The fact this guy gets actual people who have genuine interest in the questions and respond with thoughtful and mature answers really surprises me. No actors doing exaggerated drama for the video for free views. Just genuine people with actual very smart thinking and reasoning.
Yep, there are a lot of moderate, not over dramatic regular people out here. Lol The wanting to be married but not take on the Team last name...is red flag though, not even hyphenated. You cant wear tje Jersey but rip the name off? What sense does that make? Just dont get married then
@@CorporationSKY « just don’t get married then » what? You think people get married for a last name? I’m not married yet but I told my fiancé that I would keep my name and take his bc I still want to be connected to my actual family and also bc he didn’t go to med school for 12 years so why the heck would I have a diploma on his name?? Learn how to respect people’s choices
@@CorporationSKY Bruh this is a marriage not a transfer of a player from one club to another. One of the purpose of marriage is to obtain happiness for both person. If anything would made either one of them being unhappy then they should look for a solution together, not forcing an opinion on each other.
What did you think you would get from an Internet addicted, social media addled generation when rhey grow up to be adults. Not - dysfunctional humans? I'm scared that the amount of good people like these only decrease as the fortnite sucking tik tok juicing kids start to grow up.
Hm these idiots rather go to bars and interview women there. Those women even in 30s usually know nothing. But that’s what gets them views so they will continue interviewing those bar chicks
@Noob Noob Eh that's why fuck the world and its problems. I'm just gonna work my ass off and see where I can get, for shits and giggles. Everyone should live a life all their own.
I know right. Just regular people with a good head on their shoulders. Theyre out their, just social media is over saturated with nonsense. Its crazy how the common sense this dude has is such a commodity.
That first response scared me a little bit his explanation was well thought out and reasonable, totally respect it I would feel the same way. team effort!
Women shouldn’t be in the work force. It’s ruined the economy. More workers equals lower wages. Career women aren’t often as happy as they let on to be anyway
@@yungchildsupport4445No, it's because men often strive to be breadwinners as well, but when it comes to women it's immediately met with hostility, which is being a hypocrite. Often times, the family situation makes it so that the woman earns more, if a man finds that a red flag, then he clearly isn't mature. What matters more? Getting your ego hurt cause your wife earns more? Or getting a good life and pooling your finances for team work? That's the difference. I've seen plenty of men get egotistical when a woman earns more than them. You can't be ignorant and say that people don't think that way.
@@yungchildsupport4445Also, with today's world, let's be real, quite a few women earn as much as men if not more, or are the only earning individual of the household. If traditional values matter to you more than a good life, then earn high enough to get your wife to stay at home. So many men demand their wives not work while being poor.
@@daleketchup7434 you obviously have little to no knowledge on what Andrew tate says. And before I engage any further in this soon to be argument I would like to say that I’m not one of the 15yo that meat rides Andrew tate and always thinks he’s right but I do agree with a lot of the things he says (that doesn’t mean I’m meat riding) and never once have I ever heard him say anything like that and even when he is joking.
@@daleketchup7434 What do you mean? The exact same things that this dude is saying is the stuff Tate has said and promotes or just not talked about at all and hasn't necesarily been agianst? He thinks having a family is beautiful?
@@elvis5138 just the fact how this guy’s the real man that people need to aspire to be and not like Tate who would say women need to stay in the kitchen or only be used for sex
@@elvis5138 Bruh, this man respects his woman's autonomy but wants to work as a team in a relationship. Tate wants pure subservience and to be the domineering one. There is a stark difference, and it saddens me that so many young men are going to take after him because of his influence.
That man cracked the code to a healthy happy marriage. Everything in a marriage is a team effort and neither side is doing it right if they are making unilateral decisions. That is toxic and usually ends up in divorce. Don't jump into relationships people, take your time to figure out if that other half is a proper fit for you in all aspects.
This guy gets it. He had me for a second with the first one, but he actually had really well thought out reasoning behind each of his choices. You go guy
In marriage it has to go both ways Two people have to work as a team two have to pay bills earn money clean cook and contribute that way everything will get done quicker
yeah same I was a bit iffy when he threw that instant red flag but then he went on to explain his reasoning and had a well thought out and meaningful reason behind it funny one is I have seen multiple of these with that merged finances question get Green flags with the exact same explanation
@@teresadownes2422i don't think that being the breadwinner means that only one contributes, though I get the reluctance to be with someone who wants to be the main earner.
I feel "wanting to be the breadwinner" and "I want to make the most money for my family as possible, as to give them a good life and spoil them" are two very different things. I'm an E-2 in the military, whereas my wife has degrees in finance/business management and HR. She also comes from money, wheras I don't. I still feel flustered and embarrassed when she pays for dinner, but I'm learning to swallow my pride and accept that she doesn't think any less of me, and is just being nice.
I wish I had a wife who made cash and would just swallow my pride. Instead I am a breadwinner while my husband works on his business which only gets us in debt..
@@Randompersononyoutube9 kinda cause you can't keep it up for forever and it's better to realise you're not compatible before going in a deeper relationship as it is easier to move on
When he said "I love her for who she is and I want to live my life with her" I literally held my heart like I was having a panick attack. I can't it's too cute
@@jonesparza2323happy people don't have to specify how happy they are. they just live ya know? marriage isn't always happy, maybe it wasn't all happy. but it's good to come back and understand each other. that's what makes it happy.
@@greyfox4838He literally said that if your entire motive for being a contributor was to earn the most money and not allow the other partner to earn, then it is a red flag. That’s because you’re supposed to both want the best outcome and not have one person be in complete control.
At first I was about to be like just another man who can’t stand to see a woman win but then he explained and no like that’s honestly so true. Don’t be a breadwinner to say that you are, do it for the betterment of those you love
@@Bottleofpens incel found. This isn't the 1800's, I'm pretty sure most people are decent enough to care more about who their partner is than how much they earn. Please don't assume the worst in people and generalize in 2024.
I am still a bit skeptical only because what was asked was "She wants to be main breadwinner" and what he says was that the decision of finance should be a team effort. Which yeah I agree but what does that have to do with the question? Was he implying that if the wife is the breadwinner she would make all the financial decisions?
@@bastik.3011 Wrong, there are things that both sides are better at however it is our duty as men to protect and provide. You dont nor should help when it comes to finances, its not a fact of we are better than you. Because when shit hits the fan, we will die for your ass because your lives are more valuable.
@@OberonTeam Honestly yes. First of all in 9/10cases he already is that just how our society is, second like the dude said its about wanting to be not being it. What he meant is that for example Husbands Wife earns more, now husband gets a job offer that would improve the financial situation of the marriage but make the husband earn the same as the woman. This would "demote" the woman from bread earner but be better for both. A partner set on being the bread earner might now try to avoid this improvement because it would take that "title" away from them. Needless to say this example works with flipped roles
@@hevnervals and I love your reply because egalitarianism sucks ass at any level (except some laws) since people are inherently different. Pragmatism is more accurate in this context (and better in any setting) specially alongside meritocracy.
@@pandax5359this is your sign brother, you are still dreaming and if this continues....... No time for this go to the kitchen and eat some lettuce with ketchup if you want to wake up
Yeah if boys listened to actual men like him and not wolf tiger alpha male Andrew tate and his other thousands of copies the world would be a better place
@@turtle111 This is why when I listen to Tate I only take in the things that stand to reason. He has some views I don't agree with, but he also does have some views that make sense. People just need critical thinking, to think for themselves and not allow online content to influence their every behaviour.
