I had this guy who told me he loved me n stuff after 3 weeks of dating (I didn't say it back) and then he said he needed time to think and we haven't talked in 2 weeks. Usually I would have gone and asked them to come back or talk about it and stuff but after I watched your videos I seriously have realized my worth. I ain't chasing any man no more. If he doesn't want to talk to me then he doesn't, imma let him go and go to my plan b lmao
@@BlackCulturalPreservation2023 im new to this channel. My friend has been telling me to come here for a couple years. I agree with you, but how do women get men to stay around so long with no sex?
@@mendingwall3823 promise them u gonna do it at a certain time then when the time comes make an excuse, or tell them thats a relationship to u and u have to be fully tooken care of to be in a relationship... alot of diff scenarios hun... legs closed , hands out , baby voice 😉
This is the ONLY woman who talks about men who try to get sex and even serious relationships with NO gifts and NO money. My man is a great boyfriend but buys me nothing. For our first Christmas I got a bag of on sale pajamas with the tags still attached. Valentine's nothing. 6 month anniversary nothing. I just dumped him and then he played stupid for a week asking over & over what he did wrong so I told him. I said I needed a provider. I'm sick of his cheapness. I'm know I'm not alone in this but yet no one talks about this on TH-cam except this lady. I commend her for it. He won't even buy me good wine, he buys me cheap ass wine. Yet he wants me to marry him.
Is his name Jeff, and is he lightskinned cuz this hits close to home. Also is he cheap with himself? That's a key factor! Some ppl grew up poor and struggled and won't ever spend. He doesn't value you. He doesn't deserve you and he's ignorant. You stayed too long. If he wants to marry you make him buy you things for all those days he missed and then dump with gifts and money in hand! These guys deserve nothing
@@Forexroadrunner VERY good point...and NO! He's not cheap with himself!! Never considered that! He was a Narcissist. Funny but since him I've been dating only Lawyers, doctors and CEOs. I didn't realize my worth. I'm 44, no kids, no ex husband and I keep my body in great shape and same with my skin and teeth. You're right, I stayed too long but I did learn my lesson!
@@Jennifer-di4nl good for you! After these lessons. I met the love of my life who would give me his last and he's done it before. I'm appreciative. I'm glad you found your niche😉
@@Forexroadrunner I'm glad I went with my dusty as long as I did. It taught me a valuable lesson. Happy for you!! Once you learn it's only uphill from there.
Guy kept telling me I should be his wife that I need him in my life.... soon as I really needed him he didn’t give me anything to help while I was a dazzle in distress ... then he called me “ sista “ saying I should have spent some time with him.... no guy helps me but they always talking about how they want to be my man or be in my life🤷🏽♀️ I’m so over it just will continue on my my level up
Misutasutanto I tried to I work a lot and when I’m not at work he was at work... I offered to take off as long as he compensated me for that day 😀🤷🏽♀️ he did this once before I just don’t think he wanted to do it
Youre very beautiful. Those are the guys who want something for nothing. They want to use you. They want you to spend time on them but wont do the bare minimum to treat you likeca littoe. What a bunch of spoiled cunts! Please get around doctors and business men. Maybe start going to your local hospital for your lunch breaks or volunteer at one. Go to charity events. You'll never see a broke nigga there. Go to an expensive gym like AFF where dusties can't afford. You havecto have a plan for 2020.
Whenever I hear a man talking about equality it's usually a very unattractive broke man going for some one way out of his League talkin up how they're equal. Honey there's nothing equal about any of that. The idea of equality between the Sexes makes me want to vomit. Of course it's nice to have the same legal rights and have whatever career you want if you truly want that as a woman. Anyone with half a brain can see feel and experience that there's nothing equal or the same about men and a woman. Gender equality is not a thing. Gender fairness hopefully becomes the norm and recognizes us as different. Different needs different wants different things were required to do
Personally I have a different way of looking at things. Men and women are "equal" we are just not the "same". Going by the definition of equal, meaning the same in value, status or quality. I am no less valuable than a man. I am equal. I am just not the same physically, emotionally, etc and since we are different, we have different purposes. Equality gave us the right to vote and an education like you said. Equality is not the problem. People thinking we are the same and men using it as an excuse to be entitled, is the problem. The terms are used interchangeably when they shouldnt be. If we say we are not equal, that gives a reason for people to see us as less than or take away certain rights we should have. Even shera said the womens movement wanted us to have opportunities. Not throw everything out the window and pretend men shouldnt protect and provide
@@mendingwall3823 I get what you're saying. Hopefully everyone can acknowledge basic human decency (let's face it, many cannot and nothing, no words will change them). The problem is, these men want to argue about equality to cause self doubt in women they fear. Identify the man's weakness and exploit it, don't argue with them over this stuff.
