Heard every cliché in the past 5 years...."Time heals"...."She wouldn't want you to be sad"..."Time to get on with living..." so I stopped telling people how I really feel - broken. My sister's death broke me. Thank you Billy Bob Thornton for putting my feelings into words.
Yes this is exactly how I feel since May 21, 2017. My life will never ever be the same, the day my sister died. 4 1/2 yrs younger than me. The pain is so gut wrenching I feel like I’m living a nightmare & when will I wake up. She always said , we were soulmates. We felt like twins. Siblings don’t get the attention or should I say we are almost the forgotten ones in grief. No one can replace that thing with a close sister or brother.
@@dmc522 I wish I could take away your pain. I got to say goodbye to my sister and you were robbed of that. I don't know much, but I do know about addiction. I am in recovery 21 years. Please believe me - There is nothing you could have done to prevent the outcome with your beloved sister. I wish you love, peace, and every blessing in your life.
I just lost my brother, 240 days ago to be specific, and I still cry every day and night thinking about him, missing him. He was my only brother and I love him more than anything, even more that I love myself. All I want to do is follow him to the after life. I just want to be with him again.
Lost my younger brother to fentanyl on Halloween 2022 and I haven’t been the same since. May peace be on everyone’s heart who have lost a brother or sister. It’s a different kind of hurt. 🙏
i am there, in the middle of happiness and sadness. my big brother was my best friend. he could be mad at the world but to me, all he gave me was love and he showed me that he cared. i miss you Hobo.. until we meet again
brian harrison, i lost my brother too in 2013 august, he was only 26, there is no day goes by that i dont think about him, he was my best friend my son everything to me,,, i will never ever forget him till i live even its make me cry everytime,
I lost my older brother in 2015. Ever since that happened i felt bitter inside and sad every single day. He passed away when he was 17. I lost my best friend, the person who I loved the most in this word and I still can’t get over it and will never get over it. I miss him so much.
“50% happy and 50% sad at any given moment” I feel the same way about my brother’s passing. It changed everything in me. I’ll never be the same. I think about him every single day, and when I talk about him, I still speak in present tense.
I lost my brother two days ago, 6/23/24, in a motorcycle accident. He was 23. I feel a tremendous emptiness. He means so much to me. He’ll always be my brother and nothing can take that away from me or him. I love you, Bryson. I always will, little bro. Forever. 💙🕊️
I'm so sorry Ryan, for the loss of your brother Bryson. I lost my brother, Danny to suicide in 1987. He was 23 too. May you find peace in your heart and healing. Hugs from Michigan.❤
I lost my brother, Keith William Bella, in a motorcycle accident 4 years ago today. Words will never be able to explain how much this hurts. Lost a huge part of myself that day. Much love man
My brother Matt took his life 7 years ago at 29. He got undiagnosed shingles at 19 and ended up with nerve damage. He had a slow progression with drugs for the 10 years after that. He is my favorite person and I don't know if anyone could describe my feelings better than this about him ❤️
+OWN What an intimate interview. How gracious of Billy Bob to be so honest and vulnerable in front of us. I know exactly how he feels. I am probably also 50% happy and 50% sad at any given moment.
mara.iara Me either. Today is the one year anniversary of my daddy's death. I am so so sad and depressed and broken. I am so thankful for my daughter sharing this with me. I am sure I am not alone!
This is, without a doubt, the best description of the loss of a brother, that I have ever heard. And the most accurate one. I feel every word he said. And every bit of my body hurts when I think about my brother. And yes, he deserves it. I will never get over it.
I lost my dad, my mom, and my baby brother, all in one year, at 32 years of age, i lost my whole family. Not an hour of my life have i not thought of one, or all of them since they left. But I've come to realize, life, is about loss. But i know in my heart, I'll see them again one day, One sweet day.. . . .
I’m always amazed at how some people seem to be at target for bad news and bad luck a lot of which isn’t their fault and other families seem to skate through life
@Asherah 1147 I’m sorry but you wouldn’t understand the feeling he describes it perfectly and what he means but he will never trust it again is if you trust it it could turn on you just like that
I loss my brother 21 yrs ago. I was 16 he was 13 and died of a gunshot wound to the head. I was there when it happened. The sound, the smell the image of him when he was laying there. Ever since then, I was never the same. I became numb. Experiencing the trauma changes you. I still remember like it was yesterday still. It affected my life and those around me. I wish I could take that time and change it. Call it selfish but that image will never go away.
I remember the day my brother died, he was 17 I was 25. He was killed by a careless driver. I remember everything from that day. It's burned into my mind like a movie that never stops playing, it's just always there. I feel for you brother, you aren't alone in your hurt and pain.
Dylan Wanatee I lost my brother in a similar way. I too was 16 and he was shot and I was there as well. It was 1993 and I’ve thought of him and the day he died everyday since. You never forget.
People, I’m so sorry for your losses. I lost my mom when she was only 48 and it ripped my damn heart out. I hope you all can feel some peace grow over the years, though the loss is deep and yes, changes us. And there’s no shame in talking to a professional if the grief and trauma’s too deep. ❤️
saw this short clip on tik tok the day after my brother passed away and it just broke me it summed up everything so well he died at 38 of pneumonia and i couldnt put into words how i felt until i saw this fighting tears just writing this just wanted to write this so someone might like it so i can come back to this video cause being the youngest in the family out of all the cousins of coarse you go to alot of funerals grandparents, uncles, aunties, friends of family members but my brothers one broke me into pieces so thank you for simplifying the words.
This is exactly how I feel about my son, Robbie. In early spring 2010 he was diagnosed with brain cancer. Fought through surgeries, and chemo with the bravery of a man twice his age. He celebrated his 24th birthday in 2012, and 6 weeks later he died. I cry everyday for him. Thank you
When my brother die, almost three years ago, It feel like at times I'm happy and all of the sudden I become very emotional and melancholy. I completely agree with the 50% happy and 50% sad at any given time. 😢😢😢
How are you now my younger brother passed a year ago come tonight. It's felt like forever and I've broken both my hands in the past year because I've been so mad about it. 23 years old he didn't even make it to 25 I'm 25 now and I lost him when I was 24. I've lost two of my best friends I grew up with but seeing my brother in a casket felt so much worse. My friend shot himself but I couldn't bear seeing my brother but I stayed for 15 mins like I did with my friends. It's the hardest thing Ive done. The vividness of it is gone but I still feel that sting constantly.
@@nadzworld698 I'm sorry for you. Brothers are so special. They are our "knights". Always think of him, every single day. And, say his name, and tell him how you feel and that you love him. It helps me, anyway. Been almost 4 yrs for me. Still rough. Prayers. 💛
@@JK-vy8vh I am really really sorry for your lost. It is so unfair how some people do not get the chance to live a long life and grow old with their loved ones. And on the other hand it must be so hard how others have to live their lives without their loved ones and grow old with one person missing all the time. I really hope you are doing alright at the moment and that you will never forget about what an important person your bother has been to you!
