I think a lot of introverts, like myself, can relate to a lot of what you're saying and feeling. I've definitely experienced times where my mind would simply not let me focus on something other than what was happening. Like a mental block. Although, more often I'll go more inwards into my own world and basically daydream or create stories in my mind and basically get disconnected from the outside world. I might use the outside world to create a story in my mind or question what's happening (Ne), but usually the outside world isn't the focus but rather a catalyst for what my mind can create and theorise. In true intriverted fashion, I've never been drawn to noisy places and crowds of people. I've tried clubs and bars just to do it, and I've been to a concert or two. I've even sung karaoke a couple of times! Karaoke is awkward and I don't love the attention (even from a small crowd), but a large crows of people like you find at a concert can make me cold sweat and my eyes ache from all the sensory information. Genuinely, if a lot is happening (music, lights, people talking and seeing lots of peopple), my eyes will hurt and I might start developing a cold sweat and a mild headache. Self-care is important. No need to push yourself too hard if you don't feel up for it.
I approve of those ducks. Hm yeah I really do think that ultimately if you're introverted, this idea to always push yourself isn't actually so useful. And I know in my own experience, those days where I pushed myself to socialise more often just left me in a state of misery, even if the actual act of socialising wasn't so bad in itself, but having to process so much (and often, living a life that didn't align with who I was, I felt I was wasting valuable time that could be spent developing myself at home). I think that it's good to make ourself uncomfortable in small doses as required but it's even more important to recognise who we are, naturally, and what we require, and to accept that it's totally fine to be this way.
Hello Ingrid , I understand that the world is challenging with sensory sensitivities and even more when you are an introvert. It seems those ducks appreciated you. I see your point. I relate to you to some extent about isolating and parties. Monotropism ? I don't know about it. I will check it out. The laser analogy is great. Oh yes conversation partners are hard to find but whenever we find them we can forget about the party or the setting and focus on the different topics we can talk about. Yes , going to party can be not fun and as you said you can't know until you go and find out by ourselves. I just wanted you to know that despite the challenges you are unique and here we appreciate you as you are. I know you know that but it's good to remind you from time to time. I also reiterate that I appreciate alot these videos because I feel seen and heard and it's heartwarming that we do share similar things. Have a great evening and good start of the week 😊
@@sicparvismagna1294 haha thank you yes the ducks are nice :) monotropism is an interesting theory i might dive into deeper in later videos. Parties are not fun most of the time, and i find a lot of people don't understand that and think we are "boring" or "shy". Thank you so much for your comment, your comments always make me happy 😊
Hello Ingrid, You are welcome. Yes , I've been through many situations where I was seen as shy or boring... That's why I very rarely if never go to parties. It's among many reasons I've been using the internet to reach out to people like me and I'm glad I find you, Bufo and others. You are very much welcome Ingrid. It means so much to me when my friends tell me I make them happy 😊 Your videos has become a part of my routine. I don't know but while writing this comment I remembered a saying from Corneille I think which says : aux âmes bien nées, la valeur n'attend guère le nombre des années '
¡Aviso! Achtung! Warning! The following video contains “fowl” language: viewer discretion is advised. Collective Universe: “Your usual table mademoiselle?” Ingrid: “Yes, Ingrid INFP, party of one.” Ay, pobrecita, the cosmos seems to be doing everything in its power to thwart your attempts to make a video. It really SUCKS when you find yourself an idyllic spot, hoping for a little peace and quiet, a pause for a moment of personal reflection and suddenly everything and everybody wants to invade your space and all of your senses. I feel for you. Being perceived and judged by the avian community is not always a pleasant experience but being the consummate professional you are, I think you handled things well with feathered friends( fans). If a party has to meet a certain of criteria in order for one to attend then is it really still a party? Lots of unknowns, lots of expectations, unfamiliar people in a possible unfamiliar setting, having to engage and endure superficial small talk for hours on end, feeling pressured to participate in party activities that one might find little interest in or be totally uncomfortable with…and what is your reward for this societal obligation? Probably an overwhelming experience that will take several days to recover from: good or bad. I think small intimate gatherings with people you know and trust are the best way to go. Remember, there’s plenty of other ways to make connections and meet new people which involve a lot less stress. Good luck. BTW: The two ducks are male mallards( recognizable by their green heads and white ringed necks) and are probably a couple. Mallard ducks for some reason have a higher incidence of same-sex sexual relationships than other bird species. Ingrid, I think the two drakes were just celebrating pride 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️and just wanted to show mutual respect for fellow ally.😊 Celebrate pride 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ Celebrate duck pride 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ Happy Trails!