@@turtle111exactly! If he's been married for 23 years, men should be listening to him, not lonely Tate who acts like he's fulfilled by the 100 gfs he has
@@aidenlucas3271No one in red pill are other communities say that they prefer housewives but they aren't saying women cant work. Its a very small minority
I’m a teenager and I already agreed with most things this guy said. My parents do similar things that this guy does and it’s working out very well for them.
Facts. My parents have been married for 13-20 years but they have known each other since they were kids in elementary school. They do everything the guy stated and they are very happy with each other. I take both my mom’s and dad’s last name.
I liked all his explanations although I find it interesting that when a women was asked the same question on joining bank accounts the man called it a red flag and the woman called it a green flag, and then they both gave the same explanation about 1 joint and 2 separate being ideal for money in a marriage, always interesting seeing the similarities and differences!
I saw the exact situation today I think it's because the girl thought merge and joint are the same so when she said the same thing the guy said in this video she thought she'd just make another account for her and her partner would do the same while this guy knows that merge and joint are different accounts
She probably misheard joining bank accounts as joint bank account so that's why she said it's a green flag. This guy used merging so it's less likely to confuse
To women: there are, in fact, MANY men out there who want equitable relationships like this man. Do NOT think of him as a rarity and settle for someone less. Look for this guy, he’s out there!
Just dont forget that everyone is a bit different as well. Some might say green flag for the first one amd have a good reason for it. Some may say red flag for last name change, thats just personal preference at that point.
@@johnhannibalsmith1607 I was going to say that you don't die alone if you have a dog, and then I realized that either you outlive the dog or the dog outlives you, and both options are heartbreaking
@silkandstones5964I guess this is a mindset which can be viable, but in the long scheme of things, if this is your mindset for everything then, you must have a very drained lifestyle, yes these thing can be truthful, but him even saying those things inspired people to think a tiny bit more postively. Most of all all those things he said were completely valid, and actually good takes on a marriage, it's such a shit world that those things you said are possible, but people can be happy in the grand scheme of things. Also you are very correct about the 30 second window of a celebrity, but you also do realise that all of them aren't absolute shit bags, some are just regular humans, because THEY ARE HUMAN. It mostly pisses me off the most that things this man are saying are basic human decency and just respecting ones, privacy plus also the boundaries of a relationship, 23 years man is a long time, and even the idea of that may inspire others to also have these ideals. This man is by far not perfect or a saint in the slightest, but also any regular shit bag wouldn't even know those words or morals even if they hit them in the head, yes he can bullshit it but what's that gonna get him 'internet clout' ah yes for a man with a life that will do it, let's be real there is sickening possibility that there could be a chance he is bullshitting, but also let's be real thinking that people can't have basic human decency and be a person who has a sense of morality isn't that much of a crazy foreign ideal either.
I felt my Karen surfacing when he said “red flag” to her wanting to be the bread winner. Then he explained and I sent this video to my husband. He made some very valid points! I bet he has a very happy and healthy marriage.
i like that he has the "team"- thinking. also its cute that he immediatly goes the " i can buy sneaky gifts and she cant look at my bank statement so it will be a surprise ! " - route when asked about seperate bankaccounts
It's actually worse than that if they have notifications from the bank for irregular perchases on, as a gift will often be something you don't normally buy, so will get flagged and notify the account holders.
Honestly the “I love her for who she is and I want to spend my life with her” was so fucking wholesome, we need more people who are that sweet and wholesome
The way he lights up when he talks about her is adorable. I hope to be a good enough partner for my husband that he's happy to talk about me like that. 🥰
Sometimes it doesn’t matter how good you are to someone they don’t appreciate you. The key is to find a partner who appreciates you and expresses that instead of degrading you. The partner and their behaviour is often the key to everything.
Agreed!! The difference is he’s mature and doesn’t let insecurities and ego control his decision-making. Unfortunately, many people aren’t like him and maturity isn’t related to age because I’ve seen loads of 40 year olds who act like teenagers.
@@m.d.sharpe8892 Yeah yeah sure, "women☕" "pick me" "Karen" "max women moment" "she shouldn't wear that, she looks like a ...." "women belong in the kitchen" "feminazi" "femcel" "women can't be this, women can't be that"...... should ı go on?? What you're saying is like saying "I have seen that racism against white people is more common than against black people, without even looking for it" lol
God if only every child could have a father figure like him, we'd have a lot less problems. Seems like an articulate and well rounded guy Edit: since some of you in the replies are clearly worked up by my completely harmless comment, I should have prefaced by saying that this is solely _MY_ opinion. I'm not saying I know this guy and I am not saying that mothers play less important roles. I understand that i should not believe everything on the internet, and even if this was scripted, he made statements that were fairly rational food for thought. Geez. It's sad I have to say all of this. Get a grip people 😭
Definitely!!! A very respectful and smart individual he is. Regardless of gender we all should strive to be like him tbh. But especially the men! This what a true chad looks like guys
@@Sandrica011BG he only had a minute to speak and made very rational, thorough, and intelligent statements. I would say that explains his character pretty well. Im not saying i know the guy, lol, calm down.
This channel is refreshing for so many chill level-headed people present in these interviews. I could have easily thought he was one of those engagement bait channels that try to make people look stupid or present extreme caricatures but this… this is refreshing.
@@nanashi7779 do you have problem to tell the difference between “everyone around me” and “in my area”? Or gaslighting unnecessarily makes you feel better? Your Red flag flying so hard 🚩
@@bonitobonita9263 hmm, very insecure response, immediate accusation of gaslighting, repeated rhetorical questions, slight grammatical inability, all red flags for sure 🚩
@@sugarxxxplum9635 no… I mean someone who is overly politically correct and uncompromising. (In the stereotypical definition not what it actually means)
I mean he’s making it sound like the women wants to be the breadwinner to make her husband feel small. But nobody said her reasoning behind being the breadwinner. He’s making this hypothetical women sound shallow and overly competitive. In reality I’m sure most breadwinners are just doing it to treat their families.
@@ttgaminhack2107 men worry abt gold diggers but also hates women that wants a career to earn money. pick a struggle. ur the one whos gonna end up single lil bro
This man is my definition of “they had us the first half.” He didn’t want her to be the breadwinner, but only because he wouldn’t want her to be it if it was what was best for the family. He didn’t want to merge their bank accounts, but that means they can not only have a joint account, but they also have their own pool of money they can use on their own.
You’re a female the fact he said red flag for the breadwinner you think like a female when a female puts her career before her man she doesn’t love you
@@brizzle711 I get what he is saying. I thought it was going in a different direction at first, then found I totally agreed with the dude. I get why he has been married so long.
Not buying it. If the question was is it a red flag for a man to be the breadwinner he would have said yes sooo... yeah still sounds like he is making excuses to be sexist. I also don't understand why they can't share money??? If she made more he definitely would combine but if he's making more, he's just projecting himself and doesn't care if she has less!
@@Lulu-mj2fi I wouldn’t mind if my future wife was the breadwinner. The red flag was that she wants to be the breadwinner, so that only makes sense if it’s for the benefit of the family. As for sharing money, he said they do, as in they have a joint bank account used to pay family bills, but their separate ones are for personal things and gift giving. Good for them if they aren’t living paycheck to paycheck, but my dad is always monitoring the bank account to see where she spends money and how much. It does keep a man from buying porn or gambling, but I doubt that’s a big problem in most relationships. If either of them wants to work extra, then it’s fair if either of them wants to use it. It helps it so one doesn’t do all the spending while the other does all the work.
Awwww I really like this dude, super reasonable and well spoken. He clearly sees he's wife as equal, as a partner who makes her own choices and also knows how teamwork functions. Nice.
