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It's the most common bond in life. The majority of couples, married or not, are bonded by trauma. Humans have a responsibility to heal from their traumas before expecting or wanting someone to share life with them. I'm not finna do life with nobody's broken son. Heal from your mama and daddy before you come find me.
That part made roll my eyes so hard, I would never let my bf/husband talk to my brother like it’s his son. Who df you think you are talking to my brother like that🤦🏾♀️
is it just me or does it seem like Derrick's sister is jealous? She continues to say Ashley needs to be the center of attention, when Ashley is in fact very humble. Shes beautiful and it makes her sister upset that's the REAL issue.
Yes, unless we are not seeing the full picture. Ashley seems pretty down to earth. Ashley is good because if you keep bringing up what I’m doing on social media, you will get blocked. Problem solved
Derek is the most emotionally healthy person there and I love it. I love when people set boundaries and refuse to compromise their values at the expense of their integrity.
A good man will help a good woman become a great woman; a great woman will help a good man become a great man. If you plan on staying stagnant, plan on staying single... growth is critical for relationships and No good man wants a women who shares her sexuality with every other man. No child wants to see or wants their school friends to see naked photos of their mother and shouldn't have to. FACTS
I dont like how they tried to suppress the little brothers feelings. The man called him flamboyant and told him find a woman. The sister called him a diva and he's taking up for her smh. I would have left too.
This the comment for me! I mentally left the show when the brother did cause hmm ion like no one took up for him ESPECIALLY when he called was being homophobic toward derrek !
Storming off like a child and ignoring his sister's feelings was acting like a diva. If he really cared about his sister's feelings he would've genuinely listened to what she had to say. He could've maturely expressed his reservations but respected the fact that she's grown and that's her choice. He doesn't have to like him but he didn't have to be rude either not shaking his hand. He knows good and well that he would be offended if someone did that to him. He felt like he could tell ppl about themselves but no one can tell him about himself bc he refused to hear it and abandoned his sister so clearly it wasn't about her or he would've stayed out of respect for her. He could've stayed and still not gave his blessings and expressed why. Instead he behaved like a child. Will wasn't the only one in the wrong. The brother was too. The difference is, only one of them was mature enough to apologize.
That's called boundaries. Yall want a responsible man BUT y'all don't want to be responsible. Again, that's the reason men should never waste their time marrying any of yall. It's a total waste of Time. He clearly stated he doesn't want his wife to be showing her private parts and sudeenly he's a controlling freak😂😂. Damn, that's why we men are becoming Passport Bros. You lots don't deserve no good man for real
The groom's family have issues. So because his cousin died he shouldn't get married. They're sick. He's not defending her but wants her to defend him. Please shift!
William comes up like a very insecure, misogynistic little man. All those muscles are just a coverup for how small he is inside. Ashley previously married a very controlling & abusive man when she was young and sadly she’s replaying those same patterns. His family is clearly just jealous & pressed; everything they said just sounded like jealousy. She’s a FITNESS influencer, naturally she will show her body, but there’s nothing inherently wrong or dirty about a woman’s body. If he’s that threatened, then he needs to deal with his insecurity because he knew what her job was when he meant her. He thinks she is “his woman” and has to do what he says, and wants some old 1940’s era relationship, but that’s not relevant anymore. If he wants some relationship where everything goes his way and the woman cooks and cleans and dresses up the neck, then go find that. But don’t try to change her when you know who she was when you met her. And he was trying to come at Derek, but Derek has been dealing with angry little homophobes like William his whole life. He was not bothered at all. If I was Ashley I would move on. That bulked-up muscle-rat is not what she needs.
@@melissaholder4231 When those “standards” are nothing more than misogyny, patriarchy, minimization of women’s rights, and suggesting that a woman’s body is inherent bad…those aren’t “standards”. It’s just garbage.
@@frankiehammond8963 She wasn’t. If she was, Instagram would have deleted the pictures. Do we not know the difference between wearing few clothes and being “literally naked”.
I would really love an update. The younger brother was so immature but what the fiancé said to him about being flamboyant and to get a woman was disgusting. And this man picked a woman who makes money as an influencer is sleeping with her before marriage but now holy rollin’. Don’t think the family is jealous, I think they’re judgmental.
@@47Ronin15 I agree he got mad because the brother is disrespectful not his lifestyle choices. He did cross the line when he brung up his lifestyle choices tho. He wrong for that.
His lifestyle was just the punchline…. He went off cuz the lil ignorant was disrespectful from jump. That energy and attitude got matched and no you don’t get to pick what ppl say when they go off on u! 🤧🤣
The fact that the groom blew up at dinner over the cousin telling him about a photo that he hasn't seen was very telling. The sister is very jealous of the Ashley. The mother knows that side of her son's temper. Ashley should run...
Well she is causing confusion and drama so she can run, but God knows she can't hide. Accountability is necessary for Ashley and any woman seeking a commitment needs to learn to make sacrifices such as dealing with the messiness.
Religious hypocrisy always leans in favor of the man. How many men do u know currently under spiritual discipline for wrong doing??? I’ll wait. ⏰. They prove women should not follow religion. They need to only obey God NOT man. MEN r not GOD.
His mother was mean spirited from the beginning. How are you upset about people being happy to see each other? She is miserable. Her son telling his Brother in law to get a woman, his mother needs to get a man.
I’m disappointed in the way Ashley’s family turned their backs on Ashley’s brother. And didn’t acknowledge the issue with the fiancé who threw low blows and jabs. This isn’t right. They need therapy and take their time. Ashley wants to please her man yet she’s not being true to herself. This needs work.
If he is a punk then that’s what it is. Y’all can’t force people to be except that bs! God is just as grossed out by it has Derek. He’s what God destroyed in those two cities…like it or not!
