Chad 😂 we are here i. Spain many pilipina single mother.😂😂😂if some one needs a here😂 but don't think we are looking man support our family never.we are hard working for our needs.. The comment of someone who studied in UP.Diliman is correct. Don't compare those in the Visayas to Luzon like Pangasinan Ilocos and especially igorot and Pangasinan Ilocano because they don't depend on their husbands but we are fair to our wives. .haha those work hard.😀 
@@bernardbuonocore6927 What do you mean by COVID Shot Restrictions? Are you sure about that? I am an American in Manila and got here late in April. I am not vaxxed. They did not even ask me about it. They had restriction in 2022 and 2023. But they are over now.
Women are the same all over the world. If they want you, you will know it . They will break all of their rules. If they don't, if anything it will be all about what you can do for them. Transactional. ✅✅✅
Not all btw. Don’t blame all girl cause there some afam also is being crazy cause they have money.they think they can buy all . I’m in a relationship with someone younger, and while he doesn’t have a ton of work experience or savings, we’re genuinely happy. He’s not like my ex, who could buy me anything but was controlling and possessive. With him, it felt like I was just an object or a doll with no freedom, even to spend time with my own family.
@@toddmichael81 I don't think any of this has to do with hate; they are facts of life; why can no one express their facts if it is bad news, only to be called hate, this is why nothing gets put right. Tell the truth, good or bad.
another problem I think with older ex- pats is (myself included) is we want the young woman, but we complain that we have to support her, and to a certain extent, her family, then we complain if she’s not helping out financially.. I struggled with this as I’ve been married 8 years now, and live here on my social security, savings, and investments.. but then I realize she is far more valuable in our marriage as a homemaker , like a lot of foreigners will complain if their pinay works full time and time together is limited.. you can’t have it both ways, I prefer my wife to take care of the house, if she worked full time I would be bored and lonely..I think that’s a major reason a lot of ex- pats fail here, no friends, family, different culture, wife is gone all day, you need to adapt and develop different interests here to keep you occupied, otherwise you are setting yourself up for failure.
I don't understand why you want young woman though. Especially Gen Z or Millennial. Their view on life really doesn't make for a compatible person with someone older and not into social media and less active, etc. Young people have their needs, often different than old people. Especially boomers trying their luck with Gen Z or Millennials is destined to fail
You have the winning formula. Having gratitude helps one to find the right pinay. Some of these guys come here with their western tendencies and wonder why they are single😂😅
Get up early and cook her breakfast, then drive her to work. Not every day but do your part. Some days you can take a good hot lunch to her and her close workmates. Tell them in advance so they don't bring their own. Point out those who brought their lunch anyway that they maybe thought you were unreliable and they were wrong. You can spend some of your time doing for others and you will feel good about yourself. Not having to work is better than working or did you forget?
Get up early and cook her breakfast, then drive her to work. Not every day but do your part. Some days you can take a good hot lunch to her and her close workmates. Tell them in advance so they don't bring their own. Point out those who brought their lunch anyway that they maybe thought you were unreliable and they were wrong. You can spend some of your time doing for others and you will feel good about yourself. Not having to work is better than working or did you forget?
It’s really heartbreaking to see how inflation and recession impact low-income families. The cost of living keeps rising, and many struggle just to meet basic needs, let alone save or invest. It’s a reminder of the importance of finding ways to create financial opportunities. You've helped me a lot sir Brian! Imagine i invested $50,000 and received $190,500 after 14 days
You really hit the nail on the head with this one. I'm the good guy looking for the good girl, probably the most difficult relationship. When you're normal and sincere you are also vulnerable to be taken advantage of. Your insight is beyond your years Chad. It was a pleasure spending the morning with you. I hope you had a good time snorkeling .
Thanks and nice job on foreigners struggling to find their Filipina, especially the paradox of choice and knowing (or thinking they know) what they really want. All decisions (and relationships) come with tradeoffs. Cheers!
I've been to over 80 countries and have dated women in many of them. The main problem I had with Filipinas - apart from most of them being short (I'm 180 cm so I like tallish women around 168-170 cm. They do exist in PI but the majority are short, and I mean like 148 cm short) - is that they are simply not interesting to talk to. It's often hard to carry on a conversation with them. You'll have to do most of the work to keep the conversation going with them just giving short or one-word answers, and unless you keep talking it will just die out. Whch can be exhausting/draining. The other thing is that many of them have so little life/travel experience or general knowledge of the world outside their daily life that they simply don't have much to say. If you're okay with that, fine you can find plenty of women like that there and who will describe themselves on dating profiles, for example, as "I am simple" as their only 3-word self-description. I've seen a lot of older Western guys in relationships with much younger Filipinas (20s) with an age gap of 30-50 years and it's more like a father or grandfather-young daughter/grandaughter relationship with the guy talking to his young gf like he would to a 10-year old girl back home. Again, if you're okay with that you'll find many desperate impoverished young women in PI who will fit the bill. But don't be surprised if their only interest in you is as a walking ATM. For many such women life in PI is about survival, and you are simply a means to their survival, like a 401k plan or a substitute for an employer if they don't have a job.
There’s a definite money trap you can fall into by developing a relationship with a Filipina & her family, if you’re a foreigner. It’s sort of like Marlon Brando in Godfather when he says, “I’ll take care your your problem, but I may call upon you for assistance one day, and that day may never come”… but guess what, it always does…lol 🤑
I am 190 cm (6'3", I think) and I can relate to everything you state. What I can add to your list, is: "I am poor" (with having at least 1 kid and often more). I always ask them (single mothers) what happened. And they cant just seperate cause/causation from that the guy now has a new girlfriend. "Why did he leave you?". They cant answer that question bec they dont ask that question to her former boyfriend (something to do with hiya; losing/saving face)
from all the "over 80 countries" you been to, can you please share with us, which country where girls/women don't see you/us as an ATM? you obviously don't see the big picture. most people that go to Ph are usually divorced or were in a painful s*x starved relationship. and the destination happen to be one of the poorest countries on planet earth. so, don't expect a Swiss type of etiquettes.
@@Corleony101 Same question here. First, women who are looking for security are not just Filipinas, worst in the Western countries they have nothing to offer on the table but they are demanding too much from you. But Filipina, when you find a gold digger, the kind of woman who can coke, take care of you love you as her husband take care of the family, and be loyal to you find gold in her.
I’m currently engaged to my beautiful fiancé from Cebu and it’s true what he says about Filipina behavior, early on in our relationship we had struggles but we have found ways to strengthen our relationship and avoid these issues like jealousy and assuming . I keep my iwatch on me everywhere I go to keep it easy for communication and her being a call center agent our schedules are the same so it’s easy to stay in touch. She always reminds me to see things from her side and I do the same . Compromising is key and we are as happy as can be. Great video I enjoyed it.
Digging deep, Chad. Probably the main reason I like your vlog so much. You are not afraid to get to point and dig a little deeper. Nice meeting you yesterday and I look forward to meeting again and having some good conversations. Godspeed, brother.
Too many foreigners come over with the ideation that all they have to do is show up and girls will be fawning all over them. This isn’t the case because most Filipinos are shy and will look for you to make the first forms of communication. Do not try to use pick up lines or try to use sarcastic humor because it will not work. Just be nice and direct and polite and come off as a very caring and loving person.
Your last point is spot out, being confident and self-assured is important but if you come across as a genuinely nice, respectful and caring type of person you will do extremely well here.
@@SirMikeMiller things are not as they used to be 20 years ago. My fiancé told me rn there are so many foreigners there right now in the Phils that the Filipina don’t really care anymore and are unimpressed. The girl that comes to you is probably low value the high value will not come to you she will expect you to go to her and present yourself . Good luck In your journey. Cheers!
@ I know. I live here in Duma. The Filipinas here are already use to seeing foreigners everyday. That’s exactly what I said in my post. Filipinas are very shy, especially the girls from the provinces.
@@JLunaK14it's still a numbers game and they're still probably 25 Filipinas for every Foreigner , and a foreigner is generally a good catch. We still have way more quality choices than we have back in the west
I met my now wife in Christian Filipina we are older so neither one of us were into playing games. We video chatted for several months before I came her, I could see that she was who she said she was, a couple of months later the pandemic hit, we endured the pandemic together, even got married on line, now I am here and it is bliss...
Surfing Filiipino Cupid right now, everytime I think I found a match something happens. I was talking with one Filipina for 3 weeks and we had a brownout yesterday, I texted her and told her we are having a brownout till 6 pm and her response was, you just want the day to find someone prettier, how many girls did you talk to today?, That was the final straw, I can only imagine the jealousy if we are living together.
Just roll with it bro. Women need that. They want a man who other women want. Let her know she has you but don't obsess over it. Don't do the "baby you're the only one" thing. She will puke internally and lose attraction to you
Drama in a glass of water. Display of fake jealousy to show you how much she needs you. Learn to measure things at face value, don't get sucked into Pinay drama. BTW she is a cheap girl!!! cut cut cut.
Us Millennials and Gen Z pretty much hit many girls at once. Sometimes I have like 6 and just choose one. My point is who cares there are millions of Filipinas
Do you know what thieves fear the most? It's other thieves. They think since they are one, they suspect everyone else of potentially being one and they hate that. Why do they suspect you of being unfaithful and untrustworthy? Simply because of the logic mentioned above....
A great overview of the realistic issues dating asian women, i spent 2 years there in 2011 and your vlog brings back the reasons why i had enough and returned to my home country but would never have missed the experience i had while living there.
Social media changed everything regarding dating Chad. There is a friends list and then there’s a real friends list that you don’t know about. Men are starting to wise up in the Philippines. Times have changed .
The time of abundant good pinays are long behind us. Social media and desperate simps have ruined the place. Now, guys are running into a dozen shit shows before even meeting a decent potential. Watch your back because you haven't experienced that level of game and deception and you WON'T see it coming!!!
It's really kind of too late. Philippines was great 5 or 6 years ago. Now there's so many foreigners that are going there. Looking for women, so the women are changing their mentality, like the western women. I was in the manila baguio areas in the women are not nearly as enthusiastic as they were four years ago
Dating scene is changing rapidly! Social media, dating platforms, a flood of foreigners coming into the country.....The girls have endless choices and most will continually look for the "big fish". I see plenty of guys at Ayala mall in Cebu who haven't been able to get a date after several weeks in country. Cebu City, Dumaguette, Davao, BGC...there are more foreign men than women in a lot of these places.
