I am not a mom yet, but as an auntie to two precious boys, I am in awe of seeing them grow into their own personhood. Witnessing my friends and SIL, it's life-consuming to be a mom, especially to a toddler; taking moments to yourself and a great support system makes all the difference.
I’m so glad you brought awareness to this topic because I feel like a lot of people don’t talk about the difficulties of motherhood, it is very much so romanticized. I feel like we’re expected to just deal with it, be grateful and that’s all. But in order for us to pour into our families we must be mentally sane ourselves. Love your videos girl & your transparency.
Thanks for sharing how hard it is. Omg i die everyday. And at some point of everyday i feel like I’m going to break and i do and i cry most days.. it’s f’ing HARD!!!!
I appreciate you honesty about motherhood SO much. I'm currently trying to decide if I want to have children and it means a lot to hear your authentic perspective. I love how you described it as being a paradox between love and difficulty.
Gemary, I hear you! I have 4 children, and you’re 100% right. Motherhood is hard and can be very isolating. Physically and emotionally draining. Being left with scraps of un-useable time throughout the day just to do the bare minimum for yourself. I PROMISE you will get some breathing room as your son grows! This stage won’t last much longer. I love my kids with everything I have, but when I hear people say “I wanna have a kid” with stars in their eyes, it makes me cringe a little. You just don’t know until you’re in it.
I have an 18 m old and yes this is the hardest most natural thing I have ever done. 😅 Shout out to all the moms especially the ones who do it by themselves 🙏💕
I completely feel you in this. Especially when you’re a person who loves alone time and previously had a lot of alone time to do all the things that bring you peace and joy. It’s not talked about enough for sure! And the identities part of it…the evolution of becoming a mom is a long one too! Raising a child while transitioning as a person. It’s a lot.
I have a 14 month old and a baby on the way. Parenthood is difficultly and is a constant challenge. There's a lot of change physically, emotionally, and mentally. But the love and reward is priceless ❤ For those that feel the journey is right for them, gather your village cause they are vital and remember to pour love into you so that you have love to pour to your family.
Everything you are saying about motherhood really cements my personal reasons for not having kids, I'm glad you are openly talking about what a commitment it actually is, especially for those who maybe grew up inherently knowing they wanted a family but have never actually asked themselves if that's what they want (myself included). As some of the comments say, it's been very much romanticised. We live in a society that for some reason expects everyone to start a family and unlearning that takes a lot of time and self-introspection. I think, perhaps, making this decision has been the catalyst for my most recent burst of growth.
I have never cried so much as a mum wether it is from deep happiness or exhaustion or guilt or whatever else I can’t even describe as it is such a mix of overwhelming emotions. I work 4 days a week and my husband works full time and I try to do it all in the small amount of time I got at night. I’m never by myself anymore. She is 18 months growing strong and independent and we have no family support. It is so hard and so rewarding at the same time. I SO need time to take a shower without having to worry about her bc I can hear her cry or she is at the door asking for attention. I SO need time OUTSIDE of home but not work related. I don’t get it I won’t get it probably for a while as for now I have no other options. Funny enough you can’t talk about it to other mums in real life bc it sounds like you’re complaining and you’re not grateful and bc I don’t look tired.. The efforts to not look or sound tired is exhausting itself trust me. Anyway, we should support each other more with no judgement and respect always. Women helping each other. It doesn’t matter about your experience when you listen to someone else just listen and be there for them. We don’t ask to be understood but respected that’s already plenty. You can always try to walk in someone else’s shoes but I get that sometimes we are too busy to make that effort but just be present and open your soul a bit. Be kind it’s free at the end of the day.. and takes less effort than judging. Love from my family to yours..
