank you for sharing your story. Give Dad a hug from upstate NY ❤
If you are doing a good job like Dan with your father you should video your life with your father. I think someone that is living like most Americans will show everyone another example of how people deal with their parents growing old and having Dementia/Alzheimer's . I think Dan does a great t but people would appreciate more videos of how these situations are handled by all families
Dementia has 7 stages. God Bless you for keeping your dad with you. I’m a nurse and we see too many dumped in a facility where they decline rapidly. Prayers for all of you
I am a retired nurse and I totally agree with you! It is like, “out of sight, out of mind” ! If families would just work together they could all share in caring for their loved ones. Unfortunately, it usually ends up with just a few willing to share in the care. At the end of my precious Mama’s life, I was working 12 hour shifts with a special needs group home . When I was not at work, I was by my Mama’s side in our home place where we grew up. The weekend we lost our beloved Mama, I had called my Director of Nursing and told her that I would not be back to work because I was never leaving my Mama’s side again! I know that my Mama is in Heaven and I know I will be with her again soon! God Bless you and Dan and all families that are there for the ones that gave them their life! ❤️
As a retired nurse and Executive in dementia care; not all loved ones have the financial or emotional resources to care for their parent/grandparent. Most are not “dumped” but rather seeking experienced caretakers to help them through this difficult time❣️Seeing this family may help others determine their ability to follow in suit.
I agree with you but also i understand why some are sadly placed in nursing homes. For instance im a single mother with no life savings, who battled 2 cancers drained bank acc working 6 days a week to take care of both my parents and raise my son to make sure they are well provided for. Meanwhile battleing heart conditions and stress. Im behind on bills my mom is behind on bills and my dad has lewy body dementia and we cannot afford to place him in a nursing home for proper care. If my mom does she would lose her house and thats why i spend every waking moment to care for my dad and my son. I did set up a go fund me for my mom to help out with my dad but after 2 years of trying to do that for her no one could help so its left to me to do the best i can. Its very hard but i do understand why some people place their parents in a care facility. I worship the ground my parents walk on but if i could afford to my dad would be getting the care he needs.
I agree not all family members can take care of thier loved ones ...its ok.....
@@McDeb1991well said.!!
You are an angel taking care of your Pop like this! I just lost my 95 year old Dad. He was with it til the end. We were so lucky.
You are so good to him Dan. God Bless You ❤
Thank you for all of your love that you give him. You have a huge heart.
I have young onset mild stage Alzheimer's disease. I worry so much for what my husband endures and for how hard it will be for him. Your love for your father is clear.
Your comment touched me. I hope you find ways, now while you are still able to ease yourself and your husband and family into the coming years. May God be with you and yours.
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Sending kindness and love ❤
Bless you!! 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤
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I'm a caregiver and I love to care for the elderly with dementia and Alzheimer's.
You do a wonderful job caring for your dad. What a great example of love and compassion you show others for your dad.
My Mother who died on 12/2/22 had altimers and dementia and towards the end she would go off on me and my sister saying that "you want to give my dog away" or "your just waiting for me to die" every time it would rip our hearts out, but we knew it wasn't her but it really hurt and life went on and I commend you for everything you're doing for your Father..
Dan, you always take excellent care of Grandpa Ed. Never doubt yourself. We face the challenges as they come and learn from, as well. 🙏❤️🙏
Alzheimers is so difficult for the caregivers. You are doing so well with your dad. Don't be hard on yourself. I'm sure it's hard on the patient being so lost and confused. ❤
The old saying goes, once an adult, twice a child. You take care of your father is wonderful.
Dan, I was a caregiver for many years and I specialized in Dementia and Alzheimer's disease. You did great, you stayed calm and repeated details to him until he finally understood. You're doing a great job. I know how difficult it can be on both sides, but he's very lucky to have such a caring family. I am praying for you and your family as you continue to care for your Dad.
My 89 year old father does this too. I really appreciate your being so transparent and sharing these very difficult life passages. These videos have really been educational.