Ducks! My favorites! Yes, meds kinda' dull every thing out, so now you are getting a sensory overload. My youngest daughter is extremely sensitive that way (sound)so it's difficult for her in loud social situations (diagnosed autistic). She's also got her headphones for zoning at home. You do NOT have to have sensitivity issues to be irritated by seagulls. They irritate the crap out of me here (and they have to fly over a mountain range to do that; dedicated *astards). Monotropism is an excellent theory, especially since it was derived by a group of autistic researchers. Who better? Neurodiverse should speak for the neurodiverse, since they 'see' it from the 'inside' perspective. It's almost a hyper-concentrative state. You are now getting distracted, and unable to not 'filter' out those things and stay on topic. Makes it more draining to a certain extent. Some of this may just be normal introvert issues too, or post med adaptation as you re-acclimatize. I still recommend some form of adaptogenic herbal to smooth out the bumps. Post party wind-downs can be hard, since as an introvert you are always second-guessing your actions afterwards ('was I too forward? did I say something wrong? why did I say that?'). You have to learn to let those things go, hard as it seems at first. You'll find the Sensors forget almost everything you say or did anyway (or interpreted it totally differently). Pets help a lot too - don't know if your new home allows for it, or if you are even predisposed towards cat/dogs/whatever (thought you weren't towards dog?). My daughter has her dog (me, I have my rescue Norwegian Forest Cat). The right one can calm and refocus you, and help you 'recharge'. Just got to find what works for YOU, Ingrid.
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I think a lot of introverts, like myself, can relate to a lot of what you're saying and feeling. I've definitely experienced times where my mind would simply not let me focus on something other than what was happening. Like a mental block. Although, more often I'll go more inwards into my own world and basically daydream or create stories in my mind and basically get disconnected from the outside world.
I might use the outside world to create a story in my mind or question what's happening (Ne), but usually the outside world isn't the focus but rather a catalyst for what my mind can create and theorise.
In true intriverted fashion, I've never been drawn to noisy places and crowds of people. I've tried clubs and bars just to do it, and I've been to a concert or two. I've even sung karaoke a couple of times! Karaoke is awkward and I don't love the attention (even from a small crowd), but a large crows of people like you find at a concert can make me cold sweat and my eyes ache from all the sensory information. Genuinely, if a lot is happening (music, lights, people talking and seeing lots of peopple), my eyes will hurt and I might start developing a cold sweat and a mild headache.
Self-care is important. No need to push yourself too hard if you don't feel up for it.
I approve of those ducks.
Hm yeah I really do think that ultimately if you're introverted, this idea to always push yourself isn't actually so useful. And I know in my own experience, those days where I pushed myself to socialise more often just left me in a state of misery, even if the actual act of socialising wasn't so bad in itself, but having to process so much (and often, living a life that didn't align with who I was, I felt I was wasting valuable time that could be spent developing myself at home). I think that it's good to make ourself uncomfortable in small doses as required but it's even more important to recognise who we are, naturally, and what we require, and to accept that it's totally fine to be this way.
@@vondelpete yes exactly, socializing a bit is healthy, but it can lead to overwhelm pretty fast
Hello Ingrid ,
I understand that the world is challenging with sensory sensitivities and even more when you are an introvert.
It seems those ducks appreciated you.
I see your point. I relate to you to some extent about isolating and parties.
Monotropism ? I don't know about it. I will check it out.
The laser analogy is great.
Oh yes conversation partners are hard to find but whenever we find them we can forget about the party or the setting and focus on the different topics we can talk about.
Yes , going to party can be not fun and as you said you can't know until you go and find out by ourselves.