The tables have turned (or are turning). With online dating, Filipinas are no longer in competition for whatever foreigner happens to be going through town. Even average looking Filipinas have tens of thousand of subscribers on their TH-cam channels. A Filipina that you meet online might be talking with dozens of foreigners and you are just one of many.
@@MelPatton-yi8se Technically yes but you forget to account for their miniscule thinking capacity. They don't think as you have just described. They only see the face value of their broad options presented which are thousands of desperate men ready to shower them with money and compliments.
@@MelPatton-yi8se Very few guys have the guts and money to travel 7000 miles??? Have you been to Cebu City, Dumaguette, Davao or Manila lately? There are more foreigners than girls in many of those places.
I have beautiful Filipina nieces. What prevented them from going online dating site is that they don't have a personal cell phone. They share a phone, that's why they can't go online dating.
Currently in Dumaguete & currently single. We all have a story. Of the all the points you hit on, I can relate with many similarities. I have no issues meeting Filipina, but meeting someone who is “genuine” like myself can be a challenge. All in all, it’s ok & for the time being I will just go with the flow focusing on myself.
Very true. Much of this is the same as in Thailand where I've been for a few years. Less poverty and more modern infrastructure here, but language and culture are bigger barriers. The inability to have an intelligent conversation is brutal in both countries.
IMHO there are many headwinds against a newly arrived expat when it comes to dating and finding a partner. First as a mature Western man around 60 it's very difficult to find a partner in your same age bracket as most are married, separated or have other issues that preclude a relationship. So what you might find is a 28 year old who is half your age. Yes, we speak the same language but our cultures are very different, her generational values are also different, it's more difficult to find a partner here than many think. My advice is to take the first 6 months and just try to learn the culture and your new surroundings. Take time to really think about what you want this new life to look like and what you are really seeking in a partner. Then start your search and don't compromise on what you really want, stay the course until you find exactly what you are seeking, it's worth the work in the end.
My very first encounter (online) with the Philippines (Filipinas) dates back to 2009. There were positive and negative encounters. It was also my first encounter with what a poor woman will and can do to try to get money from a foreigner (and being a complete stranger). Those experiences resulted in starting my own research regarding the Philippines. And there is really no need to watch any TH-cam channel to get that information. [ So far, I havent heard anything new from all existing TH-cam channels. And to add: all those TH-cam channels do NOT go very deep.]. Yes, there is a difference between reading and knowing things and really experience those things while being in that country. Especially when getting faced with real poverty (squatter homes and other simple build homes/'shelters'). Never been there but it seems that Tondo (Manila) is the worst place to be. In short: everything about the PH culture can be found without watching any TH-cam channel. Just use Google (Blogs written by and from local people; instead of Vlogs by a bunch of foreigners who think they are god and experts), Wikipedia, other sources.
I met a stunningly beautiful 18 year old Filipina bar girl 14 years ago. I was 54. She has told me she was just interested in being supported. It was love at first sight for me. I thought that money was the motivation. I didnt care along as she was with me. It was hard for me adapting to her culture and believes for many years. She said with in a few years she fell in love with me. 😮 She learned about why I thought very foriegn to her. She actually adapted to my culture more. So special. We meshed after 5 years and enjoy each other's company more than anything else. Fully in love now. It's almost sickening if it wasn't us. Our favorite thing is still a weekend together in bed. I'll prepare the whole week. I dont mean sex, but thats part of it. I mean love nest with her favorite items. Mostly watching movies and shows. Listening to movies while cuddling.
Chad... Everything about this video is So TRUE! This really helped me to finally understand what I have been going through with the Filipinas I have dealt with and it's very hard. Thank U for this video.
My opinion is, most men who go there, have an unrealistic idea of what being in a relationship (or love) is. Guys always talking about not spending money on a woman and "if she ask for money, leave." All while going to a poor country. On top of that, they don't want to conform to Philippines culture. They want Philippines to adjust to them. There is a reason most men left. It's not because they had unlimited options in whatever country they come from. I've seen interviews from guys who want to find a woman to go 50/50 and travel the world with(in the philippines? ). Seen guys talk about finding good women and meeting their parents, to only break up after 1 night of sx because "they didn't click." The reasons are endless. But I'll watch now to see what they say.
I cut it short because you're just describing men who literally don't know what real relationships take to be successful. Sort of like the what they say about women while leaving the country. There one common denominator gentlemen. 🫵🏿
You hit the nail on the head 👏. These guy will never find love because they are selfish and entitled. They don't want to adjust and meat and live with the locals. I think dating in PI is the easiest once you learn to be humble and adapt
Thanks Chad you are the first TH-camr who has addressed properly this lack of connection and the way many comments especially jokes and banter go over their heads and even can insult them. This has been my major issue with Filipinas since I started talking to them some years ago now. Often it leads to boredom or tiredness because I feel like I am carrying the conversation a lot. I sometimes wonder if the creation of emotional drama has the function of creating interest in the absence of more conversational interest that we in the west are used to. Which is another Faultline between foreigners and Filipina. All that said a good Pinay is still streets ahead of most western women even with these issues.
I met a girl in the Phillipines. Shes one of the best people I have ever met. She always checks on me and when were together she makes sure im eating healthy food and regularly going to the dentist and doctor. Ive tried to find reasons to "not trust" her because im paranoid by nature but I cant find any so far. I will say, the American and Filipino culture is very different, and that may be why its hard for some guys to find love there. I know the Filipino customs and culture well because my dad is a Filipino immigrant. The people there are very different their culture is different and it can be strange sometimes to Americans who are not used to it. Also, I think many women there are a little wary of western men because of our reputation.
If anything I'm constantly telling Filipinas I'm not interested in being in a relationship. They are always bewildered by this notion and can't fathom how a 36 year old decent looking American guy can stay single here. I've dated a few women here and there since I've been in the Philippines.. I'm just not as enamored by them as the older generations are I suppose. I'm also not fond of the idea of possibly having to support a bunch of their family while they sit around and drink Tanduay and Red Horse all day. There's plenty more I could do with that money 😂. I really enjoy my alone time as well and doing what I want without having to answer to anyone. To each their own though.
I'm using them for recreational purposes only 😅. No relationship. Let's be honest now, 99% of them have absolutely nothing to add to any conversation. I make it clear I'm only interested in "fun".
If you are not interested in a relationship, don't get into into one. Live your life and don't bother women. Marriage is not for you. Maybe when you get old, you may want to marry someone.
It's best to date and dump them after a few months before they take you to the cleaners. I just no longer have any compassion for them after what I've been thru.
Fantastic commentary on several points. I used to tell guys in Thailand... it takes a while to figure out exactly what you truly want, and its very easy to go for the first pretty face that smiles at you. Do you really want a traditional girl? Do you really want a wild bargirl that's great in bed? As western men, we're not used to an abundance of options with mates, so we never ask ourselves the question, "what qualities would lead to long term happiness and connection?" Second, I've also told guys to stop using sarcasm as a form of humor in Asia... its just not something they tend to engage in. I always use the example, the funniest man in Asia is Mr Bean... silly, childish, obvious humor works... subtle, sarcastic or even self deprecating humor does not. Be simple, obvious and direct with jokes. Lastly, remember that tampo > a shrew in your house vocalizing her every dissatisfaction with what she feels you've done wrong... remember that. Be grateful, it could be worse.
Thanks for your views Chad. I Have been living in the Philippines for a number of years. The problem is supply and demand. I realize you can't talk about this on your channel. If you do, unfortunately you won't have a channel. The only filipinas available to foreigners are separated, have children, midgets (under 5 feet tall), or filipinas you really don't want to look at. That's it, that is the selection. If you can go with a filipina that has one (or more) of those attributes, you are good to go. No, there are not a lot of desirable filipinas here that have any desire to hook up with a foreigner of any age.. I know the mantra of "relationship based" Philippines channels is there are desirable women in the Philippines. It's over buddy. Unless of course you are open to; separated, have children, midgets (under 5 feet tall), or filipinas you really don't want to look at. Nope, if a foreigner is sending money to someone he hasn't met, then you might be communicating with a married scammer or in some cases it could possibly be a male. Don't do it. It is a fake profile. Keep in mind beauty is objective. Wait, isn't beauty in the eye of the beholder? No, that is a lie. All the beholders will agree on what beauty is. Well, aren't there guys that want to be single? Of course not. Every man wants the exact same thing. They want a beautiful women that will make their life better. What about; separated, have children, midgets (under 5 feet tall), or women you really don't want to look at? Chances are those women won't make their life better. Then of course there are the pr**teasers. No, that won't work. She must be willing for you to lay that pipeline. Dating casually? Those guys aren't dating women they want. Why not date someone desirable? Well, that is the problem I explained above. Chad, I realize you will probably delete this comment. If not. Any questions?
I married an educated close to my age Filipina . We get along great and we are very comfortable with each other . I had no interest in a huge age gap .
Chad real good video. Need to take your time don’t push it. Give it 6 mos to a year to figure out what you want the rest of your life to look like. Spend time dating and enjoying your new life. You will meet someone when you don’t expect it.
Good content. My lady was also a working girl and I have exactly the experience you described. I did not even try to meet her schedule at all. I was very clear from the beginning by telling her that I will not be a second priority after a job. You gotta quit. I would still recommend a working girl because if she quits her job to be with you... you know she really really wants to be with you. That was nearly two years ago.
I'm happy and healthy being single just like Chad. I love my freedom and independence. Everything Chad said is true. I think it's different for Gen X and below vs Baby Boomer western men. Baby Boomers are a generation that are programmed to be in a relationship.
I found my filipina gf 8 years ago. It was a pleasant experience. I was just checking now and it has become toxic. The present Filipina dating scene has also become materialistic. Correct me if I am wrong.
Same here. Seems fishy. They won’t give their prices even if you ask until you get some kind of “consultation” over the phone, so I scheduled one. Couldn’t go through with it bc it felt like a dirty sales tactic, so I went and googled how much it costs. Money isn’t the problem and I like that they are at least making some attempt to vet their clientele, but they can’t possibly be doing the same with the women. Now they got my phone number and call every day. Very suspicious, but no big deal. Finding a woman isn’t the focus of my future plans to visit and possibly move there.
@@spacecowboy7755 If you want to communicate with a Filipina, you don't need to go on a dating site. I know a few beautiful Filipinas that you can get in contact with. No fee, no dating site.
ITS AMAZING HOW MANY AMERICAN OR CANADIAN TH-camRS LIVING IN THE PHILIPPINES ARE NOW RELATIONSHIP AND DATING EXPERTS. LIKE YOU, REEKAY, GIO, OLD DOG,MARK THORNTON etc.