Derrick sees past the Groom's b.s. and knows the hurt that his sister has been through. I believe that he also sees the similarities in the groom & his sisters ex, and will not tolerate or be triggered by their actions.
Social media is a serious conversation. It's important to respect each other and come to an agreement. Some men are comfortable and some are not, and that's ok.
Then instead of him trying to change her fine someone who is equally yoked and has the same stance on that topic. This man is not for her and I hope she sees that.
I was glad to see (on her IG page) that she actually heard and changed. Still promoting and being an influencer. But she considered him in it… that’s cool!
His sister is really jealous of Ashley. The way she looks at her, so venomous. It didn't matter what Ashley did his sister just don't like her. WIlliam is controlling.
I don't know if it's her being jealous but we definitely just doesn't like her. I knew she was still going to say no at the end and not giver blessing.
She needs to run! Ashley’s brother is correct about William’s behavior and energy. In addition, she did not herself time to heal/thearpy and attracted the same type of man in a different body. This is trauma boding.
His family is so jealous of her its obvious. You can tell from the sister and moms vibes on that couch in the beginning they’re mind is already made up about her ! I wish she didn’t marry him.
@corielleclayton6073 I wondered about the sister too. Is she coming from a place of genuine concern or underlying jealousy? Is the fiance TRYING to be the center of attention? Or is the sister mad because "she" sees the fiance as the center of attention?
I don’t Believe the mom is jealous, I truly think she wants the best for her son. But you’re right about the sisters. The mother was seeming to be getting along with Ashley at the dress fitting.
Honestly the little brother was right, groom was out of line in that argument and didn’t apologize well. William probably does need her, she doesn’t need him. Groom’s sister seemed jealous. Her post was not inappropriate to me. Bless their hearts.
I completely agree. When he started getting defensive,disrespectful and loud, that’s a huge issue. Verbal abuse! He showed his true colors. He not only disrespected her at the table but her family.
yeah i got those vibes too , like they were a little jealous of her , i understand that okay you should hold yourself to a respectable standard especially now that your married but the girl is pretty .
Why did they just gloss over the fact that he told that young man to get a woman. I would be done too! She’s wrong for not addressing that on camera immediately.
@@MariamsadventureThe reaction itself spoke volumes. Instead of doing something different, he ended up highlighting exactly what they were raising concerns about. Wanting to be in control of everything else but himself lol.
Derek is not wrong. Just because he's young it doesn't mean that he is not intelligent. Just because he's telling the truth un-filtered they using his youth, saying brat, not raised like that etc. Derek is right and he doesn't like the groom controlling 1970s behaviour to this young girl who wants to show all herself on the internet etc. The groom is borderline holds anger and it will burst out and destroy their marriage if they get married. That is just my views. But in my heart 💜 100% Derek is right. I wish them all well.
Ashley is a gorgeous confident woman…I think that his mom and sisters are envious of that. They came in stale and stank. William is definitely showing red flags, I think it’s more insecurity than anything.
The sisters are definitely jealous. They are comfortable with themselves , their looks, and body and project that on to Ashley. I think the mom is just old school. 😊
OK be honest William tried to be friends with the guy in spite of him being flamboyant and acting like a diva so it was the gay guy causing the problem
Homophobic meaning he didn’t co-sign to a man acting like a woman? Y’all want everyone to agree with that nasty behavior. Even God disagrees that it’s nasty and foul🤷🏾♂️
I felt like Ashley's brother was the most genuine person there. He seems to be close with is sis ain't sticking around for the bull ish. This groom seems to be one.
I wish I could like this comment again. Not shaking a hand is not setting a good start but Will really showed how he felt at his core. Grandma is really saying we don’t agree with Dereck’s sexuality when she said we didn’t raise you that way.
Williams family is JEALOUS!!!! Ashley’s Ig photos are nothing lolllll I was expecting something wild. Shorty was at the gym. Is she supposed to wear a burka to the gym? 😂😂😂
This episode was so disgusting and disappointing to me. Her brother didn’t shake his hand but that paled in comparison to the disrespect he experienced from her fiancé and NOBODY addressed it.
Derek had the most sense. He identified the red flags, it's so frustrating to see everyone turn against him just because he didn't want to shake that man's hand. It felt like the fiance was using that as a way to deflect from all the other valid red flags that Derek brought up - signs of him being controlling, him yelling, and so on. And for the fiance, he met her as an influencer, but now he wants her to stop? Like why did you even approach her if that is not what you want in a partner...His family is full of judgemental Bettys who come across as insecure, jealous pick me's. A very disturbing dynamic, I hope Ashley sees the light and is able to run away as fast as she can.
Coming at the brother the way he did crossed the line completely! That showed his true colors .. "it was a lot on him" girl *eye roll* stop justifying his red flags!
Do they not understand what influencers do? His momma and family are needy and negative. They want him all to themselves. Let them keep him hunni!William immediately took his family’s word about the photo and starting talking to Ashley crazy. When her brother tried to defend her he blew up. Ashley ignores Williams behavior. Derek may be immature but he is spot on about what he is seeing.His sister is going to be an issue.
It’s crazy how will manipulated the situation with Derrick he flipped the whole script to deflect how wrong he was at the kitchen table to “Derrick disrespectful for not shaking his hand.. did anyone else catch this one thing about controlling men they like to draw a wedge between you and any male figure in your life anyone seen will grin when Derrick left and everyone looking at him like he’s the crazy one … did they not see how fast and angry will got ?
@@MrTwonetwonewhy should she have to tell him ANYTHING about his fiancee when he MET her doing what she does? And her private areas were covered...and that brother can make his point but he was out of pocket coming through the door, but her husband to be needs to calm down with the neanderthal way of thinking
Why does his family follow her on social media if they don’t agree with her lifestyle? Also, she looks good but the robe post was tacky. No rhyme or reason
Yes I agree! This why I unfollow my ex its no need to be friends on social media. And yes she shouldn't post the robe pic but her other pictures looked ok.