Hi Dan,
No need to apologize! As a PSW who has worked with this population for 15 yrs you always do an amazing job. He is blessed! ❤
Dan, your patience is absolutely amazing. Honestly, it's relentless. I don't know how you do it.Respect to you. ❤
I agree with you completely!!! Dan does an amazing job of dealing with Ed’s confusion..
All Student Nurses should be made to watch this clip. Particularly the students on Mental Health course. A great learning tool on how to interact with a confused patient. ❤
Wow! This was
Heartbreaking for me, as well as you Dear Dan. Ed must have had a dream re flying home, you did an excellent job Dan ❤❤❤
I don't know how you could have responded any more perfectly. You're always reassuring. You're a patient, loving, wonderful son.
Yeah man you have nothing to apologize for. You're incredibly patient and understanding. Good work.
I don’t know how you could have handled it any better. You calmed him down and reassured him. You did great.
Bless his sweet heart! I just wanted to hug him! Dan, you were perfect! You are very patient with him. Great job! ❤️❤️
I want to hug him too 🤗 what a sweet man with a terrific family. Blessings & love to you Dan & Danielle ❤
YES you are Dan. You are patient with your dad. ❤
It's so heartbreaking to see Grandpa so confused!! I'm glad he re-orient easily. Great job Dan!
You are doing great Dan❤
I also think you handled the situation as well as anyone could. Your love for your dad is heartwarming. He raised some good kids to be able to be safe with them in his old age. He’s adorable. I wish this didn’t happen to old folks.
A fine example for the world to see. Love is action, and seen clearly in all you do.👌
You treated your Dad with respect and showed a great amount of patience answering his questions. DON'T apologize about the way you handled things. Your family is amazing.
We love how you interact with your dad.❤
Ed is so cute when he says "Oh, beautiful!"
Awww. This is sweet. He's so frustrated and confused and you really did handle it well, in my opinion.
BLESS YOU FOR TAKING OF HIM. My Gram went through "I'm going home." It is hard to watch them get confused; Gram left us at 72, I am so glad he has You.
You do a FANTASTIC JOB Dan... Dont ever question that... You do better than alot of caregivers I know... GBY ALWAYS 🙏💙💙🤗✝️
Well done Dan. You always treat your Dad with kindness and respect. God bless you.
You never lost your cool. You’re so patient with him, and that makes a big difference. It was great to see him smile in the end. 😊
Dan,I think the reality is that a lot of people wouldn't be able to handle this and they would have put the parent in a home.
Respect to you and your family ❤
You did just fine dealing with interaction with your dad. You supported him, reassuring him, explained things. Dementia is hard for everyone. These are the moments that make care givers struggle. We try to do the right thing, we try to support them as much as we can. We explain things to them and love them. It’s no ones fault, you did a great job. Much love to you and your dad.
Thank you for taking good care of your dad. I don't even know you or your Pop, but I'm so grateful for you, Dan.
Food does lighten his mood - love to see how he lights up with food. Reminds me so much of my Dad at 94 💙❤️💙
You couldn’t have handled that any better. I love Grandpa so much ❤️
It’s heartbreaking to see him so agitated and confused, but I think you handled that beautifully.
Oh, how I remember these conversations with my MIL. She was the sweetest person. When she spoke of going home she didn't always mean the one on earth. Fortunately for us she retained her sence of humor and she never forgot my husband. Her face always lit up when she saw him. You did an amazing job of explaining with love and patience. God bless you on this journey. It may seem not seem like it, but you will cherish these times sooner than you think.
You are an amazing son every dad should dream of !! My dad died at 71 in 2012. I wish I he was still around for me to take care of him. Love both of you !! You kept a little knot of care on his top, that’s the care he was giving you when you were learning to walk as well !!
Oh my goodness I loved the end! He was so happy to sit down and watch the news, and especially happy about getting that coffee☺️
Dementia is a family disease! All hands on deck all the time. I went through 6 years with my husband at home who passed away last year at the young age of 72. Heartbreaking to watch an Accountant who could no longer even turn on his computer…. He was a lot like your Pop! He was very confused at times, but then somewhat lucid, and it could change on a dime! Thank you for sharing Pop with us❣️
Your doctor is the cause of dementia! Cholesterol drugs starve the brain, the brain is the fattiest organ in the human body. We didn't have those diseases 35 years ago because we didn't have statins. Doctors don't make any money from healthy people. Wake up!
