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- Why does modern dating feel impossible? In today’s world, navigating the dating scene has become more challenging than ever. From managing expectations in the digital age to facing the struggles of online dating, finding love can feel like an uphill battle. This animated story takes you through the realities of why modern dating is so difficult and why it often feels like an impossible task.
If you’ve ever felt frustrated by the challenges of dating in today’s world, this video is for you. Join us as we explore the ups and downs of modern relationships and share the common struggles many of us face.
Want to see more videos like this? Vote in the comments and let us know if you enjoy this story format! Your feedback will help us decide what content to create next, so don’t forget to leave a comment and share your thoughts on modern dating challenges. Do you relate to this experience? We’d love to hear your stories!
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References used for this video:
Meltzer, A. L., McNulty, J. K., Jackson, G. L., & Karney, B. R. (2014). Sex differences in the implications of partner physical attractiveness for the trajectory of marital satisfaction. Journal of personality and social PSIchology, 106(3), 418.
Vohs, K. D., Finkenauer, C., & Baumeister, R. F. (2011). The Sum of Friends’ and Lovers’ Self-Control Scores Predicts Relationship Quality. Social PSIchological and Personality Science, 2(2), 138-145. doi.org/10.1177/1948550610385710
Breines, J. G., & Chen, S. (2012). Self-compassion increases self-improvement motivation. Personality and social PSIchology bulletin, 38(9), 1133-1143.
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This style of video is really good!!
@@DivebombYT That was what we were hoping to hear. Sounds like we are on the right track ;)
Can you french dub it, too?
@@ashleeearl0712 Qui!
Isn't it good to make a video giving advices to someone who cannot control his/her anger against their religion especially if that person experienced mental abuse through it. Either externally or internally (like bible passages, sermons, Schizophrenic voices etc.)
I've been cheated on 3 times, I don't know if I'm just crazy unlucky but this generation doesnt understand loyalty
I'm so sorry you've gone through that-it must feel incredibly painful to experience betrayal multiple times. Loyalty can feel so rare in this generation, and it's heartbreaking when someone breaks your trust. Please know that it has nothing to do with you or something you did wrong.
@@Psych2go ❤️
We dont thats why most of us (men) go for older women theyre pretty loyal plus more experienced ig
@@Just_Tg Interesting perspective! Do you think it's more about experience and loyalty, or could it be something deeper like maturity and emotional connection? Would love to hear your thoughts!
@@Psych2go well, i cant speak for all men but most want someone they can talk to, from what ive seen of course so maturity could play a role and so could everything else but there is a chance it truly could be a deeper issue, i dont have a propper way to put it but "mommy issues" could be playing a part, men looking for a mature maternal role. Of course though we cant be to sure as we arent in everyones head. As for me i just like older women i find them attractive especially the maturity.
Dating in today's world feels impossible because it's no longer about finding real connection; it's a performance. Everyone is so tangled in self-serving games, superficiality, and distractions that honesty and vulnerability are almost alien concepts. It's like trying to build something meaningful in a space where loyalty is fleeting, and the truth is always in question.
"It's a performance."
Always has been...
“It’s a performance “ (gosh! So true)
Not everyone is like that...
Maybe you're just attracted to those types of women for whatever reason and you need to shake things up and try dating someone without the initial attractions or qualities you liked about the other women?
Think about the similarities they all share, and try the opposite, or at least different from that...
And if you're looking on dating apps, try shaking up what you say on your profile...
Maybe ask deeper questions or different conversations?
Find out up front their mentality on the style/quality/mind sets that made the women "self serving, superficial and distracted"....
Be sure to be vulnerable as well in an effort to encourage the same... If they don't share, ask them for it... If they refuse, move on...
So true.
Beautifully said
Biggest challenge for me in the dating world is finding someone with the same level of commitment as me and finding someone who doesn't ghost me when I give them "what they want" from their bio or what they say or ask for
That sounds incredibly frustrating, and I'm really sorry you're going through that. It’s tough when you put in the effort and commitment, only to be met with inconsistency or being ghosted. You deserve someone who values you and matches your level of commitment. Don’t lose hope-there are people out there who are looking for the same depth and sincerity. Stay true to yourself, and the right person will appreciate that!
I just need to find something who as any interest in me ha. When you're from central Wisconsin and don't drunk good luck.
I understand. Similar here.
However, do not bend yourself out of shape to try and give someone what they say they want. Be yourself.
One of the other major issues I have with dating today, is people pretending they are something/someone who they are not.
If I list certain standards in my bio (and I do not think I ask for a lot), I expect them to already meet those. Not putting on a performance that they do, where a day earlier they were a completely different person. To me, this is no different than lying. It aggravates me, considerably.
Meaningful and lasting change comes from within, and takes time. I fundamentally distrust people who try to change themselves spontaneously depending on who they are dating or friends with.
Like, I wish it were as simple as me saying in my bio: “I’m only interested if you are 100% single, not married, not in a relationship, not in an ‘open relationship’, not in a ‘situationship’, or any other type of monkey business”.
But I know that more likely than not, this will not work. A lot of them will likely just pretend instead that they meet those criteria.
And eventually I find out. And then I get mad, not just because they didn’t meet those criteria, but because I made my boundaries very clear and they chose to completely ignored that.
Be the person you want to attract. I espouse monogamous values, yet women that have a history and are even actively non-monogamous still think they have a chance with me by lying. Lying by omission/hiding their past.
I do believe that they want a genuine committed relationship, but I do not believe that they are fit to be in one.
I knew a girl who was very manipulative, and she constantly played mind games with me and played with my emotions. After she “dated” me for just 4 days she broke up with me, and it was revealed that she only got with me to make her ex jealous. I finally stood up for myself, told her how much she hurt me (mainly for myself) and broke all contact with her.
However, I am not a person who would give up easily. I know countless people online constantly complaining saying that dating is not worth it, and I know that there are some toxic people like the girl I knew. But I know there are genuinely good people out there who I will connect with, and I know eventually I will find a truly special girl.
I love that you have such a positive mindset even after this setback. It goes to show you deserve better.
Yeah true. I hope you get the love of your life. There'd be someone special for you too!!
If a girl leaves you, it means she’s not the right one for you. The right girl will not leave you.