His banking set up is like mine & my husbands… it just made sense and works for us. The joint is for household expenses,bills etc… we both contribute a set amount per paycheck that covers everything… and it works
@@thereisonlycis3566 So? Partner is just a term for a romantic partner. Many people use gender neutral terms casually, even when not referring to non binary individuals.
@@thereisonlycis3566 you getting triggered by the word partner and having your transphobia as your literal username just shows how sad you are. Please, grow up.
What works for some people may not work for others. My wife and I have 1 joint bank account and have been happily married almost 10 years. We've never fought about money.
@@Andrew-it7fb Same. My husband and I have the same account and we never fight over money. We're both financially responsible people and if we want to treat ourselves once in a while, we both don't have issue with that.
My mom and dad treats their marriage like a teamwork and i grew up always thinking thats how a household is supposed to be. No "breadwinner". Both work taking care of kids/cook/get money equally and taking turns. It also makes me n my siblings close to both my mom and dad. During the pandemy i hear stories of my friends family having conflict because of financial and trust issues. My family has financial issues too but i see my mom n dad working together with full trust to each other. So while our family struggles financially too at least we're not fighting
That's what I think healthy family looks like too. My dad used to go out of state due to work when i was child but whenever he was home he never deny to spend time with me or deny to do work. He helped me to complete my homework and take me out for walks and helped around house too. My both parents were working class and we are middle class without any financial issues at this point. Guys who said that they don't want there wife to work because they're man is a huge red flag for me. Because somehow these guys are the majority of time cheating or abusive in relationship and too others too. Also these guys don't contribute even a second being a father or husband to there families but are very much likely looking forward to have this social family.
@stuti khanna i agree. My country is considered the 3rd most fatherless country because there are many men who think like this. That just working and giving money is enough and they dont do the role of being a husband or a father at all. Hearing that news i was so grateful our family is close
This is a man who actually views women as fully fledged complex individuals with their own thoughts and desires, not just objects to pursue. that’s why he’s stayed married so long. His wife must be so happy to have him in her life and vice versa
Exactly 😂 He sees his wife as his friend and partner not someone his insecurities tell him to *dominate and control* like some of the bs I’m seeing on the internet now.
I hope you aren't implying that men in general have those views. Generalizations help no one. Im supportive of equal rights but the constant mentions of toxic masculinity has been grating. It may be due to red pill content that i dont generally see, but its annoying when you are minding your business and you hear content stating that men are such simpletons that your comment needs to be stated
@@iriabanigo293Im assuming it was more in regard to other answers to these questions, where there can be some people that have been pretty nasty and demaning towards women, but this guys (and obvious most) are cool. The last name one, not just on this channel and like you mentioned that redpill podcast cast shit is cancerous, gets some pretty silly answers from a womans perspective. Like, "no shared income and she has to pay for at least half of everything, BUT she cant earn more than me AND shes a feminist cvnt if she doesnt change her name to mine" delusaional attitudes from a vocal minority. Meanwhile this guys refreshing 👍
Except women generally arent complex human brings. Unless you mean hypocritical, scheming, and just generally impossibke to gather their true intentions or desires.
@@iriabanigo293 you don't have to look for toxic masculine comments, they are in every corner of the internet if u read comments on video content. Just look below, the comment by conquistadorU. He just showed up uninvited. Ofc men are not generally simpletons, just that on the internet women constantly face a stream of such comments which leads to impressions like the person whom you replied to have. It's a self-defense mechanism
I aspire for this level of maturity. People act like it’s just a switch you can turn on and off but if you weren’t raised around this it’s not always your natural state. I’ve definitely failed at times even when I knew the path to walk already
It's okay, just make sure to stop and verbalize your mistake every time you catch yourself slipping so your partner doesn't feel hopeless and lied to. Just takes practice, you'll get there!
I remember my Dad telling my cousin that in marriage, there shouldn't be a competition. Why are you competing with your spouse? The end goal is to make everyday as comfortable and as happy - that you and your spouse shouldn't want to treat the other as an enemy - instead the other is an ally. I guess it worked for mine cause they've been together since they were 19
I love watching these, because it puts into perspective what works for some people. And it makes me happy seeing how many ways a relationship can be happy.
In Spain, wives never take their husband's surname. and the children must have two surnames, the first of the father and the second of the mother. It is very good system
I love that he acknowledged personal preference for the last name! My siblings and I are all girls so in order to keep our family legacy, I'm keeping my last name but ik some folks get really picky about that so it was nice to see his balanced POV
You’ll take your last name, right up until you are with a man you actually want, respect, admire and desire… then that all that goes out the window. Because you know the man you chose and IS choosing you will move on to someone who does respect them and traditions he values.
@@rohw0016 super sad you think like that...I'm already engaged too and he is completely fine with it 😂 not everyone has the same thoughts on it as you do, even if he didnt want it I always express my thoughts on important marital issues early in the relationship so we can figure out if we should continue or not, so it wouldn't end up like that in the first place Magical thing called ✨communication✨😂
@@marialyar6097 he must not be a king, because if he was a king, or you thought he was good enough to be a king, you would take his last name. the same type of woman that will probably withhold sex when you’re even remotely dissatisfied with the relationship. Which will lead you to getting divorced which will lead him to losing half his things, and you living a comfortable life subsidized by the government without him
@@marialyar6097 on top of it you aren’t even married yet. We’re living in a time where people are engaged for the longest period of time without actually ever getting married. Have fun with that . There’s no winning for men after you get married, so he’ll basically get walked all over for the rest of his life while being with you. He’ll basically be a shell of himself after some time.. where are you will lose respect for hm. And then you’ll be coached by the lawyers and justice system once you inevitably want to divorce him. It will be a lesson on how to take all his shit.
this guy is a good guy. He even said it’s okay to become highest contributor for the family, but can’t be a solo provider. That’s what i call a partner. I don’t know how some men get jealous when their wives earn a lot more than them and some even want to breadwinner of the family without giving any shit about what their partner want.
I agree with this 100% he’s very sensible. He’s not like many immature people who let their egos and insecurities make decisions for them he’s actually smart.
He said higher contributer not highest because having both working just to be the main contributor isn't best for the team and that it should be something that is a cost benefit analysis. There's a huge difference between highest contributor and " a higher contribution." Nothing wrong with earning to contribute more but it can be a detriment if it's done at the cost of neglecting the overall good of the team.😊
Just playing devils advocate: just bc two people choose not to divorce doesn’t mean their marriage is exemplary or worth following. Try to focus on healthy married couples you know in real life 😊
my husband is just like this guy : ) he's sweet, smart, beautiful, supportive, tells me when i'm wrong and then helps me learn and be my best, a strong but gentle person, i can go on forever. he's my best friend! we're a team, forever! ❤
My husband and I have 3 accounts too! One joint for our bills, mortgage, groceries, dates, travel... things we do "together". Then we have our separate accounts to spend on ourselves or each other. Occasionally he will treat me to a meal or I will do so for him and that comes out of our personal accounts. It works for us. There isn't a pressure to put everything together and it all becoming "one". We also contribute to our joint account by what we make at our jobs. I make 85k a year and he makes $120k so monthly he puts in about $2000 and I put in about $1400. Sometimes more and sometimes less, it varies month to month but we always make sure to have enough for the necessities. We're not at 23 years by any means but it has been 9 and we have never had a single issue/arguement over money or financial situation. We've had more arguements over what food we want to order or what movie to watch than money😂
If anyone is curious this is actually how you formulate a good answer. He didn't just say "red flag naaaaah" but he offered a solution / better alternative. That's some good shit.