The brother didn’t call Will germy. He was saying in general he prefers not to shake hands because of germs. He offered a dap and explained he why he didn’t want to shake hands. William chose to make it about disrespect when it was really a boundary. It seemed like because it didn’t happen how William wants, then it was disrespectful instead of being like maybe he has a thing against germs
@@KrysBrown89actually he only HELD his cousins hand. The grooms sister was on Derrick’s other side and you can see that she only has her fingers kind of sitting on top of his hand, not a full hold. I’m guessing as a compromise to holding just as Derrick offered a dap as a compromise to a full fledged hand shake. Will just wanted to control the interaction and when he couldn’t he tried to control the narrative and when that didn’t work and Derrick refused to bow down, Will lashed out with the homophobic insults. Then will got mad again when he couldn’t control whether Derrick accepted his apology or not.
I see people in the comments saying his family is hating or jealous but they are telling the truth ! Save that for your husband not the internet . And then it gives off the wrong image, I’m sure she is a good girl it’s just the perception that we see
I hate the way he spoke to her brother, I agree with her brother and I hate how he was dismissed. Imo there's nothing wrong with her picture 🤷🏿♀️ he's trying to dim her light.
What the groom doesnt understand is that when you violate someone's manhood because of your opinion those are deeply rooted feelings that dont go away with a handshake after you blew up on them
THAT WOMAN IS BEAUTIFUL SHE IS GOING TO TAKE PICS OF HERSELF AND SHOW THE WORLD ...ITS UP TO YOU TO DECIDE IF YOU WANNA DEAL WITH THAT BUT DONT ASK HER TO CHANGE...
The brother was right 🤷🏾♀️ the groom has angry issues period . And the one sister is just jealous of Ashely. I hope his family sees this and how ugly they treated them people .
Derek had every right to feel the way he felt. His sister just got out of a marriage with a controlling man just to get into another relationship with another controlling man. He definitely needs to check his anger. Get some anger management
his mother and sister have the nastiest stick up vibes. see some jealousy. Ashley is beautiful . certain pictures shouldn’t taken if in a relationship however her body isn’t their business… her fiancé mentioning her faith being the reason for not doing things instead of him telling her not to post is funny and a lie
Derek is 1000000000% on the money!! I’m with Derek. Everybody is trying to make him agree with something he don’t agree with and he standing on it❤❤❤ love it!!
His sister seems like a good judge of character. I would have told them that I don’t agree, but I’ll give you my blessing because you’re my brother and it’s your life.
Its messed up how her brother went to war for her honor and she tried to put him on blast for the love of her man in front of her and his family which is what her narcissist fiance wanted. His family saw right throught it. His sister said ashley likes attention. She could have pulled her brother to the side.
Sheesh, just went to her IG apparently they stayed together n have kids. May god continue to bless this family. I wonder if that sisters still a hater LMAO
She escaped from a controller en leapt in the arms of another one. She should have waited to recover and find out why she stayed so long in a abusive relationship.
OMG! The best part was when DJ hopped in that truck!! Baby!! He said, “Guess what Ion care!! I felt him and I agree. The groom is way too controlling fa me!!
Derrick’s sister is a problem!!! Ashley’s brothers outburst is concerning…..and Derrick’s reaction to her brother is concerning😱🎯. Hope they’re able to work things out completely
I strongly feel like no one should never tell anybody that they’re dealing with about their past because now I start to see that a lot of people will use or take advantage of peoples past and still trying to bring it into the future. I just pray for this woman to have better days and to literally take your time to get married. If you just got out of an abusive relationship, you shouldn’t be jumping into another one not everybody’s going to be your superhero you gotta be your own.
I also feel like his family doesn’t like her because of her vanity and that’s the same reason why he wants her. If she wasn’t into herself, he wouldn’t want her. The sister also seems jealous tbh.
You shouldn’t have to change yourself and what you like for a relationship. He should love you the way you are, flaws and all!! When she said she needed to get the wedding dress top changed… Im like oh no… she gonna be changing things the rest of her life… she’s going to be miserable… he definitely has control issues…
Her brother is a jaded queen and Im sure he doesnt have positive relationship with friends, they just sit around and read each other all day...THATS WHAT ITS GIVING...
@naiyanna2151 There's alot of Toxic people together that shouldn't be, yet you commented under a post about a man who doesn't respect boundaries, so that means you must be a woman with a man who is doing the same and unstable. The only emotions and personal experiences that was triggered was yours.....that's why you were emotionally moved to comment. And any man who's marrying a woman who's posting herself in her robe with pictures over her privates is a Beta.....The Comforting Lie versus the Unpleasant Truth
I love how everyone gives grandma her flowers on how amazing she looks!!! Queen and Ashley is beautiful. She looks like a mix between MC Lyte and La La before all this surgery. I hope she never feels pressure to alter her natural body for social media fame. God bless this family.
He had issues since the beginning about social media, but you stayed with him. She moved in with a man the day after she signed her divorce papers. The brother throwing stones in a glass house, but hides his hand when the stones get thrown back. Everyone else knows they have no business being together.
How dare the sister said I will find you someone else sound so bitter and jealous she needs to mind her own business and find her self something better to do than be in you brother relationship smh
I started watching only to judge once this girl stated she was still legally married when they met. Disorder, confusion and peace can’t exist within the same frequency.