You made the wise decision to leave that girl. I commend you for that 👏🏻
@@Psych2go The weaknesses of prioritizing self esteem, even you have high self esteem, is that you're not immune to cultural and societal norms, internalized biases, stereotypes, unrealistic beauty standards, social media comparison, systemic inequality, unrealistic expectations and pressure to succeed.
Good luck to you !
A toxic relationship in my 20s persuaded me I was unworthy of love. Fast forward twenty-five years. I realize now that my net value as a human being is greater than zero, but I definitely have self-esteem issues and I don't see that ever *not* being a thing.
I've missed my window. I'm out of time. I'll keep working on myself, but.. the only hope I have is the same hope a lottery player has, dreaming of winning the jackpot. "You can't win if you don't play."
I mean it's 80% about attractiveness, 20% about money. You can only beat yourself up so much for not being born with a winning lottery ticket.
Try social dancing. I've met older women that I danced with that are fun and enjoyable to be around.
More comments to make myself depressed, yay!!!
How are you unworthy of love? It’s really really hard to get there and not impossible to get out.
Also the lottery is a cursed win. Winning it is like trading friends and family for fake people and a lot of money.
Learn to live life alone and be happy alone. Learn to forgive yourself. Learn to let go and even if the worst were to happen and you somehow never find love, you still lived a life worth living.
@thyholynoodle6282 its simple. Some of us is simply not worthy of womens time.
Overall , I think social media has affected dating . It’s turn people in to options instead of a priority . Not only that “ it’s a hookup culture “/ which many are going the celibate route to unplug from empty ties . Also the more superficial people get - the more people want to stay in a box 🤷🏾♀️
You're definitely making some valid points! Social media can make it feel like people are just browsing for options rather than forming genuine connections, and the rise of hookup culture is a real concern for many. I also see why some might choose to go the celibate route to avoid those superficial ties. But I’m curious-do you think social media can still be used in a positive way for meaningful connections, or has it shifted things too far? Would love to hear more of your thoughts!
@@Psych2go have you seen all this gender warring ? I think the healthiest message come from people who aren’t using their experience to gain groupees . I have received informed healthy feedback on media but it does depend on the content creator or professional . I think people have to unplug from the negative banter on media . Side note - I’m empathic and I truly dislike what dating has turn into :( . I pray that I connect with somebody who takes courtship seriously .
Well said.
A simple way to combat hookup culture and people that turn dating into a game is for those people that are serious like you and I to get together (fyi not asking you on a date ) . Simple fix .
I don't need social media to trick me into thinking I'm undesirable, my real life has proven that to me quite effectively.
Maybe it feels impossible because there are people who are willing to leave good relationships for another person. They’d rather seek someone new than to persevere through conflict
It’s definitely tough when people walk away from good relationships instead of working through the tough times. It can feel discouraging, but remember that not everyone approaches relationships like that. There are people who value commitment and growth through challenges-it’s just about finding those who share that mindset. Don’t lose hope; meaningful, lasting connections are still out there for those willing to put in the effort! 💪
Kinda how people run away from relationships over minor things instead of sticking through
5 year old bond destroyed by her monkey branching me. Never had a clue.
This is why I prefer the old fashioned dating. Although texting on phones is ok (except dating apps).
I agree with you :D
@@ropiliylility Totally get it! Nothing beats a good old-fashioned conversation-unless autocorrect steps in and ruins the vibe 😅📞.
How do you meet new people without dating apps?
@Psych2go, that's happened 😂
Hobbies and social groups@@IsaiahRichards692
I would say the biggest hurdles in dating are the glaring double standards and people quit when a better option, different option, or inconvenience comes along. Most people don’t want to work at relationships they just want to have them.
Not only that, but people flat out bullshit everyone into thinking there's someone out there for them. Like they're an object you can just purchased at the store and return if it isn't for you. There is no one out there for anyone. There is only people out there to meet. Just because there are 6 billion others, doesn't mean any of them want to bother being with you to begin with.
A lot of people are saying that things like vulnerability and loyalty are no longer valued, but that’s not entirely the case. Today, people who open up are labeled as based, clingy, needy, insecure, etc.
People these days want those things but won’t give it in return .
I told someone about my trauma and she said I was unstable and dumped me 😂
In September of 2023, my sophomore year in college, I decided to try an experiment. I was and still am horribly lonely, so I told myself, "I'm going to deliberately and consciously just try to talk to women, nothing big". So that's what I did. Around late September through Mid October there are several festivals and fairs, including the county fair, the largest by far. The experiment was to walk around, have fun, and simply try to strike up conversation with people to increase my confidence. 22 individual days I spent out and about, mingling. In that 22 days, I approached and tried speaking to 47 women exactly. All of them were the same age group as me, if not a little older. My approach was friendly, kind, not intrusive or invasive. I asked how well they were doing at the carnival game they were playing, or asked them if they knew the origin of the merchandise from video games or TV shows that were being sold there. 47 times, I approached women to simply try and talk to them. 47 times, I walked away insulted, belittled, or shamed. They scoffed, snickered, laughed or mockingly gagged at my mere existence. Additionally, I had - up until recently - 5 different dating apps downloaded since March of 2023, I never received a single like or match on any of them.
Now, a year later, I am still single and unbearably lonely. I have developed Nociplastic Pain Syndrome and Generalized Anxiety Disorder as a result of the events of the past, not making my situation any better. Now, I'm buried neck deep in my classes without hope of finding much time to do anything else other than study, sleep, and study after sleeping. I still want a romantic relationship, my desire of that has not waned, but it completely consumes my thinking. Every day between classes I walk around campus to see happy couples holding hands, or hugging each other before entering a classroom. At this point I'm not sure if I'm numb, or in so much physical and emotional pain that my perception of it is skewed. Regardless, all I want to to be wanted, yet the universe continues to show me how clearly undesirable I am. And I have no idea what to do about it.
Relatable af, and i'm a woman. Most people tend to think it's easier for us to get dates or people interested in us but i think that only applies to conventionally attractive women. I'm funny looking and very weird and mentally ill so people won't go near me. And i'm bisexual so i get rejected by both sexes all the time, so that's fun.
You will find the right person, or the right person will find you! It's all about being persistent, working on yourself, and manifesting. I had been single for 27 years before I actually dated someone for more than a couple of weeks. It didn't work out for certain reasons but it did happen and I'm glad it did.