I have had two men tell me that they forgot their wallet. One was on a date. He ordered a drink. I watched him enjoy his drink. When the waiter came to give him the bill, I excused myself to the ladies' room. When I came back he had paid for his drink. I ended the date and the next time he called he went straight to voicemail. The second time was a long term mistake. It didn't even need to be said because there was no reason to have it in the first place. Also, I never asked him for money. That one is also blocked.
That happened to me one time. I was young at the time and we went to IHOP. Cheapest place on the planet. He ordered food then made a comment like "I dont know how you feel about a man that cant pay the tab". I was literally shocked and frozen because that never happened to me before. Its one thing to not have money to pay for me. But at least have it to pay for YOURSELF. I was a different person back then and had every intention to pay for myself. But I couldnt believe he expected me to pay for HIS food. I had to ask him a few times to repeat himself because I was shocked that someone would walk out the door , order food and have no money. What if I didnt have it either? Even when men ask me out, i ALWAYS bring money in case of an emergency. I was debating if I should tell him to cancel his order. Luckily the service was so awful we ended up leaving beforehand so no one had to pay. But seriously wtf.
Shera I found you when I was 16 and I'm just waiting to turn 18 so I can start running some game and stacking my paper 🤑 no time for the broke boys and dusties!
i also started watching her channel when i was 16 years old and i'm waiting till i reach 18 years to start the game 😅 but even though i'm still a minor, i already do some games with the guys of the same age as me hehehehe
@@manunascimxnto Wait until you're about 22-23. Finish college if you're still in school. You have lots of time, better to wait until at least early 20s. Focus on yourself and your looks for now. Men will stunt your personal growth at this at age, no need to grow up so fast.
I made money as a Prestige car Painter, later buying cars painting them and selling at good profits, later real estate and some land. I retired at 52 now 60 and play tennis at a very nice country club in Australia with doctors, very high ranking police, lawyers etc, consider joining a very nice tennis facility ladies where you get a chance to see wealthy guys on a regular basis. Good luck
Dang I’m learning so much and applying it to my life. My entire world has changed within months… I’m becoming so spoiled and have men eager to do for me. Thank you so much.
Ladies, no need to argue with dusties, they’ll learn sooner or later. Date men of means only, and give your attention to them *only*. Dusties don’t deserve ish 🤣
@Cindy Loulol all that means is you live somewhere where homes are cheap, just cause your home cost $250k doesn you ain't dusty. I still don't what dusty mean btw
A woman should not date a man who asks her for money. If it's all about money with a woman, I would never date her. She needs to show me she wants me not for my money.
@@michaelk969 Ladies avoid men like this ⬆️. Classic dusty example. Women shouldn’t have to prove themselves to grown men. Either be a provider or step aside and let us be available for a provider man.
Love your channel, I’m going freestyling this weekend for the first time, your channel helped me realize my worth, head up and heels on .. no more dusty men!
GREAT TOPIC!! Your videos keep getting better and better! You have helped me so much in my marriage!! My husband invests all the time. Constantly! Your advice is gold!🤗👍
Let me just say 😭 being direct works! I asked for a very specific wig (200 plus chile) for christmas and I kept ranting and raving and talking bout this wig and he ordered the wrong thing and went “just pick it out for me and I’ll just pay so I don’t have to make the same mistake” 😊😊😊
I love when women know when to walk away and not chase, bcs u are chasing dust, i could understand if u chasing a millioner, it would make some sense, but a dusty, i just dont get.
i swear, the ppl in the chat been asking the same questions for years. they obviously don't listen nor put this advice in action. it is clear most of them are just here to be entertained.
I'm actually tired of mentioning it to him. He says he loves me and will marry me but he doesn’t invest in me. He blames it on our distance not to spend on me. I'm thinking he's just all talk. Distance is not a valid reason not to spend on me cause my friends had long distance relationships, and their man always invested in them.
GIRL... JUST SAW THAT 🤦🏼♀️... i had to reply to that video... wth... he wants black women to show they strong and independent wth... i dont see white women doing that and paying 50/50. Thank god for shera waking me up.
Tony gaskins told me I’m going to fail at relationships because I’m not offering to pay for my half of the date when a guy asks me out. I’m confused lol
@Xia 8xxx naww ive seen other cultures, girls arnt looking for advice on how to find a good man, there already married by the time they reach college. The black community has a culture problem we look to Cardi b and Jay z for inspiration. So a stripper and drug dealer are our role models? That why we struggle with is this whole relationship thing cause where not raise to love each other, only to compete for money.
