My mother is an NPD woman. She is 72 now. They DO NOT CHANGE in a lifetime. Ah, sorry, i'm wrong. The become WORSE with age. Can you imagine the worst version of a narcissist? It's an old narcissist. Take care of yourself, y'all.
I will encourage those who are afraid of breaking up to realize that you are already alone. It took me years to see this. Please learn from my experience.
That’s 100% true. I realized the only thing I was fighting for was more emotional and verbal abuse, manipulation, being gaslit, lied to and cheated on. I would rather live the rest of my life alone than to be with someone who is toxic. I’m happier now than I was with him in my life. Some people may be offended but as far as I’m concerned, the garbage took himself out! 😂😂
This! Being in this kind of relationship is as lonely as it gets. No one can see it or feel it other than ourselves, it then takes a toll in our own mental health and we self criticize and watch our lives going towards a destructive path. All of that without being able to even understand it's happening.
Narcissistic people know what you want and need but they choose not to give those to you because it’s control. Not just control but it’s a way to get you to want them more and appreciate them more. They know if they give you so much good they have to balance it with so much bad too. It’s the push, pull theory. Narcissistic people understand the cat and mouse game. Unfortunately for over 5 years I have been stuck in this game because I have become dependent on him. What you say in your videos is 100 percent facts and I appreciate you. Thank you 🙏🏼
Thank you for making these videos! My narc ex is trying to get me back by using s*x as a tool because he probably knows that worked on me the last time I tried to leave. First he said he just wants to stay friends and know how i'm doing, that's all. Then he goes "i still miss you and want you so bad" etc. But it's not going to work this time because i know i can't go back. If i do, it'll be the end of me.
My ex narc said he had 3 months to live with cancer. I went back and I found out at hospital appointment he was lying. Divorced him 6 months later after 37 years marriage.
I went back to my narc friend after a two year absence (big mistake). He admitted that he had been doing a certain thing wrong and he was right and even though that wasn't the reason I stopped dealing with him, I let it go. What I should have heard was, "I knew what I was doing was wrong, but I did it anyway". Within weeks we were back to business as usual. I eventually learned my lesson and severed ties for good. He tried a Facebook Hoover after over twenty years. I didn't buy it for a moment. He eventually disappeared. They NEVER CHANGE!
I have a 71 Dad who is a narc who claims he is only bi-polar. How wrong I was, left with figuring him out slowly. Thanks for the helpful videos. I figured out he's a narc and or possibly a psychopath. Very frightening individual to deal with.
My ex narcissist told me he had bipolar also. I think they believe that is what they have, but he never showed me anything other than NPD. The sad part is, they only treat bipolar disorder because you can treat that with medication since it's a mood disorder but there is no cure for NPD because it's a personality disorder and I fully believe these people are born this way. Studies have shown that they are born with less gray matter in the brain, and that's where most children begin to form empathy around the age of 5.
This is truth by omission. They know something is MAJORLY wrong so they tell people something less severe and/or more socially acceptable is wrong with them so you don’t run.
My narc friend deeply resented my move to Vegas. He hated the fact that he had lost control of me, of course, but he was also envious that I had done something to make me happy. He refused to acknowledge anything good about it. Fast forward twenty plus years and he finds me on Facebook after two decades of no contact. How does he try to Hoover me back? By acting all impressed by the fact that I live in the San Francisco Bay area. So phoney and obvious. I didn't fall for it or any of his other nonsense and he thankfully went away.
One of their flying monkeys came up to me and accused me of stalking her despite me only trying to talk to her three times in the last eight months. I nearly burst out laughing. She said “would you like me to talk to her to see if she’s willing to give you closure as she’s extremely concerned about you”. She’d phoned me to tell me it was “over” 8 months ago told me that she loves me but i don’t love her then slammed the phone down before i could talk. I’m guessing this demonstrates her grandiosity. The flying monkey was told that i felt that she’d made it clear that she felt nothing for me by her stonewalling and triangulation tactics with other men which was the cause behind the breakup she really had no reply to that and walked off. I really am going to have to stop going to venues that she goes to as i feel things are escalating to a whole new level of devaluation and abuse. No contact so that she can abuse one of her thirsty orbiters that she works soo hard to beguile.
I've set up specific email address for my narc which I check when I want, all other means are blocked. And I have a rule, never send reply at least 24hrs after you wrote it. I ended up with 200 drafts in my mailbox :) It helps.
When they start to devalue you its whats going on I will never allow a man to disrespect me in my face behind my back I don't know I treated treated that Physco the same way he treated me couldn't take it looking at his self mirrored him now Im the narc hes has a long history of many relationships that didn't work out saf keep repeating the same cycle ssme old things different people wow...
My mother is an NPD woman. She is 72 now. They DO NOT CHANGE in a lifetime. Ah, sorry, i'm wrong. The become WORSE with age. Can you imagine the worst version of a narcissist? It's an old narcissist. Take care of yourself, y'all.
Yes, worse, I agree. Really terrifying.
Then their world crumbles They might develop alzheimers to esacape their own thoughts Then they become better ppl by forgeting
Narcs mission wasn’t accomplished yet , your still functioning w out them … ohhhh no narc needs scorched earth
After waking up to what was happening, I had the feeling that ex narcissist had been smearing me from almost day one.