I never comment but I've been watching you for years now and wanted to say I really appreciate your comments around motherhood, especially the "don't belittle how difficult it is to have kids." I've had my own mother make me feel like I'm wrong for not wanting one yet, saying things like "if I did it so can X" or the "if it IS so difficult then you and your siblings wouldn't be here". I think arguments like that are so sad & truly say something about our society and how some think it's okay to push people into having kids for the sake of it (or their own expectations). No reason is valid for those who choose to not have them and who cares if that leads to children being neglected, cus "I just wanted grandchildren, so you are the selfish one for not giving me one." Anyway...🤷♀️
It’s very difficult to know exactly how someone will react to motherhood because everyone is just so different. I wanted to have a child and it’s still very difficult for me some days.. so imagine people that don’t want to have kids or are unsure. In terms of child care/help, having an involved family is VERY helpful but at the end of the day it’s up to the parents, everything will fall on them. It’s just such a weird thing. It’s truly a paradox. This is why it’s so hard for me to give advice on this.. I love my son so damn much.. I’ll do anything for him.. I wouldn’t want to persuade anyone to miss out on that kind of unconditional love….but also, motherhood takes ALOT of me and that is also something that I want to express and bring awareness to because there just isn’t enough of it out there.
@@Gemaryermus definitely and thank you for responding! 100% on the "at the end of the day is up to the parents". I've babysat my nephew multiple times (I'm part of the village) so I've had a glimpse of what that is. There's been so many times I've seen my sister-in-law struggling but then I'm in a situation where I don't know how to help because the kid only wants mommy. I experienced this more as my nephew reached the toddler stage and became more aware. But babysitting him as a newborn IMO involved way more physical effort as a "villager": making sure I'm rocking him, carrying him & moving around otherwise he'd start crying. (babies are heavy!!) I hope you do have a village or people to help you out whenever you need a break though. Don't feel ashamed or shy to ask your closed friends/family for help, even if it's just to visit you. It is a very demanding job and you are so so strong!
Thank you sooo much for talking about motherhood the way you did. I felt SEEN! Because you’re 1000% right that motherhood gets romanticized especially in the influencer space. As a new mom (little guy is 15mo) I rarely hear motherhood being explained like this. ❤❤❤
Thanks so much for being so honest and open about your life as a mom. I have a 6 month old and the emotions you talk about are very real. You’ve always done such a great job at relating to people and I appreciate you being so raw! You’re doing a great job! Being a mom IS hard but it’s so worth it.
Thank you for bringing awareness to this topic Germary! As someone who is undecided about having children, I'm curious about how other women experience motherhood. Of course, I won't truly know what it's like until I experience it myself, but I appreciate the transparency from other mothers. It would be interesting to hear your thoughts 2-5 years from now to see if motherhood has gotten easier 😄 sending love to you and your family. ❤
Sending you a hug! It’s hard taking care of ourselves alone I can’t imagine an entire family and I can say you’re doing the best. Give yourself a nice treat tonight you deserve it 🥲💐✨
Re: motherhood, you took the words out of my mouth. Literally every word. And it was really reassuring to hear that come from someone else, thank you. Also the pressure of working for yourself, ugh, it took me so long to actually take the time I needed to create again let alone do any self care. I gave up on myself for the first year and I was not okay for it. I’ve definitely learned that that is not the way to go. Thanks again, love your realness. X Jenelle
I catch myself leaving anything that has to do with self-care “for tomorrow” and before I know it, weeks go by and I’ve done nothing for ME. We have to be so aware of these things and correct them. The more we nurture ourselves, the better it is for our kid(s).
My boys are 14 and 16, yet I can relate to every word you said about motherhood. The challenges, but also the joys change as they get older, but both are next level. I would not have missed them for the world, but they still test and try me every day. And I guess the day WILL come that I miss having sweaty teen boy socks NEXT TO, instead of inside, the laundry basket 😂😂😂. Thanks for this!!