@Xia 8xxx pff I never said that was me, Jesus is my role model. Your only disagree with me because I'm some random comment on TH-cam, but let this girl that you worship make a video about what o said an all of sudden it gospel, yall just a bunch of followers looking for a leader.
@Xia 8xxx what? Do you even read the Bible being a lovers of yourself is the exact opposite of what the Bible preaches, Jesus said to love God will everything you have. There no room to worship God is your too busy worshipping yourself.
@Xia 8xxx lol if anything the sexes will stop have kids and that human race will become extinct. I bet my life on that, also I have no idea what hypergamy is
He was giving me alot of money as a friend and no intimacy. He flirts with women in front me. He stopped contacting me and feel like he wants me to chase him to ask for money. What to do? Ignore and move on?
It is impossible to see the lipstick on your shirt. A guy will offer to help if he has the means, the broke dusty type will suck up your energy n show up for dates without ever offering any help. Only complain once if he does not offer to help get out because some men feel entitle to female companuonship even though they cannot afford to have a gf. This video it is very helpful I am a musician n I really need help to be able to perform.
What sign are you ? I'm a taurus. Great advice. I get money from men and gifts. Also women needs to be high energy take care of yourself love yourself 😊
Free style in different earias..or with strangers..dont go out with your husband to the places you free style in..phon all the time silent and get a second number that you dont use..dont say your married give fake name..
Is it dusty for a woman to work in her man's salon? The business is in his name but you're a stylist there and help him market it. So basically if yall break up you get nothing plus he can fire you.
but how can you look good on a budget. I mean it coast alot of money to look good. I'm a collage student with budget, who struggle financially do you have good advices on how to look good when your on a budget. Because I want to know the different ways of making money .
Ladies, help me out here. A guy wants us to plan a weekend away. Costs are as follows: Hotel accommodation My flights to and from the big city that is closest to him. Car rental Activities and food. So he wants to pay for accommodation and the rest we have to share. Does this make haypergamous sense?
No it does not make hypergamous sense. If he's not paying for everything then you don't go. Keep your standards hight, stay cute, spoiled and hypergamous 💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿
You, look so elegant with your hair up and makeup. Talk, about the item all the time, but if he is not stepping up, y need to step aside and find someone else to get it and cripple his ego as to how or who got it f y.Although, if Mr.Dusty, asks a bout y getting him items, say , "men, gift , women receive , hello, go ask miss Pignish, not me, and have a great life while y are at it." Perfect, time to ask f cash is when he wants something from y, we cannot have fun , because I have to work to pay f car repair to be able to go to the gym and keep fit f y.
Uber don't criminally check their drivers. I know that for a fact because offenders and such have been able to get jobs with uber! Im so shocked by this and don't trust them now either. I really advise against Uber please Ladies
Hi to ya Just a note : Don't know if you may have heard of The guy on you tube who calls himself a relationship coach But........ U might like to check out a few of his videos sometime...... One of the most recent had me pause for concern Regarding dating in 2020 He says you should offer to pay for yourself That if a guy starts becoming violent toward you basically its because since that man is spending on You he may feel that he can do that Oh my......... That sounds awful and disgusting to me 😒 If you get a moment See what you think 😔 His name is Tony Gaskins By the way he takes care of his wife with his money😒
Tony Gaskins is good for understanding male mindset (especially the incel male mindset) but I always get the feeling that he won't have dated his own wife if she was sticking to doing what he preaches. She looked good, spoke less, always met him in public, eventually bedded him but walked away when he tried disrespecting her. She intuitively did what Shera asks. Also, even he went after her thinking she'll help him build, but let her stay and care for the kids because he ended up achieving success on his own. He has been the one chasing her from the beginning.
@glamqueen let me tell it in my early 30's I lived in the town where the cleveland browns training camp was i was at bank and met a baller who was younger than me by 4 years end result he got traded to another team too unstable trying to date a baller because they can leave anytime
Don’t let that man enjoy you until he solves some of your problems!!! Realest !!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
That is true
How about he solve his own by leaving you alone
@@SIMS4717y is a man up under this kind of video and commenting on this kind of post. It’s giving simp vibes 😩🫣
Period
@@SIMS4717how about you get off of this women only post! It’s giving broke, hurt and bitter!