Sometimes, it just takes time
That's rough. I'm sorry. How disappointing and discouraging of them! Sounds like you ran into a ton of really mean girls!
I hope you have better luck next time you choose to venture out! 🫂
I'm guessing you're young since you're still in school/have classes... Give it time for maturity to develop....
Until then, work on healing those 47 rejections you've experienced... And realize that you can clearly handle rejection like a champ to keep going with that many! We're constantly enduring rejections in life, so this is a fantastic strength to build!
I hope you find someone sooner than later!
Do things you love and enjoy, focus on being the best version of yourself, and try making friends with both genders to build a support system... You got this! 🥰🫂
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It sounds like you’ve been through a really tough time, and I can’t imagine how exhausting and painful that must feel. First off, I just want to say that you deserve so much more than what you’ve experienced, and it’s clear that you’ve put in a lot of effort to connect with others, even when it’s been hard.
I think many of us can relate to the feeling of loneliness, especially when it seems like everyone else is finding what you’re searching for. Relationships and dating today can be really challenging, and sometimes the rejection feels personal, even when it’s not. But just because things haven’t gone the way you hoped so far doesn’t mean it will always be this way.
Has anyone else here had similar experiences or challenges? What helped you keep going through the tough times? Let’s keep this conversation going and support each other. You’re not alone in this!
This guy gets it.
Better to be alone than with some one who makes you feel alone
Absolutely! Being with the wrong person can make loneliness feel even louder. At least when you're alone, you're in good company!
I second that…from experience
My ex summed up 💀
Nowadays I choose to stay single. As much as I know there are still good people out there, I'm not willing to take a risk to find someone nice when basically 90-99% are toxic, too troublesome. It's like playing reverse Russian Roulette, all cylinders but one loaded.
Nah, it's russian roulette but with a magazine fed gun and no blanks
I gave up long time ago. Relationships It is not worth it for me anymore.
I used to get depressed about it.. now I feel kind of relieved
Same here!
I’m not even socially equipped to make new friends, yet alone find a significant other
It’s easy to feel that way, but building connections happens one small step at a time. You don’t need to be “socially equipped” all at once-just start with being yourself. The right people will appreciate you for that, whether as friends or something more!
Im kinda tired of always the same bullshit of "just be confident" , its just a lie
True confidence comes from the certainty of good result, whether speaking of relationships or anything else.
Same here dude, i almost gag at another sentence of or similar to "just be confident" so yeah you're not alone pal 💚🍀
Or “””be yourself”””. Like I’m a fucking coniving two-faced loon.
you don't have self love then, true confidence doesn't need outside validation
if u reach into a point where confidence is lacking and the moment comes, then ur gonna lose it without even knowing
When I was 17, I was rejected by my crush in high school. Once my dad found out about it, he asked me “what makes you think she needs you?” “What can you possibly offer her more than friendship?”. Not gonna lie, that traumatized me pretty badly. Today, I have a hard time believing I’m ready to date simply because I don’t think I have much to offer. Even after trying self improvement and continuing to try, I still feel like it’s never enough. But still, the loneliness still gets to me sometimes but I’m lowkey afraid of getting into a relationship. Certainly doesn’t help the fact that there is now some pressure from my family to go look for someone.
Well. Technically he is right especially if she doesn’t find you attractive
@@Duran762dammit 😢
@@Duran762 no, he isn't. It's not your job to pull someone up, or 'offer' them something other than love to be accepted. If they're attracted to you, they'll most likely say yes, of their not, they'll most likely say no. Simple as that.
To be realistic, he is dead correct. Yet there is one critical point he forgot to mention, the whole point of a relationship is to provide unwavering support to one another and that is what makes relationships relationships. Some random selfish asshole is not worth dating right? Exactly. They will not give you support, happiness or anything at all even when you drain yourself on them.
I think you're overthinking too much. I bet you have a lot of free time, find something you really like and start doing it. Get goals and reach every single one. Find your purpose, work on it with all your passion. And finally start traveling more often. You need a lot of fresh air in your life, try not to think too much about being on a relationship that will only cause anxiety. True happiness comes from within, we must be able to love ourselves before we're properly able to love others.
I’ve been “working on myself” for years. I work out pretty frequently I have a decent job. I have hobbies. I’m fluent in two languages and I’m teaching myself a third. I have an advanced degree in a physical chemistry. I play pickleball with my friends pretty much weekly. I tutor in math sometimes. I’m told I’m a talented singer a I’m good at cooking. I could go on.
However, I’m further away from finding love now than I was before I did all of these things. I’ve been working on myself for two decades to the point where I’m a forty-year-old who looks like he’s in his early thirties. Don’t tell me to work on myself.
😢
guess we are just rolling the dice on 1 always...always unlucky
i think the key is meeting new people, with similar hobbies and be persistent about it. If your social circle's been the same for years, things can't change easily
@@petrescu007this
Dude youve turned into such a great person! Even if you dont find a gf, it sounds like your lofe is pretty fulfilling, complete with a good job (that you have implied you dont hate), youve made time to be social and have picked up some very good skills. You dont need to work on yourself to find love, it sounds like you just need to try new places (try church hopping its working for me) 😂
"Love yourself first because we certainly won't" is the general response I get when asking about this
The shittiest thing is I learned when girls are attracted to me, as soon as I get to know them better. It just shows. Now the problem is that all the girls that I knew that liked me were major red flags, and that made me not consider them at all. On the other hand girls that I like don't like me. It's fairly simple to tell actually. 7 years single and counting, there is nothing for me to do, I can just meet other people, meet and meet until I find something both sided, though that happened only 1 in my lifetime.
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
For those wondering, the conversation above is between 2 Nigerian spam bots.
I spent two years following divorce, to work on myself and raise my "self esteem" so i could be happy with myself. Im now retired from dating, happily! Ill take myself out on a date and enjoy it more because of it!
Finding true love has become increasingly difficult in modern times, and when people do find it, they often become overly possessive out of fear of losing it. Sadly, this possessiveness can end up driving the relationship apart.