Can you do a video of baby essentials you bought that were essentials and not essential? I’m a first time mom too and my due date is coming up in a month. I feel overwhelmed with what size clothes I should get for baby and sometimes I think I’ll just wait for the time to come to buy more clothes. 💓💓💓
what a wonderful video Gemary. You always speak sincerely and honestly, you never try to disguise reality and that is why I trust your opinions and advice. Thank you very much for sharing your experiences with us. Certainly motherhood is a subject that is not usually discussed so honestly. have a nice week❤
Love the serious talk. Your attitude about this being a new version of yourself, just your turn of phrase, hit me deep about my situation right now. Thanks for your honesty and you’re so right, motherhood is romanticised so much. Each to their own but I would love to have a child one day.
Yes appreciation is what everyone needs to have , i can relate to everything you are saying enjoy the ride with its ups and downs . Being a parent is non stop and boy we find emotions you would never have dreamt of. Take care lovely lady.
I have a life changing tip for preventing moisture from entering a shower cap. I must've picked this up on someone's TH-cam channel, but cannot recall whose, sorry. Put on one of those microfiber headbands you may use when washing your face prior to putting on your shower cap. My headband is a simple black microfiber material with velcro I got on Amazon years ago.
love this video I have an 8 year old and I understand you! I need alone time but believe me I read somewhere that you just have to surrender to motherhood and it will become easier
Really love you opening up about motherhood + just your thoughts/feelings in general. I'm not a mom, and don't know if I'll ever be one, but it's nice to hear such a realistic perspective. Also I have the same shower cap from Amazon and can confirm its really great lol
This is my first time watching one of your videos really enjoying it. I’m a mom of three. I love this conversation. I’ve been a stay at home mom for four years now and I want to go back to work or start doing more of my TH-cam and it’s so difficult
I’ve been watching you since I was in college and you’ve been an inspiration to me ever since. Never thought that while you’re sharing your journey as a first time mom, I’ll also be stepping on the journey of motherhood in the next three months. Thank you for sharing this, this type of vulnerability is exactly what I needed on this difficult phase of becoming one. 🤍
Pretty off topic, but your vids make me miss living in Miami. ✨The chill, natural, relaxed, classy vibes ✨. I forget about its hectic side😂 I used to live in the grove and I don’t think ppl know how much of an oasis Miami can be. Love your vids!!
my 2&1/2 yrs old son kept fighting more than an hour not to fall asleep...i got overwhelmed and just broke my phone (not to mention that i wake up every now and then to soothe my 2nd baby).Thanks for being honest!
Hola Gemary! Hi from Spain, new mom of a little 8 month old beauty over here! Love your stuff ❤ wanted to ask where your bracelet is from if that’s okay??! Thank you
New to the channel and just wondering where she is from and what country they live in? Accent is beautiful and the slightly tropical trees are throwing me off. Also driving on the other side? Someone help me.
I appreciate the honest responses. I didn’t realize how much motherhood would impact my own mental health! As a person with anxiety and depression I often times wonder what the balance would be like with a baby. 🤍
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I am not a mom yet, but as an auntie to two precious boys, I am in awe of seeing them grow into their own personhood. Witnessing my friends and SIL, it's life-consuming to be a mom, especially to a toddler; taking moments to yourself and a great support system makes all the difference.
Absolutely 🤍🤍
I’m so glad you brought awareness to this topic because I feel like a lot of people don’t talk about the difficulties of motherhood, it is very much so romanticized. I feel like we’re expected to just deal with it, be grateful and that’s all. But in order for us to pour into our families we must be mentally sane ourselves. Love your videos girl & your transparency.
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Thanks for sharing how hard it is.
Omg i die everyday. And at some point of everyday i feel like I’m going to break and i do and i cry most days.. it’s f’ing HARD!!!!
I appreciate you honesty about motherhood SO much. I'm currently trying to decide if I want to have children and it means a lot to hear your authentic perspective. I love how you described it as being a paradox between love and difficulty.
Gemary, I hear you! I have 4 children, and you’re 100% right. Motherhood is hard and can be very isolating. Physically and emotionally draining. Being left with scraps of un-useable time throughout the day just to do the bare minimum for yourself. I PROMISE you will get some breathing room as your son grows! This stage won’t last much longer. I love my kids with everything I have, but when I hear people say “I wanna have a kid” with stars in their eyes, it makes me cringe a little. You just don’t know until you’re in it.