This was like hearing words straight from my heart. I lost my brother suddenly a little over a year ago. “I have never trusted happiness since” I’m pregnant with my first child a little boy he’s due any day. This has been a big part of what has helped me continue with out him.
@@daniyzalakiyra8477my boy just turned 5. I know I’ll always hurt for him and I’ll always look for him but I’m finally feeling like I know how to live again without him.
I lost my brother 2 years ago and I’m sure you know the pain never goes away you’ll carry it till you die and it hurts a lot it’s the worst feeling in the world.
Kristy. Today is my bother’s birthday. He was 18 months older than me. He died suddenly. I’m sorry we have this in common. I hope you’re doing ok. It’s okay that others don’t understand your pain or try to relate with things that seem less painful. There are lots of us.
I lost my sister 7 weeks ago. I know life will never be truly happy again. My sister is not in a better place. A better place is here living a full life with her son and family.
I watch this video every time my grief needs to be validated. When I hear your words...I am comforted knowing it's okay to say out loud "I've never trusted happiness since." Thank you Sir❤ Hugs to all the siblings out there who have had to deal with this kind of pain.
I lost my little brother 5 years ago and there isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t miss him I wish once more I could hug him and tell him how much he meant he meant and still means to me
My 28 year old brother drowned on July 7, 2018. Billy Bob eloquently stated my exact feelings - there’s a melancholy in me that never goes away. I’ll forever miss you, John.
April Forse I want you to know that I saw this comment and I’m thinking of your brother John tonight. I lost my brother Daniel in 2017 he was 34 years old. We will miss them forever April but I hope you’re doing good in life, I hope you find happiness ❤️
My brother passed a month ago, and it’s true 50% happy 50% sad at any given moment. It still does not feel real. The sadness my family feels, it’s just too much to handle at times. Hearing the music he liked, brings us back to the times when he was here, it brings us sadness, but the memories is what brings us Joy. We will never be the same, you never get “over it.”
Billy hits the nail on the head how it feels. My brother died at the same age from the same condition , a part of me died with him that day . I've accepted I'll never be the same as I was before he died.
He gets it. I lost both my parents by the time I was 18. I'm 38 now... The grief subsides but the melancholy does stick with you. Some losses just do impact you forever.
I lost my mom when I was 11 in an accident and my father just last year at 29. He died alone in some rural community down in Mexico. We were the perfect middle class family until that one freak accident that destroyed everything. Sometimes you feel like you're living a counterfeit life. Like the true reality exists in some alternate universe where you're all still alive and together..
Lost my brother a few months ago and I am new person. There's the man I was before he died and the man I am after his death. I won't ever get over it is the truth. I will honor my brother Mauro daily. I love you and I miss you Mauro
My older brother died 7 months ago. I feel broken. My best friend, my mentor, my protector is gone. There’s not a day that I can function properly. There are really bad days and some days that aren’t that bad. But never a day that I can say was good. He described exactly how I feel.
My brother died in a tragic car accident when he was 18 and I was 20 in 2001. I started therapy this past June to work on my grief. Listening to Billy speak about his brother let’s me know I’m not alone in my feelings. When your younger you not aware of your siblings importance in your life. They become apart your identity and when they leave you are lost. You feel like you lost apart of yourself. I’m working through my pain. Thanks Oprah and team for posting this video.
+MsJgreen77 I ended up in hospital with broken heart syndrome from the shock of my brother dying. The physical pain overwhelmed me for weeks. I realized I had to get well for my family & keep going because he wouldn't want me suffering. It's a horrible thing losing a sibling. I'm the oldest & I should have gone 1st , I still feel guilty I didn't . hope you can find some comfort in knowing your brother's still with you in spirit. I think of mine being with me through the good times & I feel better . Peace to you.
+MsJgreen77 I know how you feel . It's been 6 years since my brother died & it can still hurt, throat tightens up & chest pains then the tears . Last time it happened was a couple of weeks back when his favourite band came on over the shop speakers & I had to run out ( I feel sorry for the person who had to put back all the things I was getting because I just left the trolley in the aisle) It's ok to be upset, it's normal. Dont ever let others tell you how you should feel. We greive in our own way . Each anniversary I get something blue because that was his favourite colour, this year I'm adding on to the memorial tattoo I got for him . I'm sure he'll be with me having a good lol when I'm going "ouch!" getting it done :)
My identical twin sister died. I died that day too.... I finally am to the place after 13 years of finding the 50% happiness that I never ever thought that I would feel again. Thank you for validating my feelings Billy Bob..and I'm ok now.. and that is good enough for me.
I agree, ever since I lost my mother in 2009, same sadness persists no matter what I'm doing or even if I"m laughing and "having a good time" on the outside and I've also accepted it.
My younger sister who was my best friend died suddenly of a brain aneurysm on January 19 2015 and until that day I never experienced true grief and everything I read about grief and the "5 stages" of grief made me question how I was feeling until I came across this video because it validated how I was feeling contrary to how the so called experts on grief, my family etc thought I should feel and now whenever I am out of the blue without warning sucker punched with a wave of grief I watch this video to hear someone express the truth about grieving and it makes me feel not so alone.
I lost my brother a little over a year ago and I’ve watched this video so many times bc he’s the only person who is truly able to describe how I feel. Even in happy moments I’m still sad. My brother was my best friend and we went through a lot together. Our story deserved a happy ending and I’m having a tough time coming to terms with the fact that we’ll never get one.
I have watched this so many times. I connected with it in a way I have never connected with another persons words. I feel like he was able to articulate how I have felt all these years in a way I have never been able to
I lost my younger brother a month and a half ago. He was my best friend, my tag team partner in life. This perfectly puts how I’m feeling into words. Part of me died with him and I’ll never be there same, much love to everyone here as well. 🖤
My brother died the thanksgiving before last, and tonight I'm having a hard time being fine with it. 50% happy and 50% sad at any given time is such an accurate desciption of life after the first person you ever really knew dies. The world is not the same, and yet it sadly is. Haven't been able to cry in over a year now, but I have my standard tears-rolling-down-my-cheeks-when-it-hits face going on anyway. No one ever tells you that you can miss someone so much that you can't even cry because it hurts too much. It's like my body and mind are fighting over whether we accept this ridiculous part of life or not. My brother and I were 10 months and 27 days apart in age. Irish Twins. For one glorious month a year, I got to annoy my brother about us being the same age. The joke got old during our teens, but had a resurgence a few years later, with the type of humor only those who have grown together can know and accept. I want more than anything in the world to annoy my older brother one last time about being the same age for one final glorious month.. and I never will be able to again. Sudden and unexpected death of a young person is one of the most cruel horrors our existence has to offer. I'm alive, but 50% of me is gone.
