Surprised Your Cat Doesn’t Like to Cuddle? Here’s What You Need to Know
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 มิ.ย. 2024
- If your cat isn't a cuddler, you're not alone! Cats are unique individuals, and many prefer affection in their own way. Various factors influence their behavior, including personality, past experiences, breed tendencies, and health issues. Understanding your feline's body language, creating a cozy environment, and building trust through positive reinforcement can help foster a stronger bond. Even if your kitty isn't a lap cat, it likely shows affection through following you around, slow blinks, and head bumps. Embrace your cat’s personality and find joy in its unique ways of expressing love.
I adopted a kitten from the shelter. He…just never was a cuddler. He always wanted to be where I was, and would follow me from room to room, but he wasn’t a lap cat. It worked for us-I loved him to death. He lived for 15 years before cancer took him away from me. It’s been 20 years since and I still miss him.😢
"Gracias por compartir tu sincera historia. Parece que tuviste un vínculo maravilloso con tu gato, incluso si no era un gato faldero. El amor y el compañerismo que compartiste son realmente especiales. Lamento tu pérdida y Es comprensible que todavía lo extrañes después de todos estos años. Siempre ocupará un lugar especial en tu corazón 💔🐾".
@JosieJOK.......I still miss my lap/cuddler which I had since she was six weeks old, I lost her to cancer just short of her 20th birthday. That was 11 years ago, my present sweety is none of the things my cuddles was but lovable in her own way.
@@Vicki-sq4jw "I'm so sorry for your loss, Josie. Losing a beloved pet is never easy, especially after so many wonderful years together. It's heartwarming to hear that your current kitty has her own special ways of showing love. Each cat is unique, and it's beautiful that you've found joy in both of their personalities. Thank you for sharing your story."
My cat likes to sit next to me and be petted for long periods of time, but she will never curl up on my lap. She was dumped off at my niece's farm and was covered with ticks when discovered in the barn. I think her traumatic experiences as a kitten are the reasons for her lack of desire for intimate contact.
"Thank you for sharing your cat's story. It sounds like she's been through a lot, and it's wonderful that she found a loving home with you. Cats can have unique personalities and preferences, often shaped by their past experiences. It's great that she enjoys being petted and sitting next to you, and with time and patience, she may become more comfortable with other forms of affection. You're doing a great job providing her with a safe and loving environment."
We have had several cats that were very reserved, I had to be very patient and wait for them to come to me for pets. It took time but they came to me when they wanted loves. One we have now will not sit in my lap but gets up on the sofa and lays next to me. Sometimes she will tap my arm to let me know it's time for head rubs. I do have one girl who loves to get in my lap so I can enjoy the time with her cuddling. Cats are wonderful creatures to share your life with.
"Thank you for sharing your experiences, Rhyta! It's wonderful to hear about the unique personalities of your cats. Being patient and letting them come to you on their own terms really makes a difference. It's great that you have one cat who loves to cuddle and another who prefers to be close but not in your lap. Cats truly are amazing creatures, and it's so rewarding to share our lives with them."
Some Cats don't want to admit their warm devotion. My black-fur, 9 year old, George, likes to wrap around my feet -not sit on me. I had a Tabby, Penny, who would sit behind my head, on chair when I watched TV,....at times, during Winter, both would join on my bed -other times, sleep where each wanted too. Glad to have Cats.
"Thanks for sharing, Jonathan! It's wonderful to hear about your cats and their unique ways of showing affection. George and Penny sound like they brought a lot of joy and warmth into your life. Each cat has its own special way of bonding with us, and it's great to appreciate those moments. Glad to hear you're enjoying the company of your feline friends!"
Have had 6 cats and only one liked cuddles on laps and in our arms. One, upon turning 14 yrs old!, suddenly allowed belly rubs !
"That's fascinating! It's amazing how each cat has their own unique preferences, and it sounds like you've experienced a variety of personalities. It's especially interesting that one of your cats suddenly allowed belly rubs at 14 years old. Cats never cease to surprise us! Thanks for sharing your story."
Our female cat came to lay on our chests when still a little kitten. Getting older she got a bit more reserved, no more laying on chest or lap. However she sleeps on a chair next to my bed, or in my wife’s office on a sofa. She always rubs her head on our legs, weaving between legs. When in the mood, she loves to be scratched on her head and lightly stroked on her back and chest. Her front paws can be touched and held. Usually she lays on the floor when she likes to be touched, or just touching my hand with her head when moving next to me. She also blinks slowly, mostly when I blink slowly as well. She never likes to be lifted or held in the arms.