When I was younger dating seemed a lot easier i miss the old days of getting love notes and being with someone because they like you for you are now it's about what can you offer them like i said before the dating world is not what it once was it's a real shame
Truer words have never been spoken here. I 100% agree with this
@@GregXHunterz thanks
Social Media makes everything unsociable. Because everything is in there, your 'family' and 'friends' expect you to be updated on what they post all the time and when you don't know what's happening to them, they don't tell you or you'd have to ask them. There's no real communication. You'd get posts and reels on your messages but not real messages with genuine meaning. So if relationships are already like that nowadays, imagine about how dating feels like. It's exactly like that. People expect you to know everything just by scrolling instead of talking or getting to know the person. What's worse, they believe in rumors or whatever is out there instead of confirming the details to the person concerned. So everything seems impossible nowadays! It only makes my social anxiety increase!
That's true. Peeps seem to say so much in social media that there's nothing to talk about in person. And if I don't update then no one knows what's going on with me.
My biggest problem with dating is emotional baggage. I still have a lot to work past that I honestly don't want to bring into a relationship. I may be self-confident and have what looks to be a good life. I just have more than I'd like to deal with on a personal level. So dating is the last thing on my mind.
Since I'm in high school, the main problem I have with dating is that people constantly spread rumors, and those rumors are eventually what lead my partner to leave.
I learn just to work on myself and don't look for a relationship. It will happen when it needs too. If you force it if can cause more harm than good.
Fired for dating a coworker? That seems like a civil rights violation.
Ikr
In an ideal world it would be, but you'd be surprised how common that is. Even under slavery they were allowed to date and form families.
@@TeH.j0keRso you confirmed that slavery is pretty much relevant to us today
@@notyourdad361yes
Take it to your union!
Even though my parents tell me I'm a very kind hearted and nice guy unlike other kids they've seen my age, I don't understand why I haven't found love yet. Am I not good looking enough? Everyone around me has someone. I'm trying to be patient but then I feel inferior most of the times.
Did you catch what Psy said near the end? Having (confidence and) self esteem makes it easier to find someone... "I feel inferior most of the time" and "Am I not good looking enough?" both suggest your self esteem and self love need work.
The good news is, you're not alone, and with effort, this can be changed. The length it takes depends on the effort you put into it. For me, it's been awhile with ups and downs, and I still struggle with it sometimes... But I'm confident and more secure enough that it's easier meeting people and taking the risk to talk to them and go on dates.
Unless you never try for the rest of your life, you will find someone! 🥰
The reality is that women don't like kindness. Being genuine and/or vulnerable is suicidal for men's dating game. Dating is a big game and you gotta act like someone other than yourself if you want to succeed. You basically gotta act like her personal court jester.
Engage regularly in activities that you love. Trekking, Singing, Dancing … any hobby that you love. Nothing is more attractive than a person who is enjoying and happy on what they are doing. People are naturally attracted to happy people as somehow they want to be part of that happiness. You be happy and live life happy you will find girls showing interest in you.
I was you 6 years back and felt the same way. Today I have a steady loving, caring and wonderful gf for the past 5 years. ❤
@@HeartsAdventures Thanks a lot for taking out the time to respond to me and giving me the appropriate advice that I need so much. I will definitely work on myself. It's better late than never!!
@@therealsachinReally appreciate you for taking out the time to share your advice and words of inspiration and motivation. I completely agree with you and will keep everything that you said in my mind and change for the better!!
I'm a 23 year old girl and never had a boyfriend. And i feel like i will never have because of the social media. They ruined everything...
Turning 30 next month, no partner yet and dating just suuucks 😂
True,my ex dates an man who is in ihs
Twenties meanwhile she is 17
Also they have never met,its just sending messages and thats it
Omg same sis 😔
Same here. My mom andmy my stepdad had been married for 2 years now, and I keep holding out that hope that I will get a man who hasthe the romantice personality of my stepdad that he has shown to my mom. They're both Christian, so I want a Christian man. But there aren't a lot of single Christian men at my church, and about 99% of the congratulation are married, and I feel hopeful but still lonely. I just want someone who loves Jesus, won't lie, manipulate, or cheat on me, or won't commit. I was hoping that a lot my older Sunday School classmates (ages 52 to like 75) would have grandsons my age.but that's not happening anytime soon.
@@ashleeearl0712 Girl just because a man is Christian doesnt mean he is nice,I know a friend who has the valies of a Christian man but doesnt believe in god but is a very sweet guy
It’s like everyone has someone but me 💀
I feel you! It’s like I missed the memo for the 'partner pickup line' 😅
Im Single 5 years or so buddy ❤ but I feel that too sometimes
@@user-mk6nc1wm5q have you been staying to yourself or are you looking?
Your not the only one
@@crow3370 that’s good to know
I'm having a hard time dating. Some people say that I'm picky, I call it having standards.
Anyway, my first and only relationship lasted more than a year but it was terrible that I had to end it despite not wanting to. My ex was a jerk, didn't really respect me, and always made me feel terrible about myself. I know that we have different social classes but I never did let that get between us. He didn't even go to school during valentines day because he said that he doesn't have classes that day. I even called him that we should meet somewhere after my classes but he still declined. Note, that was my first time having a boyfriend during valentines so I expected at least a date but I ended up eating out with my friends like always.
Then, I found out that he likes my friend and confessed to her. Even asked her out to eat at a fast food place w/c she declined and told me everything. Of course I was angry, if the one he likes is her then why did he courted and flirted with me? Also, he rarely even treated me to street food which was dirt cheap because he had "no money" and I was always the one footing the bill but now he has money to treat her to fast food.
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Then pandemic happened after breaking up with him so I never got to see him again until graduation. I thought splitting up was the end of it but he contacted me 3 times after we broke up (not on a good note). One was a few months before the pandemic blew up, then during our graduation, and then recently, when my brother died. He even commented on my mother's post during the wake. Why didn't he unfriend my family and friends when I unfriended his? I just really want to punch him. It feels like he's treating that we didn't split up because of him.
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So now, I'm really more uptight and "picky". I really do want to date but it's even more difficult with my past experience.
I’m really sorry you had to go through that-it sounds incredibly hurtful and frustrating. It’s completely understandable that after such a painful experience, you’re more cautious and careful about who you let into your life. You deserve someone who respects you, values your time, and puts in the effort. Being "picky" isn’t a bad thing at all-it’s about protecting yourself and knowing your worth. It’s not easy to date after being let down like that, but I truly believe that someone out there will appreciate you for all the right reasons. Take your time and trust yourself-you deserve so much better.