I feel you man... I lost my brother more than a year ago and he was the love of my life... nowadays, the world is grey. It has lost its colour and I go through life with a constant sadness and loneliness that is just too much to bare
Your words hits like it's coming from my own heart. My brother died 4 years ago. I've never felt happy again, even if i have a good day, when i go sleep it's always the same empty feeling. I lost both my grandparents a little while after he died and even tho i loved them too, i felt nothing. I kinda blame myself for that, but the truth is that seems like i died the day my brother left
I feel exactly the same as you do. My brother died 4 months ago. I find it difficult to talk to people and open up about what I’m really feeling,but reading your words made me feel understood and in a way i know i have someone who is sharing this pain with me.
I lost my little brother 3 years ago this coming October. It's been a long road. This video hits it on the nose for me. Trying to find my footing in this world without him is nearly impossible. But the days do go on and we do survive and still press on. Miss you Raymond. From a place so deep in my being there is no word to describe it. Love you forever.
Lost my younger brother Oct. 9, 2016, almost a year and it feels like yesterday! People just don't understand sibling loss. I'm shamed that I'm not over this most tragic event. Todd was my best friend! I'll never (he died at 42) stop missing him! 1/2 of me died with him. Love Forever!
Sending you love and acceptance. I know that feeling of shame from people thinking I should "move on" with life etc. I hereby give you permission to grief for the rest of your life.
The loss of my dad in 1992 to me, was like the loss of ur brother, he was my best friend and haven't had a best friend since. Ur right, u never get over it, I'm crying at this very moment as I write this down.
Tom, I lost my dad about a year ago and my pet companion. You are right, we will never get over it as some people would say nor should we. Some in my family want to see me happy again, but I don't think I will ever be that person again and that's ok, would you agree.
I was absolutely touched when watching this. Its absolutely true! I feel like at times and its been 17yrs since my Mother been gone! Its like a empty place. Although I have gotten better over years, but you just never get over it. Like a wound that slowly heals.
NellyBelle, we can never get over death. Losing someone can be just as painful 30 years afterwards as it was when it happened. Your mom would want you to be happy.
"I've never trusted happiness since.... There's a melancholy that never goes away....." Damn.... How those words dug so deeply, so quickly, that i was haunted by them before comprehension of the statements could even set in... It's ironic how such words so tragically poetic can be strung together then pronounced into something so beautiful... Like staring up at the night sky knowing full well it's mostly empty space and immeasurable distances, yet still in awe of its graceful alignment and infinite structures and arriving at the realization that we are right smack in the middle of it all
He is such a wise person. My dad's younger brother was brutally murdered outside of a bar, head stomped flat. I was young but i remember it basically ruining our whole lives and changing everything. Dad turned to the bottle and will never be the same and our family will always be accustomed and used to violence. It's always so good to hear when someone understands
I am so sorry. Such tragedies tear more families apart than they ever bring together. I know. I know how hard it is, but break away from the violence and the drinking, yourself. Perhaps you can honor your brother by living the best life you can and healing as much as you can. This pain stays with us forever, but hopefully it will not destroy us.
I lost my brother to violence also and it’s not fun don’t blame your dad he probably knew him all his life ! I’m only 20 years old my brother was 23 he passed away this year ! It’s still so unreal and unbelievable to myself that I’m typing this even know I know he’s gone and in paradise!
Watched this so many times. It seems to echo with my feelings for my brother who died recently of liver failure. He was just 19. Every word of Billy bob Thornton seems so relevant and exact of what you feel when you lose a sibling..
eric Christopher Eric. I’m 2 years into losing my big brother. I see you posted this soon after your loss. I hope you are ok, and I know the pain is hard. I hope you’re good friend
I lost my brother about a year ago he was 21 I am 16 now and I miss him so much I wish he was still here with me today I just really miss him so much and it hurts so bad.
Luna Booh.So sorry for ur grief Luna life has a way of hurting people.ur young and hopefuly have a lot of life ahead of u hold on to that and happiness will hit u once again.maybe marriage n children one day.Hold on to every bit of happines that comes ur way.💙
Billy Bob, You are so accurate, you NEVER get over a loss, for my it was my son, a mis diagnosed blood clot, life switched gears, I am not the same person I was, it hurts at the bottom of your soul, it is always there, what he is missing, I never ever want to forget life was when he was in it. Their loss makes you who you now are. He left the world 3 fabulous children and a wife who has never recovered his loss. He was loved, as your brother Jimmy. Thanks for sharing. You are in a club that no one ever wants to be a member, no one understands a loss unless you have lost.
I listen to this periodically because, strangely, it quiets my mind when he says so definitively: "You will never get over it." I guess hearing the truth quiets the mind, even when it's painful. Maybe especially when it's painful.
The tears were rolling down my face yesterday watching this. What he said hit me hard. I don't trust happiness either....and if i have it it's fleeting....I expect the 50% misery to be with me always.
i know the feeling billy bob and had to watch this video because i lost my favorite brother 4 years ago suddenly.i too,will never be the same.this brought tears to my eyes.the world's a lonelier,less wonderful place but as an artist use it in your acting&writing and i'll use it in mine and never forget.
Im missing my father a lot. Hes gone 8 years ago when I was 17. Since then I always have that melancholy in me. I thought I was wrong to feel this way until today. 50% happy 50% sad. Suddenly I found this vid and that explains everything - I'll embrace that for the rest of my life. Sure its gonna be okay. Thanks Bob.
I have just lost my dear brother, who was only 16 months younger than me, at the age of 46. I don't ever remember a time when he wasn't with me, whether physically near or far, and I know I will always feel his absence. Billy Bob Thronton's words have resonated and touched me so deeply in the way only someone who has experienced this particular grief can. I love his words that we must 'embrace' the sadness and grief. I thought just the other day that the best way to honour my brother is to use my gifts to remember him, to bring the wisdom and beauty that comes from sadness to my life's work, and Billy Bob has confirmed that. Thank you for your beautiful words.
A few years ago.. my uncle/father lost his life. I have never been able to describe my feelings about it until I watched this, a piece of me died and has never returned. I feel exactly as he described…. Love all you do billy…!! Thank you….
My little sister died when she was 12 of a pulmonary embolism. This video perfectly explains how I feel. There’s a melancholy in me that never really goes away. I’m 50% happy and 50% sad at any given moment. I agree 10000%…. It’s so hard. The pain of losing her is worth the joy of having known her.
Billy Bob… Thank you so much for sharing this. You helped me understand my grief. Last November 1st I lost my youngest brother Steve so suddenly to a massive coronary. He was only 54. Not only was he my brother but he was one of my best friends. Many years Ago he turned me onto Motörhead and the whole metal scene. Every Rangers hockey game we be texting. Now I cannot get through a game without a few tears. When I crank up the metal now, certain songs choke me up. Plus so many other things. When you explained how carrying that melancholy feeling forever is ok. Thank you very much. You nailed down the emotions perfectly. You made a difference and helped me heal.🤘🏼🚂🍻♠️🤠
It has been a year exactly since I lost my brother 2 years younger than me unexpectedly. I swing from getting by to mad to sad at any given moment. I won't ever get over it and there are certain things that trigger the emotions and sometimes it just hits. Billy Bob put it into words perfectly.