I had this guy who told me he loved me n stuff after 3 weeks of dating (I didn't say it back) and then he said he needed time to think and we haven't talked in 2 weeks. Usually I would have gone and asked them to come back or talk about it and stuff but after I watched your videos I seriously have realized my worth. I ain't chasing any man no more. If he doesn't want to talk to me then he doesn't, imma let him go and go to my plan b lmao
The old "push n pull" . He expected and wanted you to chase after him. Too bad for him. He doesnt have the power.
Yessss, love watching our women learn.
He'll be back, he's only pulling back to get a reaction from you
I used to be the same way too. After meeting shera, I'm always busy even when I'm not. I'll rather take a beauty sleep than chase a man.
🤣Good. He was waiting for you to plead and "blow up" that phone. Men chase.
Ladies remember you are the prize and they must treat us as such....THANKS FOR ALL THE ADDITIONAL GEMS SHERA💚💚💚💚
Exactly no chasing, bending over backwards, lending/giving them money and damn sure no wifely duties as a girlfriend. Close your legs and level up.
@@BlackCulturalPreservation2023 im new to this channel. My friend has been telling me to come here for a couple years. I agree with you, but how do women get men to stay around so long with no sex?
Mending Wall most men won’t see you as a prize , just like you don’t see them that way . A rare few will , you only want those ones 😊
@@OlderWomenRock this is the realest comment on this comment section.
@@mendingwall3823 promise them u gonna do it at a certain time then when the time comes make an excuse, or tell them thats a relationship to u and u have to be fully tooken care of to be in a relationship... alot of diff scenarios hun... legs closed , hands out , baby voice 😉
This is the ONLY woman who talks about men who try to get sex and even serious relationships with NO gifts and NO money. My man is a great boyfriend but buys me nothing. For our first Christmas I got a bag of on sale pajamas with the tags still attached. Valentine's nothing. 6 month anniversary nothing. I just dumped him and then he played stupid for a week asking over & over what he did wrong so I told him. I said I needed a provider. I'm sick of his cheapness. I'm know I'm not alone in this but yet no one talks about this on TH-cam except this lady. I commend her for it. He won't even buy me good wine, he buys me cheap ass wine. Yet he wants me to marry him.
Is his name Jeff, and is he lightskinned cuz this hits close to home. Also is he cheap with himself? That's a key factor! Some ppl grew up poor and struggled and won't ever spend. He doesn't value you. He doesn't deserve you and he's ignorant. You stayed too long. If he wants to marry you make him buy you things for all those days he missed and then dump with gifts and money in hand! These guys deserve nothing
@@Forexroadrunner VERY good point...and NO! He's not cheap with himself!! Never considered that! He was a Narcissist. Funny but since him I've been dating only Lawyers, doctors and CEOs. I didn't realize my worth. I'm 44, no kids, no ex husband and I keep my body in great shape and same with my skin and teeth. You're right, I stayed too long but I did learn my lesson!
@@Jennifer-di4nl good for you! After these lessons. I met the love of my life who would give me his last and he's done it before. I'm appreciative. I'm glad you found your niche😉
@@Forexroadrunner I'm glad I went with my dusty as long as I did. It taught me a valuable lesson. Happy for you!! Once you learn it's only uphill from there.
My dusty is named Jeff and he is stingy ,buys gifts but gives no money.
I’m hollering at “thought James was getting dusty for a second” 😂😂😭😭 Shera is everything I swear!
That part took me up out of here...
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Guy kept telling me I should be his wife that I need him in my life.... soon as I really needed him he didn’t give me anything to help while I was a dazzle in distress ... then he called me “ sista “ saying I should have spent some time with him.... no guy helps me but they always talking about how they want to be my man or be in my life🤷🏽♀️ I’m so over it just will continue on my my level up
Msgameconscious carter this is always my situation
You should have spent some time with him like he said....thats why he didn't help.....you women can't even do the bare minimum smh
Misutasutanto I tried to I work a lot and when I’m not at work he was at work... I offered to take off as long as he compensated me for that day 😀🤷🏽♀️ he did this once before I just don’t think he wanted to do it
Youre very beautiful. Those are the guys who want something for nothing. They want to use you. They want you to spend time on them but wont do the bare minimum to treat you likeca littoe. What a bunch of spoiled cunts! Please get around doctors and business men. Maybe start going to your local hospital for your lunch breaks or volunteer at one. Go to charity events. You'll never see a broke nigga there. Go to an expensive gym like AFF where dusties can't afford. You havecto have a plan for 2020.
@@msgameconsciouscarter1475 onlybspend time if he's spending the dimes!