@@Psych2go Thank you so much~ 🥹
You have to love yourself first before you can have other people love you. Nobody is responsible for your happiness. You are the one responsible for your own happiness.
Wrong, only those loved can love. Therefore, there must be a first lover
Its not that simple. You can love yourself and be your own source of happiness, and still be sentenced to rot up in loneliness, because youre not worthy of love, like normal people are, whomst are actually worthy of not just love, but the sunshine and rainbows type of love.
So quit gaslighting people before it gets dangerous, pal🤨
@@anderstermansen130 no one can be their own sourse of happiness, thats ridiculus. We're not reptiles. Its like saying that one can be one's own source of food. Sometimes, problems can't be solved by one person alone. Whorthy is a weird word to bring up, love isnt distributed around like it's a reward. It really is irrelevant how worthy somebody is. Dogs will never be as smart as us and yet they get plenty of love.
I tried believe me when i say that. At this point I'm even afraid to talk to women because they'll either reject me, walk away from me, or say i am harassing them. I'm not the most good looking but i know I'm a funny person and am a gentle loving soul. I went on many dates but never went beyond a first date. The moment i told them my job, teacher, they would simply say "mhm" before they left. I have no wife or kids, but i hope i have one day, and come to an empty home every day. It is why i like yo stay busy at work all the time because otherwise I'd probably end myself because of my unbearable loneliness. My self esteem is non existent that i don't ever think again about dating because i know it'll end up nowhere
Don’t be that hard on yourself I don’t think that the universe is telling you to be alone maybe it’s helping you avoid red flags I understand your frustration believe me communication verbally is frustrating I’m autistic I’m sure there will be someone that will be loyal to you don’t give up.
Dude ypu are not ugly also remember you deserve love and looks dont say anything aboit someone
Being a teacher is goddamn tough, people who do not understand that are undeserving of you
I get what you feel. Why is it always the best, loving, genuine and kind hearted people who are irrelevant and lonely?!
Dating as a woman: a buffet and free cash
Dating as a man: Job Interview
I'll give you this - you are addressing the core problem very well. My lack of dating is completely based on my lack of self esteem. All the reasons that i make otherwise are generally excuses to make myself feel better about not making a change. The idea of not being in a relationship doesn't bother me like it used to - could be because I'm older and have lived life as a married man with kids before. In the end, i understand that being in a relationship won't bring me happiness, my happiness has to come from within myself.
Don't use dating apps. They are a horrible experience that yield little results. Go and do activity you like with other people. That's way better than dating apps.
Right?! Even with confidence apps don’t work, also it’s a huge gamble cuz you’ll never be apart of that persons social bubble , you’re just passing thru it. On top of that many don’t go on there for serious things
I agree so much! Better to go on platforms or communities full of people with the same hobbies and interest, have fun with them, socialize, maybe you fall in love with someone from that pool directly or they introduce you to someone nice. Some apps can do this like meetup or places like facebook groups or reddit, get to know them have fun with them (outside in safe public spaces for the first time). And hey, even if you don't find anyone immediately at least you're too busy having fun with many like-minded friends to even worry about the lack of romance as much as you did back then 😂
Most dating apps are filled with more dudes than girls
The biggest challenge for me being older and dating again since my wife died at 50 has been dating apps. Women seem to all say they want younger than them. This leaves almost no options in my age group.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this, and I can only imagine how tough it must be to navigate dating after such a huge loss. Dating apps can definitely feel discouraging, especially when it seems like the options aren’t there. But remember, there are people out there who are looking for genuine connection, and it’s not always about age. It might take some time, but don’t lose hope-there are others who value the qualities and experiences you bring.
@@Psych2go Thank you for the support, i really appreciate it!
Honestly you'd probably have better luck being a sugar daddy or silver fox (if you have the looks) if you're down for dating someone decades younger than you who may have daddy issues. A good percentage of women your age on conventional dating apps are probably cougars while the rest are picky. You could try dating sites meant specifically for middle aged people I'm sure they exist.
@@agr0nianTV Good advice, thanks! While i've had no luck on dating apps, in real life i do seem to be able to attract younger women interested in hookups or friends with benefits kind of thing. I am lucky in the looks department i guess, but due to the obvious age gap they want it discreet and they're not exactly going to introduce me to friends and family. I might have to look up dating apps specifically for middle age and see if i can find some interest other than cougars. Someone close to my age would be ideal, but i've found it very strange that i either attract much younger women or older. Crazy times we live in.
This is why I don’t try. People rely on dating apps too often, and the law of scarcity has been removed from the equation. I’ll be lucky if I have kids, let alone keep them in custody one day. But I hope you, the other viewers, can find love.
I've given up on dating, I just have no interest in it anymore. Even porn has no appeal to me.
become the enlightened one oh great monk 😂
Thank God I don't date in modern time because it's brutal.
I never understood if it is bad that I don't feel like rushing for "love"?
A lot of people my age around me are having marriages and even kids
The one thing that I remember from my french teacher in highschool is to not ask for someone's number, just give them yours. Shows a bit of self esteem and courage. If they don't message you, it was not meant to be, so go next
Exactly! It’s never right to try and rush things cause then it feels like you both never got to know enough about each other, and see if you’re ready to move forward with it all.
I understand the message of the video and I think you are right however, I think the comments are more accurate in the real reason. Nowadays it is not so much about not seeing your opportunities but about finding someone who is worthy.
read the forbidden book Magnetic Aura on Borlest, and you'll see the secrets they're keeping from us.
Interesting recommendation! I haven’t heard of that book before-sounds intriguing. What kind of secrets does it cover? Would love to hear your thoughts on how it connects to modern dating!
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I give up. I’m tired
I hear you, and I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. It’s completely okay to feel tired and overwhelmed, but please don’t give up on yourself. You’ve made it this far, and that shows just how strong you really are. Take a break if you need to, but know that things can and will get better. You've got this, even when it doesn’t feel like it right now.
@@Edge-mv3jw go to sleep
Rest brother…no need to morn now
Get a dog bud how I deal with it best companion a person needs☺️
Same I also gave up on love
Honestly,it is quite frustrating at times.