"Thank you for sharing about your female cat! It's wonderful to hear how her affection has evolved over time. It's clear she has her own unique ways of showing love and seeking comfort. The head rubs and slow blinking are such sweet gestures. It sounds like you've created a loving and understanding environment for her, respecting her preferences. Cats truly have their own special ways of connecting with us!"
Not all cats like to cuddle, we just leave them be. They're friendly and like to be around us, they just don't want to be quite that close. Some of those have been cats that weren't so well socialized as kittens. Others have been cats that were very well socialized. We had one little guy that was always with us wherever we were but didn't really care for pets or cuddles and did not at all want to be picked up. Sometimes he'd sleep on the bed, down by the foot. But usually he'd find a comfortable spot a few feet away from the bed. But he loved being close to us, he was hardly ever more than 10 feet away.
"Thanks for sharing your experience! It's true that every cat has its own unique way of showing affection and being close to us. It's great that you respect their boundaries and let them be themselves. It sounds like your little guy found the perfect balance of being near you while maintaining his comfort. Cats really do have diverse personalities!"
Mine is a former feral, and isn't a cuddler. She likes pets and sleeps with me, and makes sure I don't fall into the toilet and checks for assassins and spiders in the shower.
"That's so sweet! It sounds like your cat has found her own unique ways to show affection and take care of you. Former feral cats can have their own special quirks, and it's wonderful to see how much trust she's placed in you. Thanks for sharing!"
Yup! No more alone time in the bathroom
I got my cat when she was 2 1/2 months old as me being a mom for the first time to a kitten she was born in a shelter in Long Beach California. She was fostered out by a foster parent until she was adopted out and that was me when my brother saw her for the first time when she was a baby he said she’s gonna be a good cat trust me. She’s not a bad cat. There’s times things she’s done as a kitten and that’s a kitten so yes, she had torn up the bottom of my chair and bottom of my boxspring on my bed, but she did not scratch up anything anything on the outside of the furniture and she’s been doing really well with that she is now four years old when she was a kitten she was all over me and she would let me hold her like a baby at times. Have a lot of pictures of that when I first got her, she turned four on May 5 of 2024, but when she was growing older from a kitten to a young older kitten, she tried to get in my lap when she was younger, but my belly is in the way I have a couch that pulls me up so she has no room to lay on my lap. She tries so hard to do that but now nowadays she just puts her front hind legs on my lab when the rest is on the arm of the couch that’s how she tries to get as close as she can to me, sometimes she’ll lay next to me crawl up in a ball but she hasn’t done that in a long time. She will sit next to me, but I really wanted to cuddle cat but I do love her dearly and she is my baby.
"Thank you for sharing your beautiful story about your cat, Cindy. It sounds like you've built a wonderful bond with her over the years. It's touching to hear how she tries to get close to you despite the challenges. Every cat shows affection in their own unique way, and it's clear that she loves you dearly. Cherish those moments of connection, even if they aren't exactly as you imagined. She's lucky to have such a loving and understanding mom. Happy belated birthday to her!"
Mine is part ragdoll. I adopted him as an adult. He DEMANDS attention and cuddles EVERY time he walks into the house; that's quite a few times each day 😁 Literally packs a sad if it doesn't happen 😾 He often sleeps on his rug on my bed but around 3/4 am he DEMANDS a snuggle INSIDE the bed, as close as he can press against me; purring like crazy 😸 That lasts about half an hour and then he's back on his rug; except.. I'm awake now. 😐 Some nights I close me bedroom door so I can catch up on sleep. 😁
"Your ragdoll sounds like such a character! It's wonderful that he's so affectionate and loves his cuddles, even if it sometimes interrupts your sleep. It's clear he feels very safe and loved with you. It's great that you've found a balance by sometimes closing your bedroom door to catch up on sleep. Thanks for sharing your heartwarming story!"
My Mia is a rescue from FLA that was transported up the coast. I have had her for 5 years and she very slowly became a cuddler, but only on hr terms. Everything is on her terms. I am her person and everyone else has to keep their distance until she sees them a lot and only then will she come into the room while others are there and only if I’m there. She is such a vulnerable love bug that I spoil her because she trusts only me, and I’m Ok with spoiling her all the time.
"Thank you for sharing Mia's story! It's heartwarming to hear how she has slowly become a cuddler on her own terms. It's clear that you've built a strong bond with her through patience and love. Spoiling her sounds like a wonderful way to show your appreciation for the trust she's placed in you. She's lucky to have you as her person!"
have a Russian Blue that 'adopted' us and refused to go back to his original home. Came from an environment where there was multiple young children and a cat hating partner. He snuggles up on cold nights, is kept indoors of a nighttime and generally has his own way. Definitely very independent cat though. Was very different from my former tamed feral tabby cat who just wouldn't let me out of his sight and was always waiting for me when I got home from work.