I’m so sorry for your loss 💔
You did absolutely great!
This should be used as a training on how to handle confused alzheimer's patients.
Your DAD is lucky to have such a carrying son, caregiver. May God continue his BLESSINGS on you and your family
Man, you're just fine. It's very touching that you have will and patience to take care of your old man. You're a gem really
Dan honestly...I see only patience, and you trying to reassure Grandpa and calm him. God Bless.🙏❤
I was talking about end of life and as the words were coming out, I was thinking what the hell am I saying? That was not ideal, but at least he did come back to normal in the end
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Each day is a learning experience don't beat yourself up your doing what any loving son would do.
Well done!
@@dsalnorcal1434 Yeah, but that kind of slid by.
@@BsTheLadynred we'll look at it this way in half an hour he'll have forgotten about it anyway.
Your a great son after all the care he gave you, I guess it's his time now.
We're all human we have flaws and make mistakes as long as your learning your not failing him.
Your the one who stepped up to fill this role of care and you should be proud of that despite your flaws.
I just hope when you get old someone looks after you as well as your doing to him.
Keep up the great work.
At least you still have your dad around that's a gift in itself and he's healthy as best he can be.
Love the videos .
Camera vertical is better by the way.
Keep smiling everyday is a blessing.
That was handled perfectly.
Dan has a good, clear, strong voice and explains everything at a nice steady pace.
Ed is a very lucky man. And this channel is showing others going through this how it can be done and is, at the end of the day the greatest way to show love and gratitude to a parent or other.
When you think of old people in homes where staff can only do so much, it's a joy to think of dementia patients being looked after in the bosom of their own family.❤
You did magic, Dan, you are handling the situation like a professional. Wel done Dan.
You are amazing. The love. The time with explaining over and over. Your dad is truly blessed to have you for support. I only wish I could have the support you provide as I age. I am so scared of aging because I have no one. Keep doing what you do so well.
You communicated with your dad Beautifully! I don’t know why you felt you didn’t handle this well. All is well. God bless you all…❤❤❤
as retired caregiver at a memory careward for 20years I had this same conversation with many different people Trust me you are doing very well give Dr Ed hug
Don't judge yourself so harshly, Dan. You did good to me
Yes! Dan is sometimes hard on himself but he does a great job explaining things to his dad and constantly reminding him that he has nothing to worry about.
That was the worst I've ever seen him. What an awful disease. You did just fine, Dan.
He thought he was a teenager or younger with teachers and school friends like 70 + years ago. WOW!
Your Dad seems like a real sweetheart and its heartbreaking to be so confused and disoriented. You are absolutely wonderful in the way to talk to him, your tirelessness and patience. I could only dream if such a disaster
as dementia happened to me that I would have such a loving and kind person to help me. Thank you for these videos. They are very helpful in teaching about this terrible disease and how to care for one so afflicted.
I was thinking I was going to see you become upset. You are the most patient and kind man. Nothing to apologize about. It’s not easy to repeat yourself over and over again and to see your Dad getting so confused. You are a blessing to him.
Not only are you patient with your Dad, you are helping so many others by these posts. Thank you, as heart breaking as it is to watch.
You did very well Dan! No judgment should ever come your way, because anyone who’s complaining are not living in yours or Danielle’s shoes! Caregivers are amazing people with an mega depth of love and compassion!!
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Poor grandpa. I use to work in senior home . Worked with dementia. You need a lot of patience. God bless this family
This should be shown to carers who work in dementia specific nursing homes. I’ve seen so much lack of compassion: report so many people for awful treatment to the residents. You are doing amazingly. TRULY ❤❤
To be that patient after all that you have to do is amazing. I love your reassuring tone with Pops. Keep up the great work.
I love this man. You mention lunch and he gets hungry and his face lights up and is cheerful. God bless him.
I love that he has an excellent appetite.
This channel is immensely helpful to me. My partner is 86 and is suffering from early dementia/memory loss. This helps me understand his behavior better, especially as it gets worse. Thank you.