I have an 18 m old and yes this is the hardest most natural thing I have ever done. 😅 Shout out to all the moms especially the ones who do it by themselves 🙏💕
I completely feel you in this. Especially when you’re a person who loves alone time and previously had a lot of alone time to do all the things that bring you peace and joy. It’s not talked about enough for sure! And the identities part of it…the evolution of becoming a mom is a long one too! Raising a child while transitioning as a person. It’s a lot.
I have a 14 month old and a baby on the way. Parenthood is difficultly and is a constant challenge. There's a lot of change physically, emotionally, and mentally. But the love and reward is priceless ❤
For those that feel the journey is right for them, gather your village cause they are vital and remember to pour love into you so that you have love to pour to your family.
Everything you are saying about motherhood really cements my personal reasons for not having kids, I'm glad you are openly talking about what a commitment it actually is, especially for those who maybe grew up inherently knowing they wanted a family but have never actually asked themselves if that's what they want (myself included). As some of the comments say, it's been very much romanticised. We live in a society that for some reason expects everyone to start a family and unlearning that takes a lot of time and self-introspection. I think, perhaps, making this decision has been the catalyst for my most recent burst of growth.
Your transparency about motherhood is very much appreciated ...Real talk and truth! ❤
You're not complaining. We understand 🤍
I have never cried so much as a mum wether it is from deep happiness or exhaustion or guilt or whatever else I can’t even describe as it is such a mix of overwhelming emotions. I work 4 days a week and my husband works full time and I try to do it all in the small amount of time I got at night. I’m never by myself anymore. She is 18 months growing strong and independent and we have no family support. It is so hard and so rewarding at the same time. I SO need time to take a shower without having to worry about her bc I can hear her cry or she is at the door asking for attention. I SO need time OUTSIDE of home but not work related. I don’t get it I won’t get it probably for a while as for now I have no other options. Funny enough you can’t talk about it to other mums in real life bc it sounds like you’re complaining and you’re not grateful and bc I don’t look tired.. The efforts to not look or sound tired is exhausting itself trust me. Anyway, we should support each other more with no judgement and respect always. Women helping each other. It doesn’t matter about your experience when you listen to someone else just listen and be there for them. We don’t ask to be understood but respected that’s already plenty. You can always try to walk in someone else’s shoes but I get that sometimes we are too busy to make that effort but just be present and open your soul a bit. Be kind it’s free at the end of the day.. and takes less effort than judging. Love from my family to yours..
I never comment but I've been watching you for years now and wanted to say I really appreciate your comments around motherhood, especially the "don't belittle how difficult it is to have kids."
I've had my own mother make me feel like I'm wrong for not wanting one yet, saying things like "if I did it so can X" or the "if it IS so difficult then you and your siblings wouldn't be here".
I think arguments like that are so sad & truly say something about our society and how some think it's okay to push people into having kids for the sake of it (or their own expectations). No reason is valid for those who choose to not have them and who cares if that leads to children being neglected, cus "I just wanted grandchildren, so you are the selfish one for not giving me one."
Anyway...🤷♀️
It’s very difficult to know exactly how someone will react to motherhood because everyone is just so different. I wanted to have a child and it’s still very difficult for me some days.. so imagine people that don’t want to have kids or are unsure.
In terms of child care/help, having an involved family is VERY helpful but at the end of the day it’s up to the parents, everything will fall on them.
It’s just such a weird thing. It’s truly a paradox. This is why it’s so hard for me to give advice on this.. I love my son so damn much.. I’ll do anything for him.. I wouldn’t want to persuade anyone to miss out on that kind of unconditional love….but also, motherhood takes ALOT of me and that is also something that I want to express and bring awareness to because there just isn’t enough of it out there.