"Thank you for sharing your story, Gerad. It’s amazing how cats choose their own homes and people. It sounds like your Russian Blue found a loving and safe environment with you. Each cat has their own unique personality and preferences, and it’s wonderful that you’ve experienced different types of bonds with your cats. It’s heartwarming to hear how much they mean to you!"
They are just like people, some like hugs, some aren't as comfortable with it. I have 2 cats, 1 wants to be on me a lot, the other 1, sometimes. When he's had enough he leaves. DON'T force it! And don't tease!
"Absolutely, that's a great point! Just like people, every cat has their own preferences for affection. It's important to respect their boundaries and let them show affection in their own way. Thanks for sharing your experience and advice!"
I had one cat that was a total stage 5 clinger, She would have been happy with me carrying her around for her entire life
or being on my lap. Another cat that lived till 17 was on my lap about 5 times, she liked to lay resting against my feet or
between my feet while sitting in a chair or reclining. They are all different.
"It's amazing how different each cat's personality can be! It sounds like you had a wonderful variety of experiences with your cats, each showing affection in their own unique way. It's one of the things that makes having cats so special. Thanks for sharing your stories!"
I started to do the hug a day method. Every day I would pick him up and hold for as long as he wants and in no time he was a cuddler at night and loves having interaction but not lap hugs. But that's good for now.
"That's a great approach! It's wonderful to hear that the hug-a-day method has helped your cat become more affectionate. It's all about finding what they're comfortable with, and it sounds like you've done just that. Keep up the good work, and it's lovely to see the bond growing stronger!"
My boy was never a cuddler, nor does he ever make biscuits. He follows me and loves going downstairs, like the playroom area.
"Thanks for sharing! Every cat has their own unique way of showing affection. It sounds like your boy enjoys spending time with you in his own way. Following you and enjoying the playroom area together are his special ways of bonding. Cats truly have their own personalities!"
My 4 year (ish) old girl i got as a rescue 2 years ago, was more of an “in same room/within arms reach” cat until early this year when i rescued a feral kitten, now she likes to spend much more time with me (both by herself and with the kitten) and is honestly like a different cat. I thought she was fine as an only cat, but i think i was mistaken and she was depressed. She had spent most of her life and a sanctuary with lots of other cats prior to living with me. I hadn’t had a single cat for any length of time prior to this and likely never will again. Minimum 2.
"Thank you for sharing your story! It's heartwarming to hear how your girl has blossomed since you brought the kitten into your home. It’s amazing how having a companion can make such a positive difference in their lives. You’re doing a wonderful job providing a loving environment for both of them. It sounds like they’ve brought a lot of joy into your life as well. Minimum two cats sounds like a great plan!"
My little Deja doesn't cuddle. She just wants to be beside me and petted. She loves to get on my bed, roll over, paws up and be petted.
"Deja sounds adorable! It's great that she enjoys being close to you and getting petted. Every cat has their own way of showing affection, and it sounds like you've found a special routine that makes her happy. Thanks for sharing your story!"
My girl is a big cuddle bug and lap warmer. Her brother likes the night shift. My boy loves being picked up and hugged being big and plushy. My girl doesn’t like to be held.
"That's so sweet! It's amazing how each cat has their own unique personality and preferences. Your girl sounds like the perfect cuddle buddy, and it's great that her brother enjoys being picked up and hugged. It's wonderful that you embrace their individual quirks and love them for who they are!"
@@goldfishh26 thank you. I love their quirks. I never knew how much better having a pair was until I got them. Twice the love twice the quirks.
My 2 cats love to beg for attention and curl up on top of me when I'm sleeping. But they both refuse to be held in any shape, form, or fashion.
"That's so interesting! Every cat has their own unique preferences when it comes to showing affection. It's great that your cats enjoy curling up on you while you sleep. Understanding and respecting their boundaries is key to a happy relationship with them. Thanks for sharing!"
Mine too
"It seems like many cats have similar preferences! It's great that they still show their affection in their own way. Cats definitely have their unique ways of expressing love. Thanks for sharing!"
One of my rescues refuses to be touched even after having her for over two years. I have about given up on her. She is the hardest personality I could imagine. I have had no luck finding a cat behaviorist in my area.