Thank you! My last name has a lot of meaning to me on a really deep level and I have a boyfriend and when we were talking about marriage and I told him that I don't want to take his last name (his last name is a very generic last name) and he got kinda mad at me for not wanting to take his last name. So, thank you for pointing that out!!!
I find it weird when men want the woman to take their last name but they have one of the most common last names like Williams or Smith. And then theyre offended 🙄 why would anyone want to trade their rare last name for a name millions already go by?
He’s actually really wholesome, he seems like someone you could talk to for hours
Okay
true. he must fun to be with.
@@redfalcon6027 is that like those signs that read, "you must be this tall to ride"? Like he has to "fun to be with"? 😂
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I love how he said “our last name”! This is a man of true quality!
i didnt even notice but this is an excellent point
How is that equality?
@@MegaMilencheif you open your eyes it says ‘true quality’
@@tobiokageyama4358 So, how is that equality or "true equality"? xD
@@MegaMilencheit's "true quality " 😅
He made solid arguments for his flag choices and used his own experiences to back up his statements. Good man
Litterally what schools teach you to do when writing essays. Say what the fuck you're going to say, evidence, reasoning. 😂
@@deoxi3207nahhh who responds to a comment made four months ago 😂😂😂
Do you think the og poster of this comment even cares anymore, waited way to long
@@uwahuges3089 idk about you but when I log onto TH-cam I check replies about once a day bc I’m bored. So yes I do care
@@uwahuges3089Got your ass sat down real quick 😂
The fact this guy gets actual people who have genuine interest in the questions and respond with thoughtful and mature answers really surprises me. No actors doing exaggerated drama for the video for free views. Just genuine people with actual very smart thinking and reasoning.
Yep, there are a lot of moderate, not over dramatic regular people out here. Lol
The wanting to be married but not take on the Team last name...is red flag though, not even hyphenated. You cant wear tje Jersey but rip the name off? What sense does that make?
Just dont get married then
Redpill incel @@CorporationSKY
@@CorporationSKY « just don’t get married then » what? You think people get married for a last name? I’m not married yet but I told my fiancé that I would keep my name and take his bc I still want to be connected to my actual family and also bc he didn’t go to med school for 12 years so why the heck would I have a diploma on his name?? Learn how to respect people’s choices
@@CorporationSKYGood for us to be able to easily identify misogyny like what you said
@@CorporationSKY Bruh this is a marriage not a transfer of a player from one club to another. One of the purpose of marriage is to obtain happiness for both person. If anything would made either one of them being unhappy then they should look for a solution together, not forcing an opinion on each other.
This is what we need more of. Level-headed regular grown adults being interviewed...
What did you think you would get from an Internet addicted, social media addled generation when rhey grow up to be adults.
Not - dysfunctional humans? I'm scared that the amount of good people like these only decrease as the fortnite sucking tik tok juicing kids start to grow up.
Hm these idiots rather go to bars and interview women there. Those women even in 30s usually know nothing. But that’s what gets them views so they will continue interviewing those bar chicks
@@noobnoob8922 who let bro cook 🔥 💯
@Noob Noob Eh that's why fuck the world and its problems. I'm just gonna work my ass off and see where I can get, for shits and giggles. Everyone should live a life all their own.
I know right. Just regular people with a good head on their shoulders. Theyre out their, just social media is over saturated with nonsense. Its crazy how the common sense this dude has is such a commodity.
Bro is the most sensible person on Earth
Okay
Bro has that stability wisdom
you will all die one day
@@benjaminfranklin-810 okay
@@benjaminfranklin-810 okay
Bro is so wholesome. I bet he's a fantastic dad and husband
Right? Like why is my man so fucking cute (no homo)
Who wife is prob nailing some bbc and making him watch
@@hasanmertsk yes homo
If that is the case, then he's a rare find that must be protected at all costs.
@@hasanmertskNah that’s a lil zesty Cuhh
That first response scared me a little bit his explanation was well thought out and reasonable, totally respect it I would feel the same way. team effort!
Women shouldn’t be in the work force. It’s ruined the economy. More workers equals lower wages. Career women aren’t often as happy as they let on to be anyway
I went from "OH NO..." to " this mans flag is greener the avocados" so quick lmao
Why would his response scare you…. Do you not agree that a woman shouldn’t take the role of a man? Eugh. I’m smelling western feminist culture….
@@yungchildsupport4445No, it's because men often strive to be breadwinners as well, but when it comes to women it's immediately met with hostility, which is being a hypocrite.
Often times, the family situation makes it so that the woman earns more, if a man finds that a red flag, then he clearly isn't mature.
What matters more? Getting your ego hurt cause your wife earns more? Or getting a good life and pooling your finances for team work?
That's the difference. I've seen plenty of men get egotistical when a woman earns more than them. You can't be ignorant and say that people don't think that way.
@@yungchildsupport4445Also, with today's world, let's be real, quite a few women earn as much as men if not more, or are the only earning individual of the household.
If traditional values matter to you more than a good life, then earn high enough to get your wife to stay at home. So many men demand their wives not work while being poor.
He's anti-toxic. He's wholesome, smart, and accepting.
He’s what real masculinity is. Someone who genuinely cares and doesn’t want sex left and right! TAKE FUCKING NOTES, ANDREW TATE!
@@daleketchup7434 you obviously have little to no knowledge on what Andrew tate says. And before I engage any further in this soon to be argument I would like to say that I’m not one of the 15yo that meat rides Andrew tate and always thinks he’s right but I do agree with a lot of the things he says (that doesn’t mean I’m meat riding) and never once have I ever heard him say anything like that and even when he is joking.
@@daleketchup7434 What do you mean? The exact same things that this dude is saying is the stuff Tate has said and promotes or just not talked about at all and hasn't necesarily been agianst? He thinks having a family is beautiful?
@@elvis5138 just the fact how this guy’s the real man that people need to aspire to be and not like Tate who would say women need to stay in the kitchen or only be used for sex
@@elvis5138 Bruh, this man respects his woman's autonomy but wants to work as a team in a relationship. Tate wants pure subservience and to be the domineering one. There is a stark difference, and it saddens me that so many young men are going to take after him because of his influence.
That man cracked the code to a healthy happy marriage. Everything in a marriage is a team effort and neither side is doing it right if they are making unilateral decisions. That is toxic and usually ends up in divorce. Don't jump into relationships people, take your time to figure out if that other half is a proper fit for you in all aspects.
well said 👏
like that episode of american dad when francine got a job and stan felt like he was losing
Yep, that's why he's married 23 years. And did you hear when he said "OUR lastname" I hope their family is always happy and healthy.
trueee!!! I had to learn it the hard way ...
Yeah that code is really hard to crack. If you are 7
This guy gets it. He had me for a second with the first one, but he actually had really well thought out reasoning behind each of his choices. You go guy
In marriage it has to go both ways
Two people have to work as a team two have to pay bills earn money clean cook and contribute that way everything will get done quicker
Npc
@@islixxnhow original 😢
yeah same I was a bit iffy when he threw that instant red flag but then he went on to explain his reasoning and had a well thought out and meaningful reason behind it
funny one is I have seen multiple of these with that merged finances question get Green flags with the exact same explanation
@@teresadownes2422i don't think that being the breadwinner means that only one contributes, though I get the reluctance to be with someone who wants to be the main earner.
I feel "wanting to be the breadwinner" and "I want to make the most money for my family as possible, as to give them a good life and spoil them" are two very different things. I'm an E-2 in the military, whereas my wife has degrees in finance/business management and HR. She also comes from money, wheras I don't. I still feel flustered and embarrassed when she pays for dinner, but I'm learning to swallow my pride and accept that she doesn't think any less of me, and is just being nice.