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Be patient with yourself❤
You are providing a great place for people to understand and see the effects of dementia on a family member and how it affects the rest of the family. You are a great example of how to speak to someone going through this disease and how difficult it can be. Thank you, Dan!
You did an excellent job explaining every question dad had. Keep up the good work, love, and support ❤️
All I see is the illness. so sad. His confusion, disorientation, the long gazes, the constant harping on his keys, his home, its all the illness. You are doing a great job Dan. You are telling him all the right things - he is safe, protected, and very much loved
This segment brings many memories of my husband before he passed away. He tried to pack his clothes and go home, one evening. My prayer was answered because just as he walked out onto the porch, it started pouring out. Now he is home, healed and whole. My heart goes out to you! ❤
Dan, you did great!!! God said honor thy mother and father and your days will be long upon this earth. God bless you.
Nothing but love and kindness and patience. You are wonderful with your precious Dad. God bless you, him and your whole family.
His smile when you tell him he's in good health was too cute and sweet! I work in an assisted living facility, bless you for taking care of your father. You are a wonderful son!🥹💗
You handled that 💯 God Bless you and your family Dan! 🙏💙🤗
Great job Dan ❤❤❤ PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE!! 👏👏
Mr. Dan Salinger,
The manner in which you Care for your father is amazing. Your parents did a phenomenal job in raising their children. They invested in your Lives and cared about the people that they sent out into the World. And it shows how All of you Love, Respect, and Care for your Dad.
Thank you so much for sharing your caregiving journey with your father. God continue to bless and keep you and your family safe with his Angels encamped around you all.
Yours was a lovely expression from the heart…..brought tears to my eyes. Thank you.
Dan, you are doing great! God bless you! 🎉❤🤗
I was a caregiver for 9 years. Reminds me of the fact that the right words are hard to find. I think you did just as I would have. It's so heartening
Dan, your patience is very admirable. He came around, calmed down, and got some coffee. Good job! From Pennsylvania 💕🌷🐻
You are an expert Dan ... I have never watched you harsh ... You always fixes these waves appropriately. God bless you.
Well done Dan you have so much patience with your dad , you are reassuring, very loving . It’s very hard for you to be a caregiver and it’s 24 hours a day . God bless you Dan ❤🙏😇 I love you both xoxo Annie from France 🇫🇷
The way you interact with your father . Hope every parent gets a son like you. Stay blessed you both.
My mom had dementia and I totally get it. You handled this extremely well. You were so reassuring and positive, and you spoke clearly and loud enough for him to hear without getting frustrated. He ended up happy, waiting for his coffee, watching the news and forgot about having to get on the plane, Lol, so well done!
Dan, I think you did a great job with your dad through his confusion today ❤ Sending much love to you all ❤️
Awe Dan fair play, you handled your dad's confusion with so much love, respect and patience
Aw Pops wants to get to the airport to go home😢
This is as perfect as a response can be from a son to his dad during an episode ! As a former nurse for the elderly - you and your family are a wonderful example of how to embrace this sweet man and giving him the best last years he could possibly have !
Dan you did so well and calmed/reassured your pop. Wonderful job. ❤❤
I lost my 87 year old husband 3 years ago and it was so hard living with him every day. Now, I would give everything to have him back. What you are doing for your father is amazing! And educating others on the daily life of caring for someone with dementia. It’s a tough and exhausting world for u and your family, but you will be super grateful you honored your father when he is no longer with this world and you have all the memories.
God bless, Ed and you for your love and care of your dad. Love him.
God Bless! You are so patient, and very attentive to your father. You make sure he can understand when he is having a confusing moment. Such a blessing to see. Caring for a loved one is never easy, especially when they are sick, or having memory loss. God Bless you and your family.
I spent five years taking care of my mother. While she had all her facilities she had major health issues. Diabetes, insulin injections twice a day,mobility issues and many more. It was very hard working 50 hours a week and taking care of her but I don’t regret a single minute. Finally she fell because of a health issue and she was placed in a nursing home. Within 6 months she fell under their supervision and died soon after.
It’s a very hard job to take care of a parent. I applaud you.
Dan you do an awsome job taking care of your father. It takes great patience & understanding which you show.