"I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough time with your rescue. Some cats, especially those with difficult pasts, can take a very long time to warm up to human touch. It's great that you've been so patient with her. Even if she doesn't show it, your care and understanding mean a lot. Have you tried using treats or toys to help build trust? Sometimes small, positive interactions can make a big difference. Don't give up hope-she might come around in her own time."
@@goldfishh26 I’ve tried everything. I should have been able to charm any cat by now. My other two are so much easier, even though they all came from the same colony. She just refuses to let me touch her. She’s not food oriented. She loves to play, but not that much with me. Catching her for her vet visits is a nightmare. Right now, I’d settle for being able to pick her up when necessary. No one seems to be able to help me. The shelter where I got her just told me to throw her favorite treat into the carrier and shut the door on her when she goes in to get it. Funny! 🤦🏼♀️
I had my cat since she was six weeks old, she had been known to sit on my shoulder though not too much of a cuddler even then, she also used to eat food I prepared for her, chicken, turkey with eggs and cheese thenby the time she was about eight months, somebody told her that her food is supposed to come in cans so she stopped eating my cooking. She's an extremely fussy cat though she eats mostly canned and grain free dry food, she does not like catnip except in some o her toys. (my house looks like I have at least four toddlers) she does oblige me once in a while with eating a couple of leaves of catnip when her grass is not yet finished growing. She does rub her head against my leg and does come and sit with me for a while and lets me pet her head, she'd even sleep beside me on her special spot once in a while. She's the only cat I ever had who is not a cuddler but that's how she is, she's OK otherwise, she'll be 11 in July. I love her regardless.
"Thank you for sharing her story! It's clear that you have a deep bond with her, even if she's not a big cuddler. Each cat has their own unique personality and preferences, and it's wonderful to see how much you respect and love her just the way she is. Happy early birthday, She sounds like a very special cat. 🐱❤️"
My kitty is big. I think my lap isn’t comfortable. He loves to come up and make biscuits when I’m in bed.
"Thanks for sharing, Wanda! It sounds like your kitty has found his own way to show affection by making biscuits when you're in bed. Every cat has their unique way of bonding, and it's wonderful that he enjoys those special moments with you. Comfort is key, and it's great that he feels safe and happy with you!"
Truth! anyways Neighborhood stray Tabby a tom chose me. In our 3 yr relationship I have learned,, Cats are not Dogs. and Unconditional Love. Since he came from outside I let him out .He comes and goes. It takes much to let something go that you have come to love. He and I are getting closer by the day so long as I don ´t put expectations on it. ( and have a stock of FF Fancy Feast!) . Cats´ are honest and don´t kowtow. Tabby THTC The Heck with That Cat or Tabby TTC Trust The Cat .. depending.
"Thank you for sharing your story, Lynn! It's amazing how cats choose us and teach us so much about unconditional love and trust. Your relationship with Tabby sounds truly special, and it's wonderful to hear how you're respecting his independence while building a bond. Having a stock of Fancy Feast definitely helps! Cats are indeed honest and unique in their own ways. Keep enjoying your journey with Tabby!"
@@goldfishh26 THTC b/c heś been on the roam since 10 pm last night! smh.. I love him regardless. He will be back at 10 am for FF (Fancy Feast) I know the routine very well. Cats´ are cool!
@@JLynnBkNy "That's quite the routine, JLynn! It's great that you understand and respect his adventurous spirit. Cats really are cool, and it's wonderful to see how much you love and care for him despite his roaming habits. Enjoy your time with him when he comes back for his Fancy Feast!"
@@goldfishh26 He´s home and sleeping it off .. TTC Trust The Cat ....
Our adopted 15-year-old only wanted to lie near men and rest her head in his hand - but spent hours in any woman’s lap who would sit still that long.
"That's so interesting! It's amazing how cats can have specific preferences for affection. It sounds like your 15-year-old cat has found her own way to connect with everyone in the household. Thanks for sharing your story!"
We have just adopted a 5 year old cat who has been abused and it is terrified of everything and everyone. We have left all doors open inside the home, but if we walk into a room the cat is in, it immediately scuttles away. You cannot get near or touch the cat. Does anyone have any advice on how best to break down the barrier. We have bought toys and use Feliway Spray in the house as a calming process but nothing seems to work.
"Hi Jenny, thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like your new cat has had a tough past, and it might take some time for them to feel safe. Patience is key in this situation. Here are a few tips that might help:
Create Safe Spaces: Ensure your cat has plenty of places to hide and feel secure.
Routine: Stick to a consistent routine for feeding and playtime to build trust.
Positive Association: Use treats and gentle praise to create positive associations with your presence.