The sister feels threatened by the fact she was able to help him heal thru the trauma of his brother/cousin’s death and he didn’t get that from her. She needs to get over it and realize another woman can take precedence over a family member in their life. Sis needs a life IMMEDIATELY lol
They're more focused on why Derrick didn't shake his hand but didn't even have a conversation about the comments Will made. I don't blame Derrick for leaving
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Bonded by trauma is one of the most dangerous attachments.
It's the most common bond in life. The majority of couples, married or not, are bonded by trauma. Humans have a responsibility to heal from their traumas before expecting or wanting someone to share life with them. I'm not finna do life with nobody's broken son. Heal from your mama and daddy before you come find me.
Definitely co-dependent. This is why both families said they need to work on themselves first before getting married
@@rayecaters2uexactly! I absolutely agree with you
Absolutely
So, they should bond over what?
Aside from everything else ....I LOVED HER GRANDMOTHERS SPIRIT AND LOVE FOR HER!❤
The grandmother is a 🤡 she gave her blessings to a narcissist
He’s disrespectful to her family !!!! He crossed lines and the way he lashed out on her brother , I can only imagine how he acts with her alone
Sure is. Find him to get a job and a girlfriend. Sir, please worry about your half naked fiancé!!
he gets so mad so fast especially when her brother is telling the truth
Derek started the disrespect by not shaking his hand that was very weird and rude
That part made roll my eyes so hard, I would never let my bf/husband talk to my brother like it’s his son. Who df you think you are talking to my brother like that🤦🏾♀️
Exactly!
is it just me or does it seem like Derrick's sister is jealous? She continues to say Ashley needs to be the center of attention, when Ashley is in fact very humble. Shes beautiful and it makes her sister upset that's the REAL issue.
She’s plain blank jealous 😂 can’t believe it! To the point of wanting someone else for him wow😮 Ashley is literally comfortable in her skin…
Yes, unless we are not seeing the full picture. Ashley seems pretty down to earth. Ashley is good because if you keep bringing up what I’m doing on social media, you will get blocked. Problem solved
Yes, it’s the first thing I thought!
Yes, especially when she said Ashley needs attention after Derrick left
Yes very jealous Ashley ain’t did nuthin she just a hater period
Derek is the most emotionally healthy person there and I love it. I love when people set boundaries and refuse to compromise their values at the expense of their integrity.
Her brother felt that energy from her fiancé long before. That’s why he didn’t shake his hand.
Exactly !
Yup! I wouldn't have shook his hand either.
Her brother needs to grow tf up.
That gay needs to grow up
Good way to start on neutral ground then? NOT! He was just seeing the opportunity to get famous like his sis, but he was playing a diva.
It annoys me when a man meets you a way , gets you , and then wants to diminish the very thing that attracted him to you…
Those where my thoughts.....I'm like she didn't just start taking these types of pictures
Exactly 💯
They met at an interview not a Instagram DM
Nice watch
A good man will help a good woman become a great woman; a great woman will help a good man become a great man.
If you plan on staying stagnant, plan on staying single... growth is critical for relationships and No good man wants a women who shares her sexuality with every other man. No child wants to see or wants their school friends to see naked photos of their mother and shouldn't have to. FACTS
I dont like how they tried to suppress the little brothers feelings. The man called him flamboyant and told him find a woman. The sister called him a diva and he's taking up for her smh. I would have left too.
I disagree. He disrespected him first when he didn't shake his hand. That's not right.
Facts find a girl everyone’s acting like the man isn’t gay why would he need to find a woman at all so sad
This the comment for me! I mentally left the show when the brother did cause hmm ion like no one took up for him ESPECIALLY when he called was being homophobic toward derrek !
Storming off like a child and ignoring his sister's feelings was acting like a diva. If he really cared about his sister's feelings he would've genuinely listened to what she had to say. He could've maturely expressed his reservations but respected the fact that she's grown and that's her choice. He doesn't have to like him but he didn't have to be rude either not shaking his hand. He knows good and well that he would be offended if someone did that to him. He felt like he could tell ppl about themselves but no one can tell him about himself bc he refused to hear it and abandoned his sister so clearly it wasn't about her or he would've stayed out of respect for her. He could've stayed and still not gave his blessings and expressed why. Instead he behaved like a child. Will wasn't the only one in the wrong. The brother was too. The difference is, only one of them was mature enough to apologize.
She needs to restrict his family members from her page . They are too judgmental.
And jealous
@@DarlingWheresthecoffee correct!!!
Exactly 💯 They admit to watching her daily... BLOCK ‼️
@@DarlingWheresthecoffeeheavy on the JEALOUS.
She needs to block her man too 😂
The groom showed exactly what the bride’s side was talking about.
Yeah I can see it
Yes, he did!
That's called boundaries. Yall want a responsible man BUT y'all don't want to be responsible. Again, that's the reason men should never waste their time marrying any of yall. It's a total waste of Time. He clearly stated he doesn't want his wife to be showing her private parts and sudeenly he's a controlling freak😂😂. Damn, that's why we men are becoming Passport Bros.
You lots don't deserve no good man for real
Being controlling... Yeah ... I agree
You have to understand he is frustrated and the high level of stress is real
The groom's family have issues. So because his cousin died he shouldn't get married. They're sick. He's not defending her but wants her to defend him. Please shift!
😂😂 I was confused. What does the cousin have to do with it.
Please shift lol 😆 I have too use this 1!!!
Naija girl. Last sentence gave you away. hehehehehehe
@@evadburns gave me away? Wym? I'm a proud naija babe.
I think she means it gave away the fact that you’re a Naija babe.