They are not experts, they just try to rationalize having sex with young girls at their age...hahaha,,,,,They were failures in the their countries so need to try in PI. Old men dating teenagers,,,,,hahahaha,,,,what a joke
Very good video Chad. Very well researched by experience. I lived in Davao for 8 months with a Filipina and I had great intentions but she was too Narcissistic and I couldn't stay, even our psychologist told me to leave the relationship (which they normally don't advice in any direction)
Not call center, those girls work in companies. They are smart. Educated and professionals. Call center workers are usually high school graduates and vocational graduates. Some have difficulty finding a job, so they work in call center while looking for a better job.
I found that if you have a serious conversation with a Filipina, she will says that you are arguing. Instead of seeing is simply as an exchange of ideas.
Really enjoy the brutal honesty man. I’m 38 n definitely looking to settle down . No relationship is perfect n I don’t want to deal with a woman living in survivor mode. We will see what happens tho
I don't put up with their tampo and petty, childish bs. I would rather be alone than with some childish woman who is trying to control my life with her behaviour.
Was working in the states when started my relationship with my Filipina online. She worked too but was on vacation for the summer because she worked for a school as an OFW. Liked that she worked and was responsible. Cant imagine what it would be like being retired and wanting a relationship with a girl who worked. Must be hard. Don't wait till you retire, meet a girl online today. It was hard to meet my wife though, so many Filipinas were scamming online, just have to filter through them till you find the right girl. Great video, Chad...Jim
That's really one problem: Many girls don't have much to say, whether they are too shy or just a little simple-minded? I can talk to somebody who takes an active role in the conversation, but I am not at all a solo entertainer!
Meeting good women was probably the easiest thing to do here. The biggest issue was lack of access to quality food, internet that doesn't work in broad daylight even when you have 5g, filth and dust in the roads, and the heat.
I agree, the food is a big problem. It's just bad everywhere and they don't even know it! I want Indian restaurants, Italian, Thai, etc. come on! Also, that combination of the heat with those black fumes coming from jeepnys and all the piss from alleyways, then people cooking BBQ on the pavement, so you have to walk in the road to get by. Messed up!
@@chrisgreen2786 Agree. Besides things like kinilaw any one saying the philippines has rarely traveled. The filipino palatte is the most unrefined and uninspiring that i've ever found, just deep fry everything and add sugar. I can see why Americans like it if you just like eating deep fried and processed food the philippines is perfect for you :)
@@chrisgreen2786 no problem for us Filipinos bec we enjoy our FOOD!!!! oh but for you, our uninvited guests, there's a quick solution to all of that --- LEAVE AND dont ever come back! joke 🙄🥴🤣
Sadly, filipinas have picked up many bad western habits, thanks to social media, esp tiktok. Even out at dinner, you see entire families with phones in hand, not talking amongst themselves (just like in the US). So sad.
Waterproof everything if you go to the PH. Buy an umbrella before going, the weather there is totally unpredictable. I bought the stuff that this guy posted on Amazon, but on my 5-6 hour motorcycle ride back to the city my gf and I got soaked. It was like riding through a typhoon.
Hello Chad, great commentary. Really struggle with loneliness and loss of friends and family, would appreciate discussion of development of new expat friendships.
Happens everyday here in the PH. At least this guy made it to his condo before being ambushed. Most of the time with these “family business opportunity” scams the Filipina will meet you at the airport with her “friends” who are actualy family members and also often their Filipino spouse who she introduces as her brother.
So much of what you covered here is what i have experienced in my 7 years here in PH. When you focus on yourself and forget dating because of all the the barriers you mentioned its amazing how much mystery you can create among locals haha they become highly suspicious of a single guy. If ever you want an interview reply here, i think we could some more insight
Chad, I think you summed it up correctly. Knowing who you are, what you want, and committing to your choice is at the heart of the successful relationship calculus.... worldwide. Older guys generally have an advantage in knowing who and what they want without the desire to play dating games to get it, which makes them more likely to succeed and the Filipinas know this. Culture and language certainly complicate the equation with regard to communications which is why it is so important to clearly state (and frequently reinforce) your feelings and intentions. Thank you for the summary of your keen observations and learned insights. Peace and Love, B Goat
There was a really cute girl working at the help desk at the mall and so I'd chat here up often. One day, I crept up on her and found her doodling on paper my name over and over which I found a bit worrying but I ended up going to her her family house in Tondo, a very poor area of Manila. She had a twin sister which I found so strange because they'd do Karaoke and she'd sing love songs while looking into my eyes making me feel like they both were in love with me! Then I found out her Dad was a cop which scared me to death. I went to a graveyard with them on Halloween, the journey was so long but I was in the middle with a twin on either side. We spent all night there, lots of people, a Dunkin Doughnuts van, I was confused! Later on my ex g/f found out about this girl and started going to the mall and bullying her. I got in a shit load of trouble with the family and was dragged to the top of the mall and lots of people sitting around a big table discussing this scandal they kept repeating. My Dutch neighbour came along for support but his funny way of talking kept making the Dad think he was making fun of the situation causing him to shout "I'm PNP!" All these people gathered here for me? Seriously though, always avoid the police there. Very dangerous, all are corrupt. And never do anything wrong because they will come after you if they think they can squeeze money out of you. One time I had a minor disagreement with some guy and suddenly he throws himself on the floor and claimed I punched him! It was so pathetic and nobody believed him. I was stopped in a taxi where the cops suggestd I had drugs in my cigarette box. This was my cue to say here's 2000 pesos but I didn't understand at that time so I said nothing and they gave up. Just avoid the police and any disputes or losing your temper. Be kind, don't get offended, be generous if you can, enjoy yourself at the beaches and avoid the cities which are the worst in the world, absolute disaster in every way, no green spaces, no traffic laws, polluted black fumes, smells of urine in the heat, houses own the pavement in front so they selfishly put a giant plant pot or some crap there so people are forced to walk in the road, every bar, eatery, mall, etc is foreign owned but why? I once saw a big poster in a shop window that read something like Buy 2 drinks for 100p or 4 for 200p and pointed it out to my companion, laughing. The taxi driver snapped "if you don't like it go home to your country" We didn't mean to offend and obviously love the natural beauty of the country but the people are terrible at business and corruption runs deep to the core and the government banning birth control so that a family of ten can not find jobs and live well, many going hungry I think they should be doing as well as Thailand with tourism but they can't seem to get their shit together and it's painful to watch. I asked a young waiter if he had kids, yes 7. He's a young guy about 24. I hate to see people struggle every day and have no opportunities. It's always corruption and religion all over the world causing pain and suffering. I befriended a girl, just friends. She had 9 younger siblings and had to send money back home for their education. Still, she was a pleasure to talk with and clever, very funny. We used to go snorkling and pretend we were getting it on, with our snorkles it must have looked funny to everyone walking along the path because they were pointing and laughing! So much responsibility on her shoulders and still her spirit was strong and she always had a smile. I miss that person, God I hope she's ok. I hated the young foreign guys who didn't deserve her time, if she was born in a wealthy country she would be so succesful i'm sure. If I could go back in time i'd try to save her.
I have a house in Leyte with my asawa, and I find that a lot of foreigners think they can just land in Philipines, and girls will just come running to them. You see these guys in the mall in Robinsons just sitting aimlessly and wondering why I have the hot Chick in my arms. You have to be adaptable and mingle with the locals. Filipinas love it when you can go to their house and meet their parents. Can you survive the province life? Can you adapt and bathe with pozzo water? Can you live with the locals and forget all your luxuries in the west? Can you drink thuba at night with locals whilst mosquitoes are sulking your blood dry😅😂? Can you ride the Jeepney with the locals? If so, you get a girl within minutes😂. Some of these guys come here and are maate. The other thing I found is.....approach the ladies in the malls, markets, stores, resorts,..... You will eventually find a good filipina .
actually no I would definitely not say that. It's not about having game it's just about having the confidence and willingness to just say hello and start chatting with someone. Girls here recognize and appreciate a nice genuine easy-going guy a lot more than they appreciate that back in the west. So just be yourself. it's just that many guys don't feel comfortable going up to someone and don't act like themselves when they do... especially if a girl is super cute lol
All of us human have individual differences in culture, personality, upbringing, and many other factors of life we are in. One thing Filipinos are, we are family oriented culture and loyal to you if you are to her. There’s so many successful stories of Filipina married to a foreigner. Advise to all foreigners, before making a decision to come to live in the Philippines, ask yourself if you are 100 percent ready, financially, emotionally and can adjust to the culture and the climate? Then, you can try first to stay for a short vacation and getting the feeling, if you like it or not to stay in the Philippines. Don’t bash the Philippines if you’re plan doesn’t work because you don’t do your homework. Just a saying…
I am an Island boy from Seychelles I think tempo is an island thing even here it is terrible at times. I can cure tempo because I am immune to it. If one day I decide to get a Filipina gf please do not try tempo, because I will go in the same mode and I can get really tempo for a long day.
Provincial Filipino girls are very simple girls, they are not worldly at all, their main concerns are eating and having a roof over their heads and of course their family is extremely important to them. Forget deep conversations, it will never happen. Their strengths are that they are homely, will look after you, washing, cleaning , cooking and looking after their man is instinct for them. They are fun, they laugh and they will love you. There are ladies that dont want to spend your money, they just want love and support too. They are extremely loving, if you meet a keeper , keep her, you wont be unhappy in any department . They are gorgeous too in that exotic way. Western woman they are not, choose wisely, there are many options and opportunities , even in the shopping mall .
Wow. Almost all the women you show in the video are why we want to go there. It's not just the looks, it's how cheerful and the overall attitude exuding from them. With social media being so popular there, what surprises me is the lack of obvious narcissism, like we see with the gals hooked on social media in the west.
I noticed many Filipinas get bossy pretty quick after marriage. So if retired and living there it maybe better to date or rent. Tampo is a mental problem! Like about fifty years ago I was returning to marry, the night before the day She stopped talking and would not get out of bed until we were an hour late. So she silent into the CR I packed my back pack and walked out. So I was actually saved by tampo. I surely do not want to be in marriage with tampo. I think it is insecurity and to get control of the relationship. One thing you might try if a girl friend does this leave for a week without her let her stew about it. Then show up if you really miss her and see how she acts. Another thought I had was perhaps the lady that does the tampo has had so many men ( high body count ) that does not trust men any longer.
that's probably all of east Asia 😂 Thailand, Vietnam, Japan, Korea, China is like that. After marriage they transform to tiger, dragon, harpy or whatever. it's a massive honey trap
Because foreigners aren't rare in the phils anymore and its no longer just old guys. Yoing handsome wealthy guys are now going to these places to pick girls up, I know because im one of them lmao. Almost every single friend of my girlfriend has a foreign bf or is tall9to a foreigner online, the only ones that havent are the older ones. Social media is worldwide, filipinas are no longer restricted to just random old guys anymore
I found my Filipina fiancée on Christian Filipina. I believe I found the true "gem" of the Philippines in her and I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with this wonderful woman.
