Thank you, Doug, for a brilliantly presented speech on how you feel about your life. I was moved. Happiness - yes. I taught a class of retirees on this subject for eight years (2001-2008) called Inner Quest, Our Search for Happiness - Body, Mind and Spirit. In this, I found great happiness. Can one have a nobler purpose?
Also, if two people can, talk through the conflict with honesty, with responsibility, and without attacking self-righteously. But both people have to be willing to share and thus to heal. Some people can't, won't, because they don't want to burst illusions they've held about the past. And frankly, the responsibly honest talking is--can be--more intimate than the previous status quo, and some people may not want that new intimacy. It took me about 20 years to let go of a deep resentment, but I couldn't "try" to do it; I could only process, accept, and not chastise myself because I wasn't forgiving--inside myself. Finally, as so often happens, it lost its grip, and I had to own the fact that I'd engaged with a narcissist knowingly. I won't do that again. I haven't forgotten, and I don't feel to blame for what happened because I think some people out there truly want to injure their erstwhile mate. But something finally let go within.
Thank you, Doug, for a brilliantly presented speech on how you feel about your life. I was moved. Happiness - yes. I taught a class of retirees on this subject for eight years (2001-2008) called Inner Quest, Our Search for Happiness - Body, Mind and Spirit. In this, I found great happiness. Can one have a nobler purpose?
very insightful skills worth all efforts for living my life. Thanks you
We met Doug at Canyon Ranch and he made our trip extra special. Read his book!
Also, if two people can, talk through the conflict with honesty, with responsibility, and without attacking self-righteously. But both people have to be willing to share and thus to heal. Some people can't, won't, because they don't want to burst illusions they've held about the past. And frankly, the responsibly honest talking is--can be--more intimate than the previous status quo, and some people may not want that new intimacy.
It took me about 20 years to let go of a deep resentment, but I couldn't "try" to do it; I could only process, accept, and not chastise myself because I wasn't forgiving--inside myself. Finally, as so often happens, it lost its grip, and I had to own the fact that I'd engaged with a narcissist knowingly. I won't do that again. I haven't forgotten, and I don't feel to blame for what happened because I think some people out there truly want to injure their erstwhile mate. But something finally let go within.
This is amazing. Thanks