I lost my son 7 years ago to cancer at 32. To say I'll never be the same is understatement. It is still the first thing I think of when i wake and the last when I go to bed. Hearing others tell there story probably helps me the most.
My son died April 2016..he was 51 years..he was my guide my protector we were very close. But I know he is with me every day..looking after me. When he was alive and I used to get down sometimes.. he always used to say just have a cup of tea you will feel alot better..and remember I will always be here for you I will never desert you..my wonderful son I miss him terribly,
nowhere somewhere he’s not dead he may have passed away and left his body but he ain’t dead they say things happen for a reason and he may be guiding you from harm
I watch this video over and over again as a griever. This video should be seen by all grievers. It's incredible and underrated. Raw, and eloquently said. I remember watching this days after my brother died and I was absolutely terrified of his words saying "I'm 50% happy and 50% sad all the time" I didn't WANT that! I wanted my happiness. But grief has PROFOUNDLY changed me and my relationship with emotions. Joy and pain are equal and can coexist. and one cannot outweigh the other. I embrace my pain and sorrow for the rest of my life for my mama and brother. thank you billy.
I completely agree .....I have watched this so many times , and it is so accurate .....to hear someone share the same feelings is comforting .......there is no timeline for grief
Billy Bob, thank you I lost my son christain july13 ,2015 . he flipped his car. your words expressed how I feel. almost scared to be fully happy for fear the pain that will come if you love all the way again. -Miguel
Nonya Bidnass I care dude. And I want you to know, whoever you are, wherever you are, you will find people who care, and love you. You probably have many already. Peace be with you.
This is 1 million percent how I feel. Lost my brother suddenly 9 years ago. 50/50 at any moment for sure. But gratitude and just being thankful I had such an amazing brother gets me through.
This was really helpful to hear. My sister (my buddy) died suddenly when she was 20 and I was 17. Billy just articulated what I feel as my constant. That part melancholy and part fear or impending doom is always there. Stealing any chance at those carefree and emphatic moments of pure joy. It's the same for my mom and dad too. It's true. You don't "get over it."
Lost my brother in 2002 - Last year one of my older brothers shared this video... I soon came to realize something that hit me deep in the soul.... My brother Mikey, has officially been gone longer than he was alive...
Heard every cliché in the past 5 years...."Time heals"...."She wouldn't want you to be sad"..."Time to get on with living..." so I stopped telling people how I really feel - broken. My sister's death broke me. Thank you Billy Bob Thornton for putting my feelings into words.
We are the same!
You are right. People always do so and then you adhere to not to tell anyone how you feel.
Yes this is exactly how I feel since May 21, 2017. My life will never ever be the same, the day my sister died. 4 1/2 yrs younger than me. The pain is so gut wrenching I feel like I’m living a nightmare & when will I wake up. She always said , we were soulmates. We felt like twins.
Siblings don’t get the attention or should I say we are almost the forgotten ones in grief. No one can replace that thing with a close sister or brother.
@@dmc522 I am so sorry. It comforts me to know that someone else out there feels the same as me. We were 4 years apart as well. Thank you.
@@dmc522 I wish I could take away your pain. I got to say goodbye to my sister and you were robbed of that. I don't know much, but I do know about addiction. I am in recovery 21 years. Please believe me - There is nothing you could have done to prevent the outcome with your beloved sister. I wish you love, peace, and every blessing in your life.
Dedicated to Those who've lost our brothers or sisters!
or a Mother...
My brother. :'( 40 years ago.
or my wife. "Closure" is bs ... and he explains exactly why. I'll never be the same, and don't want to be.
I just lost my brother, 240 days ago to be specific, and I still cry every day and night thinking about him, missing him. He was my only brother and I love him more than anything, even more that I love myself. All I want to do is follow him to the after life. I just want to be with him again.
13 days back. I lost my sister
"..and I've never trusted happiness since" - wow..that's exactly what I've been feeling my entire life
Don't give up and never
It’s exactly how I have felt since my brother died.
Same
7 months now. I just want my brother to come home*
Wow that was deep...
I lost my lil brother 9 months ago. I raised him. This is exactly how i feel. It shattered my heart into a million pieces
Same my younger brother 4 years ago...exact description of my feelings
Its truth?
My sincere condolences 😢 stay strong buddy
Lost my younger brother to fentanyl on Halloween 2022 and I haven’t been the same since. May peace be on everyone’s heart who have lost a brother or sister. It’s a different kind of hurt. 🙏
Sorry for your loss ❤
i am there, in the middle of happiness and sadness. my big brother was my best friend. he could be mad at the world but to me, all he gave me was love and he showed me that he cared. i miss you Hobo.. until we meet again
I can relate. Tears.
i lost my brother in 2014 he was 23 i was 25. It is the hardest thing iv been through and im still wish he was here today he was my best freind
brian harrison, i lost my brother too in 2013 august, he was only 26, there is no day goes by that i dont think about him, he was my best friend my son everything to me,,, i will never ever forget him till i live even its make me cry everytime,
He is in a better place now.
I lost my brother 3 weeks ago. He was 23 and i'm 21..he was my best friend too it just hurts so bad
brian harrison I lost my brother when I was 25, he was 27, I know the pain you gotta go through everyday.
I lost my older brother in 2015. Ever since that happened i felt bitter inside and sad every single day. He passed away when he was 17. I lost my best friend, the person who I loved the most in this word and I still can’t get over it and will never get over it. I miss him so much.
He totally gets it. This is exactly what it feels like. So glad I found this.
Completely agree. Such healing words from someone who understands.
Going through this now.
@@donaldwarren2497 you'll be ok. Takes some time to dull the sharpness but it comes. I promise.
Totally gets it. “I’m 50% happy and 50% sad at any given time.” I’m more like 30/70, but it is what it is
I’m sorry, I completely understand I wish all of y’all the best of love and if anyone of y’all needs to talk just message.
“50% happy and 50% sad at any given moment” I feel the same way about my brother’s passing. It changed everything in me. I’ll never be the same. I think about him every single day, and when I talk about him, I still speak in present tense.
@@erinnw.1057 I speak present about mine too and I love it. He's always here 🥰
🙏🙏 RIP to you’re brother, lost my brother 9 years ago god bless you.
You never get over nothing, you just deal and adjust and hopefully carry on.
Me too..
I lost my brother 28 years ago on my 19th bday. I’m 47 now. It hurts the same now as it did back then.
I'm so sorry for your loss.❤
A damn shame
sending you lots of love 💕
Dealing with that now and it's very hard. He was only 33 and I'm just a couple years younger.