Quiet Time: Spend time sitting quietly in the same room without trying to interact, allowing your cat to get used to your presence.
Slow Movements: Move slowly and speak softly when around your cat to avoid startling them.
Every cat is different, so it might take some time for them to come around. It's great that you're using toys and Feliway spray. Keep being patient and loving, and hopefully, your cat will start to feel more comfortable. Good luck!"
My two year old CH cat has never been a fan of regular treats. Only type of treat he has ever showed interest in is moist like the squeezable.
"It's great that you've found a treat your CH cat enjoys! Cats can be quite particular about their preferences. Squeezable treats are a great way to bond and provide a special snack. Thanks for sharing your experience!"
I can pick them up like a baby for hours sit on my lap lay next to me but they don't like when I'm laying down and cuddle them
"That's interesting! It sounds like your cats have their own preferences for affection. It's great that they enjoy being held and sitting on your lap. Each cat has their unique
My Swedish house cat jumps up to my lap by her own several times a day and wants to be pet. She is definitely a cudler. She also likes to sleep close by. We also had a Russian blue mix that was very social.
"That's wonderful to hear! It sounds like you have a very affectionate cat. It's great that she enjoys cuddling and being close to you. Every cat is unique, and it's lovely to see how their personalities can vary. Thanks for sharing your experiences with your Swedish house cat and your Russian blue mix!"
Hey thanks, nice video. What in the world is a moggy??? LOL.
Good question!
"Thanks for watching! 'Moggy' is a British term used to refer to a domestic cat, especially one that doesn't belong to a specific breed. It's a cute way to describe our lovable, mixed-breed feline friends. 😺"
"Thanks for watching! 'Moggy' is a British term used to refer to a domestic cat, especially one that doesn't belong to a specific breed. It's a cute way to describe our lovable, mixed-breed feline friends. 😺"
@@goldfishh26 Ok. Here in NYC I call my kitty Miss or Girl or Pup (she still hasn't caught on to that one yet) or Cat or GetOutaDaWay. LOL!
All my cat does is bite me.
"I'm sorry to hear that! Cats can bite for various reasons, such as playfulness, overstimulation, or even trying to communicate something. It might be helpful to observe when and why your cat is biting to better understand the behavior. If it continues to be a problem, consider consulting with a veterinarian or a professional cat behaviorist for guidance. Remember to use positive reinforcement and be patient with your furry friend."
I know my cat loves me I know she does She reminds me of my late Aunt. She was my best friend i loved her more than anything but she wasn't one for any type of affection eather. I think 💬 my cat is a reincarnated Auntie 😘.
"That's such a touching sentiment! It's wonderful how our pets can remind us of our loved ones and bring back cherished memories. Your cat must bring a lot of comfort and joy to your life, just like your Aunt did. Thank you for sharing this beautiful thought! 😘"
Why the random speech sign in your advert?!
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I have 2 kitties and neither like to sit on my lap. My one kitty is 16 yrs old. I had to give him anti bionics and now has bad diarhhea. Does anyone know a cure. I been giving probiotics but not helping.
"I'm sorry to hear that your kitty is having a tough time. Since the probiotics haven't helped, it might be best to consult your veterinarian again. They might need to adjust the treatment or recommend a different approach. It's important to address diarrhea in older cats promptly to ensure they stay healthy. Wishing your kitty a quick recovery!"
@@goldfishh26 thank you so much. My vet tried everything but I am going to call another place that help rescue animals
@@susandowler5271 "You're welcome, Susan. It sounds like you're doing everything you can to help your cat. Seeking another opinion is a great idea. I hope you find the help you need from the rescue organization. Best of luck, and keep us updated on how things go!"
Interesting, cats actually do not like to cuddle, that are hunters and work alone in hunting, not in packs! #AnimalBehavior
"That's a great observation, Soniya! Cats are indeed solitary hunters by nature, which can influence their behavior and preferences for affection. Each cat is unique, and while some might enjoy cuddling, others prefer their personal space. Understanding and respecting their individual personalities is key. Thanks for sharing your insights on animal behavior!"
@@goldfishh26 you are most welcome. I think we have always to be careful before projecting human behavior patterns on to animals, don't you think?
@@soniyasinha3496 "Absolutely, I agree! It's important to understand that animals have their own unique behaviors and instincts that are different from humans. Respecting and learning about their natural behaviors helps us build better relationships with them. Thanks for sharing your perspective!"
THANKS TO EVERYONE FOR ALL THE TIPS AND INFO ABOUT CATS DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES. IT WAS SO HELPFUL!