Good for you. I wish you nothing but the best. 😊
You are a real man bro ✊🏻❤
I wish I had a wife who made cash and would just swallow my pride. Instead I am a breadwinner while my husband works on his business which only gets us in debt..
Oh Man, you are so lucky.
awww you’re doing a great job it’s not like you are using a woman / your wife and not helping . Marriage is team work !!
Man I hope he’s raising children, we need more people like him.
He said he is raising children.
You don’t have to believe me but he is in fact my father
@@l00p3d4is he a good dad
He literally said "stuff for the kids".
@@l00p3d4I do not believe you.
so that’s why he’s happily married for 23yrs
Fr people now a days need clones of themselves as partners to stay in a relationship for a long time 😅
@@twistedtide nah i would break up with myself
@@Randompersononyoutube9 kinda cause you can't keep it up for forever and it's better to realise you're not compatible before going in a deeper relationship as it is easier to move on
@@twistedtide your one to speak ?
@@Randompersononyoutube9 If you want someone like you that's your choice but don't try to turn someone whos not
The way u split ur finances r a very smart way to avoid conflict
I'm not married, but I will definitely take his advice in the future after all he's been married for 23 years so I guess he knows the best hehe
True, this is actually how my parents split their finances
Me and my girlfiend discussed to split our finances like this in the future lmao. This makes me feel like we are doing a decent job.
my parents did this so I always assumed it was normal lol
That’s how my husband and I do it. Been married for 12 years.
When he said "I love her for who she is and I want to live my life with her" I literally held my heart like I was having a panick attack. I can't it's too cute
Actually it isn't uncommon, if you find any decent man he will be agreeing to it no question asked..... It's a choice not a demand...
This channel actually interviews smart normal people instead of just uploading the weird or stupid ones. Huge W
Yeah I’ve been watching these shorts and all the people he speaks too are pretty good
Ikr
Yeah he actually speaks to sane people
Insane W, finally people that don’t sound like Patrick when they speak.
Unlike Cut and Jubilee 😂
and that is exactly why he's happily married for 23 years.
we need more people like him in the world honnestly.
@Scott-hw8hm😂
We need more people like him in our generation*
More women*
He never said "happily"
@@jonesparza2323happy people don't have to specify how happy they are. they just live ya know? marriage isn't always happy, maybe it wasn't all happy. but it's good to come back and understand each other. that's what makes it happy.
I like that he was allowed to expand on his answers. He played the game but was true to himself!
His answer made no sense though, he just invented an ulterior motive instead of being honest that his ego is hurt when the woman earns more than him.
@@greyfox4838 huh
@@greyfox4838 projection is powerful
@@barnacle3214 Same
@@greyfox4838He literally said that if your entire motive for being a contributor was to earn the most money and not allow the other partner to earn, then it is a red flag. That’s because you’re supposed to both want the best outcome and not have one person be in complete control.
At first I was about to be like just another man who can’t stand to see a woman win but then he explained and no like that’s honestly so true. Don’t be a breadwinner to say that you are, do it for the betterment of those you love
@@Bottleofpens incel found. This isn't the 1800's, I'm pretty sure most people are decent enough to care more about who their partner is than how much they earn. Please don't assume the worst in people and generalize in 2024.
That said, ye, people cheat. Those are scum. But I feel like their cheating is less financially motivated than you say they are
This guy needs to be a marriage counsellor.
This has got to be the dumbest thing ive ever heard
Let’s not get ahead too much.
i see ur point. not a bad point.
A bit random but isn't that the Lycentian insignia?
@@pointyhelmut2021yes
Finally. A wholesome family man. God bless him and his family.
and his wifes boyfriend
@@Dimes607 And your sad life, appariently.
@@Dimes607 and your humor too
@@tylerrichardson3034 someone's wife's boyfriend must have told him to step up for himself
@@Dimes607 he’s probably doin the same 💀
when he said red flag at first i was skeptical but then a heard his explanation and it made lots of sense
yeah me too.
but when men say they want to be the breadwinner for the same reason, no one bats an eye? 💀
@@jinri_p1042 stop trying to pretend everything is sexist. you’re reading too deep in between the lines
@@jinri_p1042 do men want to be the breadwinner purely to make more money than their partner ? Men mostly want a housewife so its different.
I am still a bit skeptical only because what was asked was
"She wants to be main breadwinner" and what he says was that the decision of finance should be a team effort. Which yeah I agree but what does that have to do with the question? Was he implying that if the wife is the breadwinner she would make all the financial decisions?
This man is based to the core. Seems like a genuinely good dude
sorry but “based to the core” is rlly funny
'based' a word only used by men who have never had a girlfriend. He is nothing like an incel like you.
Nope, he is a beta
@@bawseeeee602Get away with that bullshit. This man is based.
@@Abdul-Akeem_Akinloye lol another beta 🤣
First one was such an excellent point. He doesn't want to keep his woman down; he just doesn't want her to see him as competition. ✨
that too but i think it can be taken generally as a "I want to be better then you/ Iam better then you" a good relationship is on equal level
@@bastik.3011 Would you agree then that men wanting to be a breadwinner is also a red flag?
@@bastik.3011 Wrong, there are things that both sides are better at however it is our duty as men to protect and provide. You dont nor should help when it comes to finances, its not a fact of we are better than you. Because when shit hits the fan, we will die for your ass because your lives are more valuable.
@mistermavin96 yes.
@@OberonTeam Honestly yes. First of all in 9/10cases he already is that just how our society is, second like the dude said its about wanting to be not being it. What he meant is that for example Husbands Wife earns more, now husband gets a job offer that would improve the financial situation of the marriage but make the husband earn the same as the woman. This would "demote" the woman from bread earner but be better for both. A partner set on being the bread earner might now try to avoid this improvement because it would take that "title" away from them.
Needless to say this example works with flipped roles
I'm glad he was allowed to elaborate on his answers! He sounds like a very solid dude that values egalitarianism and mutual respect
Not necessarily egalitarianism or mutual respect. Just pragmatism and indifference to the last question.
These words make brain go ow
@@poggerman9661 same 🤧
@@hevnervals and I love your reply because egalitarianism sucks ass at any level (except some laws) since people are inherently different. Pragmatism is more accurate in this context (and better in any setting) specially alongside meritocracy.
This was just a dick swinging contest to see who’s the most articulate 💀😂
i love that he said that she took our last name instead of that she took his last name
Im so confused. I feel like i've seen this short and this comment days ago
@@pandax5359this is your sign brother, you are still dreaming and if this continues.......
No time for this go to the kitchen and eat some lettuce with ketchup if you want to wake up
@@ziyanmehdi8113 Thank you very much for the advice. I shall do that right away
@@pandax5359 bro got a quest while watching TH-cam Shorts💀
@@pandax5359 that's called "deja vu"
I like that this account doesn’t just show the “craziest and most controversial” answers and actually shows people with decent opinions
Get this man to a podcast, we need him to teach us abt life
Yeah if boys listened to actual men like him and not wolf tiger alpha male Andrew tate and his other thousands of copies the world would be a better place
@@turtle111 This is why when I listen to Tate I only take in the things that stand to reason.
He has some views I don't agree with, but he also does have some views that make sense.
People just need critical thinking, to think for themselves and not allow online content to influence their every behaviour.
@@turtle111exactly! If he's been married for 23 years, men should be listening to him, not lonely Tate who acts like he's fulfilled by the 100 gfs he has
@@Zorisura 🎯🎯 you described my exact opinion on Tate
Maybe go out and talk to people? Not everyone needs to be behind a mic
His responses really give context. This is a perfect example of why you listen to the why before reacting to the what.