They stop hoovering after a while. Mainly when you serve no purpose to them anymore.
I will encourage those who are afraid of breaking up to realize that you are already alone. It took me years to see this. Please learn from my experience.
That’s 100% true. I realized the only thing I was fighting for was more emotional and verbal abuse, manipulation, being gaslit, lied to and cheated on. I would rather live the rest of my life alone than to be with someone who is toxic. I’m happier now than I was with him in my life. Some people may be offended but as far as I’m concerned, the garbage took himself out! 😂😂
This! Being in this kind of relationship is as lonely as it gets. No one can see it or feel it other than ourselves, it then takes a toll in our own mental health and we self criticize and watch our lives going towards a destructive path. All of that without being able to even understand it's happening.
Narcissistic people know what you want and need but they choose not to give those to you because it’s control. Not just control but it’s a way to get you to want them more and appreciate them more. They know if they give you so much good they have to balance it with so much bad too. It’s the push, pull theory. Narcissistic people understand the cat and mouse game. Unfortunately for over 5 years I have been stuck in this game because I have become dependent on him. What you say in your videos is 100 percent facts and I appreciate you. Thank you 🙏🏼
Thank you for making these videos! My narc ex is trying to get me back by using s*x as a tool because he probably knows that worked on me the last time I tried to leave. First he said he just wants to stay friends and know how i'm doing, that's all. Then he goes "i still miss you and want you so bad" etc. But it's not going to work this time because i know i can't go back. If i do, it'll be the end of me.
My ex narc said he had 3 months to live with cancer. I went back and I found out at hospital appointment he was lying. Divorced him 6 months later after 37 years marriage.
Wow! Thanks for sharing!
Mine said that her grandma passed away. I'm not even sure that's true, but I'm sure that she didn't care that much about her grandma before.
I’m hovered often , but simply never read it nor reply, everything you say is true. Good work.
I went back to my narc friend after a two year absence (big mistake). He admitted that he had been doing a certain thing wrong and he was right and even though that wasn't the reason I stopped dealing with him, I let it go. What I should have heard was, "I knew what I was doing was wrong, but I did it anyway". Within weeks we were back to business as usual. I eventually learned my lesson and severed ties for good. He tried a Facebook Hoover after over twenty years. I didn't buy it for a moment. He eventually disappeared. They NEVER CHANGE!
This is one of the best videos I've ever heard on this topic. Gave me new insight. Thanks.
I have a 71 Dad who is a narc who claims he is only bi-polar. How wrong I was, left with figuring him out slowly. Thanks for the helpful videos. I figured out he's a narc and or possibly a psychopath. Very frightening individual to deal with.
My ex narcissist told me he had bipolar also. I think they believe that is what they have, but he never showed me anything other than NPD. The sad part is, they only treat bipolar disorder because you can treat that with medication since it's a mood disorder but there is no cure for NPD because it's a personality disorder and I fully believe these people are born this way. Studies have shown that they are born with less gray matter in the brain, and that's where most children begin to form empathy around the age of 5.
This is truth by omission. They know something is MAJORLY wrong so they tell people something less severe and/or more socially acceptable is wrong with them so you don’t run.
My narc friend deeply resented my move to Vegas. He hated the fact that he had lost control of me, of course, but he was also envious that I had done something to make me happy. He refused to acknowledge anything good about it. Fast forward twenty plus years and he finds me on Facebook after two decades of no contact. How does he try to Hoover me back? By acting all impressed by the fact that I live in the San Francisco Bay area. So phoney and obvious. I didn't fall for it or any of his other nonsense and he thankfully went away.
Awesome insight. By the way, you truly look amazing.
I scorched earth.n here she comes again.Continue
One of their flying monkeys came up to me and accused me of stalking her despite me only trying to talk to her three times in the last eight months. I nearly burst out laughing. She said “would you like me to talk to her to see if she’s willing to give you closure as she’s extremely concerned about you”. She’d phoned me to tell me it was “over” 8 months ago told me that she loves me but i don’t love her then slammed the phone down before i could talk. I’m guessing this demonstrates her grandiosity. The flying monkey was told that i felt that she’d made it clear that she felt nothing for me by her stonewalling and triangulation tactics with other men which was the cause behind the breakup she really had no reply to that and walked off. I really am going to have to stop going to venues that she goes to as i feel things are escalating to a whole new level of devaluation and abuse. No contact so that she can abuse one of her thirsty orbiters that she works soo hard to beguile.
One narcisist i knew told me he found a buyer for a house i was trying to sell as a hoover technique.
I've set up specific email address for my narc which I check when I want, all other means are blocked. And I have a rule, never send reply at least 24hrs after you wrote it. I ended up with 200 drafts in my mailbox :) It helps.
When they start to devalue you its whats going on I will never allow a man to disrespect me in my face behind my back I don't know I treated treated that Physco the same way he treated me couldn't take it looking at his self mirrored him now Im the narc hes has a long history of many relationships that didn't work out saf keep repeating the same cycle ssme old things different people wow...
Thank you so much
Always luv listening to U Am gud trust me
LISTEN UP,!
I think I’m falling for the love bombing Hoover with my spouse
Now she is engaging her daughter on video in sexual actions.Am just watching tje show. am gud