Filipinos are everywhere nowadays. Don’t have to go to Philippines. You will find wonderful Filipinas in Europe, US, etc and many of them are well travelled and smart .
Too many guys who don't have game in their own country and think they are going to magically have beautiful women throwing themselves at them the day they get off the plane are delusional.
I will also add that some guys say i have traveled 8K miles so i must get a perfect woman. Not realizing that the concept of "perfect" is illusion. Someone who is good enough for you should be the key rather than chasing the illusion(perfect girl).
I hear a lot about tampo on TH-cam, but in the 10+ years that I've been here, it's never really been an issue. I hear more about it on TH-cam than I do in real life, and I've never had to deal with a whole lot. Maybe it's because I don't tolerate garbage behavior in general. Anyway, I don't think tampo is that much of a thing here -- at least not as much as people on TH-cam are led to believe -- and it's not because I live in an expat bubble. I don't. I speak Tagalog and my kids are Fil-Am. 🤷♂️
I live in Anda Bohol, most women do not speak English at all here. So even when you meet someone beautiful and the kind you would marry, not easy to have a big conversation. If I were to do it all over again I would have stayed in Tagibalran for 4 months first.
@@GUITARTIME2024 A girl I am with is going to school to be an English teacher. Her teacher allows them to speak bisyan in class. So perhaps many can read it or text it. But all very shy of speaking it.
Many filipinas will not understand your sarcasm so that can lead to massive problems. Also you have to deal with tampo which isn't good as it's childish. Then there are the parents and relatives, if they are poor, you are and your GF are their ATM. So while it is easy to find an instant girlfriend it may not really be a relationship like in the west that has more depth. So I don't think it is hard to find a GF, it might be hard to find a real relationship.
i came to the philippines in march but It was much more difficult to apporach a girl then all this vloggers maintain. Most Filipinas are together with their boyfriend and when you are not the very extroverted man who can bring them to laugh in the first minute its not much easier than in the west. I try again in 2 weeks but its a challenge and absolutely not easy to attract women there.
Its funny that the passport bros hype has been going on for years..thousand of videos have been made about it, YET MEN ARE STILL CLUELESS IN WHAT TO DO . 😂 Dont always blame the woman. When you don't upgrade, you will not find a good partner wherever you go. Start by evaluating yourselves. Are you even worthy to have a traditional wife? Take responsibility, man up and be accountable!
@@ßhopkins they don't care because they are entitled, they want people to be subservient to them no matter what so they don't bother to change themselves
Dude, the Phillipines is a totally FOREIGN CULTURE. Especially to an American. Even the ones who speak some English are totally foreign. Why would you try to have a "relationship" with a woman you know nothing about and have nothing in common with?
3:05 Characteristics. It's mostly about what Dr. Helen Fisher describes in 4 broad personality groups for relationship compatibility. From what I've seen, only what she calls "The Builder" personality do okay there. I don't have that trait. I've not found the DINK types that are agnostic.
Good info! If I can handle women in the West, I can handle Tampo, lol! I think you just have to have fun with your girl and try to find a way to make her laugh. I'm sure over time you both will have your inside jokes. I'm certainly going to meet my Filipina in person when I get to the PH. cheers!
Honestly I’ve been all around the world maybe I’m one of the lucky guys but I live in the Philippines and I’m having a hard time not having too many gfs . I’m finding myself saying “damn this is too many” been with my first gf for 3 years and the other 3 for a year and a half. Btw they know I’m polygynist they All have good jobs don’t beg for money and they are all Smokin hot. If u continue letting women control the narrative u lose. All of them tried tempo and I didn’t budge they realized and got their mind right, I always say it’s either my program or u have to go mam bc I’m doing a lot for them all so it’s not like they aren’t in a good situation. Stop being a weak man, who falls for the woman’s ultimatums. Women are very big bluffers, stand your ground and show her her decisions aren’t the choices that leads to great results for her. In general I’m the better logical decision maker and when they try to go off on their own they realize life was much better with me. Stop letting women control u with their emotions, it’s the same the Adam let eve do. Y’all also are forgetting women do a lot of irrational ish on their periods.
I know I got lucky with my wife. She studied English in school but even after she graduated she kept studying English. So her English is very good. Plus, we lived in the USA for 18 years and her English just kept on getting better and better. She speaks three languages- Visayan, English and Tagalog. Much better to find a Filipina who has good English skills. The call center girls and office girls are your best bet.
While you mentioned it, I think an entire video or more can be done on relating to the cultural differences. I’m living with my Filipina for a few months now and at least twice a week something smacks me in the face that I never even thought of. It brings doubts and insecurities in both of us as we try to make it through this or that situation. And this is even compounded by her only so-so English. Also your video about getting a motor scooter was very helpful, could you possibly tell me the name of the “flipper” you used is and his contact information. Thanks from a fellow Canadian
Personally, before I even think about a girlfriend, I want to get there and get acquainted with the different areas to see where I might want to live or stay long-term. I'm thinking about northern Luzon in the province, I'm not a city life type of person. And that could take several months before I'm ready to settle into one place. I'll be 63 when I get there, and I'm not in a hurry to get into a relationship. I've been single since 2002, and I haven't dated since my divorce. My priority was to raise my son and daughter and make sure they have proper moral values and good ethics. Both are grown now and have family's of their own and are doing great. If I meet someone and we are compatible then great, if not then that's OK to. But my purpose for wanting to retire in the Philippines isn't just to hook up, its to have a better quality of life than I can have here in the USA. If I want to retire here then I would probably have to work until I die.
North Luzon is good, what provence / town you looking at? I live in Pangasinan just outside of Urdaneta. I love it. (from australia originally). Just had my brother here for 3 weeks visiting and his planning to move here now too.
@Joe-p7r6q I'm not sure that is why I take my time and travel, so I can get a feel for the area and also to meet and get to know the local people. I'm the type of person who usually gets along with most people, I'm very patient and tolerant. I'm kinda loner, and my idea of good time is riding one of my old shovelhead Harleys (1978 flh chopper/bobber and a 1982 flt) in the mountains, and the countryside. (Alone or with friends) I'm not into the party or nightclub seen. And I really enjoy country living and taking life as comes. I will add the mountains anywhere. Would it be great, If you have any suggestions for me to check out, let me know. Thanks
@@rjoetting7594 I would suggest somewhere other than the Philippines but if you do, take time to check out as many places as possible. Riding here is not all that great except in some provinces where the roads are decent and not much traffic. Only problem with the provinces is lack of access to good healthcare. Other than in a few hospitals in Manila or Cebu you have little chance of survival if you have a stroke or major accident. And even there it's iffy as traffic is so bad it might take 2 hours to go 10 miles (cars hardly give way to emergency vehicles)
Very astute to first find the place you want to live before getting into a relationship. Cagayan de Oro doesn't get mentioned much and hits the sweet spot in many ways. Specifically the Uptown area near the SM mall
@rjoetting Good plan, but the Filipinas you will meet have their own plan, so be cognizant of her persuasive demeanor. Jealousy and Tampo, meet my family. Don't fall into the trap. Philippines since 2009, married to one who protects me.
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Chad 😂 we are here i. Spain many pilipina single mother.😂😂😂if some one needs a here😂 but don't think we are looking man support our family never.we are hard working for our needs.. The comment of someone who studied in UP.Diliman is correct. Don't compare those in the Visayas to Luzon like Pangasinan Ilocos and especially igorot and Pangasinan Ilocano because they don't depend on their husbands but we are fair to our wives. .haha those work hard.😀

I was gonna do the Christian Filipina thing but the Philippines still has COVID shots restrictions. That's a deal breaker for me.
@@bernardbuonocore6927 What do you mean by COVID Shot Restrictions? Are you sure about that? I am an American in Manila and got here late in April. I am not vaxxed. They did not even ask me about it. They had restriction in 2022 and 2023. But they are over now.
@@bernardbuonocore6927 I know a few beautiful single Filipinas and they are not on dating sites.
Women are the same all over the world. If they want you, you will know it . They will break all of their rules. If they don't, if anything it will be all about what you can do for them. Transactional. ✅✅✅
Wrong. Not all Women or Filipinas are the same.
Yep there's no faking their desire.
Not all btw. Don’t blame all girl cause there some afam also is being crazy cause they have money.they think they can buy all .
I’m in a relationship with someone younger, and while he doesn’t have a ton of work experience or savings, we’re genuinely happy. He’s not like my ex, who could buy me anything but was controlling and possessive. With him, it felt like I was just an object or a doll with no freedom, even to spend time with my own family.
Tell us you surround yourself with mid women without telling us.
@@IndayRosa07having a controlling partner is awful and something money can’t make better. Smart move to get away from that a controlling situation.
I had a fiance who introduced me to her brother boyfriend and the whole family in on the scam . Making a living from foreiners is a way of life there.
SAD
Facts bro. I've lived here 2 years and seen it all
@@toddmichael81 I bet you haven't?
@@life-n7e stop the hate bro
@@toddmichael81 I don't think any of this has to do with hate; they are facts of life; why can no one express their facts if it is bad news, only to be called hate, this is why nothing gets put right. Tell the truth, good or bad.
another problem I think with older ex- pats is (myself included) is we want the young woman, but we complain that we have to support her, and to a certain extent, her family, then we complain if she’s not helping out financially.. I struggled with this as I’ve been married 8 years now, and live here on my social security, savings, and investments.. but then I realize she is far more valuable in our marriage as a homemaker , like a lot of foreigners will complain if their pinay works full time and time together is limited.. you can’t have it both ways, I prefer my wife to take care of the house, if she worked full time I would be bored and lonely..I think that’s a major reason a lot of ex- pats fail here, no friends, family, different culture, wife is gone all day, you need to adapt and develop different interests here to keep you occupied, otherwise you are setting yourself up for failure.