At first I thought he was bouta go on a rant as to why women shouldn’t get jobs, but I was completely wrong once he explained
@@aidenlucas3271No one in red pill are other communities say that they prefer housewives but they aren't saying women cant work. Its a very small minority
I’m a teenager and I already agreed with most things this guy said. My parents do similar things that this guy does and it’s working out very well for them.
My parents also work the same way, I was born before they married (I caused it to get delayed lol) they are still together and doing well
Facts. My parents have been married for 13-20 years but they have known each other since they were kids in elementary school. They do everything the guy stated and they are very happy with each other. I take both my mom’s and dad’s last name.
@@nonaynayII tf you mean 13 to 20 years
@@bibbagamer1284 they never told me how long, all i know that they've been in a relationship for five years and the rest they were married for
@@bibbagamer1284 🤣 😂 🤣 😂
I liked all his explanations although I find it interesting that when a women was asked the same question on joining bank accounts the man called it a red flag and the woman called it a green flag, and then they both gave the same explanation about 1 joint and 2 separate being ideal for money in a marriage, always interesting seeing the similarities and differences!
I saw the exact situation today I think it's because the girl thought merge and joint are the same so when she said the same thing the guy said in this video she thought she'd just make another account for her and her partner would do the same while this guy knows that merge and joint are different accounts
She probably misheard joining bank accounts as joint bank account so that's why she said it's a green flag. This guy used merging so it's less likely to confuse
To women: there are, in fact, MANY men out there who want equitable relationships like this man. Do NOT think of him as a rarity and settle for someone less. Look for this guy, he’s out there!
Just dont forget that everyone is a bit different as well. Some might say green flag for the first one amd have a good reason for it. Some may say red flag for last name change, thats just personal preference at that point.
@@asdsd5930 Most really want to just merge accounts without even considering their partner's decision.
Yes. Don't *_"SETTLE."_* If necessary, buy a dog and die *_ALONE._*
Hes married, homewrecker!!
@@johnhannibalsmith1607 I was going to say that you don't die alone if you have a dog, and then I realized that either you outlive the dog or the dog outlives you, and both options are heartbreaking
This guy needs to write a book. I would buy it
@silkandstones5964I guess this is a mindset which can be viable, but in the long scheme of things, if this is your mindset for everything then, you must have a very drained lifestyle, yes these thing can be truthful, but him even saying those things inspired people to think a tiny bit more postively.
Most of all all those things he said were completely valid, and actually good takes on a marriage, it's such a shit world that those things you said are possible, but people can be happy in the grand scheme of things.
Also you are very correct about the 30 second window of a celebrity, but you also do realise that all of them aren't absolute shit bags, some are just regular humans, because THEY ARE HUMAN.
It mostly pisses me off the most that things this man are saying are basic human decency and just respecting ones, privacy plus also the boundaries of a relationship, 23 years man is a long time, and even the idea of that may inspire others to also have these ideals.
This man is by far not perfect or a saint in the slightest, but also any regular shit bag wouldn't even know those words or morals even if they hit them in the head, yes he can bullshit it but what's that gonna get him 'internet clout' ah yes for a man with a life that will do it, let's be real there is sickening possibility that there could be a chance he is bullshitting, but also let's be real thinking that people can't have basic human decency and be a person who has a sense of morality isn't that much of a crazy foreign ideal either.
@silkandstones5964😐
@@fanthefrog847 lmfao
@SilkandStones blud spilled his morning coffee
@silkandstones5964innocent until proven guilty buddy
Make this guy a TV dad asap
He’s already dressed like Homer Simpson💀He’s got the same beard too😭
@@mccheesejar8811 oh my god you’re right 😂
Sounds like a good husband. Really puts emphasis on teamwork and understands hia wife is 100 percent her own autonomous person.
I took my wife’s last name solely for the fact that I wanted my name to be Drew Peacock 😂😂😂
Based
W
Baller stuff
Eeeeeehhhhhhhhh. I would too.
I have the upmost respect for you taking that name, I envy it 💀
I felt my Karen surfacing when he said “red flag” to her wanting to be the bread winner. Then he explained and I sent this video to my husband. He made some very valid points! I bet he has a very happy and healthy marriage.
I was right there with you if he had kept it short would have been a completely different video
Would your reaction be the same if there was a woman who said red flag ? ( Before you hear her explanation )
@@franklin_johnson01 Yes. The issue was the question until I heard the response for the answer, not the gender.
@@LeBarberBunch ok
You could tell this guy have a good heart. Good luck to him.
Yeah
Wow getting to witness such a healthy mindset is refreshing
Protect this man at all costs
Hu taooo
@@ilikeanimals5015 fischllll
This comment is dead
Ts is so corny stfu
@@Jackmerius_Tacktheritrix5733 like my will to live
This has to be the best financial interview I’ve ever seen. Down to earth, relatable and respectable.
i like that he has the "team"- thinking. also its cute that he immediatly goes the " i can buy sneaky gifts and she cant look at my bank statement so it will be a surprise ! " - route when asked about seperate bankaccounts
This is exactly what I think. How can you surprise your other half if you wannà buy something for them if they can check all your expenses lol
It's actually worse than that if they have notifications from the bank for irregular perchases on, as a gift will often be something you don't normally buy, so will get flagged and notify the account holders.
Honestly the “I love her for who she is and I want to spend my life with her” was so fucking wholesome, we need more people who are that sweet and wholesome
The way he lights up when he talks about her is adorable. I hope to be a good enough partner for my husband that he's happy to talk about me like that. 🥰
Sometimes it doesn’t matter how good you are to someone they don’t appreciate you. The key is to find a partner who appreciates you and expresses that instead of degrading you. The partner and their behaviour is often the key to everything.
@@potato1084 Cool
Refreshing to see a man who views marriage/partnership in a balanced and healthy way instead of the usual toxicity of men behind mics on the Internet.
Agreed!! The difference is he’s mature and doesn’t let insecurities and ego control his decision-making. Unfortunately, many people aren’t like him and maturity isn’t related to age because I’ve seen loads of 40 year olds who act like teenagers.
Ive seen way more of the toxic female perspective online than I have men, without even really looking for it
@@m.d.sharpe8892 Yeah yeah sure, "women☕" "pick me" "Karen" "max women moment" "she shouldn't wear that, she looks like a ...." "women belong in the kitchen" "feminazi" "femcel" "women can't be this, women can't be that"...... should ı go on?? What you're saying is like saying "I have seen that racism against white people is more common than against black people, without even looking for it" lol
@@m.d.sharpe8892 pls bro, stop lying to urself 💀💀💀
@@turtle111 nobody lying😂 modern women provoked idiots like Andrew tate to pick up a mic and start talking. It's really their fault
God if only every child could have a father figure like him, we'd have a lot less problems. Seems like an articulate and well rounded guy
Edit: since some of you in the replies are clearly worked up by my completely harmless comment, I should have prefaced by saying that this is solely _MY_ opinion. I'm not saying I know this guy and I am not saying that mothers play less important roles. I understand that i should not believe everything on the internet, and even if this was scripted, he made statements that were fairly rational food for thought. Geez. It's sad I have to say all of this. Get a grip people 😭
Definitely!!! A very respectful and smart individual he is. Regardless of gender we all should strive to be like him tbh. But especially the men! This what a true chad looks like guys
This was 1 min video, he knew he's being recorded, and you jump to that serious conclusion?