Whenever I hear a man talking about equality it's usually a very unattractive broke man going for some one way out of his League talkin up how they're equal. Honey there's nothing equal about any of that. The idea of equality between the Sexes makes me want to vomit. Of course it's nice to have the same legal rights and have whatever career you want if you truly want that as a woman. Anyone with half a brain can see feel and experience that there's nothing equal or the same about men and a woman. Gender equality is not a thing. Gender fairness hopefully becomes the norm and recognizes us as different. Different needs different wants different things were required to do
The most misogynistic men Ive crossed paths with are male feminists, preaching equality
Don't even bother arguing with these type of men. Let them talk, you'll figure out if they're worth your time or not.
Personally I have a different way of looking at things. Men and women are "equal" we are just not the "same". Going by the definition of equal, meaning the same in value, status or quality. I am no less valuable than a man. I am equal. I am just not the same physically, emotionally, etc and since we are different, we have different purposes. Equality gave us the right to vote and an education like you said. Equality is not the problem. People thinking we are the same and men using it as an excuse to be entitled, is the problem. The terms are used interchangeably when they shouldnt be. If we say we are not equal, that gives a reason for people to see us as less than or take away certain rights we should have. Even shera said the womens movement wanted us to have opportunities. Not throw everything out the window and pretend men shouldnt protect and provide
@@mendingwall3823 I get what you're saying. Hopefully everyone can acknowledge basic human decency (let's face it, many cannot and nothing, no words will change them). The problem is, these men want to argue about equality to cause self doubt in women they fear. Identify the man's weakness and exploit it, don't argue with them over this stuff.
@@Andromeda_M31 Fair enough
I have had two men tell me that they forgot their wallet. One was on a date. He ordered a drink. I watched him enjoy his drink. When the waiter came to give him the bill, I excused myself to the ladies' room. When I came back he had paid for his drink. I ended the date and the next time he called he went straight to voicemail. The second time was a long term mistake. It didn't even need to be said because there was no reason to have it in the first place. Also, I never asked him for money. That one is also blocked.
Do these men have no shame? WOW
That happened to me one time. I was young at the time and we went to IHOP. Cheapest place on the planet. He ordered food then made a comment like "I dont know how you feel about a man that cant pay the tab". I was literally shocked and frozen because that never happened to me before. Its one thing to not have money to pay for me. But at least have it to pay for YOURSELF. I was a different person back then and had every intention to pay for myself. But I couldnt believe he expected me to pay for HIS food. I had to ask him a few times to repeat himself because I was shocked that someone would walk out the door , order food and have no money. What if I didnt have it either? Even when men ask me out, i ALWAYS bring money in case of an emergency. I was debating if I should tell him to cancel his order. Luckily the service was so awful we ended up leaving beforehand so no one had to pay. But seriously wtf.
Oh my goodness!!🤮Forgot his wallet?! These men are ridiculous!
I always go to the restroom when the bill comes if the guy is acting like he can't pay. A few times I've snuck out and left lol
yeah the funny thing is he played you but you think you played him by not answering his calls HaHA he doesn't give a fuck lol
Shera I found you when I was 16 and I'm just waiting to turn 18 so I can start running some game and stacking my paper 🤑 no time for the broke boys and dusties!
Don't rush
Have fun ❤️💕
i also started watching her channel when i was 16 years old and i'm waiting till i reach 18 years to start the game 😅 but even though i'm still a minor, i already do some games with the guys of the same age as me hehehehe
@@manunascimxnto Wait until you're about 22-23. Finish college if you're still in school. You have lots of time, better to wait until at least early 20s. Focus on yourself and your looks for now. Men will stunt your personal growth at this at age, no need to grow up so fast.
I’m glad you found her young I found her at thirty
I made money as a Prestige car Painter, later buying cars painting them and selling at good profits, later real estate and some land. I retired at 52 now 60 and play tennis at a very nice country club in Australia with doctors, very high ranking police, lawyers etc, consider joining a very nice tennis facility ladies where you get a chance to see wealthy guys on a regular basis. Good luck
Then why you here commenting??????
@@redroselace9545 To suggest a very nice tennis club is a good place to meet wealthy men
john maddern thank you 😊
@@indicanicki4261 Thank you Indica, have a Blessed Christmas
john maddern thanks 😝
Dang I’m learning so much and applying it to my life. My entire world has changed within months… I’m becoming so spoiled and have men eager to do for me. Thank you so much.
Omg I died at “think about how pickMeisha knows what her dusty wants” 😂😂😂 I can’t with this right now lmaoooo
Amber FFTFOMSICHTS 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Every time lol!