Good points
I don't understand why you want young woman though. Especially Gen Z or Millennial. Their view on life really doesn't make for a compatible person with someone older and not into social media and less active, etc. Young people have their needs, often different than old people. Especially boomers trying their luck with Gen Z or Millennials is destined to fail
You have the winning formula. Having gratitude helps one to find the right pinay. Some of these guys come here with their western tendencies and wonder why they are single😂😅
Get up early and cook her breakfast, then drive her to work. Not every day but do your part. Some days you can take a good hot lunch to her and her close workmates. Tell them in advance so they don't bring their own. Point out those who brought their lunch anyway that they maybe thought you were unreliable and they were wrong. You can spend some of your time doing for others and you will feel good about yourself. Not having to work is better than working or did you forget?
Get up early and cook her breakfast, then drive her to work. Not every day but do your part. Some days you can take a good hot lunch to her and her close workmates. Tell them in advance so they don't bring their own. Point out those who brought their lunch anyway that they maybe thought you were unreliable and they were wrong. You can spend some of your time doing for others and you will feel good about yourself. Not having to work is better than working or did you forget?
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Absolutely! Profits are possible, especially now, but complex transactions should be handled by experienced market professionals.
Finding yourself a good broker is as same as finding a good wife, which you go less stress, you get just enough with so much little effort at things
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You really hit the nail on the head with this one. I'm the good guy looking for the good girl, probably the most difficult relationship. When you're normal and sincere you are also vulnerable to be taken advantage of. Your insight is beyond your years Chad. It was a pleasure spending the morning with you. I hope you had a good time snorkeling .
A 25 year old girl?? You should want a good woman your age
I hope you find what you’re looking for bro I’m hoping I can find love too
Thanks and nice job on foreigners struggling to find their Filipina, especially the paradox of choice and knowing (or thinking they know) what they really want. All decisions (and relationships) come with tradeoffs. Cheers!
@@michaela2838 wow thank you for that generous donation I appreciate it! And you're welcome I'm glad you enjoyed the video 🙏
I've been to over 80 countries and have dated women in many of them. The main problem I had with Filipinas - apart from most of them being short (I'm 180 cm so I like tallish women around 168-170 cm. They do exist in PI but the majority are short, and I mean like 148 cm short) - is that they are simply not interesting to talk to. It's often hard to carry on a conversation with them. You'll have to do most of the work to keep the conversation going with them just giving short or one-word answers, and unless you keep talking it will just die out. Whch can be exhausting/draining. The other thing is that many of them have so little life/travel experience or general knowledge of the world outside their daily life that they simply don't have much to say. If you're okay with that, fine you can find plenty of women like that there and who will describe themselves on dating profiles, for example, as "I am simple" as their only 3-word self-description. I've seen a lot of older Western guys in relationships with much younger Filipinas (20s) with an age gap of 30-50 years and it's more like a father or grandfather-young daughter/grandaughter relationship with the guy talking to his young gf like he would to a 10-year old girl back home. Again, if you're okay with that you'll find many desperate impoverished young women in PI who will fit the bill. But don't be surprised if their only interest in you is as a walking ATM. For many such women life in PI is about survival, and you are simply a means to their survival, like a 401k plan or a substitute for an employer if they don't have a job.
There’s a definite money trap you can fall into by developing a relationship with a Filipina & her family, if you’re a foreigner. It’s sort of like Marlon Brando in Godfather when he says, “I’ll take care your your problem, but I may call upon you for assistance one day, and that day may never come”… but guess what, it always does…lol 🤑
I am 190 cm (6'3", I think) and I can relate to everything you state. What I can add to your list, is: "I am poor" (with having at least 1 kid and often more). I always ask them (single mothers) what happened. And they cant just seperate cause/causation from that the guy now has a new girlfriend. "Why did he leave you?". They cant answer that question bec they dont ask that question to her former boyfriend (something to do with hiya; losing/saving face)
from all the "over 80 countries" you been to, can you please share with us, which country where girls/women don't see you/us as an ATM? you obviously don't see the big picture. most people that go to Ph are usually divorced or were in a painful s*x starved relationship. and the destination happen to be one of the poorest countries on planet earth. so, don't expect a Swiss type of etiquettes.
Truth bomb! Most Filipinas are only interested in Facebook and Tik Tok
@@Corleony101 Same question here. First, women who are looking for security are not just Filipinas, worst in the Western countries they have nothing to offer on the table but they are demanding too much from you. But Filipina, when you find a gold digger, the kind of woman who can coke, take care of you love you as her husband take care of the family, and be loyal to you find gold in her.
I’m currently engaged to my beautiful fiancé from Cebu and it’s true what he says about Filipina behavior, early on in our relationship we had struggles but we have found ways to strengthen our relationship and avoid these issues like jealousy and assuming . I keep my iwatch on me everywhere I go to keep it easy for communication and her being a call center agent our schedules are the same so it’s easy to stay in touch. She always reminds me to see things from her side and I do the same . Compromising is key and we are as happy as can be. Great video I enjoyed it.
thanks for sharing that
Have you actually met her?
@@villarosamaricar198 Ty my love
@@JLunaK14Love, always know that I love you so much.
@@villarosamaricar198 and you work in a call center? Hmmm. Lol
Digging deep, Chad. Probably the main reason I like your vlog so much. You are not afraid to get to point and dig a little deeper.
Nice meeting you yesterday and I look forward to meeting again and having some good conversations. Godspeed, brother.
Too many foreigners come over with the ideation that all they have to do is show up and girls will be fawning all over them. This isn’t the case because most Filipinos are shy and will look for you to make the first forms of communication. Do not try to use pick up lines or try to use sarcastic humor because it will not work. Just be nice and direct and polite and come off as a very caring and loving person.
Your last point is spot out, being confident and self-assured is important but if you come across as a genuinely nice, respectful and caring type of person you will do extremely well here.
@@SirMikeMiller things are not as they used to be 20 years ago. My fiancé told me rn there are so many foreigners there right now in the Phils that the Filipina don’t really care anymore and are unimpressed. The girl that comes to you is probably low value the high value will not come to you she will expect you to go to her and present yourself . Good luck In your journey. Cheers!
@ I know. I live here in Duma. The Filipinas here are already use to seeing foreigners everyday. That’s exactly what I said in my post. Filipinas are very shy, especially the girls from the provinces.
@@JLunaK14it's still a numbers game and they're still probably 25 Filipinas for every Foreigner , and a foreigner is generally a good catch. We still have way more quality choices than we have back in the west
Good luck out there bro .
I met my now wife in Christian Filipina we are older so neither one of us were into playing games. We video chatted for several months before I came her, I could see that she was who she said she was, a couple of months later the pandemic hit, we endured the pandemic together, even got married on line, now I am here and it is bliss...
Surfing Filiipino Cupid right now, everytime I think I found a match something happens. I was talking with one Filipina for 3 weeks and we had a brownout yesterday, I texted her and told her we are having a brownout till 6 pm and her response was, you just want the day to find someone prettier, how many girls did you talk to today?, That was the final straw, I can only imagine the jealousy if we are living together.
Just roll with it bro. Women need that. They want a man who other women want. Let her know she has you but don't obsess over it. Don't do the "baby you're the only one" thing. She will puke internally and lose attraction to you
Drama in a glass of water. Display of fake jealousy to show you how much she needs you. Learn to measure things at face value, don't get sucked into Pinay drama. BTW she is a cheap girl!!! cut cut cut.
WOW !!! THE REVEAL = WAS PRICELESS.
haha reminds me of so many interactions
Us Millennials and Gen Z pretty much hit many girls at once. Sometimes I have like 6 and just choose one. My point is who cares there are millions of Filipinas
Do you know what thieves fear the most? It's other thieves. They think since they are one, they suspect everyone else of potentially being one and they hate that. Why do they suspect you of being unfaithful and untrustworthy? Simply because of the logic mentioned above....
GQQD SAYING; Do you know what thieves fear the most? It's other thieves.
In Psychiatry/Psychology, it is called projection defense mechanism. Accuse you of what they did or thinking of doing it.
@@Ego-Kills I thought it was call "politics".
@@Ego-Killstrue. 😊
If they don't trust you, break up. Trust is very important.
A great overview of the realistic issues dating asian women, i spent 2 years there in 2011 and your vlog brings back the reasons why i had enough and returned to my home country but would never have missed the experience i had while living there.
Social media changed everything regarding dating Chad. There is a friends list and then there’s a real friends list that you don’t know about. Men are starting to wise up in the Philippines. Times have changed .
Oh no doubt about that!
The time of abundant good pinays are long behind us. Social media and desperate simps have ruined the place. Now, guys are running into a dozen shit shows before even meeting a decent potential.
Watch your back because you haven't experienced that level of game and deception and you WON'T see it coming!!!
It's really kind of too late. Philippines was great 5 or 6 years ago. Now there's so many foreigners that are going there. Looking for women, so the women are changing their mentality, like the western women.
I was in the manila baguio areas in the women are not nearly as enthusiastic as they were four years ago
Don't date a single mom. They won't respect you in the least. It'll just be a big money drain, and the father can come back and hurt you
Dating scene is changing rapidly! Social media, dating platforms, a flood of foreigners coming into the country.....The girls have endless choices and most will continually look for the "big fish". I see plenty of guys at Ayala mall in Cebu who haven't been able to get a date after several weeks in country. Cebu City, Dumaguette, Davao, BGC...there are more foreign men than women in a lot of these places.
Why Manila? Why not unvisited provinces? Why all foreigners just flock to couple of places dammit 😂
The tables have turned (or are turning). With online dating, Filipinas are no longer in competition for whatever foreigner happens to be going through town. Even average looking Filipinas have tens of thousand of subscribers on their TH-cam channels. A Filipina that you meet online might be talking with dozens of foreigners and you are just one of many.
@@MelPatton-yi8se Technically yes but you forget to account for their miniscule thinking capacity. They don't think as you have just described. They only see the face value of their broad options presented which are thousands of desperate men ready to shower them with money and compliments.
@@MelPatton-yi8se Very few guys have the guts and money to travel 7000 miles??? Have you been to Cebu City, Dumaguette, Davao or Manila lately? There are more foreigners than girls in many of those places.
@@MelPatton-yi8se Truth
I have beautiful Filipina nieces. What prevented them from going online dating site is that they don't have a personal cell phone. They share a phone, that's why they can't go online dating.
Currently in Dumaguete & currently single. We all have a story. Of the all the points you hit on, I can relate with many similarities. I have no issues meeting Filipina, but meeting someone who is “genuine” like myself can be a challenge. All in all, it’s ok & for the time being I will just go with the flow focusing on myself.
Lack of engagement; hard to build connection.