@@Sandrica011BG he only had a minute to speak and made very rational, thorough, and intelligent statements. I would say that explains his character pretty well. Im not saying i know the guy, lol, calm down.
We also need good mother figures these days from the looks of it
@@jesussanchez8848 y'all really need to stop using this red herring move to stir the conversations.
He knows what he wants and does not, and actually can explain the reason behind his choice. Nice
He is a very green flag. Aren’t there any super red flag people in this interview just like anywhere else? Or I have too many red flags in my area?
This channel is refreshing for so many chill level-headed people present in these interviews. I could have easily thought he was one of those engagement bait channels that try to make people look stupid or present extreme caricatures but this… this is refreshing.
If everyone around you is a red flag in your eyes, have you considered that it in fact be you who is hoisting the maroon?
@@Sofiaode18 yeah probably he picks up green people and doesn’t upload red people, but it is refreshing and restoring humanity
@@nanashi7779 do you have problem to tell the difference between “everyone around me” and “in my area”? Or gaslighting unnecessarily makes you feel better? Your Red flag flying so hard 🚩
@@bonitobonita9263 hmm, very insecure response, immediate accusation of gaslighting, repeated rhetorical questions, slight grammatical inability, all red flags for sure 🚩
I’m glad that he expanded on his answers, because this was a very refreshing take to see on couples finances. I live it.
Same, all reasonable and agreeable answers, which definitely shows how he's been married for so long
As a woman, I 100% agree with everything this man said. Hope they have a prosperous marriage ❤
Exactly but some boys with fragile egos are crying at reply section of comments😂
@@light5869 follow by some trigger feminist, a nice circle
Bet they get divorced and the wife initiates it😂
@@asasdsaasda circle of life
This guy is a walking green flag ✨
This is a man. Not “red pilled” or “woke” just a genuinely good dude providing for his family.
What do you think woke means?
@@dgjdtuvsth4051 For them anything that is not male, straight and white is categorized as "wOkE"
@@dgjdtuvsth4051 I used it in quotations to make fun of people who use it incorrectly
@@sugarxxxplum9635 no… I mean someone who is overly politically correct and uncompromising. (In the stereotypical definition not what it actually means)
I mean he’s making it sound like the women wants to be the breadwinner to make her husband feel small. But nobody said her reasoning behind being the breadwinner. He’s making this hypothetical women sound shallow and overly competitive. In reality I’m sure most breadwinners are just doing it to treat their families.
as a woman who is very career oriented, he's a green flag.
all these man children with fragile egos crying, grow up.
Your gonna end up living with 20 cats and 0 husband 😹😹
@@ttgaminhack2107 who?
@@purvaa. asked
@@ttgaminhack2107 men worry abt gold diggers but also hates women that wants a career to earn money. pick a struggle. ur the one whos gonna end up single lil bro
Pop off queen.
This man is my definition of “they had us the first half.” He didn’t want her to be the breadwinner, but only because he wouldn’t want her to be it if it was what was best for the family. He didn’t want to merge their bank accounts, but that means they can not only have a joint account, but they also have their own pool of money they can use on their own.
You’re a female the fact he said red flag for the breadwinner you think like a female when a female puts her career before her man she doesn’t love you
yup we heard what he said. That’s for writing it.
@@brizzle711 I get what he is saying. I thought it was going in a different direction at first, then found I totally agreed with the dude. I get why he has been married so long.
Not buying it. If the question was is it a red flag for a man to be the breadwinner he would have said yes sooo... yeah still sounds like he is making excuses to be sexist. I also don't understand why they can't share money??? If she made more he definitely would combine but if he's making more, he's just projecting himself and doesn't care if she has less!
@@Lulu-mj2fi I wouldn’t mind if my future wife was the breadwinner. The red flag was that she wants to be the breadwinner, so that only makes sense if it’s for the benefit of the family. As for sharing money, he said they do, as in they have a joint bank account used to pay family bills, but their separate ones are for personal things and gift giving. Good for them if they aren’t living paycheck to paycheck, but my dad is always monitoring the bank account to see where she spends money and how much. It does keep a man from buying porn or gambling, but I doubt that’s a big problem in most relationships. If either of them wants to work extra, then it’s fair if either of them wants to use it. It helps it so one doesn’t do all the spending while the other does all the work.
I like how he keeps in the reasoning behind the answers and just shows different peoples perspectives. Mad respect
I loved the way he said “our last name” not ‘my last name’. So sweet!
Awwww I really like this dude, super reasonable and well spoken. He clearly sees he's wife as equal, as a partner who makes her own choices and also knows how teamwork functions. Nice.
Unfathomably based man, good for him and his family.
Wasn’t sure about saying red flag for the first one, but he actually explained it really well
This man is 1000% wholesome good vibes
This guy seems like he actually likes being married and loves his wife a lot. I never really hear about happy couples. This made me happy. ❤
most men love their women. it is women who initiate 80% of divorces.
They don't make men like this anymore.
Bro is the definition of “got me in the first half not gonna lie”😭💀
His banking set up is like mine & my husbands… it just made sense and works for us. The joint is for household expenses,bills etc… we both contribute a set amount per paycheck that covers everything… and it works
It's nice to hear a reasonable person's response.
We need more people like this bro u can tell he’s so nice
Listen to this man kids. He knows what he is talking about. My partner and I also do this.
“Partner”
@@thereisonlycis3566 So? Partner is just a term for a romantic partner. Many people use gender neutral terms casually, even when not referring to non binary individuals.
@@thereisonlycis3566 you getting triggered by the word partner and having your transphobia as your literal username just shows how sad you are. Please, grow up.
@@thereisonlycis3566 2 genders
As someone who is red/green colorblind, I appreciated the tags denoting the red and green flags. :)
Everyone needs a guy like that! He's a definite green flag!
then I'm definitely a red flag
@@HypnoticVoid Alright?
Finance is one of the biggest causes of divorce. Keep your money separate. It truly brings out the worst in people.
Yes I’ve seen this in my culture especially. Everyone needs separate accounts even if they opened a joint account for expenses.
Yes, also helps in case of debts. But having a joint account for joint expenses is not bad either
What works for some people may not work for others. My wife and I have 1 joint bank account and have been happily married almost 10 years. We've never fought about money.
@@Andrew-it7fb Same. My husband and I have the same account and we never fight over money. We're both financially responsible people and if we want to treat ourselves once in a while, we both don't have issue with that.
Dude is so level headed and chill.
I loved all his answers! Completely agree. Especially that first one. Look at the intentions more than the action
This was actually very refreshing to hear no ego knows what's right and wrong and still seems genuinley happy and healthy
My mom and dad treats their marriage like a teamwork and i grew up always thinking thats how a household is supposed to be. No "breadwinner". Both work taking care of kids/cook/get money equally and taking turns. It also makes me n my siblings close to both my mom and dad. During the pandemy i hear stories of my friends family having conflict because of financial and trust issues. My family has financial issues too but i see my mom n dad working together with full trust to each other. So while our family struggles financially too at least we're not fighting
That's what I think healthy family looks like too. My dad used to go out of state due to work when i was child but whenever he was home he never deny to spend time with me or deny to do work. He helped me to complete my homework and take me out for walks and helped around house too. My both parents were working class and we are middle class without any financial issues at this point. Guys who said that they don't want there wife to work because they're man is a huge red flag for me. Because somehow these guys are the majority of time cheating or abusive in relationship and too others too. Also these guys don't contribute even a second being a father or husband to there families but are very much likely looking forward to have this social family.