William comes up like a very insecure, misogynistic little man. All those muscles are just a coverup for how small he is inside. Ashley previously married a very controlling & abusive man when she was young and sadly she’s replaying those same patterns. His family is clearly just jealous & pressed; everything they said just sounded like jealousy. She’s a FITNESS influencer, naturally she will show her body, but there’s nothing inherently wrong or dirty about a woman’s body. If he’s that threatened, then he needs to deal with his insecurity because he knew what her job was when he meant her. He thinks she is “his woman” and has to do what he says, and wants some old 1940’s era relationship, but that’s not relevant anymore. If he wants some relationship where everything goes his way and the woman cooks and cleans and dresses up the neck, then go find that. But don’t try to change her when you know who she was when you met her. And he was trying to come at Derek, but Derek has been dealing with angry little homophobes like William his whole life. He was not bothered at all. If I was Ashley I would move on. That bulked-up muscle-rat is not what she needs.
Having standards is not insecurity.
She was literally naked
@@melissaholder4231 When those “standards” are nothing more than misogyny, patriarchy, minimization of women’s rights, and suggesting that a woman’s body is inherent bad…those aren’t “standards”. It’s just garbage.
@@frankiehammond8963 She wasn’t. If she was, Instagram would have deleted the pictures. Do we not know the difference between wearing few clothes and being “literally naked”.
@@allegroaffettuoso9012right ! she definitely was not you could see the top of the shorts. Lol @ literally naked
I would really love an update. The younger brother was so immature but what the fiancé said to him about being flamboyant and to get a woman was disgusting. And this man picked a woman who makes money as an influencer is sleeping with her before marriage but now holy rollin’. Don’t think the family is jealous, I think they’re judgmental.
I agree 💯
The brother is younger than them. However, his reaction was based off of what William energy is basically reflecting. Control and Verbal Abuse
@@marcellabenjamin6449Exactly!
She mentioned her Instagram during the episode 😊❤
She's very active on there 😊 so it should give you a good inside look into their blended family ❤🎉
The bride is BEAUTIFUL
You don’t have to agree with her brother’s lifestyle but you don’t get to attack him for it because you are mad at his sister.
Exactly!
I agree with this so much!!
nope he was mad at him for being nuff and disrespectful from we seen him on camera
@@47Ronin15 I agree he got mad because the brother is disrespectful not his lifestyle choices. He did cross the line when he brung up his lifestyle choices tho. He wrong for that.
His lifestyle was just the punchline…. He went off cuz the lil ignorant was disrespectful from jump. That energy and attitude got matched and no you don’t get to pick what ppl say when they go off on u! 🤧🤣
“If I had a switch, I would’ve whopped him.” 🤣🤣🤣 folk better stop playing with grandmama
The fact that the groom blew up at dinner over the cousin telling him about a photo that he hasn't seen was very telling. The sister is very jealous of the Ashley. The mother knows that side of her son's temper. Ashley should run...
Absolutely right !!
Absolutely!
Agreed
She gotta run and run fast
Well she is causing confusion and drama so she can run, but God knows she can't hide. Accountability is necessary for Ashley and any woman seeking a commitment needs to learn to make sacrifices such as dealing with the messiness.
It’s so funny going on about all this Christian nonsense and they living together before they even married it screams hypocrisy
Religious hypocrisy always leans in favor of the man. How many men do u know currently under spiritual discipline for wrong doing??? I’ll wait. ⏰. They prove women should not follow religion. They need to only obey God NOT man. MEN r not GOD.
@Crazyborn74we are supposed to call out sin as Christians. It’s biblical. We are not supposed to condemn someone.
I don't take Christians or Muslims seriously because they use whatever part of the Bible and Quran to convenience themselves and their agenda
@@beatforjesusbykellym2104God don't need your help though*
Amen. Amen
His mother was mean spirited from the beginning. How are you upset about people being happy to see each other? She is miserable. Her son telling his Brother in law to get a woman, his mother needs to get a man.
I thought that was actually really sweet when bride’s family saw each other. Hugs and kisses!
Just miserable
I’m disappointed in the way Ashley’s family turned their backs on Ashley’s brother. And didn’t acknowledge the issue with the fiancé who threw low blows and jabs. This isn’t right. They need therapy and take their time. Ashley wants to please her man yet she’s not being true to herself. This needs work.
If he is a punk then that’s what it is. Y’all can’t force people to be except that bs! God is just as grossed out by it has Derek. He’s what God destroyed in those two cities…like it or not!
I agree @kuhlerdgorgeous You can't disrespect people and then expect respect!!! It's as simple as that.
@@jayspence6111What a shining example of God’s love you’re displaying. Shameful.
Same
@jayspence6111. “Except”? The word is “accept”.
Derrick sees past the Groom's b.s. and knows the hurt that his sister has been through. I believe that he also sees the similarities in the groom & his sisters ex, and will not tolerate or be triggered by their actions.
Good point
men know men
@@chrisharris2367you sound dumb.
Exactly… I hope she doesn’t marry him
Rationalize, minimize, justify and deny this is very true 💯
Social media is a serious conversation. It's important to respect each other and come to an agreement. Some men are comfortable and some are not, and that's ok.
There's no agreement. You are a ho and what you husband to be comfortable with that.
Absolutely
Then instead of him trying to change her fine someone who is equally yoked and has the same stance on that topic. This man is not for her and I hope she sees that.
I was glad to see (on her IG page) that she actually heard and changed. Still promoting and being an influencer. But she considered him in it… that’s cool!
Right social media can literally ruin relationships 😒
His sister is really jealous of Ashley. The way she looks at her, so venomous. It didn't matter what Ashley did his sister just don't like her. WIlliam is controlling.
I don't know if it's her being jealous but we definitely just doesn't like her. I knew she was still going to say no at the end and not giver blessing.
She's definitely jealous
She needs to run! Ashley’s brother is correct about William’s behavior and energy. In addition, she did not herself time to heal/thearpy and attracted the same type of man in a different body. This is trauma boding.
Correct
Yup
she clearly still has that soul tie and it will always manifest in the next sexual partner unless its broken off.
