My mother has taught kindergarten in Texas for 20+ years, and she does the American equivalent. She calls kid's on their birthdays and goes to after-school events, too. As far as I know she's never had a complaint. Most parents appreciate her extra attention. She greets every child in the morning with a hug or a fist bump/handshake if they don't wanna be hugged. I understand some parents are worried about "professional affection, but I don't think this is a good way to handle it as a parent.. (My mom also teaches appreciate adult interaction, and helps kids understand that if they are uncomfortable with a grownups behavior or affection, who they can talk to for help)
Even in college I had professors call students ‘Hun’, ‘Kiddo’, ‘Dumbass’, ‘dear’, ‘Pita’, ‘Darling’, ‘my dear’, hug on us, kiss our foreheads and give out gifts. 😂 The men refrained from physical touch but the women acted like their students were their kids. Granted this is the Deep South so it was universal.
I’m a teacher, I literally call every single child “Lovely”. Only one has had an issue with it, a nine year old boy, and he said it was because he has a name and would prefer me to call him by it. I then pointed out that I usually his name and call him lovely in the same breath (e.g. Name, lovely, can you just…) and asked him if he wanted me to stop saying he was lovely. He’s got a few issues and doesn’t get a lot of positive reinforcement, so when it was put like that he didn’t mind, he just said that he wanted me to use his name too. At uni they literally told us as long as you use the same term for boys and girls then it’s fine.
I work as a gymnastics coach and all of my kids are either “girly” or “buddy.” I’ve never had any complaints except for one five year old girl who said “my name isn’t girly it’s ___”😂😂
If it wasn't a nursery i would agree with her but with that being said if she has an issue with that phrase then I can completely understand and she can vouce that that is uncomfortable with her for one reason for another. Now that doesn't mean she has to stop saying something that makes one person uncomfortable either though so it is still her choice and not something she should be forced into because we cant always worry about if someone else is uncomfortable by a tiny thing we say but we are also entitled to feel uncomfortable and express it too if that makes sense 😂
Agreed, atleast because the critisism was given calmly and with point of view. It doesn't always feel nice, but those situations makes you look the whole picture more carefully. And yes, I am fully with nursery and affectioness with small children, because we are social animals and good words and hugs help us to grow better person. But I would totally understand if for example parent with own child abuse trauma can see hugs and kisses from others than parent itself as an dangerous activity. And that parent should not need to be explaining that trauma open but for a psychologist.
Sorry, lady, but in childcare, we tend to fall in the habit of pet names with our kids. My students, for example, get babe, sweets, honey, my dear, etc. Though in the handoff, we're definitely not allowed to be too physically affectionate (in the States. Definitely no kisses of any kind and hugs are usually only allowed to be very short side hugs. The only exception to this is babies under 2)
I can understand a parent/child not feeling comfortable with that, but I feel that is a case by case basis and isn’t unprofessional. Basically, the mother had a right to ask Marjorie not to call her kid that but she doesn’t have a right to tell Marjorie not to call others that unless it is demeaning which is not the case. That said, I wouldn’t be surprised if there is a sequel where Marjorie does stop calling the child “My love” but still says it to other kids/people and the kid get upsets/hurts so Marjorie has to explain that it was mummy who asked her not to call the kid that.
My mums a teacher and I’ve been in her lessons and she calls people “my love” all the time
My mother has taught kindergarten in Texas for 20+ years, and she does the American equivalent. She calls kid's on their birthdays and goes to after-school events, too. As far as I know she's never had a complaint. Most parents appreciate her extra attention.
She greets every child in the morning with a hug or a fist bump/handshake if they don't wanna be hugged. I understand some parents are worried about "professional affection, but I don't think this is a good way to handle it as a parent..
(My mom also teaches appreciate adult interaction, and helps kids understand that if they are uncomfortable with a grownups behavior or affection, who they can talk to for help)
Even in college I had professors call students ‘Hun’, ‘Kiddo’, ‘Dumbass’, ‘dear’, ‘Pita’, ‘Darling’, ‘my dear’, hug on us, kiss our foreheads and give out gifts. 😂 The men refrained from physical touch but the women acted like their students were their kids.
Granted this is the Deep South so it was universal.
I’m a teacher, I literally call every single child “Lovely”. Only one has had an issue with it, a nine year old boy, and he said it was because he has a name and would prefer me to call him by it. I then pointed out that I usually his name and call him lovely in the same breath (e.g. Name, lovely, can you just…) and asked him if he wanted me to stop saying he was lovely. He’s got a few issues and doesn’t get a lot of positive reinforcement, so when it was put like that he didn’t mind, he just said that he wanted me to use his name too. At uni they literally told us as long as you use the same term for boys and girls then it’s fine.
No not at all unprofessional. I used to work in childcare and it is very much that type of environment
I work as a gymnastics coach and all of my kids are either “girly” or “buddy.” I’ve never had any complaints except for one five year old girl who said “my name isn’t girly it’s ___”😂😂
Omg how petty people can
If it wasn't a nursery i would agree with her but with that being said if she has an issue with that phrase then I can completely understand and she can vouce that that is uncomfortable with her for one reason for another. Now that doesn't mean she has to stop saying something that makes one person uncomfortable either though so it is still her choice and not something she should be forced into because we cant always worry about if someone else is uncomfortable by a tiny thing we say but we are also entitled to feel uncomfortable and express it too if that makes sense 😂
Agreed, atleast because the critisism was given calmly and with point of view. It doesn't always feel nice, but those situations makes you look the whole picture more carefully.
And yes, I am fully with nursery and affectioness with small children, because we are social animals and good words and hugs help us to grow better person. But I would totally understand if for example parent with own child abuse trauma can see hugs and kisses from others than parent itself as an dangerous activity. And that parent should not need to be explaining that trauma open but for a psychologist.
Sorry, lady, but in childcare, we tend to fall in the habit of pet names with our kids. My students, for example, get babe, sweets, honey, my dear, etc. Though in the handoff, we're definitely not allowed to be too physically affectionate (in the States. Definitely no kisses of any kind and hugs are usually only allowed to be very short side hugs. The only exception to this is babies under 2)
I have almost zero tolerance to pain every time I'm sick I'm out for 3-5 business days 😅
And I am a woman 😅
I can understand a parent/child not feeling comfortable with that, but I feel that is a case by case basis and isn’t unprofessional. Basically, the mother had a right to ask Marjorie not to call her kid that but she doesn’t have a right to tell Marjorie not to call others that unless it is demeaning which is not the case.
That said, I wouldn’t be surprised if there is a sequel where Marjorie does stop calling the child “My love” but still says it to other kids/people and the kid get upsets/hurts so Marjorie has to explain that it was mummy who asked her not to call the kid that.
Yeah, No. I will continue to call my children "loves" to the day I die. She is familiar to the children Lady.
Tbh she has a point...
Bruh😂
Dont lots of british people use those terms of endearment casually?? Like darling, love, hon, etc??