@stuti khanna i agree. My country is considered the 3rd most fatherless country because there are many men who think like this. That just working and giving money is enough and they dont do the role of being a husband or a father at all. Hearing that news i was so grateful our family is close
This is a man who actually views women as fully fledged complex individuals with their own thoughts and desires, not just objects to pursue. that’s why he’s stayed married so long. His wife must be so happy to have him in her life and vice versa
Exactly 😂 He sees his wife as his friend and partner not someone his insecurities tell him to *dominate and control* like some of the bs I’m seeing on the internet now.
I hope you aren't implying that men in general have those views. Generalizations help no one. Im supportive of equal rights but the constant mentions of toxic masculinity has been grating. It may be due to red pill content that i dont generally see, but its annoying when you are minding your business and you hear content stating that men are such simpletons that your comment needs to be stated
@@iriabanigo293Im assuming it was more in regard to other answers to these questions, where there can be some people that have been pretty nasty and demaning towards women, but this guys (and obvious most) are cool. The last name one, not just on this channel and like you mentioned that redpill podcast cast shit is cancerous, gets some pretty silly answers from a womans perspective. Like, "no shared income and she has to pay for at least half of everything, BUT she cant earn more than me AND shes a feminist cvnt if she doesnt change her name to mine" delusaional attitudes from a vocal minority. Meanwhile this guys refreshing 👍
Except women generally arent complex human brings. Unless you mean hypocritical, scheming, and just generally impossibke to gather their true intentions or desires.
@@iriabanigo293 you don't have to look for toxic masculine comments, they are in every corner of the internet if u read comments on video content. Just look below, the comment by conquistadorU. He just showed up uninvited. Ofc men are not generally simpletons, just that on the internet women constantly face a stream of such comments which leads to impressions like the person whom you replied to have. It's a self-defense mechanism
His answer to the first question was great. It's fine if she's the breadwinner, but it's sus if she actively wants to be.
So wholesome and so relatable😊
I aspire for this level of maturity. People act like it’s just a switch you can turn on and off but if you weren’t raised around this it’s not always your natural state. I’ve definitely failed at times even when I knew the path to walk already
It's okay, just make sure to stop and verbalize your mistake every time you catch yourself slipping so your partner doesn't feel hopeless and lied to.
Just takes practice, you'll get there!
I remember my Dad telling my cousin that in marriage, there shouldn't be a competition. Why are you competing with your spouse? The end goal is to make everyday as comfortable and as happy - that you and your spouse shouldn't want to treat the other as an enemy - instead the other is an ally. I guess it worked for mine cause they've been together since they were 19
Finally someone i want to hear from. Married 23 years means something nowadays
Protect this man at all costs he's too pure
I love watching these, because it puts into perspective what works for some people. And it makes me happy seeing how many ways a relationship can be happy.
In Spain, wives never take their husband's surname. and the children must have two surnames, the first of the father and the second of the mother. It is very good system
My respect for Spain 📈📈📈
Good on Spain for doing that
@@tanyasharma3723cope
Props to the guy for explaining his perspectives so soundly 👏
I love that he acknowledged personal preference for the last name! My siblings and I are all girls so in order to keep our family legacy, I'm keeping my last name but ik some folks get really picky about that so it was nice to see his balanced POV
You’ll take your last name, right up until you are with a man you actually want, respect, admire and desire… then that all that goes out the window.
Because you know the man you chose and IS choosing you will move on to someone who does respect them and traditions he values.
@@rohw0016 super sad you think like that...I'm already engaged too and he is completely fine with it 😂 not everyone has the same thoughts on it as you do, even if he didnt want it I always express my thoughts on important marital issues early in the relationship so we can figure out if we should continue or not, so it wouldn't end up like that in the first place
Magical thing called ✨communication✨😂
@@marialyar6097 he must not be a king, because if he was a king, or you thought he was good enough to be a king, you would take his last name.
the same type of woman that will probably withhold sex when you’re even remotely dissatisfied with the relationship.
Which will lead you to getting divorced which will lead him to losing half his things, and you living a comfortable life subsidized by the government without him
@@marialyar6097 on top of it you aren’t even married yet. We’re living in a time where people are engaged for the longest period of time without actually ever getting married.
Have fun with that .
There’s no winning for men after you get married, so he’ll basically get walked all over for the rest of his life while being with you.
He’ll basically be a shell of himself after some time.. where are you will lose respect for hm.
And then you’ll be coached by the lawyers and justice system once you inevitably want to divorce him.
It will be a lesson on how to take all his shit.
T project much bro? Some people aren't as miserable as you are bud.
this guy is a good guy. He even said it’s okay to become highest contributor for the family, but can’t be a solo provider. That’s what i call a partner. I don’t know how some men get jealous when their wives earn a lot more than them and some even want to breadwinner of the family without giving any shit about what their partner want.
And bindian women telling what is good😂
@@blackhimu1452 bindian? What’s that?
I agree with this 100% he’s very sensible. He’s not like many immature people who let their egos and insecurities make decisions for them he’s actually smart.
Idk how delusional it is to expect to have only one breadwinner in one family,in today's world
He said higher contributer not highest because having both working just to be the main contributor isn't best for the team and that it should be something that is a cost benefit analysis. There's a huge difference between highest contributor and " a higher contribution." Nothing wrong with earning to contribute more but it can be a detriment if it's done at the cost of neglecting the overall good of the team.😊
This dude has been married for 23 years. I’m taking every bit of this advice
Just playing devils advocate: just bc two people choose not to divorce doesn’t mean their marriage is exemplary or worth following. Try to focus on healthy married couples you know in real life 😊
my husband is just like this guy : ) he's sweet, smart, beautiful, supportive, tells me when i'm wrong and then helps me learn and be my best, a strong but gentle person, i can go on forever. he's my best friend! we're a team, forever! ❤
This, everyone, is a gentleman and a scholar.
got yelled at on FB for saying the last one can go either way and explaining why in the most calm manner lmaoo
This went in a direction i wasn't expecting. That was actually nice. Thats a good person right there
This dude was a total vibe. Seems like a nice legit dude.
My husband and I have 3 accounts too! One joint for our bills, mortgage, groceries, dates, travel... things we do "together". Then we have our separate accounts to spend on ourselves or each other. Occasionally he will treat me to a meal or I will do so for him and that comes out of our personal accounts. It works for us. There isn't a pressure to put everything together and it all becoming "one". We also contribute to our joint account by what we make at our jobs. I make 85k a year and he makes $120k so monthly he puts in about $2000 and I put in about $1400. Sometimes more and sometimes less, it varies month to month but we always make sure to have enough for the necessities.
We're not at 23 years by any means but it has been 9 and we have never had a single issue/arguement over money or financial situation. We've had more arguements over what food we want to order or what movie to watch than money😂
that man is a living green flag ✅✅
We found him boys. The most based man on planet earth 😂
I love that this guys explains very well. Need more people like this gentleman.
If anyone is curious this is actually how you formulate a good answer. He didn't just say "red flag naaaaah" but he offered a solution / better alternative. That's some good shit.
I love that this guy doesnt seem to hate his wife
This dad is max wholesome.
Thank you! My last name has a lot of meaning to me on a really deep level and I have a boyfriend and when we were talking about marriage and I told him that I don't want to take his last name (his last name is a very generic last name) and he got kinda mad at me for not wanting to take his last name. So, thank you for pointing that out!!!
I find it weird when men want the woman to take their last name but they have one of the most common last names like Williams or Smith. And then theyre offended 🙄 why would anyone want to trade their rare last name for a name millions already go by?
@@strawberryshortgirl2637well said 🎉🎉
A level-headed man! What a breath of fresh air!