His family is so jealous of her its obvious. You can tell from the sister and moms vibes on that couch in the beginning they’re mind is already made up about her ! I wish she didn’t marry him.
@corielleclayton6073 I wondered about the sister too. Is she coming from a place of genuine concern or underlying jealousy? Is the fiance TRYING to be the center of attention? Or is the sister mad because "she" sees the fiance as the center of attention?
@@khandibaugh23You worded it perfectly ! I have the same problem with my in laws.
I said the same thing
I don’t Believe the mom is jealous, I truly think she wants the best for her son. But you’re right about the sisters. The mother was seeming to be getting along with Ashley at the dress fitting.
They were definitely jealous
Honestly the little brother was right, groom was out of line in that argument and didn’t apologize well. William probably does need her, she doesn’t need him. Groom’s sister seemed jealous. Her post was not inappropriate to me. Bless their hearts.
I completely agree. When he started getting defensive,disrespectful and loud, that’s a huge issue. Verbal abuse! He showed his true colors. He not only disrespected her at the table but her family.
yeah i got those vibes too , like they were a little jealous of her , i understand that okay you should hold yourself to a respectable standard especially now that your married but the girl is pretty .
DJ was right!! Ashley should have listened to her little brother period!! Ashley just wanted to get married. The groom is a whole walking 🚩 to me!!
Why did they just gloss over the fact that he told that young man to get a woman. I would be done too! She’s wrong for not addressing that on camera immediately.
Right! He’s verbally and emotionally abusive. It’s very obvious.
It's true she stood up for him but not his brother when he was insulted by the family dinner.
The groom just proved the family’s point about being controlling when he started yelling at the bride and her brother
He yelled at the brother for being rude. Not at the bride…
@@MariamsadventureThe reaction itself spoke volumes. Instead of doing something different, he ended up highlighting exactly what they were raising concerns about. Wanting to be in control of everything else but himself lol.
@@Mariamsadventureright he checked the brother for his attitude, what else was he post to do
Derek is not wrong. Just because he's young it doesn't mean that he is not intelligent. Just because he's telling the truth un-filtered they using his youth, saying brat, not raised like that etc. Derek is right and he doesn't like the groom controlling 1970s behaviour to this young girl who wants to show all herself on the internet etc. The groom is borderline holds anger and it will burst out and destroy their marriage if they get married. That is just my views. But in my heart 💜 100% Derek is right. I wish them all well.
1970s behavior?? You’re what’s wrong with the women today. He has every right to not want his soon to be WIFE showing herself on the internet.
1970s, back when the divorce rate wasnt at 50%
y@@sterlingneely7737 yes but many ppl were miserable & women couldn't get bank accounts
@@notlikeleonte I feel you.
Ashley is a gorgeous confident woman…I think that his mom and sisters are envious of that. They came in stale and stank. William is definitely showing red flags, I think it’s more insecurity than anything.
Not everyone is jealous
@@icomeinpeace3756not everyone but they are clearly
They are definitely jealous and intimidated by Ashley.
@@Dreamy_m Nahh it's called difference in values and what they consider appropriate.
The sisters are definitely jealous. They are comfortable with themselves , their looks, and body and project that on to Ashley. I think the mom is just old school. 😊
William throwing low blows to Derrick saying “flamboyant” “get a women” is dead wrong. I hate a homophobe!!!
I was disappointed that this was not addressed. They were really only concerned with shaking hands.
OK be honest William tried to be friends with the guy in spite of him being flamboyant and acting like a diva so it was the gay guy causing the problem
@@zztopdog I don’t disagree. It doesn’t give William the right to hit below the belt and be disrespectful with his words.
Like we know he's gay, why you telling him get a woman 😂 Omg he (the brother) is so handsome 😩😩😩😩
I feel like William called him something else and they just edited it out.
Run Ash you’re THE PRIZE AND THAT DUDE IS MORE SASSY THAN YOUR BROTHER 😅
They are still together. Hopefully they got some counseling
The fact that OWN liked this comment has me hollering!
I totally agree with your comment. Derek, seems as if he has some secret sassiness about himself. I believe he’s hiding behind his very own skeletons
Derek was not wrong. He was just unable to articulate what he actually felt
He’s was wrong, he lacks tact and empathy. You don’t speak to PEOPLE like that.
He is a bit immature.
William lost me with being homophobic towards Ashley’s brother. Completely uncalled for.
No it wasn’t. His lil butt needs to be delivered from that nasty lifestyle
He is not homophobic. Derek was doing way too much, attention seeker.
Homophobic meaning he didn’t co-sign to a man acting like a woman? Y’all want everyone to agree with that nasty behavior. Even God disagrees that it’s nasty and foul🤷🏾♂️
Dead wrong! But he wants him to like him?
@jayspencer6111 it's hilarious how Everyone keeps ignoring you. 🤐
I felt like Ashley's brother was the most genuine person there. He seems to be close with is sis ain't sticking around for the bull ish. This groom seems to be one.
He wants to be his sister
I wish I could like this comment again. Not shaking a hand is not setting a good start but Will really showed how he felt at his core.
Grandma is really saying we don’t agree with Dereck’s sexuality when she said we didn’t raise you that way.
Williams family is JEALOUS!!!! Ashley’s Ig photos are nothing lolllll I was expecting something wild. Shorty was at the gym. Is she supposed to wear a burka to the gym? 😂😂😂
This episode was so disgusting and disappointing to me. Her brother didn’t shake his hand but that paled in comparison to the disrespect he experienced from her fiancé and NOBODY addressed it.
Yeap. And he screamed at the brother but I wonder would he talk to an older father figure like that.