Especially for individuals who have low incomes yet would like to date without spending a heck of a lot of funds.
Great video btw.
36 years old and been single since I was 20. It's really hard to find a relationship or want to look when your first love dies before you can express your feelings to them and then your second love leaves you without awarning telling you that you don't meet their standards and expectations. Never argued or had Disagreements. Yet just drops you. The scares that creates is just too deep. Especially when life growing up was already abusive and unforgiving. You don't want to put trust in someone that can just flip on a dime when it happened before. You just want to stay lost in your own world doing the things you love like gaming and anime. Doesn't make it any better when people just say be yourself and they will come when most people don't want you. They want a Fantastical version of you.
I’m very glad you clarified, “feels” impossible, rather than “is impossible”. Cause I’m gonna be blunt, that would just be extremely stupid to say.
Dating and relationships in general are a big waste of time anyway. Even if you do find a good companion, youll have to sacrifice your time and money on them. Why waste that on someone that could leave you at any given time when you could use that on much better things like pursuing your career or dreams. If you ask me, the prize youd get for achieving your dreams is far more grand than finding your "soul mate". Just my opinion though
I love how no matter how crazy the room is, you show a cat and Schlungus immediately is on board
It feels impossible because women live in double standards and aren't willing to put aside their ego to admit they value someone else. Add in all the options they have, but keep vaguely around while waiting for the one who they actually want to just suddenly want them. That guy uses her like a one night stand because she didn't take into account whether she was someone worth being in a relationship for that guy and now takes that bitterness out on the next person. Men constantly told to do better so they go to the gym and therapy. Women distract themselves with more men to keep getting addicted to the courting phase while making themselves lonelier by not having any actual attachments and feeling like people only want her for her body despite being the one setting up the relationships to only be that deep. Women try to use shame throughout social media to bully men as a whole to try and get the guys that they are attracted to, to lower their standards and self esteem to be in her range.
Women just poisoned the well. Women need to clearly communicate and focus on self improvement over relationships to actually be worth dating. They are on the third level of actualization, believing they have value by existing rather than what others get from her. The others generally get looks by default and so don't really work on things like personality which would keep people around for that as well. Men wanting to be treated equally is not recognized because a majority of single women don't recognize that the rules of society changed because of women. They want to be equal yet treated with all the benefits that chivalry awarded them without recognizing the man would also like to have some good in the deal. The more women try and have control over everything, the more stressed they get because they aren't fully recognizing the agency and viewpoints of others and why they come to the conclusions they do. They would rather change society as a whole rather than their approach to life (Behavior, Mentality, Appearance... Things under their control).
This video does nothing to address the reality of dating apps by their own numbers.
On top of that people are increasingly thought of as commodities and disposable.
It also doesn't address the fact that fidelity is increasingly thought of as an obsolete principle.
Yes improve yourself but savoring solitude sometimes will not destroy you either.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! We hear you, and we understand that dating apps and the way people view relationships today can often feel transactional. You're right-fidelity and the way people treat relationships have shifted in many ways, and it's a complex topic. Our goal with this video was to explore one angle, but we appreciate your feedback on what could have been addressed more deeply. Improvement and self-growth are important, but you’re absolutely right-learning to find peace and fulfillment in solitude is just as valuable. Thanks for contributing to the conversation!
@@Psych2go Oh wow, your welcome.
Apologies if I came across too harsh it is not my intent 🙏
Listen, I've tried for the past 2 years after being 10 years single, and at the beginning I had to deal with rejection over rejection. At some point when I reached my twenties, I started "blossoming" (to not say glow up), been the best version of myself, and now not only I deal with rejection, I also have to deal with guys that wants me only for corn, when I want to date them they don't want commitment, and now just recently, I was left on seen 2 days ago after a guy proposed me to get a drink and I asked him "when should we take that drink". We're not talking about 3 guys, but about maybe +10 I was potentially having something with, and it just never ended right not from my end but from THEIR end. I'm just done trying man, it's worthless at this point; it makes me lose my time, break my heart each time and smash the confidence I've built up in years down. It's tiring to constantly ask yourself if you're the problem when you know it's not the case...
I would also add that this thing of "you'll never find someone if you don't have self-esteem / don't love yourself" is complete garbage in my opinion. I've seen people reaching rock bottoms and yet blossoming after finding their loved one, and I find this advice so harmful for people that have serious trouble with being on terms with their own being; some people will NEVER be able to embrace themselves (alone or not). Realizing that bring some peace to some. But it's time to stop pushing the "you MUST love yourself to get someone !!" Because it's incredibly insensitive.
I agree with the last paragraph. I remember a statement someone said once, I don't remember who said it:
"You may look at yourself and think: 'I'm not perfect for myself', but that doesn't mean you are not perfect for someone else."
I like this advice a lot better than the whole: "Learn to love yourself" aspect because you know yourself best and we have all done crappy things in the past. It is hard to look at yourself and think you are a good person especially after taking an honest look at yourself and realizing what shitty things you've done.
Instead of this whole "Learn to Love Yourself" narrative that gets pushed down our damn throats, I prefer:
"Just look at yourself and accept who you are."
That doesn't mean you're a perfect person, doesn't mean you have to force to love yourself, it just means that you are accepting of yourself. It is okay to accept yourself, and it is okay if you don't love yourself. This is who you are. Just know that everyone lives life differently as well and they all have to accept the terrible things they have done in their pasts as well.
Thanks for this video! This is the same advice a friend gave me when I got back into the dating scene. It’s just a sign to me that I’m doing the right things.
Biggest challenge is just finding a response from someone interested in to begin with. 😢 Nothing's really changed other than self improvement and mindset and grindset in the last 6-7+ years but datingwise ive just gotten older, after that long just losing more time trying to find someone doesnt seem likely so the focus just goes back to self and work + enjoying things alone
Yeah don’t listen to social media. Go have fun, do what you love, and love people
Holy shit. Thank you man. I believed that finding something to love was impossible. I've been in love with this guy for a year and he just kept playing with me. And recently I lost fellings. I doubted that anyone cam love me. But you're right. I'll focus on myself for now.
Psy, you are most probably right. But what do you tell people that already gave up? People like me that observed their 36 years of life, never ever used dating apps ever and found that (most probably) all female human life on earth went to a big convention and decided that I am not a person one should ever feel attracted to?