@@Gemaryermus definitely and thank you for responding!
100% on the "at the end of the day is up to the parents". I've babysat my nephew multiple times (I'm part of the village) so I've had a glimpse of what that is. There's been so many times I've seen my sister-in-law struggling but then I'm in a situation where I don't know how to help because the kid only wants mommy. I experienced this more as my nephew reached the toddler stage and became more aware. But babysitting him as a newborn IMO involved way more physical effort as a "villager": making sure I'm rocking him, carrying him & moving around otherwise he'd start crying. (babies are heavy!!)
I hope you do have a village or people to help you out whenever you need a break though. Don't feel ashamed or shy to ask your closed friends/family for help, even if it's just to visit you. It is a very demanding job and you are so so strong!
Thank you sooo much for talking about motherhood the way you did. I felt SEEN! Because you’re 1000% right that motherhood gets romanticized especially in the influencer space. As a new mom (little guy is 15mo) I rarely hear motherhood being explained like this. ❤❤❤
Thanks so much for being so honest and open about your life as a mom. I have a 6 month old and the emotions you talk about are very real. You’ve always done such a great job at relating to people and I appreciate you being so raw! You’re doing a great job! Being a mom IS hard but it’s so worth it.
Thank you for bringing awareness to this topic Germary! As someone who is undecided about having children, I'm curious about how other women experience motherhood. Of course, I won't truly know what it's like until I experience it myself, but I appreciate the transparency from other mothers. It would be interesting to hear your thoughts 2-5 years from now to see if motherhood has gotten easier 😄 sending love to you and your family. ❤
Sending you a hug! It’s hard taking care of ourselves alone I can’t imagine an entire family and I can say you’re doing the best. Give yourself a nice treat tonight you deserve it 🥲💐✨
Re: motherhood, you took the words out of my mouth. Literally every word. And it was really reassuring to hear that come from someone else, thank you. Also the pressure of working for yourself, ugh, it took me so long to actually take the time I needed to create again let alone do any self care. I gave up on myself for the first year and I was not okay for it. I’ve definitely learned that that is not the way to go.
Thanks again, love your realness.
X Jenelle
I catch myself leaving anything that has to do with self-care “for tomorrow” and before I know it, weeks go by and I’ve done nothing for ME. We have to be so aware of these things and correct them. The more we nurture ourselves, the better it is for our kid(s).
@@Gemaryermus absolutely! I wish I’d recognised that sooner, it is very true. 👌
My boys are 14 and 16, yet I can relate to every word you said about motherhood. The challenges, but also the joys change as they get older, but both are next level. I would not have missed them for the world, but they still test and try me every day. And I guess the day WILL come that I miss having sweaty teen boy socks NEXT TO, instead of inside, the laundry basket 😂😂😂. Thanks for this!!
This is another amazing side of you! Enjoying 🫶🏾
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loved this video! i really appreciated your honest thoughts on motherhood
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Being a mom is exhausting. Romanticizing motherhood is an oxymoron. Edit: Motherhood is not for the faint of heart. 100%
Mother is MOTHERING
i love what u said about motherhood. like i relate so much, especially without the village part. no pressure rightttt
Can you do a video of baby essentials you bought that were essentials and not essential? I’m a first time mom too and my due date is coming up in a month. I feel overwhelmed with what size clothes I should get for baby and sometimes I think I’ll just wait for the time to come to buy more clothes. 💓💓💓
what a wonderful video Gemary. You always speak sincerely and honestly, you never try to disguise reality and that is why I trust your opinions and advice. Thank you very much for sharing your experiences with us. Certainly motherhood is a subject that is not usually discussed so honestly. have a nice week❤
Love the serious talk. Your attitude about this being a new version of yourself, just your turn of phrase, hit me deep about my situation right now. Thanks for your honesty and you’re so right, motherhood is romanticised so much. Each to their own but I would love to have a child one day.