It was painful to watch
Derek had the most sense. He identified the red flags, it's so frustrating to see everyone turn against him just because he didn't want to shake that man's hand. It felt like the fiance was using that as a way to deflect from all the other valid red flags that Derek brought up - signs of him being controlling, him yelling, and so on.
And for the fiance, he met her as an influencer, but now he wants her to stop? Like why did you even approach her if that is not what you want in a partner...His family is full of judgemental Bettys who come across as insecure, jealous pick me's. A very disturbing dynamic, I hope Ashley sees the light and is able to run away as fast as she can.
Coming at the brother the way he did crossed the line completely! That showed his true colors .. "it was a lot on him" girl *eye roll* stop justifying his red flags!
The grooms sister seems jealous...🤷🏽♀️ she is worried about her social media page more than the groom..
The brother is the one that makes the most sense.
Do they not understand what influencers do? His momma and family are needy and negative. They want him all to themselves. Let them keep him hunni!William immediately took his family’s word about the photo and starting talking to Ashley crazy. When her brother tried to defend her he blew up. Ashley ignores Williams behavior. Derek may be immature but he is spot on about what he is seeing.His sister is going to be an issue.
It’s crazy how will manipulated the situation with Derrick he flipped the whole script to deflect how wrong he was at the kitchen table to “Derrick disrespectful for not shaking his hand.. did anyone else catch this one thing about controlling men they like to draw a wedge between you and any male figure in your life anyone seen will grin when Derrick left and everyone looking at him like he’s the crazy one … did they not see how fast and angry will got ?
Block his entire family from social media
His sister is a hater 😂😂😂😂
Big jealous!!!!
I would want my sister to tell me if my fiancé was naked on social media
@@MrTwonetwonewhy should she have to tell him ANYTHING about his fiancee when he MET her doing what she does? And her private areas were covered...and that brother can make his point but he was out of pocket coming through the door, but her husband to be needs to calm down with the neanderthal way of thinking
HEAVY ON THAT
And the cousin too !! She need to stay in her place 😭
Why does his family follow her on social media if they don’t agree with her lifestyle? Also, she looks good but the robe post was tacky. No rhyme or reason
Yes I agree! This why I unfollow my ex its no need to be friends on social media. And yes she shouldn't post the robe pic but her other pictures looked ok.
I love ashley she seems so sweet and humble. They are married now with two more kids. She’s still an influencer and is on tiktok ,
That great what her social name ?
@@ruach32ashleynoswiper
@@ruach32ashleynoswiper
Ashleynoswiper1
@@Miss_a_5thanks! They are thriving by the looks of her IG and I love that for them!
He repeatedly came for her brother’s sexuality … ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE
That part!!!! FACTS!
No it ain’t… the truth is the truth
The brother didn’t call Will germy. He was saying in general he prefers not to shake hands because of germs. He offered a dap and explained he why he didn’t want to shake hands. William chose to make it about disrespect when it was really a boundary. It seemed like because it didn’t happen how William wants, then it was disrespectful instead of being like maybe he has a thing against germs
@@KrysBrown89actually he only HELD his cousins hand. The grooms sister was on Derrick’s other side and you can see that she only has her fingers kind of sitting on top of his hand, not a full hold. I’m guessing as a compromise to holding just as Derrick offered a dap as a compromise to a full fledged hand shake. Will just wanted to control the interaction and when he couldn’t he tried to control the narrative and when that didn’t work and Derrick refused to bow down, Will lashed out with the homophobic insults. Then will got mad again when he couldn’t control whether Derrick accepted his apology or not.
The sisters energy screams jealousy .. ew. I bet she ain’t got a man! Happy the mom approves
The brothers face😂 “ I don’t care, I ain’t marrying her so I don’t care.” Eye rolls 😂😂😂 Flamboyant and over the top.
A kingdom husband will Never accept his wife exposing herself. The fact that society normalize these behavior is beyond scary.
I agree with you. She doesn't carry herself like a wife should.
Agreed
I see people in the comments saying his family is hating or jealous but they are telling the truth ! Save that for your husband not the internet . And then it gives off the wrong image, I’m sure she is a good girl it’s just the perception that we see
EXACTLY
If he didn't like it then why claim it?
I hate the way he spoke to her brother, I agree with her brother and I hate how he was dismissed. Imo there's nothing wrong with her picture 🤷🏿♀️ he's trying to dim her light.
This "man" is a controlling, bully, dangerous individual... She better RUN while she can!!!
That’s how she makes money, taking pictures, she has a business. His family is weird. The way he attacked the young man is unacceptable!!!
😂
Lmfao the brother was right and she gonna learn the hard way.
What the groom doesnt understand is that when you violate someone's manhood because of your opinion those are deeply rooted feelings that dont go away with a handshake after you blew up on them
What manhood you're talking about cuz I don't see it
THAT WOMAN IS BEAUTIFUL SHE IS GOING TO TAKE PICS OF HERSELF AND SHOW THE WORLD ...ITS UP TO YOU TO DECIDE IF YOU WANNA DEAL WITH THAT BUT DONT ASK HER TO CHANGE...
I like the brother lol. He confident af i respect it
The brother was right 🤷🏾♀️ the groom has angry issues period . And the one sister is just jealous of Ashely. I hope his family sees this and how ugly they treated them people .
Derek had every right to feel the way he felt. His sister just got out of a marriage with a controlling man just to get into another relationship with another controlling man. He definitely needs to check his anger. Get some anger management
I CCAAAAANTTTTR BE WITH A MAN LIKE THAT LMFAOOOOOOOOO. NEXT. BYE. you ain’t stopping my bag period !
Aww.....I had to look them up after this episode. They really are thriving and I love that for them and their family. So Beautiful🥰🥰
What's their ig?