You nailed it. The motivation doesn’t match up, it happened on my last trip; got no where fast
Very true. Much of this is the same as in Thailand where I've been for a few years. Less poverty and more modern infrastructure here, but language and culture are bigger barriers. The inability to have an intelligent conversation is brutal in both countries.
IMHO there are many headwinds against a newly arrived expat when it comes to dating and finding a partner. First as a mature Western man around 60 it's very difficult to find a partner in your same age bracket as most are married, separated or have other issues that preclude a relationship. So what you might find is a 28 year old who is half your age. Yes, we speak the same language but our cultures are very different, her generational values are also different, it's more difficult to find a partner here than many think. My advice is to take the first 6 months and just try to learn the culture and your new surroundings. Take time to really think about what you want this new life to look like and what you are really seeking in a partner. Then start your search and don't compromise on what you really want, stay the course until you find exactly what you are seeking, it's worth the work in the end.
My very first encounter (online) with the Philippines (Filipinas) dates back to 2009. There were positive and negative encounters. It was also my first encounter with what a poor woman will and can do to try to get money from a foreigner (and being a complete stranger). Those experiences resulted in starting my own research regarding the Philippines. And there is really no need to watch any TH-cam channel to get that information. [ So far, I havent heard anything new from all existing TH-cam channels. And to add: all those TH-cam channels do NOT go very deep.].
Yes, there is a difference between reading and knowing things and really experience those things while being in that country. Especially when getting faced with real poverty (squatter homes and other simple build homes/'shelters'). Never been there but it seems that Tondo (Manila) is the worst place to be.
In short:
everything about the PH culture can be found without watching any TH-cam channel. Just use Google (Blogs written by and from local people; instead of Vlogs by a bunch of foreigners who think they are god and experts), Wikipedia, other sources.
ACCLIMATE TO THE WEATHER ~ CULTURE ~ WAY OF LIFE/ PACE/ SCAMS/ PRICES/ 'WHITE RICE HUNTERS" / WHITE SKIN TAX TRICKS ETC ...
Great advice👌. Learning the culture and not being thirsty helps. Mingle with the locals and skip the bars and dramaguete
If she has a Tattoo run as fast as you can.
Great video content as always Chad. It's nice to hear you often include most possible scenarios. Vinni.
I met a stunningly beautiful 18 year old Filipina bar girl 14 years ago. I was 54. She has told me she was just interested in being supported.
It was love at first sight for me. I thought that money was the motivation. I didnt care along as she was with me.
It was hard for me adapting to her culture and believes for many years.
She said with in a few years she fell in love with me. 😮 She learned about why I thought very foriegn to her. She actually adapted to my culture more. So special. We meshed after 5 years and enjoy each other's company more than anything else. Fully in love now. It's almost sickening if it wasn't us.
Our favorite thing is still a weekend together in bed. I'll prepare the whole week. I dont mean sex, but thats part of it. I mean love nest with her favorite items. Mostly watching movies and shows. Listening to movies while cuddling.
Well thought out & informative video Chad, thanks !!
Chad... Everything about this video is So TRUE! This really helped me to finally understand what I have been going through with the Filipinas I have dealt with and it's very hard. Thank U for this video.
My opinion is, most men who go there, have an unrealistic idea of what being in a relationship (or love) is. Guys always talking about not spending money on a woman and "if she ask for money, leave." All while going to a poor country. On top of that, they don't want to conform to Philippines culture. They want Philippines to adjust to them. There is a reason most men left. It's not because they had unlimited options in whatever country they come from. I've seen interviews from guys who want to find a woman to go 50/50 and travel the world with(in the philippines? ). Seen guys talk about finding good women and meeting their parents, to only break up after 1 night of sx because "they didn't click." The reasons are endless. But I'll watch now to see what they say.
Wrong dude.
I cut it short because you're just describing men who literally don't know what real relationships take to be successful. Sort of like the what they say about women while leaving the country. There one common denominator gentlemen. 🫵🏿
You hit the nail on the head 👏. These guy will never find love because they are selfish and entitled. They don't want to adjust and meat and live with the locals. I think dating in PI is the easiest once you learn to be humble and adapt
Never meet the parents unless you are getting married.
Thanks Chad you are the first TH-camr who has addressed properly this lack of connection and the way many comments especially jokes and banter go over their heads and even can insult them. This has been my major issue with Filipinas since I started talking to them some years ago now. Often it leads to boredom or tiredness because I feel like I am carrying the conversation a lot. I sometimes wonder if the creation of emotional drama has the function of creating interest in the absence of more conversational interest that we in the west are used to. Which is another Faultline between foreigners and Filipina. All that said a good Pinay is still streets ahead of most western women even with these issues.
I met a girl in the Phillipines. Shes one of the best people I have ever met. She always checks on me and when were together she makes sure im eating healthy food and regularly going to the dentist and doctor. Ive tried to find reasons to "not trust" her because im paranoid by nature but I cant find any so far. I will say, the American and Filipino culture is very different, and that may be why its hard for some guys to find love there. I know the Filipino customs and culture well because my dad is a Filipino immigrant. The people there are very different their culture is different and it can be strange sometimes to Americans who are not used to it. Also, I think many women there are a little wary of western men because of our reputation.
@@imveryhungry112 that means she really cares for you and possibly she loves you. Value her and if you like her take her seriously.
@kevinluna5984 thanks brother
She shouldn't have to check on you if you're eating healthy food it should be automatic that you are
She’s fattening you up for the slaughter
Yessss she shouldn't.....but she cares thats the difference....😊
Some good, down to earth, solid advice.
If anything I'm constantly telling Filipinas I'm not interested in being in a relationship. They are always bewildered by this notion and can't fathom how a 36 year old decent looking American guy can stay single here. I've dated a few women here and there since I've been in the Philippines.. I'm just not as enamored by them as the older generations are I suppose. I'm also not fond of the idea of possibly having to support a bunch of their family while they sit around and drink Tanduay and Red Horse all day. There's plenty more I could do with that money 😂. I really enjoy my alone time as well and doing what I want without having to answer to anyone. To each their own though.
Then why come to the Philippine?
I'm using them for recreational purposes only 😅. No relationship. Let's be honest now, 99% of them have absolutely nothing to add to any conversation. I make it clear I'm only interested in "fun".
If you are not interested in a relationship, don't get into into one. Live your life and don't bother women. Marriage is not for you. Maybe when you get old, you may want to marry someone.
It's best to date and dump them after a few months before they take you to the cleaners. I just no longer have any compassion for them after what I've been thru.
Excellent video with many good points. And beautiful visuals too.
Chad, I like those clips of pinay much better than others' AI "photos."
Concise analysis. Thanks.
Yep, really pretty girls in this video.
Excuse me Chad we are not the same what you explain with wallet and something else
What I can say is we want a serious man
GODBLESS 🙏🙏🙏
Fantastic commentary on several points. I used to tell guys in Thailand... it takes a while to figure out exactly what you truly want, and its very easy to go for the first pretty face that smiles at you. Do you really want a traditional girl? Do you really want a wild bargirl that's great in bed? As western men, we're not used to an abundance of options with mates, so we never ask ourselves the question, "what qualities would lead to long term happiness and connection?" Second, I've also told guys to stop using sarcasm as a form of humor in Asia... its just not something they tend to engage in. I always use the example, the funniest man in Asia is Mr Bean... silly, childish, obvious humor works... subtle, sarcastic or even self deprecating humor does not. Be simple, obvious and direct with jokes. Lastly, remember that tampo > a shrew in your house vocalizing her every dissatisfaction with what she feels you've done wrong... remember that. Be grateful, it could be worse.
well said!
Thanks for your views Chad. I Have been living in the Philippines for a number of years. The problem is supply and demand. I realize you can't talk about this on your channel. If you do, unfortunately you won't have a channel. The only filipinas available to
foreigners are separated, have children, midgets (under 5 feet tall), or filipinas you really don't want to look at. That's it, that is the selection. If you can go with a filipina that has one (or more) of those attributes, you are good to go. No, there are not a lot of desirable filipinas here that have any desire to hook up with a foreigner of any age.. I know the mantra of "relationship based" Philippines channels is there are desirable women in the Philippines. It's over buddy. Unless of course you are open to; separated, have children, midgets (under 5 feet tall), or filipinas you really don't want to look at.
Nope, if a foreigner is sending money to someone he hasn't met, then you might be communicating with a married scammer or in some cases it could possibly be a male. Don't do it. It is a fake profile.
Keep in mind beauty is objective. Wait, isn't beauty in the eye of the beholder? No, that is a lie. All the beholders will agree on what beauty is. Well, aren't there guys that want to be single? Of course not. Every man wants the exact same thing. They want a beautiful women that will make their life better. What about; separated, have children, midgets (under 5 feet tall), or women you really don't want to look at? Chances are those women won't make their life better. Then of course there are the pr**teasers. No, that won't work. She must be willing for you to lay that pipeline.
Dating casually? Those guys aren't dating women they want. Why not date someone desirable? Well, that is the problem I explained above. Chad, I realize you will probably delete this comment. If not. Any questions?
I have no idea why it didnt work out for you
@@nikicarrie4071 How many children do you have?
Great video with a lot of thoughtful insights.
Solid advice - spot on. Appreciate your video.
I married an educated close to my age Filipina . We get along great and we are very comfortable with each other . I had no interest in a huge age gap .
Thanks for keeping it real. This what I want to hear.
Chad real good video. Need to take your time don’t push it. Give it 6 mos to a year to figure out what you want the rest of your life to look like. Spend time dating and enjoying your new life. You will meet someone when you don’t expect it.
thanks Tom yes I agree... never a good thing to rush something like that
Good content.
My lady was also a working girl and I have exactly the experience you described. I did not even try to meet her schedule at all. I was very clear from the beginning by telling her that I will not be a second priority after a job. You gotta quit.
I would still recommend a working girl because if she quits her job to be with you... you know she really really wants to be with you.
That was nearly two years ago.
I'm happy and healthy being single just like Chad. I love my freedom and independence. Everything Chad said is true. I think it's different for Gen X and below vs Baby Boomer western men. Baby Boomers are a generation that are programmed to be in a relationship.
well said and good point about generational differences
I found my filipina gf 8 years ago. It was a pleasant experience. I was just checking now and it has become toxic. The present Filipina dating scene has also become materialistic. Correct me if I am wrong.
Not all just the ones these vloggers come across
Why are you checking on a dating app if you are already in a relationship?
Christian Filipina cost $1200.....something I can easily afford but would never consider. Ridiculous.