Yes appreciation is what everyone needs to have , i can relate to everything you are saying enjoy the ride with its ups and downs . Being a parent is non stop and boy we find emotions you would never have dreamt of. Take care lovely lady.
CANDID COMPELLING RELATABLE ...thanks SO much for sharing, Gemary ❤
OMG Gemary he's the cutest,chunkiest,sweetest lil boy!! 🌹😍
I have a life changing tip for preventing moisture from entering a shower cap. I must've picked this up on someone's TH-cam channel, but cannot recall whose, sorry. Put on one of those microfiber headbands you may use when washing your face prior to putting on your shower cap. My headband is a simple black microfiber material with velcro I got on Amazon years ago.
love this video I have an 8 year old and I understand you! I need alone time but believe me I read somewhere that you just have to surrender to motherhood and it will become easier
You did a great job of summing up motherhood ❤
Really love you opening up about motherhood + just your thoughts/feelings in general. I'm not a mom, and don't know if I'll ever be one, but it's nice to hear such a realistic perspective. Also I have the same shower cap from Amazon and can confirm its really great lol
This is my first time watching one of your videos really enjoying it. I’m a mom of three. I love this conversation.
I’ve been a stay at home mom for four years now and I want to go back to work or start doing more of my TH-cam and it’s so difficult
I absolutely love you!! You will always bring joy to me when you post!! And even if you decide to stop I wish you and your family the best!
Thank you 🥹🤍
I’ve been watching you since I was in college and you’ve been an inspiration to me ever since. Never thought that while you’re sharing your journey as a first time mom, I’ll also be stepping on the journey of motherhood in the next three months. Thank you for sharing this, this type of vulnerability is exactly what I needed on this difficult phase of becoming one. 🤍
Thank you for this very relatable and timely video.
Pretty off topic, but your vids make me miss living in Miami. ✨The chill, natural, relaxed, classy vibes ✨. I forget about its hectic side😂 I used to live in the grove and I don’t think ppl know how much of an oasis Miami can be. Love your vids!!
❤ the fact that you talk to us like we’re longtime friends 😩🥺 I love it
I couldn’t agree more. I have a 10 month old and I can relate to everything you said. Thank you for sharing your perspective ❤
my 2&1/2 yrs old son kept fighting more than an hour not to fall asleep...i got overwhelmed and just broke my phone (not to mention that i wake up every now and then to soothe my 2nd baby).Thanks for being honest!
wondering what your black top is when you were mention the Brooklyn linen!
Thanks for sharing all your feelings ❤
Oh his name is Aaro! It's a boy name in Finland too 😊
I've said very similar things, also in the context of marriage.
Your baby is an angel god bless him ❤️
🥹🤍🤍🤍 thank you
Hola Gemary! Hi from Spain, new mom of a little 8 month old beauty over here! Love your stuff ❤ wanted to ask where your bracelet is from if that’s okay??! Thank you
Thank you!! I just made it out of an old mejuri bracelet that I had which had broken.. and the charm was a gift from my mom 🤍🤍
Most Gorgeous & Aesthetic MOM in the world ❤❤❤
🥹🤍🤍🤍 ty
thank you for the sandwich idea xx
I agree with each word ❤
That sandwich looks killer. I would splash a bit of juice from whatever was in that jar, pepperoncini maybe? Yum!
New to the channel and just wondering where she is from and what country they live in? Accent is beautiful and the slightly tropical trees are throwing me off. Also driving on the other side? Someone help me.
She lives in Miami.
@@d.caitlinperunovich328 Thank you! That was one of my guesses! Do you know where she is from?
That baby is super cute! Do you see yourself in him?
Thank you! Yes, I see both Roger & I in him all of the time 🥹🤍
Very special video ❤
Adorable video ......🎁☝️❤️😘😘
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Thnk god ur baby isnt a sad beige baby
I appreciate the honest responses. I didn’t realize how much motherhood would impact my own mental health! As a person with anxiety and depression I often times wonder what the balance would be like with a baby. 🤍
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