Ladies, no need to argue with dusties, they’ll learn sooner or later. Date men of means only, and give your attention to them *only*. Dusties don’t deserve ish 🤣
Something tells me that referring to men as dusties is not gonna end well for anyone.
chris codling well « we » don’t refer to men as dusties, we refer to dusties as dusties 🤷🏾♀️
@@juneplease3648 something tells me that the reply I was gonna get :/
@Cindy Lou I bet you if look in your life you're probably a dusty by your own standards
@Cindy Loulol all that means is you live somewhere where homes are cheap, just cause your home cost $250k doesn you ain't dusty. I still don't what dusty mean btw
Men ask women to give them money and women cant do the same wtf
They are not men. Real men do not do that. They are just little bitch boys getting in tune to their feminine energy.
A woman should not date a man who asks her for money. If it's all about money with a woman, I would never date her. She needs to show me she wants me not for my money.
@@michaelk969 Ladies avoid men like this ⬆️. Classic dusty example. Women shouldn’t have to prove themselves to grown men. Either be a provider or step aside and let us be available for a provider man.
@@GoddessAries I know that's right! A dusty showed up in this very thread!
Love your channel, I’m going freestyling this weekend for the first time, your channel helped me realize my worth, head up and heels on .. no more dusty men!
You look a little too old to be commenting in this channel. Maybe if you filter your pic.
@@beastcoaster yeah, yeah,yeah, you 49ers wall hitter! 😂😂😂😂😂🙈
You're pretty 💕
I’m in my twenties I’m not here for trolling dusty men .. C can see his way out
😍🤗🤗 good luck. I just got cute dress and can't wait to wear it. Taking all the tips ☺️
GREAT TOPIC!! Your videos keep getting better and better! You have helped me so much in my marriage!! My husband invests all the time. Constantly! Your advice is gold!🤗👍
what r the kind of changes u made sister
It’s so funny when “Love after Lockup” ads come on during Sheras videos.
That’s how you’ll end up if you’re a pick me DONT be a pick me LMAO
You sent a 👀... to James, I’m dying 😂😂
Let me just say 😭 being direct works! I asked for a very specific wig (200 plus chile) for christmas and I kept ranting and raving and talking bout this wig and he ordered the wrong thing and went “just pick it out for me and I’ll just pay so I don’t have to make the same mistake” 😊😊😊
Her southern belle accent gets me to listening. Yes mam lol.
I think your hair looks so cute like that with them headbands.
I wish shera was my neighbor
🤣😂😂😂
She would get tired of me; I would talk to her every chance I get. “Auntie Shera, I need some help!” 😂😂😂
@@brittany1484 😂
I would bake cakes and take them to her as a gift. Lol
SheRa love your advice. Thanks for looking out for women and opening our eyes about men 😘
I love when women know when to walk away and not chase, bcs u are chasing dust, i could understand if u chasing a millioner, it would make some sense, but a dusty, i just dont get.
Millionaire doesn't mean he is not dusty. Some of them so cheap 🤢
You don't go near cheap/miserly men full stop. They don't need to be rich either.
I had to come here because the Instagram comments on TSR had me HEATED after Kayla bought a car for her boyfriend. 😳
She is getting used
That’s her life. Let her live it and learn from her mistakes in peace 🤦🏿♀️
@@Trailblazers323 her name is kayla nicole she is a popular youtuber
So Damm dumb
Disclaimer: This word is only for the grown and sexy. Literally!
" Red flag on fire"
That is golden!
Its the MJ pic in the back for me 😂
“Thought James was getting dusty for a second” 😂😂😂😂
Only truth and wisdom here! Thanks for sharing the details
Lmaoooo “James done gone bird box” 😭😭😭
i swear, the ppl in the chat been asking the same questions for years. they obviously don't listen nor put this advice in action. it is clear most of them are just here to be entertained.
I'm actually tired of mentioning it to him. He says he loves me and will marry me but he doesn’t invest in me. He blames it on our distance not to spend on me. I'm thinking he's just all talk. Distance is not a valid reason not to spend on me cause my friends had long distance relationships, and their man always invested in them.
hes love bombing and breadcrumbing you girl, block and dont look back
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Yes truuu
Mine does the same
Mine does the same, so I just play dumb 🤷🏻♀️ untill he gets enogh and leave
Sherahave me hollering on this video about James! 😭😭😭😂
Loving your consistent upload shera!! Better and better titles as always 😎🎩👜
your lookin fire girl.!
Sis Tony Gaskins is really tripping!!! He gives Pick Me and Bob the Builder advice..and women eat it up..it’s disgusting
I used to think he was helping women until i really watched one of his videos. They didnt sit right w me.