They have an easy affiliate program though, $300 to you for the signup if you're pushing it.
Is this what a Filipina must pay?
@@JohnS-zq8kslol , is that a joke question John?
Same here. Seems fishy. They won’t give their prices even if you ask until you get some kind of “consultation” over the phone, so I scheduled one. Couldn’t go through with it bc it felt like a dirty sales tactic, so I went and googled how much it costs. Money isn’t the problem and I like that they are at least making some attempt to vet their clientele, but they can’t possibly be doing the same with the women. Now they got my phone number and call every day. Very suspicious, but no big deal. Finding a woman isn’t the focus of my future plans to visit and possibly move there.
@@spacecowboy7755 If you want to communicate with a Filipina, you don't need to go on a dating site. I know a few beautiful Filipinas that you can get in contact with. No fee, no dating site.
Don't go to bars rather befriend a local and they will recommend you someone who's much more into genuine relationships.
ITS AMAZING HOW MANY AMERICAN OR CANADIAN TH-camRS LIVING IN THE PHILIPPINES ARE NOW RELATIONSHIP AND DATING EXPERTS. LIKE YOU, REEKAY, GIO, OLD DOG,MARK THORNTON etc.
They are not experts, they just try to rationalize having sex with young girls at their age...hahaha,,,,,They were failures in the their countries so need to try in PI. Old men dating teenagers,,,,,hahahaha,,,,what a joke
You are correct.
Nothing But Troublemakers.
Hahaha! At least they know now it's hard to have relationship in the Philippines if they want a good girl and serious relationship. 😊
All old white men chasing young girls in other countries. They can’t do that in the west! Let them enjoy their lives I say!
Very good video Chad. Very well researched by experience. I lived in Davao for 8 months with a Filipina and I had great intentions but she was too Narcissistic and I couldn't stay, even our psychologist told me to leave the relationship (which they normally don't advice in any direction)
There are lots of filipinas in Saudi arabia because they share the same narcissistic traits. They are nothing lik eone thinks.
Not call center, those girls work in companies. They are smart. Educated and professionals. Call center workers are usually high school graduates and vocational graduates. Some have difficulty finding a job, so they work in call center while looking for a better job.
I found that if you have a serious conversation with a Filipina, she will says that you are arguing. Instead of seeing is simply as an exchange of ideas.
This was a very informative video, thanks.
Really enjoy the brutal honesty man. I’m 38 n definitely looking to settle down . No relationship is perfect n I don’t want to deal with a woman living in survivor mode. We will see what happens tho
I don't put up with their tampo and petty, childish bs.
I would rather be alone than with some childish woman who is trying to control my life with her behaviour.
I appreciate Chad putting his voice over all these pretty girls instead of us watching him. Cheers bro 🍻
Was working in the states when started my relationship with my Filipina online. She worked too but was on vacation for the summer because she worked for a school as an OFW. Liked that she worked and was responsible. Cant imagine what it would be like being retired and wanting a relationship with a girl who worked. Must be hard.
Don't wait till you retire, meet a girl online today. It was hard to meet my wife though, so many Filipinas were scamming online, just have to filter through them till you find the right girl.
Great video, Chad...Jim
That's really one problem: Many girls don't have much to say, whether they are too shy or just a little simple-minded? I can talk to somebody who takes an active role in the conversation, but I am not at all a solo entertainer!
Meeting good women was probably the easiest thing to do here. The biggest issue was lack of access to quality food, internet that doesn't work in broad daylight even when you have 5g, filth and dust in the roads, and the heat.
Define “good”
i dont think having that kind of attitude can survive in the Philippines. You have many complaints, youre sounding like a pu$sy.. a big turn-off
I agree, the food is a big problem. It's just bad everywhere and they don't even know it! I want Indian restaurants, Italian, Thai, etc. come on! Also, that combination of the heat with those black fumes coming from jeepnys and all the piss from alleyways, then people cooking BBQ on the pavement, so you have to walk in the road to get by. Messed up!
@@chrisgreen2786 Agree. Besides things like kinilaw any one saying the philippines has rarely traveled. The filipino palatte is the most unrefined and uninspiring that i've ever found, just deep fry everything and add sugar. I can see why Americans like it if you just like eating deep fried and processed food the philippines is perfect for you :)
@@chrisgreen2786 no problem for us Filipinos bec we enjoy our FOOD!!!!
oh but for you, our uninvited guests, there's a quick solution to all of that
--- LEAVE AND dont ever come back! joke 🙄🥴🤣
Bad relationships are for simps. Dump her and move on.
Sadly, filipinas have picked up many bad western habits, thanks to social media, esp tiktok. Even out at dinner, you see entire families with phones in hand, not talking amongst themselves (just like in the US). So sad.
14:40 I’d like to see the video where this lady is interviewed. Anyone tell me the video it’s from? Thanks in advance
Waterproof everything if you go to the PH. Buy an umbrella before going, the weather there is totally unpredictable. I bought the stuff that this guy posted on Amazon, but on my 5-6 hour motorcycle ride back to the city my gf and I got soaked. It was like riding through a typhoon.
Hello Chad, great commentary. Really struggle with loneliness and loss of friends and family, would appreciate discussion of development of new expat friendships.
Happens everyday here in the PH. At least this guy made it to his condo before being ambushed. Most of the time with these “family business opportunity” scams the Filipina will meet you at the airport with her “friends” who are actualy family members and also often their Filipino spouse who she introduces as her brother.
So much of what you covered here is what i have experienced in my 7 years here in PH. When you focus on yourself and forget dating because of all the the barriers you mentioned its amazing how much mystery you can create among locals haha they become highly suspicious of a single guy. If ever you want an interview reply here, i think we could some more insight
yeah not dating not even attempting it right now, no stress
Chad, I think you summed it up correctly. Knowing who you are, what you want, and committing to your choice is at the heart of the successful relationship calculus.... worldwide. Older guys generally have an advantage in knowing who and what they want without the desire to play dating games to get it, which makes them more likely to succeed and the Filipinas know this. Culture and language certainly complicate the equation with regard to communications which is why it is so important to clearly state (and frequently reinforce) your feelings and intentions. Thank you for the summary of your keen observations and learned insights. Peace and Love, B Goat
Great advice Reekay as always
There was a really cute girl working at the help desk at the mall and so I'd chat here up often. One day, I crept up on her and found her doodling on paper my name over and over which I found a bit worrying but I ended up going to her her family house in Tondo, a very poor area of Manila. She had a twin sister which I found so strange because they'd do Karaoke and she'd sing love songs while looking into my eyes making me feel like they both were in love with me! Then I found out her Dad was a cop which scared me to death. I went to a graveyard with them on Halloween, the journey was so long but I was in the middle with a twin on either side. We spent all night there, lots of people, a Dunkin Doughnuts van, I was confused! Later on my ex g/f found out about this girl and started going to the mall and bullying her. I got in a shit load of trouble with the family and was dragged to the top of the mall and lots of people sitting around a big table discussing this scandal they kept repeating. My Dutch neighbour came along for support but his funny way of talking kept making the Dad think he was making fun of the situation causing him to shout "I'm PNP!" All these people gathered here for me? Seriously though, always avoid the police there. Very dangerous, all are corrupt. And never do anything wrong because they will come after you if they think they can squeeze money out of you. One time I had a minor disagreement with some guy and suddenly he throws himself on the floor and claimed I punched him! It was so pathetic and nobody believed him. I was stopped in a taxi where the cops suggestd I had drugs in my cigarette box. This was my cue to say here's 2000 pesos but I didn't understand at that time so I said nothing and they gave up. Just avoid the police and any disputes or losing your temper. Be kind, don't get offended, be generous if you can, enjoy yourself at the beaches and avoid the cities which are the worst in the world, absolute disaster in every way, no green spaces, no traffic laws, polluted black fumes, smells of urine in the heat, houses own the pavement in front so they selfishly put a giant plant pot or some crap there so people are forced to walk in the road, every bar, eatery, mall, etc is foreign owned but why? I once saw a big poster in a shop window that read something like Buy 2 drinks for 100p or 4 for 200p and pointed it out to my companion, laughing. The taxi driver snapped "if you don't like it go home to your country" We didn't mean to offend and obviously love the natural beauty of the country but the people are terrible at business and corruption runs deep to the core and the government banning birth control so that a family of ten can not find jobs and live well, many going hungry I think they should be doing as well as Thailand with tourism but they can't seem to get their shit together and it's painful to watch. I asked a young waiter if he had kids, yes 7. He's a young guy about 24. I hate to see people struggle every day and have no opportunities. It's always corruption and religion all over the world causing pain and suffering. I befriended a girl, just friends. She had 9 younger siblings and had to send money back home for their education. Still, she was a pleasure to talk with and clever, very funny. We used to go snorkling and pretend we were getting it on, with our snorkles it must have looked funny to everyone walking along the path because they were pointing and laughing! So much responsibility on her shoulders and still her spirit was strong and she always had a smile. I miss that person, God I hope she's ok. I hated the young foreign guys who didn't deserve her time, if she was born in a wealthy country she would be so succesful i'm sure. If I could go back in time i'd try to save her.
I have a house in Leyte with my asawa, and I find that a lot of foreigners think they can just land in Philipines, and girls will just come running to them. You see these guys in the mall in Robinsons just sitting aimlessly and wondering why I have the hot Chick in my arms. You have to be adaptable and mingle with the locals. Filipinas love it when you can go to their house and meet their parents. Can you survive the province life? Can you adapt and bathe with pozzo water? Can you live with the locals and forget all your luxuries in the west? Can you drink thuba at night with locals whilst mosquitoes are sulking your blood dry😅😂? Can you ride the Jeepney with the locals? If so, you get a girl within minutes😂. Some of these guys come here and are maate. The other thing I found is.....approach the ladies in the malls, markets, stores, resorts,..... You will eventually find a good filipina .
Sounds like the good days are over, as someone with no "game" I guess it's no longer worth looking in to.
actually no I would definitely not say that. It's not about having game it's just about having the confidence and willingness to just say hello and start chatting with someone. Girls here recognize and appreciate a nice genuine easy-going guy a lot more than they appreciate that back in the west. So just be yourself. it's just that many guys don't feel comfortable going up to someone and don't act like themselves when they do... especially if a girl is super cute lol
All of us human have individual differences in culture, personality, upbringing, and many other factors of life we are in. One thing Filipinos are, we are family oriented culture and loyal to you if you are to her. There’s so many successful stories of Filipina married to a foreigner. Advise to all foreigners, before making a decision to come to live in the Philippines, ask yourself if you are 100 percent ready, financially, emotionally and can adjust to the culture and the climate? Then, you can try first to stay for a short vacation and getting the feeling, if you like it or not to stay in the Philippines. Don’t bash the Philippines if you’re plan doesn’t work because you don’t do your homework. Just a saying…
Great talk Chad.. super interesting
thank you
I am an Island boy from Seychelles I think tempo is an island thing even here it is terrible at times. I can cure tempo because I am immune to it. If one day I decide to get a Filipina gf please do not try tempo, because I will go in the same mode and I can get really tempo for a long day.