I lost my brother two days ago, 6/23/24, in a motorcycle accident. He was 23. I feel a tremendous emptiness. He means so much to me. He’ll always be my brother and nothing can take that away from me or him. I love you, Bryson. I always will, little bro. Forever. 💙🕊️
I'm so sorry Ryan, for the loss of your brother Bryson. I lost my brother, Danny to suicide in 1987.
He was 23 too.
May you find peace in your heart and healing.
Hugs from Michigan.❤
I lost my brother, Keith William Bella, in a motorcycle accident 4 years ago today. Words will never be able to explain how much this hurts. Lost a huge part of myself that day. Much love man
@@faithhopelove9176 I'm so sorry. I also lost my brother to suicide, 5 years ago. He was 63
My brother Matt took his life 7 years ago at 29. He got undiagnosed shingles at 19 and ended up with nerve damage. He had a slow progression with drugs for the 10 years after that. He is my favorite person and I don't know if anyone could describe my feelings better than this about him ❤️
I’m so sorry
I've never heard anyone precisely voice what has always been my outlook regarding the people I've lost until this video.
+OWN What an intimate interview. How gracious of Billy Bob to be so honest and vulnerable in front of us. I know exactly how he feels. I am probably also 50% happy and 50% sad at any given moment.
+Jennifer Mitts sending u strength
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mara.iara Me either. Today is the one year anniversary of my daddy's death. I am so so sad and depressed and broken. I am so thankful for my daughter sharing this with me. I am sure I am not alone!
I agree...this is quite heart-wrenching to watch, but also very true (for me) ♡
This is, without a doubt, the best description of the loss of a brother, that I have ever heard. And the most accurate one. I feel every word he said. And every bit of my body hurts when I think about my brother. And yes, he deserves it. I will never get over it.
I lost my dad, my mom, and my baby brother, all in one year, at 32 years of age, i lost my whole family. Not an hour of my life have i not thought of one, or all of them since they left.
But I've come to realize, life, is about loss.
But i know in my heart, I'll see them again one day,
One sweet day.. . . .
Oh god that’s traumatizing 😢you poor thing god bless you
I’m always amazed at how some people seem to be at target for bad news and bad luck a lot of which isn’t their fault and other families seem to skate through life
I’m sorry for your loss loss bro god bless you bro your family will be proud of you
You will see them for sure❤💔
I'm sorry for your loss. I pray for you for inner peace.
I respect this man a lot now, after hearing this speech.
Siddhant Purohit yeah me too
Me too. 💜
Asherah 1147 listen to the entire interview and it changes your mind about him. Or don’t.
@Asherah 1147 I’m sorry but you wouldn’t understand the feeling he describes it perfectly and what he means but he will never trust it again is if you trust it it could turn on you just like that
I lost my best friend in 1979. He was 23. I think about him almost every day.
Mine passed in 2014. Things aren't what they used to be, i smile less now than i used to.
My brother died suddenly early this year. Billy Bob has expressed my feelings exactly. I will never be the same.
Chris42 Sorry for your loss.
Ive lost my brother yesterday and i love and miss him so much
My brother just died yesterday 😢💔
I loss my brother 21 yrs ago. I was 16 he was 13 and died of a gunshot wound to the head. I was there when it happened. The sound, the smell the image of him when he was laying there. Ever since then, I was never the same. I became numb. Experiencing the trauma changes you. I still remember like it was yesterday still. It affected my life and those around me. I wish I could take that time and change it. Call it selfish but that image will never go away.
I remember the day my brother died, he was 17 I was 25.
He was killed by a careless driver.
I remember everything from that day. It's burned into my mind like a movie that never stops playing, it's just always there.
I feel for you brother, you aren't alone in your hurt and pain.
my brother hung himself at our familys house 3 yrs ago and i feel the same way. i am so sorry. it totally changes u.
Dylan Wanatee I lost my brother in a similar way. I too was 16 and he was shot and I was there as well. It
was 1993 and I’ve thought of him and the day he died everyday since. You never forget.
People who don't understand, never they will...
People, I’m so sorry for your losses. I lost my mom when she was only 48 and it ripped my damn heart out. I hope you all can feel some peace grow over the years, though the loss is deep and yes, changes us. And there’s no shame in talking to a professional if the grief and trauma’s too deep. ❤️
saw this short clip on tik tok the day after my brother passed away and it just broke me it summed up everything so well he died at 38 of pneumonia and i couldnt put into words how i felt until i saw this fighting tears just writing this just wanted to write this so someone might like it so i can come back to this video cause being the youngest in the family out of all the cousins of coarse you go to alot of funerals grandparents, uncles, aunties, friends of family members but my brothers one broke me into pieces so thank you for simplifying the words.
My brother died too at 38. 💙
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This was a great way to describe grief.
This is exactly how I feel about my son, Robbie. In early spring 2010 he was diagnosed with brain cancer. Fought through surgeries, and chemo with the bravery of a man twice his age. He celebrated his 24th birthday in 2012, and 6 weeks later he died. I cry everyday for him. Thank you
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Especially losing a little brother. "I'm 50% sad at any given moment". Thats been me for 4 years now. You truly never get over it.
When my brother die, almost three years ago, It feel like at times I'm happy and all of the sudden I become very emotional and melancholy. I completely agree with the 50% happy and 50% sad at any given time. 😢😢😢
How are you now my younger brother passed a year ago come tonight. It's felt like forever and I've broken both my hands in the past year because I've been so mad about it. 23 years old he didn't even make it to 25 I'm 25 now and I lost him when I was 24. I've lost two of my best friends I grew up with but seeing my brother in a casket felt so much worse. My friend shot himself but I couldn't bear seeing my brother but I stayed for 15 mins like I did with my friends. It's the hardest thing Ive done. The vividness of it is gone but I still feel that sting constantly.
My brother just died yesterday 😢💔
@@nadzworld698 I cry with you.
@@nadzworld698 I'm sorry for you. Brothers are so special. They are our "knights". Always think of him, every single day. And, say his name, and tell him how you feel and that you love him. It helps me, anyway. Been almost 4 yrs for me. Still rough. Prayers. 💛
@@JK-vy8vh I am really really sorry for your lost. It is so unfair how some people do not get the chance to live a long life and grow old with their loved ones. And on the other hand it must be so hard how others have to live their lives without their loved ones and grow old with one person missing all the time. I really hope you are doing alright at the moment and that you will never forget about what an important person your bother has been to you!
This was like hearing words straight from my heart. I lost my brother suddenly a little over a year ago. “I have never trusted happiness since” I’m pregnant with my first child a little boy he’s due any day. This has been a big part of what has helped me continue with out him.
Hey are you doing okay now?
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@@daniyzalakiyra8477my boy just turned 5. I know I’ll always hurt for him and I’ll always look for him but I’m finally feeling like I know how to live again without him.
He pretty much described exactly how I feel when my own brother died. It's the worst thing that ever happened to me.