I don't watch Tony gaskins
GIRL... JUST SAW THAT 🤦🏼♀️... i had to reply to that video... wth... he wants black women to show they strong and independent wth... i dont see white women doing that and paying 50/50. Thank god for shera waking me up.
@glamqueen good advice for anything. I always forget this.
dude is crazy..He sounded high on his last video.good thing he put down the video lol
My new favorite word right now Pickmesha. Thats the truth about equality doe
You’re the best Shera
you look gorgeous
If a wife didn't leave hints about what she wanted for a gift, she would get a new vacuum cleaner.
Missed your videos Shera..love your natural hair
Tony gaskins told me I’m going to fail at relationships because I’m not offering to pay for my half of the date when a guy asks me out. I’m confused lol
MissDemi go with your own flow. You are grown. Live according to your situation.
@@TriniLush7 Yes! I agree
MissDemi good luck sis!
@@TriniLush7 Thank you! Good luck to you too love 🤗
Tony Gaskins is a good coach but on this one, I don’t agree.
Ctfu "I almost had a heart attack " Shera crazy. Love her for these truths
Miss and love you Shera!!! This video still relevant ❤️❤️❤️
The black community is really struggling with this whole relationship thing
@Xia 8xxx naww ive seen other cultures, girls arnt looking for advice on how to find a good man, there already married by the time they reach college. The black community has a culture problem we look to Cardi b and Jay z for inspiration. So a stripper and drug dealer are our role models? That why we struggle with is this whole relationship thing cause where not raise to love each other, only to compete for money.
@Xia 8xxx pff I never said that was me, Jesus is my role model. Your only disagree with me because I'm some random comment on TH-cam, but let this girl that you worship make a video about what o said an all of sudden it gospel, yall just a bunch of followers looking for a leader.
@Xia 8xxx what? Do you even read the Bible being a lovers of yourself is the exact opposite of what the Bible preaches, Jesus said to love God will everything you have. There no room to worship God is your too busy worshipping yourself.
chris codling not I 🤷🏾♀️
@Xia 8xxx lol if anything the sexes will stop have kids and that human race will become extinct. I bet my life on that, also I have no idea what hypergamy is
He was giving me alot of money as a friend and no intimacy. He flirts with women in front me. He stopped contacting me and feel like he wants me to chase him to ask for money. What to do? Ignore and move on?
Yes, ignore and move on 😊
@@moons4363 thanks
Ignore ofcourse! Girl, you got all the goodies without offering goodies yourself. Run!
@@ninawestlake5005 thanks you are so right!
He wants you to fall for the push n pull so you can come running. Move on and more than likely he will come running after you
I’m leaving before Christmas! You don’t want your gift? Well I’m leaving after Christmas 😂😂
It is impossible to see the lipstick on your shirt. A guy will offer to help if he has the means, the broke dusty type will suck up your energy n show up for dates without ever offering any help. Only complain once if he does not offer to help get out because some men feel entitle to female companuonship even though they cannot afford to have a gf. This video it is very helpful I am a musician n I really need help to be able to perform.
😊we have been taken for granted for long
You know he gone do right
Shera has a video for everything 😂 thank goodness
Thank you for your logic Shaera 💖your helping me be strong and wise like you🙏💖
What sign are you ? I'm a taurus. Great advice. I get money from men and gifts. Also women needs to be high energy take care of yourself love yourself 😊
She’s a Pisces!!❤
You look soooo pretty 😍
Can you do another video on supplements and things you are taking to look so good... Thanks Miss you guys
we love you girl
Yes I have been learning for the best thank u shera
I'm always missing the live
I prefer an allowance
Same
Manifest!
2:27 is hilarious 🤣
What if he asks “what are you getting me?”👀?
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If he asks that chances are he is a dusty 😂😂😂
Alana C ugh that made me flinch, get him a clue
Won’tTrickMe A1 yes girl, and the I had one that shorted me $10 of a spa gift and said that he’s not made of $$, that I work too
You’re giving him your time which is so valuable and hard to give out due to you being so “busy”
Im so quiet on the dates…I don’t know how to introduce the idea. I just let him talk.
did anybody get any property from men ?
How do you do this if you’re married
Free style in different earias..or with strangers..dont go out with your husband to the places you free style in..phon all the time silent and get a second number that you dont use..dont say your married give fake name..
Is it dusty for a woman to work in her man's salon? The business is in his name but you're a stylist there and help him market it. So basically if yall break up you get nothing plus he can fire you.
It's better he doesn't know you at work and just outside of it
What are you going to do when you leave him? Also, who wants to be around the man that much, 24/7?
