I will continue to shout this from the rooftops: Medicaid Asset Protection Trust. It’s one of the only ways your parents can protect their assets from being taken by the government if either of them go into a nursing home.
S2: While there's limited information, we have to remember that OP did that on purpose. Toxic people willingly leave out information just to try and get people to their side. If you don't think it's true, what did OP do in the update? He didn't care about Emma's thoughts or opinions at all: just went into guilt tripping and kept focusing on Laura. He's either just enabling Laura and Laura isn't the good mother he tried to claim or he's simply too stubborn to even try to get Emma's pov. Either way, I'm glad Emma is choosing family that seem to respect her and her choices.
Story 2: i think emma likes MIL a lot better bc she supports their relationship while her mom did not. her mom not supporting her relationship can alienate her from them. i agree w the "not enough info" in the comments. either emma is being alienated by tom, or her mom and dad exercise 0 boundaries and she is distancing herself for her own sanity. ive been in emmas shoes and i have parents w 0 boundaries and alienate me by criticizing my partner. so could be that.
Frankly, I don’t think the first OP’s parents sound smart enough to have made up that scam story. Like I get the redditor instinct to doubt it but for all their faults I didn’t hear an instance of brazen dishonesty being one of them. And, again, they just don’t sound very smart/crafty.
In Story 2, I’d say the fact that all of Emma’s issues with her mother, Laura, are tied to her relationship with Tom (She claims that Laura is controlling due to her giving the standard “don’t rush into things too quickly” speech and she makes everything about herself because she wanted to give a toast at Emma’s engagement party) tells me that Tom and his family are definitely the initiating factor of the rift between Mother and Daughter
Yeah, I got impression too. I’m willing to give op the benefit of the doubt until new information comes out. I don’t like jumping to conclusions but there’s a lot of missing reasons. However I’m definitely side eyeing Tom and his family.
This, but also she could've already had some underlying resentment they picked up on and abused. Like OP said, all her 'reasons' were really just excuses of things any legit caring parent would have and do instead of just enable her as she wanted. I feel for OP, but whatever bed the daughter decides to dig for herself, she needs to lie in and not go back to make her parents' problem when it blows up in her face unless she's genuine in reconciliation.
I dunno, the issue is dad still barely was touching any of the issues. How was mom trying to give a speech? Did she ask once or did she keep going up to the DJ? Cause there’s a proud mom and then there’s the type of person who announces a pregnancy at someone’s wedding. Without the daughters side it’s impossible to tell if Tom is the problem or Tom is a great guy
Story 2: Short on information. However, the convo that OP overheard. In one breath the daughter is complaining about Mom pushing her back when she was younger. So Mom rode her to do her homework,get good grades. Then in the next breath she claims her Mom is jealous of her career and her life. A career and life she wouldn't have if Mom hadn't pushed her to do good in school. Then on the 2nd talk OP had with the daughter. She complained about Mom talking with other guests. Making everything about herself. Saying how hard it is to let go of your little girl. I call BS on this. A Mom/Dad saying that is one of the most common statements when your kid is getting married. This comes across as the daughter being full of herself. So, just going on the information in the story: Personally, I would just tell the daughter to have a good life. Then I wouldn't ever contact her. I wouldn't answer any of her calls or messages. If she wants to talk to me, she's got to bring her prissy ass to my door. Plus I would rewrite my will. Put everything in a trust. Have it set up to take care of my wife. Anything left after her passing would be split evenly between my biological grand kids. Which they would receive after the passing of my daughter.
That second story is a rough one. Because I think one of the comments after the update really hit the nail on the head. Either Tom and his family are manipulating her away from her family or they have become such a strong support system that she now has the backbone to stand up for herself against someone that lets face it. The dad's not going to be there all the time to see every interaction and that's not his fault. That's just the reality of life. But it doesn't sound like she had instances that didn't involve Tom and it doesn't sound like Dad cared to see if there was anything beyond that. I wouldn't be surprised if Tom was a manipulator. I also wouldn't be surprised if it turned out that mom was totally overbearing and way too controlling and Dad himself was a doormat so he just let this s*** happen. Thinking your mother is only doing this cuz she loves you not realizing that's an incredibly toxic environment for a child to consistently grow up in. Either way, the whole situation's just scuffed.
I will continue to shout this from the rooftops: Medicaid Asset Protection Trust. It’s one of the only ways your parents can protect their assets from being taken by the government if either of them go into a nursing home.