I lost my brother 2 years ago and I’m sure you know the pain never goes away you’ll carry it till you die and it hurts a lot it’s the worst feeling in the world.
I lost my brother nearly 3 years ago and it’s by far the worst thing that’s ever happened to me too
Lost my brother 1974. Big part of me died with him . Broke my soul. He was 3 years older than me. The pain never goes away . Time doesn’t heal wounds.
I miss my brother so much he just passed away in may of 2019. I’ll never be the same
Kristy. Today is my bother’s birthday. He was 18 months older than me. He died suddenly. I’m sorry we have this in common. I hope you’re doing ok. It’s okay that others don’t understand your pain or try to relate with things that seem less painful. There are lots of us.
@@jerometaylor2019 thank you. I’m sorry for your loss also and Happy Birthday to your brother
Lost my brother 2019 my sister July 5th 2021
I am so sorry for your loss ❤
I lost my sister 7 weeks ago. I know life will never be truly happy again. My sister is not in a better place. A better place is here living a full life with her son and family.
A peaceful non painful existence with awe of real perfect love they deserve. Only for those who are of love get to go there. Your on your way too.
I watch this video every time my grief needs to be validated. When I hear your words...I am comforted knowing it's okay to say out loud "I've never trusted happiness since." Thank you Sir❤ Hugs to all the siblings out there who have had to deal with this kind of pain.
I am the same .......this is spot on .....
Thank you 🙏 💚
I lost my little brother 5 years ago and there isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t miss him I wish once more I could hug him and tell him how much he meant he meant and still means to me
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I can totally relate to this. The sadness is always within distance of a smile.
bee doobee Excellent quote! I will always remember that.
My 28 year old brother drowned on July 7, 2018. Billy Bob eloquently stated my exact feelings - there’s a melancholy in me that never goes away. I’ll forever miss you, John.
April Forse I want you to know that I saw this comment and I’m thinking of your brother John tonight. I lost my brother Daniel in 2017 he was 34 years old. We will miss them forever April but I hope you’re doing good in life, I hope you find happiness ❤️
Losing a sibling just hits different. This is exactly on the mark! I needed this ♥️
Definitely hits differently
My brother passed a month ago, and it’s true 50% happy 50% sad at any given moment. It still does not feel real. The sadness my family feels, it’s just too much to handle at times. Hearing the music he liked, brings us back to the times when he was here, it brings us sadness, but the memories is what brings us Joy. We will never be the same, you never get “over it.”
Billy hits the nail on the head how it feels. My brother died at the same age from the same condition , a part of me died with him that day . I've accepted I'll never be the same as I was before he died.
He gets it. I lost both my parents by the time I was 18. I'm 38 now... The grief subsides but the melancholy does stick with you. Some losses just do impact you forever.
I lost my mom when I was 11 in an accident and my father just last year at 29. He died alone in some rural community down in Mexico. We were the perfect middle class family until that one freak accident that destroyed everything. Sometimes you feel like you're living a counterfeit life. Like the true reality exists in some alternate universe where you're all still alive and together..
Lost my brother a few months ago and I am new person. There's the man I was before he died and the man I am after his death.
I won't ever get over it is the truth.
I will honor my brother Mauro daily.
I love you and I miss you Mauro
My older brother died 7 months ago. I feel broken. My best friend, my mentor, my protector is gone. There’s not a day that I can function properly. There are really bad days and some days that aren’t that bad. But never a day that I can say was good. He described exactly how I feel.
I lost my brother in 2016 , he was 24 … Billy Bob explained my grief precisely.. Thank you
My goodness. This man. What a beautiful way to express his grief.
My brother died in a tragic car accident when he was 18 and I was 20 in 2001. I started therapy this past June to work on my grief. Listening to Billy speak about his brother let’s me know I’m not alone in my feelings. When your younger you not aware of your siblings importance in your life. They become apart your identity and when they leave you are lost. You feel like you lost apart of yourself. I’m working through my pain. Thanks Oprah and team for posting this video.
I lost my sister, my only sibling, suddenly 3 months ago. This resonates with me. I find it strangely comforting.
I am literally dying from missing my brother.
+MsJgreen77 I ended up in hospital with broken heart syndrome from the shock of my brother dying. The physical pain overwhelmed me for weeks. I realized I had to get well for my family & keep going because he wouldn't want me suffering. It's a horrible thing losing a sibling. I'm the oldest & I should have gone 1st , I still feel guilty I didn't . hope you can find some comfort in knowing your brother's still with you in spirit. I think of mine being with me through the good times & I feel better . Peace to you.
Thank you. The pain is just too much at times.
+MsJgreen77 I know how you feel . It's been 6 years since my brother died & it can still hurt, throat tightens up & chest pains then the tears . Last time it happened was a couple of weeks back when his favourite band came on over the shop speakers & I had to run out ( I feel sorry for the person who had to put back all the things I was getting because I just left the trolley in the aisle) It's ok to be upset, it's normal. Dont ever let others tell you how you should feel. We greive in our own way . Each anniversary I get something blue because that was his favourite colour, this year I'm adding on to the memorial tattoo I got for him . I'm sure he'll be with me having a good lol when I'm going "ouch!" getting it done :)
MsJgreen77 I'm so sorry for your loss. It is so painful!!
Ham Sammich thank you for your comments.
I lost my brother on December 26th from recovering from beating cancer. It’s the hardest thing in life and I agree with everything he has said.
Justin Lunes lost my big bro in August. I come back to this video every so often. I hope you’re doing okay.
My identical twin sister died. I died that day too.... I finally am to the place after 13 years of finding the 50% happiness that I never ever thought that I would feel again. Thank you for validating my feelings Billy Bob..and I'm ok now.. and that is good enough for me.
I agree, ever since I lost my mother in 2009, same sadness persists no matter what I'm doing or even if I"m laughing and "having a good time" on the outside and I've also accepted it.
My sister died of arvc when she was 16, I was 19. 27 now, still feels like yesterday. I feel billy on this 100%.
My younger sister who was my best friend died suddenly of a brain aneurysm on January 19 2015 and until that day I never experienced true grief and everything I read about grief and the "5 stages" of grief made me question how I was feeling until I came across this video because it validated how I was feeling contrary to how the so called experts on grief, my family etc thought I should feel and now whenever I am out of the blue without warning sucker punched with a wave of grief I watch this video to hear someone express the truth about grieving and it makes me feel not so alone.
sending you love n strength. I lost my baby sister years ago.she was just 13. I never Forget her
Exactly. People are uncomfortable with your grief , so they try to cheer you up with all these platitudes that are just pure baloney.
Absolutely true. Not just siblings.
I lost my brother a little over a year ago and I’ve watched this video so many times bc he’s the only person who is truly able to describe how I feel. Even in happy moments I’m still sad. My brother was my best friend and we went through a lot together. Our story deserved a happy ending and I’m having a tough time coming to terms with the fact that we’ll never get one.