What do you tell people that already gave up?
At 36 you already gave up? My 30s were rough but now at 45 I've come true understanding of myself and feel ready to share a real me. I would tell you "you have time" 😂
Realistically speaking, isn't 40+yo without relationship experience a huge red flag? I'm not even 35 and I feel I am a walking red flag because I don't have any relationship experience @@ShanMcdonald-xs9sh
Just..move on man. You have plenty of other things to do than worry about relationships, and trust me, having a girlfriend or a boyfriend isn’t really that important. Sure it’s expected, but why should you live up to other people’s expectations? Especially as your own person, I’m sure you’ll find a way.
You know I kinda needed this Ive been pretty much suffering from my last break up for a long time and have been pretty bitter but now I realize it failed because nether of us had the confidence in ourselves too keep going so thank you.
The take on dating apps is such utter bs xD I've been on three dating apps at once for a week, swiping as much as the free versions would allow, probably roughly 2000 swipes and 1000 likes total, and what did I get? One like of a fake profile advertising their OF. After deleting my profile's, I decided to try and create an account as a girl just to see how different it truly is. I uploaded a single picture of a random average looking girl I found online and otherwise made the profile as unattractive as could possibly be (no hobbies, smokes, doesn't know what she wants) and I literally got 12 likes not even a minute into having created the fake account. It's beyond ridiculous how unbalanced the dating experience is on these apps, so like lovesick man said, unless you're filthy rich or naturally attractive af, don't even bother.
This is decades old news but I had trouble engaging romantically with women when young. They didn't want to know me romantically, but they all had a friend they thought I would be perfect for. I was great to balance numbers at a dinner party or a social extra. After years of this I gave up and started ignoring women. Suddenly I was flooded with offers and attention. Go figure. But by then I'd adapted. After a few relationships I realized I wasn't lonely, wasn't interested in being caged and used, and was happy alone doing my own thing. Advice. Don't waste your life on the relationship that may or may not come. Build your platonic friendships with people who will be with you for life.
Wow. I almost scrolled right past this video, because... well... I don't date. But a part of me has _long wanted to,_ or at least wanted companionship. So I went back and clicked, and you had me from the beginning. I could relate to this . I recognized my "lack of time." I recognized myself sitting on the couch like the possible future of the lovesick man. That hurt, saddened me, and shook me awake. The realization that I'm trying to meet some fantasy image (of myself and maybe the lady, too) also got to me. And the note from the lady at work, who invited him to join a group of her friends... it was so sweet. (Please, ladies, feel free to make the first move! It's incredibly touching and rare for many guys.) There may be more going on in me than a lack of self-esteem, because I _think_ I'm okay in that department. But I'm adding this to my favorites, to watch again. Feeling lovesick at the moment, but a bit more hopeful than ten minutes ago. Thank you, P2G. Thank you, Psi. Like the ghosts in "A Christmas Carol," your alternate futures may have saved my life.
"Just work on your self esteem bro"😂
Modern dating is dead. I am a man who has never had a hard time getting dates with any race of women. People are largely lost into believing social media is real and wanting that lifestyle and just not kind in general. Very selfish nowadays. Even my bi friends who have a larger pool than me cant find someone so as a hetero male... im stuck.
I get where you're coming from, and it really does seem like social media has changed the way people approach dating. It’s frustrating when even those with more options are struggling to find something real. How do you think we can move past these unrealistic expectations and get back to real connections? Would love to hear what others think too!
@@Psych2goTo be frank we can't. Social media will never go away and practically everyone uses it. There are constant comparisons, very different communities, very different advice, and straight up fictional fantasies all to attract/retain viewers not to mention the majority of influencers are just trying to make money.
@agr0nianTV let's start a trend where we all delete social media 🎉
I think the biggest challenge for inexperienced guys in the dating market is about finding out about the subtle signs that a girl might like him and how guys respond. Many of us don't even realize that someone at work or in public might like us and we tend to shy away from them. I have a female coworker that always looked at me for a bit and looked away and I chose to think she was being weird but i realized later on that maybe she has a thing for me and I chose to believe it was not possible because I am an introvert. I recently tried to talk to her but I haven't found the opportunity yet. Wish me luck everyone. I'll try again soon.
I'm having hard time to date because I might cause toxic in a relationship because of my ADHD and short temper. Thank you reminding me I need some self compassion to improve myself more than ever. I hope and pray that everyone will self love themselves properly in order love others. Thanks for everything again.
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Arigato Koziamasu! Genki desuka?
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Another good tip that would fit in this video is getting support and help from the people around you. Let close friends and family members you trust know that you're looking for someone, or if they have a friend or someone they know that catches your eye, ask them to introduce you. Meeting someone through someone is far less sudden and scary than just being walked up to randomly. Even if it doesn't work out, just knowing that someone else is in your corner and happy to help you work at this is far less stressful than just jumping in by yourself, taking every setback and failure in the chest and feeling like you can't count on anyone but yourself. Honestly it's good to reach out and have people you trust to talk to about what you're struggling with in almost all factors of life, but dating is a particularly tough beast that you would do well to face with backup!
Took me some years to find my girlfriend, many crushes and many rejects before her, but as the time went by we became closer as friends first, then I did the big jump and asked her out ! She may have health issues but she's my whole world since then ❤
Remember all, there's surely someone for you out there ! It might take some time, hell yeah a lot of time, nobody gets in a lifetime relationship on their first shot, gotta stay strong ! Take care of yourself, make yourself happy, your other half will come with time 😌
I love watching this channel video, even they never ever help me 😊
Love is just not a thing for me.
A teacher is teaching a class and she sees that Johnny isn't paying attention, so she asks him, "If there are three ducks sitting on a fence, and you shoot one, how many are left?" Johnny says, "None." The teacher asks, "Why?" Johnny says, "Because the shot scared them all off." The teacher says, "No, two, but I like how you're thinking." Johnny asks the teacher, "If you see three women walking out of an ice cream parlor, one is licking her ice cream, one is sucking her ice cream, and one is biting her ice cream, which one is married?" The teacher says, "The one sucking her ice cream." Johnny says, "No, the one with the wedding ring, but I like how you're thinking!"