S2: While there's limited information, we have to remember that OP did that on purpose. Toxic people willingly leave out information just to try and get people to their side. If you don't think it's true, what did OP do in the update? He didn't care about Emma's thoughts or opinions at all: just went into guilt tripping and kept focusing on Laura. He's either just enabling Laura and Laura isn't the good mother he tried to claim or he's simply too stubborn to even try to get Emma's pov. Either way, I'm glad Emma is choosing family that seem to respect her and her choices.
Story 2: i think emma likes MIL a lot better bc she supports their relationship while her mom did not. her mom not supporting her relationship can alienate her from them. i agree w the "not enough info" in the comments. either emma is being alienated by tom, or her mom and dad exercise 0 boundaries and she is distancing herself for her own sanity. ive been in emmas shoes and i have parents w 0 boundaries and alienate me by criticizing my partner. so could be that.
Frankly, I don’t think the first OP’s parents sound smart enough to have made up that scam story. Like I get the redditor instinct to doubt it but for all their faults I didn’t hear an instance of brazen dishonesty being one of them. And, again, they just don’t sound very smart/crafty.
In Story 2, I’d say the fact that all of Emma’s issues with her mother, Laura, are tied to her relationship with Tom (She claims that Laura is controlling due to her giving the standard “don’t rush into things too quickly” speech and she makes everything about herself because she wanted to give a toast at Emma’s engagement party) tells me that Tom and his family are definitely the initiating factor of the rift between Mother and Daughter
Yeah, I got impression too. I’m willing to give op the benefit of the doubt until new information comes out. I don’t like jumping to conclusions but there’s a lot of missing reasons. However I’m definitely side eyeing Tom and his family.
This, but also she could've already had some underlying resentment they picked up on and abused. Like OP said, all her 'reasons' were really just excuses of things any legit caring parent would have and do instead of just enable her as she wanted.
I feel for OP, but whatever bed the daughter decides to dig for herself, she needs to lie in and not go back to make her parents' problem when it blows up in her face unless she's genuine in reconciliation.
I dunno, the issue is dad still barely was touching any of the issues. How was mom trying to give a speech? Did she ask once or did she keep going up to the DJ? Cause there’s a proud mom and then there’s the type of person who announces a pregnancy at someone’s wedding. Without the daughters side it’s impossible to tell if Tom is the problem or Tom is a great guy
second story: your daughter is smart enough ti simply replace you two. dont be heartbroken, you brought this on yourself.
Can you do more revenge stories?
i love hearing a lot of comment in general!
The comments really helped with this one, you did good
Please just don't post anymore the obviously fake stories
Sure😅
Story 2: Short on information. However, the convo that OP overheard. In one breath the daughter is complaining about Mom pushing her back when she was younger. So Mom rode her to do her homework,get good grades. Then in the next breath she claims her Mom is jealous of her career and her life. A career and life she wouldn't have if Mom hadn't pushed her to do good in school. Then on the 2nd talk OP had with the daughter. She complained about Mom talking with other guests. Making everything about herself. Saying how hard it is to let go of your little girl. I call BS on this. A Mom/Dad saying that is one of the most common statements when your kid is getting married. This comes across as the daughter being full of herself. So, just going on the information in the story:
Personally, I would just tell the daughter to have a good life. Then I wouldn't ever contact her. I wouldn't answer any of her calls or messages. If she wants to talk to me, she's got to bring her prissy ass to my door.
Plus I would rewrite my will. Put everything in a trust. Have it set up to take care of my wife. Anything left after her passing would be split evenly between my biological grand kids. Which they would receive after the passing of my daughter.
That second story is a rough one. Because I think one of the comments after the update really hit the nail on the head. Either Tom and his family are manipulating her away from her family or they have become such a strong support system that she now has the backbone to stand up for herself against someone that lets face it. The dad's not going to be there all the time to see every interaction and that's not his fault. That's just the reality of life. But it doesn't sound like she had instances that didn't involve Tom and it doesn't sound like Dad cared to see if there was anything beyond that. I wouldn't be surprised if Tom was a manipulator. I also wouldn't be surprised if it turned out that mom was totally overbearing and way too controlling and Dad himself was a doormat so he just let this s*** happen. Thinking your mother is only doing this cuz she loves you not realizing that's an incredibly toxic environment for a child to consistently grow up in. Either way, the whole situation's just scuffed.