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I have watched this so many times. I connected with it in a way I have never connected with another persons words. I feel like he was able to articulate how I have felt all these years in a way I have never been able to
heather McCain that’s exactly how I felt when I first saw this
Yes true. I always watch this whenever I miss my baby brother.
agreed
I lost my younger brother a month and a half ago. He was my best friend, my tag team partner in life. This perfectly puts how I’m feeling into words. Part of me died with him and I’ll never be there same, much love to everyone here as well. 🖤
We lost our younger brothers at about the same time, my heart goes out to you.
My sister emotionally abused me and when she died suddenly a few weeks ago I felt a sense of relief.
Hits hard. Emotions fitting into right words. Lost someone 17 years ago. Feels like yesterday.
I feel you 💔
My brother died the thanksgiving before last, and tonight I'm having a hard time being fine with it. 50% happy and 50% sad at any given time is such an accurate desciption of life after the first person you ever really knew dies. The world is not the same, and yet it sadly is. Haven't been able to cry in over a year now, but I have my standard tears-rolling-down-my-cheeks-when-it-hits face going on anyway. No one ever tells you that you can miss someone so much that you can't even cry because it hurts too much. It's like my body and mind are fighting over whether we accept this ridiculous part of life or not.
My brother and I were 10 months and 27 days apart in age. Irish Twins. For one glorious month a year, I got to annoy my brother about us being the same age. The joke got old during our teens, but had a resurgence a few years later, with the type of humor only those who have grown together can know and accept. I want more than anything in the world to annoy my older brother one last time about being the same age for one final glorious month.. and I never will be able to again. Sudden and unexpected death of a young person is one of the most cruel horrors our existence has to offer. I'm alive, but 50% of me is gone.
I feel you man... I lost my brother more than a year ago and he was the love of my life... nowadays, the world is grey. It has lost its colour and I go through life with a constant sadness and loneliness that is just too much to bare
Your words hits like it's coming from my own heart. My brother died 4 years ago. I've never felt happy again, even if i have a good day, when i go sleep it's always the same empty feeling. I lost both my grandparents a little while after he died and even tho i loved them too, i felt nothing. I kinda blame myself for that, but the truth is that seems like i died the day my brother left
I feel exactly the same as you do. My brother died 4 months ago. I find it difficult to talk to people and open up about what I’m really feeling,but reading your words made me feel understood and in a way i know i have someone who is sharing this pain with me.
@@michelebellan8391 True, it's really hard do open up about it. But trust me, you're not alone
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I lost my little brother 3 years ago this coming October. It's been a long road. This video hits it on the nose for me. Trying to find my footing in this world without him is nearly impossible. But the days do go on and we do survive and still press on. Miss you Raymond. From a place so deep in my being there is no word to describe it. Love you forever.
Lost my younger brother Oct. 9, 2016, almost a year and it feels like yesterday! People just don't understand sibling loss. I'm shamed that I'm not over this most tragic event. Todd was my best friend! I'll never (he died at 42) stop missing him! 1/2 of me died with him. Love Forever!
Sending you love and acceptance. I know that feeling of shame from people thinking I should "move on" with life etc. I hereby give you permission to grief for the rest of your life.
Treatmenice my brother died 7 months ago. 1/2 of me died w him too.. sorry for your loss 😏
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The loss of my dad in 1992 to me, was like the loss of ur brother, he was my best friend and haven't had a best friend since. Ur right, u never get over it, I'm crying at this very moment as I write this down.
Tom, I lost my dad about a year ago and my pet companion. You are right, we will never get over it as some people would say nor should we. Some in my family want to see me happy again, but I don't think I will ever be that person again and that's ok, would you agree.
He truly loved his brother.....I'm sorry for your loss. Your brother is still with you.
That was by far the most honest statement on losing a loved one I’ve ever heard! Well said
I was absolutely touched when watching this. Its absolutely true! I feel like at times and its been 17yrs since my Mother been gone! Its like a empty place. Although I have gotten better over years, but you just never get over it. Like a wound that slowly heals.
NellyBelle, we can never get over death. Losing someone can be just as painful 30 years afterwards as it was when it happened.
Your mom would want you to be happy.
God is available he will bring your mom to you all you have to do is ask
"I've never trusted happiness since.... There's a melancholy that never goes away....."
Damn.... How those words dug so deeply, so quickly, that i was haunted by them before comprehension of the statements could even set in... It's ironic how such words so tragically poetic can be strung together then pronounced into something so beautiful... Like staring up at the night sky knowing full well it's mostly empty space and immeasurable distances, yet still in awe of its graceful alignment and infinite structures and arriving at the realization that we are right smack in the middle of it all
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He is such a wise person. My dad's younger brother was brutally murdered outside of a bar, head stomped flat. I was young but i remember it basically ruining our whole lives and changing everything. Dad turned to the bottle and will never be the same and our family will always be accustomed and used to violence. It's always so good to hear when someone understands
I am so sorry. Such tragedies tear more families apart than they ever bring together. I know. I know how hard it is, but break away from the violence and the drinking, yourself. Perhaps you can honor your brother by living the best life you can and healing as much as you can. This pain stays with us forever, but hopefully it will not destroy us.
I lost my brother to violence also and it’s not fun don’t blame your dad he probably knew him all his life ! I’m only 20 years old my brother was 23 he passed away this year ! It’s still so unreal and unbelievable to myself that I’m typing this even know I know he’s gone and in paradise!
Watched this so many times. It seems to echo with my feelings for my brother who died recently of liver failure. He was just 19. Every word of Billy bob Thornton seems so relevant and exact of what you feel when you lose a sibling..
I lost my oldest brother 4 days ago and I've been a mental wreck since recieving that call... I am changed forever.
eric Christopher Eric. I’m 2 years into losing my big brother. I see you posted this soon after your loss. I hope you are ok, and I know the pain is hard. I hope you’re good friend
incredible testimony to the loss of someone that totally impacts your life.
I lost my brother about a year ago he was 21 I am 16 now and I miss him so much I wish he was still here with me today I just really miss him so much and it hurts so bad.
Luna Booh.So sorry for ur grief Luna life has a way of hurting people.ur young and hopefuly have a lot of life ahead of u hold on to that and happiness will hit u once again.maybe marriage n children one day.Hold on to every bit of happines that comes ur way.💙
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50% Sad. Damn nailed it. Thanks for sharing.
Billy Bob, You are so accurate, you NEVER get over a loss, for my it was my son, a mis diagnosed blood clot, life switched gears, I am not the same person I was, it hurts at the bottom of your soul, it is always there, what he is missing, I never ever want to forget life was when he was in it. Their loss makes you who you now are. He left the world 3 fabulous children and a wife who has never recovered his loss. He was loved, as your brother Jimmy. Thanks for sharing. You are in a club that no one ever wants to be a member, no one understands a loss unless you have lost.