@@brandymonique9560 Ashleynoswiper is hers
I can’t stand moms who don’t want their sons to leave the nest. Like girl move around, who do you want him to date, you ?!!
his mother and sister have the nastiest stick up vibes. see some jealousy. Ashley is beautiful . certain pictures shouldn’t taken if in a relationship however her body isn’t their business… her fiancé mentioning her faith being the reason for not doing things instead of him telling her not to post is funny and a lie
It’s his homophobic comments when he got mad for me . They could’ve had an disagreement without him bringing out his sexuality
The groom is jekyll and Hyde 😮😬 He might end up putting hands on her!
Ashley’s brother is too extra…turn it down….His mom is too mean. Too many too extra. The families love their people…❤ BTW Grandma is FLY!!!!!
Yaaas that grandma loooks super young super young😊
Derek is 1000000000% on the money!! I’m with Derek. Everybody is trying to make him agree with something he don’t agree with and he standing on it❤❤❤ love it!!
Unpopular opinion: I think derrek was a brat and the groom truly matured … the grooms family is definitely jealous . The bride is sweet
His sister seems like a good judge of character. I would have told them that I don’t agree, but I’ll give you my blessing because you’re my brother and it’s your life.
Its messed up how her brother went to war for her honor and she tried to put him on blast for the love of her man in front of her and his family which is what her narcissist fiance wanted. His family saw right throught it. His sister said ashley likes attention. She could have pulled her brother to the side.
The groom is a total narcissist. Everything is about him.
what you know about narcissist do you know what a narcissist is can u define it another female using words she heard on the internet
Ashley BETTER RUN, William has three Big problems .... William is controlling, aggressive, and mean. I can see it all. Red Flaggg, Sis run please.
Grandma look like she can be her sister ❤❤❤❤…
That picture was ABSOLUTELY INAPPROPRIATE IF UR TRYING TO GET A HUSBAND...PERIODT
Sheesh, just went to her IG apparently they stayed together n have kids. May god continue to bless this family. I wonder if that sisters still a hater LMAO
What’s her instagram
@@patienced4320
ashleynoswiper
@@patienced4320ashleyynoswiper
@@patienced4320 16:36 it says ashleynoswiper
AMEN
She escaped from a controller en leapt in the arms of another one. She should have waited to recover and find out why she stayed so long in a abusive relationship.
For a minute I thought William was a little undercover 👀 him and Derrek just dislike each other a lot much. He has flamboyant ways as well.
The grooms sister is jealous of his future wife facts….
OMG! The best part was when DJ hopped in that truck!! Baby!! He said, “Guess what Ion care!! I felt him and I agree. The groom is way too controlling fa me!!
Derrick’s sister is a problem!!! Ashley’s brothers outburst is concerning…..and Derrick’s reaction to her brother is concerning😱🎯. Hope they’re able to work things out completely
He and the brother have a lot in common…
That head turn from granny when the sister-in-law started talking 😂😂😂
I strongly feel like no one should never tell anybody that they’re dealing with about their past because now I start to see that a lot of people will use or take advantage of peoples past and still trying to bring it into the future. I just pray for this woman to have better days and to literally take your time to get married. If you just got out of an abusive relationship, you shouldn’t be jumping into another one not everybody’s going to be your superhero you gotta be your own.
I also feel like his family doesn’t like her because of her vanity and that’s the same reason why he wants her. If she wasn’t into herself, he wouldn’t want her. The sister also seems jealous tbh.
Babbbyyyyy if I had that body, I WOULD BE GONE!!!! 😅😂
She reminds me of LALA when wearing that ponytail
You shouldn’t have to change yourself and what you like for a relationship. He should love you the way you are, flaws and all!! When she said she needed to get the wedding dress top changed… Im like oh no… she gonna be changing things the rest of her life… she’s going to be miserable… he definitely has control issues…
if thats you mind set, then marriage ain't for you, every happily married person has somethings they compromised on.
Her brother is a jaded queen and Im sure he doesnt have positive relationship with friends, they just sit around and read each other all day...THATS WHAT ITS GIVING...
Exactly! He's a BIG problem. A drama queen for sure!
The supervisor messing with a married woman
well they are still together... so get outta your feelings about your personal experiences
@naiyanna2151 There's alot of Toxic people together that shouldn't be, yet you commented under a post about a man who doesn't respect boundaries, so that means you must be a woman with a man who is doing the same and unstable. The only emotions and personal experiences that was triggered was yours.....that's why you were emotionally moved to comment. And any man who's marrying a woman who's posting herself in her robe with pictures over her privates is a Beta.....The Comforting Lie versus the Unpleasant Truth
I love how everyone gives grandma her flowers on how amazing she looks!!! Queen and Ashley is beautiful. She looks like a mix between MC Lyte and La La before all this surgery. I hope she never feels pressure to alter her natural body for social media fame. God bless this family.
He had issues since the beginning about social media, but you stayed with him. She moved in with a man the day after she signed her divorce papers. The brother throwing stones in a glass house, but hides his hand when the stones get thrown back. Everyone else knows they have no business being together.
The sister of the groom is very jealous of ashley. I can feel the hate through the screen....
How dare the sister said I will find you someone else sound so bitter and jealous she needs to mind her own business and find her self something better to do than be in you brother relationship smh
I started watching only to judge once this girl stated she was still legally married when they met. Disorder, confusion and peace can’t exist within the same frequency.
Her Grandma is so sweet ❤
Wow that’s grandma, she looks good 👏🏾
The sister feels threatened by the fact she was able to help him heal thru the trauma of his brother/cousin’s death and he didn’t get that from her. She needs to get over it and realize another woman can take precedence over a family member in their life. Sis needs a life IMMEDIATELY lol
They're more focused on why Derrick didn't shake his hand but didn't even have a conversation about the comments Will made. I don't blame Derrick for leaving