Provincial Filipino girls are very simple girls, they are not worldly at all, their main concerns are eating and having a roof over their heads and of course their family is extremely important to them. Forget deep conversations, it will never happen.
Their strengths are that they are homely, will look after you, washing, cleaning , cooking and looking after their man is instinct for them. They are fun, they laugh and they will love you. There are ladies that dont want to spend your money, they just want love and support too. They are extremely loving, if you meet a keeper , keep her, you wont be unhappy in any department . They are gorgeous too in that exotic way.
Western woman they are not, choose wisely, there are many options and opportunities , even in the shopping mall .
Wow. Almost all the women you show in the video are why we want to go there. It's not just the looks, it's how cheerful and the overall attitude exuding from them. With social media being so popular there, what surprises me is the lack of obvious narcissism, like we see with the gals hooked on social media in the west.
Good video! 📸💯
I noticed many Filipinas get bossy pretty quick after marriage. So if retired and living there it maybe better to date or rent. Tampo is a mental problem! Like about fifty years ago I was returning to marry, the night before the day She stopped talking and would not get out of bed until we were an hour late. So she silent into the CR I packed my back pack and walked out. So I was actually saved by tampo. I surely do not want to be in marriage with tampo. I think it is insecurity and to get control of the relationship. One thing you might try if a girl friend does this leave for a week without her let her stew about it. Then show up if you really miss her and see how she acts. Another thought I had was perhaps the lady that does the tampo has had so many men ( high body count ) that does not trust men any longer.
Sir, i agree with you 100%. Reading your post was almost like listening to myself talk. Take care!
@@mitch1161you are 💯 right ✅️, It's the same with Thailand and Vietnam girls , but I found the Indonesian less bossy
that's probably all of east Asia 😂 Thailand, Vietnam, Japan, Korea, China is like that. After marriage they transform to tiger, dragon, harpy or whatever. it's a massive honey trap
Because foreigners aren't rare in the phils anymore and its no longer just old guys. Yoing handsome wealthy guys are now going to these places to pick girls up, I know because im one of them lmao. Almost every single friend of my girlfriend has a foreign bf or is tall9to a foreigner online, the only ones that havent are the older ones. Social media is worldwide, filipinas are no longer restricted to just random old guys anymore
That's correct. Most decent girls have plenty of "fish on the hook".
Not everyone on Dating apps are scammers, but all scammers are on dating apps.
I found my Filipina fiancée on Christian Filipina. I believe I found the true "gem" of the Philippines in her and I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with this wonderful woman.
Filipinos are everywhere nowadays. Don’t have to go to Philippines. You will find wonderful Filipinas in Europe, US, etc and many of them are well travelled and smart .
Too many guys who don't have game in their own country and think they are going to magically have beautiful women throwing themselves at them the day they get off the plane are delusional.
I will also add that some guys say i have traveled 8K miles so i must get a perfect woman. Not realizing that the concept of "perfect" is illusion. Someone who is good enough for you should be the key rather than chasing the illusion(perfect girl).
I hear a lot about tampo on TH-cam, but in the 10+ years that I've been here, it's never really been an issue. I hear more about it on TH-cam than I do in real life, and I've never had to deal with a whole lot. Maybe it's because I don't tolerate garbage behavior in general. Anyway, I don't think tampo is that much of a thing here -- at least not as much as people on TH-cam are led to believe -- and it's not because I live in an expat bubble. I don't. I speak Tagalog and my kids are Fil-Am. 🤷♂️
Too many Americans going there i need to be where they are not
I live in Anda Bohol, most women do not speak English at all here. So even when you meet someone beautiful and the kind you would marry, not easy to have a big conversation. If I were to do it all over again I would have stayed in Tagibalran for 4 months first.
So did you find a good gf
Hows that possible. They get english in school.
@@GUITARTIME2024 A girl I am with is going to school to be an English teacher. Her teacher allows them to speak bisyan in class. So perhaps many can read it or text it. But all very shy of speaking it.
@@Re3iRtH yes.
Many filipinas will not understand your sarcasm so that can lead to massive problems. Also you have to deal with tampo which isn't good as it's childish. Then there are the parents and relatives, if they are poor, you are and your GF are their ATM. So while it is easy to find an instant girlfriend it may not really be a relationship like in the west that has more depth. So I don't think it is hard to find a GF, it might be hard to find a real relationship.
i came to the philippines in march but It was much more difficult to apporach a girl then all this vloggers maintain. Most Filipinas are together with their boyfriend and when you are not the very extroverted man who can bring them to laugh in the first minute its not much easier than in the west. I try again in 2 weeks but its a challenge and absolutely not easy to attract women there.
Its funny that the passport bros hype has been going on for years..thousand of videos have been made about it, YET MEN ARE STILL CLUELESS IN WHAT TO DO . 😂
Dont always blame the woman. When you don't upgrade, you will not find a good partner wherever you go.
Start by evaluating yourselves. Are you even worthy to have a traditional wife? Take responsibility, man up and be accountable!
@@ßhopkins they don't care because they are entitled, they want people to be subservient to them no matter what so they don't bother to change themselves
Dude, the Phillipines is a totally FOREIGN CULTURE. Especially to an American. Even the ones who speak some English are totally foreign. Why would you try to have a "relationship" with a woman you know nothing about and have nothing in common with?
3:05 Characteristics. It's mostly about what Dr. Helen Fisher describes in 4 broad personality groups for relationship compatibility. From what I've seen, only what she calls "The Builder" personality do okay there. I don't have that trait. I've not found the DINK types that are agnostic.
Good info! If I can handle women in the West, I can handle Tampo, lol! I think you just have to have fun with your girl and try to find a way to make her laugh. I'm sure over time you both will have your inside jokes. I'm certainly going to meet my Filipina in person when I get to the PH. cheers!
Honestly I’ve been all around the world maybe I’m one of the lucky guys but I live in the Philippines and I’m having a hard time not having too many gfs . I’m finding myself saying “damn this is too many” been with my first gf for 3 years and the other 3 for a year and a half. Btw they know I’m polygynist they All have good jobs don’t beg for money and they are all Smokin hot. If u continue letting women control the narrative u lose. All of them tried tempo and I didn’t budge they realized and got their mind right, I always say it’s either my program or u have to go mam bc I’m doing a lot for them all so it’s not like they aren’t in a good situation. Stop being a weak man, who falls for the woman’s ultimatums. Women are very big bluffers, stand your ground and show her her decisions aren’t the choices that leads to great results for her. In general I’m the better logical decision maker and when they try to go off on their own they realize life was much better with me. Stop letting women control u with their emotions, it’s the same the Adam let eve do. Y’all also are forgetting women do a lot of irrational ish on their periods.
Well said. Weak man will suffer always. Real man may suffer a little but will ultimately show balls.
What are they getting being with you since it definitely not commitment or money and d*ck is free?
I know I got lucky with my wife. She studied English in school but even after she graduated she kept studying English. So her English is very good. Plus, we lived in the USA for 18 years and her English just kept on getting better and better. She speaks three languages- Visayan, English and Tagalog. Much better to find a Filipina who has good English skills. The call center girls and office girls are your best bet.
This is spot on 💯 👍 👍
While you mentioned it, I think an entire video or more can be done on relating to the cultural differences. I’m living with my Filipina for a few months now and at least twice a week something smacks me in the face that I never even thought of. It brings doubts and insecurities in both of us as we try to make it through this or that situation. And this is even compounded by her only so-so English. Also your video about getting a motor scooter was very helpful, could you possibly tell me the name of the “flipper” you used is and his contact information. Thanks from a fellow Canadian
Personally, before I even think about a girlfriend, I want to get there and get acquainted with the different areas to see where I might want to live or stay long-term.
I'm thinking about northern Luzon in the province, I'm not a city life type of person.
And that could take several months before I'm ready to settle into one place.
I'll be 63 when I get there, and I'm not in a hurry to get into a relationship.
I've been single since 2002, and I haven't dated since my divorce. My priority was to raise my son and daughter and make sure they have proper moral values and good ethics.
Both are grown now and have family's of their own and are doing great.
If I meet someone and we are compatible then great, if not then that's OK to.
But my purpose for wanting to retire in the Philippines isn't just to hook up, its to have a better quality of life than I can have here in the USA.
If I want to retire here then I would probably have to work until I die.
North Luzon is good, what provence / town you looking at? I live in Pangasinan just outside of Urdaneta. I love it. (from australia originally). Just had my brother here for 3 weeks visiting and his planning to move here now too.
@Joe-p7r6q
I'm not sure that is why I take my time and travel, so I can get a feel for the area and also to meet and get to know the local people.
I'm the type of person who usually gets along with most people, I'm very patient and tolerant.
I'm kinda loner, and my idea of good time is riding one of my old shovelhead Harleys (1978 flh chopper/bobber and a 1982 flt) in the mountains, and the countryside.
(Alone or with friends)
I'm not into the party or nightclub seen.
And I really enjoy country living and taking life as comes.
I will add the mountains anywhere. Would it be great, If you have any suggestions for me to check out, let me know.
Thanks
@@rjoetting7594 I would suggest somewhere other than the Philippines but if you do, take time to check out as many places as possible. Riding here is not all that great except in some provinces where the roads are decent and not much traffic.
Only problem with the provinces is lack of access to good healthcare. Other than in a few hospitals in Manila or Cebu you have little chance of survival if you have a stroke or major accident. And even there it's iffy as traffic is so bad it might take 2 hours to go 10 miles (cars hardly give way to emergency vehicles)
Very astute to first find the place you want to live before getting into a relationship. Cagayan de Oro doesn't get mentioned much and hits the sweet spot in many ways. Specifically the Uptown area near the SM mall
@rjoetting Good plan, but the Filipinas you will meet have their own plan, so be cognizant of her persuasive demeanor. Jealousy and Tampo, meet my family. Don't fall into the trap. Philippines since 2009, married to one who protects me.
Spot on from my experience. 1 year in.