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Thanks Cy. Best dealing with modern dating 101 I've seen in a bit.
These comments makes me want to give every single one of y'all a hug and to tell y'all everything will be alright. And this is coming from a girl who hates being hugged or touched.
Illusion of choice, enough said. Always the possibility to find something "better" due to easy access to dating apps etc. Tech have come far in such a short period, humans haven't addapted to it. We aren't used to having a device which you can be contacted by anyone 24/7
Me who gave up on dating after being dumped by one single girl once and because of that i started to despise/hate the idea of finding myself dating again because i don't want to be heartbroken twice: Yep, this generation is doomed to no longer date :/
Hey at least girl was actually interested in dating you. 32 and haven't had a single girl show interest.
@@Ty921 Dude, that's when i was on the 9th grade at school, that's like 5 years ago, and now i'm a couple of weeks away from turning 20, and i'm still despising the idea of finding a girl who's ACTUALLY interested on me, because i know she's lying. That's why i started rejecting every single girl who's into me ever since that one single dump from that girl i was into
@@onnerus1GD you can´t let a single experience determine your whole view of a relationship. It´s like the "don´t let a few bad apples define a community" quote. Keep trying, boost your self-esteem and belive in yourself.
@@SygiFR I tried a few times before, and all of them ended up on the same result: failure. So why would i keep trying if i already know the final result anyway?
@@SygiFR today is kind of reverse, most people are bad apples
Is there any women out there who still want a forever healthy and loving relationship with boundaries, equal role titles, respect, no toxicity or animosity included?
no
Umm…..😬
I remember when I would be devastated over and over again because 18 year old chicks weren't looking to settle down.
@@AshGreen359 now they're all pushing 40 and have been run through by the same type of toxic dudes for the last 20 years.
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I've done everything except for the date on socials. That worked.
Which is why I call it Anti-Social media. The very first members of the Anti-Social social club were people that spend all day glued to facebook, Instagram, twitter, etc.
I saw it coming. Never had any sm except TH-cam.
i love this message❤
Love the A Christmas Carol reference
My biggest problem with modern dating is that people only seem interested in me for as long as I act like I'm not. I'm not into playing that game. I want to be able to communicate my real feelings, and have them received with appreciation.
This is a new format than usual. I like it.
I'm not usually interested in meeting women, but I enjoy group social dances. They're fun and you get a chance to talk too girls and whatnot.
Sometimes, it is hard to find a girl to relate too and, if I'm being honest, I doubt we would find "the one". But I have fun being with friends whose company I enjoy being around. They have made my life more enjoyable.
My parents told me to not give up on myself, and I felt like giving up so many times. They told me not to so I won't.
I'm in a very distinct situation. I'm unable to work and so I don't have money coming it as I fight to convince my state I'm disabled enough to get disability. I have no car, no money to even buy groceries, I'm reliant on my parents for anything financial and God bless them for their generosity, because I'd be homeless without them. I want to pursue a relationship with someone but I'm unable to and have been unable to for the past 4 years.
This was very healthy, and essential! Thank you, always!
This was a good reminder that i need to break a few old habits of mine. Gonna work on trying to get on a health care program so i can get some long overdue therapy. Thank you psi!
You know, this speaks to me and I agree with all of this. My story is that I broke up with a partner that in my eyes was perfect…but I ended up hurting them anyway because I couldn’t communicate my feelings and I didn’t give them the attention they wanted. This has been my problem my entire life actually (after thinking things over). So what to do; they said it best in here, work on yourself and I did.
Yeah it sounds cliche sure, but there is truth to it. My take on confidence is that confidence is like light from a lantern; I think a lot of us want to shine our lights so that others can see it and find us, but things come to either block or extinguish the flame. We have to stock our fires for ourselves, or else we are lost in the dark and no one will see us.
Please make a video like this about avoidant personality type of attachment 🙏
People leave so fast and without opportunity for problem solving these days. No communication, just one tiny little ick and they’re out
I found someone who's just as traditional as me, someone who's loyal, caring, loving, thoughtful
The only thing in the way is distance, thing is she has epilepsy so she can't drive till she's clean for a while, and I've still got to get my license but I haven't found someone willing to drive me or has time, I'm not giving up on this 😊
Wow, an interesting format! Well done! I didn't expect it, and it was quite hard-hitting. Please, keep it up!
What helped me alot as well is working on my "shadow work". Like i struggled most of my life thinking I'm not lovable and creepy which i struggled subconsciously. Once i worked on my shadow, i knew that nothing ever was wrong and that there's more opportunities to find a date than meets the eye
A video on the "Romanticization of Romance" would be good, imo.
As a generation, we are so focused on romance that we fail to see the dangers of romantic encounters. Being in a relationship with someone who is toxic too us is worse than being alone.
I understand this will cause people to feel more celibate but I think it is better to understand where this idea of over-glorifying romance is to begin with.
My autism has been my biggest hurdle, as it makes interactions with people even more difficult. Screwing over conversations and not getting social queues that comes so natural for others... And yes, over my thirtyfive years, I have gotten better with it all. But still, it feels like failing... And people saying keep on trying, whilst noble is also tiring after hearing it so many times. With rejection and rejection.
I've personally given up, it doesn't help that many of the people around me who have had relationships are no divorced and claiming to be happier than ever.
same, im autistic, the way I got to build myself up to a dateable point, is by being the biggest "egoistic" person ever, but thats not actually true, just by other peoples eyes, sometimes a TRUE person can see me the way I really am, thats when I get a date, also not caring anymore by basically nothing helped lol, Ive been broken for so much time to a point I do not care anymore, I just do my shit
also try to be vocal about ur doubts and feelings and openly admit autism, it really helped me
Nor would you want to go through toxic relationship, and waste half of your life, instead you rather be on your own,instead of extra trouble maker,just being used and abused, rather not be slave to a toxic person etc
This video goes on the assumption that all that is out there (for both make and female) is a yes or no situation.
Most times you have to read into a relationship before it potentially starts because there are a lot of people out there who just aren't worth dating. While at a young age, giving relationships a try in the hope that said potential partner isn't a gold digger or emotionally abusive (most of what I've found recently), once you hit middle age you don't have the time to waste on feeling people out like that.
I'm fine with a "no" but the fear of some of the "yeses" is what has pulled me down.