I just wanted you to know that despite the challenges you are unique and here we appreciate you as you are. I know you know that but it's good to remind you from time to time. I also reiterate that I appreciate alot these videos because I feel seen and heard and it's heartwarming that we do share similar things.
Have a great evening and good start of the week 😊
@@sicparvismagna1294 haha thank you yes the ducks are nice :) monotropism is an interesting theory i might dive into deeper in later videos.
Parties are not fun most of the time, and i find a lot of people don't understand that and think we are "boring" or "shy".
Thank you so much for your comment, your comments always make me happy 😊
Hello Ingrid,
You are welcome.
Yes , I've been through many situations where I was seen as shy or boring... That's why I very rarely if never go to parties.
It's among many reasons I've been using the internet to reach out to people like me and I'm glad I find you, Bufo and others.
You are very much welcome Ingrid.
It means so much to me when my friends tell me I make them happy 😊
Your videos has become a part of my routine.
I don't know but while writing this comment I remembered a saying from Corneille I think which says : aux âmes bien nées, la valeur n'attend guère le nombre des années '
🙂very interesting
¡Aviso! Achtung! Warning!
The following video contains “fowl” language: viewer discretion is advised.
Collective Universe: “Your usual table mademoiselle?”
Ingrid: “Yes, Ingrid INFP, party of one.”
Ay, pobrecita, the cosmos seems to be doing everything in its power to thwart your attempts to make a video. It really SUCKS when you find yourself an idyllic spot, hoping for a little peace and quiet, a pause for a moment of personal reflection and suddenly everything and everybody wants to invade your space and all of your senses. I feel for you. Being perceived and judged by the avian community is not always a pleasant experience but being the consummate professional you are, I think you handled things well with feathered friends( fans).
If a party has to meet a certain of criteria in order for one to attend then is it really still a party? Lots of unknowns, lots of expectations, unfamiliar people in a possible unfamiliar setting, having to engage and endure superficial small talk for hours on end, feeling pressured to participate in party activities that one might find little interest in or be totally uncomfortable with…and what is your reward for this societal obligation? Probably an overwhelming experience that will take several days to recover from: good or bad. I think small intimate gatherings with people you know and trust are the best way to go. Remember, there’s plenty of other ways to make connections and meet new people which involve a lot less stress. Good luck.
BTW: The two ducks are male mallards( recognizable by their green heads and white ringed necks) and are probably a couple. Mallard ducks for some reason have a higher incidence of same-sex sexual relationships than other bird species. Ingrid, I think the two drakes were just celebrating pride 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️and just wanted to show mutual respect for fellow ally.😊
Celebrate pride 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Celebrate duck pride 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Happy Trails!
@@VanLykke72 haha lol just wanted to say this comment made me laugh, also thanks for the mental image of the gay pride ducks! 🦆🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Ducks! My favorites! Yes, meds kinda' dull every thing out, so now you are getting a sensory overload. My youngest daughter is extremely sensitive that way (sound)so it's difficult for her in loud social situations (diagnosed autistic). She's also got her headphones for zoning at home. You do NOT have to have sensitivity issues to be irritated by seagulls. They irritate the crap out of me here (and they have to fly over a mountain range to do that; dedicated *astards). Monotropism is an excellent theory, especially since it was derived by a group of autistic researchers. Who better? Neurodiverse should speak for the neurodiverse, since they 'see' it from the 'inside' perspective. It's almost a hyper-concentrative state. You are now getting distracted, and unable to not 'filter' out those things and stay on topic. Makes it more draining to a certain extent. Some of this may just be normal introvert issues too, or post med adaptation as you re-acclimatize. I still recommend some form of adaptogenic herbal to smooth out the bumps. Post party wind-downs can be hard, since as an introvert you are always second-guessing your actions afterwards ('was I too forward? did I say something wrong? why did I say that?'). You have to learn to let those things go, hard as it seems at first. You'll find the Sensors forget almost everything you say or did anyway (or interpreted it totally differently). Pets help a lot too - don't know if your new home allows for it, or if you are even predisposed towards cat/dogs/whatever (thought you weren't towards dog?). My daughter has her dog (me, I have my rescue Norwegian Forest Cat). The right one can calm and refocus you, and help you 'recharge'. Just got to find what works for YOU, Ingrid.