I listen to this periodically because, strangely, it quiets my mind when he says so definitively: "You will never get over it." I guess hearing the truth quiets the mind, even when it's painful. Maybe especially when it's painful.
Beautiful, I will always remember my Mum who died when I was young things were never the same and never will be.
The tears were rolling down my face yesterday watching this. What he said hit me hard. I don't trust happiness either....and if i have it it's fleeting....I expect the 50% misery to be with me always.
i know the feeling billy bob and had to watch this video because i lost my favorite brother 4 years ago suddenly.i too,will never be the same.this brought tears to my eyes.the world's a lonelier,less wonderful place but as an artist use it in your acting&writing and i'll use it in mine and never forget.
thanks Peggy.i appreciate it!it's tough and hard to get over it.
One of the most beautiful things I've ever heard
Im missing my father a lot. Hes gone 8 years ago when I was 17. Since then I always have that melancholy in me. I thought I was wrong to feel this way until today. 50% happy 50% sad. Suddenly I found this vid and that explains everything - I'll embrace that for the rest of my life. Sure its gonna be okay. Thanks Bob.
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Same both my parents died young
50 happy 50 percent sad
You wish it would go away but it doesn't
I now feel a profound respect for BBT. He put into words a feeling I couldn't of my best friend and brother's passing.
I have just lost my dear brother, who was only 16 months younger than me, at the age of 46. I don't ever remember a time when he wasn't with me, whether physically near or far, and I know I will always feel his absence. Billy Bob Thronton's words have resonated and touched me so deeply in the way only someone who has experienced this particular grief can. I love his words that we must 'embrace' the sadness and grief. I thought just the other day that the best way to honour my brother is to use my gifts to remember him, to bring the wisdom and beauty that comes from sadness to my life's work, and Billy Bob has confirmed that. Thank you for your beautiful words.
A few years ago.. my uncle/father lost his life. I have never been able to describe my feelings about it until I watched this, a piece of me died and has never returned. I feel exactly as he described…. Love all you do billy…!! Thank you….
"...because he deserves it." So true and thank you, Billy Bob.
That's a good way to put it, not trusting happiness...I really identify with that.
My little sister died when she was 12 of a pulmonary embolism. This video perfectly explains how I feel. There’s a melancholy in me that never really goes away. I’m 50% happy and 50% sad at any given moment. I agree 10000%…. It’s so hard. The pain of losing her is worth the joy of having known her.
Billy Bob… Thank you so much for sharing this. You helped me understand my grief. Last November 1st I lost my youngest brother Steve so suddenly to a massive coronary. He was only 54. Not only was he my brother but he was one of my best friends. Many years Ago he turned me onto Motörhead and the whole metal scene. Every Rangers hockey game we be texting. Now I cannot get through a game without a few tears. When I crank up the metal now, certain songs choke me up. Plus so many other things. When you explained how carrying that melancholy feeling forever is ok. Thank you very much. You nailed down the emotions perfectly. You made a difference and helped me heal.🤘🏼🚂🍻♠️🤠
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It has been a year exactly since I lost my brother 2 years younger than me unexpectedly. I swing from getting by to mad to sad at any given moment. I won't ever get over it and there are certain things that trigger the emotions and sometimes it just hits. Billy Bob put it into words perfectly.
i feel the exact same way. I'll never be happy. But that's ok. I just miss my brother. It's been 4 months.
I lost my son 7 years ago to cancer at 32. To say I'll never be the same is understatement. It is still the first thing I think of when i wake and the last when I go to bed. Hearing others tell there story probably helps me the most.
"and then he died, and I never trusted happiness again."
"You wont ever get over it. The more you know that the better you are." That's solid advice really. No bs. Thanks to Billy Bob for doing this
My son died April 2016..he was 51 years..he was my guide my protector we were very close.
But I know he is with me every day..looking after me. When he was alive and I used to get down sometimes.. he always used to say just have a cup of tea you will feel alot better..and remember I will always be here for you I will never desert you..my wonderful son I miss him terribly,
nowhere somewhere he’s not dead he may have passed away and left his body but he ain’t dead they say things happen for a reason and he may be guiding you from harm
I watch this video over and over again as a griever. This video should be seen by all grievers. It's incredible and underrated. Raw, and eloquently said. I remember watching this days after my brother died and I was absolutely terrified of his words saying "I'm 50% happy and 50% sad all the time" I didn't WANT that! I wanted my happiness. But grief has PROFOUNDLY changed me and my relationship with emotions. Joy and pain are equal and can coexist. and one cannot outweigh the other. I embrace my pain and sorrow for the rest of my life for my mama and brother. thank you billy.
I completely agree .....I have watched this so many times , and it is so accurate .....to hear someone share the same feelings is comforting .......there is no timeline for grief
Billy Bob, thank you I lost my son christain july13 ,2015 . he flipped his car.
your words expressed how I feel. almost scared to be fully happy for fear the pain that will come if you love all the way again.
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Omg, these are the words i have struggled to say about my dad.... my life has never been the same since he left us.
Not that anyone cares, I've felt this way my entire life.
Nonya Bidnass I care dude. And I want you to know, whoever you are, wherever you are, you will find people who care, and love you. You probably have many already. Peace be with you.
I care for you.
Nonya Bidnass I care.
Billed filled with Gods perfect love in Jesus name, bless you Nonya, I care and God cares for you perfectly.
i care,and yes,me too.
This is 1 million percent how I feel. Lost my brother suddenly 9 years ago. 50/50 at any moment for sure. But gratitude and just being thankful I had such an amazing brother gets me through.
I’ve never had someone say it’s okay to keep being sad about a important persons death
Because that’s how I feel about my mom
NativeRose x it is ok, I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my big brother. You have every right to be upset about your mother for as long as you have to.
@@jerometaylor2019 extra sad 4 yrs later.. My older brother is now passed so now I understand this more than ever
This is exactly it. The best way to describe.
Time does not heal. Pain only dulls with time but the smallest detail can release a flood of memories
This was really helpful to hear. My sister (my buddy) died suddenly when she was 20 and I was 17. Billy just articulated what I feel as my constant. That part melancholy and part fear or impending doom is always there. Stealing any chance at those carefree and emphatic moments of pure joy. It's the same for my mom and dad too. It's true. You don't "get over it."
Beautiful human being. In and out. I adore you Mr. Thornton.
A year next month since my brother passed. New respect for Billy Bob. Hit the nail on the head with this. 🙏❤😔
Lost my brother in 2002 - Last year one of my older brothers shared this video... I soon came to realize something that hit me deep in the soul....
My brother Mikey, has officially been gone longer than he was alive...
One of the most genuine and down to earth actors out there. I love his work.
A dear friend of mine sent a clip of this to me when my brother died. I watch it every so often, but this is the 1st time seeing the entire thing.
Ive just lost my big brother yesterday and today we barried him and i cant express in words how i feel right now i just wanna die and go see him