@ this was a couple I knew. They’ve since broken up and of course she got no rights to the salon.
I was like *exhale* PHEW😂😂😂
Get them kids a card .. put 5 dollaz in it .. okuur 🤣
Looks like you did not come to play with those Gucci earrings.
what about i need money for my small business lol
@00:12 my favorite type of topic 😁😁😁👍🏾
Mall daddy bill daddy stack daddy😂😂😂
The ads are killing me
#youtubered
LOVE LOVE LOVE
Thought James was getting dusty for a second 😢🤣😂🤣
Wow! I can see that you met the wall!😣😖
c. 1 wow i can see you are a dusty
WHERE CAN I GET THE EARRINGS?
but how can you look good on a budget. I mean it coast alot of money to look good. I'm a collage student with budget, who struggle financially do you have good advices on how to look good when your on a budget. Because I want to know the different ways of making money .
You looks so beautiful 😍
Ladies, help me out here. A guy wants us to plan a weekend away.
Costs are as follows:
Hotel accommodation
My flights to and from the big city that is closest to him.
Car rental
Activities and food.
So he wants to pay for accommodation and the rest we have to share. Does this make haypergamous sense?
Nope unless it's a friend...
@@femininebritaneyburnett8904 Thank you!
I ended up declining.
@@nomkhithas7752 ✨✨💖💖
No it does not make hypergamous sense. If he's not paying for everything then you don't go. Keep your standards hight, stay cute, spoiled and hypergamous 💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿
You, look so elegant with your hair up and makeup. Talk, about the item all the time, but if he is not stepping up, y need to step aside and find someone else to get it and cripple his ego as to how or who got it f y.Although, if Mr.Dusty, asks a bout y getting him items, say , "men, gift , women receive , hello, go ask miss Pignish, not me, and have a great life while y are at it." Perfect, time to ask f cash is when he wants something from y, we cannot have fun , because I have to work to pay f car repair to be able to go to the gym and keep fit f y.
Uber don't criminally check their drivers. I know that for a fact because offenders and such have been able to get jobs with uber! Im so shocked by this and don't trust them now either. I really advise against Uber please Ladies
30:36 👏🏾💯👏🏾💯
Hi to ya
Just a note :
Don't know if you may have heard of The guy on you tube who calls himself a relationship coach
But........
U might like to check out a few of his videos sometime......
One of the most recent had me pause for concern
Regarding dating in 2020
He says you should offer to pay for yourself
That if a guy starts becoming violent toward you basically its because since that man is spending on You he may feel that he can do that
Oh my.........
That sounds awful and disgusting to me 😒
If you get a moment
See what you think 😔
His name is Tony Gaskins
By the way he takes care of his wife with his money😒
He's dusty
Tony Gaskins is good for understanding male mindset (especially the incel male mindset) but I always get the feeling that he won't have dated his own wife if she was sticking to doing what he preaches.
She looked good, spoke less, always met him in public, eventually bedded him but walked away when he tried disrespecting her. She intuitively did what Shera asks.
Also, even he went after her thinking she'll help him build, but let her stay and care for the kids because he ended up achieving success on his own.
He has been the one chasing her from the beginning.
SheRa, i love you,.............thank you~~~mua mua mua~~~
you are so funny, and sharp~~~~~
Can u still get rich mam if u are nearly 50 but look ok
Uber is safer imy country, you get the driver's number which is registered by the govt
How about a video on how to bag a baller or entertainer?
@glamqueen let me tell it in my early 30's I lived in the town where the cleveland browns training camp was i was at bank and met a baller who was younger than me by 4 years end result he got traded to another team too unstable trying to date a baller because they can leave anytime
Lmao "a baller" or "entertainer" can STILL be a dusty!
@@sweetleaf6100 exactly
I dated one for a year. Best year of my life until he got cut. He became so angry and dusty! I had to let him go.
@@sweetleaf6100 What is a dusty man? I see people using that term in videos and frankly don't understand the meaning.
U look beautiful 😍💜
I never got any gifts over $200 from my ex bfs. I had 3 ex bf before and they never gave me anything expensive. Am I stupid?
No, you’re in the wrong zip code 😂
Shera said it’s a red flag on fire 😂😂🤣🤣🤣
😂😂love you
Sissy 😍
Minutes 6.
21 dusty men didn't like the vídeo
So you got to be on point😀
😂😂😂 did janes go bird box.
Sparkle Sparkle setting yall up lol
Don’t be jealous 😂😂😂
32:19
That’s def not lipstick. DEF just guzzled😂😂